Setting up targets and goals and then achieving them!!

Dove, new life. No echo. Now there's nobody up to see. Wait a second. Okay, we'll start. Oh, hi Kim. Can you hear me? How are you doing? &gt;&gt; Last summer you were with us in Los Angeles. Hear me well. No echo. Good streaming. [Music] &gt;&gt; Okay. So, we're ready to start the Amen. Good evening everybody. End of the Sh. I thought about it a few hours ago. I can't believe it's Shabbat tomorrow. Yeah, it's unbelievable. &gt;&gt; It's like the time is going so fast. It's just unbelievable. Yes. And I spoke about it at least in every last lecture in the last week or two. How time now is going so fast. It's unbelievable. It's already Thursday. Tomorrow Shabbat. It's like unbelievable. I can't believe how everything is going so fast, which what we need to take from that is how focused we need to be. And uh in the last two months, I've been traveling around the United States. And tonight is the the last harrah last lecture of the trip. So you're getting the best for last as I said the last few days. And uh this lecture will be to the summary of two months at least for me. And for two months I started in New York. We were all over the New York. And of course New York is the biggest crowd that I have. And uh we I was around New York, New Jersey, Pennsylvania, all that area. Then flew to the Midwest, then more into uh more to the west, Denver, Las Vegas, Detroit, many many different cities, and of course came here at the end to Miami. Now, a lot of people when they watch the videos or they come to classes, they just take from that that uh okay, you know, it's a class Rabbi flew in and uh let me go and see it. Very few people take to consideration to what extent it takes the planning before and all the coordination. It's not that I'm flying here by myself. I'm here with my wife and seven kids. So that's flying nine people to different locations at different times. A lot of planning, a lot of coordinating, a lot of uh a lot of stress so to say, but uh good stress. And why am I saying that? Because when you look at it from your side, I just came to your town, you saw a flyer, you come to a lecture, that's it. You don't see the preparation behind what what it takes to come. Sometimes, some of the lectures, you wouldn't even believe what it takes for me to come. I mean, I've been stopped by earthquakes, tsunamis, hurricanes. I I told you already yesterday and many times my traveling karma is not that good and I attract disasters. Last time when there was a hurricane in Miami, I got stuck here. It's because of me, by the way. You You got punished because of me. Which one was it? Uh I think it was like six years ago or seven years ago. Every time they come up with some Irma &gt;&gt; 2017, I believe. &gt;&gt; No, no, I think it was 18 or 19. &gt;&gt; Was a bad one. Doom and gloom. &gt;&gt; Yeah. Yeah. I got stuck here. I came here. Everything was like last minute. Of course. I finished a huge summer tour in the West Coast. Somehow somebody invited me here. It worked out with the flights, everything. I came here, boom, to a hurricane. And I got stuck here four days. No electricity, no nothing. It was a It was a pleasure to be here. I think it was like 158°. &gt;&gt; Yeah. No air. &gt;&gt; Uh no nothing. No air conditioning, just the noise of the generator of the of the neighbor. So that was definitely a tikun for before coming to Roshana. So I I actually attract disasters. I'm not joking. So for me to come to a trip, it's a it's a there's a lot of background and the way how to make a trip successful besides the blessing of Hashem and Hashem allowing things to happen because everything is a miracle over a miracle over a miracle. It's not that don't just think that I come here and that's it. I show up and hi and everything is like a two-hour lecture, two weeks of hardship, headaches, stress, amuna, you have to everything. I now I have more proof. Now I'm carrying more proof with me. So uh the the the anyone who ever gets involved with helping the tours in the beginning comes with a lot of good spirits and usually 3 hours later. Okay, I think you got to do it yourself. and uh one out of 5,000 stays and uh eats the dirt and uh sees what it takes to create a tour. What to create the the entire visit and and just preparing the lectures. That's one thing. I'm here like I told you I'm shleing with me a family that's moving everybody around. Where do you put everybody to sleep and eat and all that and the point of that is also to have fun. So the reason I'm telling you that is because before you go on a trip like that, sometimes the trips are planned in 3 weeks, sometimes in two months. This particular trip was planned in about a month and a half before I came. And before I start the trip, I take a lot of papers. I always write notes. I always put everything down in writing. Bring it down from the thought realm to the physical realm. Trust me, it helps a lot when you need to put things together. And I hope you are paying attention to everything that I'm saying because what I'm saying is what I do and how I reach to my level of focus. And if you're here besides for the entertainment, if you're here to learn something, then then pay attention because that's what I do. And the reason why I'm teaching that is because it has been working for me for 22 years. So I'm not like Fizer that they give it three months testing and then they bring it out to the to the public. I took 20 years of testing. I see that it works. Then now I come and give it to to the public telling you it works for me. So we spoke three days ago about anava about being humble how to do it how to reach it and really I touched the other day like I scraped the bottom of it but it's as long as you understand where you need to start. If you don't have ana you will not be successful in anything that you do in your life ever and the success that you will have will be temporary. That's it. Because in order to hold the success, you need to understand that it's 100% present from Hashem. You didn't do nothing. So for if it's 100% the present then you have to be 100% grateful and not to say I did it. I was able to do it. It was my hard work and so forth. You can take 1% credit and the rest you give to Hashem. So we spoke about ana without that you can't do nothing. You will never have any spiritual growth in this world and also nothing physical will work well for you. And if you're saying, "Yeah, but there's a lot of successful people that are arrogant." Don't measure success, but what you see, not everything that shines is gold. Uh whereas arrogance, there'll never be anything positive. So don't uh be blinded by anything that looks good. Most of what you see in front of you is fake. After you are able to start approaching the path of going on I'm going to start becoming more humble then yesterday we spoke about the amun the faith the trust because if you're not leaning on hem 100% then nothing in your life will work as it should. If you have the right ama the right faith and you understand that even the bad things in your life that you get disappointed from are good for you. There's a reason for that. Just right now, moments before I came here, I got and I'm I'm saying I'm going to it's going to sound bad, but I just want to give the example. I got bad news. Okay, it's not bad. It's nothing real bad. Something that we were planning on doing and last minute it got cancelled and we really wanted to do it. I told you I'm here with my kids. So, it was, you know, not good news. We all got disappointed. Ah, we already had our hopes up and we were planning and hoping and it's going to be so fun and and boom, whatever it was got cancelled. So I know it sound it might sound something sound very superficial what I'm saying now okay some activity got cancelled but you the fact is and you can relate to it there's disappointment you had hopes you were waiting you're so there's a little bit of disappointment now in a lot of people the disappointment might be big and especially if the event is something bigger not an event being cancelled the level of disappointment that you experience that's how much imuna you have if you want to now measure how much amuna you have not that you believe that God exists that you believe that everything that he does or I'll say different that everything that happens in your life he did so if this is the case then there's no point of this there's no no place for disappointment because if Hashem decided this is the case you know I'll give you another example in this two months tour that we're now on my my my families are heroes they I take them with me you know they they they that's not me that's when I go to lecture pictures. It's It's my stage. It's my thing. My wife is married to me to 22 years. Nobody knows how she looks even. She's not She's like, "That's your thing. I'm not in the stage. I'm your wife. I'm a different part of your life." And uh we thought this tour maybe to have her do some lectures. And she's like, "No, this is your world. Don't don't try to bring me into your world even." So my lectures, that's that's me. But in the meantime, I'm carrying on me like a like a kangaroo, a whole family. So I I it has to be also fair for them. But they're real heroes. They slept with me everywhere. They sleep in odd places, flights that are weird hours and missed, of course. And so they deserve also some uh some good feedback. So in this trip, we said, "Okay, we're going to have to we're going to go on a vacation." So we were planning for so long to go to Barbados. Okay. When we came to book the tickets and everything, suddenly the the tickets were like six times more expensive and all the hotels, Airbnbs were like outrageously expensive, not like what we saw. So last minute we found where can we go that can be affordable and nice and so we found somewhere in Mexico. It was like a a six of the price. Instead of getting disappointed that oh we wanted to go to that island and do this and this and that. You know what happened at the end while we were in Mexico? There was the threat of all the hurricanes. The Barbados area was raining 24/7. Horrible, horrible weather. If we would be there, we would be miserable sitting in some miserable Airbnb, no sun, no beach, no nothing. So, and this is a minor detour in your life that you might get disappointed and Hashem is telling you, I have your back. what do you worry about? I'm going to give you something better. So that's where the amuna has to come in. And the muna what I spoke about yesterday that I don't believe only that Hashem exists. I know that everything in my life that's Hashem. He's the He's the GPS. I just follow. I don't do anything. I think I do, but I don't do really much. He's the one who's taking me everywhere. And that's the attitude. And that's the I spoke about yesterday. But in any place in in any part of your life, it doesn't matter if it's you now focusing on your spiritual growth. Most people they're focusing on their career, their academic uh studies, uh many other things that are more mundane and connected to this world. It's starting a business, running a business, whatever it is. And if it's not academic studies, whatever, you you get what I'm saying? And then of course when you're in your 30s 40s you have a family you have to focus on the family educating the kids and there's a lot more what to focus on and that by the way with the age it's not that the problems disappear you have older kids it's bigger problems and then they have kids and what I'm saying is that all your life you have something to focus on very few people that I know the their focus is on Hashem It's not on what they need to do. So very few people I can say that they they're they're saying I I want to focus on my spiritual growth. Most people that come to me for a blessing. Not that I'm some wellspring of knowledge or or something like that. Well, people for whatever reason they come ask for a for a blessing. I'm going to say no. Why would I say no? It doesn't cost me any money. And any person can bless another person. So a lot of people ask me for blessings but most of the blessings is to get married or uh healing for a family member or themselves uh solutions to disasters in their life that that I don't have solutions I can you know maybe just be just give a blessing finance of course one of the top ones in the chart so that's usually the blessings in many of the cases is for peace between a man and a woman and in most of the cases is to have an easy divorce first because whatever like but that's normally the requests once in a blue moon somebody comes and asks me for a blessing to be successful in fighting their yet or to be successful because they put a place some goals in their life and they want to achieve them and they want to learn more Torah or to be able to pray naminan or to be able to focus on their kosher diet very few people come and that's what's in their mind I want to become better here here and So what we need to take from that that when you want to be successful in anything has to be first a plan and in order for it to be a plan need you need a target. If you don't have a target that what's the plan where where are we going? So always has to be a target where my face is going to back to what I started by when I saying that I came here for two months. When I started planning the tour has to be a target. What's my target? What am I when am I coming? What am I I'm going to move now an entire family for two months. I go out of my place of comfort. And believe me, it's not comfortable for me to sleep in other people's houses, to sleep in Airbnbs, to travel all the time, living out of a suitcase. It's not fun. It's not fun. I mean, it's fun. Don't get me wrong. I take the fun part of it, and whatever is not fun, I totally ignore. I see the good part in it. I see the fact that I'm 24/7 with my kids. That I don't have when I'm at home. They go to schools. They go to 15 activities. I'm busy. And even if I have them, it's not all together. For me to have seven kids together, my youngest one is 5 years old, my oldest is 21. They don't hang out. So to have all of them together, for me, that's a huge huge present. So I don't see the trip as a burden. I see that, oh good, I have all my kids around me. I don't ever look at the the at the negative part of the any situation. You want to take it to a a cliche? I don't look at the empty part of the cup. I always look at I I always look at oh I left I have left a lot. So in this trip also I don't look I'm not whining complaining. I'm just pre painting the picture that that because a lot of people don't appreciate that. A lot of people think that I just land here with my private jet and a limousine picks me up brings me here and uh no no no limousines. I carry heavy suitcases and in most of the cases like Florida, I sweat a lot. So, uh, and that's not carrying a carry-on. So, but it's all fun. It's all part of the fun. Why am I saying that? Has to be first a target. Why am I coming here? Am I coming here to to to what? To a vacation. I'm coming here to shop. I'm coming here to meet my followers, do lectures? I did very well five years when I was banned from this country doing lectures. My my followers were growing in in thousands and thousands. I wasn't even here from 2019. I was banned from this country. 5 years I couldn't come in here. I did pretty well putting my stuff online. I don't have to travel. I don't have to sleep anywhere. Therefore, and I sit in front of a camera in the comfort of my home. I can sit now with underwear if I want and and with a jacket. &gt;&gt; Don't tell me that. &gt;&gt; No, I don't sit with an underwear. But but you just imagine I mean I everywhere everything was pretty well going 5 years everything online I don't need to come here so before starting a trip has to be a target what's my target and it can be five targets that's how my how my mind works okay let's see what's my target number one is to reach as many as people possible in live lectures okay so what do we need to do for that how many days do I have many days do I require for traveling How many days should I do in every city? It's also very taxing every day lecture. It's not so easy for you. You're just sitting and enjoying yourself. You know, there's some background behind every lecture and the traveling and everything around it. The point to take from what I'm trying to say is that when you want something to be successful, you have to have a target first. Now, I'm telling you that I'm concluding this tour in the next few days after I come back home. Of course, it's going to be very close to Shana. I'm not too sure that that's going to be the time for me to do it. But very soon after will come the summary of the truth of the tour. First of all, let's go to the physical level. How much did it cost? How much did it cost and did it cover itself? Usually, it's in a deficit. Usually, you pay everything, comes the end of the door. Okay, I'm in a deficit of usually a lot of money. So, that's a hint, by the way. uh but then I do not only the financial expenses it's the the the benefit of everything how much was was it smart to invest in here was it smart to invest in there last year for example I took big holes I didn't do it in shoes there was a lot of expenses to do it in ballrooms in holes sometimes it was smart sometimes it wasn't so the point is that you also want to learn from all your mistakes what am I saying is that very soon will come the summary of the store for me and probably will be also online for the followers. my uh what do I take from two months last year I had I don't know I think like 15 lectures worth of material uh when I came back most of them were not such jolly lectures because I came with all that I saw in all the communities and started writing down in in a very specific order all the horrible things that I see because every day I'm in a different community so I see all the all the arguments all the disagreements the I see everything. So then I can come and put all the dots together and tell you tell tell you as a nation we're doing pretty bad in regards to the gula graph or we're not doing that great. So start working on your midot very fast. With that said, anytime that I want to be successful has to be a plan, has to be a target and after that has to be the the the analytics of what how can I see what what was the benefits anything good came out of it less good that's how I see it and that's how I do everything in my life so very soon when I will do my own report I will do the report first of all physical how much did it cost how much money did it bring in how much money could had have it brought should have I done this and to see the the finance here after all it's a lot lot of money involved and then to see if I can better myself not better myself what it could have been done and after that my analysis for every little thing and of course then follow the rest of the targets that I had on my list that was a lot of targets not only the lectures if I'm already coming here I'm coming here I'm going to I I shoot to many different directions that's why even during During the day, it's not that I have time that I'm sitting in some pool in Boca Raton and uh enjoying a good beer. During the day, I'm also occupied with many different things. I'm already here. I'm on this land. Might might as well do productive things. But at the end will come also the complete report. What's the measure of success based on what I think if there was success? What was the show up? How many people showed up? What's the feedback that we getting? You know, a lot of people are nice. They send the message after the lecture. Thank you so much. It was a good lecture. You really gave me, you know, good advice. You inspired me. I like reading these comments. I don't have time to read all the comments and all the emails. But believe it or not, I also like looking through the comments sometimes because it's it gives me listen, I only see all the bad stuff. I see the attacks. I see the against me, the lies. I see that. I see. But uh and also the other negative things but very few people send messages. Thank you. It was good. I like that part. Whatever. So just know that when you do it, I like it. Even now people putting hearts. I'm not reading right now the the the comments, but I see the hearts. I don't know maybe the heart they like something else. I don't know. But uh point said that I'd like to summarize everything at the end to see what was how I measure the success and my success is physical uh spiritual of course with no doubt because I'm combining here many different things. Now the reasons why I'm saying all this is because if hopefully you've been following the lectures in the last 10 days about ul and hopefully following what you need to do on ul then now it's a time for you to set the path of your transformation. It will not work if right now you are not holding by the level of saying I am not satisfied with how my last year was. So I will ask you that question now that it will echo in your mind. Do you feel that the last 11 months was a good 11 months? Was it a good year for you? And don't tell me you know it wasn't good cuz I didn't make money. Money is one aspect out of dozens of other aspects. Money is not how you should measure your your year. You need to now introspect and say am I happy with the last 11 months? First of all, emotionally, how many days of the year I was happy? How many days of the year I was not happy? Stressed, tired, worried. If you can uh very easily say most of the year I'm happy. Good. Very good. But you need to do all these things. By the way, I'm talking about right now is applicable to any individual. Doesn't matter man, woman, Jew, non-Jew, affiliate, not doesn't matter your level of observance. A lot of people think that what I'm talking about is if you're orthodox and above has nothing to do with your level of observance. What we're talking now is practical actions that fits any level. It doesn't matter who you are. You can be a complete newbie knowing Hashem or you can be a 25 year personnel bouva. That's what I do repetitively and it works. So the month of Aul is the month when I can do my transformation. If I'm really in a in a good level, the transformation is already done during. So I go into the new year with the transformation. If not, then some of it is done during and the rest of it will come throughout the year. Because if you remember a week and a half ago in the lecture, I told you to make a whole list of all the things that you're not so happy about in your life. Now, from that list, you're going to need to choose one or two or five or 10. What are the ones that you're going to actually take care of? What are the things in your life that you're going to try to knock off? You're not going to be able to do all of them. Now, if your list contains three three things, okay, you might be able to take care of it in all together. If you have three things on your list, then you have to work out very very hard on your anova. Because if you're not humble, or let's put it this way, you wrote three things. You're not humble. My list has the dozens of things that I'm not happy about because I'm looking at every aspect of my life and I'm very harsh on myself. Whatever targets that I put, I want to see good results. So you first of all have to come to the place where you have to understand and realize how do you feel towards the last 11 months. Do you think it was a good 11 months? You grew spiritually. You feel that when you look back you are many levels higher from what you were last year spiritually right now. Not talking about the level of observance. I'm talking your spiritual level. Meaning you see Hashem more clearer. You feel hashem. Hashem is constantly on your mind. you you're shifting in a completely different thing, different way. And then of course your level of observance. Where were you last year? Where are you now? Your in your level of knowledge. Everybody has to expand their knowledge in the Torah. Doesn't matter who you are. Everything that I'm saying now applies to everyone. So you need to look back at the last 11 months and say, did I grow or not? And then look to every little thing. I set goals. Did I reach them? I had resolutions and hopes. Did I do them? If you're doing it in a very particular right way, which shouldn't take you more than 10, 15 minutes, you'll see that your last year wasn't successful. And I'm not talking right now to the minority that might be in this room and listen online that their year was successful. I can't talk to everybody, but I know that I'm talking to the majority, the minority, they had a good year. Good year means that you know try to look at it like when you uh when you invest in the in the stock market you look at your portfolio you don't look at just performance of one stock you're looking at the end of the year or at the end of the month or whatever you do how is the portfolio doing you have 80% growth 20% loss okay I'm still growing that's how I do my my accounting my spiritual accounting I look at my annual portfolio where was I last ill exactly last year I was also here in Florida but where was I spiritually last year can I look back now and say yeah no doubt that this year I have grown spiritually because of A C and D so that's the first thing that I need to have in the the front of my face is how successful was my year how satisfied I am with my last year now if you're very satisfied either you are in the minority that you really worked hard, focused on yourself, maybe you you were the ones who listened to me last year because the ones who listened to me last year probably can say now yeah the last 11 months was good cuz I took all your advice and the ones who will say I was present in the class I didn't really listen so I didn't listen to what you said I didn't do what you said then my ear wasn't that great but right now what you need to understand and to come to your conclusion is How satisfied are you with your performance in the last year? And then what are you willing to do to change it? Are you willing to quadruple the the effort? Like where are you holding? Only you can do this decision. Nobody will do this decision for you. And I know that for many people in the front of their brain, what concerns them this shah is they need the next coming year to be blessed with money because their business is real bad. And that's already 80% of people. They're concerned then next year I need to make parasa. Don't think that if you come and sh and buy the for $5,000 that's what's going to give you your parasa by the way. That's nonsense. That's very nice. You give to the to the but don't think that this is hocus pocus. Exactly. This is when you are really make a change then all these things they come and and do the last push. So you need to come ready to rush and like I told you what you need to aspire is not the basic things that I told you already let Hashem worry about that don't be so concerned with your parasa let Hashem worry about that he will decides how much money you're going to get anyways take that time and effort for Torah and you'll see you'll get your parasa same thing with finding your other half don't be so infactuated with Okay, it's out there. Hashem, do your thing. That's it. Do your basic your effort. Have your read your tikun or whatever you want to read and that's it. Don't make a whole thing out of it. Right now, I'm single. Let me take care of what I need to take care of. When it's time to be in love, I'll be in love. That's it. People are very infatuated with what they're lacking in their life instead of understanding that's the will of Hashem. it's not going to change. So actually do something that is aligned with the will of Hashem. Maybe that will make the waiting period nicer and easier. Very simple. I know many people that they got married waiting 15 years and those 15 years were horrible and miserable and it didn't change the fact that the wife or the husband were only available 15 years down the line. And I know a very close friend. I I I use this example over and over with a close friend of ours that when we got married all the friends in our group got married was a year of weddings and this one girl didn't get married and not that you say that she was deformed attractive girl very very intelligent sweetheart down to earth everything was good with this girl at least to the far as far as the eye can see didn't get married for years years always would be by herself. Years down the line when I moved to Los Angeles before I moved to Israel one time we went there for Shabbat. My wife told me don't ask who you know we neighbors with. We're going to go to so and so. Huh? And of course when I came there it was a nice husband a little baby. And when I came it was a picture perfect beautiful gorgeous home nice two cars in the driveway handsome husband like like a g like a man not some you know like a handsome guy. successful. You see, successful, focusing on life, good husband, holding the baby all the time and it like was a picture perfect and anal psychoanalyzing the whole thing. She was waiting for him all the time. She was waiting for a husband in this level. She was on some beach in India taking drugs or doing whatever he wanted to do. Only two years prior to their wedding, he started in his 40s to do chuva. She had to wait for him for whatever 13, 14, 15 years until he will get ready to the point when they met. But to her credit, you think she was whining for 12, 13, 15 years. No, she went and got a degree and she would volunteer and she was busy. She did a lot of things. So you can't change the day of something that needs to happen. It's how you wait for that. With that said, it's so important with what mindset you're going into the next year. Because if you really do the right analogy, like I explained to you, you will see where you're failing. That's why I told you to write on a piece of paper all the things that you don't like because that's what you need to work on. If you think at this point that that's the things that you don't like in you in the last year, obviously here's your road map. What you need to start working on. The next thing you need to do in that list is categorize them and group them. Some of the groups is between me and Hashem. Group number one, what does it mean between me and Hashem? My level of observance, I want to do much more. I set myself to learn half an hour a day. The last year never happened. I wanted to pray every day in a minan. Three times a week, it worked. I tried, but no success. So between me and Hashem, my level of observance, whatever goals that I put up, whatever I want to reach, then of course another group between me and other people and I will start and subdividing that. Do I owe anybody anything? An apology, money, borrowed something and I have to tell them a promise. Now, now's the time to do it. And like then and like this you follow you categorize it with what you need to focus on between me and other people between you know my midot another category just my midot I have a a target from last year to work on my anger. So how was successful was I have a target to work on my uh forgiving how successful I am. So you need to do this analogy to see where you're holding and then you understand what you need to fix. When you understand what you need to fix, that's when you're setting your goals for the next year. Now, if you don't come with that attitude, then you will come to Roshashana and you will buy a nice dress or a nice suit for Shana and pray, hoping that maybe you have some minor merit from something that you did good the last year, praying your kishk that Hashem should bless you with a good year. and uh right and uh and uh like a rerun and the next year same problems issues no no spiritual growth nothing moves in my life and uh of course the whole world is to be blamed and I didn't do anything so when you reach to a point in your life that you're saying I want a change if you're not in this point then this class is definitely not for you you have to come to a point you're saying yeah I I want a change to say I need a change that's for sure. But I want if you don't want, it's not going to happen. Now, the change can be drastic. A lot of people say, "Next year, that's it. No more this, no more this, no more that." Okay, good luck. That's a pretty mountain, a big mountain to climb. But a lot of people just say, "No, this year I want to get rid of this or I want to get rid of that." As long as you're in a motion of growing, you're already in a good place. Now, you need to make yourself the the targets in your mind. after I see what I lacked the last year and then I I see from all my list of faults what I don't like and by the way if you're not following if you didn't see that lecture then go and watch the lecture but if you didn't and you won't then I'll remind you that I said to write a list on a piece of paper of all the things that you're not happy with in your life that's it can start in in the physical realm in your with your own your emotional realm your spirit any right everything that you don't like I don't like this I don't like that and not things that are not in your control that somebody's doing to you. Oh, I don't like it that my boss is very harsh on me. That has nothing to do with you, right? Things that you can change that you have control over. And if you need examples and you write, okay, I'm very unhappy with how I very unpatient with my kids and I scream at them very fast and I want to work on myself to they don't deserve it. Yeah. One thing I'm very unhappy that I'm always setting a a time to meet somebody and I'm always late. I really want to pray every day and I'm minan and I don't know half the time I'm late. I'm getting care. You're right. Everything that bothers you. Now I'm giving you a few examples. You're right. Whatever is bothering you, but whatever you can control, not that somebody else has control over. Now depending on your list after you categorize them like I said you can see if it's things that are m minor that can be knocked out very quickly or things that are big when it comes to your midot your attributes your characteristics my uh heartfelt recommendation one at a time don't do a few at a time trust me it's not going to work and I when I came into the battle 22 years ago I had a long list of very bad attributes that I needed to work gone fast. First of all, my anger was like 0 to 60 in in a blink of an eye. It wasn't even two seconds. So the mid of anger was that was a huge thing. And then patience, forbearance, forgiving, everything. So I'm telling you, you can't work on too many midote at the same time. Unless you're in a in a jail room with four cement walls, then you don't have much other options. But many things can be taken care of simultaneously. You need to do that. That will do some other classes that will have to be done when I come back to Israel before Shana. Now what is it's important to understand and to prepare and to be ready to is how you're setting your goals because if you don't set goals nothing will work and if you're going to set them up 3 days after Shana it won't work. It will work maybe with 90% hardship because whatever you do after it's not that uh the opportunity is over the day the gates of Juva are always open any time any day of the year you are willing to do the change it will work but now you're getting 90% discount on during alul and not only that you're getting a 90% discount during I told you you are under observation right Now, Hashem is looking at you right now. Now, Hashem right now is in the field. He's waiting for you to see if you show up. Did you show up in the last 10 days to the field, to the work? You have to ask yourself because Hashem is there waiting and looking, who's coming, who came on time, who came first, who came ready, who came tired, who's performing the job the right way. I explained to you that the concept of the king is in the field. He's now looking at you. You don't have many more days now. After that, during he's not looking at you right now. He's busy running the world. He's not going to look at you right now. Besides, it's already after the point. That's it. Sh is sealed. You have another seven days for Yum Kipur to maybe readjust something in the 10 days of cha. Then comes Yamipur. You you're you're already missing the opportunity. So don't wake up three days after Shana. Now it's the time to wake up because you're really running out of time. I started the class by telling you it's unbelievable how the time goes. It's it's I I still cannot fathom how it's tomorrow Shabbat. I It's like what? Literally, I smell the chun still. You know, there's leftovers in the fridge. My my son before we left, he's like, "I'm hungry." I said, "There's leftovers in the fridge." He's like, "It's from Friday." I'm like, "Wow, it's Thursday already." So, there's no time. Everything goes like that. I'm here for two months. I'm telling you, it went like that. I planned it so long. Going back again to how I started the planning. First was the target, but the planning and then it goes like that, which fits perfectly to the example that I set a few days ago in this little poster that I see I saw where we're staying now by my friend's house. And this poster is so amazing. I took a picture of it and I love the statement because it says, "I still remember the days that I prayed for what I have now." So powerful, so on the spot. We pray so much for so many things. When we finally get them, we forgot how much we prayed for that because then it has to transform into gratitude. Thank you. I have it already. You prayed for your spouse for 5 years. Now you have her. Why are you complaining all day long about her? Now it's time to thank. If I remember how much I prayed for her. Sometimes I see parents, they have this much patience to their kids. Just remember how much you prayed to get pregnant. How much you wanted that child and now you have this much patience for him. So it's important that you do all the shift now, not after. You do it after, then it's going to be much harder to climb. Imagine now that you start a car and the car starts on a flat road and eventually it's going to start climbing a very very steep mountain. If you don't catch momentum in the beginning, you won't climb the mountain. You need to catch momentum on the flat road come already fast and then when you start climbing the mountain it's easy, very simple. I live on a very high mvat is a very very high mountain. When you come to fat is after many places that you already were elevated. Finally come to the last elevation the mountain is like that. And finally when you reach to the top you we're so high elevated the clouds are underneath us. The cloudy days the clouds are beneath my house. It's actually pretty cool to see cuz the entire valley there is covered with cotton candy and we're above the clouds. But why am I saying that? I have good experience with high with very high mountains and now if you of course you have in my analogy if you have a good car that analogy doesn't make a difference I'm talking about just understand where I'm going with that you want to climb a high a very steep mountain if you don't take good momentum before that it will be extremely hard to climb so everything that I'm saying now you'll do that invan you'll do it in TV everything it will work every day you have to live in that label. Huh? So, everyone should buy a candy by the mollet. He'll be happy. You got a lot of customers. &gt;&gt; H &gt;&gt; lottery. &gt;&gt; Yeah. Buy something. Shoot. That way. He got a lot of customers. Uh if you're going to start it a day later, it's going to be much harder. Now is a very easy time during illul to sit and do these things. And Bmet there's no time. It's we're already in the third inul. So what you need to do if you're smart then tonight the latest tomorrow is first of all bring yourself to the place that am I satisfied with my production the last year and like I told you if you're very very satisfied unless you saw amazing results then you stumb arrogant and you everything's fine or you're not in a place for any change and then this lecture is not for you and move on and probably your life is great or if you see that in the Last year there was a lot of bumps. I'm not talking about the ups and downs. Ups and downs. We spoke about it yesterday. That's the rhythm. That's how life should go. One time you up, one time you're down. When you're down, take momentum. Don't don't don't cry when things don't work out. That's Hashem. That's Hashem's desire. Not not always your fault or something that you did or you didn't do. But after you pass this point, you need to say, okay, do I want to do a change or not? If you don't then then then give up now because it's not going to there's no point. But if in your mind and you can choose one change I want to change this aspect in me. That's will be my spiritual growth. And by the way for many people changing one thing that's that's enough. Focus on that. Do it good. Do it the right way. I'm all for doing one thing good then five things bad. That's how I was when I became observant. I didn't do many things. I did one thing of every every aspect and but I did it good. I did it the whole way. If I'm already doing it, let me do it the perfect way. Not like that. I rather do one thing perfect and I'm talking of course in the observance of the mitzvot than to do many things not good. You're trying to grab too many. You don't grab everything anything. And then of course the same attitude for everything in life. Sometimes it's easier to focus on one thing and be successful in that than to focus on seven things at the same time and then be a failure in all seven things. That's a whole different topic to talk about because I see that most people are very not productive in everything in their life because they they try to manage too many things at the same time and not in the right way. There's nothing wrong with managing two things at the same time. I manage 20 things at the same time. Before I came on this trip, I spoke to some friend about something and it has nothing had nothing to do with Torah and he told me a interesting uh quote. He was like, "Oh, I see you wear many hats." I said, "I don't wear any hats." So, I didn't quite understand in the beginning that what he's saying. So, he says, "No, I see you you switch all the time. Different hat. One time you're this, one time you're that." So I'm the master of h controlling 20 things at the same time. I wear few hats at the same time. If you know how to do it, go ahead. Most people can't. They can't juggle a few things at the same time. So better to do one than to do 20 things. Be successful in one. Focus on it. So you want to bring yourself now to a point after going through the list that I spoke about after you already categorize okay these are the things and I want to work on that bothers me between me and Hashem and to give you some examples I want to learn two hours a day for whatever reason the somehow gets me away and I learn altogether maybe half an hour a day and and I'm not really resilient and I'm not on time and I'm not taking my serious seriously very noble, very high level. Not very few people are in that level, but that's something that bothers me. So that's between me and Hashem. That's my aod. That's my spiritual growth in the observance of the Torah. And that's something that I say, okay, I cannot focus on A, B, and C. That's what I'm going to focus on. My next advice will be that's going to be in a completely different time that if you were able to master this in three months and you have this so to say under your uh autopilot then you go to the next thing in the same category of avoat and in adding more to the observance and in many of the times if you have questions it can be three four things at the same time I know a lot of men that they only put fill in on in the morning and usually it's not in the morning usually it's at night you know 5 minutes before sundown. And it's not that they're bad people. They're just that's their that's their mountain to climb. So for a man like this to say I I hate it. I want to pray every morning. So just imagine in the observance he's jumping now 15 if he's going now to pray every day in the morning. Now he's praying in saying answering is suddenly adding to this observance of mitzvot 15 mitzvot. So it's not always one mitzvah. I'm just saying that to give examples because I know I'm going to get 5,000 questions tomorrow. So first category is between you and your and hashem where how are you doing in your level of observance? And nobody can say wow I'm doing great. What are you talking about? Me and Rabishim learn every night. Everybody can add to their level of observance and should and you need to see where where in your list where is it bothering you. Best is to focus on one thing and then roll it over to the next when you have it under your control. And that's it. That's where you that's where you hold and you choose from that list what's the most important thing. Some things are less important. You might want to consult with your local rabbi what's more important. And I'm talking if you're not fully observant. You're fully observant right now. This less talks to you. But also to the observant people. I have a lot what to add for observant people. And observant I'm talking about observant in mitzvot because even the people who are observant I there's many things that they lack. And one big thing is I spoke about it the other day with the blessings. All the congregations that I went to and I was now two months in many congregations and especially on Shabbat. Shabbat it's a different thing. I see everybody eat besides the I also see many other things and I notice that very few people are focused on saying the after blessing after they eat very few people and I'm talking about now the observant bunch you know how to say before you drink but you don't say and many of the other after and I know most people don't say them that's that's let's let's cut to the chase and I'm talking about observant people. So all the also the observant people can uh bump it up in many places that they're not doing. 95% of observant people I guarantee to you don't reach the bedtime once a month maybe they'll have some enlightenment and say that's it. So everybody can step it up. That's department number one. Then of course with you and your between you and yourself your spiritual growth their spiritual growth is already broken into many categories because it's my avodat how I work on my myself my observance and many other things but you want to categorize in that also what what can I work on you can you always have to work at least on one mid oh and at least a few small ones that I'm not going to touch today because if you go to my website you'll find a whole series of lectures it's called tikun midot the refinement of character a lot a lot of classes with a lot of midot how to work on there's many material on my website that will educate you in everything that you need about refining your character and why you need to do it how to do it and that should be the ultimate focus in your life is refining your midot and in that chart of success when you're going to ask yourself tonight how successful was my last year is how much I was able to refine my midot my attributes my characteristics in in the past year, how did the graph go? Like this or it goes like that. And if I set myself to refine myself in the area that I'm very judgmental, how successful I was, I'm very jealous, how successful I was to control that jealousy. I love to gossip. I love to talk and all that. How successful I was be able to to bring it down. whatever in my midot how I was able to to refine it that what needs to be in the in the front of my mind and then of course many other things in your life that will be another category in your list that you just don't like in yourself it can be that you whatever I don't like it that I don't pick up my stuff after myself you don't need your wife to tell you why you leave stuff on the floor maybe you maybe it's fine fine with you that's all the things that you need to work on in the If my wife tells me over and over, stop doing this, stop doing this, this bothers me, then I don't my wife will never say it more than once. She said once, I got it. That bothers you. I understand. I'll I won't do it again. We share the same house. That's part of marriage instead of trying to brush it off. So, I'm giving you all these examples of where you need to put your mind to because you want to make a list of how your perfect year should be next year. That's what I do. I always write a list of how I want my next year to be because I know where I want to grow spiritually. I know where I want to grow emotionally with my refinement of character. I know where I want to become a better individual in A, B, and C. I have many categories. I want to become a better father, better husband, a better rabbi, a better a teacher, a better whatever. So I I I I already have it all organized. And the reason I want to have it organized before Shah because that's what I'm gonna that's going to be my target. If I don't have targets that nothing's going to happen next year. You're going to start looking for targets. So if you don't have a target, by the way, it's not going to be successful. When I became observant, I didn't have much time. I knew that I have to become observant on Hashem's time, not on my time. Because in the first year after I woke up from my near-death experience, I was uh working on myself, but not in the pace Hashem was real happy about. And then of course, I had a little vacation for a while to consider Hashem's kindness, which that's really when I started the main transformation when I sat in jail. And when I matured from that process, because in jail, Hashem broke me into pieces in every aspect that you can think of. Arrogance, patience, anything, anger, everything. Hashem gave me two year life lessons for what people will take them 200 years to to to come to this understanding. I went in and went out two different people. But when I came out, I was already there was nothing left. I was like, Hashem, you just at this point, you just tell me what I need to do and that's it. Ready vessel. The vessel is ready just for you. And that's how within 3 months I went from like nothing to fully observant. And in my observant growth, it was because only that every step there was targets. Not that I'm some super Jew, but in about 10 years, I went forward what would take a normal individual probably 100 years. And again, not because I'm some super individual. it because of the priorities that I set and the goals that I had. I became observant. It's something that I don't see in very many people. There's a lot about chasm and there's a lot of convers. But I failed to see one thing that these people and also by the way the observants that also don't know much. You are you chose to be Hashem's servant, right? You're taking on yourself the Torah, the mitzvot. I believe in God. I believe in the Torah. I believe in the afterlife. I believe in Mashia. I believe in everything, right? Very few people I saw taking to them as a life goal to learn the the Jewish code of law. Most people don't know nothing. They pick up here and there a few things and and it's all mixed because this rabbi is Ashkenazi, that rabbi is authority, that guy is I don't know where they brought that custom from. And then their whole erh observance is mishmash. And I'm particularly talking about Jews, converts, all that because if you born into a certain place, then it's it's already kind of fed to you. But it seems like very few people and in many different types, nobody seems to say, but you know, I choose to be Jewish. The first and most important, and again, I'm not that I'm trying to put any guilt on anyone, but you're Jewish. You follow the Torah. Didn't it occur to you that maybe you should start speaking the language of the Torah? So what if you're American? You're observant all your life. You don't know how to say two verses in the Torah in Hebrew. What's wrong with you? And again, not to put any guilt or pressure, but you you're already in Hashem's in Hashem's army. You you don't want you don't think it's important to know his language. You wouldn't want to say in in in Lashon not telling you now to be become a professor in the Hebrew language but the basics and then that's that I that just came out and again whoever needs to take from that will take from that but I'm in okay I have a head start. I mean I was born in Israel. I know Hebrew but doesn't mean anything. So what if you're American and you speak English? You need to speak the basics of the language of Hashem. That's how I see it. That's why I see the same thing as why you living here. We we have our land. I don't understand what what's holding you in this place in this country. We have our land back. That's a no-brainer. In my respect, how I look at it, it's actually to live anywhere but in Israel. It's it's tom I gave you back my land. you're choosing to live somewhere else because you can drive a Mercedes or you have a big house or for whatever comfortable what life that you think that you have there. And again, not that I'm trying to slap you across the your face backwards and forth. I'm telling you how I see things. I'm a servant of God. Talk the language. I I I I exist in the world right now. We have our land back. Live there. If you think that in any type of a way your life is better here because of a geographic location, sorry to tell you, you are a heretic. Hashem can give you whatever he wants in Israel. By the way, that people say it's hard. No money, no this, no education, no. What kind of nonsense is coming out of your mouth? You're basically saying exactly what the spies said in the desert. You're no different than the spy. And by the way, the the punishment for the spies were not only to die in the desert. They're never going into Israel. Be very careful how you talk about the holy land. It's the land of Hashem. Don't dare to say anything wrong about the land of Hashem ever. Not it's dangerous, not it's expensive, not anything. Say only these words. I wish I have this to live there. That's the only words you have to say about Israel. Unless your head is directed there. So I'm telling you, I don't know. That's what Hashem wants me to talk. I'm on autopilot. Hashem wants you to hear that. When it comes to being in Hashem's army, the first thing that comes up to my mind first, the language. I'm not telling you now to learn how to read from the Torah. That can take many years, which that's also something you need to work on. You go every Shabbat to the bikeset. They call you up to the Torah. Prepare the aliyah. Learn how to read it because that's how it's supposed to be done. And then they call you up to the Torah. You prepared your portion. Yeah. Invest a few minutes every every day in the week and read your own portion. I mean these are for me these are basic things. You mean you're Jewish. You're already serving Hashem. You don't know the language. Next thing like I told you is you why you live anywhere else but in Israel? There, there is where the blessing is. Forget about now the Armageddon part of the gula. Okay, the simple facts. Hashem gives you your land back and you're saying I'm fine here. Totally got off my my my chain of thought. But obviously that's what Hashem wanted me to say. But the other thing I what I was saying that is surprising to me. You're Jewish. You you or you becoming Jewish or you want to become observant. Don't you think that you need to open the basic book of the Jewish code of law and learn the basic things? Instead of that, you depending on what a rabbi says on YouTube. No offense. Don't depend. I mean, I can tell you humbly, you can depend on me, okay? I'm not going to lead you to the wrong place, but don't don't settle there. That's not how you learn Torah. You need to learn what you need. I mean that you chose to be in this team. No. So what are you doing? How how how is it not coming up to your mind? Well, I need to learn the basics, some some history of my nation. It's a little bit like a you know I go into to orthodox communities, they don't know nothing about the oavo. If you get into an argument with a missionary, a Christian missionary, they'll eat you alive in knowledge in the Tanakh. &gt;&gt; That's embarrassment. &gt;&gt; You can't even answer some some missionary that knows that 10 times better than you. Let's go back to what I was talking about. Everything that has comes out of my mouth is what Hashem wants you to hear. But what I want you to hear is that if you don't have it laid out in front of you, you're not ready to go to any battle. If you're not ready to go to any battle, then your next year won't be different than this year. It's very simple. And again, you might be in the minority that says, "Babashem, I always listen to your lectures. I always listen to your advice. Last year was great. If I go by all my charts, it was good. Not 100% but there was growth everywhere. Amazing. Continue doing that's it. That's all I have to say for that group of minority. Then there's the group that are 100% ready to make a 180% a degree change. There's always the people like I'm ready. I'm what do I need to do this year? I'm going to So everything that I just said applies. But there's always the group that are like, "Okay, what does he want from me right now? This guy start telling me, I need a target. I need to work on myself. I need I come to the three times a day. Leave me alone." If you in that area, listen, no pressure. Do whatever you want. I'm coming to advise, not to to force. Take the advice. You don't want to don't want to say whatever you want. I'm coming from the angle that I'm speaking loud right now. What's in my mind? Because I'm in the same place of you. I might look to this direction, but I'm in the same place of you. I'm weeks before Rosha Shana. I already did my chart. I already know what I'm I'm h unhappy with in the last year's performance. I know in every department how much growth was in the between me and Hashem, between me and other people, between me and my family. I I already have it all written down. I have my anal my analytics. You can't run any show without analytics. I treat treat outreach like a business. Everything here is a business. I look every month at all my analytics. Where are the views coming from? How many likes? How many shares? Where's the most of the population of people who listen to me? North America, Europe. You're enjoying now in America. The majority of my followers are not even in America. So I'm looking at all the analytics where I can get better, where I can get worse. No, you can't get worse. I mean, where do you don't want to get worse? But what I'm saying is that I run my show like a business. I'm looking at it, you know, it has to be successful. You need to nourish it like a business. If not, it's not going to work. So everything in my life, I work in the same way, very organized, and that's how I reach to results. And like I told you when I became observant I didn't have much time because I knew where I need to reach. So it's not about time by the way. Hashem can make what's called like you know now is when you when you make the road shorter but I'll explain to you more how you can visualize it. Today everybody is video editors because any phone of yours can edit any video. And when you're watching a video, you have that little timeline that you can open and close. And when you close it, then it will show you the entire timeline of the video. If you stretch it, then the timeline expands. You know what I'm talking about? You all nodding because you all have smartphones. And the same way that would would take you let's say three months of hard work, Hashem can stretch the timeline, move you and then whatever would take you three months would be done in a week. That's you know how many times I travel and the traveling it's like boom I'm there cha the time everything goes fast or that I need to achieve something and Hashem squeezes the time and I'm able like as if some uh you know my son once asked me he told me if you could choose any power of the how are they called the superpowers the superheroes if you would choose anyone one. Which one would you take? So I said, I don't really know them, but uh you know, whatever. No, no, no, no. Which one would you choose? One is this, one is that, the Superman, Spider-Man. At least they're men. But uh but uh but they're all wearing, you know, tights. But whatever, that's what they want your kids to learn. But but the point is that each one has a different quality. So my son, when I told him, no, okay, I'll take that guy. So he's No, no. He called me a different name and uh I don't remember the name but the quality of that superhero that he can he's faster than time so he can stop time or he stops time or he just moves faster than time. So and I was like you know yeah that is a superpower to be able to expand a moment of time. Wow. But the reality that you can actually do that and I see that you know when I see that sometimes I need to prepare a class and whatever happens I'm busy I get involved in many different things and then I have very little time to prepare the class now I have two options delaying the class cancelling the class or trying to prepare it and then I see that if I have two hours to prepare it's like I it feels like I spend 20 hours I read I I go and I check and I and all this Normally I would feel this okay this will take me usually 10 hours 15 hours and somehow chick Hashem makes it fast I open to the right pages you know can do in everything you can you you can activate that so you want to change something in your life it can be done in three months not in three years and I the reason I'm telling you that because when I became observant I didn't have time I had to grow in very big steps that's why I told you before with the that I don't understand why people Don't learn the Jewish code of law. Learn one law a day. Two, three, four. Don't have to now sit 12 hours a day. The reason I said that is because become when I became observant. I set goals on the timeline till this point I have to achieve a next the point I have to achieve b I cannot come to this point without achieving what this the goals that I set for myself. And that's the only way how I jumped in big in big steps because there was a goal and there was a deadline. And of course, needless to say, it was the inspiration and the desire to make it work. If you don't have the inspiration, the desire to make it work, then nothing will work. You need to be inspired. You need to be ready to say, "Yeah, I want to change this in my life." And that's why I told you if if your list is is not that full or you have too much, choose one thing. If you don't think you can handle too much, I rather you come next year and say I was very successful in changing one mid or working I changed something. I started praying in a minan never missed. I started saying never missed. I started saying since then never looked back. You rather hold one success than many failures. But you know what you can handle. The point is that in my entire spiritual growth, I always had stops. Where what's the next stop? What's my goal that I want to reach? And if I don't have that, it won't work. And it will actually won't work. Now, I want to elaborate on another thing because I can't set your goals. You you can set them. I can give you the concept, the idea. You need to to figure it out. You definitely want to have in your uh basket at least one goal that you set and the timing. I want to work on it the next year. I want to work on it for 3 months till Kanuka. After Kanuka, we adding this and that. You're the one who does that. And you said, "Okay, I want something that you I'm upgrading between me and Hashem. I want to upgrade something between me and another person." You make yourself your list. And of course, by the way, you want to make yourself another list later on of the goals that you putting yourself that has nothing to do with Hashem. I want to open a business. I want to finish my studies. I want to uh add this and this to my job. I want to whatever it is, all the the things I want to lose weight. I want to work out. I want to uh whatever. Start that art class I never took. Write yourself a few things because most people are not productive throughout the year. And then they have some emptiness in their life because they're not nourishing their soul with things that they like. There's nothing wrong with doing things you like when you're in the side of Hashem. I'm not talking about a person who's like 1% observant and the rest is talking about a person who's very involved with Hashem. Not only that, there's nothing wrong with that. You have to do things that you like. I was instructed complete opposite when I became observant that I have to do only Torah. And I was like, "Okay, I'll do only Torah." But very quickly I found out that if I don't nourish my soul with things that are that I like, I'm not talking about now nonsense by the way. I'm talking about basic things. You are a musician, stay a musician. You are an athlete or whatever sport you're doing it, continue doing it. There's nothing wrong with that. You have to do that. Most people are observant with all the giggle they eat. They can't even even move two feet. It's a disgrace sometimes when you see that. How can you serve Hashem? So, you have to stay in the place where what's good for you. I'm not talking about things that are not appropriate. I'm talking about things that are appropriate. You need to find the me time in your life that you nourish yourself, things that you like, things that are good for you, certain music you like to hear or whatever habit that you have, don't don't take it away. You're going to start missing it. Then, I'm talking to the people who are really taking off in their chuva and they're becoming observant converts. You can't leave leave your entire life behind. You have to go like a like a net. When you put the flour in and you sift it and all the good flour comes out, you you do that. The junk you leave behind. All the rest you don't leave behind. You stay the same person. Of course, with a refinement. I'm the same individual how I was 25 years ago. Just refined without the nonsense and without the the negative part. But I still have the same sense of humor. still the same person only if you start try to change yourself now again so I can conclude because it's important that you follow the steps very it's very simple if you are not even ready to bring on yourself a change in your life nothing here will work what would be the result next year you will look back your year was the same disaster as it was this year you're going to have that miserable vibe because things in your life don't work out how you want whether Whether it's in your love life, whether it's in your finance, whether it's in anything, your life will be like, how they say, it was okay. You know, a few good memories, a few good achievements, no big events in the year, no big shifts in my life. I mean, not that I'm trying to depress you, but if this is how you would look at your life, the situation is not good. You need to be in a place that you're saying listen I'm not uh you know the sharpest pencil in the box but the last year I was able to get rid of a lot of bad habits I was able to grow spiritually I see that where I'm holding in my observance grew up a lot I was able to really mature myself I got rid of this problem good that's that's where you need to hold you need to say listen I'm not uh licking honey here that's But uh but I'm doing but it's good. I'm I'm I feel this prog this progress this change. Okay. One year your progress and change will be 20% the next year will be 80%. Good continue. I'm just now giving you how to make it even better. But I can tell you already that if I go in a in a personal level, every person if they if I would make with them now a one one-on-one conversation and ask them 10 20 questions, that person will very quickly come to the place of saying, "Yeah, I am very unhappy with my with where I'm holding right now." But very few people are able to be humble enough to say to say that I'm unhappy where I'm holding now and I know I need a change. Very few people can tell you I know I need a change. If you I know I need a change, you're already better. You want to come to the point that I need I know that I need a ch I want a change. Sorry that I know I need a change. Hopefully, you're there. Do you want to get to the level that I know that I have to do a change? I want to do a change. If you're not on that level, again, it won't won't really work. And why do you need to disregard that or not is because it depends you control how your next year will be. That's how it works. I'm not making the rules. I just deliver the information in 3 weeks is decided who's going to live, who's going to die, who's going to live, how they're going to live, happy, not happy, challenges, what what's going to happen, how much money you going to make, everything is decide is decided for next year. But the most important thing that is decided on Shah that's what I focus on not what how much money I'm going to make. Whatever Hashem wants to give me he will give me. And by the way in Shamim you're all millionaires. Hashem doesn't cut edges with you. You just don't have the ability to bring it down from the spiritual to the physical. In the spiritual you have in your bank accounts a lot of money because Hashem doesn't look at anyone and says I don't like this guy. No parasa for him. No, no, no. That's what people think. You with your foolish actions or with your unproductive behavior, you just don't bring the blessing down to the world. That's it. That's it. It's very simple. And it can be in your livelihood and it can be in relationships you have with your wife, kids, or anything. You you're the one you control the flow. If you're if the flow is very healthy in your life, then you shouldn't have a lack of anything. Things should come exactly in the in the amount that you need. So where I want to take you from is I want to take you from the place where you are to the place of understanding that I want a change in my life. If you do not want a change in your life, it will not work. I am telling you I quit almost anything in my life. If you don't want it, it won't work. So you need to bring yourself to a place that you understand why you want it. And the place to understand why you want it is because everything in your life depends on that. That's it. Now, if you're extremely happy with where you are right now, like I told you, move aside. Now, let's focus on the 99% that are not happy. from the 99% most don't even realize where is their misery where they're unhappy why their life is running in a certain way I'm telling you in a very simple way on gives you everything that you need so at lastm blessed you with whatever you needed no chance he didn't you were not able to manifest that blessing from the spiritual into the physical throughout the last 11 months that's exactly what happened so whatever didn't work out in your life either that was the will of Hashem. And if you work on your level of you accept it that that's the will of Hashem and you're just as happy for when you win and get whatever you want. We spoke about it yesterday. You have to be in the same level of happiness. Imagine now something great happens in your life. You're extremely happy, extremely excited. You have to have the same happiness and excited when something is taken away or doesn't work out. Not to say, "Ah, I wish I could say Because in many of the cases what is taken away from you is making space for what you really need. So you don't need something small. Don't settle for something small. This you missed. A month later will come something better. So never and Hashem is testing you with the with with the fake things, not with the real thing. He's testing you with the fake stuff. How you react when something is not given to you. If you pass the test with flying color, the next time he will do that, it would work. Which means that you're not going to whine about something you lost and boom, you're going to get what you want the next day or the next week or whatever. And if he tests you and you fail, then you will continue trying to get something falling into depression, sadness, and and and disappointment when you didn't get it instead of saying, "Oh, h I tried." How they say in America, you win some, you lose some. That's how it works. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I'll give you back again the same example with a stock market uh portfolio example. You It doesn't matter if on this stock you lost and that stock you want you gain. You want to see the entire portfolio. Did it go up? That's it. You're not going to win always. You're always going to sometime lose. Everything in life you have to put out. Not everything you're going to shoot exactly to the point. Sometimes you miss. But you need to focus on what I need to shoot, what I need to focus on. Therefore, when it comes to the point of what I need to focus on, first of all, there's only one thing that you need to focus on. Before I explain that, you need to understand that the reason you want to do that, the reason why it's important is because if you're not doing everything that I said, it will be extremely hard for you to change the next coming year. And you want to you want to get, like I said, bring yourself to a point that you understand that if I change myself, whatever I want will happen. Now, it's not that I'm promising you fake uh dreams. When I look at what that's in my life, I look at what's lacking in my life. And probably what's lacking in my life should be on that list at what bothers you. Okay? Because you can write on the list bothers me that I I'm not doing well financially. That's something that has to do with you. Maybe you are blocking the fin the financial blessing. You your whole channel is clogged. So whatever depends on you should be on the list. I look at the list and I understand that whatever is lacking is my in my life, it's because I didn't work enough for it. Not because I wasn't given to me. Whatever she wants to give me, I'm I'm fine with that. That's why I told you a million times. I don't pray for I pray three times a a day and that's it. That's what that's what the told me to do. Read from the three times a day. That's opening the channel for your once in a blue moon. We need a little adjustment here. That's it. And same thing with everything in your life. I told you you need something in your life. Pray. Don't whine to Hashem 500 hours. I understand in my life that whatever I'm happy with in my life, it's the only the only thing that is affecting it is my closeness to Hashem. That's what I put all my my my uh my blame on. I'm unhappy with this part in my life. I don't complain to anyone around me. I see where I am responsible and I understand that this will be given if I will so to say align myself. I'm the one who's blocking it. Therefore, I take full responsibility on everything that happens in my life. Even though one should say no, put all the responsibility on Hashem. Why? Because we spoke about that everything is in the hands of hem besides how much you seem in everything. Therefore, everything is where I'm going to live. Everything is predestined. That is all correct. But you also have the control when we're saying what is in your control is I have explained many times that should be looked and understand as how much you see Hashem in everywhere because can be written in read in Hebrew same letters which means that I see in every situation that that was the hand of Hashem I was successful in this thing was the hand of Hashem I was not successful in this thing that was the hand of Hashem That was Hashem's will for me to lose money, for me to go through this hardship, for me to go through this suffering, for me to be worried, for me to that was Hashem's will. Be happy on the bad and thankful for the bad like for the good. So when I understand that everything in my life that is affecting me is anyways the hand of Hashem and I take full responsibility. The reason why I take responsibility is because I am the one that is responsible for the in many of the cases it's seeing Hashem's control some disaster happened something unwanted happened something completely against my will happened something against my plan happened whatever it is I right away try to see where do I see Hashem in there hem did that and I'm talking about only negative things right now because if it's a positive of course you see Hashem you jump up and Hashem is the best God when things work out. When things don't work out, then he's not the best God. So you need to start working towards understanding that when things don't work out has nothing to do with Hashem. If it has to do with something, either it's not the will of Hashem. So just bring yourself to a level of acceptance and then you shouldn't have any feelings of anger or disappointment or understand that I'm the one who wasn't able to manifest this blessing into the world. Because in the beginning of the year, Hashem didn't bless you to be poor or bless you to be sick or he didn't bless you to be a disaster. He blessed you with all the good things. Listen, unless you are like a complete wicked person, then I'm not talking to that type of people. By the way, if you sitting here and desecrating Shabbat, eating pork, I don't know what. And you're like complete heretic and I'm not talking to you complete heretic, then you have to deal with Hashem on your level. This is not the class for the heretics. or for the, you know, the pro- sinners. I'm talking normal people, right? Doesn't matter where you are. Hashem is in your life. You might be not, you know, super Jewel, but Hashem is in your life. You're here. Of course, Hashem is in your life. If you're here right now, so I'm talking to that group of people. When you understand that you really are the one who's the filter of how Hashem is going to bless you. Cuz if you're a normal person, Hashem wants to give you a lot and you need to manifest it from the spiritual to the physical. The only way of doing it is through prayer. There's no other way. By the way, I'm sorry. I don't have shortcuts for anyone. Only through prayer and not your prayer. That's the prayer or in English the morning prayer, the afternoon prayer, the evening prayer. Men have to pray three times a day. Women also have to pray.azi women have to pray twice a day and women have to pray once a day. That's what the Jewish code of law say. So you know I don't know why why it's so popular. Women don't think they need to pray. You need to are just restricted to time. I'm bound to time. I can only pray till a certain hour and to a certain with with a lot of restrictions. Women don't have these restrictions. It's 2:00 in the afternoon. They pray. It's 9 10 o'clock at night. They pray and there's no excuses. If you can be on Instagram for 5 hours so you can pray for to Hashem for 10 minutes. It's not the end of the world. You don't know Hebrew. Pray in English and then aspire to learn in Hebrew to pray in Hebrew. But you everybody needs that. So if you don't pray the three times of pray I trust me, it took me many years to figure that out. The three daily prayers, that's how you pull down your blessing from the world above to the world below. That's how you manifest it from the spiritual to the physical. You have health issues, first look at what you're eating. Then pray three times a day. That's it. And do it with the right intention. Not like a you have issues with money. That's it. Bless me, Hashem. Whatever you need, just read the how it needs to be done. And that's how you will get your blessing. Now, another way that that stops the blessing in your life is the Swiss that I'm telling you. You are the architect here. If you know that you're stumbling on something and that's a cause for you that is you're losing Sheffa, then you need to fix it. Like driving and you have a flat tire. You don't leave the flat tire to lose all the air. You check and you fix it. Sometimes you need a whole new tire. Sometimes it's just, you know, fixing it. So in order to move to the next stage and to conclude first you have to come to the to the understanding that I want to do a change and why because whatever I will do will affect everything in my life. I'm sure all of you share the same thing. Everybody wants to be blessed with easy parasa. Everybody works very hard and it makes hard to make money and even if you're already making money you want to make more money. Everybody wants to have good relationship with their kids and their spouse. Get everybody wants all these good things and many other things. You want a lot of problems in your life to disappear. There's a lot of problems in your life. This person is annoying you. This matter is a lawsuit here. Some debt over there. There's many things that bothers you. You want to make a a map. How you solving all these problems? I'll tell you what you need to focus on. The problems, the issues, the things you need to refine. Focus on make yourself your plan. This I'm going to deal with like that. This I'm going to deal with like this. And you need to focus on what you need to do. Especially when you put yourself a few things on a to-do list that we're going to do another time, but I told you already. How do you put this into action? In the month of there's a few additions that we add every day to our prayers. There's three chapters of that we read every day. There's another chapter of David that we add. There's we read a chapter from the book of Proverbs every day. all sorts of additions. How do you work on the muscle of being consistent? Do it every day during ul. It's only going to take you 10 minutes. And you want to make yourself this challenge that in every aspect in your life that you choose, you choose one thing that you're saying this thing is going to be done. Doesn't matter what. It's the first thing that I do in the morning. If you don't use it on something small, it will never work. And you want to take on yourself little things that you're going to do. And I'm going to use a word I don't like, but you're going to do it religiously every day. Whether you understand why you're doing that or not, it doesn't matter. Whether you choose that you're reading one chapter of every day or one or law a day or one chapter, doesn't matter. You want to choose something that you're doing every day consistent and you're not letting it go. And that's why I recommend something very small. A chapter of with eight verses. That's it. That takes you one minute. But you set the time when you're going to say it and you religiously the world will explode 20 times. You're doing it. When you're able to do that, then you'll be successful with doing the exact same thing with everything else that you said to do it. That's why it was so important that I told you two weeks ago, start doing all the little additions every day. Put yourself already on the schedule that something needs to be done every day and better to do it in the morning, not to do it in the evening. You wake up in the morning. First thing you need to do is Hashem. I told you that a million times. Not your phone. You go to your phone first thing in the morning, day is over. Over. Cuz you already opened your Gmail, you opened your WhatsApp, you opened everything. You already need to answer. You already know what's the challenges of the day before you even started the day. Now, in many of the cases, don't get me wrong, many of the cases the news are good. Then forget about Hashem that day because you got new good news and you ran to whatever it was and you didn't pray, you didn't pray do anything. Therefore my recommendation in every day of your life first Hashem finish with Hashem then move to everything else. Trust me everything will be smooth in your in that day. So when you wake up in the morning the first thing you want to have in mind is Hashem. Everything is about putting Hashem number one. Why? I told you already. When you put Hashem number one, he takes care of all your problems. I've noticed in my life that when I put Hashem number one, he takes care of at least 50% of the challenges in my life. I don't I don't do anything. And when I required to do something, it's like this and like that. Sometimes you are bothered by some agency or some whatever a government agency the city hall whatever they send you some letter no something drives you nuts and you have to go to the office and go back to the office and you have to call them and you spend hours on that thing ever happened to you something like that or some the charge on your on your electricity bill and you hours on the customer service and you wasting hours on that and aggravation and you know that Hashem could solve it in three seconds. Somehow you are required to do that action. It's because of you that it took 40 hours. If you would be busy on what Hashem wants you to be busy, that action would take you four minutes. Why you need to do that thing? Only Hashem knows. And you know why Hashem does these things? Don't forget that Hashem is moving trillions of details every day in every square footage in this world. Trillions of details. Sometime Hashem is moving you from where you are because there are 5,000 other details that are connected to that and you need to be moved. You don't understand why happened today. Hashem pauses your life, creates a situation because right now because of that situation, let's say you you you at work, you feel bad, sick, you go off work, you don't understand why am I feeling bad right now? because Hashem didn't didn't need you in the plan right now in the place where you were you were you were needed you were needed to be removed you don't fit I don't like using the word matrix but you don't fit right now in the you need to be removed so many times throughout your day things happen to you you don't understand why they happen it's just Hashem says you I don't need you in the scene here I need you in that scene right now move away for a second so Hashem is dealing with trillions of details every day moving trillions of details in a split second because you do some change in you and it will make a a ripple effect. So he needs to adjust everything according to your change. Imagine right now I drove down the street the other day and I'm driving down the other day the street and I see from the other side an old woman hot I can't be out of the car more than 3 seconds walking with a walker on a highway now like not like the 95 like on a threelane highway. So I'm looking at that and the first thought is like what the second thought make a U-turn stop and ask if she needs help and of course there wasn't where to turn then there was traffic till I turn the opportunity disappeared okay but imagine now how I saw a situation caused me to want to do something I changed now my route Now, maybe it was Hashem that showed that woman in the side of the street, that woman is an angel, doesn't exist to make me think, "Oh, I need to make a U-turn because I should have made that U-turn or whatever." And waste that 12 minutes going around. And so, Hashem can make something appear. You change your your route because it's affecting now a chain reaction of 5,000 details. The other day, where's the She's not here. The lady was saying she was driving, she saw a blue light, she turned for a second, turned her head back, boom, car accident. Sometimes Hashem makes some flash in your life. You see something, you react upon that. That's a changing now 5,000 details in the entire system. That's why 50% of the times don't don't even look at all these things or get upset. You lose your keys. You can't find your keys. You're delayed 8 minutes in the house. You're going crazy. Where's the keys? But if it's right in in your pocket, Hashem said, "Listen, I needed you here in the house. It didn't work well with my plan. I needed to to store you." Just imagine how many details Hashem is processing every second. Trillions of details. So instead of getting upset that the I'm talking about, don't get upset. You see how everything is Hashem. Wow. Unbelievable. You'll see that you get 90% less upset every day. If that's your attitude, all these little times that you get upset will disappear. You don't get upset. You laugh. You You're completely content. So again, Hashem puts things in my mouth. I don't know why I'm sidetracking so much. And I know actually why I'm sidetracking so much. You know what? Look how look at the beauty of Hashem. I actually know why I'm sidetracking so much because I was about to tell you that you need to f be focused on the target and see I'm trying to be focused on my target and to finish and the comes and tells me to say other things. You see how it works? I'm glad it happened live because in my mind I'm like, "Okay, finish this. We're already an hour and a half. I promise a short lecture. I need to be somewhere tonight. It's going to be a short lecture. Don't talk to me 5 hours at the door later. But um as you see, I'm trying to get to the okay, this is what you need to do. And uh not enough now to say the Satan, Hashem. Something is taking me away from my targets. So first of all, on the very basic level, you have to have targets. I want to quit smoking. I want to work out. I want to lose weight. I want to learn more Torah. I want to donate my time more. I want to do A, B, and C. do all these all all this you have to do beforeh and I'll tell you also why you want to do all this before sh because I told you hem is in the field he sees your notes he sees what you want it's almost like now my child has a birthday I don't know what he wants I can buy probably any toy so I have to now start fishing what do you want for your birthday now I can come and say what do you want for your birthday but if I want to be more creative then I'll start uh getting answers what is this what is that you need this, you need that. So you kind of like way making yourself a wish list. When you're writing all the things that you want and you want to change and you want to achieve it, you're making a wish list that Hashem is going to be like, "Oh, that's what she wants. Okay, I'll give it to her." So after you made all this and you have already your targets, what you want to work on, what do you want to remove from your bad list, what do you want to work on to add to your good list, all that is great. Then of course you need to focus on your target that I can't really teach you over a quick class. But what I can is to teach you what's the main target you need to be focused on. If you're not focused on the main target, all the rest you can flush it down the toilet. And the only target that you need to focus on 24/7 and put all your effort on that vocus is Hashem. Hashem has to be the target. It's not the business that I want. It's not the financial success. It's not the me changing myself in this and that aspect that all that is all good. That's your targets. But the main target that holds everything is Hashem. Because when Hashem is your target, then you do by default what you required to do, what you need to do, and that will help you to do what you want to do. Now once you are walking on the path that I'm walking clear with Hashem and nobody's expecting for you to be Mosha Rabenu he's expecting from you to be you but you're walking on the path of Hashem that's your target you don't have to work much for the rest of the targets Hashem will fulfill it because when Hashem puts some target in my mind if it's done shim if it's done because I want to do it for for Hashem and you have to be true to yourself Hashem will make your will, his will. If it's Hashem Shamim, if it's not Hashem Sham, Hashem Shamim, you're doing it for the sake of Hashem. And then don't come to me with all the excuses. I heard all the excuses already with the with all the the tricks. I I heard maybe a thousand times, if not 10,000 times, people come and tell me, "Yeah, I I want to make a lot of money, but I'm going to give a lot of charity." &gt;&gt; Yeah. Start with giving a lot of charity, then you'll get the money. So, put your your your your shoe where your mouth is. If that's how the expression is, you want to you want money. You want Oh, you promising to give a lot of charity. Show Hashem that you give charity when you don't have money. Then he'll give you a lot of money because he sees that you're really giving charity. And give charity not because you want to make money. If that's your your your what you focus on, then Hashem, you think you can fool Hashem. That's it. So don't come and say I want to make a lot of money because I want to give a lot of charity. You fool, you liar. You want a lot of money because you want a lot of money. So at least be honest and tell to Hashem, you know, Hashem, I I want to do good things with and have in your mind that you do want to do good things. When you do something and your intention is how can it benefit Hashem in any type of way or benefit me to get closer to Hashem, then Hashem helps it happen. Hashem is not going to stop you from coming closer to him. If you're saying, "I want to make a lot of money because I want to retire and learn Torah all day long. Wow, I Hashem help me sell my property and sell this and sell that because I want to quietly learn Torah, move to Hashem will make it happen." Unless it's not in your uh in your list and if it doesn't happen, then you have to question if that's what Hashem wants for you. But assuming that's what Hashem wants for, it won't happen because you're doing it for Hashem. you're not doing it for anything of you. When you want when you're single for many years and you really want to get married, you want to get married because you want to perform the the top mitzvot that the Torah offers you or you want to get married because you don't want to be lonely or you want all your friends to be jealous of you because you have a husband and he's making money and why why why are you looking to get married? So when you focused on Hashem that Hashem makes everything work. I can tell you already from my short 22 years of experience working for Hashem when you do your part when you do when you focus on the master of the universe and I'm not neglecting everything else you need your parasa you need your livelihood you need to focus on your health you need to focus on everything in your life but if the main target is ignored all the small targets won't work and I can tell you already And I'm not saying it not to show off, not to be sound arrogant. I find many aspects in my life that are very successful. I plan, I wish, I desire, I pray and Hashem makes it happen and it's successful. Very. Sometimes I see huge success, sometimes less success. But I see that how when I put out, Hashem will make it happen. Hashem puts those ideas in your mind. All the ideas that you have whether it's spiritual, physical, financial, who puts these ideas in your mind. If I'm now I have this bold idea, I want to do this, I want to do that. Hashem placed that idea in your mind. You now need to find the right way how to do it. Now if you find favor in that idea and you connect it straight away to Hashem, &gt;&gt; not for your own physical satisfaction, not for your own physical status, you connect it because that's what Hashem wants me to do. That's where I'm going to benefit the most. That's where I'm going to be producing the most of what I am supposed to produce. Then Hashem makes it happen. And in order for this to happen, then the focus has to be on Hashem 24/7. And I know it scares a lot of people because they think that now they're going to have to dress black and white, move to Mim, and uh you don't have to change any clothing. You have to change what you think. That's it. It doesn't matter how or where you hold yourself on the observance scale. No question. The highest you can reach and that's what is required and that's what you should aim for is to reach that you're fully observant. Because when you are not fully observant, you're lacking many of the blessings in your life and you're not you're not doing it the right way. Let's put it. Let's cut to the chase. What? You want to come to the world above after 120 years and they tell you you were 40% good. That's what you're going to get by the way. So when I became observant, it was very hard for me to become observant. I didn't want to lose myself. I thought I'm going to completely lose myself. But the only there's only one way of doing it is that you do everything exactly what Hashem tells you to do. You know, make decisions what is good for you, what is no non important, what is less important. Once you start with that, it's never going to work. You have to 100% subdue yourself to Hashem. That's what Hashem wants me to do. I'll do it and learn it yourself because many of the things that many will tell you to do are not correct. But that's the ultimate. And I'm not telling you now, leave the room tonight, next year, I want to see you here. Oh, long beards. I want to see you here. Like, every person shouldn't be responsible for their own spiritual growth. Take it in whatever pace they want. You do whatever you want. I'm telling you how it's going to end. You want to do it fast, you want to do it efficient, you don't want to do it, no problem. I did my part. I'm signed under a contract. I do my part. That's it. I'm not expecting likes, hearts, and uh claps and You do with information whatever you want. It changed me, helped me. Take it for free. Do whatever you want with it. I don't need you to like me. I don't need you to praise me. It's only for you. So, I'm telling you what works. What worked for me, it will work for you, too. When Hashem is not your focus, don't expect much success in your life. Even if you think that you're very good at whatever you do and you see growth and success, it will be probably temporary success if you're not involving Hashem in it. And it might be success for even two, three years in whatever you're doing and then will come the downfall. Anything that is not connected to Hashem will not sustain. It might you might go with it for a year or two, five, 10 years. That's it. That's how far it will go. with Hashem that will sustain. So you want to make yourself a switch in your mind that everything in your life is Hashem. Every path you walk on, Hashem is there in your mind. What does Hashem want me to say? What does Hashem want me to do? How would Hashem want me to react in this situation? Would Hashem get a lot of right now if I fight my evil inclination and go and do A, B, and C? or he will be like, "Okay, I know you're tired and he would leave me alone." But I'm constantly focusing on Hashem. And of course, when I focus on Hashem, then my performance in in my service of Hashem is much better because in my mind, I'm not thinking of, oh, I got to get up early and make a lot of money today and I got to be early and catch this and that. And my mind is the business deal and this transaction. And that's why I don't start my day with the phone. I start my day. What what does Hashem want me to do when I first wake up? &gt;&gt; Do you think he wants me to go to work? No, he says first go and pray. So the first hour or two of the day, it's dedicated to Hashem. Now you might say, but I have to be work early. So wake up early for the earlier for the prayer. Your day will be 5,000 more successful, smooth, and easy if you start your day with Hashem. You will be much more productive. What would take you 8 hours on a productive day will be 5 hours. I'm not talking about that you'll make more money, but the job will be easier, less angry customers, less difficulty. Sometimes half the day in business owners is wasted on phone calls and this and arguments and why do you need that day to be like that? Now, you're not connecting it that I'm I'm not making enough money or making good money. You're not connecting that the headache in your business is also connected to Hashem. that Hashem says if you would give me one hour in the afternoon to go and pray I will make your day smooth. That's how it works. That's how it works. You do whatever sacrifice for Hashem whether you understand it or not or like it or not is irrelevant at this point. But you put the sacrifice, Hashem pays back in the same level. Therefore, your focus has to be on Hashem. The target is Hashem. My target is how can I become closer to Hashem? Because at the end of the day, that's how I see it. At the end of the day, after 70, 80, 90 years of living in this world, everything here stays behind. My money will stay behind. My real estate will stay behind. My cars, my jewelry. Hopefully, I can give something to my kids. But for them, it's not going to stay because one day they will die. You don't take anything with you from this world. If you live to uh how do you say hoard how do that's how you say when you keep things you hoard things what do you think you're going to keep something in this world you're not keeping nothing in this world the only thing you take with you is your Torah your good deeds your mitzvot your connection with Hashem your time with Hashem that's the only thing that stays so really at the end of the day why do I need to focus on other things if I'm destined to make a million dollars this year don't you think that if you do two hours a day of work and eight hours a day of servicing Hashem, you will still get that million dollars. You don't have to work that hard. And by the way, you'll make much more when you're working for Hashem because all the channels of parasa open for you and you are so preoccupied with your parasa everybody. How am I going to pay the rent? And then the credit cards and all day long everybody's occupied with panas. And even if you make a lot of money, so your expenses are big because you have a nicer car, a bigger house, more expenses. So you're running after your tail. Anyways, I don't let all these things that are not even bothering me. And by the way, I also work. I also have a family to support. It's not that I'm, you know, I have some open ATM account with Hashem and I just money just fall from the sky. It doesn't. And I'm also responsible for a big non for profofit. It's not I have to finance also a big organization. But I'm not waiting for any miracles from Hashem. And definitely not for the generosity of people. I have I have my own business. I make my own money. I have to find I have to support seven kids. But I work very little time a day. I Hashem gives me what I need. I have what I need. I have much more than what I need. I have a very big abundance. Hashem gives me abundance of everything because I'm focused on Hashem. And the more I'm focused on Hashem, the more abundance. I see. And I don't measure my abundance with money. By the way, don't measure your abundance if you have a lot of money or if you don't have a lot money. I know people who have little money and they live much better financially than people have a lot of money and don't live so good financially. My measure of how much blessing I have in my life is if I'm happy. If I'm very easygoing, if I'm relaxed, if I sleep well, if I'm healthy, if I feel healthy. Not fun to feel unhealthy. Aches and pains and my back hurts and my head hurts and my tooth hurts and my toas hurts. And how many days of the year you have pains and and you're not you're not comfortable. Not that I'm opening my my mouth to the Satan, but I know most of the time I feel strong, healthy, inspired, good energy. That's that's a blessing. I was sick five years ago. I almost died five years ago. I was sick for a year. That was enough for me to understand that I don't want to be like that. So I know. So I a I work towards it. B, why wouldn't you want to feel healthy and energized every day and happy and so that's how I measure success that's how I measure blessing that I have good relationship with most of the people who are close to me that I have a good relationship with myself with Hashem that's how I measure my success but all that is attributed only if you focus on Hashem if Hashem is number one that's where it all starts if Hashem is not the number one target. And I know it sounds like you're going to have to be OCD now on Hashem. That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is that first comes Hashem. It's 5:00 in the afternoon and it's time to pray. But you also have something else that can be or should be done. Hashem has to be first. First, I go to pray and I don't go to do what I need to do. I find a solution and Hashem will make it work. and not to say first let me take care of it and I'll play later because you won't pray later or you will pray in the street or without a minion or whatever and this is one example many that's what the Mishna says don't say I'm going to learn I mean the words that it's using when I'm going to turn because it rhymes it says you might not take the turn so don't say I'll pray later you most likely you You move something for later, it won't happen 90%. So you have to put Hashem first. Tomorrow you wake up in the morning, you going to be your own judge. If you put Hashem first or anything else first because if you wake up with your phone, if you don't have time tonight to get an alarm clock, so use the phone as an alarm clock, but don't open the phone. Don't use any app. Don't read your emails. Don't don't touch it. Just put the off button and move on. Next day you want an alarm clock. Try it. And you will see that you will see how strong your urges are to do anything but to say in the morning blessings which really that's what you are required. Wake up in the morning, wash your hands preferably next to your bed because there's a lot of impur on your hands. You don't want to walk with that impurity in your hands. You want to put a bucket with a a cup of water next to your bed and wash your hands right when you wake up. That's the right way of doing it because you have a very strong power, a spirit of impurity on your hand. It doesn't matter if you observe it or not. That's what happens. You want to wash it first thing in the morning because if you're not, you start touching yourself and that impurity should not touch your eyes, your ears, your mouth, all the exits, the the entrances because it makes it impure. So you want to small action. You take a little bucket, a cup full of water, the ones with the hands, and you wash your hands first thing in the morning. And the next thing you do, you go wash your face, brush your teeth, and right away morning prayers. That's the first thing you do. And the only time I will tell you exempt is if you have a crying baby that you need to feed. That's it. Or if you're extremely ill, sick, or bound to your bed. But the first thing you do is you talk to Hashem. And if you're a man, go and pray. That should be the first thing you do. And if you're a woman, so stay at home and pray or go to. But start your day with Hashem. You want the entire day to be Hashem? Hashem has to be always number one. The question that pops up in my mind in any situation is what does Hashem want me to do right now? If I would talk now directly to Hashem, what would he want me to do? And I know what he would want me to do and that's what I do. 99% of the situations 1% I fail. So you want to get to a point that when you are present, you present this question, the answer is bullseay. Right now, Hashem wants me to sit and say because I already washed and ate and not to forget about it and to let my mind drift. Most people wash the beginning. They say 50% of the time don't say why you fell asleep. You got distracted. This happened that happened. You have to work your muscle and your mind that first of all remember this verse from the dua in every path you walk on you have to know hem recognize hem I told you yesterday knowing hashem is before the amuna and when you understand that every second hashem is around you and you question and that's what I asked myself what would hashem want me to do right now and for the first few years I would lie to myself and say yeah hashem would want me to do this and that. Hey, you liar. You know what Hashem wants you to do. Oh, you kidding. You have to be honest here. If you're not honest, it won't work. And the reason why I'm telling you constantly all the time, won't work, won't work. Because I don't want you to get to a point next year that you look back and said, "It didn't work." Of course, I told you it's not going to work. Do what I told you. Do what you need to do. I promise you that when you're going to stand a year from now and look back, you'll see that your year was a different year. It might not be the year that you make that $500 million you want to make, but uh and it might not be the year that you find your true true love, but that's not everything in life. You want to see that everything in your life grew. Your entire portfolio grew. If you do what I tell you, and I'm not saying much, then I guarantee to you next year will be a successful year when you look back. If you don't want to do that, then don't complain whine or be disappointed when what you tried didn't work. And the the whole point here is to put Hashem. That's the target. How do you hold the rest of the targets? Because you're going to go into the new year with targets. I hope you will. Well, not Target where you buy stuff. I'm not selling their stock for you, but uh when you have something to focus on. So, this year I want to focus on my blessings. This year I want to focus on my learning Torah. This year I want to focus on really refining my patience and my forbaress and forgiven. I have a lot of targets that I want to do, right? I want to lose 10 pounds. I want to gain 10 pounds. I want to get in shape. I want to do that. I want to I want to achieve AB and C. I want to get that book out. Whatever it is that you're So, you have a long list of targets. Hopefully, you go into the next year with a long list of targets and but good ones, not nonsense and targets that you know that you can achieve. All this if you want those targets to be focused on and and be successful, the only way to achieve it is if you focus on the main target because the main target will manifest for everything. So if I want to focus now on my spiritual growth and I want to add that every day I read 10 chapters of and I'm going to set it that it's going to be done right when I wake up. So I don't you know push it off and off and off and off and you start working on it and of course will come a lot of resistance. One morning you'll forget one morning you'll be busy. The reason why it won't work is that you didn't put Hashem number one. If Hashem was the target and you constantly focus on what Hashem wants from you in a very healthy way, not in an OCD way, then the other target, Hashem will make successful. You see how it works. You don't have much control over it. You're just saying to Hashem, I want to do a kind of like my kid. My kid will tell me, I just want to do this. I will give him the options. You just need to tell me what you want. I already prepare the options. So when you're telling Hashem what you want, he will make it happen. But the trick here because trust me, I've been many times in my life that I set goals and it didn't work. And all the goals were positive, not like nonsense. It didn't work. Just didn't work. I didn't find the consistency. I wasn't able to really do it. And and then few months, a few weeks later, wasn't successful. And I attribute the fact that it wasn't successful because I wasn't focused on Hashem right from the beginning. I need to focus on Hashem right from the beginning. Hashem does all the rest. All the rest of my targets will be fulfilled to the will of Hashem. How he wants it to happen. And how do you focus only on Hashem? I told you he's always number one. It's not that all day long you're like, no, it's in every encounter that you have, you ask a quick sh question. What would Hashem want me to do right now? I'm pulled into an argument. I stop myself. What would Hashem want me to do right now? Hashem would want me to prevent the argument. Hashem doesn't want me to go in an argument. So, I right away switch my tone. I back off. I stop arguing. I I first of all stop the argument. What did I gain in this point? A, I did exactly what Hashem wants me to do. B, I saved myself from a lot of problems. You guard your tongue and your mouth. Right now, I would get into this argument. I saved myself from something. What is the quick analysis? I did what Hashem would want to do. I saved myself from a lot of headache. That's it. I didn't do that. I went over I didn't think what Hashem wants me to do. I will get into this argument and the argument will not be finished so quickly and easy. So I got myself into a new headache because of my stupidity because of my arrogance because I didn't think for one second what would Hashem want me to do right now. Now how to apply that that's a whole different thing because in many of the cases you'll come to the conclusion of saying Hashem wants me to to do a and I don't so you have to understand Hashem wants me to do something and by the way in many of the cases it's not going to bear good results but that's what Hashem wanted me to do and okay along the line will be some confusions again nothing here is solid but I'm telling you the the attitude the attitude is that I always want to do the good in the eyes of Hashem and I want to do it in an honest way and in many of the cases it's not what I want to do but I already exercised my muscle that I say myself I don't nobody's asking me what I want do what Hashem wants it's not hard it's not easy to get to that point because you need a lot of humility a lot of and you need a lot of trust in Hashem that he will do what he needs to do but when I'm focused on Hashem all the rest of my targets will happen how Hashem wants it to happen. You understand how it works? You have to come from the different direction. Not to focus on your targets. Focus on Hashem. You focus on Hashem, all the rest of your desires, your dreams, your hopes, Hashem will make it happen in the way he wants it to happen, not necessarily how you want to. So the conclusion is is that you have to do some homework. You need to do some homework. I you know, you sat here very nice. Some notes were taken. You have it recorded, but you need to sit and do some homework. I can't do that for you. You need to sit tomorrow. Maybe Shabbat. Shabbat is a good time. Whatever you can, you need to sit with yourself. Listen you, we're talking here about your next year. Invest some time. Be less on Instagram tonight or Tik Tok or whatever junk you're on because anyways, that should be on the top of your list. By the way, that I'm already telling you what to write on the beginning of the list. I want to be less on my phone. No. &gt;&gt; Yeah. &gt;&gt; Measure how how many hours a day you're on the phone. All the phones show you that how many hours you are. Just see how many hours you're on the phone. You'll see how much time you waste. And even if you don't get rid of it completely, I strongly believe in management control or not how you call it management. &gt;&gt; Not damagement in damage control. &gt;&gt; Damage control. If you I I I was the master of reduce the problem. I know you can't control the problem, but reduce the intensity that I'm a big follower and believer. You have a certain issue. You're on the phone all day long. You can't get rid of the phone in one second. But okay, your goal today for the next month is to reduce it to less than three hours. And then the next month I'm reducing it to two and a half hours. And the next month I'm reducing it to two hours. Yeah, that's how I did got rid of most of the junk in my life. Some things needed to get rid of right away. This I got rid of. That's how I got rid of most of the stuff. That's how I started observing Shabbat. I used to start observing only one hour of the Shabbat. 11:00 at night, that's it. One hour observing Shabbat. Nothing moves the whole hour. 12:01, yall, back to business. And you all you're laughing. That's how I started. I would do segments in the Shabbat and in the afternoon like the late Shabbat, you know, from like 4:00 in the afternoon till 7. You you can go nuts. So 4 to 7 I know I'm not observing Shabbat. But that's how I started. I can't do the whole thing. I'll do one minute. I'll do one one hour. I didn't I didn't observe the 24 hours of Shabbat. I I observed one hour. Damage control reduce. If I had certain a desire that was not in a in control then don't do it every day once a week reduce the the problem that's a very very effective method so right now what I'm telling you is you need to do some homework you need to sit with yourself if you didn't don't have it written down then look at the video and write yourself notes and points and do that because you have about three weeks before sh each one do it in your level make yourself your own note. Make yourself your list of goals. My goal, number one goal, I want to do A, B, and C. Number two goal, number three goal. You if you're not going to have these targets of what you want to achieve this year, you're not going to achieve anything. When you expecting the great gracious of Hashem, the thing is like this. If you are amazing with Hashem, you don't need any targets. He will just give you whatever he needs to give you. Life will be very, very simple. But you still need targets for your spiritual growth. Unless you are a legend and you know how to work yourself that every day you are your own personal trainer and you know how to raise yourself. That's not easy. You have to be a very special individual to be able to do stuff like that. We're not special individual. Then you want to put yourself in a program. It's only benefiting you. You are you you are going to continue suffering from not putting yourself in the program. You will see that if you put yourself in the program that I'm talking about, most of your difficulties and your challenges will be reduced 50 to 80%. You'll have challenges, but you'll take care of them like that. Problems that you need to deal with, I need I see how in days that I'm 100% dedicated to Hashem, whatever needs to be done is done fast. I never wait in line in the bank. And every bank you walk in, there's a long line, especially in Israel. All right. Sometimes I need to go into the bank. If I'm telling, if I'm doing what I'm telling you that my day is smooth, I walk into the bank in, out. One time I sent my wife to the bank, came she came back three hours later. What took you so long? Where were you? No, don't ask. And this and that and then they didn't. and the computer was down and okay I go into the bank in out I had to do what I had to do but Hashem made it this short I don't have to deal with something too much few months ago my my my daughter had a bit mitzvah we had to prepare it it was everything was last minute what would take 3 weeks with it in two days that's it caterer you available thank you we Want humomus? That's it. No need to No. You want blue balloons or you want silver balloons? Silver. You got it. That's it. Chick. You make the event what would take you three weeks, two days. That's that's why I'm telling you that's the trick here. When you are 100% focused on Hashem, all the rest of the stuff is done for you. You don't have to do much. It's all done for you. And you just stand there and put the jaw back up. &gt;&gt; Yeah. Exactly like that. He was saying a word from the Torah. When Elza went to get Rifka, he asked Hashem, "Please make me successful. My servant Abrau, send me to find a daughter to his son." And he prayed from the depth of his his heart that Hashem should make him successful. First of all, what happened? A three-day journey was a few hours. Check he was there in a few hours. More than that, the first stop he comes to comes to him. He just sees everything. He sees everything and the Torah says, he's wonder what Hashem just made it happen. Yeah. You were sent on to on a message to do on a a journey to do something. you gave all the credit to Hashem then Hashem not only that makes you successful it will be half the time and you'll get much more that's how things work when I measure success in my life and I find a lot of success in many aspects in my life I also recognize the failures and why and how but the success I 100% attribute to that's what Hashem wanted and he just gave the blessing and Why? Because what was on my mind was how to do what Hashem wants and not how to get what I want or my goal or my desire. And the same thing by the way in spiritual things when I wanted to reach to a certain spiritual level that already is not even in my hand that Hashem can do that. What you read you understand right away. Sometimes it would take me to read the same chapter or the same page over and over and over. Nothing nothing goes in. First I think like uh two three years of my Torah learning life like a rock. Most idiot ignorant person you ever saw in your life. I would sit, learn, listen, understand everything. Walk out of the room don't remember nothing. No nothing. I would uh go and learn all day long. My wife agreed that I would learn all day long. We were poor. Like I would come home, she would want to know a little bit of Torah. What did you learn today? I would be like, "Uh, Torah." No, but what did you learn? And I would be like, "Uh, I'll tell you on Shabbat." No, but tell me something, Mash. You learned the whole day. I didn't know how to get out of it. I would be like, It's not for your level. It's way, way too deep. You won't get it. But really, I didn't remember anything. I didn't remember what the rabbi was talking about. Nothing. And I would read some nothing. Like a like a cement wall. And I would get frustrated. I was like, it's not that I'm some idiot. I'm like I I hold myself as an intelligent individual. This I understand. This I don't get. Because Torah is divine. It's not physical. In order to understand the Torah, you have to align yourself with the channel. If not, you won't understand that. But when I finally was able to break these clipot and start understanding, you can understand something with reading the page 10 times and you can understand it in one shot. And sometimes you understand it in such a way that when you read the commentary, the commentary backs up what you understand. So, Hashem can open all your chakras, all your channels of of wisdom. And what would take you, I'm not exaggerating, a month to learn, you do it in one reading. Some people read a whole book. Tell them to can you give me some uh report on the book. It was very interesting. But what did you learn? What did you take out of it? How did it change your life? Can you give me a summary of the book? &gt;&gt; It's too much to tell. It's too it's too much to tell. It's not not on your level. Sorry. It's only for so what I'm saying is that even in your success in your spiritual connection it comes because Hashem wants it to come. So I'm telling you where I see my success is when I put Hashem number one. When Hashem is number one, everything falls exactly how it needs to fall. Much less disappointment, much less effort, much more awe like what it actually worked. You actually live a life of a life of miracles and then you believe in it so much then then it's increasing. That's the point you want to reach. You want to reach to the point where you all day long and again it's not every second of the day but in every situation. It's not that every bite you're like would Hashem want me to take the bite like this or like that. That's not what I'm talking about. So it's not all day long. It's like throughout the day. So yes, before you come to eat, you want to ask yourself, does Hashem want me now to wash for bread and say maybe my hands are dirty? I need to wash them first. What is the that I'm going to say? I have soup here. No bread right now. I have in the soup some uh uh how do you call it? &gt;&gt; No. How do you sayim? I have some whatever something that is and some is and something is what what's the say? You have a soup in front of you. You know the what to say. Most people say shackle on everything because they don't know what to say or they don't say nothing or you have on your table a few things. So that's what I'm saying. When you in a situation you put Hashem first. What's the what do I need to do? And then you do what you need to do. And the same with anything. When you put Hashem number one, when your target is Hashem because in order for Hashem to be number one, he needs to be the target and everything else is just the the design around. Then you're going to find success in everything you do. And you will see that even in the failure, there won't be disappointments. There won't be stress and sadness over it. Your entire approach will be completely different. You'll see true growth in your life. And when you see true growth and you really see return to your work, that's the proof. That's where you start. That's where it takes it off. Once you know what effort brings what results, then you can spread your wings and you'll do it by yourself. But you cannot come back here last next year and say my year wasn't that good. If you didn't put any effort, if you don't put any effort and you're not willing to sacrifice and you're not willing to give in and you're not willing to do hard work, then don't cry. Don't whine. Don't whine that nothing in your life is not working out and opportunities are are disappearing and the paranas doesn't work out and this and that. I mean, you can whine all day long. With that said, all is left is for you to go do your homework. That's I can't do more than that. You need to go home, put down everything in your thoughts, in your minds, put it, write it down, make a plan. What do I want to do for the next next three weeks? If you didn't start following every day what I'm teaching on start, so catch up. So the next two days will take you take you time to catch up. It's all short. Catch up. Don't say ah already 10 days passed. It's no point. No, no, no. Go home, catch up. There's not a lot of tim to catch up. There's not a lot of chapters to catch up. And of course with what you said. I will give the same advice also two days before is over. But now you still have three weeks. Take advantage of that because Hashem now is looking what you're doing. And whatever you're putting down as a as a goal, as a target, as a wish, Hashem is looking at that as a wish list. Oh, that's what he wants. Okay, we'll get it. After you did your homework, then you have to apply. And if you're not going to be motivated to move yourself, I'm back to Israel. I know some of you come every day to the classes. That's it. I'm going. I did my part. Now, you're going to have to to take it yourself. But you're going to have to be very targeted and very focused on what you need to do. You need to understand that if you don't do that, next year will be another year that just passes like the rest of the last 15 years. And you look at your albums, you look at your Now, you don't need to look at albums. What am I talking about? That's for like dinosaurs. Look at your albums. I have albums. &gt;&gt; But today people, you know, they look at their phone. That's their album. But you know what the phone does for you? It shows you a picture and it tells you you four years ago. And then you it's a reality check. Oh, that's where I was four years ago. And nothing changed. Same old, same place. Now, if you're looking at the picture that the iPhone tells you four years ago and you're like, "Wow." So, I hope you're on that level. If not, I'm telling you, you everything that I told you, nothing is easy. I didn't tell you now tonight nothing easy that's going to happen. But if you don't do it, nothing on the positive side will. It's your your your life won't change. That's it. That's why I told you in the beginning you have to ask yourself if I want to I want to change. I want to get rid of this habit. And it's by the way not changing your life black and white. You you're removing one aspect of your life that is not good. Whether it's a bad habit, smoking, alcohol, whatever, whether it's being on your phone for four or five hours, whatever it is. By the way, if you can do the whole nine yard, better, but you'll be very successful if next year you'll be able to say, "I got rid of one thing. I used to be on my phone all day long. Now it's under control." Don't you want to say to be able to say something, I I was able to get rid of this. I was able to achieve that. If you understand in a very limited way that that's the key to your success, then point on that and that's what you should do. Your key to the success for anything in life is doing what Hashem wants you to do in your level. He he he has expectations but don't worry, Hashem's expectations are not that high from you. He wants the minimum. He wants effort. He wants sincerity. He wants to see that you are willing. That's it. It's not so complicated. And once you see a change in your life then you are convinced to continue doing it. So at this point all is left for me is to wish you I thank you all for coming to all the events the lectures. If you wouldn't come I would be sitting in front of a camera. So I thank you all for coming and I thank the viewers online that log in. I hope you uh can benefit from that and from the one that ones who are watching online it's recorded so a few hours later we put the original on the YouTube so that way if the uh quality is bad but I really want to in this point first of all thank Hashem for making this tour successful and to bringing me to a point that I can be two months and go from one place to another. All the thanks goes to Hashem, but I have to take uh the time to also thank Julie uh for doing an amazing amazing amazing amazing amazing work. And I'm happy that that you got to see what I have to eat every day. Uh and to many other people who help. There are very amazing people who helped on the way. Our good friends where we're staying now here in Florida and other places everywhere that we stayed. And we met amazing amazing people. I'm very very happy and impressed. I also met very annoying people. Uh but so the attitude has to constantly be gratitude to Hashem. I thank you all for coming. Thank you for listening. If not, I would be talking to myself. I know it doesn't fall on all ears. But I wish for you that you are inspired enough to actually take action. I can teach. I can give example. I can break it down. I cannot grab your ear and and uh and make you do it. And I wouldn't even do that. I don't even do that to my kids. You have to do it by yourself. If you're waiting for somebody to help you, nothing will work. You have to initiate the change in your life. You have to do it. And you have to understand that when you just do one little step, Hashem does the rest. Jumped in the water. Hashem split the water. It wouldn't be split if one person wouldn't do that little jump. And in his mind, he goes he's going into his death. There's one chance that not. But the the the what you need to take from that as a lesson. You do a little step with giving a lot of trust in Hashem. Benaminadav is the one who jumped into the water when the nation of Israel was standing on the water before it split. A whole nation is standing. They don't know what to do. One man takes initiative and he jumps into the water. He understands I need to put a leap of faith. Hashem will do it. He's not going to bring us to the water and not do some miracle on the water. That's how the mind needs to work. Hashem didn't bring me here to end it. He brought me here to do a miracle. That's everything in my life. Hashem brings me to difficult situations and I understand Hashem brought me here to perform the miracle. If I back up right now, there won't be a miracle. So, Hashem brings you all the way to the end. You need to do that step. You need to jump into the water, show faith, show trust, and Hashem does the rest. And that's why I'm keep saying target is Hashem. Trust me, you you won't you won't fail. You won't be disappointed. And I know it sounds big. It's not. It's just switching priorities. Priority is Hashem, not mine. Trust me, Hashem has your back. He wants only good for you. He's not going to make you fail. You just need to show him how much you trust him. You need to do that jump of am of trust Hashem. You have I know you have my back. And then the rest Hashem does everything. I'm telling you this from experience, not from books. You see, no books today. No papers, no notes, pure experience. And says King Solomon, you can only have true wisdom when you have true experience. And experience can come in one year. It can come in 50 years. There are great sages in our history that became the head of the Sanhedrin when they were 20, when they were 18. This has nothing to do with years. Is how much you absorb the godly message behind any encounter. So everything that I'm telling you straight from the heart. Listen, I guarantee to you, you'll be happy. You'll be successful. You'll change your life. You'll look back and you'll be like, "It was the best thing I ever did." Without that, no, nothing would work. Whatever desire you have, whatever goal you have, whatever dream you want, you have desires, your plans, it won't work. Not because Hashem is bad, because you're not inviting it into your life. You're not making space for it in your life. All the difficulties that you have is Hashem wants you to figure out that he is what to be focused on. Once you give Hashem what he wants, he gives you everything that he wants. Then your life becomes smooth, happy, successful with a lot of challenges with failures. But it's background noise. You It's like one loss, you gain a hundred others. That's it. So I wish for you and I pray for you and I hope for you and I bless you that you walk out of this door tonight without too much fluff, without too much. You walk and you you do your homework. Do that effort. I guarantee to you, Hashem will continue the rest. Thank you all for coming. If you have a few questions, we have a few minutes. Tonight, I really got to run fast. &gt;&gt; And either than that, next time I see you will be like these guys behind the screen. And uh I will try my best to do much more live events. I see people are benefiting it from it and liking it. And I know I don't have much time to answer all the comments. Madam will do that too. Have a wonderful evening. And if anyone has a quick question on what we talked about, not about your challenges with your grandmother's cat right now. &gt;&gt; When you said that the day is destined for when you are to get married, how do we reconcile that with the says that before someone is 20, Hashem says, "When will we take a wife?" And after he is 20, he says, "Let your bones rot." or something along those lines would show that it seems to be there's an element of as far as time is concerned. Hence the ability for the Gar to criticize him for not getting married earlier. the criticism of the gamarra is or the more the the the teaching is that's what you need to strive for that you that's the point when you get married and which means that up until that point you don't mix your thoughts with nonsense and dates and you know that's the time where I want to get married and I I need to physically and spiritually mature when I get to that point and my desire that's when I want to get married so the says if You think if you are the ones who are saying no no no let me make first a few million dollars let me buy a good house then I have a business then I'm all settled then I will get married that's what the is mocking and saying what no no no no no no don't think that you're going to wait for something to achieve something aspire to get married at that time that's the time the best time to get married I am not I never cry on anything spilled milk in my life but I got married when I was 29 and if I look back yeah I wish I to get married much earlier earlier much more to be with my kids I'm much younger with my kids I'm not complaining on anything that's what Hashem wants but what I'm saying is that yeah the says if you don't want and wish to get married in your 20s or when you're 20 then that's where comes all the rebuke and all the arguments but the fact is before we were we are born everything is decided also the when you're going to get married. And I know there are exceptions to every rule. There are actions that one can do that can push away his or her other half or bring it faster. But like I told you, it depends on so many details that sometimes you you don't want to mess with the time. Sometimes opportunities come in your life and it's not the time for that opportunity. Hashem just puts it in front of you that you understand, oh that's right now in front of me. It will happen at some point. Now I have to be patient. Hashem now is testing you with your patience. That opportunity might come back in four years. Now is not the time. And of course in many of the cases you're saying, "No, I want it now. It's not the time. Do something premature. It won't work." So anything in your life is already predestined. Very few times you can change little details. Most of the times it's predestined best to go on the conveyor belt and just be happy with Hashem, enjoy the ride, be very thankful and enjoy the snacks that they give you, not to try to move the route of the where you're going. That's what most people try to do. They try to reroute the path they're going on. Worst thing you can do, stay on the route because you can't change it anyways. Just look at the view in a completely different way. And if you don't like the view from this side, then go to that side and look at the view from the other side. Something's wrong with you because the path you're walking on, that's where Hashem wants you to walk on. So everything is predestined. But like I told you, in that respect, the Gumar is ordering you. Your focus has to be that you should bring yourself to a spiritual and emotional maturity in the age of 20. So you are ready to get married. That should be your goal. That's why you see many yeshiva bakers that they learn. They bring themselves to the level that they're ready to get married and then they just sit and learn till the shid come whether it's 21 or 24. But that's what they do because they want to bring themselves to be ready to the place where they're emotionally and mentally spiritually ready for the wedding. Most people when they don't meet their other half it's because they're not spiritually mature to the level that is right to meet the other half. And if you want to bring it faster then then it will cause problems at the end. Don't bring anything faster in your life. &gt;&gt; So my question is for people who struggle with let's say when they were younger they had horrible life experiences like just terrible things happened to them. So they're having a hard time accepting Hashem or accepting the will of Hashem or um even the love of Hashem because they think well like as a child something terrible happened horrible. How do they reconcile that advice for those kinds of people? The only way to to reconcile that or I would say just to change it is and it's not so easy by the way it's not something that will come overnight is to bring that person to the level of amuna where he or she understands that everything is in the hands of Hashem good or bad then and again it's a long long process the first part of the process is to let go of any anger or any negative feeling from the person who did the bad thing and I know it's not so easy especially when it's very extreme. Now by the way I'm not talking here about severe abuse and like horrible thing that's has to be dealt in a completely different way. If the problem that you're talking about is a child being raped over and over and over and that's the that's not my answer that has to be dealt in a completely different way different answer different approach that's ext I will say this is extreme now I'm talking to average and normal and a little bit more than the average things then the person needs to I'm now dealing with a certain individual trying to help that person who has a lot of anger and negative feelings towards the parents who did to some extent not such nice things. There was nothing bad there. There wasn't physical violence or that but it was let's let's categorize it not the best parents in the world. So the child that person is dealing with a lot of emotions right now. So everybody at some point will have to get rid of that dirt in them. Hashem created that dark space in your life so you to work on yourself so you learn how to let go. And again I'm I'm separating here two groups of people. If it's severe abuse that's not my answer doesn't apply to that type of question. If it's severe abuse and there's horrible things that goes on what sometimes people have to suffer. I'm not talking about that because that if your question is directed to a person who was in that level of abuse mentally severe and physically and abused in many different hor that has to be dealt oneonone and every person completely different to bring the person to understand I know one man that I I try to help that his father ultra ultra the most orthodox you can imagine. But he used to beat him up when he was a kid all the time. So he doesn't like Hashem. Somehow he came to my Shabbat table and he's like, "I don't like Hashem." For me, I see my father and and it took months to get him to understand your father doesn't represent Hashem. Don't have the anger to the Hashem because your father supposedly is an observant man and he did this horrible thing. But it took months for him to to that it should resonate that one has nothing to do with the other. So why am I saying that? Because when it's severe, every case is completely different. It needs its own therapy, its own approach, its own everything. I'm talking about kind of normal things. The only way is to bring that person to forgive whoever did the bad things and completely let go and that's when the finally the appreciation and acceptance of gods will happen. Other than that it's not going to happen. The person needs to understand it requires a lot of selfwork to bring yourself to a very high level of anava to understand I have must have done something in a previous life to to to experience it. Maybe I did the exact same thing to somebody else and I'm getting it right now and that's how I will rectify it. And that's one option out of many. The the bottom line is that's the will of Hashem. And when I start internalizing that maybe I'm responsible. Oh, that's the will of Hashem. And in in fact it's actually a good thing then I'm I can come to terms that eventually that the person who did something bad to me I have no anger to. I have to forgive them. When the victim forgives the person who did something bad but really lets go, that will be the day that the victim will start seeing the love and the beauty from Hashem and start developing a love to Hashem. Unfortunately, I don't know other ways that it might help unless very strong every day a lot of building up and that person I'm calling the person the victim right now has a lot of desire for that. But he usually the only way of doing it is I would call that the fact that the victim right now is very unhappy with his parents can be a sibling can be something and they're holding this anger in order to feel the desire for Hashem is only when that is released and ex exactly I thought about it today in some respect was I was talking to somebody and I was trying to tell that person you you're not going to reach to the place of this true peace until you release release cuz that person asked me how do you don't have that we share the same issue and I said cuz many years ago I learned how to let go not to hold any anger not to hold animosity not to just just let go that's not easy can take sometimes 20 years to bring yourself to a place of anava that you can let go but that's all that I spoke of yesterday if you bring yourself to a place of true humility nobody bothers you let go of all childhood traumas and I not that my childhood was traumatic but I had a lot of encounters on the way that I learned throughout the years how to let go of these it's like a nail stuck somewhere on your timeline and it's stopping the the energy flow and your entire flow is not healthy not you I'm talking the person that is not willing to let go now 99% of the situations when you're not willing to let go you're It's not that you're wrong. And so in one of the reasons why you don't let go because you are right and you're saying I should let go. But in most of the cases my recommendation just let go. Let go. Let Hashem do the judgment. And when you let go, I know it sounds the complete opposite, but when you let go, that's when you so to say shift yourself that okay, now I let go of that. Now I have room to to like Hashem because you're able to forgive a human being, then by default the anger towards Hashem, you're able to forgive him. I mean, we're not in the level that we I forgive you, Hashem. to say but if I have some issue and I'm suffering from some trauma that happened to me in my life and I link and tag Hashem for that trauma and I hold grudge against Hashem which is usually the case. The only way to reverse it is if I remove the trauma and the anger from whoever the physical person who did that because I'm blaming that person. But really the one to blame is Hashem. And ultimately the one to blame is me. And really there's no one to blame here. Why should I blame Hashem for anything? Something negative happened in my life. It's not negative. It's good. Either I balance something bad from a previous life. when bad things happen to me in this life right away I'm like okay I must have done the exact same thing in a previous lifetime and now I'm squared thank you Hashem I don't know anything because the reality is you come back here to pay debts you can have an encounter with a certain individual can be a neighbor that is suing you and three years when you live in that place that neighbor is driving you nuts there must be a ton with that rectification with this individual that you need to fix. Two years ago was in Oman. Go look at the class. I think it's I think it's actually titled how Rabba almost killed somebody in Oman. Something like that. &gt;&gt; Go see this. &gt;&gt; What is the name of your website? &gt;&gt; Atm. But on that almost killed somebody in Ukraine. &gt;&gt; Yeah. &gt;&gt; Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. In the BMT in the BMT. And uh you have to hear the whole story because it was very uh entertaining, funny, and exciting. But the bottom line was that it was obvious at the end that there was some type of rectification with this person. And that's an encounter that lasted an hour or two. How about the encounters that last like I told you a neighbor that is bothering you, a family member, a a brother-in-law doesn't connect, married somehow is somehow in your life for five years, troublemaker. So nothing is bad in your life. I see all the bad encounters in my life is Hashem now removing debts from my bill somehow because I don't understand what does that person want from me? I didn't do anything to him. When you get to understand that everything that happens to you in your life is actually a blessing to you, then you are easier to forgive the person who actually did it. And you in order to get to that level, you need to climb higher in your amuna to believe that Hashem is the one who does things. And when you physically able to forgive a human being, then it works the same with Hashem. We all have some issue with Hashem that we're holding grudge. Why didn't you give me this and that? Which is really Hashem doesn't owe you anything. I look at everything that I have and I don't mind whine what I don't have because I see so much that I have and I'm like wow I don't even have the to look at Hashem and say I need more. That's the attitude. And don't worry, Hashem will give you what you need. People think that if they whine a lot to Hashem or they're trying to impress Hashem. That I hate the most. The ones who think they're impressing Hashem so they can get something. No matter. So what I'm saying is you asked a big question. Not so simple to the extreme. That's an individual long long long journey of therapy to get to the anger away from Hashem. There's one girl that I'm now I'm not in touch with her, but she was a heroin addict for many many years coming from a a lineage of rabbis. You can't even believe what a family like a like a big family. It was like the disgrace of the family. This girl's addicted to heroin and of course she went through what she went through in her childhood. Nobody goes to heroin without suffering something in their life but nevertheless years of her whole anger is directed at Hashem not at anyone in her life not in herself. So that's years and years of work to bring that person to understand and uh and it until the until she quits it then it will never work because you have to come to terms that a lot of your negative things in your life is your responsibility you did that you can't do the time don't do the crime don't whine don't whine be uh in Hebrew we say be a man be strong and admit I messed So, but and I'm now sidetracking from what you said what I said like I told you extreme different answer mainstream and it's very hard to forgive the person who did something bad to you because in many of the cases it's your parents or a sibling or somebody extremely close to you and uh you have to find the place I don't I don't have anyone that I need to forgive. you do something to me bad on the spot I already forgive. I I don't hold the by saying you don't deserve my forgiveness because when I don't forgive then I hold it in me. I'm holding the negative charge in me. So as I said the other day, nobody is worth my peace. So I won't let you, you know, impure my system because I'm holding grudge against you. Besides that, I believe I know that you can't do anything to me. You didn't do anything to me. You are just a messenger. I sent Hashem sent you and you are the messenger and that's it. Therefore, I don't have any anger towards the messenger. Therefore, I don't have to forgive anyone. But a lot of work. It's it takes a lot a lot of self-discipline. But eventually the if you want to do it quick, forgive the the person who did the bad thing completely. Not I forgive you. You let go completely pumm you see that there's a huge space in your heart that was taken by that and now it's available to Hashem that's it &gt;&gt; yes &gt;&gt; I have a question from as fit into Torah &gt;&gt; it doesn't work &gt;&gt; how does AI fit into Torah it doesn't and don't try to fit it into Torah. That's the short the long answer I have. Listen, you want to use it to make stuff like basic things, fine. You know, the other day the lecture in Surfside made a a flyer with AI, right? Look at the picture how the AI made me look. It actually fixed my teeth. Different beard. I look completely different. First I was like then I was like &gt;&gt; who's this guy? So that's your answer. AI doesn't give you the truth. It can help you in some good things when it's basic things and you can use it to help you. Fine. Don't ever involve the Torah with AI. Every question that I ever asked chat GPT about the Torah was wrong. And most people don't know the answer. So they don't know if the answer that Jad GPT gave them is the right one. But when you know the answer, you see the Chad GPT is always wrong. Don't ever use Chad GPT for Torah or any type. Now again, if it makes your life a little bit better because there some system of AI that can enrich your life, go ahead. That's good. But be very aware that AI and now it's not the time to elaborate on that. AI is only coming from the it's not coming from any other thing. The only intelligence is Hashem. So to say there's an artificial intelligence that's saying there's something else. So again to use it for something basic fine. And when I'm saying basic basic questions that you have, my daughter comes to me with such nonsense and I'm like, where'd you hear it? Chad GPT. So I'm not impressed by Chad GP at all. I know it's another tool of the Sam to make many people fail and many people fall into a new pit. I don't use it. I don't want to use it. It makes you extremely lazy. Now chat GPT does everything for you. You don't read books. Chat GPT summarizes book for you. You don't read messages. It it writes messages for you. I mean it gets it will get to a point that the ones who are completely off the charts with it are going to be submissive to Chad GPT and I already have seen violent situations with that. There's one student of mine that her husband is and this is a religious man like a fully observant man who's completely infatuated with Chad GPT and Chad GPT told him that his wife is lame and he has to go and kill her &gt;&gt; and he went it's not even funny and he went and physically attacked her broke every bone on her face that's how crazy a person can get why would Chad GPT say who how would Chad GPT know such a thing Now, that's an extreme situation, but I saw a lot of extreme situations. I don't use it. I don't want to be lazy. So, it will take me another five minutes to read the email, and I don't need a conclusion from the email. In some cases, fine. I have found that in most of the cases, it's inaccurate. It's not the right way. Besides, it makes you slowly slowly that's what it's going to do because it has its own intelligence. Slowly slowly it wants to get you away from Hashem. By the way, that's the bottom line. The bottom line is that AI will interfere in our life in such a way that you won't be doing nothing. So it will bring you to a point that you will think that Chad GPT or whatever AI can do other things for you and eventually will get to you to to mitzvot. You don't have to put fill in on chip will put it for you. It will go to different uh psycho places that people will find all the loopholes how not to do things eventually. The bottom line of it is to get you away from Hashem. The intelligence that you need to focus on is Hashem, not the artificial intelligence. So I I<