Shiur at MTA | Rabbi Daniel Kalish

on my mind my father my father was went my mom went to Central wonderful two wonderful schools and my parents made a decision to they made a decision to learn Tyra and teach Tyra they made that decision and for 56 years together my parents learned Tyra and taught Tyra they were loyal and sincere to Hashem Tyra with sincerity they gave over Tyra they uplift the Y I love people that sincerely make it their mission to teach Tyra to learn Tyra to share Tyra we're an incredible people we're really good people our people is awesome I've gone around since last year Sim I never ran around so much in my life but I wanted to connect to our people and I want to say we're an awesome people and people that go around the terer belongs to the entirety of our nation and I appreciate Ron's bir a lot he's an idealistic person who runs and the goal of the is to teach to access to so I appreciate you allowing me inviting me to come and I appreciate the work you do hasem should benon with success and his Endeavors I want to say it it bothers me if people view like re reim are just dudes like you and I I had a b that we went on a walk for an hour and a half he was very cynical to AE him and teachers and I understand it call like y re I had him we spoke for an hour and a half I don't like shtick and games I don't like I like just authenticity and I had him call me Danielle for an hour and a half I did it not as a shtick I don't like it's not a good story it's not a good shtick I just wanted like shut up with anything two people two Jews let's talk we need a let's talk as two Jews and we spoke for an hour and a half Danielle and him I wanted him to call my name now usually there's a there hhag there's there's things fine there's two people I want the guys here to know that arbi is somebody who decided to teach pH like you and I decided to teach now nobody has to you could be in any vocation my older brother is much bigger than me he's a fixer man I'm not promoting being a rebi per say my brother is much bigger than me when he fixes he learns Tyra what he fixes and builds but I am promoting is learn Tyra and share Tyra and when you meet people that are dedicating their life to share T to learn and to share T that's moving so I really appreciate that you're here Hashem should reward you and give you to learn T and teach T I thank yoseph I'm close now for a few years to ysep to Joseph he's a sincere person the word sincere I'm called for what is an RA what does that stand for resent advisor that's so funny I'm always looking a name in the Yesa we have guys I can't stand when they're called dorm counselors the picture of a dorm counselor a guy the big ego trying to like boss the guys around the dorm counts all these beloved and I can never figure out a name the name dorm C and they're just big brothers Mas rean I don't know what to call them I never came my name when roner was saying R I was like what is that like I needed to know so residential advisor resident yeah yeah resident advisor advisor should we start calling Ras it's better than dorm cat but I I want I I met Joseph my I'm called a lot for a lot of we have we have 40 50 older guys that are dating and I'm always called about and my kids hear me speak a lot oh he's this he's that I'm giving information for a my son called me out he said when you hold of somebody there's a word you always use he said I could tell if you hold and you say the word sincere sincere is like a very important word by me it means somebody who's honest who's being themselves and unforced all of us not we don't have to force anything we big we're we're hiden we have we have greatness in authentic what we all have greatness and struggles every single one of us whatever our professions are we have greatness and challenges it's hard it's but it's also beautiful and we have tremendous Beauty I see in Joseph such a beautiful person really a growing person we've had amazing in an honest way in an honest way not sticky I'm not there not like a pad on the back type of thing I really am moved by him he's an honest person who fights to grow growth isn't easy for any of us it's something that's that's beautiful that's involves struggle and working and but but a really good person I'm moved by him I love this group I'm just meeting rasi and the I don't know all the G but I like this ra the group of r b that are learning and helping others to learn quing others and tremendously appreciate I really I want to thank Joseph for his friend he's a good friend I appreciate I like idealistic people and I appreciate his idealism I appreciate his honesty an honest I call sincere a good yid a very very good yid so thank you Joseph for inviting me and arranging this thank you very very [Applause] much his name his name is YF his name is YF and or Joseph either one it's the it's really the Su all of these Parish the tah were studying and and one of the things to be a a is an individual when every single person's doing something different YF sitting in MIT in a city 17 years old and an entire country is doing something different mit's m z and he stands up and he's a y it's a great story of an individual the name of our people the name of our people are called IIM we're in iy we come from a who's the first iy and our people one of our Essences were I iy is the ability to stand alone I means a everybody's on one side of the river and we could be on the other side of the river the ability to stand alone my father was in a class of 50 kids when they graduated high school how many kids learned Tyra the year high school 50 kids beautiful from kids how many kids learned after 50 after 12th grade in in those years this is the early 1960s him and another boy two guys learned terms and after the second year shanet he was the only one still learning I'm sure many of them learned their whole lives but to dedic at their lives to Tyra he was the only one two years out of high school and my mother came from a beautiful Community but to learn Tyra to go to k to teach was unheard of her own parents were like shocked by it but it's the power of being an iy of being an independent stand up for what you know is true what you know is right now we might think that today there's so many look around this room there are tons of I'm sorry fellow Waterberry Guy this is so exciting we're both from Waterberry can I send your guards to Hoodie I did I left oh yeah it's funny it's out we'll both send I'm going to see him next week I'm gonna give a hug from you hoodie loves the H my son hoodi they're very very good friends excellent fantastic zevi right Ze Gabriel I'm sorry Gabrielle the last name is fredman Gabriel Gabriel fredman Gabriel I shouldn't forget that yeah but friend of H is a friend of mine so we might think that today we don't need this power of iy y's alone in MIT and it's the power of being an iy of being trth you know something's true stick to what's true somebody may say that today you don't need to be an iy and I can't I it's the furthest thing from the truth my son was talking my Reby passed away this here as well it's been a difficult year and my son I brought my son to my rebi my re was on his death bed and I brought my son Mishi to say goodbye to my rebi and it was the last conversation that I ever had with my reie and it was me my son in person I did speak on the phone I believe it was me my son and my rebi and my we were talking about the topic of loneliness and certainly we all have friends and I look at this and we're eating CH together any honest person knows what I'm saying is true that there's a space where you lonely certainly one day you find the you get married I don't care how warm and I'm very impressed what's in this room I've met the guys you have something to go in here I'm sitting next to amazing person you have good friendship but let's not pretend people could hide there's a degree of loneliness and my son and my Rie were talking about l and it was a beautiful conversation and my re described that big people accomplishment they don't run from that space certainly friendship we all need friendship huge bond with another share with another connect with another but don't be afraid of that space inside of loneliness actually find what you believe in find what you stick to and what's True by you real real who these a friend friendly type of guy he's he's he's he's friendly I promise there's loneliness in it we're very close there's a space there's a there's a song we sing in water that I want to talk to you about says even if my parents will forsake meem takes me in who are we talking about which parent forsakes a kid I love my children I love them my my best friends who is my best friend who are we talking about even if my parents will forsake me God Will Take Me In there's some crazy parents parents don't forsake their kids so what does it mean my kids are my best friends the job of a father is to be best friends with his children that's not modern it's only as modern as the Ty this week's par says that was an he wasn't par dad the translation of a she says is a a friend and an advisor parents are best friends my kids are my best friend so what does it mean if my parents forsake me Hashem will take me in who are we talking about said what are we talking about parents are saying talking to us had amazing parents his father was yes my parents forsake me God will take me since when with parents forsake a kid there's a space that even parents can't understand and can't reach we all have a unique independent place inside of us all as warm as loving everybody dreams and please keep this dream of being a parent who's emotionally connected to your kid deeply and profoundly I promis this still a space you won't understand we all have that space and D says in that space there's a partner who's always there even in the space my parents want and care but can't reach takes me in he's alone but he he grabs on to truth and EMS and the whole country falls in love with Y all the girls of are throwing jewelry at him trying to earn his attention sure everybody's vying for his attention but he stays holy he stays stays pure and holy how can it be 17-year-old kid alone he's goodlooking he has the entire is fighting for this youngster that the girls are throwing ornaments at him trying to get his attention wherever he goes girls up running competing for him and he stays is pure untainted true sincere he's still full of he's a he's a he's one of the sh he's as holy as all the the spoke about the spoke about about that that one of the both his kids are ru's kids are not shim's kids are not that y's kids are means he was on the Madre of say that Y is on a higher M than the other he clearly was an not a Ben because only The Have and all he's on a higher M higher than his brothers and the is he's stays pure H you have to find what's true to you sincerely no pretend when you it's not about it's not about being Stark externally being the top guy it's wonderful to be the top guy in MTA amazing and we're speaking to top guys that's great that's a good thing find also what's sincere and true in here to you what's true what's what's authentic we're all human with challenges but in a sincere authentic way in your own unique way you don't have to force anything real real comfortably in a in an authentic way I came with some friends I'm friends with M I'm not trying to embarrass him for years I promise the guys do he's in college he's in Yesa I watch somebody who absorbed sincerity and is and is trying to serve Hashem sincerely that that that works everywhere it works it holds we're we're people that are an iy that have this k being a y of being an individual it's not something that's only needed for I don't care if you're surrounded by hundreds of thousands and we have a beautiful community of we have so many that's wonderful I promise this person still that's the way life works we'll all need a certain private space that we still needing us spoke about the I sing with my little the simple translation means while I exist said is that unique place that's just pure inside of me the we all have many aspects and parts in each of us is a very pure place the P that you learned about exists in all of us the and that clel celebrated that pure can of oil that was tainted by the Greeks exists in all of us said it's a little space that's just pure and want the right things sing to hasem from that space find everybody find that space in a real way with honesty with challenges with Temptations with all that we have find the real space and serve Hashem from that real space I'm saying about YF this wasn't what I planned to speak about but I'm thinking about Joseph about y tonight and the name y represents this to me represents this this y y represents the yid who finds what's true and doesn't let go with a stubborn passion and there's a lot swirling and he's in and ultimately the whole like craves you have to study these Paras it's a lecture the whole he becomes the king the M all of is like whoa who is this guy they were Amazed by him it's the of a sincere see a sincere they lose their mind they lose their mind I was driving with the with a bunch of what guys I was driving the team van back from the game and I come to ARR and Nathan and Kevin there was a year Nathan with his Sri Lankan friend Kevin Nathan asked me he said you look like a Jew how do you guess and he said that I'm Jewish too I'm hitchhiking from Manhattan to Maine you're driving up to 95 can you take me 40 miles in the team man I was driving the team man could you take me 40 miles further north the team man so I was worried he wanted to blow up the van he's saying he's a Jew I don't know who he is my own like smallness so I figured I'll do a test I had a D in marage we were making a minion I needed so I said come D with me come pray with me Nathan after prayers I'll tell you figured I'll see his resp I watched him watch us and he this is a guy who didn't know AB was I don't believe he watched us DAV he watched us DAV I saw he was like moved this guy can come in my car said sure after d me Nathan I want you B you and Kevin and we drove them 40 miles north the guys was singing and joking he said I'd never felt like a yid like this in my life when he got up he was in his 20s he wasn't he wasn't like saying things he came back to the car and he said can I tell you guys something he quieted everybody Abi's Abi Abi was there and he said what did he say to the say over what did he say to the with nothing I came with nothing and I'm leaving full I want to say so sincere people what we were joking singing be sincere guys each one of us find your own things that mean something to you it's not it's not being Stark is great but find things that mean something by you to one it might be his fill in is sit to one it's a five minute say to one it's a phone call to his grandmother on Tuesdays find sincere little things that mean something to you to one it's a guy who's like kind to other people represents he who finds something sincere and he holds on to it maybe I'll talk to the maybe not I just needed to speak about yes for a few minutes you're a sincere person I appreciate you having me can we sing together really I was schlomo was going to be here that's when I arranged and he has a business meeting tonight so he can't be here so he was going to pay play P to I'm just going to come back I'm to come no food ask me Ser I want to come back a different Wednesday night if you don't mind later in the I'm going to bring SCH M back he's going to play music to you that's you deserve it it's like a very poor Exchange instead of you get me you've been so let's arrange to get here but if we could sing sings beautifully maybe I'll share something quick after but let's sing P off the knows that my friend y told me the other it's a night told me the you guys know off theer let's sing it but let's practice it our pel off the cleer no we're good no our good find that which is good and true in us and stick to it stick to it nothing can bend nothing can change it nothing can move it let's sing it Max you know that song you know peel off the Clipper so you learn it's an easy song and see the Ben cre as a the and see one one of and see the every has a pill of [Music] the everything has a P precious so holy so [Music] [Applause] [Music] so holy so pure so precious [Music] [Applause] [Music] sh [Applause] of [Applause] of so ho so pure so [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] precious I want to we'll end with this the hours late and I want to share I will end with this tonight whatever I was going to say dropped with just tonight with just Joseph so I want to end with Y like this this ABI has heard this from me a 100 times with tonight so I want to tell the about y like this is this a hand guys yes is this a table yes is that a ceiling yes so I disagree with the guys I want you to hear this careel I don't agree this is a hand I don't agree there's a table I don't agree there's a cup I'm going to explain I don't agree there's a hint I want please if you walk it please remember this Max remember what I'm about to say Gabriel what's the difference between L Kish and every other language remember when you were young you were taught par knew every language he didn't know lash Kesh I don't believe it par knew Japanese Portuguese Spanish and he couldn't getes what does that mean I guarantee if you met par he knew fluent theit what you mean didn't know KES who fluent KES what saying it's weird like just the weirding I want you to know gab what in the world is the difference in lash and K and every other language I want you to remember this your whole life this is not a hand that's baloney we call it a hand it's not a hand we call it a hand what do I mean I want to talk to Gabrielle he's a cool guy and he's a friend of hoodies so to talk we'll call this a hand and when I say hand picture this it's not a hand it's called a hand called the hand it's a way to talk so this way it's called this is not called y it is a y if you knew what an B gim you knew theas it's a y it's not called the hand it is a y I'll give an example I'm called Dead I am an AB what do you know somebody if he's called Dad Gabrielle what only Gabrielle what do you know that a guy if he's called a dad what do you know about him what do you know about a fellow who called a dad somebody tells you I'm a dad what do you know about him different than a father po a father guys called a father what do you know about him he has kids so if a guy's called a dad you know he has kids what's a dad what is a dad he's called a dad what is he is an a what's an a an Al who became a days one who got a second it's not called an he's an he's an Al that became a it's what he is it's Essence he's an this is called the hand it is a how many knuckles in the in the hand one 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 and two in the thumb 14 what's the 14 who plays basketball here if you heard any finger what do you do you just tape it to the next and you what's the only finger that you can't do that with a different dude the thumb a thumb injury is the worst you can't tape it up he's a different kind of guy there's and a little y here he functions different this is a Yad it's not called a Yad it's a Yad it's what it is it's not called if you read The Mill in English gabri yes yes let's say you don't know English no why not cuz if you say hand then you don't know what this is you didn't say you said jish if you read it in Hebrew and you don't know what it means yes you know why cuz if you say y you said this has nothing to do whether you know what it is this is a y it's called the hand so you say y I don't care you didn't know what you said you said thises is a different language how do you say clothing what else does beged mean what's a treachery disloyal why you clothing and disloyal the same spiritual thing see hand and and don't mean anything alike CU it's not a hand so who cares it's just what it's called but if two things are called b g they're the same spiritual things cuz it is a beg it's not what it's called it's a beged but a beggan b gim's treachery so we we have to figure out why treachery and clothing are the same spiritual things disloyalty the be do a disloyal why a clothing and discl what striking Max Max B gim what hits you beg B gim without thinking if I just tell you B gim what hits you that's true the first thing that's fair the baze hits us that hits that's very true the first letter the tire is B there's a lot on it it's in a row it's in a row thank you what else it's in a row 100% what else where's the Olive you ski the olive it's missing the alive the essence it's treachery cuz it's what you're showing not who you are clothing is what you show if it was you wouldn't be called clothing it's Treach because it's this loyal to the thing itself is challenged with the greatest imaginable he runs out believe beg no clothing says why does it tell us that he ran out without clothing said the only way to pass bigness is you can't be about perception what it looks like to others believe the the is what you're showing others the only way to pass deepness is to find the Deep here it's in the AL in the essence not the believe that's what I want to say to the guys to be a y loyally serve hem there's a lot where we all have to be there's a lot of access and a lot of things you have to find in a sincere way it's not about being the external it's about internally finding it finding it truthfully sincerely authentically all my kids I just want them alone in their room I want them to be godfear when they're alone in their room I want I want it from a deep sincere authentic place nothing fake nothing what you show now nothing wrong we all nobody should feel fake I promise we all have parts we care about what people think no problem me and you all the time don't worry about that we all have that that's okay and that's not fake I asked to find believe be have a space how it looks be St that's cute be the be on the principal list that's amazing but I ask the guys today's day and age find what's deeply true inside of us find authenticity quietly privately find things in TI this mean something to me find the safer that means something to you find ideas in mean something you read up about things study find the re means something to you find an RA who means something to you find that mean something to you that's to look deeply inside believe not what it appears but fundamental deeply this is what I am this is what I believe in this is what I I swear I I know it could survive him because he has a truth that's in his kesas in his bones he got from y that which is true and authentic nothing will budge from that that's what we need to find today guys so I really it's an honor to meet all you guys we all should give us all to plug in to find the beautiful space of service of hem that means the world to us that no storm in the world will push us away from believe a godam it's not what it appears like to others it's what it's its Essence it's the thing itself all of us should find that space it's been like an absolute honor to be with you guys let's sing let's sing one more song what's let's sing one more song Abby would know but you know this you know I like it a lot I'm into this song these days you know it unless I'm thinking of the wrong one you start I'll do with you I just start i p don't [Music] remember learn this song one more time the [Applause] [Music] I [Applause] live I live la la la [Applause] thank you so much remembering somebody make I I I