Rabbi Chaim Sampson Mind-Flex Series Part 2

okay good evening everybody and welcome to so anytime project inspire each live and looking forward to sharing some insights with you and the lessons that I personally learned from of Nora Weinberg I had great good fortune of being a Talmud a student of his for 26 years and parish and thank God I was you know a closed Hamid I had you know it was a great great merit opportunity that I had to be able to learn from him for all those years you know he was a man who was a great man he was a lover of humanity he was a lover of Hashem he was someone who had a tremendous drive for meaning a sense of responsibility and at the same time he was someone who had a tremendous sense of humor tremendous charisma and a tremendous joy of life and a tremendous wisdom that went with it I was fortunate enough when I was 17 years old to come to Asia tour and my first introduction to Asia tour it was a daily class that's rabbi Weinberg gave and that was called the 48 ways to wisdom now I want to introduce and really talk today about some of those ways and I'm going to explain in a minute but the bottom line of what the way that he approached life and the way he approached her was in the following way that he understood and explained this to us that there is if there is a God who created the world then surely that God would create a manual way to explain it an instruction manual to explain this is what we are supposed to do in this world and he was explained that if you buy a game comes with a set of instructions if you buy a radio okay it comes with a little booklet if you buy a car it comes with some written instructions but you knew that need the oil instructions as well the more complex right they're bigger the instructions so if God created the world it makes sense that would come instruction manual and it explained that that's what the Torah is it's the instruction manual from the creator of the universe how to get the most out of life he said it makes sense that he was studying because imagine the following scenario you know a child comes to you a 17 year old child comes he says mom dad can I borrow the car keys and say wow you know I didn't know that you have you learn how to drive and he/she would say you know what no I haven't I'm just giving it a spin or if God forbid were in a situation with someone looked like they were well was sake maybe he had a heart attack and somebody says please give me give me a knife I'm gonna operate and he said wow I didn't know you were a doctor he said he said no no the doctors giving it as bad right you say to the son you know my hunted don't do this don't play this game at home don't give it a spin if you don't know how to drive don't give understand if you didn't if you didn't learn how to drive if you didn't learn how to become a doctor or a surgeon right don't play this game it's dangerous right right why would explain okay how much fun what's more so life itself marriage bringing up children having a sense of meaning of life knowing how to be happy all these things what we give it a spin we give it a stab you know what there's an instruction manual that we should be learning learn the instructions of life first right and then you'll know how to utilize how to live life to the fullest and not giving it a stab or giving it a spin without knowing what we're doing and therefore in the in the 48 ways to wisdom which is really a section from the Pirkei Avot letter the ethics of the fathers assist chapter the sick Mishnah he would explain there are 48 different ways to acquire wisdom and we say here explain each day would give it a different class right but each one would help you use your potential and if you could master all of them you become a master of life and we went into these classes and it was amazing to hear that life wisdom that we learnt from poky avos from ethics of the fathers from rabbi Weinberg so I like share with you a few these insights today it's particularly appropriate because during this time period from Pesach to show Luis right there's 49 days and our rabbis tell us revenues jalsa salana and i believe from the zohar as well and for the mystical writings the rabbi's tell us that each day corresponds for the first 48 days to each one of these 48 ways and the 49th day you review them or before you can come to the acceptance of the torah unto us so we're not going through all of them we didn't have quite enough time for that but i want to share some insights that i gained and like i'd like to share with you from the fully eight ways hopefully wisdom for living that can change your life so the first thing that he would say it's number one right what's number one of the 48 ways is the talmud friend it's constant learning constant growth and he would explain that really in order to be somebody who's growing in life all the time a person first of all has tell appreciation that life is good right you know otherwise you can go through life and you know we're going to do get a kill time you heard that expression killing time right that's not good that's because you haven't decided life isn't really worth living it has no value but if every moments has valuable so then you will use it to the full and therefore you have to appreciate life so you said how you know the person goes through life and says a complainer you know it says you know what you do I didn't ask to be born he said you know what you would do you take that guy you take him another airplane take him high up can you push him out you give him an you give him a parachute but guess what he's coming down falling to the ground is having a hard time opening that question what happens no praise to the Shem please help me open this okay it's 1440 40 just before he goes to the ground the parachute opened what is he saying this complainer he says thank God that I'm alive and he'll enjoy life for the next few days before he starts complaining again but we understand the rain that the world we complain we're not appreciating physically valuable right so he would give an example of for us to appreciate this he said it could have been on a bus right can you see a guy taking five dollar bill and throws it out the window did you ever see that probably not but another five minutes goes by he takes another five dollars he throws that out the window he can't believe it another five minutes takes another five dollars just half a window Wow after you know half an hour okay he's thrown let's do the arithmetic yeah thirty dollars out the window the guy isn't crazy crazy maybe go around the bus and find catchment but he say he guys insane right so he would say what's more valuable time or money what five minutes or five dollars of course five minutes of life was the end of your life you had another five minutes that's far more that's so what more than any money but what do we do when we get on a bus we sit on the bus 5 minutes goes by we throw it out a window another 5 min half an hour off the bars like what I really cheese how much more crazy is that right that we don't utilize the time that we have if it is sent if throwing out 5 minutes 5 excuse me $5 every five minutes is crazy how much more so it is to fight to throw out your five minutes and sitting for the next half now have to appreciate that life is valid bill and he always quote the posit that Abraham is a cane barber yeoman it says in the Torah Abraham was old but be young and he came with his days it means that what why did it sounds like the same thing he was already came with his days means he's old so what as we know it was old but he used every single moment of his life to the full and that's what we need to do Craig the first of the 48 ways is to understand that use a life to the full don't waste a moment and that's what we do when we say Shamar you know you know a person sitting like even when they're about to die okay this particular station about why because even at the last moment of life we try to understand what is this life about what is the purpose of life even at the very last moment right so therefore the first of four ways is to appreciate a life it's great every moments opportunity to grow and to learn and that's number one now number two of the 48 ways it's me at ha Osen listen with your lip with your ears now what else is going to listen with so so he'll explain that when I say to you listen right could mean many things listen to me it could be pay attention right because you're not paying attention listen to me listen to me could be listen to what I'm telling you to do listen you tell your children why don't you listen listen to what I'm telling you to do but should be chosen is listen with your ears listen up I try understand so he will explain that in life you have to go through life trying to understand each day what is it that you learnt in life you learn something you read something you had an experience just what is it define it so you would give me the following analogy to tapping to defining what you've learned so you said ok you gave the following story there was a guy who was in his office and he came into his office and he'd been brought in probably by Mayor Schuster and the guy says no rabbi I want to tell you something I was traveling in Israel and went from north to south east to west and telling you there's nothing holy about this land so rabbi winder said wow that's really fascinating but do you mind if I ask you quickly said no problem is it on your travels how many before 6 did you see he says how many one rabbi Weinberger peace how many good foot sticks did you see he says what's a buffer snake but my wagon says listen I'm asking the questions yet you tell me how many before sticks you saw he starts getting a little frustrated so have I if you don't tell me whatever foot stick means what it is how can I tell you how many I saw so Ramon says aha tell me something when you were travelling in your travels through Israel and you say you didn't see anything holy do you have a definition of holiness that you can tell me to say you didn't see it what were you expecting yeah God to check tap you on the shoulder and apparition to colors of the rainbow to appear in front of you an angel is gonna speak to you whoa it could be if you don't have a definition of holiness it might have reading right under your nose and you didn't even notice he would explain that that's true for all of life you need to have definitions a person wants to have success in life what is the definition of success you can change it you can change the definition of success your whole life right and then realize that 50 60 years old it's not I'm not I don't feel so successful and that's why people can go through middle age crisis define it at the beginning what is a successful life what is my goal in life but then yeah you can work towards it people chase happiness and they don't have it definitely don't define it so you feel well if I work my way up the corporate ladder then I'll be happy but you know what you didn't define it right so you could have waited you know if you define it the beginning you could have not wasted the 20-30 years of working way up the corporate ladder and getting to the top and then realizing I'm still miserable or definition of love what is it you know so all of these things that references number to shamea chosen in life you need to have clear definitions for things that you believe in and things are important now it's number two now we're going to go on to the aimer which is number number five right there aimer means to have a sense of all over life and I want to share this with you in a way that my own personal experience is that you know I used to be studying in in the bank mad rush in study hall at Asia Torah and Rabbi Schuster of blessed memory used to bring students in travelers from around the world and he would bring them in and I would sometimes be sitting next to him by the door and he would ask me would you like to to say a few words about what we were doing here you know act in India Cheever in the basement language in that study hall I said my pleasure I would often say the following I said tell me something you know you traveled around the world and they would often say yes we went to Nepal and we went to to Europe and we've done our and I say imagine you saw some beautiful things they would say tell me something did you ever had the following experience that you're walking up a mountain and all of a sudden you take a step it opens up in front of you is the most beautiful view smoke capped mountain a beautiful river or a sunset or the sea or something profoundly beautiful a lake that still forest that just opens up did you ever had that experience and I would always say yeah yeah yeah we had that and then I would say tell me something wasn't that really it wasn't that what you were looking for you were looking for that know that that sunset that beautiful experience no travelers wasn't that the experience you were looking for and many many of them would say hey you know rabbi I wasn't necessary at the time but it was a high yeah you're right how did you know that so I said why don't you think are you having that experience the experience do you stop in your tracks and you see this beautiful sight and you feel uplifted by the transcendental feeling in front of you what is it that you're feeling when you have that experience and they have an experience and you know what it is it's not just the interesting thing that you're seeing that's bouncing off your retina and it happens to be it's the the beauty of creation reflects the creator himself there's an infinite beauty that you feel in your touching right and that reflects to creator himself so what you looking really for its experience the infinite because that's what you feel it and I would turn to everybody in the the Beit Midrash in the study hall in the achiever and say you know what but you were looking for is for all of these guys are learning about because that's the goal of Judaism the goal of Judaism is that I should be able to be in touch with a infinite being which is God right to feel him all the time because you can go to Nepal and have that experience right and you can go to beautiful places but when you come down the mountain it's gone how do you had that feeling all the time how do you walk with the infinite how do you walk with God that's the Torah that's true working on yourself and through growing and becoming a fully human being and through learn Hashem Torah right through doing that yeah you can walk with your almighty all the time should ii see hashem then maybe tell me that i place got in front of you always because if you're in touch with god that's like you know when you pray you should be it should be an awesome experience you're feeling a sense of and that's that what's the definition of all but a person standing under the stars at night and you see wow look at those stars you feel how small you are compared to the infinite nurse of wow but it's not really in front because there's a finite number of stars so why are you feeling it because you're giving in touch with the infinite creatively on and that is what's the sense of all it's how small I am compared to their infinite greatness that I'm experiencing and that's the feeling that was for the all of Judaism is about all of our mitzvahs and one of them is to get us in touch with that infinite being and rabbi ya rabbi Weinberg would always say that this is the whole point there are six mitzvahs in Judaism who the sixth constant mitzvahs as a mitzvah tilter to be aware of God to know there's a girl not to believe in other gods number two number three to understand he's one to love him to fear Him and not to believe not to stray off to your eyes which is your desire an end in themselves and your heart which is your ego right the things desires you know for physicality as an end in itself and an ego my only got other things that take us away from a relationship which and this is it this is what all of Judy's arms about come and I would say Flynn come and learn come study Torah because what you were looking for in your travels is what we're trying to expand experience all the time so that's number two number excuse me number four main is by a mer person should work will go through life with a sense of all right now that can be because you stand underneath the stars at night and it can be because you understand look at the shells creation and you understand that in your hands there's there's electrons and neutrons and it's and when you move your hand you're moving all the electrons and it's profound and in a feminine and in a plant there's designer man the phloem and then there's ecosystems and it's if you really see the world the way it is it's awesome but if you take it one step further you understand isn't infinite being with us that were in his presence the King of Kings the melon Malcolm luckily he's here he's with us wow that's a sense of all so number none that number five is to have that sense of awe all the time now the next one is one of the is fear right the hero number six now this is number six is the year and let's just understand you want to be afraid I mean you know what's the feeling of fear so imagine you know you're on a you're on a subway or in England we would say the tube right and you see you're sitting in there it's a late at night you're sitting in you know in the coaches that he said in it and you see a bunch of not so friendly looking guys with their blacks you know the black suits and studs silver studs and they're coming towards you they don't look so friendly so what happens you have a strong dose of fear your heart starts beating faster so what's going on right what's the feeling when you feel a sense of fear of Europe is it what happens is have a heightened sense of awareness you feel that your your faculties become more acute every second makes a difference everything you do makes a difference right so you're feeling more alive so the reality is that fear who wants to be afraid but the rabbi Weinberg would teach us that you've all paid to be afraid right we want him why because a pleasure what do you mean who wants to be afraid is it yeah you've taken those roller coasters right why you paid good money to be afraid or you might go to it you know plus it might have been to a horror film okay it gets you afraid why do people do their you know why they do that because they want to feel they're alive we're walking around half asleep because we're not using our faculty faculties when you're afraid you're using your faculties to the foot you're fully alive so at the same time you know what but but you know I don't feel the sense I wouldn't be afraid so where am i Weinberg would explain you know there are four blocks to fear right one block is that you feel it's not pleasurable and a second block is that you feel that you're not really gonna be achieved you can be intimidated when I'm afraid I can't do anything right the third is that I think I'm not gonna really be myself because when you're afraid you're motivated by fear I can't be me and the fourth is that you know it's a do thing to live my head of fear is a little bit demeaning so he would explain that you know what when you're fully alive there's a there's a there's a pleasure of being alive right you see the pain fear is a pleasurable pain right there's a pain that no pain no gain when you put effort into life and get pleasure out when you are aware of and you have faculties that are heightened right then you feel fully alive and you feel a sense of pleasure and so second of all yeah you could be yourself right because when you're afraid of a sham which is what we're talking about to live with the sense of Europe it's yearís Hashem to be afraid of a Shem right is when your family when you do what a sham one's then you're really able to be yourself and you know what it doesn't do abilities it doesn't take away from the abilities because you know what if you're afraid you've been chased by a lion you'll run a lot faster we've all held up the stories of the old lady you saw a child gone for bit under a car and she the old lady it's at the car to save the child because when you have a sense of fear here it gets you to use your abilities and strength much more and finally right the sense of fear Craig it can be a little bit you know to do things out of fear yeah it's true it may be a little demeaning frame you'd rather do things that'll of a better to do the right thing hello sense of fear and the wrong thing right and a sense of love so really you use the fear the mitzvah of fear is to understand what is that right you see the fear is to see to see the consequences that's really what fake what fear is the word for a year air Iraq in Hebrew comes from the word Allah rock to see you're seeing reality clearly every human being has the opportunity the incredibly great to be to use his potential to the film we could squander in and just waste his life away see reality see truth face truth live life to the phone or to say forget it no see what the opportunity is is to be to live with fear to fear to understand there are consequences to what I do and that's what theory that consequences I can do great things in my life or god forbid you can just not just put my head in the sand and say leave me alone and I can just go through life mediocre and you'll miss the full potential of you who you are much greater to be to be in reality to see or not to see that is the question that's what fear to see reality see consequences so they were the fact that every moment is a tremendous opportunity every day is an opportunity every week every month every year for you to use your potential to the full thanks to living with a sense of fear that makes a difference I think you're gonna make that difference or you're not right now living with that means that you'll feel that rush that scent like a kind of a roller coaster you really are why I've even known yes so painful because you're putting in the effort and it's hard but the pleasure of having that fear is where you can really be alive like you come off a roller coaster all the time you'll feel great so that's that's the year and now the next one after the euro is number seven which is but another right to have humility now when you think of someone who's a humble person you know what you think of you think of a guy who walks around you know it's got no self-esteem right so rabbi one that would tell us that you know one that's not that's not a common person that's a wimp what's a humble person a humble person is someone who says you know what the life isn't about me it's not about my ego so what is about life is about doing what's right living a meaningful existence and if I can do that right I don't care what people think of me and that's a truly humble person and it would explain that a person who lives that had that type of humility is a person who has tremendous charisma now how do you get to that how do you get to the fact that person who lives in live with doing what's right so he would bring what are the other 48 ways it oh hey attend Sadako's love doing what's right love what's doing what's right that well how did you do that so you would say that you know what a person who doesn't know what is prepared to die for hasn't begun to live we have to know what we prepare to give all of life up for to give life meaning otherwise we're just living for life saying I'm going to work to get a job to get some money to support my family to have children so that they can go to work and get a job and earn some money and have children so they can get a job you know it goes on it's a cycle what you talking about what's the purpose I'm living to eat or eating to live right am i living to work working to obviously I'm working to live so if I'm working to me what am i living for she would say this is how you know what are you prepared to die for if you know that then I live for it so I think we all understand that you know one there are things that we'd be prepared to die for you know if the is Israel will call us out but we need to fight for Israel because we're surrounded by enemies god forbid okay but we would think you know work for the sake of Israel for the Jewish people we do it we do and we're proud of the other soldiers who do okay what were their heroes or god forbid so I won't say you know will kill you or you kill a million innocent people we probably give our a line up why because we're dying to do what's right or the other way of saying is we die rather than do what's wrong right if you're prepared to die to be good give it all up you'd rather be good than bad right if you'd rather give it live to be good right if you give up your whole life to be good and use your life to be good right so he would add if you prepare to live to be good to die to be good then you should live to be good it's gonna live to be good you might as well enjoy that okay so you would explain them in the in the 48 way oh oh hey listen Meisha in love the right way excuse me that's another one but not oh it's a Dark Arts love doing the right thing which is number 33 right he would explain it that you're not only supposed to do the right thing but you're supposed to love it now we often look at doing the right thing as it's always like Texas right it's like you know I have to pay my taxes but if there's any way that I didn't have to pay my taxes wouldn't that be great so the reality is that sometimes we look at doing the right thing being good is it sort of like you know taxes I have to do it but if I use anyway I didn't have to do all these obligations they're sort of like tackling me all these love homes Jewish rules that I have to do you know see if it's taking away from my face you enjoy life let's have fun so you'll explain that no no that doing the right thing is a deep pleasure right it's not just an obligation but it's also an obligation right but it's a pleasure how do we know that because you see if someone say to you are you a good man are you a good woman and you could answer sincerely thank God I am do you know in a pleasure that is it's the pleasure of integrity it's a pleasure of living with your values you see unfortunately we look at it as baby Noah I'm trapped by all these laws you know by doing what's right and I can't get those other pleasures out there it's wrong right because when you live with what's right and you're a person I do what's right and that's what my life is about that's a deeper pleasure that's a heavy pleasure right that gives you a sense of weight and that's what Rabbi wine would say when you live that way that's the true charisma the true charisma is when you're committed to doing what the right thing is no matter what no matter what the f is and no whatever people think of me right I do the right thing as the true charisma right and people take you seriously not only that but you have tremendous sense of deep pleasure in life because every time we compromise or what's right yeah it takes away a little bit of our self-respect we don't feel so good about ourselves you know when people of high society a court doing things that they shouldn't be doing right and they go to prison right they don't get them nice and Forks in prison you know why because when a person feels that they were caught doing something that they should knew and everybody knows they shouldn't have been doing yeah they feel a tremendous sense of shame they feel a tremendous sense of lack of self respect to the extent that a person god forbid can feel at all because that pleasure of doing the right thing is so great and the opposite the pain of feeling that you didn't do the right thing is equal is equally great that's the pleasure we have to understand that in life right to do what's right to be good it is not just something obligated to because God told us to but he's giving us the opportunity to have tremendous pleasure in our life we only realize it to give to others to care for others to do what God wants you know to have integrity to live with your values is a tremendous pleasure and that's the pleasure of okay as it's tacos all aren't doing the right thing now there is another aspect of humility which is not just the fact that I wanted to right right and my ego I don't care about my ego but there's another aspect which comes up in the 48 ways which is a no mercy toe the Atma right which is that I don't take credit for myself these are the two sides of humility one is it's not about me it's about doing what's right the other side is I don't take credit and I why I didn't would explain there are a few different ways that in life we tend to take credit one is we'll take credit for our talents and our abilities and he always used to tell the story of a guy that he knew there was a it was a you know the guy was the life saver whether they say bye at the swimming pool or by the sea and you know he would be sitting there and it was a long thing you got to him and say come and say you know what tell me the time and you'd go up to him and tell you tell me the time and he would go like this and flex his muscles and he'd be you know use the opportunity of telling you the time to show you how muscular he has you can imagine a person you know he's know been working out you know it's like cast iron stomach I am the greatest right because you know so our talents a person who happens to be very intelligent you intend to take a little bit of credit that oh you know I'm so great because I have whatever talent it is that I tend to have that's where a little bit of ego comes in and I take credit for it that obviously was a gift to you from a Shem but that's number one we take credit for our talents the second is our accomplishments right you did something you achieve something you feel like you know what I deserve credit but the reality in is that you see you know and rubber band that were good the following analogy imagine if you went to a to to a banking year you cashed a check and then you come over to me and you say you know what wherever I am you know I'm the guys and why what did you do what I did I took a check I went to the bank and I cashed it what an achievement that I Creek you know you took a check in you cashed it if you didn't do it you really it's no big whenever we accomplished in right it's it's you know this is what we created for right we created to to do to to accomplish it's it's it's not something to throw oh look you know there's a guy who has on his on his you know imagine a guy who has on his room his high school diplomas right oh no it's then even on his high school diploma says his diplomas from kindergarten and he sees a you know 650 year old man he's good as to him I'm so proud of my of my Kim gun but you know so you think he's a little funny what about if he's got all the credentials at this dis doctor and that Professor name so then no wow it thinks that that's that's okay but the reality is you see we have to understand right that we are the human potential is so great there's so much wrong that we can do as there as that as tricky as dominum eric says in psalms ma adam kiss Carina what is man but my inner street is friend what is man you couldn't remember him been Adam who been on to get food to eat if Kadena that you take note of him we the yeah yeah we're what are we we're little speck of dust on the face of the universe yeah but us ray who might manikin me but you made him a little bit less think God Himself the potential of the human is so great you take you something so really whatever we achieve in life it's nothing compared to what we could do so to take pride in it take pleasure in it don't take pride realize even your accomplishments are a gift to you and the third thing is your righteousness you know we think if we did something good so that's really me because I challenge true get so rabbi Weinberg would give an example imagine imagine I came to you and I said you know what I did an amazing thing today you see this knife coming at myself with a knife and I was about to cut my nose off right and I really you know I was this close to cutting my nose up but then I I was able to conquer my desire and I took that night and I threw it down to the ground and you know what I overcame that temptation I didn't cut my nose off isn't that amazing and you say like you know again you crazy because how do you cut your nose off right you would have been destroying yourself that would be really stupid you don't deserve that much credit for not doing something really stupid so when we do the right thing yeah that's all you created for to not do the right things like cutting up your nose okay the tape tape to take pride in it right is in the state don't take pride in your talents and your and your accomplishments and your righteousness take pleasure yes you should take better realize all these things are a gift from the creator of the universe and those are the two sides of humility realized that that likely isn't about my ego it's about too much right and I'll give you tremendous pleasure don't take credit right because all of these everything you have is a gift from the confident being there's so much more that's expected of us now the next one is dealing with frustration and as you go through life Erica I am number 22 of the 48 way it deals with dealing with the frustration everybody weinberg used to tell us do you know how to deal with frustration enjoy it say what are you talking about frustration is frustrating how can you enjoy it so he would tell us that no all of you have gone into a store and bought a box of frustration okay what are you talking about he said he bought a box of frustration what is he referring to you go into a store you buy a thousand-piece puzzle right is there anything more frustrating than trying to put in a thousand pieces and the puzzle together imagine if you bought a apartment with five pieces much easier why don't you just buy one of those no pain no pleasure in a in a puzzle with five pieces to play comes if it has 20 pieces maybe if you're five years old you don't if you you know hundred pieces come on that's that's kid stuff right 100,000 people whoa right that's really something right so but what isn't it bit is frustrating so why why is it pleasurable because there's a pleasure of creativity there's a pleasure of discovering oh I see a little bit of sky here and has a little white thing here is another piece with it you could it's a creative pleasure it's a pleasure of discoveries it's pleasure of working it out seeing the clues and understanding so this is an analogy all of life that when you go through a frustrating time you have to reframe and you have to say you know what Hashem is trying to teach me something there's something you know instead of getting frustrated right let me look for what he's trying to teach me let me look for the clues let me try to understand what it is I'm supposed to learn here right when you do that then you can enjoy it right because Hashem is guiding through whatever you're going through in life HN is guiding you through and he's teaching you now sometimes it can be difficult how are we going to solve this problem difficult but if you understand that there's you know there's something I was supposed to learn from this and you will take it seriously in that way then you can really take pleasure in the frustrating situations that you're in it would add it then really see if you get a remove excu you can have two types of rubik's cube a rubik's cube that you know is made in a way that you can work it out with all the different colors coming out on the red and blue and yellow oh you've got the he's a Rubik's Cube but you know I can't guarantee you would actually there's actually it actually works you want to give it a try do you say forget it I'm not giving it a try there two types of problems in life what a type of problem is a problem that I can solve right I know is solvable it's like a math question math question that I know there's a there's a solution if you don't know if there's even a solution forget it right you can spend hours and hours on the math problem if you know that the solution I could get if I really try so eight that the two types of problems in life one is a problem I know there's a solution and there was a problem that I don't know know so when you understand that Hashem is taking you through a life and the problems that you have are really on a deeper level it's tailor-made for you and they don't there's a solution there's a way that you can deal with this to maximize your potential in life and achieve your life goals right and to become the full person because I've shadows running the world for you and he's with you and I hope you become the person you can become and sometimes these situations are only to bring out who you can be then you know that all of these problems are 8i problems that problems with the solution when you understand that then you know you can get through it I know look through the look look through the other situations is a way to grow a way to learn what's it and life becomes so much more fascinating that's how to do with frustration right and in a certain way you know you don't want to put a puzzle that's too easy because no pleasure in there saying what some ideas so the man of difficulty in lives to make it that you're going to achieve and grow and understand because that's really the way to have a pleasurable life so this is another mother 48 ways it's okay bsite Oaxaca's love criticism now who loves criticism come on you know that's a tall order so wrap my Wainman would explain the following and if as person came to you and said you know what it preface it with the following question if someone asks you what's more valuable what you appreciate more to be good what has been rich what would you rather be a good person pretty good right that's a dick righteous person but you know what you don't really have that much money you're just scraping by or you're a really rich person you got the money you got the homes you got the yachts you got it all right thank you thoroughly evil witch would you go for so I've asked this question to hundreds of making thousands of people right I'd rather Weinberg did and I've never had anybody told me I'd rather be thoroughly evil and rich okay maybe rich and righteous okay that's yeah but choice between on the other we understand that being good is more valuable it's more what we want and being rich so if a person would come to you and say listen you know you come over to you and they're really being rude and they start swearing at you and you know god forbid and they say you blankety blank blank blank and they do they're really laying it on thick and in the middle of this they get out a checkbook and they write you a check for a million dollars they put it in your pocket and then they say and you blankety plan to carry on with all their profanities and they're about to walk off you know what you do say listen my friend you know anytime you want to come and say profanities at me here's my card come again and you walk off will give me in that dollars and you do a jig throwing books and similarly if someone comes to you and they say to you you know you did this wrong you needed that wrong and they're really and they're really upsetting you but if they give you in their criticism a little bit of an inkling on how you can be a better person you know what you should say you should put it in your pocket and say you know get and say to that person you know what any time you want to be not nice to me he is my Khan because if that person gave you the smallest insight on how to be a better person right you should do it all the more so you should do it cheat down the street because being good good is better is more than able to ask them being rich you just don't appreciate it so if you understand and a person gives you insight it's had it be better a better person you should be very appreciative even if they didn't do it in the nicest way and we understand that you know what people who are serious about life don't pay to criticism an Olympic gold medal medalist will pay a trainer to tell them everything that he's doing wrong right a person is a business coach you did this wrong you should do this with it because when you're serious about something if we're serious about life we've truly means serious felt being good pays that one to tell you what you're doing wrong okay because that's what life is about right and when we appreciate that yeah you want people to tell a trouble with us as we get a little bit comfortable and our ego gets in the way and we get what life is about what we understand that every insight into being a better person then we really love criticism yeah because it'll help me be a better person I'd like to share with you people tell me know we're coming towards the end but I'd like to share with you a couple more points pill Paula Tom Needham which is number 12 right number 12 is growth through teaching well you should have tell me them even if you're not a big rabbi but everybody said what does it mean to have tell me them students you know when it should me in it means it means that you should share what you know teach don't preach but more than that share share the wisdom that you have and this is not and remember Weinberg always used to say profound thing yeah you know what the greatest disease is out there yeah the greatest disease he would say is ignorance people don't know what life is about people haven't read the instruction manual that we spoke about at the beginning right people don't know how to have happy marriages or they don't know how to bring up the children or they don't know what is meaningful about life or they don't they they haven't necessarily learned the wisdom of the Torah so as you learn Torah right share what you know because you see if you had the cure for cancer and God forbid you didn't share it well would that not be a tragedy it would be a tremendous tragedy so all the similar little friend if as you learn wisdom fill event frame share it with others because that wisdom for living it can help people who live life and we know that we have our brothers and sisters out there know who don't necessarily you know come to classes sheering like this from home they may they may they may not be in touch with the beauty of their heritage and the Torah and we know that we all know that huh we know the beauty of it so share it don't keep it to yourself with heart and this was one of the main themes of rabbi Weinberg is that we're part of the Jewish people which are men left malesko Han in the garage we're a priestly nation the holy nation right and we represent God in the world that we have a Torah which is profound and has all the answers is the instruction manual share it in a way that's not too judgmental share it because you know if you have it and you don't share that's a tragedy it's our responsibility people Tom medium share the wisdom just an insight that you have share it with with with the people that you know so like to end with the fully anyway number 21 which is really as we go through the serie each day corresponds to a different one of the 48 ways according their different listings of the 48 ways and you know K different can vary but according to the listing that why make one out number 21 was the mute spoke now there are look which means minimize laughter now there are a lot of things to minimize a tour mean in my sleep minimize conversation right so in all of the 48 ways that same minimize my while I would explain it doesn't mean don't do it then they don't sleep sleep isn't bad it minimized connotation I think don't don't talk it means don't talk too much you talk too much you know it's not good either okay sleep too much same with it laughter if you're laughing be at people that's very bad if you're laughing when it becomes you know frivolity it's not it's not a good way to live life but there's a way of laughing that's profound and powerful and one of the things that Rabbi Wagner once said to me I remember I was actually with him and he said to me I am you know there's really only one real joke really he said one joke that's it I say well I thought I heard a bunch of them but sees it yeah all the other jokes are just a facsimile of this one essential joke but just a different way of putting together okay promote I said do you mind if you tell me the joke so he started telling me this story which was a very serious story I wasn't sure where the Joker's but I'll share with you when he told me he said you know there's a there's a fennel Abraham Cordish Hashanah which I happen to personally know him in you wish and I am in Jerusalem and he lived in Baltimore and one day Ruffman and learns that son unfortunately he was shot in the back and you know he went ended up in hospital he came around when he came around he's paralyzed from the head from the neck down quadriplegic and he's sitting there and he's like wow I can't move so he says to himself well you know what we're gonna do now he says I don't know he says well here what's life about says I don't know and then he laughed why did he laugh right he loved because he had a realization he said all the time I can move my hands and my feet I never asked myself the most important question in life is what am i living for I never asked her that right and he laughed right now I want to finish the story with him because what happened was he said okay you know well now I'm asking the question so then he asked himself wait a second if I would have gone through all of life being able to move my hands and my feet maybe I would have never asked the question well am i living for he said that's true so then he asked himself the following question what's better to go through life all of life being able to move my hands and my feet I never asked the question well is life living what is what is the point of life what is the what is the meaning assistance of what we're here for why are we here what am I supposed to be doing I never asked that question but I could look my hand what's better to live that way what should be a quadriplegic and have an answer to that question and live the rest of my life with an answer and he said without doubt yeah better to have an answer that question and not be able to move my hands and my feet this would be that quadriplegic right than to go through say he said and therefore this was the best thing that ever happened to me I'm not saying it I'm just telling you what he said I met this man he he went to yerushalaim he ended up in Israel he actually studied at Asia Torah for a while he became a Hasidic Jew he lived in by other gun I went to his house for Shabbat and I helped him cut his meat and I helped him take him to the restroom by night you know and this man was always smiling he was beaming right I know so let's go that's this interesting story about him recorded but what's the joke you see the joke is that what's a judge laughter is because of the paradox paradox is you see a man with a with a top hat and a tie and he slips on a banana peel so you laugh why because it's paradoxical brain he thinks he's such a big shot a big deal right and even a banana peel can slip them up right it's because it's you're seeing the paradox in what just happened so what's the ultimate paradox the ultimate parents that around college with real languages that's leaning to existence there's a purpose to life and I'm missing it because I'm so caught up and moving around I didn't even think I'm too busy to deal with the most important question like which is what is life about and another way of saying this paradox is to say you know what that's an infinite being that's here that loves us with an infinite love and we're missing it we're walking around with our head in the sand thinking for me that's the joke you know laughs and you get the joke that if we can laugh and how old crazy laughter destroys if you laugh at a person god forbid you destroy him that's why it's so bad to laugh at someone if you laugh in a room and there's tension you ever had giggles in a laugh and all of sudden everybody's loving the tension is gone because laughter destroys if you love and your own craziness right can you destroy that that's why we laugh on Purim right so I'm laughing at the craziness laughing getting gigs Ihara right and you destroy it but when you when you love so we'd love for the craziness of missing the fact that we're in we are every moment of existence is so infinitely valuable and we're walking around missing that the love of the almighty Wow right and that's the that's the the last point the PATA share with you which is that that's what we're they were not used to teach us that all of life is really to understand that there's a infinite being that loves us with the confirm of that and that's what we're here for right that's the whole point of exist and even say it the following way they said the hover cook came it was the one of the last prophet and he and he took the home tour in 630 ministers meet him on our hearts and he said this one mitzvah is the essence of the hotel what was that Sadek been not so easier its attic lives through in his munna in his belief in God and said that he would say that's the essence of all of the Torah that we're trying to do which we spoke about about the six consonants this is the idea Shen knowing that there's a God understanding that there's a God is what align what all of Judaism and deepen your relationship with him is what it's all about and he would say the essence of understanding God you know and knowing God is to understand that he loves you essence of a morning is to understand that God loves you right because if you understand it God loves you I love him I remember for a friend of mine told me I heard the story that a person was sitting with rabbi Weinberg and he said to him how do you love God so he said well tell me something do you love me he says yes of course Rebbe of course I love you he said why do you love me so I'll tell you why not me because you know I love you so what we understand that Hashem loves us with an infinite love and unconditional love right when we understand that and we really feel the love Hashem loves us we love him and we know him and we appreciate him I remember one time I was walking in Manhattan with him and I was a little bit you know I would confide in my Rebbe at times time and I was complaining about something and I am I can I say and he stopped in the middle of the street and he was in the street on the sidewalk of course and he and he was a big man he looked amazing you're crazy so we may become crazy crazy works and what did you think if life isn't going your way hashem doesn't love you anymore he said you're wrong shannon loves doing everything that happens through and it's just not exactly the way that you thought you've got to look for the clueless you could understand what it is the love is just the same I remember the last time I saw him and he was in pain it was a two and a half weeks before he passed away and I remember he was in pain there was a lot of pain and he saw that I noticed and he looked at me and he said Hashem is sweetening my gun Adan I is it sweetening my life for me in a world to come I was like wow because he saw Hashem love in every single aspect of life and then if you can do that you'll be a great person so my blessing to you is that you should be able to take some of these insights and utilize them in your life go to the 48 ways listen to the 48 ways goes to H audio calm and you can listen to rubbing Weinberg on tape it's it's really life-changing or you can go to H calm and you can read them they're written up really beautifully and each of these ways can be life-changing so I have a little insight for yourself and please God we should be able to take these insights and master them could make ourselves into a vessel so that we can receive all the goodness and the distance to finish them whenever my wine boat would be asked for a blessing it could be for children could be for to get tempted for a it could be for whatever it is he was skipper than that blessing and she's coming with our people to finish with and you should know that Hashem loves you because that's the greatest blessing blessing you all you should appreciate how much she loves you usually appreciate that and we should be able to do live lives to the full be that vessel that can grow use our potentials the fool and he thank you very much have a good night