Rabbi Yaniv Meirov | Preparing for Tisha B'av | CHAZAQ

foreign [Music] dedicated sponsored for the success and health of her husband and children sponsored by Amazon for success and in the health of her husband and children tonight I want to thank you I've opened the doors of helping coordinate tonight's event um in the the Kazakh organization as we know is that is one of the leading organizations organizes how many Different Serum and events like tonight different communities Inspire men and women fall backgrounds as well as a major focus of inspiring Jewish public school students through after school programs in 50 different locations daily programs for public school students to inspire them to to teach them Torah and Judaism and with the hope of hopefully transfer them to Yeshiva and since 2017 as we've helped transfer over 1300 children from public school Yeshiva and then right now we're right before during the nine days of over the nine days and the destruction the base of migdash and and what we could do is there's a destruction going on in our community and the public school students and Jewish public school students and each one of us in order to rebuild a basement we can reach out to kazak and send and let people know about the great programs because I said they can help come to the after-school program or go to Yeshiva yeah and thank you very much oh I have to put this on okay I have to be wired okay we wired a Sim I like to read everywhere Robin just mentioned and uh think the killer said oh Sarah yeah what a beautiful bit can I said and uh of course to thank the amazing staff all that they do like Robbie just mentioned unbelievable we have to do more we have to bring you that I want to bring Hashem so the topic that's been advertised is uh preparing for tea Shabbat so the first thought that I had okay preparing for t-shirt is a fast day and how do you prepare for a fast you drink some water a lot of water right and they say it's a good thing to have a watermelon and maybe get some rest and that way you could have an easy fast and I see everyone uh is smiling and laughing but uh that's the sad reality many people what do they wish each other I have an easy fast have an easy fast have an easy fast but we all know that's not what it's all about it's not about just having the fans come and go getting it over with let's finish this already fanito how fast does it end what can we do to make it finish faster which videos and organizations and programs is out there with the or every day we know that rambam it tells us that the reason for fasting is to awaken us and to inspire us to do chuva to repent that is the idea of fasting ladies and gentlemen for all of you coming out on Iran on Wednesday night so many people I'm so inspired and uh we all know that the reason that the beta mcdosh the Holy Temple was destroyed was why because of Sinatra and bases hatred and what do we have to do to rebuild the betterment we have to do the opposite of Sinatra Nam which is we need to love all free for all free from a love for all that's what it is we have to love everyone no matter what the situation no matter what the background is we have to work on this and we all know that the gamara that every single year that the betterment is not rebuilt it's as if it was destroyed in that year so in essence we're not crying and we're not mourning and we're not into the three weeks and hours closures we just had up so it's in the nine days itself it's not because of what happened back then but it's because what's happening now it's because of what we are doing what that means is we have to work on this for the fact that how do we prepare for the job we have to prepare by not having a dish above by not having it a fast day there's a beautiful there's a beautiful inside his house never think about it most holidays happening foreign it's a date it's the ninth day of the month of abs and the three-week period it entered with what with the 17th day of the month it was a fast day as well it's not a name it's a date this is to give us they give us inspiration it's a cup to tell us that we all know that is to become a happy day it will be turned from sad to Happy so that they would have named it yamah Quran the day of the destruction then it would have been like that forever but the fact that they didn't give it a name is to give us hope it's to give us to give us inspiration to say that it's called the ninth day of the mother of it's called it's a date because one day it's going to be changed President Jimmy happened this year's Japan soon it's gonna be changed from a sad day to a happy day without Hashem and we have to understand that in order to have this change of sadness to happiness we have to change ourselves we have to work on ourselves there's no better time than now during the three weeks we just had virus which talks about the 42 journeys of the Jewish people that they were from Egypt we try them all the way to getting into our stroke imagine every single one now interestingly enough if you do these three weeks three weeks if you do the math is how many days it's 21 days and we have another time in the calendar year that 21 is also very very very important it's from Russia it's 21 days now help me out with the math for a moment 21 plus 21 is how much 42 oh you guys are good you guys know your math okay very impressive 42 is membit it's also the massage and these why did the Army's not the Jewish people have to go through all these Journeys is to teach us gradual growth you don't change from point A to point Z in one moment it takes time to go up the ladder if you go from the first rung of the ladder and you jump to the tent they're gonna fall you have to take it one step at a time growth takes time it takes time to become a better person and that's what all of you have come here tonight for inspiration to visit the gym change to grow and we have to remember that not only in this time period is important to grow but it's at all times and I'll prove it to you in the Hebrew language how do you say one second do we have any Hebrew speakers here there you go if you pay attention is very similar to the word shinui that means every single second Shania shinui what do we have to do we have to change we just had today it's over already but we just had what or Scottish how do you say month we just had I said yeah it's open month is calledest chodesh it's renewal what do we have to do every single month we have to renew we have to come better every single second in every single month a month away from today we're going to have visits Hashem this month is coming I'll invest coming get ready in the crowd that's right waking up early get ready all laughing thank you it's very nice of you but uh don't worry we have the rice and pasta we have a balance we have uh certain pluses and minuses I think it gives out more or less but all seriousness is a little battle is coming in a month after all we all knows so how do you say a year in Hebrew once again is coming to tell us something powerful what are we doing Rosh Hashanah change every year we have to change we take resolutions we take things upon ourselves but it's not just on Rosh Hashanah during chuba season but it's all year round every second every month every year we have to change we have to work on ourselves this is something we have to work on it's not something it's not easy and if it is easy there's a famous thing easy come easy go we have to work on it we have to work on it we have to toil it's not easy I want to share with you with me iri says Erie says something amazing he says that if you are the same person this applies right now during this period of time the nine days that we're in and this is going to apply by T Shabbat if you are the same person before and after the fast or before and after these nine days or before and after the three weeks whatever it is you know what you're compared to the mirror he says something a little bit offensive okay don't throw the tomatoes at me I didn't say it is I'm just quoting he says that you are like a hamor you're a donkey why because if you don't change Aid a Jew has to always be changing always be growing always going to the next level always doing more never being satisfied always learning more always dominating better he says because a donkey is the same exact donkey every single season the oath season The Barley season the wheat season he's always the same donkey as the same hamor but us we have to always be changing we always have to be growing we have to always do more we have to always take more upon ourselves and the more we think about ourselves the more we're going to grow the more we grow growth in Hebrew is to grow so man that's very similar to the word which is happiness you want true happiness so Mass grow not grow physically six feet tall that's not the idea the idea is what to grow spiritually with more Terra morbidroid and that's the way we could work on ourselves and work on this topic of loving our foes like like we love about the lyrics you love yourself it's work it's we have to put effort into it is mean to take him around to be next to him and they'll organize here with the rabbit will talk about Sid I would take him to the SEMA Shots by uh by by MetLife Stadium I took him to another Cinema and it's cool to be with him a lot Hashem and I remember very very vividly I would go let's just say the rabbi we needed to get something from a supermarket let my child for example okay and this actually happened and you would see people and you would give them a hug he would give them a smile he'll give them a good word and then I would be like rebe Museum who is this he's like I don't know I'm like I understand but you you you you're like as if you know him say what do you mean we love everyone this is something we have to all take upon ourselves to love everyone I started doing it as well I see people I give them a hug they think I'm crazy yeah what are you doing so I'm a little bit careful with dogs but I'll give a smile at least nice to see you and they'll be like who are you it doesn't make a difference who cares at the end of the day you have to say that every single day we have to love every single year every single Jew we have to work on it and how do we love more time loves in Hebrew is ahava what's the root word of Allah it's have what does have mean what does Lavi mean to give you don't know Hebrew Habib you have to learn it's important how do you love someone by giving it to them the more you give the more you will love give a compliment give a good word give a smile give give give and don't forget when you give you're going to openly get from upsham how do you saying again that can Natan means to give an Ebro backwards and forward to the palindrome you spell it both ways interestingly enough not only but in English as well n-a-t-a-m and backwards and forwards you give you get you give you get the more you give the more you get from shame kindly be giving always be giving don't stop giving or people like you understand I'm gonna give everything for you know I'm not gonna have anything left the more you give the more you get from Shaman from heaven from Hashem which is the best let's work on this whatever will die let's work on this so I'd like to share with you wherever we tie his story that I said last year of Marathon and I got so much feedback from it families that meet Shalom I mean peace people that got along and I want to share with you again gives you the lesson is very very very powerful I just I mentioned the word Shalom I want you to know why that there is sometimes no Shalom there's no peace people getting that along with each other and there's and there's a beautiful simple explanation sorry for the non-hebrew speaker but we'll explain everything that's in Hebrew to English as well shalom you know when you have Shalom when you have peace when it's shalim when it's complete when you know the whole picture when do you have mcloket when you have an argument is helic it's a portion it's a part when you only know a part or a portion of the story there's mcloket we're not on the same page you know Shalom you know the whole picture you're all on the same page you sit down in this God you have shalom wherever that is something everybody has to work on and we know about it says and hello and what's knowledge him now pay attention very interesting you say shamai versus hello what's that I'm showing up for the sake of Heaven Quran and his people against who are you say why don't you say against Moshe or Badoo simple question and the answer is very powerful a disagreement that is for the sake of Heaven you will have a discussion shamai speaks hilah listens hello speaks shamai listens what was Clark and his people they would speak and scream they would have listened to the other side that's Allah that's time for the sake of Heaven you want to have Shalom you have a conversation you go backwards and forwards you bring it to the table put them together you have an argument you have a third person whoever may be to make Shalom to make beasts and another Hindus I tell you very interesting many times if you pay attention what does it say another very important lesson about Shalom about peace about loving each other about getting along is that you know why what's bad mean the house you don't get the house involved don't get other people involved how many times do we have families that are broken and torn apart because two people Adam had a disagreement he told his wife injito the neighboring the mother and the mother loved as well it became world war three everyone's advanced because you got the bike and about you have a difference of opinion with somebody else like we said before you bring it to the rod you bring it to an individual he is the deciding factor between the two of them and they'll be Shalom Ali said there's gonna be peaceful so the story goes as follows that there was a rabbi narrative sir his name is rabbi yanai he had a student Alexander Alexander had a son you should never know this is a disease very bad and what happened was that he needed a specific blood type or bone marrow to be maxed and they couldn't find a match all over everything's trial they look the rabbi told the student the rabbi told the individual Alexander listen God bless you with money put up a sign one hundred thousand dollars Whoever has a max now 100 000 over here especially in every so especially it's a lot of money now moraro died in the hospital where this boy was there was a line around the block people trying to see if there's a match for this boy for this individual and what happens is that the first day that they have this sign up it went viral went all over the place not one person of the hundreds of people that came to the line were a match the next day it was a big big line not around the block a little bit less and once again there is no match for the third day even less but is what happened was there was a match there was one match Oswald he started thinking singing they're all dancing oh my gosh what are the changes and these individuals said listen before I do anything big in my life I'm very strict about him about respecting my father and mother I want to discuss with my father beforehand of course go right ahead go speak to your father they tell them he goes says this is the situation they're looking for a match and I happen to be the match is it okay I do this surgery operation whatever it is the father says of course what's the question means however saves one Jewish soul and the Jewish people it's as if you save the entire world of course what a great thing you're doing and the father says just asked you a question sure who is this family who is this individual that you want to help out to Kevin who is this and he says I don't know but they say it's a guy named Alexander it's for his son the father's face turns colors and he's like Jonah my son listen to me carefully you could up anyone and anyone in the entire world except for Alexander and his family the son hears this he says oh okay father says I do no questioning it reminds me of a famous story about Ram Klein his father this type of Yahoo heard that there's someone named that wasn't feeling well he thought it was his son he's like okay he goes to nevsky's house he sees that the rabbi is learning he tells him go to lay down in bed he doesn't say why what happened no question that Alba said I do he goes to the bed Ruth steibler the father goes back on they're like where did you go I heard that shaim is not feeling well I wanted Tom to go lay down oopsie he goes back to Europe's house his son's elf and he sees him he's in the bed with a Camara wherever we die for all the youngsters at least all those that have the screwed us to have a father alive he moved away in his heart but we got to do whatever we got to do anyways back to the story the father said to help anybody besides from Alexander and his family son doesn't ask any questions what happens is that the search continues looking for a match and what happens is that time goes by and the rabbi goes to this father and he says listen your son is a man he's the only match we're looking all over the place the father says listen Rabbi I respect you it's a big honor to see you here but I can't talk about it tell me please I want the only one oh I can't talk about it yeah no no yes he leaves that I can't do it and the search continues and still can't find it it was at the time of pesach his meal quickly and he goes to his father's house and the famous saying is Secrets come out and after four cups of wine and the father there's a knock on the door oh God if I do a rabbi what are you doing there welcome welcome community and they talk different hidushim insights and he says to Ami why why tell me why is that gonna tell you why he pulled up his sleeve and he shows him the numbers from the Holocaust he's like I'm a Survivor from the Holocaust from the show up I lost my wife and four kids but I actually really only lost three kids I was ready and going away with my Lads for the sun we're running away we're escaping and while we're escaping in the forest all of a sudden a big projection a light is on us and there's screaming Judy doing Jewel juice and two Nazis are running after us to get it with a Jew a Jewish guard what they did was in they took Jews and they made them work for them they will give them extra food is that whatever it is and what happens is that this Jew that was together with the Nazism kicks me so hard the father says kicks me so hard I fall on the ground in the forest and then I hear him saying give me the honor and he takes the gun from the Nazism and poof poof and he shoots twice on my son my last remaining son he killed him and who is this Jewish guard that killed my son none other than Alexander I was like what crazy story I can't it's hard for me to believe this he's my student neighborhood he became about you about he's totally religious like he's like whoa let me digest all this let me register all this and the rabbi actually does a comeback he's like you know what you're a million percent right you're a million percent right but if you follow your emotions your heart your gut feeling you're right but if you follow the Torah the Shah the holy Torah what does it say don't bear Grudge I don't need your friend in your heart he's like I promise he said I'm nothing bad will happen for you let this happen let your son be the match go ahead do it and the father says okay he said okay but on three conditions condition number one is I do not want to see the guy's face condition number two is I definitely don't want his money and condition number three is I do not want anyone to know about this top secret no one not in no one else the Rabbi says deal and what happens is that they have this surgery and it's a success whatever day it's a success the transfusion worked and the child is alive the individual is alive in a few days weeks pass by and Alexander is like one in the world's gone out of here my word is a word I said I'm gonna give a hundred thousand dollars to whoever I was out my son who is his individual where is he I want to thank him I want to get to know him I want to give him the money and he goes to the hospital and all the doctors and the nurses and the secretaries private information we can now give you the information he's like I don't understand what got out of it this is crazy I want to know say my son what sorry there was a request a word is a word by us we cannot give you the information he was going from one place to the next place the next Doctor the next nurse to the next secretary one of the secretaries fell into peer pressure here's the address he takes the edges and he runs goes towards this address and he wants to thank them he knocks on the door and the father opens the door and sees Alexander and he's Furious and he's angry he starts screaming get out of here I don't want to see you you're a murderer and I'll do that what's going on with me where did I knock and he's screaming get out of here get out of here I said whoa whoa whoa I remember I remember give me no I don't want to hear you I don't want to talk to you and he said please I beg you he's like no no no yes no no yes what do you want tell me he's like I remember that day and I know in general people think that I was a bad person but you should know he saved a lot of Jewish people's lives I had to make believe that I was friends with the Germans and I had to make believe that I was against the Jews but be honesty that was helping out a lot and he's like I remember when you were in the forest with your son I remember it very vividly I remember it very clearly and yes I kicked you very hard and yes you fell down you must have been injured or whatever the situation was but I only did it as you make believe that I am on their side and you know what I did I took the gun I told him to give me the honors right and I took the gun and poof poof I did two shots the two German Nazis and I took your son and I adopted him and now everything makes sense because your son in Europe is exactly the match that you added narrative style for your son and the essence you saved your son's life unbelievable unbelievable he had this see now he had this hatred torrents this individual bottled in him for all those years you killed my son he was holding on to his son he was the one that save them but he had the Cena he had his hatred listen it wasn't he wasn't baseless hatred but if you really think about it deep deep very deep there is a such thing as any agent that's not baseless what then what are you talking about he hit me he did this to me he stole he whatever it is he you know what he did to this that let me explain to you it's very simple if you believe like that you're acting like a killer what's that a dog what happens is there's an owner of a dog and the dog was a little bit misbehaving so the owner of the dog takes a stick and he started banging to the dog and the dog is upset and he's barking and screaming and he's running after what the owner of the stick the stick man what are you crazy everyone's laughing at a dog he's running after the stick but it was really hitting in it's owner what are you adding out to the stick for same thing with us when someone does something to us who is really doing it God almighty this guy at the end of the day is only a stick that's in you he's a messenger he's a slea at the end of the day everything that happens to us it's a mirror image from us you hear that everything that happens because of us everything that happens to us every single division is because of what we did because of our actions the bench Christ said something amazing I love it so much beautiful Michelle beautiful parable that there everyone wanted to get closer to Berlin to God Almighty but United you get closer to God you're not even got closer to you better yet how do you make God closer to you is by you becoming closer to God let me explain there was an individual he went to the store to buy a mirror and he goes to the story and he calls the individual I want to buy a mirror oh sure I have a most beautiful mirror for you you're gonna love it it gives him the Mary shows it to him and the guy doesn't show any interest he's like what's wrong with it he's like listen the picture I see over here it's ugly it's dirty the hat is crooked get me something else he's like you might as noon you fool you crazy that's you fix your hat you're dirty clean yourself up come back you'll see a beautiful picture the banish guy says that how do we get closer to Hashem Hashem Your Shadow it says until what that means is the way we work on ourselves and we work on ourselves we become better people Hashem God Heaven shamai is going to be better to you as well now we can understand as well what are the things what's next month the letters I am for my beloved and my beloved is to me the way you are towards Hashem towards Torah towards mitzvot is the way hashemito didn't add back to you we have to work on ourselves and we work on our solemns you're going to see Kai you're going to see life is good life is great noticing is hatred nothing is upset everything is amazing phenomenal and great everything is for the best I want to share with you another Amazing Story earlier from one of my other remain well unbelievable the amount he does for the Jewish people are of the video says it was a man that does so much for college he's the one that started in ascends The Cure of Revolution that kazak is involved with with the kids from Bible schools to Yeshiva and all Yeshiva placement Division and the rabbi monster Owen gives up his time to the community into the cloud basically he said over one to the kazakov into the sheer that there was 150 years ago in Germany there was a big issue that the German government got persuaded by the reform movement not to let the Orthodox Community build tools not to build and a lot of the reform they became Christian it was about again it was a big mess the rabbis at the time got together and they said what are we going to do about this they said we have to go directly to the Prime Minister his name was Carl Bismarck he wasn't afraid of anyone he was known as the iron counselor he was like this what happens is that they sent a letter for a meeting and believe it or not he said no problem come on Tuesday at 1 pm you have one hour he said wow by the way probable kinds in the crowd there's a book kinds of the year you know why God loves the book Heinz because it says for all those that love bugs okay the box is the green rice food okay anyways now I lost my train of thought what was I saying ah so they have a meeting one o'clock on Tuesday this was going to be in Berlin the place where the head Rabbi who's the head of all the rabbits of it was rabbed by Dr mayor Layman that was his name he was out of the rabbis over there and what happens is that they're so exciting they're gonna be able to meet with the prime minister to tell him what they do and they need his help and they shouldn't do this decree and what happens is that Tuesday comes he wakes up very early he goes to bed knesset and he prays and he prays and they made up that the meeting is at one they're gonna go at nine o'clock it's three hours right more or less it was a little bit less than that just to be safe nine o'clock we go by the train station it's gonna be about three hours to get there to the to this place and they said you know 20 minutes earlier we're going to get there 8 40. everybody be there at 8 40. make sure all 10 Rabbi said the image no problem yes we'll be there and Bobby Layman comes back from school it was 8 A.M they have to be in the train station which is a 10 minute walk from this house at 8 40. he has to leave the house at 8 30. 8 o'clock he comes home his wife says I know it's a big day for you let me make you a Bissell stick a little bit something breakfast something to eat the future of Judaism is on your shoulders should be successful and she's about to go to the kitchen to make him some breakfast there's a knock on the door and she goes to open the door she sees an old man Adam's again standing over there hi could I please speak to the rabbi oh the rabbi today is busy so sorry this is the matter of life and death this is I need to speak to the rabbi please uh uh she doesn't know what to say she goes to the rabbi there's an old man who wants to see you he's like breakfast or old man what should I do okay let the old man gumbo tell me I'm in a big rush because life and death okay I'll help him let him come and moreover will die they'll let the old men come Mrs Rabbi thank you so much for letting me come and he's talking very slow thank you so much for letting me come and the Rabbi says listen I am in a huge rush okay so please if you could do like times two like they have on WhatsApp right we could just talk a little bit faster this is going back under 50 years ago so they didn't have that okay I want time to give a share in Brooklyn and I finished this year and in the older individual in a wheelchair comes over to me he says I didn't enjoy it I'm like oh eBay everyone enjoyed what happened you talked too fast I'm like I I'm so sorry I I'm working myself and by the way I'm talking a little bit slower today just for the record I was just talking the master so the person that's you know within him is like um no no the opposite good things isn't I'm like I have a good idea I have a good idea I told him I'll send you the link afterwards you know you have times two which is fast we'll do it .05 for your father and he let them do it and he enjoyed anyway these old individuals talking point zero zero very slowly and the rallies in a big rush and he's like listen this situation is as follows I was born 70 years ago Rabbi says sir what's the question of life and that I'm getting there you need to hear the whole story I'm in a big rush I need to go I was born 70 years ago this in this place I went to this in this school I had this in this rabbis this and this teachers and the rabbi is switching sweating he's like please I really have to go listen listen it was time for me to get married and I had a very hard time I dated this girl and I dated background you know that family this individual that wealthy person and they're able to get to the point what's the point he's like I finally got married I was very older I was an older guy I finally got married to my wife okay mazalda what's the question and he said that I finally got married to my wife and then he starts crying ah what's the problem we got married and and it took us 15 years to have a child 15 years and he starts crying and crying and the time is ticking and the rabbi's like okay okay I have to go he's like no no wait he's like we add 15 years we went to this doctor in this Rabbi we tried this we tried another thing up and he's like but after 15 years we had one child he was a baby girl and she was everything for us and you know we sent her to this school and she had this teacher and we did everything for her and he continues in his slow way and the time is ticking 8 30 and 8 40 has to be there and it's 10 minute walk and he starts standing up he's like continue please because I really have to go he's like and then we were looking for a match first she took for her and then we had a hard time and but we wanted someone very special because it's my our only daughter I'm gonna talk a little bit faster and we did everything we can and she did it this morning she did it that one and it goes on and on and stretches everything out and then he says she finally married this is this individual and you know what a wedding we did wow it was our only daughter and the rabbi is like trying to run and he's like pulled him this side and he like doesn't know what to do and what happens is that she finally got married and then she also had a hard time to have children and he starts crying and the rabbit is like please please invite her yellow let's go what's the question and he's like a few years ago about two years ago she had a baby boy I gotta run no no she had a baby boy and they named him oh okay very nice man shalom has to wait three days after the breed and he starts crying again the rabbis in arashi the time his thinking it's already 8 40 is already 20 minutes he needs to some reason I'll get to the train station and he's like okay what's the question he said he passed away this is about two years ago and about three days ago my daughter gave word to another boy what's that life and that's question over here half this what's the start and he we are so happy Rabbi you have no clue you have no clue we're so happy okay what's the question and the question which is life and death is we love the name shalama and we want to name him is it okay we name him and the rabbi is like a little bit upset takes his suit takes his hat and he starts running out of the door and the old man's like all right wait please wait for me he's like don't name him name him something else and the old man says rabbi what should we name it give me ideas lovely he said I don't know stop asking me these questions stop it okay and the rabbi is running and he's running like the fastest he could ever run and he's running and running and running and as he's running he sees from far the time you know the translation is a big time he sees from Far nine o'clock he's seeing the train is coming and he's running like he's never on before and he finally gets to the train station but it was 901 the George already closed and the train went and the nine rabbis of the delegation are standing over there and they are livid did I grabbi you're late to this most important meeting with the prime minister how do you explain yourself you think you don't understand there was this old man old man schmold man what are you talking about what in the world are we going to tell the Prime Minister we had a meeting with him and we miss we missed the train he said you're right no excuses 100 I'm wrong they missed they missed that train they were waiting for the leader of the delegation the rabbi doctor uh mayor Lehman they're waiting for him with Adam and he was a spokesperson he was the one that was going to talk he was a good speaker or reader he knew the information so what happens is the rabbi goes back home all the rabbits go back home he said we have to meet tonight we have to figure something out because this is not good news for us he's probably gonna be upset he had a meeting where he came to the meeting with him go show up so what happens is that he's at home and he's crying and he's saying I sham God why did you send me this old man why did you do this to me all of the future of Judaism in Germany is all my shoulders and now who knows what's going to be it can even be worse and he's crying and he's sad and his wife is trying to calm him down this and that and back then under the 50 years ago they didn't have radio they didn't have computers they didn't have uh you know social media WhatsApp all this stuff with news with updates how did anyone get news it was a newspaper there was two editions there was the Morning Edition and it was a night Edition but whenever there was something that happened that was the who that was urging there was an emergency there was something special that happened there will be another Edition that happened during the day in middle of the day it was called a special edition and what happened was that the rabbi was in his study and he hears the boy outside screaming special edition special edition here how does it go whatever the the line is Special Edition and they go out they say what happened what's going on what's the special edition all about he said that there was a train that left at 9am from this city and that train crashed and all the people died it's like oh my gosh we were supposed to be on the train we were supposed to be on the train and because of this old man nine plugs with ten round eyes were saved they get a telegram from the prime minister's office we are worried for the rabbis they must have been on that train they quickly send a telegram back to the Prime Minister we weren't on the train long story we will tell you at the next meeting when can we meet they get a telegram back a letter back come next Tuesday at one o'clock and this time the rabbi said listen no old man old woman no matter what you come at 8am you make sure to be here and what happens is the delegation of rabbis go onto the Train on time they go to meet with the Prime Minister and the Prime Minister here is this miracle you want to tell me some old man came to your abs and he wasn't letting you go because he had this question of life and death about naming the job he's like you Jews are unbelievable he's like what's your request what do you guys want listen there's a reform movement and there's an orthodox movement and they made some sort of a thingy that you could only do reform synagogues and reform Yeshiva we need it's like not only are you allowed to the Prime Minister told him but I'm also going to help supportive as well that's what he told them wherever without the story doesn't end there a few years later their allies give me a sheer he's giving me a lectures give me a clot and after the class there's an older individual with a younger boy to my grandson sure what's his name his name is what what doing David so the rabbi's like I don't understand what type of name is this it's like a rabbi you told me he said whoa you that's you say yeah yeah you remember I was in your ass he's like oh my gosh he's like there have a thousand you remember you told me you remember you told me that you have a question of life and death he said yeah yeah he's like you should know it wasn't life and death for you but it was life and death for us if it wasn't for you we would have been dead Wherever Would I we have to remember everything is for the best we have to remember it sometimes it's good to miss the train many people get upset all the time I missed the bus and Mr training I missed this I missed that everything is for the best why is it it's so annoying why is it that you know you missed a flight this happened to me in the past I had something important it doesn't matter the details whatever Washington listen that whatever and I missed the Mr flight why is it that everything's for the best when everyone else dies in the plane why why do we have to wait for people to something to get hurt it's like the rabbi one time an individual came over they were shock and the individual said I had a baby girl after nine months of marriage do I need to make a Kiddush do I need to make a you know let people make breakfast isn't it he's like let me ask you a question if you waited 20 years to have that girl would you make a kid and she's like oh wow what a kid a child Nick are you kidding me I will get the whole Community everybody will come this and I'll make the biggest I got everything children everything you name it everything included so the railway building something very powerful we have to take you start as well he's like how much more so do you have to make a kitchen think Hashem that he gave your child right away why is it that we have to wait in the issues and problems and then think Hashem we have to remember we Jews where does it come from you you this is thankful we have to always be appreciative for everything not for all the people not when things are hard and you get out of the difficulty very small thing every single thing we have to be thankful we have to be thank you the more we thankful to Hashem the more happy we're going to be the more you think it's like my children God bless them the more this you ever think here we appreciate that for this I want to give them more you're so cute same thing with us reckons children the more we think the more we get closer who the better it is whatever that is a lot more information to give over but I want to end off one last I guess just for the record whenever I say end off I need another hour I'm joking so all seriousness there is one rule the rule is I I and I okay you might have heard of this before I I and I a lot of you all over here tonight welcome to so many of you I'm so impressed I got kizuk just from seeing all of you because again I Ruled as follows all of you got some information tonight eyes information I oh I don't know if this worked out or not that there was inspiration as well that's eye number two okay there was information hopefully hopefully I don't know you'll tell me later if there's any inspiration but the most important thing is that most people get information some people get inspiration but very little amount of people do the last I that's implementation it's applying what we learn and living by it the main message of here tonight is to love freely to love everyone and this is work it's not easy I work on this every single day to love everyone in any manner anyone no matter what the situation is smiling it's hard smile you have a hard day you woke up late okay do this one at the school whatever it may be to smile to work with yourself to love and to smile to say hi and then and the welcoming greet people with a smile to give to others like we discussed non-stop the more we work on this versat Hashem the better we're going to be prepared for Tisha bab which is not going to be one of sadness but it should be one of happiness and we should see red engine where the betterment is