Shaar HaBitachon Lesson 27 with Rabbi Shais Taub

good evening continuing in Chapter four of China be talking from Avis lavelies we're still talking about people's attitudes toward making a living let's continue inside the text and we're going to talk about tonight with the shams help some reflections I guess you might call them or perhaps you'd even call them prayers or meditations or maybe prayer meditations practical tools actually it's interesting Ramona Mejia wrote us a script that we can use for our own internal monologue when we encounter stress about making a living so we're gonna we're gonna merit some we're gonna learn these three monologues the healthy self talk which we can use to ground ourselves back in our be talking when we're getting bent out of shape about Parnassus stuff okay ooh me Masha Allah by taya hallo alle chemotherapy and the way one should trust in a sham regarding one's livelihood is like this tishy sake of me men no hot terre fame in a yamim if the scenario is that his Parnassus withheld from him on occasion like on a particular day he hits a dry spell shame are Balibo you should say in his heart he should he should he should I guess practiced the following reflection let's call it yeah sure it's yeah Noel who um has herb is man you do a vase you do uh the one who brought me into this world at a certain time and at a certain moment we'll 8/8 eonni a lovely finish la la had a hem and he didn't bring the end of the world not a second earlier or a second later in other words Hashem precisely sent your soul to this world at the exact moment when it was needed Who am I I give me many bait Avila ice you do over yam you do it it is he it is that same God who was withholding from me right now my livelihood until a certain moment and de ledee a macho pavely according to his knowledge of what is best for me last night we got a lot of questions in the private chat and some of them were about shidou him you know the main thing was about our NASA but people were asking about should know him which is also one of the big things people worry about and we need to have a lot more bit talking about but it's interesting because think abut should look him now because it's so common I hear so often from young people who are dating and they're in the parsha as we call it and they say it's so hard to just enjoy my last days months whatever as a single person because it's like I'm Nisha - Hinda SH the hair you know and I'm slow ting in between two worlds I want to move on to the next phase but I'm not there yet and so it's like I'm just not really able to to be in in the present and if I knew if I knew that I had to be single for another month or even another year or even there's another two years in fact even if it would be five years but I knew I had a guarantee Hashem would tell me that on this since this day you are getting married to your by shirt and it's guaranteed okay I wouldn't like it so long from now but if I knew there was a time it was coming and my it was my bashar and that was the right time then I would be relax and I would actually enjoy my remaining days months years whatever it is as a single person I've heard that comment like many many many times for people and and it's not surprising that people talk that way or that they think that way because you know what what's the difficult part of waiting for your blessing it's the not knowing when it's gonna come it's the not knowing if you had a guarantee it's gonna be a year okay you know it's you're not gonna meet your Bichette for a year but in a year you will and it's guaranteed that's gonna happen in this date that this time okay then I would be able to relax and I would know okay so for a year it's not happening let me enjoy this year and use this time for you know whatever things I can do as a single person but if I don't know when it's gonna be and it could be a day and it could be a year could be ten years could be never write this that's the catastrophizing that's the the ego getting in a negative feedback loop right now I can't even enjoy this second I can't rest now I'm mission to hinge the head I'm not in this world I'm not in this and in the next phase of life so a little bit similar to that this reflection or this meditation focuses on the idea that look your soul was sent to the world at a precise moment not a second before not a second later your soul was sent to the world at a precise moment for the mission that you have to do here in this world the same God who knew when to send your soul at the precise moment of birth that you were born is the same God who knows the precise moment to send you your pernessa and if he's not sending it to you right now it's because it's not the right moment but there is a right moment which he knows and it's for your best right that's what it says of them at the end laudatory marshall who plays lee according to his knowledge of what's best for me so relax your partner is coming it's just not now it's coming a little bit later at a time which is actually for whatever reasons we may or may not be able to ever understand a better time than coming now obviously I want it now because then I can relax and I have money in the bank right and I feel that feel confident but you know what that shouldn't make me feel confident which would make me feel confident is the fact that the same Hashem who sent my soul to this world at a precise moment he'll send me my partner's also at the precise moment that it's needed not a second earlier not a second later so relax that's the first meditation it's quiet in the chat tonight last night it was so lab ridiculous really appreciated it was my chat people are chatting hello hi okay uh-huh so this is what do I eat now you want a recommendation well you should order it no you're saying what if I guys starving okay that that's that's not talking about a person who's who's starving because remember we said earlier that sometimes you don't have liquid liquidity you know you don't have cash on hand but you have something you could sell maybe you have credit yeah okay so you have what you need you might just have to be a little creative about being able to to get a hold of it but that's not what we're talking what we're talking about here is he's insecure that he doesn't have any money in his account okay he's not starving to death he's just nervous that I'm gonna have to you know I'm gonna have to put dinner tonight on a credit card I'm maxing out my card I don't know tomorrow where where where the partner is gonna come from so we tell you relax you will get through it you will get by and the Panozzo will come when it needs to come all right the Haines cashier give a yahoo Todd payments mhmm also when his income is very limited very meager Lisa R Amazon mo OMA it's not a penny more than him but he needs to eat previous one was his was about time the frequency you know the money hasn't been coming in for a while here the money's coming in but it's it's a trickle it's just barely enough as soon as I get it I spend it on basic needs you know Jackie Mason has a great line he says I have enough money to live on for the rest of my life if I never buy anything so here he is he's getting money just barely what he needs like I said I'm as a Nima woman not one penny more than what he needs for sustenance royal oil Akshay believe Ava Lamar he should say to himself the following meditation okay now here's our second meditation here we go Asha hey can Lima zany bouche de ma Vicki listen Yanni he sustained me gave me sustenance by nursing from my mother at the beginning of my life it's Auto Kiva day Cal colossi according to my needs and sufficient for my sustenance game game on a daily basis odd ok meaning what's the point here when you're nursing you also have no money in the bank you only get as much as you can consume each time that's that's if that's the way it works there's no money in the account so to speak it's just what you can consume right now and that's it and then when you need more you have to go back again so that's the way we were with when we were babies when we're nursing we all started out and we didn't have any more par Nosa than whatever it is we were consuming right now in the moment and that's really the way it continues to be for the rest of our lives either share Hamer I see limit ieave me man memento until Hashem replaced nursing with something better than that mean we upgraded now we eat real food now we earn real money we buy food and we buy our different needs but the same premise exists like when we were nursing which is if you only get exactly what you need right now that's fine that's ok and the fact that you don't have a surplus and you don't have a cushion you're not saving up ok you didn't save up when you were nursing either the life is Akiba a bit symptom oma the fact that I was only given exactly what I needed at the time when I needed it when I was nursing that didn't damage me the contrary you know the obviously who I got enough nutrition Here I am i grew up I'm an adult so Cain logically Boyett edifice asha hectic ACA love at the bit symptom photography at a classy on my mama it will not damage me i will not suffer any harm and i counted the limited minimal income he gives me now to the end of my days meaning even if it's just barely what i need it comes in and i spend it all it goes right out where we call today we call it living from paycheck to paycheck right well when you're nursing your living from paycheck to paycheck you're living from one feeding to the next feeding you don't have anything saved up the same thing that's what it is that's the meditation viennese Carranza he'll be rewarded for that for that attitude of saying you know what when I need it I'll get it I don't need to have the cushion kamehameha betta I'll have a saint with me but like Hashem praised our our ancestors in the wilderness chignon America said their situation was very similar to this Murat saw um Valle octave our game became a they went out and they gathered enough money for each day so similar thing like the child is nursing he's only got enough per feeding what he needs right then it's not storing anything up so - with the Mun they would only get what they what they could have for that day and the next day they'd have to go get it again vomit hullick the karatsuba as neither shall I'm layman Shem says to you me or Navi go tell the Jews speak to the - in the ears of you - shall I him and tell them praise them complement them ok Elmira Shem is a hearty lacasa Neriah I was clueless Ayakashi Shem says I remember the kindness of your youth when the it's the birth of the nation when the Jewish people was was newly formed as a new nation what was that kindness that the Jews did to a chef left take aa Hirai the mid Barba edits lizra you followed after me in a wilderness in a land that was not sown in other words there was no agriculture there so there was no opportunity to grow things and therefore to store things you just had Mun which was bread from heaven which lasted a day at a time so it was like you know literally living from paycheck to paycheck er from who from day to day what are they called living from hand to mouth that's also an expression people use right leaving from hand to mouth and and we were happy with it and hashem considered that a great crested on our part that we did to him that we were okay with that lifestyle in the mid buck it's comment here this is like those of us who each week have no idea of their earnings therapists salespeople no exact page check yeah that's right everything's a windfall if you work you get paid you don't work you don't get paid and what if most of your paranoia is from getting paid to speak and nobody's doing events since poram well you know like not a salary guy not a nine-to-five you know if I go if I go somewhere in and give a talk you get paid for it right there's nothing been happening for the past few months okay alright somehow somehow it works out Barcia and it was not that anyone cares about my problems but yeah who else can I talk to if not my shadow be talking people Hashem wants us to have a cushion Bhairava the question so why do we solicit there's nothing wrong with having the cushion by the way if Hashem gives you the cushion fine that's great but there's also nothing wrong with not having it and if you don't have it don't get bent out of shape having the cushion is great I didn't have the cushion if a sham gives it to you great but we don't need it we didn't have a one who are nursing we didn't have it collectively as a nation when we were in the wilderness eating Monde and if you don't have you don't have it you'll be okay so why do we ask for par NASA but a kava ample part no sir shouldn't we just get it over already they says discuss it at the end well it's too late I just brought it up now listen when I bench you I'm benching you with Pernod sober kava you should have ample sustenance way more sustenance than you need you should have trouble figuring out how to spend all your money okay when I give you a bra but we spoke about this before there's a difference between my attitude toward you my attitude toward myself when I've been shared I bent you you should have ample partner sir but for myself in my own evader and that's what remain above highest talking about here is talking about for our own Aveda we have to be comfortable and and relaxed when we're just having enough come in according to what is going out that day that's that's don't get nervous about it okay the pain in your VA who Tod poobah Seba me Blissey bah furthermore if his livelihood comes to him in one way and not in not another mahkum me bleem up came and in one place and not in another by the eesh mobility shock hair or through one individual and not through another game I believe I should tell himself the following here's what he should say I share you tehrani al surah fatah Venus who know me know me bleach our hats erase vicunas famiiy days like a chorus in Yanni the one who created me in a certain form and image with a certain nature and disposition to the exclusion of other forms natures and qualities as is best for me in other words he gave me exactly my personality and my temperament and my strengths and my talents and my deficiencies he made me exactly as I am who barley he chose for me who y'all Beit RPL happenin I'm a fake him Lin Yanni Mabley shot upon him he chose from her that my livelihood should come to me in the way is most suitable for me and not in other ways in other words he designed me he made me with all the little quirks and idiosyncrasies and features that are unique to me and it's also making sure that my paranoia comes to me in an equally unique way that's just perfectly tailor-made for me maybe it's not the way that I want it because I'm comparing myself to others so I'm looking at how this person receives their paranoia but they're a totally different person from me Barbra Shem and and Hashem designed you he made you different from from everyone else so the way you're gonna receive your your livelihood is gonna be different from everybody else VAR share hate siani LOL impossible malcolm you do a validation I assume you do him me bleach are che ho alum the one who brought me into this world in a certain place and by means of two particular individuals that means his parents from among all the people in the world where he chose these two people from all the people in the world to be his parents Hashem chose for the person to be born exactly at a certain place from certain parents now shem set up all those details that same hashem who barley has chosen for me by therapy the edited or while they issued or that I should make my living in a certain land through a certain individual some I say Siebel at our pilot a flea and a sham appointed that person to be the means to my livelihood for my benefit Kamisha Americo Soph like the verse says in tehilim Sadiq a Shem a cold Rockoff Hashem is just in all his ways so the same Hashem who orchestrated every detail about your coming into being and your situation and your background and everything now now we're gonna create new questions those are gonna be my later new shila's people are gonna say oh now you're getting into that I have lots of questions about my background and my upbringing in my origin and okay fine so now yeah now we're gonna have to get our moon in a Chicago brought us about that stuff in order to borrow that to use it further Mona and I should have brought this about the about the about the part no sir but it's a simple concept look a Shem sent me to this world a certain time certain place born to these parents to live a certain amount of time and a sin to live in certain places you know all all of that is is it was chosen by a sham and so to a sham chose that when my partner sir comes to me should come through this deal from this job from this guy in that place and not from other things so okay so I thought it was gonna come from this direction I thought it was gonna come from this deal that's not the way it was okay you can't force it you can't force it you can't force it a Shem has built into your story the the the funnels the the conduits for Perrineau so that are perfect for you and perfect for your story and perfect for for everything you need to accomplish in the world okay so we have those three meditations really I don't know I think beautiful meditations anything else for tonight any other business I love the private chats by the way have I mentioned that anything else okay all right fine so I'm gonna sign off for tonight and be blessed everybody until next week