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Purim 5776 Kumzitz Farbrengen with Rabbi YY Jacobson - The Day We Remove our Masks
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Purim 5776 (2016) Kumzitz Farbrengen with Rabbi YY Jacobson and Ben Shimon: Purim -- the day we remove all of our masks; the most real day of the year.
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the if you know the words just sing
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right and the D move them move them a
little bit perfect
perfect
perfect why is yours any more
real
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let
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best
I
got
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am am
am
somebody brought
me I was read it
yesterday I used
to about from
C lived in Poland in he told a story
about a Sher an alcoholic you know what
a sh is yeah an alcoholic today they
call him an alcoholic used to be nice
names sh whatever
today you know we call a spade a spade
so there was a
sh you your
all so he told would tell put
a from about a sh and C this sh and CA
of course every
excuse that he had to drink he was there
he was always
there he say there was other he would
drink two weeks before pudding and two
weeks after put him of course put him is
like but two weeks before 2 weeks after
in other words the whole other he was
basically smashed completely out from
the beginning from the
end so they asked him what's the excuse
thear but not two weeks before two weeks
after
but not for
drinking that depends for sh
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no said as
follows he said this he said he never
understood
humble why did they ever
understand
makes that all the
Jews there one designated
day the day to wipe out all
of I don't
understand he's in Mor the Jews be Jews
will hide that day they'll hide hide in
and and M they'll hide on in caves and
attics and holes they'll they'll hide
one day the next morning they'll emerge
from their hiding
place the the is over there was one day
permission to kill that's it now it's
illegal what was thinking he should have
given it a whole month Tak his girl came
out what did he have to start looking
for a give it a month you have a month
to kill you could examine you could
search you could scrutinize you could
pursue you give it one day certainly a
lot of Jews will get away they'll hide
for the day and they'll be
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good what was
thinking in our times a generation ago
he gave himself five
years H gave himself one day what are
you going to do in one day people will
hide from
C head he said ham was a very perceptive
person he knew that it may not work out
he knew that with the Jews in cable to
Jus you try one thing and it could come
right back against you so he had
a that it won't work out
and it's going to become a so he said to
give them a
y never never one day say the
I have no
choice I can kill them I'll to give them
one day but to give them
for I'm not going to let have it his way
his whole was not to kill us for mon we
shouldn't have a for a month I will not
let him get away with
it I'm the real one who cele
now
technically the whole could
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be
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a
beautiful used to say I'm put
him to explain why the
said
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even for
this wasn't the only time that Jews were
saved Jews were also saved other times
were also
saved
here something
unique a lot of different
explanations one used to say tell the
story time
the tell the
story The of the who was a Jew and he
was a big big bav you know what a bav is
I know no CL huh present company
excluded but he had a not just he did he
had a he had a special sensitivity he
had
a a sweet tooth
certain especially any area that had to
do
with
displaced from
priscu he was fed up with the extent of
his sinning till that point he took with
him a huge amount of money 500 golden
Ruble but m is pure gold to go to a
particular place where he would be able
to fulfill all of his and all of his
addictions it wasn't anybody that he
left this guy decided he's going to go
and he'll be able to buy his way in to
any person he wanted to have relations
with SH on the road he's traveling and
he hears
a he hears people sobbing finds out
what's happening so kug and Poland then
there were the Jews would rent taverns
ketas ins from the pron from the
overlords and you would pay them the
annual revenue and people would stay
there and drink and eat you know like a
motel
six and they called them kmas
kers
taverns there was this Jewish Family
they couldn't afford the rent they
wouldn't pay him for a few years and the
Pirates came expelled them and he was
throwing them into prison until somebody
would pay a rent for a few years a man a
husband a wife and all of their children
so there
was so this Jew stops and he asks how
much is the rent they tell him 5,000
golden
Ruble so he takes the money and he gives
it to the family to pay up he goes back
home
he again he's not going to be able to
get any
good you know
he
go him such a commotion in
him in a moment of
truth he had such passion for sin and In
a Moment of Truth he gave it all up to
help another Jewish Family this is a
unique moment so they P that any this
man
gives is going to become a
que huh is he still we looking
f looking you have to have two
qualifications first of all a real B so
that the passion should be star and
number two to take that passion to give
it
away
so yeah but nobody even thought to come
to him for was a somebody he once gave a
br to somebody and they saw so it became
a whole big thing
so this guy is going to change the whole
creation
won't be any of left whatever he wants
he'll do so they managed to get him into
alcohol he became an
alcoholic became an alcoholic who goes
to
a you got to be crazy you go
to he's completely
inated most of the day he would lay on
the
floor so first of he wasn't to give up
he was
smashed once there was in a city they
came to the and the
B said he can't help they said what
should we do if you can't help who do we
go to B said go to that drunk in that
City and ask him to D for you they said
he he wait for a sober moment wait for a
lucid moment then go and he told him the
story he told him the story
he said you'll get him in aive
moment
that's is
infinite Jew is infinite what he or she
can accomplish on every level so there
has to be a
counterbalance they could put him into a
so to speak a light day really it's a
deeper day even
put is more serious
thaner but in order to
counterbalance
the in the
world people are putting on mats they're
eating they're running around they're
going here they're going there they're
collecting they're giving they're
collecting they're giving again they're
flattering they're going from one meal
one Kish to another one Sushi to another
Sushi what's
what they wanted a person shouldn't
utilize the power take it away from him
obviously what he's saying is something
deeper what he's saying
is that it's really a whole metaphor the
greatest tragedy of a person is that he
doesn't know his he thinks he's a shik
shik doesn't necessarily mean you're an
alcoholic that too shik means you think
you don't have D is
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was
alol was such a s lacked such perception
of course a saw the mat he didn't know
that there was a a woman crying but he
thought she was sh says that thought she
was sh with
herself you know some people say about a
certain person he's a self-made man and
he worships his creator she was in
inated with
herself says
that so was
saying you're drunk on your own needs
stop telling God how great your problems
are start telling your problems how
great God
is
the that's what a said so said you don't
understand I'm asking for that's not
narcissistic it's part of my
relationship so a person sometimes
doesn't realize who he
is so in that a person could think
what's is we want you to forget who you
are so what he's saying is that the EM
is the opposite the put a person has the
to be Malala who he truly is is
is because most people's tragedy is that
they don't know who they
are they don't cut themselves any slack
especially
today people think that people are
arrogant today
Ali I don't see any arrogance today what
we see is terrible sense of inferiority
of
mediocrity a sense of smallness a person
doesn't realize who he is person doesn't
realize who he is then he gets into
trouble I told
him came into
the
says didn't have a lot of had to wait
for the floor to go in
asks he said says didn't have a 120
years the man is building a boat the
whole world is mocking him the whole
world is cing at him he's building a
boat for 120 years that's
called besides the fact he didn't even
have to have a spoke to
him didn't need a didn't need
faith
he
didn't he didn't have in
himself he had a lot of he didn't have
in himself he didn't realize the of a
person
says he didn't believe in it he didn't
said I'm going to bring a flood all he
said is yes sir build a boat so
everybody will drown and you'll survive
okay okay sir yes boss he says look at
mem said build a boat I'm destroying
everybody else he says not on my
dead that I'm put him a person has to
realize doesn't he thinks he's a drunk
and he doesn't realize
his put him a Jew thinks he's an
insignificant creature and he doesn't
realize the
real we all get drunk in life and we
don't realize our power the tragedy of
that Jew was he looked at himself in the
Mir said I can
give in the world that's today also
people look at themselves they
say I'm I know who I am M my
mother-in-law doesn't know who I am at
least you think so M this one doesn't
know who I am but I know who I am so I'm
to something came to the once and he
asked
for said what are you coming to me for
he he
says even a The
Peasant says what do I have to give
you right so that was his but a person
looks at himself he doesn't realize who
he is
people have a lot of they just don't
have that they're part of and who they
are in their
capacity says that's the danger
of don't
take I don't mean only
this
you look at P you could think it's the
it's the party and the whole pus of P
gets
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lost
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thank you
much
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to
live
streaming
yeah no well you
you I'm thinking of getting one cuz he
asked me to videotape some St for him
and so I went to go look into it
and um you
do happen the next
year came
out all Esther managed to do
was should give us the second letter
allowing the Jews to defend themselves
against their enemies
on not to reverse the original edict
which gave a right to every and an
obligation to kill
Jews Jews could now fight back with the
approval and the stamp and the
encouragement of the king over the
year the have Chang why did that happen
why couldn't he just send a letter have
that's not cover to say the first ones
were a mistake or forged the first ones
remain we're going to do a second letter
that you could defend
yourself this explains an interesting
I said it to one
of an old question why es is called
Tinus
Esther fast of
Esther what's the what's the what's the
sh the reason the reason
we because why do we
f to fast for 3
days why fast for 3 Days 3 days doesn't
mean 3 days it
means
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because what do we do we fast one day
you why
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you the reason is because by Eden was
when they went to war they used to
fast why because fasting
creat and when they need went to war
they needed a
special
special they used to fast as anion of
CHA and a Ron in order to be victorious
G it was a day of War it was serious
serious combat 75,000 dead in all over
the provinces
but these 75,000 weren't innocent
bystanders they were people who came
with swords and knives and axes to hunt
down Jews and the Jews fought
back so and then in went another day but
then it was a big war so the Jews would
fast so we
fast for
the and then you we celebrate just like
G was a difficult day and your was a
relaxed day
granted why is
it why is it called the
fast of the Jewish
people reason it's
called says Inus I think
also
I that it's you find a
mistake
think
that go to war you
fast but here's the problem when you go
to war you have to be
strong everything you're not lot of f so
how do you do both you go to war you
want to fast but you're not allow to
fast
says
that they're going to fast after they
come
back so it's NE the very resolution that
they're going to f every old man a baby
in the crib everywhere was the front
line every kitchen every dining room
every bedroom every park there was no
front L every Jew was a Target if every
Jew was a Target every Bubba in her
house had to be able to pick up a knife
was there any Jew who was allowed to
fast that day I'll
not one cuz everybody was in s fighting
everybody it was only one Jew was a lot
of
fast the only one who was a lot of fast
was es her she didn't have to she knew
was going to come kill
her that's why it's
called the only one who fasted was
everybody
else
you
got I got the
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halfway
so now comes so they have to fight
original was was
just is the story in the if you listen
to the or this morning or last night and
you
understood now let's go to the next step
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next add the extra the first thing
is let's
take when it
Sayes
it
happened is
there so that created the whole thing
the whole problem comes Esther and says
says I want to reverse it never happened
let's change off
no in life people look at their own
lives what they want to do is at some
point they want to come into the they
want to say reverse the
past reverse the
past he says
that's
not only we can't we don't want to
reverse the past if we reverse the past
we'll gain that there was no past but we
won't be able to transform the
p s starts laughing she hear she's going
to have a baby at 90 you would also
start
laughing some of us would cry laughing
crying GL GL lost in
so he turns to her and he says
says why is she laughing right so of
course like a good Jewish husband
confronts his
wife
why she was
scared at first glance it seems like a
classic Jewish C
s say I didn't laugh all you did what's
the that's it that's where the story
ends okay you did right that's it next
moves
On's okay this case he was right but the
husband was right in this case she did
laugh said I laugh
but she
did so she wasn't the same person so she
said when a person
does his become like mistakes mistakes
you forgive slams that do on you finger
by mistake you're not going to forgive
them was a mistake I'm sorry it's a
mistake I said something about mistake I
didn't mean it of course you forgive
you don't understand our
is you don't run away from the sin the
sin is transformed into
a transforms into aah Don't Run Away you
laugh take the laughter with you
supplement made the
laughter it's a whole
different forget the past he says no
that's
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not we look at our P people look at the
mistakes they
made this I should have done this I
should have done that of this my youth
this happened this happened when I was
engaged when I got married when I was a
b when a kid if only if if only I would
have listened to
Al you're making a mistake you're
dealing with he doesn't want from
you never no
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no the
very that was the day
of the day of Celebration not a of
running away from it to take the
negative energy and to transform
it spoke the other day we're learning in
our
early
said
that anything that's going to become on
its own in the future there's no B so
for example an egg is born on yam right
so you're not let to eat the egg so
let's say the egg you're not let eat it
because it was born
on so whatever the reason is but it's so
what happens if it gets mixed
into says
it's since it's going to become
tonight so wait wait till it becomes so
there's no bit anything it's going to
become
say
whatever he says why is it that there's
no does 60 during the day does
one why doesn't get
the 15th day
says
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is is the first day you calculate sins
so
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the Yip everybody has a clean slate four
days between and sukus everybody is busy
they don't have time to do avadas people
are fighting with each other by the
price of the es the lul of the Suka
they're bargaining they're running
they're stressed out when is the first
time you could really sin the first
night of suus he come everybody he's
relaxed
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first now the calculation
starts
understand a Jew starts sinning on maybe
there'll be a Jew who won't S when he
comes into the to put such a black State
on every Jew that the first night of
sukus is going to start
this is how you have to think he says
the
difference
May discipline
strength it's
not
isus is of
he says like
this so the sins become mistakes and
they're dismissed they're disgarded what
happens on sukus sukus a Jew
does says don't dismiss your sins bring
them all back let's make a every one of
them becomes a everyone
becomes bring them all
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back what do you see we we do what's we
go to the
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water somebody they called him a
whatever and he went and he did
so into
water so so recently it also happened
was and guys jumped in they started to
kill each
other you don't have to this a guy
called me called
me but he has he has like 50 and there
what should he do he
has you have to match the right to the
right person you do to a skinny guy it's
not going to work for him you have to do
something else for the right you have to
match the right to the right but you
have for everybody
70 and he didn't like my idea so what do
you do you go you go to the water you
throw away you throw away the water okay
that's now look at this half
fell what happens
onus what they do to go to every morning
every they drew the water what were they
doing you took your sins and you threw
them into the water you got rid of that
on sukus you go back to the water you
reclaim
exactly take them out of the water you
reclaim
that's power in life is not to reverse
your past there's no such a thing comes
from we're all trying to do a whole day
we go what if I would have married
somebody else if I would have taken
another job if I would have gone to
another Yesa I wouldn't have been in
that night if I wouldn't have been in my
would have had this
person all the issues that people strugg
but sometimes our whole life we're
looking at the past and for good reason
what
if
says it's not what you have to
do is much
deeper you're going to take everything
that you experience
and you'll transform it and you'll use
it as a catalyst and a
springboard for a new type of life that
would have been impossible without
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it create a new type of that they
couldn't have created without
it don't tell me you didn't
laugh people everyone wants to walk
around as though they were born they
don't have a past it's not a good
idea the end what do we do we turn
around you ever notice or you're busy
sending
emails you stop
okay you
s okay but you stop so
after then SE
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once after everybody turns around we
turn
around the reason is there a few
reasons
whatever the reasons why we turn
around tell you what he says beautiful
heart it's very applicable
nowadays a person discovers shabas I say
it often
people who Chang their whole life not
people who are
ffbs say from
birth don't understand what it
means
a person a person come leaves a whole
family and starts a whole new life yeah
it's not
simple person has they have inlaws they
have parents they have siblings they
have nephews nieces brothers and most
sisters and mother you have a person
leaves their whole past life and starts
a new life it's far from
one of the natural Temptations is we
want to so integrate into our new life
we want to forget our
past you want to say goodbye to your
past I don't know you I'm a new
person once you tast that's
it before you do
m you have to look back you have to turn
around don't run into shabas without who
you are because it's going to come back
to bite you and H you what's the end
of there's no para that has such an
anticlimactic culmination
like don't jump up steps because I may
see that you're not so uh
modest that's the end the whole
culmination
of this is the end the is that sometimes
you see God and you're tempted to run up
to
the
says don't run up so fast don't take
such steep steps you know you know why
cuz after a few years you're going to
look at yourself in the mirror you're
going to say Where am I then you may
take a deep deep dive into
the you're going to wake up one day
you're going to say Where am I I'm dead
right they say that one of the in Cuba
told his constituents he said have great
news yesterday we were standing at the
edge of the abyss and today we took a
giant step
forward so what happens is you go up
very very high it happens a lot of you
know you're 18 years old you
decide you know what I mean you deci the
next or at least the next or at
least know that face know that face
you're going to St like for 29 years Etc
then
decide maybe even whatever and then a
few days later you walk in the street
and you see something and you
realize so what
happens it happens often in life you go
into shabas you can't forget your past
you have to take with your P Hashem put
you where he put you for a reason not to
run away from it
the energy that people put into what if
what if what if they want to forget
their past it's
not is to take with your past turn
around take that into sh because the
ultimate purpose
is to
transform
that's every mistake you ever made in
life can become a springboard for
rejuvenation for
rediscovering the it's a fairy tale not
but it's a good ver he was a
manager top executive in
IBM and he made a terrible mistake in
business and basically he cost the
company $10
million so the next day he realized his
mistake he gave it his resignation
papers so this CEO calls him in he says
why are you resigning for he says after
what I did what I did I'm just leaving
you don't owe me anything I'm so sorry
he was crying he was a good guy he says
why you leaving he
says you don't have to throw me out in
the S SP I just leaving he says you
leaving I just I just invested $1
million in your
education and you're leaving and it was
a brilliant idea because he kept them
there and the Lord loyalty that he
engendered as a result is of course
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unparallel we're on now we're
live on
air
not
didn't
ground
but
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you know what a is a
Matchmaker
he speaks lies and he takes
money he calls the and he says I have
for
you already at the age of five he
finished at the age of
14 at the age of
17 nothing like
it
the guy can't
read
That's calls the I heard that
unbelievable she'll be with you thick
and th she also
finished met met a
girl so they finished the dates of the
sh
the girl tells
Whispers told me he's slim he's fat told
me he's handsome he has ugly as the
devil you told me he's tall he's short
told me he's smart he's dumb told me
he's educated he's illiterate she's
Whispering says you don't have to
whisper he's deaf
too so uh that's how Works he sells the
brookly bridge and then the next day he
sells the Williamsburg Bridge he sells
the Manhattan Bridge but he gets it done
at the end they get engaged they get
married
wedding should they come home after the
wedding they come to their apartment the
hotel room whatever it is who do they
see in the hotel room
the the C and I CL
I
Clank says I need a place to live and I
thought this is a good
place a couple were trying to play house
say let's face it without me you two
would have been as far as Mars from
Venus the only reason you're together is
because of me I sold the bridge to your
mother to your mother to your father to
your father I lied I exaggerated I
dramatized I'm responsible for this I'm
going to live with you for 2 three years
until I could find another paros and
I'll be able to rent the basement
somewhere you look at the shot you say
the guy is nuts you did your job take
your
check Okay g and go find yourself
another place says no I made I want to
be here with youbody understands
you without you we would have not known
each other but now it's time for you to
take a hike and go find some
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else in life you need a everybody needs
a you need the people the middle man you
know huh you need the
people with socks on socks but you need
this middle man
this the people who connect you
networking you know they're the ones who
uh bring you together between a Jew and
hasem there's
also generally
mind the mind of a
person the mind of a person is curious
is
inquisitive is wonders asks questions
what is life and the mind so to speak
creates a continuous challenge to the
human being to
ask who we are why we are what we are so
the mind is so to speak the sh between
the human flesh the human body and the
creator of the world and it's not an
easy job because every day again the
body says I don't know this I don't have
what this count leave me alone this date
is over this relationship is
over say no no no there's a deeper truth
something deeper in life there's
something higher in life you're not just
a beast you're not just a narcissistic
materialistic piece of matter a piece of
clay has to work you learn you think and
so
forth then once a
year what
happens once a year a Jew turns to the
sh turns to his mind he
says
for one
day go away from
me let me have intimacy with
my themselves leave me alone one day a
year you take
your and you say do me a
favor I get you you're important one day
a year leave me alone let me
experience
directly my Creator my soul
my
that's so which is the real day PM is
the real day the rest of the year you
wear masks PM is the real
day where do you see it you see it in
the mill the word Das how do we call
religion in Hebrew what's the word for
religion you ever heard the
word and
we was the word do introduced in you
don't have once you have
once and it's part
of but will you have the word frequent
first time
where was very inter
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religion
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they're busy
with the
Persians get into religion
Das there's one time that there's
no
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tells
do everything
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is says
in we say three
times
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one more you don't have I think in the
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regular why
wasn't says
that's it's not according to the
structure so you couldn't put it in
the had to come
later
what's
haste says I can't
walk I don't have did I walk
in you come out with a head shorter in
other words if you're not ready to die
you don't belong in
the I'm not ready to die I'm a regular
person I like a couple of dollars I like
a piece of sushi like a couple some
money a nice house some cover well I'm
going to go to the
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what it's not a joke not a joke life is
not a joke you were placed where you
were placed
with Esther was
wondering where do I come here you ever
wondered why did
say
uncertainty if you're trying to convin
somebody to sacrifice their life you
have to
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say you know what means who knows in
English when you say who knows like who
knows maybe yes maybe
not that's uncertain it's
uous
know
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know was saying something very deep
looks at and
says how do I end up here with this
Persian
Shen I was a regular bakov girl a
regular mon girl I did everything right
I graduated by
by
by whatever it is whatever the right
SCH am right
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whatever I got everything I'm a regular
good girl 19-year-old graduates
from
of or of mon I was expecting
a fromis from
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from was a good
girl she ends up with from Persia guy
who killed his first queen after
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18 what's the answer to
that says two words key
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words that's the source
of what motivated
es means who knows there are things in
life that are not accessible to D we say
it every
morning what's the difference so it's
the part of that people don't like you
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know you should think about
it what's the difference there a nice
for it
also
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everybody hasu
what's is the baggage you collected from
your mother and
father the jeans you carry from your
parents everybody here is a product of
their parents for good and for
better and your grandparents back 4,000
years everybody's a product of TTI
Andy he told me once he said all his
life he's just looking for approval of
his father nothing else
all he wants is his father to approve
what he's
doing problem he can't get
it you know his
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father to be able to make peace with you
is not so
simple Lan not so simple to make peace
with one's father with one
mother
emotional devotional
cons to be able to say my should say
then
there's is your own lot you work hard
and you achieve things it's your
own is you go to a counselor a therapist
he says you're good to be this type of
person you know people 20 years they go
searching what type of job is good for
them it's called vocation
counseling I know a guy who doing it for
30 years I told him do it another 30
years and by that time
done we'll
do you're good to go they whole life
they're looking
what's forget my father I don't want to
go into my father's
business
what's it's easy to go into your
father's
business father was a plumber you'll be
a plumber your father was a rabbi you'll
be a rabbi your father was a this you'll
be a this your father loved money you
love money that's
simple what are you going to create for
yourself not your
father so that's that what you're good
at you're skilled at you work hard and
this is yours you look at some point you
know what I did this but then there is
then there's something much
deeper what's a a
means that which falls into your lap you
can't even explain why me how me when
you say this person won a g it's not
rational why did you win the lottery why
did you win the G I don't know
there's no rational connection you could
say you know this guy is good he's good
with numbers he's good with Biology he's
good with his mouth he's good with his
pen he's an ambitious businessman guy
comes to a rabbi he says Rabbi I
need no no no I have two choices should
I start singing or should I start
dancing so the r says you should start
dancing says why you saw me dance he
saids no but I heard you sing
okay you have to know what you're good
at you have to know what you're not good
at don't quit your day
job sometimes you have to tell a person
this is not for
you this is not for you you're a good
man this is not for you some people
think they have to be in it's not for
them they're to teach children like
you're to train turtles in New Zealand
they're not made for that other people
are not made for other things it's a big
in life to know what you're good at and
but you're not good at every Jew has to
be good at everything you're not some
people I know I don't change light bulbs
I I don't put
in made ready I used to get break off
the class your St you have to know what
you're good at what you're not good at I
don't F
laundry I
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refuse I thought we were all thr out
examples I
apologize you're going to go around
sorry
is is things it's a how did this end up
in
my tells says how does a nice good
s whatever you want I don't know what
Esther was she was pers of course her
name es L Howes L end up in Persia in
Teran wherever it
was the same
question he could have said some things
are not
you could use your mind all day some
things you end up in life with there's
no rational explanation why you and how
you but don't think it's
not is so deep comes from a place
of comes from a
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place somehow your has this
you end up with certain people certain
situations Don't Run Away you have to be
able to look and
say there's a
sweetness not easy but you have to be
able to
say it's not
clear you ever went on a Jeep on Doo
don't unless you want to have a hero
children you'll feel like
the escape goat Two Goats one ends
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up the other one in one ends up by the
AR no other carbon went into the only
the only one whole year and one ends up
down a cliff in the
abyss a fragmented broken shattered so
we look at these two boys ah it must
be this kid had a normal mother this kid
had a crazy mother this kid had a
functional father and this kid had an
alcoholic Gambler addict codependent
sugar temperamental father this kid was
nurtured this kid was
molested this kid the rebi picked him up
and this kid was in this yiva and they
put him down and told
him ID
father and you know what sometimes
that's true we all know sometimes that's
true sometimes this kid got a sour plate
for the family or school or situations
that happen yeah that's true it's not so
simple sometimes you look at the goats
and they're identical the
mar they're identical can't blame the
mother you can two kids in the same
family loving parents one ends up inash
one else she asked why answer is it's
a a is not nobody
knows
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this
means every person has a
different you can't be
judgmental oh you have to fit into my Bo
doesn't work that way everyone has a
different Mission everyone has a
different so Esther when to heard this
you know what she
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says triggered an
es if Esther would have come to a
regular good Rabbi and said should I go
in every reason you shouldn't
go every reason to
go was a different type of Jew he makes
a he says
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judism is not about worshiping
structure and remaining stuck in your
comfort zone let's face it for many of
us religion is about remaining stuck in
the comfort
zone there's no stop with DOs there's
no you know
is both in Hebrew and in yish you know
what do
is in in Israel it's very
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derogatory I want saw a letter from to
somebody he wrote to the that
he's so he wrote like this
he said from the day
of
about there's no such thing comes from
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the says part of I'm sorry I can't
accept that time about
you so it's easy for structural purposes
you're this you're that
so I'll PE
you could say you need a once a year you
have to send away
the to the to the to the
islands in in
Africa and you have to
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say don't
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worry stop liting yourself stop putting
yourself in to
box that's what said once a year don't
send away
the so really put him is the put him has
to be a whole year but a whole year we
wear a mask a whole year we have to look
normal so we wear masks put you take off
the mask how do you take over the mask
by putting on a mask by covering up a
whole year you become real person a
whole year you wear masks you're busy
being
normal it's the
real you
don't is
connected are we
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communicating let get our
I I almost kill
people
so I have like two
sets
you want to
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Washington your great academics in
medicine
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love
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