Speak to the Rock: Understanding Our Generation

the yeshiva dotnet it is one of the most troubling and mysterious stories in the entire himesh and I'm referring of course to the moment in Paris hookahs when Moshe Rabbeinu was denied permission to enter into the Promised Land something he was looking forward towards for so long and with such a profound yearning and longing for more than 40 years and yet the circumstances or the sin that brought about this denial of permission to enter the land are completely ambiguous nebulous when one reads the story one is left scratching his or her head what exactly happened what went wrong let me remind you the way the terrier describes the story in Paris hookahs parrot cuff amid papyri cough or numbers chapter 20 Miriam has passed on there was no water the Jews are in the desert they've been there for 40 years this is already the final year soon in just a few months they're about to enter into the Holy Land and they come to Moshe an errand they're desperate for water why did you take us out of Egypt to die here in thirst you can't plant it's not a place of figs of grapes of pomegranates oh my pomegranates a Mayan English dice there's no water to drink if we would have only died with our brothers we wouldn't die with all of them us and our children and our animals of third with from thirst Hashem tells Moshe caucus Amata take the stick the stick and gather the entire congregation you and iron together shall gather them speak to the rack with the bottom Alice L Alania speak to the rack before their eyes but no son name of and it will produce it will give its waters speak to the rack in front of them and it the rack will give will flow with its waters vanassa may move and you will extract water from the rack and irrigate all of the people and all of their livestock Moshe takes the stick from Hashem as he commanded him and the next scene Moshe and ayran gather the people to the rack and they say Shimon are my room listen rebels I mean our sellers n9 silica maíam will we extract water from this rock Moshe then lifts his hand strikes the rock with a stick twice I ate some I am robbing an abundant of water emerges from the rock but a star a BB room and the entire congregation all of the people and all of their animals have plenty of water to drink when you read it as far as you're concerned you're like wow that's another impressive biblical biblical miracle there was no water and somehow from Iraq moisture as an emissary of the Rebbe initially Lama varsham managed to extract water it would seem like this story and it's very positively they were in panic they were in hysteria there's nothing like thirst and as Rashi says dying from thirst is vicious and painful monoliths lon so they complained they cried they panicked Hashem says take your sticks speak to the route in which it takes the stick hits the rock and the water comes out but the next scene the next verse is really we were shocked when you read it the first time or you read it with a freshness Hashem tells Moshe and ayran you didn't believe in me young boy a mountain B you didn't believe in Mila how cliche Neela ain't a been a hero to sanctify me before the eyes of the children of Israel Akane why serve us our call Hazare Laura Tasha no Santa mom you will not bring this community to the land that I have given them that I have promised them and the Taira concludes the entire story hey mom Amy Reva these were these are the waters of strife asha ravu bnei yisrael hashem during which the jews quarreled with God by a Kadesh bum and he was sanctified through them through the water and that's the end of the story the entire story occupies just a few silk'n of peyrac off thirteen verses the death of Miriam the complaining about the water the miracle with the stick and the consequences of Moshe and I are not entering into the land it is so difficult to understand what happened that all of the commentators debate us and rest from the fact that there is such a fierce debate about this it teaches you it shows you how unclear it is Rashi maintains that the problem was Moshe struck the rock instead of speaking to the rock that's what Rashi says Hashem told them speak to the rock instead he took the stick and he struck the rock that's Rash's interpretation which creates a whole new bunch of questions why did I shall tell them take the stick says Kaka so much like a setup take the stick and speak to the rock militia takes the stick and hits the rock what happened why tell him take the stick number 2 why would Martius hit the rock instead of speak to the rock what was the temptation and moisture to violate what the God told him to speak to the rock no I'm gonna hit the rock how many of us are familiar with a 8 Sahara to hit rocks speak to the rock no I want to hit the rock why should you want to hit the rock and rallies perturbing this energy tells the whole story that he couldn't find that rock he couldn't find the original they used to have an original rock known as the well of Miriam it was the rolling stone that used to follow them throughout the 40 years in the wilderness and moisture couldn't find that rock so he was speaking to the wrong rock he thought oh it's not working with speech let me try this alternative and then it happened to be that he found the right rock and he hit that rock but it wasn't working because God wants him to speak to the rocks he hit it again so it's almost like a fantastical setup and the third question is even if it was something wrong Trump said speak he hit that's why he's denied entry into the Holy Land his dream his purpose this is he where he was sent to Egypt to take the Jews out in order to bring them to this land and it took 40 years and 40 difficult years they were supposed to go and ride away but there was of course the story with the cat they go in the story of the spies and as a result of the spies they stayed there 40 years and Mercia nurtured them and protect them and led them and here already he's at the feet of the promised land and he will not enter why why because he hit Iraq and thus many of the forum disagree the Rambam for example Maimonides he has a famous little booklet known as Shmona procam the eight essays the eight chapters of the Rambam an introduction to pre-k office and the Rambam in his minor progam says that the issue was completely different shimu Nahum maryam moshe called the jews rebels in other words he was angry at them he was furious with them he called them shimon are married him listen rebels can we take water out of the rock and Rambam says that jews assumed that if moistures angry with them it must be God is angry with them and it wasn't true that there are bombs interpretation and there are bombs interpretation is completely different there are bonds fiercely rejects Rashi and rejected Iran bomb and he says the problem was that Moshe Arens said we will take out water from this rock they attributed it to them and replace if all bow and say furrier coupe says the exact opposite he says the problem was that they didn't have to run to God Moshe Arens should have known that God runs the world and of the Jewish people need water they'll be water and they could have done it on their own one of the commentators summarizes the entire debate he says pour moisture abena according to all interpretations he did once in but when you read all the more fajr him there are at least 13 sins he did so from one sin it became 13 because everybody has a different interpretation and the reason anybody has different interpretations because completely unclear what the man did so this commentator I remember once so he says pour moisture from one sin one sin turned into thirteen sins because every commentator has his own sin that he imposes upon my sharavino so much' did one thing and it turned into 13 crimes but it only underscores the point of how nebulous of how unclear this entire story is I'm mentioning a few you look in their eye and they're all different interpretation you look in this no the whole different interpretation you look at the clay ocker there's three different interpretations it's not an exaggeration to say and I really mean that it's not an exaggeration to say that if one studies all over the commentaries on himesh throughout the last few thousand years and there are many one will find more than a hundred different explanations of this story a hundred different mistakes or sins quote unquote that moisture and Aaron did and the relationship between what they did and the consequence of them not entering into the Promised Land which who's right who's correct now there are many layers as we always talk about as many layers at every interpretation but this itself only underscores as I've been saying the profound lack of clarity that the terror obviously explicitly keeps the story very brief concise mysterious and unclear as to understand what motion Aaron did I'm going to address one explanation today Bayesian I don't know if it answers all the questions but it's one of the perspectives it's based on another begins with or not yet another question and the other question is a similar story happened once 40 years earlier when the Jewish people left mitzrayim they left Egypt shortly after in parshas mashaallah they come to a place called you feed him this is an exodus 17 passions Michalis peyrac in Zion the ain my enlist I saw there was no water this happened shortly after the exodus of Egypt approximately one month after and they're traveling they come to Moshe they say we need water they tell him why did you take us out of Egypt to allow us all to die from thirst Moshe screams to Hashem and he says they're aligned he says another few minutes they're going to stone me I'm their leader they're left without water Hashem tells Moshe take a few of the elders of the Jewish people and again take your stick to stick with which you struck the river in Egypt take the stick there's going to be a sewer Iraq I will be standing there we kiss our butts or you should strike the rock and water will come out and the entire nation will drink and moisture does this before the elders of Israel and the Jewish people are irrigated their thirst is quenched men women children and Lahav until all of their animals their domesticated livestock whatever they had had many who all of course survive only through water and of course there one notices that Hashem told them the key Sabbath's or strike the rock which can only help us understand why moisture in the next story 40 years later once again strikes the rock hashem again told him in the second story take your stick as we said a Shem said carcass Amata then our Shem said speak to the rack but moisture actually takes the stick and via Casas le he strikes the rock twice and a lot of water comes out so the first time he said take the stick and strike the rock now he says take the stick and speak to the rock but moisture perhaps instinctively remembers the first story and he strikes the rock again what indeed was the difference which brings us to another question and that is if this was such a sin how did it work so effectively Moshe strikes the rock and what happens by Yeats of Miami Robin and an abundance of water comes out if this was the wrong thing if this was not what our Shem wanted if it was a violation of God's commandment and he says you didn't believe in me you didn't sanctify me how was it so successful how did he manage to get so much water out of the rock the second time when he did the wrong thing of course it's always the details that shed light on the truth the name of the rock in the first story the name of the rock and the second story varies and partials bacala the rock is called sewer and partials who cast the rock is called Sela now in English it's Iraq and Iraq or a stone and a stone but in Russian condition Hebrew whenever there are two names for something they're usually not just two identical names for the same object they represent nuanced distinctions and hence sir and cell are not really addressing the same thing there's a difference between sir and sulla in order to appreciate all of this let me focus yet on one more nuance when the rabona shall Elam tells moisture I may know take your stick speak to the rock he says Venus on mate move it will produce its waters the rock the seller by speaking to it will give forth of a nussin it will give forth maim of its waters sign of a serene if you want and you dish maim of its own waters and you will extract water and give everybody to drink when the story actually happens moisture picks up his hand strikes the rock twice and then the verse says vy8 su maíam Robin a lot of water comes out it doesn't save I ate so maim of its water comes out a lot of water comes out of the rock now you might say okay what's the difference but it's curious that our SEM doesn't say speak to the rock with no Sun I am and it will give water I will live in us and maybe will give its water when moisture strikes that where he strikes derive don't say it gave its water a lot of water came out my am rabbit there's a meddra SH the Alcott's emini on this story harshest hookahs which is also quoted by the clay ochre and the meddra SH says something else that's very curious the Madras says with the bottom Elwes Allah speak to the rack shall not Schnee a love peyrac account learn by the rock one chapter of Terah speak to the rock doesn't only mean speak to the rock it means you should learn one chapter that's what the meander says which is very strange what type of learning of the space is due by the RAC learn one chapter and then the Madras continues and says that there is a difference between the first story and the second story like the difference between a young child and a grown up child there's a time for spanking the madrasahs and there's a time for speaking and you're wondering what does it have to do with children we're talking about a rack producing water but the measure doesn't explain so I'm going to share today with you Bayes erm one perspective on this that's based on a brief commentary of the clayey car but in a much more elaborate and mystical and spiritual and psychological way in the writings of the semiotic which is the new who which constitutes the nucleus and the primary ideas I'm going to share today the way I understood it what is the difference between sir and Sela the malbim already points this out in his commentary on Hamish and he of course has a whole different interpretation of the story just as the earlier showing them are you the her NMR you then it sieve has a completely different interpretation of a different interpretation everybody goes to town with this story in their own way just to study all over them and see the diversity of perspectives is pretty astounding and powerful in Hebrew what's the difference between a sewer and sella sewer is a rack that is rocky in the exterior on the exterior and in the interior meaning the entire rock is filled with rock on the outside of course but also on the inside it's rock through and through and through sella is different sellers Iraq on the outside but it often contains moisture or even water as the malbim puts it sometimes you'll have mountains that are racking they're met them the the terrain is a rocky terrain it's a mountainous rocky terrain but it absorbed enormous amounts of water from rains that have fallen over many many years and it often contains that water on the inside and that's the difference between sewer and Sela sewer is therefore always associated with something very fierce and strong very powerful we even call hashem ain't sewer que lo que no Cana sings ain't circle okay no there's no rock in either stay call it fells and stark extremely powerful and salad we say in Davin in serious royal the guy alloy the rack of Israel the rack of the Jewish people and its Redeemer Surat Kumar but as her sister all many of the nurse lawyers say right before right before SH - er it's the rack you can hold on to it will support you because it's a powerful rack through and through it's a racket will never disappoint sell on the other hand on the inside could be soft it could be moist it can even contain literally liquid according to this one can understand very clearly why in the second story a Shem says speak to the rack when a son may move I wanted to give its water I wanted to release the water that's coming from with inside of itself it has water it's not just a new thing that's being created the ash may I had something from nothing we're getting water from Iraq never take water out of a phone out of an mp3 out of a book we taking water out of a rock no but no son may move I wanted to release its water in fact you'll see this even in Russian Kurdish and the Hebrew holy tongue every word is extremely precise you'll see it even in the word Sela and I'm bear with me the word Sela consists of three letters right sama LA mid and ayan now if every letter in the Hebrew alphabet every word in the Hebrew every letter in the Hebrew alphabet is the way you write it and there's the way you say it when I write out a summer I just write summer or if I'm using the Hebrew English alphabet I'll do an S summer but if I have to actually say sama I don't say sir I say sama and if I would write it out fully it would be three letters sama right Samak mem cuff sama this is known as the letter itself and the me Louie the filling Aleph we just make an Aleph or an a but really what I just said was I didn't say I I said I live which is three letters Aleph lammott Fay Bayes is Bayes bays you itself let's do this to the word Sela let's take each of the three letters and expand take each letter individually and see it fully so if you'll take a sama-sama column and iron so sama is spelled Samak mem cuff right let's take lammott LOM mid is spelled lama DM valid la mid iron is spelled I I in like I in the i right iron iron iron you'd langa not now let's take the middle letter of all those three so some mock Sela the what's the center the middle letter of sama men what's the middle letter of iron you'd and what's the middle letter of lammott the middle letter of lammott men what does that make up Mayan so when you have the word Sela on the outside it's Iraq but on the inside both physically and linguistically it's really full of water that's the idea of the seller so the seller on the outside it means Iraq it doesn't mean water my aim is water sellers not water sellers Iraq Iraq you can't drink from but that's only on the outside but if you could excavate it so to speak if you could penetrate it oh so linguistically meaning if you're gonna get to the pyramid to the core to the Tydeus to the inner vein exhale it to the inside of cellar what are you going to find you're going to find a different word man you'd meant because the Hebrew language is not just a language that was created for utilitarian purposes in other words most the function of languages usually to allow us to communicate with each other animals have their own language birds have their own language you could listen to it that dawn break every morning they have long and intense and elaborate conversations and humans have their languages for which we created languages each nation according to its according to its each nation creates its own language and vocabulary but lush and Kurdish is not only a language for practical purposes so we should be able to communicate Welsh and Kurdish oh so is considered the language with which the universe was created meaning every name of something captures its physical and spiritual properties so the word Sela is not surprising that inside you have maíam because that actually tells you what type of cellar what type of rock we're talking about it's hard terrain it's rocky terrain on the outside and soft water like or liquid on the inside which sir it's a completely different nature so is the rock on the outside on the inside which is why in the first story Hashem says take your stick Vicky sebat sewer the atsumi Meno Mayan water will come out it doesn't say when no some aim of that sort will produce its water so I'm going to produce its water water will come out by you striking the rock I will make sure that water comes out by the cell aha the vocabulary changed when no Sun may move its water is going to come out the water that's contained in the sella by you speaking to it another differences by this rocky said the first time he said hit it the atsume men oh my and water will leave it water will come out by the sellers I speak to that with no Sun it will give its water not water will come out it will give its water their word no Sun instead of the Yasu so there's two differences and yet when moisture strikes the rock the language goes back to the language of the serve I hate zooming Meno maíam and water came out of it it's almost a replay of the first of the first story now what was the distinction between sewer and cell Oh what the what do these two things represent we have a physical distinction but let's now go from the physical to the metaphysical to the spiritual of the emotional of the psychological because every story in himesh operates on many different levels and they mirror each other they reflect each other when the Jewish people needed water 40 years ago they were in a very different place than when they needed water today first of all there was a new generation the generation that pleaded for water 40 years ago the adults of that generation meaning whoever was above 20 at that time at this point has passed on during the 40 years they have passed on who was around was around children who were born during the 40 years so they may have now been 39 years old 38 years old 35 years old but they were young or not even born when they left Egypt or they were babies at the time or they were teenagers at the time were young adults but they were still not running the show they were not the parents and the leaders of the people they were very young either they were born and they weren't born of course you had also all of the women because they never passed on in the desert the decree for the generation to pass on in the desert was only on the men not on the women so when they came in tear to stroke all the women who left Egypt unless those who died from natural causes entered into the Land of Israel which is the origin of the of crisis there was a tremendous disproportionate situation going on in the middle you like my theory not such a bad theory huh that's true that's why that's why do you want me to take a break now you want to discuss this for a few minutes the generation that left Egypt were slaves they were beaten they underwent savage suffering they were tortured on a daily basis with the whips of the Egyptian taskmasters commanders and troops who beat them this was on a physical level on an emotional level of course their rights were taken from them they were slaves on the most gruesome and barbaric level their children was snatched from them and killed drown Pyrrha had this in mind huh Vern is Scott Malloy 10 year but this was the first strategic plan of genocide against the country he first tried with the with Shiphrah and puah not to allow the boys even to come into the world but to kill them right during birth that didn't work and he devised other plans but he really wanted to completely shrink the nation and ultimately allow it to perish in a strategic way the last era in Egypt was a glorious one the slaves saw how the greatest empire of the time was brought to its knees and Peres himself is begging motion Aaron Kumu Sumatera me leave leave my nation out of his fear and shred after the ten plagues particularly the tenth plague Marcus papyrus but everybody can understand it drama and the pain and the anguish that these people lived with for a very long time they have been in Egypt for 210 years not for five years now much of the time they weren't slaves there first era in Egypt was a very prosperous era their brother yo son Yosef or brother Yosef was the prime minister of the land and he fed them and he nurtured them but as time went on the noose around their neck tightened and during the last 86 years 86 pays off they experienced from the birth of Miriam who was named Miriam because one of the reasons it comes from the word Maher bitter the last eighty six years Miriam was six years older than Moshe Moshe was 80 when they left Egypt Miriam was thus 86 when they left he left Egypt she was quite an elderly matriarch at a time Miriam was named this because the last eighty-six years were years of slave labor and a complete deprivation of dignity and of human rights so even when they left Egypt this was not an easy transformation I don't have to describe to the crowd sitting here what were the emotional effects of the generation that went through Stalin and went through Hitler you maximum even if only a few months as the survivors of Hungary or a few years as the survivors of other regions of Eastern Europe Russia Poland Galicia and other countries in Eastern Europe its transformative person's life has completely changed so the Jewish people were this people they were transported from the abyss to the heavens it's hard for us to understand what happened that within seven weeks they suddenly can experience God like no other generation experienced it but that wasn't simple because it wasn't gradual they weren't in recovery for 25 years it was a snap with the finger which is why they kept on saying let's go back because you could take Egypt you can take the Jew out of Egypt you can't always take Gullah or Egypt out of the Jew I can schlep you out of a place and bring you to a new place but does that place not accompany you and we see it constantly in all aspects of life a person could be taken from one place and put into a new place but they carry the memories and therefore the experience and therefore even if geographically they have left emotionally we often have a very hard time leaving the past and in that state when there's no water Moishe says in a few minutes they're going to stone me he won't say this 40 years later oh he's my after-school Unni Moisture wasn't trying to be dramatic with God to get God a hey I'm gonna be stoned moisture was describing a genuine emotion he was having I admire to school Unni in another few minutes they're going to stone me and he screams ma esta la maza what do you want me to do with this people you took us into the desert left a Tokarev I'm in but there's no water and it's hard for us I mean thank God it's hard for most of us to understand what does it mean to live for days without water and not only for yourself yourself children babies what does it look like a person can understand a little bit at least imagine what type of a stereotype of panic for mothers for fathers for themselves and more importantly for their loved ones and watching that state is extremely difficult they lose it and you're dealing not with ten people you're dealing with two three four million people that's a lot of people to give a wolf to find water merchants says they're going to stone me Hashem says take the stick go to the survey he keeps a but sir I want you to strike the rock and what's going to happen we got so momentum I and water will come out forty years later you're dealing with a completely different situation what is the difference between the first the people in the first story the people in the second story when they come out of Egypt their newly released slaves what does a slave live by how do you discipline a slave how do you get a slave to do things those who are familiar with the sad era of slavery in the United States of America was locked there it was a sad era of slavery in the United States of America know how slaves were treated brutally nevermind slaves in Egypt in the ancient world but even in the modern world the slave is the person who's doesn't who the master doesn't recognize as an independent human being the slave is subjected to my control to my authority to my Dominion and if he doesn't listen the whip comes out even when the whip doesn't come out the relationship is a whip like relationship it's not about what you like what you don't like what you think what you don't think a slave tells the master I have a different opinion as they would saying either sveta digger fracked who asked you since when do you have opinions and even if you do have opinions those opinions you keep to yourself because the master completely has no place for them the mo the modus operandi of the relation between the master and slave is one by definition of force of coercion the Gemara has a famous expression and get in page 10 of their birth Gary Nikola the slave on its own would like to live a frivolous life slave is not given the dignity of deciding where he should go where she should go the slave is the person on their own they become very frivolous because all of their discipline is simply a matter of coercion of force so how do you discipline a slave you discipline a slave by whipping the slave by striking the slave striking physically or even striking verbally there's two types of striking they're striking with a whip with a belt with a stick which was often done some of you experienced that too some of us experienced that too and they're striking with words but also striking and I scream at somebody I terrorized them verbally I may have not used a physical belt but I used a verbal belt and I don't have to explain anybody sitting in this audience that a verbal whip is sometimes as powerful as a physical whip what was that song the sticks and yes and yudish there's an expression a patch for gate when our vault by state a smack passes not always but at least some parts of it a word you tell somebody sometimes sits in them for the rest of their life a patch for gate a very posh state so when we talk about striking the slave yes there's the physical component but the physical one just an expression of a certain attitude there's no room for your identity you are my slave you are under my dominion my authority and when somebody is living in that world when somebody is living in the world of slavery that's the way you discipline them that's the way you run the show whenever there is a very very tight situation of authority that can't be always room for his or her individual expression that's the definition of a slave on his own he's gonna run away doesn't even want to be here the slave didn't choose to be here the trave was forced he was sold into slavery or in the case of Egypt they were thrown into slavery they didn't choose it they didn't ask for it they were deceived how earnest hackable a partner was very wise demanders describes how he did it so the whole nature of the relationship is coercion the relationship was created through coercion and hence it's sustained through course if it wouldn't be sustained through coercion it would completely crumble because the first moment you allow me to leave I leave after birthday initially I run I want to run an interesting interpretation I think it's of they have an acid and pouches mesh bottom there's a mitzvah Tyrus says that if somebody knocks out the tooth of their slave he goes free and one of the reasons that's given is that in the ancient days masters used to knock out a tooth or a flicked another wound that cannot be fixed it's not it's not fixable it remains why because slaves often ran away so they made this type of sign on their body that wherever they run you could run but not high and people will see that they're slaves so what does the TARDIS say that Terry says if you do this to your slave they actually go free you lose them because this was a type of humiliation that don't think you'll ever run away because wherever you are in the world they'll see you're missing the tooth so the tighter says if you treat your slave this way actually he or she will never be a slave again he will go out it's no note super Shane Vareen he goes out as a result of the of the missing missing tooth or eye any type of physical wound he will go free for good that's the constant ones but the very fact it is such a mitzvah demonstrates to you the mindset and the privileges quote-unquote that slaves had so it's a psychological situation when the Jewish people came out of Egypt even though they were free and the point of the Jewish life was for them to be free but internally there was the attitude of slavery and internally when there's this attitude of slavery the language that the slave understands is the language of coercion because the internal language he never managed to cultivate he never learnt the language of freedom freedom is a language freedom is a vocabulary freedom has its own alphabet freedom has its own mindset happiness has its own mindset emancipation has its own mindset independence as its own mindset you have to learn it you have to cultivate it when Israel brought the Jews of Ethiopia to the Holy Land in 1991 mr. it's called an incredible feat thousands and thousands of Ethiopian Druze were saved and brought to the Holy Land so they were given toothbrushes on the airplane so what they do they cleaned off their shoes with the toothbrushes you have to know Lord you have to learn about these things physically and also emotionally sometimes he simply doesn't understand another language you decide tomorrow that you're going to communicate you're going to communicate with your horse by giving him a shear you going to communicate with your cat or your dog by allowing him to watch a video of me talking I'm very flattered but I'm not sure he's going to understand it you have to communicate with an animal the way an animal can appreciate the message and sometimes that means knowing what will influence the animal the same is true the animal in a person there's an animal in me to each ever nefesh of ours we each have an animal so how do you communicate with the animal somebody wants in Schuler was accosted by a shaman ooh he's doing it very hard he M Kippur I'll think he was like really pounding his chest so somebody said verse as I Stark he says but my nefesh a Bahamas Evatt macmaine and I saw a glint I have a type of animal that I don't do it very hard he thinks I'm caressing him I'm trying to hug him and embrace it you got to know your animal if somebody has an animal that is ferocious undomesticated a real addict a monster you're gonna start making as earlier shaman over gun Jesus thank you for the compliment you got to beat him into shape beating him in the shape is not because you're cruel it's because there's no other language that he can understands he's not interested in this whole thing he doesn't even know what you're talking about he was never cultivated he never grew up in the early stages of Jewish history when they just came out of a vicious slavery the mentality of the Jewish people was one of slaves water is physical water and water is also spiritual water the Gemara says imbibe Akama ain't my amela Tyrel water represents wisdom enlightenment inspiration just as water fresh water quenches our thirst and gives us life and most of our body is made up of water and when a fetus develops in the mother's womb and the amniotic sac it grows in a mikveh water water always represents the staple of life physically but also spiritually in the famous metaphor verb' Akiva about tyre and the Jewish people like a fish in water and when the fish is taken out of water it can't survive in the physical metaphor and hence when the Jewish people are thirsty for water dear boy - a loyal I'm gone tell moisture visa but sir when you're dealing with a rock that is all rocky how you gonna get water how you gonna get water you have to strike the rock which represents coercion of the rock you force dirac and water will come out by hook or by crook water will come out now of course in that case it was a miracle because it was Iraq but what it represents on the spiritual level is that there is the language that the animal understands and the language that the animal understands is a flask a patch people often ask is it right to strut to slap children to smack children it used to be no one asked this question I know of I don't know I don't think a few decades ago mother's or Father's Saturday Shir and said are you allowed to hit your child they were hit and they hit their children I'm not a very old man but when I was in school almost every teacher slapped slap the children and some of them did it with a special special hitter mitzvah and this was natural and most of the kids were afraid to tell their parents cuz he would tell your father you got slapped he slapped you so did it didn't even pay to talk about it but this didn't come from monsters from bad people it was like this for generations what was the mindset the mindset is he's a little ratty bratty he's a little rowdy a bratty kid there's only one language you're gonna start saying please sit down please go to sleep please don't make a mess please don't throw the cheesecake on your sister's face please don't put the ice cream on the couch please please please please and nothing will happen three o'clock in the morning your house will still be a jungle and the school will be a triangle so the thinking went the child needs to hear the language that he or she could understand and that was often called a frats again whether it's physical or verbal but it's the same concept you scream you force this is the way it is you like it not if not I take you and I do it now I'm not now discussing the question is this room today for a smack or not that's not the discussion I want to say but everybody understands whatever your view is and your thing everybody understands then if it's done from impulsive anger it's always always wrong because it's not you know it's about an outlet for your lack of feeling control in your life and your child should not be the victim of your lack of control you know that even those who agree that there is room once in a while for a flask for a patch or a spanking only if it's done with deliberation reflection and a feeling of love that this is the best thing for this child to become the person he or she is capable of becoming which means before you smack sit down meditate go on a hike three four hours on bare mountains reflect on the situation and then come home once told her mother she was very into smacking I said make a list when you relaxed what sins your child has to do to deserve a snack but this list has to be done at night when all the kids are sleeping and you're rested make a list if they pour the orange juice on the floor what's the sin that your child needs to do in order to give a snack she couldn't come up with one thing on the list but let's say you'll come up with a few things on the list those I know sorry but it has to come from a place of sensitivity empathy understanding appreciation I'm doing this for the what I really believe is the benefit of the child if I'm just angry and I'm frustrated and I don't know how to handle it and therefore I just smack you up without discrimination without understanding what the child is going through I think everybody understands that could be extremely destructive and it's an error but whether the decision is this way or this way still your two-year-old will not always be persuaded by a beautiful lecture I know some mothers try to do that they come home from a six-week workshop on parenting that you paid $900 for you sat in the front row right you took notes you went over to the speaker afterwards for an hour and made sure to clarify everything you come home with nine note books right and then you try to put it into action good luck and you some looks at you and says it's not my problem that you went for a course you know I have to enjoy life I'm not part of your you know I'm not one of your cronies so you try to put it into action and you start giving eloquent and beautiful empowering lectures to your four-year-old about the beauty of getting enough sleep because the brain needs oxygen and how all aggression needs healthy and productive outlets but you know what even adults don't listen to lectures present company excluded five-year-old sometimes listen more than adult to lectures but sometimes I have to pick up my boy and say my dear Malakal will go into bed no we're not going to bed yes we're going to bed so will somebody say how could you be such a cruel father and coerce him when he's crying and any healthy person will say that's not cruelty because if this child doesn't get sleep they will not be able to function that day so when we talk about a whip I don't necessarily mean the belt the width the ancient whip even though that was the every classroom they the Milan them used to hang up a contract a whip on the wall I once heard from the lubavitcher rebbe he said he was born in the Ukraine and the traditional Heder system 1902 he was born then there was no no serum about not heating hitting your children so he said when he was in Heder the malama the teacher had a contra cata had a whip on the wall and then he said in Yiddish either given a colicare but there is good notes or nine ish does his good leg been hanging and he said collar carrier if he was inept if he was inept as a teacher he used it and if he was apt it stayed on the wall so when the person doesn't understand the language of who you're talking to you're not gonna be able to have influence so at this stage of Jewish history says the he's about sewer you're dealing with Iraq and Iraq feels no pain or at least I should change it here because this rock does feel pain but the rock is not sensitive to enlightenment because it's a rock you have to take the rock and tell the rap time to give water this is what happens in the beginning what happens forty years later people are still thirsting for water that's what people do we thirst for water Sam tells moisture nabe no take a stick but don't use it with the bottom Alice Ella now you have to speak to the rock then a Sun may move because it has to give its own water you're dealing with a whole new generation of Druze inside there's water when there's water inside the worst thing you can do is strike the rock the worst thing you can do is force the RAC to give water because then the rock will not be giving its own water at best the rock will either shut down or give other water your challenge now is the bottom Ellis L persuade Iraq teach the rock communicate to the rock it's not only a question physically hitting or speaking as I said before there could be a verbal whip as well it's a whole different mo this slave who's not interested in being here the baby who you can't persuade with words he's if she is not an adult I sometimes have to force you to do it not because I'm cruel for your benefit a home that doesn't believe in any guru in any discipline is not a healthy home you can't have a home without a measure of discipline of rules of boundaries it's not safe for children children who grew up grow up in a home or a school where there's no boundaries where they could never do anything wrong our children who grow up in an environment that's not safe because they don't know what's right what's wrong what's dangerous what's not dangerous sometimes people think that when you give children uninhibited freedom to decide their own life you're doing them a favor you're not doing them a favor you're doing them an injustice in fact there's research and earrings.i car that psychologists have done therapists have done that I've proven that similar to the trauma of children who grow up in homes that are oppressive where they don't have any freedom there's another type of trauma of children who grow up in homes where everything is free the meaning nobody tells them anything there's no expectations there's no communication this is right this is wrong this you could do this you could not do this is eating time this is bedtime this is right behavior this is wrong behavior the parents are sometimes out for lunch and the name of love and affection they allow children to grow up in a world where they literally don't know what is right what is left where I'm going where I'm not going there's no solid foundation because there's no safety so just like a love without our home without Cassatt or home without love and affection and fun and excitement and joy is a very very difficult home to grow up in in fact probably 75% of communication between parents and children should be positive empowering and loving communication but 25% of communication needs to be communication of discipline of boundaries Kassadin who're together are two sacred emotions not when the ger is coming from anger and impulsiveness and impetuous frustration but when it's coming from a place of caring and attachment and wisdom and perspective not feeding my own insecurities of frustration that's what whipping is about that's what striking the rack is about in order that the child should have water you want him or her not the cosmic solemn die from thirst physically or emotionally not getting the flowing water that they need in order to live as people in my MLF tire forty years later imagine you're speaking to the your through to your old son right you're speaking to your thirty year old son or your thirty year old daughter right and mommy always has an opinion is that true orphan no sometimes you say it sometimes you don't say it but most mommy's and Bobby's always have opinions certainly if it's your son-in-law or daughter-in-law who's making the decision so you look at your 30 year old Sonny you say listen if you're coming for Shabbos good and if not if not I'm gonna pick you up and I'm gonna bring you to my house everybody knows it's funny right it's not gonna work not only it's not gonna work because he's probably bigger than you that's a technical problem but even if we can get over that it's completely not understanding the nature of the relationship the nature of the relationship is one where you're not two years old for good or for bad I wish he was two years old and I could just tell him what to do but at this point I must work with the individuality of the person I could still influence people deeply parents can always influence their children even when there's 60 year olds our babies they always remain your babies but the influences of a completely different type I speak to you I don't hit you I don't mean hit you physically even the whip got to go out you're not going to influence your children by making them feel guilty which is a very famous method of parents influencing children okay let me slave away for you and be your martyr by good shabbos and you hope that your daughter now lives with guilt for the next week and when she can't ask her out then calls you back and it okay okay okay okay okay that's just a whip we're using a whip and there comes a point in life where I have to be able to respect the fact that you are not me and you're not in that age where I'm responsible for your bedtime or what you're eating or what you're not eating maybe with your husband maybe be still a baby it can work I have to respect your other Ness and speak to you speak to you means I respect your individuality I respect your judgment and idea for have a conversation with you do we ever grow up parts of us grow up parts of us don't grow up the parts of us that don't grow up we have to whip if there's a part of me that sometimes wants to eat something I can't give myself lectures I can't tell myself go listen to Rabbi wise lecture about your voids and dealing with them the cake is more powerful than all the voice sometimes you need a whip with yourself again you have to know your animal you have to know what your animal looks like take your horse to a symphony in order to inspire it a middle of the symphony the horse is gonna give a grunt this is not the language that speaks to it a horse needs a different language on the other hand when you know the language of the horse you can achieve tremendous great things with the wars but one of them is not sitting with them in a symphony unless you're the mashugana Caligula who appointed a horse to be on this Senate of Rome but that was Caligula oxidated nutjob you have Caligula us you're familiar with Roman history a little bit 40 years later the Jewish people were completely in a different place Hashem was telling Moshe with Oberti malice Ella you're dealing with a cell or not with a sewer there's a lot of water inside you can't force the seller to give water because you needed to give its water you need it to come from within how can I force you and get something from inside of you the only way I can get something from inside of you is if you share it by definition that which is forced never is internal if I force you to do something it didn't come from you it came from me from my power if there's a sewer I have no choice because through striking I ultimately want to educate the person and discipline becomes a means for education but discipline is never an end in and of itself people who think that they know equals discipline don't understand what clinicas discipline is always a mean for an end unimportant means but a means not an end you know is not I managed to force my kids for 20 years to go to shul every Shabbos and be good Jews you never educated them and we're you going to see it the moment they're independent they'll often remove the shackles and never look back again because if my entire method of persuasion was not persuasion but coercion I never managed to let you listen to your own waters to let you know your own water you don't even know your energy you don't even know who you are I never recognized you I was just more powerful and I forced you and I turn discipline into an end into the goal into the objective then I lose touch because when the person really becomes independent they often completely abandon it they leave Gover they don't even want to touch it because all it brings up for them is a negation of self we are real discipline is a means to help the person ultimately cultivate their own waters cultivate their own inspiration find out who they are discover their own soul discover their own values discover what means much what means a lot to them discover their true god-given potentials discover what is there in dispensed as indispensable contribution to the universe discover their infinite value in God's world as God's ambassadors yes I can't always lecture to a three and four years old about his or her indispensable value in the cosmic symphony which requires a brain to grow through eleven hours of sleep I have to take you and put you to bed I'll read you a story but then leave the room but the goal is not to always slept UN put you in bed pull you by your ear and always ask you did you follow my commands and the only reason you'll say yes is out of fear of the alternative because then I have lost a person so the journey of the Jewish people through the desert is the journey of every person it's the journey of every child it's the journey from a place of sewer to a place of Sela which is why you will see that throughout the whole Tana sewer is associated with the name of la Kim and seller always with the name of Utica vodka sewer love Aviva hell key la Kim la eylem ain't sir Kay like a no allocates array no Hashem Sally omits odyssey wherever cellars in the Tanakh it's with youth cave of K sewers with Allah Kim there's not a coincidence some arsenic says the difference of la Kim and you'd cave of KS la Kim is me that's Hadean is the attribute of strictness of sternness of judgment it's awesome in this hot simpson la Kim is 86 to 86 years that the Jewish people were enslaved in Egypt pave of a la flama hey yud members 86 you with me I love lawmen hey yud men you'll make the calculations you could trust me is 86 the same numerology as the word hot ever hate s-phase ayan is in the nature the nature eclipses nature is a sewer it's Iraq it eclipses water you look at nature you don't see the divine flow of inspiration I have to strike that sore because I'm subjected to the concealment so that Simpson to the cover-up of nature which is the cover-up created by God's concealment no in a symptom which is what shame le Kim is Selma's associated with youth cave of K how your ivory a was he is and will be which transcends time and space in other words there is revelation there of the divine infinite presence in every reality so there's no concealment is much less concealment one of the ways how Hebrew words work numerology works us is let's say youth cave off-key CF ten and five and six and five but there's also you multiply each letter together with the next letter so for example you'd cave okay you'll do you'd times hey ten times five which is going to be fifty then you come to the second letter hey and you go the other way so you laugh again hey times you'd which will be another fifty which will be a hundred and then you'll have hey times love which is going to be thirty and then you'll have again you have you then have of then you'll have volve a right so you'll have again both times hey thirty and I just made up which word Sela Sela you see right Sela Sela 60 30 and 70 because Sela is always associated with UK vodka in fact the Campbell is do the same thing with sir and Alec him known as Alec him in Ha haein with the haze which is a whole cabbalistic way of numerology a little bit complex but on every level surah is associated with Allah Kim and sellers associated with your cave of K and as a result of that when the person is in a state of Ellie Kim V Kisa butts or strike the rock when the person is in a state of Sela you can't strike it there's still a stick but you have to speak to the rock I always have to be able to be safe and know that discipline sometimes means I have to tell myself this is the right thing to do whether you feel it or you don't feel it whether you understand it you don't understand that if not you will never grow if you're only limited by persuasion you become a slave in a different way sometimes you have to be free to tell yourself forcing myself is not the end of the world that's fine this is a real value and right now I am a horse at a symphony I can't hear the music you know what I need I need a whip hopefully I have that whip within my brain to be able to wit myself but there's nothing you could sustain in life if once in a while you don't have a stick because there's no mood that is always going to be sustainable everyone every person I know goes on a diet the difference is some of us go on it once a week because we broke it in between and some of us present company excluded us told my myself and some of us only do it once why the posix says me Allah Bihar Assam Omaha kumbum concoction who will ascend the mountain of a Shem and who will stand in his holy place everybody climbs mountains but once you get to the top of it maintenance maintenance you can get married but maintenance you can buy a beautiful home and renovated but maintenance do I have to tell Bella Buster's maintenance doesn't seem so complicated but it's always the hardest thing cuz there's no adrenaline flow from the excitement going on a diet is great but maintenance although a burst I was sittin through Bar Mitzvah sand fasteners Sheva brachot sin and Brisson padena been and Shabbos tables kaduche him and all of the other healthy outlets of ultra-orthodox Jews which God has given them in abundance maintenance is very difficult so God says take the stick but the memo is not the stick with the bottom lsle you gotta believe in the water inside of these people and then speak to their water don't force them Moshe in many ways was the greatest leader of the Jewish people who ever lived not only in many ways in all ways and the feel of Geshem in the pray is for rain on when do we pray for rain we pray for rain on human yet saris we speak about the great virtues of our patriarchs in association with water and we mentioned one more thing when your nation was thirsty for water al ha sella by 8 Somalian Mauritius struck the rock and water came out and I asked you look at the next words but Citgo in his righteousness Corinne Cassius Mayan grace us with water really you just told him he's not going into the Holy Land so many people say talking about the first story not the second story they're wrong how do I know it says allah salla walk by 8 Somali I'm not all that sure rock by 8 Somalia he struck the seller not only that is a very famous Hasidic melody on those words it's one of the liveliest melodies which was really a tragedy you know the song Allah Allah Allah haha I ate so my mind is very lab Radhika Tsonga to some castillo de casa what's the what are you thinking I was seller hawk my ate Somalian the truth is now we can understand that this demonstrated something very powerful and special about my sharavino he was not ready at this point to be legitimize the people that he shepherded for 40 years the metrascan Houma says on this verse that God told mashallah be no I'll tell you a story there was a shepherd who was sent to the fields with six hundred thousand flock and he came back to the palace and there was not one sheep left and they asked a shepherd we are all your sheep and he says oh they all died and God says to moistur what do you think about such a shepherd he says sawfish component it's it's inappropriate so I Shem says so how much component it's a passage doesn't make sense that your people remain in the desert and the Shepherd alone walks into the Promised Land you stay with your flock and one day you'll all come back together how does the Manish make up this invent the story the Homer says it's a different story he struck the rock what does the meander say no a shepherd with the demanders get this from the Madras is always reading into the to the nuances to the subtle subplots of every story why didn't my sis write the rock because he is the one who led these people from Egypt into freedom he is the one who took them from slavery into Redemption this was the communication level that he communicated with them in order so they should be able to have children and create a new generation with whom you can speak to and Marie she remained eternally connected to his people to the people he led for 40 years where the mo was a very different mo because they came fresh from Egypt and he wouldn't let go of that including but not only not to delegitimize the value of the spiritual Heights that the first generations have reached through the metaphysical whip through similar Kim Marsha spoke to the rock in many ways this wasn't a punishment as much as it was a consequence God told Maya you belong to your people you don't belong to this generation that generation belong to you you belong to them moisture described and parshas velocity said am i their mother that you tell me carry them like a mother carries an infant in other words that was this understanding of Jewish leadership you are their mother you belong to that generation that generation belongs to you a new generation has a different language and that different language must be communicated through different people it has advantages and it has disadvantages allah salla hak vy8 somalia min many ways brings out the infinite love and dedication that moisture had to generation to the point that at the end of 40 years he would not exchange that because this was the language that he spoke to his generation not to demonstrate a prove that this was an inferior language and now we're reaching a superior language what does this mean when we translate this into our own journey of history there was a big debate that is going on as I speak I don't mean only this Tuesday morning I mean over recent years especially recent months what's the future of Jewish education what's what should be the hash kapha that pervades Jewish homes Jewish schools high schools elementary schools commentators hedorium base yeah curves girls schools boys schools for younger for older what's the what are the key features that are going to allow parents and teachers rabi's and moroz mechanism and mechanic eyes or sashimi so much get him to communicate life values Yiddish guide to a new generation nobody in their same mind believes that education could come without discipline as I explained before at length but the question is what is its ultimate goal and I would say today I see that there are two views maybe I should not call them two views because maybe people just develop views based on the tools that they have they're not so much views as much as they are surviving tools but one always talks about to be peace about sewer we have a bunch of rocks strike them strike them and strike them hard this is the Yiddish kite that sees coercion fear dread as the ultimate power of influence there was a graduation two days ago of a Jewish school a kindergarten and a mother came to the graduation she didn't know that you now let o have a certain color shoes she came with a certain color shoes she the mother and at the end of the graduation the principal came over to her so the mother's thought the principal is coming over to say Mazel Tov her girl graduates an exceptional girl really wonderful girl and the girl did amazingly well there and she was certain that the principal is coming over to give her Mazel Tov what happened was the principal came over and started to holler at this woman in front of her daughter in front of all the girls in front of all the mothers who came for the graduation in public humiliating her how how she is destroying you disguise and right then she expelled this girl from the school she could never come back to the school again screaming in public so I asked a question I said an interesting thing I know that the Gemara says in baba metzia that Tamar was ready to go be burnt alive not to embarrass you who the in public eye she would be burnt alive with twins inside her womb Nayak loyally other see a polite smile attention age value album connect available Robin better to throw yourself into a blazing flame than to embarrass somebody but and who are you embarrassing you're embarrassing somebody who sentenced you to death and you're embarrassing somebody who you know what he did three months ago she didn't she let him say the truth and he did byaku Yehuda very much sup coming man I learned so tomorrow I learned a little Gomorrah I learned a little harsh kava no way does it say in all of Judaism that this collar shoe is forbidden but let's say it's a tradition it's a custom humiliating somebody in public that's completely fine God is happy with that but the shoe God despises so somebody else called me who was who knew the story and said how do you explain this can you justify this principle I said I'm not here to justify any but I will explain to you a little bit the psychology how do I know because I often hear it from such people when I asked them psychology is how you're going to influence a woman or a girl not to dress in a way that your tradition doesn't allow out you can explain it to her first of all you're not sure she's gonna be convinced second of all you don't have what to explain cuz you yourself don't know why so what's the only thing you can do is a whip if you don't do this slalom you'll get embarrassed in public you'll be throwing out forever so we keep everybody in shape and that becomes the mo of you disguise that's the way how you keep a system going it's called fear terror and dread and there's a model for that it's called this is my grade limits couse when you come out of Egypt it's called the Kisa but swords a model of it but anybody who understands anything about today's generation before right before mushiya comes and we're about to go back there it's just raw at the end of a long godless in a long mid bore that lasted not for years but close to 2,000 years understands discipline is an essential component of yiddish right it's an essential component of a healthy home and a healthy school people need discipline children and adults and even all of us sitting in this room need discipline why because we have animals inside of us that's the fact again I'm not talking about you I'm talking about those of us sitting here or have little or big animals inside then if you have a bigger animal again you're a shaman you can be interpreted as a caress sometimes you need a bat but what is the mo of you disguise what's the goal what's the objective so our Sam tells most of Edom bharatam alas Ella you're not gonna be able to take them into air to stroll into a land flowing with milk and honey into an error of freedom if all you have to sell is coercion fear and force and the moment your whip is not effective anymore you will lose an enormous amount of people who have their own water to be sure there are people for whom it works why the less water you have inside the more you like to get Commandments from other people but those who are deeper people in other words they have a lot of water they're looking to find their own water and if you can't teach them how to find their own divine water by communicating to the rock by understanding that even if it's rocky outside inside it's full of mine it's full of life and vibrancy and inspiration I'll copy that my radio as a gentle small don't look at the outer terrain Alta stock he'll become Canelo by message boy even when it's rocky outside you have to be able to penetrate to excavate venosum a mall then you could take a generation entire to stroll again this does not mean what people like to interpret when they hear this message oh there's no discipline no guru everything is permissible there's no god there's no your shamaya exact the opposite the exact opposite discipline is a mean to help every person find their water find their love find their inspiration you must know a language of a generation when a leader when a teacher when a parent does not have their finger on the pulse of a generation they're incapable of leading them they're incapable of guiding them they're incapable of inspiring them they may have extraordinary intentions but they're treating the person as a rock inside and outside and they're never allowing them to find their own water which will frustrate them on end and make them feel completely alienated there's nothing here from my soul there's no music here there's no depth there's no meaning there's no love there's no truth there's no integrity there's no logic all there is is making sure that the status quo was maintained so that people can feel secure in their positions and look in the mirror and say we're good we're doing God's work this is not an insult kalila for all generations past and how they operate it just like this story is not an insult well half deal I don't know if I should say Laharl against moisture Ave no but it's always on appreciation and a sensitivity of who you are and who you're speaking to so now we come full circle moistures generation was familiar with the language of force of harshness for them when moisture hits the rock using force to extract the water he was speaking the language that was understood by his generation it resonated with them slaves understand that a stick is used for striking in fact that's how slave masters compel obedience and submission remember the scene of my should never in his life it goes back all the way to the beginning moisture grows up in the beginning of parish mice he grows up in the palace of Egypt he comes out to his brothers and what does he see he sees an Egyptian striking beating a Jew what does much to do by yeah this Hamid sorry vitamin a of a coil he strikes the Egyptian he strikes him the mad which has three opinions how he struck him did he do it with his fists did he do it with a shovel did he do it with shame on my fighters and then next day my he by le marché me again what does he see he sees two Jews fighting with each other by going Mother Russia Lamas Africa why do you hit your friend later when they would leave Egypt there standing at the feet of heart see night what does the Gomorrah say in the second shop is not possessed by a shiatsu but ACTA saw her they stood under the mountain Mohammed Shakur file am hired giggy's the master of the world placed the mountain over their head like an overturned back like a geese the language of katha the language of clear the language of compelling somebody resonated with them but now 40 years lady have a new generation they grew up in a desert protected by Hashem who provided them with all their needs they were softer in some ways weaker more sensitive they grew up and freedom they had all of life's gifts given to them on a golden platter they ate food from heaven they were protected by clouds of glory they understood a different language when it comes to a generation that's raised in freedom they have to be educated and formed instructed taught empowered inspired invigorated if not they will not absorb the message may be short-term you will be successful but not long-term they will never learn to take responsibility for their life and rise up to their true potential slaves can understand one lane which three people have to hear a different language they respond not the power they respond not so much to Authority but much more to persuasion to somebody who speaks to their inner core their inner heart their inner soul their inner mind they need to be spoken to and when they're coerced as an end in and of itself when coercion becomes the beginning in the middle and the end of youdescribe they resent it internally they become alienated some of them will show it and some of them will repress it but internally they're not there they don't care for it how many people do we have in our generation externally they go with the flow they're in the system as we like to call it extraordinary but internally there's absolutely no appreciation because nobody ever spoke to their spoke to their heart spoke to their mind spoke to their intelligence folk to their souls both of their folk to their love spoke to their truth spoke to their individuality spoke to their personality the slaves may not know another life the free person does know a different life and that was the difference between our Shems commandment forty years ago scraggly rock and his commandment now speak to the rock this was not a small distinction the difference was of essence and the symbolism and each one was delicately tailored to the mentalities of the different generations you strike a slave you speak to a free person when moisture a vein who stood here Hashem told him to take the staff as I told you we always need a stick we always need discipline we always need a little bit of guru a lot of gore depends on my age so harder depends on my animal depends on my resistance but Moshe was not ready to perceive the transformation that has taken place in the new generation of the young Jews who were not in Egypt or they were babies when they were in Egypt and now they have come of age where do you see it the moistures words she muna moyen listen to me rebels he identifies them as rebels rebels you need to strike rebels you need to use a certain language because they're rebels you need to whip them into shape physically or much more importantly conceptually shamone ha Meir and you know this explains why you'll see in the Tanakh moysha blames the jewish people for what happened in Paris Vienna moistures going to say by his sovereign Hashem B la montaña Hashem became upset with me because of you into Hillen mm Allah says capital cuff of Psalms 106 by a thief are made me read about a relationship but a ver um Mauritius suffered the cause of then what do you mean wasn't with them and that's do with my travail know the answer of course is this was all a result because of Moises connection to his generation remember my she is the one who told her Shem when he was not ready to forgive them for the sin of the golden calf McCamey na mrs. kashikar soft black me out of you safe with her udders no me without them most it would not allow himself to be separated from his beloved generation the great generation of Jews who became God's people the first generation who saw a sham face-to-face and receive the terror most sure you could never you could never separate moisture from bad people and when I Shem said I'll start over with you he said in T socket awesome if you forgive them good them I and if you don't forgive them McCamey nama sifri harsh a disaster erase me from the safe attire Moshe Rabbeinu remains completely connected to the full generation of Druze he's unwilling to perceive that there is a new transformation a transformation and a new language needed he's unwilling maybe he's not in his capacity due to him being the remnant as the Zohar says there the faithful shepherd of his people and that's why moisture a bagel has to strike the rock twice Y twice Y twice aha because by definition when you're compelling somebody to do something you have to do it twice you can't do it once when you attempt to change things to depression rather than through persuasion you have to do it more than once right when you want a force or speed make your chose to do something screaming once doesn't help you got to scream once you gotta scream again you gotta scream a third time if you could only do it twice it's already magical it never happens once because I'm not doing it from within I'm doing it from without now that may be very important when I'm a child and there's no other option your child is gonna run into the street hospital where your child is playing with a knife where your child is eating the tenth loudly popping you won't be able to fall asleep in this be hyper food sugar you gotta take it away and sometimes you have to say it one of them lives twice or sometimes three times but my she's using the language of the stick and therefore he has to strike it twice carfully america genius and that's the meaning of hashem saying Yayoi hare montón be locked ashame illa in Ebenezer aw you didn't sanctify me before the eyes of the people meaning you maintained a lower relationship between me and the people you didn't believe me that now is a time to speak you didn't trust me that now is the time to transform the method of leadership and as a result of that you didn't sanctify me in the eyes of the Jewish people you didn't believe in the depth of the relationship and how powerful they could do of the Jewish people is in how close they are with God in how intimate they are with God in fact ability to come by did Shivan kedusha slavery has an incredible interpretation reconciling the explanation of Rashi and explanation of the of the Rambam that they really want explanation because when you're angry at them you lower their level then you have to force the rack to give out water the budget Service says an amazing insight that the world was created for Taylor and the world was created for the Jewish people who introduced Turner into the world so the world wants to be of assistance it wants the conformance reality to what the Jewish people need but will you decorate so you speak to the rack and it gives water but when you decorate the Jewish people when you see when you call them rebels than their access I'm not giving water to these rebels and you have to spank the raca a new generation needs a new language and now you'll see something fascinating go to the safe for yahushua the book of joshua peyrac of download positive of chapter 24 verse 26 at the end of the safer your insurer we learned that at the end of his life you're sure who took the Jewish people into the Land of Israel established and large stone as a monument and what does he say the passage says ye can have indeed Allah but he commands from he puts up a huge stone by a mere shoe l column he may 11 as I steer vanilla ADA Keshia Moscow in Riyadh Inuyasha's Liberty Manu bhai super camera ADA Pentastar fashion ballet Yahshua says that the rock has heard heard all of the words of God which he has spoken to us here you have it your issue I understood that one can also speak to a stone and it will listen he understood that the primary method of communication with the new general is one of conversation rather than coercion one of inspiration rather than force one of inner empowerment persuasion and invigoration rather than external externally compelling the person to follow suit and in fact there's a fascinating Gomorrah the Maseca son had enough cobalamin a love armoury Bunch universe you said the posix peak since kya the prophet's kya chapter eleven says via kathleen a mac mousse LeFort coracii no am allah effort chorus see wavelet the nabi sky he says I'm gonna take two sticks one I'm going to call noi'm pleasantness sweetness the other one I'm gonna call column violence asks the Gamora what does this mean and for the Gemara makkal million adel tell me their home she marries George my name is Elizabeth Walker : ello Tommy they've had coverage at the bubbl she must have another zabala fascinating the stick that's called sweetness refers to the sages of Aaron sees through all the holy land who disgust halacha sweetly with each other violence the stick of violence refers to the sages of Babylonia present-day Iraq shipment optimism Holika they're violent against one against the other in the discussion of ilaha what does this mean what does this mean what am Babilonia they had sticks and they hurt each other when they were learning of course not of course there are two ways of learning terror there's meconium and his knuckles Waveland there's this thick of sweetness and the stick of aggression in exile and bubble and a mindset of slavery sometimes the path is Michael Calum coercion after course myself but in the mindset of a tea stall a freedom of redemption a new approach has to be embraced when the Jews were fresh out of exile out of the mitzrayim of the bubble of the time one approach work for a new generation about to enter in Texas role the approach had to change from Makkah Waveland to meconium from a stick of aggression to a stick of pleasantness we live in a generation that's so gonna go in to the Google love with machetes it's a new back there's it's raw copper Schaefer godless a hussein of a sudden as the cabins call you insane do we all need a stick to discipline ourselves do we have a eight saw her and an animal so that we sometimes have to whip into shape of course but what is the primary goal and mission statement of you this guy today v the buyer-seller speak to you children speak to your girls stick to your boys speak to your bottom speak to you tell me that i speak to your students your pupils your disciples your grandchildren your siblings your colleagues speak inspire believe in their water believe in an inspiration believe in that the aim is i am the 'living divine well springs of water that flow in their beautiful souls and beautiful hearts speak to the seller and when you speak to it vanassa may month you will see the infinite flow of vibrancy and inspiration that can flow from each of their souls have a wonderful week this class is brought to you by the achieve Annette please help us continue the classes make even a small contribution at triple w dot a yeshiva net slash donate