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in the media there's a lot of um not a
lot but a number of shows that try to
portray the religious world the the fir
world uh once in a while they're
positive there are some positive things
but a lot of it is very very uh negative
and unfortunately because these shows
get a lot of
dissemination people who are not
malicious but they will form their
understanding of Torah Judaism through
these very negative distorted portrayals
so the question is what do you do so
I'll tell you one thing that's
interesting the first thing you got to
do is you know acknowledge that there
may be shortcomings that's an important
point you know uh because people often
come with an attack and our instinct is
to defend no matter what sometimes you
know you could say you know there is a
point here but the point is not a
complete point and you need to balance
it I'll call that
mod partial admission actually even r Al
is a great way to disempower your
antagonist uh meaning I mean I remember
I I I once actually had a debate myself
with Alan dtz who was uh you know well
he is a famous professor at Harvard uh
and the like and he came from a from
family and uh he left you know he left
it although he came he's become more
traditional actually over the years uh
and he came in he was at a kab events
for all I I think the guy who invited
him got in big trouble with the kabad
superiors he inv he invited Jus because
of celebrity but then Joshua started
like attacking like from life and I
remember the older kabad guys were
looking at the the organizer of the
event like you know so whatever so J
started attacking this and attacking
that and he says I'm not like you people
I think through things I look at the T
too but I you know I am independent
judgment and he had a whole bunch of
things so I at the I was the last minute
by I was not the I was the last minute
substitute for somebody else who
couldn't make it I think D I think D was
was offended at that because I wasn't
you know famous or anything the other
guy was was famous what is this so he
was very resentful even his body
language you know his arm for together
and I started saying you know I agree
with professor dtz and like you know 30%
of what he said I agree we have this
problem and that problem and that
problem we got to work on it all of a
sudden you could see his body language
started softening and
started and he got very very interested
and afterwards he started saying but you
know there's a lot of good stuff about
from people too and he started talking
about the good thing meaning instead of
kind of trying to say totally wrong
acknowledge we do have problems
acknowledge it but say but there's a
much larger picture that you got to look
at and if you understand the whole
picture you'll see the beauty and you'll
see the goodness okay so this is a
actually a hint in Israel we don't do
that in Israel whenever we debate
anything it's like you know if if you
say something different than me you're
an idiot or a mik or something so in
other words everything is 100% you know
I'm 100% right and you're 100% wrong no
matter what the issue is but instead of
my saying I'm 100% right and you're 100%
wrong what if I say you know there's
some truth to what you're saying you're
going to see that person's going totally
change the way he's going to be M to
your arguments at that point so that
that's what I think you have to do
