Rabbi Yerachmiel Milstein: Hashem's 6 Point Plan For Guaranteed Success

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called the Shh mitzvahs to media's and you have this in the safe Rapinoe could you have it right away in the beginning in the beer Aloha and Shannara the safe Ruffino talks about the change mysteries the Rambam their shame it's waste to media is a subset that has its own category called the six constant missus the Shh mitts latest videos so what is the shot what can we understand about the fact that the trailer categorizes six as different from others and what does it mean to be at meaty what does it mean that a Miss visit to me t the entire tour is obligatory all doughnuts are obligatory so what's shot the difficult to meet them they're constant mixes so the truth is a constant mitzvah is different than other misses in that it counts that Mitzvah means that it's a blood obligatory 365 24/7 and you're drawing down the car 365 24/7 that's what makes it a constant so what is a constant is the inner of a healer's kazeer is that a constant it's not a constant why is it not a constant well there's no cuz you're available or you have no time you to do it at that point you're not drawing down scar so mid-south helical is not a constant what about Chaves one day a week so let's not so if there are Shh mystery to me the ice it means that these six mitzvahs are constant in that a person is relating to these mitzvahs constantly 365 24/7 so before we go into what it's all about let's try for a moment Apsara Bal Batiatus vara as to why I could his burrow who would give us Jay Schmidt's waste medius why would he take six minutes legs to make them different than that their constant as opposed to the rest of the ministers of that constant what's the insight what's the lesson that we learned from it now the emesis is that we don't really know why cutters broke who does things that even the timing a mitzvah that he gives us especially seems that way from the peanut it means table iam it's a flavor for the Mitzvah it's not a cause-and-effect relationship that's not what it is because ultimately I cutters bro whose intelligence insight is far and beyond anything that we could begin to appreciate and therefore when we even what it says the time it means an insight but nonetheless is there some lesson to be learned from this what do we derive for the fact that there are six mixes that are constant so I'm sure you all know there's a passage in Eve Eve says me bizarre I at gazelle wake up from my flesh I can gaze upon a cottage Bravo and in Clouseau this has been taken to mean that if you ever have a ruthless question a question about a cottage baroque will kill vehicle that you don't have an answer to it's very mysterious perhaps if there's a parallel question in the physical world the answer that might apply in the physical world could be a marshal for understanding the parallel question in the other Moroni so in the physical world are there things that we do constantly what is it that human being does constantly we breathe what else did you constantly eat hopefully not as much as breathing right we drink right the things we have to do constantly so perhaps perhaps out of a just conjecturing here it's a bell about to sue gong see you forgive me but perhaps what breathing and eating or drinking are for the body the shame is too soft for the neshamah and it's very clear to me and it's very clear to me that these shape its legs to me the ice they are extremely vital for the neshamah and it's very clear to me that what makes us people and human is the fact of evolution an animal lost as a goof so therefore I came up with this idea that Hashem six-point plan to be an efficacious and effective and a successful human being what these things are again what breathing and breathing out for the for the goof these are for the neshamah so a mail it to be as successful the Shama which again watch makes assume is the de chalma we have to have these six things so here is the question I can pose for you so there are six myths this and only six minutes in the Torah that are consonants us and it means that they're constant that you're constantly gets obligated so the question is how many of us know what they are if I ask you I'm not so test here tonight they'll get nervous but if I ask you to rattle off two repeats for me the same it's loose to me the ice okay by show of hands don't say but how many of you think you know the shakes missus today's phrase it very good that's better than most yeah what's going on here what is going on how is it possible how is it possible that there a mid slice that are 365 27 obligatory right and we don't know what they are so because of this reason of Nayaka wineries they could sonically Veronica asked me about 25 years ago to put together a short cheer that will expose people to the change mid-60s not that will teach them what every Mitzvah is because we can very well spend a lifetime on anyone mitts might not finish you know cut is broken slight resemblance right Ruka merits me though rights it's so what couldn't do it tonight is what I'm going to present to you my response from New York why mr. LaRocca when he asked me to come up with basically a 45 minute approach to expose people at least to give people some sort of connection with this ancient system eaters and that's what we're gonna do here tonight in my own mind I said why is it that people vantika don't know what they are why is this so a good friend from us I mean you can imagine if a mitzvah kalila was to be forgotten another myths of the tyro you have an organization that would spring up and there would be macaws except mitzvah faster shell when people forgot the myths of the myths with lulav you'd have a VAD you have a vodka Smits is Lola yet somebody we get remember Joseph rosenberger was shot nice they start the shots laboratory and what he did look he was max retaliation she expect if he submits but it's forgot you'd have a whole look at his age that gets up he built housing the Mitzvah and they'd have a board of directors and they haven't elections and their votes and they have a dinner once here and they have advertisements to them you know video on tissue buffer maybe another day right maybe unsub Co my tuchus Lula Frei whatever but it would be right and there's nothing right what a mitzvah a fresh Escala in a show I love clients I've taken upon themselves collar up team Icaza commits a recently son believable and it wasn't forgotten but the organization they do a bad but it was forgotten you can imagine the established that people make to try to bring back the midst of a freshness he'll have a fella so those mid cysts are not forgotten but these are why are those myths is not forgotten and the answer is very very simple because of Lou love you shake and a family of bake and a shake and bake mitt so you don't forget it's something that you do with you go and amid so that you do with you go you do be a diet because I write creative the bits all right you don't forget that but we're still gonna find out that the sheamus's media's are mid slice that I have to do with my Sherpa primarily it's my say there too but primarily my shava and masiva is not very popular in 2018 we don't like to think we were doing Bo don't like to think we don't want to really be business Bonin to be Messiah making something that's something that's come becoming laws to us and perhaps that's the reason that people don't even know what they are so I thought to myself if I could show people how to use the shame it seems to me the ice in something which is Lamesa like success people are gonna listen if I could show you how to use the sheiks message to media is to be successful in any area of your life and any endeavor you'd like to undertake I will show you how to do the Seamus has made it to be successful you interested now of course we're interested everybody wants to be successful so that's how this presentation came about that's how it came about that I was trying to find a way to expose people to shame insist videos to give people a connection to the scar 365 24/7 from any constant mitzvah and in a way that they're listening and they're motivated they want to hear it so I said how the shame it's least to me the ice to be successful in any endeavor of your life of course probably it's meant to be successful your openness obviously it's meant it's a it's it's tight it's tight so obviously spent to bring you close to the cottage Abajo but the shame it leads to medius in fact are things that you could use successfully in any area of your life and drawdown reward 365 27 okay that's pretty big build-up right so let's understand what the Shamus system media's are and I give you a caveat and the caveat is we're not going to define any Mitzvah you know in in in Kumari you often have something you have a vase and told us what we're gonna attach these missus can even be a told her they told us sometimes I'm not and if you want to really learn up the Shaymin system it's the way you're supposed to there are a number of sperm that were recently written of course the The Hobbit scribe talks about it gonna say for mr. card sir hey you could go to the FINA can go talk to the first Bjelica and you can go you start learning and look at the Robin hook as Deus there's a lot a lot to be learned about it but what we're doing tonight is I'm giving us a convenient attachment to them so that we'll know them so that we'll remember them and that we can start using them right away despite the fact that we don't have a full definition of any one Mitzvah which could in fact take a lifetime for any one Mitzvah so certainly space of 45 minutes I can't give you anything deeper on the shaman's system video so you forgive me for that the first of the Shh videos is ley de l'homme initiation Mallika the reason I use two words the Rambam and the safe room it's this only has one expression and really it's been interpreted to me l'homme by the even Tobin the mesh pocket that translated from arabic because as you know the ROM mom wrote the seven myths in Arabic he wrote to me and mrs. in Arabic so am I said they translate to me Allah Hamid the ROM Kyle came along and said no that really the Mitzvah is Islay that - no Lleida so we say today look Holly won't embrace any one side over the other we say ley de l'homme ISIL America - no one to believe that there's a barrier to establish as fact in our minds that there is a by really not receive a kiss but to establish as a fact that our minds that a coach broker who exists so you can ask me how can I use that to be more successful in another area of my life let's say to be more successful a business so let me share with you what I believe to be the number one factor that separates that people are successful from those who are not given that they may have similar backgrounds experience education talents and skills but won't be very successful when we're not and the word is called motivation we can assume that motivation is something that allows us to overcome challenges that otherwise would tell us that otherwise would make us a failure so motivation is very very critical and without a moon of a token courage berroco without believing there's a cottage miroku there can be no real motivation allow me to explain many years ago I started working with at-risk youth and I was out on the streets here in Flatbush and I met a young man on the streets unfortunately he was pretty far gone from his roots but I try to make friends with him we schmoozing a little bit we'll call him yet see not his real name and yet see and I hit it off on the streets and said hello when we made up we'd meet again three days later I get a call from ufc's mother she said that yet she went to a party and at the party he ingested certain substances that made him very very high and when the high from that substance came down when the high became diminished he went into an awful awful depression and in fact he's been in bed for the last three days and there not much left to get him out of bed he hasn't eaten he hasn't drunk anything nothing for three days he won't see a doctor she won't the day he won't let her call it sola nothing nothing he said the only thing that she could get him to agree to was if rabbi Mills did we couldn't see him so okay that was in my early days that still made house calls so I went to the house and yets he's lying there in bed with the covers drawn over his face I come into the room I'm thinking sleeping probably so you know I try to be very very positive motivational I say it's me come on it's me it's Milstein I just leased a new car coming to Carl take you out we'll go bowling ain't oil venerina nothing he's silent so I figured he's sleeping so I walk over to him and I peel the covers gently from his face and his eyes are wide open as he see it's me come on let's get out of bed and let's go have a good time and yet see responded gave me an answer that was brilliant if one is chameleon atheist he said what for what does that mean what for what is an atheist thing he thinks that the world is a joint accident and I happen to evolve into one of these and a cockroach happens to evolve in a cockroach but really is no difference between us it's all a giant accident if it's the world is a joint accident there's no rhyme or reason or purpose for the entire universe the entire cosmos is basically a mistake it's an accident that happened therefore if you think about it what is so important about this challenge that I have that I don't feel like getting out of bed that I should get out of bed why is that challenge important enough that I pay attention to it when the entire universe has no purpose to it for an atheist he's right but the first Mitzvah is Leto l'homme she aja Mallika that is a very Allah with unlimited energy unlimited power unlimited genius unlimited ability unlimited awareness and of course bro who took and he created this globe we call the earth which is only one tiny part of one galaxy of which is 150 billion galaxies and he gave it a good spin this earth and he pivoted in a way with we have because of the way it spins and the way the Sun is set and the way all the planets are excuse dealt that we've went to spring summer and fall and he gave it that split it's still spinning pretty good today and he created billions of people in this world and all those billions of people they have challenges to them so it can't be that my challenge of not wanting to get out of bed is that he less important the entire universe because the same creator that created both we don't think of ourselves that way but with hazael toes which will lead never island what does it mean it means that anything that happens to you is no less important to the entire cosmos it's the same burner ulam running both if the same occurred is Braco busy kiviak holds not busy of doing both so it's got to be the challenge that I have is half --lo fella mama SH in terms of the meaningfulness it's the very meaning of the universe itself it's the same burial um and when it cuz i'll tell us loyola magnum Charla you have any idea what it means to be Magda me show them to somebody you have any idea what it means the Cobell is a report of your face it's cosmic release I encourage my uncle tells to do that there's nothing there's not a step that you take so that an action that you take that is not as important as the entire cosmos you have motivation I'll give you motivation so you get up in the morning and let's even just go to work a person's muscle farness ish to you but of his velocipede Roth if a person's going out and he's missing Pomona he's handling Eric there's nothing that you do which is unimportant there's nothing that you do it that's not varam how I'm Deborah Michele oil I'm Manish ladle AHA Minh xie xie Malika but still you see a lot of people are from Jews they don't look so motivated in fact some of them look downright apathetic they have apathy savolta no doctor Boldt meinen that they're really good Jews at everything else and they have everything that's going for them just one thing it was troubled being apathetic rabbi sigh if someone is apathetic he's not connecting his tire misses to the barrier he has a problem with his lado l'homme xie xie Malika and by the way is no shortage of people that I've met who are fully practicing in tyree and wonderful you're gonna go to your room and when they talk to me privately they say you know I'm not so sure I'm really not so sure I give them credit that them that they admit it so you should know years ago when someone wasn't sure I leave a void I mean what did you do but today you know we have a whole cure of community and the cure of community spends its time basically demonstrating yeah me too cetera to people now I believe that if someone has what they call a moon up shooter whether it's accurate that description or not we'll talk we talk about that another time another she really we give all share on it but when people have a motive sure they say you know what is milk that's great as long as you've established a Kurtis Blow whose existence in your mind as fact that's great but what if you having trouble with that so about 25 years ago I spoke in Denver Colorado at a Kirov retreat and the Russian Shiva won the russia shiva of the dam because shiva was there and so he asked me after I gave my schmooze over there to the to the the care of someone I should come to the Ashima give the schmooze in the best manner to the next day so I told him I said I don't you would oh this is Shiva kids they come from from homes do you want to be my Oracle ela you know she looks at me he says you don't get it to you he says there was a time when nobody had any questions you know the questions you shouldn't talk about this stuff but every kid in my Shiva's got the questions it's a nivara not to give them the answer so if you have a moon of shooter if you have ever said mundo I sure AM it's gevalt ik the Pinta lead I could show you spar about right and I'm a whole bite the see the shrimp hooks over and over again but it's a sea otter the schmeyer that you have that if the person has MS Emirates the sea otter - Maya its - oddish my which is gevalt ik but if you're one of those people who's not sure go get yourself some answers if you are sure please don't but if you are not sure people kasich yourself and then you could do a mitzvah with passion do a bits with energy do amiss for knowing that every single Mitzvah that you do is something which helps you connect to the burial um so the first myth is late Ola Hamish America you want to apply it in your regular life your business life understand if you're going to work and whatever you're gonna do do it well whatever you do it well whatever you do if it's a double time even if it's not maybe someone sitting alone in Kyllo he's not saying it to that anymore he's going to the world they go out and make a kiddie show show go out and change what but do with passion and with energy connected to Barry ILOM ley de l'homme shape Lacan there's nothing that you do that's not connected let's miss her number one Mitzvah number two of the Seamus says to me this is angel of sight if Mitzvah number one comes from the plastic on a sham shared CC commencements rahim which again a kurdish bro who presented as a fact it was a reality so midst of number one is reality mister number two is Angela sight is no power outside of a cottage boho so you might say to yourself once you know I know a Chevrolet Kaka and the guy that's called monotheism monotheism means what automatically so what do you mean Angela say there's no other power what does it mean so norm is Kelly Brooke used to say David I'm Elif paraphrases the second of the asserted libris which is well ye love Holly him upon oi Dover tamela paraphrase that we say em shady lo yahia becau ales are served knife says what does it mean Lee a book or a loser what does it mean inside of you so a boy say every one of us we have a little bit of an ego it's a universal the Tyra tells us over and over again that we're gonna have problems success especially when we're successful is manager on fire a car you can be a chubby Rd or solicit Kailasa it's he ate a her that exists if the second mrs. Eliza said the first mrs. a missus a sec was a loss I say means that you have v8 Sahara about this life-size so all the time otherwise wouldn't be a tomato am i right so it means is the constant yet Sahara that we have somehow that we should think that we're in charge that we should think that we are the people who are running the universe a year but girls are there's an ego inside of us and that ego very often can somehow give us the illusion that we're in charge I'll give you a Marshall a story that happened to me when I was a kid in camp became ugh enough rum many many many years ago the old noggin of rum in Central Valley New York if anybody knew where that is raise your hands I know you did are you were there right you and Central Valley okay Central Valley in New York right no indoor plumbing remember that right okay we remember that remember that well right seventy-five no a lot earlier than that so to make a long story short there is no you know like high-tech activities today camps have go-karts which is already old already really that electronic stuff nothing like that my day my day was baseball there was morning baseball and baseball baseball baseball so I was in bunk Khalid and we grata had a kid now bunk he was an unbelievable slugger he unbelievable at the plate anytime he walked up you get out of the park at will so what happened was we were winning so many games that we weren't playing long hey Dan Punk love we're playing by like bunkie and Alice and we're winning them because this one kid he was unbelievable it's unbelievable kid all right one day he's up and tragedy strikes because there was a trip change so some kids stayed some kids go home I stayed I guess my parents' didn't want me home he stayed his parents definitely want him home right but other kids changed so now the kids in the other bugs is the new group of kids so for the first time he's facing a pitcher that he has never seen before he gets up at the plate that he's a little kid he's expecting to hit it out as always but this picture he'd never seen him before and he threw him fandom on three straight pitches you should see what happened to this kid he'll disappoint he took the bat and he threw it on the ground he's so upset she went he's ladies up again same thing happens he's fanned in three straight pitches this time he was very from he said Hashem why did you do this to me a couple innings later is up again he's seen the picture twice before first pitch comes down the pike hits it out of the park hits a home run now when this kid was running around the bases what do you think he said then no you know what he said Yeah right I don't think that was invented yet those days but hey what happened touch it you know when we're in trouble it's such an amazing thing how close a shemin's to us it's like a local call but selling would we do well oh yeah why aren't I smart aren't I great all right thank eval dick rabbi sy it's the eighth suhara we have as Alma taught eh Zahara we have syrup now if Who I am Isabella Drucker always used to say he says it's incumbent upon a person he's not slacking life not to let it get to your head and never to take credit for your success don't take credit fee as it says take pleasure in your success take pleasure that the burial Imran the universe in a way to make sure that you were successful today it's about Tony from the very regular but don't you say you take success from it take pleasure take pleasures that a bunch that loves me that's a beautiful thing to do but take credit for your success there's a big problem a psychological and business problem that you have when you take success because if you take success for your you take credit take you take credit for your success they guess what you have to take the blame for your failure and when a person feels like a failure over and over again what does he stop doing he gets frustrated stops trying and that's when we lose you the game is not over as long as you trying don't get frustrated if you to take credit for your successes in life they have to take credit for your failures take forever fails you get frustrated so we don't should not look at life and try to figure out what can I do to maximize my success because success bullets that barrel Amelia casts of Leah's avocados broke upon successful Ong Stu him but what we could do is figure out is what I'm doing concentric with the will of a cutters bocal and then I go away in a batter's box and I swing away I don't have any times I struck out by chef Ward's be there did I do it if it's something I shouldn't be doing doing I get get away from it go someplace else taking success taking credit for success is a very very negative thing it's a very negative thing and ultimately it does absolutely no good for a person and therefore it's critical and incumbent upon every single one of us that when a double type happens to us immensely off to ascribe it to college burger there are different I read difference muslin about the concept of I in Hara and people talk about I in Hara being an act that removes one's endeavors my categorical and therefore I so according to what are the bells a harsh we didn't he writes a lot for a read Friedman say therefore he says she shouldn't say kanehara when you serve something that you were successful and say Baruch Hashem tie it to a cottage broke on you be more successful the takla Sakai amis is everything that happens in our life for a are night he nights in the flake of my yah I'm Brock all it all comes my Raylan everything comes to the bay Raylan so if he's successful today thank you good his bro because everybody's up thank you for giving me this that's Lanka but not has to show they take credit cuz you take credit then you have to take credit for your failure as well we take credit for your failure is what happens is at some point you get frustrated and you stop trying and that's the biggest failure of all so it's critical the second myth is angel and sorry no private cutters Buerkle how powerful this Mitzvah I'm sure many of you who heard the following story the brisker of zakat at a club rocker when he was still in Europe and it was getting very dangerous people could not remain anymore there were still people who looked out for the brisker of and they gave him travel papers she be able to leave Europe before the Holocaust and brisker up promptly whatever he got those papers he would take the papers and give it to someone that he knew would not be saved otherwise and the kids looked on at the Briscoe robe was doing this so the kids said Tata bus at diamond tones he says matones it's time to go we did it go there buddy she was gonna take care of us so what happened was when it's got too dangerous for them to remain so they decided to travel they first on trains and then on boats to make a long story short they had no papers so there's a story circulating that I heard that the brisker of taught the children that any time that someone is going to seems like he's gonna demand papers they should all be macabre on a normal body the school in a row that's in class off with many generations ade oba vada and from the Arab peninsula the way I heard the story they made it mamas all the way from Europe tyrunt's Israel with Anil Nevada so you know there are people that tell you if you believe every story you hear this that now you know you're a fool right if you don't believe any story based on a peak iris so this story I wasn't sure what to do it so a David singleton a number of years ago my son with learning bribed avid celibate chick so I figured I went I still try to have my son was learning I said that was from Deborah the stories I'm in said that now be honest with you I have to be very honest full disclosure he didn't hear very well and I'm not a hundred percent sure that he heard every word that I said but let me say I was screaming into his ear and I tell him the story and he's smiling and he's smiling and then I said is no Sammis it looks at me and he says the following he says is the sadness he says there was once were on a train and the train was crossing a border in Russia or Russian controlled area and the train stopped it was an empty car there was no one else on the train was just us sitting in the car and this inspector gets odd and he comes to our car and he's walking to us to check our papers and we were terrified and we crying to father so the topic is arced someone's not be Mohammed here's Mikasa cos I think I walked right by us like nothing like we weren't even there that's the story you see how powerful this is to live with Dayna Levante now I'm not suggesting the next time you take public transportation they shouldn't pay your fare take your fare you should pay it fear how deficit rights douche tablets you have to do but look at the potential power of this momma Chappelle's Show many of you have stories with a Nevada as well as as we do in my family so the second Mitzvah is is the midst of angel aside there's no power outside of a college brothel which brings us to miss for number three yeehaw - Jeremiah saw a light shimmer like a no-show mark on this Mitzvah especially I'm not gonna give you any push up shotly Mitzvah I'm gonna give you at Ulta - told her we all know what it means oh god no Calaca you'll do all your research you'll learn on your own base our show but I want to give you one aspect that sticks out to me as being a tremendous tool for success and that is how courage Burcu is one meaning he's consistent we as people we're not consistent and here's one of the greatest failings that we have that we are inconsistent in our lives that we make excuses for things that somehow we have 50 different reasons why it is that we don't measure up to our own goals you have 50 different excuses why it is that we didn't accomplish what we knew we could accomplish we make excuses for ourselves all of the time and it's a terrible thing to do imagine you get a job in a particular business they tell you 90% of your job performance depends upon whether you come to work on time or not because they want you to open the office 90 percent depends upon that so you could be very careful the very first day you come to work you get there at 8:40 has to be like 9 o'clock 8:40 of their boss is very proud of you says that's the way I like it terrific you open it every 2/3 of it next day come at 9:05 the boss says my high my high he says listen I left 20 minutes earlier this morning than yesterday morning but the train came to a stop in the tunnel and there was nothing to be done I couldn't even call I couldn't do anything about it so I'm really really sorry but tomorrow I'm you leave even a half hour earlier than that he says terrific ok good excuse no problem but please make sure it doesn't happen again remember 90 percent of your performance based upon next day comes it you come in at 9:20 you said what happened today he says boss you're not gonna believe this but the dog ran off with my shoes can't come to work barefoot I had to wake the store open I was first guy on line a book I came right over boss let's see pretty good excuse why do I tell you but I need to be on time next day you come to ten o'clock what happened he doesn't wait for the answer he says nice guy great excuses you're fired [Laughter] excuses don't get you anywhere so an excuse is something that we blame for our failings of life but sometimes there's something even more than excuse you ever hear the expression to fudge on something if you lie to somebody you're trying to fool them but when you fudge something you're trying to fool yourself very often in life we believe that we're trying and we're doing but we're not really doing very often in life we go ahead and we make excuses that we are so convinced that the reason for our failure is that excuse you know what it means that courage bro who's a hood there's no difference between different time periods between different seasons between different whatever Madsen in life it is you have to draw a line this in the Santa say this dog ain't us and beyond this yea verily ma I'm gonna demand this of course that's something called annoyed Ness I'm not saying that but generally speaking not to be fooled by these excuses not to be fudging in your life it's something that people do all the time they're not aware of it I want to tell you something about the Germans your maximum I'm not saying Nazis a massive adenoma but people have this fallacy that the Nazis carried off the entire Holocaust which is not true there were small group of people that could not have carried off they carried off with the full cooperation of the German people the Germans the maximum zekrom had a perfectly fine set of human rights laws on their books prior to World War two that would prohibit any kind of genocide any kind of genocide and yet they exterminated six million udin inertia of no shima Tov and they didn't break a single one of their laws because their laws you see were called human rights laws and they declared before we'll go to the Jews were subhuman so you see there's no problem with this excuses can take you very far afield from where you want to be you have a whole educated society that convinces themselves they convince themselves so excuses and fudging is a terrible thing people think that we have to handle err look with money when we deal with each other and it's true we do if I borrow a quarter from you I think you're pretty sure I'll pay you back the quarter but comes April 15th for many of us is a whole different set of rules vomiting with minion air look during the winter summer vacation it's the same refining shillelagh all year long at April 15th the Sailor punished lemon New York had in the country sailor buddies live in New York and in Florida it doesn't make it's all the same there's got to be a bottom line because it's not about a line then what happens is there's a certain amount of moral creep that takes place and before you know it maja chambers a from The Cosby Show lemon you should never do it's a hearest in language it's a big messiaen today a lot of God I've got a lot of offices young people and business successful I know a lot of pressure sometimes hear people saying things they say words they shouldn't say what does it start from it's not I represent you can find out he's drunk and before you know it this thing was saying terrible things because there's moral creep and I'll tell you now know what everybody thought people give all kinds of reasons but there's got to be about a line of shirt a cleaner and the short act idea is you figure out what their buddy schlemm wants and what he doesn't want and you say yea verily ma I'm not budging I am not budging enough some of you heard the talk that Rabbi Baskin gave how he didn't budged one drop in prison not one drop his aims of superstar Sam they dicta came around was unbelievable now one drop and I was Miss spoil the spoil from this year's cavora but this concept says I'm not gonna make excuses I'm not looking for a way out I'm looking for a way in and I look for a way out so knock Mitzvahed number three is is the Mitzvah of actor sub-array yesh mashter Amish Epic Records bro who is the same at all times in all places and the seasons and the date nothing makes that each you know you've nothing changes you figure out the right thing is and do it which brings us to number four myths are number four is the myths for of I have a session to a lover courage boggle like the plastic says via half-day session like calcio but hall above a couple national media huh so the question that many people ask when I start teaching about our session is how can the Torah obligate me to an emotion how could I look imagine it's an emotion if you feel you don't feel it so anyone who's learned crevices you know a very large part of the safer talks about I have a session being counting your blessings being a hack aura of a Kurdish bro who's tightest with you being a freshman on net fish of the kinetochores bro who does non-stop with us chef will call you me mano that's what I have a session is if a person goes ahead and a person counts his blessings and a person understands that a Kurdish bro who's doing this because of coach Merkel loves him then the feeling of loving a cottage borough who comes emailer which comes out according to this that the my submits of the midst of self are not necessarily the same though my sub misses to count your blessings but the myth is what you have there Garcia but the midsi says of having that garcia comes automatically when a person walks around all day counting your blessings how are you - tell the suit soprano sir rabbi sites called positivity I never met a super positive person who didn't think I should have loved him and I never met a depressed person with what I shall did am i right when a person walks around in life these counties blessings what is the result of that the result is is that despite the fact that I may have promised in my life but my life is wonderful and I'm going to love the one who gave me the wonderful life but if a person's cracked single day a person has dog six leg on so tight you were out worried than you think that Bates london-based lot him I think they said they said asthma Beth get men I'm his orcs get finished tasks from your topic about my doctor him but aerobic a Georgia why no at source even though a session Basilica the worst tiger kimono slum comes taka session live action macaque of a simplest of labor but right girl that's the worst thing that's the worst thing that's the signature on the entire time to look at it is half of a fella which means that we're obligated to walk around and Counting the blessings in our life and Counting all the concern becomes brother does for us and when you do that you walk away with the Heritage that Shem loves me Hashem loves you it's very easy to love him back this is critical for success in life - salesmen are selling pencils an opposite street quarters in Manhattan and one of them is standing there and he's a very depressed guy you know what am I in pencil it's like so much negative energy so let me try the guy across the street they say hey what about maybe the other guy certainly not right we are repelled by people who are extremely negative it doesn't work in me never saw a salesman who walks around the press is I should think I don't care how difficult the salesman's life is what he makes a sale he comes in with the gun simple comes with a smile on his face a harvest Hashem is energy harvester Shem is energizing a harvest rep gives us how is a Shem gives us the ability to live life and to see the problems on the issues that we have as isolated events that they are but there's no question that could have broke who is giving us and giving us and if you have any doubt about that do you ever stop to think of how many colors you can see with your eyes anyone have an answer how many colors how many shades of color and colors could a person differentiate between using his eyes anybody no 24 it's a little short already it's sixteen point eight billion I'm not talking at the brain the brain is far more sophisticated but the eye in terms of the pixelation we know about cameras today right they have a little kind of pixels millions of millions millions and millions is nourished what's that for it's not a few pleasure there are plenty people colorblind they define every mammal in the universe other than human being is colorblind the goats do pretty good don't they take a moment who changes the wallpaper every season in the world not in Los Angeles but in New York you this right winter spring summer for every different different things the blooming in the spring and the fall with the orange of the flowers and the winter with this night it's beautiful it's gorgeous take a minute Cairo who could have put you in a world that's gray and there's no she knew him at all cuz what it's art how many taste experiences you have anybody like music over here what's music for I don't know what's it for anything I need a survival based upon music certainly not its nourish take a moment and count your blessings that really finish bro who loves you adores you because both was giving you a world that's beautiful that's magnificent take a moment to notice count your blessings and if you do that the feeling of love and courage broken comes moving which brings us to number 5 number 5 is the midst of your accession some of you are ready to get up now walk out however such am I can get into that but you're as I am and it's a constant what does it mean a constant I know by a harvest Hashem constantly is to constantly count your blessings and by the way it's a great thing if someone has a truly difficult life and a lot of problems his life how he's gonna get over the problems if he's walking around select or if he's usually by simcha Christmas is simple helps you out right but you're a session I should be constantly be or I supposed to crawl underneath the table and tremble the entire time the emesis view on that my dragger yeah but I'd like to suggest that ye recession is not only not disempowering some people thinks disempowering it's paralyzing but ye recession can be absolutely totally and completely mushakraj can free you to be great let me give an example there's a terrible disease that has ravaged humankind it's called alcoholism people make jokes about it but there's nothing funny about it because the life expectancy of an alcoholic who doesn't eventually conquer it is very very short it's a deadly disease alcoholism is a deadly disease the alcoholic has the following choice real basheerah in terms of you and I horn Alec Alex lagaa by alcohol he doesn't have meaning once he encounters the first drink he cannot stop he's an honest at that point once he counted the first drink that said he's gone so what can the alcoholic do the alcoholic can develop a very healthy respect and fear of his disease and he could take the bottle of alcohol and be so afraid of it that he puts it in a safe he locks the safe and he loses the combination then he takes a chain and puts it around that safe as well locks it with the lock and loses the key then it takes the alcohol the safe and the lock and he puts it all in the sub-basement of a basement of a house on the side of the street that he never walks again for the rest of his life and you know what he can accomplish the same thing as you and me but the moment he encounters his first sip of alcohol he's finished there's nothing he could do so depending on how much he fears his alcohol that will decide how successful is going to be in life uhm is if - especially have Ahava and you see what it means to live life close the code is Rahu da fook in the Barry I love to be to be loving what the gutters burger shop loves you there's no greater feeling in the world read by sight to be deadly scared of losing that and figure out what weaknesses do I have that take me away from that that's true here as Hashem where's my weakness study it understand it master it and live it and then every person can have the same life as anybody else was fewer challenges urasue Shem is empowering your session gets the nonsense that will bring you down out of the way if you're going to be try to train to become a champion whatever athletes you're going to be in life I don't know champion boxer so I want you to be able to concert your boxing and they rent for you a place and in the middle of the winter in the Catskill Mountains Epps a cabin there bungle without heat and over there they they work you're like crazy it's a pretty bad idea to have the freezer stocked with ice cream got it figure out get the nonsense out of the way what can bring you down and divorce yourself from it get rid of it makes mirrors have tuckable is to make sure that you're not going to be entrapped by that and then you could be as successful as you want to be maybe that's why I'm in certain million amidst this hava comes first because you have to have something to lose something to be afraid of losing so once you have a harvest Hashem you know what that is that a person should walk around with every fiber of his being being Mubarak as a Kurdish bro who to be like a labor Dec ignition mask all hi it's unbelievable right there's a part of existence of life and to lose that would be the worst contours the worst thing in the world so it's a constant so what's the constancy of it so this rom moments a farm IRA talks about the myths voice of a harvest hegemony recession as twin mitzvahs that have to coexist all the time you can't do one without the other I've made a broker before they work in tandem with each other and we can understand this if a person has only a hava then it's not so good for all a year is also not so good in fact some of us grew up and the only reason that we did what we were supposed to do is grew afraid of our parents and then a shocking thing happens and we reach our parents height were no longer afraid and for some of us that becomes a big challenge right so the put that the perfect music is a veneer so I of course being Who I am I compared it to a car I compared almost everything to a car cars are fantastic much of a lot of things let me tell you what the Mitzvah hava session is mitzvah hava the Shem gives energy it's like the accelerator pedal of the car the gas pedal on the car you're pushed out on the pedal he put the pedal to the metal and boy you're flying you're moving his energies wind boy it's not a travel Avella but what happens if in that car you don't have the most important safety equipment which is what brakes you're gonna go and go and go and go right into someone else's living room or maybe your own what you need to get - we gonna get to safely is is you need to have a gas pedal and a brake pedal a brake pedals the EurAsEC em you apply it as needed a brake pedal you have to have a break that's in good working order all the time the constancy the Tamina's of the mitzvahs is is make sure that your brake pedal that you your session is in good working order all the time or this gate least on Camus sir - God for whatever you want to do it's fine but you have to adapt Tony or Shimon you have to work out your sham I am because unfortunately if you don't work at it then something a problem could happen what happens when you first get in your car in the morning and you start the car where's your foot it's on the brake pedal most cars today especially on the remote TV the button you can't start it without you want to put into gear your foots on the brake bail you can't put any car today into gear without from the brake pedal why is that because if you get into the car and you put your foot down on the brake pedal you're about to stop moving and the brake pedal travels all the way down to the floor it's got nothing to it you're not going anywhere today because you can't be on the road without a break we have to test their ship I'm all the time taka my danila for now a sham and what's the second lease a gracious talk about your accession who you not feel at this point anything you know what you're not going anywhere today sit down open our custody come and get busy because you can't if has to show him a person makes a mistake in life of hate is called a mistake lock the SI matura right means to make a mistake it's a plungin first and plunges like a person in the cars breaks it out where he gets into an accident what do you do you take the car into the garage and you fix it because you're not going into it too you fix your brakes you have to fix your brakes you need brakes that are in good working order when all the time it's a constant you're learning Pirkei avos you're learning moosa whatever you're learning is fine but you have to pay attention to your sham I am it's a constant and a person doesn't pay attention you're mine before you know but neither can you go only with Hiro you imagine driving the car with your foot on the brake all the time those of you who mechanically inclined number one you know that the brakes will stop working immediately because they overheat and it works through friction that's how it stops your car and number two is you growing them down if it should work either you can't live mouth only malcolmus Cyril Ibaka lazier at some point a lot of people are not afraid anymore you fear fear fear fear nothing out you have to have a to so the perfect me Zerg is is to have them work together in life go Maximus Ahava but stop maka Sierra and if you know of Calum that could stop you at you're in big trouble so make sure that your Calum are in good working order all the time pay attention to your year of fact your fear factor which brings us to the last of the Seamus Expedia's the last one is also a Lisa Lisa suru Korolev alchemic Rainey ahem I shared attends a Democrat but Lisa suru don't stray after llevaba kam what Slava became the base desires and passion of the heart became the base desires and passion of the ice doctor Gamora Carla Bob Kim Sumi knows and our crane anthem is already a rice question is didn't we just speak about your assume I am we just spoke about Yura so if I have euro why do I need another is serve a license or a trail of alchemic right at him mousse design it has to be the terraces that there are things in life that are so alluring they're so magnetic they pull us so much that all the year in the world is not gonna help and you just separate in Seville Isis Soraka the vodka that you gotta cut it off at the pass even before it starts you gotta wear t-shirt says Josh say no and what is that zoomy knows verse hastiness serb not acquire me used to say what's the ultimate meanness the ultimate meanness is not just denying a Kurdish Merkel the ultimate menaces you've been megalomaniacs people somehow believe that they are the center of the universe people have such huge personalities that they think that they're the center of the universe it creates in us a blind drive for power and ambition and there are people who get hooked on power to such an extent that they don't mind destroying the world around them as long as they get what they want vacker hm the varam that go counter to Tania's and that's Tiber so one of them is the drive for power and the other one is this Tiber and you could have people who otherwise about Eurasian I am but sometimes they get into a position if they're not careful before they know it they become somehow filled with their own essence and they become blindly ambitious and their fiddling while Rome burns they do things in their place of business they do things that destroy the people around them they destroy their families they destroy their co-workers they destroy their companies when you marry the two together it's not a volume the destruction that takes place when your people who I have these joint drives these this blind drive for power and they vanish Meshuga the tightest at the same time they could be President of the United States of America be the laughingstock of the world for a couple years should be even today all silver one of these people thinking and the answer is they're not thinking because these things cause you to stop thinking because this kind of drive for power and this kind of Tiber it's mashach air it's intoxicating there's a great fallacy in the world people say can't drink and drive that is patently untrue it's not true it's not true you can drink and drive just not very well and you don't notice the collateral damage that you're doing and you're ripping off people's sideview mirrors in the beginning and then until you wrap your car around the poem and you get I say oh I'm a great driver unfortunately we're not incapacitated where we indulge in these typists and these are bigger than people to Terry's being mayor that I have that we have these things the governor talks about they tried to stop the HSR and they tried to stop the driver and the world stop reproducing a chicken wouldn't lay an egg anymore right so if it has to be that but recognize how big and powerful it is and make sure you have schmear is make sure you have a smear in your life make sure you do what you need to do not to fall into the trap because when you put these two things together it's so powerful it's kind of like a roller coaster a roller coaster on the way up you could stop it if you need to stop it you can stop it but once it breaks over the top and it picks up speed going down all the breaks in the world remember the Earth's on the break all the breaks they will not cause it a stop it will derail and crash once a person gets caught up in a certain pattern once a person gets caught up and these twin kaffarah lurkers base desires that a person has then there's no way to stop and the person has to crash in vertically low fillet so sera que la vie bohème a grenade him I share thumbs dynamic Ram Hashem says I face I know what it's all about don't think for a moment that you're bigger than these forces a not petronas when it comes to things a nap a trumpet Shh with slice 3 yes if you want to use it to be more successful in your business go right ahead you want to use to be more successful in school go do what you want to do but the Emmis is that these Shaista medias are much more than simply an answer for some success the sheamus's medias define the relationship we have the courage Bravo Hashem la carretera avoid book the de vegas and a shame that we have how is that to define the lock doubled rock of houses the point and i'd like to deposit before you tonight that this is how is defined in the Shaymin system eaters these are the me dice these are the serum this is the approach these are the bullets these are the strategy this is the maracas of how a person comes to that and rabbi side the most important thing that we have to do this time of year is to repair our relationship with a leadership of survival the most important thing to do is you know if you think about rahim ask of Crenshaw eleven states of the Baltic akasha he says we all know we say all these cyclists that the Sutton shouldn't stare at Kia Schaeffer right and we say that this is key Schaeffer itself to Sutton thinks that it's a fish a mashiac and he votes at race Tilton Gunson right have you got it subtract the Prakash will Evers was trayzell there is he such a hazy such anemones Jack doesn't remember last year cly so blue Shaffer they didn't do to ver didn't bring my chef does remember the year before and the year before they never did Joe before they never did to her before so what's up shall why is he afraid every single year dr. Brian because the Sutton is smarter than us and he knows that we're capable of doing it he knows the clay shall can do it and he's afraid maybe this is the year when they get their act together and he's terrified of it rabbi Elazar nila died David ideally we spend the month repairing the relationship we have the cottage broker and we're still in garlis and we did it last year he was telling all of us so I'd like to suggest maybe it's more than a tweak that's necessary maybe it's more to just Fela maybe it's more more than another core where we take on maybe this year we have to go back to the engine of the car and see if there's a problem with the engine and retune the engine because the acre is the acres the relation whatever cocoa liquor is not nila don't even ideally let's do a weekend remember classic ourselves in these in yharnam let's remember the Seamus Expedia's let's review quickly the first Mitzvah is lady de l'homme Cheshire Blake our second one angel aside and third one year who died the fourth one Sava fifth one is zero and the front of the sixth one is Veloso suru let's remember them if you need a refresher look at nubira lock and and hey Eric I am take a look in the safe Rapinoe if you could look it up but to study it and to know it because it's not likely then we can really be my cosmic ourselves in these mitzvahs if we don't know about it so at least have an awareness at least we have a moment when our mind is idle he's sitting on a bus are you a little bit bored to review the Shane Smith system medias America Weinberg states it was that which each of the creatures you review another one of the sheiks mid-sized media eyes but I place a however you choose to do it is beautiful have you chooses go validate but acre is our base i we have to grow we have to make sure and we have to raise ourselves up to the point we talk of a sudden this year we're gonna see the cemetery but should be i should not go all of your shoe obviously so if you're talking to a couple but she puts it it's a care to me hey Minho me shame you can't retire I'm Isis boss so much your biggest Rakesh so I buy missing from inspiring Joshua I beliefs are not to diminish in any way from the Shiva's of the six its ass medius but as I'll say the Talmud Torah connect it Coulomb you could have a closer now but society Lavinia she retired by sponsoring one of the remaining four serum of the summer this is how with your support you're gonna treat are brings these sheer them to you and the community and the world at large also reminded them about the English rear tires annual dinner and Wednesday night the dinner due to space limitations is for men only whatever everyone is invited to have a headache in a budget every again strattera by supporting your gashira Tara you can call seven one eight eight five one eight six five one an email tape center at Yeshiva net.com we'd like to have a big yes I care so mister missus Mendel Weinstein for sponsorships and I say Lena show me so robust menachem mendel as long as common and Ovid say give us motors I use a bit more if I have normally been Pinterest Ovid use the guys ruined Ovid you die even a frame well am i showing CDs of tonight she will be available surely yes you're coming not even Akashi much I got a vocalist Aki says she'll figure here I'm tired mr. stern ml Dino officer man Steve goggle Terry yada [Music]