Rabbi Shais Taub Live Call-In Show -- Thu Jul 24 ☎️

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Yeah. The lunar cycle. And then there's the weekly cycle. The week, you know, it's interesting because the solar cycle is, you know, the sun. The lunar cycle is, you know, the moon. And the weekly cycle is not really um associated with any actual astronomical phenomenon phenomena. By the way, that's one of my pet peeves is when people use phenomena as a singular, they say, "Wow, that's a really cool phenomena." Well, no, it's a phenomenon, plural phenomena. At any rate, anywh who um the week, what is the week? It's not associated with any observable uh astronomical phenomena. The week is associated with metaphysical cycles of energy, the six days of work and the seventh day of rest with which within which God created the world. It's something of a miracle that the entire world ubiquitously follows the 7-day biblical week. That wasn't always so. The Romans had a different structure. You know, ever heard of the ides of March. So, um, pretty cool. At any rate, Thursday night is the last night of the week days. Tomorrow night will be Shabas. And um this is the last night of the week day and this is sort of like the clean up. We're uh wrapping it all up for the week. It's kind of like a hangout night. Some people call it l shishi s the sixth night of the week. And uh it's got a Thursday night type of vibe. That's why we call it the Thursday night call-in show. Someone wrote in the chat, "Why does some people have easier lives and others have harder lives?" and e and the easy people get respect and the more suffering people get outcasted. It's a double hardship. Well, okay, that's not always true that the easy people get respect, people who have easy lives get respect, and the people who have hard lives get rejected. But it is sometimes true. It is often true. And you're right, when that does happen, that is a double hardship. Listen, I'm going to tell you something. I'm going to share with you a secret. And that is everybody has, get ready for this, exactly the same hardness of life. How's that possible? We see for ourselves. Some people have really hard lives. Some people have really easy lives. Well, because everything is in accordance with the person, the camel according to his load, the donkey according to his burden. Some people can only handle so much. Some people can handle more. Some people can handle less. Now, you're going to say, "Well, I feel like I've been given more than I can handle." And I get you, brother. I feel that way often, too. Oh boy. Sometimes it feels like, you know, God is overestimating me. I heard somebody say, you know, uh, God will never give you a problem that you cannot bear, but I really wish he would ha he would stop having such a high opinion of me. I can definitely relate to that sentiment. At any rate, can I ask you a question, Rabbi? I'm just reading. Yeah, you could write whatever you want in the chat. I mean, if I think it's trolling or if I if I don't like it or if I think it's controversial, I won't read it. But it weighs heavy on my heart. I'm just reading it. Can I ask you a question, Rabbi? It weighs heavy on my heart. Okay, go ahead. I may not deem it appropriate conversation for the show. I hope you won't be offended. Not everything is appropriate for the show, but you could definitely write it here. You could ask it. How's everybody doing? How are we feeling? How are we feeling? We feeling good. Are we feeling good? Um, what do I want to tell you about? What I want to tell you? Got very little sleep last night. Maybe like two hours. That was uh Yeah. What's up? you at all. What's going on? Technical difficulties. Everything's smooth. Everything's good. Smooth. Okay. Somebody's writing a heavy question in the chat. A question that weighs heavily on his heart. I'm looking to see if anyone donated so that I could read their donation dedication. charitywithd.comd charitywithd.comrrist. There's no donations so far. Why don't I not see any donations? Okay. Um I believe I have FAS and HSP. How do I cope? I would have to I would have to Google FAS. I think HSP is highly sensitive person. I don't know what FAS is. Okay, this person says they converted to Judaism a few years ago at 22 years old and I felt a deep spiritual connection to the way of life that I now call my own. Went through a full conversion. Okay. All right. Doesn't the book of Eve disagree with your statement? The answer God gives is that you weren't around and I run everything. I don't think everyone has the same. How is that a contradiction? How is what I said a contradiction to uh to what the sentiments of the book of y are not a contradiction that to the contrary when God says you weren't where were you when I formed the world meaning to say if you could stand with me and have the perspective of seeing the world before it existed then you would see how every single thing that happens has a place part of the plan. Nothing is random. Nothing is excessive or superfluous or extra or haphazard. So yeah, everyone has the same. What do you think that means? You think that literally means that everybody gets the same? No. It's like I explained, if a 10 cup gets 12 ounces, it's going to overflow. But if a 12 oz cup gets 12 ounces, it's not going to overflow. So if I tell you that I put 10 ounces in the 10 oz cup and I put 12 ounces in the 12 oouncez cup, they didn't get the same amount, but they're both full and that means they are the same in that respect. You get what I'm saying? Everyone according to their capacity. What's the phone number to call in? I explained earlier, maybe you weren't on. We do not give out the phone number to call in because we don't want people calling in and saying baba buoy baba buoy. So what we do is I'll explain it again. You can send an email to [email protected]. You're going to say that's too much trouble. I'm not even going to go to that trouble. Great. That's why we create this barrier to entry. We might we want to make it a little bit harder. You email [email protected] with a one-s sentence, two sentence synopsis of what you want to talk about. We like that because it shows us it's a real person. We can I can basically tell when I see an email, I can tell if it's legitimate or not. And then if we feel like it's a good subject for the show, we give you the call-in number. That's how it works. What? No, it's fine. Infoswords.org. [email protected]. Okay. I'm still reading this thing. I was even circumcised. And even after everything, the Jewish community still doesn't consider me a full Jew. Okay. This was very hard for me spiritually. Okay. So, I mean, it's very hard for me to have this conversation in a in a chat, but what does it mean the Jewish community doesn't accept you? like you're saying like people's attitude towards you is they act towards you like you're not really welcomed or they literally tell you no your conversion was not legitimate. We're not counting you in a minion. Like I'm trying to distinguish. I mean both things would be hurtful but I just want to understand what you're describing and um I'm just I'm having a few conversations simultaneously in the chat at the same time. But why do some people people have bigger cups? And what does that say about them? Why do some people have bigger cups? Why why do some people have brown eyes? Why why does some people Why are some people right-handed and some people are left-handed? Everyone was created differently, my friend. Um, also, what source talks about this idea of everyone getting a full cup? No source. It was my metaphor. My goodness. I made up the metaphor of the full cup, but the source that I quoted before was from the Talmud where I said the camel according to his load and the donkey according to his burden. Or there's other sources in the sages like I'm only asking according to your capacity. Okay, so someone's saying he was converted in a conservative setting. Okay. So, basically you were converted by a conservative uh beten and now what? You're going to an Orthodox synagogue and they're telling you that the conservative conversion was not legitimate because if that's what's happening, it's very painful and I get that. But I wouldn't take it personally. It's just, you know, that that's the policy that they follow. I mean, it's it's not a personal thing against you. It's that's that's the policy that they follow. That's those are the standards that they have. Um, Rabbi, what is self-destruction? Why do I have a self-destructive streak within me? I'm a very creative person and often wonder if creativity has a destructive side. Ooh, that is an interesting topic to explore. Today's topic, self-destruction. And it really ain't the rap audience that's bugging some of you suckers, ignorant brothers trying to rob and steal from one another. Google that and you tell me what that is. You someone who tell me in the chat what I just said and you will impress me. I think there is a very deep link between self-destructive tendencies and creativity. And I'll tell you why. Creative people are sensitive people generally speaking. Um they feel things deeply. Well, when you feel things deeply, sometimes that feeling of just existence being too intense, existence itself just being too intense and you just want to blot it out. That's why a lot of creative people like a lot of artists are addicts. They want that self-numbing. You just want to check out. So that's where that self-destructive tendency comes from. It's the um misguided attempt to curb the intensity of feeling that hyper sensitive people have. Does that make sense? You get what I'm saying? Get what I'm saying? Okay, let me go check on the donations. Oh, we have a caller waiting. Okay, so I'm going to put on the headphones. All right. And if you want to donate, it's at charity.comrst. charity.comrs. [Music] And our first caller is on the line. Adena, are you with us? >> Yes. >> Hi. >> Hello. >> Thank you for calling in. I always am grateful that people choose to to do this and it and it generally benefits a lot of people. >> Thank you for that. >> Well, okay. All right. So, we're both thankful to each other that we're here and I'm sure the listeners are all thankful. And what are we talking about tonight? >> Um, neurode divergence for a change. >> For a change. Okay. You're joking because you you're saying I' I've been talking about that a lot lately, right? Well, I guess we both have. >> All right. So, why is it coming up so often? >> And myself. >> Yes. >> Well, it's coming up a lot because as a neurode divergent um mother with um at least one neurode divergent children, um it it comes up because it's related to everything. >> Yeah. Um it comes out in everything and presents challenges that I mean of course the gifts as well but it presents also the challenges that are mostly unseen to the outside world or to the neurotypical world and um often has me um even though I think I've come a long way but has me kind of questioning you know how much of this can I handle? That's interesting. Were you listening before you uh before I picked up your call? >> No. >> Somebody was asking me about how come different people have different degrees of challenges in life. And I and I said, you know, we believe that the camel is loaded according to its strength and the the donkey is loaded accord gets a burden according to its capacity and that everybody is given what they can handle. And then I mentioned as an aside, I said, you know, somebody once told me, God will never give you anything he doesn't think you can't handle, but I wish he would stop thinking so highly of me. >> Right. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. So God's been thinking highly of you lately. >> Yeah. >> I don't know. >> I mean, apparently if you've been given greater challenges, then that's a recognition that you were given a greater capacity. I mean, that's a fundamental belief. >> Yeah. I think for the my I feel like my my question is really seeing myself as being the one of the bigger challenges the way that I operate and the way that I think about things and the way that I and sort of process information differently. >> Yes. >> Um as being a you know sometimes feeling like my my own biggest obstacle. Yeah. >> Well, you know, that's interesting. Basically, what you're saying is, look, there are different types of challenges in life. Like some challenges are you objectively have a problem. There's this issue in your life that's outside of you and you have to either, you know, get around it or or go through it or get away from it. But what you're saying is your problem is not something outside of you. It is not not only is it inside of you, it is you. It's like it's a part of you. U maybe it's not even a part of you because like to say it's a part of you implies like you could like section it off and put it somewhere like it is you. It is Yeah. It is who you are. It's your wiring. >> And when you know the problem is in a particular area when you could point at it and say that's the problem. So then you could also say okay so like don't go there right? But when you're saying, "No, my problem is the way that my brain is wired." >> There's an expression where wherever you go, there you are. >> Right. So the the problem is is everywhere you go. >> Yeah. >> And you get no rest from >> I think. Right. And I think also um on maybe on a more specific level because I didn't really articulate this, but as a Jewish female, I feel like there are certain expectations um as far as you know, I guess executive functioning and >> yeah, >> skills that we are assumed to have that are things that these are just areas that I feel like I always fall short in even though I know that this is how I was, you know, this is sort of it's like me by design. So I I know that I have strengths in other areas and I can connect to my kids in in in very I think interesting ways. Um, so I'm not downplaying that. It's just more like practically, you know, especially with like like with each kid that I've had. Thank god it's like more stuff to juggle. >> Yeah. >> Um, so I'm wondering kind of what is Rabbi Tub's >> Okay. >> thought on that. >> Yeah. because I just want to translate it a little bit for you. >> When you're talking about the expectations of a Jewish woman, >> talking about being a balabosta, you're talking about being able to somehow >> um make shabas every It's Thursday night, by the way. And uh you know, prepare shabas meals. No stress. It's okay. Don't worry. Prepare Shabas meals and to have your kids dressed nice and cute with matchy outfits for Shabas and to have guests and to have uh family come for Peso and and and to stay over and to entertain. You're getting stressed. I hear I hear it. I feel the stress just talking about it. >> Yeah. >> Breathe. Just breathe. It's okay. It's not really happening. I'm just talking about it. >> Okay. So, let let's talk. >> I am having guests for shabas and I do. >> Good for you. >> I just >> All right. But it's it's not what it looks like in someone else's house. I know this is not this is not okay to talk like that. It's not okay. It's just not. I'm >> Why is it not okay? >> It's just not. It's not the way. >> No, we're we're going to do Can you do something with me tonight? Can we start something? >> Can we do something that will be a boon for the mental health of Jewish women? >> Oh, >> we are going. Yeah. >> Okay. We're going to break We're going to start to break a stigma because >> Yeah, we are. We're going to start to break that stigma because feeling the pressure to live up to a very particular image of what being a Bibbuster looks like is choking people to death. We're going to break that stigma and we're going to say it is okay to talk the way you're talking. It is okay to feel the way you're feeling. It is okay for your home to look however it looks and you're doing your best and as long as your children feel loved. Do your ch Do your children feel loved? >> I think so. >> Okay. That's huge. That's everything. That's everything. Got it. >> That's everything. That's everything. >> Well, yeah, but I can't focus on both. So, I just do one. >> Okay. And when you have to pick one or the other, which one do you pick? >> I know. Well, that's why I'm doing it. make the hearts of palm avocado salad uh with the with the or do you you know play with your kid? >> No, I just I I I play with them. >> Good. That's the right choice. That's the right choice. And you go >> Thanks to Rabbi Tub. >> You're giving me credit. Why do I get credit? >> Oh, because because that Thanks to Rabbi Tab. I know. No, I know. I know that that's what I'm supposed to be doing. You go to the grocery store and you go get yourself some hummus >> and someh eggplant and uh some herring >> and uh yeah, that's it. Everything's fine. >> But the guilt that comes with I did I bought takeout. It's I'm so guilty this week. >> Take out >> and I usually don't. It's so not okay. >> It is okay. It's 100% okay. Where does it say in Where does it say in the code of Jewish law? You're supposed to honor Shabas. You are honoring Shabas. You You eat some You eat something nicer than you would normally eat, something different than you normally eat. Where does it say you have to slave away and and make yourself uh exhausted and not take care of your kids? >> I don't know. >> Where does it say that? These are all cultural things. Let's talk. Okay, this is inside baseball. I don't know. I don't know who my audience is. like a lot of people listening are not necessarily Jewish, let alone like part of this Orthodox community. But I I'm going to go on a soap box for a minute and unless you're part of the Orthodox Jewish community, you probably won't relate to this, but there are a lot of standards that people feel intense pressure to live up to. And those standards have nothing to do with Torah. They're not even, forget about being, they're not even min. literally just cultural things that have zero value in terms of Toyos. I know I'm speaking very yeshivish, very inside baseball. Anybody who's not part of this community is completely lost. But you know what? If this saves one uh one Jewish mother from feeling like a failure because she doesn't have the uh broccoli salad with the cashews and the purple onions in it, you know that salad, right? If you don't have that, you're a failure, right? I'm glad at least somebody's laughing. Okay? You are a good Jew. I want to tell you something. God loves you even if you don't have the uh what the the sushi salad, the five layer sushi salad. Hashem still loves you even if you don't have uh so what what are all the other show offy uh salads? What? >> Chips. >> Pistachio salmon. You don't have to have pistachio salmon to be loved by Hashem. You know what I'm talking about. The whole the whole side of the salmon is like covered in pistachio crunchy crust. You don't need that. Hashem will still love you. You don't What else? You saw Give me some more ideas. Open up one of these uh like cookbooks, one of these from cookbooks, and just start whipping out recipes. What else? What? Give me another one. You have another You trying to think ramen noodle salad? Oh, spinach. You don't, Hashem will still love you if you don't have a baby spinach salad with crunched up ramens and soy sauce and honey. And Hashem will still love you even if you don't have that. Hashem will love you if you take a bag of Bodic lettuce and pour it in a bowl and squirt some Thousand Island on top and Hashem will still love you. I what I'm enjoying right now is that you're cracking up because literally no one else listening is enjoying this like what is he talking this is the most this is bizarre I'm not following this whatsoever but you know what if one person and in this case I know who the one person is it's you so that's it I'm glad you're enjoying but can you think about how ridiculous that is that like the pressure to create these really really like highly culturally specific dishes. Like, by the way, I I could just illustrate to you how specific this stuff is. Your grandmother never heard of these salads. I don't know if she was nervous or not ne. Did she ever hear of these salads? They never heard of this. They never heard of it. Like the the the the pressure to conform to these really super specific cultural standards. This was the these these are completely fabricated madeup things. So listen, I can't help you that like being in school was probably torture for you because that's what school is. School is, >> you know, don't be never be resentful at school because school is an institution. What did you expect? You expected more from school. So if you tell me that school was absolute torture for you, I get it because that's a whole thing. It's designed to be torture, but you're an adult. You can do whatever you want. I want to tell you something. I'm I'm 100% serious right now. If tomorrow, if your husband's cool with it, tomorrow night you want to eat cereal, you want to eat Fruity Pebbles at your Shabas table, it's 100% fine. Okay. Now just to make sure that you don't think I'm I'm I'm like not religious or something you you make kdesh okay and your cave that means you have to actually have a meal that means you have to wash you have to wash you have to have is a real thing some people even say it's a so I'm not joking around with things that are real yeah okay you're gonna wash and have okay no it doesn't have to be sourdough bread with the with the whole granola thing smeared to the side it can just be regular You'll be a box of manachevitz matzas and then you want to go serve fruity pebbles. You can serve fruit. Oh, fish and flesh. Okay, that's if that's shabas for you. If it's shabas, then you can do it. But you want to serve everyone's going to eat Fruity Pebbles. Be my guest. I think that you should actually, you know what I I think you should do, not that you should be on social media or anything, but I think if you are already on social media, I think you should um take a picture right before candle lighting, obviously before candle lighting, you can't take a picture after candle lighting of your Shabas table with milk and fruity pebbles and post it on Instagram and say like This is my and just do it just to break the stigma to shatter that those those superimposed artificial expectations that have nothing to do with anything that matters. How you like that? >> Well, I'm just imagining my mother-in-law's reaction. Okay, let's talk about it. Your mother-in-law doesn't have a sense of humor. >> Um, >> not about those things >> for that. >> Okay. Those things are very serious. I'm not >> Yeah, I'm not so sure. >> Okay. So, she takes those things very seriously. >> Yeah. Also, >> you can you can respect that about her. Like if she's a real Bible stuff, you can compliment her and say, "Yeah, >> you're amazing. Like what you do, >> you're so it's it's so amazing." Like, and you can it's okay to genuinely be impressed with and admire people for qualities that that you don't yourself value having yourself. Everyone can be different. So, I do I do and I think I'm pretty expressive about it, but there's a lot of there's a lot of um a lot of sophisticated um sophisticated shabas tables in the family. >> Yeah. >> Um and maybe that's where some of the >> You said sophisticated shabas table. >> Yeah. You're saying like the level >> sophisticated menus, the menus and the presentations and the it's like maybe on the, you know, more extreme side of higher than the average level of culinary focus and culinary impressiveness >> like churder boards. >> Um, >> no, not that not that type. Just really involve >> intricate >> recipes with presentation and hard work. handmade strudel >> steps. Just lots and lots. All I see is steps. >> Yeah. >> I just They make me think of steps. >> Yeah. >> Right. And that makes your brain melt. >> I'm just confused. I just can't I can't wrap my head around how anybody follows that stuff. >> Yeah. >> What do you do that's special? Like what do you do as specifically as as a Jewish mother that you know is special meaning it's not common like what do you bring I don't want to say bring I don't want to say bring to the table because I want to get away from the table no shabas or anything like tell me about your special qualities >> that you excel in as far as just anything that you do in your home for your family that that you're proud of, that you think you do well, and that you know not everybody does. Um um probably the probably like the the I mean I try I try really hard to put a lot of time and effort into you know my relationship with my kids. >> Tell me about that. Um, I think I'm very deliberate about, you know, your interactions with them. >> Yeah. Just like interactions and and really trying to trying to do it um trying to break some pretty bad cycles. >> Yeah. Um and um >> so so you're saying you're you're very careful about how you interact with your children. >> You're watching yourself. >> Like I really I'm put a lot of I put a lot of energy into like >> Yeah. >> Um regulating like self-regulation and um just trying to like like I I take it, you know, I take like the job pretty seriously. So, >> so you're talking about >> I feel like >> you're you're on top of your game or you try to be on top of your game as far as like not only avoiding the negative stuff like snapping at your kids or whatever, taking out your stress on them, but even trying to focus on the positive stuff like having um connecting with them in a way that that makes them feel cared for and shows them that you understand >> like trying to spend a lot of one-on-one time. >> Yeah. >> As much as I can, obviously. Um, and paying attention to the things that are important to them and trying to remember the little things that they told me and trying to um, >> yeah, >> you know, if they really like something to remember to they really want a certain things, you know, to eat a certain thing on Chabas, either to make that the thing that I prioritize making or um, you know, if it's like a candy or something to try to pick it up before, you know, That's it. >> So, in other words, not to just make a dish that's fancy and impressive, but to go out of your way to get the dish that will be meaningful to a particular member of your family. >> Um, yeah. I mean, I try. >> You try. Okay. By the way, somebody's writing in the chat, and I want to push back very hard. Someone wrote in the chat, "The challenge is when you value tradition so much and it's hard to let go." Were you listening to anything I said? I said, "This is not tradition. This has nothing to do with tradition. These dishes were all made up 10 years ago. Your Bubby never heard of these things. Why is this guy telling me tradition? Go talk to your fiddler on the roof with your tradition. I don't want to hear about it." All right. Someone wrote in the chat, by the way. Uh, sounds like you're a wonderful mother. I agree. I concur. >> Oh, >> yes. I mean, some internet stranger. You have no idea. This could be some creep, by the way. Don't get too flattered, but okay. But I say you're a wonderful mother and I I think I'm a normal person. So I think my compliment should mean something. Okay. All right. No, but really I mean let's be serious. What you're talking about here what you're and I'm taking your words at face value and and it has a ring of truth to it. It doesn't sound like you're you're making this up. It sounds like something that really you have put a lot of effort into. Listen, I pick things up, okay? I I I don't know you, but I can pick some stuff up here. Okay. You have made you made a decision. I don't know if it was like there was a turning point in your life where you made this decision or it was a gradual thing, but you made a commitment. Your children are going to be raised with a certain amount of love and security and safety, emotional safety. And and you've been living up to that commitment that you made to yourself. And I want to tell you, any parent who actually takes parenting seriously would consider that incredibly successful and and and would have a great deal of admiration for you. So, you know, I really think that you need to give yourself permission to stop worrying about all of the um artificially constructed social pressure and continue to focus your energy where you've chosen to put it, which I think is the best investment, the best possible area in which you can invest your energy is in forging a meaningful bond with your children. And not only should you give yourself like an exemption and forgive yourself and say you're okay, but I think yes, it would be actually appropriate for you to be proud of yourself and to say, you know what, I'm a great mom. I could be better. I could be even better. Could always grow. We could always be even better. But I'm a great mom. I'm not I'm not second best. I'm not I'm not some type of uh Nabak. I'm I'm actually very proud of myself and and and if you can't do it for yourself, do it because by divine providence you are on a public forum and people are listening and I don't know how old you are, but for the 25year-old girl who is just starting to realize what she got herself into and is feeling over her head and overwhelmmed home and she hears you say with sincerity, you know what? I I ordered takeout for Shabas, but you know what? My kids feel loved and I'm a great mom. And you can say that with sincerity, even if you can't do it for yourself, but say it for that young woman who may be listening >> right now. >> Well, yeah, because people are listening. I mean, if you say it after you hang up, then won't really have the same effect. I mean, you don't have to say it if it's like forced. If you're not feeling it, you don't have to say it. >> Um, I think I need to sit with it. >> Okay, fair enough. I hope that you will take it seriously that that's something you know we do need to break a stigma. It's a not a joke. This this pressure is causing a lot of unwarranted grief, a lot of unnecessary grief. And if we can push back against it as a as a society, as a community, it'll make life a lot better for our kids. You're already a cycle breaker. You know, you're a cycle breaker already, right? I know that. So, I want to give you a promotion that not only should you be a family cycle breaker, but you could be a cycle breaker on an even larger scale, on a community scale. You can start to show yourself as a model for others of what a a loving, devoted Jewish wife and mother looks like. Wait, what? So, I have to say it on air. >> No, no, no, no. I'm going to make it even harder for you. You don't have You said you have to sit with it. You're not ready to say it on the air right now. What? But what you do, what you should do in my humble opinion is start to be a little bit um well start to consider yourself as a as a as a role model. I don't mean that you have to go take out a billboard and advertise how you live, but I mean if by divine providence there are people that you cross paths with, talking about other women and you can set an example for them that would be liberating for them. I think you should feel a duty to do that. In other words, instead of bemoning the pressures that exist, fight back against those pressures for the sake of other women. >> You know, how do you do that with relatives though? >> That's a delicate issue. >> When everybody's everyone in Betty Crocker, everyone. I mean, I don't want to I'm very hesitant to get into this, you know, a live call on the air, but I mean, is your husband okay with the fact that you're not Betty Cracker? >> Yeah. >> So, that's all that matters. Betty Crocker. Yeah, Betty Crocker. So, is Betty Crocker a real person? [Music] I'm looking in the chat right now. Thank you, Rabbi Tab. This mom is inspiring. And I know who wrote that, by the way. I know this person. She's also a hardworking Jewish mother. She wrote, it's Rhonda. Hi, Rhonda. Jenny was she said that you're inspiring. Oh, Adena, you're a big-time winner. Kha Cavode. And I'll just It's from my friend Tamir Goodman, the Jewish Jordan. good friend of mine, a uh basketball player and and coach, a mentor to many young people, and uh when he says, "You're a big-time winner. He's a very competitive guy, a very successful guy, and he knows what he's talking about." Um, just strolling through the comments, when you put your head on your hand, Rabbi, away from the mic, your voice becomes a little softer. I mean like this like this. The point of shabas candles is shol bias. If you have the fanciest things but no scholias, you don't have shabas in my opinion. Great point. I'm just looking at the comments. Salsa and chips for the win. Oh, I know who wrote that, by the way. The guy who wrote that actually is uh manager of a kosher grocery store. So, as long as you buy them from the right store. By the way, I buy all of my Shabas and weekday bear from Coulave, my favorite kosher gross. Cole Save. Is it in Lawrence? Where is it in Lawrence? Couls in Lawrence, New York, where I buy all my stuff. They get all the good stuff. Rabbi, could you explain briefly? I know volumes have been written about this. the difference between okay this this that's okay maybe I'll get back to that but uh true I remember takeout as a kid on Shabas but lighting the candles is unforgettable even as a kid even if as a kid you don't grasp the full meaning uh you feel extra pressure from stigma than children feel extra stigma pressure it does harm at the end of the day sounds like a good scholas all around it gives me hope for myself one day uh Uh, okay. All right. And you got a lot of support, Adina. You got a lot of support out there from people who whose opinion I mean, I know these people. These are these are good people. They don't they're not just uh it's not just idol chatter over here. People respect what you're doing. I respect what you're doing. And I'm trying to actually recruit you to fight the good fight and to uh make it easier for all the young women coming up behind you. >> Fruity Fruity Pebbles. It is >> Fruity Pebbles, salsa and uh corn chips or whatever you got to do. You have children who are emotionally safe and feel loved. There is nothing greater than that. There's nothing greater that a human being can accomplish in a lifetime than raising children who feel emotionally safe and loved. And I promise you that not having 20 different salads on the shabas table does not make one bit of difference whatsoever. I think you inspired a lot of people. I think especially on a Thursday night, I promise you, even if we're not seeing it in the comments, there's some other Balabusta on a Thursday night who's freaking out because it's 10:30 New York time on a Thursday night and she just decided, you know what? I'm going to be cool like Adena. I'm going to the store. I'm going to buy some salads. I'm not going to make my own kala. It's fine. It's all going to be good. I'm going to spend some extra time with my kids. Make sure that they feel loved. Okay. I I think this is a very productive call, but I would like you to follow up with me if not if when you have the opportunity to uh to make a difference for someone else, please let me know about it because I will feel gratified that there was a ripple effect from our conversation. >> Sounds good. Okay, I got another caller waiting, so we got move on. But that was an awesome call. Thank you so much. >> Thank you so much. >> My pleasure. Keep keep in touch. >> Have a very restful Shabases also. >> Okay. Be well. >> Thank you. >> Yeah. Good night. Okay. Our next caller on the line is Shosana. Are you there? Are you with us? Hello. What? One second. It all says just wait one second. You can talk loud. It's okay. We're very informal here. What? I want to wish a happy birthday to a dear friend of soulwards. My personal friend Mendel Mintz who turns 30 years old. I want to wish him good health and happiness. Uh continued success in all of his endeavors both publicly and personally. And uh God willing actually I will see Mandal next week. in Baltimore. And uh I don't know if that's if we can get information about that event, but maybe we'll maybe we'll share information about that event if it's okay to share publicly here on this forum. But at any rate, happy birthday, Mendel Mintz. A real friend, a true friend, a personal friend. Um and we also want to direct your attention to the website miriamsleacy.org. org. That is, and I'm going to type it here. Miriam's legacy.org. That's the website. I think there's information about the event. Miriam's legacy is named for Mendele's uh late wife, Miriam, whose first yard site is coming up next week. Dallid of uh an incredible woman. Um just uh we were just talking to a Jewish uh wife and mother a moment ago talking about the the strength of Jewish women and I I personally knew Miriam Allah Shalom and she was a very special DMakaya of a strong proud Jewish woman and uh her memory should be a blessing and we wish revealed brahas of all manners of good to uh to Mendele on today on his birthday. Okay. What am I supposed to do with it? You still think Okay, they're paying for the Uber. Okay, fine. All right. Do we have the next caller on the phone? Okay. Shosana. Hello. >> Hi, Rabbi Tab. How are you doing this evening? >> I'm doing well. So, what are we talking about tonight? >> Well, I just I just want to say something about your previous caller that was such an inspiring >> that was just so awesome that you know, she may not be a a Betty Cracker, but in my book, she's a Betty A Betty Kaker. >> Oh, there you go. I like it. >> Very good. >> Oh, that was so special. >> Yeah. >> So, >> so >> Yeah. >> So, what's Yeah. What's with me? Um I just had my 70th birthday and um >> Thank you. It's It's a wonder to be alive. Um, and I've, you know, I consider myself a BTIP in progress. >> Um, >> raised, you know, completely >> BT, I'm assuming is Balshova in training. >> In progress. IP. >> Oh, IP in progress. Okay, fine. >> Yes. >> Right. >> Um, >> not a finished product yet. >> Not a finished product. Exactly. >> Yeah. You're Yeah. Well, still have time >> from your mouth to God's ears. So, it's, you know, when you come to taking this return around the river, I won't say turn, return around the river. And you're not, you know, in college or high school or, you know, in the dating world or young professional. I I have a life behind me. Um, I've raised children. They're they're they're grown. Um, my relationships, you know, as I I have changed. I didn't expect to to change so much on the inside. >> Mhm. >> But that appears to be what what is happening. And it's there it things have changed in some of the relationships in my life that are very meaningful. And I really there's not a whole lot out there uh you know in terms of advice, support, uh the the way forward, the path for people who do this later in life >> um as there is for younger people. So um you know I'll just to give you a a flavor of what I'm talking about. You know my my women friendships have always been very important to me. Uh I'm I I bring people together. That's what I do in my life. And um at the reform shield that I had belonged to, you know, a decade and a half ago or more, um you know, we I developed a circle of close women friends that we we actually even called ourselves, you know, sisters. >> Um and these women, they're they're they're wonderful people. when my parents both, you know, uh passed away, they were there for me in every way you can imagine. Um but when when things started to change for me, keeping kosher and keeping shabas, it it really has strained some of those relationships and our worldviews have changed. So an an example of that would be I had one of these friends ask me really I'm not exaggerating when I say she said don't you feel like a secondass citizen sitting on one side of the makita and it you know it it hurt me um it wasn't a question of like what is your experience of the makita what is your experience of having moved from one way of davening to another it like it was just as I said. >> Yeah. >> So that's that's kind of an example. Uh another quick example is >> um within I don't know about a around the first anniversary of October 7th, the first year. Um, we're sitting around. I actually had invited people over for uh a Shabas lunchon and then these women were over for Shabas lunch and and we're talking about this the situation in the Middle East and one of the women said, "Well, what happens next to the hostages is up to Israel." And I just like flinched. And I'm like, h what? you know, this, you know, person very sympathetic and and not that we shouldn't be sympathetic to whatever innocent lives are being lost. It's a terrible situation, but the the sense of primary identity not being with the hostages and their families, but like you know, like Israel's responsible for their fate. No, the people who took them or you know, what are you talking about? And this is c, you know, this and because I'm a IP, you know, and I live I'm not in the city, you know, I'm I'm sort of, you know, I'm in I'm in a location that for just that doesn't have a co one even one kosher restaurant. So, um, and I don't the the city that's nearby that has an Arab, I'm not even there. I'm elsewhere. So, on I'm not whatever small observant community. There is I'm limited to my beautiful beloved families. There's there's there's two two generations of families that serve us here where I am. And I can't say enough I'm going to get choked for clemp here. I can't say enough wonderful things about what these people have brought to so many lives, my own included. But I'm not there's not it's a little lonely and I sort of feel, you know, like I'm sort of stuck on the bridge. I haven't fully crossed over and I'm not even sure what, you know, what that looks like and I'm not really where I started and things are kind of falling off the bridge. So, it's it's not the biggest issue, but it is an issue. Um, I have to just say one thing. I am married and my husband for the longest time, you know, I've been going, you know, doing my best to keep Shabas at home and he he wasn't on board for a really long time. And I I just Baroo Hashem, I cannot tell you my my have just counseledled me. So when I would go and say, you know, I'm frustrated because, you know, I he does he doesn't want this, he doesn't want that, he doesn't want he I would be I was told, do not go home and fight about Judaism. Just whatever you do, go home and make it beautiful for him. >> That's right. >> And we he now comes to shul with me every shabas. >> Beautiful. >> He puts on fillin when they when he's asked. He used to bite them off like with a bat. Now he now he glows. It's so, >> you know, I have wonderful things to be grateful for, but this these and intimate friendships, really intimate friendships are not what they they've changed, and I really don't know what to do about it, if there is anything to do about it. So that's that's what that's what I'm hoping you can shed some light on. >> Yeah. You know there are different seasons to friendships. Friendships are not a static thing. People are in our lives at different times in different ways. And I think it's natural. Maybe you've been very lucky in the I'm not sure. But I mean, most people don't have the experience of having their friend group remain the same group of people for their for for their entire lives. I mean, what I'm saying is it's a natural thing to outgrow a friendship. Um, there's another discussion which is that you may feel slighted. Um, I'm not saying that to minimize it, but you know, you might feel hurt that these are people that you thought you were close with and you would have hoped that even if they didn't share your views, but at the very least they would be more respectful of your views. That that's another discussion. Um, but you know, we We don't we don't stay in one place. The people around us change. That's just part of life. >> Now my question would be like sounds like you're very bonded with Schloim in your in your area. My question would be though, you know, did did you form a new peer group in your new shaw and something is making me think maybe not. >> Um I I I wouldn't say that. I mean with this is a small community, >> right? So So you you know you there's nice people, but you don't it's not like you have >> the sisters anymore. Like that was a very specific thing. >> The intimacy. Yeah. >> Yes. Intimate friendships >> who you know each other very well for a very long time and you have that history. You don't have that now, >> right? >> Okay. So, you know, you're in a new phase in life and it's time to make new friends. >> Wow. >> It's like >> that's not what I was expecting to hear. >> Was it so shocking? What did you think I was going to say? >> I don't know. I thought I thought maybe you'd have like a magic band-aid that you >> No, make everything better. That >> No. >> Oh my goodness. >> Your parents picked up and they moved and now you started a new school >> and you're going to have to make new friends. >> Did you ever move when you were a kid? Did you ever have to change schools? >> Awful. Terrible. Two two terrible experiences. >> Oh, I think maybe this is related to that. How old were you when you first moved? >> Uh, first time, well, yeah, the first time I was nine and I was raised in um I don't know if this is meaningful to you, but the the wequake section of Newark, New Jersey, that's the Newark that Philip Roth writes about. like almost when I was there almost I mean I didn't know anyone who wasn't Jewish until we moved >> literally. >> Um >> you grew up in Newark >> but it was in Newark. Yes. >> Before ' 67. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. We moved in 60 I forget but Yeah. >> Right. So it was very very Jewish. >> 100%. Um, and then so I was nine when we moved. That was a shock. My first of all, we moved in the middle of the school year, so I had to walk into a classroom, not the first day of school. Um, it it was hard to socially integrate a whole bunch of things. And then the second time we moved, I was 13, I think. And again in the middle of a school year into you know middle school that was also unpleasant. >> Did you ever end up making friends after you moved? >> Yeah. Yeah. Eventually. Uh by the time I graduated high school, I had a nice little squad. >> Um >> but it took a while. Um, it took a while. Yeah, it did take a while. >> Okay. But you know how to do >> I mean maybe I Yeah, I mean I'm a pe I gather people together. This is what I do. >> Um I've done this every place I've wound up. You know, people wind up at my house being fed. Um I think I think you know you opened a door in my mind to thinking about some of the you know the people that I've met. In fact um there's myself and two other grandma age we women in our 60s and 70s. We um volunteer at the the kids club, the Kabad uh Sunday Hebrew school at we do the Hebrew practice. We do the reading with the kids and we've called ourselves the the bubby degrade and we've made a we made a deal that next year once a month we're going to get together for coffee after we finish with the kids. >> All right, there you go. >> Really look looking forward to that. You know, I didn't think of things this way. You just, you know, you really did just open the door in my mind. >> Okay. I don't think I said anything. So, >> I was focused, you know, like what do they say? I was looking over my shoulder or in the rearview mirror and I forgot to look through the windshield. >> Ahu. Right. You're so focused on hanging on to what was that you weren't seeing the things in front of you that are coming at you. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. Well, that's great. I >> have a big smile on my face. Good. I really have a big big smile on my face. >> Good. >> Thank you. >> My pleasure. That's great. Okay, so keep gathering people. >> Yeah. >> You know who else gathered people? >> Who? >> There's a para called Vakel. >> Vacela. Moses gathered people. Yeah. >> So we don't have any greater role model than Misha Rabeno and our teacher Moses. And he gathered people. So you know you continue to gather people. >> I'm going to try. >> God give you an opportunity to uh have a new challenge. Absolutely. >> Okay. I'm very excited for the uh the prospects of creating. >> Thank you so much, Rabbi. Thank you for this incredible program that you do. Touches so many people. Uh it's really very unique and I really appreciate the opportunity to talk with you. Thank you so much. >> Thank you for calling in. Okay. Be well. All right. >> Bye. Bye. >> Bye. >> Bye. All right. Amazing. Wonderful caller. Wonderful. Wonderful caller. Always blown away by the quality of discourse that takes place here. We really do. We're blessed that we have such wonderful people calling and sharing so openly and uh honestly. Um, I'm just checking the email. Um, is come here. Type in the call-in number. Let's call in the callin show. Let's call in the calling show. Let's call in the call show. Calling in the callin show. Everybody got a call into the callin show. Are you sending me the number so I can stop singing? What? I know. I see you texting texting me already. Please. Calling to the calling show. We got a calling to the call show. Calling to the call show. I'm responding to someone's email right now. What? Call it to the college show. Why would anyone call a call-in show when the guy who answers your call is a wacko who sings like Why would you do that? Why would you call with serious questions some weirdo pruning calling to the college showing to the show? I'm responding to emails right now. Calling to the college show. [Music] looking in the chat. Hey, Rabbi, a friend of mine has led me to your channel. I love your honesty and I love to see someone who enjoys talking about God. I do enjoy talking about God. I do. I do. And I want to tell you something. I endeavor not only to talk about God, but to talk to God. Sometimes, let me be serious again. Um, sometimes we talk about God a lot. We philosophize and pontificate and that's that can be fun. It can even be meaningful. But we forget to talk to God, which means personal relationship with God. That means turning to God in times of trouble, times of joy. speaking what's on our heart and that's really really important especially for intellectual people who love to like get into deep ideas and we can fall into that trap of talking a lot about God but forgetting to talk to God. Someone wrote in the chat three weeks ac capella. That's right. This is three weeks a capella. I'm going to preserve Kim's anonymity. There's a baby in the studio, but we don't put our babies on line on social media. So, but there is a baby. My grandson is here. But what? I'll tell you a story. Want to hear a story? I'll tell you a story. I told a story on this show. I don't remember if it was last week or two weeks ago about Kaimi's mommy, Malaba, my daughter-in-law. She was at an event here at the Soulwards house. Oh, this really grinds my gears. So, Mal Cabala, my daughter-in-law, she was at an event here at the Soulward's house. We're in the basement of the Soulwards house, the video studio, but upstairs is the event space where we do events. So, there was a Yalef Nissen event. That's the Debb's birthday, Yalif Nissen. And uh at the end of the event, so Mala Sang for the women And I told this story a couple weeks ago. Was it When did I tell the story? Two last week or two weeks ago? Last week. And Mali was nervous. And so she was staring at the picture of the Reba that's on the wall at the Sward's house. And then after everybody left, she walked by the picture. And the picture of the Reba is the p that Eb is giving a child a coin. She walked by the picture and she heard a clang on the floor and there was a coin on the floor mysteriously inexplicably. Um, so I told that story and I'm going to pull it up actually. So you have to make sure that I control myself and that I don't get too um agitated over here. Can you do me a favor? Okay. So, let's see. Um, no, it wasn't last week. Must have been two weeks ago. I'm looking at last week. Yeah. Look at two weeks ago. Oh. Oh, here it is. Here it is. Here's the comment. So, someone writes a comment. Why was Mali staring at the dea picture? Doesn't smell right. Jews don't do idolatry. Let's talk about it. What you see the word idolatry is them's fighting words. Idolatry is a very serious accusation. We frown upon idolatry to say the least. As you correctly write in your comment, the only thing that you wrote correct in your comment was, "Jews don't do idolatry." That's right. We we don't do idolatry. How is looking at a picture of someone? Idolatry. Do you ever look at pictures of people or you don't have any pictures of people? Do you have pictures of your family in your house or you don't you don't have that because you're afraid it's idolatry? And and let me ask you this. If Mali were looking at the audience, would that be idolatry? If she was looking at the people in front of her, would that be idolatry? How is looking at a person or a picture of a person idolatry? Please don't throw words around like that. Please, like, watch what you say. Monitor your language. You don't go around throwing around around words like that. That that's like a I need to control myself. All right. Here are some talking points from Malca Ba, my genius daughter-in-law. If I looked at the audience, would that be a veta idolatry? Please explain what is idolatry about this. That is a very serious accusation. You have pictures at home of people you love. Do you ever look at those pictures or is that idolatry? Being inspired by looking at a picture of a holy person is idolatry. Show me one source for that. Do you even know what you're saying? Or stop. Someone's writing in the chat. Is this still live? Yeah, it's 11 o'clock on the dot. Do you know where your children are? I want to know what I can do to make it easier. in spirituality when I was hurt by it when I was a child and a teenager because of my dyslexia. I was hurt by the educational system. Yep. That's a common, you know, yeshiva trauma is a common uh challenge. You got to learn how to separate people's behaviors from God. And don't let people ruin Yiddish kite for you, even if they purported to represent Yiddish kite. Someone wrote in the chat a cracking up emoji, but I'm wondering what the crackup emoji was about. What was the crack up? What was crackup worthy? A lol as the kids say actually laughing out loud. You said did anyone call in the number? Not yet cuz I sent a couple of people the number through email. Calling to the callin show. [Music] Everybody's got to call into the calling show. The whole world needs to call into the callin show. Call into the call show. What? Beatboxing. Yeah. You know who the greatest beatboxer was? Bismar. He died. Passed away. Bismar. Nobody wrote in the chat what it was when I said today's topic self-destruction. Nobody wrote in the chat. It was like an hour ago, two hours, no hour and a half ago. Today's topic, self-destruction. It really isn't rap audience that's bugging. Some of you suckers ignorant. Today's hay. We're going to read the hay. Today's topic is self-destruction. Yeah. Well, we were talking about self-destruction before because somebody asked, was it you? Actually, somebody asked about why artistic and creative people have a self-destructive bent. And so I said, "Today's topic, self-destruction. Yay. the all of the had aidic discourse. They used to say to purify the air and every two or three years they would recite that discourse publicly. One of the that was said for that purpose was the inut without the hag without the glosses. the one of his he would say repeatedly to to refine the air was the um which is identical to the the content of the first 10 not the first 10 but um 10 chapters of uh yeah the first 10 chapters of a certain section in the safer. One of the was called in the mimi. One of the nun. We have a caller on the phone. All right. One second. There's one look in the I get annoyed when people accuse of. Yes, me too, Rabbi. In a world where knowledge is pushed as power and something to strive for. I agree with someone. From the fall, knowledge was used to separate us from God. Is it okay to watch your videos in the restroom? Chase proceeds to teach hay. Well, that answers your question. I hope you ran out of the bathroom when I started reading the Hayamey. I don't know. What should you do? Should you flip the phone off? If you're sitting in the bathroom and someone starts reading how yay, should you turn your phone off or you should run out of the bathroom. What? Yeah. Yeah. I'm ready. We have a caller on the line. Who's our caller? What? Oh, we don't know their name. Hi. You're on the phone with me. >> Oh, Mishi. Hi. What's up? >> Um, I I actually was I was actually I chatting in the comments also about this about about the education system. >> Oh, you got traumatized. You're the one with dyslexia got traumatized. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So earlier in the comments, I don't know if he's still watching the show because he's in Eritis, but Tamir Goodman commented in the comments above. He had a terrible time in Yeshiva, he also has dyslexia. And I remember he told I mentioned this to Eric Adams, the mayor of New York City when he was here because he also has dyslexia. I said how Tamir told me that when he would be in the classroom and look at the blackboard, he couldn't make heads or tails of it, but when he would be on the basketball court, he would could see everything. He would see how to make the plays happen. and he realized it was the same brain. It's just his brain was built for the basketball court. It wasn't built for the classroom. >> Yeah. So, I I definitely I definitely have the I I saw one of your videos the other day about diverse when you get older like it becomes very a power. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> And definitely for me definitely I was able to bring out my power now but and now I like I have a successful business and I have >> amazing >> I I can't I can't like I can't get myself to like open learning or >> because of the negative associations with it. >> Right. Yeah. And also I'm saying besides I also have a hard time understanding the words. I never really learned the language that >> Yeah. There's so there's so many classes online you could just listen. >> You don't have to have a safe I mean on Shabas I guess but on a weekday you could just listen. >> Right. Right. And it's really it's like a hard association and I it just >> how come I don't trigger you? >> Because you don't have the same you don't have the same judgment the other the others have. That is an incredible compliment and I was fishing for that compliment and I did it anyways because I also need encouragement. I want to tell you what I pride myself in. I will often get like usually it's like a DM in Instagram but sometimes an email or a text I will get a comment. People will say like rabbi I don't like rabbis but you're okay. That to me is the best compliment. >> Yeah, >> that's the best compliment. Okay. So, I'm not triggering you because you don't feel that I'm judgmental. Good. I I I I endeavor not to be judgmental. >> You also you also don't need you don't have the need to be perfect and I and that's also >> Yeah. That's why I do that. By the way, JFYI, the one of the reasons that I do act a little bit goofy, you know, even though I'm an action star, sometimes I'm act bizarre. But you know, the reason why I do act a little bit goofy is because it helps people to feel okay with being themselves. >> And I think it's important >> Yeah. >> to set that example. Or were you did you hear that caller at the beginning that that lady who felt inadequate because she wasn't making 20 salads? >> Yeah. wasn't. She was incredible >> because like >> I I >> I wish my wife would have heard that. >> Well, you could play you could send her the link. You could go back and listen to it. But the pressure to like play a role, it's so intense. It's like where does it even come from? It's not Yiddish. It doesn't It's not It's not It's like purely just social pressure, >> right? But I but how what I feel is that that most of the the whole this whole thing of you say three times a day like this whole rigid um way like this is how you're supposed to connect with these words and you say this and doesn't really work with my with with me >> way how you're supposed to connect you saying these three times a day and you do this and do that. >> Let me ask you a question. the very >> Mosi I need to ask you a question you know there's a whole discussion about what is and uh so according to some opinions the whole concept of saying certain words at certain times is not the mitzvah it's not the actual at least not the biblical mitzvah of the the the mitzvah I hope did trigger you by saying >> no. >> Thank God. Okay. The the is that whenever you have a need, you turn to Hashem. If you don't have a need, then you don't have to turn to Hashem. But if you have a need, you turn to Hashem. So, I'm going to ask you a question. setting aside the set aside all of that for now. Do you at least engage in meaning when you have something that's heavy on your heart, do you turn to Hashem in your own words and express yourself? I would say I would say definitely a lot of times but I can't say it always but >> but often >> often yeah >> keep it up mitzvah mitzvah you you just >> keep it up you you just if you do that and you continue doing that you're going to do more and more and more and more and maybe one day you will pick up a sither and it won't trigger do. >> Yeah. >> Allow yourself to enjoy and appreciate what you're doing and you're going to do more. >> Okay. Okay. Thank you. >> What do you do on Shabas? Do you go to Shul? >> Um I go to Shu. Yeah. And I usually I >> usually I I I go to I I say some words but or I just open a bit and I just like ramp pages or I go on smooth in the back. I don't know. >> Okay. >> It depends how but um but but most of the drive is social is social. It's not not no drive like I don't I'm not expressing spiritual connection like it's not a social thing that I do. >> Okay. You're not hanging out at the bowling alley or at the bar. You're hanging out in Shaw. That's beautiful, >> right? Yeah. But I But I but I feel that missing part of me. >> What are you missing? >> What do you want? >> I don't know. I feel like maybe >> you want to dive in from a sither. Who's stopping you? You can dab in as much as you want or as little as you want. I don't know. >> Is it that you wish that you could dab from a sither, but every time you do it, it starts reminding you of getting screamed at? Keep your head in the sither and staring at letters that you can't even understand. >> Um sometimes, yeah. Um sometimes I wish to like for example learning definitely I feel with that more. I wish to I I like learning deep things and um I I am I am intelligent. I like to learn things and I usually tend to learn everything and like all topics but when it comes to learning to when become like which I really want but like triggers me like crazy. and makes me feel like like I hear like when I learn like I just I just feel like no I'm giving in to those all those people that are that told me that I need to learn. >> Yeah, >> I hear you. I mean, could you find like maybe a share you could go to that's where where it's more of a conversation and it doesn't have to be so textbased so you could get that intellectual stimulation that you're seeking. >> Some definitely I have a lot a lot of shame of being in a like which that's how I that's how I I went through when I was a a kid. I always I never I never showed my dyslexia. No one my friends knew that like I was always part of everything and I never showed >> Let me ask you a question. I never >> You said you have >> I don't want to be that nebby in that. >> Yeah. Let me ask you a question. You said you you you have a successful business. Correct. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Okay. I don't know if that means you're super rich or just means you're getting by. Listen, if you could support a former family on the east coast, you're a verir in my book. But at any rate, you're successful, right? I mean, whatever whatever that means. >> Okay, but the point is >> I support my family. >> You support your family. Okay, so listen here. Here's what I suggest to you. A lot of people are not supporting their families. They're struggling. They're struggling. They they they're they are envious of your of your situation. >> Here's what I want to tell you. You're an adult. You're not in school anymore. You're not a kid anymore. You're in the big world. You're in the adult world and you're succeeding and you're making money. You're not a not a You're not the super super rich. But the point is you do okay. You support your family. I think remember when I was telling that lady at the beginning of the show that she should make it okay. She should destigmatize having Fruity Pebbles on Friday night for the the younger women who are coming up behind her. I want to give you a similar challenge, Moishi. I want to give you a similar challenge. There are guys who are going to look at you and they know that you have a business, you do okay, you're making it in life, you're far from a loser, you're you're a successful young man. And I think you should be very vocal about the fact that you have dyslexia. And I don't know if that means that you can't read or it's just really painful to read or whatever it is, but I think you should be really vocal about it because I think you will save someone else or maybe more than one person, maybe many people a lot of shame when they'll look at you. Imagine some 15-year-old kid who's going through hell right now and he looks up at you and he says, "Well, she's a normal guy. He's successful. He got married. He has a family. He has a business." And he he's admitting that he he he he couldn't he couldn't keep up in Yeshiva. And he he still, you know, he figures out different ways to to learn because he's an intelligent guy. He's he he appreciates deep ideas, but you know, he's not comfortable reading and he he's not a loser. Could you go out of your box a little bit and maybe start to be the poster child for this a little bit? >> I definitely could. Yeah, I'm not I'm saying it'll be hard, but I guess I hear I hear that there's definitely a lot of benefit. >> Imagine if when you were 15, you knew some guy in Yeshu. How old are you now, Mishi? >> I'm 28. >> 28. Imagine if when you were 15 and hating life cuz you're sitting nine hours a day staring at a gamura and can't make heads or tails of it. Imagine if you knew a guy who was 28 who you respected and looked up to and it would imagine the relief you would have saying, "Look, you know what? I heard this guy has dyslexia. I heard he's not comfortable reading and he's got a good life. Wow, there's a future for me. There's there's there's a light at the end of the tunnel. Can you imagine when you were 15 if you would have seen a guy who's 28 who's like you are the way you are now? But like imagine if you had a guy like that in your life when you were 15 and you knew this guy was dyslexic. What would have that meant to you? Yeah, it would have it would have definitely made me feel Yeah, definitely gave me um take off a lot of my shoulder feel that I could do this. >> Yeah. >> And here I I would I should what like >> so the way that you were hiding it all those years, you know, do the opposite now. You can afford to. It's not easy. Yeah, for examp like for example any like thing that I have shame in instead of having shame in it just turning it into into helping help like for example like like cuz I don't I don't look at dyslexia because I when I was a kid I didn't know that I have dyslexia. I never didn't know how to explain well like I just because like I always figured out ways on how my parents shouldn't know and how my my like everything I just didn't take tests. I was like the not good kid that doesn't take this. I was always like I was always getting away with it and not not really showing I I was I had a lot of shame in the fact of this whole thing. I didn't even know what it is. I just thought that I'm stupid or something and but but being open and just saying that like like for example I don't know and when I was in Shiva it was very hard that like I just didn't know how to when I was learning or whatever I didn't know how to what these words mean or whatever. um to be open with it and and tell other people. Definitely when I was a kid, if I would have known that there's someone 28 years old that doesn't know that doesn't know wouldn't know what they're saying by daming or whatever, then I wouldn't have felt like a like a fool. >> Yeah. Well, I think you have an opportunity now to do that for the next young guy. >> Yeah. Thank you. >> Thank you for calling in. I really appreciate it. And go to the beginning of the call with that lady Adino about the Fruity Pebbles and show it to your wife. >> Okay. Yeah, I would. Okay. >> Thank you. I really I really love watching your stuff and thank you for what you do. >> Appreciate it. Thank you. Thank you. Really thank you for connecting. Okay. Hey, have a great Shabbas and and and a good >> Yeah. >> Okay. Be well. Great caller. Yaman, that was a beautiful call. You like that call? Yeah. Okay. Calling to the call show. We got to call into the calling show. Calling to the calling show. Calling to the calling show. [Music] Hashka stories. Hashka stories. Going to tell some hashka stories. is going to tell some hashka stories. Yesterday I was here in Sward's studios and we were recording some videos. What? It was yesterday. No, it was yesterday. Yeah, we're recording some videos and this young man who helps me out, Yseph David, actually, who is my son-in-law's brother, which makes him nothing to me, but he's my son-in-law's brother. at any rate, but he's a very fine young man and a talented video editor and he does a lot of the stuff that you see here on Soul Word. So, we were shooting some video. In fact, we posted some of the videos already that we shot yesterday. I weighed in on the Coldplay jumbotron scandal. And I also weighed in on the Twitter war between Andrew Tate and Matt Walsh. Those two videos were posted already. We're having fun like that making those kinds of videos. At any rate, so as we were driving home or I was driving home, he was sitting with me. Ysef was sitting the passenger seat. says to me, "Oh, you know, there's this video that I I edited of you a long time ago. We never published it." And he pulled it up and showed it to me. And I saw it was uh he took a like a 5 10 minute clip from another talk, a much longer talk that I gave, I don't know, at least five years ago. Um and he he made a clip. Yeah. 13-minute clip actually and um it's a story it's a story that I tell personal story about my friend the Buddhist priest who I used to study with study Torah why did I study Torah with the Buddhist priest one one guess yeah of course because he was Jewish and um unfortunately he was raised in a very I'd say sanitized version of Judaism very secular tailorized, sanitized version, which which was not very fulfilling for him. And so when he got older and he was searching for spiritual meaning, he unfortunately he went outside of Judaism. And he became a Buddhist and he became a Buddhist priest because like they say, Jews are like everybody else only more so a Jew becomes a Buddhist can't be a regular Buddhist has to become the Buddhist priest. Anyways, so he was a brilliant man. he passed away, but he was a brilliant, brilliant man and I loved him and we used to study together. And so Yseph pulls up this video. He's like, "Hey, we never published this video. It's you telling that story about your friend, the Buddhist priest." I said, "You know, passed away." I mean, it was at least 15 years ago, maybe between 15 20 years ago. I said it was around this time of year. His yard site might be coming up. Let me Google it. And he usually was he was a famous guy, so it wasn't hard to Google information about when he passed away. And I got the English date, uh, July 30th, 2007 or whatever it was. And then we put it into the, uh, kabad.org or date converter and we pull it up and it was yesterday. This was happening yesterday and the yard site was yesterday. So all of a sudden we were talking about this guy and it was his yard site. That day was his yard site. So I was like, "Yeseph, you got to publish this video now and you you know the Jewish day goes from sun down to sundown." So we were driving home and I was like see the sun is getting lower in the sky. Okay. As soon as the sun sets, the day the Jewish date is over. It's the next day already. I said, "You got to publish this video now while it's still his yard site." And he did. And it's on our channel. And it's called I Triggered My Friend, the Buddhist Priest. And in the thumbnail, it says, "In memory of Robin Cornman, April 17th, 1947 through July 31st, 2007." And yeah, so it was his yard site yesterday. Boris memory should be for a blessing. He was an incredible person. Very deep, very wise, very sensitive man and I miss him and you should watch the video where I tell a story about him. That was a little hashkah practice, a little divine Providence. Yeah. What else you want to hear about? We got to call into the calling show. Everybody got a call into the calling show. Calling to the calling show. [Music] Calling to the call. We're going to wrap up soon. So, how do I tighten this? >> Calling to the calling show. [Music] Call into the calling show. [Music] Call into the calling show. Got to call into the show. If there's time, would you please answer my question? Okay, I'm going to read it. Can a marriage remain strong when a couple no longer shares the same beliefs? Does spiritual unity mean identical beliefs? and mutual respect and commitment sustain an interfaith marriage. Having both experienced previous marriages, my husband and I have been married for eight years. Although we shared fundamental Christian beliefs, we had some differing convictions. He introduced both me and my daughter to Sabbathkeeping. Sabbathkeeping and the biblical feasts. In 2024, he stepped away from the Christian faith we once shared and stopped attending weekly services with us. While he continues to observe the Sabbath and feasts, our spiritual paths have diverged. He believes that a marriage cannot thrive without shared religious beliefs. And I'm struggling to accept that. Okay. So, it sounds like basically, yeah, his spiritual beliefs have shifted and he believes that it is not sustainable to have a marriage when you have two different manners of belief. So, what does that mean? He's saying that it's the end of the marriage or he's saying that he wants you to share the same beliefs. Is he saying he wants you to come over to believing the way he believes or is he saying no, I accept the fact you believe what you believe. I believe what I believe and we're not going to really be able to maintain this relationship. I think I need clarity about which of the two scenarios we're talking about over here. You can write it in the chat if you so if you so choose. And I want to remind you also to donate. Charity.comst. Please donate. Give us all of your money. No, I'm joking. Don't give us all of your money. Give us a dollar. I loved your insight on the CEO scandal. Can you elaborate more how the serial killer has similar personalities to CEO? I first of all, thank you. I'm glad that you enjoyed that little video. I I can't really elaborate on it because it's not like I'm an expert in this area. I don't know. It's one of these studies that they did. I don't know. I I saw this years ago that the personality profile of of of CEOs matches a psychopathic personality. I don't know. The CocaCola on the table makes me love you more. Truly nectar from heavens. Oh, thank you. I'm challenging you guys, you artistic community, to create a piece of art that invokes orange cream Coca-Cola. I want some art that invokes the energy of the orange cream CocaCola. Hi, Rabbi. Sent a few emails. I was wondering if there's any time for those questions. I'll go check out the email. One second. But hold on. I'm not sure. At times he says he wants the marriage to end. Okay. Listen, I don't know. I don't know what to tell you. Like I don't know. This is a tough thing. I mean, what do you want me to do? I don't know you. So, it's very hard for me to take responsibility here. like advise you in a situation where we're really talking about, you know, God forbid, but it could be the end of a of a marriage and breaking up a family. And that's like serious stuff. That's life and death. Listen, I can't advise you there. But I can tell you that you got to be true to yourself. And he knows that you got to be true to yourself. You can't fake faith. So if you're called to a similar spiritual path as he is on, then that'll happen. But if it doesn't happen, you can't do it for him, that wouldn't be authentic. You can't lie a prayer. You ever heard that expression? You can't lie a prayer. I mean, you can, but there's no point. Who are you lying to? God, can I ask you to discuss the Kenyan Cassf aspect of Hafar Nadum in a way that is somewhat acceptable to someone who needs political correctness so that I can explain to someone like that? That's very lumish. I don't know if that's this matzov. Um, yeah. What? No. You want to remind me? I don't know. Calling to the calling show. [Music] I'm calling to the show. I'm looking at the email right now. Calling to the call show. Calling to the calling show. Okay. Deep questions over here. I told you already, right, that I got very little sleep. Someone wrote in the chat. I love the gumball machine that appears sometimes in the background. So, I want to tell you something. What the what is blockingh? Look at that. There's the gumball machine. The gumball machine. Every single thing in this set has purpose. The gumball, the gumball machine is a piece of Americana which invokes the purity and innocence of youth, of midcentury life. It's sort of like, you know, like I'm Gen X, so for me, nostalgia is stuff that's like 20, 30 years before I was born. So to me, like that metal gumball machine represents like the days gone by from when I was a kid. meaning not my youth but like what was already nostalgic when I was a youth if you catch my drift. You guys understand this? I want to show you something. Look at this. What is this cook? What is this? What is it? What is this? It's a dumpster fire. How you like that? Calling to the calling show. We got a gumball machine with a dumpster fire. Would you say so? What's the meaning of the dumpster fire? The dubster fire represents catastrophe, crisis, craziness, chaos. Why I'm in the red, by the way, when I raise my voice. Uh, why is it red, you breaking? [Music] You turn it down a little bit. Yeah, it's still red. Okay. The dumpster fire represents chaos, trauma, crisis. Everything is crazy, but it's like this whimsical little guy. So, it's basically making fun of the chaos and the crisis. To me, it's like a way of like mocking the crisis. Instead of saying, "I'm going to be overwhelmed by the crisis and let it consume me." This is me like making a joke out of it, making a cute little figure out of it, being like, "Haha, cute crisis." So that it basically it represents the sense of humor that the person of faith is able to have in under all circumstances even highly stressful circumstances. That's what it that's what it represents. Now what is this? What color sir? What color is this cube? [Music] The meaning is here's what is this? Pink, blue, yellow, pink, blue. Um the meaning of this is the idea of perspective that sometimes perspectives overlap and create complexity. It's a metaphor for life for how different people see things differently depending on their vantage point where they're standing. It's a reminder of that. This also is a little bit of Americana and a nostalgia. It's a water toy. Pump it. Pump it. Let's see. La. No, you can't see it at all. [Music] You can't see it at all. Oh, there a little bit. Go further away. Come, come, come, come, come closer to me. Yo, stand right there. Stand right there. Stand right there. Okay, now pump it. You see that little swordfish, little porpus, whatever that is. And you cut catch the rings. You throw catch a ring. Ah, you caught a ring. Ah, I caught a ring. Caught a ring. And it represents the fish. The fish is a very mystical creature. It lives in the water and it cannot leave the water. And it is a reminder that really all of us have to be constantly immersed in our life source, meaning God himself. That's what the fish represents. Put it back. Where is it? Then we have some drrele. [Music] Dre. Here's another prism. This is a prism. Fidget spinner. This represents neurode divergent pride. Fidget spinner. What else? I love the fact the red potted hanging plant is slightly crooked, too. You love that? Because it was bothering me and I tried to fix it and I couldn't fix it. I missed the Tanya poster in the background. The Tanya poster is at the other studio in my garage. Yes, we have a new studio. This is at the Soul Words House in Queens, a half a block from the aisle. And if you want to help us pay for all this, charity.comst, please. Charity.comst charity.comst. When my grandmother lived in the same state as me, she had a hanging plant like you have. And it scared me as a kid. I don't know why. You know, it's funny that as children, things scare us. You know, my aunt and uncle in their house, they don't even know this. They had a like a sort of like a like they had a split level house like was all the rage in the 70s and the suburbs. And there was like a railing that separated two levels of the house. And that railing was like this kind of raw iron type of design. And I cannot tell you why, but that the patterns of that raw iron traumatized me so deeply. I used to have nightmares about those patterns. It's so weird the things that like make an impression in a young brain. I also used to be scared of different paintings. paintings were like 90% of paintings when I was a kid were at the very least like eerie to me and some were like downright terrifying. Terrifying. Someone writes, "Is only half the dumpster on fire intentional?" It's not only half the dumpster on fire, dude. The whole dumpster is full of fire, but this part is closed. So the fire can't come out if it's closed. It doesn't open. It's permanently that way. That's what I'm loving about Rabbi. I had never looked at fish that way. Mind blown. Man, do I need God. Okay, good. Well, if my little fish toy convinced you that you need God, I would consider that a job well done. >> What does that mean? in a Tik Tok style video. Is not using your talent for pronosa a bad thing in your opinion? Sometimes we use our talent to make money. Sometimes we just make money. Sometimes they come together. Sometimes they don't. I don't know if the tic tac style at all. I don't know how to do that. Okay, I think we're going to wrap up soon unless we get some like serious donations. I'm going to go check up the donations. Really no donations coming in. I'm kind of like disappointed there about that. Last week we had a lot of donations come in. It was pretty awesome. This week I'm not really seeing much happening. Yeah. All right. Any burning issues before we wrap up over here? Yeah. What is there a direct correlation between learning Torah and Parnasa? Yeah, of course there is. Yeah. Yeah. For a Jew, you don't make your living based on how hard you work. You got to have a job because Hashem has to have a vessel within which to deposit the blessings. That blessing that that that that vessel that holds the blessings, that vessel has to be something that's within the natural bounds of this world. It can't be a a miracle. So, you have to have a job. But really, we are blessed with livelihood based on the uh the Torah that we learn, the mitzvah that we do. Our spiritual life is what elicits the blessings from on high. Thank you for tonight. This made me laugh in a time where I'm struggling. You know, there's nothing more meaningful to me than being told that I'm helping someone who's struggling. If I can help them by being smart and saying something deep and wise and meaningful, that's nice. If I can help them by just being silly and making them laugh, that's great, too. Whatever, you know, who cares? Whatever it is, if it helps, that's all that matters. This call made me laugh so hard sometimes. Thank you. What was the funniest line of the night? That's what I want. I want to know what's funny. I want to know how am I funny to you? Like a clown to you? What was the funniest line of tonight? I'm honestly curious. Calling to the calling show [Music] at my house before we sing. the words by the taught at any rate but before we sing I have I don't know the past few months at least I've developed this really annoying custom habit ritual obsession compulsion I will go like this I'll go [Music] Why? Because there was an album that was put out in the 90s um of the Rebun um and they had this intro. I'm I'm trying to find it here. [Music] goes like that. It's like this intro. [Music] So, I got to find this album. It was from the 90s. Um, yeah. Trying to remember what was it called. It's from the 90s. And before the Assad, there was like this instrumental intro. [Music] The basic I haven't heard this in 25 years at least, but I'm that's how I remember it and I'm trying to find it. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? How do I donate, Rabbi? Uh, charity.com RST. That's where you donate. Your singing is funny. Thank you. I agree. By the way, people think that I think I'm a good singer. I do not think I'm a good singer. I think I enjoy singing. It's like fun. I do it playfully, whimsically. It is even funny sometimes the way I sing. I don't think I'm good at singing. Is that a link? Yeah, it's a link. I think I The reason I was afraid of the hanging plant was I was afraid of it coming alive. Oh my gosh. Like um Little Shop of Horrors. Discussing the salads. I think that's the answer to the question. What made you laugh out loud? So discussing the salads made him laugh out loud. I'm domining to someday be able to give more sedaka. I think helping is so important, but I'm not in a position yet where I can give every day. Hashem should bless you with ample ample sustenance where you can give. You should be able to give away. You should come to a point where you can give away more than what you make now. meaning what you're giving away should be even more than what you're currently earning. Why do some pronounce Oh my gosh, a dick question. Why do some pronounce and some don't dude? We're not going to do dick duk. That's not going to happen. I don't know why people pronounce She's in Jerusalem. I don't know who you're asking about. An anonymous donation just came in. $2 effectively doubled for four. And I see the name. I see the name. I know who it is. But it says display name anonymous. So, I'm going to respect your anonymity. And I'm not going to say your name, but I see your name and I want to thank you for your donation. I love it. $2 donation. It is meaningful. It's as meaningful as a $2,000 donation. What the person who give to says amen. Okay. Call into the calling show. Call into the calling show. [Music] You got to call into the calling show. [Music] Call into the calling show. You said vazin and vam. Oh. Oh. Uh. Oh, you're saying Okay, hold on a sec. [Music] Oh, you're saying why did I say the aamin and not the amen? Amin. Aamin. Aamin. Okay. Yeah. You're saying I'm pronouncing the kataash. Yeah, I am. You're right. Yeah. How often do you go live, Rabbi? We try to go live every Thursday night for the Thursday night calling show. And you can email us if you have a question you'd like discuss on the Thursday night calling show. Please email us at [email protected]. That's infossalwords.org. Let us know what you want to talk about and if we think you're serious and that your call topic is appropriate for the show, we will send you the call-in info. [Music] I'm emphasizing it. [Music] Hey, [Music] who can find that album for me? Um, who can find me that album? Who can find that album for me? Oh, I think I found it. Oh, I think I found whatever it be. Oh, I think I found it. [Music] Hold on. [Music] Okay. How was I saying it? Is no the the the little [Music] Right. Okay. I haven't heard this. Uh, I see the cover of the album and this is I remember. Okay. Okay. Let's see if I remember correctly. Okay. Hold on. I gotta mute this. Okay. Hold on. You guys ready? Let's see if I was right. What? Oh my gosh. Do you have Spotify? Hold on. YouTube music. Let's see. >> Okay, hold on. Hold on. Hold on. >> Okay, let's see if I was right. Let's see if I was right. >> System power. [Music] Okay. I Okay. It's not what I thought. It's very different than what I thought. [Music] Is that wrong? All these years I remembered it wrong. My whole life has been a lie. [Music] I remembered it a little bit wrong 25 years ago. Ah, it's midnight. Are those real gumballs? Yeah. You want to see me chew on one? Yes, they are real gumballs. Aqualon. I don't know why you say aqualon. Another donation came in, but also with an anonymous. I recognize this name. This person already donated. Now they're donating again. That's pretty cool. Okay. So, sir, thank you for donating another time. I know that you donated already. I re because it's an unusual name and I recognize the name. I'm going to actually just search this up. How many times you donated? Yeah, twice. Okay. It's first time you donated $13 and which was yesterday and then today you donated $20. Pretty cool. Thank you. But since you wanted to be anonymous, I'm not going to say your name. I'm going to respect your anonymity. What's your take on the book of Eio? I don't know. Is it a good book? Okay, ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, children of all ages, it is now midnight and I think it's time to wrap things up. So, thank you so much for joining us. Thank you to our wonderful, amazing callers. Um, I'm always amazed by the level of discourse that takes place here. Thank you for trusting me. Thank you for being vulnerable and um honoring me with your personal life or details, certain details, aspects of your um personal life. Interesting cryptic comment right here. would never tell the name of the person who led me to your videos, but I'm glad he whatever. God bless you. Have a good night. Why would you never tell the name of the person who led me to your videos? I led you to my videos. You don't want to reveal who it was. Okay. Good night, Rabbi. Thank you for your wisdom, humor, and sharing of your gift. Thank you. Okay. Good night. End the stream. I'll end it. So, don't worry. I can do it. [Music] Foreasha. [Music]