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So we thought of many different things what we're going to talk about but I felt that it would be appropriate to talk a little bit about parasa about moneym I get hundreds if not thousands of messages every day I don't process the messages I can't even process so many messages but from all social media and WhatsApp and emails and so much going on that hundreds of messages funnel into my system every day and I would say that a large amount of them is people seeking for guidance and some type of help because they're having struggle with their palnasa with making ends meet making money. It seems like the majority of people around the world that's something that bothers them 24/7. Now we have to look a little bit deep into the concept about parnas because when you really think about it, we kind of live to make money to support ourselves. That's the majority most people. You stop living, you stop working, how you going to live, how you going to pay rent, how you going to get food, the system is made in such of a way that whether you want it or not, you're going to have to work. Now, if you are already very advanced and you own and you farm your own food and that's how you uh eat and feed your family and you somehow got to a point that you own the land, you have everything all set up, you still need to work the land unless you have some workers doing that. But either way you're looking at it, it seems like Hashem created a system that most of our life we have to be occupied with how we taking care of ourselves, which is kind of a doesn't make sense because Hashem wants us to be close to him. He wants us to pray and learn and practice the Torah and the mitzvah. But if all day long I'm busy with how am I making money, then where exactly do I have time to apply my life in the Torah? So why would Hashem do such a thing? It doesn't make even sense. Hashem should give me all the time in the world so I can wake up in the morning and pray long two hours, 3 hours, no pressure, learn after that 2, three hours Torah, go home, eat something, go back and learn. I mean, you would think that Hashem would plan a system that I can just serve him in the best way possible. So originally, that was the plan. By the way, the original plan was that was supposed to be in Ganed and then not worry about anything. Eat from whatever you want. Whatever I gave you here, you can eat. And the fruit in the Ganed in I don't know if they call the Garden of Eden, but Ganeden, the fruit there is not what you buy here in Costco that tastes like plastic. Every piece of fruit was real fruit from Ganedan. All he had to do is just do a few acts and you are free to to serve Hashem. We know the story. Don't have to repeat the story. Adam Kavas sins. We're not coming and pointing fingers at this point. We're just trying to make a to understand what's going on. Adam Kavasin happened to be that the serpent also joined forces here. So, Hashem curses everyone that is participating in the sin. The serpent gets 10 curses. Kava gets 10 curses. Gets 10 curses. And the land also gets 10 curses. Total of 39 kilot all written in the Torah. It's not something that you need to look in the commentary or in books of Cababala. It's all listed in the Torah. And one of the curses that Adaman got is that you're going to have to work sweat in order to earn money. You are familiar with many of the other curses. Going to be sorrow for you to carry a baby. nine months and then go into labor. You know when Mashiah is going to come, a woman will be pregnant for 9 minutes, >> no pain, >> no pain, no everything will be great. So we do understand that after the sin of which everybody who was involved here got punished and one of the curses that got is the curse so to say of your going on good you messed it up now you're going to have to work. So we can already put the the first stop is we know where it started from. But that still doesn't explain to me why, who, when, and what. I always asked why is it so hard for every individual to do to make money? Why is it not easy? Why is it have to come with a lot of struggles? Now again, you can blame it on big things such as politics, uh maybe a war, a president that does certain things. I mean this this is fake excuses. We're not looking to base this class on uh what's going on in a country that I live in. If the country is doing good, the country is not doing good and that is right now not our topic because one can say listen you know the economy is not do good so right now I'm not making money. That's not the topic we're going to focus on. We want to more pinpoint a why do I need to work for my sustenance? What's the system behind it? Because I understand from my understanding Hashem should give us all the needs that we h that we need just give it to us so we can serve him. I can already answer that that that's going to happen when Mashiach comes. We had it when Adamish was created. Since Adam and his wife sinned, then we lost it till Mashiach will come. But the good news is when Mashia is going to come, Hashem is going to set up the system that you have 24 hours a day free to serve Hashem. You don't have you don't have bothering of your of your how to make money. And you know what? A lot of people might say, I have no issues with money. I'm making good parnasai. Sometimes better, sometimes less. But you know, I'm not in a level of poverty. But even to those individuals, the parasa doesn't come easy necessarily. Sometimes you have to put 18 hours a day of work. Why don't you do it in three hours? Besides the fact not everybody's equal and not everybody has to share the same challenges. Although with panas, everybody shares it. saying that even if you're lucky and you're good and you're making [snorts] good money then then you'll have a lot of problem you're going to have a lot of worries because when you have a lot of money comes with a lot of worries especially if you own properties and many other things like that I have a a friend who had a very good business transaction he sold his company that he built for whatever 40 years and he sold it for like 480 million shekels you know you get such an amount overnight and of of course with all sorts of benefits and that. So all day long he's worried what are you going to do with the money? What where am I going to put the money? Where am I going to invest the money? What should I invest it here? Should I invest it in Bitcoin? Should I invest it? Every time every two days I get a phone call. WHAT SHOULD I DO WITH my money? I told them I'm a rabbi. I'm not an accountant. Why you keep calling me? No, you you see things. That's what you see things. I don't see anything. I see a fool with a lot of money. That's what I see. >> Yeah, that's what I told him. put the money aside and go and learn Torah. But even when sometimes you see a person gets a lot of money, then the kadu will take care of it that the person will be challenged with a lot of worries and a lot of as ourim say in the Mishna. So a we want to understand what's behind the system and b practically what do I need to do? That's the purpose of our class and bantem we should do it straight into the point and all of you are going to leave tonight with a recipe how tomorrow you're making a lot of money and uh and uh I would recommend to also write the headlines of what I'm talking about because a lot of it will just be practical things before we start it's very important to understand the concept that onsh each and everyone one of us. And it doesn't matter if you are a Jew or non-Jew, it's included everybody in the world because Shah the master of the universe blesses the entire world with everything that it's going to need for the next coming year on Shana. The godly light that sustained and created the world for the last year goes back to its source and a new light comes down to the world. So we have 48 hours that the world is kind of in limbo. >> There's no there's no real to the world. There's no life force to the world yet. The world is kind of on hold. Everything is being judged from human beings to inanimates. Everything. And everything is decided for that year. What's going to happen? How we read in the text when we pray? Who's going to be poor? Who's going to be rich? Who's going to live? Who's going to die? Everything is decided on including your partners. How much money you're going to make? How hard you're going to have to work for that. Everything is decided even beyond the money. What is decided is also how much challenges you're going to have that year and if the challenges are going to be with money or not. So inshah if you really care about your parasa shah is the time to pray for the master of the universe that I need parasa and just to say the to say it as a side note the koshbu is not interested in making any one of you poor that's not part of the plan could be in many situations a tikun a rectification that needs to be done from a certain sin that will bring poverty to a person but Other than that, Hashem doesn't have the interest of making anyone poor. I will right away redirect the the finger at the person is responsible for his own actions with an exception that there are situation that a person's mazal is not to have money. The mazal is not the luck that you go with it to Vegas. Mazal means the the spiritual DNA of your path. That's really your mazal. The mazal is your maybe I didn't define it the right way. [snorts] Your mazal is so to say the the your entire path what you're going to go on the your entire life. what is going to be your khim your uh vessels in order to perform your uh purpose in this world. So if Hashem wants to wants when Hashem gives me a purpose in this world my mazal will hold in it all the how to actually do my purpose and the vers that I'm talking about if I have to do a certain that has to do with developing something whatever will give me and if I have to do a tikun with a certain certain sense will give me character traits to be able to deal with the rectification that I need to do. So there are situations that the mazal of the person is to be poor or not to make money and he needs to figure it out very quick and not to run after money and to be happy with what hashem gives him. And before we start I have to give an example of a friend of mine that going back 20 years [snorts] he he had brilliant ideas. I thought he's going to be the next Facebook. He had ideas before Facebook came out. You can't even imagine what brilliant ideas he had. And always he would forget the money and fund and this and that. And somehow nothing ever worked out. I knew him for over 10 years. Every brilliant idea that he came up with never worked out. And I I didn't understand how it doesn't work out. Brilliant ideas. One of the his business ventures I even lend him money. I that's how much I was so feeling good about this business that he did. To make a long story short, nothing worked. At some point, I told him, "Listen, I I I don't see any mazal for you. You you in it doesn't look like you have any braha in Parasa. I don't think that your path in this life has to be about money. I see that you are brilliant in the Torah, but in levels that I don't see so often. You need to learn Torah all day long. [clears throat] So for about 10 years, every two three months came a new business failed miserably. Years passed and I lost contact with him. And uh in a very interesting way, our path met again. And out of curiosity, I told him, "What are you doing now?" He's like, "I sit and learn in Kle all day long. I'm happily married. I have two lovely daughters. Life is I I couldn't be better." So he took the man 15 years to understand that his mazal has nothing to do with money. Forget about money in this incarnation. you it's not your thing and you know he had a horrible marriage horrible divor everything life for him was falling apart and when he switched the attitude then everything went well and so far it's a happy story so are there are exceptions that a person needs to figure out that his mazal will not bear any money and he should put his mind to something else completely he she by the way I'm saying he but it's applied to everyone. So that's one thing that you need to figure out. Again, we I'm looking now at everybody with the understanding that or the assumption that you struggle with paranas. I don't think neither one here and maybe I'm I'm wrong. I mean, I didn't see any Bentleys outside. So, I'm assuming nobody's here, you know, rolling in dough, as they say. >> Thank God. >> So, and there's nothing wrong or good or bad, by the way. I'm just >> Thank you. That's what I like, by the way. But again, um, we're here. We're practical. Even though we're very spiritual people and we want to be attached to Hashem all day long, but the bottom line is I don't work for one or two days. That's it. Mortgage payments, tuition, kids, food. You you put the you take the foot off the gas for one minute, it's it's a problem. So, we got to be practical till Mashia comes. We have to be practical. Mashia comes. We'll all sit learn Torah from morning to night. That's another another reason good enough reason for us to pray for Mashiach to come and to do whatever we can to make sure that he's coming fast. But practically saying most people either have very big issues with making money or making money is a always a struggle or every month is a different struggle. And there are the we'll call it now the exceptions that they're doing good. They're doing well, but we'll talk about them for a second too because they're not exempt. So going back to what I was saying, there are ex exceptions that a person's mazal no money. Figure it out as fast as you can and move on. So if one of you see that in the last 10 15 20 years doesn't matter what you do that you're always in dead ends then look into very deep how much you can figure out if that's your mazal and what you need to do about it and and also come to terms with it doesn't mean everybody has to have money I had times in my life that I was so poor that I didn't even care about it first when I got married we my wife and me was so poor that my wife would come to the yeshiva where I learned I would take two portions of food from the the we had food in the yeshiva and I would take two portions out I would go out to the street we would sit on the bench in the street and uh in a very romantic way eat our dinner and that's it we didn't have money we didn't have money at all and and it's not that we my wife didn't try I mean there was kind of like a block no money now it didn't didn't bother me I was busy learning it didn't bother my wife so there are times in your life that that you up sometimes you down but let's go let's focus on what I want to learn so I was saying that on Shana gives blessings to everybody and if you would realize how much blessings you got on then you wouldn't complain as much as you do and you would realize that it's you have to do a lot more to receive that. Now, how does the system work? And I'm talking right now just about money, not about health or other things in your life. Kadosh will bless you with a certain amount how much money you're going to make that year, but you don't get it right away. The amount stays in the spiritual bank. Now, you need to bring it down. the [clears throat] money doesn't come to you right away overnight. The Zor explains that there was once a king and he had a few sons and uh he made with him some deal and he told him, "I'm going to take care of you. You're my sons. I'm going to take care of you. Uh but I want you to come to me every day three times and every time you come to me, I'm going to write you a check." Okay, who wouldn't say you know anybody would say no to his father taking care of me? Why not? So it worked well the first day, the second day, the third day. After a few days, one of the sons told the father, "Father, it's so kind of you that you're helping us and supporting us, but do you really need us to bother you three times a day for that?" I mean, after all, you're the king. Let me just do a wire once a month. Send a check once a what's the big deal to come here three times a day. So the king said if I wouldn't tell you to come here three times a day I won't see you. So the tells you I want to see you. I'll give you your money but I want to see you. You have to come here three times a day and that's how you get a check. here to the synagogue, not here to Denver. Then I'll give you your money. When you pray, when you pray, you start pulling blessings from above. Hashem blessed you to be healthy. Then Hashem says, "Okay, now pray, pull it down." Hem blesses us with everything that we need. How do we bring the blessing down into the world? Or how do we transform it from spiritual to physical? Through prayer. Through specific 18 prayers that I recite three times a day. And when I recite these prayers with the right mind frame, then I'm able to transform the spiritual blessing into a physical blessing. And it will come down into the world, will manifest into the world in the amount what I should bring down that day. Anything that you would give too much in one shot won't be able to hold it. You give I I'll pour out now a cup and I want you to pour me good wine or whatever. Yeah, you can't pour the whole bucket into the to the cup. It won't hold anything. Just make a a huge mess. So what what would be the point of that? Now you made a huge mess. All the wine spilled and I don't have nothing. So Hashem says yeah I will give you to your vessel every day in the quantity what you can handle. So first of all you have to understand that to manifest the blessings into the world you have to pray. Second of all, you have to understand that you won't get everything in the one in one shot. It has to come in increments. But the quantity of the inc increments or I should say more correct the amount for each increment that depends on you depends on your on your on your vessel. Hypothetically, if you can only hold $1,000 in one shot, then you'll get $1,000. But if you can hold 10,000, you'll get 10,000. So first of all it has to be very clear that the parnasa the sustenance I have to manifest it from the spiritual blessing to the physical before we start I mean we're before we start we have half halfway through uh the the preparation the intro is usually long to to get a five minute uh message but I want to stop for one second to ask a question and to answer it for the ones who might have been thinking about it and maybe are behind the the camera and they don't have the opportunity to ask. If we're going by what I just said, I think that the amount of people who pray every day is such a minority that it's like a drop in the ocean. That means how come all the rest of the people who don't pray three times a day get money. >> Exactly. >> I mean, I'm going by what the Torah says. I It doesn't matter to me right now. Your faith, your background, your your your No, it doesn't matter. I just said and I'm quoting the Torah. It's not that I'm inventing anything. You you want to bring down your parasa, you have to pray three times a day. End the story. We can finish the the lecture here. Go start praying every day. But first, we have to answer this simple question. What about the people who don't pray? I'm not talking about sinning right now. They don't pray three times a day. >> They make millions. >> Even if they don't make millions, even if they make thousands, >> do they pray in a prior life? >> Uh, no. The answer of course is no. uh but let let me let me go through my uh my points and I'll answer everything if we have time I'll give some time for questions but it's a simple question how come a person doesn't pray let's take a Jew now a secular Jew doesn't pray doesn't even know where the synagogue is and he's making money and could be even millions like you're saying so first of all we don't know uh what's beyond what we see. I know personally many people who don't pray they're not really observant but happens to be that because of them many others pray whether they donate to the synagogue they donate to the yeshiva they have kids I know a man that is so secular you're not going to get him into a synagogue doesn't matter what Hashem that has a very good sense of humor because that person is very anti- Torah All his children became observant. All his children one after the other. And I was laughing the whole time cuz I I had some engagement with him. We became we had some uh h business to do to do. He wasn't like he didn't come to a lecture. It's not my student. I came to him actually to do something. Well, you know, last name Jew. We started talking and he was always as much as he was good in what he did he always like had like these little comments about the Torah and Judaism and commenting me and which I didn't care but his karma was his the the talk the laugh was all his kids became observant one after the other and I was laughing the whole time but what am I saying this guy he supports his kids so he supports kids that are people who are learning and praying and all that. So it's not an excuse. I'm just telling you in one aspect, how can it be that a person is not observant, doesn't pray at all and still has his parasa. We don't see beyond what the Hashem puts in front of us. That's one option. I know a lot of people that they might not be righteous on their look, but they give a lot of money quietly. Matanet, they donate quietly. And I know a lot of people that they might not look on the outside so righteous, but I learned a long time ago not to judge a book by its cover and to understand that a lot of people do things way beyond you and me and we don't even see it. And we're very judgmental because they do it in certain ways. And who are us to judge and let Hashem do the judging? That's a more kind answer. But there is the answer that one might ask, look at this rash. Look at this wicked person and look how much money he's making. No problems with parasa. So that's not a blessing by the way. Hashem is cutting him his checks in this world. It's coming off the balance from the world to come. So he might now has a lot of money and nice cars and beautiful clothes and vacations and life seems good. You don't know what's waiting on the other side. He might come to the other side and they'll tell him, "Habibi, you cashed all your mitzvot every little thing that you did that is good. You cashed it already. There's nothing left." And there are many more options. Why a person that we see that is not been praying and they have money and it can be an effect from a different life? Like you said, it's not you said it differently. That's why I thought how to answer you. But yeah, it could be that in a previous life the person did something and in this life he gets paid and it might go down from his spiritual balance. The thing is there are many options. The Zor talks about it in several places. Other books of Cabal and Ms talk about it. I rather not waste our time on this right now. Look at yourself. Don't look at the other people who don't pray. Hashem has his account with everybody. I gave you a few examples why a person that doesn't pray at all still will have money and know that there are much more examples but my approach is I don't look at him that he doesn't pray and he has money I look at me I only look at me it's the only view I need to see not somebody else so a very simple answer you want money you have to pray three times a day that's it and by the way I'm sorry to break it out to you women have to pray too and I don't know which rabbi you listen to. Khan says that you have to pray. If you areazi, you have to pray twice a day. If you're safari, you pay pray once a day. That's from any other person who tells you differently then is misleading you. Now the only difference is that you don't have to go to Armenian. You don't have to come to you can pray at home. You can pray whenever you want. I mean technically you can pray at 10:00 at night. The the advice is for a woman is that you praying if it's in the time frame of of then pray. If it's in the time frame of then pray and there's no excuses. I know a lot of women tell me, "What? Are you kidding me? I have kids. I have responsibilities and a job and this and that." Well, you know what? I have seven kids. Or to be more exact, my wife has seven kids, too. She finds way to pray. No excuses. And you know what she used to do when my kids were young? They would get together three women. One prays, two babysits, then they switch and the women get to pray. And women, your prayers are, no offense, more powerful than men. So first of all, and most important, nobody's exempt from praying. The better you do it, the more you do it, [snorts] the more you bring down shea. That's it. Very simple math. Very, very simple math. And again, do not look at another person who didn't pray today and they're making money. Forget that option. Put on your eyes like they do to horses. Don't don't don't look to the sides. The grass of the neighbor is always better, greener, nicer, more lush. The worst attitude is to look at another person and say, "How come he and not me?" But to make it simple, that's how you bring money into the world. That's how you bring your parasai into the world. And it's very important for you to know because I see all types of people. The wicked ones that make a lot of money, the righteous one that don't make money, the righteous ones that do make money, the wicked that don't make. I see all all the options and I analyze it. And I also see that sometimes money is a curse. >> I see people that they have a lot of money. They don't have one moment of quiet. Not one moment of quiet all day long. All day long. Headaches and issues. And who needs this money already? Money is not always a blessing. Money, you want it to come with a ba? That's another thing I wanted to h add. When you see a person that has money and they don't pray in many of the cases, there's no blessing in that money. There's a lot of money goes out on expensive dentists and what it goes on doctors. So to to make it simple, that's how you manifest money into the world. I I can't give you advice that doesn't exist. I can only give you advice what the Torah says. The Torah says that's how you will manifest parasa into the world. Now comes another question. How many people I'm sure half of you if not all of you do come to pray three times a day and still have problems with their panasa right so first of all do you really come three times a day or if you miss some of it how do you pray do you come last to the betet with your tongue out and you're just answering answering some quick amends do you come The first is your prayer quietly. Are you thinking about a million things while you pray or are you thinking of the prayer itself? Are you talking during the session? Especially in Shakarit, don't expect any blessing if you have fillin on your head and you're talking with the fillain on your head during a minan. So I know a lot of people who come every day like Swiss clocks but when they're in the sh they talk lon they talk business they slander sometimes fight I saw fist fights in shs so the fact that you made an effort to come here so you have you have the reward of walking to the shul but what did you do in the sh how many times did you check your phone during when the repetition of Did you do you check your phone? Do you even come with your phone to the How do you come now? Just that you understand is very particular with the righteous like the the the width of a hair. So if you are bent and you pray three times a day and you eat kosher and observe Shabbat and give sodaka and learn Torah, you're bent to is looking at you like this with a magnifying glass. So you didn't answer the man the right way cuz you looked at the at your phone. Oh, don't expect shea coming down. Shea means an abundance. When I became observant, of course, I was beyond naive when it came to the Torah. And everything for me was like whatever the Torah says, it's holy. I can't even think of doing anything differently. Not that anything changed, but I would go into new synagogues, new yeshivot and I would be shocked from different things mainly in the in that filot and I went through a lot of communities when I became observant. A I went to different yeshivot B a lot of communities disappointed me first. A lot of communities kicked me and my didn't want me even to come there just found out a little bit about my past. No, we don't want you here. So had a nice experience but the thing that shocked me the most in all in all communities is how the prayers are conducted most talking during the prayer. I'm not talking about now the the the phones ringing and and business and so and again I'm talking for the ones who do the effort and they come and they still see problems with parasa. So the fact that you came and you have a yama and a tit doesn't mean that he did it right doesn't mean that you did it the right way and if you were pointing pointing fingers on the sh so don't go there so find yourself a different synagogue. I don't go to s I mean listen I travel all the time and for me it's hard but when I'm in my place I choose where I pray [clears throat] I can't pray when they praying 500 miles an hour speed I I just can't I never going to pray in such a place now when I'm traveling I don't have an option I'm here what am I going to do but in my surrounding I pray slowly and I'm I'm Israeli I read Hebrew I read I read good better than all And I read slow because that's how you pray. So it might take me another 20 minutes, but those extra 20 minutes on my slow with intention prayer removes not 20, 20 hours of problems that I would deal with if I would prayer not the right way. Once not too long ago, I sent my wife to do an errand in the bank and she came back after two hours. Where were you? I was in the bank 2 hours. >> Yeah. There was a line and then the computer didn't work and then this didn't work. And when I go to the bank, I go in and I go out. >> And in everything that I do in this world, anything that I need to take care of, I go in and I go out. Why? Because I spend that extra 20 minutes in the morning praying and I'm not stingy with my time saying, "Oh, I need to go fast." And I know I see it obvious how the koshu shortens for me things. What's called because when it comes to the praying, I pray like a turtle. I prayan of slow prayers because that's how you pray by the way where you'll hear the words and nobody's talking during the Torah and I can't hear nothing cuz some guy's doing business right now and she's gossiping with her friend and so sorry that I'm being so so aggressive but that's the fact. Now let's take it to the next level. How about a person who does pray three times a day but real good and learns and does everything and still has problems with parala. So first of all and most important one needs to be very very clear on their own path to figure out where they're holding and if they don't know how to do it then they need to consult the right rabbi who will help them find those information. I mean if you're a little bit in touch with yourself and if you are a little bit more spiritual than you are required you will get this information from Hashem. I don't ask questions. We talked about yesterday about my rabbi asked me how when how often do you go there? I don't I go there every half a year to say hello. I don't ask him questions. I come with him with nuclear bomb questions. Not little questions. Why? I don't need to bother him. He has a lot of students. He has a lot of in his mind. I don't need to come and ask him every little thing. I go and open the book by myself. But besides going to open the book by yourself, if it's a halaka question, I have a certain manner that I can't figure out. I'll go and fast eating. I won't eat for one day. I won't talk for one day. Read a book of givea. Go do a few other actions. Hashem, I need an answer. And the answer comes very fast. Try it one time. I don't ask people what do I need to do. I ask Hashem what he needs me to do and how do I need to figure out what I need to do and Yeah. Yeah. So, you put a little bit of sacrifice and don't put food for in your mouth for 24 hours and pray and do a few other actions. It's irrelevant right now. And ask for Hashem for an answer. It's very simple. That's how I get all my answers. The says, "You want good answers? Stay up. Learn Torah all night. But learn Torah." Not a half night Netflix, half night Instagram, and 15 minutes to Mishnot. Learn Torah all night. Then go and pray, of course, not at 11:00 in the morning. Go to the mikvah [clears throat] and you will see that you'll get any answer that you want. You'll get any guidance that you want. Of course, you pray for that. And you know what? I did that for the first five years of my cha cuz I needed a lot of guidance and I had a lot of questions that were difficult. That's what my rabbi told me. That's what I did. Learn Torah all day long, all night. Go and pray in the morning. The answer will come and it comes. Might come in a day, might come in a week. The answer comes in ways. Hashem has limitless ways to give you answers. So again, now we're back to the place of you have extreme to this side and create extreme to that side. Every situation is different. The base to everything is tila. There's no other way here. There's no other option. I looked, trust me, I searched, I looked. There are many remedies. There are many things one can do to bring parnas. But the the the foundation is that you get blessed on Rosha Shana and then you need to bring it down in prayer three times a day. That's it. That's the system. Now work around it. You need to figure out if you don't pray at all then you have an answer. Start to praying. Hard for you? Then start with one prayer. Then you increase to two prayers and so forth. We're not going to do a class now of how to approach prayers. But if you're in the level of not praying, then start. And women have to pray too. By the way, don't need to to repeat that. If you are already praying, look how you praying. Look how look at your prayers. Are there in a rush? Are you late? Are you sitting and making business? Are you checking your phone? How? Look at your prayer. If you want a good prayer, don't come with your phone to the leave all your worries at home. Don't talk. Don't socialize. I know ashu is a place to socialize. Socialize over there where you make coffee. That's where you socialize. You sit in a corner and you came to talk to Hashem, not to anyone else. Somebody talks to you, somebody continues talking to you, just move to a different place. But you want your prayers prayer to be good. You want to pronounce the words the right way. Most people don't pronounce the words the right way. Most people unfortunately don't know how to pray in Hebrew. You don't know how to pray in Hebrew, start learning Hebrew. If you work for Hashem and you don't know his language, shame on you. Sorry. I don't care if you're American, Russian, whatever you are, you learn the language of the master of the universe. And if you don't, something's lacking here. I know converts from all over the world. They know Hebrew just as good as me. There's no excuses. And I'm not saying converts because they come from places. You come from a place that you heard the Hebrew. Or maybe not. And maybe I'm just I'm saying the point is is irrelevant. That's the language that the Torah was given. That's the language of Hashem. You decide that you are a follower of Hashem. Then learn his language. I know it's not easy, but don't go this like this all day long. and you'll find a lot of free time to learn. Learn five words a day. That's all it takes. I promise you in 3 years you'll know how to talk. Not telling you to learn it in a month. I'm telling you to start learning it. Start saying the important prayers in Hebrew something. So you don't don't don't think that you're not going to come and invest and Hashem is just going to pour shea on you. Shea means an abundance. Hashem has expectations. And again, don't take any word that I'm saying as an insult. Take it as or criticism. Take it as inspiring words that should elevate you. So if you don't read or pray in Hebrew, start learning it. Maybe you came tonight just to hear that the minimum of the minimum should be learn how to say Israel in Hebrew. Come on the minimum and put it to for you to be the highest priority. If you put Hashem the highest priority by default he will put all your priorities as high priority. You have to understand how Hashem works. We're going to get to it in a second. The more you focus on Hashem, he will give you what you need. Not what you want, what you need. And in many of the cases, in many of the cases, much more than what you need. He will make you very, very comfortable. And by the way, everything that I'm saying is not coming from necessarily from the text. The text explains to us that you have to pray. Everything else that I'm saying in between, it's it's it's pure uh uh experience. So what brings to us this she this abundance then prayers that's the title you're a man you have to pray make it your business I'm not going to even continue adding anything about that I told you enough make it your business women that's that's the next thing you need to do but there are a few things that I'm first of all there are many things this class is going to be very short and to the point because I can talk on many many concepts and this will become a very long class and I rather talk about a few things that you can apply whatever you will add will just make it worse so the title is now I know by the way before I continue that a lot of people don't like praying or they don't can't see themselves praying or you brought me all the way here to tell me to pray well listen I can't give you shortcuts There is a certain prayer that I believe it's not only that coming from my belief I can tell you that I know and it's also known that that is the source of your blessing that I know that most people do a lot of effort to prevent from saying it this prayer and of course I'm talking about birkat mazon birkaton the prayer you say after eating is The only prayer that we have from the Torah, what's called the >> all the rest of the prayers of Raan, that's the only prayer that the Torah says. You should eat. You feel good. Now say a blessing. You don't have to raise your hand. [snorts] Shalom. Not be embarrassed. But if you don't say every day, don't even start whining about your heard what I said. Tells you, I give you whatever you need, whatever you want, your food. All I want is 8 minutes of your time to thank me. And people drive an hour to the other side of town to buy the pizza that is Masonote. >> Whoa. Is this Is this a mozzy? I'll have from there salad. [snorts] Ask yourself when was the last time you waited to wash your hands for the meal and then say by by your expressions neither one of you you eat every day right? Everybody eats every day. Some people look like they eat all day. So you eat every day. So, why don't you say bilgadon every day? I'm not joking with you, by the way. I'm I'm adding some uh some comments. I know they're funny, but you you you eat all day long. No, let's cut to the chase. All day long, there's food running on going on there. And if you are in a vacation, where are we eating? Everything's around the food. So, food is a big part of our life. Do you send every day? >> I heard a very soft voice saying yes. >> Yes, we do. >> Hashem, but two. Okay. And again, it's not about putting anybody on their spot. You eat every day. How what's the word in English? You're full. >> Satisfied. satisfied. >> What? >> Satiated. >> Most people, no offense, they eat like animals. And that what makes them sick. I would say a large amount of the sicknesses is the food you eat and how you eat it. 80% of the food that you eat is not even food. So don't expect to be healthy. And it's how you eat it and the quantities. You don't need to eat five plates. The body doesn't need [clears throat] so much food. You need to eat a little bit whatever the body needs. And when do you eat it? What hours? I mean, the entire Torah around food is a is is a big and important thing. But regardless to that, regardless to that, you eat every day and you get full. So you are obligated to say biron besides the fact that we do know fact that is uh I don't like using words like remedy that's your source of the now I want to add a few things that are very important when it comes to uh the the the parasa that is that that I hope you're taking some notes because if you you if you don't do all that you are required it will cause a problem with the flowing of the money of the parasa. So first of all and most important is your prayers. Then you add on that which is not an addition because you have to it's kind of like I I actually don't get it because the Torah is very clear. So I know I know a lot of people say oh no no I I will eat the and say come on. So you want to you want to go like this. So don't cry that you don't have money. But there's a few other elements that are extremely important when it comes to your parnasa. And I can tell you already that if you don't three do all these next three that I'm talking about, you're also going to have tremendous issues with parnasa. And the answer will be also exactly what I gave before to the ones who don't do it. The first of all which is nonquestable is observing Shabbat. person who doesn't observe Shabbat has no blessings. And again for the same answer I will give you when you asking me but what about the people who don't observe Shabbat and I see life is going very well for them. Same answer copy paste what I told you 20 minutes ago. End the story. And if you don't remember I told you that the support etc. And and in many of the cases they're it's getting off their their their balance. So don't be so impressed. A person that observes Shabbat brings all the blessings in every aspects of his or her life just by observing the Shabbat. Technically, if you observe Shabbat the right way, you should not have any issues in your life. Any no offense. And again, all my words here are just words of encouragements, not words of judgment or to uh offend somebody. Most of you who think that you observe Shabbat, you don't really observe Shabbat. [snorts] You're missing here a very large portion of things that you are not learned enough and you don't know and you fail. And I see people all the I travel almost every Shabbat and I'm in a different community to be able to look at people and to tell them you're doing great, but here you do Shabbat and this is Muk and you're not allowed to move it and yeah, maybe you're not driving and for you I'm not driving and I'm not working and I'm not on my phone. You think these are the big ones, but Muk is a very pretty severe transgression and bor too sifting and cooking and a lot of people fail when it comes to bishul because they're just not learned enough. I can tell you that I thought and I'm observing Shabbat for a good eight years, seven, eight years till I reached to the portion in of Shabbat and then I realized that I'm not even close to observing Shabbat. I might not work, I not on my phone, I don't drive, but when it comes to the details, not even in the direction. And the more you learn, the more you figure out that you're not even observing Shabbat. Now again this is not necessarily as burn lighting up fire. There's different severities when it comes to Shabbat, but it doesn't matter right now the severity even if it's a a even if it's a generation of a generation because it wants to when it comes to the 39 prohibitions of Shabbat there's the actual the physical act and then there's what's called like generations of it that if I will do a certain act it will lead me and lead me and lead me and lead me and eventually I will do Shabbat. So it doesn't really matter in which level you're talking about. There's a desecration of Shabbat. That's a problem. And when a person observes Shabbats, all his life is full of blessings in all aspects. By the way, and sorry that I keep saying he, I also saying she. It's the same thing. Just hard for me to say she she. I'm not a she. But nevertheless, you observe Shabbat the right way, you'll see all the blessings that you need to see in your life. And I know a lot of people start observing Shabbat and life caves down on them. Yeah, but you've been doing junk for the last 20 20 years. Give it a few years to balance out. A lot of people who they start observing Shabbat and or doing other mitzvot and it it seems like everything is going wrong. But yeah, you kind of have to balance the the p your past and then you'll start seeing blessing. And I can tell you already that a person can be praying and eating kosher and observing Shabbat and have one sin that ruins everything. And we'll get to that very soon. [snorts] So, first of all, Shabbat, no question. There's another thing that people disregard a lot. I don't have to explain a lot about it. I hope I don't. is how do you honor your spouse? If you honor your spouse, then will be a great repor of Sheffa. If there's disrespect between me and my spouse, then that will damage the partnot. And it goes in both ways. Now, yeah, I can make a class now on what I'm talking about, but I think you can make the math by yourself. >> Why spouse? >> Why the spouse? I will conclude the class the class with one sin that damages the paranas to most people because they are involved in that sin and that's connected to this kibud of the honoring of the spouse. But to very briefly answer that the unity between a husband and and man is a symbol of perfection and unity between God and this world and many other sacred things. When the structure of the household of marriage is damaged, there's no foundation for for any blessing here. Hashem doesn't like that. Hashem doesn't like when a man doesn't honor his wife. And the same thing rather the same thing the other way around when a wife doesn't honor the husband. respect, honor. You know, when you're in love and you're dating, the the spouse you is on a ped, how do you say pedestal? >> Pedestal. She can't do wrong. So why 10 years later, she's your biggest enemy. I can tell you, Randy, we're not going to get to that path tonight, but marital issues cause a lot of PNA problems. That's another put it under your title to to to figure out and you know what marital issues it all boils down to your humility and how much you willing to accept that there's another human being in the room and they have needs desires and many other things that you need to either cater or shut up and you chose to be in that relationship. So we're not going to talk about marriages right now, but I can tell you already when there's disrespect between the couples, it damages the panosa why, how, what, there's a lot what to explain about that at the end. I'm going to add one more sin that is a problem and that's kind of connected and it will be more clear. But I'm already telling you that and you know what everything that I'm telling you, I I practice what I preach. And I can tell you already that everything that I practice, what I say in regards to paranasa, it works. It works. I know you're seeing a rabbi, but I also have to I I have a family. I have seven kids to support. So I need paranas, too. And my nonforprofit doesn't give me paralasa. The nonforprofit is for you, not for me. I have my own business that runs my own life because I can't depend and I won't depend on anyone. So my day is divided to many segments. I'm a husband. I'm a father of seven kids. You know what's what's sustenance you need for seven kids. Tuitions, cook, food and all that. So I'm a father. I'm a husband. I'm a rabbi. I'm a teacher and I'm also a businessman and I own also business. And I I I I can't depend and I won't. And the same thing with your with my organization. We accept donations very happy. But maybe 15% of my budget is donations. 85% of the budget is what you buy when you leave the lecture. And the business that I have, I fund my own my own adventures. For 10 years, 10 years, I funded my entire organization with my own business. I never took $1 of a donation till my rabbi told me, "Are you crazy? Take donations and give more time to the organization." The point that I'm trying to say is that I can tell you that these things work. Now, there's one more thing that I want to focus on that has to do with when it comes to parasa and it's not that we're concluding here. There are many other things but let's start with what I told you now filot and all that. There's one thing that most people most people don't do and if you want to have good parasa you have to do it and you have to do it even if you don't want good parasa and I'm talking about >> that you give 10% of your earning how do you call it in English thai >> tithing >> tithe >> tithing I know for a fact that most people don't do it and the ones who Do they just give a lot of money as charity and they say it will somehow fit in that 10%. I give more than 10%. That's what I hear. Then you have a big mistake when you do that. Huge mistake because have to be calculated. Even if you give 50% which you're not allowed to, you have to give 10%. The says you want to be rich give 20%. Not a time more. Andim say in all sources do not give more than that 20%. Don't pretend that you're that generous. Now if you want to give more then it can come in forms of but it's not your money. Most of you who don't give mas you steal Hashem's money and then you think you're going to have a with your money. And again, you don't have to raise your hand right now if you're giving my soul don't know. I know most people don't. And the ones who do have no not even the slightest idea how to do it. How to calculate. And you know how I know that barely people do it? Because I told you in the beginning of the class that I get thousands of messages. I can tell you by the messages today with AI. I can tell you in percentage what are the most asked questions what are the most topics that people I'm telling you I also use AI for my own benefit to get my statistics and stuff like that how can I become better so I can tell you that the majority of problems that people come to me is money the next after that is marital problems but you know how many responses I get about masot Not not even a 0.0 something%. That's a joke that from tens of thousands of followers that I have, not even 5% or 10% ask me about my assort. How do I give it? How do I calculate it? Who do I give it to? When do I give it? I live in Israel. I'm making dollars. Do I pay in shekels? Do I pay in dollars? I don't get all these questions. I don't get any questions about masrot. So I know you're not giving masrot and even if you're 17 and you work for McDonald's, well hopefully you're kosher and you're working for shalom pizza. But even if you babysit, I teach my kids you make money, you pay myself from that. Whether they pay or not, it's not my problem. I teach them that you have to pay 10% of what you make. I told you and I believe it was in this show the story. Did I tell you this the story with the 770? I think I did say it. Paul >> with Materiona. >> No. >> Okay. So, the class will now go a little bit longer because I have to tell you a story. When I became observant after a few years, I met my wife Bar Hashem and like I told you in the beginning, we were extremely poor. And not that it was my choice, but I wanted to learn. My wife wanted me to learn. It didn't interest me money. I what interests me is Torah. So I didn't Everything worked out. Okay. But at some point it did bother us. My wife came from background with money. I came from a background with I mean it just at some point it got to us. And uh to make a very long story short came yum kipur. I prayed in a very small bkesset and it was one of my first yam kipools. And the second day of Yumibu, I mean the day of in Min. The rabbi said, "We're about to take the seafra out and we have three and we sell the aliot." And you have to understand was a sh was like 20 people. The aliot went for like $10. The $5. Okay. So he says but there is a certain aliyah that we sell but uh this is remedy to make money to have to be rich and to make money. So right away my ear opened up and he was talking about the mafiona ali materiona. Right away I heard money. I was like okay I'm in. So started the bidding. So the first bid was $5 went to $10 $15. I mean it was a very small jewel. Then it went to 18 36 50 80 100 120. Now you have to understand for me at that time 120 was I needed to mortgage something to to pay $100. But I was like no I'm getting this. I I I I want this. The rabbi said it's gula. I'm going to eat it alive. And the other guy wanted it too. So I went to 180, 200, 220, 225 and like two alligators trying to and both of us are broke, no money. So the increments were very small. 228, 231. [laughter] And in my mind, I'm like a Rottweiler. I'm like locked on it. I'm coming home with this materion. I don't care if it's 50,000 even. And it went to 300 eventually with small increments to 400, 500, 600. In my mind, I'm already like sweating like where where am I going to get the money? And I'm like, I'm going to have to mop the floor of the shoe for the next 3 years. 600, 700, 720, 750, stops at 770. [snorts] And I was the lucky winner. I go up. I come up to the Torah. I go up. I'm in my mind. Oh, should it be a BMW? What? Of course, I'm joking. This is just the additions. But I go up to the Torah. I read the mater's great. And that year, I opened the uh business, which I needed, I needed blessing. And I learned about Mas. [clears throat] And I was like, okay, I'm taking on myself, taking on myself. I'm giving myself and I'm gonna learn about it, how to do it and I'm gonna do it the right way. I come home, my wife didn't see me for 24 hours. How was Yonkip? Everything was great. How was yours? We sit, we drink a cup of tea, and then in a by the way, she she was like asking me, "How was your prayers?" And and she was like, "Well, I really hope we're going to have a good year." I told her, "Honey, you have nothing to worry about. I took care of it." Really? What'd you do? [snorts] Words are not needed. I took care of it. You must tell me what you did. Okay, if you must. [clears throat] I bought them after Rihanna. She's like, "Excuse me?" I said, "I told you words. Don't worry." She was like, "What's mafana?" I said, "The rabbi said that I'm going to be rich." [laughter] She was like, "Okay, I like that." What did you to do? I said, "No, I I I got the materion and I went up and I did the aliyah and I read the I read the haft and and I'm like showing off and and she was like, "But what do you mean you got the mafiona?" I said, [snorts] "I I I got it. Where are you going with it? She was like, I don't understand what you're saying. I got it. I was like, she's like, did it cost money? I'm like, yeah. How much? >> What's money when it comes to No, come on. [laughter] Come on. She was like, how much did was it? I said, no, come on. in front of the kadosh burom doesn't matter we're going to be rich she can you tell me how much it cost I told her it cost $770 wasn't that that's not too bad $7.70 [laughter] I said uh will the the dot the dot move that Hey, [laughter] >> $770. >> I already already seeing the bed get I I I was like, I'm going to sleep now on the couch for the next year. I have to mop now the shoe for the next year and I'm going to be sleeping on the couch for the next year. [gasps] I never seen my wife angry. She flipped out. We don't have money for food. We can't even pay our rent. What are you doing? I told her, "Don't don't worry. The the rabbi said everything will be fine. That year I started a business because we really needed money. A year later and I'm telling you the short version of the story by the way. A year later I made my calculations for my happened to be the on the way. I already made calculations. I already have all the numbers. I'll do that my my taxes already. You know how much money I made that year? 77 >> 77,000 >> 100 times 100 times exactly the 770 77,000 [clears throat] after expenses or anything you need that was the number the mafion No, of course that was the the we'll call it now the the beginning >> the no the remedy the the mas the caring about every shekel because in mas you have to calculate on the scent it's not like oh it was about you made 35,682 start subtracting now all your your expenses do you know what are considered expens expenses to reduce in mass. This is not the IRS. You're not shoving in there all sorts of receipts that you know never even happened. That's the kadosh. You're not in front of Uncle Sam here. You know how to calculate mas. No, you don't. 77,000 I made that year. 100 times exactly of what I gave. With my mind, I'm going to give my money. So you have to pray, you have to say all the rest Shabbat. But the I'm can telling you that's my I can tell you I can sign to you. Give mas you'll be fine. Never fails. I'm telling you this is and you know what? very soon. I don't know exactly to tell you in the time, but very soon cuz I'm now in on a tour, a matter of a few weeks when I come back then in the merit of somebody very special where I'm going to start teaching about Masot and you know well it's going to be online I'm I'm not staying here but uh I mean I'm finishing my tourm tomorrow I'm still in in Denver another two lectures is then I'm going to Miami few days following that to New York then I come back home it's purim but somewhere around that I'll add to my curriculum of teaching as about masot I I actually hope and I recommend that you register to that series and learn it because that is the source of all the blessings when it comes to parasan and the fact that you need to know is that those that 10% doesn't belong to you. You don't give it. You stealing money from Hashem. That's kind of like taking money from if you know what that means. It's like stealing from the holy sacrifices that go to the beta mikdash. You have to be a little bit uh I don't want to say words not to pay for the 10%. It's not even your money. You're a thief in that point. which is very important to know that there are many things that can damage your paranas. I will name a few right now very quickly that you will be echoing in your mind because you can do all the good things that I just told you. But a few of the bad things that I'm going to say right now, if you are involved in that, you're gonna have an issue with and the first one is for a woman and for a man. If you need explanations, not going to be tonight, but you're going to have to look into it. A woman is obligated in being modest and a man is obligating in being modest too by guarding his eyes and guarding everything that has to do with it. A man that damages his brit don't don't expect much. Okay, there's not much to elaborate on that. The next is person who speaks damages. You talk wrong, don't expect good parasa. And all the questions that you have that are the same of what we talked about before. What about the people all same? You'll get the same answer for me. If you're going to ask me about what if a person doesn't speak, it doesn't matter. It will be the same answer. And I'll add on anything that you damage with your mouth, lying, manipulations, foul language, all these things, you damage your mouth, then you're going to damage your parasa because that's the tool that brings you your parasa because you have to pray with your mouth. you damage your mouth, it's going to be hard for this tool to pray and be accepted because the damage how it sounds. If a person damages their tongue by lying, slandering, gossiping, all these wonderful things, curses, then the so to say the tool that will that needs to bring down the parasai is damaged. So imagine trying to plow the land with a damaged rake or the damaged plower. You can't. It won't work. If the tool is damaged, imagine now trying to uh screw a screw into the wall, but the tip of the screwdriver is all messed up. So you the tool is damaged. So the next one is a and everything that has to do with with the with the mouth. Next is a horrible sin that most people also don't know much about is gazel >> and one needs to learn about that. All the laws of gazelle and gazel is not really stealing. It's gazil that you take somebody something from somebody in a way that they don't know or maybe they do know and it's not equivalent to stealing but it's just as bad and in many cases worse. And by the way, most people fail in gazel because they just don't know. Gazel, the translation of gazelle is robbery. But it's not a good translation. Gazel is that I take something from you and you lacking from this right now. Stealing is I come into your house in the middle of the night and I steal your VCR. Look how old I am. Steal your VCR. What's that? Well, once there was a box and you would put another type of box into that box. >> Go to Chad GP. I don't even know Chad GP. You will know what a VCR is. She's going to be like, I'm sorry, I only have information from 2001. But nevertheless, I break into your house and I steal something. That's stealing. But I can take away something from you in a form of gazil and you don't even know that I took from you. And there are million and one ways how to do that. Not the classroom right now. Look it up. If you are not familiar, I can already tell you that gazil is a big things and you fail in gazel in many many times. It can be in little things even that you go into a 7-Eleven and you take something that you're not you're not supposed to take. Even a little bag of ketchup or napkin or you go to a hotel and you take some of the shampoos back home with you. All these little things can fall under Gazel and in some of the cases not. But a lot of the times you do something you don't even know or you do and you're like nobody will pay attention. Oh, it's an insurance company. It's a phone company. And the things that I hear with the question that people ask me about gazel thinking that it's normal. It's not. Learn about gazel. Gazel is a different way of theft that you taking somebody's belongings whether it's money, time, knowledge in a way that is not right way to take it and it doesn't belong to you. And I'll give you one example out of many. You know, we do thumbnails to all the videos, flyers and everything. Every little image that you see on any of my thumbnails or designs or flyers or anything, I buy it. You have to pay for these images. I know most of you don't care. You go to Google, you download a picture. Most of the pictures are copyrighted. And if the picture is copyrighted, you just did gazel and you think you're going to have parasa. No. And of course on that I can elaborate much more. Look into it. Another huge thing that will damage your paras if you have debt and not debt to American Express. Debt to a friend or to somebody that helped you. I'm not talking right now to an institute. That's a different type of debt. As long as you're paying it, you're good. But I got a lot of questions from Jews. I'm on the verge of bankruptcy. I can just now get up and leave, but I owe the banks quarter of a million dollars. What do I do? Is it gazel? Some people just get up and leave. You have to ask questions like this. Don't just get up and leave when there's debts. But I'm talking about the debts that family members, people gave you money, you didn't pay it. Stuff like that. Pay attention. I I don't see anybody writing. So, I'm assuming you're all going to go to the rerun and just watch the video 20 times to make sure that you understand everything and apply it. >> Oh, you said the last one I have on the list. >> Always save the last one for the best, they said. >> So, first before we get to that is debt. You have debt, you have to take care of it. Even if you don't have money, call the person. I know I owe you. I don't have the money. I I will start paying in a month. I can wash your car. I'll babysit your kids. I don't know what. But you at least acknowledge it. I'm not going to give you now a whole M class now. What what to do about debts, but I pretty sure that a large amount of you have debts that somebody gave you money and you never paid it back. And it can be your parents even. And the debt has to be settled. you have debts, figure it out. Settle it. Approach the even if you think you're you're right. Don't leave any debts hanging because it will pause your parasa. And the debt can be to a worker that you didn't pay. It can be some disagreement between you and a contract contractor. Settle it. So don't leave any debts. Now you uh mentioned twice but one thing that causes horrible problems in parasa and I'll give you the remedy to the to of course the opposite of that but one of the biggest problems that causes parnas is makot is disagreements and that's why I said before the honoring of a husband and wife because a disagreement causes a k a separation and whenever there's a separation in the world below there's a separation in the world above that you create and when you create a separation in the world above you block all the channels of shea means an abundance the life force that come to you it can be money it can be health it can be anything a disagreement is the number one cancer to all problems by the way but especially to honey and that's why I said before how the husband and the wife treat each other because if a wife goes to sleep angry or upset, don't go to work the next day cuz you're not going to make money. You're all laughing. But uh I do I need to quote how many do you want me to quote to you that if you hurt the wife's feeling that you're not going to have so I'm making something up. You hurt your wife's feelings with talking to her in a certain way or whatever, then you have to do a lot of chew up. >> Is it possible the other way around too? >> 100%. 100%. I said before, husband and wife. I'm not expecting everything just wife has to honor her husband. He goes to work. He takes care of her and many other things assuming he's a normal husband. Of course, I'm talking right now in the the the not normal situations. Of course, a woman has to respect her husband. He takes care of her hopefully works sustenance. He prays. He does a lot of things. The the the respect has to be 100% mutual. I honor my wife. I respect her. I give her all the respect in the world. I don't expect it, but I get it. Same thing equally. My wife and me, Hashem, we know how to give each other the space to respect each other, talk to each other. I never ever ever curse my wife. I raised my voice on her. Never if I use foul language on her ever in my life. It's just not I will not insult my wife. I disagree with her. I shut up and I leave the room. I don't go into arguments. I don't go into disagreements. That's my wife. So much more so with every other individual. I don't I don't have anyot. I have a lot of people who dislike me, but I don't have any disagreements. I don't argue with anyone. I always step back. I always make sure that I bring peace to the table because if you live in a met forget about health, there's no health. There's no peace of mind. You know how long it takes me to fall asleep? Probably 1.2 to 3 seconds, >> depending how comfortable the bed is. If it's my bed, it's right away. I travel a lot. I sleep on other beds. It can be 5 seconds. And the reason why I fall asleep is not because I have very little time to sleep. >> It's because I have zero worries. Zero. I don't know anybody, anything. I did my chuva. I don't know anything. No apologies, no money. My conscious is so clean. Nothing worries me. I do before I go to bed. I get rid of all the junk that I need to get rid of and I go to bed. I fall asleep in seconds. Seconds, disagreements, arguments. The health, it's killing your health. You don't sleep, you don't eat, you don't digest their food well. Needless to say, you won't pray well. Nothing will work well. [snorts] And what's the remedy to to to point the fingers? Easy. What's the remedy? Everything that I told you tonight is extremely important. Follow everything that I told you tonight. I guarantee to you you'll do you'll be doing much much much better. Not that I'm trying to show off or anything like that. But I can tell you that I'm I'm doing what I taught you. I don't have issues with parnasa and I need a lot of parnasa because I have a lot of kids and a lot of endeavors that I do and not always people come to participate in my endeavors. I don't expect anyone to jump into my endeavors. My endeavors of course is what I'm doing here right now. So everything that I said tonight is important when you want to focus on your partners. By the way, if you follow everything that I just told you tonight, you'll be a very happy person regardless to your parala. But you have to understand, Hashem caught us in a corner. That's really the secret here. If we would have everything that we wanted, you would do nothing. You would be a spoiled brat. So, Hashem put us in a corner because he wants you to He knows you're not going to pray. Come on. 50% of men, 50 to 80% of men won't show up to the minyan if there wouldn't be any pressure here. Half the people that come to pray with me. I never see them. They only come one day out of nowhere, they show up, end of the prayer, start making love to the What's going on with you? No, I have a trial today. I have a I need I I didn't see you for a whole year. Today you have a court case. You start kissing the not to talk about the donations. Suddenly donations start flying to all directions. So a you have something here. You came to pray. So Hashem pushed us to a corner because when you're pressured you you behave you conduct your your life how you're supposed to because there's pressure. If you would have a boss they would tell you come whenever you want. You don't have to come. I'll still give you money. You would show up to work. You'll come one day at 11. One day you go at at 1:00. One day you'll come at 9:00, leave at 2 because there's nobody sitting on you. If you in your normal job, you don't come on time. You'll get fired. So, of course, you show up on time. When there's pressure coming from some direction, whether it's a court or something legal, you show up because there's going to be are you saying retributions repercussions? Something's going to happen. Why don't you do the same thing when it's with the Torah? Because you're not afraid. You don't see damages happening. But that's what I trying to explain. Go through everything here. Not only with everything will be fine. But the trick here is that the galbu cornered us so that we will do all these mitzvot. What one needs to understand this is a a verse that is a mantra that you have to have. You can find it in the book of verse 34 chapter 34:1 16 means move away from all evil. Do good. >> [snorts] >> What's good? Sitting in the ice cream is good. No. Open the Torah. The Torah will tell you what's good to do. That's the only way where you would find define what's good to do. will work. You know why most people have problems with panosa no happiness and if you live in a m in a disagreement you're not going to be a happy person I don't care how much money you have famous fame power a person who lives in a disagreement whether it's his wife whether it's a neighbor whether it's I don't care who it is A will never be happy until the disagreement is over. He has a a thorn in the heart. When there's a disagreement, you're bothered. You're constantly bothered. And when the name comes up or the face comes up or whatever, your digestion is off, your sleeping is off, your functioning is off, there's no peace. Tells you just move away from any evil. I told you you come into the sh somebody talks to you move away somebody talks to you I don't want to hear focus on this ask for peace and pursue it you'll see that everything starts flowing in your life when it comes to disagreements and arguments the complete opposite is peace and [snorts] the biggest cancer of all is you get worried worried, you sometimes get uptight, you might lose hope and faith in many situations. In many of the cases, you get very angry or all that takes you away from your sim. So what? So even if times are hard, the sima, the real true happiness that you have in your heart, that's what draws the good energy. You don't have that approach, you're not receptive. You're not a vessel to receive anything good. If you're looking at all the curses in the Torah, the conclusion of all the curses in the Torah, for you didn't serve Hashem with true joy and happiness. Now, take all these dots together, put it together. I don't didn't see besides one smart man who took notes. I didn't see many notes taken here. Uh maybe I don't see all the way to the end, but I recommend I'm not joking. I'm I recommend you already made the effort. You came here. Everything that I told you is not going to going to affect your paranas. It's going to affect your entire life. And again, it's not about showing off or being arrogant or something. My life is good. And don't get me wrong, I have challenges from here to yingyang. Don't think for a second that I don't have challenges and that I don't have I'm juggling all day long 50 difficulties and things at the same day at the same day. But I can tell you that no complaints attitude is good, good, good mood and I'm dealing with things sometimes. I I I I if you want come and join me for one day up until now in the last 20 years I haven't found one person that was able to stand next to me one full day and not collapse. Everyone who stood next to me say I don't know how you do that. And there are days sometimes I go with sleeping one hour a day. But that's not the point. The point that I'm trying to say >> and don't think that I'm not doing dealing with challenges like everybody just having seven kids. That's a pile of challenges. And my kids are very special kids. You can see some of them in the back can understand what I'm talking about. So I have a lot I have full plates and a lot It's not only the kids. I love them, but I' i'm juggling all day long a million things, but never you will see me upset from that. Doesn't get me out of my mood. And the sima that's inside it welcomes the that's it. All is left for me is to recommend to you to follow the steps. And by the way, on top of that, there's many other things, but start with that. Start with that. Go home today, put yourself a a to-do list and start making yourself a plan. How are you starting to cover the little things that I said here? And what I said here, it's might be little. It can take a person a year to master. But that's that first of all, regardless to how much money you're going to make, I have a secret for you. You have to do it. It's irrelevant if you're going to get money or not. Everything that I told you to do, you are obligated in doing it. Whether it's birkat, everything that I said here, you have to do it anyways. So it's not that I'm telling you, oh, you have to now invent new thing. Anyways, you are obligated in doing it. [snorts] So do it with a good mood. Good. Do it with a smile. Do it with the right attitude. Put your mind to it. Don't think that you have any control of making more money than you're supposed to. The Balata, I don't remember where he says that, whether it's maybe the rabbi can help me, but the Balatana says that you can do some, of course, in his words, you can do some assaults in the air. >> You're not going to make one dime more than you what you're supposed to. Doesn't matter what you're going to do. You need to do what you're supposed to do and you'll make the money you're supposed to. You'll get what you're supposed to get. And in many of the cases, you get 10% of what you're supposed to get. But it's not that if you work more or open another business or I don't know what that you'll make more money. You can make the exact same amount with one transaction or make triple the amount with one transaction. and Hashem has an issue with you with how to make money if it's come is with one check or 50 checks but you can't add anything. So if you think you're going to run earlier from the minan, I see the men who shab is already without the already out the door. Now I understand you have a job. So pray in the minan that starts earlier. Don't break the the okay I don't know do whatever arrangements you need to do. Don't run away in the middle of and thinking oh I'm going to I'll catch up later. I'll finish my later with all the excuses that I hear from I know all the excuses and I know it's hard because you're eager to get to but now it's time to finish your prayer do your learning do your go and eat and say don't worry the world will wait don't think that if you cut ma or you'll do ma at home or you'll do whatever you have in your mind because you have to run to some meeting that that's what's going to get you It's Hashem first. When Hashem is number one and everything else is number two, then you're following the instructions that I said. >> And at the bottom line, I don't know if you paid attention between the lines what I said. [snorts] You have to do it anyways. Everything that I mentioned here right now, Hashem is kind of taking away your lollipop to make you do what you're supposed to do. If you would have tons of money right now, you wouldn't have any any spiritual growth to maybe this much of spiritual growth. Your spiritual grow growth comes from pressure. So, Hashem knows what he's doing. Now, you just need to follow the rules. You need to follow everything that I said if you want to. Of course, it's not You know what? I I take it back. Not if you want to. You have to. Everything that I said is obligated from the Torah. So I actually just came to enlighten your eyes what you are already obligated that you're not doing and if after all this you find that you still have difficulties in parasa then give me a call then we'll discuss we'll see what's the problem I'm not joking with you but let's see you first do that and I highly recommend and again I don't know you're gonna have to follow me don't know when it's going to start but very soon we're going to start learn I'm going to start teaching all the laws of masot because I know nobody knows how to do and maybe maybe that will help Am Israel and many others to to straighten their their their life. So again, I will very quickly repeat what I said for the ones who didn't take the notes cuz I want you to leave from this door tonight with a change. And it's not about the money. It's about what you're supposed to do in front of Hashem. It's what you're obligated. And by the way, [snorts] having a nephesh peace in your heart and your mind from money, you'll see you'll function in a completely different way. You'll be nicer to your kids and your wife or husband. You'll be an easier person around. You'll be less uptight, more relaxed. Why? Why? Why do you need all the headache? You know that most of the headache that you're dealing with, it's your problem. It's not Hashem doing anything. It's you are the idiot. Excuse excuse me that I'm saying that. But you bang your head at the wall, you get a headache and then you complain. What's the wall doing here? Well, you bang the head at the wall. That's the problem. Most people they they they cook their own meal. So So don't complain a lot. We are not only in an aspicious time of Shabbat. We're in a very powerful time in the month of next week is what brings all the blessings. After comes the time in the year where you can switch everything from bad to good two weeks later, one of the most powerful days on the calendar. Two weeks later pes we have now two months that if you plant your seeds the right way you'll have a very successful year and not only with parasa with your health with your relationship with Hashem with your relationship with other people. So I can talk and talk and talk but you have to do the walk. You have to do something. I I come and I make the effort and I bless you. I bless you that all of you should be able to apply everything that we learned today with true joy and happiness that each and every one of you should be here the first year in line here to open the synagogue and everything should work for you in the best way possible. I bless you that Hashem should bestow you an unbelievable abundance of everything and but you have to do something. Hashem wants you to do something. Time is running out. The ga is around the corner. You don't have much time to figure all your all your little corners, all your little details. So my recommendation, go tonight. You had your pizza. Hopefully you said birkaton. If you didn't, >> then go no, go eat another piece right now. Eat a little piece like this. So you can say birkaton. >> I'm not joking. If you missed the blessing, you go now to the back and you wash again and you eat a little piece like this, 28 grams. Okay? and say again and I guarantee to you I'm not stam guaranteeing I guarantee to you and I told you you have a problem you call me I guarantee to you you follow everything that I said here tonight you're going to be doing very well with your panasa your life will be smooth you know I'm not promising you to be a millionaire I just said I'm going to promise you you're going to have good paranas it will come easy it will come calm you'll be calm you'll be happy things will go how it's supposed to go doesn't necess necessarily means that she in abundance and you start driving here Mercedes is that's not what I'm talking about but you're not going to worry the pan will come the right way in the right amount wherever you need Hashem will allow you to serve him how he wants you to serve him but you need to do that you need to do the act you need to do the effort and the rest you leave up to Hashem so what was left for me to wish you success in your new path >> and may Hashem bless you with true happiness and bless you with great parasa and bless you with everything that you need to do to reach your tun and I'm going to already reach you because I'm not going to see you soon. I'm going to already wish you and I'm going to wish you happy and happy and I will see you very soon in will not come anytime soon then we'll see you in the next time I come here. Thank you very much, Rabbi. Always opening your doors to this shul. I always feel home here and welcome. And it's very rare, by the way. I travel all around the world. Not every synagogue and rabbis they open the door that most synagogues don't like visitors rabbis taking away the floor and the fame and everything. So, you got to give a lot of respect and honor and thanks to your rabbi and to the community. And thank you for always organizing everything. And thank you all for showing up. Without you, there wouldn't be a lecture. And thank you everybody for the ones online. Tomorrow morning, we have another class. What is it? 9:00 a.m. 8 a.m. >> Yeah. 8 a.m. >> Around 8 a.m. >> No, Shah is 7. So the p the the >> 8:30 the class will be where is the class? >> Okay. And the class there's another one at night. 7:30 bye and if you have any families in a friend in Miami and New York I'm coming there next week till then thank you so much may Hashem bless you with great happiness and everything that you need >> unfortunately we don't have much time but if you have a quick we have a few minutes for questions and then we got to go right so if you have any quick questions but an important question not something something that you think anybody will benefit And yes, >> I've been having a problem arguing with everybody conspiracy theories four years affected me a lot. Do you have any advice for me? >> Are you on the side of the ones who are against the conspiracy theories or for the conspiracy? >> I don't know anymore. [laughter] >> Listen, some of the theories are not theories. They're actually conspiracies >> and some are theories. Unfortunately, I don't know on which side you are, but unfortunately most people their eyes are sewed, their eyelids are sewed to each other and they don't see what's standing in front of them. And whether it's Hashem's desire, Hashem sometimes deliberately blinds people and you can talk to them till tomorrow and out to lunch. there's nobody there. what to do is not to give up because uh I believe that when you believe in something which is true and it can help others then then in a normal manner not to give up and again it's a very general question very general answer in some situations I would tell you give up move away in some situations don't ever give up but uh I would rather uh refine the Christian instead of saying the word conspiracy theories is saying truth. Most people in our generation has a problem to see the truth and accept the truth. That's the problem. Whether it's a theory, not theory, conspiracy, truth. So now we just broaden our audience another two billion. And when people have an issue to see the truth, we have the obligation to show it to them. Of course, if the truth, it's the real truth. Because if it's the truth, it's Hashem's commandments. Whether it's you going and showing the world who's the real true God of the world or anything that has to do with that, not so easy. Not so. Just today we spoke about it. Not so easy to go to people all their life believe in a certain thing and they're now trying to explain to them something differently. It's not so easy. It's the same thing here. Most people are numb. They don't see the truth. they don't want to see the truth. In many of the cases, Hashem doesn't want them to see the truth. If it's close to your heart, then do do what you need to do to help. That's what I do. But if it's something that you feel that you can't you don't have any control, then step back. It's not your place. Yeah. In some of the case cases, you are not a voice. Step back. You you might even do just damage. >> Yes. >> Okay. You said earlier to that you sleep well because what do you do when family created the >> you're trying to step away from it and you can't. >> Your question sounds like it's a particular question and in order to answer you even better I will need 500 more details. Uh no because in some of the cases I would just tell you just move away. >> Yeah, >> just move a country if you need to. >> So that's what I'm saying. Every situation is completely different and uh in many of the situations you are the one who has to bring the peace and that sometimes can be a huge matzah ball. >> Yes. >> And you don't know what Hashem wants from you. So there therefore I can't give you a real good answer because I don't know the history of everything and to really give a good answer I need to hear everything and uh and the reason I'm saying that because I do have situations that people come to me families communities it's not that you like okay let me listen two minutes here two minutes here okay this is the verdict and uh how you presented the question sounds like you have to interview here 20 people and get the all the the because everybody's right when it comes to >> not only you in a m everybody's [clears throat] right >> how because if let's say I'm now in a disagreement with you I'm right and you are you are right right I hold that I'm right if and you hold that you're right that's how it becomes a >> world knows right >> if I think that you are right and you think that you are right >> and there's no >> right >> so [snorts] so in a m everybody's right somebody has to be not right to end the >> so >> you might need to be the one now again when it comes to disagreements it's so colorful that there's never an answer a right answer you actually need to sit with all parties and in many of the cases the the parties don't want to even sit when it comes to ML. >> So what do you do >> then? Who's asking the what do you do? >> Me. >> Me? Okay. There's no black and white answer. >> It depends on the situation. I can tell you already the general answers. Do whatever you can to bring peace. Do whatever you can to bring everybody to the table. do whatever you can to give in to give up you shut up you take blame I mean it all it depends on the situation I don't know if the is money the can be inheritance the can be a million and one things that every answer applies to something else the rule when it comes to disagreement is I step back I don't even put my healthy mind into a sick bed and I will do whatever I can and when when it's in the beginning in early stages to wrap it up, not to drag it. The second that McCloet is dragged, you're already in a problem. And then of course doing whatever you can to quieten it. How do you say they say here with the police? Deescalade. Deescalate. I was once pulled into a mloit that I didn't have any choice. I didn't want to. It wasn't my choice. And the guy pulled me in and didn't let go. And it became worse and worse and worse and in many different ways. And I didn't give in. I was like, I'm not giving in to this. And I of course did whatever I could to uh >> deescalate to a point that I took all the blame. I admitted I'm wrong. I'm wrong. Okay. Now, when the person wanted me to admit something at India, I said, "Listen, you can't ask me to lie. I'll do anything, but don't ask me to lie. And and the point was that I got to understand that doesn't matter what I'm going to do in this situation, he's not going to let go. And the advice that I gave myself is just turn around and walk away. And I actually moved away, which all worked, everything worked well. Moved away from that town and never looked back. And I know he hates me. I know he trashes me. I know he still has holding grudge against me. I actually went to a great sadik to ask that guy's makid on me. >> What do I do? Makpid means he's holding grudge on me. That can cause a lot of problems when somebody's holding grudge against you. And after I went to a great sadik and whatever we checked and everything, he told me you're clean. He can hold grudge with you as much as he wants. You're clean. So I'm clean with Hashem. So the the the the answer I can't give you a real good answer because and and it can't even in most cases even be done on over a phone call that I can tell you call me in two weeks I'll help you because when it comes to the I have to physically be and see the the parties and see the how they're treating each other talking to each other and know not that I'm some ha but give me five minutes in front of a person I'll tell you who's wrong in I I'll read the truth on the behavior in the faces. I'll tell you right away who's wrong and then it doesn't mean that that's how you end the one that is wrong is usually the one who's going to have to win the when it has to be over. [snorts] The bigger one is the one who's right. That's just that just understands that he needs to take the blame, eat it, swallow it, or as they I don't know if it's applying in this case, take one for the team. Yeah, sometimes you have to be the punching bag. >> Okay. >> And in many of the cases and that I'm pulled into a let me be the punching bag. I'll take some punches and and somehow wrap it up. But when it comes to disagreements, we just read today with >> that Mosher Rabeno had to sit down and answer disagreements. It wasn't halaka questions. Everybody came to him with disagreements and he had to be a borer. >> That's Mosher Rabenu, by the way. Everybody came to him with disagreements. That's when it says, "You can't deal with this. You just can't deal with this." Unfortunately, some people don't get it. And if you get it, you'll be the bigger person. And it doesn't promise you it's going to work. >> That's true. >> I can tell you already that some something that helps a lot to disagreements is a lot of prayers. A lot of prayers that you pray for the other person to soften the heart to accept to whatever. A lot of prayers are required. A to protect you. B to to make the other party come to some type of a a situation that you can fix it. But the sad reality some people die with makot. >> Yes. All these people that say, "Oh, we try we try to make this is all nonsense." >> Yeah. >> What do you do with that? >> Like you said, walk away. >> Uh there are situations. Listen, there are situations that you can uh involve a third or fourth party that might be able to affect a certain individual. That's why I said there's no clear answer here >> because in a certain disagreement that I was involved recently, not that I was in the disagreement, they actually came to me to try to talk. But what worked is that the person that was causing all the problems, the people who came to me told me, "Go please talk to him. He's the you are the only one he respects about me." So they brought me into the disagreement now. >> And they involved >> and they involved me in which is fine. But they told me we he's told me more everything. No. They just told me and they said, "Listen, he's the problem." and they asked me to come and talk to him because he respects me. Did it work? I don't know. I came to him. I don't know if it worked. It's all recent. But that's one of the ways when you're saying how that's why there's no like mama black and white answer because uh because in every situation is different and yeah in many of the cases you can bring somebody that that the the one who's hard then there's another person that can soften his heart and in many of the cases by the way I don't think it's in your case many of the cases Both sides are not willing to leave the disagreement. There's no there's never going to be any negotiation here because the both don't want to. Nobody's really interested. You know how many disagreements I came into and I told them you're wasting my time. Not you and not you want to do a peace. When you want to do peace, call me. >> Most of the disagreements the person is not ready to do to do peace. And why? Because what I told you. Because everybody's right in the disagreement. If I'm wrong, I would right away come and admit. If I'm normal, most people, even if they understand that they're wrong, >> they still won't. >> They can't admit. It's too embarrassing. Their cavo, their honor, they they know about >> I have a You know what? Maybe next time I come to Colorado. I have a beautiful It's long. I'm not going to say it now. It's late. We got to go. It's an actual, it can be a lecture about all the ones in the Torah, the common denominator of them, how they made a mlo. It's unbelievable. And there's a certain word in the Torah that before that m doesn't matter. I'm not I'm not going to start. It's all history. There's always somebody who starts the over something. It's there was a it goes all the way back to and andor before Korak there were many other disagreements. Let's go all the way back. Is he considered like or not? >> Yeah. Yeah. >> So you're allowed to say if it's not his name. Uh again not black and white [clears throat] not black and white the answer but yeah a person who's causing a yeah he has >> there was a big pocket here I'm sure you know about this this and that and my question is how can you go is that consider synagogue over there or not >> as I told you in a everybody's Right? So I didn't give any suck here who's the right, who's wrong. I can tell you in my eyes, everybody's wrong. If you want to hear my opinion, nobody's here right. I'm not even involved yet in bringing trying to do peace here. But from the little that I see, both sides are wrong and both sides hold that they're right. So it's very hard to even start doing the makit are doing the or however you want to call it and up until then both sides of okay I can't pull a finger and say he's wrong I'm not even involved and again here comes another problem that's also you need to pay attention when it comes to the since everybody's right everybody in the is right it's a borderline and in most of the cases that's where people in Makllo could fail that the and the slandering they goes out of control because every party needs to prove that they're a right so starts the slandering and the is not and and many other things the key in the is to not to fall in that and not to shalom that you or you that anyone from the maket side fails in that part. If you're already holding the mlo and by the way until there's peace both sides by the way it doesn't matter who's right right now if there's still both sides are held as bal okay so the the point is that one needs to be very cautious that it doesn't lead you to 50 other sins of I don't know all the terms comes in English and what's innation. How do you say it? How is it called? Then you talk bad about somebody and you ruin his name. >> No, that's not defamation. >> Defamation. >> That's not that's so there are so many different things that one can fail. So if you're already in the fine, there's a disagreement. Don't fail in lash and all the rest. The best attitude is [snorts] >> and move away. >> It's not so easy to move away here. You're talking here and I'm understanding from you. The mak here is not two people and sometimes the disagreement is communities. So, and you said families, listen, I've seen that are I think irreversible. Mhm. >> They're not going to be ever fixed. >> It's better to just shut up, forgive, forget, move on. That's it. And and and try to clean anything. Don't don't you know many people pull me into that I I find myself in a in a problem. I What are we doing for me? And doesn't matter what I do, it doesn't work. >> Nothing changing. >> Nothing. There's one person who to make a very long story short worked for our organization and then of course uh he did something and uh it wasn't so nice to say the least and in the nicest way I fired him okay wasn't like anything I just said listen I I think it's better for all of us we heart. That was kind of the And really and it's not about that I'm trying to be the the the the right one. He did something wrong. That's it happens. I didn't get upset. I didn't slander him. I didn't do anything. I just told him I think it's better if we part. And he went on such a a rampage maybe four or five years. in levels that you can't imagine in levels that he went and tell everybody that I'm beating up my wife and I'm beating up the kids and I steal money from the organization and I fund raise and it's all in my I take them. I mean the lash and the things that he came out and he made a coalition against me of all my fans and for about four or five years you can't even imagine to what levels it got to and I'm 100% right and as a matter what I tried he was locked like a pitbull and he was like I'm going to show you >> yeah So after a while that I tried to to to come to some agreement something I saw that it's talking to the wall. So I'm I I flip the page and move on. I don't care about the lash. You know that in Shamim I'm a gazillionaire in mitzvot because when somebody talks about you you get his mitzvot and they get you. So I'm a gazillion, not even a millionaire, multi multi-gazillionaire. Jean, not as much as he wants. I don't care. You think it helped him in any way all his campaign >> and the fact that I didn't try once to clear my name or anything. It's not because a lot of people tell me try to clear your there's nothing to clear. The fact that he claims it, so he said it, I need to clear my name. I need to now show people I'm I'm innocent. No, I don't have to prove anyone I'm innocent. So he said and people used to come to me. But he said, so he said, and I lost students and I lost a lot of things. I didn't lose anything. [snorts] You don't want to be my student cuz somebody trashed me. Go. So everything that he did, he basically shot himself in the leg. He didn't get a partner in the mat. I made sure that I'm getting no pedote from him and he just buried himself in a geome that he will never be able to get out of. [clears throat] >> I don't care where he's going to be. And by the way, I gave a long time ago. I was like because I say every night and I say I really say that. So I to this guy a long time ago, but he's going to have a what a this guy is going to have. Even that I mock to him. I forgave him. But the damage that this guy did is I don't know how he's going to get out of that. And it doesn't I can mock to him 50 times. I look at this person. Like I don't even know how a person like this can do chuva. I know I'm not joking. Somebody came to me not too long ago. We finished a prayer in my sh and everything. Somebody comes up to me. I never saw him and he he tells me uh I I want to have a few minutes of your time. Anyway, he says I want to ask for forgiveness from you. Okay. And he started telling me how he spoke about me and he asking my forgiveness. So I kind of went like this for about 3 4 seconds and I said sorry can't give you a he's like what I said I'm sorry I'm not m to you he he became white he's like but I came all the way here to ask for forgiveness I could have not I said what are you doing I could have not you the fact that you made an effort I'm not I'm not forgiving you have a He didn't. He was stunned. He looked at me like that. He was like, "So, what do you want me to do?" I told him, "I need to tell you what to do. You You You messed up." He was beyond shocked. And after because there were other people there, everybody was shocked. And I told him, "Listen, you want me for me? I don't even know what you said about me. What you need to do is go to all the people that you said lash about me and you're going to have a little bit of a problem because you did it on the internet. Find all the people that you said about me and tell them that it wasn't true and then come back to me and then I'll give you a good luck. >> Did he do it? >> Yes. >> I never heard from him back. How can he do it? He trashed me on the internet. 10,000 people read it. Now go find these 10,000 people. >> But if you can say again on the internet, >> okay, he can do it. Yeah, there are many ways what he can do it. But I told him, go and make amends. Then come back to me. I don't even know who you are. I told him I I I commend you for coming and telling me that you spoke lash about me and that's one of a million but I'm sorry I can't give you ma next time don't talk lon sorry >> why did he do it >> doesn't matter cuz he didn't agree with my opinions and what I said in a certain video and he and like him I have thousands and thousands of wonderful followers is they have a lot of nice things to say about me. So which I can care less but nevertheless a person like that talking here and there that person made like a whole campaign that's what I'm saying he's like a co that's a that person is is I don't even know how a person like this can do cha because what's going to happen let's say he somehow gets to his senses and he repents and he can come and kiss my feet 20 times a day it's not going to help [clears throat] the damage he did [snorts] besides the fact that it's not done from evil or not. I did my I saidm I forgive this person but if he ever comes to me he's not going to get one second of my time. So even if he's going to come to try to do any type of chuva he's not getting any nothing from me. So I don't know how a person can like this can do chuva he'll come up to shamine with a serious problem. And I'll tell you what the problem is. Not the fact that he spoke about me is that thousands stopped learning Torah because of him. So the Torah of these thousands are going to go on his account and many other things. So that's why I'm saying hate. It's not worth it. It's not worth it to anyone. It's a disease that you can barely cure. Unfortunately, I have failed to find a disagreement that one side says the truth is that he's right. But [laughter] I never heard such a thing. 22 years I'm in the business. The mak that's why I'm saying in a in a a sad way both sides are right. You have to bring to the person to the understanding that I understand that you are right. But in life you have to be smart not right. That's my one of the first lessons my father told me when I was 14 years old. Don't try to be right. The only one who's right is Hashem. Be smart. That's it. So unfortunately inot I don't want to even say extreme things. I heard it from great rabbis and sadikim that say that what holds the regula is theot. I don't want to say such things. A I'm not an authority. B I don't want to add more oil to the to the >> to the fire. Yeah. >> But uh the [clears throat] every person that has any type of disagreements has to be mature and and especially when it's a person who's an observant person secular servant people. Come on. You're in the mercy of Hashem. What don't you understand here? You have to be not the bigger person. and you have to be the giant person here. It's very difficult for me. Sometimes I see certain situations and uh it's sad sad to see it because it all boils down to cavode gava ego respect honor and it's the he of the Torah. Sorry, >> Mosher Rabenu when Korak came and accused him Mosher Rabenu didn't Mosher Rabenu you know what the Torah says Hashem the Torah says that Mosher Rabenu fell on his face and started crying not that Mosha Rabenu was a a crybaby three greater >> vo you know what's alav In that there's a part that is called after you confess no you go down and you put your head down. So the Ashkenazi do that the don't put the the hand like this but it's the same thing. It's called >> I know. So that's what I'm saying. Everybody has their mean. We're not going to get into arguments. Oh, another disagreement. Do it. Doesn't matter like this or like that. Just do it. But but the fact is that that we don't need another disagreement. But [snorts] the fact is so first of all he did confession but is not necessarily the face is the pine. He started introspecting. He started doing chuva v. He cried. When you do chuva, you cry. So he said, "Okay, this guy is coming and accusing me in something. He's claiming all sorts of claims. Mosher Rabenu had all the rights in the world to go like that >> and to kill him. put he can give the order in a second that guy is put to death. Kak is put to death. He went against the king. But instead of that and mob has all the reasons in the world why to argue but instead of that he chooses to say that person was sent to me by Hashem right now with accusations. I need to do chuva. He did chuva. He went and looked what's wrong in me. Why is Hashem sending me a man accusing me in things? Maybe I need to do chuva. When that person that I told you that came at me, I didn't not even once did I try to defend myself. My entire motion was I was I was like wait this this guy is like pointing so much fingers in me. Must be that Hashem is sending me some hint that I need to do chuva. Maybe I don't receive that. He was saying he was spreading the that I'm beating up my wife. So I said, "Okay, if that's what he's saying, maybe I don't honor my wife enough. Maybe that's the divine message I'm getting. Maybe I need to be a better husband. Maybe I need to be a better father." He's saying that I'm beating up my kids. Never laid a a hand on my kid. But maybe that's the divine message I'm getting. So I didn't see him as an enemy. I saw him as a messenger. So I did I did my chuv wait a minute. He's saying that I'm stealing money from the organization. Maybe I have gazel. Maybe I did something. Maybe I owe somebody money. That's the attitude. Not to be like and if I would fight back that poor guy what I would do to him. No. And tr trust me, there were times that I wanted to roll up my sleeves, not violently. I would eat him alive. I know how to fight. I'm not talking about my hands. I'm talking about in any other ways. I would eat him alive. But I chose to follow my rabbi Moshe Rabenu. And I didn't say anything for four and a half years. I shut my mouth. Never said one word. And all that I did, I didn't look at him as an enemy. I looked at him as a messenger who's giving me guidance from Hashem. The same thing with David. You know the story? If not, I'll tell it to you very quickly. You don't know the story. I don't want to. You don't know the story. Okay. David was a very special king on one of his convoys from the center of Israel. I don't remember if it was from Lud. I don't remember the the Gamaras says the city. He went back to there was a resistance free Palestine. Okay, there was a resistance. They didn't like David Melik and one of the leaders of the resistance was Shima who came and started attacking David on the convoy throwing stones cursing. When they stopped, he started cursing David violently. Yava was the chief of staff pulls out his sword. He comes to take his head off. You talk like this to the king. The Torah tells you it's called going against the king. The punishment is death. He pulls out his sword to kill him. David stops him. Tells him Hashem told him to curse me. Don't do anything to this man. So, I took Mosher Rabenu's advice, David Aerik's advice when it came to when I was attacked, and I get attacked all the time, by the way. Where's the guy with the conspiracies? I I'm the master of conspiracies. I get attacked all the time, which I can care less. If I speak truth, I don't care. I speak what Hashem wants me to speak and that's it. >> And I don't filter what I need to say. So I know what it means to be attacked but my attitude is I don't go into arguments. I don't let you know I didn't fight that guy says in the book of Tanya >> oh you get involved. >> If you wrestle somebody who's dirty you will get dirty. >> I'm too clean to get you get me dirty. I work too hard on my chuba. I'm not going to work dirt myself with slashon and fighting and slandering and no no no no no no no you're dirty. Don't touch me. So that's why I don't fight back and I just look at that person as a messenger. Exactly like Mosher Rabenu did with Korak. He saw Korak as a messenger. That's it. And he did his chva. He stepped back. That's it. Didn't order death. Didn't do anything. And Hashem did the rest is the Mashiach. Okay. Tell us what you think. Guys online. I love you all. Thank you all for joining us. Tomorrow we have two more classes. Unfortunately, the I can't read all the messages here, but uh you can definitely listen to the Messiah. Nice to meet you. [snorts] Why don't you come and redeem us? >> Please come and redeem us. Thank you, Rabbi. >> I hope to see you in tomorrow's classes. The guys online, you can I hope to see you also. Thank you for coming. Do yourself a favor. Walk out of this door with a lot of toot. I we spoke about a lot of powerful things tonight. Go out of this door. Not only with what you hear to actions tonight. Go home and say, "Okay, what do I do as actions? What do I change in my life tomorrow to to activate everything that I just that we just learned >> and and put it to the put it to action? And I would I'm not going to even tell you put it to the test. Do it. You'll you'll be happy. You'll be successful. So I wish you all the best. I wish you already. We'll see you very soon. >> The guys online. We'll see you tomorrow and in the rest of the lectures. Thank