Rabbi YY Jacobson Farbrenging with Children #9: Stories, Riddles, Meditation, Q & A

i'm arabic eva ash ratio miss royal with named me a Tamim atari millimeter s of victims of a lion those are the words that are sung by so many jews just in two days from now tomorrow night is the beautiful and bright day of Lag Ba'Omer the join my Lula the yard site of Rabbi Shimon bar Yohai II and even though because of the circumstances of the coronavirus I don't think many Jews will be able to go to me run to the holy resting place of the Tana elaqid of Shimon bar Yochai II but every one of us in our own homes and in our own lives and in our own hearts will be able to light the fire of rip shipment by Xie Shimon bar Yohai a lucky boy my people light fires all over the place today the situation is much more sensitive because of all of the health protocols in order to protect yourself and your families in your communities and people and Jews in the world around us but certainly we ought and we can and we must light a fire inside of our hearts this is the fire of repression by a Hawaii it's the fire that exists at every single Judith Sharon buyer hi is the one who taught in the Zohar that you soil a rice cooker BRE who Kulik odd that a Jew and Tanana Shem are always always one and even if the unity is sometimes not seeing and even if you sometimes don't feel the unity but that is the truth of every single person every single Jew and every single child and every single one of you who's with us the deepest truth about yourself is that you are one with Hashem and because you one with Hashem you are full of goodness and kindness and holiness and beauty and confidence and power and optimism and joy and simcha at your core you're a Kayla kill a commie Mao you're a piece of hashem Cabaye uncle and therefore you're invincible you're indestructible and even if the circumstances of life for sometimes challenging and difficult and even if you sometimes have thoughts that are confusing or challenging but inside of you you always have the resources to be able to live the most powerful and amazing and beautiful life not that it's always easy sometimes it comes with a challenge but every single challenge that you were I have are there to help us bring out our innermost godliness and holiness and most beautiful beautiful light this is the fire that rips in Mumbai yokai and his students tried to Kindle in every single edition of some and every single heart and soul it's the fire that we try to Kindle and reconnect to unlock bomber it's the reason probably why Mir on recent years has been the physically greatest concentration the greatest gathering of Jews from anywhere over the world I think around the half a million Jews or 600,000 Druze over the full period of the 24 hours of like Vollmer and even if this year we are physically distant the fire of the neshamah remains burning and inspired it's burning and inspiring each and every one of us and keeps us very very connected let me begin with a story we're gonna do a story we have riddles we have of course questions and answers we're gonna do something special today about nature and science and we're going to have Bayesian a wonderful wonderful time I am so thrilled that all of you are here all the Kindle are here with us and I want to welcome everyone who's here literally from all over the world let me begin with a story and it's very much connected to the theme of Lag Ba'Omer and the theme of remember his play that we just spoke about it's a story that occurred with her to whom I know his name is rabbi pinchas wolf stone right Pegasus will stone served for many years as a rabbi in Sydney Australia he was the rabbi of the Jewish house Crisis Centre in Sydney that was the name of the centre and one time this is the early 1980s so it's a few decades ago he was on a trip from Australia to New York and he was approached by somebody somebody who founded that he was in New York and found out that he is the rabbi of the Jewish house crisis center in Sydney and basically the issue they present at him was as follows a sad story there was a Jewish couple a husband and a wife living in Borough Park and they came from a Casa de chef Amelie a Hasidic family and they were living in Borough Park and Brooklyn the husband and the wife and situations got very difficult between them and the marriage was crumbling and they started to see things very very differently and she decided she wants to leave and she wants to go away from Borough Park her family or community her marriage and she wanted her husband to give her a get so he can divorce her and she'll be free for whatever reason I don't know the details for whatever reason rightly or wrongly perhaps right perhaps wrong I don't know the reason he did not want to give her a get she became extremely upset and I should say this in parentheses just in parentheses it's not connected to the story but since I'm mentioning a minute sometimes it's a situation where husbands or wives behave towards each other in a very very inappropriate way and sometimes husbands unfortunately will hold back and get because they want crazy amounts of money or they want to torture their wife and that sometimes mama Jacques arias it is so cruel and horrible unfortunately they let their Yates O'Hara take over their lives and behave in such a mean way many times its husbands towards a wife sometimes it's wife towards a husband and it's so important in life can the life I say this to you because we grow up we come we will be in different situations in life it's always important to be mentioned it's so important to be kind to be sensitive it doesn't always mean the other person is right it doesn't mean you don't have to protect yourself but it's so important to be respectful to another person it's so important to be kind to believe like a mensch I'm just saying this in parentheses because it came to me as I'm telling the story and sometimes a lot of stories come to my doorstep or my email stuff I should say in any case this husband did not want to give his wife again and one day he woke up and she's gone he calls his parents he calls her parents hi Yalda amen oh this girl disappeared parents start searching for that something happened to her they look everywhere her job her home where she been her friends she's gone she's nowhere a long time later they hear a rumor that she went to Australia so they call rabbi pinchas wall stone from sydney the crisis house in Sydney can he locate this girl in Australia he explains to them he says listen my dear friends Australia is more or less the size of the United States of America to tell me to find it's like like somebody tells me okay there's a guy Yankel right or a girl divider somewhere in America and rabbi Jacobsen you live in America no can you tell me where she is doesn't work that way go I should tell you where somebody in America is I can't even tell you where somebody is in Muncie or somebody is in New York somebody is in in New York City or New York State you want me to tell you where they are in America it's like finding a needle in a haystack that's how repinned has put it a needle in a haystack I said how am I supposed to find this girl she's in Australia Australia's you you tell me there's a girl in Australia not even a city forget a neighborhood a street I don't know how I'm supposed to help you like we should I searched in Australia for for a Jewish girl we're tell me so this person who turned to her to turn to repent this asks him a question he says tell me you came here to New York are you gonna be visiting the Lubavitch erever she says yeah maybe after that but maybe he'll give advice okay I'll do that a little while later rabbi Woolston went in for a private meeting you hid this discuss it them call it an audience with the Lubavitch Arriba and he spoke about whatever he spoke about and he mentioned them to the Rebbe at the story and they came to him and they're looking for this girl and he really doesn't know what to do they say she's in Australia so their ever asks him when are you returning from America back to Australia he says Wednesday I'm planning to leave on Wednesday so the rebus says next week sometime take a trip to Brisbane Australia now happens to be that I rabbi why why I was I was in Brisbane Brisbane Australia is like maybe an hour an hour and a half flight from Sydney Australia it's far away in Australia tiny Jewish community there and certainly in those years in the early 80s today there's a hibachi off in Brisbane a friend of mine has a measure by Lavy Jaffe I had a source of being in Brisbane lecturing there teaching there for blinging in Brisbane it was a very very moving experience because in terms of year the sky that's very very very far and especially then it was like a mid Bush mama desolate desert so the rebus says take a trip to Brisbane Australia syrup incest tells the lubavitcher rebbe and what am I gonna do in Brisbane that ever didn't answer that was it he went out of the room of the Lubavitch Arriba he's thinking to himself they never heard the story he told me that they could trip to Brisbane oh now that's gonna help but okay he went back Wednesday went back to Australia and the next week he boarded a flight and he went to Brisbane Australia he's on the flights near him sitting a lady she said she was dressed very nicely you could see she was a ballbuster harsh of a lady she was affluent successful you could see how she carried herself and they were very polite you know you sit near somebody by an airplane just asking him some questions where you from where are you from she told them just she is an active member in the Greek Orthodox Church she's a Christian he's a rabbi so during the journey she asked him a lot of questions about Jewish philosophy Jewish theology which we call our scuffle questions on Hamish Westers on the tomás she shares with him also that she and her family owned a very big chain of stores that sell dresses throughout Australia very successful chain of stores and she's now flying to Brisbane okay was just the very he said a very polite conversation she has some questions he gave some answers each one sitting in their seat 15 minutes before they land in Brisbane Australia she suddenly turns to which is rapper can I ask you another question what is the Jewish law about a Jew who left his faith and went away from it and then wants to come back are they welcome back or once they left they're rejected forever so without skipping the hearts beats a rabbi in Sydney he says our policy is I fell pichia cut you sir although he's explaining this in English of course as far as you may roam you can always come home as they say a Mossad over or amid with Naya chuga chuga is never never taken away from anybody Rambam says I feel a cough RBE Kirk all Yama wish of backronym a coupla nice when somebody whose entire life he lives completely alienated from you despite sincere return we accept them our policy is somebody left they come back we welcome them with open arms okay he turns sis's why do you ask why do you ask this question lady says you remember I told you that I own we own this whole chain of dress stores we have a very successful store that sells dress as part of the chain in a city that's even further north than Brisbane it's called Cairns I think I've spelled CAI rns I think it's pronounced like Cairns Australia or something like that we have a store there and there's a Jewish girl who works there she works well she's successful she works in our in our chain over there in Cairns but I know that she comes from a very Jewish background but she completely doesn't live in that way she's completely estranged from her back around when I asked her if she's happy she tells me she's happy but I know the truth she's not happy there was something eating up on her there was a deep void in her and I think she'll be much much happier if she can get reunited with her people and with her community and with her family cuz this is really not good for her even though she tells me she's happy but I know that it's a cover-up she wishes she was happy she's not she's very miserable but I know that she completely left the Jewish faith so that's why I'm asking you if if you guys take her back right I pinch this wall stone tells the story and he says suddenly all these light bulbs go off on my brain they came to me from Borough Park they asked me to find a girl in Australia I go to the lubavitcher rebbe I tell him the story tells me take a trip to Brisbane I tell this this lady who's not Jewish Greek Orthodox asks me a question about leaving Jewish and one and coming back and now tells me about a girl that works could it be that this is the girl you know this is going through his brain fast then he turns to this lady and he says do you know why I'm going to Brisbane she's just no he says let me tell you the story and he tells this Christian business affluent woman the whole story including that they'd rather the Lubavitch Rebbe Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson who he says is one of the greatest rabbis of this generation sent me to go to bris man I asked him why he didn't answer after I told him about this girl and now I meet you and you tell me this whole story she says now she she was a believe in person she was our mom and I got her mother she starts trembling she's like what this is this is very very strange she says what are the chances that the girl working in my in my store is the girl that you're searching for he says I don't know Australia's a big country and this is probably Jews all over the place maybe 50/50 she says you know what let me facilitate this I'm gonna get this done okay I'm gonna get you a ticket to go to cares I'm gonna get you a hotel room I'll pay for the hotel room I'll arrange the meeting between you and this girl and see what you can do rabbi wall Stone says I think that I said it's unnecessary for you to pay it's fine I don't need you to pay the expenses but she arranged everything he flew to Cairns she gave him the address way to go to meet the girl he went to the store she wasn't there at the moment because they work in shifts and it wasn't her shift but he waited she comes into the store and imagine she sees isida she'd Jew the Hat pays a yarmulke a beard since it's it's not what she expected to find in this female dress store in Australia in Cairns Australia it's not what she expected she looked so startled overwhelmed what is going on in this place and he goes over to her and he introduces himself he says hi I'm Pincus we'll stop no he's tell the story he said the moment I saw I knew right away it's her I saw oxidation maydel for Borough Park Jesus I saw Hasidic girl from Barbra I knew immediately it's her she wasn't dressed like I said there's a man from Borough Park she didn't look the part she certainly was not in that environment but I saw on her face I just saw that this is the girl I know immediately without getting the name that this is the girl they're searching for I doesn't know what I go over to her say my maynard name is princess wall stone I'm the rabbi of the Jewish house crisis center in Sydney Australia how about Hassan I tell her the whole story I come here I went to the lab he told me to go to Brisbane I met your boss she looked at me and she says now his work it's not a time to talk I can't talk obviously he's so she's not happy she's agitated he says no problem let's meet after work wherever you want we'll go meet Sheba grudgingly agreed she didn't want but he came all the way she agreed they went to meet after work wherever was they went to meet she says what do you want he says I want to help you if you need anything if he says listen she says listen to me all I want is a get you get me a get I want Utley divorced from this man I was married to get me again if you're gonna get me again I'll talk to you if not leave right now I asked her to Pintrest as I asked her what do you need to get for him you're not religious you're not living a Jewish lifestyle you're not bound by the laws of Tyler in your own perception at the moment you're completely estranged you're not even living among Jews what exactly do you need to get for I'm just wondering he wanted and established she's coming from she says I need to move on from my previous life I need it cut off my previous love enough to move on I need get I need a civil divorce if you can help me with that we'll talk I said okay I'm gonna help you they start talking they start talking connect she's sharing he's sharing he's a fan of me follow me i norms a warm Joe she gets in touch with the family says listen I located her I can help her we can help her but I need to I need it we need to get this get them she's not going back to this marriage just get a snap they managed to get a get from the husband she agreed to come back to the United States of America they got divorced she got a get and the Pinterest helped her settle in a place she wanted to go to college to get a degree to learn something she went to a far remote city in America where there was a college to start learning for her degree in that city there was a hibachi Lea who would make sure Boston in the university I think once a month he started to make Shabbos meals and she started to come she got closer she started to celebrate Shabbos she got close to him to his wife to the kids in the family Vince has told me after a few years she came back the English night started again to get involved internet mitzvos he says today she's married she's living a Jewish observant sin - your life she has six kids living in the United States of America I heard the story left such a powerful impression on me with so many levels but I think one tremendous lesson for each and every one of us is to be able to understand what a Jewish and who you are sometimes you could look in the mirror and doubt yourself sometimes you question yourself you think you disconnected or not inspired I'm not interested you have to always remember what if Shimon bar Yohai teaches you Sirois are nice if Okocha brittle kulikov whereas the timeyou says that a neshama of a jew is a Gaelic la cama homage and because you're a piece of a Shemin you're one with you are hashem ambassador in this for the second take scan my uncle a piece from himself and he sends you down to this world as his ambassador as his agent as is clear as his representative to light up the world and each and every one of us has given one corner of the world where we bring in Hashem's light there we become the ambassadors of hashem compassion love wisdom and light in that corner of the world and all of Torah mitzvahs represents that truth it's basically living a life in which every single moment I become the agent of a Shems compassion and wisdom and love in this situation in the world that is how personal to look at themselves and then you realize that even when we have confusions and uncertainties and sometimes they were depressed and we're saying and we're angry and we have different issues going on but nothing ever ever ever can eclipse or cover up your true essence your true vocation your true glory your true core and your true invincibility and power this doesn't mean there's no struggles and challenges but it means even when there is a struggle and a challenge don't become defined by the struggle you were sent by Hashem into that struggle in order to bring light into that place of darkness and as far as you may roam you can always come back home okay Kevin uh let's go to the new riddle of the week so since Lag Ba'Omer is coming up and after like the volume are we have llama ballad I'm gonna ask you a question on to Hillen capital Amidala know we know oh so love it on my lips the art said is coming up your Xiaomi says dove it passed away on Lois Lovett maze bought saris and was also Shabbos so the question is on tehilim capital Amidala you know that the hill and chapter 34 is a very special chapter because it tells a fascinating story is the story when de belem Ella had to run away from Scholl who wanted a killin and he only could find refuge among the plist them he went to the Philistines and he went to the king and they recognized him and over they had many people who wanted to take revenge because dove had killed the most famous and powerful police the Philistine man which was Ghoulia's Goliath and of it killed him with the racks to fire his slingshot in the five stones which he got into gulley is's for it and galius died and the Jewish people came out victorious from gaga's who was terrorizing them for such a long time and they really wanted to take revenge and now they had governor melon right here in the palace and what it over do he feigned insanity he made believe that he was completely not normal he just behaved in a very very crazy way like a meshugganah like not about somebody who's never how who lost his mind insane and the King said I cost mr. Gallo my knife he do I have not enough michigo you may get him out of here they couldn't believe he couldn't believe this would be covered covered hemella and over time Alex made a special Miz Meyer especially like everything every experience in his life he used to write a poem about it and that's what makes up the capital of telemon's David's song to his Nashawn man to Hashem into the world for all of his experiences in life and that's why for every experience in life you could find the capital Balaam and at that moment of a time Alex wrote a beautiful beautiful song which many communities say it Chavez more in England Ovid bashang noise so as time we left nav him lfie Gaucher a viola it's a song that dove it composed when he feigned insanity when he changed his flavor II may believe he wasn't normal when he was standing in front of AVI Mela this was the generic name for the Philistine kings and IV melon chased him away and that's when David wrote the song and the song begins a VAR class are they know imma call a stone meeting loss of Fe I bless I think a sham during every moment of my life whatever happens his praise is always in my mouth and we see that this capital is made according to the olive base which means every pus extorts with the letter of olive base and it goes in order so the the the song begins lad of admission eyes and then the first the beginning of the song starts with the letter Aleph a versus assemble colace that's posted base passing gimel is by the night is how the nafs EU or nothing be a smoke what starts with a base the next PASOK starts God Lula then I eaten and Emma mush my afro starts with agimo the next bastard Duras TSR de novo na naman communist ehe Lani goes darlin and so it continues he beat to a love as hey the next bus ik is Z or Mika rezaian and class and TAS Tomoyuki type Hashem you know as I some contention all the way till the end he comes to positive base to my sis Russia rava sign in satya sama he skips the letter of all why the stew hill and capital Amidala that does a pasta that begins with every letter of ala base it goes in order but he skips from Bostic from hay to Zion there's nothing for love he bit too I love and not off name is borrows that only Carter by the night remain because laizza vishesh that's the riddle of the week he skips above and question number 2 when he finishes with tough which is positive base he does one more pasta that starts with a pay the last passage by that a nightmarish serve audible a yes no come on crisis but but you already did pay earlier so he goes through all the olive base from olive to tough he skips the letter love when he finishes the last puss ik with toffee now does one more puzzle that begins with a pay something is off here something is stranger how are we supposed to understand this any boy or girl who has the answer to this riddle please you can write it in over here on the website you can come to the yeshiva that met and coming to this program you see 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and we'll do that as well but to get the riddle right and a gift you have to give your mail address so we can mail something to you that's the answer to that's the question of this week's riddle and now let us go to the previous riddles of the previous week so let's see we got an answer from a few of the Kindle ah you suffer and you Shia Tenenbaum the brothers yourself inside that amount for Muncie okay you remember our question our question was remember our question usually the colder water gets the denser it becomes and the heavier it becomes and therefore it goes down right so on the bottom of a river at the bottom of a lake with the bottom of a pond the bottom of a pool or the bottom of the ocean will always be the coldest water because it becomes heavier and becomes more dense and it goes down we would then expect that when it freezes it should mames go down all the way but something happens when it reaches close to the freezing point now the science reverses and now it becomes lighter that ice becomes lighter and it floats to the top and that's why the water on the bottom will never be colder than four degrees because if it gets colder and it's not gonna be heavier anymore it gets lighter and it goes to the top and this science of this is amazing how it works with the molecules when we try to understand why can we understand why I Shem made the science work that way so you suffer when you're shy at 10 mm say as follows what would happen if water doesn't become lighter less dense at 4 degrees what would happen is as follows the ice would go to the bottom so the surface sheet of ice of ocean would lower to the bottom and the next layer as well would go to the bottom bottom until the entire ocean would be ice because the ice would be going down lower and lower so when the water becomes colder it gets lower and it goes down and it would kill the entire aquatic life all ocean species all fish would die they wouldn't be in water anymore or all coral reefs would die and all plants would die oh so furthermore ice expands from water an additional 10 percent since the world a 72 percent water if oceans became ice that will expand to seventy nine point two percent of the world that 7.2 percent of the world that gets wiped out by the expanding ice by Hashem making sure that it works this way the ice goes to the top and it protects all the water under it because the ice always goes to the top anything that's colder goes to the top and all the water under it can remain alive and fresh and all of the fish and plants in the water can live beautiful beautiful beautiful answer , liebe Adams from Manhattan wrote Hashem changed the nature of the waters that the ice would cover the water and insulate it so that the fish would be able to live again that is a beautiful beautiful answer Thank You Kendall ah I'm just looking if any other children answer this question this is what I see now beautiful beautiful job I'm just going to say one more thing about this just add add a little bit to this okay as I said the cold layers of the water sink to the bottom so the coldest layer always goes to the lowest level so when water reaches the reaches the freezing point and hardens into ice we would have expect the ice to go to the bottom then the bottom of the rivers and ponds would freeze first and the upper layers would freeze next until the entire river or pond was frozen solid right because the coldest would right away go down to the bottom and that would freeze and then the next layer would freeze in the next layer would feeding the next layer would and as you said all life would perish what would the catastrophe of that be what would happen as a result first of all the loss of food supply from fish that's true all the rivers and ponds would become dead and would become unfit for use as water okay they will also become polluted as a result of losing the living things which keep them fresh by having the living things there it keeps the water fresh everything would become polluted and that's why when the water is cooled to four degrees it reverses the process and the colder it becomes the lighter it becomes so ice forms down on the bottom and on the top it covers the water and shields it against the cold and that's why the bottom of the water is never colder than four degrees so it protects the living organisms and it keeps open the bodies of water oh so you can add that without this the rivers and ponds would be frozen so much that they would not they would not be able when you have the spring rains and the melting snows wouldn't be carried away by the rivers now the melting snows and the rain that comes in the spring the rivers carry it all around but that wouldn't be able to happen and therefore the continents would turn into marshes beautiful kinder laughs beautiful let's now go to the next riddle remember what the next riddle was in capital Kofi Oh tests in capital Kofi Oh tests every single person's the mitzvos either as tyra mitzvos who kaha in Recife vaartha mich potaka P Kodaka who cata advice after every passing of capital Kofi Tess I think it's a hundred and seventy-six per second which one doesn't is one and the answer came from the tenable family again excellent you suffer and Shia what's their answer one posit and that is cough cough Bay's arrive after salat I've all your Scoobies Aiden la vella Melek says make sure that your servant is guaranteed goodness rebellious people shouldn't drown me and submerge me in the mud that's passing 122 he just says I arrived out of the holotype algunas Aaden we don't have any mention tutorial mitzvahs not as a mish but not as a hike man in the word tied in another word Mitzvah not in the word de Bourgh or the word p-code therefore the word a Jew a selca and this was pointed out by the Evan Ezra Rubino of Rama Vanessa who lived in Spain in the eleven hundreds in his commentary on tehilim at the beginning of coffee @s he makes mention of the fact that is one positive base that is unique and that Vanessa says very well Tenenbaums the reason is because he says the vyd hemella did not compose that passage that's what the ever has recessed the questions still excellent answer the questions to Liz how did that puck fall in there whoever composed it why did it fall in there and why didn't they have this plastic match all the other circum that's the question that still remains okay David didn't compose it so why is it there in the letter I in and it doesn't match any of the other sukham whoever composed it should have matched it or should have been elsewhere in the safer of tehilim okay next riddle Beyla Hagar answers dis she's remarried to strong well compare the formaiities wrong why don't we make Chevy uh no one to fill in first time we put on tefillin Bayless discussed filling is not a mitzvah that comes from time to time it's not a seasonal Mitzvah Spira why don't we make sure Fiona wants fira sphere is remembering the sphere the time of the base--emitter so we don't sign - Ariana because there's a sad memory there because now we don't have the carbon timer we're only remembering the Mitzvah the way it was done by the base our mixture so therefore we don't make it a funeral because there's something missing from our simcha some say that because we start sphere on the second night of Pesach so the brother that we make on the night of Pesach we say saffiano those of us who celebrate Pesach outside of a torso and make sure the first night and the second night so that Saffiano also goes on Spira why don't you make a brother when you go skiing why don't you make a Braco when you listen to music why don't you make a brother before you go swimming these are all fun things Bayless says only food that enters your body or smell scent which enters our body we make a broth because it goes into us we don't make breakfast just on a pleasure sitting on a couch as a pleasure also we're going to bed as a pleasure but we don't make a special brother for that it's only that which goes in our body into our body however there are breakfast that we make on the beauty of a Shems world like the Mishna says in breakfast when we see the blossoms in the month of Nissen or we see big beautiful mountains or we see the yama goggle the atlantic ocean the B'nai sus4 writes that when one makes a breath of shahe cool on food you should have in mind all the pleasures that he or she is going to encounter it is going to encounter even though hazael did not obligate the person but this is just an extra idea that the been a sus harass beautiful Beyla the only problem is you didn't send in your address so please send in your address let's see another answer this comes from the Tenenbaums again wow you guys are prolific okay so this is what they say [Music] spero yarmulke Shafi on with the ballot Murray says because we're sad about the Corbyn that Vadra ham says because it's a preparation for Kabbalah cetera the Balamory says cause it's Deira bonham some say cause it's only one Mitzvah Romania Rahul the Shambhala a lek it says fear is always dependent on Pesach so therefore you fulfill it with the Sharia know that you make on the kiddush of the first night of Pesach you don't make a brach on making filling or making sure from making citizen making them a gill or building a Micah because there's no permanent time for it it's not like building or sitting in the sukkah you do it once in a few years there's no permanent time for it so there's no Theano some say that it's filling is like smaran and mitzvos is not considerately huh nice neat no and therefore you don't make a share beyond it the taste after breakfast says if you bite filling you do have to make a shot IANA ok beautiful have the beautiful answers on these questions let us go now to the questions of the people the questions of the children thank you so so much for all your questions let's go there's a lot of questions that are coming in you can go to the yeshiva net on the home page you'll see the children program for a clock click and you see ask a question you can ask any question you would like and we will get it immediately or if you want a text you can text to eight four five seven seven seven four seven four seven let us get to the questions right now okay I was always put that for every move in your life whatever it should be you're gonna get punished for everything your classes you never say this you don't talk about gihan them you don't talk about purgatory you don't talk about hell you don't talk about punishment you teach Judaism in a very different way I want to know which what which Judaism is true is it not true that every single Jew is gonna go to Gehenna and burn I am sixteen years old and my name is Naphtali and I'm from London Naftali I love you I love you this witch Judaism is choosing a vowel the king of all the hit question ok I think it's very very important to understand that whenever you hear the word punishment or gihan him a purgatory never has Rochelle and think for a moment in terms of Hashem waiting to punish somebody or to afflict somebody with pain it's like oh I got him let's think about this before the world was created nobody was here why did I shall have to create the world what was missing the answer is Hashem wanted a relationship with us the whole creation was because of love all of creation is about love like the posix says the Navi says Malathi are half the Eskimo Mirage damn I love you in the brush of Alvis Island before creation are we mentioned that idea of love 7 times the verb love including the first words Alvis element on oh and the last words are Boyer Bahama his job Alva and then we say SH my soul assemble like a narsimha caught the idea of any punishment and tire or Antonov horn Gomorrah or and Madras or and Musa or in soir M is always about bringing out the best in a person let's say I have a splinter so my mother has to take out a splinter so there should it be an infection sometimes if a neshama gets tarnished it gets filthy the neshamah is so beautiful and so pure so the neshamah has to be poured and put into the you know the laundry like you take a pair of beautiful socks that were beautiful and clean but now they're a little dirty or smelly they put it in the washing machine and you clean it up and then it goes back to the way it used to be and it's comfortable and it's warm and it's it's fuzzy and it protects your feet then it has a beautiful it has a good smell so when a sum is so beautiful and so sacred sometimes in a shaman meets to be cleaned up so that all the dirt that doesn't belong to it should go off and then a shop should be able to shine and be able to be back what it is you know what it's like it's like if somebody has a deep infection and you have to cut it out if somebody has cells that are very very dangerous and you have to take it out of the body so sometimes there could be pain over there but it's always because you want to save this person's life or let me give another example of therapy you know sometimes people have deep deep fears that sit in them and you go to a therapist and the therapist helps you open up and spit out these fears it's painful but it's not a punishment it's the best thing that he did for you even though you may break down crying because you got to get rid of these things that were sitting for so long our nationís are beautiful gehenna ms just the form of therapy that Hashem helps tinna Shama go back to its beautiful beautiful essence so there's really no contradiction there's no contradiction and no not every Jew is going to go to hell and every single neshama has a tick on later Humana NIDA and it's really not about the hell hell is it's just the therapy that Ana shaman needs in order to be able to get rid of all of its dirt that's what it's about and I think it's important for you to know that you this kite is based on the infinite power that exists in you you are an ambassador of love and of light and of hope if I could make a little suggestion to you if you can go to the website the yeshiva dotnet and type in the Emunah series in the search and munna series and you'll see I have 30 classes of Emunah and I would like you to look through the titles I want you to watch number four and to watch other ones that may speak to you and I think it will help give you a perspective and you will see that there is one Yiddish guide that we all believe in and we all connect to sometimes different points are emphasized yes there were philosophy that emphasized more negative and harshness to other philosophies that emphasize more positivity and the beautiful potential but ultimately at its core there's no contradiction it's all about love or half the S commemoration what do we say every single morning whoever you are you say this in before Davin and you remember Avalon national I'm sober Navy Reserve Cabernet of ramzan each bottle oi Zahra in Turkish edition Eckerd audacity aku business operators crane operator ho she may have viscacha half those who miss simcha Scotia Samantha by her aaseesh most efficient because of the love that you loved them and the joy that you rejoiced with them you define them as you struggle you sue them with feed off well hey this LaJolla shop business called if Erica love Oregon the cottage bulleting shabath my Doyle is Macarena battle table Uman no I'm Gary Lane Oh ooh my your favor just say no listen to the words that you say every morning and you'll have the answer to your questions my dear is there is enough Tully next question been seein yah from London welcome London lot from London how do you manage to give so many speeches now you sound like my wife and my kids excellent question excellent question you know what I also asked myself that question how do I have to give so many speeches I'll pay you the truth I'll pay the truth what I try to do is before every speech to focus on that speech as though it's the only speech and to completely tune into the moment and ask myself what's the message that I should be conveying now and then it comes to another speech we worry about the other speech but sometimes it does get a little challenging I have to admit my parents disapprove of me listening to you on the hotline and on all these sessions they say that Chabad is meant for people who are often Dara I say to them no I appreciate all that you say what can I tell him my father's that he should know that you are good for all and everybody could listen to you even if you're not over the dare my name is Shalom laser wow that's such an interesting question I have to think about this I have to think about this listen I'm sure your father is a very very fine and wonderful and beautiful Jew and you could probably explain to your father that hibakusyas was founded by the ballot Anya and the ballot Anya was considered one of the greatest greatest kingdom of his generation and his talmidim and I said them were some of the great Gotham of luth away Nia and of Belarus and of Russia and he is the author of schlock America Roth which is probably one of the greatest Halawa quirks that were ever written I think the halacha of Nene's a rights or said that is Derrick Hollywood and learning he got from countries of South America Ralph from the use of Zevon writes that some of the situs of brisk you see and could this action of South America Ralph the rocket Chavez said that besides the Rambam the ballot Anya really really knew how to learn the ballot Angus works both in mister and a Latonya shil tomorrow all of his my Martin tirer look at the Tyra service are luminaries luminaries of the depth of Yiddish guide for all the generations and a lot of my teachings that I try to share our from him and from his works and the cloth of the Baal Shem Tov and his students and from all the sources in Yiddish guide so I am a little biased here but I think I think you know maybe maybe ask your father to listen to one to listen to one of them and see and then he could judge it that's maybe the best thing right it reminds me of a story it's a great story the Beretania talking about the ballot Anya went to the city of schlaf glove was a very very long dishes city full Dauben a turnip and the Saguna and ballot Aniyah went up to the dimmer and he quoted a possible to capital Amidala and he translated it into Yiddish the ball Tanya used to say everything with a beautiful geisha mark and Megan so this is what he said and he in those and conditioning Yiddish and we have the Messiah of how he said it he got up on the beam and he said this bamboo Quito jávea far zoo vet ism as there a bridge there is goat taste and you'll see that Hashem is good you just need a taste and I say this to all the questionnaires about different ideas that you struggle with sometimes we never had the opportunity to be able to hear and taste a Yiddish kite that is good a god that is empowering a rabona salaam that uplifts a titer that empowers us to become the greatest and the best a Yiddish guy that's filled with goodness and kindness and sweetness and confidence and inner joy and serenity a potato that speaks to the body and speaks to the soul that speaks to a limb house and speak Stella muhabba that speaks to the physical and speaks to the spiritual a tighter that unites that encompasses all of existence and encompasses all parts of the human psyche but when you taste that time guru you taste it it's cute I Russia and this is what Toyota is this is what you this kite is and this is what you're showing by your I always wanted to bring out and Toyota it's what the Baal Shem Tov tried to bring an antenna it's worth about sums of students and the ballot Anya tried to bring out in China automatically this tighter works for a Jew who left it there because when you bring out the premise of a neshama every jew finds his place and that's why the tire of the Baal Shamin about Tania also inspired millions of people who have been lost to you this night but that's only a byproduct because it's message goes beyond the superficial and go straight to the core certainly a Pantera who lives with either strike could be invigorated with the premise of your describe that was revealed by time showing by ahoy by thy reason by the tummy the high resolved by the Baal Shem Tov by the tummy they about some by the lonely gone by the tummy they had grown by the ballot hang there by the talmidim of the ballot Anya and all of the great tsadikim and rebels and committee ha ha Meem who gave us the niggler of tyranny and the Plinius of thailand together we could say tamuka tohe vaya fazool that is an as the neighbors there is good when the ballot Ana came down from the Bema dozens and dozens of younger light followed him and they became some of his greatest talmidim that's how much they were impacted by this by this statement beautiful question Sholem leis I loved your question Kevin uh you're the best you guys are the best ok let's go two more questions while we have a lot a lot of questions and we still want to do something in science okay let me go here beautiful beautiful questions okay see we have still 14 pages of questions let's try our best okay let's try our bests how does our Shem see me if he doesn't have eyes this is a question by Ellen I am how does that Shem hear me if he doesn't have ears how does Hashem know me if he doesn't have a brain how does Hashem live excellent beautiful Elaine I am and the answer to your question you know who asked this question this question is asked them Tania chapter 42 he asks this question and he says because of this Hashem sees and hears and knows you war and he gives an example do you have to see yourself with your eyes to know that you exist do you have to hear yourself speak to know what you're feeling no you don't you have to be able to use your eyes to see something outside of you to hear a voice from outside of you but to know what's going on inside of you your brain is aware of itself more than anything else because it is aware of itself so he says everything is part of a shell Hashem is the brain of the world Hashem is the essence of life so therefore the RAM Bob says may have the beginning of mission attire the RAM Allah says may I'm meeting matzah in so : and cyah everything comes from him everything comes from his truth Hashem is the life force the neshamah the core the reality of everything so therefore he knows you like like like he knows himself because you are part of our show beautiful question how do we know what's our mission in this world there's so much tighter to learn so many different mitzvahs to do it can get overwhelming what should we focus on okay always focus on now don't get overwhelmed life is not about you know a marathon race where I have to win somebody else it's always about what's my slickest right now every moment is a gift that's why it's called present seize the opportunity and live this moment to the fullest that's how you should live ask yourself what's my mission right now and generally growth is incremental right we go up to the alter them as badly member on a ramp you don't go on steep steps growth is incremental you don't do everything in one shot you do you internalize and then you grow it's like exercise people who lift weights they don't start lifting 450 pound 450 pound weights you could hurt yourself very badly you start with 5 pounds of 10 pounds 20 pounds and you grow your body grows your muscle grows your tissue grows that's how it is in everything you don't start running 25 miles you start running and then you grow that's how it is in Romania as well okay birthday boy Yankee is listening now and it is birthday Yakko Feldman turning 11 Mazel Tov happy birthday to ya curve y my lad Samia Crabb Yakov tyre Yakov happy birthday Yakko Feldman beautiful what do I say about reopening America is it too soon some say yes some say no what are we supposed to believe I understand the economic perspective aren't lives more important yes lives are more important and therefore we always like to err err on the side of caution if there's even a Suffolk of a Suffolk of a doubt of a doubt that you can endanger a life you have to be very very cautious and very very sensitive but I don't really have the authority to answer you exactly what is the right thing from a medical perspective this is the domain of top medical experts I know as Jews it's our responsibility to follow the opinion of most healers and physicians the Torah tells us of a robbery repay we follow the device and the guidance of medical health professionals and if they say that there's even a little bit of a doubt and a danger that somebody's life could gods forbid be affected somebody could fall ill or somebody could kalila pass away we always want to err err on the side of caution is the draft and Israel for every citizen a good thing is this the Jewish custom the Jews were soldiers when they went into Israel the first time 29 nine three years ago why shouldn't every Jew be a soldier today as well ok that's a very very interesting question you probably know that this is a very big debate in Israel and the truth is that many of the daily you sure all have explained that if a yeshiva burger is truly truly sitting and learning with sincerity and not wasting his time but learning so that is a very powerful tool for tection over at Cicero but certainly later in life people should serve in the Army because lace Amidala marae after the Jews have to be protected and we always have to be thankful to those who sacrifice their lives to protect the Jewish people in the Holy Land I don't I don't really have a connection with Hashem so I stopped darvany because I don't see a point to Davin can you tell me why it's so important to Davin it's a it's it's a great question and you know I think that real answer for this is you need to cultivate the relationship a relationship with our Shem means a relationship with your real real self who is Hashem Hashem is your core Hashem is the essence of reality so daven etosha means it's taking time every single day to connect yourself to align yourself with your truest essence that's a gift that's the best way to describe it am I always in the mood of doing something which is a gift no sometimes I'm in the mood of eating cheesecake and babka and french fries and pizza and chocolate milk with a lot of sugar I'm not always in the mood of exercising even though it's a gift and taking a walk but Dominick is a gift so you say why should I dive in I think it's a tremendous gift and even if I'm not in the mood of it it opens me up it challenges me when a person Davin's every day and they do it sincerely you take our time of your day to say thank you to your Creator you take our time of your day to talk to your Creator you take time of the day to think about yourself and where you are in this world and to be able to connect to your innermost holiness that's a very special gift that's a special gift is God a woman as much as he is a man absolutely God is a woman as much as he is a man because he's neither a woman and he's neither a man that's why there are names for Hashem that are masculine Hakadosh barukh oh but there's also sheena you know sheena with comet say at the end is a feminine name so was ashamed or she the answer is a Shem is not he or not she he transcends the genders both genders come from Hashem so there is the feminine godliness and there's the masculine godliness cause godliness transcends masculine and feminine so you're right just like you can't call a sham a woman you also can't call him a man the reason he's called he is simply I think cuz they find it better than it Hashem is the source of compassion and pity he feeds all creatures with mercy at mercy I'm sure he wants all of us to do the same why did he create the world that big animals eat the smaller ones brutally without mercy why didn't he put into nature a more polite way of feeding them that's a good good question that's a good question Wow fascinating fascinating it's a good question I don't know I am gonna say something but I don't really know the answer for this I don't really know the answer for this that's the ultimate truth why did I shall make this system and not a much more polite system like you're saying like the deer I have deer here all the time they just eat grass they don't bother anybody why the system of larger animals eating smaller animals I I don't know the answer to that question what I do know is a Shem did make a system where everyone feeds everybody meaning the smaller animals eat the grass or whatever else they eat and they're eaten by the bigger animals which are eaten by bigger animals or which ultimately die and their fossils and their bones get reabsorbed into the earth into the soil and the nutrients of their body now becomes part of the soil which now becomes a new world of vegetation new grass and new plans and new trees and new shrubs which is now eaten by the smaller animals which is then eaten by the bigger animals which then goes back to the earth and so this is what we all the food web and the food chain where there is a cycle that everyone ultimately serves and gives and that comes back to the source which allows it to happen again it's like this massive recycling system in the world it's also true with the water you know the Sun is a massive pump and it it evaporates the water and it forms into clouds and the winds scatter the clouds and then it it it rains again and again obviously and the cycle happens again so it's all this major cycle and ultimately with what's the purpose of all of this and the purpose of all of this is this is all like a machine that continues pre-programmed by the era by National Island then there's a human being and when the human being eats the fruit or eats a vegetable or eats a leg you or eat chicken or eats meat or eats a fish or eats a bird kosha and I make a broth on it and when I eat it it becomes part of my relationship with Hashem I bring the whole world back to its source everything goes back to its original source that's the process exactly how it works and why he did it this way or that way it's very hard for our minds to grasp that but there's a few things that we do know for example I'll say an interesting story in history at some point the Pope believed that the cats were the devil so he eliminated a lot of cats in your up so what happened so now the mice have nobody to keep them in check so the mice we're now all over the place and they created the Black Plague this is a theory in history I can't verify it Hashem made a system where the ecosystem has a balance and if you eliminate one force and you say oh let's get rid of this cruelty of bigger animals eating of smaller animals it looks like you're helping nature you having compassion but really you could be destroying everything so for example of the lionesses would not eat antelopes and the antelopes would just continue to grow and grow and grow and grow and it would be absolutely no limit they would continue eating up all the grass and there wouldn't be enough oxygen and enough produce and ultimately it could destroy the ecosystem so there's a very delicate balance that everything is purposeful and fits our Shems plan in order to make this planet alive and allow humanity deliver and achieve its mission the details why he did it this way you could have making it that way that's true I don't know that's why I'm saying that's why in the beginning I said I don't know because ultimately you'll always come to questions but there is so much to realize of how detailed and intricate the purposefulness is in every single aspect beautiful beautiful questions we learnt in Hamish and Paris Emma that a non-jew can bring a carbon to the base of mikdash but if he doesn't believe in Hashem how can he bring a carbon no well each d'Anjou every person was given the sheva mitzvos bnei nya the seven laws of the children of Noah which includes a moon and Hashem and this applies to every single good every single person even a man juice or non-jew also has a relationship with Hashem and he could bring a carbon to the base and make fish and it's accepted that's fine a hundred percent because every person has a relationship with Hashem the question is the type of relationship the question is which mitzvahs they're obligated to do but every person has a relationship with a chef Jew and also mangia remember every person was created but Selim le Kim and we say in pre-k ovis Rabbi Akiva taught us love Eve Adam Shanna vervet Selim every human being is cherished because every human being is carved in the divine image Jew and non-jew everything my sister does makes me angry it's not even as though I'm jealous it's just in everything she does I go mad any suggestions I am sure will be helpful I'm sorry I have to hear more details but it is probably something bothering you and I think it's important to bring this up with somebody you trust who may be an expert I don't know if it's a simple thing maybe it's a little more complicated can you talk about this with your mother can you talk about this with your father or maybe with an older sister or an aunt or an uncle somebody who's more mature bring up the issue analyze it a little bit maybe it's worthwhile to speak to a professional again I don't know how complicated it is but you should certainly address it because there's a lot you can do you don't have to live with this condition I struggle with many many bad thoughts thoughts of fear heresy I know it's foolish but sometimes I feel the eighth Sahara has me in a tight grip and I can't get out I'm a good person who only wants to survive some with pure thoughts can you please give me some advice on this matter yes the first thing the first thing is it's very important what what are you going to sleep with before you go to sleep you should be reading material that strengthens and inspires your neshama either listening to good music pure music or reading materials or listening to classes that inspire you in Assam it's important to go to sleep with pure thoughts that's number one also when you wake up in the morning I don't know what you do the first thing when you wake up in the morning but you should have you should say the breathless with qivana and ask Hashem to help you in this okay that's number one number two people have bad thoughts it's a normal thing the bow Latonya writes and Tonya chapter twenty nine that it could be a Jew who he calls a bane in the a Jew who never sins and he can have doubts in a shams existence because that's what the eight Sahara does you don't have to take it seriously it doesn't mean you're a bad person it means you're a normal person some people have it more some people have it less and what you have to do is you have to know to expect at some times and not get flustered and overwhelmed by it understand that this is part of the human condition but know that inside you know who you are and don't let it take over your life just let it be and move on with your life but don't get angry at it and start fighting it and punching and feeling guilty about it just be calm about it and then go back shift your attention to your true to your true neshama to your true soul it may also be helpful to you I don't know your age but it may be helpful to you to start learning some sparring that help be MacIsaac the neshamah certain swaram of our chicawa students forum of considers like five ursula Vova soros forum of Castilla's that can help you Matt Hossack your neshama service all above is Chara be talking or or avoid the cell the Kim or spa room of the Baal Shem Tov and his students this may be a good idea I think pimmy lung the nine years old I'm often stressed about the situations in life what would you advise me to do penny London age 9 Wow penny okay what should what should you do about stress I see oh so there is another question that came in about this I'm just looking it up okay another another another few children said we're very stressed out what should we do about it I don't know if you joined us in the previous programs but in the previous children's programs you can go through all of them I think this is number 9 or 10 on the yeshiva dotnet we have all of them we did meditations for children to be able to relax listen to the previous programs and try to do these meditations on your own you could sit and relax and take time to relax and close your eyes and notice your body and take some deep breaths and remember meditate upon the fact that our son loves you our son is always with you you're part of our son our shell protects us and guides you and whatever you have to do at the moment you're happy to do don't figure everything out try to focus on what is now your calling and realize that your mama Shanna Shanna hands every moment and he holds you and he like like a mother mm else isn't the hilum I feel like an infant in the bosom of my mother now if she could Gumbel aleyhi my if you want we can do it right now let's do it right now together let's close our eyes take a deep breath and just notice yourself notice your stress and remember that our son loves you you're a part of our sham euro shams light in this world nobody asks you to do something more than your capabilities you don't have to live life to be Yeats and make somebody else please do you don't have to plead own to be a people's pleaser all the resources you need to fulfill your mission you have remember that always and remember also that it is something bothering you something making you anxious make a time to meet your anxiety and to talk with it maybe with the help of somebody maybe a parent or somebody else speak to your parents about it try to meet the stress there's something stressing you out find out what's happening you could find out so much from it what's the reason we make fires on Matt Bomer what's the reason we have loud bomber outings what's the reason we have long bomber parades what's all of this about it's a beautiful beautiful question and one of the biggest answers for this one of the great well there's a lot of answers but the biggest answer is that women buy your toy he wanted that the day of his yard sir should become a happy day and he said that were mushiya comes even the children are going to be filled with the toiler and with the secrets of the tailor and therefore we focus very very much on children on my boy mmm but blame has a special energy for Jewish children because they're Shiva may if I spoke a lot about children and an education of children and the love of our shelter children and from there began all of the celebrations of one boy Emma around children lighting a fire I don't know how that began I do know that I throw once that spiritual eruption by a coil it the internal fire of the neshamah that's represented by the fire it's one of the explanations how can our Shem be all over the world and do everything at the same time I don't understand if you're here you can't be there and how can you do so many things at the same time how does he multitask first of all ask your mother she also does many things same time your mother is sometimes on the phone and sometimes on another phone she's also making collar she's also baking a cake she's also making sure your baby brother does homework but in all seriousness Hashem is the creator of space and time and matter so therefore Hashem is beyond space beyond time beyond matter it's called infinity and therefore he's not defined by space in fact before the world was created there was no such a thing as space and time now it's hard for us to understand what that means it's really impossible because we exist in a time and we exist in a space and we're physical but the source of existence that which created existence doesn't exist in a particular time or in a particular space and it's an unlimited source just like I'll give you an example in your thoughts you can think about a lot of things and very very swiftly right like if you daydream in one minute you could think about a hundred things you can even travel right in your mind in your daydream you can get on an airplane you can go to your Stella you can travel Tara to Stroh can travel to New York you travel to Los Angeles you can travel to Moscow in your mind you can go shopping one second how can all this happen how can I go to excess taller my mind that takes 11 hours from here it takes 11 hours from you from one than it takes less the answer of course is that the mind operates in a different level so a lot of things can happen very very fast because you're not physically limited by the time of flying what I'm thinking about being an artist all it's not like physically transporting myself America strong so now imagine how Shems mind Gemma's mind encompasses all of existence simultaneously and it's the source of it so when he thinks that creates so he could think about everything in the same moment just like I could think about a hundred things very very fast but when I think it doesn't create it when I send things it creates it then I shall create the virus because he wants us to say more to him I don't know I don't know why I shall created a virus the virus is one of the challenges that our shant puts into the world and it probably has more than one purpose certainly saying to heal them is an extraordinary thing to do but I don't know I can't give an answer Josi from London London Wow London you guys win when you had the questions and answers in Yiddish you wore a suit and now in English you took off your suit this is Josi from 1 than 9 years old what's that why I was just a little hot and I started to teach her ready today a few hours ago we started the first class started around 12:30 and then at 2 o'clock I had the Yiddish and for Clark the English so I was a little I was a little tired our hats I took off my jacket I'm a buff I'm an air too strong okay there's a family night to stroll I'm Ibaka and the family ate one of 18 children my brother had a Bar Mitzvah he couldn't have a party could you guys send him a gift and a Mazel Tov greeting his name is Shimon lair Bubba Sally Street 11 number 4 bait their elite Israel would make him so happy beautiful Mazel Tov Mazel Tov Shimon free of vomits I don't know if you're listening but this is such an extraordinary moment in your life Shimon and the main thing is that you're at your Bar Mitzvah now Shem is at your Bar Mitzvah and we love you and we bless you with the most beautiful beautiful life Shimon bit ler baba sali Street I'm gonna post it in the comments on this class so you can come to the is she without net and go to this Sunday's class and you'll see comments with questions and over there you will see the address of Shimon whoever would like to send them anything my name is hava why do we call the titer why do we call the tyra oil Tyra which means the yoke of Tyler it sounds like it's a burden relief the greatest privilege beautiful beautiful question I think the name all Toyota just is a way of telling the exo harder sometimes that this is the yoke that I'm carrying and it doesn't mean that it's not a privilege it just means that sometimes the edge so Horace says oh it's such a yoke it's so heavy so we tell the it sorry yeah this is the oil of Tyra it's the yoke that I shouldn't put on me and I am privileged to carry it so this is a language that we use because you're not always maybe you I'm not always gonna feel that it's liberating and it's a privilege and it's exciting sometimes it's difficult sometimes I'm not in the mood so that's what we say okay it could be called old pal it's still pea don't worry about it that's still Taylor I'm struggling with side effects from Corona since March 25th it's so hard to stay strong I'm so weak I can't talk I can't move around I need physic this is tomorrow tomorrow you're in our thoughts you're in our prayers and all I could say to you is you're strengthening the world you're strengthening the world every breath you take and all the courage you're displaying uplifts the whole world now so stay strong and Kazak Kazakh Venus Kazakh if I could be here for you in any personal way you can email me directly rabbi why way at the yeshiva that met I have a situation at home me and my father don't get along he's always looking out to catch me doing something which isn't good he's always pointing things out telling me I'm doing wrong he's always finding the negative I feel like he has all these stringencies and all these feelings that are important to him and he tries to enforce them on me I want to talk to him and explain to him that I'm 19 years old I'm old enough to make my own decisions I want to live my own life according to the way I was taught and understand I'm scared to confront him out of fear that I develop growing up I want to feel comfortable at home with my parents with my family be able to speak up for myself and explain what's bothering me without being afraid that's very very important you should be able to speak to your father openly and you have to work on this if you cannot get yourself to do it so maybe try to see a professional like a Rob or a Rebbetzin or a therapist or a coach or a receiver or much gear how much pee but somebody who's an expert who deals with this who can help you maybe you need a real professional or not I don't know serious it is to get you to this point where you could sit down with your father and really have a heart-to-heart conversation and most important thing is when you'll feel comfortable with yourself when you'll be able to feel comfortable you'll be able to speak to other people about how they're affecting you but it's so important it's not easy it's not easy for me it's not easy for many of - really really embrace ourselves like to really feel comfortable with yourself to really say this is what I'm experiencing I can trust it I don't have to demonize it I don't have to be SMERSH it I don't have to slander it I don't have to destroy it very often we feel so guilty about our emotions that we squander it and repress it and bury it in crushin and it makes them worse so can you really reach a place where you have compassion for these fears and you have compassion for these emotions and you understand that they're there but you really really don't let them dictate you and you can really embrace yourself in such a profound way and it's not easy because sometimes when we grow up in fear we just don't trust ourselves but if you can do this it'll be so so beneficial for you somebody gave me advice and said I should learn Tania but this is not in line with my hush kapha what should I do I don't know what's not in line with you I should offer Tania is a safer that's that's accepted I think by every single Jew Jewish communities I don't see I don't see I don't see an issue with it it's a beautiful beautiful safe I'm a big fan my name is roughly I'm from Muncie if a shaman knows what we're going to choose so how do we have free will great we discussed this in the previous children's programs you could listen to it I discussed it pretty much at length on the yeshiva net why are there so many children and people who think that either side is about punishment as opposed to making yourself better where do they get these ideas from listen you know different people get their ideas from different places sometimes it's from home sometimes it's from school sometimes it's from teachers but the truth is sometimes when you read the text if you don't have a proper perspective you could sometimes get the information wrong think that everything is about negativity and punishment and you don't put it in the context of Yiddish guides so these are normal normal things and that's why each of us must really become an ambassador to help people see as the ballot Anya said tomorrow Hashem first vetters n as the a bridge there is good kinder luck I love you I bless you should have the most amazing inspiring uplifting week our time is up now so the or you know what we have a few minutes do we have a few minutes or our time is up now let's see okay I think we're gonna go now because our time is up and God willing I will see you that's luck and everything uplifting like bow aim at a beautiful inspiring Larimer chef should give you the kayak to make this week an extraordinary week filled with simcha filled with caius filled with other session Abba cetera Alice's rally but it should be healthy and we should experience the ghoulish lame up in here BIA may know or may [Music]