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Are you like sleeping here? Like I don't
know what's going on.
You shocked to see me.
Everybody doing good?
>> They treated you well. They gave you
food. Now you can start learning Torah.
>> Okay, let's try it one more time.
DV, we're going to have a very, very,
very special lecture tonight. Thank you
all for coming.
Sure.
Everybody, we're in one of the most
amazing nights of the year.
and we're going to have a very very very
powerful lecture. I'm sure you all been
waiting to hear the the jewels of the
topic that we chose for tonight. But
before we start, first of all, I want to
dedicate the class to a few
a few nishimoto votes. The first one is
for lema for
Miriam but Heleni
and Zoya but ya and
see I kept a name in my pocket now I
don't have it
I'll remember in a second but leunish
also Lilia Leia Rena But
is it bey?
Is it
>> bey?
Okay.
Ben Rosa. David bini.
David bin
Mashiach Mashiach Ben
and
Bi and Ali Ben Kana
should all have aliyah
and a special blessing for an easy birth
for Tamar Matadina should have not only
an easy birth should labor should be
easy and both parents should have a
healthy child and raised that child.
I think the thing went out, right? Yeah.
But you can hear me in the back.
>> We don't need the microphone, right?
>> You hear me upstairs? We hear you
upstairs.
>> And a special
from Batima.
And
whoever needs a
should bless you on this wonderful
powerful holy night that anyone who
needs should have. Anyone who needs
should have
anyone who needs to get married should
find their true other half. Whoever
needs kids should leave,
whoever needs to be happy, Hashem should
make you very, very happy and you should
all be full of happiness, true success
in everything that you do. Hashem should
bless you in everything that you need to
do in order to serve him in the best way
possible.
>> Before we start, I want to give a very
special thanks uh to Noah. I don't think
she made it tonight, but for all her
help in organizing the event and a very
special night to Rafael Aquin
who started a few years ago a very
special
uh
not organization but something very
special to get Jewish souls to be
interested in Hashem. It's called Walk
with Hashem. It started as a little bit
of divor and some
stuff like that, but it evolved to
something very very special that sends
the daily inspirations about the Torah,
practical things. And uh I I highly
recommend to join it. It's great. And
Rafael who runs the show, he organized
this beautiful event. And uh I want to
thank you personally and bless you, your
wife, your family to always be evolving
and helping and promoting Torah. And
everybody should should take a example.
A person to organize an event and bring
a rabbi and run the show and all that is
a huge every person that sits in the
crowd and takes on themsel a good
decision. And uh even more than that,
needless to say, the level of the
blessing is uh unfathomable. I wish
there would be much more who do stuff
like that. Everybody needs to be
involved in one way or another in
promoting Torah and creating events. So
should bless you and your family with
everything that you need in order to
serve Hashem in the best way possible.
should be
in everything that you do
and Hashem should bless you with great
abundance in everything that you do. And
last but not least, everybody on the
line on the live can hear me if you can
wave your hand or say free Palestine or
something like that
[laughter]
or that. Uh okay, I don't want to even
give you ideas what to say. Anybody can
hear me on the live. If you can, please
say yes. Thank you.
To I hope you ate good and that you
rested because it's going to be a very
long lecture.
Now I saw all the faces like
at least on YouTube. I can turn the
lecture on now. I'm stuck here for 3
hours. So, don't worry. I have a flight
to catch, so it's going to be short.
My short starts at two and a half hours.
So, so without further ado, first of
all, that everybody should know it's
Roshesh. Every rosh kesh is amazing
where one can gather the energy of rosh
kodesh focus on it and that will apply
for the rest of the month definitely not
a day that one should miss or let it
pass I believe strongly how the work
that one does on roesh is same idea is
how you set your bed that's how you're
going to sleep on it or to more to our
terms is
whatever you
You are setting the energy for the rest
of the month. The month of ad has very
strong power to transform anything in
your life as the concept is known as
if you know how to focus the energy then
you can switch situations from bad to
good.
Just take that to consideration.
But now I have a big question because
you all well most of you came to me
before I came in and asked for a
blessing. I need to get married. I need
parasa. I need whatever schlomite
and I just told you that purim has a
very strong power the entire month of
purim especially of transforming
something from bad to good. So
everything I just said in the last
minute contradicts our topic
because
the topic is that everything is bes
right so we're going to have to kind of
break down this big question if how can
it be that if everything is predestined
and everything is known by Hashem then
what what is my role here do I need do
you need to come to me for you think I'm
changing something when I'm giving you a
blessing why am I giving you a blessing
blessing or even better to ask why are
you coming even for a blessing.
So let's go to the beginning
where we do know based on our holy sages
that when a husband and wife are
conceiving a child
then a certain angel comes down that
angel is in charge of pregnancy angel's
name is Laya
and the angel comes down while the
husband and wife are conceiving a child
and takes the drop that will get the
wife pregnant takes that drop goes up to
the Master of the universe presents the
drop and says
this drop what's going to be the result
or
a strong individual or very weak
individual
smart wise or fool
rich poor and it goes into more details
blonde hair brown hair blue eyes tall
short fat skinny
happy, sad. The answer that this angel
gets is
everything is in the hands of Hashem.
Everything is predestined, written from
the beginning besides one thing.
Everything is in the hands of Hashem.
Easier to explain. Everything is
predestined. Everything is re it's
written.
How is that happening and how is that
called? It's not so important at this
point. What's important is that the drop
before it forms into a human being
then that drop is already decided
everything that's going to happen with
it.
But the
can be explained in two different ways.
Is fear is that I fear God. How much do
you fear God? I know a lot of people
don't like using the word fear, but we
have to use the word fear because if
you're not afraid of something, you
don't do nothing. Most people don't do
anything most things from their their
love. They do it from fear. And the
Torah explains that you need the fear of
God. You need the love and you need the
fear. The holy book of Tanya explains
that the fear and the love are like two
wings.
And you cannot imagine a bird that takes
off with flapping its wings with one
wing. It needs doings. It needs the love
and it needs the fear. Here we're
looking at is how much I'm afraid of
Hashem. Practically saying afraid of
Hashem. Most people are not afraid of
Hashem because you are not you know what
you're allowed to do and not allowed to
do. But if something is blinding you
then the fear moves away. If I have a
desire, I have a lust, I want to achieve
something, I want to get something, the
fear of God disappears.
So every person has a different level of
mind. That's one expla way of explaining
it. [snorts]
The other way of explaining it,
you write in Hebrew,
which you can read it also.
Just change the punctuation, the
punctuation, the the dots.
means to see. So now if I read it,
it means that I see heavens or God in
everything. How much do you see the hand
of Hashem in everything?
Sham goes on Hashem that every situation
that happens to me in my life, it's from
Hashem. How much are you focused on
that? Now, it's very easy to say, "Yeah,
yeah, I know everything is from Hashem."
Till the disaster hits you, and then
you're not too sure if it's from Hashem
already. And that's where the is
measured. How much do you see the hand
of Hashem in everything that happens to
you?
That's very hard to actually apply. It's
very easy to apply when you're looking
at the big things. But when things don't
go well in your life, it's very easy to
say no.
So, Hashem says everything is
predestined.
Who you going to marry? Where are you
going to live? How much money you going
to make? Who are going to be your
parents? Who are going to be your kids?
Where you going to live? Everything is
predestined.
The only thing that is required from you
is
so remember the two ways is that I am
afraid of Hashem. I fear him. Not afraid
in a negative way.
And of course that how much I see Hashem
in everything in this world.
Now we have to understand a little bit
the concept of everything is
predestined.
Because if this is the case that
everything is already predestined then
why do I bother on yipur? Why do I
bother on shana? Why do I pray? Why do I
ask for a blessing? Why do I do
anything? Everything is predestined. So
only required for me is to fear hashem
which that throws us off completely to
live in the mindset that doesn't matter
what I'm going to do it's going to
happen.
So I'll give you a quick example before
we dive into it.
A few months ago we did an event with
Walk with Hashem in Bet Gabriel. Great
event. Some of you were there and over
then we already spoke that the next time
that I come we're going to do an event.
And when the time came we chose the
date. Took about a two weeks to choose a
date. And then another two weeks to
choose the topic and where and how and
who and when and woo. You don't even
know what goes on in the back scenes to
create an event.
And we were going backwards and forth on
the date. We were going backwards and
forth on the location and the topic and
if there's going to be should be pizza,
should be sushi, what should we serve,
which song should be played? Everything
all these thoughts. And I can tell you
already that everything that we planned,
thought, and wanted did not work out how
we wanted. And everything worked out
completely different to work out not how
we planned.
So now let's go back to the map and say,
ah, everything was predestined. The
event was supposed to be across the
street. That's what we thought. And a
few days before the event, Hashem
revealed to us that that wasn't
predestined. It was predestined. It's
going to be here
at this time. this location.
So technically when you're looking at
everything in your life, something needs
to happen, you work towards it and then
it doesn't happen how you plan.
The way it works is that Hashem plants
the thought in your mind, puts the
situation available for you. Now you
need to do it.
In most of the cases, you plan, plan,
plan, plan, and then Hashem changes the
plan.
So it's not that Hashem changed the
plan. You just didn't know the exact
points of the plan. But Hashem is the
one who will put the thought in your
mind, the idea, the opportunity. He will
now maneuver you to go on the path that
you need to go on in order to do what
you supposed to do.
So in general, yes, everything is
predestined. The map is predestined.
where you going to born, where you're
going to live, where you going to grow
up, who is going to be your parents and
every point of your life is a
predestined.
>> So you cannot change the
>> I didn't say that and u as I speak
probably you will get all your answers.
So I would give
we'll see how much time we have at the
end of the class. I'll give some time
for questions.
But try to hold the questions till the
end. There's a very good chance that I
will answer a lot of them as the lecture
goes which will save you later and if
not later on you can ask. I will try to
answer all your questions.
But I didn't say you can't change the
the map.
I'm actually going to tell you you can
change the map and you cannot. Whatever
is predestined that's what's going to
happen. In order you cannot in order to
change something on your map, you need
such a powerful prayer that's done by
probably powerful souls to change
something as big.
That's in many cases you might not want
to.
There's a story in the about a certain
Tana.
It wasn't really a Tana actually. Sorry.
He was just a a Talmid a student but he
was a very high level student everything
good and had a horrible life and one of
the things that he had he had a poverty
he didn't have any money and at some
point he
spoke to Hashem when he says well why
are you giving me such a hard life I'm
dedicated to your Torah I'm dedicated to
you why why why do I have to be so poor
so Hashem told him you want you want me
to change that you want to be not poor.
He's like, "Yeah." He's like, "I can do
that, but it might cost to destroy half
the world. [clears throat]
You want?" He's no no. Okay. No, it's
fine. I don't I don't need the pound.
So,
technically, certain things can be
changed,
but it requires
something in the level of a miracle. I'm
not saying that it doesn't happen. I'm
not saying it cannot happen. I'm just
saying that in order to change the
script, it requires a lot of power. It
mainly requires from you a
transformation of 180°.
If you ever know someone who did that,
then you can see how the transformation
can bring forth such a change. And I
shared with you in this place, on this
chair, in this table, well, not this
table. It was a different table about a
year and a half ago how when you go from
here to here then Hashem changes things.
So
let me go through the entire lecture and
you'll see because in really you cannot
change the map and you don't want to
change the map. You want to stay within
the limits of the map or the predestined
script.
Now let me explain to you something.
Look at this beautiful big shaw. When
they built the structure, they built it
huge, large, wide, high.
Now you can change this. This is
unchangeable.
But you know what you can do in this
space? I can close now a huge ceiling,
make here two floors. I can cut the room
in half, make here four rooms. I can
inside change a lot of things. And I can
change a little bit the outside. They
can change a little bit the decorations
but the structure stays the same. The
location stays the same. You cannot move
now this sh to the next block.
So the location stays the same.
Everything stays the same but the
the inside the design that can change
right
when Hashem decides for you where you're
going to be born that's not going to
change. Who are you going to be your
parents? It's not going to change who
you going to marry. All these things are
key points in your life.
What you can change is the scenario
around it.
For example, you cannot change who
you're going to marry. But you can
choose if the marriage will be a good
marriage or a less good marriage. That
you can choose.
You can choose many different things
when it comes to your life. And when I'm
saying choose, you have some type of an
effect.
I want to in the beginning simplify
things by telling you you can't change
things. You don't want to change things.
Why change the design that Hashem did?
Everything is sitting exactly how it
should. Hashem designed your life for
you to reach the perfect
tikun.
He created already the scenario for you
to be the most successful.
Why would you want to change it?
Now it brings to a very big problem
because if [clears throat]
I humbly
what is called
me I anullify myself in front of Hashem
and I accept everything that Hashem gave
me. So that should bring me to a place
that I don't need to do much because for
it doesn't matter what I'm going to do.
It's going to it's going to be the
result will be the same. And that's not
far from the truth.
In order for me to be
motivated,
then I have to have the ability of
sweetening things and changing things.
Because if you would get the message
that nothing can be changed, you
wouldn't be motivated to do nothing. Not
to pray, not to do chuva. Because in
really if I need to summarize the entire
topic and I'll read for you and I'll
read in in a second from the text
really the entire visit to this world is
to affect your place in eternity. That's
it.
If you haven't figured this out till now
then a big piece in your relationship
with Hashem is missing. Everything that
you do in this world is only for your
world to come. We did not come here to
this world to benefit from this world.
Anything. The more you benefit from this
world, you are going to reduce what
you're going to benefit from the world
above.
First rule that one needs to understand
and knows and if you don't live by that,
you have to completely change the way
you think. And I know that most people
don't think like that. But the reality
is that your visit in this world is to
determine your place in eternity. Where
are you going to be in eternity and
every act that you do in this world will
determine your place in eternity. When
you understand that the name of the game
is different because you only care for
your eternal success and not for your
immediate success. What interests you is
[snorts] how do I get a better place in
the world to come? not how I get more
money in this world. I look for what
will get me a much more greater reward
in the world to come than what I'm
looking for here.
So first of all, it's important to
understand and I'll give you a little
background why we need to care about the
world to come. The Zor says that before
the world was before the world existed,
there was only Hashem and at some point
Hashem had the desire to be a king. And
if you want to be a king then you need
to have a nation. When are you going to
be a king or nobody? So he created a so
to say a nation. That's was all our
souls. And in the beginning the souls
were marveling the beauty of Hashem all
surrounding Hashem enjoying the glory of
the light of Hashem the wisdom
everything was good. And of course I'm
I'm making it sound very little
something that we can't understand. What
does it mean to just enjoy the beauty of
Hashem? But for the level of the soul,
this is the highest level one can reach
enjoying the wisdom of Hashem
for an eternal in in an internal eternal
state. But at some point, the Zoro says
that the souls felt very embarrassed in
front of Hashem and they told Hashem,
"Listen, we we feel very shameful. All
you do is give and give and give and we
we don't do anything." The Z calls it
bread of shame. like a poor person that
comes to your door, knocks on your door
every day and you gladly give them some
food or money, but at some point that
person is like like you only give me I I
I didn't do anything. So Hashem says,
"No problem. I'll create a system where
you earn your rewards where you earn you
what you get." And Hashem created a
system.
It's very familiar to you through this
world where you earn let's call it now
credit points to the world to come. So
next time when you come to the spiritual
world and whatever is given to you you
earned it. So one can can't come and say
oh it was just given for free I worked
for it
technically that's how it should be.
That's how it should be in every realm.
You know, now in this uh realm, many
different forms are trying to make
what's called that every should
everybody should be equal. Even your
great mayor, that's what he's going for.
That should be equal here. That the rich
will give the poor. That's what he's
trying to do.
>> Excuse me.
>> Socialism.
>> Uh socialism on the on steroids. But uh
go look at your mayor. Well, tomorrow
we're going to talk a lot about your
mayor.
And uh I'm sure it's not your mayor. You
didn't choose him. Hopefully neither one
in this room chose chose him. And if you
did, come and talk to me after.
But nevertheless,
I don't know why your mirror distracted
me.
>> It's predestined.
>> Yeah, of course it's predestined.
You do.
When a person understands the concept of
the world to come, then everything
changes and I have the opportunity to
set myself in the place to in the world
to come. That's really the what
everything boils down to. If your mind
is not uh set on that, you miss the
point. You actually miss the point. You
live your life with no point because our
entire focus is on the world to come.
This is a very small stop that I can
accumulate whatever I need to take with
me to the world to come. Now, I know a
lot of people say, "Ah, it's not a it's
not a fair system. Hashem should give
everybody equally."
Okay. Well, that can be your opinion.
The souls themselves in a democratic way
voted for that. So as a soul, that's
what we asked.
As a one entity, as a soul, that's what
we asked Hashem. We want to work for the
reward. Why? How? Is it good? Is it bad?
All this is irrelevant right now. I can
tell you already as looking at the
approach that that's how everything
needs to be done. Even in this world,
that's how I was educated. That's how I
educate my kids. Nobody's going to do
nothing for you. You do it for yourself.
And if you think you're going to need to
lean on somebody to get something, you
have you have it wrong. You need to
understand and Anily Millie, if nobody
for myself, who will do that? And
there's maybe three people in the entire
world that will do something a little
bit for you. All the rest will just use
you.
and what you need to do. Nobody will do
it for you.
Maybe you came all the way tonight to
hear just that because I was taught that
a long time ago in the most hardest way.
I don't depend on anyone. I don't trust
anyone. I don't let anybody do anything.
I do it. I don't wait for anybody to do
nothing. Of course, in my level where I
am running a very big organization, I
have to delegate. But even when I
delegate, it's with me overseeing every
step. Nothing moves in my organization
without me looking at it, touching it,
seeing it. And yeah, that's why I have
to work 20 hours a day.
But my attit my my attitude is that
nobody will do it for me and nobody will
do it like me. I need something to get
done. I need to get it done.
That's the education that I got and I
attribute a lot of my success to that
fact. And I can tell you that most
people that I meet
don't do that. They think the world owes
them something.
They put all their trust in he this
person, that person. And then what
happens is that every situation they
need somebody to help them
the right way. You need to educate
yourself. You need to work towards that
that you are independent. That's what
Hashem wants. Shem doesn't want you to
lean on somebody. He wants you to do it.
And in any situation,
I have a very very very big nonforprofit
that helps a lot a lot of different h
causes. The majority of course is poor
people and we help in many different
ways. Whether it's with actual money for
food or food itself or help with
expenses,
utilities, rent, whatever it is. I have
different funds. You all know them. you
donate to those funds every time I go
and pray for you in in in
graves in Israel and you donate that's
where that money goes to and I just
decide who gets when how and what
and my rule is that you get but I rather
teach you how to help yourself every
situation that comes to my desk and I
need to look at it and approve it I
approve it if the person will actually
do something after
You're not going to come here and milk
my system. You can enjoy it once, twice,
three times. You're going to get from me
tools how to not come back to me again.
That's how I help you.
So now we're dealing with a a couple old
people, very old, no money, no nothing.
They're only depending on the kindness
of of the community. So they came to me,
three months rent back has to be paid,
utilities, this. Okay. Okay. We we can
cover that. But what's your plan? What's
your plan for the fourth month? What's
your plan for the fifth month? You're
going to come to me every month. No,
I'll help the emergency. But you need to
create a system, a plan, a way how you
take care of your own business. That's
what Hashem wants. Hashem wants you to
be independent. Hashem wants you to
achieve it, not to lean on the entire
world.
So Hashem designed a system
where he wants you to grow, where he
wants you to achieve things. Unless you
understand that
your life is going to be walking on a
treadmill, and no offense, most people
that I look at walking on a treadmill or
a conveyor belt. You're walking in the
same place, smiling to all directions
and not understanding that you're in the
same place. And that's most people.
And you might not look at it on
yourself. You might think that you grow.
And maybe a small amount of the people
do know how to grow. But when you're
looking at somebody from the outside,
then you see different like I can't see
myself.
You can see yourself.
You know, there are people even in this
room right now that I've see I see them
every time I come. 15 years.
Yeah. Yeah. Some people even in this
room have been following me from over
over 15 years, which means that I've
seen them
50 times.
Some of them look exactly the same how
they look 15 years ago. Not in the
beauty in where they're holding. And
some different. I saw them 15 years ago
here. And every year that I return
different person different person
you need to be now humble and think on
yourself if you're same or different.
So first of all and most most most
important that you need to understand
that your only purpose in this world is
to work towards the world to come. I
know it sounds superficial, but one day
you'll wake up and you'll realize that
if you did it, you won. And if you did
it, you'll regret it. Trust me, I was
there. You do not want to come to the
moment where you realize that your time
is over. That's it. That 78 years are
passed. Life goes like that. And most
people wake up at the last moment of
their life realizing how they much they
didn't do and then it's too late.
Now what's going to be the after that?
That depends on you.
Now you have a problem because up until
now when you got to that situation you
had no option of coming back here in an
incarnation.
Mashia comes tomorrow no incarnations.
Mashia is coming very close. So there
not going to be much more incarnations.
That's why each and every one of you are
now dealing with 500 tons of problems
because whatever you didn't do in the
last previous 10 lives is all together
now before Mashiach comes. So all of you
are juggling 15 million things at the
same time. Right? That's it. No
difference between me and you by the
way. And it's not that you're a bad
person that things don't work out. It's
just that you accumulated so much to fix
and you're not doing it on a daily base
and now the burden is hard. Now all the
challenges that you need to go through
in order to reach a rectification are
together.
It wasn't like that 20 years ago
and definitely not 30 or 40 years ago.
Last 10 years it's intensifying and last
five years it's even worse. and last two
years the amount of challenges that
every person has to go at the same time
increase
now maybe you all think that you're
doing something wrong I don't know
whatever whatever your rabbis is telling
you the fact is that 80% of the
challenges that you're going through is
it's not that you did something you need
to you need to do a rectification you
need to fix something Hashem is now
giving you all the opportunities to do
it
so First of all and most important one
needs to set the mindset is changing
everything. The mindset should be I am
living for nothing in this world. I
don't care so much about this world.
That's I'm telling you how I operate and
how I see things and how the Torah is
teaching you. Don't be impressed by this
world. This is this is the world of
decept. The world of deceit, the world
of lying. Everything here is lie. Why
are you focusing on this world? Why you
putting all your effort about this
world? Don't you see how everything here
is fake? Don't you see how everything
here doesn't have any meaning? You
taking your iPhone with you to shamim.
You take your BMW to Shamim. No, it's
nice to have nice things, but it should
be this much of your interest.
I also live in a nice house. I also
drive a nice car. I also like to dress
nice. I live in this world just like
you. But I don't get affected by this
world.
I don't take anything from this world. I
don't want this world to affect me. This
is a very very narrow corridor that I
don't want to rub my shoulders too much
on on this corridor.
I'm here for a very short time. I'm 51
years old. You know how fast the 51
years old went by?
like that
and only thing that focuses me is how am
I getting to the world to come? That's
the only thing that ma matters to me in
my life.
And again, if you don't think that, then
that's what you need to do right now.
The only thing that needs to be on my
mind,
the next world. Really, the only thing
that needs to be on your mind is Hashem.
And the only thing that needs to be in
your mind is what am I doing? What do I
need to do that Hashem wants me to do?
If that's what how your mind operates,
then you're on the right track and you
going to go to the place you need to go
to. The sad reality is that most people
that's not what they think. Hashem is 20
30%. The rest 70% is me. You want to be
successful in this world, happy and come
to the world to come the right way. The
number one focus is Hashem. Nothing
else.
You think for nothing I printed hats and
shirts. No, you need to wear it and
every time you see yourself ah and
everybody that sees you
when you understand that there's nothing
but Hashem which means that I need to
work in his rhythm to listen to what he
wants to make him happy. I need to to do
what makes him happy, not what makes you
happy. I know it sounds a little bit
fanatic and OCD, but it's not. That's my
focus. My focus is Hashem. First of all,
I incorporate in that that my focus is
my spiritual life. I rather suffer for
70 years
with tremendous suffering
as long as I'm guaranteed that in
eternity I'm good.
That's what should be your attitude.
Most people care about this world and
they don't care at all about the world
to come.
You know that when I walked in here,
half of you approached me for a
blessing. And that's every lecture. And
when I finished the lecture, the other
half approached me for a blessing.
And when I'm not here, then people send
emails, WhatsApps, SMS, pigeons,
whatever. Wherever they can, people show
up to my door. Everybody wants a
blessing.
I can tell you that maybe 0.0000 000000
and add a few more zeros. 1%
have asked me for a blessing
to have a great amaba.
Most people don't ask please Rabbi bless
me that I should be welcome in the world
to come that I should have a very nice
comfortable place in Ganedin. I never
heard such requests.
I hear I want a wife
and I hear all the time a wife and a
husband and then they don't realize that
half five years later they come back to
me.
You asked me to get your wife now you
want me to get her away.
So the majority of of requests that I
get isola
very few people come up to me and tell
me please please give me a hashem should
forgive all my sins that I should go
into Grenada please I don't get these
requests why that's what interests me I
am looking for a ticket to the world to
come but you think I care about a
Mercedes or whatever it is
so Most people how they view their life
and the structure of this world is
incorrect.
And you probably all came in tonight and
joined the live to hear that you need to
shift what you're looking at.
That's what's going to give you your
success, by the way. That's what's going
to give you what you need.
Half of what you are requesting,
you'll never get. deal with it. Don't
live in some laala land.
That's why I don't wish for too much
because I don't want you to be
disappointed. I don't ask Hashem, please
give me parasa.
I need parasa. I need I need I need I
want I need I tell Hashem just give me
what I need. I'll deal I'll deal with
that. It's not in the in the front of my
mind nagging to Hashem about my parasa.
or in anything. Not when I looked for a
wife, not for anything. I let Hashem do
his thing. I go on his path because I
understand that the majority is already
there. It's not going to change. I don't
get upset. I don't get angry. I let the
the rhythm of the world
finalize things like this lecture
file. how much emails, how much WhatsApp
said, you know, in hours how much it is
and do this and do that and then it's
going to do it here. We're going to do
it there. Maybe we should do this. What
do I need to tell you the cliche? You
plan and Hashem laughs.
>> Yeah, you need a microphone. My voice is
loud enough.
If somebody wants to hear, he'll hear me
standing on the street. You choose what
you hear.
I can talk like that and you're going to
hear very well what I'm saying. It all
depends what you want to hear.
Most people have it completely wrong.
And you're in them, by the way. And it
took me years. Listen, it's not that I
was born, but I figured out, of course,
I have a little bit of a a step forward
with my own experience, but
nevertheless,
I can tell you already rule number one
that you need to change when you leave
this room is your outlook of your
position in this world.
Highest priority is my spiritual world.
That's the eternity.
Because the second that I leave this
world, that's it. I leave everything
behind.
I even I never even thought about it
what I just said. You leave this world,
you leave everything behind.
Ay, I liked it because you leave
everything behind. The only thing you
take with you is your Torah, your
mitzvot, and your growth.
I know it's very hard for people to
realize that, but that's what you need
to constantly work on. Change the way
you think. That's why I keep saying in
all my lectures, Hashem has to be number
one.
Hashem is number one. My spiritual life
is number one. My [clears throat] goal
in the world to come. If you don't see
eye to eye, what I'm saying now, why are
you here even? Why you wear a yamaka?
Why you come to pray? Why you put fain
on? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why you
doing anything? because you want the
blessing in this world. I see how people
operate when they need a blessing in
this world. They get their act together.
It's very sad. I see the people who come
to my synagogue. I don't see them the
whole year. Once in a blue moon, they
come pray with us, throw money to all
directions. Suddenly, they're very
large, very generous. Then they go start
kissing the
for two hours. I don't know what they're
doing there.
Why are you here? I didn't see you for
half a year. Oh no, I have to do a
trial. I need to I need some uh
Now you remembered. You know that if you
would come every day to the bikes and
kiss the like you do, then you wouldn't
have that trial.
And even if you still have that trial,
you think that one effort is going to
make a change?
Because if it's predestined for you to
be in that trial and be under stress,
that one prayer is worthless.
I'll get to how you with your prayers
and all that sweeten things, change
things.
Don't go out of this door by saying I
don't need to pray now or do anything
like no no I'll touch that those little
touch-ups what to do. But let's first
get the concept. The idea is that your
focus has to be on my spiritual world,
my spiritual life. That's it. The same
way that most of you don't care about
your physical health,
some of you are my students and you do
care about your physical health. Why
don't you care about your spiritual
health?
Assuming listen, I know half of you
don't care about your spir your your
health. You drink Coca-Cola. That that's
enough for me. If you're willing to put
this junk in your body, you don't care
about your body or your health. And a
lot of you are you want to nod, but
you're like, if I nod, then I have to
stop drinking Coca-Cola.
And it's not that I'm trying to insult
anybody, but most people don't care
about their health, which is everybody
can do whatever they want. But I can see
already that most people who don't care
about their physical health, they don't
even care about their spiritual health.
And the reality is that most people
don't care about their spiritual health.
Period.
If a doctor will tell you to take a
certain pill because it will reduce your
cholesterol or your blood
heart, how do you say the blood pressure
or whatever, why you believe the doctor
with all sorts of chemicals and junk
that you think it's going to change your
situation.
But to believe Hashem that you will do a
certain act, it will change your
situation, then you don't believe and
you don't do.
So first of all, hopefully tonight you
get your priorities check. You get your
priorities set the right way because if
the priorities are not set the right
way, you will never operate the right
the right way. So first of all, you have
to understand that your goal in this
world is how you getting to the world to
come. If up until now you're not with
me, leave the room.
Okay? Nobody's getting up.
So you all agree with me that the world
to come, your spiritual world, that's
what counts. Now apply that cuz neither
one of you got up. Now apply that. Which
means that starting from this second,
what's in your focus is my spiritual
existence
which includes everything that I talked
about. My spiritual existence in this
world, my spiritual existence in the
world to come, the future for me in the
spiritual world, eternity, etc., etc.,
etc. Don't worry right now G know I'm
going to end don't worry about this
right now first understand that one day
you close your eyes in this world and
then you go to the next world all of you
equally it doesn't matter who you are
where you come from your your faith your
background Jew non-Jew tall short it
doesn't matter we all die at some point
and when we die we all go to the same
place and we all go through the same
journey
and of course not exactly the same you
can uh help to make the journey worse or
better. But at the end of the at the end
at the end at the end at the end we all
going to come to the place where we came
from a spiritual world and neither one
of us can imagine in our mind. We don't
really know what it means and it doesn't
really matter. This is not the end. This
is nothing. This is
sorry
this world is is is a stop.
You have to really put it down to do you
want them to understand. Do you I I
asked this question for the last half a
year over and over. You're all noticing
how time is going like that, right?
You don't worried that it's over.
It's over. It's almost over. then
everybody's worried right now about
nonsense.
So first and most important is the view
is the how you see things is that what I
need to care about is my I need to care
about what Hashem wants me to do. I need
to care about my spiritual health
because it will affect everything in
your life. So before you come and ask
for a blessing for parnasa for a child
for your other half understand that your
spiritual acts will affect your
spiritual status which will affect what
you get in this world.
So before you ask for a blessing do an
action.
Once you understand that my goal is
then this world becomes this much of a
significance. It's the world to come
that has now the significance and now my
choices are based on that.
Do you agree? Does anybody here don't
agree with me?
Once I understand that whatever I do
here it's for the end result my approach
changes my outlook changes the
importance of this world changes
reduces now my focus is on something
completely else
that's what you need to start with
you don't do that you are walking on the
same spot
very very important I'm telling you as
an outsider looking from the outside and
gave me a very sharp eye. I can look
from the outside and see many many
different things. Sometimes people come
and ask me a question, they give me a
two-hour introduction. I don't need the
two-hour introduction. I need the
details within 3 minutes. I will
understand and what I don't understand,
I will ask. So, I can tell you already I
see things as they are and I see how
most people are walking in the same
spot. In the beginning, you smile at
everybody, but after 20, 30, 40, 50
years of going on a on the you know, the
wheel like the hamster does, you get
tired.
And when you get tired spiritually, it
will manifest in this world that you are
tired physically and you're unhappy
physically
most of the cases. And
thank you. Yeah. Yeah, we're going to do
that.
Most people are spiritually tired.
Everything is a effort and everything is
hard and everything is a challenge. No,
I had that stick. It broke. Now, did you
see the
what he does?
Half of your miseries.
Half of your miseries
you are in charge of by the way.
So again to summarize and move to the
next step priorities. Your priority
your priorities have to be the right
priority.
Okay. Now we're going to have a an
adjustment break.
If you don't have the right priorities,
nothing will work.
Nobody
do
now. I don't know if it's affected the
live. So maybe the people online if you
can hear me or see something or don't
see that you let me know.
Wait a minute.
Okay, the ones online, can you hear me?
See me? Oh, good. Good. I just did
something on the screen. I don't even
know why I did that. Okay, as long as
you see me. You see me? Well, you hear
me? Well, good.
First step, priority. What you need to
do when you leave this word room tonight
is set your priorities. And I know it's
extremely hard because tonight you'll be
excited to set that priority but
tomorrow that priority moves to the side
because you wake up hungry so you need
to think of food and then you wake up
tired so you need to want to sleep more
and then you got a few messages that you
need to pay some bills so you need to
work and suddenly you are distracted and
you need to go to the next uh to the
next step. So
here up.
So you have to make sure this is your
priority. And my recommendation, write
it on the wall, put it on your fridge,
put it on your screen saver that this is
my priority. I already have it natural.
I already constantly
think four steps how it's affecting my
spiritual state and how it's affecting
my
there's a story in the Gar and there's
different versions I'll tell you the
short version about certain Tana that
was very very holy but at the same time
was very poor and at some point they
were so poor they didn't even have money
money to eat and the short version of
the story is that at some point he was
praying to Hashem, I I really need I
don't even have food to buy food for. I
don't even have money to buy food for
Shabbat.
Hashem made a miracle after his prayers
and threw down to this world a leg, a
[clears throat] leg of a table made out
of gold.
>> Gold. Can you imagine like a leg of a
table made out of a piece of gold?
Needless to say, he had a lot of money
to buy food, to do many things, buy some
Bitcoin.
Well, 2,000 years ago, Bitcoin was like
a cent. But uh but nevertheless,
once his wife saw all this money, she
was like, "Where do you have this
money?" He's like, "Oh, don't I pray to
Hashem and there was a miracle. I got
some gold." At night, she went to sleep
and she dreamt about a beautiful meal in
Ganedin. beautiful big table, a lot of
sadikim around the table and something
was very difficult to see is that that
table was missing a leg.
And she told him, "You give the leg
back. I don't want my table in Ganedan
to miss a leg. If I need to be poor in
this world, then I'll be poor in this
world. If that's what Hashem wants me to
be, if that's what Hashem wants for me,
then I'll I'll I'll I'll accept it. But
if
I'm not going to change what Hashem
wants.
Now to reach to a level that you accept
everything that Hashem puts in you,
that's a high level. But that's what is
requested from you. Hashem wants you to
understand that everything is done for
you. So when Hashem puts you in some
corner or with some difficulty, he's
guiding you. He's guiding you where you
need to go. Because most people don't
see the road map that Hashem made. Trust
me, you do not want to change the code
that Hashem wrote your mazal. You don't
want to change your mazal.
Everything is written there.
If you want to change your mazal, you
it's going to come on the account on
something else. I already took to
consideration a long time ago. If Hashem
wants me to have money, he'll give me
money. If he demands me not to have
money, then I'm not going to have money.
Whatever Hashem wants me to have, that's
what I'm going to have.
Two big things that are worrying many
people is money and finding their other
half. When it's coming to finding your
other half, most people operate on what
they think. How many times have I met a
couple or a a woman or a man which a
shiduk a match was presented the person
brushed it off right away he's like this
he's like that
and the answer is always the same but
what if that's your basher
or you think you're going to marry a Mr.
perfect. Your basher, you either have
has a lot of problems, a lot of
difficulties. He's not a perfect
individual or a perfect girl. Nobody's
perfect. First of all, look at the
mirror.
You're not coming with such perfection
to the to the to the relationship. But
you such a hit. No, look at the mirror.
You know, understand you're not that
great yourself.
Now, that means that the other person is
not going to be that great. But you
really look in the mirror and you think
that you're that great.
I hope not. I hope you don't look in the
mirror and be like, "Wow, wow,
Hashem, what he did here?"
That's the sad reality of most people.
They look in the mirror and they see
perfection.
You're not close to perfect.
You're not even close.
Me, too. Not that I think that I'm, but
I at least I'm realistic. I look in the
mirror, I I see what I see the truth. I
don't look in the mirror and see like a
a 20-year-old attractive man. No.
So, don't look in the mirror and think
you are you.
Besides,
who says that your other half is going
to be a symbol of perfection?
That's the problem with most people.
They turn off the the shid the match
because it's not Mr. or Mrs. perfect.
Then I have good news for you and bad
news for you. They're both the same.
Your spouse is not perfect because
you're not. That's it.
Once you understand that your goal is
the world to come, then you need to add
on that that the road map, your mazal,
the predestined information, you don't
want to change. Trust me, you don't want
to change that. Hashem designed it
perfectly for you
to a point that it cannot be done
perfect. Now why did Hashem design this
path for you?
Because the path that Hashem designed
for you in this life is the perfect path
for you to reach to the highest place in
the world to come.
I'll repeat that. The path, the mazal,
the predestined situation in your life
is the best option to bring you to the
highest level.
Why would you want to change anything?
You don't want to change anything.
So now it means that you are with the
mazan that Hashem gave you. If Hashem
decided for you not to make money,
is it a bad thing?
>> You all don't agree. You all,
I need money.
>> Which car?
>> Nissan Pathfinder.
>> There's a Nissan Pathfinder who's
blocking what? A driveway
>> across the street.
>> Across the street? Nissan Pathfinder.
Anyone?
>> Okay.
>> They're very upset.
>> They should be. But if anybody maybe
it's not anybody from the crowd. If
anybody here has a Pathfinder Nissan.
>> Oh, okay.
>> Maybe announce downstairs.
Uh
you do not want to change your mazal.
Bad idea. Hashem designed it the best
way for you. So why would you want to go
against it? You need to now figure out
what's the mazal. what's the path,
what's predestined and work around it
and come to the the realization that
you're not going to get all what you
want what you want in this life. Life is
like a ferris wheel. One time you're up,
one time you're down, one time you're
rich, one time you're poor, one time you
this, one every life that you come here,
you have a different role. It takes a
long time to disconnect the thought of
what I want in this world versus what I
want in the world to come. Right now,
most people are in the mode that they
care about this world because the option
of the world to come doesn't come to
you. Can you imagine somebody coming and
showing you a beautiful BMW? What do you
want? This beautiful BMW or another
another elevation in the world to come.
Then nobody can present to you this
situation for you to say, "Oh, I
actually want a better position in
Grened and I forget about the money."
Therefore, I came to tell you that
whatever you want in this world, it
doesn't mean you're going to get it.
That's why my prayers are not for things
in this world. I don't waste my time on
things for this world. Whatever wants me
to have, he will give me. I have the
option of making it more or less. We'll
talk about very soon. Don't worry. But
why do I want to change anything? Why do
I want to go against the the the the
path? Why do I want to go against the
stream of what Hashem gave me?
Therefore, the Torah comes and teaches
you always humble yourself. You know,
the highest level of of self refinement
is to reach to a place of of humility
and and and shaflut.
Now, it doesn't mean that you become
ashmate. Mosher Rabenu was the most
humble person in the history of all
mankind to a point that that's what the
Torah defined him.
It didn't define him as a great prophet.
You know that there's nobody going to be
ever a greater prophet than Moshe
Rabenu. Not even Mashiach. Mashiach is
smarter in wisdom. Greater than Mosher
Rabenu in prophecy
Moshe. Nobody will ever be a prophet
like Moshe Rabenu. So why isn't he
called Mosh Moshanavi?
Should be Moshanavi or Moshame.
He's called Mosher Rabenu. our teacher,
he's teaching us that the way to come to
Hashem is through an is through
accepting what Hashem wants from me. It
doesn't mean that you're making yourself
less. It means that I humbly accept what
Hashem wants.
Mashem wanted Mosha Rabenu to be a
leader. Moshe says, "No, I'm not
interested. I don't want to. I don't
want to be a leader." Hashem told him,
"I'm not asking you. I'm telling you
what in the design you are." So, he
accepted. He didn't like it. He didn't
want to. But that he didn't ask any
questions.
Mosher Rabenu is our teacher to teach us
that the way to come to Hashem is
through Anava. And the Anava means that
I don't have much of a say. I don't have
much of an opinion. My opinion doesn't
really matter. What matters is Hashem.
That's it. And when I humble myself in
front of Hashem, then I jump three steps
forward to start walking on the path
that Hashem wants me to go on because I
don't fight with with the results that
I'm not happy with. If I'm unhappy with
the result, then I try to do things. Now
imagine now just for the sake of the
example, the path that you need to walk
on five years, you need to have
financial struggles. Now what happens in
those five years? All that you do is
occupied with the financial struggle.
How am I going to get more money? Maybe
I get another job. And you worry and you
stress and you lend money and all. Can
you imagine just stepping back and
saying, I don't need to stress about all
that because it's not going to change.
If Hashem wants me now to be without
money, there's a reason for that. He
wants me to work on my ama. He wants me
to work on my prayers. He wants me to
work on a million things.
>> Not going to answer. So I know you have
a lot of questions.
Hashem is the one who's guiding you.
If you ever try to do something by
yourself, you have to be
very very special individual to do it by
yourself. Most people need some type of
a guide. They need a trainer. They need
a uh somebody who gives them
inspiration. And I mean everybody needs
some type of a mentor or some somebody
who kind of guides you what to do, a
coach
because most people don't know how to do
it by themselves.
Now, now imagine now the personal
trainer that comes to make you work. He
tells you do A, B, and C. Do you agree
with everything that he tells you?
A dietician or a physician comes and
tells you you need to do A, B, and C. Do
you agree with everything? No. But in
most of the cases you just listen
because that person is the professional
and I need to listen to them. You go to
guidance to many people and you listen.
Hashem says you don't need all that
guidance. I am the guidance. I am
putting you in the path you need to go
on. All you need to do is make room for
Hashem. Humble yourself and understand
that's what Hashem wants me to deal with
right now. Why? I'll get to that in a
few minutes.
So like I told you first focus on that's
the switch in your mind. If you don't do
that you're wasting your time. You'll
wake up every day in the morning in same
place. You're not going to move much.
I'll see you in more and more and more
lectures and I'll tag you as the ones
who look the same for 10 years
and not in your appearance in your
spiritual growth.
My entire focus is how am I growing in
this world and how am I achieving what
Hashem wants me to do and the only way
of doing it is walking on the path that
Hashem designed for me. I'm not trying
to reinvent the wheel or make a path
that it's not my path
to reach to that level of understanding
only through there's no other way of
doing it. And I know a lot of people are
not familiar with what does it mean? How
do I do it? Anava means that Hashem is
number one. I'm always number two.
That's it. Whatever he says, that's the
last word. Whatever he wants, that's
what's going to happen. If I'm
successful, thank you, Hashem. I'm a
failure. Thank you for giving me the
opportunity. I'm never upset. I'm not
disappointed.
I understand that I'm being led on a
certain path because I need to walk
certain steps which I don't understand.
Don't try to understand. Just walk on
the steps and walk on the steps with
humility and a smile on your face
because Hashem is doing you a favor.
So when you are going through a
challenge, it's not to torture you. It's
not to drive you crazy.
It's that's the path you need to walk
on. And if you are single for 10 years
and you're not so happy with the
situation,
then that's the path Hashem wants you to
walk on.
So don't complain
and don't whine and have the the the
hope and the amuna that Hashem is do. He
knows what he's doing and take advantage
of the time that you're single
for doing many different things because
once you get married you can't do most
of the things that you need to do while
you're single. So you have to seize
opportunity. If I'm single right now,
Hashem wants me to be single. It's not
[snorts] that I'm doing something wrong.
is not that you're stopping your mazal.
You know what you need to do in order to
stop your mazal? You know what sins you
need to do? You need to do well a lot of
people do that.
Mazal comes from the word in Aramaic
what's called lzol something that comes
from the world above. Your mazal is all
the spiritual and physical tools that
hashem designed for you to reach to your
best rectification.
Every
person that has a job in this world like
a profession there's tools for that. You
are a carpenter you have tools for a
carpenter. You are a mechanic there's
tools for a mechanic. You are a dentist
there's tools for a dentist. You cannot
switch the tools.
So Hashem gave me what's called the
mazal. That's the predestined map.
But that's the tools for me to use to
reach to my to my perfection.
So that's what needs to interest me. Not
if I make money, not if I'm happy, big
house, small house, that's secondary.
I'm not telling you not to think about
it. I'm just saying that's secondary.
The highest priority spirituality, less
priority, the physical.
And the mazal that Hashem gave me I'm
repeating is my is the spiritual tools
the khim that hashem gave me to reach to
my tikun. So if in my mazal is to be
very rich
that's the the tools that hashem gave me
to lead me to my tikun.
I must need to give a lot of charity. I
must use my money for a lot of good
things. Hashem gives somebody a lot of
money. It's not to buy properties.
That's the business plan. That's the the
the business part of it. But the money
has to be used if somebody's extremely
rich.
Not telling you in percentage, but that
person is the tikun is just giving all
this money. You use the money for your
wealth, for your business, for all that.
But the majority has to go for it's a
big to be rich. And by the way, when you
have a lot of money and you're not using
that money, you'll come up to Shmay and
then you're going to have to deal with
that that they gave you a lot of money
that is not yours to do a rectification
and you did not and that's a problem.
You're going to face a problem one day.
And if Hashem gave you wisdom, it's for
you to teach it and to share it. Hashem
gave you kindness. Whatever Hashem gave
you, you need to figure out very quickly
what is the map, what is the route you
need to walk on. Because everything that
Hashem gave you, it's your tools,
perfect tools to reach their perfect
tikun, your rectification.
Take my word, trust me on that. You do
not want to come to the world to come
and find out that you wasted 70 years in
this world. And that's most people.
That's most people. And they already
realize that when they're still alive in
their 70s and 80s. What did I do? What
did I achieve? What did I change? Who
did I affect?
Trust me, you do not want to go through
this world and wake up one day and
understand and realize that you missed
your opportunity. It's not about scaring
and not about getting on. You're going
to be burning and g. I'm not telling you
that. I'm just telling you you're going
to be extremely disappointed the moment
you leave your body.
And then you can't reverse anything and
then you can't use any of the tools that
Hashem gave you. So really in this world
you have the opportunity to reach to the
highest level of your existence.
That should be your highest priority.
How are you leaving this world?
Now that you understand that, take all
the tools that Hashem gave you, your
mazal. And I'm saying tools and mazal.
Hashem gave you a wife. She gave me a
very special wife. In many situations,
she pokes in the right place to go get
me out of all my khim.
She is the most professional to find the
the point where can drive me the most
nuts.
I told her once, she's the person that
knows me the most.
She knows all
my secrets.
She sees me sleeping. She sees me in the
shower. She sees me in the bathroom. She
sees me in stress. She sees me in all
situations.
So, she knows the most of me.
And Hashem gave her the talent to find
very quickly all my my points. She
doesn't need to work hard.
One word it takes. What would take you
five months, she does it in a blink of
an eye.
>> Sometimes she smiles, sometimes she
doesn't.
It comes naturally, doesn't not that
she's focusing on it.
Now, do I need to perceive her now as an
evil individual, as a bad wife? I want
another wife. I need to find another
wife. That's what I hear from many men
literally today. I hope he's not
watching cuz he says he's was always
watching the live.
[laughter]
>> Yeah. No, no, no. He's I don't know if
he's here. I don't see him here, but
somewhere today I stopped to get a cup
of coffee. I walk in. Obviously, you
understand it's a coffee shop and not a
mechanic store. But nevertheless, I walk
in,
you just run away, pictures, all that.
And and then he looks at me. And I'm not
giving any details, so don't worry.
Nobody knows it's you. [laughter]
Uh and then he tells me, "What's going
on with the women today?"
I don't know. I don't know all of them.
I know only one.
No, it's not like my mother. Doesn't
matter what I do. Can't make her happy.
And then he's questioning me. You know,
I'm in a huge rush. And he's I have a
question. I heard that.
I wanted to answer him. You know, that
maybe you are the problem.
No offense, I don't know you, but every
coin has another side. And in every
marriage there's somebody on the other
side. It takes two to tango. So it's not
that you are the symbol of perfection
and she's like driving you nuts. It's
50/50. By the way, take responsibility.
The attitude of most married people is
that the spouse is here to make my life
a living hell.
Hashem brought me this man to just make
me miserable.
That's what most people think.
So when I say that my wife knows all my
points where depress is not because say
she's evil. She's her.
I don't try to change her. I don't ask
her to change for me. I never did that.
Please do this. Please do that. No. the
form she came in, that's how she is. And
I'm telling you, with all the great love
that I have for her, she knows how to
get me.
So, in my eyes, that's the best
candidate for me to live with. I don't
need a wife that smutzes me all day long
and cooks for me whatever I want. And,
oh, you're so amazing. And I have you
guys to tell me that. I don't need to
hear that from my wife.
Le my wife is the complete opposite.
Never heard any of my classes,
maybe three.
My wife is not here to be my fan. My
wife is here to make me a much better
man.
That's what that's the design. That's
the role. Pretty, not pretty, it doesn't
matter.
good cook, less good cook, irrelevant.
This woman was placed in front of me to
make me the 2.0 version of myself.
So, I have great admiration, great
respect, huge patience, and I understand
that she's not coming ever from a a bad
place. Even when she says something or
[snorts] Hashem gave her all the tools
to find all my weak points to bring me
to realize that you can say whatever you
want about me. I don't care.
You know what people say on me online. I
read sometimes the comments.
Some of them are very entertaining.
You should see the comments that people
wrote about me five six years ago after
corona when I started to talk. the
comments that people wrote about me.
Very entertaining.
I don't care. I actually don't care what
people think about me, what talk about
me. I actually don't care. I care what
Hashem thinks about me and that's it.
It's the only entity that I care what
thinks about me. What you say about me.
There's one person in the world that I
do care what they say is my wife
because I know that every word that
comes out of her mouth is divine. It's a
message from Hashem for me to learn and
to hold my anger and to hold to be
patient and to forgive and to know to
step back and to lower my ego and lower
my cavode. It's just to make me a better
person. If I answer back, if I lose my
temper, if I think of her anything less
than amazing, then I'm a I'm the fool.
Shem gives me the tool to make me a
better person.
And I would look at that tool and try to
replace it.
If I need to be without money now,
that's part of the kaleim, the tools,
the mazal to get me to the place that I
need to get to. And I will try to change
it.
Now, I'm saying that as a side note that
I'm not going to forget. It doesn't mean
you don't have to pray for your and if
somebody's sick to pray for the health
that's a different aspect right now you
know that if you wouldn't lack anything
no offense you wouldn't pray for
anything and you wouldn't do nothing. So
when Hashem takes a little some things
from you because he wants you to pray.
So many of the time, Hashem takes your
parasa, takes your other half, takes
something in your life, puts it on hold
for you to get to do something.
How many times you did something, you
gave extra charity or another chapter of
the or something cuz you wanted
something to happen in your life.
>> [snorts]
>> So, Hashem is actually using that for to
kind of like pull you, you know, like
you put it in front of an animal, you
put like something and the animal it
goes around. That's what Hashem does
with you.
>> So, next time something is negative in
your life right away, you stop it. It's
not negative. It's the best thing that
ever happened to me. Hashem now sent me
now a clear message where I need to go.
It's the best thing ever. Hashem made a
map to my life. I don't need to think of
anything. Everything is ready for me. I
just need to read the signs. That's it.
Now, if I want to read the signs,
there's only one way you can do it. If
you humble yourself, it's not about what
I think. It's about what Hashem wants.
It's not about what I want. It's what
Hashem wants. That's the I'm talking
about. Somebody comes and insults me.
Hashem wanted me now to be insulted.
Shut up.
You are going to win your eternity if
you just know how to hold your mouth.
Hashem is leading you to the best place
you can reach to the highest level of
your success to a point that you're
going to look back and be like, I cannot
believe what I have achieved.
Therefore, the tools that Hashem is
throwing into your directions are the
best things that ever happened to you.
Whether you lonely, whether you poor,
whether you sick,
I'm not wishing you all that. I'm
wishing you success, health, everything.
I'm wishing you all the best. But the
reality is that when you have some
misfortune,
I see it as where Hashem is putting the
hints on the way for you to figure out
where you're going.
I don't look at the problem and try to
find a solution. I look at the problem
and reverse engineer what Hashem is
telling me because Hashem cannot talk to
you face to face. So he gives you hints
and the hints come through situations
and these situations are your guide.
So first of all in order to summarize
this part of the lecture
everything in your life is to get you to
the world to come to your eternity to
the place where you're going to be
eternity for all you realize what
eternity means. Most people don't
understand that.
I hope you all realize I know it's hard
to swallow that one day you close your
eyes and your eyes open up in a
different place and usually happens like
that. It's not with a preparation.
And a lot of people are afraid of that.
I don't want to die. I'm afraid what's
going to happen.
You wake up from this 70 years dream.
That's what happens. Now, do you want to
wake up from a 70-year nightmare or a
dream?
So, first of all, what you need to do
tonight when you walk out this door,
switch. Switch in your mind. Doesn't
mean that tomorrow you have to become
the Babasali. It means that you need to
have a switch in your mind that every
step that I do is for the end.
The Torah says
in every path that you walk, recognize
Hashem. Yeah. Because that's what takes
you to the place you want to come to. Do
you want to have now a very big meal and
to be hungry for the rest of the week or
you want to eat every day the same
portion?
Don't look at what you lack in this
world. Look at what you gain in the
world to come. Being poor for 20 years
is nothing compared to being poor for
eternity.
So first step you need to apply is the
switch in my mind. Everything that I do
is designing my world to come. Second
thing I need to understand that the ganu
has designed for me the perfect path to
reach to the best option, highest
success. I don't want to change that.
Let me figure out that path. Some of the
paths are very similar. In most of the
cases, it's ups and down and ups and
downs and one time you up and one time
you're down and one time you're good and
one time you bad and happy and sad. And
that's that's the rhythm of life.
And all that again is the khim is the
tools that Hashem gave you to reach to
the next step that you need to reach to.
If you apply that, A, you'll guarantee
yourself a good place in eternity. B,
you guarantee yourself that this life
will be successful according to the
design of Hashem
and you will be happy.
Now comes the big big question. If
everything is predestined,
then why do I need to do anything? Does
my prayer make any difference?
Sometimes I give charity. I mean the
Torah says
I give charity can save me from death.
And we do find many references that when
I do something it does affect me in this
world.
You know that if you give 20%
of what you earn,
the Torah guarantees to you you're going
to be rich.
Who gives your 20% of what they make?
Charity.
Wow. No one. Oh, you're just shy. You
really?
>> Yeah. I'm talking about by the way. Who?
Who? No. No. 20% not 10%.
20% is called the Torah says
give twice%
you'll be rich to a point that Hashem
says test me on this.
You don't have to test Hashem. I'm the
proof. It works. It works.
It actually works. Test Hashem. But I
know for a fact that there's maybe three
people in this room that actually give
masil.
The majority just give saddaka and they
say, "Oh, I give a lot of charity. It's
it's in the 10%."
Wrong.
To give myself, you need to calculate
your income and to calculate your
expenses
and to reach to an amount that is exact.
$37822.
That's the check,
not 400. It's about 10%. So, I'm already
telling you, you're doing it wrong.
Two weeks ago, a week ago, I gave a
class in in in Denver and I explained
about the masot. And I also said that
soon after I returned to Israel, I'm
going to start a whole series of
teaching how to do masot with a lot of
interesting things coming with it.
started developing an app that will help
you calculate the masro
something very very special. I highly
recommend for you to join it and learn
it because that is something you all
don't do
and you're obligated and it's not even
your money.
So going back to what I'm saying, how
the Torah can come and tell me, oh give
more money and you'll be rich. So now I
changed now the the map
or if I go now to some sadik and he
gives me a blessing. How many times you
went to a rabbi he gave you a blessing
and it happened
or how many times you went and it didn't
happen but you still go
but there's a many references in the
Torah that says that if you will do A B
and C it will affect you.
So that totally contradicts what we just
said.
It's extremely important to know that
you have the ability to change things in
this world.
Extremely important.
[clears throat] The structure you cannot
change. Like I told you with the
building, you cannot change the
structure. You don't want to change the
structure. It's extremely not
recommended to do that because the the
suffering that will have to come in that
respect is not worth it. Besides the
fact that you have to understand that
Hashem created the code to the world to
change your part is changing everything.
So Hashem can do whatever he wants.
But you don't want that. You want to
stay with the structure what Hashem gave
you
inside. Then you have a way to affect
it. How I said the design and all that.
I like looking at in a completely
different way.
The origin where you start cannot
change. The destination cannot change.
The path is the you can only go on that
route.
Now imagine that what I said now you're
going on a journey on a train. Train is
very long. You can sit in the front of
the train. You can sit in the back of
the train. You know that if you sit on
the right side of the train, this is
your view. And if you sit on the left
side of the train, this is your view.
Same origin, same destination, same
train, same driver of the train, same
stops, same company, everything is the
same.
That's your journey.
how you walk on that journey. Ah,
you decide where you position yourself.
You can look at this view. You can look
at this view. Shem will give you the
same wife. You can choose that she's the
most amazing woman in the world or you
can choose that she's annoying you.
So, you kind of affecting your marriage.
She's going to be the same wife, same
cooking, same everything. Amazing wife,
less amazing. Good marriage, less good
marriage.
No, it doesn't work like this black and
white because if in the mazal is to have
a bad marriage, it doesn't matter how
much you're going to like her, it's
going to be a mad marriage.
And unfortunately, some people that's
their mazal.
Some people their mazal is to lose a
child
for the person that has to go through
that. Some people their mazal is to lose
their health as they live their life.
They lose an arm, a legal, [snorts]
their eyesight.
Every day there's car accidents. Every
day people change their physical way of
living. That might be the mazal. You
can't change that. So there are many
things in your life that you cannot
change. And the mazal
is very bitter.
Losing a loved one, losing a child,
losing parts of your body, health,
people go through things.
That's the mazal. That's what you have
to go through. Fight it as much as you
want. It's not going to change. So, some
things you cannot change. Sometimes I
look at certain couples and I say
there's no there's no hope. That's your
mazal. Don't get divorced because it's
going to make it worse. Stick with it.
That's what you need to do. Swallow the
pill. I know you don't want to hear it.
That's what you have to hear. And that's
the same thing with parasan. Many many
different things.
But then it leaves me again with the
question. So do I need to pray? Do I not
need to pray? Should I pray? Should I
ask? Should I do anything? There's so
many different remedies. Why is there
remedies?
I will bring it back to the same
example. You're riding on the train. You
can change the view, but the origin and
the destination stays the same. You
choose how you see the view.
So you can come to terms with the fact
that you don't have much money and and
enjoy life in another way. I have a
friend, I mentioned him in my classes so
many times. Brilliant guy for many many
years for about 15 years. every idea
that he had
the next startup ideas you can't even
imagine but brilliant ideas and he
always had the the tools the excitement
he would develop it nothing worked ever
and he would push and push and woo and
you know what it made him do how much he
would pray and how much sedaka he gave
and he did everything because he wanted
the business ventures to be successful
After a decade, he told him, "No
offense, my dear friend. I don't think
your mazal is to be rich or wealthy.
Your mazal, I think, is in a completely
different way. You are bright in the
Torah. You're smart. Your mazal is to
to be in the world of the Torah."
Okay. Our paths
parted for a while. And when I met him
again after a few years,
he told me, "I learn in koh all day
long. I have a wife. I have two girls.
I'm happy." He was just a happy
individual. Took him a long time to
realize that that's his path. Took a lot
of work for him to understand I will not
ever be rich. It's not my mazal to be
rich. It's not my mazal to be the next
startup. You know what the joke is? That
now he's a he sits and learn to all day
long. Could very much be that in 10
years
then he's going to get the money.
Sometimes it's the it's the time when
you get it. If I'm going to give now a
17-year-old $10 million, he'll blow it
up.
So sometimes Hashem says, "You're not
mature to get now the money. You're
going to waste it. You're going to do
nonsense. I have to give it to you when
you're going to be mature.
So, I don't want to go too much with
examples because it's going to waste too
much of our time. I think you get the
idea.
The reason why Hashem tells you to pray
and you hear many remedies and we hear
many references that you can change
things
like I told you you change the view of
your route you change the view of your
path but you don't change the structure
of the map now
is the secret that you need to focus on
the route you cannot change destination
the origin
the form that stays the same. Enjoy it
and not only enjoy it, benefit from it.
Be appreciative. Most people are not
appreciative.
I thank I I thank Hashem for giving me a
good wife. Could have gave me a not good
wife, which I will deal with, but he
spared me and he gave me a very good
wife. Now, if you're looking from the
side as a third party,
you would say, "I don't think she's a
good wife to him." If you would observe
from the side, and if I think about it
in my physical brain, if I would go by
my list of demands, like most men, she
needs to be beautiful and gorgeous and
thin and tall and cook like. And when
you go by the list, it never fits what
you want. I don't I never had a list.
When the Shar came to me, what are you
looking for in your wife? I said, she
needs to be a woman. That's where it
ends.
No, but how you tall, short, I don't
care. [clears throat]
Blue eyes, I don't care how she looks. I
don't care about anything.
Just give me the right wife.
Because of the attitude, the external
part and many others was exact what I
looked for.
And why? Because the map was already
predestined. Which means that Hashem
already programmed in my mind what I'm
going to like, what I'm going to be
attracted to,
what's going to be the points of
interest that will be attracting me to
her. The reality is that my wife holds a
spark that belongs to me. Like godly
spark. So I'm attracted to my wife
because I want that spark,
not because she's beautiful or because
she has beautiful hair or eyes because
that spark. So I didn't look for the
external look. I looked for that spark
that pulls me towards her. And when I
was dating, I didn't care what was the
date.
She's young, old, married, divorced.
My wife 10 years is driving me crazy.
She's like, "You got to do shim."
Yeah, I'm really bored. I have nothing
else to do. But then to deal now with a
bunch of single people.
So she's like, "No, no, you got to do
shim. You got to do shim." So finally,
we got to do it. We developed a very
special software that works in a certain
way. You fill in all your information,
all the questions that the the
application will ask you and it will go
into the database and find the matches
based on all your answers.
But then once the match is in a certain
level, then the Khan will come in and
start doing it manually.
When you're looking from the side, this
software is designed not for your
interest. It's working on a I don't want
to use the word AI, but it's working on
a system that it finds the true match,
not what you see
because you see something that you
you're looking for something you want to
see.
That's not what Hashem wants you to see.
So the right way I'm giving you
constantly examples with my wife.
Nothing wrong with her, by the way. I
love her. She's beautiful. She's
amazing. Cooks great. Everything's good.
By the way, I'm not complaining. She's
an amazing wife. I'm just saying that
how Hashem designed her, he designed her
in a way that I will be attracted to
her. He planted in my mind whatever I
need to be attracted to that woman. And
it works the same way with everything.
If you're destined to live in this
stinky city, then Hashem will make it
for you that you like it here.
The reality is that neither one of you
like it here. You're just stuck here.
I was stuck here for 20 years. Come
tomorrow, I'll teach you how to get
unstuck. But the reality is that if I'm
supposed to live in a certain place,
Hashem will pred pre-programmed it in my
mind that I like the view and I like the
weather. I don't know how you're living
in this weather.
I actually don't know how human beings
live in weather like this. I suffered
when I lived in New York. I actually
suffered when I lived in this country.
that you said. Can you write this for me
now? Go up to Shamine with us.
>> She said that the suffering that I went
through living in New York is reducering
suffering in the world to come. So I
asked her to write that and and sign.
I'll come and show it to God when I go
up. So if this is the case, stay in New
York. You're going to go to
Wherever you're destined to be, whatever
you're supposed to do, Hashem
pre-programs in your mind that you're
going to like it, that you're going to
look for it, that you're going to go
after that. You are attracted to blue,
I'm attracted to green. You are
attracted to to to sweet, I'm attracted
to sour. Whatever it is, it's not you.
It's Hashem leading you where you need
to go.
So you have to bring yourself to a place
of great appreciation to the kindness
and the that Hashem did to you instead
of complaining that your wife is
annoying or your husband is annoying and
your is not doing that well.
When things go bad in my life, I don't
turn to find a solution to the problem
that I have. I read between the lines.
You know, you're very good with doing
this. So start reading between the
lines. Open the lines and liberty
between the lines. If right now I am
lacking parasa and what drives me now to
go and pray more is because I'm lacking
the parasa
now reverse engineer and understand that
hashem is telling you in other words I
need you to pray more that's your for
your you don't pray enough you don't
pray with the right intention you don't
put importance to that so I'm going to
take away something from you so you will
come back to the line where you need to
go to
like the lane assist when the cars you
go off the track then they the system
throws you back into the lane. So 50% of
the things that you've been that Hashem
takes from you is just to get your
attention
just to get your attention. Therefore,
and the holy books tell you something
lacking in your life, increase in
prayer, increase in charity, do chuva.
That's it. Do chuva. Repent for
something you did. That's what I do with
my kids. Now, I'm not an annoying father
that if you do something bad, I take
your your bike. That's not the system.
The system is that I try to teach my
kids what Hashem is teaching us. Take
responsibility for your own actions.
Something is lacking in your life. Don't
pursue what's lacking. Whether it's
money, your other half, a place to live,
you have some type of a deficiency in
your life. Something's lacking in your
life. Don't focus on what's lacking.
Reverse engineer. What is the hint? What
does Hashem want you to do? you have
issues with paranas. Hashem is telling
you maybe you have gazel, maybe you're
stealing something and you're not even
noticing.
Maybe you're not working in in an honest
way. In most of the cases I can tell
you, you're not paying
you are a thief.
You don't have to raise your hand. It's
just for the I want to for the for the
example. Who here has financial
difficulties, struggles? You can raise
your hand. So we can see what's going
on. Only one person.
I didn't see much Mercedes and BMWs
outside.
Anybody here has issues with Parnosa
finding it struggle to make money? Only
two people. I cannot believe. How come
you're not buying all my life if you
have so much money?
I guess you're all shy. It's okay.
If Hashem takes away your parasa or he's
making it difficult for you with your
parasa, with your livelihood and
everything that has to do with your
parasa, it does not mean that your mazal
is to be poor. It means very simple,
Shem wants your attention.
And why does he want your attention?
Because as you're walking on your path,
you are neglecting the true and
important details for your tun.
So he's going to have to help you with
that. If you have problems with your
pan,
you might not be giving charity. You
might might not do give m. Most of you
don't give mas and you are obligated.
It's not your money. You're not giving
that money. You're stealing money from
Hashem. Worst of all, it's not your
money. I know sometimes it's hard. I'm
educating my kids. My kid told me, you
know, I just made 5,000 shekels. You
know, 500 shekels 10% it's a lot. I say,
"Well, sir, thank you. One day you want
to make $1 million." No, you're
dreaming. You're making money. When When
are you going to make that $1 million?
You're going to have to pay $100,000 in
Mel. Are you ready for that? Not so easy
to give 100 grand just like that. It's
not your money. And if you don't give
it, you are a thief. You are stealing
from Hashem. And then you wind it. you
don't have parasa
and that can be one reason out of many.
I'm just trying to enlighten you that
something lacks in your life. It's not
that the mazal or the predestined and
all that is not work. You are doing
something. Now I don't want to take you
to the department that that when you sin
severely
all that you do is you blocking the
abundance the shea to come down to you
through the spiritual channels from the
world above to the world below then
there's nothing wrong with your mazal
there's nothing wrong with what you're
you're predestined you are damaging it
you know there's an application in
Israel it's called bit. You transfer
money. It's kind of like a PayPal. It's
only like a zel. It's like a, you know,
a third party. But when you send me
money with bit, I need to approve it.
Sometimes people send me money and I
didn't get it. You didn't approve it.
Many times Hashem sends you something.
As long as
many of the times when you're lacking
something is you stopping the abundance
from coming down with your sins.
So it's not that something's wrong with
the map or you were predestined.
You are responsible for that.
That's already your sins that you are
stopping the shea and then of course
you're missing parasa health marriage
problems come that's for Hashem to tell
you wake up you you are damaging
something here that's it. So that's one
department.
But in many of the situations, you are
the one who are stopping from getting
what you're supposed to. Whether it's
with your sins or whether with your
decisions.
That's why is required
humility.
Now I want to read to you something very
very powerful and this I think will kind
of conclude for you what what's the
major point that we need to to focus on.
I want to read to you something what
teaches the Rambam Rambam teaches that
inva chapter [clears throat] 5 and he
says something interesting
the choice is give it to every person
if he wants to turn himself to a
righteous path and be at sad
He has his own choice to do that.
If you want to look to the other
direction and be wicked, you have the
choice to do that.
Why is that? Because Hashem wants you to
know with your own understanding and
your own thought that you should
separate between good and bad.
That's what Hashem gave you a free
choice that you can contemplate ah good
bad
and not only that that you should now
choose what you want to do. This is good
this is bad. choose.
Nobody's standing to stop you from doing
the good or the bad.
Him by his own opinion and his own path
and his own decisions, he will choose
the path he goes on.
This is not contradicting what I said
before. The path the mazal is
predestined.
What the raam is just saying is the
analogy I gave you with the train. You
choose if you look to this direction or
you choose to look to that direction.
Where are you positioning yourself on
the train? You looking to the right, you
choose the good or you choose the bad.
The destination will be the same.
The origin was the same. The result is
going to be different. Mainly in the
world to come and some in the world
below.
Now we have to understand that we are
the only creature that was given that
choice. Animals don't have this choice.
A lion doesn't choose if he's going to
eat today pasta or sushi. He goes after
the prayer and that's it. And that's his
nature and you cannot change it. Same
thing with any animal. They don't have a
choice. They eat what they eat. They
grow where they grow. And that's it.
They just function.
Why am I different from every creature?
Cuz I can choose
good or bad.
And this free choice
is and and my actions
are not necessarily contradicting my
path.
And from here comes the entire
fundamental concept of what's called the
sanctuary that the holiness of a human
being that you can choose
and you choose what's good and you
choose what's bad.
And in the reality of this world we see
that we have array of types of
behaviors.
Sometimes I'm nice, sometimes I'm
patient, sometimes I'm sleepy, sometimes
I'm tired, sometimes I'm excited,
sometimes I'm loud. I have many many
ways of ways of expressing myself.
But the person can
express himself and behave like an angel
and be good or express himself the
complete opposite. You choose. It's not
going to change the path you walk on.
It's going to change the result.
Do you understand the difference between
changing the path and changing the
result?
You can change the path. Don't try to
change the path. That is the path. That
is the perfect path for you. You need to
choose as you're walking on this path.
The good and bad. Good and bad. That's
the secret of existence. Hashem created
the world. Put in told them
Eat whatever you want. This tree don't
touch. This is the tree of knowledge.
This is the tree of life.
And the whole concept of ganeden is when
they sinned with the tree of knowledge
is the concept of was called
to
when Adam and Kavas sinned they b
brought down to this world the concept
that there's other than kadusha other
than hashem that there's some things
that are good and some things that are
bad. My job as a human being is to come
to this world and to figure out what's
good and what's bad. So the Torah tells
me this is pure, this is impure. This is
holy, this is not holy, this is kosher,
this is not kosher, this is permitted,
this is not permitted. The entire Torah
is good, bad, good, bad. Now you need to
walk on your path and to do it yourself.
And why
the result
the master of the universe wants to give
you a lot of merit a lot of place in the
place to in the world to come. So he
gave you a lot of Torah and mitzvot.
Why do we come here?
To better our behavior.
That's why we came to this world to make
my midot my attributes and my action
better and that's why I told you in the
beginning the result I started here says
I want you here
then when it comes up to the world above
they show her where where it's holding
we all want to come to Ganedan right
great place to be do you think your
Ganedan is the same Ganedan of Raishimon
No,
by the way is closest to
you now. You're close to me. You see me.
You hear me, you feel me. You at the end
there. Woo.
That's ganed. How close you are to
Hashem. Because the closer you are to
Hashem, you feel him more. You see the
wisdom, you enjoy it. That's it. And gum
is the opposite. how far away you are
from Hashem.
You determine your position in eternity.
Can you understand that? You understand
that? Now you have the ability to
determine your position in eternity.
Now just for the sake of example,
imagine my position in eternity 30 years
ago. Where was it?
The exit.
What can a person do in 20 years?
Can you imagine the position right now
in eternity? A little bit better than
how it was 25 years ago.
Now, when I'm looking at this business
transaction, I'm like, "Oh, so you're
telling me that if I learn another hour,
a whole hour, my position in the world
to come will be here?
I don't want to do this cuz this doesn't
get me anywhere. I want to learn that
our Torah.
Forget about how it's affecting my life
right now.
The reality is your your behavior does
affect your life. I like bringing myself
to the place that I'm not dependent on
that. I don't wait for that. I do what I
need to do
not to get parasa.
I don't give charity to get parasa. I
give charity to have a better place in
the world to come. I don't learn to or
come and kiss the or whatever it is to
figure out the situation.
I do that because I want a place in the
world to come.
>> The reality I do that because that's
what making Hashem happy.
>> That's what I want. I want to make
Hashem happy. I made him miserable with
my 27 years of horrible behavior. It's
time to give him some for all the good
that he does to me. I want to give him
something in this world. So to have in
your back on your mind, I don't want
reward in this world. I just want to
make Hashem happy. The reality is that
you get everything that you want when
you want to make Hashem happy. You're
like the number one child. When was the
last time you thought of, "Oh, how can I
make Hashem happy?"
Ask yourself this question right now.
Have you ever even asked yourself this
question? What can I do to make Hashem
happy? He gives me food. He gives me
water. He gives me sustenance. He gave
me a wife. He gave me kids. He gives me
happiness, health, clothes, everything.
I need to do something. I want to do
something. Doesn't it make you want to
do something to Hashem?
That's the attitude.
So going back, why are we created? Why
we did were we brought to this world
to refine your midot your attributes and
my actions. If you behave the same
today, how you behave 20 years ago,
you wasted 20 years of your life.
I told you some faces I recognized from
10, 15 years ago. Some look the same,
some changed.
The question is, how long is this
challenge? The gone from VNA says
till the last day of your life, you're
going to have to fight this. But now
listen to the most important message.
what they going on from illnesses
means to go through hardship. But he
adds on that
is not expecting you to fast and to do
all sorts of torturing to yourself.
Just controlling your mouth and your
desires.
That's the name of the game. controlling
your mouth
and
your desires and the gna says that's
chuva that's chuva
are you doing that no
that's the fruit to the world to come
master that
you are fulfilling your purpose your
purpose is not to be a doctor or a
lawyer or whatever you want to
That's your mazala. That's a piece of
tool to help you get to where you need
to go to.
So to summarize what you need to know
first is your attitude is your how you
see things your approach and the
approach has to be very simple. Focused
on myab that's it
>> mayaba may the world to come. You know
that one day eyes close it can happen to
you tomorrow. I wish for your long life
and I wish for Mashiah to come and we're
not going to have to die. But the sad
reality is that people die every day
from car accidents, diseases. All day
long I hear people die.
Horrible things and many of the deaths
are instant. You didn't have time to say
goodbye.
Literally a few weeks ago,
friends of ours, the child goes on a how
do you call them? These scooters,
electric scooter,
21 year old boy. He falls. There's a
pothole in the street. He falls, hits
his head somewhere, internal bleeding,
dies.
Now, what happens to that man the second
that that he dies? You think that he
wakes up and [applause] all the angels
from Jamaim are waiting for him?
Most people they that's the point they
realize that they messed up.
So the outlook the focus
is I want to do the good in the eyes of
Hashem. I need to do what Hashem wants
me to do. That's why I was brought to
this world. Not to eat, not to drink,
not to vacate, not to drive beautiful
cars, not to enjoy po procreating, is to
serve Hashem.
And when I do it the right way, I will
get what I need,
not what I want. what I need
my end goal is to come to the world to
come much better than how I came to this
world that's what my goal that's what my
my oath that I took I asked that you did
our soul asks to come down here and to
refine itself when it sees
a soul can be in ganed here it realizes
that if it do does one little mitzvah it
can go to the next ganedan Oh,
how I see Ganed Eden is like a long big
big big building. I just came now to New
York from sunny Florida. I don't know
why you don't live there.
Well, I will recommend to live in
Israel, but who needs all the these
coats? Beautiful place.
And I drove on the shore. Beautiful
buildings. And I looked at the buildings
and I was like, this is Ganedin, not
Florida. the buildings because we all
come to live in the same Ganedin. Some
of us live on the second floor, some of
us live on the 10th floor, and some of
us live on the 40th floor. So the second
floor, a two-bedroom apartment facing
the gar the garbage bins.
That's your
But there's somebody who worked much
harder in this world and he's on the
10th floor. four bedroomedroom
apartments and a nicer view.
And somebody worked even more hard in
this world and he's in the 20th floor,
six bedrooms, view to the beach. And
some people live in the penthouse,
threef flooror penthouse, indoor pool,
outdoor pool, view from
same building. Everybody's in the same
building, same door, man. Just that some
people are on the top and some people
are on the bottom. You know what happens
onesh
there's a party in the penthouse
the ganedon
is opened for all the to come up for a
glimpse in ganedon how it looks so you
are all invited to the penthouse to a
party
caviar champagne beautiful everything
gorgeous Monday enjoy now go down
can you imagine what's going on in the
thought process of that soul. I want to
be in this ganedin.
Ah, but you were too lazy complaining
all day long and you didn't bother to
learn Torah, give charity, do acts of
kindness. You just went like this all
day long. So you're in the third floor
with a view to the garbage bin. Same
building.
And you had the opportunity throughout
your life to grow to the 10th floor, to
the 20th floor, to the 30th floor.
Your life won't change. It will be the
same life, same husband, same house,
same problem, same issue, same kids,
same same.
What did you do to change?
The focus is on the end result. That's
the focus.
What do I need to focus on? Only on
Hashem. Not on my misery,
not on my misfortune, not on my sadness,
not on my singleness, not on anything. I
focus on Hashem
what Hashem wants me to do. First do
what you are asked to do then complain.
Do you do what Hashem asked you to do?
You didn't. So don't complain.
Now of course many will say ah I know
many people who follow the Torah
forbidden and they also suffer. That's
their mazal. I know people who follow
the Torah and they're very successful
and everything is great. Half of our
sages were wealthy, successful, and half
of the sages were poor.
That's the mazali
was very wealthy.
That was his mazal. Did he make him less
of a rabbi? No. Did he make him less of
a made him a better? He took the tool
that Hashem gave him to apply for his
tikun.
Rebusha was very poor. very poor to a
point that he didn't even have he was
sleeping on on crates. po. You think he
saw poverty? He didn't see poverty.
When they asked him, "How can you live
so poor?" He's like, "I'm poor." I'm not
poor.
Everything that you go through in your
life is the tools to bring you to your
destination. You can be ignorant and
ignore it and suffer because you're
going to bring on yourself much more
suffering because you're not going on
the right path. So Hashem closes all the
doors so you to wake up to go back on
your path and do chuva. So many of your
misfortune is Hashem just taking your
lollipop away so you can get your act
together.
But don't be mistaken because a lot of
the misfortune that is the mazal and it
won't change and don't fight it. And if
you want clarity if that's the mazal
then you need to spiritually refine
yourself. You cannot see Hashem's e er h
erh signs if you're not spiritually
refined. So if you look at the wrong
places, don't think you're going to be
refined. And if you listen to the wrong
things like or whatever, don't you're
not going to be refined.
And then it means you're not going to
see the signs of hashem. What did he
tell us the gna?
Control your mouth
>> and your
that is what you need to focus on. Most
people don't know how to control their
mouth. Not with not with foul language,
not with anything, not with how they
eat, not with anything.
So when you're wondering if your life
can change, yeah, yeah, you can affect
your life with good things, with bad
things,
the route cannot be changed. Don't try
to change it. Don't pray to change it.
Don't ask to change it. Don't work to
change it.
Walk humbly on the path you need to walk
on. Have in your mind that my highest
priority is what Hashem wants me to do.
That's the mantra I have in my mind in
every situation that I get into. What
does Hashem want me to do right now? He
wants me to laugh. He wants me to be
quiet. He wants me to be patient. He
wants me to be proactive. What does he
want me to do? And you know how I get my
answer? Not because I go to some rabbi
and he tells me I work on myself. I
refine myself. So the answer comes very
simple. And how do I refine myself
besides on a daily base that if the
situation that I'm dealing with right
now brings me to a place of anger? Then
I need to refine myself. Don't get
angry. Don't use foul language. Don't be
judgmental. Be patient. Work on
yourself. The situation will work out.
Why get angry? I had a situation two
days ago that I had all the rights to be
angry. I was 100% right. I had the
choice to scream, to yell, to be not
nice, to be rude. Now, what would be the
result? You think the other person would
help me? You think the other person will
work to my favor? You think that I'm
doing any kushem here? Or maybe I'm
doing
I don't impulsively react. I kind of
wait to see what does Hashem want.
So this the order is very simple because
you need to have it set very well in
your mind when you're leaving the door
tonight because Malik is waiting
outside. It's like what is it 32 degrees
outside? It's freezing. That's what
Malik does.
He freezes you. So is waiting outside to
freeze you, to make you forget, to make
you calm, to make you ignore. But you
need to have a few set points in your
mind when you leave this door tonight.
It's all about my amaba. It's all about
my spirituality. It's all about what
Hashem wants. That's where it boils down
to. And you don't need to have a long
beard. I know what a lot of people say,
"Oh my god, he wants me to be a
religious." Now, I didn't tell you to be
religious. I told you to walk on the
path you need to walk on. You don't have
to have a long beard or to be super
duper observant to understand that that
is the truth. If you argue with it, good
luck. And it doesn't matter if you're
observant or nonobservant. If you're
Ashkanazi, Safari, Jew, no, it doesn't
matter. It's the same thing. Doesn't
matter who you are. If you don't live
with this understanding from this door
tonight, you wasted your time. That's
the understanding that you need to go.
That's what needs to motivate you. That
what needs to drive you. my spiritual
place, my spiritual result, the end
result.
Rule number one. Rule number two, the
mazal that Hashem gave you, don't try to
change it. Hashem designed it perfectly
for you.
For you. Exactly what your nishama
needs. If your nishama needs more money,
less money, nicer house, less nicer
house. Exactly like what this lady said.
Many of the sufferings that I'm going in
this world is to clean me. Why are you
trying to save that?
You know that most of the problems that
you go through is to clean your sins
that you don't know how to do. You can't
even do.
You sin many.
And even in a previous life, Hashem
says, "I will bring some suffering to
you. It will wash off the dirt." Shut
up.
You ever saw dirty clothes? A little kid
goes out to the mud comes out. The
clothes full of mud. You need to wash it
with hot water. Put chemicals. Well, I
don't do chemicals. You can do vinegar.
You can do lemon. You can do many
healthy things. Don't put the the what
they you buy here, Tide Schmid, full of
chemicals. Don't do that.
Bad. Take care of yourself. But
nevertheless, the washing machine
removes all the stains. So now comes and
tells you, "I'm going to put you in the
washing machine." You say, "I don't want
to."
So just know some of your sufferings
you. It's you. Don't complain. When I go
through something, I right away look at
myself. First of all, I look at myself.
Maybe I did something wrong. And most of
the times I find that I did something
wrong. And in a very humble way, I do
show up. That's it. If I can find that I
did something wrong, then I take into
consideration that this is removing now
sins and dirt from my soul that I don't
know or I can't do. Well, it doesn't
matter how much Shuva I'm going to do,
it's not going to work. I have to go
through suffering. Suffering washes the
soul. When you do sins, you damage the
garments on the soul. like you put now
I'll eat now a pa with humumus all over
my my suit you think it's nice me coming
now to lecture and having here ketchup
no you want to walk into Grenedan with
dirty garments no Hashem says I'll wash
you
so when I don't see a cause for my
suffering meaning my behavior then I
know
that's why I say you say accept the
hardship with love Hashem is cleaning
you is doing you a favor got up, be
humble, and accept it. And when you
smile, the process goes faster.
And if those two don't apply, then
Hashem needs your attention.
Something goes wrong, red lights,
you're running out of fuel, the the
light is blinking, running out of oil,
the engine heats. Don't you want warning
lights? So, all these are warning
lights.
Then Hashem is warning you. Whoa, whoa,
whoa, whoa, whoa. Something's going on.
Let let me reverse engineer.
That's your challenges. So the path you
can't change. Don't try to change. Stay
on the path. Learn the path very well.
Learn yourself. Most people don't even
know what they need to do. What's your
difficulties? What's your challenges?
Where do you need to refine yourself?
And everything you need to get get
better.
that I cannot tell. You need to know
where you're lacking and you need to
constantly strive to become a much
better person, much better husband, much
better neighbor, much better everything.
So the structure you don't change most
of the stuff you don't change and you
don't want to change. The reason why
many people pray and give charity and do
all these remedies
is not for you to change the path.
It's for you to remove the blockages of
what you created with your sins.
If you sin over and over and over and
over and over, and I'm not judging
anybody. I sin, too.
We all sin. And
don't b don't be hard on yourself. Learn
how to fix it. If you sin and then you
go to the next sin, you lost. If you sin
and you do chuva and you return, that's
what Hashem wants.
So I cannot change the path but the
prayers that I'm required to do and the
charity and the remedies and all these
things that I'm that's chuva
that's chuva for the damages that you
did. Now in many of the cases you feel
that it changed something but that what
how it's supposed to be.
Imagine in your mazal you have to be
very wealthy and you sin all day long.
You steal you
everything. You damaged all the channels
of your blessing so you don't get your
money
right. But in your mazal you're supposed
to be rich. Do chuva p the shea start.
So you saying oh my god the blessing of
that rabbi worked.
No it didn't. You did chuva. You
reversed the situation. Now you're
getting what you're supposed to get.
Many of what you don't have. It's
because you create a situation that
you're stopping from the blessing to
come.
And Hashem created that system not to
torture you. It's for you to understand.
For you to understand, oh, I'm missing
this. This is not working. Let me see.
Maybe I'm doing something wrong.
So when you ask yourself, is everything
predestined? Yes.
Is everything decided for you? Oh yeah.
You'll bet you how much everything is
decided to you to a point that half of
your thoughts, desires and hopes and
dreams and plans, Hashem puts it in your
brain. You didn't do anything. You
didn't come up with a bold idea. I would
actually be nice and more accurate of
saying that 90% of what's going on in
your mind, Hashem plants it there and
puts you in the situation to manipulate
your opinion and thought in order to
test you if you choose good and bad.
But on the whole, Hashem blesses you
with a lot of things. You are the ones
who kind of affect it. Now I want to add
one more important thing and then we can
end and I'll take your questions.
What happens on
that I'm taught that on everything is
decided.
Whoa.
Did you just say
who's going to leave? Who's going to
die? So it's decided on it wasn't
decided when I was a drop.
And Roshana you can change the entire
year.
So to simplify it, you do not change
your mazal. You do not change your path.
You don't change anything.
On Rosh Shana is decided your
challenges. The levels of your
challenges.
That's really what's decided on Roshana.
What are going to be your challenges? We
all have to go through challenges. Are
they going to be this big? this big
financial health what are going to be
your struggles and that needs to teach
you that the majority of your struggles
are just the tool for your exercise
that's it
your spiritual exercise of course
because if I need to work on my prayers
I don't prayer enough or I don't pray
the right way then Hashem is going to
take something out of my life he'll
choose a woman money parasa p some
lawsuit some neighbors like this to get
my attention.
If I'm smart, I reverse engineer what
Hashem wants from me and then I just
apply it. Now, if I would do it without
the test, then Hashem wouldn't test you
on that.
So, I gave you enough information to
understand simple information, simple
key points.
Everything is predestined. Everything is
decided by Hashem. You have no say here.
Don't try to say, don't try to argue.
It's the best thing that Hashem decides
what's best for you and that is the best
for you. Which means that anything that
you're going against you, not only that,
you're not walking on your path. You
won't be successful.
You'll finish the the race,
you think you were successful, they'll
tell you, "Sorry, you didn't do it
right." You trust me, you don't want to
get to that point. I know a lot of
people who will come up to Shamim
because they think and they they think
they're doing great because they prayed
three times a day and they ate kosher
and observe Shabbat and and did
everything. But while they were praying,
while [snorts] the fain was on their
head every day, they would talk and talk
and do business in the
path of the Torah, which they think they
did it right, they messed it up somehow.
And then they come up to Shamim after
120 years and they tell them you were a
great Jew but you messed it up.
You turn.
What you need to nail down is a very
important fact that you don't have time.
You're running out of time.
And it's not to scare you or to put you
under pressure. Is rather to make you
understand that time is of the essence.
There's a lot more what to do. There's
no time. So don't waste your time on
Instagram. Don't waste your time on Tik
Tok. Don't waste your time on running
after nonsense that doesn't give you
anything. Not satisfaction, not wealth,
not knowledge. Value your time.
Understand that every second that Hashem
gives you is for your benefit. Hashem
will cater to you every day all the
medicines you need to do to cure your
soul. And if today I need to be lonely,
that's to cure your soul. And if today I
need to struggle with whatever, it's for
me to go to the next level. If you don't
focus on that, you're missing the point.
The only things that you can change with
your prayer, with your charity, with
great actions
is the reversing of all the stains that
you created. Don't think that you are
changing your path. In order for you to
change a certain path, you need such a
miracle. And it needs to fit well with
Hashem's plan. Now, I can tell you
already when Hashem created the world,
he already created to every situation
20 backup plans that if something
changes,
the whole gosh changes with gazillion
details. So, it's very dynamic, but the
structure doesn't change.
What you want to try to do is to try to
figure out that structure. What does
Hashem, what's the structure that Hashem
want for me? Do I need to focus on these
things, those things? It all boils down
to your chuva and how you are designing
your path to walk in to the world to
come. And when you will walk there, you
will see that the predestined map that
Hashem created was designed custom for
you with all the details that you need
to. So all is required from you is to
just open your eyes and to see where is
Hashem trying to thank you
not to be judgmental. Why do you think
the Mishna tells you
why judge every person favorably?
Because most people are messages for you
are mirrors for you. And if you judge it
favorably that person, then that mirror
helps you. And if you're very judgmental
towards that mirror, then it doesn't
help you. Then you kind of walking in
circles and you're walking on a conveyor
belt. You the destination is so far. Now
when your indication when you're doing
good is that you're spiritually happy.
If you wake up happy,
then you know that you're walking on the
right path. If you wake up not happy,
start asking yourself questions. And
it's not because you do have money or
don't have money or you're single or
you're not single or you married your
child or you didn't marry your child.
That's not making you happy or unhappy.
What makes you happy is you're in a sh.
If you are constantly in a state of true
happiness with money, without money,
single, poor,
it's because your nama is happy.
And every word that I'm telling you, I
tried it. I I [clears throat] I practice
it. I wake up happy. There are days that
I wake up less happy. And I don't blame
it on my misfortune. I blame it that I
did something that my nishama is
speaking to me.
I'm constantly
observing my emotions. That's my nishama
talking.
So now you have the last factor here.
You understood now all the steps. Now is
how you decide to walk on the path that
Hashem gave you. Are you going to walk
on it
straight back, proud, strong,
determined, happy, appreciative?
thankful.
How are you walking on this path? When
was the last time you thanked Hashem?
>> I know a lot of people say every second,
but I only heard three people saying
every second. The 3,000 people didn't
say every second. When you're going like
this, you're not thanking Hashem. But
nevertheless, I'm not. By the way, it's
very important that you understand I'm
talking to a large crowd here. Not
everything that I say applies to you. I
know a lot of people say I know a lot of
people pray. I know a lot of people are
on the right path. Don't don't don't
think my words so personal.
But the fact is
that most people are not so grateful to
Hashem.
Now you know it's very easy to thank
Hashem when things go well. Do you thank
Hashem for the bad things?
>> Hashem happy to hear. You have to be
appreciative. So what you need to decide
right now is how are you walking on the
path? That's it. The path is there. You
can't change it.
You need to know how I walk on the path.
Now just to elaborate on one more thing
like in ways sometimes there are three
paths you choose the long one the short
one the expensive one
but sometimes the expensive one makes it
shorter.
So the path is designed
how you walk on the path that's your
choice. When you are asking about free
choice, Hashem gives you free choice to
choose to do the good thing or to choose
to do the less good things.
Unfortunately, many choose to do the
wrong things. Be smart.
Use the information we spoke about
today. Take advantage of the fact that
today,
and I'm not exaggerating or trying to
make it sound better,
is the time when you can set new
beginnings. It's the it's the head. It's
not the beginning of the month. It's not
called, it's called.
Now, every month has certain attributes,
certain energy. The month of Adal has
strong power, very strong power to
activate miracles. And by the way, a
miracle
is when the path changes
that Hashem upgrades the path and
decides this path was good up until now.
I'm adding two factors here
that you can do in that you can do in
everything you flip it. Now on most of
the cases you're not changing the path.
You're just changing the attitude
walking on the path. So take advantage.
It's a very powerful night. Very
powerful night. And tomorrow too.
And the whole month is powerful that you
have the ability of changing something.
That's the power of ad.
So it's your choice. You have here
another choice how you walk out of the
room.
I hope you're going to choose the right
thing. I hope you're going to walk out
of this door and understand that you've
been walking on the path the wrong way.
Minor adjustments and you're walking on
the path the right way. When you walk on
the path the right way doesn't mean
you're going to be ripping rewards every
day. You might be going through a lot of
hardship for 10, 20, 30 years. The
ripping of the rewards is at the end. I
don't look for blessing in this world. I
ask for Hashem. Please give me good
kids. Please give me please give me
health. Please I I hope that's the
but whatever you give me, I'll deal with
it. And I'm humble enough to understand
that I I I don't ask for presence. I
don't have a wish list. I don't pray for
things. I pray what tells me to pray and
that's it. I don't really pray for
myself
because I don't want anything. I don't
need anything. I want just give me what
I need. That's it. And I have ups and I
have downs. But I have one thing that
hopefully that's what's going to be when
you walk out of this door. I'm focused.
I don't let myself get distracted
because when I'm distracted, I'm not
focused on what I need to do. And this
world is about distracting you. That's
why we all in mit. That's why the entire
Torah is talking about mit. That's why
all our blessings, all our prayers is
all about EVERYTHING. MIT.
WHY?
Because we're all in mit. We are all in
a state of limitation. And Hashem wants
me to rise up by myself and go out of my
mit.
that you need to do 20 times a day. But
there's the power of that doesn't allow
you to do that. He's the king of mit in
Hebrew is written
same letters switch the order
distraction. That's the that's what Po
is here for to distract you. Throws at
you all the time. Catch catch catch.
You need to be focused. I don't let po
distract me. Leave him there. I'm
focused on Hashem. You focus on Hashem,
you walk on your path. I'm not
guaranteeing success. I'm guaranteeing
results. You walk on the path, you'll
get results.
So, I want to wish you and bless you
that you're going to walk successfully
on your path.
>> Hashem should bless you with
>> that you should see the path, recognize
the path, understand what Hashem wants
from you, and know
to hold your mouth and to hold your
desires and by that you're going to do
chuva. By that you're guaranteed a place
in the world to come. More important,
you're making Hashem happy.
>> I wish you all the best. Thank you for
coming and please
[applause]
wait. I said please and you didn't
listen. First of all, uh before you
leave, where anybody has questions,
we're going to stay here for a few
minutes for questions. But please, on
your way out, I have brought my wine
from Israel. I have addition wines,
special wine for Purim, special wine for
Pesak. On your way out, please find your
way.
>> Thank you very much. So, you can ask
why. So,
>> I didn't say to ask. I didn't say you
can't ask. Why?
>> How long should we be in the state of
depression if we're
>> not even one second?
>> I want to ask you.
>> No, no. One should not be in a place of
depression and I don't ask qu you know
what there's certain questions that I
ask there's one question no no no that's
the worst question the one of the worst
questions is why doesn't matter what
comes after the why if it's a me or you
don't ask why cuz 99% of the times you
won't get an answer the next question I
don't ask is what if because it doesn't
matter it's irrelative the only question
that I ask myself is what do I need to
do to change the situation and the
answer that I always get is not on the
topic that I'm focusing on. And Hashem
works in a way that kind of like in
Chinese medicine. It hurts here. Press
here. So something's going on here.
Well, that's the problem.
>> No questions.
>> Humility.
>> Takes time.
>> Not next time. This time.
>> Oh, takes time.
>> Yeah.
>> And unfortunately, you don't have much
of it.
>> We're running out of time.
>> Question. You have a
>> I prayed.
But uh how many didn't pray?
>> H there's a minan forit.
>> So men who didn't pray, let's make a
minion on the side.
>> What's the name of the app for dating
app?
>> It's not released yet.
>> Oh, the dating app. I thought the mas
app. It's still it's now sitting on it.
It's not separate yet.
>> Quick quick questions of clarification.
Um so before
We're not supposed to benefit from from
this world because we got this vault
like gold in the table. Okay. But
that says that Hashem asks us like why
did you enjoy my world? So to enjoy the
pleasures of the world and the fruits
and the
you know the
>> you you just answered your own question.
No no you just said the
enjoy what Hashem gives me.
>> Okay. Enjoy. Enjoy the benefits of this
world that takes me to the world to
come. Enjoy the food. You said enjoy. I
gave you food say
don't go like a kazer and eat
>> right.
>> Enjoy it. Not because it's tasty because
I can see a blessing.
>> So you drink the water because you want
to make a shahak, not because you have
to fulfill your title.
>> Correct.
>> Okay. And then the second one I had was
um Mosher who was called he's not called
because he taught us humiliation.
The thing is he actually did accept
>> he tried. That's his he did his effort.
to a point thinking that he can change
something as Mosher Rabenu and Hashem
wanted to make sure that in the Torah
everybody knows that even Mosher Rabenu
is even he
wants in the Torah for us to learn
everything. So he gave one opportunity
for Mosher Rabenu not to succeed that we
should understand that even a Mosher
Rabenu can get can get a can get a
that's not in your path. It's not your
mazalan.
>> Okay. And so the question I guess then
the question is how do you know when to
try to change something?
>> I said
we're supposed to change the not the
mistake you've been making. Yeah.
Shut up. Instead, it's not
>> the
>> Sorry. Go back for the last things.
>> So, if I understand correctly, I'm not
trying to push in this.
>> Oh, no. No. Okay. What I wanted to
answer you, you asked, how do I know
when and how and what? I I answered that
before. You need to refine yourself and
when you refine yourself then the answer
comes very clear.
>> And then also what about divorce?
Because if you're divoicing something
>> no no no when it comes to divorce the
problem is that in our generation
let's be nice and say 50% of the
marriages started by not being the right
marriage.
>> Right? But how that she was gorgeous, he
was rich, the parents said whatever it
is
>> whatever it is if it's whether it's a
secular world, religious world, even in
you know many I know I see inidic world
that they was just forced on. So when it
comes to marriages that's a whole
different thing because if it's not the
right person then get divorced
then get divorced and unfortunately many
many many
choose the wrong person based on some
mistake but even in many of the cases
that was the path they were supposed to
>> mistake of course. Exactly.
>> Yeah.
>> On the day you will die. That was plan
A.
>> Exactly. So what's the what's the idea
behind is that if I'm already trying to
change your I can't change. I mean
>> the thing is that Hashem constantly
wants you to focus on what he's trying
to tell you. So in many of the cases
let's say this divorce that is the path
that the person was supposed to walk on
and why and how and it's irrelevant but
it doesn't mean that okay now I'm
suffering in a marriage I'm going to
tickle myself suffering for the rest of
my life. Most people come and say how do
I know right now if that's my other half
and I need to be in this marriage and
try to make it work or just to say it's
not my other half that did sometimes in
many of the cases people get married for
them to bring a child to the world and
then they they they separate when in
certain situations you need good clarity
then I find that you humble yourself you
pray you and I do other things and
Hashem gives me the answer.
>> What do you do?
I usually stay up all night and learn
Tawra.
>> That's what the Zor says.
>> If you learn you stay up all night,
>> which is you you're taking sleep. That's
you know most people don't like doing
that and you learn to but you learn
Torah. You don't watch Netflix. Learn
Torah all night and then without some
intention just learn Torah all night and
pray it first thing in the morning after
you prayer you I ask Hashem and the
answer comes and it comes in many
different ways. Do
>> you learn the topic questions about
>> sometimes? Amen.
Amen.
>> Amen. The clarity, the answers come in
many forms. Comes in dreams. It's