Regretting Vows by Rabbi Aaron Dovid Poston

[Music] welcome everyone to tonight's parsha partial class we use the clea car and it's partials motto smile say it's a double partial but we're not going to deal too much with the second part and I want to mention that tonight's class is dedicated in the memory of Yosef bear Ben Esther and kyon he's as tight as his yard site the anniversary of the passing the first passing he'd passed from this world to the next world and we want to LA to elevate his soul so we're going to do that our part through learning tonight on his behalf ok deep breath been running the whole day I'm so glad to see you on skype and here in the live audience and we'll get started so in parshas Matos that's chapter 30 of numbers we're dealing with the second verse as you know the first verse is really connected to the last chapter and we all know why the numbers existe ms off that's just another proof of that verse 2 the hope this whole beginning is really gonna be dealing with vowels and oaths the dairyman's she wrote okay so I'm gonna be a little bit relaxed and we're gonna go through this systematically it says Moses spoke to whom he spoke to the heads of the tribes of the children of Israel saying this is the thing that is that a Shem has commanded and then we're going to talk about what happens when a man takes us out to a shallow or swears an oath to establish a prohibition upon himself he it sounds like it says he may not desecrate his word which means what it sounds like he must do exactly what he said he should he was going to do he swore we made an oath not to benefit from a certain store in town or not to benefit from certain type of clothing I'm never going to wear wool or linen or cotton or something whatever or whatever it could be someone who says I'm nothing to eat anymore wheat products only rye so that thing becomes forbidden to him on a Torah level but then the next thing says according to whatever comes from his mouth he shall do at first glance it certainly seems that means he should not desecrate his word he made a vow and now because he spoke it he has to do it that's simple understanding and we'll leave it like that for the moment now what if a woman takes a vow or whether she's married or if she's single in her father's home while she's in her youth she's not married so what's the story there so if we're not gonna go through it now but we all know that if the father were the husband here's the day he hears doesn't mean he heard her say it and it doesn't mean it's the same thing she said it but apparently once he hears her say it that same day he can nullify the vow he can say it's nullified I don't agree I mean we're gonna try to deal with the mechanism behind that I mean God said it so we can just accept it but we can try to get to the bottom of what is really going on here okay so return to the clea car I did bring as attachments what we do as Jews on on Arab Rosh Hashanah I copied this from the Russia Shana moxa from the prayer book and it's called involvement of vowels everybody comes together on the morning before Rosh Hashanah and they we all know our vowels we sit in front of a court a Jewish court of three men and we'll see who these three men are and we make this declaration that all the vowels that we made and it uses a lot of different type of worst describe the things we might have said or done to make something forbidden anyway we come with me annul our vows and then ten days later on Yom Kippur the last page is Kol Nidrei this is like the holiest day of the year right right Yom Kippur and this service even the most assimilated Jews I shouldn't say the most but people that are close to being the most assimilated Jews and they all come to synagogue if it's like just one day a year that would be the day and that would be the night okay and they are doing a service called cold needs right where it's another nullification of those we're going to talk about that a little bit so let's get into the meat and potatoes of the partial so it says the da bear Moshe Arash a ham a toast God spoke to the heads of the tribes right that's what we saw so why is it so important when we deal with laws of vowels vowels without right vo WS oaths that God needs to command the heads of the tribes and then it goes on and says this is the thing I mean that's like I don't know it doesn't sound very professional to me this is the thing this is the thing so I don't know what the thing is yet right you know what the thing is that God commanded and then all the laws of ours so the first question the clear classes Maddie bear L rachet Amato's what did he actually say there's something missing here so to the children of Israel saying whatever he said to them he was telling them that they have to tell it over to the Jewish people so what was it this thing whatever this thing is that's what it is that they're supposed to tell over to the Jewish people are you guys intrigued yet I mean come on well you you were there you were in all the classes so you already have a little bit of an idea but we don't know what it is so he goes up and says da bear l Raja Matos this is what the tour is telling you Moses spoke to the heads of the tribes she young Ruiz's of our living in Israel that they should say over something the word something in the word word is the same word in other words devar Davari our does not just word or words but there are also things so perhaps that's not even hang track speak over this word tell them something tell this word tell them these words the low pay ratio died in my ya'muru Russian mottos albinius rail but you know what at this point it was not yet explained it was not yet explicit what it was that he really and that he was supposed to tell over to the children of Israel lo peor should die now you rushing about those openings are odd until when she Higgy man pushes in the darling you got to remember this is not the first year maybe it's not even the second year we don't know when this is taking place but it certainly could be taking place early on right there's no date here and we know that the tour is not necessarily in order so this information is very importantly you're in the desert for 40 years play sure ah can't wait until he tells om the whole Varsha this whole story dealing with the laws of oaths that wouldn't he tell them Shahi of Roshan might tell a more L Hanoi dare that the head of the tribes each head of each tribe is obligated to tell over to the person who's making an oath mutter la mochila what sir lux what does Motor Lodge mean it means it's permissible to you that was you took it upon yourself to forbid is now not forbidden it's permissible to you why would this whole scenario take place why would someone go to the head of the tribe and have their vowels and old good question I mean if I made a vow right I say I'm going to not eat spaghetti anymore with with the cheese then I'm out forbidden to eat spaghetti with cheese the rest of my life right but if I desire I have some like I've regret right I can't believe I said that I mean I would be a good reason right spaghetti with cheese is pretty good I mean we're talking seriously somebody so when people make vows they make those vowels with either a conscious well thought out decision or have you guys have been made vows could be when you're angry it could be when you're upset and your head is not calm you're not calm at all but you the first reactions I will never blank blank blank okay so perhaps somebody was that good let's see what the rest would see what he says zu he I'm nearest you Steve other Oshima toes this is what you should say over and command the heads of the tribes shijo group live nacho they should say to the Jewish people mucho mucho la mochila and why is that didn't we see if you look towards the end of verse 3 it says he shall not desecrate his word lo yah hail devar oh he should not desecrate his word now you know us guys these Jews in Jerusalem these Israelites they take the word really literally here so guess what this means he shall not desecrate his words but who I smell oh yah hail he himself should not desecrate his words about hareem luckily messed evarro but it is permissible and perhaps even advantage Abel advent a vegetable for others to desecrate his words meaning to release him from the vow that he took the alzumar this is what we now understand the rest of those words in that verse which says according to whatever comes out of his mouth he should do kick cold hi yoke statement peas all that comes out of his mouth who's Val the head of the tribe the wives stage who now permits it to him I mean this is absolutely fascinating without the oral law without the oral torah without a deeper understanding of what we were taught and for 40 years in the desert at the revelation you would have no clue you would you would make a vow and you'd be stuck for the rest of your life but this is the Jewish tradition I showed them before you walked in that we honored rashanna on the back page look at the last two pages we know our valves and the truth is that's just the general if one made a vow they want to get out of it they put together three people and they sit there and they another valve and on Yom Kippur we do it again in the Kol Nidrei ceremony which is the hot the highest the highest of highs the holiest of Holies it's unbelievable if you guys never been to a culinary service and with preparations back to learn about it you just your angelic your angelic I mean you pure soul you know so what is we somebody it all that comes out of whose mouth out of the sage out of the wives / people that are sitting there who say it's permissible to him they not her to him Kenya I said that's what he should do and that's how to read it in la calle Omaha tear meaning that based in doesn't automatically say it's permissible they evaluate the situation they have to understand a lot more than what I'm able to tell you now but basically we're trying that we're trying to find out if the person understood all the consequences fully understand stood what he was doing when he forbade something upon himself okay we talked about youth talk back a few weeks ago and he said exactly the words right now but whatever comes out of my house first will die or I'm gonna make a Corbin to a sham and unfortunately it was his daughter and he could have he could have a note the Val okay he didn't but that's an example how tragic it could be you know I mean if you're trying to lose weight and you say you know I'm never going to eat X again and you're helping for your life but you realize that if you make a mistake once you gets called a sig because you added to the memory there's another problem you have to do with the Torah itself says you know how to add to the Torah you know I'm subtracting the Torah and yet what did I do I added something to my life I added a mitzvah right I've added a command a law a restriction that deterrent did not but the turn allows it to happen we know that by in nausea someone who says I'm gonna be holier I have a drug addiction I have an alcohol problem or I have a vanity issue and I want to fix it the general rule is we always want to go to the sentence or the best way to live your life is along the center but for some reason if I swung my pendulum too far to one extreme the Rob says how do you get to the center which is the goal to live a very sensitive balanced life I have to go to the other extreme in order to come back to the middle the goal is the middle one day you meet me anyway so here we go that's to go so if I have an issue with any of these things I may have to in order to fix myself but a regular eval usually is thirty days at least by Anna's here and there's other types of Valve's that if you didn't specify or you did specify it's gonna be much longer okay so that's how we start off we start off with totally realizing we don't know what the Torah is even talking about according to a we read it without a Miss or without an oral tradition clears day everybody great so verse three says each door Ned their lash and notice that the word where the the root of Ned there is used twice so because it's used twice the Clea car in his typical fashion will sell will tell us there are two types of vows okay each key doing nether last chef as we read in the English if a man can't take some valve but that's not really but it says in Hebrew each is a type of a man key T do it Ned Elijah okay so I have a mistake with my copy but it means T Tornetta okay fine so that that word is used twice so what do you want he wants to tell us snake meaning the darn game there are two types of those key had no idea Picasso there's a type of the valve where someone would swear out of anger loss or a lot smoke is a dove are to forbid upon himself something Nandor Zed ain't no law Hashem this type of vow is not a vow to God a meal a chef what kind of Valley is attentive it's not to a chef the doctor-ish key you do Kazu ish only when the person is acting like a human being a man you know what I mean I'm not talking about male female talking about a human being only when a man when you're acting like a human being that's when you that type of us an oath that type of eval meaningly you shabba not oh then I'm calm of spirit and of mind that's when we call now if you go to by ikura chapter 5 verse 4 so you can find that in this source sheet that's number 2 it says or if a person swears expressly with his lips to do harm were too good too good whatever a man this is the point whatever a man may Express didn't know so who expresses oath men human beings if you swear out of anger what are you are you a human you acting like an animal right this is what he says because it says when a man how Adam Bishop who are the who know their the Hashem it's only a man that could make an oath to a shell of all had no idea Picasso but someone who makes this type of an o'the bow out of anger may ask a cost-per-click a coelom you knew us after we read this verse in Ecclesiastes 7:9 it will become even more clear to us ecclesiastical II don't be quick with your spirit to become Roth what's Ross anger let's look at the Hebrew out of a hand the rucastles ah because the click oh why why anger he casts the heat concealing you do us for wrath lies in the booth fools back to sneeze thank you so much I love the blessings do not be hasty with your spiritual not for wrath right anger lines lies in the bosom of fools so he wants to tell us at this point that e/m cane ain't no ish if you're angry you're not a human you're not a man but what are you then Ning show up to the Hema you're compared to an animal okay guys it's getting heavy you know like his life changing right we're gonna change our lives we're not gonna get angry anymore right so the rabbi's tell us the the rat oh they're here so here's another interesting idea that you cannot swear it doesn't work - swear to forbid anything that you already accepted upon yourself at Mount Sinai for example if I swore right now never to eat pork it's a both in vain it's a it's a valve that's meaningless why cuz I already swore three thousand three hundred years ago you can't like episode you know if I swear right now I'm not in the spaghetti with cheese and then ten minutes later I mean another swear I'm not you know Noth I'm not gonna eat spaghetti with cheese what happened the second time I was like what are you doing you just made the other five minutes ago but it was no avoid you made it again it was absolutely nothing it was worthless so I can't take a vow to keep the Torah because I'm already locked in to that valve that I made three thousand three hundred years ago to keep stuff in that amazing guys okay so where are we so cuz I'll actually tell us listen to this I mean what do we think about people who take valves and fulfill them right we think of them as like hey you like the man you made this out and you followed through you should get a medal isn't that how do we think the Gomorrah the oral torah tells us soccer big news had no idea that the rabbis denigrate we have the better word they don't look highly upon people who make vows in fact you know what they say and this is we're going to investigate the one who makes about Shahi know they're the one who makes the valve keel ooh bummer bummer it sounds like Obama but it's as if they built an altar a high place for themselves okay the word Bob it's sound like Obama doesn't it okay anyway it's as if they built a altar a high place for themselves and wait didn't finish there that goes on it says the I'm the kymo and one who actually fulfills his vow nobody gonna say give the badge of honor no he Lou hickory of eleven it's as if he offered a sacrifice upon it no what's the problem with that wouldn't you say anybody who builds an altar and built a sacrifice on it he's a good guy give him the Medal of Honor no because once we had the Tabernacle established a certain place and once we built the temple it became forbidden for a Jew now a non Jew can still build an altar and make sacrifices to God in fact my friend Yom Tov Glaser he said to me what if I woke up tomorrow and found that wasn't Jewish the first thing I do is build an altar sacrifice to God and then convert back that's what he said you know most people say I go out get a cheesesteak Philly cheesesteak a cheeseburger eat some pork some shellfish I don't know he said no I'm gonna go out and serve a chef in a permissible fashion like a nod you would do build an altar to a chef make a sacrifice and then convert beautiful right so what's the problem here so the problems like this that once the the altar is established in a place everybody has to come to Jerusalem you can't put your own barbecue in your backyard and make sacrifice you can make you know July 4th special all-you-can-eat whatever right you can do that right that's not it's ok that's not okay my god not just not Jewish well we have a lot of gratitude for the Constitution that I stays in that they gave you know it's to hundreds and some years for Jews to live the freedom but they're all coming home they're already so what do we see here we see that it's problematic that's why they're saying that it's a degradation it's actually problematic we could dilute ride the Durant and he wants to bring a proof to their words if you look at Rashi Rashi brings down it says over here's a hot tub are I mentioned to you already where it says this is the thing what thing what does it mean remember we said it means the bar means our work but there's a thing called a Gazzara shop it's one of the 13 Harman neuticle principles and if I may say x2 Jesus that's the 13 heart of the prison of principles that's what's coming and one of them is a Gazzara shop what's a gazelle Charlotte it has to be learned through tradition not something that we did with Strong's Concordance but we have a tradition from our rabbi who learned it from his rabbi all the way back to the mouth night that this word appears here in Tanakh in the Torah the five books and this word appears in the five books and even though they're not related and the paragraphs don't even seem to relate to each other even in contact there's a related haha there's something real something shiet something related to here to there and vice-versa so if that's true he's saying over here in our partial partial tomahtoes that deals with Nadar eve and it says a devar and guess what sacrificing offerings outside of the temple if you go to leviticus 17 verse 2 which should and three with you go to your handout and it's number four it also it talks about there but shoot a hoots by it's a sin to offer for a Jew once the temple is built once the tabernacle had found the resting place this is forbidden to offers to slaughter an animal and to offer it up on an altar outside of the main compound where the tempo or tabernacle is and how do we say look at the verses Leviticus 17 to the three speed to our to his sons and to all the children to visual Saints then this is the thing you only have to place in the whole tour this is the thing and it's right here the word commanded saying any man of the house of Israel who slaughters an ox a lamb or a goat inside the camp that's not we're as good as outside the camp so there's if you look at the whole verse let me bring all verse too long here the whole paragraph you'll see that it's forbidden so you see that there is a COS arishok okay you know the kaziri shop is now you do I just told you it's where you have one word here one word there and they compared the rabbi's compared to two for halal purposes but it has to be from tradition and should alone it's not that I look through the cords on my L decide although the fleet car here is going to make his own kazeer show but I know I know the only reason he's bringing it because he calls it because there's a shovel but you'll see what he says he says the oh man I need now the clear car begins to speak you know what I'm gonna tell you don't me now me not you can learn one thing from the other Marla how and Baba just like over there it says what I say over there we're talking about that first we just read buzz Kazaa he's making like a rabbinic Azir so but he calls it one okay so it's like in other words an imaginary one that you could use your you know intelligence to come up and realize it's not a real Cazares shava but because it's not handed down but he saw it and what does he see we're talking about in Kazaa they say it's you it's you make the oath it's like you're making a bomb a bomb is a high place if you look in Isaiah 222 it says withdraw yourselves from a man whose breath is in his nostrils now who's that talking about it's talking about someone who's angry whose breath is in his nostrils cheap move look at the word look at min how other stop yourself cease yourself withdraw yourself from the man i sharing the shower the oppo whose anger why keep mad next shovel it's real diverse test like it's a question what does he consider what is he actually considered but if you look at the civilizations issue change the valves kiba mahu Nietzsche who he can see the man out of this anger he's gonna be right stay away from him because he made himself into a bummer it's as if he made himself into a high place you see now and look at Rashi on that verse we draw yourselves from that not to heed those who cause you the street from following me by whose breath is in his nostrils whose entire life instructor depend upon the breath of his nostrils which is a fleeting spirit it hit today and leaving in tomorrow surely the image of the molds and bats have no substance this is the explanation I think I want you to see we draw yourselves from all the evil ways and learn from a man who has a sold as nostrils have you seen to what he is esteemed surely the image of his handiwork is of nasty okay sex has many levels of meaning but I wanted to do the show to show you that that's one particular meaning okay now we're back in the text and he says Marla hollered bomber just like over there you have the word bomber so to hear Afghan bomber meaning keiki shuttle de foods anybody that slaughters outside of the temple outside of the compound it allowed to continue ordering hi don't mock breathe mama mama did you know what you're doing if you're slurring somewhere and offering up an altar that's called slaughtering on an altar outside the temple Zeb da bar so to now we have the words and of our that's speaking here about someone who swears makes a note and we're referring to him the DA bear mockery the mama words if we're saying that he's also the one who makes the oath is also building his own altar and his annoyed dome Aquila but Obama and that's why since I was able to say that one who makes this oath this is as if he builds himself an altar now that's just laying the groundwork when he says Thomas shall devour who it means he's going Alam a level deeper the reason to the matters like this she yard how tireless South Dawson know there that what falls in the end what comes to be in the end of the Torah the Torah is revealing really what's happening in the maliciously is the word the means is truth what comes down the truth is showing you in the end what was originally on the mind of the person who made the oath so if he actually fulfills the earth we're gonna see it means that he was of calmness of mind and spirit when he made it and we'll see what that attitude he must have had whereas if someone was with with a attitude of anger a feeling of anger what happens when we all get angry we all have shame and regret I can't believe I said that I can't believe I acted that way right I never would have I shouldn't and that means a healthy regret that's part of the true the process right when we repent and then you can go to the rabbi's and half you are dead there at alt I shouldn't say no because we really see everything I'm nollie is it no it isn't no this what's up here okay what I'm trying to say one one is I think it don't means as if it never happened that's a fear that's afar whereas the mightier is releasing you are breaking the need to continue in that way fine so he says what happens at the end it's like the token the falls into the jukebox or the phone it reveals to what happened then you can make the connection he who are you sure Optima wouldn't he do he forbade upon himself Masha Cola or love no hugging boat head when someone makes this valve he's forbidding upon himself something that's permissible to everyone else in the world everyone can have spaghetti and cheese except for someone who's lactate intolerant right everyone can have it unless you're Flay shake oh yeah they have pills right okay but what you're doing by doing that what are you doing he says Mustafa room the Volvo he see of Nicola ADA Bedell most likely what's happening this is a psychological insight that the person is so elevating himself he is such a haughtiness about it such an arrogance that he's raising himself above the congregation and separating from them you have the whole world the congregation the community here and this guy everyone's going out for spaghetti and cheese and he's left at home you know why because he can't have spaghetti of cheesy made about right he's separating himself the tour permits you something whatever it is and everyone is doing it or it allowed to do it and you have now separated yourself from everybody and you even vent in the law which is not a problem sir allows you okay to forbid something you'd like you added another Mitzvah another issue the Torah already gave you enough forbidding forbidden things and you add it to the list he's telling he's telling us the psychology behind a person that does this his arrogance the hugs yet at swim in a cloud he removed himself from the group from obvious Ralph from the general population hooba Darrin's there and in this fashion motilal Russian kazow we find the rabbi's speak this way for example in the second-leg EAGA the gamora 22a Chelonia color hot haiku bowing at blummo lots mo it's not proper that each person just go and build their own altar for himself he calls the derrick gaya the god this is the way of the haughty commotion because I like in Gomorrah SOTA uses a very same language Kiko me she H Bo Gus to throw rock anybody who has this course spirit in this sense we're talking about a funny spirit it's key lyubimov AMA it's as if he built an altar for himself and looking Isaiah and now you understand also part of where he came up with that thing as their shava but look in Isaiah 2 verse 22 us we did that already okay to go back to the verse again because the word he blew remember the word people look em in the other is that the worst yeah it says over there ah we read that already but he says that this is what the good more actually says I think I discussed this before with you guys there's a thing called a Cree and a Katif the way it is read right we have the Tanakh we read we know grammar right God taught us grammar he told us how to read it he taught us how to read it and there's word the weights right sometimes they don't jive even though it's written grammatically in one way we may find ourselves because of the masoor that we received at the revelation to read it differently which means they're both correct but they there's more than one meaning in the word the way it's written has one meaning and the way it's read has another meaning this is like you cannot do this unless you have the oral torah okay so he says this is where we got the word bombette he says don't read the word Bob man as we we see right there it's number nine on your source sheets for in what did man Bob man means in what but read it as an altered Bhama and now read the verse as he says seat yourself away from a man whose breath is it or not isn't nostrils because but not the word esteemed Nick Shaw could mean esteem but really means considered the word consent he considers himself a hot place try to hum that whole idea of this arrogance you fellow okay so back to the clear context and he's using that verse and he says I'll Tikrit bomb man Ella bummer and what's the relationship first of all not Indian had got rough l have been a bummer how do you relate this person with arrogance to building a high place I mean for me it's kind of obvious but if you didn't get it he says allah wahda she meets at gospels ruth law who bunted bomber lots me from the ass certainly from the aspect of his haughty spirit he built this bum up which we says the high place for himself the saint bought them dhamma russian Guevara he actually has to tell us the word bomber means a high place in every day in every synagogue do you have a place where the Torah is read from it's like a mound right and we call it the bomber it's the Bema the Bema isn't also in there Jeremy it's similar so you have that also the Bema is the bomber is the high places we put the safe return you read from it it's like a big standard it's a big table the OPA Derek gave the gun look toward the board obama and we know that same attitude the way of i'll use the word extreme haughtiness extreme arrogance is commonly found by that person that builds dis baba this high place mutsig amin Deuter this is also commonly found in people who make these valves k mastaba to run at all most likely his intent when he made this oath kadai she had mu socks the Hassid faroush yes he wanted to strengthen himself in a very pious and a separate type of way want to separate himself ah that could be a positive thing but not always ish muffin loma however there is a place to add a statement to say this no idea de casa yo kiosk the one who actually swears next Oh in his anger he must stop at the castle load escabi the show the shame Uehara he's bringing it down out to earth in a very clear psychologically that if most likely it's you made this vow in anger your intent was not out of arrogance who's that a banker arrogance and anger with sorry I tell the colic being that no he didn't be took issue had that will Bain had no idea Picasso remember originally said there are two types of oaths this type he says this oath you have to divide into two different categories one type is where you made this Val with in a calm mind and spirit and the other is where you made this Val in a fit of anger well the mad heydo a though he was a Hanoi to join me Laguna by bolo and how do we know member if you are one of the judges who are going to release this person or your sorry just want to know how do we know the difference between somebody who swore out of anger or out of a calmness of mind qiyam Neda Picasso vada a notable aboard Obama his claim here is that only if you were out of anger you made the valid of anger then you're not considered like the person who made this altar and then it says what about fulfilling it right you may be the Val I'm in your fulfill it we said it's even worse it's like you're doing a slaughtering oven and a Corbin outside of the temple compound and the kymo Keeler hickory of all their Hall not to sin the move off he wants to give the clear a clear sign regarding this and what is that and this is a statement he called Masha Allah I see me talk cast anything that a person does behave performs out of anger mastaba cachaça motto ball d-day Korat to the aid of the chi mouth if he did anything out of anger as soon as he's able to calm down and the rat has left he comes to a state of regret and he will not fulfill he doesn't intend to fulfill he's not interested in fulfilling but he swore when he was angry that's because he has regret Ella Heartlake Ella haka but what he should do he should go to the sage he should go to the court to baste in shiatsu low and they should release him from his vow that's why it says even who knowing their main of Makai mo if a person made an oath and doesn't fulfill it L initial almitra he has no intent to Phillip God asked the rabbi's about your oath vada Picasso Ned there don't realize and you realize yourself that it was with an anger that you made it Miha rate and you have a proper healthy regret the odds ain't doing the killing but Obama this is not a case where you build a falter for yourself as cause I'll say this is in South 95 11 oh I don't wear this number six I should be Spidey VRP Enya balloon al Medusa for which reason I swerved my wrath that they would not enter my resting place okay so what did we see from here I shared this spot to be opti God Himself swore in anger and what is his regret right dick wrap your head around that one right for which reason I swore my rat they would not enter my resting place and yet we have so if you swear out of anger it can be released you see that Teddy right he can release himself the a penis body in my anger member aft is knows it same expression the word cost does never appear by God by the way it's not real cops God never has anger cos he has expressions of anger the nose we say that right the wrath is a heating up or a facial expression were right heat coming out of the nose but it's not cos notice that so he says not only did I did I I was angry in my oath the society cachaça came up when he calmed down right he had this the release of all on the kinda but someone who fulfills it the anal bullied this errata he doesn't come to any type of regret he might have had me fulfilled it the a known issue Allah he never went and is not interested in asking the rabbis to release it so for more kkeok shirataki sure nay their unit proves that proves the end but he originally had in the beginning when he made the earth the hasta octo iturra showroom the Volvo so that the tour is concerned for him for anybody who's going to become so arrogant they leave they meet the zoo that have come to this harm of character trait Sherlock are kept at mulecada care that he's gonna hand go ahead and take himself all the way to a different character trait that's not healthy it's to an extreme I can join the queue addictive allowed that's why it's morning you not only did you make the the valid is like building your bond but then you antenna you fulfilled that you've been anything you did and you slaughter the product and what's happening the chemo right the fulfillment of the vow is gamma dot oh it shows you what he really had in mind for the very beginning commotion crop up tackle Athenian Obama remember when he built that bomber that he built that high place what his real intent was when we make a vowel out of anger our intent is not to fulfill it we never had and we have regret then we go we get a release but the guy who had a calmness of mind of spirit totally like research and then made this Val he's truly elegant his intensity is truly are his intent was to fulfill it what do you mean why is cos out telling us the purchaser never made the nether in the first place ah once you make the nether you should do it perhaps.perhaps we're talking about the attitude and making knitted together why does the no sir well thought out and they've might have been the most healthiest thing he is an alcoholic he's like thirty days uh what do they call it I forget what they call it culturally it's gab they call - off the truck something like that off the road I don't know I can't read your lips I do it I don't you say it's up off the donkey nobody's talking about okay that's because I'll does not when you make it to begin with and therefore they go ahead and explain it as not only building Obama was for sacrifice there's no massive shamayim are and this is what's brought down in the Gemara says SHM well okay so thank you very much for your input now let's see what's more for the good more has to say yeah and he says call had no there anyone you know this Kumar right it's where is it he doesn't bring it down I guess so - or Anika so he says : no I dare anybody that makes a bow I mean you gotta be like sitting down for this like it's really hard to believe right but this is our Alto Russia anybody makes the Val is called evil micro we want to know why is he called evil now go to Deuteronomy 23 23 I actually wanted to bring it context so I quoted 20 through 22 to 24 but a Deuteronomy there's number seven when you make a vow to the Lord your God you shall not delay in paying it the blood your God will demanded of you it'll be counted as in for you diversity wants you to see just leave just one verse but if you refrain from making vows you will have no sins the next verse observe and do it is emitted from your lips just you have pledged to the Lord your God as is donation which you spoken with your mouth but that one verse in the middle just out of context in context however you want to look at the key tip thou the door anybody who ceases from making a vow lo Epica hence there will not be a new sin what is what's the inference anybody that doesn't cease from vows is a sinner we have a nickname for sinners we call them evil rishonim Russia okay it's pretty hard to swallow but this is the Word of God what can you do are you I'm saying heavy stuff and it's also written yeah skip something therefore he's want to say y'all Fenian cobbler cobbler we saw that depress the verse over there with baba we also have the verse we just read here because the verse here that I highlighted was keep check it out Linda when you cease from making it edit so he says keep textile over here and over there and job it says oh here's another verse it's in job number three chapter 3 verse 17 and what does it say they're the wicked cease from anger shop receive godly Rochas so the wicked they're the wicked cease from anger but the work hot blue the word cease so there is to go there something saying those who says Neera bomber it seems you can say Dean do me no me not you can do the same thing in like because he Rishabha mala a lot just like over there that had lotta rogue has missed ie when you cease from anger if you're angry you're not a Russia is when you cease from anger you're Russia you see you see what he's saying when you're not angry you make the valve you're Russia when you're angry you make the valve you're not a Russian you have to rot there you have regret you go get it taken care of I've Cod best god lot that row guess so - you have the same thing where someone's making the both not from anger he ain't no Russia keep open said the only time you're gonna be 1/4 Russia is when you cease from anger since of our thought the rock zu already sees the anger I thought P Kane who aren't made beneath throw nevertheless he still stands in his mouth they ain't initial Olaf and he doesn't try to get rid of it and release from it and what happens then eagle of mill cinema Freya it is a revelation retro actively what is original tent was when he made the valve should lomito castañeda he was a sound mind and body when he made that up Kika varnished aw she was mad Carlotta her Reagan's because even if he was angry but now he's not already past and remains a certain amount of time that he could have ceased from his anger in the end so he's not angry and he's still holding by but he made them out that's called a Russia al-zahra ma chambre show him there is evil meaning to say who nikla Russia he's called a Russian kisser table Rogan when his anger is Cece swing being angry okay they made him the gamma ray in came vada I mean Toki show the dust if that's the case certainly when the man the person made the oath with a calmness of mind and spirit can they live knows bomb alarm oh he did it in order to build a high place for himself alkane and the kind moneka Russia that's why when he fulfils it he's called Russia Coderre gamma gamma this is a way of an arrogant person and now he says I need my seafood Cazares oh I am going to add another because there shava Laila if Cutler zoom in ad learned from the Word of God the ceasing from when we saw before he blew the seminar them cease yourself from being around people I shared neshama be Appa who who's angry why I keep them up Don my next shop because he considers himself like Obama and then over there Mulholland dama after can't okay Zosia work on that we understand when it says over here you do intend Elijah it says when a man will make a vow to God a double language about should each been Negro the she piped ATO me talk ish Allah das nether when he was a man but he was calm in his oath where he had a calmness of spirit and it was within a sensible time he wasn't angry he made the vow regarding this the tourists coming to tell us could call her yoke Sidney Pythias said according to all that comes out of his mouth he should do he aimed scythe of lava leave there Kurata because if the person was of calmness of mind would it be say it's gonna happen he's gonna do it he's gonna fill it so he must fulfill once he gets in the position where it's too late he wasn't angry so yeah he's gonna end up fulfilling it because he doesn't have any regret but will be saved the guy was neither meto cos he made thee know the vow a damag er the who are Mar de lugar said he just spoke but he is not going to end up doing it why because he the son Felicia all off cachaca Matt oh he's going to go to the rabbi's win his anger his comp down the young bear and he says Nandu I said Brett when he makes a vow to God that excludes the match later the sugar ah this excludes anybody that how do you read this he didn't make the oath the vow for the sake of arrogance to build himself Obama but rather he swore for the sake of God and that was the other type of law now we said that Gloria how de barro he should not desecrate his own words and we mentioned that others may others may what even the word desecrate like necessarily the word desecrate let's what has he translated he uses the word desiccant the word how like there's a couple levels of it we call the intermediate is called her mind and after Shabbos we say you know they coalition us all ho means mundane and as opposed to Kadosh it doesn't always mean desecrated but when you're taking something out of a holy status right and the blurred holy means separate and then call could mean mundane meaning it's like for everybody it's not separate you could turn off the air future call to do an Asia tour with the groups from college came and it was really they weren't dressed very modestly we need to turn up the air and they already asking we all have we just happened to have a bunch of shirts in the closet they luxp shirts and that we passed about okay anyways back to the good old day about I carried my Ceylon davara in other words others may make mundane he made them holy he made some separate so I know if desecrate is really the only definition here but understand the word is more mundane it could mean mundane but it could mean desecrate table hot tuna Doreen be a feed Musa you know that the reason that you can go to have your nether release right you can go to one sage who's an expert on the bowels or three heavy out at Yoga Shaniqua based it or three regular people now normally a big stick consists of real judges that know the laws and and they can't be related to each other and they can't be related to any of the litigants but when you are coming to release your balance they can all be brothers and they can even be your brothers that law does not apply their own olla maybe Mahabharat bah-bah-bah now what we're learning this idea if the father and the son also they don't need another base than their one person there one person we're going to compare them to the basement in other words normally you have a choice you want to get your valve released you can either go to one real rabbi or three friends okay but something related isn't but so what the Father or the husband they're related in normal kick and he is gonna be his the same ability as a basement because he's going to annul the vel and we're not reading it now but if you go through as we've said in chapter 30 the rest of it in the beginning has to do with the the father and the husband what is the mechanism that gives them the writer the ability to release or in this case and since without never happened listen to this he shamed haha bow just like we know that the husband and the father can release Locati hbr them the ha fear the tour itself says they have the ability a single person who's even your relative they can annul the valve meantimes should call each a parachute Bala Ober issues of the ax now before I translate this I want you to know it's not what it sounds like okay the reason is that every woman is in the authority under the authority or in the possession of her husband or the authority or possession of her father now what does that mean let me try to explain it outside my daughter decides I'm no longer wearing polyester clothes I don't like them I'm gonna make an oath no way I've never forever putting on polyester clothes and now I have to buy her all silk I have to buy a whole new wardrobe don't you think before she made that vow she should have asked me as her father who is buying her all-new silk or Europe or her husband so of course a marriage contract takes place and the woman is really it's for her protection and he's telling her that he's going to take care of her so it's almost a character you don't you think that you should go to the person taking care of you first before you decide to go on and all stealth diet and you can't get into town you have to go all the way to Lakewood or wherever to buy special kosher sifted spelt flour right he would say so this is what he says in koktebel yodel I saw Theodore look at ina built T husky matam she can't do anything greater small without a yeast getting the permission or the agreement of some who she's financially dependent on the DOMA kilo history Schatz had made there it's as if try to imagine as if at the moment she makes the oath there's already conditioned binding that they have to agree the husband or the father remember the Torah says it okay so we're explaining so don't shoot the messenger okay because she ain't at my scheming and where they don't agree as Lima Freya but tell her nether me Cara so if they don't agree that she made is null void and worthless because it was conditioned in her mind even if it was weak or subconsciously she understood he missed Amma about Dimitra because she understood that it was on their agreement that that would because who else is paying for the the whatever is she's asking for okay lynda.com right that is if the the vow was with their agreement and they knew that alkane cold ish mr. ale ready this is the Whammer guy every Jew male or especially talked about now but every Jew is within the authority under the authority of the court that's easy once you swallow this then you get it right the court is and this way you know we're thinking about either converse they come they have to go through the based in the based in is God's representative on earth there are representative all the clyde show you can't get thirteen million people to welcome you it would take it a long time to go through the whole life I'll shake your hand right it would take a long time no see we said represented this represents welcome you they accept you so to here you have the the base did on earth they're accepting so they're actually we when we make our oaths we're under their authority we can't do anything without their permission either and even more so little woman gets married she says I'm agreeing right the the whole marriage ceremony is not I'll pass the laws of Moses and Israel it's not just the law of Moses it's the law of Moses and Israel all the different customs that have been accumulated and laws that have been accumulated since the revelation about Sinai so you get it that's the base thing so everybody is under the law of the base dense right the basin says today we're gonna fast we're off the fast they say you know what we don't like the cartel fish is too expensive we're gonna say you don't have to eat fish anymore let's bring the price down right it's forbidden to sell fish or buy fish or whatever I mean the basin has Authority the Jewish Court has Authority that's not it right in fact I heard that in America they were nominating a new Supreme Court judge so there's Authority right they claim that the whole Constitution wouldn't work without them okay so the way Israel works right God says have a saint Hedren right whatever you have a doubt go up to the place I chose and go and ask them whatever they say you should do if they tell you to go left go left go right go you have to follow them that's what the verse says guys you're familiar with with the Torah Lucca Shana musky me okay I know I skipped something : no I did on the kilo hustle of his shots an ED there I'm an ostrich given based an email so any one of us not just the females with their husbands and their their fathers but any one of us makes a vow it's with the permission of the authority the base then they have to agree to because you ain't a mosque in mecca and then the big Carl and if they don't agree it's uprooted and now we understand part of the mechanism you go before the base then you can understand how it works they if they don't agree the colossi mukha Nikola baseman any individual professional judge that he himself the one judge is called a basement that's all you need and coach no shahenda your thoughts but three familiar people three regular people that's a basement how can be on Omaha Technodrome the nomnom innocent and it's within their ability oh my god is amazing when it granny guys you gotta be putting on your seat belt seat belt it's within their ability to release you from your sin to prevent you from doing a sin you write the guy he decides after he saw the basement he's gonna he's gonna had that spaghetti with the cheese ten minutes ago it was forbidden from the Torah and now he's going out he's got this desire it's totally permissible they saved him from sin he code no they're Nick Rock later ready for this Deuteronomy oh we did this very 23:23 right everyone who makes an ED there is called the sinner as it says in Deuteronomy 23 23 all who refrained from sit from Oh from valve there will not be sin in him okay well Masha Baba below shinja Farah right huh Farah is a annulment the awesome but where it comes to the sages it's it's just the language waha cheer which is hotter ah which is a release the fish are you go to shoes Bolivia lab we must place rubber shoes taste it it just happens to be coincidentally not everyone but just married women young women who are married because since a woman is more within the authority under the authority of her husband or her or her father then what a regular Jew is under the basement so you have a little difference keep this in mind there's an annulment so and there's a moment and there's a release i'll came here blush in her Moira a Beatle haneda me Cara that's why by the father and the the husband the language reflects a relief a Nick not a release a negation of the vow from its very origins keloid a sharp nether claw as if the nether never even took place but the language of release reflects the light right something was mayor Oliver shine SFO it reflects something that was permissible was forbidden upon someone once from the very beginning for at least a period of time though to Easter who time and that forbidden thing became permissible in other words when the father the husband releases the Val it's because it never happened remember it's the moment it says in the Torah the day they hear it it never took effect whereas you you know a regular guy goes to the basement he's getting released because it took effect and now he wants to be released from it and you see the difficulty fara and all as if it never took place and Torah is a releasing those Easter who Turkey in a move on Nico Clarke fight ok anyway the whole or the bottom line it always comes down to Kurata Kurata is regret and if you have regret it's a great opportunity for true repentance and to change your ways and come a new person and be truly again [Music]