Rabbi Zecharya Wallerstein: I Plead The 5th Commandment

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somebody did you wrong but you're taking it to the to a crazy level we also know Lisa Lobosco so the basis of when a person is jealous the reason that you're jealous is because you don't you feel that that other person has more than you which means that you're not focusing on what you have so that the basis of sinister 'enum which is jealousy jealousy is based on coffee type I'm not jealous of you if I look at what I have and I'm happy with it one of the hardest things to understand in doTERRA is when Clara continuously came to my table a note and said the following line and I've heard this many times in the last few years talking to kids you took us out of it's Ryan to die in the mid bar of thirst you took us out of it so I am to die and then maybe I think they said it's either five or seven times they came to my shred Beynon when it was the mind when it was I'm awake when it was the water everything when it was this law well they're tied into my shrah Boehner was you took us Adam it's right him to die in the mid bar now let's listen to this statement for a minute the opening statement is the biggest compliment you took me on the train we had Chris Yosef we had Ted Marcus or 250 markers we beat em all like we didn't even know how to fight so that what they're saying is you took us out of it's Ryan but we have no Acosta ties for the past we're focusing on what we don't have in the future I don't have slob I don't have me I don't know water I don't have mine I'm not energy strong whatever whatever that by the merabh and they said the same thing you took us Adam it's time to die here in the mid bar we're gonna get wiped out so in the same statement that they're saying the most amazing statement you took me out and slay him in the same statement to say to die in the mid more if you would focus on if you took me out of me trying then you must have done it for a reason you must love us if you saved us from being slaves you did the matos you took us through the arm stuff maybe they should have thought if you did all this I shed and you did all those miracles you wouldn't do it for nothing you must have done it for a reason so the first statement in their whole statement is contradictory with the second statement if they weren't saying you took me out of it's Ryan they're just complaining where's the meat where's the water how can we're not in Israel okay I can hear it I mean they're not right but okay but you're making a statement like you did all these miracles to kill me in the mid but what are you saying so if you break it down if you break it down the cuff we tithe the person who's jealous the person who's has sinned as Phenom means that he doesn't appreciate what he has when I say I hear this a lot because Cuban of aim doesn't exist in generation it has broken into little pieces nobody respects their parents everyone has expectation of their parents the psychology world how many parents I've seen suffer because the psychologist is not allowed to tell the parents what's going on with the child the period is paying the $400 an hour but the parents not allowed to know what's going on with their blogged for their child it's illegal you can't tell them what's going on the whole thing about not telling a parent so the period that's the suffer at night not knowing what's going on with my child but it's based on that you're not the parents are cut off just pay the bill just write the check just take me for Pesach just just take care of my bills just send me to seminary for $25,000 I have to call you every era of Shabbos I have to send you letters the seminary should call me and tell the parent is spending $25,000 how their child is doing there's no connection anymore I had a girl Campton with the true story I'm standing in front of sofrito not if I wasn't I wouldn't tell you not true story but alaska's comma 4 comma says he's supposed to ask my Sheila by the way I heard that he's supposed to ask for Sheila when you turn your back your iMac I in so you a lot of turn your back when you do but it's a whole it's a got some ice so really you're supposed to ask my fuel from the Sheena where's borrow cool when you turn your back when you speak so I'm asking what she look that my back is turned listen why I could speak this way and then so this girl and parent comes into my office you can see a ready she's got fire in her and the problem is that she doesn't listen to anything she comes home whenever she wants if any child would understand I'm not gonna go as far as saying that was suffering what was suffering because the lack of curative aim but you can think about this for a moment because there's nothing that I Shem is more mock baby we're gonna learn tonight there's nothing it is 10 command it is more much but about and keep it over aim if you look on the bottom of the first five it's covered up the aim it doesn't belong here it belongs 'banahna cavero in the other five it's the only one that's both and it's the foundation of the bane under my Malcolm Vanessa gasps Emily cat huh the foundation of the stone is curative aim and what is exactly opposite what is exactly opposite of keeper of a name like South Floyd you shouldn't be jealous because the prisoner has killed a vain person has a car sir toy if they're not jealous these other two and the only one that has details there's less a Floyd shabbos doesn't have details on lavitus malukas but like south way right what does it say let's knock my dishes free Attica I've died I must say shy right I'm Roy Roy because eliyahu bond question everybody where sarcoid call a shallow echo you shouldn't be jealous of everything that your friend has what's the details Asia Sri after his wife his servants I'm jealous of his servants and his maid servants with industry another servant and a maidservant and I'm jealous of his short it's car market just say I'm jealous of his animals then the call shortly after thought you said it already and the answer is that the the tire occurs well who breaks it down that you could be jealous of someone's axe you could be jealous of someone's come or you could be jealous of someone's maidservant you don't have our colors I pay for what you have you can be jealous of a paperclip you can be jealous of anything so they sat Lloyd which is the destruction of a person which is jealousy which cause it's an Athena which destroyed the base Jaime Josh is based on cuff retire what's the antithesis of it give it a vein I am going to read you something tonight if this doesn't change your life said nothing's gonna change your life but a guerre whose father is a guy he's gay he's crying not only cubed of a but to say Kaddish after his sock just say Kaddish after his grace your father why God ish so he brings down what you can learn inside brings down because you're gonna say Kaddish in shul people think it follows a go ahead here again people to be like and the glamour you'd be like what's this thing he's saying for him so he says if you don't say Kaddish you have to learn toy and do mitzvahs for away his neshama a guy if father's a guy so why do you have to give him giving up aim and why do you have to say Kaddish for a guy so that cause I'll say because you have to have a curse that type what's that car that died if he went to bring it to the world you wouldn't become a Garrett anyone be able to keep the mitzvos how far car sometimes goes if you don't want to say college cuz you're embarrassed who's gonna be like what your father's like Joe you know you think cottage for your father for Vinny so it says if you don't wanna say cottage stuff so learn for him and do Mitzvah through him you hear this for good why because he brought you into this world now how many times have girls said to me and guy said to me I should have a car that talked that God brought me in the world I have been abused I have the most miserable life of any human being I wish my parents would have never brought me into the world in fact I'm trying to get out of the world and I say to them that they don't understand the meaning of potential no matter how miserable a life caster Shalom Oh has one second of potential is worth more says the mission in Pirkei avos than a lifetime infinite lifetime in the next world sean has matured over my Centurion is bigger than the whole next world and a moment of chaos rule akin the whole next world is bigger than this world being by simply whole life enjoying your whole life and the problem with people if they're looking at backwards like Liars well you took me out of me trying they're looking back when they looking at their pain but they're not looking at that they're in this world and then in one second the potential is worth more than the whole next world there was a person who never had a very bad stroke he was 90 years old actually he was 93 years old his brain bled out brain dead totally brain-dead they did all the tests they did all the stuff done gone he had no brain action whatsoever laying in a bed 93 years old in a hospital they had a heart thing pumping for him they had air but they had every he was hooked up to every machine you couldn't even see him he had so many machines all over him and there waiting for him to die to brain-dead a young guy a young Jewish boy 22 years old wife is pregnant he's in a car accident has a lacerated liver he's dying let's take the old man's liver let's do a liver transplant let's save the boy this man's potential you finished shots 10-15 times gave tadaka build buildings had great great grandchildren he's ready to go to show maíam even though no one's ready to go to simmer I'm always tell people like how old when you you hear someone passed away how old is he there's a saying you're never too young to die you never too old to live there's no there's no if you're 93 you could be 94 and if you're 99 you can be 100 so they went to ask child the potential of the 22 year old guy is just starting his wife's pregnant his potential is just beginning he bought her shame had an amazing life he's brain dead absolutely not you cannot take his liver so I asked my seminary girls I said what's the potential of a brain dead man 93 years old on all these machines is he gonna say in a main no what's his potential there walls - what's his potential he can't do anything anymore the one of the smartest girls in my seminary raised her hands but she says he has a lot of potential rabbi Wallace name what's his potential she said well all the grandchildren and great-grandchildren will accommodate to be in Lavaca Fela so because he was sick in that bed his potential was the ability to give all these other people to do a mitzvah a big asylum and not only that the whole family was saying to him so even though he had no potential but he be in this world where there was a potential to do amazing things people who passed away I have a potential all the people that learned Tyra they're not even alive they learned Tyra and say cognition say a man down from the omelet and all these things a person when he dies has potential surely when a person is alive he has potential so the person who says who asked my parents to bring me to this world is that is a country type that is a person who doesn't realize I'm not putting away the pain and there's a lot of pain in this world but at the same time one second of a good word one second of saying Baraka to Hashem in the next world ladies and gentlemen everyone who's watching me in the next world you can't say blessed are You Hashem God of the world is no you can't make a brothel tonight you can go home you can make a brothel I walked in by my rib bar who is I said I'm of a rough I said your bench you should be blessed you can't say that in the next world so if you're just alive and you saying SH MA or Abajo or you bring your mother a glass of milk better one moment of that from the whole next world so where you I said to the were you running you're running to the next world were you running spend one minute here spend one more minute here it's worth more than the whole next world the basis of synonym the reason that we're sitting here with a burnt face HaMikdash and destruction and then a gull as' and the Sheena's in Gullah s-- because we don't appreciate what we have and that brings us to jealousy which brings us to see NOS phenom it doesn't even make sense in that sarah said a rose that I am jealous of my friends made or his axe and their Saracen divorce is telling us yes a person who doesn't appreciate things would be jealous of everything because he doesn't appreciate what he has he appreciates what everyone else has so right in the middle conveyed a severe classy manner the man you refine your methyl Adama shemesh and Leasing Asher Asher Hashem allocation I sing love you should have a rehearsal envision him with much more than a special new is no cure the name is the opposite of Eugenia McCollum so this girl comes to my office and she's really saying nasty things to her mother in front of me I'm saying words that that I didn't hear very often in my life coming out of a Jewish girl's mouth mom is letting go and I told her she can't you can't do that you can't do that so her mother turns to her true story she says you know if you don't have keep it up a name for me I understand but we just bought you last week a brand-new Volvo for your 18th birthday I'm sitting there my father didn't get me a pair of roller skates from anything birthday she got a brand-new Volvo I don't like Volvo's but if it was a Land Rover we talked to messages right so she looks up at her mother mama straight in the face and she says the following I'm sitting there my generation is this is like this is not normal and she says big deal MA it's my 18th birthday it's your job to buy me a car when I turn 18 like that so I was sitting there and I my oh it's her job she's working for you but this kid really felt that I owe you I owe you a thank you it's your job how many of us in this room have heard that you gotta buy me a phone you gotta buy me this I'm going to camp you have to give me this you have to do that I have to go to seminary with me I can't go to seminary everyone's going to seminary I have to do this you have to do that you have to do this it's your job all of a sudden we're working for our kids and grandparents are working for the grandkids so it's one thing if you say thank you so much my I love you so much I appreciate it no you guys are working really hard and I'm gonna make this year so special and you know what because you sent me I'm thinking on seminary but it's not seminary the boys are the same thing what you see but whatever the same deal it's the same deal it's also something I really shouldn't talk about you know I talk about things I shouldn't talk about what's the deal with the Shiva's pulling kids away from their parents it's like very important that Reb am should have have a have a what to call have a relationship but no it's not more important than than than to pull a kid away from his parents it was it never used to be like that it never was like that why is it like that why our guys are going to yeshiva they don't talk to their parents because your parents not as firm as you because your parents doesn't learn as much as you you fool who sent you to Shiva who's killing themselves to send it to you Shiva so they don't know shafts and you know shadows you should be bowing down and kissing their feet but they supported you to learn chest but just separation in this generation and the front world what's the separation why are we pulling the kids away from the parents or the parents so terrible this wasn't like this in Europe this was never like this the psychology world post a kid away these Sheba's everyone's pulling the kids away well the parents so bad you're taking their money are we all so bad well my Rebbe said this but I'm your parent I'm not talking against Allah huh call me up three times a week for marriages well tell me it's my Tyra I'm making an investment what do you mean don't call me for four weeks call your friends why did we become the bad ones at the separation we are paying a huge price right kids off the derrick why we falling apart from every because this is the fifth commandment the my you reach on your mantle ice roll you want to have a long life glycerol then you have to have cubed of a name and she's not my words let's go all the way to the beginning to where it all started the not wash so not harsh for our own interesting very interesting he was he was called Aram some very interesting shut them on that what what it what it means but there's a very interesting chakra that says the knowledge was because I saw that right and he tried to get the woman to eat from the tree Rashi says right Rashi says what is the plus ik of a huge nay in my room M that they both were unclosed why is that they each toy unusually always my shoe and they weren't embarrassed and then it says enough to show you our room it should have said that they were wearing clothes and I shed made them clothing what's this another show Europe so Rashi says something that I looked at obtaining if other my portion let's say this that what was he jealous huh what was it Nakhla jealous of that he saw Ottomans have uh physically together so all the more for sham ass but he also had a female the snake also had a female what he jealous of every every Bria had a female so what did he see that made him jealous he also multiplied with his with his female part so the before sham say he saw them talking Russians Pema they were talking to each other and there was communication with each other and that he didn't have even though he spoke then the cable of his part did not speak looked at a lot of a forum on this so he didn't have the Skiba that he was an animal so they they were together when the instinct of an animal was together but there was no he were no talking and no relationship he was jealous of Adam and travelers relationship I don't know if today the nut rush would tell her to eat from the tree I'm not sure cuz we talks to each other they all text and then us cos didn't have an iPhone so I don't know what he would have done even though Corey to the Guymon was an apple tree so maybe was an apple an iPhone I don't know exactly know exactly what happened over there but it's a it's an early dhikr for us for husbands and wives she's to understand that what he saw that he was jealous of his relationship that's why he won a column he said relationship I don't have you here what he was jealous of and this is where this is where we're suffering with relationships everyone's so busy so busy so busy he wouldn't have been jealous today what relationship so anyway what did he do so she saw the tree she never she never had a Yeats ihara sort of say to eat from the tree so the shia is how did she eat from the tree if she didn't have the eighth's of our famous child she'd navigate Sahara how'd she doing a Vera so it says he had one way to get into Anna Vera and that was through Kenna she would never eat from the tree unless he could make her a coffee toy and that would bring her to chemo so listen to this he's trying he's trying it's not working Kia derelict in Kiana how come Emmanuel the day I said no that you're gonna eat it Vaness hue mayhem didn't get her yet and your eyes will open up okay you know I don't need to eat from the tree I don't my life's to open up a Dan came the big words the ESM killer Kim you dare to varrock and then you'll be like God you see a Shem has something you don't have so instead of Chavez saying I have unarmed we are getting a there and right we even had a servant the snake was a servant right we have everything we have everything the whole world is ours we live in the God of Aden what did she say I shouldn't have something we don't have I'm not I have I don't have a car sit tight for what I have I'm focusing on what I don't have listen to this plastic by Tara is Chiquito based lamothe all she saw that the age was good to eat ok the age couldn't they had asked the fruit in it and the tree tasted the same that's why it doesn't say 3 right she says she saw that the age was good to eat from one second does a person see that something is good to eat a person tastes that's something good to eat maybe the thing growing on the tree tasted like the worst sour lemon you ever ate how did she see that the tree was good to eat and the terrace is that when you're jealous when you don't have a cursor toys when you want something that someone else has you don't even have to taste it you don't even have to taste it oh my gosh they have that I want it maybe it's not good for you maybe that's not what you know you don't even know how to drive why would you want a car right I don't know let's just leave it parked in my leave a parked in my in my in my driveway he can't have it why should he have it so all of a sudden the Torah tells us what a flip keep Tyler H lemarchal it's good tea wait then what happens this heat I do Lane I am it became a timer to her eyes she's still doing it she Danny the case that what's going on over time time all your didn't even taste the fruits yet you're freaking out you go crazy you gotta have it you never would taste like the next mud her ageless kill and it's not much then mighty cars appear you know first it was good it's a tie for its neck mud okay I gotta have it where did it come from it came from one statement Hashem has something you don't have don't focus on what you do have you have everything she said to him like Christ Rose said about me trying she said to him you could eat from all the other trees in the garden she said I'm all mouth I have every tree but this home on minute I wrong humming had everyone bow down theme except for one right hope my man I turned off her minutes same story he wasn't focusing he's the richest guy the most kids he was the next king after I catch arrows he had the whole thing had everything he focused on motherf I didn't have a minnow aids we're always focusing on what we don't have you took us out to try him who cares you took us to die in the mid bar you bought me a car big deal it's your job okay listen everybody to Rashi I'm apologizing to all the ladies watching this is not a very favorable ladies Rashi but it's a very important Russian because she ate from the tree so she says in the puss sake that the teeth ain't gone we used to give over your house she gave to autumn to eat from it and he ain't from it why don't you do that when she ate from the tree she was like Hashem she do bent over rot she's way above him he's a nobody she burns the food he doesn't no big toe around delicious whatever she does wrong fantastic everything was good by him she was now way above him why would she give him to eat from the tree so trashy love my teeth pain gamla Isha why did she give him to eat doctor ah she shall like Thomas he be if you who that she did she knew that she ate from the tree she's gonna die she didn't want that she's gonna die and he's gonna live what do you care if he lives what what do you care if he lives but her availa was based in jealousy so even though she did they have a wrong and she's gonna die there's no way I'm gonna die and you're gonna live why says Rashi this is totally out of hand why says Rashi did she not want to die if he's gonna live so crashy sorry ladies the ISA tell us cuz if she dies and he lives he's gonna marry someone else and no way are you gonna get anyone else that's cuz I'll there was no one else what are you talking about there was no other woman in the world what are you worried about and the answer is that when you're jealous when you stop to focus on what you have and you focus on what you don't have you lose your logical brain it doesn't work anymore it doesn't have to make sense you can have a billion dollars but if someone has two billion you want to have two billion but what are you gonna do with the Toby I don't know it doesn't matter but he can't have more than me and that brings cynicism that is what is the witson Escrima hating you for no reason I'm hating you because I'm jealous of you why am i jealous of you for no reason if I'm happy with what I have I'm jealous of you and therefore every morning the Mishnah we say is as follows a lead varam Sheldon I hope I'm saying bye Ella Mazda these are the following things that you get paid in this world by carrying Chi Yama's whale oil on my bar and you're gonna get paid in the next world what's the first thing the Mishna says for a Lou Haines cubed something comes after that let's go as mr. mantis comes after that house losses or who comes after that because clearly Matt Goss is Cowell the voice I may see a look how about show them in Omaha a robe initially this story all comes after give it a vein the Talmud Torah connect it cool but guess what everybody if you don't have cubed of aim if you don't have a car site ov none of the other stuff in that mission is happening it's just not happening if you don't appreciate your parents that's the basic meda the basic meda of a car so type so I'm going to read to you from inside I'm all fired up because of the middle of writing was safer listen at the end give it a vein which is coming out of Hanukkah it's going to change the world because we have no idea no one has an idea of the feel what cubed of a is think that we do cube early we don't even know what it means it's water cool or quotes something which I'm gonna tie to what I said about that Sarah sturdy rose an inkling gimel you're a day at Richmond Hill let's give it a vain and hatred myron when it says that issue video tiro over the moti row what does that mean so he says a story Playa had been lovers Camus days the son was dressed very well but yes a brush a call he was the president sitting in shul the president sitting up there you know them sure they have that chair up there front by the Aaronic I - the president whereby sits on one side and the president sits a little the old truths never and the president sitting sitting up there is shah massoud he's the man who brought all of the emo his mother and father come the car will begun of and they rip his clothing the he cool i wish i they begin to slap him on his head the you record the fun of and they spit in his face wow he's sitting there he's the man parrots walking for no reason you didn't do anything rip his clothes rack him in the head spit in his face Loyola my some don't say a word la you strike be quiet how can that show her now how to drop one and ask us to do something that any Alcala my boy come on ma stop slapping me dad please don't spit my face again no not a word how could how could they ask us to do that there's no way and this is connected to their sensitive rows dr. Schaack allarakha how you gonna do this the ER a minute amela mouth a hummock them sit there and think about your fear you all of the melanoma hemlock I'm a Kurdish Barlow Chichibu bubucaca you may not understand it and it may be very hard but this is his commandment and therefore there seems to be a large connection between vain Ogawa Marcone because what is this coming in the middle of this a lack of curative aim that if you feel a shell then you'll have to keep it a vein if you don't have Cupid of aim you can't have been under my welcome because even though we thank Hashem he put us in this world he doesn't talk to us really most of us anyway that we can really hear him right and we're not connected in that way so so if you don't appreciate your parents what they did to you what they did for you and you're just angry about all the stuff they did against you and I'm not saying and it's in the book you do not have to be abused by your parents how logically if you call your parents and then they start yelling at you and everything you have to go taking medicine and they over there they put you down and they're always putting you down well they hit you or they're abusing you run for your life and do not call them it doesn't say in the Chicano that you can't get up and walk out of the room it says you cannot answer them back so no one will tell you that parents that are that are abusive and dysfunctional that you need to sit there and get abuse ha special there's no rub that will tell you that in the world but you can't answer them back and you can't curse them and you can't yell at them and you can't make fun of them and you can't talk bad about them just get out of there you can move doesn't say anyway I we so far that we've found that you can move and there are white skin that pass skin that sometimes that their parents are so abusive to the kid mentally don't call don't call but don't call and answer them back so cool I want to talk to you about a couple of things in in in he'll just give it up a we have 20 minutes cost of raashi I'm a sexist elf I deserve Daffy your time the definitely Adam the way of people yet to be basic Nessus then when they leave shul thus far don't do this much more than we do I don't know why we don't Miya who knows she'll all evil emo immediately they kiss default their mother and father will a godly man who beyond of mission cover and if there's a godless addict there you kiss his hands because of he's covered over Morgan I've wronged my rabbi showed me this mug in a row hey be be safe with me shame save our cup on ice it's what thou should tithe the not shock you Dei my bhalil Shabbos everyone should cut this is this is drama okay that you should kiss your mother's hand every Friday night I saw a reason I think Des Moines everyone brings the reason because the father benches the children and the mother worked the whole week for these kids and then he gets the bench of children and she sits and she feels very bad so you're supposed to go to your mother and kiss her hand to make her feel better that's not me okay you National Guard to me Mabel Oh Shabbos because she heme of a reckless eyesight when she's benching him I guess she's just giving her brother the sighted Indian but by result is a sight to this she cuts up she you might I don't live night that a person should should teach his child kiss you who caught on when he's young men shake I yeah I'll believe my for a boy that he should kiss the hand of his father's mother in Israeli but yeah like a dilemma her see them bubucaca Shyam sim enraged Saliva's cuss off listen to this the claim Shimon a shaky day emo before you kiss your mother's hand yama you should say with shame you could hire a knee ball Lucayan i'm here to be Makai Mitzvah skill of aim we're not shaky dayi me I'm here in a Muslim zoom in to do the mitzvah of curative a my kissing my mother's hand all the sucking at sure wish ham its resume and welcome L join and to be moussaka in this Mitzvah in sham I am behind I am one next you know he tells the story we're not gonna say that next listen to this Amira Scottish I you did GERD Civic for child is truest is a kind of wrong Michele Shiloh Stella to ask the question the garrison is Gaia in Russia lemma Kaddish can he say Kaddish we initialize others McCoy can he say Kaddish for his father the guy Mahesh if she's a partially mutter mutter the wife and leg am useless Adachi I am have been high gear that he has a few me time I walk this way this of is my guy will a mole of Kaddish to say Kaddish for his father the guy but I forgive the geishas guy could cut Shinigami but he Gary's like a new person is not his father really right become welcome Harry Sacre Rambam - he'll kiss my rim there on my pass can she get high limit Bob if I go mix us cowboy you have to give him some cowboy shall I you shouldn't say by McAdoo Chicago rolling district our where he was with his father he was a guy there the mister give it up and now he doesn't we don't want him to say that in Kato a high becomes that but he says different reason he says the following listen to this right there sometimes it's embarrassing people are gonna make fun of you with a guy am I gonna make fun of you but pain could die Suge Knight high gear rock you might be a mighty he'll win the toy fast knishmas of it become your whole the problem with spiral they are all odds the game's father is a guy and you're supposed to dollars for the homage to him you understand the length of of Haqqanis a toy do you understand the length of cuba delay for a gracious father who brought you up the first 20 years before you became again you a trace you you didn't keep Shabbos because he's your father brought you into this world maybe became again when you 40 who knows how many have various you did right you're sposta down for the omelets for this guy who died but gob Lima Kaddish and also say Kaddish boy - Schley hey why would she - a veil is envoy slowly sucking this result of a guy did he should be Misaki and is fun that where's this coming from so this is a few dog he doesn't bring it here but I learned to ski talk and if he thought talks about a rama v know that his mother with him either when she had him right she wasn't keeping tabs on me she Paco and his father was a Raja he was serving up I deserve I'll avoid the service store so that he dog brings down that of Rama V knew worked his whole life to be Miss a cane his mother for being a need than when she when she was when she became pregnant and threw him a shocking terror and he was he didn't rest until he saw Tara accepting an idea so we see from here that a rama v knew what he did for his parents were both got him they were both of their voices are he didn't stop till he saw both of them again ate it and he does says I brought my beat who said listen to this Avril Lavigne who said I should go and guy Nathan and see my father and get him through to a fire it was Nimrods best friend what do you care a Roma being said that's keeping him I should go to Ghanaian and see my father in Gehenna he didn't go to God I did until he saw his father in Italy was my sake his father and his mother for us Molloy that was her name sake dog okay why do you have to do this so he says the following become a crime he went you like we do since he gave birth to you that he view what I am Isaiah and he brought you into this world the girl she is scared and he caused you right that you became part of glycerol Roy you was foul about joy you have to dive in him let's see let me bear Shaka's to take him out of Jahannam let me say well I love hot ball you have to bring this glacier father into our Harbor the leg our Amir's our channel Karlin IFTA Jace to Ellis Picard this you should know it there is a tailless show Emily knishmas Lannister so I think I made my point and this is what I told I tell my girls the bottom line is you don't want to be here and you're going through a hard time but he says here English Latoya good dialogue there's no bigger favor Mizzou should view alum has an even you if you have the worst pain even if you yell when you're going through the worst life there's no greater Toya that a sham brought you that you're in this world and that you have the potential to make someone smile you have the potential to save someone's life you have the potential to save all your the potential to say Oh mein yeah the potential to give you key to hug you have the potential your my reverie I'm Camille always says Kira love aim they're not here forever it's one of those mitzvahs yes there's a mitzvah after they die but it's a very different Mitzvah they're not here forever is it didn't cubed of aim you'll see that when in the book in show Canara that your stepfather let's say you have a stepfather and usually stepchildren don't get along with the stepparent yeah but Steph I you really don't like him how lucky is it you have to be more calm at him why is that like there's no blood there's no blood there's nothing I carry this blood I mean he's using air but this blood my stepfather he mind my mother I have nothing to do with him the answer is that if you Muhammad him you're being you fathered your mother because you take care of her husband it makes her happy and if you ridicule her husband then you're doing a very against your mother so even though he's not your father but since it affects your mother even with your stepfather you're but Dean and cubed over the eight to your mother you have to be good to him the Shilin show Caracas after she dies you have to wait for the book after she dies so now why do I have to be nice to him he's not my relative and has nothing to do with her not so simple but it's we'll talk about it okay so I want to end with with this in the Commish oh there's another story I'm sure you all interesting condition actually senior show me that there were two tano I'm rather small they're rough conferring or this story Pratt was with this then we'll go to the the last part Caracas Amara proffered or the Prisma kdw at zero one time the mother of toffee lost her jewelry in the cuts are in the courtyard we eat salsa we meet hasta la vache she got out of bed to try to find it there's some really tough when you're they attack us right well and wrapped Apple put his hands under her feet I like Hakka on the ground too late it know frankly that she her feet sure didn't get dirty well hoisted or Cesario drove he walked and she walked on his hands Towson does is that how we treat up here it's it's - woke up my hands I don't want you to touch the ground one story next story well I disappear show me the e Madhuri Shmuel the mother of a small understand you understand who these parents were kosher Machado de Blasio wish Molly Boudreau Shmuel would go and give a and he come back from the basement dish ruksar what Hetzer says rag love but it's a shyster sam-i-am he would watch - she would wash his feet and she would then drink the water from his feet from his dirty feet that she washed because she wanted to drink from his feet that would that went that came from the base manager she understand this he said uh-uh he found out about it she's drinking the water he said absolutely not so she took him to the cuffs on them and she said my son is not keeping cubed over him you hear this he's not keeping to give it up a rubbish small she won't say what I'm gonna keep giving him she says he's not letting me drink the water so solemn said it's all a lie she can't allow such would sign up that if she wants to drink the water from your feet you have to let her die being in there who cover whatever you parent was it doesn't make any sense if that's what they want unless it's gonna hurt them cos we show them if that's what they want that's what you have to do we have no house saga we have no house Olga and it's such a lost art and not just in kids the whole generation just go to any store look how people treat their kid there are some people that treat their parents unbelievable the reason I came to talk about this is that I had a father always show Michelle Michelle about Lea his Cupid / aim was not normal my grandmother / Shalom would go to Aris role my father would always send a first-class didn't man he had when he didn't have money Oh mom my grandmother had to go first class there was nothing to talk about everybody knew that mrs. Wallace he goes for his class but he never let her leave New York without him taking to the airport without him getting bent she always got he always got benched so in Florida he was in Florida in the middle of the winter my grandmother was going there too strong he got on a plane he flew to Kennedy Airport I was there he met her in the first-class lounge he said with her he walked it to the plane he got benched she got on the plate to go up he got on the plane went back to Florida was no such thing never and you could ask my brother and my sister you can ask my wife did my parents come from Eritrea straw or Florida land in the airport and me and my brother and sister were not there do you understand that was never a time that they walked out of that Hall where everyone's waiting and his three kids were not standing there waiting five o'clock in the morning 6 o'clock and even if I brought his card that he's going to Muncie wasn't coming to my house wasn't coming to Brooklyn there's no such thing in our family as my parents getting off a plane and there's no one there to meet them it didn't exist I didn't know any different who goes to pick up their parents cool uber when you get off the plane dad Kolber I go out I pick some up about whatever I want to say parent comes off a plane you shouldn't be there you should give him a hug and a kiss how you know I know that night that still be in the world to hear my hugging a kiss everyone thinks that your parents gonna live forever your parents and your Rabb either they're gonna live forever no one no one lives forever so everyone's busy screaming at that box at the funeral oh then you're sending everyone should be me at the box when they maybe they could hear you maybe they can't but you definitely can't hug me kiss them oh shoot are you ma am I'm so sorry that too late the gravity gun wheel says it's a mitzvah that ends in this world what are you waiting for what's the guarantee that they went home with an uber you were able to see in the next day go visit them Erev Shabbos my biggest pain in my heart I lost my father 18 years ago the biggest pain in my heart is you always asked me could you come up to Muncie once a week to learn with me for an hour on a Wednesday I said okay one day my father was 67 years old in perfect shape paddleball racquetball player I said okay one day when he's 95 he'll start getting slow he died at 67 I never went to live with him Oh what I would give to sit and learn with him today they waiting for you can feel their hand you can throw their hug you can make them smile you could say give me a broad Club you could get you benched then went nice to when you were young they brought you to the world hey I'm reading it to your guy pretty do it to the world you got a diamond for the omelet for him a guy say Kaddish little tighter for him he puts it to the world isn't going and the mother not just the father the glacier mother - it'll bring you in as a ye'd but now I may eat 40 years later 20 years later 60 years that doesn't matter I may eat I all those people who's going those Christians the church that they took me every Sunday I owe them a thank you your liver thank you they would you to yashka yeah Oh them a thank you they brought me to the world and for that no matter what is the fifth commandment get rid of the aim and if you can't have that then you don't have a course at toys and your other course at toy you have kiddo and if you have kid up you have seen a subpoena if you have seen estate on your the destruction of the bay something does and that's what we're sitting in right now and it's just getting worse and worse there's no respect for parents we don't sit next to them in shul my father never let me dive in in the kids minion he said if my son comes to shul who I want to sit next to me more than him some friend some neighbor it's my son area and why are you sitting next to me when a whole mouth like Izmir Shiva that I went you Shiva Davin at 7:30 and they were very intermittent everyone has to be at the minion there's no one bigger in minion I spoke a few years ago about my father a mini who's no bigger in meaning that my father so the minion was at 7:30 my father told her she she I want my subway yeah cos I want my son sitting next to me at the seven o'clock million basis well I dub him before you and I want my son sitting next to me by nominee you said no Shiva Shiva policy she would policies he has done with your Shiva minion and my father said then he's not to be in your Shiva anymore there's other your Shiva's my policy he's my child at the end of the day the she was not gonna give them four freshmen I am this is my child so he's gonna sit next to me at the seminar clock menu he's gonna have to get up at 6:30 he's gonna sit next to my whole life I said next time at that minion never saw my father talk one word by the Avenue do you know why I don't talk by daven him because that's how I was brought up because that's what I saw now because I learned shook on earth not commissioner burrell because Lamesa i sat and i watched a man who never spoke a word Shabbos doesn't didn't matter what it was never spoke a word by daven II so just like it's a field of cubed of the aim for the child to the parent but the parent has to take responsibility for the child to spend time with your kid this is your investment this is your life this is everything and if you're not giving given event to your parents he is not gonna give give a name to you he is not gonna I watched how my father treated his mother his father died very young I watched it there's no way I can't have kippered a vein i watch his whole life he took her he went to Florida he took her he went to it wherever he she was like my grandmother was like the princess the queen I don't know she was he treated her like Wow every Friday before he came to Muncie he went to Manhattan to get bench by my grandmother you took care of Ally I wasn't believing what I watch was amazing so if you want your your kids to do this you have to treat your pure you want your kids to call you but you don't call your parents and you're busy talking bad about you in-laws forget about it forget about it why you did of curative aim on in-laws my father-in-law because bottom line whether you getting along with your wife or not he gave you because of him there you have a wife and even if you don't like your wife and you're having problems but you have children and you would have children if you didn't have a wife focus on what you have not what you don't have so we even have to shell no one here should have such situation to have a miserable marriage you're like give it a vein for me it was they hate me they don't talk to me look what they brought up I can't deal with her she's killing me I'm havin a miserable life right you should run Cairo you should type Italian title right I have you miserable life why should I give give it up to my in-laws they didn't even want me to marry her they didn't want to come to the wedding they get it come to the wedding and I have a few of together in Cuba dream and the answer is yes yes you know why because the - oh you're married to that woman when I see your marriage they didn't have this child and Allah might you have children if children you know focusing for whether for them having her you would have these children you say I have chosen for someone else who says so maybe the other person wouldn't able to have children what kind of children would you have who knows so my mother wore yeah you gotta go on can I say my tie whatever you call you in-laws I want to thank you very much it'd be like what I have a beautiful wife I have children and our grandchildren mata for wasn't for the to you I wouldn't have any of it I love you and thank you so much that's a person has that cause that toy it's a person who's not jealous of anyone else this passion for walk two minutes clashes bollock not that long ago the donkey spoke not that long ago I'm not gonna tell you what I rep you said when I used to say something okay whatever anyway my uncle and my bike every a question as I know but you sure are like kinky hey let who Hashem became very angry that he went doesn't make sense the person before said I should have said in would cry little boy a notion kumoi heat them go with them and say what they want you to say and say what I want you to say and then all the sudden the public survey you carefully came he heard that he went so why was I so angry told him he could go and the answer is he told him he could go interesting because they will they were willing to pay him money and a Shem said I don't want you to lose money so you could go but he didn't go because of the money he went he sells his donkey early which meant he'd wait cuz he hated the Jews Shem said I let you go because of money you're getting up early in the morning like I brought my Vito got up because you hate the Jews but you can't officiate okay so we all know this story mala one time second time third time I want to read you a Rashi where we came to my share heard this I want you to I want to read you and we're ending with this I want to read you a Rashi which is a life changer and most people don't talk about threats it's a very little small Rashi and Rashi says the following the subtle lie he put out he put out he put up an angel to to stop him from going mom shall rock on him are you wasn't a mom kill billow and the mount by the way about room scissors well it was the Mozgov real another one says a mallacoota whatever it is mala Soraka mum hiya Hashem Santa mamala for pity white who writes seldom night me last time Hashem wanted to stop him Ghulam harush are the lowest of the world who lived with his donkey shall we yeah Qaddafi other but Yahweh Hashem said I don't want you to saying because of you said you're gonna be lost what what is why she's saying but of course Baku said a mouth of rock of him out of killing my Allah to say belong from sinning because the bilham sins he's gonna end up with your helmet be lost Michele was worried that Billo shouldn't be washed so he bought a mouth to stop him from doing their there so I got up and said yeah so all the people who have this perception that you should help your children to our various that goes out the window because your children are Jewish and they're good people why would you help them to our various here the worse rush in the world that Chef says now shall come and go stop him stop him I don't want bilham to do another and get destroyed it's a mind boggling Rashi just to tell you and I said this over a few times the kids to people when I'm speaking just you said you said why Shem is this this picture by shame he wants to bring you and put you to barbecue and give you diseases and punish you and if you do this whack and if you do that whack and oh my god that's me vengeful angry God that whole generation right now that we're walking around don't hit me I don't want your check alright on the house showers anyway what are you gonna do I'm gonna die anyway it's how they talk I'm like that's not our Hashem I don't know who's preaching this Hashem doesn't even want bill of harush was going to curse us and destroy us in the lowest level that a human being ever became married to an animal couldn't get lower than that cuz well who said save him save him I don't want I don't want him to get punished so you think he's a punishing God and then I quoted the Mishnah that talks about if a woman was with an animal did that I Vera so you have to kill the animal and you have to kill the woman right the woman's guide me so you have to kill the animals so they asked whereas why do you have to kill that why do you have to kill the animal animal didn't know what it's doing to an animal and the terrace is because everyone's gonna see the animal they're gonna point to the animal and they're gonna say that's the animal that you know you know that they're what sin I died you know what you did that's the what the animal she did with so therefore the Gomorrah says I'll say Hashem doesn't want her to be embarrassed after she died she paid a punishment he killed her right now that everyone should walk around pointing at the animal and beam of I assure I said you worried about me ma'am I assure you there was that there'll be a great lesson if I if I was in those days if this is what not what the Gomorrah said all baby Ralston we around my checkout that animal you see what happened to her that's what happens guys what a lesson like the kid they make an example in school that they throw out we're gonna use him as an example to teach everyone else oh the animal you're not you have to kill but the kids the kids you have to use an example we have to get rid of the example we get rid of the animals no one knows what animal she did that very with but this kid the whole school has to know you know why we threw him out rabbi not cuz he did the greatest bad thing but we have to set a precedent who shoe God we're out of your mind you take a Jewish child and you make an example of him and I chef says the animal that was never with a woman get rid of it so the way she know where does this come from I don't know where this comes so Shem opens up the the person's mouth and you think Shem created this the last minute peel I'll sign he's going to get up and say a speech as IE Wow imagine a sellout crowd if they Austin got up to speak instead of me please be packed some of you think you are anyway so he gets up and what does he say what does this also say right villain gets up says I hit you three times because look what you did to me because you did to me look at you did to me and the Austin says big words he says haven't I been loyal to you my whole life why did you hit me these three times also I tell him bellum you fool there was a box in the way without with it with her it was a sword that try to kill us tell him what's going on no never tells me dies right after he says that he says hey I've been good to you since - till now I'm building says yeah you have been he dies also for the same reason Hashem didn't want that people should be revised it's it's you have to look at them before it's not normal the people shouldn't be revised and that was the us-owned the donkey that made bilham look bad no one deserves to look bad because when that when the when he said - he said to the donkey if I had a sort of man I would kill you so the donkey said to him you fool you're going to curse and kill a whole nation with your mouth and you need to sort to kill me when you just cursed me so in front of them that were there he looked really bad so we're chefs that gotta get rid of this donkey because everyone's gonna point down to it that's the dunkey that'd be bill um and an argument so they had to kill the donkey I was one of them a fortune say boys are if they kill the donkey get rid of the evidence Hashem doesn't want anyone to be embarrassed so what's going on over here you created a mouth of a donkey to say I've been a good wife for you till now and the terrace is Terrence is that after Shem created his world he looked at his whole world and there were ten things we could go through them or we don't have time now there were ten things that he needed to do at the last minute and Hashem realized that if the world doesn't have a car that toy if the whole creation is worthless so the words that came out of the donkey's mouth were not there was a ma in front of me because we see I shall reveal them all the words were if I've always been there for you focus somewhere I bid for you not that I scratched you for three times that's what came out of the donkey's mouth have I always been there did I take you out of Mitzrayim what are you complaining about where we're going have I always been there for you so I broke you if I pushed your foot three times you must try to figure out that there's something wrong and when he admits his fate he still does not because he was the biggest coffee tire so the malla says I would have killed you for wasn't for your donkey I would have killed you instead of your donkey he says courtesy and we're waiting for the courtesy I didn't have a car that time he says no courtesy what was my sin that I didn't see you that was you sin that was you saying if you didn't see the mala then there's no sin if you saw the mala can you try it anyway there's a symbol if you didn't see the Moloch what's the sin so Tasi that I didn't see you he was so in the future my averey's that I didn't see you not my there was I didn't treat my donkey the correct way I have a horse ranch I have eight horses why am I telling you this I'm not raising money to understand who our God is and who our Shem is says that he done why did the mala say to Bill him why did you hit your animal three times it seems to be that was the wrong thing to do he yelled at him I would have killed you what's wrong with hitting your animal it's a donkey you ever go to Israel to hit him so the Malick's seems have been very upset why did you hit you donkey three times says that he's done look inside the kid are not passing that he does says that anyone who rides a horse I wish I would have brought it ready to inside there anybody who rides a horse and hits it will give din for that and show my jockey Don Chris Barr who is sensitive don't hit you don't hit your horse and therefore the Malik said how dare you hit this animal can't cause pain to a horse can we courts pain to another human being Kenya and Sinha and Sheena second him is causing pain to another human being because your book was so sensitive to the feelings of all horses if you know how more we have to be so sensitive when we leave here tonight to the feelings of others and to focus what we have that he took us out of it's time that we were going if we focus on what we have then a coach boss will give us back what 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