Rabbi Wallerstein Sefira Conf 2012

so we start with and we end with and in between there are 49 different combinations that's many different combinations and really every single day supposed to look at what that day is understand what is understand what is and that's the me you're supposed to work on that day continue up 49 steps you will get the Mish of the M which represents of course the king of kings the kingdom of Kingdom which represents represents which represents Mia which represents the so the question is why do we need to start stairway why not why not why not Foundation should be say should be S should be the foundation of foundation that's how you start the stairway and then you continue up Spirit why specifically you have to stop build on that till you reach so it says on the third day because we know had a and he was sick but he was so into that he was more sick that he wasn't able to took out son he wanted to make sure nobody would bother and he saw that was more bed than could so we sent we know that these three Mal has four jobs one to destroy S one to tell Sor that she TR to have a baby one to heal Abu and one to save BL which means that there were four jobs given to Three Angels and we know that every Angel is sent from Shay only with one job so how could it be that Three Angels were sent to do four jobs so Kaz answer that healing of Ru saving Lo healing and saving is in the same realm but still heart on heal that's one saveing life the second so say that really when these Mal would sent they only had three jobs they did not have a job to save lo lo was not supposed to be saved he was saved by the Four Kings against the five Kings but now was not supposed to be saved why was Lo saved L was saved because from Lo came Mo from Mo came R from R came fromia but actually when the came was not supposed to be saved because R who was a was she was not allowed to marry into the Jewish Nation therefore she couldn't marry boas know Doo mashia therefore there was no reason to say book let's see what happened now I have to tell you I've been talking about writing a book for a very long time and the book that I'd like to write even though people would think that I'd be writing about working with kids it's really a book on something called spiritual DNA there's no question from K from Med from that just like in the physical world there's DNA that we get from our parents the color of your eyes the color of your hair different blood types different hosal diseases in fact DNA is absolutely spectacular i' I've seen and and read DNA tests to prove that certain parents are parents of children and the way that they're matched with thousands of matches and thousands of DNA flag from the saliva of a parent and the saliva of a baby can tell you that the parent is the true parent of that child it's a surely the blood today a baby in the mother's womb a baby when the mother was pregnant do a paternity a maternity test see if that child belongs to the father while the child is in the mother's womb after 3 months the blood of the mother will show the DNA of the child so they can do a DNA test on a child to see if the father TR need the father before the child is even born so in the physical world there's a whole world that hasem created to match child to the par Z says that whatever is in the physical world is mirrored with the spiritual world and therefore in our there is the same DNA from our parents and our grandparents and our great grandparents and of course the most famous group is that is that kro is a nation that has pity because aru had pity what does that have to do with me invited people into his house thousands of years ago what does that have to do with w and the answer is that that's part of a Ra's makeup and his spiritual makeup and therefore if you find a Jew that does not have it says check into his you'll find he's not a that's a pretty heavy statement because the DNA it's a DNA it doesn't match and it's not the child of that person so there's many the of spiritual DNA there a rash by and the Rashi says why were the daughters of so into having the evolutionary to swell they were not the only girls that had no bubbles and Raj says because they came from a shav that came from and had an unbelievable love for ER he said don't leave try without my body says Rashi but because had this love it was y was in the DNA of his shav and therefore these girls had this crazy need to have evolutionary there's many many more proofs of spiritual near one of the biggest proofs is the proof I'm going to bring you today and it is the reason that we read one of the reasons that brought down of course is that she got the Torah she accepted M the Torah and Torah was she the only and she have 63 mitz I think we should read on a story about a man who became a again how about the story of isra why don't we read the story of yro on yro became a g why R say that R if you add hashem's name to R A comes the word t r with a spells Torah so she was because she was R equals 66 she had seven minut so when she became a she was 66 Mitzvah which plus 7 is 613 very nice so my Cas on that is so you tell me if her name was es we wouldn't read the whole story her name was that's it the whole thing would go out the window does doesn't equal usense so why really do we read W specifically on TR is the story of a woman being M so we have to go back so these three and what happens number one when you do people think I'll wait if someone needs me and then I'll be there for them WR you have to look was looking he lifted up his eyes and he looked is there anybody out there that needs my help the difference between people who make changes in cerol and make a difference in clol everybody has the same idea I can't tell you how many times I've heard in business whether it's in business or it's in C or it's in anything that a person does I don't understand I thought about this years ago I could have done this too and the answer is you sat back and waited for the CR to come to you the people who get things done are the people that look for the cross he looked does anybody need help are you say what's the next what's the next word if you're looking to help by then by then you'll see if you're waiting for them to come to you you're not going to see the problem what problem I don't a person who goes out looking to help vro oh are you going to see so right after comes the word he saw and there were three men standing on him in front of him and then the P says he saw you already said by what's the second the same said he saw and they were standing in front of him what's the second are they saying yish sa the cook what's the second look and look what happens after the second look there's no more needs of there's no more there standing in front of him after he looks at the second time he rites he cross up to meet them so everybody asks you just said of you just said they're standing in front of him where's he running you just said es saw and they're standing in front of him and now the PK says he saw and he ran to meet them if they're standing in front of you you don't run to meet them very hard PK understand so after he looked the second time he ran somewhere where did he run it just said they was standing in front of him he was the god not only of the Jews but of the whole world what does he do to these lonly Arabs one of them was a merchant these were not Saudi Arabian Arabs who owned million dollars these the three low life sweaty smelly stinky Arabs who came out of the desert who were nobody and ab bows in front of them he said carefully to this pu talking about spiritual DNA my master says if I find favor in your arms be the other way around I'm do if you find favor if I like you right your CH he's saying the opposite way he's saying if I find favor in your eyes do me a favor please don't pass my house you imagine someone rings the bell Sunday it's a duck in your life please don't come in don't go to don't go next door you'll stay by me I'll take care of you food money whatever you need instead of composition behind or he not available right now this what AB was saying do me a favor go past my house and the first thing he tells them is you got my first thing he tells them is to take some water okay so now he goes and he runs and he and they work they put together and they have all this food and they bring it out and they serve right the says that they serve they serve the food ab and serve the food and he stood there as a waiter he stood upon them all about way he didn't sit with them he stood next to them he's the waiter what can I get you he was the waiter so they s under the tree so they s him I don't these three Arabs turned I don't we're Middle Eastern men what's the deal over here it's when you men serve the food you got a wife why isn't she bringing out the food You're supposed to be sitting with us eating and the woman supposed to be serving well what kind of house you running over here you're the waiter you're bringing out the food taking out the dishes setting the table this is not the way it works so they asked him with your wife so he says by me it works differently this is a Jewish Home the woman doesn't come out and serve men strange men come up to the table that's not p in a woman's place and there are men from the outside that come to the house not to come Ser we told these not where she's supposed to be I'm the one who Ser it she cooked the food she took it but she in the oil I'm the one who Ser so they said okay next year we're going to come back at this time she's going to have a baby the s tells us exactly where she was she did not leave the tent she stood by the door behind and she overheard what the said the is very specific she never walked out of the tent what happened at this point at this point something in Shay had changed everything the game Chang Abu passing that A Woman's Place when it comes to serving people from the outside is not seest to serve the people but the man should Ser the people the mo the reason why y that we can't marry from Moab is because when the Jewish Nation left Egypt and we were on our Isel we were starving and we were thirsty and we stopped by Mo and we asked them for food and they said no no food no water the DNA of I don't want mixed into the spiritual DNA of my nation a nation that is not that can look at children and women and men who are hungry and not give them to eat therefore will y Andi cannot be part of I don't want that DNA therefore Russ who came from Moab would not be able to marry into but what happened here that a woman's plac is not to go out in Ser therefore the women of Moab had an excuse It's not that I'm I hand pity on them what it's next is to go out and serve man and ser people the Met of Mo was supposed to do that AR himself said we're not supposed to do that so once that was ping there was a door there was a window to allow the women of Moab to marry into so now there was a reason to say Lo because from him came came R and now because I so now the women of Mo have a way to marry to the Jewish Nation therefore Rus could marry in therefore L had to be saved so the that the Mal had when he left sh was not to say but after he came to anding that a woman's Jama is not to go Ser now there was a reason to say God was a new with a new to do therefore now this Mal a and he went and he stay for so we see that the whole the whole the whole Mia had to start because was not he was sick was not to go out and do any whatsoever any but he went the extra step even though he was sick and and he did he went for these three ARS through came the question the question came R and the M therefore the first step which happens to be on PES which Happ to be when the Three Angels Came to the first step in this ladder to get to has to now let's go and look at M so Mill R starts off we all know that it was just the opposite that the and her husband ran away from Mar they didn't do they didn't want to do didn't want to do people knocked on the door the whole needed food he had food to give them but he didn't want to be bothered so he ran to Absolute opposite of what he R he went to stay MO Al wife and his two kids now whyu and I very important when it comes to being a re when it comes to being a husband a wife especially when it comes to being a parent to understand what the father of what that second V means v n they in front of it but that second so talks about when a Cen looks at someone who t with and the P says that the Cen has to look twice and then again why to make a Jew T you can't make a Jew t with one the has no right to say even though he's looking at s to say t unless he takes the second look because it's the second one that gives you the real look so when Abu took the first look he me of there was no action he was standing there this person looks like they need something the second look tells you but your RS you cross if you take the second look that will give you the ability to cross up to me what does that mean let me give you an example ironic beol who's the dean of my my growth high school so he used to have a high school in M called man the kids who have gone through very very hard times in their life and they're struggling with a lot of things so he hired a new teacher and the teacher comes to school and these girls are not dressed very theistic to say the least but in school you have to wear uniforms and there's this one girl who has her but so she comes to school and she tells her excuse me I can't teach like he Clos your button girl closes the button next day she comes to school and button's open she says close your button she closes the button and said she com to school the button open she goes on for 30 days she tells her to close the button she has a fire doesn't say no she close the button next morning button open finally after a month the teacher comes to Rabbi G she says RAB green I can't teach this every single day I tell her to close the butt she closes the butt and the next day she comes back with the B open again I am not allowing this girl in my class it's either her or me not a smart to tell people so turns to her and he says well how long's this going on a month seems to be that whatever you're doing is not working you should have put on for that he says let me ask you something I understand what she's doing to you would you ever ask her like why do you ever sit down and say you close your button then you come back with an open you close your button you come back with open what is going on in your life life what is going on at home you close your button school then they come back to your button scho something's going on at home is somefunction is there some abuse is something going on at home you need help you ask that question what no that you shouldn't be teaching in my school because you only have a v one thing you only see if you're not having that second book the second book is why what's really going of this person's life what's really happening in this person's life sure First Look tells you that there's something wrong she's not behaving the way she's supposed to she's fighting the system that's the first thing he need to all of that's in front of you but with how do you meet that person how do you connect to that person there has to be a second by there has to be a second one the story where there was this boy they threw him out think he was they threw him out so the two rash true story the two rash a voice not they so they and they say we have this boy we have to throw him out we just want so said what's his name they said whatever said what's his name whatever no no what's his name we don't understand what what's his name what's his mother's name we don't know his mother's name you don't know his mother's name you didn't die to him you didn't fast for him and you threw him out you don't know his mother's name you didn't say the whole H for this boy get out out famous story you call yourself a chist you don't know the boy's mother's name and he threw him out of his house only one by only took one look you know know what's going on in his family you die for him you didn't fast for him you ready to throw out get out it's the second look Y is clust and believe me if you take the second look then you're going to say don't leave when you take the second look and you see the pain that that person is going through and what's causing what you see is just a symptom it's not the disease you find out what's driving it what's the disease I promise you you're going to say please don't leave stay here I'm going to help you problem is that we only take that first one there'd be no Russ there' be no be no Mia there was no second I shoping I like CL Friday I shoping toach there's a lady whoever shop in toach know this late little thin blonde lady that sits outside and she collects sometimes inside sometimes outside and I feel very good every week I go I give her a dollar give me a some kind of comment always you look so young give another dollar so I feel good about myself and a lot of people know I think give dollar a quarter whatever it is two years ago it was a cold day I came out of kach put my Dollar in her cop and as I'm about to walk away from her this must be 16-year-old girl Jewish girl is coming across the street for the piz Jerusalem Pizza and she has a hot C and A D and she comes and she gets it to the L and I'm standing there I'm like years I'm doing this years I'm giving this woman a dollar I have never bought her a coffee I have never water her a Danish do you think she ever walks away from C she get a coffee in a Danish of course not cuz she thinks that she's going to walk away for 5 minutes she's going to lose five people she's going to lose five mons so she sits there the whole time this girl this 16-year-old girl had a better insight into what is that me were all my dollars she understood it's freezing she's hungry she's not getting off that mil box cuz she going to be scared when she gets off she going to miss five people so this girl went across the street B the C feet border the Danish run it over to her so that she doesn't have to get up that's a v that's a second work that's looking past the cup and understand that the cut is connected to a hand and the hand is connected to a person who has feelings who might be hungry who might be cold the first look is just the cup so you put a dollar in second look tells you the cup is connected to a human being the first look to a kid who struggling on the street is look at this kid shabas look how she's dressed what a disaster what an embarrassment what happens when a kid comes home and she's doing what she's not supposed to do we a boy what's the first thing we say how can you do this to us look what you're doing to your family your sisters never you get a up how much money know how your father works you should be able to be Yesa look what you're doing to your father look me you do it to me what me you do it to your sister what you do it to your brothers look me do it to the family's name you think that kid says zo aggravate my brother sister my father my mother and everybody else you think that's why they're do it but they're doing wrong they're doing it to get attention so what do we do we say look what you're doing to me getting ourselves attention look you're doing to your sister your brother the family meanwhile the second look is what you doing to you why are you doing this to you school you're put my school name I'm not schol I don't think how School struggling Stu that Godless with a so now let's take a look at Russ Russ was a MOA we today don't understand a moia was a Nazi yay in the days of the Jews they were so hated By Us number one they didn't give us to eat number two they were the most immoral nation in the world they came into Aras moov and 24,000 Jewish men died because of the immorality they hired bam to curse us they in the Torah were our Arch Enemy moav moav the arch enemy of the Jewish nation and you have this girl who's a princess of Moab and because she's a non-jew and she marries a Jew after 10 years and both Di and now when the Army I'm not going to get into the whole when she became a g because it's a very interesting very very interesting the men should really spend a lot of time on this on it's very interesting because laa if she was a g if she became a G when she married them then how come they were punished that they died if she became a G when she married them then how did the Army have a right to send them back to Moab if they were G you can't send them back to Moab so how couldi send them back to Moab but if they weren't G then there's no if there's no what's the whole story with withas she was a go when she married then there's no so what's this whole Russ with I'm the GU and I'm not the GU and plenty of money gives it up and and B become there's no go there's no there a GU there's no kadan and if it's a Jew how Army send him back huge m in this very fascinating just Just one thought that really they became Jews to get married which is not a good Gus what did Nai say Nai said go back to where you came from if they go back it showsa that they only got married for the wrong reason therefore the Gus is no good they don't go back then the Gus is good so ARA went back showed she was a GU she never really was M guy no she was DUS boy she was duso she held on to n armi she said I'm not going back therefore I make your nation is my nation cuz I'm showing you that my Gus was a real Gus and therefore going to that there was there was a but it's very fascinating all there a big a lot of but that's off the subject so you have to understand that Russ was totally unaccept aced by the Jewish Nation at that point we were not sure if a woman from Moab would be accepted by the Jewish Nation take a look at what happens amazing so he comes to the field Boaz first of all a very big lesson in life and he comes to the field what does he say so he comes to his workers he comes to his workers and he says to the guys who are harvesting what does he say what do you you say with the boss when you walk into the office no did you finish the work why is the desk so messy why are you late today did you do everything you were supposed to do right that's what a boss says so what is Boaz you have to understand who Boaz was it was the G Hadar he was the king he was the Sha he was the head of bezin he was the Raa Feinstein the ra keski on a 100 times higher level he was the ultimate the king the shet the the bezin he was very old he was respected he was rich he was the man above everybody so now he's coming to his field what does he say to his workers he opens up with this statement God should be with you imagine you come to work in the morning and you the boss walks in and says everybody just want you to know one thing God should be with you and all the workers answer back and God should bless you could you imagine a day that starts at work with the boss walking in and saying God should be with you and all the workers turning to the boss and saying and God should bless you that is a place you want to work could you imagine in school if you're a principal or a teacher that when the Kindel I don't care if they're first graders or 10th graders walk into the room instead of saying take your books out tuck your shirt in take out your homework tie your shoelace why are you late imagine if the rebi or the motor walks in and turns to these kids and says good morning Hashem today God should be with you and the class turns to the teacher and says re hasem should Ben you you think that that class and that rby is not going to be successful that year it's going to be the most successful class in the world the godar is teaching us how to speak to workers the first word is not do this do this why did you do that why did you do this the first word is should be with you and their words back is Imagine between a husband and a wife what a husband leaves in the morning the husband turns to his wife and says should be with you today and she turns to him and says and Hashem should Ben you imagine what a kind of marriage that is and when he comes home she says new he says Hashem was with you today she goes knew Hashem it was a good day Hashem benched you imagine you tell that to your children in the morning before they go to school should be with you god should be with you you think they're going to have a question later on when they 16 17 18 is there a god of course there's a God my mother tells me every morning God should be with me and I tell my mother every morning my father God should bless you I have a question if there's a God this was boas this was a this was understanding so this was the reaction that he got in the field now there's this girl in the field and she's very different than all the other girls all the other girls when they do like they're bowing they're bending down to pick up the wheat she's cursing she's going down so she's not bending over so she's AA so Boaz asks the head man the foreman who's running the whole business who is this girl so what does he say he said do you want to know who she is Rabbi she's an is she's a moia she's a low life she's immoral we don't even know she's Jewish she's a moia who came with Nai remember Nai the one that left CL Israel left us without food and went to Moab yeah she came back with the Army you know from where he's doing a good description from the SED Moab she came from the fields of Moab he didn't say one positive thing about her she looka everyone else is B is bending over she's curtsying so say oh you know who she is I don't know she came from Mo but wow she's so modest but he only had a one vayar he only had one look he was a n he took one look who is that somea that was his whole report not a positive word in the whole report so how does the god react to this report by and Bo says to Rus the first time he speaks to her hello shamat B listen to me my daughter my daughter the God had car is calling a moav via girl his daughter after getting a report from his main man that she's a l life BT his daughter that's what he says he says listen to me my daughter I'll don't you dare go to somebody else's field and and now comes the spiritual DNA from don't pass through my field you already said you just said don't go into another field why is he saying you said it already and the answer is that thousands of years before this and the creation of Russ said the exact same words to the three the same words came out of boaz's mouth thousands of years he said don't go to another field and he said don't pass through here the same exact words and what's the first thing he tells you to do take water exactly what said he said you're thirsty the first thing he says go take water what goes around comes around the that you do is not just for you it's for your children and your children's children and 2,000 years later your children's children's children but listen to this conversation between Russ and boas so he says the following go get something to drink you're thirsty go to the and drink she falls on her face like fell on his face in front of the she bows to the ground like bow to the ground by and she said and I've heard this a 100 times from my high school students from girls that I work with from boys that I work with that are off the D that are struggling I have heard this question hundreds of times and she asked it straight up oneon-one to the guttle head dog and she says M why what why are you talking to me so nice I'm a mo I'm a la life I'm a nobody I have no self-respect and have no self-esteem the magic says that they try to take her physically and throw her over the fence because he says to her don't worry I'll make sure the P says I'll make sure that my now my boys will not touch you Kaz touch her CU we're from boys why do you have to tell her that they're not going to touch her and the answer kazal says because they tried to pick her up and throw her over the fence because they said you're a guy how dare you take Sedaka that belongs to Jewish girls so he said to her I will make sure they don't touch you they wanted to throw the grandmother of DAV H over the fence because they saw a moia they saw a l life so they were going to take the grandmother of D am and throw her over the fence she's called aamal but SCH it says she was still alive and when it says a the mother of Cl malus was R but if you only have one look and you see this kid on the street and they're not dressed correctly you want to throw him over the fence and Bo said they won't touch you no one's throwing over the fence and she asked him why you why did you give me this attention and she says it's straight out why did you even recognize me why did you stop to ask me what's going on in my life every person what we what we're looking for what every kid is looking for what every husband and wife is looking for is recognition it's the big word laki rainy why did you give me recognition I don't understand I'm not the goody goodie I'm the moia so she asked him straight up why but she says I'm a guy you're the why you calling me be what's going on over here nobody likes me everybody judges me why are you different so he answers her rayan what a discussion I'll tell you why who God who God leave it was told to me how you stuck by your mother-in-law you left your father the EM your father's house and your mother's house ER M and the place of where you were born who else did that saying you are you might be a Mia but you left it all for what to to a nation you don't even know you don't even know who we are we're treating you like you're nothing like you're nobody want to throw you over the fence you gave this all up you're of course I'm giving you attention and he gives her should pay you back a big so she answers him I have found favor in your eyes my master now we know that this was a kid that a woman that was struggling a woman that had low self-esteem a woman that was unaccepted how do we know this cuz she uses a very powerful word she says you conso me if you're not in pain you don't need to be consoled you the you conso me how do you console a person who's in pain how do you console a kid who's struggling how do you cons console a person who's struggling says the CU you spoke to my heart you didn't look at the name and the label they gave me get risk kid at this kid at risk by me anyway is a big br I wasn't even a kid at risk risk means you have something you can lose risk Is Not a Bad Thing least you have something No Label she said you didn't label me a mo you didn't label me nothing de you were able to see past everything you were able to talk to my heart and then she says and I know that someone who has a second V someone who's able to look past the label and to look into the other person's heart and see their struggle she says I know something I know that I'll never be like just a maid servant I know that you'll always treat me like your own daughter and that's the Godless of the second V that's the Godless of being being able to see the other person's pain and being able to understand that every single person is be is a and to understand that looks at us therefore we go to mat and you have to read Russ and you have to understand that the father of Mia the only way to bring AIA into this world the only way to bring this world is a combination of it's a double and a SN for Hado not pan that A Woman's Place is not to come out amongst the men Russ would have never been able to marry into K and if you take and you combine it with the of then on the 49th day you can reach when to end two minutes the story and I can tell you anyone who's in knows exactly what I'm talking about and every parent you got to you got to have that second look the first look is not real the first look is a symptom is the rash why do you have the rash you got to find out where the rash is coming from we're going to treat the rash with calamine lotion and you have strep it's not going to help you're going to get a headache afterwards you're going to get a fever everyone's very busy reacting to the symptom the second look V is to find out what's the disease what's driving the symptom you give an antibiotic the whole SCP is gone all the symptoms are gone only a silly doctor treats the headache and the diarrhea and everything else with a different medicine and in the end the person's going to get strept in their heart they're going to have dying so the smart doctor says that's just that that rash and that fever that's just a symptom you need a strep culture and then one antibiotic it's all gone that second look is the Godless that was the V that that that Abino had that was such an unbelievable story Bor it was amazing there was one other thing about him which has a lot to do with project Inspire and a lot to do with getting things done and being the father of Messiah when she came back when Russ came back to her mother-in-law the night after she went into the Silo and uncovered his legs and she said I'm here because somebody has to do ium somebody has to take the yusha theza and has somebody has to take responsibility for me so she comes back she tells her motherinlaw everything that she did she brought back six six things of grain and her mother-in-law makes a a statement she says don't worry he will not rest till the deed is done that's what she says to Ross Boaz is not a procrastinator you told him that you there's a need and the PK says she says don't worry Russ the day will not go by until he solves the problem the second look has to be by you can't sit back and then say okay now I know what it is it'll be okay Boaz didn't sit back for one second he came called the bezin together you called plenty amoni together there was no time to wait it's the other Meda of of of Mah of getting something done TR to end I'm late started late try to end with a very very fast story about one of my t for many many years ago talking about a second look about a girl actually so I had this boy talmud tell very fast and um I was teaching I teaching Basin and he never got to my class on the eighth grade Reby in sixth grade they threw him out they caught him in the in the stairway what whatever it threw him out of school he ended up going to public school but I stayed in touch with him his name was hoe and I didn't see him for many many years his brother was in my class his brother graduated K Shea they not religious nothing and his brother invited me to his wedding so I came to his brother's wedding in the non-religious circles that have What's called the havan Nila dance there this one dance to put up the M for the rabbis to play hav Nila you dance with the that's it you get two minutes after that the M goes down forget about it right so but we always get the re always gets to havan Nila dance for two minutes the band is not a Jewish band they know how to play one Jewish song havila and then we leave we dance at the and we leave so I'm sitting at the table at the's table and his brother's sitting there this this kid ho who's very anti because he got thrown out of Yeshiva and he's sitting there he's full of tattoos from head to toe he's sitting with a non-jewish girl his girlfriend who's sitting there in front of me like he's trying to get to me to make me really angry so it's not a pretty sight anyway it comes to the habila dance so I turn to hoe I say hoe how about dancing with rebi so he turns to this girl who's not Jewish and he says do you mind if I dance with the rabbi she makes the biggest mistake of her life and she says no I don't mind dance so he gets up to dance and anyone who knows R Wallin is I say the way it is so we get up to dance and we're dancing and I grab him and I give him this big fat kiss on his left cheek and in his ear I whisper no matter what you do no matter how much you try to get me angry you need to know something I will always love you so you don't have to do this stuff and then I turned his head and I gave him a big fat kiss on his other cheek and I whispered in his ear but you know you're going to hell the round bomb says hug him and hit him love him but then tell them the way it's at okay so we're talking a little bit and he's and and he's a Buddhist and he's been up there and he's fasted and he's he's done all the Buddha stuff and he's got these two huge tattoos on his arms two huge Buddhas on his body so we talking I'm like he's a Buddhist I said you know why don't you come to my Tuesday night kabura and talk to the guys you know about Buddhism I'll talk about Judaism you'll talk about Buddhism we'll have an ism little ISM talk he's very excited he's going to get a chance to talk about his Buddhism so he comes to my share and without her and he starts to talk about Buddhism whatever it is and of course I'm making this little fat guy Buddha the guy can't lose weight for thousands of years he can't lose 5bs he sits there with a big belly how can he be God I mean come on right and I make fun of it we're going back and forth back and forth hey make a long story short we go through the whole thing he starts coming back every Tuesday night he becomes he gets rid of this G he he's interested in growing I send him to I send him to it doesn't work because in Buddhism they have this whole it's very not logical it's very um spiritual and emotional and warm and he needed that kind of he needed he he need because the the the he wasn't a brainiac and and The Logical stuff that wasn't I'm saying that wasn't for him this was for him so he needed I was I was panicking because he didn't want to go to Asia anymore and he fell in fell in so not important which see this see this so to make a long story to make a long story short he's there for two years he's growing it's K the Hott to stay there thr his sweaters up to here cuz he's got these tattoos his sleeves are up to here he goes to the m when there's nobody there he he's you know he's a he's ashamed but he's what could he do anyway he calls me up he's coming back to America so why he says I'm 21 years old it's time for me to date there's nowhere I'm going to marry a Jewish an Israeli no one in Israel is going to marry me in America I find a b chuba from a motorcycle gang she has tattoos and I have tattoos it'll work out even though I a Buddha it'll work out I'm like listen you're right it was right M right before PES I said stay till PES after PES come home runs World his read like four weeks before PES this girl from regular home from girl he's like Reby I got to tell her that I have tattoos I mean sooner or later she going to find that no way this girl's going to marry me she's a straight girl there's no way she's going to marry I'm like listen don't tell her till the fifth date by the fifth date she'll have some feelings for you you have a chance you'll tell her she doesn't if she can't get past it she won't get past it you're going to tell her up front you got Buddha on your arms it ain't it's not going to happen this this is not going to happen Okay so he goes out he really likes her she really likes him comes the fifth dat he calls me up says I don't know where I'm you have now you have to tell her now it's not right now you have to tell her so he says okay I'm going to tell her so he tells me over end of the fifth date so he turns to her they're parked outside kabad and he says to her there's something that I want to tell you so she's figuring he's going to propose right fifth dat even dating was like so fifth dat was like whoa so like he's definitely going to propose he says but I don't want you to be shocked so she's thinking he's going to propose she goes no no I won't be shock say what you want to say so she says so he says um well I'd like to show it to you so she says I don't understand he says let me show you my arm and he opens up his sleeve and she's like and he pulls up his sleeve and there's this big tattoo of a Buddha with a snake and she looks at the tattoo and he says I have one here I have one on my other arm I have one on my back and I completely understand if you don't want to marry me quote she turns to him and she says he's no longer ho Shalom she says Shalom I want to tell you something I don't see the tattoos on your body I see the tattoo in your Nish I have never met somebody with a tattoo in the Nish of a y k v k like you have if you have no problem I have no problem marrying you they're married have three kids Kara they live in B Bar he has common spoke in oura about his whole trip and everything that he went through we call it from Buddhism to judism Judaism from tattoos to filling this girl had the ability of having a second V seeing past and seeing the pus of a Jew that every single Jew every single Jew has a tattoo in their soul that has hashem's name y v it was a Reb I don't know who it is this is my last line I just heard it this week so I guess I heard it in order to share with you and the re said the following he said there are two types of Jews there are religious Jews and there are Jews who will become religious have a good y