Rabbi Joey Haber - Revealing The Light of Pesach

good evening I want to thank everyone for joining us tonight it's very special sheer I think by Joey hey boy we hear from tremendous remarks very momentarily it's been presented by khazak and the shul congregation Jamaica States I want to thank the shul and Mr Jack Abraham for all the tremendous work I do for the community and we're talking about revealing the light of pesos and it's it's very apropos topic tonight because we're talking about obviously with so many dedications for tonight and a special dedication for for the foreign means to bring light into this world and and we know and if you look at a menorah what does you have different different candles different Wicks but it's all under the same base that's what this tonight if you look at the flyer yeah partnering together with the shul and so many different organizations everyone United under the banner of Torah we have uh together with House of Torah Emmett Outreach we have the house we have a big one big heart Shalom and it's tremendous everyone's joining it together it's being dedicated in in loving memory of your ear and that says as well as you're confessional and sorry about yourself Sadiq and our first name of the of the new Aaron mosheb and Ruth well thanks sir Mr alien and Talia shashani and Jack Abrams are on the Applause thank you and um one quick word uh before we're gonna hear um here's some opening remarks here by nissanian is um is I'm talking about talking about the light that that our fellow brothers and sisters down the block in in our neighborhoods they don't see the light of the Torah they're not they're not they're not they're not privy to that to this to the to honor of of the Jewish Education so kazak is there um through after school and Sunday school programs in 15 different communities and um in 15 different locations inspiring the Jewish Public School uh students our fellow brothers and sisters who might just live literally down the block and and in the last since 2017 over 1200 children were transferred public school to Yeshiva so everyone everyone right here anyone who's watching online they should definitely reach out to kazak if um to refer students to them could be a tremendous and is and there's a great great honor let's go upon we want to thank for the years and years of dedication to the community [Applause] foreign thank you very much for coming tonight this is a an opportunity that we have to memorize our son and my daughter and my wife Babu Hashem they came out with this wonderful program of Light It Up in the event that's that unfortunately throughout the years we kind of distancing ourselves from ourselves and in this flyer they came up with 40 easy items that we can light up someone else day life and so on and so on if you just read all of them you can choose one a day or one for a lifetime smart to someone for example say hello to someone and so on and so on I don't want to take so much of the time thank you very much for coming it's a tremendous honor to be here and I really want to thank you very much for having us tonight it's an event that's dedicated in memory of really a special young man who passed away 20 years ago and the light that he brought to the world and the light that we hope is tonight to be able to continue to bring to the world in his memory and it's also the lunishment and as the girls and her friends wrote she passed away a year ago Rebecca as her friends called her Becky was a friend to all a smile and knew how to turn a frown upside down her love and care never went unnoticed her ability to accept all those all those that came her way will ever be remembered we hope to keep our Legacy of unity and Oneness alive you know to commemorate two events 19 years apart that have that in certain ways they're so sad and try to do our best you being here tonight is honoring these nishamot and honoring these these lives doing great things in their memory and our hope is that tonight we could bring light in the memory of this young man and this young woman and also in memory of Sarah Joseph that we're commemorating sometimes the truth is as I'm reading the names I'm having a hard time even continuing thinking about the pain we've just read five different people and the pain that came from it but hopefully it's our responsibility if you're here tonight to try and Elevate the world in their memory and all sort of thank you it's a good tune we're going to talk tonight about light but before you understand light you need to understand Darkness because light is only appreciated against the darkness and I think each generation has its own Darkness there were Generations that the darkness of the time was a holocaust or an inquisition or a kazakhst or a crusade or the Holocaust of the time was an extreme property and people living without any clothing to wear with food to eat but I think the darkness of our time is different that though most people you know have food to eat and clothing to wear in a house to living most people you know are not afraid of a World War or an enemy around the corner that's going to create extreme danger because for most of us our enemy in the 2020s isn't over there the enemy is over here and for most people what generates their most frustration are the things that they obsess over which means that when someone obsesses over food it often generates a lot of frustration I don't have enough food I ate more I want to eat food that item I had that thing that that that's the way it was eaten someone who obsesses over Sports they're usually met but this team that lost and the other team that won and the other team that's losing and how could it be and why the guy get injured it doesn't make sense and they're mad about their sports that's what they obsess over it and it creates frustration people that are obsessed over business and they're always thinking and worrying about business it drives them crazy people who obsess over money and it's all they care about all they talk about always feel like they don't have enough people that obsess over friends if you have a young child who obsesses over friends a 15 year old girl cares about a friend and she's totally consumed without friends every time something goes wrong with their friends and she doesn't get a phone call back it ruins her entire night people that are obsessed with popularity whenever it feels like they're not as popular as they thought they get crazy and people are obsess over other people's opinions also those opinions can get them nuts that's the darkness of our day the darkness of our day is for most people in their minds and for most people the bondage that we are experiencing is literally in our mind the gamara famously says that we have Adar next to Nissan where right now in the last few days of our daughter going right into Nissan because both of them are when we commemorated so we're going to learn a little bit from the story of Adar and that will take us into the story of Nisan and the story of ADA we're going to see one person who although he lived over 2 000 over 2300 years ago is a great example of modern darkness and modern bondage and then over the course of the night where they're going to transition into understanding and appreciating the light who's the greatest exempt of a man who lived in this kind of suffering the answer is Hama an said the words that make no sense we're used to it but it makes no sense all of this is not worth it to me as long as I see Mordechai sitting Bashar hamillah what does that even mean your second in command you're incredibly wealthy you're the most powerful person on the earth you have everything you can want a home wife children every single thing possible how is it possible to say the words that it's not worth anything to me the answer is you're a Slave you're a slave to your mind and what happens to our minds is you get a little thing inside of your mind the banished High explains this on Haman he says Hamman had a little thing in his mind and he was so taken and so consumed so obsessed and because of that so frustrated that because of it he had to make a Gallows that was 50 ammot which is according to some opinion is a hundred feet in the air why do you need a hundred feet Galas you wanna know how it works you want to kill someone a Gala is 15 feet high does the trick well I need 100 feet in the air the answer is he lived in a time of doing no skyscrapers it was just regular houses he needed anywhere he was in shushan he needed to be able to see The Gallows because when his head was clattered he would say it's okay the gala is like up Mordechai is going to be killed soon that was the only way that he could free up his brain because or else he has to see The Gallows constantly it's the only way he could free up between he went in the morning to the camp pal the Palace of the king because he wanted to go early enough to Nazi because he would see he'd be done have you ever had that experience we have one person that triggers so much craziness in your head don't shake your head don't admit it in public that triggers so much craziness in your head doesn't make sense and the reason why you can't stay in the public because if you actually tried to share it with a friend they'll think you hit your head on the wall they'll think there's something wrong with you so you just have to sit there in your own darkness and your own slavery I'm telling you sometimes we have it's literally like like I I I I want to imagine it this way it's sometimes like a cartoon character a little guy that goes into your brain and he just sits there and you can't get him out and he's there rent free he doesn't pay for it and he just sits in your brain and you think about it and you think about him and you think about it and if you only knew how much you thought about him he wouldn't believe it and you just think about him and he says it doesn't go anywhere you go eat lunch you're thinking about it you go to your friend's house you think about it and you can't get it out of your brain and you're so stuck and sometimes you watch people in this situation they're completely lose focus and you want to tell them like just move forward whatever you're thinking about jealous of angry just move forward you'll do unbelievably well but you can because you're just completely stuck I'll give you a real example I know these people fairly well there was someone who had a business two brothers what should we call the business I don't want to give me a business the two brothers could be involved in that they sell to people give me a business I'm trying to change the details so no one knows what's going through what I'm talking about what diamonds okay very good so you had one brother he was so diamonds he sold jewelry okay he didn't but was for this what he did okay he sold jewelry and for years he had his younger brother work event one day a few years ago his younger brother left the company and took his customers with him the older brother cannot think straight the older brother wants to blow up a building and then build it to blow it up again I am telling you it's the brother cannot he is the state the two of them together destroyed the family any family member that goes to his wedding can't go out of his wedding siblings because they're completely consumed and I've had conversations with the older brother and I say you know what yes he took some of your customers but he also took his salary that he was taking it's pretty much a wash the salary is making is pretty much the customers just cut him out don't think about it but every time you do and if you ever sell someone a diamond a person says oh no I don't need the diamond because I already went to your brother you're out for six months you can't talk to you anymore you have him in your brain and he's hanging out in your brain you go take a shower your brother's in your brain you go eat dinner Brothers in your brain you have a conversation with your wife your brother's in your brain and he's hanging out in your brain sometimes he pulls a beach Chase sitting there never leaving and you let him there you're such a slave you're in such Darkness now because anyone did anything to you your business is fine you have plenty of customers still want to buy jewelry from you yes every now and then you bump into a customer oh May frustrates you but you could keep going just keep focused but you can't focus you can't think straight because you're completely consumed with this little guy in your brain you know what often happens when you have this little Obsession in your brain exactly what happened to Haman you know what happened with his obsession you know his obsession caused he built the Gallows you know got hung under Gallows he did and so often the thing you're obsessing about you're trying you're mad you're angry you're frustrated you're jealous you're anxious all those things they're not doing anything to him they're just destroying you and you're building a Gallows to hang yourself with your thoughts with that little cartoon character walking around your brain hanging out there having fun inside no place to go because he knows you're just gonna think about him forever when the Jewish people left mid time it seems that they even had a little bit of this inside of them and that's why they built the eggo says the area of Rob left with the Jewish people and they went with the Jewish people left Egypt left midsummeing with a lot of sheep and cattle a lot and The Madras says that when they left with all the sheep and the cattle and everything they went with that's how it was they left with wealth because they left with all this cattle so what does it mean they're left with the cattle they left with wealth I saw a beautiful thought it says you know what it is the Jewish people and also you're putting it in the pursuit with the edifrag why is that connected the answer is this when the Jewish people left Egypt they took a lot of gold and silver right they took a lot of gold and silver but they the Egyptians still had more because the midrash famously says that once the Jewish people wants to see split the Jewish people got more at the sea than they did and it's not him so that means what they took from its sign when they left was less than what the Egyptians had the Egyptians still had more I believe the kitab so far says you know what that means that when the Jews were leaving they had a lot but the Egyptians had more so because of that it felt like nothing to them it felt like they had nothing all of this is not worth anything to me because I know I am getting a lot but he has more than I do and so because of that I feel poor the only reason they felt wealthy is because the Edinburgh came with them and were really poor so because they had anything that allowed them to feel like they had wealth foreign character is in your head and you're obsessing obsessing obsessing and then also you hear some one person has a horrible story and for a minute you feel like oh you know what my life's not so rich just now driving here I was on the phone and I whatever my father's in the hospital I don't actually don't feel so great tonight I'm driving I'm on the phone and you start to feel a little sorry for yourself I was on the phone with a woman who has challenges whatever she's aguna for the last 10 years and she can't find the husband like she doesn't know but there's almost no solution I was like oh you know what we'll all feel great when you hear one other person's story we're crazy our brains the way they work is crazy and that's why when the Jewish people built the ego the heir of Rob says to the Jewish people this is your god that took you out of Egypt what does it mean this is your God how can anyone have the audacity to say this your God took you out of Egypt the answer is that they saw the Jewish people be so concerned about money that they left Egypt with the money and they didn't feel good enough until someone else was really really poor and then they also got excited over money they said you know what this gold this gold and the ego that's what got you out of Egypt that's the only thing you were thinking about that is the definition of the bondage of our time I'll give you one more example and then we'll start talking about light is when the beta was destroyed the Roman general destroyed the beta mikdas and then he wanted to go and retire say move to an island says the gemara and a little when he got to the island he basically was defiant they said Hashem could never get me a little little fly went into his nose and that fly a little teeny fly went into his nose and started pecking away at his brain pecking away at his brain and pecking and pecking away until he couldn't he couldn't think straight he couldn't just was pecking away at his brain until one time he was walking by a blacksmith who was banging with a hammer and it calmed down his it calmed down the flight so he would hire a person every day and sometimes Force the Jew to do every day to bang with the hammer to calm down the flight and for 30 days it worked and then after 30 days it didn't work anymore and it kept banging and banging away the camera says for the last seven years of his life that little fly kept pecking away at his brain when he finally passed away they opened up his brain and saw the little fly was the size of a big bird says it had in it it had a beak that was out of like metal iron beak and iron clothes I don't know what it means in a literal sense but I know what this means in a figurative sense in a great way so many of us allow a little fly to get into our brain and when it enters it's not a big deal I'm just a little annoyed that person and next thing you know it stays there and it pecks away it pecks away and sometimes there's so much noise in your brain and then you have something that causes you down maybe you turn on the radio or you turn on you turn on some music or maybe someone watches something on an iPad and they say you know what it's the only thing that could calm my brain is this show if I watch a show it'll calm my brain and it works for a few days and now before you know it the pecking is so hard that even that doesn't work and this little fly is an example of how so many of us act and think and this is the darkness everyone has a house everyone has clothing everyone has food most people have a car everyone has a phone you notice there's more phones Than Cars people everyone has basic needs the issue we have is the cartoon character in our brain the issue we have is this little fly that drives us crazy so how do we solve it how do we bring light does anyone disagree on my darkness is I don't want to think that there's am I right that this is so often just our thoughts that we're struggling with so we're going to figure out today how to create freedom because we're now going into the month that we celebrate freedom and I think the answer is that a lot of us would love for freedom to be just press a button and solve all my problems just make all the noise go away if I could just press a button and make all the noise go away that would be wonderful the reality is the only way for a person's noise to go away is for them pretty much not to be alive as long as you're alive there's noise in the brain but what can we do the answer is I think lies in what we're here for tonight we could do something small that leads to something big because the holiday of pesach the number one feature of a pesos is the difference between hamesa what is the difference between hamets and matzah one second the difference between what something that if you eat it one of the worst punishments in the Torah or something that if you eat it you're doing a Mitzvah is one second less than 18 minutes it's a Mitzvah more one second more and it is the difference between the great Mitzvah and the great sin is simply one second one second makes the whole difference and you know what so much of life is that way so many of our that way but so much of life is this way one second that you're making if it's anyone here know anything about sports unless you're being as frustrating the bull went one inch out of bounds it's out and it's off you and the other team gets it it stays one inch in bounce and you have the ball back and you could shoot and you can win the game fall ball of touch everything is a split second and so often things are this close every that's how it blows down in life is that one small moment so every one of you has a list here in front of you everyone has one in your hand oh I'm not going to read through all 40 items but in reviewing it quickly today there were a few of them that stuck out of my mind and so I want to read and show you and see how these little ideas this one minute item one second item how this little idea that was created by the Nissan girl what's her first name moriana Sani you did a wonderful job I don't know where she is where is she yeah and there you did a wonderful wonderful job I'm gonna take this home just because I'm gonna share with my own children um because I think this is fantastic let's go through a few of these because you'll see how there's so much light in these examples number one genuinely greet three people with a simple hello and hi do you know how many times I've had in my life that people have been insulted from me why are you insulted I'm a very nice person I don't usually say insulting things you know what happened I walked by them and didn't notice them and they feel like oh the rapper doesn't care about me he doesn't love me anymore not I'm not so important I'm not wealthy enough whatever nonsense they come up with when you turn to a person and say hi it matters I just spent my father just spent the last month in a hospital he wanted to cardiac arrest on President's Day and he got out of the hospital today he's still in very serious condition and in the beginning when we got there all of the nurses hated us because we're Baruch Hashem family and we're all there and we keep coming back and you know they want the mass and the covet you know covert's so dangerous right you know that so they're all upset there's two meters in the waiting room if one sibling of mine would sleep in the waiting room somehow puts the whole Hospital in danger I'm not understanding but this is what it was like you know we did we just kept saying hi I kept saying hi and before you know it there was one guy at the front desk this guy I came one time on a motorcycle and they didn't want to let me in and the guy I see him talking to the other person behind the desk and he starts telling the other person about his against a woman he says you know my dad taught me it's a dog eat dog world that's what he said okay the next time I came back and also I was like Hey sir it's a dog eat dog world man and I said it a few times and I can't believe I remember it and before you know it by today I cannot tell you every each one I adopted we had doctors walk into the room and saying when I get old I want your family because just because we said hi in fact there was a non-jew his family on the same floor there are three sons and my mother if I'm good at this my mother is like 10 times better at this than I am one of the people on the floor said that lady she's the uplifting lady all she did is say hi and be friendly number two go out of your way to Simply thank someone in your family or especially if it's something that I'm going to give you a little example here there are times where I speak to all kinds of crowds right last night I spoke in Charlotte that let's say 700 people I'm pretty confident it was a good speech how many people do you think came over to me afterwards to say wow thank you Rabbi that was fantastic there's 700 people in the room I think like six you know because most people say oh he's he made because he knows I don't have to tell him he knows and so we all think this way yeah mommy knows that dinner was great yeah Daddy knows I appreciate it she knows that I that was a good job but you should do me a favor she knows I appreciate get up and say something and I will tell you after speaking for a lot of years to a lot of different audiences and a lot of people I appreciated every one of those six people I don't know what's wrong with me I don't know why I still care but that is just how we are each person and the way they said it I could tell the difference between someone said Robert that was a good speech and someone said that was a great speech I'm admitting that I'm nuts excuse me for doing so but that's just however when someone says wow that was great and someone else says I was blown away makes a difference like but people appreciate it thank you we're all working way harder than we ever expected every single one of us in this room work way harder than we ever expected and the biggest thing we want is someone to really appreciate it I'm gonna skip a few number six talk to Hashem for 30 seconds you know what we have Tiffy Lott and the sad thing about Tiffany line nowadays is that a lot of young people don't appreciate if you love so much because it's the same words again and again some people don't know the Hebrew and even if they do the fact that it's the same again and again they use the screens that are showing different scenes every two seconds and now they have to read the same words again and again sometimes what makes tefila come alive whether it's at the end in amida or even just standing on you alone is when you just turn to Hashem and you talk to him he's your father he loves you it's liberating to be able to say clearly Hashem I am struggling with this and I need you to lift me up articulate what it is in English to him directly number seven treat others with respect there's a lot of different people on the planet a lot I think we're up to 8 billion what's the number I think it's 8 billion it's eight billion people on the planet I have yet to meet one human being that doesn't want respect respect doesn't mean the whole room while respect just means treat me like a person look me in the eyes say thank you tell me appreciate me acknowledge me give me respect I have yet to meet a human it doesn't mean that some people like a lot of attention some people don't like a lot of attention but everyone wants to be respected Devil Wants To Be noticed everyone wants to be appreciated everyone wants to be respected and then number nine there is if we could talk about slavery in our time there was no greater slavery than this one and I'll explain it this way the pasuk says that we worked in Egypt perak one of the commentaries said what does mean means back-breaking labor says a soft mouth that means with sweet talking sweet talked us into bondage and you say that doesn't make sense how can you sweet talk someone into being a slave you could sweet talk someone into doing you a favor but how could you softly talk someone into going from being free to being a Slave here's my answer Steve Jobs did the exact same thing he's sweet talked everyone on this planet into slavery he said just buy this device put it in your pocket it has ways on it it even has a c dude and it has Torah any time it is unbelievable and you said wow I could have a c dude and ways and I could buy things and the things that I bought I come to my house in a box with a smile on the box and I'm gonna have and I have Torah on it this is the most incredible device and if you remember when you first bought it you said I am so lucky I have this and you couldn't believe how smooth the screen was and how word just came out you didn't even print the word it just knew what you were saying by itself and you couldn't believe the things you could see and the experiences you could have and those of us in this room that are a little older remember once upon a time when we didn't know something like about a certain person or a state maybe we would go to the library and walk in the freezing cold and get to the library and they had these books called encyclopedias there were a lot of volumes you had to figure out was it o o l is the one that is the book that is I'm in and then you pull out the book and you turn to the state and and now all of a sudden on my phone I just click in some you know Ohio and you get a whole thing about Ohio and it tells you everything you need to know about it and you're like wow this is unbelievable and all you did the first few weeks would be so excited about how liberating this phone is to your life and then also you don't remember when it happened also one day you woke up and you said hey I am a slave Steve Jobs he's sweet talked you into slavery I bet you there's not so many people in this room that could go to sleep at night without their phone within arm's length they don't have food within arm's length they don't have their children within arm's length they don't have their money within arm's length they don't have their clothing with and I was like the own they don't have their car keys and arms length they're not the light to the room is not the only thing that's within arm's length is their phone well the phone actually has the light to the room sometimes so that might solve both problems the phone has to be there because God forbid if if a light is going to Flicker and you don't see it and you don't quickly respond to it you're not coming out to sleep people wake up in the middle of the night sometimes you wake up four o'clock in the morning quickly maybe it's time to go to the restroom with someone he's a quick cup of water they wake up middle of the night and what do they do grab the phone because we are slaves so how about if you try number nine purposely put down and Away you put your phone down in a way for five minutes there are people who can't do this by the way I'm going to skip again number 13. think of that I'll give you this when this happened if you think about at least three things that thank God for Friday night I had a very long day on Friday speeches in different places an event that we made on Friday night for boys in the Syrian Community by the time I went to sleep that night I was exhausted and it felt like just a draining day and then I said you know what this I did this exactly I said let me come up with three things I could thank Hashem for and before you know it it was one two three four five six seven eight nine ten eleven I came up with 11 things that were spectacular like not just cute them you know Everyone likes it on my eyes and my ears it's cute but you know that doesn't get you excited 11 things that got me excited I said I can't believe this my day was incredibly good how many more should I do I'll give you three more number 16. think of something that happened to you that you thought was a problem but ended up being a great blessing if I would ask every person in this room do you have something right now about this week that you are worried about every single person would raise your hand if you're honest some people aren't honest but if you are honest if I ask you is there anything about your week that you are worried about every person in this room could raise the hint now let me ask you something else has Hashem taken care of that problem for you or for somebody else a million times yes so why are you still work sometimes you have to stop and say one second I am really concerned about this but Hashem has delivered again and again and again and again he could probably deliver for me too Turn the Page to number 23. I'm just saying number 23 I don't know if it's the most powerful one most important one but I'm gonna admit another thing about me that's why I like number 23 declutter I happen to be I don't know too many other men that I like me I happen to be incredibly neat that means if you want to know how well I'm doing some people like they look very busy when you come and you see their desk you know those people that have like papers on top of papers and they're all just all over the place and they look like so important and such busy people and you say oh can you can you help me with this and I want to say let me find this here I'm going to look by me my life is doing great well my desk has zero on it right now it has a pile of papers in the corner it's driving me nuts declutter oh I have another need person in the crowd you're proud of me I ain't telling you when I was in Yeshiva I understand Yeshiva if a Booker wanted a little snack from me I always had snack I know maybe syrians have food I'm not sure I would always tell Missy you could go to my second drawer to the left on the middle row in the back two from the end you could find the wafer and you gotta be like what I'll be like why where's the wafer in your drawer he's like crushed now and not that's when you because you know what happens at least I find this way I'm one of those people by the way my little slavery to the phone is I show you my little flip on here you see this there's no lights if there's any unread messages I can't if I once there's no unread messages and or they're all clean that means my head is clear but if there's someone has to respond to it's just so if you could declutter that also creates a little bit of daylight one more example complement a worker in a store school or restaurant like I said before everybody is working more than I'll give you one more also everyone is working much more than they ever anticipated and you know what they need they need to know they're doing a good job and you might say oh they did a good job yesterday oh they're still they didn't get fired yes they're doing a good job no they need to know they're doing a good job and when someone comes over if you ever had a teacher in class I'll give you a little example I did a story meant so much to me when I was in 12th grade in Yeshiva we had a rebbe in Staten Island who was very very busy with the simple shot he felt that all of us think we're Geniuses and we don't know the simple shot what was of what's asking what he's answering how he's answering and he drove us crazy about years later I went I grew up Yeshiva went to Israel learning in Lakewood and collel in Lakewood and I met this Rabbi out of bris maybe it's 10 years after I was out of his class I said to him I said rebe every day when I learned I learn it the way you taught us what's he asking how's he answering it I learned it the way you taught us he said to me Joseph wow I appreciate that so much fantastic Ten Years Later I bump into a person I know I said where do you learn he says I'm in 12th grade in Staten Island Yeshiva I said wow you're in 12th grade who's your baby he rebbies this is so sorry he says yeah I said wow I gotta tell you a story I said that rep used to drive us crazy about what's the culture what's the terrorist 10 years after I was in his class I gave him a compliment and told him that every day I learned based on what he taught us the boy says to me so you're the guy I said what do you mean he says every year since he tells his class you don't understand me today you may not appreciate it but one day you're gonna appreciate it because I had a bucket of my class thought he was a genius and 10 years later he told me how much he appreciated it this Webby is an incredible rubby that has had hundreds and hundreds probably thousands of tamidam his sons are incredible about him he's an incredible person but he appreciated one compliment from one random Booker who went through his year one compliment so I think we went through enough of these I think every single one of them are incredible if you could take upon yourself one of these things to do for 40 days or I think even more exciting we to do one of them each day it'll bring the light into your life because it will say you know what happens when you give someone else a compliment yeah someone else feel good you start to feel good and you start to feel alive and it wakes you up there's a lot of people when they wake up in the morning are not in the mood for the day but once you start to give to others and what you start to bring a little bit of light from one minute one second one thing it starts to build I'm going to tell you something incredible that I think it just means so much if you were to take and I read this years ago and have used it many times if you were to take a piece of paper and fold it 50 times how high would that paper be so can you take the paper now you fold it once so now you got two pages so it's this thin let's say you fold it again obviously the paper would have to be much longer much much longer than this how high would the paper be do you have any idea have access to many crowds some people say it'll be an inch some people say three inches some people go very bold they'll be like four feet wide the paper will be four feet high I said let me tell you the answer the answer is if you took a piece of paper and folded it 50 times you know how wide Ruby it would be from here to the Moon to the Moon let's do the math because you fold it gets first it's two pages then it's four then it's eight then it's 16. then it's 32. then it's 64. then it's 125 it's really 128 let's go 125. then you're at 250. then you're at 500 then you add a thousand that's just ten then it's two thousand four thousand eight thousand sixty thousand by the time you're up to twenty It's A Million by the time you're up to 30 it's a billion by the time you're up to 40 I it's a trillion and by the time you're up to 50 I don't even know the number anymore it's so incredibly high it's almost all I do is fold the paper and then Fold It Again do one good act and then do it again and then do it again and do it again and do it again and do it again and do it again a splint second again and again and again and you have light I'll give you one little cool little story I went to Israel about a month and a half ago with a group of boys so they actually left the day before me I had to stay back for a speech or whatever a wedding and a funeral and I left on Sunday night my flight was 11 45 I get there on time got on the plane the plane pulls out of the gate goes on the runway it's waiting a little bit then it's waiting the pilot says we need another 10 minutes okay no problem right at the palace that's another 10 minutes some Israeli guys thoughts yelling arba arba what's up we're not leaving until what do you mean we're not leaving till four o'clock I said it's it's 11 45. he says arba sure enough the flight to go up at 3 45 AM so somehow this guy ended up some computer broke one out of seven he computers everywhere back to the gate 10 minutes 10 minutes 10 minutes 3 45. now sometimes by the end of the flight this man ended up in front of me he's an older man like in his 60s or 70s I don't know if that's called oh but whatever and he's in front of me and he has no idea who I am I have no idea who he is and he's telling me his story and this guy is hiloni completely irreligious when I say completely there is he says I lived in New York for many years he says my wife you know how we met he says I was at a party drunk all night I fell asleep hung over she woke me up in the morning and we started dating that's how we met sound like oh wow it is okay fantastic I said um he says you want to hear my story I said you already told me more than I need to know he says let me tell you my story I said okay what is it he says I used to sell Electronics in the Bronx one day a man comes over to me and he opens up a bag he says I'll sell you everything in this bag for five dollars there's a couple of old broken radios clearly stolen for five dollars he says I look into the big and I see some black leather I say it one second what is that tells the guy you know what here's the five dollars I'll take the big he takes the bag opens it up and on the bottom of the bag there's Tiffy lean so he says it must be there's a shoe down the block and he calls the rabbi of the Soul he says I want you to know I got this bag I don't need the radios this really is Tiffany lean and I bought it for just in case one of your members is guys typically stolen you'll give it back to him the rabbi took it two weeks later the rabbi calls him back he says and says this guy telling me the story he says Rabbi calls me back and says no one came to retrieve it take it back the person obviously gave up and whatever the story is it's it's you could keep it whether that's not for now he says a few months later his father passed away and someone told him you know what there's this thing that Jews do they say kadish for the week he says kadish I don't know what kadish I don't know what it is I don't know anything about it another friend tells him he said a month someone outside here he says one second to tell me to say kadish and I have this Tiffany he said let me try he went to school one day to say kadish for his father put on Tiffany and say kadish for his father he says I have not missed a day of tiffiline and 35 years since just one moment of daylight do one move one act one thing and it makes such a humongous difference in your life but all you need is the courage to do it once and every one of these is an excuse I'm not going to say hi I don't really know that person one of these things was I think there's some way on here it says to give a hug hug someone give someone a hug that's gonna sound very weird but I'm gonna tell you a funny story about the hug in terms of daylight we had a few months ago we had a Friday night event I don't know when we do Friday night events these are the two I did all year a Friday night event and we had a guest speaker from La you've all heard of him come to speak by us his name is Joel gold you've heard of your gold she was in New York and he came to speak by us he walks into the room we have a room of 350 people sitting there on Friday night he walks into the room and he sees me and gives me a humongous hug a big bear hug now let me tell you the truth I never met your old gold before in my life I knew about him never met him before in my life but you know what he gave me a hug and then when he spoke he gave me a compliment and by the time he got off the stage I felt like I was his best friend I said wow that hug was the weirdest thing I ever saw and you know what else it was the most beautiful thing I ever saw and I didn't need the hug but somehow I needed them and appreciated the hug so when someone goes out and you just you bring light light doesn't naturally come our brains have I told you about one fly so many of our brains have like 30 flies up there all spinning around all different places you can't even see anything and then and naturally the Flies just tell you go to sleep stay in bed it's much easier that way light needs to be created Hashem says first I created darkness and then I created light because you need to make the light you need to bring the light you need to appreciate the light nobody feels like bringing light maybe some days you have a personality very alcohol you do but most people naturally just want to Sag and go away but if you bring it out if you make it happen it's incredible the impact you could have the holiday that we are celebrating is a holiday that one second created the freedom one second creative freedom we just left the holiday where someone was the most powerful person in the world and he was a slave and brought about his own demise and then we read about Hashem says now you're going to go into a holiday well I'm going to teach you what Freedom looks like Freedom looks like one second but you know how that second happens what's living Sims what is that second one energetic hard-working second one second he said I gotta do it now I'm not waiting that kind of second is the second that makes a difference not uh just any second it's a working second it's that Split Second when you say you know what I'm about to walk by the person let me say hi it's that Split Second where you say Let me say something nice it's a split second when you're going to your car deck and he said I turn on the radio and then he has some other crazy thing about Biden or should I turn on the shield and uplift my right Split Second that Split Second where you go a little bit against your nature and you make one move that's when you bring light into the world I'm going to conclude with this one beautiful story so when you're out there in the world and you're not in your own Community if you get to see one Jew It Feels Like Oxygen so we've been in Cornell Hospital for the last few last month in and out I see two women having a conversation one woman two Jewish woman one woman is a summer hasid her name is title bound she's related to the late summer rubber of you all thought about she calls over the other woman and she says to this other woman I heard you have a story about the psalmer ever the other woman says yeah let me share with you the story and I'm watching this conversation the woman says she says my husband and I are married now for almost 51 years she says when we first got married for the first few years we had no children she says and we were friendly with Osama told her husband she says to go to the river to get a biracial so she says her and her husband went to the rubber to get a broken the rebel only sees men the woman at the stairs she says she stood behind the door her husband went into the rebel the brother said what is he needs that to have children and she says her husband was given a broker by the rabbit to have children and then the rabbit asked her husband she says what do you do he says you know I used to work I really work but I just made a decision to stop working and stop learning and move to Israel and start learning Torah the rubber grabbed her husband's hand and said to him you should have a bit you should be incredibly successful when you're taught our learning and the man husband and wife left the room they went back home to stop and there brought them back home and the Sama has said she says tells her husband who grabbed whose hand did you grab the rabbit's hand or the rubber grab your hand he says I wouldn't grab the rub his hand the rubber grab my hand tahasa said you know why because the rebel was so impressed that you made a move you made a move to start learning Torah he grabbed your hand to bless you because he couldn't believe that you had the courage to make a move like that and the two women end the conversation and now I pipe in and I tell the song my lady I said you see this woman you're talking to she's my mother and the baby that was born a year after that was me and you know what happened my father went on to learn and became a rabbi and wrote countless Safari and he has nine children all of them are rabbis teaching Torah either rabbos or married to rabbis said one move one decision to put down the phone or put down the pen and say I'm gonna start learning Torah made such a humongous difference in the Torah world it's such a humongous difference life doesn't happen by just waking up in the morning and there is light light happens when you know that nature says my brain wants to feel like a slave we got talked into it we got convinced into it maybe something happened in our life somehow some way that little fly got into our brain and that cartoon character is sitting there and doesn't want to leave and all he wants is us to shut down and feel like our life like a mental emotional slave our job is to learn the lesson that one second that one move that one little step one fold of the paper one hello one hug one compliment one handshake one idea one little Shield one move one time buying five dollars of Tiffy lean one move can change your world so if you want to experience Freedom don't wait for it to happen bring in your life one energetic second over the next 40 days make a commitment either do one of these things all 40 days or one thing every day and when you have in your day that one second with energy and momentum it is unbelievable how much light you can create because once you fold the paper you have no idea it can literally reach the moon thank you good night [Applause]