The Enemy Within - Part 4: The Evil Inclination's Targets - Rebbetzin Avigial Gersht

[Music] so we left off last class speaking about needs to her the that part of us we know which part that is and we said about happiness or how it works through a righteous opening what does it mean a rice opening salmon and we say or Olivia would we say what are the writer's opening how could be used to hard getting through a righteous opening yeah like you need a sample let's make it real if you want to help somebody with a nice are always higher insulin and don't use some work yeah exactly look it's coming out of somewhere it's pulling from something else and I right just opening means when someone does crescent on some1 offers behalf for example oh sure you want me to cook a meal for you for the whole because you're not hearing on no problem and then you end up cooking first of the meal that your family doesn't eat meals but for the entire week or we said someone this is extremely extremely powerful and effective when someone's becoming religious in the process of becoming a ball to them the first commandment God gives at Harvey night the score he said I need half M I know who FML kefa blow yell aha leukemic her vanish from your goddess via no other powers you know what God said hocemo goulos macaca haha which means put glue Lopes put boundaries around the mountain right because anyone who touches the Nelson shall surely die what does that mean what was God telling us when he said put boundaries around the mouth and says when all the nations camp that her ski and I got to put boundaries around the mouth around the mountain whoever touched it will buy what does that mean don't come too close don't come too fast you need think you need boundaries you need borders you can't do everything at once it's not the right thing to do everything at once right so someone can give a whole beautiful class house Camille and I want do everything answers don't do everything that may be right for her at this point but for me I'm just going to get resentful right I know for myself as someone and this is happening some different institutions I've been right some will make a comment on continued or closing them wearing or certain earrings that I'm wearing and make them tell me that does not inspire me to take it off a nice feel more modest right now I feel now it's your more refined and dignified it needs to come from me it needs to come in an organic way does it mean and you all know me when I say this doesn't mean you don't push yourselves out of your comfort zone you put yourself out of your comfort zone you don't push yourself into danger zone okay so it works the rice is opening we said there's a fact I need to go into the beit midrash at night they won't go to sleep it's the work of the gates at her right stop staying here so much okay now these are big ones and stay for devar Deuteronomy chapter 28 verses 47 till almost the whole tarik there's almost a whole chapter speaking about the koalas the punishment as if you don't serve God with tapping it looks familiar with those verses that's actually remember I told the story with that Muslim cab driver and the Christian cab driver and in new york manhattan absolutely has a story yeah okay well I writer whose cab driver i was talking to and this is the verse actually he was quoting okay which is is a whole chapter on versus of the few mr. guy was happiness why do you think there's like a whole chapter on the punishments that will happen yes oh how do you I told you so you home she goes oh that's so funny I mean it was a Capote sir for letting Christianity then and but but yeah I guess also has to do the Sahara ever you know the reason why I love is topic so much was because essentially everything falls into it right which is used to her hostage also have to do is like preconceived notions right of a judgment that we have on other people and that we impose on other people like the finest lure those in this cab when I was in Manhattan and this driver he was like this great guy and we're having a great conversation and he was just started speaking you look well you know I'm actually i have i'm one of the Lost Tribes and and he was anything he had some like Jewish she liked it on to someone who's the African countries did not look Jewish at all and he said just talking to us it and had Jewish people i like so night and had Jewish people really have it right but but you know Jesus really is the right one I'm certain he said you know he was he knew more taller than like off by heart that like I could ever know and he's like you all know which I my favorite verse from the Bible I'm like why he like just like quoted this verse that I'm staying in Deuteronomy of all the curses that will happen if you don't serve God was going without so impressed by and then asked her at the end of the car ride I was like my husband the whole time was going on music I'm more like high 32 the whole world I'd like you know all why he's like you just don't get yourself hurt it's a pretense time between Jews I'm all along you know and there's the answer i said to my was like if there's one message you can give the jewish nation you know what would it be i'm seeking would be like continuing the line until the other nations like because like you know when you meet someone who risk that one on jew who respects do they really respect them and they I've heard many times like keep doing what you guys are doing your bring morality to the world so if there's one message you can give at your age what would be like just one message you guys gotta be more open to Jesus haha and then we had a whole conversation I said but if you believe in it Old Testament the Old Testament says that Jesus didn't come to change anything and you take and christianity's like the real Christians don't listen to the whole New Testament is like we listen to the Old Testament I would look at all the kids auto service and we're the whole country to my husband's will give it back they're like her and we had a whole conversation between Jews and kooky additi and what they actually believe in and then we took a picture on it was a whole very nice moment all of us together so that's also nice part of Awesome Utica Wisconsin tower on your skewed vision of the world which is which is you know also getting burned from the world right we can get we can get burnt from the world which is I'll tell you I'll tell you a present real-time story that so we're moving now and whoever sabrina sent to my house who knows it's like it's a first time moving and it is you know my sister validated me when she says you know I moved in a person's life is one of the sick i forget which one it is one of the top reasons either for suicides divorce or or depression I'm like wow okay you know another suspicious specifically speaking as little stressful thing the person go through in life I'm like okay so I feel validated and as we've been doing pretty difficult people the whole time and know my kids are angels bill it really keep me sane I love my kids but so we did pretty difficult people whole time and a person's true colors show when money comes into the picture ok I'll because I'm not hugging my family always people talk about landowners and I turned to my husband is past week and I said to him it's at this point and in time that people get burnt from the world I look and I totally get it right like us we can get to my dad and I was hanging some things that were going on he said welcome to the real world but it says at this point in the world that people get burnt attentive of them husband I'm not letting that happen right doesn't mean you should be more cautious than it doesn't you should be more aware and more and be able to have stronger boundaries but I won't let that happen to me right what was one of the tactics say we're just going to finish up with the tools these are our highest employment how to overcome that but one of the main ones three of the main ones are despair anxiety and depression and when we spoke about moods raised behind if you're in here when we spoke about moves you were here you were three of you were here okay 30 okay so so when we're looking at moos we said right when you're in a certain low mood you tend to believe that move right Richard Carson says most relationship probably spend from two people taking feathers low mood seriously that's our h aha right despair anxiety depression ice gives us a skewed vision of the world despair is I'm throwing my hands I have nothing else to do so let me resort to this negative behavior let me resort to overeating Eve must feel disgusting efforts let me resort to you so you fill in the blanks and afterwards you know it's done why is there almost a whole chapter in Deuteronomy indiv arms speaking about and if you don't serve Hashem with sim card why because you can only you can only get it through today code you can only receive true connection you can only have that real connection when you're serving God is happiness a person is not allowed to having a luau prophecy now we don't have pasta nowadays but if someone says class doesn't you run very far but now he's we don't have new book when they had no good in this process of it to me does all the prophets right because they had all these musical instruments and they were very intuitive why to lift their spirits Yitzhak aveeno yeah so sorry Yaakov aveeno he didn't have prophecy he didn't have Naboo up for 22 years why Dylan happy why what happened to yako what happened in his life for 23 years I'll give you a hint it rhymes with low says Liz lifting yes thank you to call yo Steph is missing right Yosef was missing for 22 years never said I don't get here yeah cool avena didn't he realized where his son was like yes possibly why he's one of the forefathers answers he didn't have prophecy for 22 years why cuz he was in a state of sadness and when we're in this state of status attends to perpetuate itself and then it becomes a vicious circle and then I feel bad and I'm sad then against an even lower place or guilt or e then I feel guilty badges oh and if I stoop this low right then that means a person for sure doesn't want to hear me at night feel when I teach the class about neshama how our school we're not a body where our bodies just visited vessels the home tarnish Emma and no matter what we're in forensics be good no matter what were intrinsically pure and and nomads we can do to run a second we can do to on a second I'll that's the coast all the other night and I was when I was there and you hear these woman crying and I was recalling all these stories the gemara speaks about of people someone named Eliza vendor died and other and other big people who have Stephanie got Olam haba in a second this one's person he he went to every prostitute in the world and the whole story and in this last woman he was with she made a comment and they made him realize what he's doing his wife and he sat down and cry me climb self to death right and then a voice came acting ruddy elazar ben jaya rebel azevedo jaya this is someone who who his entire life he was with prostitutes you're calling him ready yesterday in the second he kind of soft to death physics of the power of tuba our essence true i mean shift to return returning to our Styles our stuff was intrinsically girl self is intrinsically pure right and so when I pieces class the woman and they say wait but me Eve I did this you know that I do this is this class to apply to mean answer is yes yes is constable budget watch every single person people like Hitler maximum born shouldn't sing evil I don't know right yes costo applies to you right so so despair and sadness is we get into the into this cycle this vicious cycle of aha ok science so so so now what now what sim cards directly connected to to the moon right the motor more in Luna which is faith based on knowledge that we have the more of the foundation a solid foundation that we have the more were able to tap into that sim come any questions or anything to add yeah I long time to avenge every recommended I like that bama Sonia yeah yeah feeling regret from faculty we did wrong look at first that are ya I'm not necessarily [Music] so we're not what stop with that and stop the thing we want to know what I'm talking I'm good but yeah I agree meaning on one hand it could seem really easily although our version of two was radically different in christianity christianity is confession that's really easy like just go confess and they do the pastor says you're forgiven my child ours is TV joy right first confess it you don't need to confess how many times for myself it's like rationalizations again another tool and edit actively to her and the bigger the person the bigger the rationalizations are so you're saying is so easy i regret it's like really can i tell you how many times i've said something and I'm like a new nation who said that but if I tell her I'm sorry it's kind of going to make it a thing and it wasn't really a thing I said something stupid to her and I'm like I'm not going to apologize lyrics I'm going to pull it over just kind of like it does not make it a thing kind of rationalize where we deny that what actually happens the first I was like we do it you know I actually said I actually hurt my mom i assaulted my friend or i did that really stupid simulation have done correct has to regret it right the first step in 12-step is it is acknowledging what is Vito is a big part of what can I acknowledge but I'm acknowledging and verbalizing out loud that makes them real makes it tangible Caracas I regret it do it actually regret it I also have to assign to the very hard like do I really regret it well she kind of deserved it I feel bad guy said something me because I would kind of deserved it you know the amount of mean things that she says to me like okay so i made one supercontinent i'm giving an example speech plugging your own examples okay cartridge I really I really I really regret it I wish him and say that right or it's kind of like I'm happy I said it but like okay at least now it's like over with right like you want to get that in there as Viva Hank me I'm not as though I'm done okay right to be right behind in the red were several yes the very first test Alice all of the silence I wrote that he on the board what the haight was funny that work 80 hours who said Olivia my office totally silent why was the out of all of us represents a loop above our neshama the one the Goblin is part of us when we do afraid when we do a student are all of our neshama silent it's not really part of us it's that all of it is quiet however it's quite me I didn't listen can i grab yourself I listen to my message ello keep my godly card I'd listen to mine efforts have behind me the lower part of myself but the olive tree that Alex mean that's my name is shaman which means there's a part of me that can never be touched that's what we're saying my soul is pure when we do a faith that just means darkness trauma was climbing varnish Shamas always untouchable meaning whenever we sent this God really wanted to hear my pillow after I just did that right it's kind of soon look really i'm going to like dress like this or spillage just for just after i just did them answers well yes right they talk about pragnesh my god blew apart from something to us that's under sama why did I say that already but I have cake that success it means read the actual sent me I'm not going to do this again right which is that's a really hard thing to do really you're not going to do it again real chuva is a aiza process is to work does it mean we don't fall back but it means that we're actually doing the sort of your time so I'm not going to smoke again now I'm really awesome smoking in I'm not going to yell at my mom again I'm not going I'm not going to yell at my kids again really as you better say na can do again and then once it was the fourth step forgiving yourself as part of it what you said it hmm we're paying dead that's me master thank you Cabela haha chewed right I'm cabella Luca Bell Wright needs to receive to take people take cabela's upon themselves so Kabbalah achieve that feat is the future did you take something off for the future like night now let's put that let's put that in practice what can I put it to practice for myself there's something I'm going to take on for the future right again just moon won't mess up but the process I fear what you're saying how it can be and I do have to look at all sometimes but ok so I got done right you're not like to be your test a few times it's like wait let's get into this process let me tell that person personally like that confrontations usually the hardest part is they kind of forgot about it I found see anything it doesn't really exist like put it in that closet there well you never want everyone to open because the moment you open that closet everything to come piling down like stuff it and likes of the closet clothes so they're not going to remember leave it there i right but into opening this bag of worms so more than me to hire wants us to sin and wants us to feel bad for us and I wants us to get stuck into this cycle we have put into place of Rosh Hashanah every single ever I roast us on every snow year and Irish kodesh every single month what does rosh chodesh mean and no month right what does Roche literally mean the head right oculus frustration spiration in the beginning right Rosa means the head right what does kodesh means haha no right we're literally using your head to make something new ourselves we have that in to our cycle every single month we have Rosa shot into our cycle every single year right the rambam we said postions that when someone does too but they should change their name we don't do halacha cooling like that piece of change in it your new entity that's not me anymore that is so powerful right someone said yesterday she said she's just talking about her life and she's like and this is all my baggage I don't mind and could design their baggage right like we're just like we all have this guy just part of us it's like designer bags it's great and perfect and that's what makes me me okay so let's go on a one more one more point I want to make for just get on to nap now with the solution which is which is where does it need to have fun to ask you worthy to have tried to hurt the community as a whole which it was the biggest place it tries to hurt us politics oh you've been a little too long a veteran and there are people who will not discuss politics there are people in on this with it I didn't want to like get into like real arguments I know certain families who siblings do not tell each other who they voted for it gets pretty this is here and there also politics where would you create to have we said to spare anger anxiety these things go without saying depression if you ever experience it if it's hell right on earth present living hell where else we're going to be so much pain I'll give you a hint it has to do with Brangelina hmm no yes right if they just got divorced right now is no doors so what ya divorce so I was really soft in the half and other I think they deserve it and is divorces family and the family setting because that has the potential to be so beautifully explosive firework v8 the hard drive the hardest at home and the places where there can be the most beautiful harmony where there can be such incredible literally what does it need to have a child it means you are being God like you cannot get the only other way to be a creator is to create yourself right that's what we're all doing we do chua how do i be godlike what's one word how would you describe God he's nice he's kind shiki whatever Reggie's bestow and goodness got the Creator he created everything pretty geisha me ain't something from nothing how do i be godlike i become a creator myself how do I become a created myself i recreate myself that's what we're doing i represent i am recreating myself to have a baby means i am literally creating a human being the moment in the hospital where all the sun is you and your husband or the husband and the wife and the doctor awesome is that there's a for human being in the room with it if not eat it it's not a normal thing have a friend who walsh used to choose working with the type of doctor and while she was in labor and this happened to be an atheist and while she was in labor she told me with her own math I wouldn't repeat this issue and tells me myself Walsh was in labor and just pushing the baby just like doctors know it so how do you not believe in God knows like did you really say that we were thinking with your pushing the baby out oh yes those with religion I think I love the Jewish nation ray so when tile work is unbelievable but what happened instead what happened instead so there's this friction and there's morning sickness and babies are hard or or living with someone who I didn't know you were like this before when we were dating right well guess what God hid that from you on purpose so you marry this person but if you will be together because your souls have a whole journey to go through right the home had a happy home is literally a happy life right you can send your children schools impact the child of course they do but if the home is stable and secure and safe the child will be stable safe and secure usually right and that's what ISA hard tried the most the divorce rate is over sixty percent you know that means six out of ten people will get divorced the tragedy the tragedy I know that's me set it up in America's Pacific in America but that the Jewish community it's a little bit less the Jewish communities not lasting divorces either the Orthodox world it's not lasting divorces either it's definitely lower but I'm quite different okay so the last part so how do we feel with it then [Music]