Rabbi Lazer Brody - Fast Lane To Forgiveness (Pre Rosh Hashana Preparation)

welcome back this is uh uh we had a tremendous year with robert brody just a few months ago and hashem rabbi is back back in town back at bjx it's trend this is being presented by kazakh bgx well i think pgx motion [Applause] the torah was in memory of the walrus team this is definitely this year and this is torah shibuya's elena shelton rabbi wallace um brodie's been speaking a tremendous topic tonight the fast lanes of forgiveness as we know we're in the month of ello and and we know that um we we that's what we're all doing here tonight we're here it's tremendous words from by brody um where where we ever brody's books are available for for purchase after this year brody will gladly sign any of the copies for the there's um there's two different types of books there's uh these small um pocket-sized books which are tremendous there's 15 each four for 450 so definitely purchase for yourself but not only for yourself you want to elevate your l elevate the the l's of of your friends and family they'll get copies for yourself give that to friends and family so as the the the larger books they're 25 each it's a tremendous um way to prepare for a pharrell and hashanah yum kipper this is an entire uh time period that we're in and um just a quick word about the kazakh organization as we know organized amazing shiraman events different communities we said chevrolet wrote he spoke last night in queens and hashem was a full crowd and uh hashem we're here tonight there's actually another event going on in queens right now so but what might not be known is that is on the forefront of the public school outreach we're organizing 30 different locations of sunday school programs for public school students as well as as well as a few hours every day after school programs for jewish teenagers and the last five to six years alone as long as i've transferred over 1200 kids from pablo school yeshiva so so on right now especially right now in the start of the school year everyone probably knows a friend family member neighbor who has children public schools we will help them educate the their their children and there's our and uh as we know the bjx tremendous organization but here speaking more about it in depth but it's a tremendous organization this is on the forefront of of kira not only in brooklyn but but their influence is really around the world and it's a great great honor to call upon i'll get that finger thank you thank you to our incredible partner robbie and khazakh what they're doing for claudia's role is utterly amazing yeshua thank you so just very briefly i want to tell you about a fellow whose name was kai and mankind was about to lose his job because he was haggard and he was aging and he wanted to have job retention but he realized that the only way is if he goes for some plastic surgery botox for the wrinkles liposuction for the obesity and this way he could change you know so he works very very hard and then after going to the plastic surgeon he exits the hospital and he's crossing the street when suddenly a car speeds hits him he flies he hits the debris and they try to resuscitate him the paramedics come hatzela wasn't in the neighborhood and he was dead he goes up to heaven to sherman and he says god almighty i don't understand just when i made all these changes and god looks at him he says that's you i didn't recognize you that's what all those events rosh hashanah is about you could do chuva here's the power of truma if you change not an external exterior change like wrinkles or you know liposuction tummy tucking not that you could change internally and you become a new you and even if you were evil bad hashem looks at your shirt and says that's not him that's not her someone much better so rosh hashanah means the beginning of the year that's how we translate but really there's a much deeper meaning rosh means head hashanah comes the word change the channos that means that in rosh hashanah and that's why it's called change because every year you're supposed to change that's why it's logically it's linked so rosh hashanah means not only the beginning of the year it means using your head your cognition your faculties your cerebral abilities to implement change into your life to become better to become a newer person to give up your bad habits and your bad ways and that's really if i had to describe bjx in a nutshell that's what an encapsulate bjx that's what it's about you know there's of course the caterpillar turning into the butterfly metamorphosis that's easy it's pre-programmed the caterpillar doesn't make any effort what about real changes we see students over here from public high school from college young professionals that make real changes in their lives and it's really hard it's so complex it's so challenging but they do it and they do it because there's a lot of love here because there's a lot of warmth here and there's a lot of lot of support just this week bar hashem this past week three public school children were transferred to shiva bar fishing a million times local kids four young men we when we are sure we pay we have to pay some money often many times for the tickets four young men two of them that were off the tariff one of them was in drug rehab for eight years an atheist hashem transferred to eretz israel to go to yeshiva or hashem a million times that's four young men now learning energy trial and i can go on and on and on so your support of bgx makes all these miracles possible what greatest hosts before us hashona than to partner with pgx and help us out without further ado we have with us tonight a legend of the jewish people robert brody is one of the greatest mash'em in the world today his this farm that he translated on almost every bookshelf around the world his own swarm he has unique way of relating of connecting to people of interfacing of sharing from the heart the sincerity his purity is is tangible and it's a great source for us to have a real big savic amongst us laser brothers lita thank you for commemorative laser thank you for being with us everything in creation has a good side and a negative side if you take nuclear power you can illuminate the city of new york or class for shulam you can destroy it so i just i think this is you take the wired up and people visualize a suicide bomber getting wired up but then they come here and they wire me up and this lets the a sahara do suicide hashem hashem thank you for the first one to start they say potent wanna bless bjx and hazak that have the privilege of cooperating with them two wonderful wonderful crew of organizations and it's amazing what they do they're not fundraising organizations they're out they i don't know where they get their oxygen from because in fact they have no fundraisers they're out there they're worried about the rob is worried about bringing another child into into jewish education the whole crew at hazak says is a kiro factory and i visited there and i spent an afternoon there and i saw everything they do to be makari of a child it's crazy sometimes they have single parents and they have a child that's far away but yet the divorce side doesn't want a kid learning torah and they have to go for one child and we're talking about twelve hundred one thousand two hundred i couldn't believe so i went to this office with this rav for raw vidiq and then i said to robbie and to the the eerie brothers rabbi elon rabbi and eve that they founded hazak you can see when a person has a dream what one person the power of one person and i said well where did the fundraisers sit where the telephone people we don't have fundraisers they don't have fundraisers i said what do you guys live on hashem's blessing that's that's the shame shaman and this after thing it so with bgx and hazak the two organizations that are such shamesha mine this is unsolicited it's just i have so much regard for them and uh they don't do this and i'll give you a little secret good little secret somebody once asked me that i want to invite you to my town what's your speaker fee i take the same fee that takes to put a child into a jewish program that's it we don't put a price tag nobody pays for my plane tickets hashem does nobody pays for speaker fee gem does we don't put a price on a muna we don't put a price on a muna bjx and hazak they don't put a price on a muna they don't put a price on yiddish kite and we try to do a faithful job of being hashem's army and for that i want to say khodorav and robbie and pass this on to the mairie brothers that i bless you and pray for your success because your success is excessive claw you swirl and i'm so happy to partner with you thank you hashem for the privilege of being here kids think the torah is not cool they look at they want to see movies they want to say netflix okay a little movie from torah it's really neat there's a law at the supreme court and the time when we have king of israel time king david the king of israel means the anointed and samuel the prophet anointed king david samuel poured the oil that's the anointed is the anointed king so you know i think king is a supreme court anything that the lower courts welcome make yourself up we just started sorry there's a place up here come lots wonderful welcome explain that at the time of king of israel the king of david melech the word mashiach means the anointed king of israel he's the supreme court that lower courts they can't decide this thing comes to him so king david this is ushered in his sergeant-arm says your majesty nathan the prophet wants to see you nathan the prophet come right in that's the prophet nathan the prophet was a student of shmuel and v samuel the prophet he comes in he says your majesty i have a really difficult case i need for you to solve for me he says what's the matter he says you imagine this this rich guy that was a great big estate and he's got about 10 000 sheep he's a big sheep farmer he makes wool makes lamb everything and he's got a worker and his worker he's got this little cabin that he lives in and his workers got this one little sheep and the sheep is like some people have pet dogs some people have pet animals this little sheep is the pet and it's like part of his family sleeps with the family he sleeps in the same bed with the children they love this little sheep they pet his wholeness and that your majesty i've got a really difficult situation i don't know there's nothing in the books here that the rich guy with the ten thousand sheep he wanted to eat lamb chops so he didn't take one of his sheep rather than taking one of his own ten thousand sheep and sending it to the shorehit and preparing glam chuck he goes to the poor guy and the poor guy takes his one sheep and slaughters it your majesty what do you what do we do with a guy like this what's the verdict in a guy like this king david says he deserves a death penalty what kind of cruelty is that nathan the prophet says it's you your majesty you're just passing for yourself you just gave judgment on yourself and king david was really embarrassed and he understood that nathan prophet was talking about and that's really that's very very simple king david that the gemara tells us that he did the sin but i'm going to go into the whole gamora but the point is a person goes up after 120 years on this earth and they give a whole itemized list of every tiny little thing he did wrong and he sees a signature there and a person says well wait a second this is the ola mess this is the world of truth they said your signature is there somebody forged this maybe you got a good forger up in charmaine i didn't do this i didn't do that i didn't do that what are all these surveyors there oh and then they say you know something you think directly you didn't do it you are the one that decided the hello what do you mean i decided i'm a poisek i was the rabbi of a city no this was the way you pass judgment on other people beloved brothers and sisters we're talking tonight about the fast lane to forgiveness i'm going to teach you two things people say all this cobblers and i'm gonna finish shots next year and i'm gonna change my dress and i'm gonna change with length of my clothes i'm gonna look like a woman of the taliban and i'm gonna do this hashem doesn't need that hashem doesn't need that it'll be something so very simple not only that if you listen to my advice it's not only to get the best year you ever had but it's a guaranteed a place in gundam guaranteed guaranteed the best possible place i'm going to teach you two concepts and we'll sum it up listen to this i should have brought t-shirts made t-shirts and get them no judge and no grudge ellen tonight no judge and no grudge we don't judge other people we don't hold grudges into the people now let's take a step back ello is from very dangerous month l is very dangerous month who's not on social media really special okay maybe back home uh we're in eritsea soil and the community we go with flip phones we did smartphones and said everybody's got got their own society i've got a smartphone for travel because in travel i have to have what's up have to have email to snap it back home no way and most of the time you don't go phone at all right it's not addicted to the phone right you see who doesn't have here in america even within the most those froome community people have phones they have regular smartphones they have email they have what's up look what happens read the huffa time everybody should learn how to time half a time says how to do chuva for one tiny bit of lotion hara if someone said slander about another jew have to reverse it and say to make true as forgiveness from the other person unless asking forgiveness would stir up the whole the whole soup that way not necessarily but what we must do is to go tell all the people that we said that slander two i made a big mistake i said the wrong thing about that person no i had no business because sometimes somebody says something a little oh this guy sells uh he said it's got nikes in the window it's not real nikes it's fake nikes man someone says a little bit of lush in iran the guy could lose his business right mr loses business good morning says that if a person loses his money loses business that's like losing his life because in hebrew the word for money and the word the classic and classic he brewed the word for money and the word for blood is the same word dumb dame don't mean one that corresponds against the other instead of people say what's hashem doing this guy's a good person this woman's a good person and they had all of a sudden got this disease heaven forbid heaven forbid or bankruptcy and is this judgment maybe they said a little word maybe they said a little word about somebody and it caused that person tremendous tribulation damage we don't want to go there now look at what happens as soon as they go on facebook or tic-tac or twitter or whatsoever wherever they go and they say a word now maybe ten thousand one hundred thousand people are reading it go find whoever said that la shannon and it's so simple sometimes if somebody says something and you make a face an emoji a face like you know some kind of emoji that's lush and her coffee time says gesticulation somebody walks in the room and somebody goes like that makes a a face that's enough oh people say a person is an undesirable person that's lost in her go fix it now go find all the people that saw that gesture you made don't want to go they have to be very very careful not to judge other people so the yate sahara this is called the judgment trap the asahara knocks down people in illiol some even you're trying your best to do chuva you read rabino yonah you do your best you find all all of her being a yonah the chuva chuva's easy chuva is so simple she like called the scar treatment why is it scar treatment because on aveda a transgression creates a scar on the shaman now what's the meshaam the sham is like a window pane it reflects divine light the more the neshama gets the divine light that's that's the yeshiva after the more the neshome absorbs divine light the moon of the shama is illuminated the summer's soul the more the soul has divine light the more the soul is illuminated and a person is happy and this is the key to emotional health because emotions come from the soul and the soul is a tiny part of hashem it's located in the brain that's very simple and if people know that i always a question about all types of psychotherapists that don't believe in a shim that's like taking your brand new tesla and it's got a problem with the computer and you go to the tesla mechanic and he says uh he doesn't believe in in electric motors so you don't believe in electric motors but you're a tesla mechanic oh no you're supposed to fix my car i don't believe electric motors so a person goes to a therapist to correct his emotions but the emotions he doesn't believe in hashem but the emotions come from the shaman the shuffle comes from hashem and emotions is hashem's way of showing us that we need something the body knows how to express what it needs if the body needs water throat gets a little bit thirsty a person runs gets a glass of water why do we have stress and anxiety and all these type of things it's saying that the shaman needs something vitamin e needs a connection with hashem and that's it so what do people do no they don't hear that can you imagine you've got a flight you're on a flight from new york to los angeles and over the rocky mountains the co-pilot he's in charge of good flight the pilot puts on automatic pilot and uh he lights up a joint lucy in the sky with diamonds you know let's put let the plane fly itself pilot says ah the co-pilot he's worried about it and also the co-pilot yells says to the pilot it says look red light's on the starboard engine is losing its oil pressure saying sorry pilot says i don't want to be bothered lucy in the sky turn off the light it turns off the light does that solve the problem the engine does that some probably a little pressure no it turns off the light so people go they have emotional problems they go to the psychiatrist and the science should say say you're gonna take your zoloft or prozac or whatever he gives it turns off the light does it give happiness sometimes somebody needs short-term chemical help biochemical help that's legitimate because a person say can't he's so stressed out he can't open up a book of the moon unless he calms down they say but for long term the only long-term solution emotions that's like they'll bring the light of hashem and the soul so what a transgression does it puts a scratch on the neshama if you have a window and there's enough scratches you can't see the sunlight because it's less translucent the same within the summer the more the dashama is blemished a person feels less divine light a person who comes further away from hashem the more the person who comes further away from hashem the more the emotional difficulties melt up because when you're close to hashem we say this a person is close to hashem those who are him those who revere him people that they translate those who fear him those who revere him revere him when you love somebody so much it scares you i do anything to upset that person you really love somebody so much you revere that person is that you're afraid of them what they're going to beat me up if i do something no you revere that person you don't want to do anything this is called the upper level you're at your mind the lower level you're at shamayim so the person's afraid of of getting punished okay he doesn't want to hit but get hit with a bolt of lightning and the middle level he's afraid of the sin but the other level is when he loves hashem so much that's where the fear of hashem borders on the love of hashem okay so he said to there's a way to do spiritual plastic surgery the robe gave an example plastic surgery i'll give an example plastic surgery plus spiritual plastic surgery that's the scar treatment that's chuva i'll tell you all of roberto jonah it's long book about well i could sum it down into four letters s stop the bad behavior c confess to hashem hey we apologize okay i'm not doing any more but i messed up but i'm i'm sorry i did this and then what happens to that the power of that is when the eights are and the the makatra game the evil inclinates the accusing angels come on rosh hashanah hashem says no you're not allowed and if someone already confessed about their transgression to hashem then yes somebody reminds of it in in the heavenly court that's flashing our own they can't do it they also have to follow the office high the angels and the r is resolved to do better resulting invited ask hashem to help us do better that cleans up a scar on the shama and the show again more light in that that's true but so many transgressions are automatic we're so used to it and so conditioned when we talk passing judgment oh this one's like this and this one's like this and this one's like this and this one talks all types of things daily because in our social interaction and we don't use the filter and that is really dangerous so during l and especially now we're less than two weeks to rosh hashanah and wait and see after you wait and see now hashem if just this is worth listening to tonight's sure you will see until rosh hashanah the yetzer is going to show you all types of situations where he called to judge about a person even somebody you know they were talking about even don't even go to political biden did this or by their or trump did that or we don't care about the republicans democrats care about hashem because hashem runs the world people get all upset about politics hashem runs the world and sometimes you're thinking oh but they stole the election if they stole the elections that's what hashem wanted that's the first thing we believe in he alone did does and will do everything it's all from shem so why should i hate judgment there's there's hashem does judgment oh we say it a second people are given a rabbi we're supposed to act like hashem the duff kabob the torah says that we should cling to hashem ah no but that's different it says with the shem is compassionate we should be compassionate hashem is a merciful we should be merciful hashem is forgiving we should be forgiving so he talked about the no judge don't judge anybody and be careful he's gonna show you situations and ask for your opinion don't give your opinion it's very simple you can't judge anyone until you're in your shoes that what's up the american vernacular the american idiom until you're in another person's shoes that's it because you know what happened where's that come from if a person hospital dies you could give the person's clothes away to goodwill to some kamach you don't give the shoes away the shoes they go with the shoes get put first of all physically physically the shoes fit the contour of the foot nobody has the same contour of the foot and there's also spiritual you can't fit the contour of another nashoma we naturally judge ourselves fairly why do we judge ourselves fairly people think that's unfair they judge themselves one way judge other people one way but we know all the mitigating circumstances of what's going on in our lives other people don't know our necessities other people don't know our challenges we know okay so same thing about other people we cannot say a word about anyone else until we know what's on their plate we don't know what's behind closed doors so we don't have the we don't have the tools we don't have the cane to judge anybody else so we don't want to go there and when they say so what's your opinion about this so what do you think about this or what do you think about her what do you think about him and maybe even someone sometimes people and somebody your boss your employer your employer wants to know something about another person uh i'm not uh i'm sorry sir oh if you don't tell me you're out of its hymn says bye bye you'll get a better job you don't have to the employer can't tell you to make closing around the employer can't tell you make judge about other people and this is a very dangerous place of employment there are places of employment where they have uh i went to the forum called will you judge your subordinates and you judge your your bosses okay evaluation forms where everybody evaluates everybody else that's a dog eat dog company and when israel guy came to a really senior engineer for elsingt they'll think they do super electronics as part of it they make electronics for iron dome the sophisticated defense system and purposely the management of the company has engineers evaluating each other the superiors evacuate their underlings i don't advance through it it's a doggy dog because the people the subordinates they want the job of their superiors and for it it's a doggy dog i said get out of company he says yeah but i got this the only other job i could take is half said the carnosa comes from hashem you can't have a blessing in your money if you judge your people because what you evaluate another person that evaluation he could lose his job here you don't want to go there a company that talks that they wants you that's a malshen to to go into that on somebody what kind of thing is that we don't judge other people hashem is the judge don't want to be in a situation and that's why the torah says you don't be a lone judge okay so if you're on a base deed and if you've got two other people judging with you and according to halacha and you've got to show honor that gives you all the laws of how to judge and a diane has to be very very careful i have to know when a dying on a base dean please know if i'm giving a schmooze to dionym and you're judging a person a case you're judging two people that diane has a sword on his throat that he makes one wrong move it's not nice it's not nice it's very very careful we don't want to judge other people okay so that's no judge what about no grudge there's a safer a little safer called tomer devorah thomadvor as a powerful safer it was written by the ramak rabbi moshe cordovero rabio moshe cordovero was a contemporary of the arizal so one of the greatest couples ever lived came from spain and after the spanish inquisition came to spat he was fought in eritsen's royal buried in spot right next to the arizona and he wrote a moosa book a moose a book of ethics called tomidvara and what he did he took the passage from the prophet mira micah chapter 17 that we say on tash as i said the 13 principles okay the third the 13 attributes of hashem 30 attributes of mercy we take these 13 attributes of mercy takes one by one one by one one by one how this is characteristic of hashem how this expresses hashem and how we should emulate it we talk about the very first one the very first one the prophet mike says we killed who was like you hashem who was like hashem and our book the trail the trench we wrote a little parable to explain this and this way i i teach gamora i used to be head of a coil i teach good more i like it's got to be alive and i teach torah it's got to be alive it's got to be alive bring it alive it's not just a cow fell into a hole i have to bring it alive okay meow imagine this let's bring it down let's let's explain the tomah devorah according to flatbush 2022 okay you're in your living room or you're in your bedroom and you're sleeping and suppose you're a big guy you know krav maga and you don't want to mess around like our friend dr stephen schlammel it's here he's i would not want to be a thief to break into his house okay no all right so he's got the cable dr stephen excuse me but i i love this guy we're all friends for many many years i use dr steven example okay dr steven is a healer and he's gentle but don't mess with him that's krav maga and he's works out he's a tough tough dude okay so dr stephen is in his bedroom and he hears a rumbling in the kitchen and he goes in the kitchen and there's a thief so dr stephen with one shop could knock the guy out okay the second shop you have to call hevra kadesha heaven forbid okay but dr stephen doesn't grab him doesn't hit him doesn't call 101 the police doesn't everything and he says what are you doing in my kitchen nice way and the thief says to him i'm not a thief he says well what are you looking for he says i haven't eaten in two days i'm hungry he says well i'll tell you what sit down he says to him sit down not only does not beat him up did not call the police he sits him down and then he says uh okay 12 o'clock at night i'll make you something that's easily digestible he's also a physician so he makes him a salad makes some eggs serves him brings him hot bread gives him a hot cup of coffee and the guy eats he's satiated and then dr steven that's not enough he's finished and he he could really do that this guy could really do that sorry to embarrass you he gives him five hundred dollars and he says look get yourself get yourself some decent clothes find yourself a place to sleep go get a job and put on your feet so what he does what can you imagine a compassion somebody else wouldn't ask questions they go in there's a stranger boom right away throw a knife at the guy throw a baseball bat at the guy right here call 101. the cops got an intruder broke into my house what's going on i don't know that's what he does instead of prosecuting the guy instead of calling the police instead of turning him in he makes him dinner he sits him down he gives a hot cup of coffee gives him money sends them on the way with a blessing does that sound like lucy in the sky with diamonds that sound like imagine no it's tomodavara and thomas voice says this meal kamoha this is hashem's compassion hashem's forgiveness not only does hashem forgive somebody what happens uh to for every heaven hashem should help that everyone should get close to hashem but for every shamer shabbat jew in new york you've got another at least how many jews i don't know the statistics how many jews are nacho marshall okay so the non-shomer shabbat jew he gets in the car and he drives down to atlantic city on shabbat with his wife what happens what it's breaking shabbat that's the death penalty that breaking shabbat is saying that a person doesn't recognize hashem doesn't believe in hashem doesn't believe that hashem created the world you do it it's it's so fair it's so terrible breaking shabbat shabbat that's everything with shabbat is that the basis of the moon is in shabbat that's what the arizona we say before the the resounds prayers before we say kiddush everything this is the this is the this this is the meal of the moon call every meal it says the meal of the moon because when we keep shabbat we believe hashem created the world in six days but here's guys doing a really terrible affront to hashem okay it's not hurting anybody else this is keeping shabbat is a mitzvah it's one of them is filled between man and hashem we have two types of meats filled between man and hashem and man and fellow men okay put a man in hashem and it's really insulting to hashem while he is in the car while he's driving to atlantic city on shabbat morning hashem is massaging his heart hashem is pumping his heart hashem has given you oxygen hashem is operating his lungs hashem is operating his digestive system hashem is making breakfast for the ghanaf wow who could be so compassionate when people even look at us wrong and we're ready to go to war is it nah this is forgiveness this is forgiveness comes along david miller and dude we just said together with the ravens everything is from shaman the wrong prepared us we said for this missing human missing person hashem should find him soon bizarro maine and by virtue of our learning together getting stronger and amunah together we said together psalm 121. we said two words in psalm 121 that's the secret in this if you have a big billboard fast lane of forgiveness hashem two words from psalm 21 hashem is your shadow and here we're back to what we said about the the judgments that reece had our signature that the way we judge other people that's the way hashem acts because hashem is our shadow hashem is our shadow the gomorrah yuma says that if you're severe with other people shall be severe you shall be filled so we virtually establish the law on rosh hashanah if we are forgiving we forgive another person no matter how difficult it was in admit or how say well come on or blazer it's impossible what they did to me it's impossible my daughter had the best shidduch this was so great it was going about to be they went out four times together but the fan i love them they loved us with everything we're thin and somebody came along and bad mouthed us and the other side back down right before the fort how am i supposed to forgive somebody like that [Music] maybe there was something you didn't see that down the road oh people have this the greatest shootout the greatest thing in the world and then you see the pachikaville in israel we call patrickville the signs on the signs on the wall young al manohar with five years i mean there's a young widow and she she lost after eight eight years of marriage she's got five kids already and the husband had the mahla saw that and you don't deserve that but you were about to go to a shidduch like that where the girl was your daughter anybody wanted that heaven forbid a zillion times heaven forbid it shouldn't happen to anyone it should happen to our worst enemies hashem comes along and jim doesn't but person is angry at the other people how can you be forgiving you can't forgive without a munna you can't forgive without emunah then very standing on one foot learn the first prince of la munah that hashem alone did does and will do and that's what the torah says and another three words ain't no belvado there's no one but hashem it means that it's not the guy that said la shannara oh he's going to be punished for san luis or about your daughter he's going to be punished about saying about you and your husband he's going to be punished but hashem needed a hatchet man were it not for this guy see this guy has been doing shem's been looking for a reason to nail him okay so hashem has to break up that shidduch anyway so he let's be they says the gomorrah hashem lets a bad person be the hatchet man that's why one of the things i i pray for every day my personal prayer pray for every day hashem hashem hashem i don't care what you do please let me be the conduit for good for my beloved brothers and sisters he said laser what are you talking about like a hippie you sound like a hippie like what your dresser is to us that we are sons and daughters of hashem so if taro says we're sons and daughters of hashem and rabbi shimon bar high says in the zohar breishis that we all have in the shaman we all have the same spiritual dna because we all have the same father in heaven then you don't need a phd in genealogy from colombia to tell you we're brothers and sisters so i say my beloved brothers and my cherished sisters i really mean it i really mean it because it's one of my favorite mitzvahs is love your neighbor as yourself and you can't do that without a muna you can't judge me it says you can't do that without a muna all the mitzvot between man and fellow man which includes judging p freely which includes forgiving cannot be done without a muna and it's easy it's easy to know when you realize that hashem created every neshama special and every neshama is the son or daughter of hashem that's the the shrink dosha she's we call it the mother we got emo all the time when he talks about the mother daim buddies we're talking about the shrine because she's the mother of all vendi and shinoshomas okay so we have the same mom we've got the same mom that means we're brothers and sisters okay that's the same mom so we realized we realized that just like i am a son of hashem and you're a son of hashem and you're a daughter of hashem we're brothers and sisters so without that and realize that hashem creates each one of us different because each one of us has our own unique mission on earth and you look at the good for other people what rebbi nachman says and it's famous to reish bays torah 2 82. it's called the zamra we look at the good for other people but we start by looking for the good in ourselves when you look for the good and other people you're right well you don't even see bad don't forgive this way bless hashem hashem let me see only good let me bring away glitter and heaven forbid not a word should come out of my mouth it should hurt anybody and if something could be hurtful it should not come out bottom of we have to dab it for this you have to down for this so if somebody did something wrong somebody did us what do i say down south are down and dirty okay someone did us a hurtful deed stop stop on the field let's review our immune amuna that's it that's like immune i was in l.a before i came here i was in beverly hills and a woman comes up to me she wasn't all religious she dressed with all the beverly hills all these bracelets and all these earrings and all that kind of stuff and scars oh let's get up and she says rabbi there's all kinds of doctors there's physiologists and there's gynecologists and there's oncologists and i know there's rabbis too all kinds of rabbis there's synagogue rabbis and yeshiva rabbis and they said what kind of rabbi are you i said i'm an immunologist it's a spiritual immune system what happens when we get insulted i mean really insulted somebody comes in i give you something i saw in my own eyes i couldn't believe it i was a young bolshover and i still had my farm before i sold my farm after i made chuva after the first lebanon war and for rosh hashanah i went down to the neighboring town hadera and went to shoulder ah pretty brand new balchuva guy gets called up on rosh hashanah torah and the guy was a butcher in the hedera market well his competitor was also there okay the competitor these guys can wear headed head competitors so he gets called up to the torah and rosh hashanah and they call him up and the competitor stands up with 500 people at shul they say he can't go to the torah he's a god of he sells trey for me he says that this is something a reality into what what happened it hit the fan in and we're in new york or new jersey this week why hospital that's the acer doesn't rest the acer doesn't rest so it's difficult for him to do look this is the acer works wholesale the eights are it's a lot of work for the ace of the asia says to hashem hashem i'm getting old i've been around for a while i make life easy for me so hashem says okay you can have social media and you can have restaurants and this and that so how many people did he hit by that one restaurant and you'd go no and it's social media how many people does the acer hit by way of tick tock and facebook and and instagram i gets a lot of people got to be really careful really careful that's why i encourage people to eat at home you know what you eat and i encourage people to stay off of social media and uh if you just look at something that's informative foreign social media if social media is is uh bjx or kazakh and they perform you when the next shure is okay that's fine but not for expressing something about other people you really got insulted this guy gets up and he's insulted in rosh hashanah and show in front of 500 people his face turns 15 000 colors white red technicolor he looks like uh they have on the eiffel tower sound and light show in perry this is what his face looks like a sound and light show he gets up boy that's a juicy bit if the guy knew what was happening he'd thank hashem because biseon embarrassment it's tantamount to death so it could be that he did something wrong and he invoked the death penalty so hashem is a loving father he doesn't want to kill his son so hashem gives him something that's tantamount to death and rebuttal hassan he says was a big sadiq that lived in the 11th century beginning the 12th century and he wrote a classic book called seifer hasidim it's not called it's a book of the pious it's not qasim and he calls insult non-apparent murder why is insult non-apparent murder okay they said really on a spiritual level it is more humane to put a smith and lesson 45 to somebody's brains and blow him out all at once and he's finished that's it but what happens when a person is embarrassed i'm getting voices from shaman okay yeah what happens what happens when a person gets insulted it's a kapaa if he is so powerful then it cleans up take takes at that penalty neutralizes that kappa it's atonement for death penalty so shem is really doing something good okay but meanwhile the person is human and he's got human emotions and why is it worse than murder every time this butcher sees the other butcher in a market he remembers the insult over and over it's like it'd be murdered over and over that's why it's so powerful but if the insulted butcher would ask me if i knew back then to give him an answer i didn't know i barely knew who i was okay but back then tell him one thing you know who did that it's not him we're it not him it could have been a front-on collision we're not a front-on collision there's lots of bacteria and virus and there's terminal viruses and there's nasty things hashem shows this it's all from hashem and old nevada there's no but hashem he alone did does and will do now who is this hashem that he alone did does and will do venus he's a father in heaven a father in heaven so wait a second you know imagine if if your father is in the white house you're the son of the president you're the daughter of the president do what you want boy you've got four years if you're lucky eight years where you're miss white house young junior white house you get all these privileges your father's the president but that comes to a halt the father can't have more than two terms and then what is he that's it then you're back to the drawing board it's not that hashem is not temporary hashem's not up for election he's always there and we are his kids we are the sons and daughters of the king wow and who's the king he loves us more than anything but right after we're going to have a myriad minion after here before we say krishma we're going to say hashem can't say hashem if it's not the real deal it's not real prayer because that's a third commandment not to take hashem's name in vain islam he loves his children of israel now wait a second if you don't believe that hashem loves you because you're one of the kids you're one of the tribe if you don't believe that then you're taking hashem's name in vain that's called that's a serious thing so wait a second stop the thing excuse me suppose that it was not true who created our liturgy who codified our liturgy the men of the great assembly the last one was we're talking about before the base amiga was destroyed two thousand years ago between 2000 and 2300 years ago that's when our liturgy was codified now imagine that the ham sat together and he said let's think how we can make the jews sin for the next 2000 years hashem doesn't really love them but we'll say with hashem's name blessed are you a sham a-d-o-n-i-a the real deal that you love your children israel okay so they're all lying and they're all taking hashem's name in vain is it kimet can you say something like that sati and they would do such a thing crazy if they put it in our liturgy and we say hashem it is the real deal because that's so very careful before they say hashem's name i see my own rabbit and melissa rippy what he does before i taste says hashem's name he thinks ten times over if it's a proper blessing it's a prophecy not to make a mistake heaven forbid so we say hashem or evo hashem loves us that hashem who is our father in heaven he loves us more than we that we love our own children a thousand times more than we love our own children wow so if hashem controls everything and everything comes from hashem and hashem is king and hashem loves me then it's a no-brainer that everything hashem does is going to be for the very best so whatever hashem does even though what the gomorrah yoma says lets good people do good things and hashem but uh hey blessed are the hands that poured the water and blessed are the hands the feet that brought me to water you guys have big brother hashem thank you guys problem is flesh and blood and this is the the last night of the american part of our tour we go tomorrow early in the morning to the uk and then to london foreign it's a loving father it's all for the best rebbi akiva he's the father of the oral torah rebbi akiva codified the framework of the mishnah and then his time with rebbe bayer balanese he codified the language and then his talmud rebe reviewed in the sea made the final codification of the mishnah and the gemara that comes afterwards that's an emission is written like a telegraphic very short staccato you can't understand halacha the gamora extrapolates on the mishnah and this is the talmud mishna plus gamora equals tomboy that's old talmud rabiquito stems from rabbi kiva rabbi akiva got his knowledge from two great rabbis rebel yeshua ben khananya and rebel eliezer ben horconus and there argued back and forth that rebecca learned by both of he knows two sides of the coin and then barabakiva passed it down to his five-town medium he said where's the 24 000 tall medium that died during the omer they didn't respect one another they didn't forgive one another the other big tall meet him they were very sick they judged each other unfairly and they had grudges against one another and we said no judge no grudge that they had a fine tune lack of a winner these guys were big sadiq these guys learned day and night these guys heaven for a bit did do the status of era except they didn't respect one another and the reason they didn't respect one another because they didn't have a muna they didn't believe that every neshama had its own thing they thought that there was a hierarchy hashem didn't want the torah to be passed down by where these twenty four thousand shall we move them aside and replace by five tell me who rabbi akiva's five tall media that there was tell me him to until he got killed when he was under 20 years old i did the kumar tells us when the romans put up the steak we read about it in tish above and assalahu mahu that rich girls are allowed to go out with the perfume but poor girls are not and the rich girl's daughter king he says no all daughters of israel daughters are king make it makes everything what he says about love every single year every single person rugby mayor balinese uh the hezemuna was off the charts and these rebbe akiva's students reviewed the bar eli he's a father baleamuna so we ask a question the gamoran chinese comes and tells us that rebbi akiva left his two great rebels to learn by nahumi for 23 years we all know the nacho mishkamsu's stories got his last name gonzo tova one of the things that miracles happen that uh the crooks they stole as the gold that he was going to bring to the caesar of rome and he said filled it up with dirt and it did support what this is disrespect and camel navy and dressed himself up as a roman senator and he said oh this is uh magic this is the dirt of their forefather abraham and threw it up in the air and become ballistic missiles and it knocked out all the enemies that the roman couldn't defeat and then they were rewarded came back he was a miracle worker because everything he did everything that he did rebbe akiva and nahumi wait a second the whole kasha on that gomorrah why would rebbe akiva spend 23 years by nahumish gamsu nahumi said one aloha in all of the talmud and all the laws all the other laws hundreds and thousands of laws they come from rabbishananya and rebel azerbaijanis robbery came to do that rabbi akiva spent 23 years to learn that it's all for the best game we see on rabbi akiva's last day on earth it's heir of yom kippur and it's friday it's heir of shabba servium kippur and the romans have them on the state and the sergeant-at-arms they gave the the the description wow if you want to cry on tish above you read this you read this carefully and it it's such a graphic description usually the gemara is not so graphic here it talks about how rebbi kiva died the worst worst torture that the chinese can't dream of i don't want to go through what what they did what they did to his flesh and while rebbe akiva is being tortured by the romans he's got a smile on his face and the forced his students to look at him to see what was happening to their rabbi that taught torah they revolted against the wrong and they said right here let me keep it smiling they say rabbit how can you smile and rebuke kiva's got a smile on his face and he's in a pool of blood and in one moment his nashoma's gonna say bye-bye to this world and rebbi akiva said i waited my whole life to fulfill the passage of after after hashem to love hashem with all my might with all my power to my soul now that i have the privilege i'm not going to be happy and he said my israel and that's when there's neshoma left and he said my israel on heir of shabbos yom kippur the holiest holiest holiest of holy see let me keep walk by then 23 years rebecca kiva learned everything as her best and that's why rebbi akiva was allowed to bring down the torah the torah comes through him that's the torah of amuna that everything is from the best the gods from zoo so if we get insulted and if somebody does us a real real dirty deed we know wow this is better than a head-on collusion this is better than a terminal disease this is better than so many other things this is better than bankruptcy okay one and it's a kumara so you know what happens as soon as we look at hashem that's not the person if it wasn't mark it would be john and if it wasn't susan it would be deborah if it wasn't this would be someone else because it was a decree from hashem and hashem led a person that's going to be punished anyway don't worry that person be punished but that is not our account we're not judging hashem will take care of them they're going to hashem is going to is going to punish him but we don't look for revenge we don't look for anything and i don't we know it's all from hashem and the movement you see that everything is from hashem you're at peace with yourself you're at peace with your fellow human and your peace with i said today when people came to see me and one woman and she's got difficulty yeah she got a difficulty woman's divorced and yes she can't find the off him why is the ship doing this to me why is this what negativism negativity negativity negativity you know negativity is a magnet for more negativity and i looked at her and i said uh i said you don't have a pacemaker do you no no oh now he said hashem and you're not on a respirator a lot of people in covid been on respirators not a respirator oh no hashem and you're not connected to you don't need kidney dialysis oh bo hashem oh three ball hashem why that's a three in a row now we're on a roll now we gotta go to las vegas i said if you'd say more bo hashem and look at your own good points and judge hashem fairly judge hashem fairly oh wait a second had breakfast fine got a roof overhead fine i could see who thanked hashem today for the air they breathe take that for granted go to the hospital and see people that are covered they're still on respirators i can breathe independently it's a small bracha take for granted take for granted that's a sense of entitlement people ask me what a spoiled child is who says no like what saw a person he wouldn't hug his child i said how can we hug your child he says no if i show them too much love they're going to be spoiled i said there's no such thing as too much love in the year because if you don't give the love in your living room in your dining room kids are gonna look out in the street and out in the street that's a bad news we don't want our kids getting love from the street no session a spoiled child is sense of entitlement when a child doesn't have to say thank you when a child expects a gift for his birthday for 200 gift or 200 game boy and mommy and daddy bought him something for 50 500 a nice birthday present well maybe in mommy and daddy they have a difficult uh financial situation he doesn't even say thank you because he expected something else a sense of entitlement that's a spoiled job we stop and think about ourselves how many of us have a sense of entitlement and we're indignant hashem why did this person do this to me and we're digging against other people why did they do this to me nobody has to expose himself or herself to an abusive person someone's chronically abusive by the way even a person a married person and told me that a parent as an abusive parent i told him he says well what's what's my fear what's my obligation to my parents they're abusive i told them pray for your parents pray for your parents but if your parents are abusive and they break you down you don't have to expose yourself to them okay busy pick up the phone good shabbos whatever once a week pray for your parents that's it don't have to we certainly don't have to expose ourselves to abusive strangers but if the abuse comes unprepared and we're there we get it we don't hold grudges we forgive you know if we forgive we know and the person's dignity and that's why we coach young married people future brides future grooms we come protect each other's dignity this is the rambam rambam chapter 15 of the laws of marital relations he talks about a husband's duty to his wife and wife dude's husband one shall and by protect the dignity look at your your spouse's dignity don't do anything to insult your spouse okay but if you do get insulted guys if your wife calls you a nincompoop don't be angry at her because a kosher jewish woman that's hashem's shofar and that's meant for us all right so take it thank you very much thank you hashem that's the message now i have to do chuva for being a nincompoop okay so you know that they did whatever that's um we get a bit of disparagement i'm not angry at the person thank the person's hashem that's hashem talking okay hashem thank you very much either you want me to correct my meters maybe i've got a sense of entitlement maybe i've got too much arrogance maybe i think i'm king farouk maybe i think people should bow down to me so shem when we have our nose up in the air hashem is mashpeel gain a mug beast someone's really really humble hashem lifts them up and she almost got the nose up in the air shem knocks it down hashem doesn't want you to drown when it rains you know he's up in the air and water go into the birdshot some don't want that so we suffer any disparagement we suffer any damage a person steals our money a partner steals our money i had the situation in los angeles lawyer came to me and a lawyer a lawyer and his partner was smarter than him and finagled the law firm where the partner got control and he lost lots of money and i asked him i said do you think your law firm finances you do you think your partner finds out from hashem that's all from hashem and this too who knows and you know there's a law if somebody steals from you there's a spiritual law suppose somebody steals a thousand dollars whether in business whether in cash when a person steals another person's money suppose the victim was supposed to have dental bills or doctor bills or some thousand dollars the source the trouble that was supposed to be attached to the dollars they go to the person stole them it's like stealing a time bomb from somebody okay the time bomb is ticking now it goes and it's going to blow up by this other person uh 10 cents that don't belong to us as a time bomb okay forgive everything it's all from hashem it's all for the best hashem's doing the best in life she wants to be forgiving now hear this hashem hashem is your shadow so you forgive people that did you the worst damage the worst insult the worst anything now we come i died the day of judgment when pump people trembled because it's judgment day and the book of life is open and the chips could fall either way and look what happened look what happened last night in queens was the 21st anniversary of 9 11 and sponsored us we had emunah overcomes who believed that one day one hour the twin towers would just come plumbing down and i think what hashem does hashem makes makes changes who knows what's going to happen who believe look at the changes in the world i hope that all the changes are just heralding the mashiach who's going to come very fast on may and kenya but no who knows what's up what's in store for us for the for the coming year it's really scary to think about that think about the past stuff that happened the past year situation but on an individual basis when we are forgiving and the evil inclination who's the greatest lawyer that he knows every book and every law every tiny little clause and throws the book at us and the gomorrah tractate rosh hashanah says he goes up and he brings a case against every single one of us and we hope we hold together want to be judged together because we judge together we all get judged to finish but if someone makes a judgment about someone else what happens is his or her individual portfolio is opened and the question's asked who is he or her to judge someone else oh so don't make the judge don't fall in the judgment show and if someone does us damage and we forgive and now the accusing prosecutors say they did this they said to that they're called katagoin yakuza angels they're prosecutors and hashem looks hashem shows them a forgave the most painful situation they forgave hashem must his own law but what you are forgiving hashem has to be forgiving throws the whole case out throws the prosecutors out and you're signed and sealed for forgiveness and the best year you ever had in your life that's why i remember two things remember everything we talked about no judge and no grudge don't judge other people and if someone did something no grudge it all came from hashem you could do that with a muna we strengthen our ammuna we have a smile on our face all the time all the time all the time i'll tell you one little story in closing get back to beverly hills this is these things happen beverly hills okay we've been speaking for 60 minutes okay same similar beverly hills spoke for 60 minutes and another woman with uh different colors of bracelets and different colors of earrings and i don't know if you showed me the places dangerous what happens if somebody's got earrings in the nose never cold it's dangerous how do you blow your nose i okay but earrings there are nos earrings ears areas eyelids wow so okay she comes up to me and she says to be rabbi laser what do you smoke i said young lady i don't know if there are other people like me but i'm one of the only orthodox rabbis in the world that's a fitness trainer certified fitness trainer and nutritionist and body and soul and i keep myself in very good shape and that's why bo hashem thank you hashem and we keep on going at this age and she says no now you're not being straight with me i said young lady it's in 10 commandments not tell a lie i can't i'm not going to give up and it's right two weeks before rosh hashanah and i'm going to tell a lie that i can do that i could do that okay so maybe if i believe you but what do you sniff i said i don't sniff anything either she says what is it what do you take it's a pill it's something what is it i said why are you asking this she says there's no such thing that a person has a smile on their face for 60 minutes and you've been talking for 60 minutes and you haven't had small head and left your face i see you know they have this week's torah portion is kisaw and shem gives his 98 nasty curses and the torah gives an explanation why the curse is not because we did anything wrong not because we murdered anybody not because of illicit sex not because of idolatry because we didn't serve hashem with happiness we're joined so what's the big deal about serving a show with a joy when you're happy it means i like the way hashem runs the world if you're not happy it's a statement if it forbid the opposite don't let go okay so we put a smile on our face and we can really smile we forgive we know everything is from hashem and beloved brothers and sisters i pray for each one of you pray for the kahila and and certainly for our hosts for exit for hazak that anyone that needs rafa good health to have good health anybody needs parnosa any what needs a great shido anyone needs children should have wonderful children all your hearts wishes for the best forex an inscription signature in the book of life for the best year of your life 5783 amen