Parshat Chayei Sarah: Tips for Proper Dating - Rabbi Eliezer Zeytouneh

[Music] Parrish up higher Sara which deals with two predominant topics the first one is of course Allah I'm a nose piercing my family knows diligence his dedication to make sure she receives a honorable burial that's topic number one and topic number two which is reason many of you here tonight she's looking because in this expedite shall we have the first recorded she due process in the Torah Jewish history now it's wonderful now but I gotta tell you something okay I know what it's like to be single okay I know the pressures that come with being single I know all the you know the outside tension there comes a being single you know it's amazing from the time were little kids we receive this pressure every time your mother wants you to do something do me a favor pick up your shoes are these hot I'm Carla right by the way even in schools in kindergartens right when the student has a birthday they dress them up in a hot in a kadhai in a collage dress and they saw dancing okay should have seen me in Michael address I'm just joking anyway but a person has to understand that these pressures are inundated implanted in us from the time with very young so it comes to no surprise that we we see when we reach marriage' bleach then the pressure mounts so tonight visit the gym I would like bears at the gym to give you some tips on what to look for and what not to look for what to pursue and what to abstain from one looking fears evil everybody ready that's good son if I was out fourth anniversary doing this this place a fourth time that we are conducting this type of always on the ship so that you find it to be very enjoyable so first of all like the star the barakah my better cut you suppose I better cut work okay if not there's no refunds but sometime I do work my belt off everybody at least the ones that are not married missiles you should find is evoke how Goomba Caro and beside a sham you should build a fight near might be Sam and by the way you know the rule is if you marry someone from this class you not only have your wedding on Monday night okay there's no wedding something by the way if you make your wedding on Monday night the class is gonna be at your wedding okay I have no problem talking to a thousand people it's very good ok so there's other chebyshev here your weddings this year to the right person I mean good let's get started so today I'm gonna give you six tips on dating six one tip is very important tips so if you're single take notes and if you're a parent of a single eligible person take more notes may be ready that's good sign I probably mean who come cell yes and he tells all yes do the following listen very carefully here we go let's go my shot begins like this I know that but I said thank you very much ready here we go biyomon a family of dog is he can be too emotional my mom who comes to his Evan Wright was the elder of his else that takes care of everything that he has seemed neither had to Heidi repeat verse be our carbon eyelash am I really on it I'm gonna make this swear not to take a girl from Kanani I shouldn't feel a bigger ball cuz I want you go to my land to my birthplace fill it right me like ah ah she shouted me late snack I want you to go there and what you take a lady adore woman for my son free it's not the only love I ever do I go to very she'll look at the highlight what do you mean alliances on what happens if that woman doesn't want to come over here yeah I see if I see has been finalized to share it's nothing me Sam you want me to bring your son back till the late where you left filming love of ROM he's shamming happy to see me be nee-sama self Ram says listen whatever you do don't return my son over there Alvarez yeah my official kahan irritability my shitty Bailey machine is valium the Maserati night Arthas odd who Phoenicia don't worry about Elam who took me from my father's birthplace and brought me over here he's gonna send his my life before you Villa kaha is shalini mission you're gonna take a woman for my son from their mission remote a very shallow look at her how many keep them swap his old Lucky Penny little ship Shama and if she doesn't want to come with you and she doesn't want to walk behind you all bets are off your swear is done as void you have nothing to worry about just doping my son over there now I have a very big question what does Rama Venus saying about me says listen don't worry bad don't worry God's gonna send there's a this evil God's gonna send in a sieve God's gonna send someone and then around turns it says but wait a second if she doesn't want to walk behind you then you're clean what do you mean if God is sending this Evoque what do you mean she might not want to walk behind you if God's sending me this evil that's the one of course it's gonna want to walk behind me what was our I'm saying I don't understand the balance of everybody knows words is it guard sending this evoke or is it possible that we're going to miss that zebu and the rabbi's right you think mama said it's so done and the universal citta brings two different brightens the first project of this says that forty days before a person is born there's a practical I haven't leave voice and the battle comes and screams announces but colonial applauding this girl's going to marry this guy unbelievable but there's another given I think about comes and writes like this ready here we go M is a begin Lola dummy Shah Italy fee myself they only match you up with a person according to your actions Sun and sin does God predetermine why I'm going to marry or maybe it's based on my actions which one is it says he gonna like cassia hobbies evoke any short hobby zucchini once talking about the first match and once talking about the second match what's going down over you so the rabbi's explain be simple there is a an announcement that's made 40 days before your forum and whatever comes says listen this girl's going to marry this boy but that only happens if the boy and the girl achieve everything that they're supposed to achieve before they meet if the man fulfills his potential and everything is supposed to do before he meets that girl he's gonna meet that girl but the girl says do the same everything that's required and it's possible and one of her to grow to the point where she's feeling for that person then she'll meet that person but if not then she meets someone who is feeling for someone that's the female self according to their actions according to their ways are going to the deed example I spoke better once imagine you'll have to under 20 years and after 20 years they come up to some I'm time of idea who's in potential mother right now he comes he says listen you want to see who your wife was supposed to be and he turn around said to me it's supposed to be who was i buying anniversary kids for the whole of my entire life what are you talking about and I said let me show you before you were born they said by cloning the cloning this is okay I know isn't that my wife's and no because even though you did what you had to do but she didn't she didn't fulfill a potential she didn't work to the max she didn't better herself to the point where she was fitting field let me show you what came with that girl and they go up to the video screen nice beautiful screen like this okay and sure enough they fast they rewind and you take a look and sure enough there's a girl on an electric guitar with purple hair and to those rings that was the voice that you were supposed to marry but because she didn't do anything with herself she wasn't fitting for you one second i rama v no undercity attack and evil eyes it's like that everything that he was supposed to do to reach that point where he could wed that person that was designated for him so you tell that he has a listen God's gonna send that girl t attack but if you are with the girl and now you say please come with me v Lord a very shallow look at Haruka she doesn't wanna walk behind you what if she doesn't want to behind you I mean she wants to walk next to you she wants to walk in front of you and the rabbi's right a hurry are evil Hadassah it's not so more than I mean she walked behind the woman so this woman she's walking in front of you that mean she didn't fulfill her potential and therefore that's not the girl from his track can it's like having to fulfill his potential he filled everything you needed to be he matches quota he was ready for that real girl so if you find the girl who's not there that's not the girl for my son but generally most of us don't fulfill our potential and therefore ladies and gentlemen tip number one if you want a good seafood you gotta be a good person so before I go out and I look for that I look for that matter like that person I gotta make sure that I'm the person that I want to match up with I gotta make sure that I'm at the top of my game I'm going to classes I'm doing it I'm giving said that guy to rabbis it to me whatever okay but right and if I'm doing that adequately then tip number one is fulfilled so again tip number one is I gotta make sure did I better myself before I go to chef maneet before I go to chef time before I go in here somebody do you know somebody for me I gotta make sure I'm at my optimum game you know that some people tell me rabbi I want a girl I want to make sure she's gonna cover here I wanna make sure she's ten wanna make sure she's very religious I say you know it's wonderful I'm so happy but let's focus on you for a second are you at that level when you're thinking really you pray every day I prayed twice a day it's very nice do you learn I do learn really when I don't know every other Thursday that's very nice but do you think a girl that you're looking for is going to want to be with you so again tip number one is if I want a person of top caliber I gotta make sure that I'm at top caliber okay tip number one tip number two early as it comes and employs a test and he comes as but LM listen up to the girl right whoever the girl is and I'm gonna tell listen anyone please give me something to drink if you kiss me the drink and then she gives my get my leave to drink that is the one things you won't see it's like a vinum so see what happens okay sure enough he comes he sees a girl and the girl is a pretty girl you want to let my wonderful he goes up there mighty again he employs that tactic that does and she pierced through the flying colors she gives him to drink and then after drinking she listen I'm gonna give you camels to drink as well and she goes and she gives that water to those camels what does he do everybody ready listen very carefully Vega shake it again Marlene right please start hold a sudden when he sees that he can we stop drinking we got him Zaha become his cover he comes he takes out nose rings which are the weight of a baker who should see me do my ID I comes he thinks out - bracelet it put summer in I said AHA miss Kayla every one of them was worth ten za comes out she and says why do you give her don't specific jewels I got what do you give her give her a nose ring and he gave her two bracelets then old ring was what the weight of uh of a big cup wasn't very carefully says that she pick up Remy's Lucia Claire she cleans well it's alluding to the shake Hilda me seldom a hottie to shake him because google it which was also the weight of a Becca one second she said to me Dean name is Ashna mahatma to my daughter and the two bracelets represented she look at the beat one second comes to be as if I this and he says I don't understand the illusion I don't understand the allegory what was on the other trying to tell Rebecca what was he a lunatic what was he trying to give her what message when you're trying to transmit sense of your sivadas what does he mean my hot seat I shake him I'll read it to you everybody ready listen very carefully have yourself others rights that a hot seat a shaker what would you give him a hearty - shaker because a person has to realize I'm not complaining myself myself I'm not complete listen very carefully Mitsubishi I mean this or a Marcus you very much to Kingdom Hearts II to shaken what is the connection similar shaken and see the game another fun engineer I'm yourself Cristiano - closet I shake a barony organize here the musashi-sakai Duke La Mesa believe a carcass your time when they sell games that have a silver what happened then unifying because everybody gave valcon I'm as every other Kadam own a small rocket see a person is own is only half a person eval Keisha ish shemitah' Hadean vacation is suing the Jaime a traditional Mustafa called economist immaterial but a marriage is not being about a single half marriage is about complaining the other what do you mean to complete the other never see a puzzle and whatever do puzzles but two nerds you know you're good puzzles it's catching me okay everybody did puzzles okay lately he did puzzles where's Debra Debra the puzzles you're probably doing one now on your phone ok that's ok ok one second how does the puzzle work a puzzle not one piece is a perfect square how wise is no puzzle that's easy to put together but pods have bulging pieces and pieces which are deficient and that's the way it is in a marriage when I'm looking for a partner for a benzylic first someone was going to be my lifelong compadre I gotta make sure that I seek I search for I tried allocate not someone who's like me but someone who completes me in other words I gotta take a look at my meat doors in my life is taken really honest look and Who I am and look for what I'm missing in life I know it for someone who is going to complete that where's that me damn you know I'll give you an example I'll give you example everybody knows what was he attracts me down what was it hikes big as me down he's tracked me that was good food on his heart was known first trick justice that was it done so yeah when he's going to find a match for you talk did not look for me forgive woulda hidden what whispering justice he looked for her sit which is the antithesis of give it up why because if you have too much give without it's not good it's too strict and you have too much blessed it's not good it's too lenient so therefore you start you're a very strict person of course it's like fulfilled and committed acts of kindness but its main mo his mode of operation was good without your match has to be someone who is completely present we're not finding a match for myself I can't find someone who's like me I gotta find someone who matches me so give me an example I'll give an example punch about we have guests in my own okay stop talking to my guests and I guess says rabble you'll never guess I said what she was you have no idea how I clean my house said I care how you clean yeah wait I don't know how you clean yeah so listen it's a process and her husband's looking at me and she's doing like one of these you know okay listen what she does first she has no carpeting for okay so you ladies don't know how to clean the floor right you sweep your mop good not this lady oh you have no idea what I'm talking about okay it's good okay look at what she does first she vacuums the floor no one here thinks that's crazy okay if you vacuum your floor please raise again okay please go home thank you okay once I get your vacuum with floor daveed I don't think someone is your wife okay I'll take it so first she vacuum was the floor after she vacuums the floor she sweeps the floor then she mops the floor so far this sounds normal to you good because then she dries the floor not one second for me that's insane mr. Cohen does he really sweep the floor yeah if he doesn't touch the floor over here okay one second so I don't understand she's crazy how many things you do to get a clean floor so I said since you mind if I join you with that does Jamal want to see this phenomenon okay sure sure come to my house anytime I'm gonna come with a bunch of crumbs no problem okay after she vacuums just put a few more there okay her husband is the opposite he's very chill it balances out because if you have to neat freak show my cell you don't want to walk it then okay and if you have to slobs also doesn't work I don't know if any of you know this I'm sure you can't tell him I like to talk okay I'm a big talker my wife when I met her was more of a quiet person okay now my wife talks more and they don't let me talk in the house anymore okay because he downs down and because I told so much I cause my wife they started talking more and because she was so quiet she comes me down okay by the way my anniversary son one thing is that nice Mazel Tov thank you so much okay great bigger the person has to understand that if I want a good match for me it's gotta be someone that completes me not someone that's like me and that's you have to blabber mouth to blabbermouth do people love to talk and they marry each other who's ever listening and I do have two people that are very quiet never go into a house or two people are very quiet I did it I was once invited to dinner and a very quiet couple's house I was very interesting I was sitting down so well mr. Cohen how are you good mrs. Cohen uh very nice I like the chicken thank you how you look like that Shem I sell okay it has to be balanced because of the marriage is not balanced then you have promised so again tip number two the person that I'm looking for has to match what I am NOT to be like me but to match Who I am tip number three it's interesting how I mean who comes and he tells early is it please don't take any girls from Kanaan I don't want any girls from canal if you take a girl take a girl from hard-on make sure they're from Holland African on one second they were both non-jewish the girls from Kannada and a Jewish because I'm hotter than a Jewish what's the difference what is so strict and what's the impetus of taking girls from Holland why was that a priority so I want you here with the words the words of consumers eternal of Shalom great rabbi izzan comes in he says a phenomenal thing listen very carefully what he says he comes in he says the valley everybody ready listen like this very loom and Sharon Miko Atocha Rama V know how you you do in between Anna schimper Ali left all the people of Quran even though they weren't religious didn't believe in body alarm they didn't profess didn't believe in didn't live they didn't espouse the belief about a Obama but there were people with good hearts and because there were people good hard to money sell him since by the way even the van had I mean what happens when he sees Eliezer what is he saying babadook on the line LaVon the charlatan we had a good hunt says I can see on when you're looking for a family look for the family that espouses that embodies the traits that you want in your in your lady in your spouse in your husband not only the girl because it's come too young you're listening what I'm saying this is a Razzie you'll assume I'm saying because character traits are hereditary they peers from one generation to the next and well now does it and when I you could each anybody believe trust somebody I'm the creator that could be taught to anybody it can be instructed but me don't character treats the way a person conducts himself that's hereditary that passes from father to son father to son and therefore when I'm looking at a spouse I'm not always was a little for a spouse I supposed to look for the families but not for what we think you know as long as we take a look for family we want to find a good family and we live with family when it comes to money right that's what you needed a good family correct role look at the words of rabbi Fink the movement welcomes that said something unbelievable says rabbi Miller when you're looking for a spouse look for someone not as money and that was poor but someone who is happy with what they have a person was able to live content with what he already possesses you know I'm saying girls that's what you're supposed to look for in a person not someone who's always jealous of other people are talking about other people everybody's and other people but someone who is happy content acclimated to it here it is because I want to tell you something if they're not happy now they're not gonna be happy in 20 years they won't be happy in 40 years there won't be happy in 60 years so therefore when I'm looking at the family I should find a family that espouses the same treat someone was happy with what they have content with their belongings and I want to say something else there's one trait ladies and gentlemen that if you're gaining such a person you see a tenth of this trait you gotta cancel completely this evil and that is anger if you see that you'll match if you see that that person you're dating if you need that person that you're going out with if you see that person if you're engaged to has a tint of anger and they get angry the zeebrugge cancel it because if they're angry Nell figured it'd be angry in the future as well but today I'm gonna take a step further and that is if you see a family a family that doesn't have the trip that you're looking for in your Z VOC be very wary of that family be very worried that individual so again tip number three is very simple look at the family four traits that you're looking for for yourself you know I'll give you an example they tell story a relative of mine who uh in Lebanon what's going out with a lady and this lady was but okay I'm a very fine woman a very fine woman and he wanted to impress her she wanted to buy her flowers so sure enough there he goes Tommy gets you know showered and gets dressed up he goes to the flower store to buy her flowers and there's no flowers the flowers to his clothes so he says okay let me go to the candy store to buy a kidney and they came these to us clothes and the other man has no idea what he's going to do he goes from place to place it's thinking maybe shy hush up from the garden maybe I'll take it from the garden right poor sudden it hits him I know where I can get flowers and even the person who owns the flowers won't mind anybody know where he went the cemetery yeah my weight curls smell your flowers when he got him okay he was a cemetery why because the girl was so high maintenance she was so difficult to address that he had to resort to going to the cemetery they don't mind and taking flowers from them I'm scared I'm giving Marva some tips to give to that date but if I'm doing some of them Samantha Belko someone's happy with what they have with what they possess with what they amassed already then I don't have to take drastic measures to make them happy that means I don't have to steal to take them on vacation and not have to be dishonest so I can make a bigger bar mitzvah or trigger wedding oh and live ammo Lapras laughs lifestyle I can live on my level because I know that my wife or my husband would be content so that's number three number four is my favorite one okay don't be superficial that means looks are very important and they are very important okay and I'll prove it to you what's the first thing the d'état records about if guy me no but the first thing that's all it says about Oh take a look nobody ready here we go so only as it comes ye who did it coded a bit well the others talking to Berlin veiny if chaos it I see you that lived well be milk cash in the hanukkah of nom the hedonic man Verena the first description of riff Camino is what to that my emerald shows beautiful bit through that leash later on she's a beautiful woman why does it what I recorded she was a beautiful woman I don't understand what's important I thought looks are not important now books are important but a president has to understand what did it say the next Pursuit Venator of Java so much Marie sorry violets everything at i/o my winning amount my McAteer so for a moment he focuses on her beauty and right after that he starts the test beauty's wonderful you have to be attracted to your spell's but it's not the most important yes it's gotta be some sort of attraction but the second you see that that fits now focus on the rest of the person let that subside put it on the slide and now focus on the essence of the person then we don't is that what I want is that befit me are we going to acclimate is there gonna be peace and harmony and if so then you could proceed but just a pretty face I want to tell you something looks change I'll tell you a great story I'll tell you a great story approximately one year before I got engaged one year I lost I think 70 pounds 70 pounds I was okay I used to run the track okay I said I used to you know do the dumbbells now I deal with a lot of dumbbells but I used to lift them anyway so one second right and I actually lost 70 pounds and then I met my wife and we went out and that's a whole different story one day I maybe I'll tell it to you and after a lot of cajoling and blackmailing she married me okay and six seven months after we got married my wife said but oh gosh am I married you there's only time she ever said that by the way sometimes she says I wish I don't can't even fight but and she comes to me and she says I want you to know something my whole life I prayed to God and I said Buddha Allah please I don't want to marry a person who is overweight I don't want to marry a person who's overweight could you imagine I was overweight and a year before I got married I lost 70 pounds but ladies and gentlemen I want to tell you something three years after I got married I gained 45 pounds is it amazing because looks change ladies and gentlemen I could almost promise you seventeen years ago I had here okay it was there looks change people don't change so yeah it's it's important you have to be attracted to the person you marry ordaining but if it's only looks that's malleable but a person's insight it's very hard to change and if I gotta make sure that it matches what I want don't be superficial I'll say something else does he grandma said itani listen very carefully come out to my circuit then he says the following anybody ready here we go mmm kebab I'm would Alice I'm Abed sorry and the right rights about to be off and to behave what would happen to behalf all the girls would come out right and they would borrow clothing white clothing and they would put on and they would walk around the vineyard chef penny me listen for this and every boy will come and pick the girl that he wanted to go out with and my question is one second by the way what do you think it was like a nightclub ha special um what does everyone think everyone says wrap up we told my chef Scottie him what happened too bad so I'll tell you what happened it wasn't if you went up to a girl and say hey you know like what's up no well I used to have the best picture points eyes are the best pickup points okay I used to say you know what uh you know could you please move over you're just stepping on my heart like that one when I told my wife she said nerd right that's okay fight but one second you think that's what happened too bad of course that what happened a guy would calm me with see a girl you see know what that wants for me he would go up to a chef's garden I'd say please that's the girl I want please make it happen the one that haphazard was like you know it was the best boy let's go that's not what happened it was systematic and many should have seen transpired and unions came together from that occurrence but what were they wearing ladies and gentlemen what was the attire that knockout outfit did these ladies were borrowed simple white clothing why why I go out on a date okay when I used to go out of the date forget it I was dressed to kill anyone who looked at me dumb right well but that's all that um totally it's not nice okay one second nice to put on the nice nice shirt nice to put on my my uh what is it called Cologne I said gel my hair all of us Shalom I dude to la vie okay I used to do a lot of things but the people in the give my dad those ladies said god I don't need thick had not got outfit that's not what is important says ruff Destler the women you know was on the top of their mind I don't want to embarrass my friend cuz I know my friend doesn't have an outfit like I do and therefore I'm gonna dress up fancy she's not gonna get married people that look at me a nutter so we want to even the playing field I don't dress up in the same in but Ivy there's another explanation oh so why did the girls all dress up in simple white clothing because the girls were telling the boys I want you to look pierced to clothing it's not the clothing that's important it's not what's essential it's at the exterior start looking at my attributes my characters start looking at my personality stop looking at my clothes because superficiality unfortunately blinds us from walking and seeing what's important and essential in a marriage and therefore when I'm looking for somebody don't get blinded by superficiality when I was dating I thought it was cool I wasn't by the way I thought I was okay so I used to have shoes now everyone knows that I'm very into my name I likes a twin he's like everything Z is a toonie so I really was a nerd I'm sorry gonna have to forgive me please you know when I was a teenager you just think I'm still a nerd is that we saying that's resistant it's true but don't say okay so what second so I wish to wear sneakers and I thought they were cool they were Reeboks jewelry box even exist anymore they really do but I wanted to be cool so I called them ZBOX yeah this is very thin that the story is not going anywhere and I used to wear my Z box on my date and my likes to tell my wife well she wasn't my wife yet I don't know why she married me anyway but you see these shows she goes yeah I said you know what they are she does hear the rebars I said the Z box now where's the German I don't know what got into me okay my wife so pissed the crazy taste and the corny jokes and she married me a miracle from sham I'm for sure okay why you saying yes that's a nice but we got a transcend we got to look past we gotta avoid superficiality and see who really are we dating good so that's tip number four tip number five is my favorite tip number five this is knife my absolute favorite ready here we go says the pill awaits the more you might say you know what's your person's pursuing a mate and they don't find it in their city he left me in let you we made another Medina go from one city to the next from one state to the next we are cinemas Vibhushan of acacia take off and remove any obstacles from finding a wife key everyone knows Charlie's gonna have a visitor can do shout because that is the goal to get married she's the epitome of Kidal shout that evoke that match ladies and gentlemen you could ask any matchmaker and we have several matchmakers here tonight my speakers are easy and by the way there you go there you go how are you tell you became a matchmaker celli very good nice hold on a second any times there's some sort of singles event for some reason you get a hundred and fifty ladies and two and a Half Men now buy one is always something simple mathematics the two and a half men are brilliant because it's all of there's a hundred and fifty ladies two and a half men there's a great chance they're gonna get married but for some reason all of these other guys don't you why not yeah it's not for me I'm embarrassed since the Pelle weights don't be embarrassed you don't find it here cuz somewhere else you don't find it right this shotgun go to the next time and if you don't find that so kind and good in the night shift cut and I want to tell you something else and there's some things are all gonna Pelt me with eggs nail if you call you call the matchmaker and they don't answer call them again and if they don't answer again : again well watch by the way all the math figures are gonna forward their numbers to me now watch okay center pivot don't give up and don't be a Paris pursuing that pursue it be persistent because you're chasing you're pursuing something that is it describable they could do shout is going to attain the holiness that you're going to obtain is indescribable insurmountable so therefore be persistent and take your egos and put it on the side don't allow your ego to prevent you from getting married put your egos away I'll tell you why you ready listen to this you know my second up with those enough stuff to name without comes and writes about suffering Leila you listening them okay listen to this I think about rights like this when a person is suffering listen very carefully mushara Michigan teen O'Donnell Adam when they send it to someone any type of suffering in life when it's sent to people listen very carefully must be no tension what else will I be open on e God tells the suffering you're only going to leave on a specific day volt it's all a lie in their pillow knee by this sample oniy you're only gonna leave when the person goes to a certain doctor or takes a certain medicine that means I believe that whatever comes first that's gonna cause the suffering to leave whether it's a specific day a specific doctor or a specific medicine whatever proceeds whatever comes first that's gonna cause the suffering to leave and people that are single that are looking for their match a suffering that dating process is suffering just as my wife okay suffering and that suffering has a limit to it there's a time limit or it could be solved by going to the right person or by doing the right thing and who's a doctor these matchmakers so therefore if you went to one doctor and they weren't able to cure you don't stop going to the doctors go to another doctor and get another doctor until you find the doctor that's finally going to rid you of such elements cure you of such illnesses and get you married don't stop and don't give up take your ego and put it aside and get married finally there's no honestly but of course I like this game Anna give it rights like this everybody ready here we go the Maariv I can achieve in a sheet attack and there is Israel when a man is to marry a woman I'm reeling they say the following Matt salamati they will come to him and say are you on my tie guy or a boat's a guy what's a macho guy with a motel guy what do you mean the Steve might say I'm a shot off right the Pacific right if you fail the woman he found good one second there's another pursue pursue Christ Oh more tyranny Mary Mary - Tyesha I am finding that a woman is both better than death so when a guy gets me I mean desk which one you have did you find a good wife or did you find goodness okay I hope they don't ask next to the wife because anyone says I found a good life okay what determines if you found a good life or a better wife what determines if life is sweet in that Union or Hospital it's unpalatable well calm of idea says what it is very ready those are the words that come over yourself chef Luca Livadia what do you mean much salamati I don't understand who listens very carefully he says depends who you think sounded for you what do you mean more tyranny Oliver that's more Missoni if you think that a marriage is a result of your I don't know your correspondence of your diligence of you pick up points if you think that you're getting married because of you says over here either by softening I should cable what's an attachable nothing if I believe it's because of my effort that I'm getting married says a couple idea that marriage is gonna come out in bitterness but if you realize the emeriti result of God Mozza what about God butter then beautiful Natasha I'm a tattoo my mama's a good kid you seen the pharma bit comes in right to their three partners and every person there's my mother Billy on my father share buddy and there's God so that means in every union every time I get married they are sweet partners the boy the girl and God ladies and gentlemen you go out on a date you back on the date you discussed it with anybody well your choice this girl - my mommy better idea no that's a good idea who else over the shaft I'm good to discuss it with God you standing on me die and say but uh you know what I went out with a guy today okay his voice is a little squeaky you know it's high right but he's a sweetheart of a guy the guy was so nice he was so calm he was so patient I took half an hour by the way don't think I failed to get ready what is that III don't see the guys waiting his whole life to meet you can he come on time okay and guys be on time girls to wait for you haven't sinned anyway he waited for me but that voice is really ringing in my ear it's annoying is that what I want happy anniversary right but LM you're my third partner what do I do you give me that knowledge implanted me that decision helped me come to realization what the next step after this is going to be do I consult the third partner before I go into this business so that's the final tip with every date I bring my care and concerns to God and I say I am I'm only a third partner here you got 33% what do you say about this business do we proceed or do we abstain do we continue or do we terminate take advice from a shimon peres turn to God and if you lie and say but I olam I need you guard me in this one show me the right way direct me is this a person I should spend the rest of my life with or maybe there's someone better not there for me and because Vale a shame but the homeboy alum is going to come through and show you what to do so let's go over the six tips of tonight's quiz and then miss at the gym will give you directions what's gonna happen now who's gonna get a little interesting everybody ready here we go tip number one be the best person you can be cuz if you're the best person you could be you're going to meet a person on your level that's going to act meet with you that's going to fulfill you complete you number two when looking for that bad tube or bends ooh look for a person now that's like you but someone who complements you someones gonna make you the best person you can be number three we said that we're looking in a family it's not enough to look for superficial things but look for me note that I'm looking for and makes sure that they're retained in those families number four don't be superficial looks change clothing are not important remember the Z box okay very good number five put away ego just go for it so imagine person has a business and you have a customer okay are you gonna be say you know what this one I'm not telling him you're crazy you go after every dollar and here go after every date and number six consult your partner body alarm daddy you're my father you're my partner you're my guide am i doing what's right in life or not if we take these six victims these six presidents and we apply them to every date that we go on and every person that we meet and every boy that we go out with and every girl that we date then there's that - em within the next couple of months not on Monday night bears are - em we'll be celebrating our weddings together there's a - M I'm in I thank you so much for joining us and we hope you enjoyed tonight's class what o'connell mmm [Music] you [Applause]