Rabbi Yehuda Weinberg- Real Intellectual at The Project Inspire Convention 2019

okay I think we're just gonna start so actually a little bit Chavez night I wanted to say a little bit more about my father and what he taught me and his vision but ashame had the different plans so I just feel that it's appropriate you know just very quickly to remind this concept why didn't my father foundati Toa I mean it's you know for me to walk out to walk into this conference it's I don't have to describe it even in words it's like you know I always I'm doing one of the youngest in my family and my father basically the whole life you know dedicated for agit Arafat ability was traveling six months a year you know going to America I literally call it I grew up in a central bus station it's like my mother should live a long life she has many students if you know yet the seminary that she wants and the students my father used to come the phone I was telling God Friedman yesterday we had four lines in our house and the phone never stops ringing never stopped ringing people would call would call because we spoke about it like he told me you know this guy this name of that name I said I have no idea named something in my mind is blocked of names because when I was a kid I always just answer the phone and the only thing that I could have doing is I say okay who's speaking please this is what my parents used to at least ask you know say you were speaking please and we started speaking please and I thought if you could understand that but growing up in this Israeli boy learning and afraid of all these names that people would you know this is the you know American names that we couldn't pick up even when we just tried to think of just Illinois but something like this and this name is calling so it's literally growing up in a in a center bus station a spiritual center bus station and our students coming in and out but to really see the accomplishment of my father you know I love seeing at the project inspire is a is a project of a Satara there's like some so many and really incredible where my father really got to it it's it's unbelievable and I think that's the main reason to stop and think what happened how did he build this place what what made him so passionate about it and for me something just to learn about it so this is what them I'm gonna start off with sharings I started to say my father grew up in the Lower East Side Manhattan you know nice American boy very religious family my grandfather was of the still anima sedum you know it was I felt my grandfather needed to run away from LT slow it wasn't you know someone that came to America because he wanted you know the dream of America he needed to run away because there was trying to kill him it's a long story so my father's you know growing up in a very religious family a very strong family if people know my uncle was the worst achieve of Nellie soil in Baltimore I have had the hand name was hava Pincus the mother of James and Pincus even she is self how much terror she knew it was incredible like you know as a woman I would I would tell she used she used to she used to test me and my learning sometimes she was an expert in pill calvess you knew it by heart side to side but that was my grandfather was from the generation that I call it he gave over the Torah to his children my father is the youngest of this family and my father is already an American boy you know he's already assimilated so to speak you know that Americanism is playing hockey you know typical American boy and he said that when when my grandfather passed away my father was very young he was 13 14 remember exactly the age so when my father was 1920 when he used to you know in in the summers everybody in America again I mean Israeli by the way like literally and Israeli it's it's new concepts first but in Israel there's no camps there's no I mean the the summer vacations maybe three weeks please for the boys it's maybe three weeks it's nothing like very short but you would say you know here in America it's eight weeks and there's camps from side to side you know or you go up to the mountains and it's expensive stuff you know you could call it all you want but it's expensive so when was 18 19 20 he said that he stops going to these camps and you would go after work we'd go out to work and the purpose of you know not taking his mother his mother's money and helping supporting himself and his and his mother or so they say that those trips that he took he was traveling around America and he met a lot of Jews and he saw he was proud about being Jewish like literally you could eat to see people was like wow I'm Jewish you know my grandfather this is what I done not talking about religious Jewish people was proud about being Jewish and it was very it was very interesting for him I never asked him specifically what was so interesting for him about that but I could just assume it you know is growing up as a ffb that so to speak you know everything and you see so on that basically doesn't know much but he's proud about being Jewish it's a question you know what makes you so proud so used to ask people he said what makes you so proud about being Jewish and that was the time they realized that people love Judaism they want the kid to be Jewish but they don't know enough about it and his calculation was very simple one generation down two generations down these people is going to have a very hard time to maintain the Judaism to maintain the kids of not intermarrying and death when he saw that I'm not giving those story but when he saw that he says I have to do something about it I have to do something about it now it's a very big question what do you do what do you do so I divided the - one thing is a very technical thing also something a lot to learn about it but in two words as you build an organization okay this is what you see around here you build people that's going to take responsibility otherwise you're never gonna tackle the problem so this is what he did Asia Tama and Jerusalem my father started there in Jerusalem because people would say why didn't you start in New York why didn't you start in different places the concept was they have to build leaders you have to build people that's going to take responsibility and the Shiva and Jerusalem many I mean most of the people call it the Shiva my father wouldn't call it the issue would call it the Leadership Program his plan was very simple we have to build leaders for the Jewish people and you look at you look Haim Samson is a leader of Asia - yeah and everyone needs to be a leader because just to learn is great we we take responsibility we in a totally different place okay so that's one thing but technically what is it like how how do you how do you reach out how do you speak to people what what is it that you're gonna tell them are you going to change their lives like what how do you do it okay we live in a generation that we want everything to be a press of a button you know let me put in the code and everything is just gonna happen in one second it doesn't happen like that I don't know if you if you realize but I mean I sure I'm sure that you you heard it from Yossi yes he said that when my father opened a Shotaro say went as receiver so Shiva was Robledo you Finkle and my father said I'm just gonna connect the story I mean he tried many Russia Shiva's try to convince people there's your problem people is assimilating you know let's do something about it everybody said forget it it's never gonna work it's never gonna happen just stick to your family stick to what you have don't don't bother so my father tried to convince different rabbis and he decided that he's gonna travel to the hassanis it's gonna come to the colonies he's a good lad or is that is the biggest you know God linearity soil and it was really the world would look the would look up tend to the colonies and he traveled to Israel and the way they traveled he got he heard on the radio or something like that he heard that if has an itch passed away three days before your Rabb arrived to Israel so that was you know his turning point in life he said if I'm not gonna do something about it it's never gonna happen so anyway you came already tired see slowly so he stayed to learn in the meal so he learned unto me of a year or less a few months so my father said that we wanted to open a Torah yeah it came to us receiver to ask him permission okay it's like it's very interesting it's all concept of laws that that's interesting to learn about it is that if you have a store of shoes and someone wants to open a store right next that you can you know right next time you're hurting is his pal NASA but still if it's in a main area that people you know couldn't there's a lot of people shopping if it's a mall so you could do like the limits is different a very fascinating subject but anyway the bottom line is that anything to do with Judaism is above the limits meaning if you learn in a receiver and you want to open a receiver you could open the achieve one yeshiva to yeshiva there's enough for everyone and there's no limits a shul in another shoulder-height element still it's written if you learn in a specific key Shiva and you want to open or yeshiva right next that you should come to your receiver and ask him permission there are ferrets you know the the right way so my father went as receiver he went as receiver and he asked them permission to open a shutter so the story stays like this it says that he came into the Shiva as the Shiva hears you know his old plan and Sheba tells him in Yiddish like this after he thinks about it two minutes he says Noah is first David Duval's mountain I get it I understand what you want to do he says do with smacking a fabric you want to make a factory okay you take a Jew from here you take him out from the other side according do you know you you shape him and this is what you're planning that that's the way it was looking at him you tell them literally in these words dubious mashaykhina give own you off your mind you off your mind you know what are you trying to do you think the person like a machine you could take him and change him just like that God created human beings you're feeding you know every person is individual I can't think for you I can't smile for you I can't there's nothing that we could do I mean I can make funny faces you know to cause you to laugh but the decision to laugh is you that the decision to change is you it's not something that you yourself could change in someone else and he's telling him like you know how are you going to do it you says you off your mind so my father tells them he says it's written it's named Lazarus or some kind of certain that the Jewish people is thirsty to do God's will since somebody is thirsty he's really thirsty you give him something to drink he's not gonna drink no Shiva says you know if you believe so I bless you and you're gonna be successful and that's why I continued and really the story that they said it and said it many times and even said it here in the conference is to point out that when my father started Asia Torah they would literally call him the crazy man like literally call him the crazy man because you know it wasn't such a thing I mean why my father started a chateau at 67 something like that but it was involved with with about HIV even before my father started five different organizations before he got to Asia terrazzo he was very involved with with badly trivet for many years and people would literally call him the crazy man okay and the reason that people say the story is to point out that even so they called him the crazy man you all done to it and thank God you know look i hain't really look it's it's unbelievable for me this this story bothered me very much after I heard it many times I I remember was specially now sitting Shiva and my father in and I heard it again and again something that came into my mind and and it bothered me what was it and I say like this you know my father came to a shiva dosa shiva elisa you the Finco had so much respect and later Yuda was it was a giant by himself I mean it's not know a father is coming and speaking to his friend and you know trying to discuss an idea he's going to a very big rabbi and the rabbi tells in you off your mind I mean what do you what would you do if you had a great idea you want to open a program you want to do something and you come to you know is considered of coming etske enough coming etske listens like really listens that and says you off your mind I'm sorry what what do you do you go home right I say first of all you hope that nobody heard they says you of your mind yeah and then you go home and you check yourself you know diarrhea you know you double check yourself now if you're Tom McLoughlin you come back to your baby and you say Rebbe look you said I'm crazy I accept it I'm not I'm not arguing the the fact but still you know please explaining it I'm de novo Boehner there's such a concept if you tell me go home you come back to you ready says here's the reasons one two three four five six this is why I thought about it tell me why am I wrong I said my father didn't go out not just he didn't go out he answered him now what did he answer him in answer there every kid knows thirsty to hear God's words so what you know the Rebbe never heard about this and guess what he convinced them convince them so I'm saying like I'm missing something the depths of this story the story is great but something in the depths so I translated much different I mean the the concept is still there but I I think that there's a little bit deeper in it and this is you know beginning of what the it really represents the oh way of my father's thinking so I say like this my father came to this receiver the receiver tells him I believe right away the receiver tells them whatever you're planning to do hundred thousand percent one hundred thousand percent yeah it's like the Jewish people a day day day in a danger they they in the secona we have to do something about it he agrees with him right away and then the receiver continues a conversation with my father this is our trial how I translated the Shiva tells my father Noah how are you going to do this like really how are you going to do this okay a person you can't change a person that could say that it's not a button that you change a person it's not a machine that you put them in from one side and you take him out from the other side and then when his receiver sighs do isn't she gonna give on you're talking about you're going to go crazy I mean you're gonna try to change people but people don't change how are you going to change people could you change people like what are you going to do technically what are you going to do so my father answers them like this he says Rebbe it's written it's named last I thought sank item it's wasn't that the Jewish people are thirsty to listen to God I think that today in our generation we don't really understand what is mean to be thirsty okay but I say imagine someone is really really thirsty by the way for the joke I said when is the kids the most thirsty along the day huh at night right as they go into bed something explodes there into the bed and a like so it felt so thirsty they could cry for three hours straight okay but I'm saying like like let's imagine someone is really really thirsty and he knocks on the first house and he says please I have to drink something if not I'm going to die okay like really I'm saying again it's hard for us to understand that there is such a thing but let's try to imagine someone really really thirsty and he's knocking on the first house and he's looking for help now I opened two options one is the donor of the house opens the door and he takes a cup of water and he smashes it into his face and he says here go ahead have a drink okay that's option one option two is the donor of the house opens the door and he helps him in and he puts him in front of the table and he says here's some drinks and cakes have some fruit he gives him you know he sets him down and he gives him to drink by himself okay and both options the guy drank for the same reason he's really really thirsty okay I'm talking now very technical very very technical he's very thirsty is drinking now let's think about the relationship that these people is going to have of the owners of the house the first guy that came in and the smashed of the cup into his face you think he's going to have a relationship of him long-term probably not okay the second guy they helped him in and he gave him you know drinks and and cake the probably gonna be best friends for life what's a difference what's the real difference between them so you know if you look at it in simple way and you say look you know he took the the water and he smashed it into his face and he gave him it in a nice way and it is the fact it is the difference but I say if you if you look into it a little bit deeper you see that there's something very has to do with our neshama and what it is you know try to take a cup and put it in someone's mouth never tried to take a cup and put it in someone's mouth you know what happens to him there's this okay like the worst game that the kids could play with me as they say is daddy close your eyes and open your mouth okay why because we human being the number one thing about us is don't feed me it disturbs us very very much try it out you take a cup you put in someone's face there's a reaction there's a very technical reaction that's the number one and that's really the difference between these two situations the first guy it was fed he feels nothing I mean is is you know what's the word most pallies mmm I don't know what's the word but he feels like someone fed emmys it's not himself he's it doesn't have the honor the other guy I helped him in and he drank by himself he feels like a king because he fed himself and said this is what my father answered this Russia Shiva you're right we're not here to change people people are thirsty people want to understand life people want to understand the meaning but there's two ways to do it let's see that we take the tour and excuse me and smack it in today's face okay literally smack it into the face many of them is gonna take it why because they thirsty the horn they want to understand the one meaning they thirsty it's smacking it in third a face that's one way my father said my way is I'm gonna take the Torah and I'm gonna put it in front of them I'm gonna show them how beautiful the Torah is and they're gonna pick it up if they pick it up if they take it if they eat it by themselves it's a totally different game and this was my father's way of teaching okay going back to this question if either see so many people proud about being Jewish they want the children to be Jewish and he asks him what's so special about being Jewish like what makes you so proud and yet it doesn't get no answer and you would literally try his class as he would start off with this question and he says 2,000 years we survived an exile 2,000 years what gave the Jewish people the power to all done why don't we just disappear why didn't we just disseminate why didn't the Jewish people just get lost I mean if if you think about it I mean today we have a country we have we have America we have the press we have judges a democracy and everything 2,000 years this whole thing was he was a Jew they could hit to kill you on the street because you're a Jew okay how did the Jewish people stay alive and his understanding was is that we have the wisdom for life the toilets Haim we have the wisdom for life meaning we got up in the morning we knew what are we living for we know why God put us in this world we knew what does it mean to love each other what does it mean to respect each other we know what is mean free will we understand ourselves and when we understand ourselves no one can stop us I don't know if it's the right comparison but I say you know the best university in the world is Harvard let's say okay have you see some did you see someone from Harvard you could feel on him that is so proud about being in the best university in the world that you could really I don't know I saw a few of those you know people that they from Harvard he literally couldn't see and them okay that's how I imagined the Jewish people we walked around and we says we Jewish what does it mean we Jewish not looking bad about other people looking good about ourselves we know why was we was created for we get up in the morning we say more Danny we know who we are that gives us the power to hold on and this is what my father was saying we would take this and try to teach it to this young generation for the students for anyone that's gonna come in to shatter or showed them how beautiful the Torah is how much it's so relevant for the life today and they're not gonna leave us they're not gonna leave us his line was that people leave Judaism out of lack of knowledge not of knowledge and our job is to give them and that's you know that that's a very fact the very beginning when people used to come into a Torah what would my father learn with them okay I'm sure that there's many different ways there's many different ideas some people say open or Gomorrah and learn with it they mentioned yesterday there's different ways my father would do you would open life you have a life let's try to understand what's going on what are you living for you want to be happy or rich you would literally use these words with people wanna be happier rich let's go let's learn about it it's yours the guy says I'm an atheist he says okay great you're Nathan could be a happy atheist let's learn how to be happy and it would literally show them how beautiful the Torah is an homage it's relevant for day life and that would attach them and that's what I call putting the Torah in front of them and showing them how beautiful it is because wouldn't they pick it up it's a different game it's a different game you get time Sampson's you get Laurie polite Nick you pick you see people they're not just they changed a life then it's they own it's theirs they care about it it's their own baby they're gonna do everything for to keep it and to spread it and to get more and more people involved and more and more people taking responsibility so my father's code was BR okay in America you know what CPR right it's for me and Israeli it's a complicated words in English but what's the words of CPR okay resuscitation data - I can't say okay so my father used to call it I mean that what we do in CPR we resuscitate to make sure that at least there's oxygen running used to say our job is to do be our you know it's BR its brain resuscitation okay we think our brain is working we sure our brain is working we think that we know everything he says we have to do BR we have to do brain resuscitation help people understand them themselves the worst thing for a person to work around this world and I'd know about himself he knows about the world he could be a doctor you could be a lawyer it could be you know so many great things he doesn't know who he is that were to use the COBE are how a job is to do BR to help people understand who they are what are they trying to accomplish what's going on like literally what's going on so this this class that used to give it's called how to be intellectual right like everybody wants to be intellectual what does it mean to be intellectual okay now the fact is that a group of intellectuals that's the Jewish people we changed the world we literally change the world okay the world was I mean look into the history the world was a barbarian world human sacrifice etc etc and the Jewish people were always at who always had our values women rights family rights they have to leave Africa Michael all these things was part of the Jewish people forever and ever how did we do it one of the things is we're nation of intellectuals we have to understand what does it mean intellectuals I mean everybody loves the word intellectual I'm intellectually for sure I am my father divided it into belts you know there's like an karate there's a few belts recently read about it is that when one of the opinions is why there is different belts is that starts off of a white belt because that's the beginning and then because you train a lot and you know many many times it gets dirty and then it becomes yellow and then it comes orange and then it comes black you know it's just here's some how much time you're training it so he developed a few levels of being intellectual and this is what I want to share with you because that's what we call brain resuscitation to help you mind think I always tell people that the greatness of my father was out simple he was okay not so complicated and not you know different proves and it's written someplace and it's it's like down-to-earth life look about it look in your life and you could see how great you are and our greatest shame is in your life so the first thing about being intellectual my father my father used to say is lead with your mind and don't lead with your stomach don't feel your way see your way okay so you look at anything it's a simple for sure you know why not if you can't just you know you go into a business you go into a business and someone tells you you know I have a great business to give you I have a great opportunity to give you and you say okay let me feel it it feels good you don't even look into it everybody understands you have to check it out right but the idea is that so many times in life we could find ourselves leading with our feelings and not leading with our minds to take it a little bit extreme it's really extreme but then we could see it too more and more in our lives is that we would give this example you know this guy comes off his father to the doctor and his father is like 65 very strong very healthy very athletic he's just coming for a regular checkup he went into the doctor he's sitting outside in the waiting room and ten minutes later the doctor comes out and he says I'm sorry to inform you your father passed away what's the first thing that he's gonna say no way right he just was here well what's those words who says those words he just was here like is it an insurance you know policy just was here so it's gonna be here forever something drives us and especially in the moments of pressure our feelings comes out first so they say okay he just was here but let me check now I see that it's not here it comes that so then the mind starts working but there is always a process it's always a process that the feelings will try to push you and then your mind will come in and make sense out of it so it's a process the ideas used to always remind us lead with your mind don't lead with your stomach because your stomach is gonna take you to places someone gets you upset you see first of all you react from your stomach you don't really think about it then you say what did I just do with it what did I what just happened here like you find yourself in places that you you don't you don't understand how did you get there okay so that's the first point that's a first belt the second belt and that's the main the main idea of this it's called definitions okay it's always something that my father he's used to remind us you have to have definitions and one of the nicest stories that I love about the that I heard from my father is that someone came into his office one day okay a student and says rabbi he says I'm touring Israel I'm already four three weeks touring Israel I came to Israel because they said it's the Holy Land ever heard the Israel is the Holy Land he says I came to Israel he said it's the Holy Land he says I'm touring Israel from right to left from top to bottom any place there was you know a mark of you know something religious something holy I went in he says rabbi there's nothing holy about this country there's nothing holy in this place since well what's the story you guys say the Holy Land or Holy Land what what's this Holy Land what's the story someone who tells them he says look you remember Br you know he's not gonna answer them directly so he says let's think he says lucky all that of your question he says if you're already touring Israel and you ready so you know so many sites I assume that many of you are so so so many sites in Israel and he says did you ever see a before thick you ask some did you ever see a before thick you know you're going around that you have a CEO before thick anyone saw your other four thick well it's a question of a yes or no did you ever see her before thick no how do you know you didn't see her fatigue exactly that's exactly what he was saying my father tell them did you see her first thing he says you know this is how do you know he says I don't know what it is this is exactly that what I'm trying to tell you you don't know what it is and you're looking for something that you don't know what it is it's his current stay with us we'll teach you what's holiness and then you could know that you see it what are you looking for you get it the guys I mean it's it's real life the guy is for three weeks walking around Israel looking from right to left looking in any place he's looking for holiness basically has no idea what he's looking for he has no idea what he's looking for okay so that's many things in our lives that we have before 6:00 we could argue about something we could argue about something is it true is it not true that I have it don't I have it free well do we have free will for sure against no people fight fight fight fight and then you stop in and say wait what is free will oh don't know you just had a fight for two hours about you have four UL you don't have free will you didn't stop and think what is free well you have to have definitions that's the second step of being intellectual is collect definitions the more definitions that you have the richer you are the more definitions you have you belong to yourself you don't belong to society you don't belong to things that people just said you belong to yourself you find yourself and as we say the worst thing for a person is to be not himself to be what society just takes him from right to left himself is what he's trying to to get to so it's definitions and I want to share with you a few ideas of what we mean definitions boo the beginning is I my father said that when he was a little kid they used to have this game it's called the intellectual game it's called the high you Egan anyone heard about the iue game okay so it goes like this they used to take ideas and used to go like this if you speak about yourself you always paint yourself white eye is great you when you speak to someone else you you gray okay II is black okay meaning you could do the same person could do the same thing but the question is where is he standing and this game if he's standing about himself he's speaking about himself then he always played paints themselves the best if he's in the middle then he's gray if you're talking about so on that's out of here that's black now given a given example someone is driving what is it in America hundred miles an hour that's a lot okay 100 miles an hour is driving okay what does the driver feel about himself I'm a Nero right it drove so fast right the guy sitting next to me is like shaking like you know what are you doing what does he tell him well maybe relax you know it's maybe too fast slow down a little you know the guy that's standing outside on the street sees the car like zooming like crazy what does he say the guys off his mind right so it's I I'm a Nero you you have something to fix that guy got off his mind now it's just a question of where you standing if you dare so you're a Nero if you're next the next to the driver then you were called it's just a question where are you standing and less you have definitions if you have definitions you have a way to measure it how do we know if this guy is a knee roll or is off his mind or is to do better how do we know is it just our feelings if it's our feelings then for sure we're gonna find ourselves very confused especially when we're trying to measure ourselves so I want to offer you the definition of an ero of let's call him medium you know gray and a complete idiot okay I'll offer you an and see how it could match so let's take a different case note that your guy goes on the street and he sees a house gone on fire and he hears a child in the house and the child is screaming help help help and he looks on the door since there is smoke please his still could make it he puts on something on his on his face and he breaks into the house and he rescues this kid now what is he why is in Europe okay let's not lead without feelings let's lead with our minds why is in Europe Caesar Nero because two things first of all it took a reasonable risk okay because I say he's still to get in there is smoke it's dangerous it's not you know something that completely off you took a reasonable risk for something that worthwhile okay it's a reasonable risk for something that's a worthwhile makes him a Nero okay now we have a definition this is a Nero let's take the same story the guy goes on the street here's a kid screaming help help help he sees he looks on the dorm full of flames he literally can't walk in without getting hurt okay but the kid is screaming the emotion that and he breaks into the house he hardly makes it out with the child he's all burnt the kid is burned and he's out there with the child what is he the world would call him a very big hero okay the world would call him a very big hero he saved the child the word is he is not normal he's not normal why again not because the feelings the feelings who saved the life he saved the kid the kid was crying and nobody couldn't help him and he saved them no not because the feeling because the mind what did he do he took a not visible reasonable risk but still there was a worthwhile purpose that's what we call not normal that's the medium now let's imagine the same story the guy goes on the street and he sees the house is on fire and it's like you almost can't walk into the house and he breaks in and he after two minutes comes out he's all hurt and it's barely alive and people ask him what did you do in there he says I love seeing how the beams fall down in the fire okay what is he this guy he's a complete idiot okay but not because our feelings because I don't mind what did he do he took a not visible risk for no purpose okay so now we defined it if if you take a reasonable risk for a good purpose then you're in Europe if you take a not reasonable risk but still for a good purpose so you're not normal we'll call it if you take a not reasonable risk for no purpose then your complete idiot so now we have definitions now let's go back to the guy that's driving on just miles an hour how did how would you call him is in Euro is he not normal or is it a complete idiot what do you say the first question is why is he driving so fast right okay we're not gonna work with our emotions we're gonna work with our mind why is he why is he driving so fast oh you know why he's driving so fast because he has someone unconscious in his car whoa okay so now we get we get the idea someone is unconscious in this car he has to get the hospital he's going to save a life he's going to save a life great still we have to figure out one thing before we call him a Nero we have to figure out if the road is a place they could drive under two miles an hour if the risk is they is going to kill himself and gonna kill the other person with him then he's not normal why is he not no because he took an unreasonable risk but still the purpose is a good purpose okay so that's that's the fact so it depends on this I tell you I even tear a Nutella in Israel and it's I don't know who works here in America by assume it's the same thing there's a very very clear rule you come to intersection you do not drive without stopping and checking you know the traffic usually you under wait to save a life and need this gas to get to the hospital blah blah blah great we want arrows we don't want not normal people someone that drives into intersection without stopping and checking that there's no cars I mean I'm talking of course in a red light or in a stop sign but if you drive into intersection and you don't make the necessarily checks that you're not risking someone's life then you're not normal and they tell us very clearly we want euros we don't want not normal drivers okay so if this driver is this guy's driving under two miles an hour and he's driving to get to the hospital and the road is pretty okay for that even so it's a risk it's a reasonable risk is a Nero if he's driving 100 miles an hour and the rear and the road is very not fitting to drive 100 miles an hour and he's doing it just because it's his own pleasure then he's a completely idiot he's risking his life for nothing but again it's in our minds we could we could measure and we could also measure ourselves if we find ourselves driving very quickly and you know I don't know if I'm allowed to say you know about myself good things but I think one of the one of the dangerous things to do and driving is texting I think it's a it's a bad habit and always when I work about it there's like I could speak to myself like what are you doing you texting why are you driving like you're taking a risk for what so if your wife wrote for you a you know something and you have to answer back right now and tell her that she's wrong then that's that's a worthwhile you know purpose right you know you have to answer right away no but you could see and you can measure yourself if you have definitions if you don't have definitions then you lost in it and that's that's the idea of definitions and another one thing a few things about definitions is one day I was walking out from the Chateau building don't know why I remember it always but I was going up the steps to the old city and two young girls walked down the steps and they father behind them and I hear them speaking to each other and they point to the building today Chateau building and they tell him you know what they do here in this building she tells they cool it didn't tell each other you know what they do here in this building they brainwash people all right and then I was thinking about it and really you know what is it do we brainwash people do we brainwash people sometimes I goals and and seminaries and some of them will get up and say yeah debate they brainwash us and this is why we come and we come to be brainwashed or you could hear them arguing for 20 minutes yes brainwashed not brainwashed they say okay so could someone give me a definition what is brainwashing what's brainwashing literally a student came to me one day and he says listen my grandfather heard them coming to Israel and he loves their Shatila and he says it's a great place he told me one thing watch out that they don't brainwash you watch other they don't brainwash you he says could you help me I said it's great let's call up your grandfather and tell me you gave me special advice could you please define what is brainwashing is brainwashing the shower is brainwashing you know open surgery I mean we could know what what are we what are we being careful from right because it's so easy to come to someone on the street and say okay you brainwashing you're brainwashed I mean I don't know this NGO in America but an Israel take something that happens a lot that the secular people they accuse us of being brainwashes and the first question I ask people is like what's brainwashing if you don't have a definition you noticed so what is brainwashing I want to offer you definitions for that so just for to understand so let's say like this a father tells a child he says look my child you have to go to school the kid says no I don't have to go to school says you have to go to school the kid says no you're not gonna brainwash me father says I brainwash you I don't brainwash you he says the father says I add you Kate you the kid says no you know that you're not gonna convince me you're not gonna persuade me okay so is he brainwashing as he persuading or you teaching how do we know what's the difference between the three of them so if we have definitions we know to define it we know to make sure to see what is people telling us if not then you remember the I you again I'm an educator because I'm white educator teaching is the best thing right he is a persuader that guy is a brain washer it's always going to be like that unless you have clear definitions so what is the definition of brainwashing so the finishing the brainwashing is I know is again divided into two main sections the first thing is that you tell someone listen doesn't matter what you think doesn't matter what you understand don't ask any questions one believe me only I know the right answer okay that's very in washing deleting what you know closing the option of asking questions are trying to figure it out and saying that you have to accept me because I said it that's brainwashing what's persuading that's the middle I hear what you're saying you have good questions you have good thoughts but believe me only I know what's true only I know it's true okay what is teaching teaching is very clearly I put in front of you the information you check it out does it make sense do you understand it if it does take it if it doesn't try to learn try to understand don't take it because I said don't take it because they told you I am a rabbi and my father was a rabbi or or whatever it is you have to make your efforts to really understand today we have for it one word it's called copy/paste there's no point of copy pasting okay so again brainwashing is saying forget it you don't know what you know it doesn't matter what you know don't ask any questions whatever I tell you that's the only thing that's true and accept it okay so it's like cleaning out it's really three steps but let's say cleaning out blocking yourself of asking any questions and just know that you have to accept what I said okay that's brainwashing persuading is in the middle I hear what you're saying make sense but believe me only I know the truth educating is putting the information on the table discussing it trying to understand it right now I go back to the student and I say look if anyone in Asia tour comes to you and they tell you okay don't ask any questions doesn't matter what you think accepted just because I said it you better tell me right away okay because brainwashing is wrong brainwashing is wrong and by the way I saw for yourself also for yourself it's an obligation for every person by himself so many different proofs read the world the main the first thing that comes up to my mind is the midst we've been knowing that there is a God where is it written and the third I have to know that there is a God it's the first of that cells at a place right what's written under here America I am your God very interesting you know shamans trying to say you have to know that there is a God instead of that he says I am your God on the free America why doesn't touch and just say know that there is a God in also say is a hole too much about like that sure don't murder don't do different gods it doesn't say know that there is a God so who is the same talking to to so on the nose Amazon that doesn't know it obviously someone who knows him right because if you go on the street and someone comes over to you and he says you know who I am I'm a buffoon sick okay so now you know what's of a fourth sick but theoretically if someone will come to you over on the street and he says you know I am I'm the uncle Barrow so what I don't know who you are doesn't also if you tell me your name it doesn't make any difference when a chef says a no fear shame and okay Hashem is talking to people that knowing if a shame is talking to people they know and what is this a enough yarmulke it's not like we meet you know face to face and I say oh you know I am I'm this God no it's just a believer Shem doesn't come it doesn't come face to face so why does a Shem choose the way of saying it a nutritional care huh the answer is that has to be your God it has to be your way of finding God you have to get to the definitions you have to understand what is God you have to understand what's the proves you have to you have to do the homework and find it by yourself not copy/paste because your parents told you because you rabbit told you that there is a God there is a God then if you directly omit Siddhant to note that there is a God then it's enough there is a mitzvah to know that there is a God copy/paste my parents told me that there is a God and just to remind us what this point is we literally say it in the diving every day we say allocative and okay we say notify the god of Our Fathers and your caramel okay it's - okay akov why do we sail okay of ramen locates a cooler karakov I mean if we want to remind ourselves from our forefathers we could sail okay um it's like via Cove well okay a volcano it's also in different places we said like a novella kerosene it's enough we don't say all the names but let's say we want to say the names it's enough to say okay nobody ever say no um it's like welcome why is everything each one individually locale arm and okay it's hot villa Ko Ko the answer is that that what was so special about them you think it'd suck never heard of a rama v note that there is a god for sure he heard about him his old life he heard about him but still he thought made his own way to discover God and understand God and get to the definitions by himself that there is a God because of that allocates heart and the same thing by jakub every one of them made the effort alone to understand God that's a job of teaching the job of teaching is finding by himself now I know it's it's sometimes it's confusing because people say wait so you have all the meters you shouldn't do the Mitsos and to when you really understand it like you know what you don't you can understand all the mixes and you can do it your own and you can do it you know you definitions is a long process I mean I could say words but it's a long process also after you you hear about it implement it in your life and to remember about it it's a process so what we shall do the Mitsos into and we really understand dentists it's a process we have to take step by step but always to try to work with our minds to remember and this was I think the number one thing that I could tell you though my father always taught us in his life there's nothing that God needs from human beings literally there's nothing that God needs from human beings and my father would check it we would check it like you would add a survey and it would come different different atheists would would come into my father and believe me you know big ones and scary ones and and I found out that his personal survey they used to do and he used to say used to tell this atheist he says you that you don't believe in any gods I have to ask you this question even with the besa to thank God okay imagine it would be sure to thank God they created the universe he created human beings he created the little babies the the life the heart that the stars the moon even would be such a thing God and he's still running all the time imagine if it would be such a thing yeah is there anything the human beings could give God is there anything the human beings could give God the God so to speak can afford for himself my father said that a hundred percent of a hundred percent would say we don't believe in God we atheists the evil would be sure to thank God it's very very clear there's nothing the human beings could give god there's nothing the human beings could give God and it's it's something that confuses us a lot of times because we start going into God with a relationship I call it above a worker like in his boss like I did for you now you have to do for me you know I came on time I came to the heaven I doesn't you know now what are you giving to me like we go into the wrong relationship and it's called the vid Movida it's like you know you might you my boss this is what you expect to me this is what I expected from you it's like we go into the wrong relationship there's a saying in English as ask not what you could do for your country ask not what your country could do for you as grad or what you could do for your country right that's such a thing I heard it my father always used to say ask not what you could do for the Creator rather ask what could you allow your Creator to do for you Shem doesn't need anything from us it doesn't need our favors it doesn't need our Davin II the OL Mitch's that we do is for us to get close to him once we get close to him then it could give us much more and how much he wants to give us and that's where my father started he started of the BR of the brain resuscitation definitions I challenge you to get a definition about love a definition about happiness a definition about free will there's so many things just to define that in life and I finish off with a real story that a lady came to me one day and she said she was totally shocked totally shocked what happened she said she has a teenager he has a teenager and she said one day you know teenager is not doing nothing at home you know this line is she's not doing nothing at home and she's just sitting around she's so lazy and she said one day she told her you know why you're not doing nothing you're so lazy and she tells me you know what she answered me she said if I'm lazy I probably inherited it from you and she's like so hurt how could it be she asks me how could it be that my daughter could say about me that I'm the source that I am the lazy one okay I have another five kids my house is clean I'm always cooking and I thought that that how could it be like what's going on here I mean the first thing it's a teenager like what are you trying to understand but she was bothered she was bothered like you know what what went wrong there and I think the only way that we got out of it is that I asked her tell me how would you define a lazy person how would you define the lazy person think about it what is it like well what definition would you give for a lazy person okay is it someone does house is a mess that's a lazy person not necessarily okay maybe he's busy maybe is doing under to other things not necessarily its own does house is always clean as it because he's not lazy nothing necessarily I we went through a very interesting process I mean you guys need to define that for you know by yourself but the way that we got it is that the definition of sound that's lazy is that someone that he will push off what he could do now he pushes it off for a different time okay and I told it you know if if you walk around in your house and you doubt I'm walking around with the feeling is you know god forbid there's even mothers that would say it I'm the slave in this house I have to do everything nobody's not doing nothing in this house if you walk around of this filming or if you say it then your children they pick up very simple things they say okay your job is to clean the house that's not my job this is what you have to do because you have no different choice then you do it and I don't do it I'll get married I'll do it I have my own problems I'll take care of it when I get it but this house is not my problem I say if you understand that not being lazy is saying it's my pleasure I want this place to be clean I want this place to be good for the kids I want it to be a pleasant to come into the house you make it your pleasure that which makes you not lazy then hopefully your child could pick it up and you know connect to that or at least not say that you know they took the laziness from you so that's you know another idea of definitions you have definitions you know what you're talking about you're not just you know saying words that you don't know where you are that's the concept of being intellectual there's another few lines that but the idea of being intellectual my father always used to encourage people to think for themselves think for your life you have a beautiful life a shame gives you life understand what are you doing here try to enrich yourself I know if it's if it's a word like to get the more definitions that you have for your own life then you Richard then you belong to yourself then you could enjoy it when we thought my father you know my mother said can you take down the garbage so what would we say I can't my father would come out of a $20 bill a 20 check out bill okay and he says okay now you could don't say I can't write if you like it comes out that we say things that we don't even think about that we don't know what we're saying definitions helps us to understand ourselves questions okay thank you very much