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Lecture
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good evening. Good evening everyone.
I'm very happy to see you all came for
the lecture of Rabbi Alonava
to have the rabbi if I'm not wrong um
third here is coming here already. So uh
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Shàu everybody
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So thank you so much beautiful
community. This is already what third or
fourth time?
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>> third time hashem. So third time is a
charm.
So we're going to have a very very uh
interesting lecture tonight with
uh we're going to make it short and to
the point.
So we thought of many different things
what we're going to talk about
but
I felt that it would be appropriate
to talk a little bit about parasa about
moneym
I get hundreds if not thousands of
messages every day I don't process the
messages I can't even process so many
messages but from all social media and
WhatsApp and emails and so much going on
that hundreds of messages funnel into my
system every day
and I would say that a large amount of
them is people seeking for guidance and
some type of help because they're having
struggle with their palnasa with making
ends meet making money. It seems like
the majority of people around the world
that's something that bothers them 24/7.
Now we have to look a little bit deep
into the concept about parnas because
when you really think about it,
we kind of live to make money to support
ourselves. That's the majority most
people. You stop living, you stop
working, how you going to live, how you
going to pay rent, how you going to get
food, the system is made in such of a
way that whether you want it or not,
you're going to have to work.
Now, if you are already very advanced
and you own
and you farm your own food and that's
how you uh eat and feed your family and
you somehow got to a point that you own
the land, you have everything all set
up, you still need to work the land
unless you have some workers doing that.
But either way you're looking at it, it
seems like Hashem created a system that
most of our life we have to be occupied
with how we taking care of ourselves,
which is kind of a doesn't make sense
because Hashem wants us to be close to
him. He wants us to pray and learn and
practice the Torah and the mitzvah. But
if all day long I'm busy with how am I
making money, then where exactly do I
have time to apply my life in the Torah?
So why would Hashem do such a thing? It
doesn't make even sense. Hashem should
give me all the time in the world so I
can wake up in the morning and pray long
two hours, 3 hours, no pressure, learn
after that 2, three hours Torah, go
home, eat something, go back and learn.
I mean, you would think that Hashem
would plan a system that I can just
serve him in the best way possible.
So originally, that was the plan. By the
way, the original plan was that was
supposed to be in Ganed and then not
worry about anything.
Eat from whatever you want. Whatever I
gave you here, you can eat.
And the fruit in the Ganed in I don't
know if they call the Garden of Eden,
but Ganeden,
the fruit there is not what you buy here
in Costco that tastes like plastic.
Every piece of fruit was real fruit from
Ganedan.
All he had to do is just
do a few acts and you are free to to
serve Hashem.
We know the story. Don't have to repeat
the story.
Adam Kavas sins. We're not coming and
pointing fingers at this point. We're
just trying to make a to understand
what's going on. Adam Kavasin
happened to be that the serpent also
joined forces here. So, Hashem curses
everyone that is
participating in the sin. The serpent
gets 10 curses. Kava gets 10 curses.
Gets 10 curses. And the land also gets
10 curses. Total of 39 kilot
all written in the Torah. It's not
something that you need to look in the
commentary or in books of Cababala. It's
all listed in the Torah.
And one of the curses that Adaman got is
that you're going to have to work sweat
in order to earn money.
You are familiar with many of the other
curses.
Going to be sorrow for you to carry a
baby. nine months and then go into
labor. You know when Mashiah is going to
come, a woman will be pregnant for 9
minutes,
>> no pain,
>> no pain, no everything will be great.
So we do understand that after the sin
of which everybody who was involved here
got punished
and one of the curses that got is
the curse so to say of your
going on good you messed it up now
you're going to have to work. So we can
already put the the first stop is we
know where it started from.
But that still doesn't explain to me
why, who, when, and what. I always asked
why is it so hard for every individual
to do to make money? Why is it not easy?
Why is it have to come with a lot of
struggles? Now again, you can blame it
on big things such as politics,
uh maybe a war, a president that does
certain things. I mean this this is fake
excuses. We're not looking to base this
class on uh what's going on in a country
that I live in. If the country is doing
good, the country is not doing good and
that is right now not our topic because
one can say listen you know the economy
is not do good so right now I'm not
making money.
That's not the topic we're going to
focus on. We want to more pinpoint
a why do I need to work for my
sustenance? What's the system behind it?
Because I understand from my
understanding Hashem should give us all
the needs that we h that we need just
give it to us so we can serve him.
I can already answer that that that's
going to happen when Mashiach comes. We
had it when Adamish was created. Since
Adam and his wife sinned, then we lost
it till Mashiach will come. But the good
news is when Mashia is going to come,
Hashem is going to set up the system
that you have 24 hours a day free to
serve Hashem. You don't have
you don't have bothering of your of your
how to make money.
And you know what? A lot of people might
say, I have no issues with money. I'm
making good parnasai. Sometimes better,
sometimes less. But you know, I'm not in
a level of poverty.
But even to those individuals, the
parasa doesn't come easy necessarily.
Sometimes you have to put 18 hours a day
of work. Why don't you do it in three
hours? Besides the fact not everybody's
equal and not everybody has to share the
same challenges. Although with panas,
everybody shares it.
saying that even if you're lucky and
you're good and you're making [snorts]
good money then
then you'll have a lot of problem you're
going to have a lot of worries because
when you have a lot of money comes with
a lot of worries especially if you own
properties and many other things like
that I have a a friend who had a very
good business transaction he sold his
company that he built for whatever 40
years and he sold it for like 480
million shekels
you know you get such an amount
overnight
and of of course with all sorts of
benefits and that. So all day long he's
worried what are you going to do with
the money? What where am I going to put
the money? Where am I going to invest
the money? What should I invest it here?
Should I invest it in Bitcoin? Should I
invest it? Every time every two days I
get a phone call. WHAT SHOULD I DO WITH
my money? I told them I'm a rabbi. I'm
not an accountant. Why you keep calling
me? No, you you see things. That's what
you see things. I don't see anything. I
see a fool with a lot of money. That's
what I see.
>> Yeah, that's what I told him. put the
money aside and go and learn Torah. But
even when sometimes you see a person
gets a lot of money, then the kadu will
take care of it that the person will be
challenged with a lot of worries and a
lot of
as ourim say in the Mishna. So a we want
to understand what's behind the system
and b practically what do I need to do?
That's the purpose of our class and
bantem we should do it straight into the
point and all of you are going to leave
tonight with a recipe how tomorrow
you're making a lot of money and uh and
uh I would recommend to also write the
headlines of what I'm talking about
because a lot of it will just be
practical things
before we start it's very important to
understand the concept that onsh
each and everyone one of us. And it
doesn't matter if you are a Jew or
non-Jew, it's included everybody in the
world because Shah the master of the
universe blesses the entire world with
everything that it's going to need for
the next coming year
on Shana. The godly light that sustained
and created the world for the last year
goes back to its source and a new light
comes down to the world. So we have 48
hours that the world is kind of in
limbo.
>> There's no there's no real to the world.
There's no life force to the world yet.
The world is kind of on hold.
Everything is being judged from human
beings to inanimates. Everything.
And everything is decided for that year.
What's going to happen? How we read in
the text when we pray?
Who's going to be poor? Who's going to
be rich?
Who's going to live? Who's going to die?
Everything is decided on including your
partners. How much money you're going to
make? How hard you're going to have to
work for that.
Everything is decided even beyond the
money. What is decided is also how much
challenges you're going to have that
year and if the challenges are going to
be with money or not.
So inshah if you really care about your
parasa shah is the time to pray for the
master of the universe that I need
parasa
and just to say the to say it as a side
note the koshbu is not interested in
making any one of you poor that's not
part of the plan could be in many
situations a tikun a rectification that
needs to be done from a certain sin that
will bring poverty to a person but Other
than that, Hashem doesn't have the
interest of making anyone poor.
I will right away redirect the the
finger at the person is responsible for
his own actions
with an exception that there are
situation that a person's mazal is not
to have money.
The mazal is not the luck that you go
with it to Vegas. Mazal means the the
spiritual DNA of your path.
That's really your mazal. The mazal is
your maybe I didn't define it the right
way. [snorts] Your mazal is so to say
the the your entire path what you're
going to go on the your entire life.
what is going to be your khim your uh
vessels in order to perform your uh
purpose in this world. So if Hashem
wants to wants when Hashem gives me a
purpose in this world my mazal will hold
in it all the how to actually do my
purpose and the vers that I'm talking
about if I have to do a certain that has
to do with developing something whatever
will give me and if I have to do a tikun
with a certain certain sense will give
me character traits to be able to deal
with the rectification that I need to
do. So there are situations that the
mazal of the person is to be poor or not
to make money and he needs to figure it
out very quick and not to run after
money and to be happy with what hashem
gives him. And before we start I have to
give an example of a friend of mine that
going back 20 years [snorts]
he he had brilliant ideas. I thought
he's going to be the next Facebook. He
had ideas before Facebook came out. You
can't even imagine what brilliant ideas
he had. And always he would forget the
money and fund and this and that. And
somehow
nothing ever worked out. I knew him for
over 10 years. Every brilliant idea that
he came up with never worked out. And I
I didn't understand how it doesn't work
out. Brilliant ideas. One of the his
business ventures I even lend him money.
I that's how much I was so
feeling good about this business that he
did. To make a long story short,
nothing worked.
At some point, I told him, "Listen,
I I I don't see any mazal for you. You
you in it doesn't look like you have any
braha in Parasa.
I don't think that your path in this
life has to be about money. I see that
you are brilliant in the Torah, but in
levels that I don't see so often. You
need to learn Torah all day long.
[clears throat] So for about 10 years,
every two three months came a new
business failed miserably.
Years passed and I lost contact with
him.
And uh in a very interesting way, our
path met again. And out of curiosity, I
told him, "What are you doing now?" He's
like, "I sit and learn in Kle all day
long. I'm happily married. I have two
lovely daughters. Life is I I couldn't
be better." So he took the man 15 years
to understand that his mazal has nothing
to do with money. Forget about money in
this incarnation. you it's not your
thing and you know he had a horrible
marriage horrible divor everything life
for him was falling apart
and when he switched the attitude then
everything went well and so far it's a
happy story so are there are exceptions
that a person needs to figure out that
his mazal will not bear any money and he
should put his mind to something else
completely he she by the way I'm saying
he but it's applied to everyone.
So that's one thing that you need to
figure out. Again, we I'm looking now at
everybody with the understanding that or
the assumption that you struggle with
paranas. I don't think neither one here
and maybe I'm I'm wrong. I mean, I
didn't see any Bentleys outside. So, I'm
assuming nobody's here, you know,
rolling in dough, as they say.
>> Thank God.
>> So, and there's nothing wrong or good or
bad, by the way. I'm just
>> Thank you. That's what I like, by the
way. But again, um, we're here. We're
practical. Even though we're very
spiritual people and we want to be
attached to Hashem all day long, but
the bottom line is I don't work for one
or two days. That's it. Mortgage
payments, tuition, kids, food. You you
put the you take the foot off the gas
for one minute, it's it's a problem. So,
we got to be practical till Mashia
comes. We have to be practical. Mashia
comes. We'll all sit learn Torah from
morning to night. That's another another
reason good enough reason for us to pray
for Mashiach to come and to do whatever
we can to make sure that he's coming
fast.
But practically saying
most people either have very big issues
with making money or making money is a
always a struggle or every month is a
different struggle.
And there are the we'll call it now the
exceptions that they're doing good.
They're doing well, but we'll talk about
them for a second too because they're
not exempt.
So going back to what I was saying,
there are ex exceptions that a person's
mazal no money. Figure it out as fast as
you can and move on. So if one of you
see that in the last 10 15 20 years
doesn't matter what you do that you're
always in dead ends then look into very
deep how much you can figure out if
that's your mazal and what you need to
do about it and and also come to terms
with it
doesn't mean everybody has to have money
I had times in my life that I was so
poor that I didn't even care about it
first when I got married we my wife and
me was so poor that my wife would come
to the yeshiva where I learned I would
take two portions of food from the the
we had food in the yeshiva and I would
take two portions out I would go out to
the street we would sit on the bench in
the street and uh in a very romantic way
eat our
dinner and that's it we didn't have
money we didn't have money at all and
and it's not that we my wife didn't try
I mean there was kind of like a block no
money now
it didn't didn't bother me I was busy
learning it didn't bother my wife so
there are times in your life that that
you up sometimes you down but let's go
let's focus on what I want to learn so I
was saying that on Shana
gives blessings to everybody and if you
would realize how much blessings you got
on
then you wouldn't complain as much as
you do and you would realize that it's
you have to do a lot more to receive
that. Now, how does the system work? And
I'm talking right now just about money,
not about health or other things in your
life.
Kadosh will bless you with a certain
amount how much money you're going to
make that year,
but you don't get it right away.
The amount stays in the spiritual bank.
Now, you need to bring it down. the
[clears throat] money doesn't come to
you right away overnight.
The Zor explains that there was once a
king and he had a few sons and uh he
made with him some deal and he told him,
"I'm going to take care of you. You're
my sons. I'm going to take care of you.
Uh but I want you to come to me every
day three times and every time you come
to me, I'm going to write you a check."
Okay, who wouldn't say you know anybody
would say no to his father
taking care of me? Why not? So it worked
well the first day, the second day, the
third day. After a few days, one of the
sons told the father, "Father, it's so
kind of you that you're helping us and
supporting us, but do you really need us
to bother you three times a day for
that?" I mean, after all, you're the
king.
Let me just do a wire once a month. Send
a check once a what's the big deal to
come here three times a day.
So the king said if I wouldn't tell you
to come here three times a day I won't
see you.
So the tells you I want to see you. I'll
give you your money but I want to see
you. You have to come here three times a
day and that's how you get a check.
here to the synagogue, not here to
Denver.
Then I'll give you your money. When you
pray, when you pray, you start pulling
blessings from above.
Hashem blessed you to be healthy.
Then Hashem says, "Okay, now pray, pull
it down." Hem blesses us with everything
that we need. How do we bring the
blessing down into the world? Or how do
we transform it from spiritual to
physical? Through prayer.
Through specific 18 prayers that I
recite three times a day. And when I
recite these prayers with the right mind
frame, then I'm able to transform the
spiritual blessing into a physical
blessing. And it will come down into the
world, will manifest into the world in
the amount what I should bring down that
day. Anything that you would give too
much in one shot won't be able to hold
it. You give I I'll pour out now a cup
and I want you to pour me good wine or
whatever. Yeah, you can't pour the whole
bucket into the to the cup. It won't
hold anything. Just make a a huge mess.
So what what would be the point of that?
Now you made a huge mess. All the wine
spilled and I don't have nothing. So
Hashem says yeah I will give you to your
vessel every day in the quantity what
you can handle.
So first of all you have to understand
that to manifest the blessings into the
world you have to pray.
Second of all, you have to understand
that you won't get everything in the one
in one shot. It has to come in
increments. But the quantity of the inc
increments or I should say more correct
the amount for each increment that
depends on you depends on your on your
on your vessel.
Hypothetically, if you can only hold
$1,000
in one shot, then you'll get $1,000. But
if you can hold 10,000, you'll get
10,000.
So first of all it has to be very clear
that the parnasa the sustenance I have
to manifest it from the spiritual
blessing to the physical
before we start I mean we're before we
start we have half halfway through uh
the the preparation the intro is usually
long to to get a five minute uh message
but I want to stop for one second to ask
a question and to answer it for the ones
who might have been thinking about it
and maybe are behind the the camera and
they don't have the opportunity to ask.
If we're going by what I just said,
I think that the amount of people who
pray every day is such a minority that
it's like a drop in the ocean.
That means how come all the rest of the
people who don't pray three times a day
get money.
>> Exactly.
>> I mean, I'm going by what the Torah
says. I It doesn't matter to me right
now. Your faith, your background, your
your your No, it doesn't matter.
I just said and I'm quoting the Torah.
It's not that I'm inventing anything.
You you want to bring down your parasa,
you have to pray three times a day. End
the story. We can finish the the lecture
here. Go start praying every day. But
first, we have to answer this simple
question. What about the people who
don't pray? I'm not talking about
sinning right now. They don't pray three
times a day.
>> They make millions.
>> Even if they don't make millions, even
if they make thousands,
>> do they pray in a prior life?
>> Uh,
no. The answer of course is no. uh but
let let me let me go through my uh my
points and I'll answer everything if we
have time I'll give some time for
questions but it's a simple question how
come a person doesn't pray let's take a
Jew now a secular Jew doesn't pray
doesn't even know where the synagogue is
and he's making money and could be even
millions like you're saying
so first of all
we don't know uh what's beyond what we
see. I know personally many people who
don't pray they're not really observant
but happens to be that because of them
many others pray
whether they donate to the synagogue
they donate to the yeshiva they have
kids
I know a man that is so secular you're
not going to get him into a synagogue
doesn't matter what Hashem
that has a very good sense of humor
because that person is very anti- Torah
All his children became observant.
All his children one after the other.
And I was laughing the whole time cuz I
I had some engagement with him. We
became we had some uh h business to do
to do. He wasn't like he didn't come to
a lecture. It's not my student. I came
to him actually to do something. Well,
you know, last name Jew. We started
talking and he was always as much as he
was good in what he did he always like
had like these little comments about the
Torah and Judaism and commenting me and
which I didn't care but his karma was
his the the talk the laugh was all his
kids became observant one after the
other and I was laughing the whole time
but what am I saying this guy he
supports his kids so he supports kids
that are people who are learning
and praying and all that. So it's not an
excuse. I'm just telling you in one
aspect, how can it be that a person is
not observant, doesn't pray at all and
still has his parasa. We don't see
beyond what the Hashem puts in front of
us. That's one option. I know a lot of
people that they might not be righteous
on their look, but they give a lot of
money quietly. Matanet, they donate
quietly. And I know a lot of people that
they might not look on the outside so
righteous, but I learned a long time ago
not to judge a book by its cover and to
understand that a lot of people do
things way beyond you and me and we
don't even see it. And we're very
judgmental because they do it in certain
ways. And who are us to judge and let
Hashem do the judging?
That's a more kind answer. But there is
the answer that one might ask, look at
this rash. Look at this wicked person
and look how much money he's making. No
problems with parasa.
So that's not a blessing by the way.
Hashem is cutting him his checks in this
world.
It's coming off the balance from the
world to come. So he might now has a lot
of money and nice cars and beautiful
clothes and vacations and life seems
good.
You don't know what's waiting on the
other side. He might come to the other
side and they'll tell him, "Habibi, you
cashed all your mitzvot every little
thing that you did that is good. You
cashed it already. There's nothing
left."
And there are many more options. Why a
person that we see that is not been
praying and they have money and it can
be an effect from a different life? Like
you said, it's not you said it
differently. That's why I thought how to
answer you. But yeah, it could be that
in a previous life the person did
something and in this life he gets paid
and it might go down from his spiritual
balance. The thing is there are many
options. The Zor talks about it in
several places. Other books of Cabal and
Ms talk about it. I rather not waste our
time on this right now. Look at
yourself. Don't look at the other people
who don't pray. Hashem has his account
with everybody. I gave you a few
examples why a person that doesn't pray
at all still will have money and know
that there are much more examples but my
approach is I don't look at him that he
doesn't pray and he has money I look at
me I only look at me it's the only view
I need to see not somebody else
so
a very simple answer you want money you
have to pray three times a day that's it
and by the way I'm sorry to break it out
to you women have to pray too and I
don't know which rabbi you listen to.
Khan says that you have to pray. If you
areazi, you have to pray twice a day. If
you're safari, you pay pray once a day.
That's from any other person who tells
you differently then is misleading you.
Now the only difference is that you
don't have to go to Armenian. You don't
have to come to you can pray at home.
You can pray whenever you want. I mean
technically you can pray at 10:00 at
night.
The the advice is for a woman is that
you praying if it's in the time frame of
of then pray. If it's in the time frame
of then pray
and there's no excuses. I know a lot of
women tell me, "What? Are you kidding
me? I have kids. I have responsibilities
and a job and this and that." Well, you
know what? I have seven kids. Or to be
more exact, my wife has seven kids, too.
She finds way to pray. No excuses. And
you know what she used to do when my
kids were young? They would get together
three women. One prays, two babysits,
then they switch and the women get to
pray. And women, your prayers are, no
offense, more powerful than men. So
first of all, and most important,
nobody's exempt from praying. The better
you do it, the more you do it, [snorts]
the more you bring down shea. That's it.
Very simple math. Very, very simple
math. And again, do not look at another
person who didn't pray today and they're
making money. Forget that option. Put on
your eyes like they do to horses. Don't
don't don't look to the sides. The grass
of the neighbor is always better,
greener, nicer, more lush.
The worst attitude is to look at another
person and say, "How come he and not
me?"
But to make it simple, that's how you
bring money into the world. That's how
you bring your parasai into the world.
And it's very important for you to know
because I see all types of people. The
wicked ones that make a lot of money,
the righteous one that don't make money,
the righteous ones that do make money,
the wicked that don't make. I see all
all the options and I analyze it. And I
also see that sometimes money is a
curse.
>> I see people that they have a lot of
money. They don't have one moment of
quiet. Not one moment of quiet all day
long. All day long. Headaches and
issues. And who needs this money
already? Money is not always a blessing.
Money, you want it to come with a ba?
That's another thing I wanted to h add.
When you see a person that has money and
they don't pray
in many of the cases, there's no
blessing in that money. There's a lot of
money goes out on expensive dentists and
what it goes on doctors.
So to to make it simple, that's how you
manifest money into the world. I I can't
give you advice that doesn't exist.
I can only give you advice what the
Torah says. The Torah says that's how
you will manifest parasa into the world.
Now
comes another question.
How many people I'm sure half of you if
not all of you do come to pray three
times a day and still have problems with
their panasa
right
so first of all do you really come three
times a day or if you miss some of it
how do you pray do you come last to the
betet with your tongue out and you're
just answering answering some quick
amends do you come The first is your
prayer quietly. Are you thinking about a
million things while you pray or are you
thinking of the prayer itself? Are you
talking during the session? Especially
in Shakarit, don't expect any blessing
if you have fillin on your head and
you're talking with the fillain on your
head during a minan. So I know a lot of
people who come every day like Swiss
clocks
but when they're in the sh they talk lon
they talk business they slander
sometimes fight I saw fist fights in shs
so the fact that you made an effort to
come here so you have you have the
reward of walking to the shul but what
did you do in the sh how many times did
you check your phone during
when the repetition of
Did you do you check your phone? Do you
even come with your phone to the
How do you come now? Just that you
understand
is very particular with the righteous
like the the the width of a hair. So if
you are bent and you pray three times a
day and you eat kosher and observe
Shabbat and give sodaka and learn Torah,
you're bent to
is looking at you like this with a
magnifying glass.
So you didn't answer the man the right
way cuz you looked at the at your phone.
Oh,
don't expect shea coming down.
Shea means an abundance. When I became
observant, of course, I was beyond naive
when it came to the Torah. And
everything for me was like whatever the
Torah says, it's holy. I can't even
think of doing anything differently. Not
that anything changed, but I would go
into new synagogues, new yeshivot and I
would be shocked from different things
mainly in the in that filot and I went
through a lot of communities when I
became observant. A I went to different
yeshivot
B a lot of communities disappointed me
first. A lot of communities kicked me
and my didn't want me even to come there
just found out a little bit about my
past. No, we don't want you here. So had
a nice experience but the thing that
shocked me the most in all in all
communities is how the prayers are
conducted
most talking during the prayer. I'm not
talking about now the the the phones
ringing and
and business and
so and again I'm talking for the ones
who do the effort and they come and they
still see problems with parasa. So the
fact that you came and you have a yama
and a tit doesn't mean that he did it
right doesn't mean that you did it the
right way and if you were pointing
pointing fingers on the sh so don't go
there so find yourself a different
synagogue.
I don't go to s I mean listen I travel
all the time and for me it's hard but
when I'm in my place I choose where I
pray [clears throat] I can't pray when
they praying 500 miles an hour speed I I
just can't I never going to pray in such
a place now when I'm traveling I don't
have an option
I'm here what am I going to do but in my
surrounding I pray slowly and I'm I'm
Israeli I read Hebrew I read I read good
better than all
And I read slow because that's how you
pray. So it might take me another 20
minutes, but those extra 20 minutes on
my slow with intention prayer removes
not 20, 20 hours of problems that I
would deal with if I would prayer not
the right way.
Once not too long ago, I sent my wife to
do an errand in the bank and she came
back after two hours. Where were you? I
was in the bank 2 hours.
>> Yeah. There was a line and then the
computer didn't work and then this
didn't work. And
when I go to the bank, I go in and I go
out.
>> And in everything that I do in this
world, anything that I need to take care
of, I go in and I go out. Why? Because I
spend that extra 20 minutes in the
morning praying and I'm not stingy with
my time saying, "Oh, I need to go fast."
And I know I see it obvious how the
koshu shortens for me things. What's
called
because when it comes to the praying, I
pray like a turtle. I prayan of slow
prayers because that's how you pray by
the way where you'll hear the words and
nobody's talking during the Torah and I
can't hear nothing cuz some guy's doing
business right now and she's gossiping
with her friend and so sorry that I'm
being so so aggressive but that's the
fact.
Now let's take it to the next level. How
about a person who does pray three times
a day but real good and learns and does
everything
and still has problems with parala.
So first of all and most important one
needs to be very very clear on their own
path to figure out where they're holding
and if they don't know how to do it then
they need to consult the right rabbi who
will help them find those information.
I mean if you're a little bit in touch
with yourself and if you are a little
bit more spiritual than you are required
you will get this information from
Hashem. I don't ask questions. We talked
about yesterday about my rabbi asked me
how when how often do you go there? I
don't I go there every half a year to
say hello. I don't ask him questions. I
come with him with nuclear bomb
questions.
Not little questions. Why? I don't need
to bother him.
He has a lot of students. He has a lot
of in his mind. I don't need to come and
ask him every little thing. I go and
open the book by myself.
But besides going to open the book by
yourself, if it's a halaka question, I
have a certain manner that I can't
figure out. I'll go and fast
eating. I won't eat for one day. I won't
talk for one day.
Read a book of givea.
Go do a few other actions. Hashem, I
need an answer. And the answer comes
very fast.
Try it one time. I don't ask people what
do I need to do. I ask Hashem what he
needs me to do and how do I need to
figure out what I need to do and Yeah.
Yeah. So, you put a little bit of
sacrifice and don't put food for in your
mouth for 24 hours and pray and do a few
other actions. It's irrelevant right
now. And ask for Hashem for an answer.
It's very simple. That's how I get all
my answers. The says, "You want good
answers? Stay up. Learn Torah all night.
But learn Torah." Not a half night
Netflix, half night Instagram, and 15
minutes to Mishnot. Learn Torah all
night.
Then go and pray,
of course, not at 11:00 in the morning.
Go to the mikvah [clears throat] and you
will see that you'll get any answer that
you want. You'll get any guidance that
you want. Of course, you pray for that.
And you know what? I did that for the
first five years of my cha cuz I needed
a lot of guidance and I had a lot of
questions that were difficult. That's
what my rabbi told me. That's what I
did. Learn Torah all day long, all
night. Go and pray in the morning. The
answer will come and it comes. Might
come in a day, might come in a week. The
answer comes in ways. Hashem has
limitless ways to give you answers.
So again, now we're back to the place of
you have extreme to this side and create
extreme to that side. Every situation is
different. The base to everything is
tila.
There's no other way here. There's no
other option. I looked, trust me, I
searched, I looked. There are many
remedies. There are many things one can
do to bring parnas. But the the the
foundation is that you get blessed on
Rosha Shana and then you need to bring
it down in prayer three times a day.
That's it.
That's the system. Now work around it.
You need to figure out if you don't pray
at all then you have an answer. Start to
praying. Hard for you? Then start with
one prayer. Then you increase to two
prayers and so forth. We're not going to
do a class now of how to approach
prayers. But if you're in the level of
not praying, then start. And women have
to pray too. By the way, don't need to
to repeat that.
If you are already praying, look how you
praying. Look how look at your prayers.
Are there in a rush? Are you late? Are
you sitting and making business? Are you
checking your phone? How? Look at your
prayer. If you want a good prayer, don't
come with your phone to the
leave all your worries at home. Don't
talk. Don't socialize. I know ashu is a
place to socialize. Socialize over there
where you make coffee. That's where you
socialize. You sit in a corner and you
came to talk to Hashem, not to anyone
else. Somebody talks to you,
somebody continues talking to you, just
move to a different place.
But you want your prayers prayer to be
good. You want to pronounce the words
the right way. Most people don't
pronounce the words the right way.
Most people unfortunately don't know how
to pray in Hebrew. You don't know how to
pray in Hebrew, start learning Hebrew.
If you work for Hashem and you don't
know his language, shame on you. Sorry.
I don't care if you're American,
Russian, whatever you are, you learn the
language of the master of the universe.
And if you don't, something's lacking
here.
I know converts from all over the world.
They know Hebrew just as good as me.
There's no excuses. And I'm not saying
converts because they come from places.
You come from a place that you heard the
Hebrew. Or maybe not. And maybe I'm just
I'm saying the point is is irrelevant.
That's the language that the Torah was
given. That's the language of Hashem.
You decide
that you are a follower of Hashem.
Then learn his language. I know it's not
easy, but don't go this like this all
day long. and you'll find a lot of free
time to learn. Learn five words a day.
That's all it takes. I promise you in 3
years you'll know how to talk. Not
telling you to learn it in a month. I'm
telling you to start learning it.
Start saying the important prayers in
Hebrew
something. So you don't don't don't
think that you're not going to come and
invest and Hashem is just going to pour
shea on you.
Shea means an abundance. Hashem has
expectations.
And again, don't take any word that I'm
saying as an insult. Take it as or
criticism. Take it as inspiring words
that should elevate you. So if you don't
read or pray in Hebrew, start learning
it. Maybe you came tonight just to hear
that the minimum of the minimum should
be learn how to say Israel in Hebrew.
Come on the minimum and put it to for
you to be the highest priority. If you
put Hashem the highest priority by
default he will put all your priorities
as high priority.
You have to understand how Hashem works.
We're going to get to it in a second.
The more you focus on Hashem, he will
give you what you need. Not what you
want, what you need. And in many of the
cases,
in many of the cases, much more than
what you need. He will make you very,
very comfortable. And by the way,
everything that I'm saying is not coming
from necessarily from the text. The text
explains to us that you have to pray.
Everything else that I'm saying in
between, it's it's it's pure uh uh
experience.
So what brings to us this she this
abundance then prayers that's the title
you're a man you have to pray
make it your business I'm not going to
even continue adding anything about that
I told you enough make it your business
women that's that's the next thing you
need to do
but there are a few things that I'm
first of all there are many things this
class is going to be very short and to
the point because I can talk on many
many concepts and this will become a
very long class and I rather talk about
a few things that you can apply
whatever you will add will just make it
worse so the title is now I know by the
way before I continue that a lot of
people don't like praying or they don't
can't see themselves praying or
you brought me all the way here to tell
me to pray well listen I can't give you
shortcuts
There is a certain prayer that
I believe it's not only that coming from
my belief I can tell you that I know and
it's also known that that is the source
of your blessing that I know that most
people do a lot of effort to prevent
from saying it this prayer and of course
I'm talking about birkat mazon
birkaton the prayer you say after eating
is The only prayer that we have from the
Torah, what's called the
>> all the rest of the prayers of Raan,
that's the only prayer that the Torah
says.
You should eat. You feel good. Now say a
blessing.
You don't have to raise your hand.
[snorts]
Shalom. Not be embarrassed.
But if you don't say every day, don't
even start whining about your
heard what I said.
Tells you, I give you whatever you need,
whatever you want, your food.
All I want is 8 minutes of your time to
thank me. And people drive an hour to
the other side of town to buy the pizza
that is Masonote.
>> Whoa.
Is this Is this a mozzy?
I'll have from there salad.
[snorts]
Ask yourself when was the last time you
waited to wash your hands for the meal
and then say
by by your expressions neither one of
you you eat every day right?
Everybody eats every day. Some people
look like they eat all day.
So you eat every day. So, why don't you
say bilgadon every day?
I'm not joking with you, by the way. I'm
I'm adding some uh some comments. I know
they're funny,
but you you you eat all day long. No,
let's cut to the chase. All day long,
there's food running on going on there.
And if you are in a vacation, where are
we eating?
Everything's around the food.
So, food is a big part of our life. Do
you send every day?
>> I heard a very soft voice saying yes.
>> Yes, we do.
>> Hashem, but two. Okay.
And again, it's not about putting
anybody on their spot. You eat every
day.
How what's the word in English?
You're full.
>> Satisfied. satisfied.
>> What?
>> Satiated.
>> Most people, no offense,
they eat like animals.
And that what makes them sick.
I would say a large amount of the
sicknesses is the food you eat and how
you eat it. 80% of the food that you eat
is not even food. So don't expect to be
healthy. And it's how you eat it and the
quantities.
You don't need to eat five plates. The
body doesn't need [clears throat] so
much food.
You need to eat a little bit whatever
the body needs. And when do you eat it?
What hours? I mean, the entire Torah
around food is a is is a big and
important thing. But regardless to that,
regardless to that, you eat every day
and you get full. So you are obligated
to say biron
besides the fact that we do know fact
that is uh I don't like using words like
remedy that's your source of the
now I want to add a few things that are
very important when it comes to uh the
the the
parasa that is that that I hope you're
taking some notes because if you you if
you don't do all that you are required
it will cause a problem with the flowing
of the money of the parasa. So first of
all and most important is your prayers.
Then you add on that which is not an
addition because you have to it's kind
of like I I actually don't get it
because the Torah is very clear.
So I know I know a lot of people say oh
no no I I will eat the and say
come on.
So you want to you want to go like this.
So don't cry that you don't have money.
But there's a few other elements that
are extremely important when it comes to
your parnasa. And I can tell you already
that if you don't three do all these
next three that I'm talking about,
you're also going to have tremendous
issues with parnasa. And the answer will
be also exactly what I gave before to
the ones who don't do it. The first of
all which is nonquestable is observing
Shabbat. person who doesn't observe
Shabbat has no blessings. And again for
the same answer I will give you when you
asking me but what about the people who
don't observe Shabbat and I see life is
going very well for them. Same answer
copy paste what I told you 20 minutes
ago.
End the story. And if you don't remember
I told you that the support etc. And and
in many of the cases they're it's
getting off their their their balance.
So don't be so impressed.
A person that observes Shabbat brings
all the blessings in every aspects of
his or her life just by observing the
Shabbat. Technically, if you observe
Shabbat the right way, you should not
have any issues in your life. Any
no offense. And again, all my words here
are just words of encouragements, not
words of judgment or to uh offend
somebody. Most of you who think that you
observe Shabbat, you don't really
observe Shabbat. [snorts] You're missing
here a very large portion of things that
you are not learned enough and you don't
know and you fail. And I see people all
the I travel almost every Shabbat and
I'm in a different community to be able
to look at people and to tell them
you're doing great, but here you do
Shabbat and this is Muk and you're not
allowed to move it and yeah, maybe
you're not driving and for you I'm not
driving and I'm not working and I'm not
on my phone. You think these are the big
ones, but Muk is a very pretty severe
transgression
and bor too
sifting and cooking and a lot of people
fail when it comes to bishul
because they're just not learned enough.
I can tell you that I thought and I'm
observing Shabbat for a good eight
years, seven, eight years till I reached
to the portion in of Shabbat and then I
realized that I'm not even close to
observing Shabbat. I might not work, I
not on my phone, I don't drive, but when
it comes to the details,
not even in the direction.
And the more you learn, the more you
figure out that you're not even
observing Shabbat.
Now again this is not necessarily
as burn lighting up fire. There's
different severities when it comes to
Shabbat,
but it doesn't matter right now the
severity even if it's a a
even if it's a generation of a
generation because it wants to when it
comes to the 39 prohibitions of Shabbat
there's the actual the physical act and
then there's what's called like
generations of it that if I will do a
certain act it will lead me and lead me
and lead me and lead me and eventually I
will do Shabbat.
So it doesn't really matter in which
level you're talking about. There's a
desecration of Shabbat. That's a
problem. And when a person observes
Shabbats,
all his life is full of blessings in all
aspects. By the way, and sorry that I
keep saying he, I also saying she. It's
the same thing. Just hard for me to say
she she. I'm not a she. But
nevertheless,
you observe Shabbat the right way,
you'll see all the blessings that you
need to see in your life. And I know a
lot of people start observing Shabbat
and life caves down on them. Yeah, but
you've been doing junk for the last 20
20 years. Give it a few years to balance
out. A lot of people who they start
observing Shabbat and or doing other
mitzvot and it it seems like everything
is going wrong. But yeah, you kind of
have to balance the the p your past and
then you'll start seeing blessing. And I
can tell you already that a person can
be praying and eating kosher and
observing Shabbat and have one sin that
ruins everything. And we'll get to that
very soon. [snorts] So, first of all,
Shabbat, no question.
There's another thing that people
disregard a lot. I don't have to explain
a lot about it. I hope I don't.
is how do you honor your spouse? If you
honor your spouse,
then will be a great
repor of Sheffa. If there's disrespect
between me and my spouse, then that will
damage the partnot.
And it goes in both ways.
Now, yeah, I can make a class now on
what I'm talking about, but I think you
can make the math by yourself.
>> Why spouse?
>> Why the spouse? I will conclude the
class the class with one sin that
damages the paranas to most people
because they are involved in that sin
and that's connected to this kibud of
the honoring of the spouse. But to very
briefly answer that the unity between a
husband and and man is a symbol of
perfection and unity between God and
this world and many other sacred things.
When the structure of the household of
marriage is damaged, there's no
foundation for for any blessing here.
Hashem doesn't like that. Hashem doesn't
like when a man
doesn't honor his wife. And the same
thing rather the same thing the other
way around when a wife doesn't honor the
husband. respect, honor.
You know, when you're in love and you're
dating, the the spouse you is on a ped,
how do you say pedestal?
>> Pedestal.
She can't do wrong. So why 10 years
later, she's your biggest enemy. I can
tell you, Randy, we're not going to get
to that path tonight, but marital issues
cause a lot of PNA problems. That's
another put it under your title to to to
figure out and you know what marital
issues it all boils down to your
humility and how much you willing to
accept that there's another human being
in the room and they have needs desires
and many other things that you need to
either cater or shut up and you chose to
be in that relationship. So we're not
going to talk about marriages right now,
but I can tell you already when there's
disrespect between the couples, it
damages the panosa why, how, what,
there's a lot what to explain about that
at the end. I'm going to add one more
sin that is a problem and that's kind of
connected and it will be more clear.
But I'm already telling you that and you
know what everything that I'm telling
you, I I practice what I preach. And I
can tell you already that everything
that I practice, what I say in regards
to paranasa, it works. It works. I know
you're seeing a rabbi, but I also have
to I I have a family. I have seven kids
to support. So I need paranas, too. And
my nonforprofit doesn't give me
paralasa. The nonforprofit is for you,
not for me. I have my own business that
runs my own life because I can't depend
and I won't depend on anyone. So my day
is divided to many segments. I'm a
husband. I'm a father of seven kids. You
know what's what's sustenance you need
for seven kids. Tuitions, cook, food and
all that. So I'm a father. I'm a
husband. I'm a rabbi. I'm a teacher and
I'm also a businessman and I own also
business. And I I I I can't depend and I
won't. And the same thing with your with
my organization. We accept donations
very happy. But maybe 15% of my budget
is donations. 85% of the budget is what
you buy when you leave the lecture.
And the business that I have, I fund my
own my own adventures.
For 10 years, 10 years, I funded my
entire organization with my own
business. I never took $1 of a donation
till my rabbi told me, "Are you crazy?
Take donations and give more time to the
organization."
The point that I'm trying to say is that
I can tell you that these things work.
Now, there's one more thing that I want
to focus on that has to do with when it
comes to parasa and it's not that we're
concluding here. There are many other
things but let's start with what I told
you now filot and all that. There's one
thing that most people most people don't
do and if you want to have good parasa
you have to do it and you have to do it
even if you don't want good parasa
and I'm talking about
>> that you give 10% of your earning how do
you call it in English thai
>> tithing
>> tithe
>> tithing
I know for a fact that most people don't
do it and the ones who Do they just give
a lot of money as charity and they say
it will somehow fit in that 10%. I give
more than 10%. That's what I hear. Then
you have a big mistake when you do that.
Huge mistake because have to be
calculated.
Even if you give 50% which you're not
allowed to, you have to give 10%. The
says you want to be rich give 20%. Not a
time more. Andim say in all sources do
not give more than that 20%. Don't
pretend that you're that generous. Now
if you want to give more then it can
come in forms of
but it's not your money.
Most of you who don't give mas you steal
Hashem's money and then you think you're
going to have a with your money.
And again, you don't have to raise your
hand right now if you're giving my soul
don't know. I know most people don't.
And the ones who do have no not even the
slightest idea how to do it.
How to calculate. And you know how I
know that barely people do it? Because I
told you in the beginning of the class
that I get thousands of messages. I can
tell you by the messages today with AI.
I can tell you in percentage what are
the most asked questions what are the
most topics that people I'm telling you
I also use AI for my own benefit to get
my statistics and stuff like that how
can I become better so I can tell you
that the majority of problems that
people come to me is money
the next after that is marital problems
but you know how many responses I get
about masot Not not even a 0.0
something%.
That's a joke that from tens of
thousands of followers that I have, not
even 5% or 10% ask me about my assort.
How do I give it? How do I calculate it?
Who do I give it to? When do I give it?
I live in Israel. I'm making dollars. Do
I pay in shekels? Do I pay in dollars? I
don't get all these questions.
I don't get any questions about masrot.
So I know you're not giving masrot
and even if you're 17 and you work for
McDonald's, well hopefully you're kosher
and you're working for shalom pizza. But
even if you babysit,
I teach my kids you make money, you pay
myself from that. Whether they pay or
not, it's not my problem. I teach them
that you have to pay 10% of what you
make. I told you and I believe it was in
this show the story. Did I tell you this
the story with the 770? I think I did
say it. Paul
>> with Materiona.
>> No.
>> Okay. So, the class will now go a little
bit longer because I have to tell you a
story.
When I became observant
after a few years, I met my wife Bar
Hashem and like I told you in the
beginning, we were extremely poor. And
not that it was my choice, but I wanted
to learn. My wife wanted me to learn.
It didn't interest me money. I what
interests me is Torah. So I didn't
Everything worked out. Okay. But at some
point it did bother us. My wife came
from background with money. I came from
a background with I mean it just at some
point it got to us.
And uh to make a very long story short
came yum kipur. I prayed in a very small
bkesset
and it was one of my first yam kipools.
And the second day of Yumibu, I mean the
day of in Min. The rabbi
said, "We're about to take the seafra
out and we have three
and we sell the aliot." And you have to
understand was a sh was like 20 people.
The aliot went for like $10. The $5.
Okay. So he says but there is a certain
aliyah that we sell but uh this is
remedy to make money to have to be rich
and to make money. So right away my ear
opened up and he was talking about the
mafiona ali materiona.
Right away I heard money. I was like
okay I'm in. So started the bidding. So
the first bid was $5 went to $10 $15. I
mean it was a very small jewel.
Then it went to 18 36 50 80 100 120. Now
you have to understand for me at that
time 120 was I needed to mortgage
something to to pay $100. But I was like
no I'm getting this. I I I I want this.
The rabbi said it's gula. I'm going to
eat it alive. And the other guy wanted
it too. So I went to 180, 200, 220, 225
and like two alligators trying to and
both of us are broke, no money. So the
increments were very small. 228, 231.
[laughter]
And in my mind, I'm like a Rottweiler.
I'm like locked on it. I'm coming home
with this materion. I don't care if it's
50,000 even.
And it went to 300 eventually with small
increments to 400, 500, 600. In my mind,
I'm already like sweating like where
where am I going to get the money? And
I'm like, I'm going to have to mop the
floor of the shoe for the next 3 years.
600, 700, 720, 750,
stops at 770.
[snorts] And I was the lucky winner.
I go up. I come up to the Torah. I go
up. I'm in my mind. Oh, should it be a
BMW? What? Of course, I'm joking. This
is just the additions. But I go up to
the Torah. I read the mater's great. And
that year, I opened the uh business,
which I needed, I needed blessing.
And I learned about Mas. [clears throat]
And I was like, okay, I'm taking on
myself,
taking on myself. I'm giving myself and
I'm gonna learn about it, how to do it
and I'm gonna do it the right way.
I come home, my wife didn't see me for
24 hours. How was Yonkip? Everything was
great. How was yours? We sit, we drink a
cup of tea, and then
in a by the way, she she was like asking
me, "How was your prayers?" And and she
was like, "Well, I really hope we're
going to have a good year." I told her,
"Honey,
you have nothing to worry about. I took
care of it."
Really? What'd you do?
[snorts]
Words are not needed.
I took care of it.
You must tell me what you did.
Okay, if you must. [clears throat] I
bought them after Rihanna. She's like,
"Excuse me?"
I said, "I told you words.
Don't worry." She was like, "What's
mafana?" I said, "The rabbi said that
I'm going to be rich." [laughter]
She was like, "Okay, I like that."
What did you to do? I said, "No, I I I
got the materion and I went up and I did
the aliyah and I read the I read the
haft and and I'm like showing off and
and she was like, "But what do you mean
you got the mafiona?"
I said, [snorts] "I I I got it.
Where are you going with it?
She was like, I don't understand what
you're saying. I got it. I was like,
she's like, did it cost money? I'm like,
yeah. How much?
>> What's money when it comes to No, come
on. [laughter]
Come on. She was like, how much did was
it? I said, no, come on. in front of the
kadosh burom
doesn't matter we're going to be rich
she can you tell me how much it cost I
told her it cost $770 wasn't that that's
not too bad $7.70
[laughter]
I said uh will the the dot
the dot move that Hey,
[laughter]
>> $770.
>> I already already seeing the bed get I I
I was like, I'm going to sleep now on
the couch for the next year. I have to
mop now the shoe for the next year and
I'm going to be sleeping on the couch
for the next year. [gasps] I never seen
my wife angry. She flipped out. We don't
have money for food. We can't even pay
our rent. What are you doing? I told
her, "Don't don't worry. The the rabbi
said everything will be fine.
That year I started a business because
we really needed money.
A year later and I'm telling you the
short version of the story by the way. A
year later I made my calculations
for my
happened to be the on the way. I already
made calculations. I already have all
the numbers. I'll do that my my taxes
already.
You know how much money I made that
year? 77
>> 77,000
>> 100 times
100 times exactly the 770
77,000 [clears throat]
after expenses or anything you need that
was the number
the mafion No, of course that was the
the we'll call it now the the beginning
>> the no the remedy the the
mas
the caring about every shekel because in
mas you have to calculate on the scent
it's not like oh it was about you made
35,682
start subtracting now all your your
expenses
do you know what are considered expens
expenses to reduce in mass. This is not
the IRS.
You're not shoving in there all sorts of
receipts that you know never even
happened. That's the kadosh. You're not
in front of Uncle Sam here. You know how
to calculate mas. No, you don't.
77,000
I made that year. 100 times exactly of
what I gave.
With my mind, I'm going to give my
money.
So you have to pray, you have to say
all the rest Shabbat. But the I'm can
telling you that's my I can tell you I
can sign to you. Give mas you'll be
fine. Never fails.
I'm telling you this is and you know
what?
very soon. I don't know exactly to tell
you in the time, but very soon cuz I'm
now in on a tour, a matter of a few
weeks when I come back then in the merit
of somebody very special where I'm going
to start teaching about Masot
and you know well it's going to be
online I'm I'm not staying here but uh I
mean
I'm finishing my tourm tomorrow I'm
still in in Denver another two lectures
is then I'm going to Miami few days
following that to New York then I come
back home it's purim but somewhere
around that I'll add to my curriculum of
teaching as about masot I I actually
hope and I recommend that you register
to that series and learn it because that
is the source of all the blessings when
it comes to parasan
and the fact that you need to know is
that those that 10% doesn't belong to
you. You don't give it. You stealing
money from Hashem. That's kind of like
taking money from
if you know what that means. It's like
stealing from the holy sacrifices that
go to the beta mikdash.
You have to be a little bit uh I don't
want to say words not to pay for the
10%. It's not even your money. You're a
thief in that point.
which is very important to know that
there are many things that can damage
your paranas. I will name a few right
now very quickly that you will be
echoing in your mind because you can do
all the good things that I just told
you.
But a few of the bad things that I'm
going to say right now, if you are
involved in that, you're gonna have an
issue with
and the first one is for a woman and for
a man.
If you need explanations,
not going to be tonight, but you're
going to have to look into it.
A woman is obligated in being modest and
a man is obligating in being modest too
by guarding his eyes and guarding
everything that has to do with it. A man
that damages his brit don't don't expect
much. Okay, there's not much to
elaborate on that.
The next is
person who speaks damages.
You talk wrong,
don't expect good parasa. And all the
questions that you have that are the
same of what we talked about before.
What about the people
all same? You'll get the same answer for
me. If you're going to ask me about what
if a person doesn't speak,
it doesn't matter. It will be the same
answer.
And I'll add on anything that you damage
with your mouth, lying, manipulations,
foul language, all these things, you
damage your mouth,
then you're going to damage your parasa
because that's the tool that brings you
your parasa because you have to pray
with your mouth.
you damage your mouth, it's going to be
hard for this tool to pray and be
accepted because the damage how it
sounds. If a person damages their tongue
by lying, slandering, gossiping, all
these wonderful things, curses,
then the so to say the tool that will
that needs to bring down the parasai is
damaged. So imagine trying to plow the
land with a damaged rake or the damaged
plower. You can't. It won't work.
If the tool is damaged, imagine now
trying to uh screw a screw into the
wall, but the tip of the screwdriver is
all messed up. So you the tool is
damaged.
So the next one is a and everything that
has to do with with the with the mouth.
Next is a horrible sin that most people
also don't know much about is gazel
>> and one needs to learn about that. All
the laws of gazelle and gazel is not
really stealing. It's gazil that you
take somebody something from somebody in
a way that they don't know or maybe they
do know and it's not equivalent to
stealing but it's just as bad and in
many cases worse. And by the way, most
people fail in gazel because they just
don't know.
Gazel, the translation of gazelle is
robbery. But it's not a good
translation. Gazel is that I take
something from you and you lacking from
this right now. Stealing is I come into
your house in the middle of the night
and I steal your VCR.
Look how old I am.
Steal your VCR.
What's that? Well, once there was a box
and you would put another type of box
into that box.
>> Go to Chad GP. I don't even know Chad
GP. You will know what a VCR is. She's
going to be like, I'm sorry, I only have
information from 2001.
But nevertheless, I break into your
house and I steal something. That's
stealing.
But I can take away something from you
in a form of gazil and you don't even
know that I took from you. And there are
million and one ways how to do that. Not
the classroom right now. Look it up. If
you are not familiar, I can already tell
you that gazil is a big things and you
fail in gazel in many many times. It can
be in little things even that you go
into a 7-Eleven and you take something
that you're not you're not supposed to
take. Even a little bag of ketchup or
napkin or you go to a hotel and you take
some of the shampoos back home with you.
All these little things can fall under
Gazel
and in some of the cases not. But a lot
of the times you do something you don't
even know or you do and you're like
nobody will pay attention. Oh, it's an
insurance company. It's a phone company.
And the things that I hear
with the question that people ask me
about gazel thinking that it's normal.
It's not. Learn about gazel. Gazel is a
different way of theft that you taking
somebody's belongings whether it's
money, time, knowledge in a way that is
not right way to take it and it doesn't
belong to you. And I'll give you one
example out of many. You know, we do
thumbnails to all the videos, flyers and
everything.
Every little image that you see on any
of my thumbnails or designs or flyers or
anything, I buy it.
You have to pay for these images.
I know most of you don't care. You go to
Google, you download a picture. Most of
the pictures are copyrighted. And if the
picture is copyrighted, you just did
gazel and you think you're going to have
parasa.
No.
And of course on that I can elaborate
much more. Look into it. Another huge
thing that will damage your paras if you
have debt and not debt to American
Express. Debt to a friend or to somebody
that helped you. I'm not talking right
now to an institute. That's a different
type of debt. As long as you're paying
it, you're good.
But I got a lot of questions from Jews.
I'm on the verge of bankruptcy. I can
just now get up and leave, but I owe the
banks quarter of a million dollars. What
do I do? Is it gazel? Some people just
get up and leave.
You have to ask questions like this.
Don't just get up and leave when there's
debts. But I'm talking about the debts
that family members, people gave you
money, you didn't pay it. Stuff like
that. Pay attention. I I don't see
anybody writing. So, I'm assuming you're
all going to go to the rerun and just
watch the video 20 times to make sure
that you understand everything and apply
it.
>> Oh, you said the last one I have on the
list.
>> Always save the last one for the best,
they said.
>> So, first before we get to that
is debt.
You have debt, you have to take care of
it. Even if you don't have money, call
the person. I know I owe you. I don't
have the money. I I will start paying in
a month. I can wash your car. I'll
babysit your kids. I don't know what.
But you at least acknowledge it. I'm not
going to give you now a whole M
class now. What what to do about debts,
but I pretty sure that a large amount of
you have debts that somebody gave you
money and you never paid it back. And it
can be your parents even. And the debt
has to be settled. you have debts,
figure it out. Settle it. Approach the
even if you think you're you're right.
Don't leave any debts hanging because it
will pause your parasa. And the debt can
be to a worker that you didn't pay. It
can be some disagreement between you and
a contract contractor. Settle it.
So don't leave any debts.
Now you uh mentioned twice but one thing
that causes
horrible problems in parasa and I'll
give you the remedy to the to of course
the opposite of that but one of the
biggest problems that causes parnas is
makot is disagreements
and that's why I said before the
honoring of a husband and wife because a
disagreement causes a k a separation and
whenever there's a separation in the
world below there's a separation in the
world above that you create and when you
create a separation in the world above
you block all the channels of shea means
an abundance the life force that come to
you it can be money it can be health it
can be anything
a disagreement is the number one cancer
to all problems by the way but
especially to honey and that's why I
said before how the husband and the wife
treat each other because if a wife goes
to sleep angry or upset, don't go to
work the next day cuz you're not going
to make money.
You're all laughing. But uh I do I need
to quote how many do you want me to
quote to you that if you hurt the wife's
feeling that you're not going to have
so I'm making something up. You hurt
your wife's feelings with talking to her
in a certain way or whatever, then you
have to do a lot of chew up.
>> Is it possible the other way around too?
>> 100%.
100%. I said before, husband and wife.
I'm not expecting everything just wife
has to honor her husband. He goes to
work. He takes care of her and many
other things assuming he's a normal
husband. Of course, I'm talking right
now in the the the not normal
situations. Of course, a woman has to
respect her husband. He takes care of
her hopefully works sustenance. He
prays. He does a lot of things. The the
the respect has to be 100% mutual. I
honor my wife. I respect her. I give her
all the respect in the world. I don't
expect it, but I get it. Same thing
equally. My wife and me, Hashem, we know
how to give each other the space to
respect each other, talk to each other.
I never ever ever curse my wife. I
raised my voice on her. Never if I use
foul language on her ever in my life.
It's just not I will not insult my wife.
I disagree with her. I shut up and I
leave the room. I don't go into
arguments. I don't go into
disagreements. That's my wife.
So much more so with every other
individual. I don't I don't have anyot.
I have a lot of people who dislike me,
but I don't have any disagreements. I
don't argue with anyone. I always step
back. I always make sure that I bring
peace to the table because if you live
in a met
forget about health,
there's no health. There's no peace of
mind.
You know how long it takes me to fall
asleep?
Probably 1.2 to 3 seconds,
>> depending how comfortable the bed is. If
it's my bed, it's right away. I travel a
lot. I sleep on other beds. It can be 5
seconds. And the reason why I fall
asleep is not because I have very little
time to sleep.
>> It's because I have zero worries.
Zero. I don't know anybody, anything. I
did my chuva. I don't know anything.
No apologies, no money.
My conscious is so clean.
Nothing worries me.
I do before I go to bed. I get rid of
all the junk that I need to get rid of
and I go to bed. I fall asleep in
seconds. Seconds,
disagreements, arguments. The health,
it's killing your health. You don't
sleep, you don't eat, you don't digest
their food well. Needless to say, you
won't pray well. Nothing will work well.
[snorts] And what's the remedy
to to to point the fingers? Easy.
What's the remedy?
Everything that I told you tonight is
extremely important. Follow everything
that I told you tonight. I guarantee to
you you'll do you'll be doing much much
much better. Not that I'm trying to show
off or anything like that. But I can
tell you that I'm I'm doing what I
taught you. I don't have issues with
parnasa
and I need a lot of parnasa because I
have a lot of kids and a lot of
endeavors that I do and not always
people come to participate in my
endeavors. I don't expect anyone to jump
into my endeavors. My endeavors of
course is what I'm doing here right now.
So everything that I said tonight is
important when you want to focus on your
partners. By the way, if you follow
everything that I just told you tonight,
you'll be a very happy person regardless
to your parala.
But you have to understand, Hashem
caught us in a corner. That's really the
secret here. If we would have everything
that we wanted, you would do nothing.
You would be a spoiled brat.
So, Hashem put us in a corner because he
wants you to He knows you're not going
to pray. Come on.
50% of men, 50 to 80% of men won't show
up to the minyan if there wouldn't be
any pressure here.
Half the people that come to pray with
me. I never see them. They only come one
day out of nowhere, they show up, end of
the prayer, start making love to the
What's going on with you? No, I have a
trial today. I have a I need I I didn't
see you for a whole year. Today you have
a court case. You start kissing the
not to talk about the donations.
Suddenly donations start flying to all
directions. So a you have something
here. You came to pray.
So Hashem pushed us to a corner because
when you're pressured you you behave you
conduct your your life how you're
supposed to because there's pressure. If
you would have a boss they would tell
you come whenever you want. You don't
have to come. I'll still give you money.
You would show up to work. You'll come
one day at 11. One day you go at at
1:00. One day you'll come at 9:00, leave
at 2
because there's nobody sitting on you.
If you in your normal job, you don't
come on time. You'll get fired. So, of
course, you show up on time. When
there's pressure coming from some
direction, whether it's a court or
something legal, you show up because
there's going to be are you saying
retributions
repercussions? Something's going to
happen.
Why don't you do the same thing when
it's with the Torah? Because you're not
afraid. You don't see damages happening.
But that's what I trying to explain.
Go through everything here. Not only
with everything will be fine.
But the trick here is that the galbu
cornered us so that we will do all these
mitzvot. What one needs to understand
this is a a verse that is a mantra that
you have to have. You can find it in the
book of verse 34 chapter 34:1 16
means move away from all evil.
Do good.
>> [snorts]
>> What's good? Sitting in the ice cream is
good. No. Open the Torah. The Torah will
tell you what's good to do. That's the
only way where you would find define
what's good to do.
will work. You know why most people have
problems with panosa
no
happiness
and if you live in a m in a disagreement
you're not going to be a happy person I
don't care how much money you have
famous fame power a person who lives in
a disagreement whether it's his wife
whether it's a neighbor whether it's I
don't care who it is A will never be
happy until the disagreement is over. He
has a a thorn in the heart. When there's
a disagreement, you're bothered.
You're constantly bothered. And when the
name comes up or the face comes up or
whatever,
your digestion is off, your sleeping is
off, your functioning is off, there's no
peace.
Tells you just move away from any evil.
I told you you come into the sh somebody
talks to you move away somebody talks to
you I don't want to hear
focus on this
ask for peace and pursue it you'll see
that everything starts flowing in your
life
when it comes to disagreements and
arguments the complete opposite is peace
and [snorts] the biggest cancer of all
is you get worried worried, you
sometimes get uptight, you might lose
hope and faith in many situations. In
many of the cases, you get very angry or
all that takes you away from your sim.
So what? So even if times are hard, the
sima, the real true happiness that you
have in your heart, that's what draws
the good energy.
You don't have that approach, you're not
receptive. You're not a vessel to
receive anything good.
If you're looking at all the curses in
the Torah, the conclusion of all the
curses in the Torah,
for you didn't serve Hashem with true
joy and happiness.
Now, take all these dots together, put
it together. I don't didn't see besides
one smart man who took notes. I didn't
see many notes taken here. Uh maybe I
don't see all the way to the end, but I
recommend I'm not joking. I'm I
recommend you already made the effort.
You came here. Everything that I told
you is not going to going to affect your
paranas. It's going to affect your
entire life.
And again, it's not about showing off or
being arrogant or something. My life is
good. And don't get me wrong, I have
challenges from here to yingyang. Don't
think for a second that I don't have
challenges and that I don't have I'm
juggling all day long 50 difficulties
and things at the same day at the same
day.
But I can tell you that
no complaints
attitude is good, good, good mood and
I'm dealing with things sometimes. I I I
I if you want come and join me for one
day
up until now in the last 20 years I
haven't found one person that was able
to stand next to me one full day and not
collapse.
Everyone who stood next to me say I
don't know how you do that.
And there are days sometimes I go with
sleeping one hour a day. But that's not
the point. The point that I'm trying to
say
>> and don't think that I'm not doing
dealing with challenges like everybody
just having seven kids. That's a pile of
challenges. And my kids are very special
kids.
You can see some of them in the back can
understand what I'm talking about. So I
have a lot I have full plates and a lot
It's not only the kids. I love them, but
I' i'm juggling all day long a million
things, but never you will see me upset
from that. Doesn't get me out of my
mood. And the sima that's inside it
welcomes the that's it.
All is left for me is to
recommend to you to follow the steps.
And by the way, on top of that, there's
many other things, but start with that.
Start with that. Go home today, put
yourself a a to-do list and start making
yourself a plan. How are you starting to
cover the little things that I said
here? And what I said here, it's might
be little. It can take a person a year
to master.
But that's that first of all, regardless
to how much money you're going to make,
I have a secret for you. You have to do
it.
It's irrelevant if you're going to get
money or not. Everything that I told you
to do, you are obligated in doing it.
Whether it's birkat,
everything that I said here, you have to
do it anyways.
So it's not that I'm telling you, oh,
you have to now invent new thing.
Anyways, you are obligated in doing it.
[snorts]
So do it with a good mood. Good. Do it
with a smile. Do it with the right
attitude. Put your mind to it. Don't
think that you have any control
of making more money than you're
supposed to.
The Balata, I don't remember where he
says that, whether it's maybe the rabbi
can help me, but the Balatana says that
you can do some, of course, in his
words, you can do some assaults in the
air.
>> You're not going to make one dime more
than you what you're supposed to.
Doesn't matter what you're going to do.
You need to do what you're supposed to
do and you'll make the money you're
supposed to. You'll get what you're
supposed to get. And in many of the
cases, you get 10% of what you're
supposed to get. But it's not that if
you work more or open another business
or I don't know what that you'll make
more money. You can make the exact same
amount with one transaction or make
triple the amount with one transaction.
and Hashem has an issue with you with
how to make money if it's come is with
one check or 50 checks
but you can't add anything. So if you
think you're going to run earlier from
the minan, I see the men who shab is
already without the already out the
door. Now I understand you have a job.
So pray in the minan that starts
earlier. Don't break the the
okay I don't know do whatever
arrangements you need to do. Don't run
away in the middle of
and thinking oh I'm going to I'll catch
up later. I'll finish my later with all
the excuses that I hear from I know all
the excuses
and I know it's hard because you're
eager to get to but now it's time to
finish your prayer do your learning
do your go and eat and say
don't worry the world will wait don't
think that if you cut ma or you'll do ma
at home or you'll do whatever you have
in your mind because you have to run to
some meeting that that's what's going to
get you
It's Hashem first. When Hashem is number
one and everything else is number two,
then you're following the instructions
that I said.
>> And at the bottom line, I don't know if
you paid attention between the lines
what I said. [snorts]
You have to do it anyways.
Everything that I mentioned here right
now, Hashem is kind of taking away your
lollipop
to make you do what you're supposed to
do. If you would have tons of money
right now, you wouldn't have any any
spiritual growth to maybe this much of
spiritual growth. Your spiritual grow
growth comes from pressure.
So, Hashem knows what he's doing. Now,
you just need to follow the rules. You
need to follow everything that I said if
you want to. Of course, it's not You
know what? I I take it back. Not if you
want to. You have to. Everything that I
said is obligated from the Torah. So I
actually just came to enlighten your
eyes what you are already obligated that
you're not doing and if after all this
you find that you still have
difficulties in parasa
then give me a call
then we'll discuss we'll see what's the
problem I'm not joking with you but
let's see you first do that and I highly
recommend and again I don't know you're
gonna have to follow me don't know when
it's going to start but very soon we're
going to start learn I'm going to start
teaching all the laws of masot because I
know nobody knows how to do
and maybe maybe that will help Am Israel
and many others to to straighten their
their their life. So again, I will very
quickly repeat what I said for the ones
who didn't take the notes cuz I want you
to leave from this door tonight with a
change. And it's not about the money.
It's about what you're supposed to do in
front of Hashem. It's what you're
obligated. And by the way, [snorts]
having a nephesh peace in your heart and
your mind from money, you'll see you'll
function in a completely different way.
You'll be nicer to your kids and your
wife or husband. You'll be an easier
person around. You'll be less uptight,
more relaxed. Why? Why? Why do you need
all the headache? You know that most of
the headache that you're dealing with,
it's your problem. It's not Hashem doing
anything. It's you are the idiot. Excuse
excuse me that I'm saying that. But you
bang your head at the wall, you get a
headache and then you complain. What's
the wall doing here?
Well, you bang the head at the wall.
That's the problem. Most people they
they they cook their own meal. So So
don't complain a lot.
We are not only in an aspicious time of
Shabbat. We're in a very powerful time
in the month of next week is
what brings all the blessings. After
comes
the time in the year where you can
switch everything from bad to good
two weeks later,
one of the most powerful days on the
calendar. Two weeks later pes we have
now two months that if you plant your
seeds the right way you'll have a very
successful year
and not only with parasa with your
health with your relationship with
Hashem with your relationship with other
people. So
I can talk and talk and talk but you
have to do the walk. You have to do
something. I I come and I make the
effort and I bless you. I bless you that
all of you should be able to apply
everything that we learned today with
true joy and happiness that each and
every one of you should be here the
first year in line here to open the
synagogue and everything should work for
you in the best way possible. I bless
you that Hashem should bestow you an
unbelievable abundance of everything and
but you have to do something. Hashem
wants you to do something. Time is
running out. The ga is around the
corner. You don't have much time to
figure all your all your little corners,
all your little details.
So my recommendation, go tonight. You
had your pizza. Hopefully you said
birkaton.
If you didn't,
>> then go no, go eat another piece right
now. Eat a little piece like this. So
you can say birkaton.
>> I'm not joking. If you missed the
blessing, you go now to the back and you
wash again and you eat a little piece
like this, 28 grams. Okay? and say again
and I guarantee to you
I'm not stam guaranteeing I guarantee to
you and I told you you have a problem
you call me I guarantee to you you
follow everything that I said here
tonight you're going to be doing very
well with your panasa your life will be
smooth you know I'm not promising you to
be a millionaire I just said I'm going
to promise you you're going to have good
paranas it will come easy it will come
calm you'll be calm you'll be happy
things will go how it's supposed to go
doesn't necess necessarily means that
she in abundance and you start driving
here Mercedes is that's not what I'm
talking about but you're not going to
worry the pan will come the right way in
the right amount wherever you need
Hashem will allow you to serve him how
he wants you to serve him but you need
to do that you need to do the act you
need to do the effort and the rest you
leave up to Hashem so what was left for
me to wish you success in your new path
>> and may Hashem bless you with true
happiness and bless you with great
parasa and bless you with everything
that you need to do to reach your tun
and I'm going to already reach you
because I'm not going to see you soon.
I'm going to already wish you and I'm
going to wish you happy and happy and
I will see you very soon in
will not come anytime soon then we'll
see you in the next time I come here.
Thank you very much, Rabbi. Always
opening your doors to this shul. I
always feel home here and welcome. And
it's very rare, by the way. I travel all
around the world. Not every synagogue
and rabbis they open the door that most
synagogues don't like visitors rabbis
taking away the floor and the fame and
everything. So, you got to give a lot of
respect and honor and thanks to your
rabbi and to the community. And thank
you for always organizing everything.
And thank you all for showing up.
Without you, there wouldn't be a
lecture. And thank you everybody for the
ones online. Tomorrow morning, we have
another class. What is it? 9:00 a.m. 8
a.m.
>> Yeah. 8 a.m.
>> Around 8 a.m.
>> No, Shah is 7. So the p the the
>> 8:30 the class will be
where is the class?
>> Okay. And the class there's another one
at night. 7:30 bye
and if you have any families in a friend
in Miami and New York I'm coming there
next week till then thank you so much
may Hashem bless you with great
happiness and everything that you need
>> unfortunately we don't have much time
but if you have a quick we have a few
minutes for questions and then we got to
go right so if you have any quick
questions but an important question not
something something that you think
anybody will benefit
And yes,
>> I've been having a problem arguing with
everybody conspiracy theories
four years affected
me a lot. Do you have any advice for me?
>> Are you on the side of the ones who are
against the conspiracy theories or for
the conspiracy?
>> I don't know anymore. [laughter]
>> Listen, some of the theories are not
theories. They're actually conspiracies
>> and some are theories.
Unfortunately, I don't know on which
side you are, but unfortunately most
people their eyes are sewed, their
eyelids are sewed to each other and they
don't see what's standing in front of
them.
And whether it's Hashem's desire, Hashem
sometimes deliberately blinds people and
you can talk to them till tomorrow and
out to lunch. there's nobody there.
what to do is not to give up because uh
I believe that when you believe in
something which is true and it can help
others then then in a normal manner
not to give up and again it's a very
general question very general answer in
some situations I would tell you give up
move away in some situations don't ever
give up but uh I would rather uh refine
the Christian instead of saying the word
conspiracy theories is saying truth.
Most people in our generation has a
problem to see the truth and accept the
truth. That's the problem. Whether it's
a theory, not theory, conspiracy,
truth. So now we just broaden our
audience another two billion. And when
people have an issue to see the truth,
we have the obligation to show it to
them. Of course, if the truth, it's the
real truth. Because if it's the truth,
it's Hashem's commandments. Whether it's
you going and showing the world who's
the real true God of the world or
anything that has to do with that, not
so easy. Not so. Just today we spoke
about it. Not so easy to go to people
all their life believe in a certain
thing and they're now trying to explain
to them something differently.
It's not so easy. It's the same thing
here. Most people are numb. They don't
see the truth. they don't want to see
the truth. In many of the cases, Hashem
doesn't want them to see the truth.
If it's close to your heart, then do do
what you need to do to help. That's what
I do. But if it's something that you
feel that you can't you don't have any
control, then step back. It's not your
place.
Yeah. In some of the case cases, you are
not a voice. Step back. You you might
even do just damage.
>> Yes.
>> Okay. You said earlier to that you sleep
well because
what do you do when family created the
>> you're trying to step away from it and
you can't.
>> Your question sounds like it's a
particular question and in order to
answer you even better I will need 500
more details.
Uh no because in some of the cases I
would just tell you just move away.
>> Yeah,
>> just move a country if you need to.
>> So that's what I'm saying. Every
situation is completely different and uh
in many of the situations
you are the one who has to bring the
peace
and that sometimes can be a huge matzah
ball.
>> Yes.
>> And you don't know what Hashem wants
from you. So there therefore I can't
give you a real good answer because I
don't know the history of everything and
to really give a good answer I need to
hear everything and uh and the reason
I'm saying that because I do have
situations that people come to me
families communities
it's not that you like okay let me
listen two minutes here two minutes here
okay this is the verdict and uh how you
presented the question sounds like you
have to interview here 20 people and get
the all the the because everybody's
right when it comes to
>> not only you in a m everybody's
[clears throat] right
>> how because if let's say I'm now in a
disagreement with you I'm right and you
are you are right right I hold that I'm
right if and you hold that you're right
that's how it becomes a
>> world knows right
>> if I think that you are right and you
think that you are right
>> and there's no
>> right
>> so [snorts] so in a m everybody's right
somebody has to be not right to end the
>> so
>> you might need to be the one now again
when it comes to disagreements it's so
colorful that there's never an answer a
right answer you actually need to sit
with all parties and in many of the
cases the the parties don't want to even
sit when it comes to ML.
>> So what do you do
>> then?
Who's asking the what do you do?
>> Me.
>> Me?
Okay.
There's no black and white answer.
>> It depends on the situation. I can tell
you already the general answers. Do
whatever you can to bring peace. Do
whatever you can to bring everybody to
the table. do whatever you can to give
in to give up you shut up you take blame
I mean it all it depends on the
situation I don't know if the is money
the can be inheritance the can be a
million and one things that every answer
applies to something else the rule when
it comes to disagreement is I step back
I don't even put my healthy mind into a
sick bed and I will do whatever I can
and when when it's in the beginning in
early stages to wrap it up, not to drag
it. The second that McCloet is dragged,
you're already in a problem. And then of
course
doing whatever you can to quieten it.
How do you say they say here with the
police? Deescalade.
Deescalate.
I was once pulled into a mloit that I
didn't have any choice. I didn't want
to. It wasn't my choice. And the guy
pulled me in and didn't let go. And it
became worse and worse and worse and in
many different ways.
And I didn't give in. I was like, I'm
not giving in to this. And I of course
did whatever I could to
uh
>> deescalate
to a point that I took all the blame. I
admitted I'm wrong. I'm wrong. Okay.
Now, when the person wanted me to admit
something at India, I said, "Listen, you
can't ask me to lie. I'll do anything,
but don't ask me to lie. And and the
point was that I got to understand that
doesn't matter what I'm going to do in
this situation, he's not going to let
go. And the advice that I gave myself is
just turn around and walk away. And I
actually moved away, which all worked,
everything worked well. Moved away from
that town
and never looked back. And I know he
hates me. I know he trashes me. I know
he still has holding grudge against me.
I actually went to a great sadik to ask
that guy's makid on me.
>> What do I do? Makpid means he's holding
grudge on me. That can cause a lot of
problems when somebody's holding grudge
against you. And after I went to a great
sadik and whatever we checked and
everything, he told me you're clean. He
can hold grudge with you as much as he
wants. You're clean. So I'm clean with
Hashem. So the the the the answer I
can't give you a real good answer
because and and it can't even in most
cases even be done on over a phone call
that I can tell you call me in two weeks
I'll help you because when it comes to
the I have to physically be and see the
the parties and see the how they're
treating each other talking to each
other and know not that I'm some ha but
give me five minutes in front of a
person I'll tell you who's wrong in
I I'll read the truth on the behavior in
the faces. I'll tell you right away
who's wrong and then it doesn't mean
that that's how you end the
one that is wrong is usually the one
who's going to have to win the when it
has to be over. [snorts] The bigger one
is the one who's right. That's just that
just understands that he needs to take
the blame, eat it, swallow it, or as
they I don't know if it's applying in
this case, take one for the team. Yeah,
sometimes you have to be the punching
bag.
>> Okay.
>> And in many of the cases and that I'm
pulled into a let me be the punching
bag. I'll take some punches and and
somehow wrap it up. But when it comes to
disagreements,
we just read today with
>> that Mosher Rabeno had to sit down and
answer disagreements. It wasn't halaka
questions. Everybody came to him with
disagreements and he had to be a borer.
>> That's Mosher Rabenu, by the way.
Everybody came to him with
disagreements.
That's when it says, "You can't deal
with this. You just can't deal with
this."
Unfortunately,
some people don't get it.
And if you get it, you'll be the bigger
person. And it doesn't promise you it's
going to work.
>> That's true.
>> I can tell you already that some
something that helps a lot to
disagreements is a lot of prayers.
A lot of prayers that you pray for the
other person to soften the heart to
accept to whatever. A lot of prayers are
required. A to protect you. B to to make
the other party come to some type of a
a situation that you can fix it.
But the sad reality some people die with
makot.
>> Yes. All these people that say, "Oh, we
try we try to make this is all
nonsense."
>> Yeah.
>> What do you do with that?
>> Like you said, walk away.
>> Uh there are situations. Listen, there
are situations that you can uh involve
a third or fourth party that might be
able to affect a certain individual.
That's why I said there's no clear
answer here
>> because in a certain disagreement that I
was involved recently, not that I was in
the disagreement, they actually came to
me to try to talk. But what worked is
that the person that was causing all the
problems, the people who came to me told
me, "Go please talk to him. He's the you
are the only one he respects about me."
So they brought me into the disagreement
now.
>> And they involved
>> and they involved me in which is fine.
But they told me we he's told me more
everything. No. They just told me and
they said, "Listen, he's the problem."
and they asked me to come and talk to
him because he respects me.
Did it work? I don't know. I came to
him. I don't know if it worked. It's all
recent. But that's one of the ways when
you're saying how that's why there's no
like mama black and white answer because
uh
because in every situation is different
and yeah in many of the cases you can
bring somebody that that the the one
who's hard
then there's another person that can
soften his heart and in many of the
cases by the way I don't think it's in
your case many of the cases Both sides
are not willing to leave the
disagreement.
There's no there's never going to be any
negotiation here because the both don't
want to. Nobody's really interested. You
know how many disagreements I came into
and I told them you're wasting my time.
Not you and not you want to do a peace.
When you want to do peace, call me.
>> Most of the disagreements the person is
not ready to do to do peace. And why?
Because what I told you. Because
everybody's right in the disagreement.
If I'm wrong, I would right away come
and admit. If I'm normal, most people,
even if they understand that they're
wrong,
>> they still won't.
>> They can't admit. It's too embarrassing.
Their cavo, their honor, they they
know about
>> I have a You know what? Maybe next time
I come to Colorado. I have a beautiful
It's long. I'm not going to say it now.
It's late. We got to go. It's an actual,
it can be a lecture about all the ones
in the Torah, the common denominator of
them, how they made a mlo. It's
unbelievable. And there's a certain word
in the Torah that before that m doesn't
matter. I'm not I'm not going to start.
It's
all history. There's always somebody who
starts the over something. It's there
was a it goes all the way back to
and andor
before Korak there were many other
disagreements. Let's go all the way
back.
Is he considered like or not?
>> Yeah. Yeah.
>> So you're allowed to say if it's not his
name. Uh again not black and white
[clears throat] not black and white the
answer but yeah a person who's causing a
yeah he has
>> there was a big pocket here I'm sure you
know about this this and that and my
question is how can you go
is that consider synagogue over there or
not
>> as I told you in a everybody's Right?
So I didn't give any suck here who's the
right, who's wrong. I can tell you in my
eyes, everybody's wrong. If you want to
hear my opinion, nobody's here right.
I'm not even involved yet in bringing
trying to do peace here. But from the
little that I see, both sides are wrong
and both sides hold that they're right.
So it's very hard to even start doing
the makit are doing the or however you
want to call it and up until then both
sides of okay I can't pull a finger and
say he's wrong
I'm not even involved
and again here comes another problem
that's also you need to pay attention
when it comes to the since everybody's
right everybody in the is right it's a
borderline and in most of the cases
that's where people in Makllo could fail
that the and the slandering they goes
out of control because every party needs
to prove that they're a right so starts
the slandering and the
is not and and many other things the key
in the is to not to fall in that and not
to shalom that you or you that anyone
from the maket side fails in that part.
If you're already holding the mlo and by
the way until there's peace both sides
by the way it doesn't matter who's right
right now if there's still both sides
are held as bal
okay so the the point is that one needs
to be very cautious that it doesn't lead
you to 50 other sins of
I don't know all the terms comes in
English and what's innation. How do you
say it?
How is it called? Then you talk bad
about somebody and you ruin his name.
>> No, that's not
defamation.
>> Defamation.
>> That's not that's
so there are so many different things
that one can fail. So if you're already
in the fine, there's a disagreement.
Don't fail in lash and all the rest. The
best attitude is [snorts]
>> and move away.
>> It's not so easy to move away here.
You're talking here and I'm
understanding from you. The mak here is
not two people and sometimes the
disagreement is communities.
So, and you said families, listen, I've
seen that are I think irreversible. Mhm.
>> They're not going to be ever fixed.
>> It's better to just shut up, forgive,
forget, move on. That's it. And and and
try to clean anything. Don't don't you
know many people pull me into
that I I find myself in a in a problem.
I What are we doing for me? And doesn't
matter what I do, it doesn't work.
>> Nothing changing.
>> Nothing. There's one person who
to make a very long story short worked
for our organization
and then of course uh he did something
and uh it wasn't so nice to say the
least and in the nicest way I fired him
okay
wasn't like anything I just said listen
I I think it's better for all of us we
heart. That was kind of the
And really and it's not about that I'm
trying to be the the the the right one.
He did something wrong. That's it
happens. I didn't get upset. I didn't
slander him. I didn't do anything. I
just told him I think it's better if we
part.
And he went on such a a rampage
maybe four or five years.
in levels that you can't imagine
in levels that he went and tell
everybody that I'm beating up my wife
and I'm beating up the kids and I steal
money from the organization and I fund
raise and it's all in my I take them. I
mean the lash and the things that he
came out and he made a coalition against
me of all my fans
and for about four or five years you
can't even imagine to what levels it got
to
and
I'm 100% right and as a matter what I
tried
he was locked like a pitbull
and he was like I'm going to show you
>> yeah
So after a while that I tried
to to to come to some agreement
something I saw that it's talking to the
wall. So I'm I I flip the page and move
on.
I don't care about the lash. You know
that in Shamim I'm a gazillionaire in
mitzvot because when somebody talks
about you you get his mitzvot
and they get you.
So I'm a gazillion, not even a
millionaire, multi multi-gazillionaire.
Jean, not as much as he wants. I don't
care. You think it helped him in any way
all his campaign
>> and the fact that I didn't try once to
clear my name or anything. It's not
because a lot of people tell me try to
clear your there's nothing to clear. The
fact that he claims it, so he said it, I
need to clear my name. I need to now
show people I'm I'm innocent. No, I
don't have to prove anyone I'm innocent.
So he said and people used to come to
me. But he said, so he said,
and I lost students and I lost a lot of
things. I didn't lose anything. [snorts]
You don't want to be my student cuz
somebody trashed me. Go.
So everything that he did, he basically
shot himself in the leg. He didn't get a
partner in the mat.
I made sure that I'm getting no pedote
from him and he just buried himself in a
geome that he will never be able to get
out of.
[clears throat]
>> I don't care where he's going to be. And
by the way, I gave a long time ago. I
was like
because I say every night and I say
I really say that. So I to this guy a
long time ago, but he's going to have a
what a this guy is going to have.
Even that I mock to him. I forgave him.
But the damage that this guy did is
I don't know how he's going to get out
of that. And it doesn't I can mock to
him 50 times.
I look at this person. Like I don't even
know how a person like this can do
chuva. I know I'm not joking. Somebody
came to me not too long ago. We finished
a prayer in my sh and everything.
Somebody comes up to me. I never saw him
and he he tells me uh I I want to have a
few minutes of your time. Anyway, he
says I want to ask for forgiveness from
you. Okay. And he started telling me how
he spoke about me and he asking my
forgiveness.
So I
kind of went like this for about 3 4
seconds and I said sorry can't give you
a
he's like what I said I'm sorry I'm not
m to you
he he became white he's like but I came
all the way here to ask for forgiveness
I could have not I said what are you
doing I could have not
you the fact that you made an effort I'm
not I'm not forgiving you have a
He didn't. He was stunned. He looked at
me like that. He was like, "So, what do
you want me to do?" I told him,
"I need to tell you what to do. You You
You messed up."
He was beyond shocked.
And after because there were other
people there, everybody was shocked. And
I told him, "Listen, you want me for me?
I don't even know what you said about
me.
What you need to do is go to all the
people that you said lash about me and
you're going to have a little bit of a
problem because you did it on the
internet. Find all the people that you
said about me and tell them that it
wasn't true and then come back to me and
then I'll give you a
good luck.
>> Did he do it?
>> Yes.
>> I never heard from him back. How can he
do it? He trashed me on the internet.
10,000 people read it. Now go find these
10,000 people.
>> But if you can say again on the
internet,
>> okay, he can do it. Yeah, there are many
ways what he can do it. But I told him,
go and make amends. Then come back to
me. I don't even know who you are. I
told him I I I commend you for coming
and telling me that you spoke lash about
me and that's one of a million but I'm
sorry I can't give you ma
next time don't talk lon
sorry
>> why did he do it
>> doesn't matter cuz he didn't agree with
my opinions and what I said in a certain
video and he and like him I have
thousands and thousands of wonderful
followers is they have a lot of nice
things to say about me. So which I can
care less but nevertheless a person like
that
talking here and there that person made
like a whole campaign that's what I'm
saying he's like a co that's a that
person is is I don't even know how a
person like this can do cha because
what's going to happen let's say he
somehow gets to his senses and he
repents and he can come and kiss my feet
20 times a day it's not going to help
[clears throat]
the damage he did [snorts]
besides the fact that it's not done from
evil or not. I did my I saidm I forgive
this person
but if he ever comes to me he's not
going to get one second of my time.
So even if he's going to come to try to
do any type of chuva he's not getting
any nothing from me.
So I don't know how a person can like
this can do chuva he'll come up to
shamine with a serious problem. And I'll
tell you what the problem is. Not the
fact that he spoke about me is that
thousands
stopped learning Torah because of him.
So the Torah of these thousands are
going to go on his account and many
other things. So that's why I'm saying
hate. It's not worth it. It's not worth
it to anyone. It's a disease that you
can barely cure. Unfortunately, I have
failed to find a disagreement that one
side says the truth is that he's right.
But
[laughter] I never heard such a thing.
22 years I'm in the business. The mak
that's why I'm saying in a in a a sad
way both sides are right.
You have to bring to the person to the
understanding that I understand that you
are right.
But in life you have to be smart not
right. That's my one of the first
lessons my father told me when I was 14
years old.
Don't try to be right. The only one
who's right is Hashem. Be smart.
That's it.
So unfortunately inot
I don't want to even say extreme things.
I heard it from great rabbis and sadikim
that say that what holds the regula is
theot.
I don't want to say such things. A I'm
not an authority. B I don't want to add
more oil to the to the
>> to the fire. Yeah.
>> But uh the
[clears throat] every person that has
any type of disagreements has to be
mature and and especially when it's a
person who's an observant person secular
servant people. Come on.
You're in the mercy of Hashem. What
don't you understand here? You have to
be not the bigger person. and you have
to be the giant person here. It's very
difficult for me. Sometimes I see
certain situations and uh it's sad sad
to see it because it all boils down to
cavode gava ego respect honor and it's
the he of the Torah. Sorry,
>> Mosher Rabenu when Korak came and
accused him Mosher Rabenu didn't Mosher
Rabenu you know what the Torah says
Hashem the Torah says that Mosher Rabenu
fell on his face and started crying not
that Mosha Rabenu was a a crybaby three
greater
>> vo
you know what's alav
In that there's a part that is called
after you confess
no you go down and you put your head
down. So the Ashkenazi do that the don't
put the the hand like this but it's the
same thing. It's called
>> I know. So that's what I'm saying.
Everybody has their mean. We're not
going to get into arguments.
Oh, another disagreement. Do it. Doesn't
matter like this or like that. Just do
it. But but the fact is that that we
don't need another disagreement. But
[snorts] the fact is
so first of all he did confession
but
is not necessarily the face is the pine.
He started introspecting.
He started doing chuva v.
He cried. When you do chuva, you cry. So
he said, "Okay, this guy is coming and
accusing me in something. He's claiming
all sorts of claims.
Mosher Rabenu had all the rights in the
world to go like that
>> and to kill him.
put he can give the order in a second
that guy is put to death. Kak is put to
death. He went against the king. But
instead of that and mob has all the
reasons in the world why to argue
but instead of that he chooses to say
that person was sent to me by Hashem
right now with accusations.
I need to do chuva.
He did chuva. He went and looked what's
wrong in me. Why is Hashem sending me a
man accusing me in things? Maybe I need
to do chuva. When that person that I
told you that came at me, I didn't not
even once did I try to defend myself. My
entire motion was I was I was like wait
this this guy is like pointing so much
fingers in me. Must be that Hashem is
sending me some hint that I need to do
chuva. Maybe I don't receive that. He
was saying he was spreading the that I'm
beating up my wife. So I said, "Okay, if
that's what he's saying, maybe I don't
honor my wife enough.
Maybe that's the divine message I'm
getting. Maybe I need to be a better
husband. Maybe I need to be a better
father." He's saying that I'm beating up
my kids. Never laid a a hand on my kid.
But maybe that's the divine message I'm
getting. So I didn't see him as an
enemy. I saw him as a messenger. So I
did
I did my chuv wait a minute. He's saying
that I'm stealing money from the
organization. Maybe I have gazel. Maybe
I did something. Maybe I owe somebody
money.
That's the attitude. Not to be like and
if I would fight back that poor guy what
I would do to him.
No. And tr trust me, there were times
that I wanted to roll up my sleeves, not
violently. I would eat him alive. I know
how to fight. I'm not talking about my
hands. I'm talking about in any other
ways. I would eat him alive. But I chose
to follow my rabbi Moshe Rabenu. And I
didn't say anything for four and a half
years. I shut my mouth. Never said one
word.
And all that I did, I didn't look at him
as an enemy. I looked at him as a
messenger who's giving me guidance from
Hashem.
The same thing with David.
You know the story? If not, I'll tell it
to you very quickly. You don't know the
story. I don't want to. You don't know
the story. Okay. David was a very
special king on one of his convoys from
the center of Israel. I don't remember
if it was from Lud. I don't remember the
the Gamaras says the city. He went back
to
there was a resistance free Palestine.
Okay, there was a resistance. They
didn't like David Melik and one of the
leaders of the resistance was Shima who
came and started attacking David on the
convoy throwing stones cursing. When
they stopped, he started cursing David
violently.
Yava was the chief of staff pulls out
his sword. He comes to take his head
off. You talk like this to the king. The
Torah tells you it's called going
against the king. The punishment is
death.
He pulls out his sword to kill him.
David stops him. Tells him
Hashem told him to curse me. Don't do
anything to this man.
So, I took Mosher Rabenu's advice, David
Aerik's advice when it came to when I
was attacked, and I get attacked all the
time, by the way. Where's the guy with
the conspiracies? I I'm the master of
conspiracies. I get attacked all the
time, which I can care less. If I speak
truth, I don't care. I speak what Hashem
wants me to speak and that's it.
>> And I don't filter what I need to say.
So I know what it means to be attacked
but my attitude is
I don't go into arguments. I don't let
you know I didn't fight that guy
says in the book of Tanya
>> oh you get involved.
>> If you wrestle somebody who's dirty you
will get dirty.
>> I'm too clean to get you get me dirty.
I work too hard on my chuba.
I'm not going to work dirt myself with
slashon and fighting and slandering and
no no no no no no no
you're dirty. Don't touch me.
So that's why I don't fight back and I
just look at that person as a messenger.
Exactly like Mosher Rabenu did with
Korak. He saw Korak as a messenger.
That's it. And he did his chva. He
stepped back. That's it. Didn't order
death. Didn't do anything. And Hashem
did the rest
is the Mashiach. Okay. Tell us what you
think.
Guys online. I love you all. Thank you
all for joining us. Tomorrow we have two
more classes. Unfortunately, the I can't
read all the messages here, but uh you
can definitely listen to the Messiah.
Nice to meet you. [snorts]
Why don't you come and redeem us?
>> Please come and redeem us.
Thank you, Rabbi.
>> I hope to see you in tomorrow's classes.
The guys online, you can I hope to see
you also.
Thank you for coming.
Do yourself a favor. Walk out of this
door with a lot of toot. I we spoke
about a lot of powerful things tonight.
Go out of this door. Not only with what
you hear to actions tonight. Go home and
say, "Okay, what do I do as actions?
What do I change in my life tomorrow to
to activate everything that I just that
we just learned
>> and and put it to the put it to action?
And I would I'm not going to even tell
you put it to the test. Do it. You'll
you'll be happy. You'll be successful.
So I wish you all the best.
I wish you already.
We'll see you very soon.
>> The guys online. We'll see you tomorrow
and in the rest of the lectures.
Thank