Rosh Hashanah is Tomorrow ,Rabbi Benzion Twerski

okay everybody welcome to tonight's amazing share we are here tonight the night before shoshone uh tonight is shir number 72 from the let's get real program with coach menachem berenfeld thank you for coming i know uh most people probably watching this while they're making the filter fish and getting ready with the with the with all the preparations but we really thank everybody coming we know it's a hard night and uh we really want to get the physique before going into a shauna tomorrow and we're very good to have rabbi you've been seeing turkey here from with us so let's get started again i want to start off with thanking everybody who comes on every week and posting it on their statuses emailing their friends telling people that every sunday night we have a share amazing speakers our abundant therapist so please continue spreading the word and giving people the physique to come on and helping so many so many people for those who are watching the the the video on youtube please click 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speaking but it's going to be an amazing program and as usual it's going to be deep and meaningful and we're looking forward for everybody to come again and let's start off with opening with our host coach manathan open it up thank you thank you welcome everyone to another show tonight it is literally 24 uh less than 24 hours before hashona we have this host to have with us rather than seeing last time when he came on the feedback was um overwhelming the positive overall um feedback with um understanding yiddishkai the mitzvahs and i think before hashanah a lot a lot of people get into that mode of trying to figure things out trying to understand trying to connect and um it's it's a big surprise to have him here tonight i think many people would have to um in a way start fresh as if they've never fell or seen rosh hashanah because what happens is we come in with a preconceived notion all of the ideas that we have all the years and then some people feel a little bit lost there are many people who don't really have much questions basically whatever they did the past few years they will do this year also and i believe those people are probably not here tonight but a lot of people when when you tell them today is the day rosh hashanah and in a way it's back and forth you know we are scared what are we supposed to do and then you know you should be thankful for the year that you had until now which i think it's a time that we need to make shakhianov we're all here sitting here and hopefully healthy and yes there was a lot of things going on the past year but there were a lot of negativity but there were positives also and now when we're going into the new year how what should we do different am i doing the right thing and then people start feeling guilty the thoughts come up and uh they can get a little bit lost it's a horror could have a big choice and put people in anxiety and basically can't do they can't do much anyways because they are so anxious but there's one thing that i believe everybody agrees that what our avoider is to find one area where whatever it is everybody knows where they should try to get a little bit better and take something very very small that's what they all say because what we really what we want is we want to become a topic today and change everything today and see the results now and that's why many people um after a while give up because it's not happening now not it's not changing or changing everything today you have to do things slowly and a little bit at a time so that it sticks and it's just like in the chinook they say you you know it's your child let him grow up it has to grow just like a plant you're planting a tree there's no way you can plant that seed and say i want to see the tree now it doesn't work so the same thing everybody is masculine and that's really the question where and how so amit hashem hopefully tonight we'll be able to get out a little bit of a more of an idea to help no matter what level you are if you're a bahrain shiva young girl or shidduchim um right after marriage or maybe 50 years old 60 everybody needs to everybody's looking everybody wants everybody in their area to find that small thing where they can connect and feel that they're growing and they should be able to tell themselves that they're growing because if in your mind you don't see you don't feel then it doesn't last too long so thank you rabbit works for being with us tonight and admits hashem hopefully will have the inspiration everybody where they need it to grow and together come into rosh hashanah with a new perspective in mitsushim that's a beautiful opening okay let's get into tonight's chair um okay tonight's cheer i just want to mention that nathan started writing the first series of the book rabbit whiskey in the first book don't worry we're going to send you the manuscript first but uh we started writing the first book it's the first 40 year of coach and a lot of people donated chapters really appreciate that we're trying to put it together hopefully we'll be put together about six months anybody else who wants to donate a chapter or any part of it it's every share it's a small synopsis a little the opening and some of the questions and we're doing the first 40 tonight share number 72 so uh we're ready up to book two so uh it should be amazing please reach out to coach minaj from gmail.com for any details and information now let's get into tonight's shirt tonight's share it's going to be again something special it's a rosh hashanah we would like to have been seeing torski here as we say if somebody comes back a second time right it's usually a good sign it's roberto obviously we love you we want you to come back thank you for coming again before we before we're going to start we're going to do tonight's show the booker um i i i saw under somebody status a video of him and a family member is friends of mine and i just saw the video and brought me to tears just thinking about all the things that happened this year so i wanted to dedicate this year of the mordecai silverberg was obviously tragic tragically killed in yeshiva little monster over two weeks ago not such a long time ago and he was an amazing boy and um the story is like still you know shocking against claudia's role and i think now ever shawna with such a big share has met hundreds of people here and the thousands of thousands of people that are going to hear it to be music from it let's let it be a mushroom so first we're going to ask uh an antivirus to speak for literally a minute or two and then we're going to play a video and then we'll go back to roberto so can um the ant are you on yes i am right here is yours the video that you thank you the video that everyone is about to see gives you a very small glimpse into my nephew shmelly silverberg and the tremendous carbon that we had to give this year arab rosh hashanah the video that you're about to see takes place on purim in denver yeshiva a few years ago shmuley was inspired by his uncle ellie grossman who told him that perm could be a time of great alia and it doesn't only have to be being high on wine it could be high in torah and shmuley was always someone who jumped on board whenever he heard of something nice do to grow and to become a better person and he loved the idea and he went with it and every year since then he would make on purim when everyone around him was high he would get up and he would make a see him in yeshiva on the the most amazing part is when he finished he would always make sure his mother and father were on the phone and he would thank them thank you mommy thank you for always dabbing for me because it's because of you that i'm able to be what i am today right now denver yeshiva is running a charity they finish mashamali to continue being the kazakh the family and to hazak the yeshivacharity.com slash h m u l i and they're using the money to acquire a new aaron kaidesh a new set of niveam a class with a full ice there has farm in the denver yeshiva everyone should help out major denver who's so shattered and the family um and hashem is no shaman should have a great illia from this thank you so much wow beautiful thank you so much we're going to send the link out after this year on the monacom's email for anybody who wants to look at that and now we're going to play the video and then we'll grab a twist we'll go to let's play the video [Music] [Applause] oh [Music] foreign [Music] is [Music] wow okay okay rabbit torch can you read your bio and then the floor is yours ravencian tursky represents the third generation of rabbinic leadership and congregation beth yehudah he strives to take classic cathedral texts and teach them in a manner that makes them relevant to all who strive to connect with his teaching robertorski's centrally and probing intellect has allowed him to develop close relationships with his congregation including my wife and her family and is heavily sought out speaker throughout the country where twiskie has over 600 plus your montoya anytime and rather you've seen swarovski aggressive crystal being masked come on the night before shashana i'm sure you have a lot to do in your community and i just want to say thank you and the floor is yours okay thank you so much for having us i think that one of the one of the challenges that we face generally in the end of season is that we're accustomed to doing all the things that we're supposed to do saying all the things that we're supposed to say but as anybody who's ever taken a trip knows that as beautiful as the scenery and the sights may be a long a long way along the way if you don't have a destination you're never gonna get there um for those of us who use uh gps these days to get around the once upon a time there used to be something called the trip tech i doubt they even make them any more triple they used to uh prepared for you and you'd have a page after page of how it is that you're supposed to get there and what you could see along the way and i think that one of the things that happens to us certainly during the this yontif season is that albeit that we do everything but we don't necessarily have a destination there's not a point that we're trying to reach ultimately in the entire season so that begs the question okay if if that's the case what is the destination we have obviously there's this year and then there's a day of sleeping kappa and then we go from there into sukkos and the dal and meen him and anishana rabbi and sarah's there but what's where are we going what's what's the ultimate destination they tell them isa that i think really sheds light on that question and hopefully will really address um many of the questions of the uh that that are going to come in tonight the mith second the barbiture of our ancestor of ours dave bear head husid was considered by many to be an incredibly inspiring figure a genius in interior great mccobb his name was hill of paris the set of swarm that he authored it was difficult difficult to see this um once erbium kipper was coming into the bismarck and there was a woman sitting outside collecting and she was stopping all the people as they were going to show and she said to her bill that she rents a property for her family she hasn't been able to pay the rent and the result of that was that it's now been several months and she was warned that unless she comes up with the money within the next week that she's going to be evicted from her home and she began to weep bitterly clearly she saw that the pillow an exalted figure and and that he might be able to help her so he said to wait out here i'm going to go um and collect for you in the smithish and rather than going to uh to daven he began going around and collecting and after making all of the rounds in the basmatis he didn't even have a tenth she needed but it was several hundred rubles and when he gathered recupicus it was like pennies and dimes and nickels and quarters people tried being generous due to her pillow stature but it was a an auromobile it was a poor world and when he came out with the amount of money that he had collected she realized that she was going to be evicted and she began to weep once again her bill said to look serbian kipper i'm going to do whatever i can do. and he began wandering in town until he came upon the tavern the local shank went into the tavern and it was known that there were a group of estranged jews who would frequent this shank this tavern and her pillow with his flowing white beard and his imposing figure enters the bar and a hush falls over the entire crowd generally it was it was obviously a place that was full of smoke and lots of drinking and the clanking of glasses but when a figure like ribhilla walked in so the silence enveloped the entire room and the jewish group that was in the corner called out him um with some mockery saying to him rabid what brings you here on an irvium kipper sir bill understood that that was his destination he walks over to the table takes a seat with these shikurim and they said to him how can we help you and he tells them tells them the story he says there's a woman she's all alone with a group of children a bunch of kids and she's going to be evicted and we need to help her terribly kippy so these eden the look of up and down and to see that he's sincere and one of them says to them look rabbi we'll make a deal one of them says to him if you drink it was a you know what a one of those beer glasses is but there wasn't a beer they put into nine and nine again which was uh 99 alcohol one of them said to me if you drink a a cup full of this vodka i'll give you a quarter of the entire sum that you need trebil said it's a deal and he takes this cup of spirits and closes his eyes as a bracha arabian kipper and downs this huge amount of this powerful liquor the other one and the guy next door to him didn't want to be uh shown up by his friends he says to decide to this guy i'll i'll you know i'll i'll match his deal they bring another cup of this this liquid this uh impossibly strong alcohol and rib hill drinks a second cup and the scene repeats itself until he had the entire sum that he needed to be obviously his head was assuming he couldn't he couldn't focus any longer they couldn't believe that he was still standing upright but the people had a a very strong mind and she could hate he runs to this almana gives her the money and by now the island was gathering in bismadish for call ninja and everybody's dressed in white draped in there and the massive is is um we all know what the feeling is of of people walking into connection and rebel runs up to the urankai dish and the tsa this was after the mithla river is passing it was now rabbit and he runs up to front and everybody becomes quiet the scene of of rip hill you could see that his eyes were bloodshot and he runs up he opens the arkadish turns around to the island and he screams and you could hear a pin drop in his radish and he falls to the floor with a thud it's up and says all of the avodah that we do beginning with and all of the aveda of tishrei is all to bring us to the moment of arta resaladas of saras that's what the entire goal of all of those things is so that yid can proclaim and zimbra's terror with clarity you have shown us that we can know kia that's the destination for all of us it takes all of those steps to help us arrive at that moment repeal through his avodah and through this mice it's a docker that he did was able to attain that already on the night of konniger the rest of us are going to have to go through the rest of the process when i heard the story to me it clarified what the destinations what what is it that we're trying to accomplish with all of these steps and now with that in mind we can begin to approach having some understanding of how each one of these components that we're beginning in hashem tomorrow we should have begun already with us but how all of those things fit in to our ultimate destination of where it is that we're heading through all of the mitzvahs and through all the fearless and all the avodah of these these holy days that we're approaching is all to bring us to the point of antares of the dark hashem now i can offer some ideas but i think what's going to be far more effective is going to be for everybody personally to now in light of that try to surmise and to figure out how each one of the components of what it is that we're doing fits into that map and ultimately that will lead us to that destination i hand you back to the floor will she thank you rabbi okay let's do a little pokey right away remember to break and then we'll jump into questions again we're always like to have robert wherever it's worst here tonight with us so please i'm sure he's that he's been asked harder questions so feel free to ask anything you want to ask if you text me i'll sharpen us over here and we'll put you on obviously live questions go first and uh let's take a little poll from the oil and then we'll take it from there okay two questions over here it's anonymous so you could answer whatever you want nobody knows who's saying well the first question is what are you feeling on what are you feeling towards on rosh hashanah tomorrow are you happy and ready to connect hashem are you scared and fearful i haven't thought about it much those are the three options second question how do you plan on making this rosh hashanah more meaningful a extra concentration on davening b taking upon myself a kabbalah c thinking about all the events of the past year and i have to move the screen here and realizing hashem is in total control or option d more self introspection okay those are the two questions please answer them and then we'll jump into questions we've got a bunch of questions emailed in we'll get to that and anybody who wants a question please text me ab eisenbach feel free to ask i know that you know you live far away from rabbi so you know if you want to speak them this is a good way to speak them okay five four very interesting okay let's share it with everybody okay what are your feelings on rosh hashanah tomorrow 58 percent of people here feel tomorrow they're happy and they're ready to connect to hashem we're good to go right wow are scared and fearful and thirteen percent of people they haven't thought about it much our oil is a very aware oil so i knew that that's gonna be the answer number two how do you plan on making this russian more meaningful twenty percent of people said extra concentration on davening ten percent said to take upon us kabbalah the winning answer 49 thinking about all the events of the past year and realizing that hashem is in total control it's obviously something we have to talk about and 21 of people feel they're gonna put more self-introspection okay so let's start with some questions anybody who has the screen you could x out of it now and uh let's start some of the questions that were sent in and anybody that has anything supposed to have a torso let's let's less than 24 hours rosh hashanah robert what could i do this year that will be different different and the stuff that i'm going to take on act what can i do this year will be different and the stuff i say i'm going to take on to make it actually stick so the conversation actually that we had here in in the kehillah again these are just ideas personal ideas will probably be much more effective i would split into two parts and i think that one of these components really speaks to the heart of rosh hashanah befrat i'll tell you a story the best way to answer any questions always is a good story the bear mankind actually quotes the story he says that sadie going was once invited to a kehillah to speak it took a journey for him to get to wherever he was going and evidently he didn't travel with gaboyem and when he came to the town he checked into the local holiday inn and the purveyor the uh owner of the inn looked at him and evidently he was uh he didn't have an imposing uh way that he carried himself and he thought that he was just uh another archipelago another another traveler so when i decided to go and ask them for a uh for a room he took the key to the corner room and kind of threw it at this guy like you know go take go take go take the average or one of the lesser rooms the next day they announced that the god was going to speak control at a certain time and all these store keepers closed their stores the business is closed the yeshiva is closed everybody came here inside the garden including the innkeeper and when he saw her absolutely going ascend the steps to the bhima and he saw that this person who he treated so averagely was the great renowned rib saudi going he couldn't believe what he had done and he ran up and fell at the side of god's feet and began to weep please be michael miserable and said for what see he said had i only known yesterday what i know today i never would have treated you that way rip sadie going began to weep and he said you're banished by them each of us say the same thing if only we knew about you what we know today i never would have treated you that way i think that one of the one of the um challenges and at the same time as with all challenges one of the opportunities that we have in rosh hashanah and to be consistent with the theme of the davening we're really trying to get to know who it is that we're serving who it is that that is making these demands of us who it is that is the mitzvah who is who is the one who's commanding us i just saw that the rambam when he got up to paul schweif and rosh hashanah says that his knees were knocking together and trembling and the point was that he wrote this in his in his letters it was troubas he said i began thinking about who is the mitzvah who is the one that's commanding us to do this mitzvah and who's the one that's carrying out the mitzvah when if we want something to be different there's only going to be two ways to change it maybe three ways the first one is who is it that we're serving if we're going into yom with the same god that we did last year it's unlikely that anything is going to change if we can really utilize the twitters of rosh hashanah and the contemplation that the people answered in your in your poll and really ponder and and spend the time realizing and and if i may be so bold maybe that's what one of the messages that the revenge revenue was sharing with us over this past year he's really showing off but if you've seen any pictures of this tornado that that hit new jersey this this past week um look at the the forest fires in california look at the flooding that's taking place over the year just the sim i'm talking about forget about the tragedies just talking about the sheer power of the islam and that's just in a physical in a physical sense but to realize the control that he has over every single moment um my sister rabbits and singer and boropark shared with me before he designates his left packet as where he keeps his money that he gives to zidaka so a few weeks ago he reached into his pocket when the shamas in in the famous shamas there in sharma shabbas came around collecting with his can and so yaakov reached into his pocket he had nothing there but one of these cliques candy bars that he had for one of his kids so he didn't have any money so he took the cliques candy bar and put it into this bowl instead of bim gym money anyway this guy was was very eager he took the you know took the candy bar and put it in his pocket he came back last week so this shaman said to him he says you're not going to believe what happened he says last night the middle of my roof a guy accomplished it was a diabetic and everybody again began screaming does anybody have any sugar he says i was prepared and ready i had the candy bar that you gave me the other week says you saved somebody's life by giving that candy bar to snooker the orchestrator and and all of us have stories like this by there somebody just asked me last week how come you have all these stories i said i can guarantee you these stories happen to everybody which is a question of are we attentive are we paying attention so one way to make this year different is by not having the same revenue level that we had last year i don't mean in dramatic terms obviously we have the same rebendersland that are that that we've been serving and that our our ancestors before us have been serving but it can't be the same bash effort we have to be able to say that go ahead and said if i knew if only i knew to yesterday what i know today i wouldn't have served you the same way but the submissive it can't be the same register this year it's the revengeland that showed off his his incredible power over the universe and our clients all the frat both the toys with the motive and and we got to accept the fact that he's trying to get our attention that's one thing but i think that the second way is we have to be able to appreciate the gift um anybody who tries keeping up with the numbers of sephir kurdish books printed by by art scroll and feldheim and all the other publishers that allow us to gain deeper insight i've been talking about real high quality that's in addition to all this farm in los angeles that it's impossible to keep up with add to that programs like and and so many of the other programs that are available to quality salt or any time and and what's the other one you told me about doshi today um there's a belt of things that can change our approach to any given mitzvah to any given felon to any paragraph of tremendous any paragraph and pseudosimra there's a belt of stuff available to us if only we want to deepen our relationship not just take this boroku but deep in our relationship to any given mitzvah so why should kiyoshai for this year be the same as it was last year we should be armed with somebody um [Music] rabbi zone from new york was here from from baltimore and he shared with me the diverter that rav ocean is um right it's revolution whether she was of lakewood these massive swarm on each one of the others and now they're translated weakly into that you get them by email there is a rich in in insight and he quotes from from everybody in the world there's there's such a belt available to us it requires discipline that we have to take the time out to deepen our relationship not just takashi but to each mitzvah individually that it should speak differently to us and there's infinite insights because the rebellion is infinite and therefore it has to be that his mitzvahs are infinite as well so if we want something to be different this year the only way to make it different is going to be by approaching it differently we have to change our relationship and we have to change our relationship to the mitzvos that we're performing all right okay remedy let's take a few live questions um thank you very much for the weekly lectures very much appreciate them uh the question is when am i allowed to pray for individual people during rosh hashanah okay that's a great question so let me let me introduce that by first destroying the question um there's a famous zoyer that's quoted by all this foreign that condemns people who are misparallel for individual or at least personal needs the language of the zoya there is that claustro comes to your royal like a bunch of dogs screaming have have give me give me so why would ghazal ask as many others so why did they establish to fear this that request personal request if they didn't want us asking for personal things then it should have all been about look at this broke one in his so the answer goes to really to the heart of what it is that we're looking for in the tv meaning as follows let's take the answer the simple answer to to the question you asked is in the additional paragraphs that are added remember us for life it's because at the conclusion of shmaness you have a very detailed feeling that we add to all the all of the um amides of the season um [Music] we ask for all those things specifically in the bracha of simschel which is add unto itself because it's really not a bracha of bakasha at all but the critical words are going to be the kim kai we're not asking for ourselves to understand we're asking for your sake today just again watching what happens i pulled into a gas station on my way back from chicago and i'm just looking in out in the boondocks and somewhere in between here in chicago and i'm filling up with gas and a guy i see a guy heading straight towards me and he says to me are you jewish so i said yes see he said i gotta tell you i'm from morocco and i love the jewish people there were people who tried saying things about them he says i know the jewish people they are wonderful people and i'll prove it to you he's speaking with a a hexadent and he says of all of the people i interacted with i never saw a homeless jew and i never saw a jew panhandling on the street for food you guys know how to take care of each other and i knew bashas maisa that this was a communication from above it needs to be in the manuka the revenue gives us the things that we need and the challenges that are required so that we will turn to him for the things we need but each one of those statements and and appeals concludes with the words for your sacred venusland if claudius will be uh we'll care for each other and we'll see to it that we take care of each other's needs and that the revenue will be upon us a bounty of of good health and of a wealth and of nachez and of long life then hashem the kid that could come out of that revenge level is extraordinary i just want to share with you an interesting thing i came here uh tonight on my way here i stopped at opinion event pidna ben was a fellow in his 60s who through the uh work of one of our colleagues realized that the likelihood he wasn't 100 certain but the likelihood is that he never had it in the event he was a firstborn son so before we begin this the process of the bidding of ben i said to him that hashem refers to claudius we are hashem's first born and there's some people who do a pizza ben right away when the baby's born in 30 days do it but then there's opinion there are some redemptions that are taking a long time and when somebody late in life realizes that they could not have been yet then i think we have the opportunity to turn to akadesh and say to the republican repunched under some redemptions that take a long time but we're here we're performing the pediment and we're asking you reminder shalom to finally perform european abandon to redeem us at this late stage as well so that we can go and and serve the revenge love the way he requests and demands of us did i answer the question yes very well excellent hey you ready for the next question go for it okay we're on live hi can you hear me yes we could amazing thanks so much for i'm taking a question um i i went through a really sudden and painful divorce recently i know that i myself have what to work on then my question is coming you know starting fresh i want to be emotionally healthy and comfortable with myself close to hashem and i'm really looking to move on but i i'm seeing them desperate to get there already how do i actually slow down and like accept the you know during stage wow so let's begin with a a much earlier step and i think this will go to the heart of what um menachem opened up with earlier which were the the suffering of clause clearly the the pain that you've endured is personal and very clearly raw and real um but i think we'd all be foolish if we allowed these opportunities to pass without pondering why does hashem bring suffering and pain into the world what's what's the purpose so to get a any understanding into that obviously we need to look into um this isn't going to come as a shock to anybody but pain and suffering is not a new phenomena and certainly not to call israel the iran [Music] in his russians offers one explanation obviously there are many explanations but if if we're going to approach rosh hashanah as you know i don't know if there's ever been a time certainly not in my life where unassigned comes to full you know if we'd be able to put up a uh a screen and put up pictures of what took place this past year comes to vivid life i mean just incredible live pictures iran says and i shared this with you on this past friday here in the community when they're eventually shut up with a refurshalema but their daughter uh was taken into the hospital with what they suspected was some kind of severe neurological something was going on and they had no idea what it was the fright was so intense one of the son none of us should ever know the feeling and i said to him tell me something if during that process someone would have come over to you and offered you a wonderful scrumptious barbecued steak would it have appealed to you now obviously i asked him this after the fact i'm not insane i didn't do this bishop so he said of course not how could i have eaten anything nonetheless the seyfatillum was was there and they certainly utilized the power of trilla at a time like that so says the run that there are times look at this bro who's trying to get us to get to remove our heads as the story goes with the katsuka he came upon a guy who was indulging in the sukkah but was really really into his food and he screamed to the skus and he said to him you're eating khuts the sukkah see he said rabbi i'm in the sukkah he said no you're not you're in your bowl um what sometimes this broke is trying to get our attention he's trying to help us get our heads out of our bowls and they come in many forms these bowls it's not african the in the the appetites are for food we have a whole array of physical appetites and and other forms of distraction and hashem is trying to get our attention so the iran says that one of the purposes of human suffering is to that that suffering lessons the intensity of our bodily typhus that's one that's one mahal the pre-order to mendelmatipsky offers another mahalakshmi i found amazingly powerful he writes that when a person is attempting to look and perceive something with clarity that the way to see it in the sharpest focus is to create a filter that blocks everything else so that the person can peer with great focus and concentration upon that which he wants to see so if you look at somebody who's doing this they're putting a complete uh curtain if you will in front of their eyes all there is is a tiny spot to look through remember matapska says and he by the way had the right to say this because his the source that he endured that he and his community endured as they moved towards israel in the late 1700s they went through they lost a huge proportion of the people who went with them died along the way and and the poverty and the starvation was intense remember said that the purpose of that darkness was to block out everything else so that they could look with clarity at what was really important so i think that because this broker's giving claudius an opportunity now to take a step back look at what we went through look at what we're going through and to really allow the eye not the physical eye but the perception of claudius all to look and say we need revise that we need to take a step back there's an old yiddish song that the the refrain is versus what's really important and what's not and for us to re-calibrate and get a good intense look at what is really important and what it is that we need to you know what what what we should be getting excited about and what's really not worth getting um worked up about what's what's this nest and that's one of the things that one of it's done the rangers shouldn't test us but thesaurus that we experienced give us the opportunity to really get a a get a grip on what's important and what's that oh very powerful with whiskey okay there's so many live questions over here we have all night right go straight to sleepless okay you're on hi can you hear me yes yes okay hi so i'm wondering if you can address the firearm and brimstone fear that we were taught to have at this time of the year like i understand that the school system instilled in order to shake us into being serious about like the severity of this time of year but i know that personally and for many people i know um this fear just manifests into overwhelming anxiety it affects everyday responsibilities and like it just manifests into something almost resentful and it and you know i know for a lot of people especially myself like i have to push myself to daven in a positive way because we're just so overwhelmed with this fear um is it supposed to be this way and or is it supposed to be like you know a positive you greet the king in the field time i'm going to give you such a biased answer that it's almost not fair um so i don't know if you have somebody who might be able to present the other side of this issue because mine is going to be very one-sided um when i was a young booker in fact i was such a child prodigy that um i was in philly before my bar mitzvah and rosh hashanah the atmosphere in yeshiva was extraordinarily intense and totally foreign to me completely and i just have no words to describe i i i must felt like i was practicing a different religion to the degree and i was very impressed and i'm even more impressed now that shmuel came over to me and came over to me after rosh hashanah and told me that i should leave priyam kippur and i should never be in yeshiva again for yom nyroi he he recognized that it was just that there was a completely different dynamic going on so let me let me tell you what these two what these two things are and i think we need to find our place somewhere in the middle there's no question that as we see in the santa toygift at it's the day of judgment yani but to me and i believe the hasidic culture the intense focus of rosh hashanah was the muhammad of it was all about coordinating yes but the madin the aspect of judgment was completely and totally focused upon what is going to be my portion if any in this coronation throughout the year so let's let's let's clarify how what that means practically the as we know rosh hashanah was the day of the creation of admiration and the rebel islam created his world in order that he be coronated as mellah for the purpose of his meaning that humanity should benefit from the rabbinicialism's mastery and kingdom over us to the degree that we are coronators of who do we have the right mate oh solomon has a magnificent piece that he writes about a contractor who is building a palace for the king and he he wins the contract to build this palace and each day he comes to the king and requests of the king the supplies that he's going to need in order to be able to continue building anybody who looks at this from the outside would say like what is with this person he's constantly there snoring stuff from the king but as somebody who understands what's happening realizes he's not asking anything of himself he has a job to do he's building a palace for the king we are giving in our bid on rosh hashanah we're saying revenge i want to be on the team i want to be so that i can be the one who coronates you as king so that i can build your palace so that i can fulfill your will as as rashi says there shall marty manasser i want to be the one who can provide with that i want to be on the team and in order to be on that team here's what i need i need to be healthy and i need long life and i need narciss and i need to have all the components that are required to be i mean imagine if somebody comes to work to build the palace of the king and he hasn't been able to sleep and he hasn't been able to think any any in the end he doesn't have what to eat what kind of what kind of evidence is he going to be what kind of how well will he be be able to perform his duties so you can look at it in the terror of i might be rejected and for some reason people find that attractive i can't imagine why or you can look at it as this incredible opportunity for us to be able to join this force that hashem created in his world for human beings to be able to be mam with the way the baltania puts it in he puts it in such staggering terms he says imagine if there was a brilliant brilliant person and this brilliant person wants to become king but not king over humans but king over ants how ridiculous is that now we need to multiply this a billion times over when we're dealing with hashemis barack and claudius as us as humans but the fact is that that's what hashem said he wants and if that's what he wants we are privileged to be able to make that request of him and that word has to be first and foremost in our minds that we have to feel privileged that hashem god gives us the opportunity to be mamle and then to do the things that he has decreed are the ways we are that's where we get into such i have a soapbox that might might have all know that i i talk about which is this disease called spirituality because we have a world now that is indulging these touchy-feely spiritual spiritual things and all this good good feeling stuff and none of it has any requirements it's all about me it's all about my good feeling and how i'm gonna feel about this and it it's a bunch of nonsense we're not the ones who create the mitzvos the revengelove tells us here is how your mom looked me i want you to take a citrus fruit and a palm branch and three myrtles and two um what do you call the rubbish willows and put them together and shake them in six directions why it doesn't make any difference why are there um infinite reasons for this mitzvah of course there are because the rabbi islam is infinite and his his wisdom is infinite but at the bottom line of it at the the at the source the assad is because this is how this broker chooses for us to be it's not subject to our feelings or which things make us feel good or which things don't make us feel good that's it's a bunch of nonsense should we feel good we should have the most extreme sympathy in the world about the fact that this broker chose us and chooses us with life and allows us the opportunity to be in in those ways but to go and to choose this mitzvah works for me is it doesn't work for me this is meaningful to me it makes me feel whatever it is go take some some aspirin and call me in the morning because it's irrelevant how it makes us feel that's it's completely non it's such a non-issue to the degree where the baltania writes rights in a place that if we're if we imagine that we're feeling something we're delusional it's not a subject to our feelings the feeling we could and must feel is this incredible sense of ashrae no matter that we're on the team hashem chose us to be those who are so is that part of the liturgy of yantif dhabaneng it certainly is but i think we need to be far more focused on the media and if this hashem will give us life what are we going to do with it are we going to use it for the purpose that he's giving it to us and the very fact that we wake up every morning is a statement on behalf of hashem saying i trust that you're going to do it today i'm giving you life because i i trust that today you are going to be mom like me as i desire there's no greater vote of confidence in this that that should register more so than the fact that my neshama was restored to me this morning and hopefully will be again tomorrow and in a big way on rosh hashanah rosh hashanah is when we apply for the contract that's what we're we're asking to be given the opportunity to be on the team so i know that there are people i mean to such a degree where somebody repeated to me if one of the good ideas that they don't understand how a person can sing a and on rosh hashanah and i want to ask i don't understand how it is that we don't sing through all of of of yandere it's it it's the most exciting i i shared with my favorite here that reminiscent of the consciousness who writes that he never saw the cousins and his father so baseball as he did when he saw him in rosh hashanah the incredible privilege that we have that hashem is choosing us he's giving us another year to imam lahim here's here's a question from uh from a woman i find this time of the year extremely stressful as a woman uh exhausting a logically what is a woman's true role during these weeks of yanderem and young this really should be asked of a woman because no matter how a man answers it it's never going to be right let's just be honest with them because you know it's easy for you to say somebody repeated to me yesterday that reminds you solomon said that there was a king who opened up the palace and said anybody who has any requests should line up to see me so for states of the people of his maluka came and lined up in droves and then the king spots on the line his children's babysitter says to what are you doing here she said what do you mean the king offered to you know opened up and said that anybody who has any request why would i miss an opportunity like that he said you should be with my children you as the keeper of my children you could ask me for what you need any time it's an incredibly powerful message from about to seal solomon i mean it takes guts to say something like that and he certainly has the places to say it is there of unique no question it's one of them scheifer's one of the myths was that the women of claudia saw have accepted upon themselves and every woman should make it her business if at all possible to hear it's kia schaefer but there's no question that the roles of going back to what i said earlier we didn't choose this structure because the one who gave us the structure of what which mitz is we are to do which which mitch's women are behave to do and then on top of that there are mitzvahs that are optional that women can do and they have a kim amitsu if they do do it or you think about it the very fact that a woman is able to make a bracha and kia schaefer asher kiddish with sivanu did he really command women to do this mitzvah nonetheless because women undertook this mitzvah they have the right to say that so too with with sukkah and lola and so on [Music] and to a certain degree if you really think about that the fact that a woman volunteers to take on that mitzvah is unique unto itself it's it's something where she's not necessarily massive to do she's not commanded and nonetheless she has the opportunity to say that broken take it upon herself but primarily there's no question that um women need to be able to um recognize that we're not the ones who are the mitzvah as much as they want to say those rabbis are the ones who you know created the structure that we did not they did not their vanish 11 is the one who created the structure and therefore in their own place they need to celebrate that which the urban islam gave them and tasked them in their part of the madura and that's raising the the uh princes and princesses of clauditrol and um from denver i was once listening to one of his tapes so he was pointing out the absurdity of how our culture sets the tone so at least at that stage this was before covenant and people had big snazzy offices right so the world um appreciates and worships the wall street office chair so he said but look at look at it in the lies in the eyes of claudius oh when kleisthel was true to call you so what was the base of the fought literally to death at some times to be able to perform the avoid in the basement he says what was the visibility it was one big kitchen what did they do there they salted and they and they took the meat up and they fried the food and they they lit the almonds on them his back what was the difference the difference was that due to the fact that it was the base of ming dash so clogged envied the position of the coin who was able to do the avedo but ultimately it was one big kitchen so what's the tragedy that has befallen claw you saw the the tragedy is is that society no longer values the kitchen so we've created this value of the man in front of the the shoal or whatever it is you could fill in the blank for what the person it changes every year so the the you know it's no longer the the person in the um wall street seat or whatever it is but who cares what they value we need to get back to the essence of what we discussed earlier which is that the hashem sets the tone he he decides what it is that he wants of us and it would be no different than my being envious of the cayenne who's able to go up and and give the bracha of of or the client being envious of the fact that i was able to perform in the mitsubishi can't everybody has their roles and and we need to celebrate and feel privileged for the role that that hashem gave us so there's no question that the notions guanis of claudius will during this season wipe themselves out with the preparation of the soothes and try juggling the the schedule and and forget the schedule gets even tougher because the men are in chill so long and it takes that much more effort for for them to be able to do what it is that they are that they're doing and it's incumbent upon us men folk to make sure that the women feel that we value their incredible avoid that's our our business um and we have to get much better at doing that but it has to start with the women themselves feeling that sense of privilege for the gift of this bro who gave them in how he wants them to serve him it has to start there beautiful very nice okay we have so many more questions okay you're on okay hi rabbi thanks for taking my call i guess um so as an adult it's easy or it's easier for me personally to recognize that these challenges that hashem give us are to make us you know who we are and to take us on our journeys but as a mother of you know teenagers and as a principal of middle schoolers with all of these challenges that they face and the you know infiltration of technology and and and their lives just being so chaotic and and not understanding you know what it is how do what sort of message can we give them like our children to recognize that you know this anal navado and that it's not this is not burdensome this is not you know the the caller before i said this this this scary time how can we make it how can we show them the beauty in this on their level so it's not like oh i gotta go davin i gotta go listen to chauffeur like how do we show them that so i was in memphis last week and i adapted to talk to their wonderful high school there and this this issue came up and i was reminded at the time i think i may have shared this with you last time we were on oshie remind me if i did but too bad um i was in dallas texas a few years ago and the rabbi asked me to meet with a fellow there who was down and out had gone through a terrible divorce and the kids were taken away from him and he wasn't making progress it was like everything was this guy never had the midas touch everything he touched turned into a muffler so i met with him and he unloaded his sores and then he concluded by saying that he shared with me that he was a navy seal in his past past existence he concluded the whole the whole thing with why does god hate me so i engaged him in conversation about his training as a navy seal what it took to become a navy seal you can't imagine what these guys go through it is mushroom they have to go through desert training and incredible heat they have to be able to travel and get across rivers with alligators and snakes and all kinds of other iphones um they have to be able to traverse mountains and and just like you can't imagine what these people have to go through in order to become a certified navy seal so i said to the fellow after he finished telling me about this i said so how many times did you say to your commander and your trainer why do you hate me so what do you mean i said well why would somebody who loves you put you through the kind of torture to go through those kinds of incredible difficult situations he must hate you so he said no that's part of the training the only way we can really be able to know that we can make it through those kinds of circumstances is to go through that training and to be able to overcome you know those situations i was just passed a note i need a pierce rashi on this note robinson um you can explain it to me maybe anyway so i said to him did it ever occur to you that the that these challenges and these trials are coming from an incredibly loving parent who you know it goes back to the martial that the the the fry brings this and and um the other the other um [Music] quote is the name of this basham kadesh and the possum of genuine [Music] the conclusion of one of the one of the uh kapitlak that we say in the yam so he says it's a muscle of a parent who's trying to teach a child how to walk so what do we do every one of us you pick the kid up and the kid takes a step and what does a cruel parent do we step back now put yourself in the mind of the kid what are you doing i i took a step and you're you're moving further away from me but that's the that's that's how you teach a child how to walk it so it to the child that looks like abandonment but in essence it's the last thing that a parent is trying to do or trying to teach the child how to walk so i believe that what we need to start sharing with the youth is that there's a concept called an obstacle course we used to have one in the uh in hill academy in the um we used to go out and play in the yard it was a great obstacle course somebody would say a thinking person would say i'm sure you go what do you have to go walk through this whole course why don't you just walk on level ground there's no fun there's no challenge in doing that the challenge is in being able to make it across the obstacle course we should um we need to convey to the youth and perhaps we should start with ourselves rather than feeling put upon and persecuted that we have a loving parent who is trying to get us to a place uh the uh margaret mesharin brings that the entire purpose of the new zealandess that we have in life is that it's not going to be in the sufi that hashem doesn't want us to have bread to to bask in his light undeserve it so it all goes back to the same yes that there's an obstacle course that is handing us in life and by definition the obstacle course is going to be challenging but that's where the action is it's it's the baby taking the steps obviously at the end of it all there's a parent waiting with open arms to give us a hug and both of those things are critical understanding that the course is there for our benefit and understanding that at the end of it is a loving parent waiting to embrace us beautiful thursday i'll try to copyright a few more if that's okay okay let's let's hit this question a little bit covered a little bit but i want to get a little deeper into it with all that's going on in my life i don't like to think about it at all i just do what i'm meant to do and what everybody else does i go to shul i dipped apple into honey i do feel a little guilty what should i do basically i have no like emotional connection i'm more you know robotic i don't want to feel it's about onion okay so i i actually use this this patch uh whatever this past shabbos there's a mimer from the bellatanya in the my mario make everybody to look it up and see it themselves because it's actually two very similar ones this one's in parishes he writes that it it's very clear that it's in response to somebody but let me give you the context that he says it he says person has two wives one of them is loved and one of them is hated and the oldest son is born to the hated wife he's not allowed to choose the the child the oldest child of the beloved wife over the hated wife says the baltania that there are two types of eden in the world there are eden who have a loving relationship with a goddess broken and they are eden who have a difficult relationship and he says i'll prove to you that the is not going to come because of the people who are on fire and have this great loving relationship with hashem because at the time of the khurban there were plenty of jews like that at that time and yet the corbin happened he says the meshich is going to come because of those of us who don't have any feeling who don't have any desire to serve that's where she's gonna come from the child is what so what what's going on how do we do this so he writes explicitly says that hashem desires to have adira bhitain hashem desires to have a dwelling place among the low what's this low when york is broken it's multicolored what kind of low it says about tanya that the low refers to the people who have no desire to serve those of us who are numb were struggling were battling it out day after day without typhus with technology as you just mentioned with all the other distractions we're in the trenches we're fighting and we're burnt out and despite that we continue to do what we need to do and this is really the critical point we need to rejoice that we can serve not despite the fact that we're feeling that way but because of the way because we feel that way listen carefully to what i'm saying says about tanya that we need to be able to rejoice that we are providing with that deera in the lowest of places meaning i don't want to do this getting up every morning is a struggle for me putting on my twilight is a struggle for me cautious could be a struggle for me well you you fill in the blanks we're not feeling the highs we're not feeling the passion we're not feeling the love and despite that we're still doing it we need to rejoice with the fact that we can provide our kardash with a dwelling place despite the fact that we feel that way and that's where the celebration is and he writes explicitly and because of us those who are struggling that's where mushy is going to come not because of the people who are on fire and have this great loving relationship it's because of those of us who struggle and are not in the mood of serving the where the where we're the ones who are providing that opportunity so the but the message has to go back to what i said earlier which is that ashrae know that i could get up in the morning i'm not in the mood and i'm celebrating the fact i'm i'm engulfed in simcha because of the fact that that because i'm not in the mood and i still do it then i'm bringing out this bro who even into those low places where um his presence is not yet felt to me that was such an empowering idea because i don't have to feel it and despite that i can celebrate and be besimico over the fact that i'm serving despite the fact that i'm i'm not in the mood and i don't feel anything if if you're rejoicing then you're not in the low so i i don't think it's a steroid i don't i really don't think it's meaning intellectually what you're saying is true right because it doesn't have to this is the critical thing we're all out there caught up with this spiritual nonsense and those of us who are not feeling the spirituality of it and are feeling tired and worn out feel deficient is telling us is no quite the contrary because we're not feeling that's why we should feel the symbol of this is a this is where the action is i think i shared with you the story that in the um the bob room's first trip to etsy strong so he was a survivor he was a relatively young man he was in his in his 50s at the time he was starting all over again when they saw the brisker rob was still alive was a was a miss nagging from you know from back from europe and then comes this young siddhis and people were expecting it to be you know not this warm and fuzzy meeting and the buffer have shared with them the brisker have mentioned something about ikvision that our generation is called the heel of mashiach it's the lowest in the lowest period so the bavroop said to him that through mendel of riminov said true our generation is called the increase of the machine it's the lowest we're the heal the heel has no feeling but we dare not forget that the entire structure of the human being the heart the mind all the critical avaram all stand on the heel if the heel falls the entire structure falls so where it's an insult that we're the generation called the increase of the meshich it's also the greatest compliment it's upon us that all those generations starting with the of zagdoshim all through jewish history all them are standing on us and because we have no feeling because we're the ones who struggle and and despite that we get up every morning and do what we need to do we should understand that all of those generations before us celebrate every one of those victories oh powerful over twisty okay we have some few more live ones let's try to cut the brine you're on hi let's see if the mic works can you talk hi sorry we're putting me oh it's me oh okay i switched to you the other person's mic wasn't working and this ties in with being actually feeling deficient but um usually i go into young to you know feeling combination motivated and pensive but you know their idea you know of wanting to take on certain things but there's like the feeling how realistic am i in terms of my abilities capabilities um or you know i i don't know you know i think that all of us would love to do you know take on take on more mitzvahs give more to daca but i'm not so sure how feasible it is um with other things going on i mean is that um is that is that just just a head trip on playing with myself or is there is a way to like maybe sit down realistically plan goals and something that yeah i mean not that i want to be business like on rosh hashanah but you know their way at least overcome that feeling of sort of inadequacy they're not doing enough i can't do enough for what i think is enough to really you know make myself do better i guess to follow the coming year okay so i think that rumor nakamin his opening statement but really spoke to that a little bit and when he spoke about taking small small steps i think there's one other nikuda that would be very very helpful none of us ever succeed at taking an additional step unless we have the ability to celebrate the steps that we've taken already you could only build a skyscraper on a solid foundation when we're able to look back and take notice of a success and then take that success and broaden it we stand the chance of of succeeding if we can't allow ourselves to recognize some area where we've already [Music] marked a a noted success it's just not going to work because if we see ourselves as failures one thing we'll guarantee is that we'll continue to fail so i think the the best way to approach it is look at something that has already been a success and then take another small step in that direction i think there's a there's a question that came in and a lot a lot of people have it the question is what should i think um what are the thoughts that i should have about here the gemara already asked the kasha mars says why do we blow shaiper to which the more answers because hashem told us to belong so i think first and foremost the kavanaugh needs to be that we're being mikayam the mitzvah of that really has to be in the forefront of our mind as we um as we listen to the scheifer the next step is also brought by hazal when the umura talks about malchest and cyphers says what's the key obama scheifer that each one of the sections that we do in in this monastery is really sealed through the the tikki of the shaffer so if you look at the sections if you look at the sukim and the swedish that are associated with those sukim the shayfer is kind of the catalyst it's really that which takes that swillow and raises it to where it needs to get to the point where it's such a i'm always struck by this one in shaman astray we're the ones who are commanded to hear the shofar yet we turn it on in the bronchos we say that you're the one who is mazing you're the one who listens to the sheifer so there's an impression that needs to be made upon us but to the degree that we're listening to the sheriff we turn it back on hashem and we we're misfollowed to capture i forgot them every year when we go to the there's a uh there's a a trilla in there that the runnership should already blow that that kia you know there's a great story that i heard from my father so as you all know we blow schaefer throughout the montebel and one of his children came to him arab rosh hashanah ever shanira blah and asked him to please bill sheifer and he said to my kid we don't blow shay forever and the kid was insistent and pleaded and begged for his father to blow it down the blues taught the blues and the finally mr couldn't constrain him he couldn't really hold back anymore he blew a sheriff for the kid then he turned his eyes heavenward and says reminisce like my child has just asked me or for a few minutes to blow and i couldn't restrain we've been asking you revenge them to blow the shaiphur tata blues we've been asking for so many years youth bless you please blow the shafter already so there's clearly an emphasis on and uh the takashi for godel when we're listening to the chauffeur to turn into british leatherman ask him to blow so the last live question i have one more if you ever whiskey and then we'll go to closing you're on okay i wanted to know in regard to children what can we expect of them um in shul um field wise i'm talking like little ones like uh eight nine ten-year-olds and how do we get them to feel that connection that they wanna dive in it's not an o no i think that every first of all there's not going to be ever a one size fits all in our school his name is and of course i don't remember this i thought that i was an angel in shul but evidently that was not the case when i was a kid and despite the fact that i was the rabbi's son i did my fair portion of horsing around and i have a very vivid recollection of him physically lifting me up and putting me outside of the building on the sidewalk and telling me when you learn how to behave in shoal then you can come back in and i was not entertained especially after the i was the rabbi's son and he had no business doing that but my father was busy with other things so he took care of it so the reason i'm telling you this is that my father was an is is an intense governor was an intense dominar and it it took um [Music] years for me to get to a point where that was something that i could relate to so i think that there's a different maturity level for every child and there's a real delicate balance between pushing a kid and making it oppressive for a kid and we need to be really careful now that doesn't mean that we shouldn't state our expectations i think that it's important to say to a child i would like you to be in trouble you can be in trouble as long as you're behaving and you're doing what you need to do the minute it turns into a uh a place where um the kids are getting into trouble or they're acting like um at that point a child needs to have the understanding that they don't belong there so everybody needs to know the tolerance level of any given child and to the degree that that kid could be there um we we have one bala boss in particular in shul who brings his his kid for a limited time then expands it you know five minutes by five minutes and the kids it's like an angel and when it gets too much i mean the the child brings interestingly the parents provide them with books to read uh obviously appropriate things that he can stay in show longer but at some point the the the it depends on the zits flights of a kid you got to know you know if we don't have zid's place what do we want from our kids so modeling is going to be critical and beyond that you got to know the nature of a child and we need to push to their to a level where we know you know we're creating the the obstacle course for them and push them a little bit into new territory but not to the point where it becomes something that they're going to resent for the rest of their lives and have a negative association with attending the attending school trevor turns to the last question of the night and then we're going to go to the closing um this year we had so many not normal tragedies from kovitz historian stalin surf sides with the shirt of the boy who's back in denver what is the message we need to take out of this as we approach the shuttle tomorrow night how are we to see hashem as our loving father they uh i may have shared this with you last time also but i love i loved it when i heard it i've shared it many times since dr jerry loeb from chicago grantham refuge once spoke here in uh in our show of milwaukee somebody's and he shared with us that somebody he's a child of survivors of holocaust survivors and his father was once asked how can you continue to be from [Music] after seeing what you saw and experiencing what you experienced it says father said to him you know um there is a practice that used to be more common among qualities all in humanity that we took our kids in for vaccines now it's a very hot hot sub hot topic but when we were kids now they make them really neat nifty little uh things that they put in your arm but when we were kids if you remember there was a bottle of the vaccine and there was a long needle and the doctor would go over and he would pull whatever amount he needed of this thing then he'd plunge it into various body parts and depending on which vaccine it was so he says put yourself into the mind of a toddler mother's holding the kid the doctor walks over with this needle so the toddler is for sure thinking to himself um you stupid doctor you know that my mother's going to knock your lights out before you ever get near me with that needle i mean my mother's my protector there's no way she's going to allow you to put that needle anywhere near me and we all know that the exact opposite is true not only does the mother allow the doctor to do the mother constrains the child holds the kids arms and legs to the point where the doctor can comfortably stick this thing into the kid and get out whatever the contents are in the syringe and we see very often that the child will react and hit the mother afterwards because the the child feels a terrible betrayal that the protector is turned on on the child so jerry's father said to i don't understand why doesn't the mother just explain to the kid that there's a disease in africa and that if that disease were to he would ever be exposed to that disease that it could be very harmful and holy that could create paralysis or even death why doesn't the mother just explain it to the kid and the answer is obvious because the kid doesn't have the intellectual capacity to comprehend this this concept right that's it's beyond it now he says let's look at this the mother as bright as the mother might be is a limited person a bulgarian and the kid is clearly above all they're very limited comprehension and yet despite that too bollywood can't explain it to each other because the distance between the mother's comprehension and the child's comprehension is too wide and they can't meet yet we being that we are we have an expectation somehow we're going to be able to comprehend dark yeshua i said it's just it's it's a mockery the infinite goddess broke who has infinite wisdom does things and we have the arrogance to somehow be able to even utter the words i don't understand what aka this broker's doing obviously you don't understand what this broker's doing because he's infinite we're finite we could have the highest iq in the world and we're not going to be able to grasp the actions of the infinite sometimes hashem does things just for the purpose of conveying that message to us i'm in control i'm running the world i'm trying to get your attention and i'm going to do things that you can't understand and we have to have the humility to be able to say uh like hazal tell us if a person sees his surah by him a love that his person is we're supposed to inspect our deeds and and do trouba and if we don't do that that rambam says that we're he says that we're cruel people if we don't take every one of these events and use them to analyze our actions and and to do true within work considered it's an act of cruelty but to try comprehending them or to the out there who tell us why these things have happened it's done there's nothing more ridiculous than that you have to be a navy to be able to say that these things happen because that doesn't release us from our obligation of trying to analyze our lives and realize that hashem is trying to get our attention those are two very different statements two very different approaches mind-blowing beautiful okay let's go to closing uh first up guys rabbi coming on tonight rosh hashanah and giving so much physique i mean so many people were here tonight it was a huge crowd i'm shocked ever shot at so many people but came on obviously everybody needs he wants to go into our channel with her gosh and marshawa and uh sheriff roberto for coming again everybody's here the first time every sunday night this is some idea we have unbelievable please join tell people about it and uh machem next sunday september 12th era of kipper sunday between kipper and i have an amazing shirt so amazing i can't even tell you about it because i don't know what it is but we're going to we're going to lock it up and it's going to be amazing and again tonight's share will do with learning nishmas the family was on before they sent us thank you for for doing the share for mordechai silverberg the buffer whose nifty was killed in denver disgust of all the tremendous amounts of people that were here tonight and that's on the thousands of people that will hear and be my kazakh it should be an instrument for him especially during this for the first election days of his of his material and should be versus close and for everybody uh that didn't watch the whole thing it's gonna it's all recorded it's gonna be gonna trim up tomorrow morning earlier on monaco.com and if anybody has any questions please reach out to coach minaj from gmail.com we'll forward all the emails to ravitorsky um tonight share share number and uh if anybody wants to hear on the phone we'll be upstream on the phone line tomorrow morning at 848 seven grow i wanna go special thank you to all our advertising sponsors liquid scoop robbie and if kazakh a special thank you to kylo california summer for jcn coach monaco closing words of the repertoire we'll move it on to you uh i just want to mention the idea that you said about the child that there's no um you have to know each child is different to see how it works the truth is i believe we all have inside of us that inner child every one of us is in a different level in a different place and it takes you have to be able to to sit down with yourself and see where am i what works you know what doesn't work what can i do and sometimes you find yourself in a level that you might say you might not be happy about because you want to be the toddler already like i mentioned you want to be already um uh many steps ahead but if you're not there it's not going to work so yes if you're where you are you need a little bit of self-acceptance and this is what you need to work on this is what the kabbalahs are or whatever it is and from there that's what hashem wants from you and that's ultimately what we what we want like we heard in the beginning to understand we're here to connect to hashem and do his his will so everybody should uh limit hashem because that's the only way like we're the only way to grow is to feel that you're growing because if not it's hard to continue so thank you very much for everyone being here and uh mitch and we should have new year three things everything three things okay number one what do you think of such a hotshot island there's like thirty fourteen hundred people here tonight air of the night before shoshone to come listen what do you think of that a b we wanna give it from from the rabbi so everybody here and number three obviously a closing a physique before probably like 20 hours left okay so first one is it is absolutely incredible that people took the time out tonight to come and look for something um [Music] hashem is mazman to me oftentimes that i come upon great things that i can share it's a uh seatted ishmael um that i'm i'm blessed with so i'm excited to be able to share those ideas with with the tibor um the uh you see in station for anybody to give bracha during the season every every bracha is as critical as you're supposed to be so uh everybody should be blessed with xev and they uh as claudius says i get benched urine that i think that one of the most important things throughout the season is throughout for us to be cognizant of the brachus that hashem gives us perhaps the greatest broke of all is that our eyes should be open to the bronchus that we get so often we're blind and you know we're so focused on what we lack and uh we don't pay enough time enough attention and give enough time to count our blessings so not only should it be a year of broken but it should be a year that we should be our eyes should be opened to be able to receive the broker and to be aware on an ongoing basis of the brokers that hashem gives us thank you robert everybody have a see you next week sunday same time same place