Selichos 5776 Kumzitz with Rabbi YY Jacobson & Yoeli Lebovitz

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didn't even eat yet M if he ate he could say how he ate what he ate he ate too much he didn't do anything he's standing in sh too much L and Har couldn't happen between and unless your M an expert I mean if if you're really good at it but a regular person he's sitting in his place finish and everybody's in a rush there's not even time what what did he do already it's almost like such a pessimistic way of looking at a person before you sinned we're ready sure you sin what are you asking Hashem what do you want forgiveness so what's the sin at that point he says the Sin is that we don't believe that God really forgave us that's the greatest a hoip is finished and you look in the mirror and you say I'm still the same low life I'm still the same filthy human being you don't believe you may believe in God but you don't believe that God believes in you and that's sometimes the worst s they tell an anecdote that there was a u American family the name was Smith and they were very very proud of their yis not only Jews are proud of their y sometimes other people are proud of their y they had great lineage they traded their lineage back to the people who founded our country their ancestors came on the Mayflower 1620 the 17th century to the United States of America before it was the United States of America and they hired a top researcher to write a book about their family and this great lineage and he starts researching the family and lo a shame on the family what do you do the researcher says let me take care of it writes the book gets it published they open the book and this is what he says great uncle Clarence Clarence Smith occupied a chair in a very important governmental institution he was tied down to his position with the strongest of chords and wires and ropes and despite all of his desires to leave he could not tear himself away from that important cheer that he occupied in this governmental institution he sat there in the chair till his last breath his death came as a sudden shock [Music] so says sometimes the greatest sin in life is that but you believe you're tied down to the chair with ropes what's my sin my sin is I'm asking you to forgive me for the fact that I believe that I always sin that I'm a sinner that I'm a bad person that you could never really forgive me that change is not really possible for me writes says and we say it a whole time iner we say from we say it in every fast day R means a Russ an immoral a wicked person shall abandon his way his d as you're calling it a what's the of the of the that he has no he would have a he has no D he has no path he has no principles by which he or she guides their life whatever comes up the next impulse the next habit the next addiction the next Instinct the next craving what's he has a he has a path says the beginning of not a person sins because of a spirit of folly of temporary insanity what's y r dark so the says y r dark is his D is that he believes that he's really a rash he says that's his D the D is he feels this is my path I cannot leave this path dark he feels that he's really really a Russia he's really doomed to this path and he doesn't realize that with one moment he can recreate himself he can transform himself he's not tied down by cords he also says what else is dark dark is that he believes that for Hashem he's insignificant he's valueless he says that's a d That's a DK that guides him always what I do doesn't matter my life doesn't matter my thoughts my words my actions what can AATA already accomplished this way or that way he says he always remembers all of his negative things and therefore he defines himself essentially as horrible innately and the problem is he thinks it's a D in because he's full of guilt it seems idealistic when you're full of guilt the definition of a Jew is when you don't feel guilty you blame yourself and it feels very Jewish to feel guilty and if not to feel even more guilty for the fact that you don't feel guilty and if you don't don't feel guilty even that you don't feel guilty then for sure you have a real problem you must be so sick that you don't feel guilty that you don't feel guilty that you don't feel guilty now you as feel guilty that you're so sick and you don't even know how sick you are there was a Jewish woman came to jury duty and she got off because she told the judge that she was guilty somebody asked you what's what's the difference between an Italian mother and a Jewish mother so I said both of them make pasta for dinner both of their teenage boys come home and start eating the pasta and both 16-year-olds tell their mother this is the worst spaghetti that has been made in the history of humanity you won't catch me dead eating it even if I've been starving a week I would not take this spaghetti into my mouth I wouldn't feed it to my worst enemy both mothers shoot the Italian mother shoots the boy and the Jewish mother shoots herself so y what's this this that I'm always guilty and it feels I'm holy feels like the it's really the because it keeps you stagnated it keeps you paralyzed keeps you demoralized it keeps you [Music] depressed he says what's oven comes oven means iniquity iniquity mistakes errors so he says what's his what are his thoughts thoughts he says his thoughts are that he's trapped forever in his thoughts his thoughts are that he's obsessively trapped in his thoughts in one moment everything changes so says that's the after you go through and then you turn to God and you say but I'm still the same bum says for that you have to ask forgiveness that's sometimes the worst sin the worst sin is the fact that you think think that you're so full of sin you don't recognize how close you are to him and how close he wants to be to you and that under all circumstances you have unconditional Purity and that even mistakes you can always fix I'll tell you there was a fellow his name was uh Sir Edmund Hillary not to confuse with the other Hillary this was a [Music] z he was from New Zealand I guess another way not to confuse confus the two he was also a mountain climber I guess another way not to confuse the two I don't know if it would be good for her under the present circumstances to do mountain climbing and uh he was an Explorer in 1952 he tried climbing Mount Everest 29,000 ft he tried he made it close to the top but he failed ultimately and in England they honored him at a dinner shortly after not for his success he didn't make it to the top but for his attempt for his work they gave him a lot of Honor they gave him a lot of credit but he looked at himself and he felt like a failure for obvious reason so he gave his speech he finishes his speech there was a huge portrait of Mount Everest hanging on the wall and he finishes his speech he goes over to the portrait and he starts speaking to the portrait and he says Mount Everest you beat me but I promise you I will beat you you know how I know because you have already grown to your full capacity but I'm still the middle of growing the next year May 29 he made it to the top of Mount ever 19 1953 the first person so that's the story that's the story of the story of el it's the story of R it's a story of Yim Kipper never ever say you stop growing Mount Everest may be taller than you but as long as you're still growing that's what matters I I I I I [Music] I [Music] all it [Music] did [Music] I I I I [Music] my [Music] [Laughter] [Music] I [Music] get [Music] all [Music] for [Music] [Laughter] [Music] he [Music] hey [Music] hey [Music] h [Music] la la oh [Music] is already holding some there's a misconception that I think many of us have when it comes to the concept of Y the day of judgment as the expression is they tremble they say the story that uh the B Ali s his days went to wake up his sonim then was a little boy they say it about him early in the morning before Dawn break one of these cold El mornings and his little was under the blanket and his father says again time to go for sers 5 minutes I want you out a bed dress father comes back 5 minutes later and of course his little boy is sound asleep so he wakes him up he says I don't understand you a the fish in vas sit from the even the fish in the water are trembling from the day of judgment that's coming upon us he looks at his father and he says T if the fish were wrapped up in a warm blanket lying in bed like me they also would not tremble so I think we misconstrue the concept of trembling and also the concept of Y person told me the worst day of the year for him is Ander first worst days of the year for some Jews it's the only days they come to sh we call three day three Jews will come three days a year somebody wants asked the big cardiologist he says why do Jews have a disproportionate problems with cardio with their heart he says cuz so many Jews say I'm a Jew in my heart so all the pressure of their Judaism is in their poor heart if they would distribute their Judaism a little bit to their arms and their legs so there would be less pressure on their heart but some Jews come to sh every day of the year you told me he the hardest I said why is it so hard he says I don't like being judged who wants to be judged they don't like being judged and this is not just a judgment he says the he has an anxiety attack and he says the worst is the end so I told him I want to try to give you a little perspective okay you don't like being judged cuz you don't know what it means that somebody judges you you don't understand what it means that God judges you let me tell you what it means imagine imagine I told [Music] them that the one who judges you knows everything about you knows all your trauma knows all your pain knows all your anxiety knows much more than I what you have been through this guy has been through a lot trust me he been through a lot I said you're used to shaggies forgive me judging you they know nothing about you they look at you and they don't like how your yam is situated on your head they don't like what your shirt looks like they don't like how you tucked in and they don't like what you look like so they judge you but imagine you had somebody in your life who judged you based on everything that exists within you your past your Chemistry your physiological physical psychological emotional spiritual makeup knows everything you have endured knows every scar on your body and every scar on your psyche and every scar in your soul knows the home you grew up in knows all the stories knows all the experiences and those not only your conscious but also your subconscious and this one also one more thing is absolutely crazy about you loves you loves you to pieces is infatuated in love with you said how would you feel that such a guy judges you he says it would feel good I said so that's what happens that's what happens with you know what means he knows everything you know yourself very deeply imagine somebody who knows you as well and even deeper and better and he judges you you want such a person to judge you you want such a being to judge you that's who should should be judging you who do you want to judge you you want Obama to judge you you want Trump to judge you I don't want to pick sides you want Clinton to judge you who do you want to judge [Music] you who do you want to judge you you want your Shiga to judge you she does it anyway it's [Music] fine so he says if so rash is a day of Celebration I said no kidding it isra says could look it up and say said you have to understand who's judging you somebody who cares for you somebody who loves you and somebody who knows everything everything is taken into account I want such a one to judge me that's the only one I want to judge me and it's good to be judged by such an entity it's good for somebody to judge you and see what this person needs this year based on who he or she really is and I said and it gets even better the son of Toth is seen by many as a very Dreadful prayer very dreadful for obvious reasons but I think there's a point that people don't realize what nanov is really saying what nanov is really saying is that Hashem says I'm the only one who decides what's going to happen to you this year nobody else don't think Isis controls the world and don't think Al-Qaeda controls the world and even though they create Havoc Untold Havoc catastrophe tragedy Bloodshed the only one who decides what's going to happen with you this year is me and I love you infinitely and I'm here for you forever and the love is unconditional and the only way I judge you is by knowing who you really really are not by anything else I know you with all your innocence I know you with all your Purity I know you with all your pain so I want you to know that the only one who will decide your fate this year your destiny this year is me nobody else nothing else no doctor no physician no individual just me I have emissaries in this world but it's me [Music] so I said when you read in N don't see it as a dreadful prayer see it as a loving prayer somebody who says I'm here with you I'm here for you I'm the one who judges you nobody else's judgment counts and I really know you and uh when I decide what should happen to you it's coming com from a place of the one who knows everything about you and therefore it's taking into consideration your ultimate and truest self past present and future [Music] [Applause] [Music] give a she the h [Music] [Applause] [Music] I give a sheer the heart fore [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] of the the the of May and [Music] of [Applause] [Music] the a open I [Applause] [Music] the the [Music] [Applause] [Music] the for [Music] the [Music] [Applause] by [Applause] [Music] he [Music] [Applause] [Music] the [Music] [Applause] [Music] I always wondered you know we say in the M that when the K came out of K before he came out to the public he used to D in a little short fer not long so people shouldn't get scared that he never made it out a short filler so imagine he just went into the holy of holies once a year and it's a one paragraph F and you would think in that F would be compressed some of the fundamental requests of so there's a few things there he says the rulership should not leave Mal in other words the Jewish people should remain intact in their Homeland with their own leadership their own government he asks people shouldn't need shouldn't be poverty stricken they should have the livelihood they need he speaks about the rain but then he asks he says no woman should have a miscarriage he doesn't doesn't ask that nobody should fall ill he doesn't ask that all those who are ill should become healthy he doesn't ask people shouldn't die he says a woman should not M he doesn't even ask people are infertile should have children okay it's a short F he can't ask for everything but this is what he asks for the fruit of her womb should not fall should not die why this one from all of them it's an important important request but it seems in the context of many other requests around this theme more frequent more common it doesn't even address so everybody knows we say many times so if you look in an English translation is today is the birthday of the world today is the anniversary of creation Adam and were created is the birthday of the world ruam was one of the and he wrote a commentary on the Sid and theam asks the following question he says haras doesn't mean birth you know what harass means haras means pregnant h means pregnancy in fact the word har comes from a Yi says cursed is the day that I was born I wish I wish I would have never been born I would have remained in my mother's womb I would have remained eternally pregnant in my mother's womb in other words I would have been a dead still born baby to stay pregnant forever y curses bemon the day that he emerged into this world how did the take a and transform the meaning over there means Eternal and they turned it into the world cuz could mean forever could mean the universe har in the original means pregnant and they turned it into birthday har today is the birthday of the world and why would they do such a thing PK means forever pregnant and they said today is the birthday of the world's question one of the answers my dear holy friends brothers and sisters is this this is exactly what they were trying to say har means eternally pregnant and Har means the birthday of the world and who decides which interpretation will reign supreme in your life this rash who decides that you have to decide that har will I remain eternally pregnant or haras will I at last emerge will I be born how many people do you know who are eternally pregnant symbolically of course I mean pregnant with ideas with dreams with yearnings with aspirations with desires with Deep Emotions but it remains pregnant forever it never emerges it never comes to fruition it never comes to realization their potential remains dorment and latent for eternity until finally the Fe dies away so when the came out of what did he ask for so many Jews it comes a new year you know people you know yourself in your soul you have so many dreams so many potentials so many possibilities but as a result of fear as a result of insecurity as a result of addiction as a result of various experiences and circumstances you remain pregnant forever let it be the birthday of your world not the Eternal pregnancy of all your potentials and dreams he say that the Berlin who was the and the rashash of the V Yesa in Belarus in valan at the completion of one of his great works one of his great books in he made a he made a celebration and he was addressing his students from the and then said I want to tell you a little bit about my background myself I did not do well in Yesa I did not do well in school I had like what they call today a fop the cup and I was told that I had a fop the cup there's never a shortage of smart people who tell you when you have a stopped a cup which means a plugged brain came by he says the N says I went to sleep one night and I hear my father talking to my mother father tells my mother I tried everything I tried everything it's not an a boy should waste his life tomorrow I'll take him to a carpenter he'll become an apprentice of a carpenter and support himself with dignity he'll build beautiful stenders beautiful AR kishes beautiful tables and shears beautiful bookcases the system wasn't then that 13 you had toet buying for the next 10 years even if you were doing nothing I can't see my boy doing nothing he's 13 years old we tried let him become an oppress ance of a carpenter he's good with his hands the NV says I'm lying in bed and I can hear my mother's my mother's pain my mother tells my father let's let's try a little more it seems like he has something inside father said I tried how many years you going to try sometimes you have to say he is destined to be a carpenter see gets out of bed he says I got out of bed I went in I said father and mother I overheard the conversation let me try once more my father says his name was so they called him herel herel he's a little boy he tried for years it's not a bad thing every person has a different in this world every person has a different mission in this world World some of the greatest were Carpenters that's what God wants from you it's fine this is Father I'm happy to be a carpenter but I think I could be mat give me another chance he says one more day one more day he'll be by your teacher let's see what happens says the next day I decided finally to show some interest and the rest is history so the na tells the students and let me tell you why I did it I thought to myself I'll make for a very good Carpenter but after 120 years I'll come up to heaven and asks every person what did you do in this world and I'll say God look at my standers look at my tables look at my candleabras look at my carpentry look at my beautiful bookcases mahogany Cedar and God will say Shane Shane but I have one [Music] question who is the that's the commentary of the is the that's the commentary of who is the that's the commentary of the [Music] [Applause] that's the commentary of the and I knew I wouldn't have an answer to the question so not long ago somebody told me there was a and he's talking to his students who are cring the bank they're sitting on a bench for many years and he tells him the story and then he says when you come up to heaven God is going to turn to you guys and say so what' you do he said we sat in Yeshiva and K for 30 40 years God says that's beautiful but I have one question V is [Music] the where's the bench where's the table that you were supposed to build you have to be honest with yourself and with your children even more you have to decide will you remain pregnant with ideas with dreams with potentials or will you finally be born and what's stopping you from be from being born is it fear is it pain is it anxiety is it cynicism is it the need to please others that's why so many people are never born they're afraid to be born you know why cuz if you're not born born nobody ever has anything to say about you we don't talk about fetuses in the womb once you're born IAL now we already make a mess now we have to change your diapers now you already have different situation so people it's easier not to be born so there used to be in Europe a circus it's not around anymore a circus of bugs of fleas familiar very interesting circus they would have fleas doing races but how do you train a flea you know a flea tiny bunk runs flies away how do you how do you train a flea Mar B says there's no there's no you can't trap a bird if there's no roof that's even a bird a flea flies away so I read once the way they used to train these fleas I'll tell you why the circus stopped because these fleas have to eat 30 times a day and the owner of the circus had to provide the food and you know what the food for fleas is his blood so he had to have them on his body sucking his blood so ultimately it wasn't such a BOS let's put it that way it was bam for the fleas but it wasn't bam for wasn't that tasty for the owner of the circus how do you get fleas under control how do you get bugs under control so this is what they did you could research it they would take a glass lid a glass box with a glass lid on the top put in the bugs put in the fleas into the box what does a bug do when it's in a box tries to get out bangs its head people usually learn faster but bugs it takes a little more time so the flea is flying up boom boom boom boom say it's 10 in high after a th000 2,000 three or 4,000 times it bangs it set each time it flies up it learns not to fly higher than 10 in cuz if it flies higher than 10 in it's going to get a boo boo in the KE Boo Boo in the head after it learns that he opens the lid takes out the flea and it will never fly higher than 10 in it will always remain below 10 in why the sky is the limit the answer is the flea is a prisoner a prisoner to what a prisoner to its own belief Bel a prisoner to its own belief that I can't fly higher from so many years or months or days or weeks or hours of experiencing that when I fly high I get hurt the flea is a prisoner to its own belief system that it can't fly there's no objective barrier there's no objective Mania preventing the flea from flying high but if you're a prisoner to your own belever how many people experience the same challenge because at a certain point in your life there was a lid over your head and when you tried to fly the first time when you were four years old somebody said something and now 20 30 40 50 years later you still won't go higher than 10 in not because somebody's holding you back cuz you're a prisoner to your own beliefs that you can't go higher so they took those two words you have to make a decision will you remain eternally pregnant or one of the greatest tragedies is that people look at themselves and they say me who am I what am I I'm impotent I'm infertile spiritually and even if I'm pregnant I could never bring it out everybody knows the Rish who's the master the one who taught us about sh in the end of mish the gor says was a gangster a muscular Gladiator one day the the greatest Jew of the generation the editor of t one of the greatest the first generation of is bathing in the Jordan River in the yard Andes says's Beauty was unsurpassed so what does he do he jumps in to the Jordan right near just to understand who was most of the say he wanted to do something very inappropriate with according to many or other things understand who ises was powerful man one jump he's in the river near who's bathing what would you say if you were to to this man you might look at him and say [Music] Russia which is what he was basically what two words such power belongs to TAA your power belongs to TAA such power this is what TAA needs this is what you need this is what your power needs was no fool he looks at and says two [Music] words your beauty belongs to women you're telling me I'm in the wrong job I'm telling you you're in the wrong job a fellow like you should leave the base Med she could do much better for yourself with your beauty so what tell him you think I'm beautiful should see my sister and if you turn your around life around I will suggest my sister to marry you is luish takes him up on his offer he becomes his brother-in-law Remain the two greatest Giants of the generation anyone who learns gamar knows frequently you'll be studying the debates the conversations thees between I want to ask you a question what impressed RL so much that he should turn around his life while he's into Jordan River standing near what did say you strength belongs to TI and he says your beauty belongs to women so some people misunderstand the gar they say cuz he wanted sister if he's so beautiful his sister's even more beautiful but now I ask you another question was so cruel when your sister asked to get married what do you do you drive every sh M you interview do them for months you speak to every speaks lies and takes money you research you scrutinize and if you find out that at 14 something out that's it's not for me my daughter special we know your daughter is impeccable Flawless that book no I need the perfect person this guy jumps into the river to basically do something to violate him in a very besides the lack of humanness this is this is a crime of the highest level whether he thought he was a woman or he thought he was a man both she he's going to become your brother-in-law you're going to give your sister to him but I want to knowl why dlish turn around his life it turned out to be a good what happened to this is the whole story you don't have to know much more when it comes to education had a and he had an eye he had a perception he had a perceptiveness he looked at Rich Lish and he saw har he saw this man is so powerful so deep so profound he saw har he saw what lay in him he saw his potential and he knew this potential can die forever when he said your power could go to he meant it but he wasn't just saying it he really meant it when he told Rich Lish I will give you to my sister you know what Rish Lish heard Rish Lish says to himself this is how he believes in me this is how he believes in me a thief a gangster a mafiosa I was the boy who was diagnosed at the age of six with having every learning disability in the world I was thrown out from nine yeshivas at the age of 11 I was already after nine yeshivas at 12 I was already in the mafia I was already a gladiator and he believes in me to the point he's ready to suggest me to my sister allowed to believe in himself cuz he saw how believed in him and he made sure he wouldn't be pregnant anymore with potential his potential would be born and that's why the first thing him Kipper the first thing you have to say him Kipper before anything what do you say you Sayid what's nidre [Music] n my promises are no promises my pledges are no pledges my Oaths are no Oaths that's how you go into youy all the pledges for the next year I not want to ask you a that's the opening of Yer why is that the holiest prayer in the year it's not even a prayer it's a legal statement where you're basically telling me that I shouldn't take anything you say seriously for the next year okay welcome to the club another honest [Music] man was once a guy was working for somebody he fired him he says all the deals you made you nullified he says the first thing is I never made the deal the second thing is even if I made it you misunderstood me and the third thing is even if I made it and understood me I changed my mind okay so we don't want this to happen so you make a declaration in front of the whole SCH your promises mean nothing okay it's a good idea shouldn't transgress the prohibition of violating but this is up as the peak of Yer the Holiness of Yer the song of kid is stirring it's heart stirring everyone is evoked from the song I once told somebody I once told the crowd I said said why don't you do this song with English words you'll help me [Music] out all my promises and vows and pledges and commitments and oath and then you go on and you finally reach the peak [Music] okay in English my promises are no promises where is he my promises are no promises I and my pledges are no pledges and my oath are no oath wow that's inspiring from this till next nullified absolved obliterated L completely with no Authority it doesn't exist the music and the lyrics I'm sorry but they don't match it's a maszle that it's in Aramaic so nobody understands what they're saying but anybody you reads it in English something off there something off every year we do the same thing and it reach a crescendo don't take anything I say seriously I got it but what's the depth of the inspiration so the balatan says something very powerful so what he says he says you come into everybody is full with Nadim with promises you know what type of promise there are good promises you make but there are also other promises there are Oaths there are promises that I tell myself I can't do this why can't you do it cuz I made a promise when I was 6 years old I will never try again cuz I made a promise when I was 9 years old I'm never going to trust cuz I made a promise when I was 12 years old subconsciously I'm never going to love cuz I made a promise when I was 16 years old I will never ever allow myself to be backstabbed again and I remain tied up in my shackles I may tied up by my ropes by my cords promises Oaths I swear I will never ever be who I really am I can't but the POS says in everybody has a little daughter in them and everybody has a little girl a little boy in them that makes promises what does a father do he [Music] says he says the love that a father has to a daughter makes her feel so powerful that she could let go of all the things that tired down because there's so much pain that ties people down anxiety trauma I can't take away your trauma but I could make you feel that you're more powerful than your trauma how by loving you unconditionally when I love you unconditionally so you feel and you ask yourself why does this person love me what's in it what's in me I'm so worthless and then you learn that you're more powerful than all of your chains you're more powerful than all the things that hold you down you have scars but you're more powerful than them how do you learn that because the father loves you your father loves you unconditionally that's the only way you could let people go out of their chains tell them to go out of their chains they don't want to be there you think she want you think your daughter wants to be in Chains you think your boy wants to be in Chains you think people want to be in Chains they would love to be free they don't know how to a a prisoner can't go out don't tell me to go out of my chains Empower me how do you Empower me only one way you can't Empower me by telling me how bad I am in my chains I know and you can't Empower me by telling me what a horrible life I have in my chains thank you I know better than you the only way you can Empower me is if you could show me what exists in me if you could look at me and say [Music] and you could make me believe in that when Rish heard that he transformed his whole life this is what thinks of me first time anybody ever told Rish Lish that he was a giant everybody told him he was a not physically [Music] spiritually so you come in Yer the first thing you have to [Music] say the first thing you have to say is that all the promises all the pledges all the Oaths that I made that I'm this and I'm not this I can't be this I can't I can't I can't I'm not allowed to I have to be miserable I have to have conflict in my home I can't have a good relationship with my children they can't be Shalom biased by me I have to be full of anxiety I can't take a stand I can't take responsibility for my life I can't talk to my father I can't talk to my mother I can't be I can't fully be Kipper you sense the awesomeness of your soul and when you sense the awesomeness of your soul you realize you're more powerful than all your [Music] shackles you hear you hear you hear the Journey of life but now you can get stuck there don't get stuck in the low [Applause] part that's the of a soul Invincible like God now you could say now you could say to put a ly if I come to you and I ask you do you know yourself you say for sure could you swear that you know yourself for sure tell me who you are you tell me who you are swear that this is who you are you could swear suddenly M Kiper comes and you feel that who you thought you were is not really who you are you're so much better you're so much deeper but you swore yesterday that this is who I am I am this so what's the first thing you have to say [Music] all my Oaths are [Music] worthless I bless you I bless me I bless all of our people I bless the world that this year haras should not be eternally pregnant har should be the birthday of the world [Applause] [Music] [Applause] so [Laughter] [Music] [Applause] call la la la [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] yeah yeah yeah yeah a [Music] [Applause] [Music] la [Music] [Applause] [Music] am [Applause] [Music] say no yet I [Music] I'll for S I left [Music] we my my go [Music] [Applause] is so my dear friends the ra says what's what's that the knower of Secrets can testify that you're never going to return to this sin now I ask you a question who can do trur it's like saying I'm going on a diet and Hashem knows you're never ever going to eat eat the piece of cake again who's going to go on a diet one one in a generation never never ever going to touch it again everybody knows laws of thevery says so the says you have to pay back that which you stole so if I steal your iPhone I got to give you back your iPhone but what happens if there was a sh what happens if that which you stole you can't return anymore son you sculpture the Rocks you change it you can't give back what you took you redesign the wood you can't bring it back to that original position so the is you pay the money you pay the value of what you took you don't pay the object itself this is all if you can't give back the original what if you could get back the original for example I steal a beam I steal a brick I put it into my house so you have to destroy your house and give back the brick because you could give back the original it's called a change that can be restored back to its original but the said you don't have to why they knew yank is sitting he wants to do Chip he wants to give you back the beams that he stole he looks up at his beautiful home and he says to himself I want to do CH but I'm not destroying my house now he's goingon to give up you wanted to motivate people to do you say even if it's a even if it could be restored back to its original position you don't have to give back that which you stole just pay back the money says the same is true spiritually when a person sins they stole they stole from Hashem they stole from themselves they stole from their the world belongs to Hashem a person's life belongs to Hashem when a person lies person behaves in an inappropriate way they stole they stole the that gave them they stole the money the resources the life that hasm gave them they stole their the the identity the energy the potential they stole and they used it for something that is inappropriate contrary to the owner's design contrary to their own true design so what's the they stole their body they stole their soul they took it out from the of the that's what a means a means you you transfer it from one domain to another domain what's the is you got to give it back unless there a sh unless it's change so the ra says what type of change it never will go back that change that's TR says doesn't want to take you back he wants a change and if you change you don't have to give give it back you're fine live you don't have to give back your body and soul but what type of change a real change irreversible change this is what did say if you're going to demand that change it's not going to work they said any change Works SED cuz they're still looking for a nickel to be able to give him and send him where he belongs there's a lesson here people call our generation of Jews Hypocrites it's not true our generation of Jews are not Hypocrites that's our problem many Jews say I'm not a hypocrite because I'm not a hypocrite unless it's real it's real if it's not real it's not real if it's good but if it's a reversible change why should I begin don't look as at your life in an extreme fashion I'm good I'm bad every Dent matters every change is significant every movement is powerful and every call means something never underestimate one action one gesture one thought one one word look at Mr Schwarz he gave one lousy nickel to a homeless fellow January night 91 and he's still enjoying it that's what the r says in to look at yourself in the word as a and the world as a scale the way a person should imagine his life that one action one word One thought I tip a scale the way of person should imagine the significance it's not the guilt it's the significance it's the value of a person's life but now I ask you a question why is it that we don't appreciate not in ourselves and not in others small actions why is it imagine anybody who knows anything about kiru knows a young Jewish boy or Jewish girl completely alienated to Judaism they show up Yi to the sh and what does the rabbi say wow it's so nice to have you thank you for coming you know where he was the night before y Kipper you know where he's going the night after yipper of course you do but he came ker wow so nice to have you you came for shabas thank you for coming for shabas your own child also came for shabas also came in forid what's the question where were you where were you from where were you yesterday where why don't you appreciate what is why do you only criticize what's not why do you app why don't you appreciate what is why don't you celebrate success stories why Always criticize what's missing there's nothing positive why always only what's missing take it away [Music] [Applause] [Music] la [Music] [Applause] [Music] your man together [Music] d everybody you could wake up you could wake up [Applause] [Music] she the [Music] [Applause] la let me leave you with uh let me leave you with this V [Music] people don't realize how much anxiety they have because of broken [Music] relationships because of fragmented relationships you see when you're not speaking to your brother or you're not unspeaking TOS with your sister or with your mother or with your aunt or with your uncle or with your old part partner or with your child or your nephew or your old Kusa or your old colleague or your old neighbor you think you're over it but you're usually [Music] not you have a scarred soul and what it does is it doesn't allow you to be free it doesn't allow you to give birth to your dreams because a part of you is locked up so if you want a genuine you want a genuine tomorrow morning or the next day is also fine and if you want to wait to Tuesday knock yourself out fine you should pick up a telephone don't text texting is a false facade for people who can't communicate face to face is always best email no do it the old way the real old way is face to face the semi old way is a telephone I'm not telling you to use a rotary phone even though it's better but uh you pick up a phone or you meet the person if you can't meet them they're in London or or in Israel or wherever they are in Brooklyn you pick up a phone people think they don't make up with people cuz they're strong we don't make up with people cuz we're weak if you're really strong you will not Melt from saying I'm sorry if you're weak you think you'll Melt from saying I'm sorry what happens if they were wrong and you said I'm sorry what's the worst thing that's going to happen they'll think that you were wrong okay you're so weak that if somebody thinks you're wrong you melt you stop existing the reason we don't make up is not cuzz we're strong it's cuz we're weak when you realize that you're bigger than that you're larger than carrying a fight and a grudge for 5 years 10 years you make up you reach out you apologize you ask M you say I'm sorry and you'll see that you will let your soul Go free a good [Music] [Applause] [Music] oh I know W oh yeah I know W oh yeah [Applause] [Music] oh [Music] day [Music] [Applause] [Music] on on your name is [Applause] [Music] [Applause] oh oh day [Music] see we on day is oh [Applause] [Music] on oh [Applause] [Music] [Applause] oh your name is oh your name oh [Applause] oh know oh know live oh oh ohu [Applause] oh [Applause] [Music] see oh know [Music] know know my [Music] [Applause] i s my your your your [Applause] [Music] 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