Rav Gav Friedman: Small Steps to Big Success - Project Inspire Convention 2016

all righty let's get cracking first and foremost my name is Gabrielle Friedman AKA RAV gov originally from Woodman New York now living out to sell the past 15 years married got a bunch of kids let's get started Okay so we're gonna start with a question and uh classroom participation is mandatory okay so let's get cracking the question is have any of you ever read a book before other than the talmud or homage because I don't ever read a book if you have raise your hand okay the women more than men I see okay one day one day all right now of those who haven't I've read it say it differently I guess those are better because anyone currently reading a book on paper actual paper again women with more self-esteem than men okay so uh of those of you who are reading a book and I've read a book on paper before has anyone ever done the following the first thing you do when you read the book the first thing you do before you read the book is you turn to the last page has anyone done that before raise your hand if you've done that before done that before who's never done that raise your hand you've never done that or you don't do that okay I don't know the Allah is here please forgive me if I'm gonna live I ask questions am I is in this forum okay again who never did who never returned to last page why not you want to get there oh my gosh thank you so much oh I can't get that on camera right answer is because you know what you want to get there you want to get there okay on this side who's never turned the last page come on even your Kipper you never know okay okay fine why don't you why don't you do it no reason okay that was uh that's a reason good anyone else have a reason why you don't do it yeah you lose old flavor of the text now I'm getting from these answers I am calling from these answers that you think I mean in order to read it is that right that's what most of you understood I mean to see how many pages there are has anyone ever done that before turn to the last page to see how many pages there are yeah okay that we've done before yeah for the most part and for those who still don't do that I mean you all do it in some form even if it's not in a book form if someone offers you a job they say I'm going to give you uh whatever it is 10 million dollars for this job is everyone who's in who's in who's in we hang you up sit down for a year make a little incisions in your body while shooting Fireballs at you who's in hands are down what happened and says maybe you should ask what you're getting yourself into a little bit right oh what's a very good what's a job yeah yeah I hear I don't know if you really meant that or not that's what they say why Yeshiva guys don't learn eov because the translation his job anyway so so the point is back to this is uh was that too much was that too was that too early I'm so sorry okay so I get to know me more then we'll talk about it all right so now here's the here's the idea up here people every one of us does it in one way shape or form another we look at the last page we see how many pages there are why do we do that essentially we want to know what we're getting ourselves into imagine you open up the book and it says 3820 uh you know it says 2711 what do you do it's the Talent come on shots we learn it okay but let's say it's a book yeah what do we do we put the book down right okay now my friends why is that because we stink we think we're probably not going to finish it we're not going to finish it I'm so sorry I feel bad about this thing in the middle uh so if I do this now you see me never do that so I apologize okay please forgive me for this you're gonna want to sit on the angles okay so it goes like this it goes like this every one of us do this a moment shape or form what we do is we go and we read we took a look at the last page you want to see what we're getting ourselves into and I think it's not only in reference to the concept of reading a book I think it's in reference to life in life in general we try to do is when we think that things are too much when it's too many pages when it's too much work we get overwhelmed and when a person gets overwhelmed what we do is we shut down is in a Essence what we do we shut ourselves down and then we don't even get involved in the first place let's talk about Judaism for a second welcome to project Inspire no thank you thank you let's think about Judaism what happens when a person gets involved in Judaism in some way shape or form or another and I want to tell you something I don't care are your background doesn't make a difference no matter who a person is even in this room but if you're dealing with also dealing with secular people but in terms of this own room we all have times when we get overwhelmed I have in my my living room is sorry I'm shrunk which I feel so blessed that I don't have to translate that here but I have a smart and strong but I will for those unfamiliar it means a a bookshelf I have a bookshelf in my living room which has lots of books lots of books right lots of Jewish books as a matter of fact my grandfather I love a Shalom when he moved there to Seoul I live in air to sell I live in the holy land when he came he sent to my he sent to my house uh 60 when they moved there to Seoul Medallion 60 boxes of swarim because I had the biggest living room of my family I have three rooms and they have two and aside the biggest living room said they sent it to my house before and then I was able to swipe a bunch of slime before nobody let us split a bunch of whatever it is very interest for him so I have a lot of sperm you know hundreds hundreds of sperm in my living room and there are times I'll come home after learning teaching whatever and when I when I come home I take a look at this Farm shark I say you know what maybe I should learn something so I look at it I see like all right let's learn some you know I don't know and I said go to grab it I look to the left I see Ari Kaplan I'm like that looks interesting so I go for the Harry Kaplan as a marry captaining it up I see Kabbalah right this is uh house introduction into Kabbalah I'm like let's do some cabala and then as I'm about to grab that I see another one it was just and I just get like ah I push a button then open up big screen comes out and I just watched her anytime that's what uh that's what I do okay so what happens is we get overwhelmed we shut ourselves down we're not able to do it there's way too much very simple very simple person sees too much we end up burning out now I wanna I wanna let's let's take this a little we're gonna be very specific because I know of this especially Yeshiva shares in the room we're going to be very specific is there an obligation for one to finish Kola tarakula so let's say differently for a 13 year old male Jewish boy is there an obligation from to finish all of Torah yes or no who thinks he has to raise your hand okay which things now who know habla English okay let's try again who thinks he has to raise your hand there's an obligation who thinks no if you think no keep your hand down okay so everyone wow all right so for those who think no all right for those who thinks yes and those are things no we can probably find the answer for both of you depending what the schmooze is okay but we're gonna go over here within the realm within the realm of no and what I mean by that is it's true the Ramblin talks about the fact that president but even that you're not really high of to finish it all which I was to attempt to finish it all I have to try to finish it all like we know what happens comes on the mission Imperial the second chapter last mission it's a song that they made into a mishnah that's which means the work is not upon you to finish I do you got to do essentially as much as you're able to do it you need to Skype what it comes down to is a person that's obligated to do as much as they're able to do and what ends up happening is when people started getting burning out starts to feel a little bit overwhelmed this one like oh my gosh to finish it all I can't do it all oh my God but you don't have to nobody can't it's too much and nobody don't have to finish no but it's too much we don't have but what'd you say what you said is you don't have to Allah it works not upon you to finish but you're not a free man to nullify yourself from which means you got to do essentially as much as you can there's an obligation for one to do as much as they're able to do that's it that's the bottom line if someone comes along and they feel overwhelmed this because they're missing the concept of a really Yiddish is about I'll tell you something it's a terrible mistake and I think what ends up happening even even nowadays unfortunately perhaps we will rap with the rabbis tonight whoever's going to be with us later this evening at 10 or whatever it is we'll go more into detail of this idea but in terms of I find a lot of times in the educational system in terms of parenting in terms of whatever there's a big emphasis on what the world has turned into a real mistake and I'll explain you what I mean by this let's start with I'm assuming many of you are from New York because we're in that area is that is that accurate would anyone you're considering themselves a real New Yorker I know in a real New Yorker or you're not embarrassed to say it okay I see a lot of people invest okay here we go how you doing nice to see you again hi what's your first name if I may ask you a question imagine you hire me to uh to build you a building okay and I say I say the okay how many floors do you want a skyscraper how many floors 110. I come to you after 55 of them and I say listen okay I really I tried my best okay I did the best that I can and uh what do you say you pay me for the half that I did and the other half find somebody else to finish what do you say a real New Yorker please no inappropriate language yeah find some way of finishing it yeah wink wink yeah okay no no I I tried I tried what do you think try harder come on what did the real New Yorkers say not only am I not paying you but you're gonna pay me because I'm gonna sue the pants off you is everybody get that nice try Aldo my second doesn't Judaism say try the best you can was anyone here raised with that idea was anyone you're actually raised with your parents teaching you about Yiddish kite you got to do the best you can and that's it you're not gonna have to do any more than the best that you can was anyone actually raised that way seems like not uh okay one of you good there's always at least one in the crowd the rest of us what's going on now we've been raised that way they're gonna do the best that you can what do I mean raised that way what do I mean the best you can let's work it let's take it through let's see you come home from school and in your report card on your grades you got it you got an s [Music] but in your effort you've got an a steak dinner absolutely you know why because you're on the stake you understand I understand Mom didn't you have to do the best that I can I don't care what I say you do what I do not what I say when I've been doing it and again no I'm getting doing it right it's just what's going on over here I thought you said I could do the best that I can when it comes down to is a person is not obligated to finish anything since Yiddish guy I have to do as much as you're able to do and that's if what ends up happening is we put in all these competitions we put all these ideas we put all this oh yeah who can learn the most da and the person knows the most deaf and wonderful what did you just do so we made it to be that a kid who can't do that much all of a sudden he didn't finish all those dots and what is he worth more you don't got to finish it why are we basing of that which means my friends what essentially is Yiddish kite it boils down to one thing the two different ways we could see the world is either either we are based off results or based off our effort that's the bottom line and whereas many times we talk about being based off effort most of the time we show we're based off results where's your piece of paper what did you finish what did you accomplish Where Have You Been what did you do now what did you almost do almost is not enough unless you're trying to spell the longest word in the English language in alphabetical order which is the word almost but my friends Almost is not enough but unfortunately this is seeped into us as well I remember one of my kids came home from school I won't say which kid or what school but there was a school my kid was there and they came home and they said to me thank God that's it they came home and they said to me they said to me ah my notebook didn't get picked I said what do you mean nobody did being picked said that they they what they do is they decide whose notebook was colored the best and that notebook gets taken to the principal so there were two things messed up in the story for me one is when you're playing favoritism and whose color like how do you know and number two my kid wants to go to the principal something's not right here when I grew up it was different yeah but the point is the first one is like that's what you're basic enough who's the bro who's deciding what's going to something better or is going to be selling who decides that I found that afterwards thank God to this credit that it was really every kid got a chance it's just they made it it just made you feel like you're worthless but everyone eventually got a chance yeah but again the concept like what's going on over here look more now in Yiddish by the way why is it that we say that it's not about where in the western world that which is now the world globalization but whereas the Western world comes and teaches us it's about results it's not a bad effort in Judaism we say it's a bad effort it's not about results so then why do we make a CM what's the purpose that want to make English mine oh human beings there's a concept that we need to feel like we are accomplishing this is a reality we need to feel like we're accomplishing but it seems doesn't have to be a massage right we have stories of motion two of us that he doesn't have to miss out it's something you feel like there's an accomplishment you did something but at the end of the day it's not about that it's not about what you're finished it's how much you put in it's only about effort why is that why is it only about effort it's not about results anyone is it only about effort it's not about results yeah very good because the results are not in your hands anyway it's my friends it's crucial it's a whole discussion okay results are not in your hands anyway the only thing we have is effort whether or not you're going to succeed in something totally not up to you at all even understand learning what does it says right what does it say but that's to remember Torah see after this Maya and every day he forgot it until the last days like what do you want from me he said I fine I'll give it to you to Montana He gives news of Montana not only that with no famous idea what happens when it comes back who shows him to Caleb a different Caleb you read through the parishes which I know I kind of lose people when I start talking about tumors it's ever anything has to do with Calum or measurements or cubits right or anything to do with the vestly garments of the vestments of the garmentals right where Kevin gets lost but let me tell you about the little let me tell you a little uh idea a deal I'll probably have heard before though and that's the fact that we know that moshebenu was told all the measurements give all the measurements all the different Caleb all different vessels of the best of English the menorah though was a little intense and if you just have to read the right you read some of the the Calum is like okay it's one by two by two by one okay okay got it got okay two by um one second two by one one by two okay I got it now ready for the manure here we go goblets goblets goblets under the goblets to the three gobbles to the left gobbles gobbles to the right gobbles now right goblets goblets go most is like uh I quit yeah and Hashem says I'll show it to you I'll show it to you I'm going to show it to you in a fire he shows him the menorah why chances because the menorah was the idea which was the idea which is a gift it's a gift it's giveness are you going to finish something and I can finish something it's not up to you you can decide all you want you're going to do something you could choose to do something you could try to do something whether that you'll succeed is totally up it's totally out of your hands as I once as I once heard a uh a doctor say a uh so funny this is that I volunteered at Heritage Hill from again Davido from Mada and when we were training one of the things we did was childbirth now we change we trained for 10 hours on childbirth well more later in Shabbos I think you know the story about this but uh we trained for about 10 hours and what did we learn anyone know what we learned over those 10 hours they call it doctor yeah and guess what the doctors learned in childbirth and this is what a doctor told me who deals with this that's right I'm sorry my memories right so so I'll tell you that we learned essentially catch that's what we learned catch yeah because what else is there to do okay umbilical cord has got to forbid a situation like that you put it over the shoulder in the suction and different things but only for basic things we've been is to learn catch and this doctor who delivered thousands of babies said to me the following thing he said when we were learning about it he said to me yeah this is one of the few things where we say to the doctors stop doing something and stand there already get that stop doing something and stand there already yeah that's essentially life stop doing something and stand there and always try we gotta try but at the end of the day we succeed in that up to us I want to show you let's get a bit deeper the idea that it really comes down to the effort it all comes down to the effort it's not about results let's talk about I'm going to ask you all a question let me ask you a question and when they ask you the question I do not want you to answer me from the Torah some of you will answer me from the Torah I will then ask you where did you get that from you will try to wiggle out of it and then we'll start over okay here we go I mean it has two questions do not answer me from the Torah the question goes like this the question goes like imagine that God came to you and God said don't eat pig and then a man came to you and he said eat pig who should you listen to everyone's nervous you say who should you listen to this is independent of the Torah my friends straight up logic if God how do I know God you know but how it's got but how do I know you don't know not you everyone else yeah God comes to you and he says don't eat pig and then a man comes and says eat pig who should you listen to what's the answer okay God that everyone feels more comfortable now good you're letting your guard down okay so what happens is God now let's re let's redo this um you have the situation where God a man I'm sorry God comes to you he says don't eat pig and then a man comes to you and says eat pig and if you don't I'm gonna kill you who do you listen to him who thinks God lose your hand I just want to let everyone know on this side there's no one on this side there are two okay who thinks the man just listen to the man okay why is that he killed where'd you get that from the rabbis he got out of it it's not the Tory it's the rabbis okay let's start over yeah who should you listen to how do you know who told you that where'd you learn it in school school and the rabbis the rabbis in school like I want to let you guys a little secret these rabbis got it from the Torah right okay people let's start over God says don't eat pig man says eat pig and if not I'll kill you who should you listen to why the man yeah I didn't ask who would you listen to who would you like to listen to who should you listen to the pig very good okay let's go into the next class in Australia I'm gonna take credit for it though yeah why how do you know God told you that from the tiger okay let's start over this is beautiful to see that you guys cannot remove yourself from tell you that it's Mom is unbelievable at the mom is amazing but again I want to try without the Torah yeah who why man [Music] now I said you and the Torah out of the Torah [Music] all right this is going to get out of hand ladies like gentlemen calm down let's see you're out of control here all right here we go let me let me give you an example let me try to help everyone the gamara has this discussion this is Governor sanhedrine so I'm gonna I'm gonna bring it up and you'll agree or disagree we can agree to disagree like my sister and I okay and that's what we may end up having to do now for time's sake okay here we go the answer is if man tell if God tells you to do something let me make the question simpler if God tells you to do something should you listen one more time if God tells you to do something should you listen yeah this is absolutely you should listen right you should listen right if God tells you should listen God said don't eat pig in our little example did he say don't you pick except in our example did he see donate pick except or do you say Don't eat pig Tony Pig and if God said don't eat pig what does that mean unless the Pig talks to you right then you got to see someone yeah are you second office all right so all right you go ahead and you don't okay okay good so far so good now God tells you something someone else comes and tells you something which is against what God Said who should you listen to so far so good so far it's just like one of these you know like back in the day you can still do it the split like the left and right on like audio so it's like that's what's Happening Here Yeah we have like God and it's just like I will not answer I don't even try okay let's here we go so we have the following idea God tells you the only pig man tells you pick if not I'm gonna kill you who should you listen to please say God again thank you God oh that's right God it should be Hashem why is it there's no stipulation there's no change there's no difference oh but I know this is hard for all of you so let's come back to the Torah comes along the holy Torah you'll check me on this I believe it's found Leviticus chapter 18 verse 5 and it tells us this is Hashem I want you to live by my Torah I don't want you to die by my Torah I want you to live by my Torah I don't want you to die by my Torah so therefore if someone says do something either break the Torah and live or keep it and die says Hashem I would rather you break the Torah and live except for three classic examples which are good arrives and this is about um whereas that is in 64 right I think it's time without the government comes along he tells the sun hedge and goes to the whole discussion over there and says well how do we know each one how do we know which one how do we know about how do we know so it says basically based off the Posse there we go the idea of uh Zara and the giloya Rios idolatry and I'm sorry um in adultery that's when we know a person should rather visit the public but how do you know by murder how do you want to buy Redrum that if someone goes ahead and says kill that person or I'll kill you kill that person or I'll kill you kill that person or I'll kill you you have to allow yourself to be killed rather than kill how do we know what's the answer give me one word what blood also works no problem right red also is good yeah the answer is says the gamara who svara who says that your blood is more red than theirs in other words who says you are more beloved to Hashem than they are who says that you are Allah get ready for this one I'm setting you up for a question pay attention who says that your blood is more red than theirs in other words maybe they're more beloved to God than you are we don't know you have to sit back and allow yourself now it doesn't mean you lie if you can kill that person try but if you can't right but if you can't okay then you allow yourself to be killed rather than going and killing somebody else all right people let me ask you a question for a moment give a gun to Moshe Rabino and said kill Friedman on Friedman kill this Freedom yeah kill Friedman or I'll kill you now people who's on a higher level or me I don't know who's on a higher level most Champion Army come on I want an answer who's on a higher level please get out thank you please open the doors yeah who's in a higher level come on who's in higher level so he got the right answer for all those who said Moshe why would you think Moshe why would you think bush is in higher level than me some of you don't even know me okay well I would just say such things how do you know who says emotions on a higher level oh well that rambam says don't be as great as moshebenu is that did I say that accurately did I say that accurately good they'll never be a navi like the rabbi himself says everyone could be in the level of Moshe Habano so it seems like astira but the answer is with navua excellent so I don't want to talk about it now but it's a good point the reason why those who would think is supposed to have babies because look how much he did look how much he did I mean the guy split the C but the guy the most happiness what to see him enough okay we get the idea he brought Chrysler he was amazing unbelievable my friends what would the Allah be if someone give a gun to Moshe Albano and said kill Friedman or I'll kill you what would moshrabino have to do he would have laughed he would have to allow himself to be killed so everybody get that which is a very big eye opener comes to show that who's on a higher level the answer is the Michigan packet was 5 25 then hey hey the fun Sarah Agra according to your pain is your reward all right which means what which means we don't know it's all based on right bear Brian to Coke the Vikings I think it was right they said I guess no pain no gain the more you put into something the more you walk out with something the answer is probably emotional okay but the answer it really ultimately is we don't know we have no idea once again showing the concept it comes down to what is it about it's about how much you put in yeah it does say the statement therefore I hear that it is confusing sometimes thank you please come again you are welcome and you get the front seats yeah okay so the answer is my friends we don't know let's go furthermore very famous Story one of the greats falls into a coma when he comes out of a coma his father says to him son tell me what did you see he said Dad own the heifer you see I saw an upside down World those who are up in this world were down in that world those who are down in that world were up in this world everything was going out of control and he says to him son you saw the real world the world we live in is an upside down world now what did he mean what did the Sun mean when he said I saw an upside down World those who are up in this world who are down in that world down this world we're up in that world what did he mean so many people just again I'm sorry I would normally open this up more but people aren't as coming forth as much as they like to so I'm going to go and answer it straight up and then also in terms of time let's blame it on time it's not it's not you it's time we can still be friends okay so it goes like this the reason why um what exactly did he mean so many many at this point would think well you know those who are rich those who are famous to do really well those who get the great covered and the honor whatever those are the people that are up and those you know um those are considered up and those that are considered down are the ones that are like you know poor and whatever it is yeah comes along they'll be showing them and they say negative is that really a shock are you shocked that those that were rich and famous and whatever that they they're going to be down in the next world it's like oh my gosh those were up in this world we're down in that world down this world we're up in the next World seemingly damn this world will be up in the next world and the the people that were living their lives inappropriately and wrong and up in this world were down in the next world that clearly is not a shock that's not a shock that makes sense who tells us ideas if they're going to get this guy in this world that's where they're up and they said you won't get this kind of the next world that's where they're down here beautiful so then what was he shocked by the answers we're talking about both within the realm of Yiddish kite and with beauty and amazing things I have two people that are sitting down and learning Gomorrah you have two people that are involved him one person learns a thousand blats of gamara a year the other one learns ten one person has guests at their home every week another one has it once every six months you go to the Webby and you ask I know now it's changed perhaps and your schools are better but you go to the revenue and you ask who is the best kid in the class what does he usually pick on who's usually the one who goes like wow that guy's great the one who learns 10 body or the one who learns a thousand bloodier I think it's an obvious question when I was in Yeshiva there was a kid the kid was amazing it was my age we were both 17 years old this is about two years ago and and this kid was unbelievable like the kid was ugly he finished shots in a year 17 years old 18 years old he finished us in one year so I met this kid he was living in charlevin and Yeshiva in charlevin and when I don't want to say his name for whatever reason may be anyway I went over to this kid I didn't know him he didn't know me but I said hey you know I'm having a problem with the gamara I wanted to see come on really he said well you know which which part you know of the death like what what do you mean and he opens up he just starts reading it was unbelievable the kid at the head that he read a gamer like it was a like a novel he just read through it you understand the level he's going to be held accountable to in terms of learning this guy's got to learn dance shots with me I only have to learn the you know the simple text you know this guy's gonna sucker he thinks she's so smart huh my friends it all goes according to our level who wins the anxious Kyle award the one who has guests every six months so the one who has it every week every week every week if I had to get up and if it's just women then they sing it hey and it's just men they sing it okay whatever it is only sing it who should be getting it we don't know that's the bottom line maybe that woman who has once every six months could only have it once every year but she pushes herself on us every week she'll be having it every day it all comes down to how much did you put into it that's the bottom line okay good let's say you buy what I just said let's say you buy it maybe half price we do buy everything I'm saying till now that it's about effort it's about effort it's about effort stop with the results it's about effort yes my bit very good it's exactly The Muppets who comes and spells that idea was in my bid those are the effort is about effortless but effort at the end of the day my friends are still pretty hard it's still pretty difficult still pretty difficult even the effort's difficult because they only ever ran a marathon I'm looking it looks like a lot of you did yeah okay we got one one have anyone ever seen a marathon and been eating popcorn during it right okay so you watch a marathon can a person run a marathon someone who ran a marathon can they run a marathon yes they can run a marathon okay so then may ask you something because they couldn't because they could do it is it easy just because you could do it doesn't mean it's easy it's still difficult it's still very difficult even if one were to buy the fact that you're not obligated to finish everything you're not going to do as much as you're able to do that's what you have to do physically mentally you're okay you have to do as much as you can if you can't do something let's say a person God forbid didn't have an arm and in reference to film they don't have an arm or a head do they have to put on filling it's a Shayla you know okay the answer is they have to put on what they can put on what they can't put on they don't put on that's it if you're not able to do something that's pasta that's it you have to do what you can do but even then it's hard even though it's challenging of course it's hard and it's challenging we got to work a little bit we got to push it a little bit we got to push it a little bit so I want to share with you a couple of ideas how one could still be able to maintain the things that we're even able to do the things that we're able to do what are some ideas we're able to do we're going to start off with an oldie but a goodie a classic one I'm gonna ask you a question please don't give me the most obvious answer okay the question is uh the statement is Baby Steps step number one is something called Baby Steps what does baby steps mean I want to ask that some girls steps that babies take so thank you for that insight and Brilliant Insight what does it mean baby steps start slowly come on what up the babies don't start slow do they they get cracking what does it mean fall good what else get up what else go again start pick yourself up persevere small increments crime no would you say cry you start young okay so how about this one as anyone in the room and this is specific to the men because I I want to see if you guys have a heartbeat any of you ever been through any sort of physical therapy before raise your end of yes four of you that's a five six six eight nine one at a time ten all of us okay now ladies and gentlemen in physical therapy right okay good right okay so the answer for those of into Physical Therapy if anyone ever had to take a physical therapy in terms of walking they don't have to do that before was it hard was it hard was it difficult it's work it's work it's work the physical therapist would be a good idea to have someone who's not only good in their knowledge of the anatomy but also as a good bedside manner that's that's a good a good person who's it will pump you up and will help you out it's very very very difficult to know how to walk walking is incredibly hard walking and talking and throwing a mic at the same time that's not simple to go ahead and do different different types of walking whatever person does this is hard but you know why we're all able to walk let me ask you guys a question imagine we were to be born as adults if every one of us were born as adults how many people do you think would be walking very few if any people do we realize how challenging it is have you ever tried to do something and failed and try it again who's done that before okay let's do this different don't resent for a moment if you have tried to do something failed and try it again please sit there staring at me stoically good okay so now we got all of you we've tried that has anyone ever tried failed tried failed tried fail tried fail tried failed not smoking anything else try failed I don't know if you've done that before is still up okay good yeah dieting yeah stop getting personal okay so the answer is how about no one said it yet walking you tried it thousands of times but you know what you kept going number one my friends just understand something that may be challenging it may be difficult this is why thank God we were born with absolutely no intelligence because none of us would be able to walk I've ever seen a video on a Sunday video I mean it was a it's a video how's that video I saw a video that uh it was a funny one from America and and there was a video of this little kid this little kid was standing I don't know everyone could see this little kid was standing on a on the floor but I'm gonna stand in the chat little kids standing there and was holding a cup of water a cup of ice it was one Ice Cube and there was a cube of ice on the floor so the kid holding the cup noticed that there's a there's a ice cube so bent over picked up the Ice Cube and put it in the cup the kid then noticed that there's an ice cube on the floor so the kid bent over and pick it and put it back off the kid then noticed that his eyes cute and the kid kept going like he was Ice Ice Baby the you know this cat the babies kept noticing the ice and I just kept doing it until eventually just passed out from exhaustion however the concept is if it just kept pushing it and pushing it and pushing it understand it because it's very hard it's not simple it's challenging but just because it's challenging we got to keep trying we got to keep moving we got to keep moving we got to keep moving I'll give you another example I play guitar I'm incredible I don't know why are you laughing and I'd like to share with you how I got to be so good so my parents had a CD player see these are compact discs they came out 1981 they went out in 97 with the Advent of the MP3 and they had a CD player and there was a feature on there called a b playback a b playback was and you still have them by the way maybe if you know what it is then you know what it is it basically Loops a certain area if there's a certain part of a song or sheer you want to hear over and over again so then you press a you press B and then it'll Loop it right so let's say I'm trying to learn how to play a song gosh you know I feel so uh this is pardon me okay pardon me okay there's a guy named Stevie Ray Vaughan okay shmuel and uh he's a gear today and he's dead now but anyway so Stevie Ray Vaughan has a song okay it's a song I can tell you what it is because you're gonna have to shut them but it's a song the first 11 seconds goes like this and I was like what just happened and I want to learn how to play the song and I'm trying to learn him like this is just crazy so I put on Luke and over and over and even I was able to get so I started looping just the first two seconds my pants threw me out I haven't spoken them since but I can play the song you see all it is is about taking something and breaking it down I want to share with you where this comes from my sister came to me many years ago and she said can you teach me how to play guitar I said sure So I sat down we sat down together you know I'm holding the guitar I give it to write now I don't know if anyone here is a hobby if anyone likes music you can see what it is but when I start playing Guitar I go in another world I'm in another world so I say okay no problem sorry take the guitar and I go in my own world after two minutes to come back down she goes that's great are you gonna teach me or no I said no anyway a couple years later I was in Yeshiva and a friend of mine asked me can you teach me a guitar I said sure we went down we started doing it I take the guitar another world I come back down I have to come back down he says to me not my sister he goes how did you get to be so good I said actually it's a good morning it's the bottom line 11 words in Rashi bottoman corner what's the gamara those who know don't say those who say don't now okay so the gamara says like this how well should you know you're learning says you should know you're learning so well that if a person asks you a question and you're learning how to get to get to get to gam game for tomorrow don't stutter and tell him rather tomerlomiyad answer him immediately you should answer immediately nailed it right away right for example what's your name say it again good excellent excellent you answered that right away very good okay um let's uh what comes after 17. nice before 32 before 32. nice 18's also before 32 but good all right 31. okay now how did you know that how did you know the 31's before 32. I know how do you know my beat s that are the numbers because you know numbers how do you know numbers what school it's cool what is the ninth element on the table of elements come on you alert it in school how do you know that 31 comes with 32 it's not just you learned it in school says Rashi in the Batman and Corner Jose [Music] we need to review them and get down into the depths of them going over and over and over you've counted so many times in your life that's like they say it's reminiscent of a story which has nothing to do with this year I just want to tell you a story the story is that that uh instead of at the film and gone these things just tell me them he said oh my rabbit the film are gone he knew Torah backwards and forwards you need to turn backwards and forwards they said rebe what's the Bitcoins you also know tore backwards and forwards he says no no no let me explain this to you okay I don't want to call anyone out here does anyone know we say a couple of times a day hopefully three times if you say three times a day can we say ashrae three times a day I'm assuming some of you know it by heart is that correct who you feel someone comfortable in ashrae okay I'm going to start I want you to I want you to help me out okay here we go okay good just give me the next word ode okay here we go um okay next word I was thinking but okay we can do that one that works also okay now now I'm gonna say a word I want you to tell me the word that goes right before it door the door right before door right before door take care good good okay what comes what comes before the word this okay good so the answer is as you see we gotta take her good what do we need to do to get fake Air we need to go back forward and then we know what back is everybody get it my rep be I know terrorists conversion forwards he's only going to a backwards and forwards you understand that's what it means we know numbers like that we know numbers backwards and forwards we're holding in them we could even do them quick two four six eight ten bam women are doing better than that but okay okay we'll get there and Santa was there like no three six nine twelve fan one two three I'll give you a chance right okay yeah so we go ahead we know these things how four three two we can do it because we've done it so many times enough time to go through it will be able to get it honestly my friend says what going over understand it's challenging it's going to be challenging it's going to be difficult but even it's going to be challenging difficult if a person pushes himself to be able to overcome it there's so much more things about this but I want to share with you at least one more idea perhaps two a quick recap one story then we're done though the uh if you want to share with you is a famous concert the based off the film and going if you want them a core please tell me I will please get back to you I heard it from one of my babe when I was learning in Yeshua called me this beautiful concept he showed it to me inside every year I ask him where it is and every year I forget so one day maybe I'll write it down but if you really want to know let me know and I'll let you know I'm a lot of each other no okay here we go based off the film again based off the family going there are four things that a person is supposed to look at every single day every single day we wake up in the morning there are four things you're supposed to look at what are they number one number one today is the only day number two you are the only person number three twwcfy and number four x as in the variable the letter X okay here we go let's break them down break it break it down here we go number one today is the only day what does that mean anyone know a little Latin night Carpe Diem little modern Latin would be yo no right but that's what carbon today's the only day if you were to understand the fact today was the only day you don't have another day what would we do with that day and not only that what would you do with it would you also think about the fact that there's no being overwhelmed oh my gosh there's tomorrow there was yes another reason there's just today there's nothing but today just today if I told you this just today then we can do unbelievable things okay I can go and I can focus and focus as they say one just today number two you were the only person what does that mean you were the only person it's up to you it's up to you good oh that's an inspired thing right you're the only person good what else does that mean no there's no other you there's no well there yeah okay let's say another you but there's something else I'm looking for there's absolutely no competition there's no competition you're the only person what does that mean come on how many times have we seen that a person does something and when they do it like oh my gosh I'm the thing if they don't why don't I do I do also right person goes here those ones the Doctor Who told me there's a whole group but this woman said that when she was in medical school she was there and there was a and there was a woman who said it's like wow this test is so hard and she's like I know and you know and this woman told me she was studying 30 pages a night for this test and she said as she's saying like oh my gosh I'm studying 30 pages a night this other woman goes I know I'm doing like 50. she goes 50. so what did she do she said it's doing 15. what happened she failed miserably someone else was learning a little more I need to learn a little more someone else is doing a little more I do a little more my friends it's a relationship with us and the Hebrews which means you're the only person there's no one else it's good to have them there to push you a little bit to move get to your own level but the bottom line don't get caught up with what they're doing is where it's also number three twwcfy2 with siffy I think that's self-explanatory and number four for the uninitiated we'll help him okay what's twwcfi good Martin 37a [Music] okay uh bishvili never Olam the world was created for you how could you this right two with sippy twwcfy the world was created for you ain't no mountain high you know the map the world was created for you which means what does it mean it's created for you that means you've got a responsibility leave you walk into your house you flip on the lights there's 50 people that go happy birthday and it's actually a birthday it's not random you're like oh my gosh thank you so much there's a cake and there's food in this you're like oh my gosh you go to the table and you take a piece of cake you say thank you and then you go to leave like where are you going you're like well I just wanted a bite to eat you know I was gonna leave I'm so sorry but this is for you which means you gotta stay now the world was created for you the mountains The Valleys the birds and the trees the beautiful wind that's blowing in the breeze it's a book I read to my wife oh my daughter so we go over here beautiful so the whole world is created for you there's a responsibility something that we must do now the number four number four the only thing that exists is X what does that mean that's a variable that depends on the person that depends on your situation if there's something that you feel like you're ready willing and able to find yourself to do a little bit better comes and says I really should work on my bracos you know what else I should work on go on a chakras you know what I mean whatever yeah what else you should also be working on your limit of toe you should also be working on your on your asset you should also be working on you should all you're like oh my gosh I should and then forget it says what number four is the only thing exists is X you take something upon yourself and you take that thing and that's the only thing you put everything else aside I think the government tells us and so it's another idea of a reference actual silica but the faster you grab too much you end up grabbing nothing to fasten you have a little bit end of grabbing take something nail that thing doesn't you can ignore everything else but this is the yoga for you don't miss anything you do that thing okay my princess number four yeah recap and then we're gonna finish it off okay here we go so we started off in the beginning how many people like the first thing you do the last page of a book why do the last page you want to see how many pages are going to be one thousand four five what do we do shut the books a little more we're gonna do it why because we get overwhelmed the things not only in terms of the idea of this class right now what I'm doing but also Intercity of Judaism we see this too much and we throw it away he says too much to do this Mission says what you got to do as much as you can what you're gonna do as much as you can but after you do more know as much as you can here's my notebook it's the best one no it's not you fail good next day huh now it's the best well I'm a gosh that'll feel great what do I do understand about a lot of my friends it's not about results about effort whereas what's the world it's about the result of the Jewish world's about result oh it's a bad effort unfortunately what happens is it's been turned into the concert we think is also about results no it isn't your only five to do whatever you're able to do some other person don't have an armor ahead they don't have to put them to fill in that's the bottom line understand this concept realize that we only have to do a bunch of videos we said in one place this account that first of the deal is a person goes down and we said don't answer the tower let's talk about the top of the rabbis right so we're going to say school right now what do you say a person is All The Advocates as much as they can comes along and says what do you do you have to kill that person most of them who's on a higher level thing who I want the answer is we don't know that my beat comes along and it says what are you talking about this one's up and down even with good things the person puts in a lot of effort but there's a little bit of result the bottom line is that the person's not higher level than a person but a little effort against a lot of results we don't care what the results it's not up to you anyway after that we get a little bit of furthermore comes and tells us above the basketball he says one person all right Ice Ice Baby Baby eyes eyes 18 19 18 19 how do you know ninth element I don't know it says what do we do bottom line how many words in 11 words in ladies very good what's going on very good yeah no shackles but good gamara skills all right so we got the colors right 113 and that's how the government that we got in the bottom particularly push it it's gonna be a little difficult four things today's only day you're the only person two is sifi and X I want to end up with one last thing we're done with this listen carefully I'm gonna ask each one of you one like each one do it on time for this man that's some of you a question you have two seconds to answer if you don't answer moves on to the next person here we go I'm gonna offer you right now if I can't because you're sitting in the front but you smile I know you have a head for this especially involved with that right here we go listen carefully I'm gonna offer you right now the chance I mean I'm not really offering this you don't even have the money I still wouldn't do it just at least that's gay right that's our record okay you understand that I will never offered you here we go I'm gonna offer you right now a check for 347 000 you will get it in one month in one month you will receive a check for 347 thousand dollars or what I will do is I'll take one penny at oh I know this one no you don't and every day if not I do any for 30 days so day one is one penny day two is two pennies day three four day four day 16. okay ready now at the end of 30 days would you rather the check for 347 000 or the value of the penny after 30 days Penny one million dollars at the penny after 30 days uh times I'll be lost at all one million dollars of the penny Penny five million of the penny five million 10 million of the penny take the money goes up to 30 days also who said 5 million in the penny who said 5 million five million of the penny who thinks 5 million who thinks the penny oh we only got one of you oh two of you okay listen carefully if you take one penny and you double it for 30 days you're not gonna believe me but check it it comes out to 5 million 368 thousand seven hundred nine dollars and twelve cents you don't believe me check it five three six eight seven zero nine point one two my friends we all look at the big pictures we want to get they want to be huge want to be unbelievable we don't realize that the small little things that we take consistently grow over time and one penny comes out to over five million thank you so much been a pleasure when I say thank you Governor Michelle bye