The Halachos of Yom Kippur with Harav Yosef Yeshaya Braun - 5786

Okay, some technical difficulties. We can start now. May this be indeed a true all the people that are sitting and learning learning there'll be a true um for all of us. Before we move on to Imm Kipper, the day before Kipperish is also a special day on the Jewish calendar, not very very well known, but the day ofish is the day of refer to as in the communities where they say during there's a special called and that is said on this day. The relevance for us of of this particular day is that people didn't say there's a unique thing if people didn't have a chance to say there's a special thing specifically on the day of the day of so putting that out there. The day after is from until we don't say and so all matters of not said from that day onwards that includes also shalom The night of kip, we will not say um at that night is a busy night. Some people, sorry, rephrase that. We say, but we don't say just give me one second. I'm trying to fix something on the screen over here. Give me a sec. Sorry, there was just a technical thing on the computer. We can proceed now. So, I was saying before we don't say, you didn't miss much. We don't say from until after the second etc which includes therish the night of kipper already starts kipper and therefore we say without vid a shortrish some people won't be going to sleep that night because of kaparas but some people will be going to sleep and if you are going to sleep and you're waking up to do kaparatus early in the morning so you can't Before you do kapar, you're supposed to say first besides but specifically is supposed to be said once a person went to sleep and they woke up after midnight. They must say during kaparas we say sukum. So is important to say before we say sukum. Talking about caparas. So there's a male chicken and a female chick. There's a male male rooster hen for men and women. Now sometimes people joke around about this that often they don't know the difference. you don't know the difference. The people that are giving you kaparatas don't know the difference. And sometimes people are worried about the maybe they mixed up and they used a man one for a woman and a woman for a man. So strictly speaking if you it's not really a problem. You don't have to redo kaparus if that's the case. As long as that was your intention even if you even though technically you might have gotten it wrong. Kaparus is done with chickens if not possible. People who don't have chickens could use other living creatures. For example fish is commonly used. And if that's not possible, money could also be used. Just instead of saying, we'll say of people using money, we'll say this money will go to this duck. When it comes to a woman that's expecting, so if she doesn't know the gender of the child, we take the meaning is we take three chickens. Two female, one male. two female, one for the mother, one for the baby if the baby is a girl and one male if the baby is a boy. Why the baby needs a has a whole that we're not going to go into that right now. The is done differently. Instead of saying for a man or for a woman, it's in plural. Now, you don't have to do all three together. That is one possibility that's commonly done. You could do all three one after another. If you do all three one after another then you won't say aloo then you say z or zo depending on what it is a woman that's expecting that means if it's after 40 days from the mikvah that's called expecting anything before 40 days is not considered expecting in this context and therefore she doesn't have to worry about doing the kaparus afterwards even though our customs we don't publicize um that a woman is expecting until the fifth month but kaparus is normally done it could be done at three different shifts you don't want people to know whatever whatever solutions you have that people shouldn't about it. Now if person can't do kaparus early in the morning the night of kipper there are other options. was going through the options when to do kaparas the first priority of course is kipper early in the morning or if that cannot be done any time the night of kiper the day of kiper I just don't know if there's any available anymore if once there any morning if that can't be done it could be done on the day of yesterday like we mentioned earlier the day of and if that can be done any time in the closer the better if the person's choice is to do chickens before kipper or money on kipper. It's better to do chickens before kipper. But the way we do the kapar is we take the chicken and the rooster we take it in our right hand unless we're talking about a lefty and there's that we say until then we say and we do this procedure three times and when we say the word we turn the chicken around counterclockwise around the head three times. So a total of chickens will be turned around nine times. These sukim should not be said or if we're going to make a we'll talk about that in a moment. These should not be said in a place where there's a a ne not a good odor smell from the chickens. You're not understand the way the smells. You're not within four hours of the smell. So move away. Now when many people stand online for kaparatas, often people hold up the chicken and they're waiting online. Now it's possible that one chicken will be seeing how another chicken is being slaughtered as being. Now besides for the issue that could create problem in terms of that can affect the lungs. If it's important to stand with a distance from the while you're holding your chicken in line. So the chicken should not see the hold the chicken softly. Be careful how you hold it cuz you can make the chicken into a if a chicken falls then immediately tell the do not hold a chicken in with the wings cuz that could also cause a problem of we mentioned before about doing kafar and turning it around your head. Some people are very uncomfortable with doing that and they take gloves. It's not so respectful for the mitzvah but that that's manageable. Some of women asked their husbands to take the chicken and surround it around over their head and that's fine. However, if the wife is a nida, then it should not be done. A husband should not be doing it to unless he's really holding it very very high at a distance that is no chance that it will touch her. There's a mitzvah called which we normally don't have an opportunity. That mitzvah that's to cover the blood of an of a bird and that is a mitzvah for the has the right to honor people that are doing and honor them with but you need to know what you're doing cuz otherwise you might be making a and not fulfilling the mitzvah. He could honor men. He could even honor women although it's not commonly done. Cannot honor children and that includes even someone who's bitzvah unless he has already a full beard, two pubic hairs, etc. only then it can be because this is the mitzvah it's appropriate to pay the and while I'm mentioning that I should mention that the work very very hard and this is an opportunity to pay them and express our appreciation for what they do and especially during kapad are the center of the of the of the heart of the city told are the head are the heart they they keep up the cash they make sure the things are done properly if we look at the and they describe the mile We maybe would pay them much more than we normally pay them and often they're surviving on these tips are very important for them and we don't them to be stressed out about financial matters while they're doing the should be done properly. There's a made and when you cover the blood you're supposed to do it with your hands this time you're not supposed to be using gloves it's not when it comes to when it comes to it has to be done with your hand without gloves without um you're supposed to do it in a way that that all the all the sides of the blood are covered. You don't have to cover the entire blood but wherever you're covering has to be covered all around from all sides. Now then we take after we do the kaparus then we redeem the kaparus with money and we give the money to we have to understand the kaparas there is something special about the kaparas there is something special about the but the kapara happens primarily by thinking about the fact that kaparas is awakening us a person's supposed to be thinking that's the idea of carbonus in general that the person really was deserving of death penalty and whatever happens to the chicken should have happened to and then he'll do and as part of the will give and the seduck that we give to the poor people that is what the mitz is all about some of the places they sell the kaparas for an enormous amount of money and that's your full seduck it's much more than the chicken plus the plus everything is worth so the is right there however the people that are getting free kaparas or cost price are not accomplishing the goal of sodaka so they should be adding that sodaka on top of that on that note If people want to use micer money for kaparatus, that doesn't make much sense either. Again, unless they're accomplishing if it's if the the place that's selling kaparatus is charging a large amount much more than the regular amount than the cost price with and all of that. So the extra money you want to use but you still have to make sure you give a mitzvah to eat applies by night also but certainly by day there's a mitzvah to eat and certainly one is not allow fast brings one should eat the amount that one eats over two days that doesn't mean you should stuff yourself with food but it's a it's a mitzah to eat a lot and the brings that he so there were people that were careful the whole year when they ate they only used one hand while they were eating not to be involved in eating when we have actually a mitzvah to eat whatever we eat with they would eat with two hands. There's a meaning to go to the mikvah on three times. There's a to go to that's brought and it's an important mikvah more than any other mikvah. But there's a meaning to do it three times. One of those times is already in the morning before shak and some do it even early before kaparus. Ding is not a long ding. It's a busy day. So it's not a long ding. Besides the we mention we don't say we also don't say because there was no carbon because there's not enough time to eat to finish all the all the breads. Normally you have to give enough time to be able to finish eating everything that comes along with the but it's not enough time because the next day is going to be there's no time to eat. The meaning is to ask for the wish everybody was an opportunity to to get the fromb which is which which the of is number one that we need to get some from a person will be but the rebb explains the deepest significance when we get to we understand that this everything that we're getting is coming from the so it's not that we're getting it from a person we're getting from the shows that everything we get throughout the year will be coming from the and of course we understood that when we got from we got from There's two sudas that are eaten at least two. One is before midday in the we're told breaks up the whole entire the first half of the day is a happy time. It's yumptive. The second half becomes serious is that breaking middle. So the first sud is eaten before we dip the kal in honey. We eat fish and we eat a proper meal. In this meal and for that matter even breakfast any other time of the day. We're particular. We only eat foods that are easy to digest. We don't eat meat, only chicken or fish. We don't eat sesame. We don't eat foods that are known to create um riera potential semen like garlic and eggs. Milk and butter. We we could eat in the morning, but we can't eat in the later meal of the meal, which is be before the fast. So, if somebody wants to have a coffee in the morning, that's fine. But the regular omelette that they have in the morning, that's not acceptable. After we finish this first meal comes malus malus to do malus before the second mikvah and then following that mikvah and the order is malus is like and mikvah is like there's an order how to do malcus must be facing north we we lean we kneel on our knees we say the vur three times etc. And then comes the mikvah as we mentioned earlier and we're very particular this mikvah has two reasons it's done for to remove any type of there's also mikvah because of to do and at least we three times at least during this mikvah there's also meaning to actually go to the mikvah three times but I'm talking about the is three dips and we're careful there shouldn't be any we wash ourselves very well it's a proper mikvah like ladies are very particular in general and talking about ladies girls do not go to the mikvah A widow does not go to the mikvah. Divorce does not go to the mikvah. Varman then in general they should never go to the mikvah. A married woman could go to the mikvah. Some places have the custom that married women do not go to the mikvah. Some places the custom is they do go that matter of custom there. I don't know of any particular kabat custom. A lot of kabat that women have a tradition in their family that even though the brings the meaning for women to go to the mikvah family tradition of people did not go to the mikvah. Whatever the custom is that's fine. If a woman is a nida, she should not go to the mikvah until after the days of nid are over. And women that are expecting to often do not go because it might not necessarily be safe. Before mik we give a lot of said that from the noise of the coins banging on the plates that breaks all the clippus. It's not about making noise. It's about giving. But the giving accomplishes those extra side goals. And this we say we have a length with a proper and is when we say vid that's a general rule but every time we're going to be saying vid which can be saying a number of times over and for that matter anytime a person says vid is supposed to be set standing and you're not even supposed to lean if you're leaning in such a way that if the item is the standard that's in front of you the bench that's in front of you the table that's in front of you the bea that's in front of you whatever it is if somebody moves it you could fall then it's not considered standing So every time we say v we got to be careful we're supposed to be standing atones for if we do and atones for that we did but there's also where a person has committed a sin against someone else and does not help for that unless a person asks forgiveness. So you have to think about the people that you've wronged and ask them whether you wronged them in action or with words. You're supposed to tell the person what you did against them unless you think the person will be embarrassed. There's not you need to go ask from everybody under the sun. You can do that. Some people often do is they go ask from the people they don't need to but the people that do need to ask they don't approach. So the idea is to ask from people that you potentially wronged. And after ma comes again we eat at least we should eat the size of otherwise you can't make and dip it in honey with particular during this meal not to eat salty foods and the reason for that is the simple reason is to make sure we stay hydrated during the fast the meaning of many places that this meal specifically we don't eat fish only in the first meal and certainly no milk no things that heat up the No spicy foods. All of that is not acceptable. There was a meaning. There's a meaning that it says that we eat three times soup on Kipper. So the Reb says that the didn't have time to eat three plates of soup on Kipper. So what he did was he had one bowl and then they added a tiny bit. That's considered a second bowl. And then they added a tiny bit more. And he took another spoon. That's considered a third bowl. In the soup, we also have crep. Some people already have krep on the first meal. Some people love the Krel so much they have in the first meal and the second meal and a month too. That's fine. The creep are filled with meat which is a problem that we're not supposed to be eating meat on. So there's two approaches to that. One is that people there's an argument that if it's a very small amount the way it's in the it's primarily dough. It's not a big issue that we're eating meat and some people actually make out of chicken. That's a question for the balabusters. whatever they accepted from the their mother and their mother-in-laws that's what's supposed to happen after the sudamkus we're not supposed to be eating if we want to eat after the sudamkus we're supposed to make a special stipulation that I want to eat and drink after the sudu because it's assumed they accepting the fast but even if a person didn't make this stipulation there's still allow to eat but the right thing is to make a stipulation that you want and drink and eat after the fast now there's another mikvah time that some people in particular they go again to the mikvah right before to go straight into but you got to be careful it's not too close to because one of the things you now do is to wash and bathe yourself and as holy as it is it doesn't become holy when it involves potentially those who want to prepare food for now is a good time to do it set things up because you're not supposed to set up foods on so you can do that and take care of that we're supposed to supposed to have dress approp appropriately. Make sure there's proper tablecloths in the house on the table. Even though we're not eating in the house, but a proper y, your dining room should be set up properly for y in honor of that's all part of the special that we lighter. In addition to the regular mitzvah of we make for the women and girls but in addition to that special that are lit is called the healthy or leig living and that's for married people one candle per family single people don't do this somebody that wasn't married is currently an alman they could continue lighting that that's fine an alman or an alman but a married person lights a leick and the custom to take that lick and bring it to so it's a mitzvah that now becomes a mitzvah that we helping illuminate the people that have a parent that passed away. So even those who don't light normally or whatever it is only on yard sites but there's a mini that's brought in for parents have passed away people whether one per parent or one for two parents that's um a common custom is to light per parent in addition to all of this it's very important to take into account that we need to have a candle for now those and the parents are alive and the only lighting to have no candles at home. We need to have a candle that was burning from. So for someone who lights doesn't light any candles at home, they need to set up a candle. So they should have some that was burning from even those who are lighting which is the is at home. The has a problem too because the is you can only make on a candle which is made to illuminate and not for the is made for the you cannot make a day for people that passed away for their honor that's done and the same thing applies that's done for in so one solution that people do is what people used to do at least is they have the candles that are lit in the shul. In the olden days, there was no lights in the sh. They had candles in the sh and they would take those candles from the sh but that candle was for the cover of theis it's burning. So on they went and added another candle. So the candle of the wasn't good enough because it was covered. It wasn't to light. So we add another candle. The second candle is not good enough cuz it's not the actual candle that was burning the kibble. With both together, it's definitely better. Why does both together help? All the can ask this question. How does it help? You're supposed to ideally make a on a candle that was burning from Kipper. If you don't have a candle that's burned from Kipper, you can have a candle lit from a candle, but that's not ideal. Ideally, you're supposed to make a bra directly on a candle that was lit from Kipper. And the shul candle or in our case the nama candle is not good enough because it was lit for. So we do both together. So how does up two times zero? Okay. So there's a lot of answers to that. Although ideally say to avoid any problems it's best to take a special candle. Certainly people don't have at home for sure they should do that. But even people who do have an at home should in addition to that have a separate candle for Abdullah not going to any shas. And one of the reasons for that also is say that nowadays things are much worse than the time of the time of the one of theatum to use a was that people davened to the light of a candle. Nowadays nobody's ding to the light of those candles. It's we have electricity at home we don't use it for ding we don't use it for ding. So it's purely only mamish covered and therefore the ideal thing is to have an extra separate calendar that we all days as brought in many many talking about I want to move on talk about benching the regular that we the women and girls have to bench that should be done 80 minutes at least 80 minutes before and we make and of those candles are supposed to be burning when you come from if you light candles and you go to shul and then you come home, there's no candles. The candles didn't accomplish anything. You didn't even have any benefit from the candles. So unless people are staying home and they're enjoying right away the candles, make sure the candles are still burning when you come home. Candles now, there's supposed to be light in the house, including in bedrooms. That applies by for that matter for Shabas. So there's supposed to be light lit in every single room. Even in bedrooms, you're supposed to have light on Shabas on especially. Now, that doesn't mean you have to sleep with a light on. You can have a light in a room nearby and when you close the door, when you're sleeping, you don't need to have light when you're sleeping. You need to make sure when you get into the room, it's safe or you can have a Shabas lamp where you when you go to sleep, you push it in in a way that's acceptable on Shabas. And that's fine. But you're supposed to have a light in your room on you have to have illumination in your room on for Shabas and especially for various reasons. We put on a ken married men put on a k unless they got married that year. But we're careful that if person goes to the bathroom they take off the kitt because that's a garment specially for deting. Same for that matter by the way a gartle. You're not supposed to go into into a bathroom with a gartle with a talis and as mentioned now also with a k. We also put on a talis. The talis is supposed to be put on before sunset. In order to make a braha, you can only make a talis if you put on before sunset. Some people are rushing a lot on and it's getting very very late and they end up putting up the talis after sunset. In such a case they should not make a when they put on their talis. So try to do things early in advance. stop all the things they now doing in kipper. You have to stop when it's still daytime before sunset. No more eating. None of all the five afflictions which we'll talk about momentarily at least from the moment of and really we should try doing it earlier. Women take upon themselves even earlier the fasting and all the afflictions already from the time of check your pockets especially people that wore big meaning to wear big. And they might have stuff in their pockets on carrying and have etc. And before we go to a meaning of benching the children and specifically right before the last moments before the meaning is to bench using the etc. As we say in the morning for some communities have the custom that mother's bench also it'se especially in German communities but in many communities it's only the fathers of bench and not the mothers when you seen it's about to become bes it's about to become sunset then it's a mitzvah to say vid mitzvah vid applies to men and to women equally it's not and many don't have this vid printed in the some do have it but it's important to say vid another type of vid according to the prime Primary mitzvah of vidi is not and not later by maid is right before sunset. So the minute comes in there won't be even a chance to sin cuz you finish vidi right as comes in a lot of people in the hustle bustle of so many things happen forget about this is just pointing that out over here like I said it applies to women as well other than any other accord to all opinions to add to add when it's still weekday and make it holy at least on the moment of accord if you start from you could still it's still considered adding some people have heard of this myth. It's not a myth. It's true but it's abused that is something called and there's a real which is a few moments after the visible but that real doesn't accomplish help you much cuz you're supposed to accept and all opinions maintain already from the so the fact they have a few extra minutes is not that you should do till then I'm talking about even men that don't mention so it's a there's people that are rushing still the last minute and unfortunately they're wearing shoes, leather shoes or other things. He's supposed to stop earlier and accept earlier talking about the the five is five things that are on eating and drinking according to all of you not to eat and drink even a tiny bit. You're allowed to touch food. We train children that are nine or 10 years old, depending on how healthy they are, to start fasting hours. Each year, we add another hour, a bit late in the day when they normally eat. And normally, we try to train them to fast at night, at least at night. They shouldn't eat at night. Under the age of nine, there's no reason to afflict a child and we actually don't let them fast if they're under the age of nine. Some people are particular not to give sweets to children. the common customers that were not mak about that the is different than other fasters and it's okay to give them sweets people that for them to fast allow to eat and drink using I'm not going to go through the details about I will point out that we get a lot of questions about people eating drinking whether people that are not that it's are in a state of sak and sometimes we got people about people that are expecting or nursing or about to give birth or gave birth and in order to to minimize the amount is on the website ask.com on top of the page it's pinned to the top of the page all the questions of that and almost all the details of the are there don't bother calling up until you read that first and most questions are are are dealt with over there under normal circumstances women that are expecting or nursing are supposed to be fasting and this particular is people who are not fasting benching we're not going to deal with that over right Smelling is acceptable on In fact, it's a mitzvah to smell. It's a good idea to smell because we're missing our bra. We're supposed to have 100. So eating and drinking, you're not allowed to. But smelling is fine. You're adding every time you smell, you're adding to the mayas. We'll talk more about that later. Another one of the five afflictions is washing. Cold water, hot water, even putting your finger into water even a tiny bit even just to remove sweat. You're not allowed to do that on your kipper. What do you do in the morning when you wake up? You wash three times only until your knuckles. You make until you don't add more than you need to add. If you feel that your eyes are a bit drowy from sleeping and you need to remove all the sleep stuff. So after you wiped your hands on the towel, you can move the towel over your eyes. If there's a part of your body that's dirty and has actual physical dirt on it, you only wash the dirty area. If person touch covered areas of their body, they wash the hands till the knuckles. When when they go to the bathroom, they should make sure to touch a covered area and then they could wash their hands properly unless they're before then they can wash their hands coming out of the bathroom even without touching covered areas of the body. But to washing if a person didn't go to the half go to the bathroom not then even though people often wash before diving because of the severity of we don't wash before diving like that. Anointing is another one of the five afflictions. Now they use oil or creams anything like that even to even if there's dirt or whatever it is you think it'll help you there's special for medical purposes but that follows a regular rules of shabas and of shmearing and doing and is no different than that shoes leather shoes are covered with leather too now when we talk about shoes many people ask about sneakers or Crocs or slippers which don't have a back and they want to know if there if the place where there's no adive if you're allowed to wear such kind of slippers and Crocs the answer is if they are sitting well on you and they don't fall off your feet you're allowed to wear them that's not a problem however crocs have a strap in the back now sometimes those straps rip and it's only connected on one side so carrying wearing it like that on shabas or yv kipper It's not y sorry shabas kipper in a place where there's no it could be a problem. If you're not planning to fix it then it's fine it's considered part of the garment part of the shoe and everything is fine and you're not planning to do anything with that strap. But if you're planning to fix the strap then really you shouldn't be wearing such crocs but you really shouldn't be wearing such crocs on. And lastly for the fifth affliction intimate relations is forbidden one of the five afflictions and married couples keep all regular night and day. Some people have a custom that they don't wear gold jewelry. It's a matter of customs. Some people have a custom in general they don't wear jewelry as they wear in every other because of these all customs. Children you not you should not put on shoes to children. You shouldn't wash them and anoint them because of the mitzvah of of moving on to the sed of we come to shul and this etc. The part of the isanu. The way shakyanu works is the cousin says loud. We say along with the and we make sure to finish our before the finish. So we should be able to answer a woman that bench and said should not say again. It's a theb writes it's a mitzvah to publicize this that should not be recited again. Men who are lighting candles their custom is that they say the not during candle lighting but they say it in the meaning of saying candle lighting is particularly a woman's custom. We have the regular maid with all those details of of ming with the one difference that we say and loud, men say it loud and women say it loud also. And the same when it comes to we'll be saying loud. It's a short when a person goes to sleep they should make sure they don't cover their feet and not not in a state of not overly warm. not to have not order that a person shouldn't have nocturnal emission when they're sleeping. The next one people wake up we mentioned already earlier they don't wash their full hands only to their knuckles and you should have in mind you don't want to have you're not doing in order to benefit and enjoy the washing in the we miss out of because we're not wearing leather shoes so we don't say that until the next day the first time we say it again it's important to make sure not to miss ourselves any day of the here in Over here in Crown Heights, New York, Brooklyn, it's 9:47 approximately and because people are fasting and tired and exhausted just be conscious of that viol especially on such a holy day like and we have the regular Ding of Yipper. We mentioned earlier that part of the problem is we don't have enough of the hundas that we say every single day. One of the ways to make up for that is to listen carefully to the braas of the people getting alra. There's six al on your kipper. Every one of those people are going to be making two brahas. And then is a person who's going to be saying half to is going to say one brah before and a couple brahas after. It gives you quite a few braas. But even so, but that's not the same as making your own bra. So you should try as much as you can to make a braim as we mentioned earlier in order to fulfill the mayus. If you smelled basim and then you forgot about the completely you sorry you're not smelling anymore and then later you change your mind you want to smell again you can make again a braha otherwise you can't just keep making again and again if however a couple of hours have passed or a person slept or a person left completely the area went to do something else or a new basis arrived or a different type of basis for example Before there is now it's so these are the case we can make another and that can be done during ding well in areas we allow when during the break etc part of the ding after comes ykar does not have to be said with a minis could be could be said privately also it's important to mentioning that the purpose of ykar is to atone for the people that passed away now how do we say yizkar for people that passed away people can have a kap while they're alive. People that are not alive, how do we have a kap for them? So it's brought it's called in plural. It's a kap and it's even for people that passed away. How does that work? Because when we pledge when we say we pledge to duck and that's helps for the people that passed away because we know if they would be alive they would also give to dakah. So the most a a a one of the most important things of the iska is not the iska is the pledge and even more important than the pledge is actually paying up the pledge after that's very very important some people had a meaning they wouldn't eat breakfast on the day after the day after until they actually paid up their pledge in order not to miss out not to do that of delaying paying pledges like I said that's a fundamental part of further Early in the day we have the regular ding we have musf there's normally a break between mah and sometimes people take off their talis if they take over the talis goes into a question if they make a new not make a if a few hours have passed they can make a new without a problem some often people are extremely tired and during the break they could fall asleep now they might fall asleep and miss so obviously make sure you don't want that to happen to you on the day like in if that did happen to someone and say and you dive in two of normally we d the next when a person misses out they d the next twice they can't make it up at is not part of the of the of the system so if a person forgot they make it up with two person fell asleep and that's happened to quite a few people and they woke up close to almost to nightfall and now they don't know if they should have or they might miss the time of if they have a mka they'll let them takes priority once it's nightfall cannot be ded anymore and you cannot make up through ding. So she says there is no nila. Nil is diving close to sunset close to the beginning of when sunset happens about 10 20 minutes half an hour early is when we can start when the sun is still on top of the trees and we continue the there's two sh continue until sunset the common custom is we continue until night and that is the time when is the time of the when things are finally sealed that's when we have to ask for if you don't ask for then then when else we ask and therefore We we do we say the ding is totally different. We d proper we say the word is sealing us etc. Some people have a custom the whole entire standing after all our open the entire we finish we say the special we have in mind etc and ding is over. Now after the blowing of the we say pit haktoidus this is a general thing good to know that pitbtois in general is supposed to be said properly not supposed to miss out one any one of the seven of the 11us so right and people say they saw the doing this he's supposed to count each the 11 count them with their fingers not to miss it out the brings the meaning to say from a from a paper not pen or why am I mentioning this over here in regard to nila cuz it said that it's important not to say pitm is fast when a person is rushing and often after people for some odd reason are rushing to maid and for some odd reason they're rushing might have to get to after the once spoke about this idea that people are rushing at might have time the said that you just you finished you announced you did it such such a great such a high level. Where's the rush to go eat? You're supposed to be on situation at the end of you don't think about eating. Why are you eating? Because a mitzvah to eat but not because of the food. So it's really not a good time to rush. So getting back to the idea, it's important to make sure you say properly because people are rushing. There's also current hour meaning we say the entire until after and right after we finish off another nine chapters of those nine chapters until many there are people that are rushing and people want to dive properly. So if you're going to be saying those you might miss the minion for so in some places there many but other places there's not many once you answered you're not even allowed to talk it's considered that you started the minion so here there's a challenge do I say and then I'll be stuck both in terms of and I just started answer I'm starting so ideally they should say slower the shs alternatively Say the earlier finish before everybody else and say take your time and imagine if somebody would be they would finish earlier you finish even at sunset finish and then later be able to with a minion even when it's at the time of the fast is over here at 7:17 you're not going to do any until you say or if you say however All the other afflictions such as except for eating such as washing, anointing, shoes, the minute is over and it was already a bit extra time a minute or two after the time is over you put on your shoes. eating. You can't eat until before we say and before we make to wash our hands three times the way we wash in the morning but full hand this time we wash our face we wash our mouth and we make the is is includes it includes and includes the ofd that even though other times could hear from someone else to make themselves a lot of people the other way around the to make but from we heard this idea of making your own now normally on a mat shabas if you don't have fire you don't have fire you don't have to look after to have fire if you have it you have it you don't have you don't have it kipper they that say it's a special of abd separated this day from any other that today they would not allow a light of fire on every be allowed to light fire on this we're not allowed to light a fire this is part of almost like part of Abdullah if you have to da make sure you have fire and what kind of fire as we mentioned earlier a candle that did not do over the entire in other words was lit on no was done to it shows the holiness of this day that is of yimra Now we allowed to take a candle that was lit on and light another candle from it but to correct things to be to make a directly on the original provided it was made as we mentioned and not so if you don't have a special candle that was lit for the purpose of Abdullah you could take a yardite candle that's in your house whatever it is and light another candle from it and make them both If women are waiting for their husbands and their husbands are not home or someone who's doesn't have a husband, they allow to make a woman is allowed to make themselves. They can make abda on grape juice. They can make even on Medina on a local beverage such as coffee or tea. If for whatever reason they don't know how to make abdah, they can meanwhile drink water before according to allow to drink. It's how many we don't drink water before. But according to he allowed to. So if they're stuck and they're waiting for someone to make abd and they can't make abdul themselves for whatever reason they can't even do coffee or tea they can drink water and if it's really necessary they can even drink selzer and mish if you pressured you can have tea or coffee without sugar without milk. A man who already heard and was abdah or made cannot make for a woman. So while we said that woman can make abdah themselves a man could make abdah for woman but not if the man was already. If a man wants to make Abdul for his wife and he is inul, he should have in mind that he's not being abdul. And if he's not being abdul, he won't be able to eat till he gets home. Big deal. So it'll be another 10 15 minutes in order that your wife should be able to hear Abdul. It's definitely worth that. Um after abd comes one of the mitzvah that we do on if we're able to right away and he's a bas heavenly voice that comes out and says go eat your bread with happiness we eat we rejoice it's a yumptive we we fast up we break our fast with a proper in a broad manner it's it's written that this is a school for it's in itself is a good thing but also has schools attached to it we dip our kala in honey etc. And this comes now the special even though on the one hand it's a very that's the ultimate revelation of the we had comes down into that was revealed we went to the highest levels and now it comes down all the way through our physical teeth and our digestion system our totally permeated with the level of this will be the way it will be when comes around when we'll get a sustenance from the body and tap matim when is when we reach that madria Yeah, when we finish our um our right away we should try to go straight into a mitzvah. So it says that we should be in the mitzvah of a lot of people most particular da to actually build a suka then but at least we talk about the suka we learn about and that's how we accomplish what we accomplish. It's important to realize that the ch that we accomplished on kiper should not be just dissipate like that after kipper. All the people that we apologize to, we shouldn't tell them that we're back to the way it was before and the same within ourselves relates to he asked what happens now the day after he says now we only start doing cha because now is a much higher level of cha after the cha that happens in the four days corresponding to the four letters of Hashem's name between and the next day after is called and it's a holy day it's one of the days that we're supposed to wake up early to come to shul early. There's five days in the year that we're supposed to come extra early to shul at least even a couple of minutes early and and one of those days is the day after we're not supposed to push off the mitzvah building the we didn't do the night after at least the next day we shouldn't push off the mitzvah mitzvah after ding the day after go and build right away now of y of to make a person supposed to make himself happy his family his wife his children and part of that mitzvah for a woman is to buy them clothing and jewelry that's a mitzvah on yumptv is one of those. So now that is over, it's time to people to think about buying clothing and jewelry that just as there's a only difference could be with someone else's the first day and the second thing is you need to get it from someone else as a present in order to return because it's supposed to be yours. So you can give it to you as a gift, conditional gift that you're going to return it. But you cannot give jewelry to your wife by borrowing from someone else. that won't work. It won't definitely won't cause as is. So if you have a choice between the two, you might want to think of doing the mitzvah of it doesn't have to be most expensive jewelry and the most expensive clothing. These days we don't know which one is more expensive and lul or clothing and jewelry but just putting that out there. And these are days that were it says med tells that all Eden are involved in mitz between and they have no time to sin. They're busy buying and they're busy building and it's these are days of in fact these were the days that in time of that's part of the reason that we don't say also after so all our listeners and entire and cold