Special Q & A for Teens & Young Professionals with Rabbi Yaakov Rahimi #4

good evening everyone and welcome to part five of this amazing amazing series which um i'm very excited about and we're all art um and um this is um questions and answers your questions and answers are being answered right here for teens young professionals and if you might not be a teen or young professional still still send your questions uh it's um as long as as long as it says it says it says repent one day before your death so what does that mean like what can i find that i don't know one person what person doesn't ever doesn't know what's gonna be that time so it says so that so what it means is that you do true every day so so too even if you're not young professional you're still gonna ask your questions you still gotta grow and learn so our first question tonight the first thought i forgot to mention tune in every monday night tour anytime dot com slash kazakh2 and um your questions email us your questions to events e-v-e-n-t-s at c-h-a-z-a-q dot org and um let's be presented by kazakhstan anytime our first question tonight is from an amazing viewer they said how does one develop a deep connection to hashem so last time i remember we mentioned that that we were talking about either uh gave very practical examples about connecting to hashem and davening and filas and stuff like that so here we're not gonna focus on that here we're going to focus on just sometimes in life it's like it's like it's like you like you go around and it's like you're like you're like uh it's it's still a level but like you like like it's like you're like a robotic jew like someone's like like you're doing in the midst of a step but you're not feeling it in your heart you don't you're not getting like like you don't feel uplifted or whatever it is so how do so if um if you first you just first of all that's a tremendous level just to do all the misses it's like it says not seven initial person doing this and then you get the feeling and get understanding the first if you get to talk about um the um doing the missiles just because this is what hashem said and then also how do we increase our our connection dash and when we do the missiles when we're not when we don't feel like anything's being achieved when we're doing it okay thank you robbie thank you khazak thank you touring time thank you everybody for tuning in and thank you for i want to thank all the people that are sending comments whether it's emails text messages that they're actually watching this thank you so much um every time i hear and i see the comments it gives me physique to keep on going so thank you for that don't think rabbits don't need to be complimented we need compliments too by the way okay so to answer your question how does a person build a relationship with hashem how does a person actually take the terror that he learns in shul and the mitzvos that he does how does he take it home and actually make himself into a person that loves hashem the answer to that is abu tai it really depends on the person it really every individual has his own torah every individual has his own way just like every person has his own flavor and foods every person has his recipe and his opinion and his taste so to when it comes to hashem when it comes to hashem every individual is different how he will connect to hashem we all agree on one thing we all have the common denominator and that is to seek truth we all want to do the right thing and we all want to do the truth we always want to do the emit we always want to run away from falsehood always run away from shaquille we're always looking to do what's right our goal is to do whatever hashem tells us once a person is honest with this goal once a person is not playing games but he goes straight and he says i'm really really going to do whatever it takes to connect to god and do what's right he will find his individual path he will find his unique path his cheville to connect with tells us no two individuals have the same faces that's what the german tells us many times you know in life you go around you think hey this guy looks exactly like another person i know back at home but you know when you actually talk to the guy have a conversation you see that his face is a little different tell us no two faces are the same hazal also tell us no two humans have the same mindset every person is every person is special and he has his diary his relationship with hashem that nobody has so how do you build a connection to hashem start looking for the truth be a person that makes a strong decision a strong commitment whatever emit is whatever the right thing is i will do when you make that strong commitment you're going to find hashem you're going to find the truth very fast very fast and you're going to connect to hashem tell us terra is the number one tool the number one tool to get close like a dashboard of course a person gets close to davening to doing mitzvos torah itself is the greatest tool one can connect a parable imagine i don't know there's let's say a lot of mosquitoes outside you know mosquitoes and they bite and it can really hurt and they carry a certain disease so you can go around with a spray what's it called off and you can spray your skin with the off and your clothing and it keeps the mosquitoes away or you have a second option go to the doctor they give you a vaccine a very healthy vaccine and automatically you're immune to all mosquitoes i'm sure everybody will like to take the second part the second option which take a medicine that injects in your veins automatically you immune to the mosquitoes instead of going around spraying yourself all day telos mitsvot and tefila are like the spray every time you do a mitzvah it's a light of the darkness let's say it's a dark room you do a mitzvah it's one candle another midsole another candle more like more tephila another candle however there's a second option there's a second tool that's even greater than mitsuboten te fila what's that second tool learning torah let's see you're in a dark room like i said before one mitzvah has one candle but learning torah is totally removing the darkest in the first place it's literally turning on the light so there's no dark room in the first place when a person is learning torah he took this vaccine he injects in him a whole different immune system that pushes off pushes off all the worldly desires and pushes off all the shakir and all the falsehood automatically he will cling to hashem we naturally have the neshama we naturally have the soul that wants to connect to hashem when a person chooses unfortunately not to do the right thing not to keep shabbat not to keep kosher not to learn torah he's doing the unnatural thing it's not natural not to serve hashem it is only natural to serve hashem when a person keeps shabbat follows them and learns terror that's truly who he is come from the kisa we are close to very interesting thing the slack says we our nest our souls the jewish people are even higher of those of malachim of angels that's a very big statement he explains that the angels were created by a different system in shamayim in heaven but us human beings the jewish people come from the kisa kavod from the throne of akatoshvaraku from the chair of god which is the highest possible spot a person could come for to be created from see he says us human beings walking on two feet on earth our greater creations are even higher than malachim than angels we are naturally close to hashem that's who we are so when a person is asking how shall i connect to hashem the answer is be yourself you know how you be yourself be committed to do whatever the right thing is learn to when you learn torah even though you don't understand it right away even though you might be doing many of afterwards or before as long as you learn torah it will connect you closer and closer to hashem and you'll be immuned to the yetzara you'll be immune to the false in the desires of the world it will melt the desires of the world you're not going to have such a taiva anymore as strong as it was before you're learning torah and when you start learning torah you will connect [Music] i'm serving hashem so so um i remember recently like i was just like uh just running and like with paperwork and phone calls whatever it is and um and i was like i like like like sometimes like there's a line that that i like like like oh i a person says oh i work harder than everybody else and then someone comes back and he says oh but i work smarter and then and then the person says back to that oh i work smarter and harder so how so sometimes like it's like it's like it's like it's like um it's like we want to be or we want we want to do amazing things we want to we want to we want to pray we want to eat kosher we want to do all these learn with the study partner whatever it is so but how do we can you talk about the structurize it um just like in in business okay fine so first you plan out your day and then and then you have meetings and then and then and then you um you can reach out to clients or whatever maybe so so too if you could maybe we could learn from the business run how can we apply this to life about being masood being organized and and not just running around just craziness but being organized so if i get your question right you're asking how does a person say what's the proper way that that we know we should structure ourselves like absolutely right i have to go in the path of hashem i have to be organized in the past organized right yeah and do this organization instead of just like okay i'm going i got it i got a dog and i gotta pray i gotta go to jail oh how does a person recognize that he's part of a schedule yeah okay okay fine thank you so much okay i'm just a little hungry okay so the question is like this the question is barak hashem hashem thank you thank you thank you hashem thank you for so many of us wake up we put on te filim now putting it to feeling is a big deal but we get immune to it we get used to it and then we lose the appreciation of how much of a big mitzvah it is to put on to feeling and then we wash our hands in the morning right we don't touch our faces we wash our hands in the morning we say it's time we don't eat before we dive in we can have a coffee but we're very religious we don't even eat before we pray then afterwards you know if a person wants to learn with the feeling you know what they're feeling then afterwards you want to eat breakfast you say you wash before and then you say break at amazon then you go to work you know a lot of steal you know the repeat you know a lot of lie you always have to make a condition at work then you to dive in milk you're going to have kavanagh you got a concentric then afterwards that's you want to have lunch you got to wash you got to make it again and then you go back home and then you you know you have to respect everybody in the house and you always bar hashem before and afterwards then it goes to learning and then comes shabbat and then comes the holidays we're all religious jews but sometimes sometimes a person can forget the appreciation a person can get so involved in the routine of being religious that he can forget how much he's really accomplishing and how much he really means in the eyes of hashem so how does a person avoid that how does a person avoid that so i'll tell you a story that i once read from muhammad that maybe can explain this to bring it home somebody asked ahmed kanewski and rosh yeshiva came to him and he says i want to have a muslim muslim means learning the safari muslim means learning books of discipline books that rebuke a person to make sure he's on the right path of serving hashem so this first i want to make this muslim this is a time right after shakharit right after chakras so the boys are going to dive in before they go eat breakfast i want to sit there and he told them i don't understand didn't they just dive in what does that mean what does it mean you just prayed the morning services what does that mean does that mean you just read from a sitter does that mean you're doing what you did yesterday and what he did since your bar mitzvah does that mean you're doing what are you going to do in the next two years what does it mean you just answered yeah hey rabbi what do you think all those words mean sir what he means is you literally just spoke to god you literally had the ability to speak to hashem to the creator of the world but you know what the creator of the world means go on a plane and you see the ocean how deep is the ocean how big are the oceans and who created it and we have the chance to speak to hashem the whole day before and afterwards and have conversation with him you know what an opportunity it is we should be in all like we said in should be hashem is so huge just the oceans of the world try to imagine that the oceans of the world are massive and we could get to speak that qatar who created all the oceans in the world the baallatania said that whenever he wanted to remind himself of how special is to talk to hashem he would go look at nature he will go to the high mountains and see wow look at the mountains look at the grass look at the trees and remind myself do you realize we have this we have the honor to speak to the creator of all these things of all the trees in the world all the grass the sky the moon everything sir told us yeshiva what's the point of learning musa that reminds you that you're serving hashem after shakharit the prayer itself should be the biggest wake up call the biggest musa to remind yourself that you're front of the it's like speaking to somebody for one hour straight having a conversation and telling somebody remind me after the conversation i spoke to mr so-and-so you know that could be in this to the person you were speaking to for one hour for one hour we had a conversation you don't remember you spoke to me what are you where you think you're talking to the wall that can be very offensive we have to focus on the person that we're speaking to just like when you have a conversation you can't be on the phone while looking at the guy that's very disrespectful when we look at the siddhu remind yourself do you really looking into hashem you're speaking to that kadosh we have the opportunity to speak to the creator of the world so how does a person when he's religious hashem remind yourself not to lose the beauty the beauty the connection of speaking to hashem start spacing in more and what you already do and the meets what you already do the fact you make abraham in the morning we say as soon as they wash their hands in the morning they say you know what the words mean blessed are you hashem we have the opportunity to bless god we have the opportunity to remind ourselves that god existed and gave us another day of life so the way you remember and the way to live your life as a religious jew but not just as a regular scheduled routine and forget about hashem is to take something upon yourself that for the next week or the next month i'm going to look into i'm going to remind myself why am i making a bracha what does the mean hashem exist what does the mean hashem chose us as the jewish people what does it mean when apostate says i'm not going to steal why am i now let a steal look into everything don't don't just do it it's also a level to just listen to it and just do the the nasa part like robbie said to follow them it's what but a person who wants to appreciate what he's doing and love hashem he has to be meet bonang what are you doing that's my answer not to just get swift away with the schedule how about i answer that beautiful very nice did the answer answer you though yes you said about that that it instead of just like getting lost okay like like i oh my i i i i i got up i did mo dania whatever it is then it did dominating and then whatever it is it's like it's like it's like no you have to do it yeah why are you doing it yeah get dig deeper beautiful amazing okay great another um email someone sent us is that what you talked about last time you mentioned about about uh there's so many um uh taiva's desires and and focusing on serving hashem so maybe we could take it um from um from from a different angle about um we can focus on that maybe like looking at like maybe maybe looking at the the the the outcome of the d meaning let's say it's like okay like yeah you have a certain pleasure let's just say a cheeseburger or whatever whatever sin it is whatever it is so if you look at okay if i start five minutes oh my this person might think oh it tastes so good or whatever it is but but then if you look five minutes after okay fine so what are you gonna get you're gonna get regret and whatever it is and and whatever so if you could talk about looking at it let's say like if you're like like um you're so like excited to do something which maybe you're not supposed to you can talk about looking at the outcome of it and not just focusing in on um on this that that's the the the thing that the gemara says about the worst and since like they had this like crazy idea in his mind so how do you like get that out how do you overcome that so you're asking how does a person overcome the desire when he knows when he knows the outcome will be worse anyways when he knows it's gone in a second how do you focus on i'm like the outcome not in the moment but rather than the outcome okay i mean that's that's life i mean that's life's challenges no it's like you said the answer is like this up a tight the answer is like this a true jew a person like we said in the beginning who seeks the truth who wants to get close to hashem is looking for the ahmet every time he sins in a blue moon the level of regret is so strong that the pleasure is already not worth it and this might be by the way the interpretation of the missionary evolution says a person should always be shokel the ana's and the sahara which means you're let's say person is about to do an aveiro so try to understand okay how much pleasure am i getting out of it but then what is going to be the outcome of it what's going to be after that vero and you're going to if you're going to think about it you're going to realize that the outcome the aftermath of doing the sin is outweighs the guilt is so powerful outweighs any pleasure of the sin in the first place the male says before a person sins the only way he's able to sin is only if he kicks the shakhina out of the room only if he kicks out hashem out of the room because if a person truly believes hashem is in front of him the amount of sin will go less and less and less and less so how does a person overcome a desire how does a person train himself to look at the outcome and not only the pleasure of the moment the answer is to build the person has to build the fear of hashem a person needs to understand torah is not a myth hashem is not some uh fictional non-fiction which was a fake one again fiction hashem is not some novel this whole thing with the kadosh baruch this whole thing that hashem created the world and we had her sinai everything is 100 a reality it's a freaky thing but hashem really exists a battalion for all those listening god literally exists and he's seriously watching over us when a person truly works in that he's meet bonang and that and the prophet saying gives a suggestion you know how to build you shaman you know how you build the fear of hashem try to go to a dark place he himself used to go to the forest there's a famous story when the passed away when his sons were sitting shiva one guy one non-jew came to me to give condolences right that's the right word and they asked them so what are you doing here how do you know our father the khafiz khan she says listen i'm a farmer i have a huge farm in radhan your father for many years when i used to do the farm the land i would hear somebody having a conversation you know so the first few weeks i thought two people having conversation but then i noticed that it's a very holy jew who's speaking to the creator every single morning and i used to hear his conversations he will literally have a personal relationship and a personal conversation with god the khafiz khan so this non-jew came to him and i come up with the children to tell them how special their father was he literally spoke to god every single day but the prophet's claim went to the forest he went to a quiet spot we can actually connect hashem take away all the noise take away all the distractions listen to the your neshama listen to your mind talking to yourself you're conscious that you want to connect to hashem that's why some people they have a fear of quietness some people can have a fear of quietness why do they have a fear of quietness it could very much be because they're scared of facing the reality of truly who you are are you on the right path are you really following hashem so it's very important and healthy to take away all the distractions and take away all the noise and just think think who am i who's the creator what am i doing am i doing the right thing and then you want to connect aka i forgot the question how did i get to this i'm talking about the outcome of the deed oh so how does a person not look only the pleasure of the moment of the sin but rather the outcome million dollar question the answer is working in your mind you fear of god how do you work on fearing hashem more by thinking about it more very simple answer judaism is a piece of cake serving hashem is a piece of cake if you do it right if you be yourself you be natural be able to connect to hashem how do you build your mind says the prophet when you think about hashem the more you think about hashem the more you work and think about hashem the more you can understand hashem's presence like where viktor miller says i know how you build your mind look at an apple look at an apple look at a tree think about air the more you think about the creations of hashem the more you think about hashem and hashem is at the tip of your tongue the more you're going to remember hashem is here because hashem truly is here and just we can sometimes forget an individual can forget so the more you remind yourself hashem is here the more you're going to recognize hashem is here the more you're going to fear hashem is here the less average person will do i hope it was clear was that clear very clear no honestly that was clear yes okay a person has to work at me and not your mind yourself no but we get distracted i don't think you look at the screen it says that that was that was the take on message that that if we if we increase our iraq our fear of heaven or our reverence if you want to call it like this like deep respect and awareness that that that just like you have like like you mentioned just like you have in this room you have you have yeah you have uh you have a vid you have uh you have a security camera and that is seeing everything so it doesn't forget what's like you're mentioning hashem sees everything everything you say is is is being um it's being written down everything and whatever it is so so how do you build your electrolyte very simple by reminding yourself that hashem is here because hashem really is here think i'm trying to sing elaborate okay how do you build your mind i don't want to just sound like uh some i don't know some poet or something okay so i want to make it practical how do you build chamaim very simple hashem honestly is here it's not a science uh rocket whatever it's called rocket science hashem literally is here it's a freaky thing but god exists i'm getting freaked out as i'm speaking you know literally the same creator that was there with mariah sinai the same career that always will be here is literally right here watching us learning torah and spreading his name hashem means recognizing the reality in front of you that hashem exists you understand so the more you remind yourself god is yours you'll make your brah kissing thank you hashem when hashem is the tip of your tongue and the more you build your mind no very good okay amazing awesome thank you remember and uh we are going to continue next time but don't forget please send me your questions there's no pressure it's a laid-back environment just everyone growing uh together email us your questions to events.org e-v-e-n-t-s at c-h-a-z-a-q event org and everyone should tune in every monday night where your questions will be addressed torah anytime.com kazakh2chazaq the number two tourneytime.com2 every monday night at 8pm eastern standard time thank you everyone we will see you next monday