Rabbi Minkowicz Weekly Torah Lesson Parsha Matot - Massei 5780

welcome to this week's Torah lesson this week's Torah portion is poshest the Lottery's and Messiah the question of the week is what is the best way to educate someone that is struggling with their Judaism so in this week's Torah portion Pasha's mattress and Messiah in the beginning of Pasha's matters we learn about the laws of Nidoran the laws are adhara our soul makes an oath in other words something that's permissible you're allowed to have it you're a lot of partake in it and you decide you want to abstain so the way you do that according to Jewish law is that you say the item that you really could have but you'd want to stay away from you say it's like a sacrifice since a sacrifice is holy and there are certain requirements are you able to partake or not partake and you make this neutral item into a sacrifice for you and therefore now you cannot have it so the rabbit asked the question what's this whole idea that if you want to abstain from something that you have to do it in a way that you're making it like a sacrifice so the Rebbe explains we know when it comes to an oath to abstain from things which is permissible there's two ways to look at it one way you can say all right you want to try to stay away from things that even though you could have it but you want to abstain on the other hand we know that if the Torah didn't prohibit it why are you prohibiting it so that's why when a person says I am staying away from it now I've got to be at the point yeah it's a bad thing but he's saying to me this is like a sacrifice we know sacrifice is a holy and because it's holy we respect it so the same thing also the reason why I'm staying away from now for it's bad it's just very holy to me and because it's so holy therefore I am staying away from that and Rebbe says the same idea you find in the period when right now the three weeks on the one hand we're in them three weeks of destruction starting from srivasa Bahamas up until to Shabaab on the other hand we know that everything that comes from Hashem is good so one hand we're dealing with three weeks of mourning three weeks of the structure but on the other hand we know everything is good so where is everything good in the three weeks so their ever says if you give a look in the laws - which we should be studying now because we want to rebuild the base in English so in there it says as follows that there were three places again the number 3 that the priest watched in the temple and there were 21 places that a Levites watched in the temple the same idea of three weeks twenty-one days that we have morning you can look at in a positive side the way he speaks about the base timing - the three priests watching certain areas and the twenty-one Levites to take it a step further B says when you think of three so you can think I'm gosh three weeks or you can think about no we're coming now from the month of the third month in the Jewish calendar the first was nice on the second is a year in the third is even and we all know the third month when we see the Torah and the tour is also connected to three Tyron of Emax of him and also we have we're looking forward to what our third base of McDuff so when you think of three you can think of your choice of what the three weeks of destruction or you can think about the upcoming third base from Ignace that is what not in reference to the number three what about the 21 days says Rebbe says because we know what Hashem met moisture mainly the first time and he told him to take the Jewish people out of Egypt mice Rantala sham how they know you sent them what should I tell them who are you what's your name so our SEM said okay I'm sure eka in other words in Hebrew it's Aleph hey yud hey what is olive hey yo hey numerically alavés one pay is five you does ten and Hazen under five which is 21 which basically a sin said to them 21 that's who I am what does it mean 21 that's who I am because when life is great we all know Hashem is but guess what eka in those tough times or 21 days I'm deer also so knows even in the 21 days who is there behind it Hashem is there and everything so therefore when you go through life and you're going through the three weeks and you're going through the 21 days it's a choice you can look at it's three weeks this morning is 21 days in destruction or you can look at it we're looking forward to the third way to make gosh and knowing that Shem is with us in everything and everything that we do and that's obviously our choice the way to go through life so based on this drug he says so what happens when you see someone that struggling and this will answer the question how do you approach and how do you deal someone that's having a challenge with their Judaism you can either look at it and tell them god forbid you're challenging but there is no because you learn from the laws in a dorm that we have the power with our speech to make something holy we could make something holy so we meet someone that's struggling we you need to use our speech to make it a holy experience how by looking into the essence of the person just like when you look into the essence of the three weeks waits you see three holiness and twenty-one holiness while some is there you have to tell the person look you are a child of Abraham Isaac Jacob Sarah Rebecca Rachel and Leah you are precious child of ascend and when you approach the person without God from the telling them anything negative but use the gifted power of speech the power that you can make things holy and you tell the person how great and holy they are they will respond with warmth and enthusiasm and they will embrace what they need to do to come closer to our sin and make this world a better place thanks so much for joining us for our weekly Torah lesson this week's Torah lesson has dedicated to memory of barro Benari Labe slow moving Yosef and Rahul bus lease Lee Paul may their souls be elevated by the Torah was studying in their memory have a great blessed week and we should only say and share powerful and beautiful experiences have a great week