Rabbi Yitzchak Breitowitz: How to accept the Torah - The 4 Step Plan

[Music] anybody thank you all for coming and we're very happy to have rabbi yitzhak by de Witts give the tour she where this year it's it's in English MOT Tamar battle dead so me higher and the memory of Tamar botanist sarikaya now my bride awaits as many of you know is a relatively recent on that with his wife the usual I'm only nine years ago he was a rabbi the Woodside synagogue in Maryland for 25 years and a professor of law at the University of Maryland for thirty years before that he teaches primarily or Samia and the Israel Center and other places mostly around usual I'm known as the Tommie Holcomb and the very loving presentation of Torah to welcome the new faces today and resurrect a Shem our learning should be so anyway a little tiring I actually had to go to London for one day so I just came back to shortly before the before the shared there was a Tama divorce a man who is getting married and was important that I be there so if I fall asleep I hope you don't fall asleep if I fall asleep anyway I want to talk about the fact that the rambling tells us that the book of schmaltz has three fundamental things in the book of shmoop there is you see with Ryan there is the exodus from Egypt and then there is not October the receiving of the Torah and then there is a comet emission there is the building of a Michigan and these are essentially the three themes in the book of smells with some unfortunate detours like the city of the Golden Calf and then the light and it's interesting that the Hasidic writings we actually find that the theme of Shimoda those three themes they parallel the journey that we are supposed to make in our own lives as we develop a relationship with our coach border the first is its Ian Smith saranyam and I've mentioned a number of times already so forgive the repetition the beautiful thought of the ballot ano gada tells us Kai abundantly wrote does not smile each person must regard themselves as if they themselves were taken out of betrayal and the question becomes I was never in Egypt there was never a slave am I supposed to make believe something happened to me that did not happen to me what is the meaning of high abundantly roads as that's well heeled who he got something miss Ryan and the by Latanya is beautiful I would have to say immortal interpretation is that miss Ryan has a double meaning miss Ryan of course is the nation of Egypt ancient Egypt that enslaves us but with Ryan comes from the word miss of in boundaries limits constrictions blockages when Dublin embellish feels trapped and in desperation when he turns to icons for not wearing his shoe out he says as we recited how well many maids they call out the god from the narrow confining limits its assessed about Latanya based on this idea each person has their own betrayal every person has their betrayal I could live in affluence but I could be a slave to my laziness my anger I hate my negativity my lack of self-esteem and appreciation for our own gifts whatever it might be that is my name is Ryan and that mitzrayim is much more difficult than an external misrata him because that is a myth Ryan within you as opposed to something being without you it says about Latanya when out Koresh bar who took the Jews out of mitts Ryan he put into the glia a color that enables each and every one of us to attach ourselves to that process and become liberated from the betrayin within so the the inner meaning of the statement each person must regard themselves as if they were taken out of with Ryan does not mean I make believe I was in Egypt would rather I identify men that my betrayal and then through the color of EECS betrayal I become liberated from my enslavement so that is steam number one in the book of schmoes to become liberated from the inner enslavement of the soul that's a pure vitality and become like an albatross on your neck weighing you down preventing you from going forward you know I think of this think about Cayenne going back to the not the first thing the second sin of humanity the first sin was probably eating from the eights at us but it went downward from then the next one is murder and kyon turns to mush em at one point and kyon says good ol a Minnesota my sin is greater than I can bear you know it's good to keep mental pictures of what what that's describing it's describing in a bone in Aveiro as if it's a rock if it's a weight that's on your back it's weighing you down it's crushing you it's crushing you spiritually and in some ways even physically because it will have even physical symptoms and when a person is liberated from those of the throngs there is a certain freedom and an expansiveness that were developed says when a Shemp seeks and redeems me from the baits are my marathon finale he has given me her body has given me expensiveness right so that's team number one and we've been talking about that theme the past few weeks but Steve number two which now comes into being last week and also this week as well not so bad it's both the ax throwing fish but they deal with Maserati really makes a second than a related point it is not enough to be freed and liberated from that which destroys you you have to use your freedom in a constructive and productive way and that is by submission to the will of God just that you find with the that Pesach switch about how the way of freedom is linked to should vote that is the holiday of Torah and it's linked by spirits open and in fact the rabbinic name for us is that separate now it's Eric literally means the conclusion meaning that cereth is considered to be the conclusion of Pesach Peck the Rambam has a brush up that sphere s omaree's one log hold on my weight so if you tell your boss you don't work you might use it as an excuse for a very long vacation but they said no guarantee the job is gonna be waiting for you at that at that point now why is there a need for a linkage because they're very very simple for him and that is freedom is worthless unless it is linked to the nobility of using that life in a holy way in the service of my brother's work in factories I'll make the point in a very simple way they point out that the grain offering that is brought on pets on the basis of a pleasure is the owner but the owner is a measure of barley and that is typically animal father those days before charge was invented barley was largely animal fodder much both we bring a a grain offering as well but it's wheat which is switched for human consumption so I'll actually make the point that freedom without submission to a Shem is the freedom of the wild animal it is only untrue out that there is a human dignity to our freedom and therefore with the Torah here is tracing the progression of what is a spiritual life it follows liberation with submission now in some ways we look at that as almost a contradiction I become free and then I submit myself but the truth is a beautiful metaphor that's the Indian poet laureate said and he was not referring to to Jews he didn't probably didn't know any Jews or at least they were not in his circle but he was referred to Humanity generally and he described the beauty of the human soul as analogous to the music that a violin strings came producing very very beautiful music but if you take the string and simply let it loose on the table take a loose string put it on the table what music will you be able to get out of it you'll be able to get nothing out of it paradoxically on some level comforter intuitively although obviously science has an information for this the string is capable of producing the beautiful music only when it's tied down on a frame and is confined and doesn't have this unlimited freedom that the guard was suggesting that the human soul was like a violin string there is a beautiful music and potential within the souls of each and every one of us but only if we tie ourselves down now in many many ways this is true in many areas with be October as well let's look for example that great artists whether it's painters whether it's musicians take Picasso or take the jazz people who improvise and we have riffs that you're beginning to play an instrument and you want to do riffs and instead you're told you have to practice scales three hours a day and you say scales are so boring they're not interesting they're not creative I want to create but you see in order to go beyond the boundaries of anything you have to first work within the boundaries and it is precisely the discipline of difference that eventually liberates and opens up creativity that is the difference between Picasso and the three-year-olds who simply scribbles now again for many people that may even include myself you know abstract art doesn't look much different than the three-year-old but I will have a mu Knotts art critic secular tell me that there is a difference and the difference primarily is and when freedom and in presenting improvisation are wedded to a commitment to a technique now that's in areas other that's over but certainly in life that's true as well in Jewish life that is very very true freedom cannot be a purpose of existence freedom at best can be the condition to enable the achievements of purpose it is not the goal of life Erich Fromm once remarked freedom cannot just be freedom from something freedom has to be freedom towards something and thus the Torah always connects October and it's yes it's right in fact one might offer the following speculations you know that she cannot save at least the first food that they have at the Seder meal after they've had the obligatory matzo and Mara is a hard boiled egg they are both dedicated salt water and there are different reasons that are given but one of the reasons that are given is that an egg is the same food that you would give a mourner coming back from the cemetery because the egg in its oval shape represents the of the circle or the cycle of life but yes there are bad times but there will be good times well what does that have to do with well pants on well number one they'll pass up we commemorate the corporate pizza and we don't have the corporate pen Center today so there's actually a certain sadness as to what we don't have so the in the oxy lab debate saw is a need hung up a limp it is a type of comfort for the mourner but then some commentators take it one step further there's a direct connection to mourning because the first night of pace off the first day of face up there's always the same day of the week as the ninth of hours later in the summer so the very day of the week or the night of the week that we are celebrating our liberation from its Ryan is the night that becomes designated as they put me out with the hurts the eternal crying until we have to base our McNish now that's the way the Jewish calendar it happens to work out but there were never coincidences everything as a deep meaning and a deep connectivity and here is what I would suggest just as a speculation the first night of Pesa is the only night that represents complete freedom that is not yet connected to about October because the counting of the O'Mara does not start until the second night so the first night is freedom without children maybe the Challenger Association is freedom without Torah is going to get you a tissue box so in a sense the evening of the egg is a substitute for not counting the O'Mara until the second night of course why in Twitter it's when they make a second say there they still eat the egg you know because the upmarket upset that's simply a question of collectible down so that is theme number two it's a fee member what is it CFM triumph theme number two is about time so dollars and then she struck the theme number three building a mission building a dwelling-place mr. Cogley translate Tabernacle but the word which God means a welding place and here the critical verse is assuming Mukesh Hashem commands Moshe they shall make for me a sanctuary a holy place Vishal hunting big toe so I will reside in them because I'll make the very critical and important observation that the Tauri does not say God does not say I will dwell in the tabernacle but God says well in your heart and in your soul the baked Abhishek on which later of course morphed into the base of induction the usual ayah is first and foremost a symbol of the presence of Hashem within our active within ourselves that is right it's been brought down in different sources then although the physical temple was destroyed on the ninth of but that's because by that time it was just a building the Divine Presence had already been banished we won our hearts and our souls at some indeterminate point and at that point God no longer lives there anybody could destroy the Midrash tells us to go subnets our was very proud that he had vanquished God in his dwelling place and a chef said you did nothing you ground-up flower that was already grounds I vacated the premises long before you and in fact that be accessible and again just to be sure people understand the historical placement of the three major perhaps all profits are made you for the three big prophetic books you shall hear me Yahoo and your school yo-yo lived much earlier than the other two you shall lived around the time prior to the exile of the ten tribes that this was more than a hundred years before the destruction of the first place of English but your SATs killing you REO our master contemporaries both of them were alive when the base on big dutch was destroyed your video was actually inherit israel and he was a witness to the destruction as we know the book eight huh yes that scale had already been in exile in Babylonia eleven years earlier so he is nineteen average Israel but he was the Navi to the Jewish population that was already in Bluebell more than eleven years before the destruction of the Masonic dungeon and that various times in the book of the festival we are told T is transported miraculously back and forth from Babylon Cheever Shanaya now how you understand that was it a literal physical like a magic carpet or type of trip or was it a dream in the commentaries because you're dreaming this or is this an actual physical movement but whatever it is he describes a very very powerful scene of the shekinah moving from one place to another place as it gradually leaves the base of make touch and then leaves you were shall I am he talks about it it was in the color succotash him and then it went into the courtyard and then this went on top of the altar and then it went on top of the wall and then it went into the city and through city he went to the Mount of Olives high res a tent we're trying to disappeared and then each stage the Shekinah stopped and waited and hoped that yearn for us to do Shuba and then the Shekinah would come back but we did not do testicle describes in a very graphic sense the journeys of the Shekinah because Hashem was no longer in our heart and our soul so when we say we have an obligation to build the base of mechanization the question becomes what is the nature of that obligation there is a mitzvah role the us who we make stuff now there's a group in Israel the Temple Mount the people who take this myths for quite literally they have some sources and say we have an obligation to build a base of intention if that means bombing the mosques or whatever it is we have to do it there is such a position it is not the mainstream public position the Rambam for example writes explicitly that the base of mikdash is not going to be rebuilt until much the other trucks as opposed to saying build it and that will bring much yes the Rambam says mashiach job is to do the basis of Mukesh we are not supposed to be physically involved with building the base of make national till machine content of course Rashi is opinion in mrs. Schmauss is that the third base of Mukesh is not going to be built by man at all it will be yoga so if according to Rashi it will be arrangement of Somalia and according to the Rambam the myths wisdom is Mashiach mitzva then what are we supposed to do in terms of building a base emitter should we simply do nothing at all and the answer is very simple but very hard our job is to make our hearts and our souls a dwelling place for our College Board because that is what will bring the base of it if the base on McDuck's is a symbol of Ishaq on TV Tokyo then until there is a shanty bateau come you're not going to have the symbol so therefore our job is to build the internal base something by keeping the Torah by bus Israel by our heritage as well by caring about this country by the society about Jews and really caring about the world as a whole to the degree that we can have an impact in a positive way and then we make our hearts and our soul deposits and that is how we fulfill pl so we make dunya so in a sense therefore the book of schmoes it's really an archetype it's really a pattern for the journey that we have to move from its yachtsman I am getting rid of our constrictions blockages and limitations taking our freedom and devoting ourselves to noble and spiritual and all the ends and ultimately making our heart and our soul of a dwelling place for the divine presence and that is what the book of smoke says that's why the rhumba rights that's the alternative name for the book of schmoes is safer guruma the book of redemption referring not only to historical Redemption but the redemptions that we ourselves have to go through so now I just want to share with you a brief thoughts from the your exciting MacArthur made it work I am of high M Binet art in which he takes one puzzle prior to my Torah and he develops for a four-step plan for us to receive a chef's Torah in our lives we know that the Rahman writes that there's a mitzvah to remember how see my every single day just as we remember the exodus we remember the experience of math on Torah because Matt Santoro should be something that we're doing every single day and thus the steps that the Jewish people have to take to be Makabe with Torah then are going to be steps we have to take now so now at the beginning of schmoes parakiya tests it tells us how this Ashley she it was the third month but say it's been a showmance around from the time they left me trying goes nice and near see but by yoga that on that very day or so to see bun bo mid burns you know they came to the Sinai desert okay so now we are told they have arrived at mid bar scene and are seen on the next tussock seems to be repetitive and gives you no new information the next person says run yes summer feeding they left were feeding well we know from purchase mashaallah that they left repeat and repeat him is in Oasis where I'm not like attacked them that was the war with the public so we know they left repeated why doesn't have to be stated and then it says if we have a person like they came to miss mercy night well we know bathroom personality thought y'all have uber made boring and they had camped there Don even showed me sir Leggett are and then they intent by the mountain soap us at base which is telling us nothing more than they left her feet him and they came to Sinai is repetitive of pus akalabeth which tells me they were at Sinai and the end of precious for solace but says they love for feeding so what is the second bus of telling me that I already don't know from the first lesson so the or FIA McCulloh tells us that the first park is telling me their geographical movement they move from her feed em to Sinai but the second consequence referring to the spiritual steps they have to take to be worthy of receiving a Kurdish work and this is a four-step plan step number one well yes ooh Mira feed them they left repeat them then what is repeated so here is the thing you're feeding is an oasis in the desert rafi them is the place where a mullah attacked us we had a war with up all that we won but because I'll see in the name would feed them the secondary meaning that Rafi them is not just a name of a place but it is the reason why we were vulnerable to a moment and then there's Rafi Dems can be broken down into two words ruffle you'd a.m. in October roughly 8 a.m. there are hands for weeks now this is an idiomatic expression but a sexually imagine the following imagine that you have to cross a busy street and you're holding your baby now obviously you're going to hold your baby very tight because something that you don't want to drop you hold tightly on the other hand if you're crossing the street and you happen to have a tissue in your hand unless you're a very strong environmentalist who absolutely refuses to literally just not a bad habit to happen even if you don't deliberately throw it in the street but you'll hold the growing to believe loosely but you really don't care that much if it falls out of your hands so idiomatically therefore roughly a.m. or riff young a diamond is an expression that means a person doesn't deeply care about something therefore comes out dharshan we were vulnerable to a mullet because we were in a state of repeat him ruffle today in minutes over we already had some toner we already had some business and we were doing them but we did it without passion without excitement without fervor in a state of roads and complacency and relative and difference and when one who lives a life of worship of God in which there is a lack of passion and excitement they are vulnerable to outside because they've incorporated a mother left inside now this is actually very interesting because the common view we have of our mother when we think about a mullet is radical evil we think about the uncontrolled axe murderer or terrorist who wants to destroy because they have an all-consuming cause but in the West kind of society they actually have a very different picture of a bullet a mullet does not represent evil commitment or commitment phenomenal commitment to an evil class a mullet represents the cool voice of cynicism in which things don't really matter do they so think about a mother like as maybe the post scientist University professor so to speak who basically says you know your beliefs that Jewish people mean anything is just a construct of your social environment and there's no inherent by the way we do have some very evidence famous Israeli academics that are taking this very position they have said there is no such thing as the Jewish people so it's interesting picture so I'm not like is not the fanatic terrorist who shouts Allah Akbar but it's the cool collected cynic it says nothing matters because it's all a matter of subjectivity well that's an interesting it's an interesting issue the question becomes can a person become so went into that that then itself to complete the Navajo operating principle it's a little therefore the concept is when I have coldness and indifference I have the Amalekites within me so the first step to achieving in Manitoba is leave Rafi them not leave the place spatially but leave complacency leave indifference bring passion and excitement and fervor that enthusiasm to your religious life don't look at it as a burden find ways to make it vibrant now going through the motions is better than not going through the motions that much I think we will grant them but it is still such an impoverished superficial connection to something that potentially can be so rich and so deep and so beautiful you know somebody once described that for many Orthodox Jews they look at the Torah as a series of problems which they have to work around instead of 650 mitzvahs there are 613 problem on there I've got a kosher problem here the Shabbos problem here and again is exactly that it's still worthy of respect because they are reordering their lives in order to follow the totem but they're not looking at the Torah as a source of joy in the source of the life looking at the tourists kind of a negative baggage that we're trying to stuck with but you know we'll work it out in one way one way or the other that's why you know there was you know there's a phenomenon in some modern authors communities in New Jersey in New York called tap shoppers I haven't heard about this this is a problem with teenage girls mainly in high school that you know there are the Knights and they commit you they they're committed to keep Shabbos but they cannot stop texting each other they do text messaging because that's the one thing that considered because lepers or something the one thing they cannot stop doing is a utilization of social media through a smartphone or whatever it is so there's an expression in some of these communities I keep have shows I would give more credit the brevity 2/3 shoppers but whatever it is it says I keep everything but that so there were some brilliant engineer police trying to a kosher texting mechanism actually done even I know the holistic things us with it the holistic basis for this is very very very very questionable but let's even imagine that some genius could come up with a permissible way to text message on Shabbos is that what we want but what Hashem the same thing I can do six days a week I can do it on chakras - that's the ultimate well sharpish is a problem and I haven't been able to break this problem of what I can't do in Javas but if /m I have discovered a way to circumvent - everything again that goes back to the idea for freedom which the Tyra's of problem is that it was source of life so that's why you sooner feed them make sure you dish my passionate be invested in a joyous way you know the old Yiddish expression consists revenge designer yet it's hard to be a Jew and robochav Feinstein said with maybe some exaggeration that he felt that turned off a whole generation with Jews going back to the 20s and 30s because the only message they got was the negativity because their parents are indeed there was a lot to complain about in many ways people who have to get a new job every week etc and people lived in poverty but if the child grows up seeing and hearing only the negativities of the englishman then at some point they're gonna wonder why am i suffering am i supposed to be a masochist is that what Judaism is about but so this is step one leave for freedom okay step two just following the plastic base Sam Lisa here but you evolve with Barcena they came to the mid bar what does that connote see here they are FIM sighs that one of the beauties of the mid part is that it is really devoid of a lot of materialism there aren't fancy buildings and stores and all of these things all probably today the mid bargains probably find them all and well they laugh I guess would be an example of that but typically the mid bar is is a an environment that is devoid of excessive materialism so the RSI obsess step to to be macabre the Torah is that we try to simplify our lives and not be excessively invested in material pleasure hedonistic pleasure now this is a little tricky because in one hand it is important to note that Judaism by and large with some exceptions is not an ascetic religion Judaism does not preach renunciation Judaism does not encourage voluntary fasting the Nasir you'll recall is treated as a sinner in our tradition because he's depriving himself of a legitimate pleasure namely the drinking of wine in moderation so it is true that we want people to enjoy the world and get pleasures in fact there's even famous passage in the Jerusalem Talmud that says God is going to hold each of us to account for every permissible pleasure of the world that we could have enjoyed and we didn't because the show was going to say I put it here for you and you didn't use it the first she lived in Germany said any person but she was closer to the Alps any person that does not go and see the Alps is going to be held to account we're not seeing the magnificence of God's creation however as much as we do embrace the fullness of the beauties of the world it is also true that the more we're invested in money and consumerism and hedonistic pleasure the less sensitive our soul is going to be to the holiness of God's Torah and the joy of God's story and the reason for that can actually be explained in simple psychology physical pleasures tend to give you instant gratification and spiritual pleasures develop with time and once a person is submitted to the instance it is very very difficult for them to see pleasure and that which takes a lot of time I mean in fact this is a major educational concern about the internet generally not coming from you tables coming from universities that web serving creates a kind of instant addictive gratification in which you get immediate answers to everything as a result it is found that students have less started from high school and and even younger than that I still have less ability to concentrate to follow a sustained argument to read a book I understand that the average University class used to be 50 minutes now the average online class is 20 and 25 minutes and the argument is that people do not have attention spans beyond 25 minutes so there actually is major educational concerns about what the Internet has done to our brains I'm not referring to misuse of it before an aggregate all that other stuff I'm talking about regular you know internet research and I would affects the quality of analysis and again it goes back to the idea that if you're a web surfer you're not going to enjoy Shakespeare or Faulkner get an A that might be F exaggerated over generalizing these take work well Tory takes work learning a piece of Gomorrah involves laborious concentration and if you are overly invested in the physical ephemeral pleasures of the world you will not have the patience or the distillation presenting it right so therefore the other sign of sense that the second likely the first step is leaving repeatable the second step is go to the desert simplified and of course just simplify the life to the degree that we can do it it's also conducive to a greater relaxation the greater serenity of spirits Pesach chrome tells the story that one of the Shabbos guests was a ball Trueba who had been a competitive cyclist in the Tour France and the various European races and when he became a shomer Shabbos he has to give up his professional career because all of these races are over over weekends so people ask him if we don't people always ask these questions what was his life you know it to be a competitive just a cash you know what was it like to have a cheeseburger what was like that Lakers what was it like you know the curry difference on Shabbos and the person gave a very interesting answer he actually said that keeping Shabbos is very much like a competitive bicycle race I would said so because when you're competing at a world class level the differences between the winner and the second place are really fractions of a second sometimes very very small at an Olympic event swimming for example it might be a tenth of a second so what you do is you start discarding everything you start discarding a hat or discarding a scarf because maybe wearing a scarf slows you up by a fraction of a second so he says being a cyclist taught him an important lesson in life get rid of the baggage that drags you down he says and to me he said that's what Shabbos and that's what Judaism kind of represents get rid of the surplus there's a lot of stuff we don't need there's a lot of surplus emotional baggage that goes back to the material and there's a lot of surplus material that we can get rid of as as well to create a life of simplicity now that is mid-part the beauty of the desert as many photographers and artists will attach is precisely and it's kind of emptiness now step three but after it says we evolved it bar scene I it seems to repeat by Yahoo new Bob big bar with Paris mentioned the second time so the other Siam says maybe MIT bar does double duty the first MIT bar is to disengage from materialism the second myth bar connotes humility because another connotation of emptiness is one is not filled with ego and come up and this reminds us of the idea now here you have a mixed metaphor because ghazzal use the metaphor of water to express humility there's a famous comes out that the tourists compare it to water because just that's water goes from the high to the low the Toro leaves the arrogant goes to the humble so cuz I'll use water as an expression of humility the our economy but using desert on books the opposite as the expression of humility but the point is the same point and that is humility is an indispensable element in the learning and the absorption of Torah and once again there's a very simple reason for that a person that is humble is willing to admit their mistakes is willing to rethink a conclusion that made me maybe learn because they're not invested in their ego they're willing to ask without fear of being embarrassed a person with income is not willing to admit their mistakes is not willing to ask I will stand by a position even though it's not was no longer a valid one and therefore to truly truly understands over there has to be ability and they tell a beautiful story about the great Revlon was almond orbit that is a young man he he was applying for position as a Russian Shiva God and which of course he got called Torah which it is that he taught but you have to try out so how did he try out to be urgency but you have to give a share in front of the other Roshi Shiva's and they determine if your share is good or not so we gave a share and in the middle of his complicated share one of the senior Russia Shiva's asked him a question of this year and the zalman thought for a moment and he said you're right my whole shear is incorrect and I'm just going to stop here because everything I said is not great he went on to show me that's it he told his wife I messed up I really goofed you know don't have the job we're gonna live in poverty you know there something else comes up and in the meantime this goes don't worry that things in 1949 shortly after the State of Israel and the meantime nobody has phones in those days but store phone calls or the store had a phone and somebody runs up three steps because there's a phone call for you and it's a call from the chief of for you the child to be a Russia sheep in coldtown and what was Amin said but why should you offer me the job I messed up I gave a share and it got refused and he says that's the person we want the person who is willing to admit publicly that they made a mistake and he's the great role model the greatest role model we could have for our students and the Romans Amin actually explained it later to his tell me their problems that you know a person that is reasonably professional proficient and learning can usually get his way out of things meaning somebody can ask you a question and you'll give them some answer and maybe your answer would be good enough that they think that you've answered the question but you may know in your heart effects it's not totally true and the question is better than answer so a lot of people even great somebody has a comment might try to finesse it they can get themselves out of the hot water but the greatest of me they know that the question is stronger than the answer they were and this is the second mid bar so the first mid bar is simplicity the second myth bar is humility humility and by the way this is true with parents as well I'm sure you both have this experience sometimes it parent a student you know I'm sorry a child asks a parent a question about your question either party or whatever it is and the parent might be a little embarrassed if they don't have the answer that their child is going to think that they're not the greatest person in the world cetera but the truth of the matter is for a parent to tell the child I don't know let's look it up let's learn together let's see if we can come to an answer that is a tremendously beautiful and important lesson in which you're telling the child learning is a lifetime activity and we work on it together and if there's something we don't know that's not actually serving that it's not something wrong with us it just means it's something we worked on together so saying I don't know it's not a cop-out and it's not a failure there's actually a lesson to a child that could pay great great dividends later okay so so far we've mentioned three steps we've mentioned embracing enthusiasm and passion that's relieving Rufina the first myth bar is simplicity of lifestyle and the second red bar is humility then we have the last part of the puzzle con this was out gave us a treasure after it since we got the new bunny boy they encamped in the desert it repeats by these funds shall be is wrong Megan are they encamped next to the mountain it's a repetition but here Rashi points out that the first time it mentions the verb in camping it was a plural but yeah I know here in such by huh she is a chef I do believe a hunt in order to receive a chef's table we had to be issued way behind units without unity there cannot be couple of sets around because Hashem did not give the Torah to individual Jews Hashem gave the Torah to the Jewish people if you are not connected to the people you as an individual cannot be deserving of receiving a sham story he is chef for the Culebra hood you know in the Daniel in the Haggadah we have all these dangers if something would have happened even if the other things wouldn't have happened the angel now they Hannah doesn't mean it's enough that means it would have been enough to give thanks to us sure it doesn't mean it wouldn't know for example if I Shem would have taken on something inside of me trying and not giving us the shelah etc so we still would have been grateful but we're not saying it's no it's enough so some of the things raise a lot of problems I'm not going to go over every problematical one but one of the interesting day is Neelu can Rondo lift a arsenite if I share what a broader star see money flow not so long ago September and wouldn't have given us the total day no that's enough to be grateful something before cements the obvious question the other one if you would have taken us out of the try and even there's other things we've never happened we would have experienced such a great thing but what would have been so good with being brought to rc9 and not getting the Torah what would the point have been so summer for some understanding that at our c9 we reach the mat Vega of Asia one person one so so even if we wouldn't have gotten the Torah but we achieved that level done a no that would have been enough for to give thanks to one college for I think I mention every ways about putting hers very humorous remark which unfortunately has a ring of truth somebody asked for footing you know remember the story in the Camorra about the seventy elders who were gathered by Tom a one of the key the post Alexander the great kings of Egypt of the Soviet empire and they were put in separate rooms and they were told to translate the Torah and agreed this is the Septuagint the famous Targum of the seventy and because I'll record a tradition that there was a miracle that the seventy elders working in different dreams came up with the exact same translation including the various deviations that they felt necessary to make right tremendous miracle the target my Sheba so somebody asks for foot nur are we expected to believe that miracle actually happened to her foot nurse AG if they would have been in the same room and they came up with the same that would have been a bigger me in the same room there would have been so much much Lopez there certainly would not have been a consensus and you know this is the nature of the Jewish world now Jews arguing nothing wrong with that I mean the whole Gomorrah is a book of 2700 folio pages of argumentation I see - - around ten there's one parrot and shots is a becomin that it's no much loca so that's why he is every morning but every other Paragon shots so of course we are here this is the lifeblood of the oral law and process different views are explored that makes each one have a richer and deeper understanding the point is not to muscle debate and silence discussion that's not the Jewish way that's not the totally that's not what a good worker wants but to be able to do it without hatred without animosity with respect for the different views that people have to have an honest we know this because I'll tell us that the second reakless was destroyed because of sin athena and it will not be rebuilt until we overcome this enough so we don't have to face a mix - ergo you should not see nothing still here so the or autonomous given us a very simple simple state for dr. formula holidays one of acceptor shams torah in his life number one leave her feed them embraced over with passion and excitement - joy number two go to the mid doors simplify your life be minitek yourself from excessive involvement of the material number three yokka new bug report be humble and willing to learn from all and number four embrace and these are the four steps that the Jewish people had to take to be macabre the Torah and rc9 and these are the four steps that we have to take as we accept the Torah in our own lives every single day you know it's interesting that the holiday of Shavuot is called it's a man not time to retain the day that God gave us the Torah so people ask the question why is it not called some other couple lots of Teresita the day that we received so why is there an emphasis on a chef giving rather than our receiving and one of the answers that is given is I said gave the Torah that was a singular event but our receiving the Torah is something we have to do every single day you can't assign a date took up all that that's around because it's something we have to do every single day this is what we say in the Shema but you may not call you're young you'll be not like a Kardashian every single day the Torah must be new and vibrant to us so the edges to Shemesh as we learned these partials may we be Zota to be inspired and again the words of Torah belittling the schmutz tell me about the don't worry about their dead and higher and higher [Music]