Shaar HaBitachon Lesson 40 with Rabbi Shais Taub

all right good evening we are in chapter five of shot of the talking of chris we are looking at the differences in attitude toward making a living in uh a person who has been talking in hashem and a person who does not have the talking hashem and we said there are seven differences and we went through i think two of them uh the night before last and then we did three four and five we did three of them uh last night which means we have two left tonight that's reason or difference number six and difference number seven and then that's the end of chapter five so hashem we can finish chapter five tonight um i i do believe tonight is lesson number 40. can you believe that lesson number 40. that is amazing the 40th lesson like the 40th year in the wilderness maybe i don't know okay so let's take a look continuing the differences between the one who has been talking hashem the one who and the one who does not have the talking of hashem when it comes to their attitude toward the means they imply employ in making a living all right the hashi she had the sixth difference one who trusts in hashem is beloved to all classes of people they feel favorably toward him why meepne took him because they are confident that he will do no harm to them and they they they they feel okay they feel good with him and they're not afraid of him regarding their wives or their property they don't think that he's an unsafe person to be around they're not suspicious of him that is to say the who and conversely he is also very comfortable with them they like him he likes them he's not threatening them they're not threatening him why why is he why does he feel comfortable with everybody else we know why they feel comfortable with him because he's a good guy but why is he comfortable with them because he knows that any benefit or harm is not in the hands of a created being or within the capacity of a created being the alkane therefore a net cost he's not afraid of any damage they may do him remember if any damage comes to him at the hands of a human being they were just the delivery system and just as he's not afraid of any harm from them he's not expecting or hoping for any benefit from them in other words if hashem so chooses to benefit him through a certain person well that's fantastic but no harm or help can come through a person except if hashem chooses it to be so uh and he is secure around them and they are secure around him you have he loves them and they love him isn't that barney can you say that so maybe someone could google that for me kamehameha bashem yes he who trusts in hashem will be surrounded with kindness and that verse is interpreted in all types of ways usually divine favor divine kindness but here it actually is talking about human kindness that because he has been talking in hashem everybody's lovey-dovey around him because nobody feels threatened he knows that he can't get anything from anybody that hashem doesn't want to give him so he's not scheming to use people and at the same time he knows that no one can do anything for him or to him except if hashem has decreed it to be so so he doesn't feel either threatened by people or or like he has to ingratiate himself to people and therefore you know we've spoken about this a bunch of times it keeps coming up the interpersonal relationship aspect of the talking it's coming up it's come up a number of times that the talking isn't just about your relationship with hashem but talking is one of the foundations maybe the foundation of healthy interpersonal relationships when i'm not afraid of you or um either afraid of any harm you could do for me or afraid of not getting benefit that i think that you have for me it frees me to just get along with you you know there's there's no more there's no more scheming and plotting and maneuvering you know the social maneuvering and the image maintenance oh that's exhausting right image maintenance you got to make sure that people think of you what you need them to think of you in order that you should get from there what you get from them what you need to get from them exhausting absolutely exhausting and futile that's why it's exhausting because we don't need to do any of it we can just be nice to people because they're god's kids and we should treat them accordingly beautiful okay now let's contrast this with the one who does not have trust in hashem let's look at his interpersonal relationships the one who does not trust in hashem he has no friend because he's always envious and jealous of them the shiv called him and he imagines that any good attained by them was taken from him so that's an important point here i i'll get back to that in a moment but he feels that when they are benefiting it is it is directly diminishing from what he should be having i'll i'll get back to it i want to just continue the paragraph this their sustenance is directly taken from his sustenance the homage of and anything that has been denied him of his desires is on account of them that's why he didn't get all the chocolate because they ate all the chocolate over yodam el taivo and it is within their power to grant him these desires and if misfortune or disaster strikes his assets or his children god forbid how does he take that not as directly something coming from hashem remember that's not his world view how does he take that yak he thinks that they are the cause of it he's having money problems where he's having family problems and he's got resentments against human beings who he thinks have caused him these problems the shibuya and that they can shield him from the harm and dispel the hardship and if they're not if he has the problems it means they're not preventing him from having that hardship the cave in chicago since he has these these like axiomatic beliefs it's about the way the world works he comes to despise people and he slanders them and curses them and he hates them and he is held in contempt and detested in both worlds kamehameha like the verse says a man of crooked mind will find no good oh interesting comment here in the private chat do you think lack of it talking is what leads to racism and anti-semitism yeah of course of course it is because people caused my problems in life which people well the most identifiable people right the other whoever they are right of course anyone who has been talking how could they how could they think that anyone else any group of people undermined them or or caused them to miss out on what they're supposed to have oh now you're reminding me what i said i want to get back to but remember we're saying before whatever he's lacking he thinks it's because somebody else had it if someone else got it yeah so let me just address that for a second the person who has nobitaken or who isn't using the battalkind at present um the way they see things is that there are resources in the world and there's a finite amount of resources and that essentially we are in competition over finite resources the word for this is scarcity and the attitude that sees things this way is called scarcity mentality one who lacks be talking is plagued with a scarcity mentality so that any time he sees somebody else enjoying something he immediately feels fear that this is diminishing from the resources that are now available to him conversely one who has been talking knows that everybody gets exactly what they're supposed to get from hashem and therefore the fact that you got something doesn't take away what's meant to come to me because they're two separate issues nobody can touch the livelihood of somebody else on a deeper level kassidis explains that our parnosa comes to us because there's a spark there's anito teleki and mitsada vedas the refinement process of making the world a holy place making the physical world into a holy place which is the the essentially the process of bringing mashiach so everyone has a spark with their name on it many sparks with their name on it so you were sent to this world your holy soul was sent to this physical world to to deal with the physical world in order to refine it and you do that by earning a livelihood and buying certain things and then using those things in your service of hashem and when you use you know your food and your drink in your shelter and your clothing and your car and all those resources in your service of hashem so it elevates the sparks that are animating that thing all right and that's not random that's assigned your soul came to the world because of those because of those sparks that you need to elevate so nobody can elevate the sparks that are meant for somebody else to elevate ain't adam negebernace means that everybody is assigned a certain helicopter a certain portion of the refinement of the cosmic refinement process and nobody can take away anybody anybody else's part somebody's writing here in the chat isn't it extremely painful while someone is waiting for their yeshua though like when people are in pain as you said and they are desperate when they don't get their answer from hashem they can feel unloved by him that it is their fault or they are undeserving yeah it is extremely painful yes it is extremely painful and and i like how you write it somebody is still waiting for their yeshua that's true because their yeshua is coming there will be salvation sooner or later hopefully sooner than later but while they're still waiting for that to happen it's it's very painful and personally it causes me a lot of pain and uh yeah it causes me a lot of pain to hear people's stories about different problems they're having and yeah i don't like to hear it i really don't like to hear it it's really it i mean whatever nobody it's not like anybody's gonna well maybe they will i don't even know if i have the right to say this but it's very hard to hear okay whatever it's very i don't want to be selfish but people are going to do whatever they're going to do but there's there's a lot of pain out there it's a lot of pain out there and you know i i can't even answer all the calls i don't i don't answer all the calls and you know i don't even know what to say about i'm not going to tell people don't call me because if if calling me distracts you for 10 minutes or whatever is going on in your life then maybe i should just give you the 10 minutes of distraction but it's i don't know we need machia that's that's basically yeah yeah nobody knows why somebody waits longer than someone else only hashem knows yeah that's right and anybody who says that they do know is cruel and a liar and arrogant we see people all the time good people good people who are who are waiting a long time for their yeshua and we don't know why okay i wanna i wanna continue here i'm getting more chats but just wanna finish up um okay and the seventh difference in attitude between the one who trusts in hashem the one who does not trust in hashem one who trusts in hashem does not grieve if denied a reque a request or if deprived of something he loves and he doesn't hoard what is at hand and he doesn't worry about more than what he needs for today alibaba it doesn't even occur to him what's going to be tomorrow [Music] you know this song all right i'll play it at the end i'm not going to torture you with my singing um because he does not know when his end will come doesn't know when his end will come uh you know the old joke about the old man they asked him how old are you he says let me just put it this way i don't buy green bananas okay okay i don't buy green bananas i buy bananas for today all right um rather he trusts in hashem that he will lengthen his days and provide his livelihood and daily and he doesn't get happy about the future or aggrieved about it he's living in the present kamehameha like the verse says altis do not boast of tomorrow because you don't know what tomorrow may bring the amerbencira and sira says who's ben sira that's all other discussion we'll talk about another time maybe do not worry about tomorrow's trouble for you to not know what a day may bring suppose that tomorrow he is no more he will have worried about a world that is not his so if this is your last day don't worry about tomorrow not god forbid that this is your last day but you got to live for today aval daigo say the evely but rather what does he worry about what grieves him he by the way there are things that bother him you think he's la la la all the time no he has things that bother him what bothers him that he feels deficient in coming up with what he owes hashem that's what bothers him it doesn't bother him what he's getting from hashem he knows he's getting exactly what he needs to be getting the only thing that bothers him is am i giving to hashem what i need to be giving because that's within your free will right um and he tries his best to discharge his obligations to hashem vestiken in his outer and his inner life meaning private in public because he thinks of his own death and the approach of the day of in gathering okay he's thinking about we have a very limited time in this world we got to accomplish our task and that's it and i can't worry about what i'm getting out of life and first of all hashem's taking care of that so it's all fine but i don't have time to worry about what i'm getting i need to focus the precious amount of time i have on what i'm giving what am i doing what am i providing okay and his fear that death may suddenly overtake him intensifies his effort and zeal to prepare for his latter end he doesn't really pay attention he's indifferent to what he's preparing for this world and this is what they say the sages say do teshuva repent a day before you die who knows which day you'll die right aha right waiter try this soup okay upanishaba and it explains about that yoshivayam repent today shema yamaslamaka maybe you're going to pass away tomorrow god forbid my name is and that way his whole day his whole life every day will be spent in chuva because you got to do truva the day before you die but maybe tomorrow is the last day so today is the last day so every single day he's doing chuva sieve at all times let your garments be white garments being white means clean clean conscience because you just did chuva so he's doing trueva on a daily basis all right that's the one who has been talking what about the one who doesn't in contrast well i came the one who does not trust in hashem others he mourns exceedingly if constant tragedy strikes him the if could i avoid or if deprived of what he loves or if his wishes are denied the yazmin and he saves up great stores of material wealth as if he were secure from passing away as if his days would never end and his life would never finish stacking up on a garage full of toilet paper at the beginning of corona and all the while that he's hoarding material resources he doesn't remember his his end he doesn't think about the fact that uh you know there's an alum and he doesn't give any consideration to uh toyota and to making provisions for himself in his ultimate destination you know the story about the magid the maggot had a friend who came and visited him the mesuriche mage the magde de gaudel so he had a friend who came and visited him and he says you live so poor how could you live like this you don't have furniture you just had like a a block of wood that was the table that was the bench that was you know that was everything so he says how do you live like this where's your furniture come on a little furniture so the maggot asks his friend where's your furniture he says what even where's my friend show me your furniture he says i'm passing through this town i'm just a guest i don't bring my furniture with me my furniture's at home you want to see my furniture come with me come to my house i'll show you my furniture so the maggot says exactly come to my house i'll show you my furniture you're sitting in the margaret's house with him and where's your furniture in the market says come to my house then you'll see my furniture my house my real home is where i have my furniture his confidence that he will live a long lifetime it is the cause of his prolonged passion for the affairs of this world visible and conversely it is the cause for his slight interest in what concerns his latter end his priorities are the opposite of what they should be because he thinks he's gonna live forever yeah we're good i'm gonna keep going all right i'm gonna keep going um and if someone admonishes him a professional would manage her like a preacher or something vietnam made a or a teacher counsels him the yay marilyn tells him how long will you neglect to give thought to the provision you should make for your final journey and to the concerns of your ultimate destination if somebody will ask him that question aymar he will reply at a panasosi visipuki until i provided for my own livelihood and my needs and the needs of my family my wife and my children to the end of our days then when i have peace without worldly concerns i will be free to fulfill my obligations to the creator and will consider making provisions for the appointed day i have to take care of first things first i have to get my ducks in a row then i'll be able to worry about spiritual stuff yeah okay so just to sum it all up we just learned two more differences between the one who trusted hashem the one who doesn't reason numbers or difference number six had to do with interpersonal relationships getting along with other people not feeling threatened by them uh difference number seven had to do with uh you know their anxiety level basically the person who has been talking isn't worried about tomorrow all he worries about is the stuff that's under his control which is being as good of a servant of hashem as he can be today whereas the person who doesn't have be talking he's constantly worried about having enough of the material resources and never pays attention to taking care of the one thing he really actually has any power to take care of which is his own spiritual fitness and his own relationship with hashem okay and that concludes chapter five baruch hashem we will continue next time with chapter six let's go [Music] happy new year