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okay good morning want to thank our
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Anda benisa Shana who should have a
speedy and painless recovery we are in
the middle of studying a piece by R
we're in Al the great
Mas is
Al which about and the relationship
between effort and and amuna and we've
been discussing and we've talked about
it many times in many contexts this
balance the tension between when do I
sit back and say it's on hashem's hands
and when do I take my initiative and say
I'm in control and the attitude and
philosophy that we're meant to live with
which is ding like it's all up to him
but act as if it's all up to you it's
not a contradiction it's not a
contradiction when we work when we make
our initiative when we take action we do
it we don't do it halfly we don't do it
half-heartedly we do it with all of
ourselves as if it all depends on us but
at the same time when we're doing at the
same time when we're ready to accept the
consequences of the results of whatever
it is we're working towards we do so
with the acceptance that it is all up to
it's all up to Hashem okay so we are p z
it has been so long since we met I don't
even remember what we're talking
about oh I remember what we're talking
about no no I remember I remember now
okay R developed the following fantastic
idea okay I'm just looking at this
course forner R was developing the idea
of Adam in ganen man in the Garden of
Eden whose punishment for listening to
his wife was that that he had to work B
goes against yesterday what I said I I
had to make up for
yesterday he has to go work in order to
in order to derive income in order to
sustain himself man has to go exert
effort man has to go work this is the
CLA if you remembera developed the idea
that rather than everything intermingled
and rather than everything synthesized
as one good and bad but now man had to
live Discerning there's nothing more
Discerning than when you extract this
food from the ground you have to take
the good from the bad and that's if you
look at the top paragraph let's just
review it as we summarize and transition
into this
week man essentially the whole Lifestyle
the whole design of the world was
changed that now man had to work in
order to derive an
income put man in a very difficult
challenging
circumstance on the one hand when we
work hard and when we succeed we derive
great joy great satisfaction great
fulfillment from it so let's say you
brilliantly knew last week to short the
market and you were ahead of everyone
else you were a uh you were a reader you
were a prophet you Pressly decided I'm
going to short the market so when you
made a ton of money last week because
you shorted the market so you have a
right to say you know what that feels
pretty good everyone else was going
along everyone thought there was a small
correction it's going to come back the
end of the year it's going to bounce
back but I knew it wasn't I knew it was
going to plummet the bottom would come
out and so I'm pretty proud of my
thinking and I'm proud of my courage and
my guts to pull the trigger on the one
hand right on the one hand there's a
pleasure there's a satisfaction that
comes from the success of our effort you
get kapov means more literally you know
if I'm a ditch digger if I'm a water
carrier if I'm the sweat of my brow if I
work very hard and I I see the results
of my hard work you know sometimes one
can be envious of people who work with
their hands they more immediately see
the results you watch the workers who
are putting on a new roof next door
building the house or the extension and
you see that you know last month that
wasn't there and now there's a room
there wasn't a roof now there's a roof
there's a there's a certain pleasure
satisfaction when you see you worked
hard on something and there it is I
succeeded says you would prefer even a
smaller quantity but as the result of
your artwor than if someone gifts you a
lot
more because the fact that we put in the
effort we have had the initiative it
took Insight time energy resource that
is all investment in it that yields a
sweetness that we derive from it I think
last time when we spoke about this we
talked about
ressler's the notion that love is the
result of giving not getting parents
love children more than children love
parents so when we make an effort we
talked about the PK says three people
exempt from war plant a Vineyard build a
home marry a woman a woman is not like a
grape or or a house but what it means is
there three examples where you gave a
piece of yourself you invested you built
a bridge from yourself to something else
and you didn't yet reap the benefit of
it so that individual is exempt from war
so to over here is describing the
sweetness the danger is you look and you
say huh God creates I create he built
the world I built the house God smart
I'm smart I need to I need to short the
market look how much money I made and
you can start to think that you're in
control that you're in charge but the
truth is that a strong wind can knock
down your house and the truth is that
you can bet or predict incorrectly on
the market and lose your pants the truth
is is in
charge so in
Gish wasn't challenged with this tension
he knew he wasn't in control how did he
know cuz he went to an all you can e
Buffet he had everything handed to him
Gan Aiden was just there was no effort
there was no work there was no
initiative there was no income so true
he lost out on the satisfaction of
working but he also didn't have the
tension with thinking the arrogance of
confusing that he was in control he knew
he forfeited his control to
Hashem gave us he gave a new lifestyle
which would help repair and correct the
mistake that he made
so this is our mission this is our
challenge to go through every day in
other words we shouldn't say oh there's
this horrific philosophical conundrum
that has no solution I told you what
told me you know is is ker
and iser but you mix the two you get B
he says don't think of it that way think
of it as this is me the
has gave this to us as our challenge
that I stop and I think and I
contemplate and I struggle with what am
I supposed to be doing right
now so this is our mission this is our
Challenge and it comes up every single
day now it doesn't come up every day
like it's five o'clock should I go home
because I put in enough work and it's up
to Hashem now or should I work harder
because it's up to me I don't think
people think about it in that way maybe
we should but we think about it all the
time and I'll give you a simple example
that when it happened I knew I wanted to
share it in this she all my stories come
from flying and traveling so so I flew
back from I was in Israel last week for
a couple days for a magnificent wedding
and I flew back on a flight from Israel
through Newark Airport here so for
whatever reason when the flight was made
it was like the most miserable
challenging time to fly of the entire
year in anticipation of this wonderful
week so when I when the when the flight
was originally made it was done it was
united through Newark and it was Newark
to Miami now for Lord Dale and West Palm
weren't options the second half that
flight had to be through to Miami they
couldn't change it for whatever reason
and it was with a fairly long layover so
I knew when the moment I landed in
Newark I would run to the desk and see
if at that point they could try to get
me onto another flight so I ran to a
first of all it was aggravating I'm not
going to take time all learn Tor with
you but it was aggravating because when
we landed I had my eye on this we land
at like 5 and there was a 605 flight to
Fort lale that was what I had my eye on
I had no luggage let me run see if they
can switch me to that but of course we
sat at the gate for like half an hour
after a 14-hour flight before we got off
the plane Hashem it's all up to you it's
no problem for whatever reason Hashem
wants me to be sitting sitting at I
can't tell you what the shear does for
me you think I give the shear for you I
give the she I give the shear for me
because because I preach about this
weekly how could I not live it so I'm in
these circumstances where I'm ready to
lose my cool I have no choice but to
breathe deep and say okay a't no milado
it's up to in fact I texted like 10
times in a row
M to my wife so F I got off ran to the
gate guy at the gate couldn't get on the
605 there was another flight to Fort
lale every flight was not only booked
but was oversold with waiting lists so I
said you got to get me on this fort Lord
one no I can't there's nothing it open
there's a seat I'm switching you then he
looks up and he says uhoh so what's uh
oh he said I took you off the Miami one
so I can switch you to the for one but
by the time I got back to the for screen
the seat's now gone so now you're on no
flight
was at my house I had seen my family all
week I wanted to be home for
shabas wherever you want me whatever you
want from me this isn't my control
there's nothing I can do okay then he
looked up he said okay good got it back
open I got you on you're on the fort
Lord oh I was so happy I was so proud I
took initiative I took I went to the
desk I I saw his name tag used his name
was very friendly got him to put in the
extra effort and he for flight I was so
proud of myself that now I'd get home
earlier and have less of a drive home
when I landed I'd see my family I'd get
a decent night's sleep brilliant
initiative human initiative right not so
brilliant because as I walked away from
his desk I got the text alert your
flight to Fort Lauderdale has been
delayed I'll fast forward because I want
to get back to our learning but I'll
just fast forward that my flight to fale
took off after the flight from Miami
landed
landed landed I walked into my house at
400 a.m. so what's my point my point is
as I was sitting there waiting for that
new flight which by the way as we got to
the gate cuz the incoming flight finally
arrived and we're finally about to board
at 12:15 they said actually nobody could
board cuz the engineers need to go on
the mechanics because there's a
mechanical problem and I was okay aod
Mado a I had a lot of aod Mado that
night a Mado so why am I sharing all
this right now because I sat there
saying to myself did I do the right
thing by trying to outsmart the system
and go to Fort lale or maybe Hashem knew
what he was doing originally when he
made the ticket booked to Miami because
knows what he's doing and I was meant to
go to Miami I would have been home in
bed sound asleep true a little bit more
of a drive home but home asleep not 4:00
a.m. and I was second guessing did I
take the initiative was that the mistake
these are the moments in I don't have an
answer because if it would have worked
out the I'd say I'm such a genius
everyone else so passive thinks it's up
to hasem wanted me to take the
initiative and go get on the four Lord
so you only know after the fact whether
what you did was right or wrong you
don't get to see it ahead of time you
only learn it in retrospect my point is
it's really complicated it's really
complicated I'm still stuck not knowing
should I have gotten there and said I
don't know why I'm on the Miami but
that's where Hashem put me so leave it
don't be such a knocker you got to walk
up there and switch your flight that's
where Hashem wanted you on the Miami
leave it should I have done that did I
make a mistake did I do this to myself
by taking over initiative and trying to
change something or should I have said
Miami is inconvenient but clearly it
made no sense so it must have been from
Hashem for a reason I don't know I don't
know nor do I know how it will influence
the next time I have to make this same
decision but I'll tell you what's good
and healthy is that I'm thinking about
that yeah that's what's healthy and
that's the result of of our learning
together is to be thinking about that
tension so that tension exists in every
which way how much initiative and how
much do I sit back and say that's from
Hashem when do I say I need to be
assertive I need to influence I need to
assert myself
and when do I say I'm not sure why it's
this way it's not the idea way I'd want
it but this is from Hashem and I don't
have a clear answer there are no clear
parameters every situation is different
every person is different every
circumstance is different but the one
parameter I'm trying to provide is to be
thinking about it in that way not to
always take over initiative not to be
such a knocker is trying to manipulate
every situation and think you're in
control and think you can you know Bob
and weave and and change every situation
in life and you're in control of
everything and on the other hand not to
be so pass that you're AER and Ace and
stepped on and taken advantage of and
you walk through life where the whole
world walks on you because you think
it's a moon but really it's a cop out
you're just you have no self-esteem and
you're insecure and it can't be either
extreme our mission is to find that
balance and it's a mission says R but
that's by Design Theon is trying to
teach us how do we live with the
satisfaction of our accomplishment but
also never thinking it's up to us is
that our destiny posten
is to live this life of tension between
when is it my initiative excuse me and
when is it and when is it up to hasem
May let's go back to learning to I have
more travel stories but another
time so now we have to contemplate and
think about what is the aod the good of
the aod to inject into all of our
activities and our actions how much is
too much and how much is enough how much
do I have to take initiative because I'm
responsible I have to take extreme
ownership over my life and how much
extreme ownership means I did what was
reasonable but now I have to let go and
let
God says know in all of your
ways says there the following quote
in every action means every action every
activity everything you're about to do
you're going to the gym you're going
shopping you're making a potato cooko
you're about to short the market you're
going long on the market you're about to
be a lawyer a doctor a Raba whatever
you're doing in life you're interacting
with your children with their teachers
whatever you're doing in life wherever
you're going You're making your plane
ticket you're switching your plane
ticket whatever you're
doing what it means
no in all your paths and all your
Journeys and all your ways who know him
there is an invitation for him to be by
your side let me put it to you
differently what the Toto wants from us
is that when you're walking by that when
you're walking to the counter coming off
the Israel segment to say Hashem what do
you think should I try to switch to
leave it in
Miami he is your companion he is our
friend he is our mate he is our spouse
he is our parent he's with us everywhere
we go so instead of running the same way
that if you're traveling with someone
you're close to a family member a close
friend you'd say no what should we do
what do you think should we try to
switch it should we leave it what do you
think you would think it out and think
it through with that Confidant companion
friend family member K is all of that
and more so wherever we're going and
whatever we're doing think it out with
him you know where I learned that from
this pastor it's an Evangelical Pastor
who we work with on pro Israel things
actually we're going to be pleased God
in January Ambassador David Freeman is
going to come speak and we're doing it
in conjunction with his his pro-israel
his pro-israel group so some I've been
with him where we're trying to decide
about something that we're working on
and he'll say yeah I've said this before
he'll say let's pray on it let's ask God
that that's it true you're like what
that's weird and then you're like wow
that's actually what we're supposed to
be doing and you got that from us that
comes from us so means pray on it
everything you're doing pray on it I
don't mean you know you have to like
spread out a carpet kneel down I don't
mean you have to stop and say words and
I don't mean they have to look up and
make hand gestures but I mean the same
way you would turn to your friend your
family your companion you'd say no what
do you think should try to switch the
flight should we leave it what do you
think what do you think we should do
what do you think about the stock market
should go long should go short what do
you think here's what I'm thinking what
do you
think means everywhere you go and
everything you do ask Hashem what do you
think what do you think bring it
now sometimes you may even hear him I
don't mean literally then you need to
get that checked out but I mean you may
hear him that something will become
clear there'll be a sign something will
become clear something will unfold let
you say thank you
you weigh in I take it that that means
leave it or I take it that means do it
most often you won't hear him but
nevertheless the act of inviting him
into the conversation is valuable how
many friends do we have where we talk
out something with them where they
actually offered us zero value they said
nothing that actually was a value but
the fact that they were the the the ear
that allowed us to talk out the issue
was of inestimable value it was
incredible value because they enabled us
to talk it out and we trusted them to
talk it out we trusted that they had no
bias had no ulterior motive that they
weren't judging us that they were good
listeners and that's an amazing value to
us in its own right so
that's live life that Hashem is that
friend Confidant spouse family member
who you could talk out anything with and
talk it out with him and even though he
may or may not talk back in a way you
can hear but just talking it out well
first of all it is contributing to
closing the relationship with him
because you feel much closer to the
person that you've talked it out with
even if they didn't say anything that
was of Great Value but you've trusted
them you confided in them you talked it
out with them they were there for you
they gave the time they were a good
listener you feel closer so that's how
we feel closer to Hashem but more than
that more than that we've involved him
we have satisfied this tension that
we're supposed to be living with between
between effort Free Will and and on the
other hand
in Every Act
ask put your hope in him your trust in
him ask him for help and
success because the result is not in
your hands result is not in your hands
now by the way just as aide I'll tell
you my mistake there are apps now where
you can check flights where you can see
the incoming
flight I was in the whole half
hour at the gate correct the whole
flight at the gate I should have been on
while I was sitting at that gate waiting
to get off I should have been looking at
that app to see the fort laudale Miami
which plane is here which one is delayed
coming in total amateur move I'm
embarrassed but now now I know it
doesn't it's no excuse no excuse no
excuse no excuse G agent should have
known anti-semite he should have known
but it was a total amateur move on my
part an amateur move on my part but now
here's where kick in also which is
there's no looking back I could have
spent the 5 hour delay beating myself up
but the now kick in that says my brain
was suspended it was an amateur move
clearly that was from Hashem that I
acted like an
idiot right in other words for whatever
reason I was me I won't make the mistake
again but also for whatever reason that
was meant to be you know when we do
something that even that that's also
part of the tension well what do you
mean do I blame hasem now but that was
my initiative but maybe Hashem
intervened to have me that initiative
because that brought about the result
that really came from hem these are
questions that have no answers that will
just give you a migraine but it's good
to think about them it's good to be
thinking about them because that's how
we again work out the amuna muscle
that's how we feed the amuna the amuna
appetite that's how we grow the yunas to
be thinking about to be thinking about
these things so but it's really really
important to never look back to be able
to say I'm looking forward I'm not going
to beat myself up because this at some
point even when it was your own mistake
you have to say I'm going to learn from
it going forward but I'm not going to
beat myself up and I'm not going to
marinate and stew in that mistake I'm
not going to perseverate What's The Word
in that mistake because then what that's
that's like equally I've I've forfeited
the to the point that I'm I'm beating
myself
up so says
this is an extension of the Trust on
with all your heart
so you have we've talked about this you
got big talkers lip service people they
subscribe to every on WhatsApp and email
and shear and they've got bumper
stickers and they've got little all over
their house and everything they say
is and they're big amuna all day long
shuckling
to and then they go to business where
they're ruthless and they act like it
all depends on them or they lose their
cool because they're angry at what
someone else did without realizing it's
from hasem says you can have a lot of
Amun as lip service you could have amuna
in the abstract in theory but it's
lacking in every action that's why it
says
it's an amazing inide of why is there
have the redundancy first it says trust
in hm with all your heart then it says
know hasem in all of your ways why the
redundancy because you can have a break
between the two you could trust in
Hashem in your heart but that trust in
your heart never comes out to your hands
it never comes out to your actions it
never comes out poo to the reality and
the choices that you make so if someone
sits you down and says are you a m do
you have I'm the biggest M I have so
much you never saw someone with so much
can imagine how much I have I have the
most in my heart good so why did you
lose your cool in traffic and why are
you ruthless when it comes to business
and why did you yell at your kid because
the thing turned out whatever when it
really it was from hasem you could have
it all in your heart you could have it
all in theory
but does it filter down does it make its
way from the heart to the hands to the
actions to it hold an amazing Insight
from
so some people look at hem for the big
things right so if there's an enormous
hasem bring World Peace hasem I've got
to cross the sea I've got to do some
enormous task and I know I can't do it
without you some
enormous I'm just going to say hell Mary
pass but that's probably inap
inappropriate context but some enormous
Wishful things
big project where it's unlikely to
succeed so then they can turn to hem for
that but again when it comes to the
little things they forget to turn to and
to
mention if you really think you know
what I'm going to give you a petty
stupid example whether this potato
cougar comes out well or not is up to
Hashem I can put in all the ingredients
and I put in the oven for the right
amount of time and I heated the oil
before i p ped into the potatoes I could
do all the things right use all the
little tricks of the trade but whether
it works out or not up to hasem so you
understand I mean you read the you know
if you read the reitan Maus book or
reitan kvki book you see that they live
the part that's inspiring to me
is every potato cooko came with a little
let the potato cooko work out let there
be no traffic let this flow let me find
the right words Hashem let this
difficult conversation go smoothly
Hashem let this business deal succeed
Hashem everything everything Hashem I'm
putting on my pants let me not trip and
bang my nose Hashem let me okay let's
not we don't have to debilitate
ourselves by going crazy but the
person a
little certainly when it comes to big
things let's pray on it let's ask he's
my companion new hasm what do you think
trying to decide a big thing where
should I send my kids to school where
should I send my kids to Camp how should
I punish my child if I'm conern how
should I reward my child what should I
do about do we ever stop and say no hasm
what do you think what do you think let
me talk with you I want to feel like
you're in this room with me you're in
the room parent teacher conferences
should be parent teacher Hashem in every
conference IEM you're in the room you're
in the
conversation so there are people who all
the is in their heart and it never comes
out to the world of action at all we saw
that when we studied the K who talked
about the businessman who's in sh
shuckling like a mad man saying from a
cloth and the TOs over his and he's got
the long he's got all the he's doing all
the schools and all the tricks and then
he leaves the sh and he becomes a new
person he goes to business where because
he's got a competitor he's ruthlessly
trying to destroy the competitor and
said the such a person has no because
you would realize K wants you to be a
zillionaire you'll be a zillionaire with
100 competitors and if you have a you
walk across the street to the competitor
and you say welcome to town MA opening
your store do you need any help can I
help you you want to know the names or
numbers of any of my distributors or
advertisers or how can I help you that's
an extreme example but if you really
have a you're to help your competitors
because you realize your success is from
Hashem so the there described the people
who have crazy amuna in their heart when
push comes to sh when the rubber meets
the road there's no there's no
whatsoever so that's one extreme then
you have the people who have a lot of am
when it comes to the big things oh
Hashem make world peace hasem I have a
friend who's very sick and I need you
and only you but when it comes to their
own lives and their own decisions and
their own things and their own success
then there's no Hashem the real Mission
says this is all
raaa gr lived in the lived in the uh
12th century I
think medal
comment
on first is
the in all of your heart trust inem good
it's in your heart you've worked it out
you're not an atheist you're not an
agnostic you don't think we're here by
chance you don't think we're here good
you've worked it out it's in it's in
your heart you really believe there's a
first cause there's a greater being
there's a you really believe there's a
Hashem good that's the first step the
second step is
now is that coming out in your life do
you confide in him is he in the room is
he part of the conversation do you pray
to him do you thank him for the big
things and for the Small Things the
potato
C says this ins of is clear it doesn't
need to be elaborated or
elucidated but let me add to it the
Insight of also a medieval commentary
who in his writes the
following a person has to just like when
it comes to life or death we know it's
not in our hands we understand when it
comes to the big thing right we
understand the couple struggling with
infertility understand that they're ding
from the depths of their
heart he said Rael right they're ding
from the depths of their heart they know
I went to the fertility lab and I spent
$40,000 and I took the shots and I did
everything but whether we can have a
healthy child is up to hashm they know
it and the person on the other side who
has some loved one in an end of life
situation in hospice or or who's in a
terminal situation knows they're ding to
Hashem will there be another hour will
there be another day will there be
another month when it com comes
to we know and we pray and we feel but
what about the other things the Small
Things what about our food and our
clothing and our apartment do we
understand also that that too is from
Hashem it's not just the big enormous
things life or death so if somebody says
to you hey I love your dress where'd you
get it what should be your
answer from Hashem not Nordstroms or
Lord and tayor or Marshals or wherever
you go shopping Target I don't know
wherever you go shopping where you get I
understand so you can tell them
afterwards where'd you get the dress
it's from Hashem oh Hashem allowed me to
get it at
whatever the house the apartment the
house the apartment the food again I'm
not telling you to be a weirdo among
your friends but I'm
sayings do it if your friends all do it
you're not a weirdo and we can introduce
all of us doing this because what an
incredible level but
says again it's not internal it's not
theoretical it shouldn't just be in the
heart it's got to be and it shouldn't
just be in action when it comes to the
things that clearly we all concede we
have no part of life and death we can
all clearly concede that we don't
control but what about the things we
think we do control our money our food
you know and so on and so forth someone
compliment say thank you Hashem helped
me make it he was in the kitchen with me
help me make it somebody compliments you
on the Dr thank you Hashem helped me
write it he was in my office when I was
writing AA and I asked him for helping
helping me write it somebody compliments
you on the legal case you closed or the
surgery you successfully performed thank
you hashm was in the operating room
Hashem was in the courtroom in the
boardroom with me Hashem helped me
invest in the stock not just when it
comes to the enormous things and not
just in our heart he says just like the
farmer you understand the Torah was
designed as part of an agricultural
system and the farmer lives with this
and he can't avoid it because the farmer
knows that they depend on the rain the
weather they depend on avoiding the
pestilence and the hurricane and the
tsunami and the earthquake every single
day they live with that they could never
confuse now yet do they put backbreaking
labor to PW plow and to plant and to
harvest and the wi all the 11 steps
getting from planting wheat to eating
bread so the farmer deserves to take
pride in the backbreaking labor of the
wonderful Harvest that they that they
yielded this year but the farmer lives
with that satisfaction every day knowing
that it's from Hashem and just because
we've become a non-agricultural society
doesn't mean that any less we should be
thinking feeling his presence in every
aspect of our lives and our success
so we have to stop taking credit stop
getting overjoy or too much satisfaction
But realize that there's a partnership
in everything we do there's a part
partnership and there a news flesh we
are the junior partner not the senior
partner we think we did the heavy
lifting we spent the most time we risk
the most money whatever we're doing in
life we are the junior partner we are
the junior partner the one who
determines success is the Reon Shalom he
is the senior
partner wow what an effort says if you
combine this and
this they're both talking about that
tension between effort and initiative on
the one hand and trust in hasm on the
other we have to find the balance of the
two they have to complement one another
put in our effort and derive the
satisfaction from it but at the same
time we have to at the same time turn to
Hashem and realize he is the he is the
senior partner that's say we take a year
off seventh year the farmer says you
know what this year I'm going to have
zero income I'm not working at all it
doesn't belong to me at all and I'm
going to rely on
on the one hand we're commanded you
can't just sit back on your couch you
can't sit at home and say entitlement
Hashem is going to provide Hashem is
going to provide I was uh somebody
texted me from from New York
area and uh asking for advice they have
a child who uh they say went off the Der
but not losing from Kai went off the
Derk by going in the opposite direction
now just wants to sit and learn doesn't
want to work and so on and so forth
doesn't see the value of working ask for
advice I said let me ask you a question
do you pay for their cell phone and
their they have your credit card and are
you buying their clothing yeah I said
and I said did you challenge them that
they need to work because they need an
income that you're not prepared to to
support them yes but their answer is
Hashem will provide Hashem will provide
so they're changing the whole trajectory
in the track of their life because hasem
will provide I said good I'll tell you
how you educate them very quickly turn
off their cell phone call the cell phone
company and say you're not paying the
bill and take away the credit card
you're no longer paying that bill and if
you're paying for the car and the
registration of the guest and the
insurance take the car back and do and
and you can give a very overnight lesson
about whether Hashem is providing or not
Hashem does provide to those who you
know the biggest schoa is for parasa is
to have a job that's the biggest schoola
there is for parnasa Hashem will provide
we have to take our initiative and we
have to get the job so on the one
hand we're not in the ganen anymore that
young man wants to think he's in ganeden
but Adam is out of ganeden we were
expelled we were exiled that that that
horse is out of the gate whatever the
expression is that's over Adam's out of
ganen this kid could want to get back
into ganen and there are communities of
such kids who want to get back into
ganen Hashem will provide but this is is
a pretty religious
Rabbi there's a we are commanded to make
an effort when it comes to oura
but so we make the effort but then we
shouldn't trust in it our our
responsibility is to make the effort but
then not to trust in
it it's kind of
paradoxical two opposites in one idea
it's paradoxical I'm supposed to on the
one hand believe that I'm obligated to
make an effort but at the same time
accept that the success may or may not
come from my effort I've shared this
many times before also that my
brother-in-law is a lawyer in Israel
tells me all the time that whenever he
tries to network to bring in business
for his legal practice he always always
finds that when he exerts the effort to
network he takes the initiative to be a
rain maker he's able to bring in
business and it's almost always not
business from the effort that he made so
I fly in New York and set up 10 meetings
and I'll get back to Israel and none of
those 10 meetings led to anything but 10
other people called him of old business
he did or someone else knew recommended
him and he sees the correlation between
the initiative he's taking and the
results he's getting and that he needs
to take Initiative for hasem to provide
results but that's where the correlation
stops the initiative actually is not
what's bringing the results that's
exactly what R is describing here it's
exactly what he's describing hasem says
to take initiative don't sit back
fatalistically don't sit back with a
sense of entitlement like I'm going to
provide you have to take initiative
we're outside
G we have to take initiative that's our
job but at the same time then we have to
stop and realize whether I'll have
success or not will not come from my
initiative Shem can make the success
come from somewhere else alt together
they can make the initiative fail and
flop right on its
face the is to do if I really trust that
hm will provide but hem says that the
way to get it is through then I have to
do my I gave you this example last time
or two times ago that the person I still
think they haven't collected their $ 1.5
billion lottery winnings they have the
ticket so in other words there's a
billion half dollars waiting for a
family that will change their family
forever and ever that they can use to
change the world in enormous ways but
they don't have the money yet why they
can't find the ticket because you got to
turn the ticket you got to turn the
ticket in order to get it you just I use
this no I used it in another context
about Fila it's the same thing is true
here turning in the ticket is the
initiative you have to have that hm's
giving you the $ 1.5 billion dollar but
if you don't turn on the ticket he can't
give it to you he has it and he's ready
to give it and he wants to give it but
he doesn't give it the access the key to
getting it the key literally and
figuratively is hisas this guy with the
ticket so why doesn't he say why do I
have to bring you in the ticket just
transfer the money to my account I won I
won I sit at home on my couch I got the
winning numbers so just transfer the
money to my account why are me the money
why do I have to turn in the ticket
what's the answer the winnings
areai for you you have to do theas
that's what my brother-in-law is saying
I know new business is waiting for me
the cost of getting that new business is
networking and taking some initiative
will that initiative be that which
brings in the new business maybe maybe
not but the cost of bringing in new
business is taking initiative so that's
what he's saying the is
saying this is
the it's amazing the a of is what do you
mean is the oppos no it's not if you
understand that designed the world after
we left G then you understand that is
not the opposite of it is part and
parcel is turning in the ticket the
opposite of receiving the winnings it is
the means to receive the winnings so the
way to to draw from the of what hasem
has in store for us is by showing that
initiative you need to have a k to get
the BR correct it's the CLE to accept it
the vessel accept
it to realize that everything depends
and relies entirely and exclusively on
his will and the way to access his will
is to show him that we're willing to
take and we're willing to make an effort
as well all right mem will pick up from
here next week wow