Ten Minutes of Meaning (Part 196): Stay in Your World - Mesillas Yesharim

good morning Boca Joe please help yourself to have coffee and donuts welcome back to 10 minutes of meeting with sister Char I'm very grateful to our Anonymous sponsors this morning 10 minutes of meeting are sponsored by our dear friends Maryland Jeremy Strauss in memory of Jeremy's Father Michael Strauss whose fifth year was this past Sunday and by the rosinger as the red family a member of the dear beloved sister mother grandmother Susan or a coin on our 20th year at site which was the 10th of May all their nishamas have an Aliyah we are on the 22nd chapter of missile we've been learning about anava humility how to live with humility and our attitude and our perspective and our personality and our thought how to live with humility and our demeanor and the way that we carry ourselves how to live with the humility and the speech and the way we interact with others had a little humility in the way that we absorb the insults and the blows from others without responding in kind we last left off was encouraging us and joining us is which we described you don't have to be mahmir in this Mitzvah today a particular Rabbi or all rabbis or the Rab in it of course our great sages and perkiavas when they said they were not referring to the rabbanate as a career profession they were not talking to particular rabbis as personalities they were referring to positions of authority the notion that even those who serve in those positions should embrace the Fulfillment and the opportunity and the privilege and the responsibility but should nevertheless be repulsed by the sense of authority to understand the danger of hubris and arrogance that comes with an emphasis on Authority the danger of authority who compare that a person who accepts the position of authority person who wants to serve as the committee chair as the president person who wants to say or serve as Arabi as a Rob and Embraces the authority of it they're in a position of power they make decisions they have the power of the purse they are in charge of money they're in charge of policy and they love the honor they love the power that comes with that position they are like an adulterous individual what was the comparison answers says the comparison is marriage is Condition it's Holiness it's sanctity when you're unfaithful to it you have profaned you've made secular that which is sacred similarly being a Rob being a rebbe being a manic being a mashpia being in a position of authority is kadosh it is Holy it's sacred and when a person desecrates it by deriving and drawing personal benefit from it you use it to your advantage use it for protection you use it to get in use it to cut a line use it to advance your own interests use it to serve your own ego it too is a violation of cadution you are like a noaf Nicholas the disciples the students will bear this out because although they were in dire Financial need because even though they would have benefited they would have profited they would have been paid to have a position of authority they rejected you think you're getting Authority you're getting a life of slavery and servitude you're going to go from freedom to slavery with authority comes awesome with power comes awesome responsibility and those who get a power surge those who get a boost to their go are deriving an appropriate benefit from The Authority with authority comes a lot of criticism a lot of hyper focus a lot of opinions and a lot of responsibility that robs you of the freedom of your time the luxury of living your life privately and independently vom Road how lamentable is Authority the rub on us it buries its occupants for example maybe they prematurely age and they look gray and people yesterday ask if the associate Rabbi is their son things like that happen just saying to people in positions of Rob bonus it's a price they pay you think they get such covered they get a parking spot they also have to take a lot of medicines every day um Yosef had a position of authority was the Viceroy of Egypt he was responsible for the whole economy he ultimately bought responsibility for the survival of his family you know what the reward he got for that was he died before anyone else the aggravation the criticism the responsibility the lack of Freedom it all it cost him ultimately his life it ended his life early it ended his life summarizes we've now done a successful job they should bring me in to speak to the Smitha students we've now done a good job of talking everybody out of a life of rabonis and and it's not just talking about religious Authority he's talking about we've talked anyone out of being honored the dinner serving as a chairman of President and a board an executive board who needs it who wants it but listen to what concludes summation in summary a position of authority is nothing less than a burden the shoulder of the person carrying it and as long as one is merely an individual living among his people and mingling with others irresponsible only for yourself what a life you have but when you accept that responsibility when you accept that leadership position when you accept it now you're responsible for anyone who is affected by your decisions by your leadership by the responsibility you've taken lyrics a person needs to a person needs to recognize their knowledge and understanding and to address all their deeds along the right path the imlav the measure says if not I appointed them as Leaders over you their guilt is on your heads so the ram Khan's point is say yes to serving as the chair be on the board go into rabbanas take your gifts and your talents and share them with the world it's the responsibility that we have we work for Hashem he doesn't work for us the point that house is making is don't ever let them go to your head or put differently I like to say take what you do seriously don't take yourself too seriously the people get into trouble in every position of authority in life from elected officials to teachers in the front of a classroom to rub on him to to school presidents any position of authority take what you do seriously don't take yourself too seriously demand honor for the work don't demand honor for yourself draw fulfillment and satisfaction and feel responsible but don't draw a personal pleasure don't allow it to impact or inflate your ego that's when it's dangerous God forbid is not trying to talk us out of a life of virtue nobility and of service he's simply saying be focused on why we're doing it now he goes back to addressing honor honor how does one deal with honor when they are aspiring to live a life of humility we'll end with this so honor is no more than the greatest of vanities it leads a person to lose themselves and to lose their world it takes you out of the world we mentioned yesterday in the parish year the very end of the pasture with the story of the person who curses out God he goes out where did he go out from where did he exit that the Torah introduced vayetse he exited he entered the scene where was he coming from and Russia quote several opinions one of them is he left his world what does it mean he left his world so we shared this idea from revolvanalay sure each of us is a world unto ourselves and to be able to live a mentally healthy balanced life to have interpersonal relationships to thrive in our relationship with Hashem with others and with ourselves we have to stay in our world we have to understand who we are what makes us tick we have to have a self-awareness we have to find happiness within ourselves and we have to live this Balanced Life and when you introduce Kina when you are overwhelmed and filled with envy and jealousy when you want the other person's car and spouse and children and career and life when all you do is see others and you want their life envy and when you live with taiva you have The Sensational appetite that's craving this longing this desire which can't be satisfied and covered honor all you want is to be an influencer all you want is the most likes and shares all you want is the most attention all you want is the most honor all three of those things they remove you from your world you have no happiness you have no balance you have no satisfaction you have no mental health no mental hygiene it removes a person from the world from their world and that's what says covered as vain the covered you get it's fleeting it passes it can disappear it's superficial it's vain it's the ultimate vanity don't let it go to your head don't believe the hype don't accept it it is pure vanity and it's Kono and it causes you to lose your mind and leave your world covered you lose your world stay home stay in your lane stay in your world keep your head down do what you need to do don't believe the hype take what you do seriously and not yourself too seriously we'll pick up with this next time we continue a 45 we're living in the moon and tonight we're going behind the beam with it of 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