Rabbi Paysach Krohn - Elevate Your Elul

hello welcome everybody sorry to keep everybody waiting just want to make sure people are gonna get settled sit down see some nice smiles over here so i want to thank everybody uh for coming to the elevate your elbow series which uh primarily started because i thought of a nice name elevated yellow and i didn't know what to do with it so i said we're gonna do a nice speaker series before i even forget i needed to thank uh rabbi from kazakh who uh when i said in the previous speeches that i bothered him with phone calls i just just came back from a 10-day vacation i think we spoke 50 times we every day just to set this up i want to thank uh chrome for coming and um we have a very nice program um i don't want to forget all the all the things i have to say so first this is the first part of a four part series uh tonight of course we have vermicron and on the sunday we're gonna have uh come and the thursday the 22nd of mansour and then october 2nd we're from elio shapiro from florida is going to be coming for us all at 8 o'clock that's a sunday so everyone is welcome and encouraged to come and tell people and it's going to be very nice firstly i just wanted to say i said to have grown outside we actually have a nice history and me and the rob called me a a year ago he didn't know it was me but uh when we were doing this uh fun page for a member of the community which we ended up raising like i think a hundred thousand dollars for which i should thank also uh lead makavi for uh starting out with me and then the rough called for some for certain questions and um uh i think it's still the top of my voicemails i don't get any voicemails i don't i wasn't going to delete that one but um so i just wanted to first thank our sponsors we have a couple sponsors and if anyone wants to contribute like i said we still have uh more shirem to go and it's uh could be a big squish before yomadin you know to shuffle sofia and tadaka so uh this definitely sadaka this is uh this series is 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rafael rubin arya and lillard zone shine the nisano family leo nishmas mikhail benborough [Music] a sponsor just a couple minutes ago so it's never too late is so i'm sure i forgot something and i have what to say but uh i want to just again thank everyone for coming i wanted you to rub he's going to speak for a couple minutes just to introduce a real introduction uh foreign thank you thank you very so much for working so hard to make this happen it's a great honor and a privilege a big zahoot to have rabbi pesachron come to speak to us in our vitaknesset tonight i remember when i was in mir yeshiva in the 1980s that's when the first volume of the magic speaks came out and it was a hit i mean everyone in yeshiva you saw it all over the dormitory all over the issue i remember going through each and every story was so sweet and looking forward for the next volume in the next one and [Music] so exciting at the time the market speaks of course the rabbi was referring to as the maggie but over the years i think klalisel got the feel that the mageed is rabbi crone himself he's a mageed of israel goes all over the world to speak and to give musa and to give his and to uplift and to inspire on a personal note i'll never forget how excited my father was way back when uh when uh rabecrone came out with his i'm not sure if it's your first uh book the art scroll on brit mila and and the rabbi took his time to come to my father co-op city of the bronx uh at the time to ask him about the sephardic customs of milan that's my father and and you make mention of him in the section in the book of the sephardic customs of but mila and i remember i remember that day how excited he was to show me look he mentioned me and he came and we we spoke to him about our minha game about our songs that we sing in and ever since of course your name has been revered uh in our family and and in the families of amisalen so to us it means the world to have you here and without any further ado and thank you so much for coming [Music] one second [Music] it is such a great source such an honor to be in this wonderful beautiful basic nessa shariyamuna and i was so touched right now i can't tell you i had no idea that robert ben from co-op city was your father i can only tell you you know when i walked in tonight and you gave me this warm smile and i was thinking boy this is such a nice fellow such a warm person and then when you tell me who your father was of course because i remember many years ago when i was starting out although i had been a male for quite a few years already when i started writing the book and i came to co-op city in those days co-op city had jewish people living there you know it's not like that anymore and i met rabbi ben hayem's father and he was such a talmud and so humble and so kind and so wonderful so to come and to speak in his son's shul is just a great great pleasure so i hope that tonight will be able to be as the gentleman said to be elevated than ello that's the purpose of getting together and so i would like to begin by telling you a fascinating pasuk and we will see how the rabbis understand this pasuk in a very unusual and a beautiful way the pasuk is an amus and it tells us like this aries if a lion roars milo yira wouldn't you be afraid imagine you're walking on oakland or on peninsula boulevard right on a rockaway turnpike all of a sudden you see a lion and the lion's roaring everybody would be afraid right so that's what the posix says arie a shahog of a lion roars milo yira wouldn't you be afraid so the rabbis say that arya which is spelled aleph yud hey you know what it stands for elo rosh hashanah yomaki purim and hashanah rabbah isn't that great arya shaw these days are roaring to us elo rosh hashanah you are making purim milo yira wouldn't we be afraid so of course these days are here and now we have to think about it we have to reflect we have to become serious so i want to tell you a great little story many years ago the rabbi of my shul his name was rabbi title bomb he passed away already but he once on call nidre at night in yom kippur he told over this thing about arya shohok and most of the people in the synagogue knew that already but then he told us an adorable story he said you know i don't know what the pussac is talking about this past holiday on kolomoid pesach he said he took his children to the bronx zoo and as they were coming towards the cage of the lion the lion started roaring and the kids weren't afraid they were running towards the lion they wanted to hear aurora or some more so he says what's the plastic talking about arya shaw when a lion rose milajira just the opposite in the bronx zoo the kids were running they wanted to hear the lion roar and he said of course you know what the difference is the difference is the lion was in a cage so if the lion is in a cage you got nothing to worry about so if you put hashem khas vashallah in a cage you got nothing to worry about so then he said something brilliant it is so incredible if you take a look at your on hashana raba or the moxer the last prayer you will not believe the last prayer that we say on hashanah but listen to this we ask hashem take away that iron bar take away that cage take away the cage between me and you we don't want the cage between us and hashem otherwise you know hashem has no effect on us because he's in a cage cavalho and we're not afraid so that's the final prayer we should be close to hashem take away that iron bar with us that's the whole idea and now that's what we have to learn tonight how do we remove the barriers between us and hashem and so i'm going to give you practical ways in each way that we will be able to undertake in ourselves a way to become close to hashem and hear the roar but you know something but we have the capabilities and the characteristics as good jews to roar back how we're going to do it so i want to tell you a story that will be the first way that we have to remember many many years ago there was a great sadiq his name was raphaim veloznar he was the talmud the main student of the wilmagoin he opened up a yeshiva and eventually he himself had a student and the student's name was rabbi shaya barteki and by rabbi shaya bardeki lived in a terrible terrible town it was like room like communists and people every night were trying to escape from that town and that city and there was a fisherman who had a boat and at night when it was dark he would take people on the boat across the river to the other side and like this they would be saved and get away from this terrible terrible town everybody knew that one night this boat is gonna crack up because this fisherman was trying to take many many people on the boat only 20 would fit but he would take 40. and everybody knew there's not enough refs one night this place this boat is gonna crack up and people are gonna be in trouble but as long as he could the fishermen would take people every night one night rabshaya brodeki was on the boat together with his two sons a ten-year-old boy and a six-year-old boy and they're hoping to get to the other side of the river to the other town where they would be free and safe and they were only a quarter of a mile away from shore when all of a sudden people heard that the boat is cracking up and everybody started yelling and screaming because they knew that the boat was going to crack up and people would be in the water everybody was trying to grab the rafts but i couldn't get to the raft fast enough and now people were in the water with the rafts other people were holding onto the boat and rapshaya was holding on to his two sons and it's less than a quarter of a mile away he's got to swim but you can't swim holding two kids and he's in the water with the kids and he says to them my children this is the worst moment of my life i can't carry both of you there's no way there's no reason that all three of us should die i'm gonna have to drop one of you this is terrible it's a terrible decision that a father has to make i have to drop one of you and the older boy says abba drop me i'll try to swim i'll swim along with you hold my younger brother and the younger brother says no abba take the older brother he said he learns in yeshiva he learns torah so take him it's better to save him and the father it doesn't know what to do he's losing his strength and he says i have no choice i have to drop one of you and he decides to drop the older boy hoping that the older boy will be able to swim and as he loosens the hold of the older boy the boy begins to panic because he's falling in the water he says abba don't drop me please don't drop me and the father can't drop him he can't and he holds on to both kids and somehow miraculously he's able to swim to shore he drops both kids and he collapses and he's lying on the ground he can't believe that he was able to save these kids and then when he gets up the older boy says abba how could i thank you you saved my life and the father says to them i didn't save your life you saved me because i didn't have the strength to hold you but when you cried out to me in that way you gave me a strength that i didn't even know that i had there was no way that i could have carried you but only because you cried out in that way i was able to get a strength that i didn't know i had and i saved you so you were the one that saved yourself because of the way you cried out and i wanted a great rap i tell the story and he said you know what this story teaches us an amazing thing we know that in elul we say la david we say an extra chapter in tehillim every morning and every afternoon or some people say it in the evening and you know what it says in there the gemara tells us in broca's islamic base 32 and it's interesting islamic base because avoid this is phila and that's daflamid bays adam if a person sees that he dovend the lawyer nana and it didn't get answered don't give up via espalio darwin a second time why because what we say in la david kave and that's what the boy did because he dovend and he cried out to his father his father got the strength and that's what i want to tell all of us tonight sometimes hashem so to speak kava yoho doesn't have the strength to save us you know why because we're not good enough so what do we got to do we got to give hashem strength how do we give ourselves strength by davening again doing more mitzvoth not giving up dabbling again and if you darwin again and again you give hashem the strength to save you because now you have more mitzvoth so hashem has more strength to save us so that's the first thing tonight the first thing is tonight never stop praying no matter how sick somebody is no matter how desperate a situation may be you never know you never know how the yeshua could come the hell could come anyway anywhere at any time but we need feeler that's the first thing that we have to learn tonight never ever stop davening now i want to tell you a remarkable story and this story has an adorable punchline but it has a very serious message you see many years ago in rene brock there is a yeshiva that is still there today the pranavaji yeshiva it's on top of a hill many of you have seen it many times and the masjid the one who taught mossad character development and we thought was robhasko levenstein a very very great sadiq and a very serious person and one day he had to travel someplace in bernabe rock and he went into a cab now the israeli cab driver was not religious he was wearing a necklace and an earring and rabbi levenstein went in with a student then went into the cab well when this israeli driver saw the rabbi the holy man he took his kippah out of his pocket he put it on his head and then as they started driving he said rabbi krodarav can i tell you a story so the rabbi said yeah of course so he told him this story he said rabbi i want you to know that me and my four friends we just got out of the israeli army we were in the idf and there was tremendous pressure for all the years that we were there and we decided that we got to get out of here that we have to go on vacation we have to chill out so one of the guys did research and he found out that in south africa they have a safari and it's real there's no safaris so we decided we're gonna go on a safari and we're gonna see the animals in their natural habitat fine and we went there and the first three days everything was great we had a tour guide and there was a truck that we were in and it was amazing to see the animals right up front and we were protected in the truck he said the fourth morning one of the guys said you know i think i'm gonna go out and i'm gonna explore on my own and we said tim what are you crazy it's dangerous all the animals he said yeah we're here three days nothing happened he said yeah you know why because we had a truck and we had a tour guide you got to be crazy don't go out yourself he said don't worry i'll be okay so he went out and he wasn't even out two minutes all of a sudden we heard him yelling and screaming we didn't know what happened we ran out and we saw the most frightening thing there was a huge snake now i looked it up it's called an african rock python that's what it's called a 20-foot long rattlesnake that is so strong it could wrap itself around an alligator and the alligator can't get out and it was wrapped around this soldier's stomach and he was getting crushed to death and he was screaming we didn't know what to do we took rocks we threw it at it didn't help we took branches off a tree we smacked it didn't help and he says rabbi none of us were religious but we all knew shema israel so he said to the guy say my israel you're going to die you saw so the guy started yelling the guy who had the snake i'm like a miracle the second he said the snake loosened the hold fell to the ground and slid it away sarah haskell the rabbi said that's amazing so what happened to him he said what happened the next morning he put out divilin he came back to israel they became religious him and his wife and his kids so the rabbi said and what about you who said rebbe the snake wasn't wrapped around me what kind of dumb answer is that it's that dumbest answer he could have wanted a stick was right the snake wasn't wrapped around me right you see a miracle right in front of your eyes but that's the car that's the power of the it's a hara can give you any crazy excuse well it wasn't wrapped around you so you don't have to become chuva right the reason i tell you this story is because we were all in the last two years wrapped around with tremendous amount of tzarot it started with covert 19. and i pray that nobody had death in their family but we all know great people who died we know so many people that were on ventilators and respirators and still not 100 perfect and then came the terrible tragedy in maron when 45 zaddikim died and then surf side just a few weeks ago i was in surfside they had the first yard sight of when that building collapsed i'm telling you it was so heartbreaking to be seven synagogues all together and sitting right in front of me are the widows of some of those people who got crushed in those buildings or the children whose parents died in the crush of those buildings terrible never happened before in the united states a building like that should fall and over close to 100 people died and then the ukrainian jews never had to run imagine you have to pick yourself up from cedarhurst and run tomorrow and go a thousand miles away only with what you could carry and never come back to your home we don't think about it terrible what happened to ukrainian jews and then of course we lost the sadha so now how do we how do we survive how do we go into the new year with confidence what are the tools that we need to go into this coming year tough shin pay gimmel right we need tools to be able to come to hashem and to be confident that this year is going to be a good year so the first thing we spoke about is prayer i want to tell you the second thing and i'll tell you an adorable story from the laboratory rebbe now the laboratory rubbed menachem and schneiderson he became the rebbe in 1950 now in 1950 he wasn't so famous like he was near the end of his life so when people were coming to speak to him suddenly he had time to talk to them so in the early 1950s there was a father a modern guy who came in with his son to the rebbe in crown heights in brooklyn to get a blessing because the boy was going to have a bar mitzvah now as soon as the boy walked in and the father walked in the rabbi saw who he's dealing with and so he invited them to sit down and they got to talking and as to having this conversation the rabbi asked him a question the father couldn't believe it oh mr goldberg you're going to love this so he said to him he says to the boy are you interested in sports so the boy said yeah so he said to the boy is there any team that you follow he said yeah i'm from brooklyn i like the brooklyn dodgers right so the rebbe asked the little boy he says does your father ever take you to the ball games he said yeah a few weeks ago he took us to the game and it was terrible senator rebbe said the game was terrible what do you mean it was terrible he said well the dodgers were losing in the seventh inning ten nothing so we left listen what the rebbe said he said did the players also leave he said the players the players can't leave i'm a fan you know the fans can leave but the players can't leave the rapper said that's the lesson i'm trying to teach you he said now you're getting bar mitzvah and you're so excited that you're going to put on tv that you can be counted in the minion and sometimes with the enthusiasm after a while sometimes it wanes it's not exciting anymore and sometimes also with an adult they get involved in a mitzvah and then after a while you know they lose the interest the rebbe said just remember all your life you got to be a player don't be a fan what a great lesson you got to be a player a player sticks it out to the end and that's the second thing no matter what we have gone through and many of us have gone through many difficult times and seen other people go through difficult times in the last two years we got to be players don't give up and that's why we need a community to be there for each other sometimes somebody's down you put your arm around that person you make that person feel good we gotta be players not fans fans can pick up and leave when they lose interest or when things get rough just the opposite and you know to me who is the greatest player of all cavalier if you could say it rapper yakiva rabbi akiva lost 000 students could you imagine if you're a teacher you got 24 000 students and within 33 days they're all dying so what would you do most of us would say okay god i'm out of here okay obviously you don't like me the way i learn torah i'll go do something else no rabbi akiba was a player he wasn't a fan he didn't walk away he said you know something we made a mistake we didn't teach him properly he got five students some say got seven students and then you know what the gemara says tells us he started with the students five or seven students and he worked so that they taught and taught they taught the students thought the students thought and they filled the holidays throughout because they were players they didn't give up the first thing is we got to pray pray every day and if you don't get answered don't give up and the second thing we've got to be there we've got to hold on to the yiddish kite we got to hold on to torah to mitzvot and we have to be there we have to be a player we don't give up no matter what happens we're not fans we're players i want to tell you another thing now i have an aunt unfortunately she just passed away a few weeks ago she was my favorite aunt ever since i was a little boy i grew up in williamsburg her name was it was my time to figure she passed away she was over 90. she had a life and spirit it was just incredible she moved to detroit she had remarried her first husband passed away i remember i used to go before covert every other year i used to speak in detroit in elul i always went to visit her of course i remember she was in her eighties i said tantavaya how you doing today she said what do you mean not spacey's mother right so she said well i just ran an exercise class i said you ran the class yeah we got to keep these women moving right she's 85 and she's keeping the women moving right short little woman you saw her anyhow some of you may remember this date in history august 9 2001 sorrows anybody remember sabaros that terrible terrible bombing and sabaro's in that kosher pizza shop in your shallow you know i looked up the statistics 15 people were killed 130 were injured my aunt taunted figures she was in sabaros she was in sorrows that day and she lost part of her hearing because of the deafening explosion of those two bombs but when we were now when i was now in detroit this past elul i don't know how we got to talking about it but she started telling me about the day that she was in sabaros now i knew she had been in tomorrow but then she told me a story i had no idea about this story she said she was there with her daughter getty kitty was paying downstairs and she was walking upstairs to put the pizza on the table they were gonna eat it and all of a sudden this tremendous bomb went off she was a short petite little woman she went flying and she lost her shoes and she was on the floor and her daughter comes running up and says mom we got to get out of here she says i can't move this rubble and glass or whatever i don't want my shoes to ma i'll pick you up we got to get out of here it's dangerous if there was one bomb there's gonna be a second one which there was and she picked up her mother and they ran across the street there was a very nice lady who had a used bookshop and she was telling people to come in to be safe until the police would evacuate everyone and the lady of the bookshop said listen everyone you could stay here as long as you want but the cops are gonna come soon because they could hear the ambulances and the sirens already and they're gonna tell everybody to go and mian said i can't move i don't have shoes now two minutes later a short little man with a keeper walks in and he brings her a pair of shoes he says take these shoes you never have to give them to me back just take them and go wherever you have to go to be safe she said how do you know i need shoes who told you i need shoes said the lady from the store she called i have a shoe store down the block and she told me that you need shoes to be safe so i'm telling you take these shoes i know you're not from here you never have to come back here just be safe i said to my aunt i said you still got the shoes she said of course i said can i see them i got to take a picture of them so she goes to the back of her house in the bedroom she brings out the shoes i take a look at it it's got in hebrew the letters of the name of the shoe store the jewish guy and listen what she tells me she says i want you to know ever since that day when i have those shoes if anything in the last 20 years anything ever happened to me then i'm thinking god why'd you make this happen to me i go to my bedroom i take off my shoes i put on the sabaro shoes i stand there and i look at the shoes and i say thank you hashem you kept me alive imagine that thank you hashem you kept me alive that's the third thing i don't see anybody here in a wheelchair i don't see anybody here on a respirator or on a ventilator we have so much good in this world but we don't think about it we're always thinking about what we don't have there are many many people here that are happily married you know that all those that are happily married tonight when you go home stop for a minute and say thank you hashem i have somebody to go home to thank you hashem i have somebody that i still love there are many people here with wonderful children and grandchildren and you know something even great-grandchildren do you ever stop and say thank you for my kids to me anybody that has children that are married and their children have children you're a millionaire do you know that the word modim which means thank you we say it three times a day mo din is equal a hundred members you know why because you gotta be thankful for a hundred percent of the things that you have you got a job you got a house you got your health you have a synagogue you got a rabbi like this when was the last time you thanked hashem oh we have a gorgeous synagogue look at this place how can you not pray here with kavanagh it's gorgeous it's beautiful do we have a thank hashem that's the third thing the first thing is prayer the second thing is hang in there be a player and the third thing is realize we have so much good hashem loves us of course we're tested and of course we have things that are challenges no question about that but you know all of us here that are parents you want your children to thank you right and when a child thanks you you're going to give them more and when a child complains you're not so happy right god's the same thing he's our father if we thank hashem it's like any father and mother the kid thanks you of course you want to give him more but if the kid's always complaining you know you go to someplace else to try to get compliments and get validated so tonight the third thing is we have to stop and think of all the good that we have i want to tell you a great story i have a friend his name is howie leibowitz today he's not howie anymore he's hayam connor leibowitz a brilliant brilliant doctor he started out in boston he went to harvard university in the medical school he taught in the medical school and then he became about juvenile went to israel and he learned in asha torah for abner weinberg and he taught in the inspire program the guy's brilliant and he continued his medical practice in israel and then he moved back to boston and he was in brigham women's hospital in boston and he told me this story one day he's the chief resident in brigham and women's hospital in boston and there's a code blue a coke blue is terrible a cold blue means somebody is dying somebody's life is in danger as the chief resident she ran to see where the cold blue is and he found out that in the cafeteria downstairs on the first floor there was a woman who had a major heart attack so he told me he didn't even take the elevator he just ran right down into the cafeteria by the time he got there all the other doctors were working on her trying to bring her back alive because her heart had stopped and they said to him howie we're losing her everybody was sent down to the cafeteria except the doctors and he told me he said he pushed the doctors aside because he was the chief resident so he could have access and he told me the first thing that he did i just want to tell you exactly he gave her an intravenous catheter and epinephrine um so that she would have uh blood clot she wouldn't have a blood clot in her arteries so he gave her epinephrine and then he told me that he had the tribulator and a defibrillator that's could pump the heart alive to try to get the pump the heart to pump start pumping again [Music] he did it four times five times six times and the doctors were walking away and he said to me he decided he's gonna talk one more time he said a pastor can tell him and he pressed the defibrillator and all of a sudden one of the doctors said howie you got a heartbeat look at the monitor you got a heartbeat and literally he brought her back to life he brought her back to life and then eventually he sent her up to icu and she was in intensive care and he went back to what he was doing that was two o'clock in the afternoon now it's 10 o'clock at night it's late at night hospital's quiet and he's thinking should he go see that patient it's not his patient but then he remembered his name was leibowitz that's a nice jewish name her name was like flanagan or kelly you know go your name so he figured if she knows that a jewish doctor saved her life who knows maybe one day she'll do something good for jews because after all you know shem a jew saved her life so decide he's going to go up okay this time he took the elevator no rush he gets into the room as soon as he walks into the room he sees a man sitting on her bed and the man jumps up and he says that's the guy and dr libert says to him excuse me who are you he says i'm the husband i saw i saw all the doctors they were leaving you were the only one they sent me out but i saw through the glass partition you're the only guy who didn't give up and you saved my wife's life and when she realizes this is the doctor who saved us she starts crying she can't stop crying and then listen to what she says she says dr legalist what should i say thank you that's what you say when somebody holds the door for you dr libras i just want to tell you when i go home next week and i see my children i'm going to stop and i'm going to think and i'm going to say thank you dr leibowitz and in a week or two when i'm able to walk along the beach front with my husband i'm going to stop and say thank you dr leigowitz and in six months when i have another birthday i'm gonna think of you and i'm gonna say thank you dr leibowitz and you know what dr liebert's told me he said he walked out of that room he didn't take the elevator back up back down he walked he was walking upstairs and he said hashem the next time i come home and i see my wife and my kids i'm going to say thank you hashem and the next time i open up a homash or and i understand what it's talking about i'm going to say thank you from burke and he said as i'm walking up these steps and i'm not getting out of breath i'm saying thank you hashem and tonight that's what we have to do let's begin thinking of all the good that we have everything that we have that hashem has given us saying thank you of course we're going to pray for all the things that we're missing and we are missing things no question about that but let's not forget pray never stop praying never give up be a player don't be a fan and always always have hakara tatofa now i want to tell you something that i think is so important in a community i'm just going to make a bracha now moshe feinstein once said that every time that you make a bracha and somebody says amen amen equals 91 and the word mala angel also is 91. so when you say everybody says amen you're creating holy angels so tonight in so many holy angels we can create so let's do it together these angels hopefully will protect us thanks i'll tell you another thing that i think is so important you know the cover time tells us that um from tonight on if you still can every single day you should be doing a favor for another jew i'm not talking a husband for a wife or wife or a husband that you got to do if you know what's good for you i'm talking about out of the house you don't become a big sonic because you bought your white flowers on friday and a wife doesn't become a big tardis because she made coffee for her husband sunday morning that's understood but every day we've got to look to be able to do a reset now i want to show you something that means even in your own family i want to show you now what i believe is the greatest insight the greatest divar torah that i ever heard from hain kanyevsky you're not going to believe this what i'm about to show you we all know the story in the torah that it wanted to give yaakov the blessing right and what happened he wanted to give asa the blessing and yaakov got the blessing and then here comes asov right and he brought him some food now watch this i want to show you something we have seen these words a thousand times only at prime could think of that the prosect tells us he brought the food to his father can anybody notice something unusual about these words what's unusual about these words one that there you go a palindrome you can read it front words and backwards mom pop race car radar you know aviva all these words right david all those okay who would have thought about that how many times have we read these words and realize it's a palindrome you can read it both ways listen to what raphael said you know what kind of you know what this teaches us the way you treat your parents that's how your children are gonna treat you how do you like that the way you treat your parents that's how your children are going to treat you and you know something what i would say every friday you should be calling your parents to say shabbat shalom every don't just call emporium when you want money you know but when you're hanukkah you know you want a gift every friday and you should teach your children to call your parents every friday i'm telling you i have that in my family there's nothing like it it is so special to have a connection to that generation and i want to tell you something you know what i'm used to you wouldn't believe it every single morning was the learning every second was important every morning he had to tafilana he went to visit his mother every day sometimes she would make her breakfast sometimes she just moves with him and then he will go to the coll but every day he went to visit now listen to this when she died he stopped going a few weeks later he met his father in the street you know his father said he said i also used to enjoy what used to come alive's mouth dropped open he couldn't believe it my father once said okay my mother you know women like to talk you know smooth with their kids a father he's a good old adult no a father also likes to have and you know something for the next 12 years his son law robusco caledonski told me the next 12 years that he did not miss a day that he didn't go to visit his father and listen to this he had a sister a prime minister sister that was in almanac at a young age and she moved in with her father with their father after the mother passed away so every morning when he went to visit his father he saw a sister and after the father died he visited her for years afterwards is with family as well of course you got to do herself outside the family of course and every single day you want to hear my favorite story about opine you won't believe this listen to this this story happened a number of years ago when he was much younger and he was able to walk much easier it was the month of tishrei and he wanted to get a little love so it goes into a store of rene brock he went in with his son-in-law and the proprietor sees oh raphael's coming whoa said yeah he gave him the most beautiful lullaby no i said no not this one he gives him a second one no the third one yeah this one i'll take okay he pays for it and he walks out with a son-in-law a guy comes running out of the store he says i don't believe what i just saw so the son-in-law says what'd you just say he said you know how long it takes me to get a little takes me an hour and a half to pick out a little your father-in-law was there 15 minutes he got a little of in 15 minutes god gave him the right one he said come with me he said where we're going just come with me they come he takes them to this they're pime's house got to walk up the stairs many of us did that right he comes into the table where raphael is there's 25 little of them on the table the guy says what is this listen to what he said the son-in-law said my father-in-law he knows everybody follows everything that he does if he would walk into a store to buy a lulu and he doesn't buy one that guy won't sell one more love because people will say hey raphaim couldn't find one i'm gonna find one so every story goes into he buys at least one little loaf now that he's got 25 it's gonna take him three hours to pick out the right one imagine that you gotta buy a suit or a hat or a dress or a you know tie a shirt whatever and if they don't have what you once had their problem now your problem will not burn up by him that's his problem that's what crested is all about one of my favorite stories of hazard only an earth stroke could this happen this happened on an egged bus right we've all been on the egged buses until we started renting cars right but we've all been on those egged buses so there was this religious egghead bus driver who loves his job he's got a kind word for everybody that comes on the bus a man a woman froome natural arab yeshiva boy whatever he's got a kind word for everybody one day he's driving his bus in your line and he sees a woman running with three kids and she's out of breath she's running with the kids she wants to make the bus and he holds up his hand and he says let's show her don't worry don't worry slow down i'll wait for you fine she gets on the bus she's out of breath she says sir thank you for waiting but do you mind if i put my kids back you know on the seat and i'll come up and i'll pay says yeah fine no problem and he starts driving she puts the kids in the seat and she opens up her purse and she sees she took the wrong purse she was rushing the wallet is in the other purse she has no money she was so humiliated she comes up to the bus driver and she says look i feel so bad i was rushing you saw i took the wrong purse i don't have my wallet here if you want i'll get off the next stop with the kids he says don't worry it's paid for she said what's paid for no you're fair it's all paid for who paid for it then we have a gamak on this bus there's a bus basket he said what does that mean what do you mean he said i'm telling you there's a bus go back it's all paid for no problem she goes back to the bus in the back of the bus the guy who's sitting behind the bus driving says excuse me sir is there really a pasta machine he says yeah he said who's the boss he says me he says you what does that mean he says listen to this what he said he said i live and i want to tell you the name the name of the town he said i live in ramata sharon the rabbi in our town for many years was arabiakov edelstein he was a rabbi for 50 years every day he said we got to do a headset i'm not a wealthy guy i'm a bus driver how am i going to do hassan oh i decided you know what sometimes somebody comes on the bus they don't have money or they can't find their money so i'm going to pay for it that's my so that's the basketball who thinks like that we have to think like that that's what is all about thinking out of the box trying to see how can i help somebody else who doesn't even expect to be helped and i'll tell you what i believe i'm telling you it's going to change your life keep a notebook every day write down a question that you did for somebody else don't write down five or ten i'm telling you you write down two or three because you want to make yourself feel you're going to feel terrible because some days you can't do two or three and you know what the hardest days to do three day yanta you know you can't text you can't carpool you can't make a call what are you gonna do right we're so reliant on texts and phones and everything how you can do a hustle for somebody you got to figure it out now i know i'm a video and i'm whatever you know what i do on the holidays i buy alias for people and you know what's the biggest bargain hot bun galileo because then you get two for one and if you got for two swearing you got four people you can make four people happy okay i just hope the people in my synagogue don't listen because otherwise you know i'll be in trouble the prices will go up but you got to think you got to think what could you do for somebody and that's how [Music] hashem sees that his children love each other so he spoke about constantly praying never giving up being a player not a fan being grateful and doing present let's talk about two more things you know there's a plastic that says like this yi shame hashem move hashem's name should be blessed from now until forever every single one of us has to be a walking talking kid to shame shamay what does that mean you know that means that every one of us that's here today tonight every one of us no matter where you go they know you're jewish smooth no snow cover your head don't cover your hair white yamaka keep us regarded black yamaka strimer whatever jacket no jacket white shirt black shirt white shirt polish or whatever you can't hide they know you're jewish so if they know you're jewish wherever you are you got to behave in the airport you got to behave on an airplane because otherwise you're going to be in a video it's going to go viral right you say something to the students or to the pilot before you know what the whole world will know about you you're in a grocery store you're driving it's frustrating driving a rockaway turnpike i was on rockaway turf park this morning it's crazy right they do that construction five lanes from eight seventy eight and rockaway town go comb into one lane so you know you might wanna say something to the construction worker as if it's his fault right he's working there he didn't put it up but the point is you walk by you say something they know you're jewish can i make it i want to tell you two great stories over the past two years one of the people that passed on one of the greatest women that passed away in claude israel her name was rebecca sheila feinstein she was the wife of rabbruv feinstein unfortunately she lost her life in a car accident now i knew her because i would see her at various conventions tomasura good or whatever she was the most wonderful place person rap moshe feinstein was her father-in-law he admired her so much so when she passed away i went to pay a shiver call to be mobile i went to staten island and the whole family was sitting in rabbuh vayne's basement very big house and i asked one of the daughters maybe you could tell me a story about your mother a special story about your mother so she thinks for a minute and she says i want to tell you i want to tell you something that happened right here in staten island that's where they lived she said in staten island we have an elementary school a yeshiva school it's not part of verizon but there was a rebbe a third grade rebbe who woke up late one morning and he realized he's got to get to school on time because the boys have to start dabbling and the kids are going to be in class they're not going to dial him properly if the rebbe is not there so he was driving a little too quickly and he was driving and there was a red light and he tried to stop at the light because there was a car standing at the light and unfortunately he couldn't stop in time and it banged into the car ahead of him now he knew it was his fault he gets out of the car and the lady gets out of this fancy car he takes a look she was wearing a big cross he knew that this was not a jewish woman and he said man i just want to tell you i am sorry it's my fault please don't call the police don't make an insurance report here's my name and number i'm a rabbi i don't have much money but whatever it costs i will pay you for it don't make just take it to a body shop and i will pay for it i have to run to the school i have to help the little kids pray please excuse me but here's my number i'll pay you everything just don't call the police to get into a little conversation and fine she says she'll do that a couple days later she calls him back and she says you know i went to the body shop and this is the estimate of course she was driving a fancy car and the estimate was very high so he said to her ma'am look i just want to ask you a favor if you don't want to do it i understand but i have a friend mandy who's got a body shop here in staten island and if you go to his shop you'll see he does beautiful work if you don't like to work you don't have to leave your car there but if you'll see that it does work i think that his estimate will be much lower than the estimate you got would you mind bringing the car there she thinks she says okay i'll do it and sure enough she brings the car a couple days later she calls him back she says you know you're right he does beautiful work and his estimate was much cheaper if you tell me to give in the car and that you'll pay for it i'll do it he says yeah fine a couple days later mandy calls this rebbe and he says you know on thursday i'm going to give back the car and i like to get paid you know full when i give the car you're going to be able to pay me he says yeah i think so i hope so now you're not going to believe this he calls the lady and he says look man i told you you know i'm gonna pay and i will but you see i'm a rabbi and i don't have much money so would you be willing to pay the bill when you get the car and i will pay you over the next year every first of the month i'll send you a check and over the next year then you'll get your money she thinks for a minute and she says yeah okay i'll do it and every first of the month he sends a check and by the 12th month he calls her up and he says look today the final check is due but i want to give it to you personally do you mind tell me where you live i want to talk to you and i want to give you the check personally she says okay fine he comes to the house it gives it a check he says ma'am i gotta ask you something before this accident i didn't know you you didn't know me but you were so kind to me you didn't call the cops you didn't call the insurance company you went to mendes and you paid the bill in advance why were you so nice to me you don't even know me listen to what she said she said i work in the public school system sheila feinstein is my principal as soon as i knew you were from her tribe i knew i could trust you imagine that because she i got she probably never even said anything to sheila feinstein but because oh sheila feinstein that you come from her tribe oh then i know i could trust you that's amazing that's a that's amazing and i'll tell you now another story which is so unbelievable and i want to tell you the day that it happened january 2nd 2020. it's very important to know what day that was because does everybody remember what happened january 1st 2020 that was the cma right 95 000 people i'm sure some of you were there in giant city at metlife stadium right that freezing day the whole sema shots right now the day after that cmr giant stadium there's a rabbi now my wife says i shouldn't say his name because he did something wrong but okay so i'll listen to her i mean if i wasn't on tape i wouldn't but she might see this but anyway okay i mean he didn't do anything but okay what happened was he lives in jackson outside lakewood and he was supposed to give a lecture in borrow park and he was running late so he was weaving in and out of traffic and he was speeding that's why my wife doesn't want i should say his name okay but he's a famous principal everybody knows his name okay so i'm not going to say who he is anyhow listen to this he's weeding in and out of the garden state and the cop stops him pulls him over i'm not going to believe this the first words out of the cop's mouth he says to him did you learn your page today he said excuse me officer he said i was working in giant stadium yesterday don't you guys study a page did you learn your page he says officer it's 10 30 in the morning i didn't get a chance to learn the page but i will learn it he said if you promise me that you'll learn it i won't give you a summons she says okay i promise i'll study the page and then the officer tells him like this he said i want to tell you what happened at the stadium yesterday a fellow officer comes up to me and he says i wish i was jewish i said to the officer why do you want to be jewish he said did you ever see a nation like this what are they celebrating 95 000 people singing and dancing they didn't want a lottery they studied a page and they understood it 95 000 people singing and dancing and now one of them is drunk imagine that and then he said the most amazing thing he said you know what another officer told me he said you know there was a big mistake yesterday at the stadium they call it giant stadium that's wrong it was a stadium of giants oh stadium of giants that's what we're all about that's what elul is all about we can all become giants if we pray if we hang in there if we're players and not fans and we have a karate tool and we care for each other and we understand that we are walking talking to the shame shamayim oh then we're giants we want to hear one of the greatest stories ever and this will show us what we're all about this story was told by a mohana amenal a principal in lakewood just a few weeks ago and they were having a hummish party for the first grade they were getting the hamashian for the first time and a lot of parents came from lakewood and a lot of grandparents came from all over so the principal robert kenarik told this story he said a few years ago in lakewood they announced that two days two days before the holiday of pesach school is going to be closed so that all the rebbies could be home and help the wives to prepare for the holiday so now it was two days before yandere and the fifth grade rebbe walked in to the kitchen and he said to his wife you know we have wolf today so i should be able to help her what can i do for you so she said you really want to know what you could do he said yeah of course he said we have six kids if you could take the six kids on an outing for four hours that would be the greatest take the kids out of the house i'll be able to clean and bake and cook i can do everything just get him out of the house he's thinking what's he gonna do where's he gonna go in lakewood for four hours so he has a great idea he's gonna go to newark airport on the airtrain now i don't know if you were on the air train it's very sleek it's really cool and it goes from terminal to terminal goes around the whole big airport it goes over the jersey turnpike and you see the planes taking off and landing and the kids were having a time they never had it they bought them snacks it was amazing they're on the train for two hours and they're having a great time at one of the terminals a pilot walks in very neat looking guy with a cap and a uniform he's a very friendly guy all these pilots are very nice and friendly southern guy he sees a father with six kids he goes out there and he says uh where are you all flying today kids know what to say so they look at the father so the father says actually we're flying nowhere [Music] he says nowhere so the father says you see we have a jewish holiday coming up in two days and my wife wanted to have you know peace and quiet so she could clean and bake so she asked me if i would take the kids on an outing so we're going you know together here and having a great time the pilot got very serious and listen to what he said he said young man i want to tell you something i've been a pilot for 25 years there is not a major airport in the world that i haven't landed in two years ago i got a text from my son and he wrote me dad you've never showed up to any of my birthdays you didn't have the decency to come to my graduation and last week you didn't even come to your first grandson my son's birthday do me a favor take my number out of your contacts and he said two weeks later i got the same text from my daughter he said young man i have flown everywhere but gone nowhere you told me that you're going nowhere but with your kids you're going everywhere and that's the final lesson that we have to learn tonight our children are our greatest investment we can go everywhere but if we're not going with our kids and we're not spending time with them we're going nowhere the future of claudia israel is with the children the grandchildren and the great grandchildren and we've got to spend time with them i remember that i once asked raphael of oba who was to because the wise man of the generation and he wrote so many books alisher and others and he wrote planting and building raising a jewish child fabulous i once asked him i said what should i tell parents i have the opportunity to speak to parents you know what he said tell parents they have to give their children two things time and love and my son was with me and he said to the rabbi he said how much time do we have to give our kids you know what the rabbi said as much as they need that's the answer [Music] we're here tonight but don't forget to tell your kids what you heard tonight don't forget to spend time with your children take a walk with children when was the last time you had a real conversation with your child just remember children need parents they need parents today more than ever they have to be validated they have to know that they are the link in the chain of claudia sorel so i just want to end with this fabulous story that has nothing to do with the speech except the brilliance and the godliness of raphael kanievsky i just heard this story despair shop as i was in baltimore and i was talking about raphael and a fellow comes over to me he says you want to hear the greatest story you'll ever hear about raphael i said listen i know quite a few stories he said no this is amazing now i called today to confirm this story and then you'll hear what raphaim said afterwards it's it's just not to be believed a 50 year old man in israel came to rabhaim kanyevsky and said to him you know i was never married i need a bracha that i should get married said to him well maybe ocala wasn't born yet he's 50 years old and raphael is telling him that his khala wasn't born yet he didn't know what to say so he left so puzzled and six months later he married a guilleress you see because a gear when she becomes against that's when she becomes born so two months after this guy was brought by him she became a guillotine now listen to this that's what i heard in baltimore so i called the rabbi who told over the story i said you got to tell me you you know it's true he said i want to tell you another thing he said this guy after he got married he came back to reply him to tell him now listen to this you have to listen to this he came back to tell raphaim that you know what you said was amazing because she was a guilleress you know what raphael said he said you know when i said it i was thinking maybe that's what i mean he said what rabhim explained him that sometimes he said things out of his mouth that he didn't even know that he said he didn't know why he said it he said hashem sometimes put words in my mouth and when i said that i was thinking you know maybe that's what it means that he's going to marry a guillorist i didn't want to tell to you but i thought you know maybe that's why god put it in my mouth that's the greatness of torah that's the greatness of judaism hashem should bless every single one of us here tonight and all those that are listening and watching because of ravi from kazakh and torah anytime we should have a wonderful year of tough shampoo it should be yeshua and we should be able to realize that although we were trapped and we were surrounded but we can stand up to that lion arya it's true elo rosh hashanah but bill said we can make it we got strength we got power and we got power in numbers hashem should bench the robe you should be able to leave the kahila towards meshiach and together we should fulfill our potential thank you for inviting me and thank you for listening [Music] have to play with you okay that's fine um i actually had something to say and then when i said hello i forgot everything i wanted to say but i um i okay i'll start with this i'll just remind again that was at the time we're going to have more shure in the san diego um and then ramon sure and we have uh uh primarily shapiro um i wanted to uh say oh i heard this uh last night actually i was listening to that podcast and a quarter of crone he says that there's a he has a a um what's the math uh a uh a theory whatever s w cubed over n is that okay so i heard s w cubed over n some will somewhat some won't so what next so we just heard a very inspiring speech and everyone wants to get out of the door i think also if they want to have our beats we could have as well um there's going to be learning after as well but we just heard a very inspiring speech and we're going to have more coming up but what are we going to do about it we say some will some won't so what next so i'm going to challenge this side of the mojito because i care i don't think it's probably to really challenge the women of the pizza but maybe i will but at least the people come to the school we have a call we have a night center program starting three years ago we started revamping every couple of months with different uh situations over here we you came at a good time because we are revamping this week again so we have a lot of people that are too available to give up to have kabuto i said earlier before so i challenge at least the men on this side to take upon at least one extra thing in their learning if i'm not saying one thing an extra thing and we have available where we have zakario gives you a night we have ruben upstairs already here who are giving at night and to even just come to commit till the end of let's say uh to the end of yom kippur if you want to get set up with a karuta once a week i will make it happen and anything you want even for a half hour 40 minutes here every night but uh but wednesdays so we have a lot of opportunities so some will some won't so what next so maybe some of you won't take me on this uh challenge but maybe some well it'll be worth it and then i'll challenge the ladies i'm not going to blame the wives because i know from speaking to some other wives it's not the wise fault why the husbands sometimes aren't here because sometimes the wives are telling me to push the husband but for for those husbands who want to come out and it's uh and sometimes the other side of the pizza it's a little bit harder for them to to let go of the husbands so once a week i challenge the ladies to to push the husbands to come and the husbands who don't want to come i challenge the ladies to push them as well and um just to thank my wife for robin because uh three years ago i wasn't coming at night either and uh we weren't really doing anything and i just kind of picked up and decided to start a program at night and do all these things randomly and kind of left her behind and we had a bunch of kids and she takes care of them and uh so i want to thank my wife robin and uh you should continue i i just and just because i dragged them went out so late already i promised uh robbie without robbie on a personal level individually none of this would really happen so robbie just wants to for i don't want to say very short because of the pressure him but for you guys so thank you very much as i go first off we should have a big round of applause [Music] a few years ago right next door in the trailers we had someone else spoke there it's only tremendous cheering for men and women to continue to grow and torah because of the place of torah one quick word is talking about elevating your elo which everyone should join us the flyers outside please take a picture of it share it to your friends and family once you join us this sunday and all the other upcoming shirum another way to elevate your l is is driving chronology talks about he's talking about palindrome tonight and he specifically says famously the venos that when you think you're gonna give to others you're fine i'm giving to them but no really you're giving to yourself so so so one one way about about giving to others is we know kazakh is famous for organizing shirim shirum and inspiring people who might not be know it what might not be known is that is that to help one's spearheading thousands of public school students as we know in the neighboring towns around us thousands of public supposed to everyone's sitting right now in this room or watching online everyone knows a child was who was in public school a relative a friend or social public school and what you could do and elevate your elbow is by elevating the the lives of of your friends and family all over their elbow for right now in the school year so please reach out to hazak to help transfer them to yeshiva or for a sunday school after school program and it'll be a tremendous uh merit for yourself and for your family just the last five six years alone kazakh has helped transfer over 1200 kids from homeless to yeshiva but that's a small fraction of the potential so we should all take that message to heart and we're not going to read right now thank you very much