Rabbi Aaron Dovid Poston: Moses said to them, '"Did you allow all the females to live?'

welcome once again to the oven abatement - in baka Jerusalem today we are dealing with again the clea cars interpretation in bomb mid bar numbers chapter 35 verse 15 Moses asks the army when they come back from war did you let the females live that's a very awkward question and hang in there we're going to get to the edge [Music] okay welcome back I just want to remind you all if you like what you hear tonight please subscribe and hit the notifications bell so you will be notified about all upcoming videos once they're uploaded so we are in chapter 31 of numbers verse 15 it's an amazing question that Moses poses to the army Moses says to them the Omer alayhim Moshe heat em cold Nick Eva you left the females a lot all the females alive I mean come what's going on here and why should they have been made why would they have made a mistake that is what we were going to investigate first of all should they have known not to allow the females to have lived why should the females not have lived and what mistake could they have made that they did this if it was wrong okay so the clear car begins by telling us Neera shoot Zebulon this is a mistake and the mistake came to them in the following way why was it a mistake Lafitte's Kivar Yoda see boy they already knew meaning the Jewish people Israelites in the desert they already knew it happens to be a later verse believe it or not we're in numbers 20 31 but in Deuteronomy chapter 23 verse 4 it says that a and now this is a good question what does it mean an ammonite or a Moabite shall not enter the Assembly of the Lord even the tenth generation shall never enter the Assembly of the Lord lo Yafo emoni uma avi the Kahala Shem now you would think from parshat simple reading that no person whether male or female who as an ammonite or a mall buy is allowed to ever convert or and if they did convert you can't marry them so that's not what it means first of all they can convert but you can't marry them so who they're gonna marry they can marry each other and there's other people they can also marry as well but they can't marry the regular Israelites okay so the first thing is this is regard we're talking about the Midianites right now okay even though this verse that we just referred to but in our chapter numbers 31 15 we're talking about the Midianite women so what's the mistake well they already knew that the ammonites and the Moabites women are actually allowed to marry they're allowed to convert and then Marian what is our biggest proof Ruth right Ruth the famous convert the grandmother of Doug a Tamela of the mashach right they're shocked is gonna come through this woman Ruth who was a righteous convert okay a righteous convert and she got married and we do know in case you don't know I don't remember where I told the story but I could really try to make it a quick summary there was a decision made back and forth amongst the Sanhedrin whether or not that was true that a woman Moabite er I'm and I could marry could marry a Jew and whether it was in boas as time right or even later with Yishai the question is it really proper well we have an oral torah and that's why she rules the day we celebrate dove and homedics birth and his death was to celebrate the oral torah the oral torah was given simultaneously with the written Torah now the bottom Elif on Shavuot Lewis is the day of receiving the Torah he comes via Ruth who is a Moabite now can you imagine Yishai is wondering because it's going back and forth for generations well maybe I made a mistake maybe my grandfather made a mistake maybe there was a mistake maybe I shouldn't marry I shouldn't have married or maybe not me not marrying but who I came from because I'm a result of Ruth maybe I'm not permitted to even be a part of amis RAL Clara and he actually refrained from having intimacy with his own wife and his own wife got together with the maidservant who actually at Shifta whoo-hoo-hoo yeesh I made up to have relations with and he freed her on certain conditions that maybe she was she wasn't a ship because that's problem for regular Jew so anyway so he frees her on the certain conditions that if he was forbidden to marry a Jew that she's not really free and if she is if he really is a Jew that she is free but in the meantime table at home Alex own I'm sorry at Yishai his own wife confided in the in the ship car and they made up so the truth is the II shy his wife became pregnant with David through Yishai not not the other way or not that he impregnated the shifter because he was never with the ship they they had a plan she went in come Cobert that would it's called covertly and she she was really with he shy his own wife and yes she became pregnant and yes I was wondering if I wasn't with her then who was but the truth was he was with her he just didn't know it so when Dov who was born he was the black sheep right we hear they dove it's pain we hear his anguish and the truth is just imagine why we have our relationship with our parents and we could have been just born adults right but this the the scheme that Hashem makes up that hopefully we have a healthy relationship or whatever relationship that we have to work out with their own parents we're also gonna deal on a certain level with a kind of Miroku who's our real father in heaven so every single human being on the planet is going through their own issues they're only family issues how do I relate to my parents how do I relate to Hashem Dov it had a lot of anguish and so it's expressed in Psalms and it really you know he talks to every one of our Nationals all of our souls are like tied up in the soul of the Messiah by the way so and when Dov it speaks and I think there was a commercial back in the day I think it was some hedge fund or something when this guy speaks everybody listens anyway when Dov and I'm Alex speaks through Psalms that every soul is resonating okay so I suggest when you have free time read Psalms King David on that verse in Deuteronomy 23 for and it says an ammonite and a Moabite should not enter the Assembly of the Lord it doesn't say they can't convert he shall not marry an Israeli woman but that's he/she like this what we spoke about Ruth Mae okay so what is this mistake they made it's already known about the women from a moan and more of so and we learned out it was a moan evil oh I mean oh I mean ooh right the I'm own needs is allowed the female from I'm onna zolab with ashamed Dara Hashim laqad name but let him be my him now when it comes to war the truth is we do not want women in battle okay it's not healthy there may be there may be things for them to do especially in a mitzvah war okay we may have them cooking and cleaning and filling sandbags and sewing parachutes but we do not want them with weapons on the front line no way no how okay so what happens we have the complaint we wanted to go through mauve and they wouldn't let us then we were very hungry we were thirsty and they meaning the nation of more they didn't allow us and he wouldn't come out and give us any bread and and water so on a certain level we have a tie knot we have a complaint okay and it wasn't nice it's not good but the truth be told why should the women suffer this is a manly thing meaning the men of ma made the decision will you do it well no good Moria vamos a curtain rahu kitaru Camus before shahe he talked Shahi to Ezra blues news ok now even though we're claiming okay we're openly proclaiming the reason you're not you're allowed to marry the women not the men is why because they didn't come out there was the Med that didn't come out they were responsible in war to come forth with bread but we know the truth the truth is it was noose there was actual sexual immorality that was happening the taller dove ARB initial okie SS above my mind but we will blame we will put the blame in other words we were kind of whitewashing it a little bit that even though it's truth is it's news its immodest relations either with these women the Moabites but we're gonna whitewash it and say you know what it was because they didn't come forth with red of water but that's the man and not the problem women okay but you know what it's really truly it's all combined why she look hot look he'd move the left over mom you know why they didn't come forthwith let them and with bread and water and was now talking about the Midianite women Kadisha a theme gum to name in Toraja Darris you know what they wanted they wanted us to be hungry they wanted us to be thirsty you know why because the scheme was that they would bring us in they had the shop set up okay [Music] they had these shops set up and the men would come the Jewish men would come and they had these regular women regular older women sales persons and they were saying come come into my shop you'll really like it so once the members included inside the shop they had younger more beautiful women and they seduced the men to the point where really what did they want to do they said okay I'll will have intimate relations I'll have into relations with you but before we do I just need you to I would like you to worship my idol and so they caught the men I don't know how I'm sure as an expression they cut the men with their hands behind their back so to speak by surprise and they put him in a hard place well you Mook rock in the hole music alo hey M foolish thought mints ruyan and has resulted men were basically forced to eat the urbanos the offerings to their gods they were hungry and to drink the wine that they use for libations and what was the purpose of all that kid a lahar gilliam larva in order to get the men used to or accustomed to are not afraid of having intimacy with these non-jewish women and it's brought down and gomorrah sanhedrin para calyx 106a the okapi should be eaten as news are you Hannah shame that you car we know there's no whitewashing right the real issue here was this Newt the immodesty by the women there's no question the comic con lo NIT raraku Hannah shame nevertheless the women are not distance from the Jews right people once these non-jewish women from Amon Amarth convert they can marry it's not a problem why the fish co-occur pool Isaiah Suhana Sheen were blaming the men the truth is it's the men who are to blame their husbands and their fathers shame his kiru espinosa him with his Greek home al has news I mean it's unbelievable and I'm just gonna break in for a moment earlier in the parsha we talked about the ability to either a null or to a half their nether to to release and to annul valves and I would suggest I refer you to those earlier classes on what is it why does the Father or the husband have that ability okay I don't want to go too much into it now but there is a power or there is a protection that they're affording the women in their of their lives and the women basically oh them to a certain extent and I don't know I want to be PC about this okay the women are and let's just say the more vulnerable of the species and they do require a certain amount of protection whether it's someone going out and hunting or someone protecting them at night and to a certain extent they oh and I don't mean Owen in a fiction in a big sense but there are certain sense of gratitude and before they ask their husbands or their fathers to go out of their way to buy let's say only gluten-free if they made a vow or two only certain types of shoes that they want anywhere they should really get their permission and their agreement okay that's what the class is about over there as well as every Jew to a certain extent also basically requires a agreement from based in and that's why basedon is also able to release the person from a vow it's like it's conditional from the very beginning if the woman knew right her husband would know what she's going and he would agree to it she understood from the baby she understood from the very beginning I can only really do this when I'm about to make an oath for or about if there's an agreement with the who is paying for my clothes and my food and my food okay so that's not for now but the last statement we just made was that the in in terms of maybe the Midianites and to a certain great extent we're also talking about the mobitz that their husbands and their fathers made Hasker half cos attorney worked in this sense could you imagine giving up all that protection i mean basically you're saying go out and be a prostitute to your children are too wise I mean they it's really III don't even have words but how would the Woodman able to do this if they didn't have a push he says they were forced Seamus pirouette minaton it's true they became hath coming odorless but he creeped him out of the act the men forced their own wise to be prostitutes tamasha or sue whatever we're gonna claim the women did also bits idli bowel am RVM they acted by the command of their own husbands and fathers we would never do something like that I mean that is I don't know the words huh low very low very weak on your table Hamptons there because of this right from this idea that's why the is right man made a mistake they thought because of Armand and Mo of its permissible so to the meeting that women should be permissible remember the question we asked Moses says why did you let all the women live well what kind of question is that Shikha shame shallow this rahu and machine shall mo no mo of meal aerobic aa sham just as they were not commanded to distance themselves from entering into relationships with women from Marvin and I'm on and they were allowed to enter the congregation of God for peace yehey my you Paul is a news even though they also acted in a very immodest fashion Cardinal Thomas median loan it's tavola hiragana Xin nevertheless in this case when we go to war against minion loan it's taboo larog Hana shame that's what they thought it must be that we're not obligated to kill the women in war came across name but KO ma sha tsui because they were also forced to do whatever they ended up doing I can see the equation ok I'm gonna stop the computer here so this is why we see the armor that motion Moses says to them in our very next verse remember we're dealing with chapter 31 verse 15 now look at 16 now I'm not sure this is the greatest translation I think the article I like better they were the same ones were involved with the children of Israel on bilham's advice to betray the Lord over the incidence of poor resulting in a plague among the congregation of the Lord hane heyno hi you these were the ones live nazriya the cause of Jewish people bid devar bilam in this matter with Billa that's how I were translated although let's see over here how arts will translate it behold it was there you caused the children of Israel by the word of bilam to commit a betrayal against a sham okay so this is what Moses responses they were the ones well like I'm just asked was it more than I'm what also involved in in this similar act wait to hear the difference keep in mind Moses says they were the ones so this is exactly why in verse 16 chapter 31 verse 16 the Moses responds to them after he says why did you let the women live they were the ones that caused this so love admits was I'm gonna mow Allah Doros we understand why the men can never marry in didn't who shall in Khost Hana she it's logical why should we penalize the women it's just a men I mean at option it bear for the very reason we said before that it was the men who caused it of a medium when it comes to Midian okay we're not gonna be so lenient she needs Tov Etan lahar GaN the actual command is to kill them the women as well why Calva comer Shahana shamed the cloud because the women were included in in the act Kedar can mr if you go to a vehicle of it occurs chapter 20 verse 15 it's referring to the long list of illicit relations things that are forbidden a sin one of them is called bestiality so the halacha is that not only is the man who was involved in bestiality but the innocent animal now I understand if you're an animal activist I get you're gonna be very upset I get it what about the human dignity right when everyone walks down the street to see that cow standing at the corner eating grass it'll remind everybody about poor I don't know wherever he is maybe he's dead maybe he's in jail maybe ran away but I will remember the bad act this abominable act that this person did and by when they see the cow so the halacha is that the bahama to Heroku right the animal should also be put to death of Tom Odin what's the reason the Fisher bull the autumn to call you that because the man came to his own ruination right abomination and and he was basically broken because of the of this cow Hashim so true in this case by these particular women Kahane heina the aughts mom they themselves how you live in Israel Levin mega for Mitchell they themselves were the initiators as we're going to see shortly they themselves worth to the children of Israel a stumbling block and an obstacle Levin Negev Oh Mitchell Valhalla Camarillo diamond in huh Bahama Elden Hashim halal oh now I want to just clarify it there is a thing called a Gazzara shop I'm sorry a cava comer I have to look into this because as far as I know it called the home it's one of the 13 harmony core principles cannot be used to enforce the death penalty so I think there must be other learning that he's not telling us because if it's only the the cava homer they were missing some information huh it's a mountain on the seal do we see similar how funny was thinking that's taking something that is as we say flight 7 tactic just like saying that just like I feel me here yeah hearing it I'll tell you why it's cover homer because look at the words when I look I'm living didn't have Bahama they'll dinner now she Milo then you should learn from what is cow which is like a Bahama a baby is not a human being I'm a I'm a I'm a I'm a I'm a bleeding heart liberal right and I believe in the dignity of human beings okay I know there was a Senate vote but nevertheless I'm not gonna learn from an animal if you killed the animal then Kochi came you kill okay we'll look into it so I said there's something missing in my learning okay okay Yakko okay well um Alba parshas pimples now one part like he mentions it earlier on he discusses this idea if you go back to chapter 25 verse 17 I actually think now we're going into the me to movement okay why why the me to movement because it's about sexual harassment correct so I would translate this Prosecco 25:17 is harass God tells them I think it's verse 16 let's just go back yeah it's number 27 on the source sheet by the way it's a chapter 25 I said 18 or 17 but let's look at both of them so basically harass the Midianites right distress the Midianites or or SME on in the key Tom Oh Tom and smite them keep serene Heimlich him because they harassed you in other words we're taking this why should you then be involved in harassing and I don't need sexual harassment I mean killing them because they came and harassed you first for they just distressed you with their plots which they contrived against you in the incident too poor and the incidence of Cosby their sister this was a sexual advancement let's say involved in the instance of Cosby and their system the daughter of the Midianites chieftain and as we know he was she was slain zimri was slain look at Rashi there by submitting their daughters for prostitution so you know I'm not making it up look at Rashi chef Kyra bando timeless news they put their daughters in a very bad position so to entice the Jewish people to straight after put war but we don't have the obligation to destroy marv for the sake of Ruth now this is an interesting because later we are told to take care of moth right to destroy ha but not until Ruth has been that's what love it though it does take revenge against mom but until then we needed to have Ruth so don't destroy them God basically says without saying it - except for the people in the know that we need the scene of mall bites around until Ruth converts and once she converts and all we have is is dove it in the world then the mobile i'ts can be taken out okay so that's some really heavy prophecy going on over here here in Jerusalem I invite you all come come and visit us okay so we see that what that when it comes to the Midianites they initiated it Lafitte B'nai Israel okay sorry I'm going back Shalaka close even Lakshmi does moth therefore when it comes to mo of were not commanded to destroy my life yet the feesh ministre his heel of the Allah it was Israel that started with the Moabitess okay now where do we see that you can go to chapter 25 verse one that's in the very beginning so let's just go back to number 26 on the source sheet it said Israel had settled in she team the yeshivas rubbishy team and what's the next word the haha was newt at Binoche moth the people started we're talking about armed israel okay the word armies as we already know it's the blue team it's the most inferior of the Jews they started they started this new the hell harmless newt its israel that said that started this newt with the daughters of mauve okay but when it comes to the mob and when it comes to the many nights they're the ones that start so i told you this is really touching the meat tube movement right who started the Herat who started the sexual harassment okay for those who know what I'm talking about fine so we see here there's a difference in who started back into the clear Carm jalapeno smithy own we saw the opposite fine Hema Bowl ahem it was the mini night women that started with the man they came cashier no ho new coals there be Rio we already gave all the proofs for that now your holy oath it's very possible Charles armored Moshe that's why Moses saw to what neva tell to Tom in order to get rid of their mistake they come back from war and they got all these women these many Thai women who are still alive what is wrong with you guys he says hey naina you live near al because of them it's their fault they came forward they pushed and initiated Kihei maja flu then Charlotte pop the pot Oh Tom they were the ones that approached Israel in order to seduce them venom domine live no small and therefore you do not have a similarity by the daughters of more of key alkane loan it raha canoe Hashim will devote potala Shem that's why the women right we're not distanced from marrying and entering the congregation of God that the congregation of God by the way is the Jewish people the fish'll are you Hema Muhammad healing because the Moabites had never taken the initiative it was the Jewish man hello Bruno smithy on but when it comes to the doors in Midian in hey now you live near almaty limbic Alcala it was them who started the ruination who started the seduction okay so I would like to open this up for questions but before I do if anybody wants to sign off now I get it I want you to wish I want to wish you all a shabbat shalom and that we should really take these lessons to heart we have to understand what God wants of us he wants us to be moral he wants us to be loyal to our wives to our husbands to our spouses okay he wants us to walk modestly he wants us to act modestly talk modestly write behave in all our ways and this is what again I'll stress it again this is this is like the key this is the secret of the Jewish people right we were um Kadosh we are a holy nation and in could though she even though God says to be holy he also means not just what does that mean to be separate to be separate even from that which is permissible okay for sure you have to separate from that which is forbidden that's a given but from that which is permissible also make your limitations set your boundaries have borders and God bless [Music]