Stop regretting start living

welcome back to the living higher Series this week's topic is called stop regretting and start living in life one of the more difficult one of the more painful moments of life can be the pain of regret of realizing that we left dreams unchaste sometimes we could be so far removed from the dreams and aspirations that we once held that we forget that we ever even had those dreams and aspirations all those missed opportunities that we had how can we ensure that in five years from now we're not going to look back again with the same regret with the same saying if only if only I would have done this if only I would have done that this past shabas was shabas but in truth it's not just one week of one week of comfort it's actually there's seven weeks of comfort going from now to almost there's seven weeks of comfort what does it mean Comfort what is comfort mean Jared viers in his sa for his book the light of day he writes that he once asked if you took zilberman from the old city of he asked him what does it mean from a teror perspective to be somebody what does it mean from a terror perspective to comfort somebody so zilberman answered him he said imagine you have an individual you have a guy who comes from nothing he has nothing he has no money no anything no background and he starts working an odd job here an odd job there slowly he begins to develop a reputation that he's a hardworking guy with a good work ethic and slowly he starts building himself up till he gets a steady job till he starts rising up the rungs finally that day comes where he puts together enough money to open up his own Factory by all means by all estimations he's now going to start netting a handsome Propet he start going to be turned into a premier businessman this Factory is going to put him on the map he gets a knock on the door that night and the fire chief is standing there the fire chief says I have some bad news for you unfortunately there's a fire at your facility and the whole thing went up and smoked the Mars K blister Pencil Factory is no more it's gone the guy's devastated he's devastated all his dreams everything he hoped for or everything that he wanted is gone up in smoke ask zilberman how could you be him such a person how could you give such an individual Comfort are you going to tell him don't worry we know that everything does is for the best is that going to give him any comfort that's not going to give him any comfort what about if you told him you know I also went through a hard time I've also had hard experience experiences I had setbacks in my parosa that's not going to comfort him that's not going to comfort him the only thing that you could tell this individual that'll give him any comfort Comfort is three words your factories insured insurance will pay that's the only way you could comfort such a person is by telling him that you have a future even though right now there's a setback and even though right now there's a devastating loss and everything that you worked for and all your dreams and aspirations have gone up in smoke but there's a future ahead insurance is going to pay and you're going to be able to rebuild right now we have the sh the seven weeks of comfort after Tish till practically R the question is we can understand that after Tish it's a time of time of comfort we just went through three weeks of mourning for the B MD of warning for what we had that we no longer have it makes sense that there's a time of comfort right now that there's a future that we're going to have at B Mikes again but why does it extend into El isn't El a time of chuva a time of repentance isn't El a time when we're preparing ourselves for the Y forer why is most of el part of the seven weeks of comfort I think that the answer is in order to be able to do chuva in order to be able to move on and to say yes I'm not happy with my past I'm not happy with how things were in the past I'm not thrilled about the way I I lived my life until now but how do we move past that that's only if we understand that there's a future ahead that no matter what we've done no matter where we're holding we have a future and that's what truva means truva is to recognize that I can let go of the past and move on into a brand new future a future that I'm unencumbered by my past yes we have to look back at our past and regret what we've done wrong but we should only be looking at our past through a futuristic lens through a lens of how is my future going to be different not to live get stuck and wallow in our past you know there's a fascinating says incidentally this is on I'll read you what he says he says when a person does he has to believe that he becomes a barha that he's a new creation a new creation that a k out of his love and mercy does not remember his past does not remember the a that were done says you don't believe this if you don't believe that you're a new creation if you don't believe that your future is unencumbered by your past your chuva won't help let's think about this for a minute and let's read what the B is saying the bver is not saying that Chua is just that I regret my past and I say I'm going to move forward and hope for the best that's not good enough I have to believe in a future unencumbered by my past I have to believe that the world is wide open to conquer and I think that's why the the that's saying that you have a future ahead I think that's why it extends it to Elana because in order for us to be able to move forward from our past we have to believe that there's a future ahead let's try to live a little higher and let's realize let's really internalize this that there is a future ahead no matter who what where why when no matter what we've done all that regret all that pain what's it being channeled into the stopping short and that's it it's over those dreams un chased those dreams unrealized no we have to learn from shabas from the sh from the that there's a future ahead that we still it's not too late we could be starting a new where a what does it mean to be a new creation it means you don't have a past you were unencumbered by the past whatever was that happened until now we could leave that behind right now at the end of the summer beginning of L now is the time to dream now is the time to believe