Parshat Vayechi: Differentiating Hard Work and Leisure - Rabbi Meyer Yedid

[Music] there is a pursuit in this week's parasha that I think is studied properly if we understood it if we thought about it it's a game changer it's a life changer it may not seem that way at first when you hear it but as you think about it and especially if you're a mature person especially if you had a little experience in life you'll say wow you know I never thought about that to come to a realization and an understanding of this consumer if you're able to at a young age you will have a tremendous wealth the pursuit is talking about the blessing that Yaakov Aveeno gave the son is Sahar success that ISA ha so they are many hakito is a hard soul that men know ha is good what is Manu heart but the word means may know ha translated rest leisure now when you're resting you're relaxed you have nothing to do you have many ha some people they sleep on Shabbat for 10 hours 12 hours 14 hours shebat Muhammad I worked on rabbi I slept 16 hours Minu ha sounds familiar I guess right men ooh ha is when you have leisure which means you relaxed your rest early not working too hard sometimes you go on vacation you know me no harm by our men no hockey table it's a hard but yeah anybody is so so busy he studied it he looked into it he gave notice to it but yeah I'm a no hockey table you know what to have leisure to have menu ha is it's good it's a good feeling it's a it's a pleasure and joy I think we could all agree that in soccer we don't even need my young willingness to think about it honey if you have actually thought about it and came to a decision we didn't need to it's so obvious leisure is good but it seems that he is Sahab didn't just say leisure is good Fei Yan he looked into it he studied he studied the subjects most of us don't study the subject most of us just say of course it's obvious I love leisure you don't need to convince me do you have to tell your children one day by the way leisure is good no father ever told us Sunday why cause obvious but yeha studied the subject and you know what he came out with via menu ha keto everything he studied the subject he did nice a union he didn't she dose fault did he show me he worked it all out he studied maneja he studied it inside and out he probably wondering what is that a study but it doesn't sense via Arman mahaki toe and his conclusion was it's God you see in life sometimes things may seem good but when you study them you see they're not good sometimes a person wouldn't realize that smoking is not good but at first glance it may seem good what's the big deal mostly if I smoke a little bit I get a little high what's the big deal it's good it's good feeling but then my yawn when you study it when you study the subject and you study all the millions of sick people in the world and you come out and say oh that's not good good it's not good I thought it was good stop there are many things in life that at first glance you may say it's good it's I enjoy that but in the end it's not good sometimes food it could be not good food for you so you put in your mouth and you eat it it was very good but then when you study you say that's not good there are many things in life that at first glance may seem good but when you study them they come out not so good but you saw how when he made his study on Meno ha bhaiyaa terminó ha and he says he told this is good table is more than please perfect it's great so what did he do now that he did this study on me no ha all right and he didn't just take it for granted he really looked into it and he came out this is great man who has great so what did he do what was his next move because empty you make a study this is a good a very important life after you look at the something and you study it and you come out with a conclusion now you want to act on it what's the purpose of studying something if you're not gonna do it anyway so he came out right nice right he's ready to take his information and put it into practice so what did you say how to do so if you were to ask me to fill in the rest of the facility what I would ask any of you here to fill in the rest of the wazoo when you come out with the conclusion that meant no highs good so what did he say hon do what you do he went what he go huh he went to sleep nice he went to him he went to relax in the backyard and not a nice hot Sun he went to relax with his friends have a drink that's what you were thinking if min who has good that's are you but there's something in this kazoo it's absolutely shocking when you hear what his reaction was the only did if a success if I yet more this book he lowered his shoulder he lowered his shoulder blissful to carry he started to work he started to sweat and it's a thing is scratching yeah say what if you didn't study on work if you didn't study on work and you came at that work is good then what do you do and you work but if you if you do this study on menu ha and you came at that man who has good then what do you do you don't you relax you get a nice chair nice beach chair just sit back and take it easy but this aha does history on me no ha comes out that it's great and he acts exactly opposite which makes no sense and if we today our mats Lia if we succeed today me and you to figure out what's going on in this pursuit we will have earned for ourselves a wealth of a lifetime there isn't enough money in the world that someone can give you that's going to be equal to what we will learn today let me tell you about a ferry that is a big question right and remember that you think this is a very big question remember that because by the end of this class and everything is unquestionable why is this a big question in our minds it's because there is a false understanding in the world and we're part of that world because we had a very good question and I just asked there is a misunderstanding let's say you thought that something was very very good for you and then you saw that it's really poison that's called a misunderstanding you thought it was one thing and you realize it was something else there is a misunderstanding of what menu ha is you see menu ha is a great state of sin ha being in a state of minnow ha which we call it for now peace or rest being in the state of minutiae is something that we all look forward to because we know how enjoyable minimize we all want menu ha in fact I will venture to say that we all live to Reitsma no ha that's how much we know how we want even when we work hard it's only so that we can end up resting even if we have doing we weren't doing the whole week there people who work during the week Monday Tuesday Wednesday that run and they can't wait for the weekend because the weekend is there meaning we work for months and months and months and then we're gonna have and in fact people will work a lifetime they'll work 10 20 30 40 years and looking forward to what tomato hot when and every time and to do now menu has always on our minds you're in school you you're in school all day you're working hard and you just can't wait till till till the day's over the bell rings and then this seemed high that you see in the holes you ever see this in behind the salt in the hallway at five o'clock 5:45 watch today at 12:35 staying by the door and see this seam high it's not just all for the night off so bad you have a day and a half off unbelievable people are rushing into the cold they're going to the freezing weather why because they want men yo ha man who has something that's always on our mind minnow ha something we all love and want I'm not going to change today our love of men or ha I'm not today gonna tell you that you should not look forward to middle ha I'm not doing that today I'm telling you today that minnow ha is great like you know it but today I am going to give you a high dose I'm going to tell you the following that what you think and what you envision men you have to be is a mistake and the minute you're going to realize this is the minute you're gonna start an amazing life so again I'm not gonna argue that minnow ha is great you may come and say I'll tell you guys resting is not good come on exactly no I mean it has great but I'm telling you that most of us in this room have a misunderstanding of what men yo ha is and therefore were chasing men ohh ha we want men yo ha but we're never going to get men no ha because we don't know what it is if you think and I'm telling you that as a challenge if you think right now that men no ha is when you're sitting back with nothing to do and nothing to worry about and everything is just perfect if that's your vision of men wha you are going to have a miserable life one more time listen to what I'm telling you not trying to shock you from telling the truth if your understanding we all want men oh ha which is great we all think we know has great beautiful but if you think that the definition of men oh ha is the deficit is the time that I have to sit and do nothing have no worries no problems no issues it has to work another thing if that's what you're imagining if that's the cloud of mineral hi you're thinking about and you're looking to reach that cloud and when you reach that glad you're gonna be if that's what you're looking for you're going to have a miserable life why why because it will never happen you are looking for something that doesn't exist you may be able to go a few days on the case but even then you'll have many different other issues you may have money and never have to work a day in your life there are people who are so wealthy they don't have to work a day in their life so you would say all right they have me no ha no they don't because they have other issues ambitions their children their husbands they view their wives have issues with many things that health issues this in life there are always issues you never have many huh there is nobody that you know that has men or ha nobody I give you my word growing up your age I remember I was 16 years old I remember this very vividly I remember a lot of things but I remember growing up very jealous I didn't grow up in the house and had really any money I couldn't even buy a pair of pants to be honest with you to buy a pair of histamine was like you know pest I was coming and I have a lot of money to buy lunch whenever one went for lunch a few dollars I have to be very careful how I spent my few dollars because I don't have anymore that's how I grew up I didn't have a lot of money my parents didn't have money but I went to a school where many of my friends had a lot of money and I remember being very very jealous I remember feeling daily in pain from morning till night in and out yes I distracted myself my playing ball I had a lot of different things I had some good times I'm not saying that but but the overall default was when everything was set you know when I was doing nothing I'm going back to my pain I remember going to one of my friend very good friend very very wealthy I remember I ever forget this I remember that I was by his house and his mother walked in on some random day in December or something with maybe 20 bags of expensive clothing like I would never even be able to buy one thing in that store in ten years and here's a woman who walks into the house my friend just like me 20 bigs and she throws it on the floor and she says here choose whatever you want if there's anything you don't want just tell me by tomorrow and I'm like I couldn't get one thing in that hole maybe wasn't maybe was like 50 things in those bags I couldn't get one one not today I couldn't never get them here my friend and he's been kidding you see the count okay mom fine no problem like what you know like not like jumping up and down you're not going crazy if I had one bag I'll be going crazy I'm feeling Wow yes and then then I know he turned 17 and this guy because what happens then because what he gets oh nice scoff at me I'm like drunk my mother's used Volkswagens like like 1984 and it's hardly like moving and like when you're pulling up in front of the school everyone is and you're pulling up and it's not from the music you know I'm saying like Santa's guys pulling up and guess what happens to me I'm telling you see it or not I'm sorry I have to share this with you but I planted truth it's a reality I'm sure about the only one it was heart was painful I remember living with that pain for years I wish someone I wish I wish that someone would have given me the information I'm about to give you because if they did it would have saved me many years of her it was only a few years later maybe maybe in my 20s 21:22 just specifically some of the people that I was very jealous of and they were not one not two they were a bunch I remember I remember getting a little more mature and starting to see what's in that house for example in one of the houses nobody in the family talks can't look each other the husband hates the wife and she hates him too and this is been gone for 30 years I didn't know that the kids don't really get along the house is like a terrible place to be and I remember thinking this is one second I don't know the house I mean I have a lot of money in my house but there's a lot of love of my house there's a lot of warmth in my house a lot of support of my house I have family I have brothers and sisters that I would spend my day with anyone other anytime they would do anything for me now I would do anything for them he doesn't have that I have it this guy other issues this one health issues but also sure I didn't have health issues growing up I don't have families just growing up I had a lot of things growing up that I should have been very very happy with but I was missing money but it drove me crazy why am I telling you this because there isn't one person in this room that has it all they are people in this room have a lot of money yeah but they're missing something that you have if you don't have a lot of money they are people don't have a lot of money but they have other things everybody's got something and misses there isn't a person in the world who has everything there isn't it doesn't exist it's hard to believe that because you think always the other person has everything and you have nothing until you think everyone thinks that everyone thinks the other guy has it all nobody has it all no human on the planet has it all it will never happen they may have things that you don't have but they don't have it all they're struggling with things too you may not believe it because you'll say alright how could they struggle if you have money could struggle yeah could struggle a lot if you have money struggle many other things the PASOK says Adam lay a mile you lad which means that a human in this world if you're a human and you're alive then you're struggling everybody in this room is struggling with something you may not want to admit it in public but you all know deep inside that you're struggling with something everybody here is struggling some with money some with status and with family some with popularity something with this I'm with that everybody's struggling again you don't need to admit it but you know this is the fact just know that this will continue with you for the rest of your life the rest of your life you're going to be struggling with something life is not a smooth sailing highway you may solve one of your problems maybe today you don't have money and one day you'll have money so you'll take care of that but you'll be struggling with something else it's always something you're struggling with always you're never going to have Minu ha ever you're never gonna let me know huh you're always going to be two things behind me no ha if I only have this I love it if I ask you right now what would it take to get you in Ohio okay if I only got this and I only got that I need two things I'm two things away from Aloha if I just got these two things I'm away I bet many of you think I've had these campuses who people say okay okay ready I have like two more things in my life if I can get these strain that I'm having oh ha that's it I'm done I'm good five years a doctor guy he has the same two things Oh other two things and he's still in the same plan and forever till you're 120 years old you're still chasing the minnow ha you're never going to find it you know why because you're in the wrong place if you're looking for me no ha in this place called alarm huzzah you're in the wrong place and you're going to be forever frustrated you know what it's like is a guy going to China for two weeks he has to work in two weeks are you gonna China you work hard like a Bama like an animal so you get in all your work done imagine you go there for two weeks and you're working and you're saying what am i doing why am i working hello you get to work that's what China is there for you went to work if you go on vacation and you work every second on vacation you're gonna be very disappointed because he's supposed to relax on vacation but if you know you have to work you don't feel bad there is no such thing as a human in this world remember I tell you one more time it doesn't matter who he is it makes no difference how popular how tall how much money it makes no difference there isn't a human being that you know that has it all so if you're looking for men oh ha in the sense where you want just everything to really relax I just want everything to be relaxed and I'm almost there I'm almost there few more dollars yeah a few more friends I'll be there a few I'm almost there or was it I got it you're gonna be almost there the rest of your life and you're coming to never taste the sweetness of Meno ha because it's not available to you so where is my Oh Xavier what did is sakaar see them but yaar menu hakito what did he see where is this manner ha you don't the man who has the menu ha ha is the minute you and I realize because it sound weird don't sound weird and you may just dismiss what I'm saying don't pay good attention but this could change your life forever for you not for me for you the moment you realize that this world when you're here in this world you're here to work you're here to struggle if you're struggling you're here for them if you're working hard you're here for that you're in the right place you know why we get frustrated when we're not having Minoru ha because we think we're here to relax we think we're here on vacation when you think you're here on vacation and all of a sudden you have to work hard what happens to you get frustrated but if you know you need to work you're here to struggle you're here to wake up early in the morning you hear to go to praise you hear to learn you're here to work whether you're working in Torah how you're working in business are you working with your family you're struggling with your friends you're struggling with your parents you're struggling with your MoDOT you're working on yourself you're struggling but you know what happens when you know that you're supposed to be struggling you know what happens you have mineral hop because you know women are hot comes from I mean your heart comes from feeling you're at home when you're at home you feel meh no ha when you think this world is meant to be everything easy you're never gonna find me no ha ever because it will never be easy and the minute you realize this world is supposed to be a place where I struggle yeah I'm struggling and learning good good I'm struggling to wake up good I'm struggling my anger fine my friend is bothering me great that's a year for when they trained an Olympian for the Olympics for years you know answers of all am i doing here what are you doing it you're here to our that's what you're here for the minute you realize that you're here you're struggling cause you're no money you're struggling that good that's what you're here for you're in the right place when you struggle remember you're at home and therefore once you know you're at home and you know you is this place is a place to work when you work you feel good because you're in a place that's meant to work so by your menu hakito what is aha so that man has good you no matter how means you know how mean when you feel at home when you feel you're on the right place I'm in the right place oh I'm struggling I'm in the right place oh you got a minnow ha it feels good to be at home but yet your Molly's ball say he says so let me put in the work let me work hard and you come to school every day for example and you're Minu ha is have to get out of school you'll never enjoy school you'll never enjoy it because you'll always be looking to get out and for years will go by in this place and you can not anyplace and you'll hate every minute of it because you're looking for mainu ha but imagine you understood that you're here to work the work is going to feel such a pleasure that's how it is in our lifetime school the 4 years is like a lifetime same thing in lifetime people also say oh I just kidding wait till I finish try I retire hello you're here now if you're in school work hard work hard open big Amara and study but yet she smallest of all he's I'm excited to work I'm here to work when you have to get up early in the morning yes it's hard but be excited about it be excited to work on be excited to go learn at night be excited to learn anything that you're learning be excited to work you're here to work lucky is the one whose work is in Tehran lucky is the one whose work is an easy thought he's struggling with his me thought he's struggling with his cos he's working on it it's hard for him to leave his home at night it's hard for him to get up in the morning it's hard for him to do something lucky are you that you're struggling with those things but yattaman your hockey table Manu hah is what you feel at home and just know that home in this world home here means a place of struggle so then lower your shoulder lower your shoulder and start lifting all the boxes that you want to lift lower your shoulder and start to work on yourself take that game on huh and start to work on it and if you see yourself struggling great you're at home then it's gonna taste sweet believe it or not struggling in this world can be sweet because this world is full of struggles but if you know that's what you're here for you're gonna love it and fortunate are you that you struggle and good things because in life you have a choice you could struggle with stupidity or you could struggle and things that will bring you greatness like Tehran with sports but it's struggling time it's vote by yattaman or hakito since you so have I see this is a place of work so let me start working in all the right things let me commit myself not to be lazy let me commit myself to work to sweat when you find yourself sweating know that you're at home feel good feel good that you're working on don't cook coming to school in the morning don't come to even in the morning waiting to leave that's what people do their whole lifetime they say every day I wake up waiting to leave don't do that enjoy life coming to school to work coming to school to struggle if you have such an attitude then you're gonna be very animated hakito you're gonna have a great experience in these four years and your lifetime for admin or hockey table this world is not a place where you're ever going to relax don't look forward to that it's never going to happen what is going to happen is you get a struggle struggling the right things work hard enjoy it shabbat shalom [Music] you [Applause]