The Impossible Commandment: Love Every Jew - Rabbi Yaaqob Menashe

[Music] love every Jew I want to tell you I happen to agree it sounds like an impossible commandment impossible how can you love every Jew some Jews just get on your nerves some Jews do things to you that irritates you or upset you or that are bad for you and loving every Jew is a commandment but if there's an impossible commandment then surely we can do something about it maybe we can get a lot of signatures let's start tonight let's get everybody signed a petition and we will petition that kadosh morrow and tell them this is an impossible commandment merciful Father in Heaven how do you do that love every Jew of course we're talking about the very famous commandment of well I hope that how come oh hi you shall it's a Terron commandment you shall love your fellow man like yourself incidentally there is an opinion that it doesn't only apply to Jews that you will have to love the whole world like yourself doesn't matter who they are what they are the majority opinion is that it's referring to Jews but you know let's go with the the other opinion for a second that says it's everybody then how do we deal with that we got a lot of anti-semites in this world I don't know if you've noticed it reminds me of a joke I want to share with you there was a a bar somewhere in the south you know where there's a lot of anti-semitism and there was a man sitting in this bar obviously Jewish having a drink quietly the bar was packed packed from one end to the other and then the door opens and who walks in one of the best-known anti-semites of the region he walks in he sees this Jew over there with the drink in his hand he's very angry and a loud voice he says to the bartender bartender I want you to get a drink for everybody in this bar from one end to the other no exception doesn't matter what want to drink except for this dirty Jew so the bartender one drink after another after another a beer or whiskey whatever it was excuse me Jack Daniels screwdrivers or whatever they call him and everybody's drinking very happy he looks at the Jew to get his reaction the Jew just smiles at him and says thank you he's infuriated he wants the guy to shout in the scream what do you mean he's smiling at me saying thank you so he gets up again bartender another round of drinks for everybody of this bar from that into that and whatever they want to order it's on me I'm paying except for this stinky Jew he does it and then he turns to he says this time I got him and the Jews sitting there with his drink and he says smiling thank you he can't take this anymore he does it one more time same thing happens he goes to bartend he says bartender I'm insulted this Jew like you wouldn't believe and all he does is sit there smile and say thank you is there something wrong with him the bartender says no sir he's the owner of the barn all right as I said however the majority of people say that this commandment refers to how we deal with fellow Jews so that's really what I'm going to be concentrating on here tonight it says in the parish of Hashim and safer after those when you craft a lot of things a lot of Commandments of course the Torah is essentially Commandments it says I'm gonna read them to you some of them lothar sooo I will by mesh pod you shall not do something wrong like unrighteousness in judgment loaf itself in a down you shall not lift in other words respect the face of the poor we'll all to hit dollop in it at all and you shall not give honor to the face of someone who is big important they say dr. Spota me say ha you shall judge your fellow Jews with righteousness so this is already a little bit complicated and it gets more intense it says North America America you shall not say anything slanderous about your people los amo Adam Riva you shall not stand on the blood of your neighbor and God signs this uh near shame and then love is neither he huh bill by beckoned us is really ramping up you must not hate your brother in your heart not just that you openly don't hate him but in your heart you're not allowed to hate him Ohama theta you shall surely reproach your neighbor we love his son allow head and not allow him to sin on this account or not allow sin on his account and then it says as they say really ramping it up loss of home we lost it all you cannot take revenge you cannot Harbor a grudge I mean this is really difficult let me think about what the words are saying you can't take revenge somebody hurts you and harms you there's something wrong with you you can't get even I mean that isn't that how America works I don't get mad just good even know you can't get even but you can't even Harbor a grudge that means even in your heart you can't say the guy wouldn't lend me something I'm not gonna lend into something or whatever it is you just feel bad about what he's done to you you're not allowed to do that you're not allowed to in other words this repeats this one not revenge you're Harbor a grudge it's been a method to the your own people the sons of your people and then finally that pursue ends with uh-huh come over and God signs it Ania shame and you shall love your neighbor not only you can't Harbor a grudge not only you can't do bad things to them you have to love them like yourself I am the Lord I mean this is this is dynamite I don't know I don't know how you can do such a thing and I guess that's why we're sitting here today I was hoping I would be sitting down you'd all be standing up here and he's finding it to me but you came in before me and you sat down on the chairs that I was gonna sit on so I guess I'm gonna have to do the best that I can so it says embellish hide the regime why did the Torah why did the Torah forbid revenge or harboring grudges that's really the question why what is the purpose behind this commandment of don't take revenge and don't Harbor a grudge so Robina the Haida in DeBary maha deem based on the Kalia Cara and these are all being quoted in Bennish Heidi regime tells the story which I'll repeat to you in my own way he tells the story as follows there's a family on the beach you know what the beach is right the sand is the see there's this Sun this breeze there's a lot of people enjoying the the Sun and everything else so what are they doing each one is doing something different and the little boy of the family decides he's going to build a sandcastle that's a favorite pastime at the beach for little kids he's gonna build a sandcastle so he has his little bucket his little Spade and he's building it getting a little bit of water and he's building this sandcastles getting bigger and bigger and bigger till he has this beauty Sandcastle and he's so proud of this sandcastle which is there on the sand and is so proud of his handiwork along come is it comes his bigger brother and with with a sign of his hand you know one fell swoop boom he knocks down the sandcastle poor kid I agree with you the kid goes crying bawling his eyes out to his father [Music] now he's thinking to himself his father's gonna let his bigger brother have and he's gonna beat him till he's black and blue this is an old story today the kids are allowed to beat the parents not the other way around you know that I'm not telling you if you don't know so this is in the old days when the parents were allowed to beat their kids a little bit he's gonna beat them black and blue and he's gonna get what he deserves and what does the father do not much he tells him maybe you know you shouldn't have done that nothing doesn't do anything the kid the little kid is stunned what's going on here what he didn't understand is the father has a different outlook and understands the situation a lot better the kid only knows that he built this incredible sandcastle and what happened was that his brother came along and destroyed it but wait a minute what is a sandcastle sad Castle is almost certainly not gonna be standing again tomorrow a little bit of breeze a little bit of people on the beach walking up and down the sea comes in and goes over it there's no sandcastle any more sandcastle is not something that that you keep and you know and you live in or anything of this sort it's a temporary thing you built it it's a lot of fun maybe you think a picture of you standing next to it and that's it it's over it's gone so the father understood that and said what am I going to punish my older son for because he's knocked down the sand cast the sand castle is guess it's temporary to be knocked down and it will be knocked down so maybe it was a nice little right away but it's not a big deal sometimes it appears to us that the damage that somebody does to us is huge but that is because of our lack of understanding because we can't see past our own horizons what we have had destroyed is probably no more than the skins sandcastle now from this we can presumably understand why this sometimes we're so angry that we pray to our cottage bahu to let that guy have it God doesn't listen why should he he knows it's a sandcastle he knows that what was done to us maybe was not so good but he's not gonna destroy this person over a sandcastle was gonna be destroyed anyway it's like meaningless in this world so it's like us us crying to a college bar who's like the Sun crying to his father ha kadosh baruch has the clear picture and the clear understanding of what it really means so what the Kalia car is telling us is that God reacts this understanding and not with severe anger he understands the situation and just like the father didn't punish the older boy of Kadosh Baruch or may not punish the person who did this to you so so what he is saying is now we can understand perfectly why the Torah forbade revenge and grudges if we would step back for a moment I can't do that because then I lose the microphone but if we would step back for a moment and think about it we would understand that the matters of this world that upset us that get us worked up get us a jeté 'td it was so mad at this person for something they did to us maybe somebody in our family maybe our spouse maybe anybody we're so mad is nothing in a sand castle built by the boy it's nothing and when someone comes and causes harm or damage in this physical world whether it's emotional financial whatever it might be we need to understand that it's almost an irrelevant loss and nothing to get stressed over the Rambam Maimonides writes he says on going on well I've come off I love your fellow Jew as you love yourself he says the Rambam is of the opinion that this means that you have to love every single Jew exactly how you love yourself to the same extent and let's be honest we really really really love ourselves not everybody agrees with that but this is the opinion of the Rambam so he says therefore if that is the case we must praise others we have to care about their possessions about their money we have to just the kind of care we would take about our own we would have to take care of theirs we have to take care of their dignity and on the country we're told if anyone humiliates somebody else and he gets honor from humiliating him we're told he won't even have a portion in the world to come now as I say not everybody holds that you have to love each other like you love yourself there among for instance is one of those who says it's not possible Ruby Akiba of course said it's Kaluga dole bitola there is a very very major concept rule in the Torah that you have to love your neighbor as yourself so clearly from that it does sound the Ruby Fe buys of the opinion that it is something very essential and you do have to love each other like you love yourself however let's go to the Pasha of Bihar Senayan safer way across I'll comment or nation with our beat you shall take this is basically the commandment not to take any interest that you cannot charge interest to another Jew we Aretha male okay huh but you show fear your god we Hey aji huh a month what this is saying is that you have to return it to him so that he will be able to live with you we're gonna concentrate on these words where hey aji huh EEMA that he may be able to live with you since in the Gemara of baba metzia tells us the review Hanan says the interpretation is that your brother may live with you means that if two people are travelling on a journey let's say it's far from civilization they're not near anywhere whether there are stories that they can buy food and water maybe they're in the desert maybe there's miles and miles of desert I want you to know once I was flying over Saudi Arabia fortunately was just over and you look down from the window and for the longest time you just see desert and more desert and more desert and more desert I've no idea how much desert I saw I've never seen as this much desert in my life so I don't know where these people were I don't think they were in Saudi Arabia but anyway they're traveling on the journey they're far away from any built-up area and it's hot the Sun is melting down and it have no food or water except one of them has this plastic bottle of water that he got from the supermarket it doesn't say that in the Gemara these are my words okay so he's got this plastic bottle of water the problem with plastic is in the heat of the Sun you know the plastic is giving off chemicals and stuff but anyway they don't address that because maybe it was not made of plastic so now benfeitoria thought what did he say what are we going to do we have one bottle of water we got two people we got an incredibly hot Sun we're not close to civilization they get out there their smartphones and they see the nearest civilization is very very far away and they figure around because there's an app that figures this out that they're gonna need water but that one bottle of water is only good enough for one person it will not let two people survive and to their destination so now Ben Patera says in such a case it's better for both of them to drink and die all right that both of them should die that's better than having one person drink and say the other guy it's been a pleasure to see you after all you know I've come over you have to love the other person like yourself so if you're gonna love him like yourself I guess that's what you would do so that's what he says you have to share this model of water and you know you're both gonna die but at least share and share alike and that's what they held till one day Rubio Kiba came along and he said no this verse that says we're here i'ma that he may be able to live with you tells us that your life takes precedence over his from rib Akiba we learned that that is not the case the one who owns the baubles since they cannot both survive but if one person drinks he will survive and the other will die Arabia FEMA says the person holds the bottle he's the one and only him to drink not have both of you died and how do you learn this out because he says with you that means first of all you first of all you have to survive and then once you've survived you should do whatever you can to make him survive so according to this it sounds like it is not a question of no the Rambam has an explanation for that also which I'm not going into now but we have two schools of thought but according to the second school of thought it would what we've just heard it would sound like yes you do have to put yourself forward you have to take care of yourself and then once you've done that you have to take care of your neighbor I want to tell you a story because this whole concept of loving another person like you love yourself is it doable how do you do it how do you put it into practice so I want to tell you a story about Moran Mordecai Leon Shalom the Rishon LeZion former chief rabbi of Israel apart from all those things he was just a beautiful man he was a caring man there are books about him called ibn Shirley's a eventually a ser means the father of the Jewish people why because that's what he was he loved every Jew from the bottom of his heart and so there are these stories about him and so many so many stories and I want to tell you I myself I'm humbled that I deserve Huth to also be in his foreign mode and to also benefit from him this story was told by Rabbi beneath Yahoo it took place in the year of five seven four four so it was some years ago now Robert Mordecai Leo allah wa sallam was to give three lectures in the south of Israel and as we're very heavily advertised lectures far and wide and you know how they advertising is well they put up these huge posters and banners everywhere to say that they the Rishon LeZion is coming to town and everybody used to love to go and hear him speak and he was going to be speaking in three cities Liffey both stare off and oh him so on the appointed day they a bunch of them get into the car expecting to see these huge crowds awaiting him and he would speak the Wraith are I mean he was amazing at it there are many of his works published today which I would highly recommend to everybody and the the group went together included in the group was AHA me with a Mustafi and they headed out for the first stop of the three which was nifty both so there they were headed for this huge hall where Moran mahalia well our shallow was going to speak and that would of course be tons of cars and tons of people and the lights shining and everything else when they arrived at the appointed time they couldn't believe their eyes and was in total darkness not a car not a soul they don't know what to do they go out they look around try this door it's a lot try that door it's locked try another door it's locked suddenly they see a huge banner [Music] sure Roquemore the highly always cancelled yeah this goes back to the end of the car the others are still looking around to find some explanation to what happened and they found an explanation they were astonished they found flyers that a group of not so salubrious people had put out they spread the word that the Rishon LeZion but mother Holle ah who was unwell and would not be coming together Russia unfortunately the Land of Israel more than here you have this battle between different people which is very very sad because I'll speak about it in a minute so they were very very upset but Robert Haley I always say no I don't see in this the hand of man I see in this the hand of God an amazing person okay he said let's push on that's what they did to us in theythey both let's push on and now we're going to stare off hopefully there will have a huge crowd they go to stare oath they go to this big hall and wouldn't you know it they're greeted with the self same situation total darkness no cars no people just one big banner she all cancelled her mother Holly ah who is unwell now I would think at this point the others were saying okay they win we don't understand what's going on let's go back to your shoreline it's a long drive let's go back mother Holly Allah says what are you saying we have to go to a however small the possibility there's a possibility they didn't do this enough Hakeem it's a possibility people waiting there to hear a shooter ah he says this is my responsibility in life I have to undertake my work faithfully we cannot say we're turning back we have to go there what if there are people who are there to study Torah so they go to oh remember this is many years ago no cell phones to call ahead so they drive and when they arrive at their final destination and went to the hall surprise surprise the same sight greeted them darkness and no one and nothing the difference was there was a security guard there and he almost jumped he says they told us the show was cancelled while they were speaking they saw a woman running across the street to go to the Shu I guess she didn't get the the memo or the text or however they communicated in those days she's running running now listen let me ask you something barf a shame you're all here in numbers a lot of you are standing forgive me but could you imagine if somebody spread the word that there was no she all and one person showed up would you expect there to be a shoe of course not thank you for saying of course not we'd say look we're really sorry we don't know who did this we're very upset just like you are we're gonna reschedule it please come back that's the thing to do whatever up more than finally I'll go he tells the guys open the gate somebody came to study it around I have to give the shoe this is huge wall huge enormous ginormous hall and there's one woman sitting there and the crowd a few people that were with him they brought the security guard in I don't there were any other one or two people hanging around who were there and they said the morale more the high Elio spoke with passion he gave the full shield the whole lecture that he was going to give from beginning to end leaving nothing out as if he was talking to thousands of people the rabbi was telling the story said that he himself was astonished at the way the hum was giving over this class all right fast-forward some time later the rabbi was telling the story his brother-in-law was also a rabbi told him that he met a man who is was a bitumen person who had become about to Shabbat become religious it was not religious and become religious and what was the thing that made that man religious the man told him with great emotion and enthusiasm that the reason that he became religious returns to the Shabbat was that he was there that night when Moran wore the highly out spoke and when he saw how the haha behaved that night he said if the ham was willing to speak if the rabbi was willing to speak the way he did for just one woman then it must be that there is real truth in the Torah so this is the greatness of the man but it is also the level of loving a fellow Jew that a person can reach unfortunate like I was saying there is an additional difficulty in the Land of Israel and we should address that because Land of Israel is the Land of Israel if you have to know that the Land of Israel does not tolerate transgression by Jews the reason why - both Amick - two temples were destroyed is for sins the first one because of abode azar an idolatry but 70 72 years later we went back the second one was because of sin not Hunnam hating each other for no reason baseless hatred not loving your neighbor like yourself and for that since thousands of years of past that we're still not going back and we're told pulled down should not be the bug - me i volcano in a harem on every generation which is not witness the rebuilding of the base of of - it's as if it was destroyed in their day so that must mean if we don't have a bay the muck - in Israel we're not loving each other and time when the Jews sinned especially the land of Israel that were thrown out and this is at times what we had the victim of - the Holy Temple with the sacrifices to be an atonement for us nevertheless we were thrown out today this know this is not your Shama be new young Jerusalem today that we love to go to is not to rebuild Jerusalem it's not there yet that's what we still prank three times a day not prayers for the rebuilding of ciona of Zion of Jerusalem because it's not rebuilt so it's precarious we can't sit in the Land of Israel and there is a Torah commandment to love your neighbor like yourself and what do we see over there they're always shouting at each other sometimes I'm not seeing everybody and then some of them are the most beautiful people we know that but there is a problem there's certainly a problem between religious and non-religious but there's also problems within each of these groups and this story of what happened to here that some people decided they want to put out flyers to say this shirt is cancelled it's despicable I don't think it would have happened to you but we have to be extra careful in the Land of Israel because the Land of Israel doesn't tolerate this kind of behavior transgressing going against the Torah from Jews the cannot even the others it's a different story but the Jews it doesn't put up with them so we have to be very very careful I do want to tell you a story that is related to that of somebody I know he's a friend of mine he's a rabbis mainstream Blackadder Orthodox and he I don't like dealing with the stories he was telling me the story recently he has some friends his family is friendly with another family of Israelis who come periodically to America I don't know how they got together and they're friendly and they get on very well together now this family is not religious at all not at all so recently there were at his house they were visiting I guess on vacation or something and the wife said they're not religious the wife said to him oh you were off the dogs he was very startled yes she's going like this she says you may be muddled saying no no it's just you know regular yeshiva Orthodox and I'll tell you what was going on the husband understood the answer I tell me what was happening can I used to being able to talk to religious people and have a good conversation and a friendly conversation and the husband said he said his wife knows it's different this is America it's a very very sad thing and I would urge my Israeli brethren if they're here tonight or they're watching it on videos later on you have three beautiful sites to watch it on at least and they get spread to more later you've got to work together you've got to work together you've got to love each other loving each other does not mean you have to be the same of course I want everybody to religious be religious of course that's the way of course and we all have to find the path to Torah but if somebody is doing the wrong thing let's say your old brother and your family your sister was doing the wrong thing would you treat them like dirt or would the one who's doing the wrong thing chief the one who's doing the right thing like dirt no you would get on with each other say I'm a little embarrassed when you're talking to somebody else about them but you would treat each other with decency with with respect you would try to convince them both sides were trying to convince the other of their point of view whether the other one listens or not is secondary at this point but you get on with each other so I would want to to urge my Israeli brethren to adopt a different attitude it doesn't mean that we're doing it right here either but I think it's not quite as bad and I just want to tell you another little story connected with Israelis I know I know somebody actually my my family knows somebody who is involved with security at Ella and he was telling me a story which was fascinating he his job is to go all over the world but there's something going on in whatever this country then they fly him out there and he's there for two three weeks with security whatever so in one of these countries he said the pilot came to security and that came is I didn't realize that the pilots have to go through a lot of security and he also said it doesn't fully make sense because he says he's the pilot if he once he can bring the plane down I imagine they have safeguards but we've seen that happen I don't know like EgyptAir and others where they suspect it I don't know if that's exactly what happened they suspect that the pilot brought the plane down so he says a pilot comes to security and the girl was there for security it's checking his bags or whatever and he has a package and she system I need to know what's in this package he says I'm not telling you it's none of your business she says I'm sorry but I need to know what's in the package otherwise you know we can't let it through I will not tell you he's getting belligerent so she calls this guy Ron says Ron come here please so he comes he's like the manager over there and the pilot I mean he says this girl she's give me such a hard time what's the matter with it but my man and the pilot don't you know can't you see what he says that's fine this is what's in the package I'm not telling you it's personal this is I'm sorry but I need to know otherwise this bag cannot go on the aircraft so the bag doesn't go I'm not going it's fine you don't have to fly he told me something interesting which I didn't know he says there have to be three pilots on every flight pilot and co-pilot they have to be three of them he says ml has four he says so would have been okay if the guy didn't fly this is no tell me what's in it I can as firstly says I don't care what's in it he says it can be pornography that's your problem not mine he says I just want to know that it's not a danger to the plane I'm not telling you this is and you're not flying this is okay I'll tell you what's in it a snorkel he says you couldn't tell me that so when you go swimming under water and you have you can breathe you couldn't tell me that I said what's the problem he says I'll tell you the problem is that the allowed pilots not just hello were top-notch pilots in the Israeli Air Force the idea then when they finished with it they got jobs is effectively taxi drivers meaning they pick up passengers they go up in the air they bring them down they let him off and they pick up more passengers they go up in the air they bring him down he says they can't deal with it and he told me more stories about pilots all connected with this why am I telling you this story because we have to understand if we have a problem within ourselves about who we are and we're not happy with ourselves and who we are we cannot love another person in order to love another person you have to love yourself by that you don't mean you have to be arrogant if you're arrogant you've got no room for another person there's no one if you're arrogant for another person in your life but if you're arrogant if you don't have good self-esteem it's as simple as that a person who is truly good self-esteem can be very humble and if you're humble and you're happy with yourself then you can love the other person if you're not happy with yourself there's no one in the world you can love other than yourself and you don't really love yourself either sometimes in making peace with another person and getting on with another person the bigger of the two has to be the one to make the peace I want to tell you a story about the very holy Makabe cabarrus a comma and our Shalom he was in Baghdad and eventually he moved to the Land of Israel and there were amazing stories about him which is for another time amazing stories where Ruby Shimon bar Yohai himself came and dreams to the greatest Hamim in in Yerushalayim to tell him that he was coming and there was stuff that nobody knew that honey left I himself had never told anybody and they went to him they said we had this dream is it true and he was stunned because it was true just give you some back are at the age of 17 I'd heard the story from my father'll our shuttle but I read it again more recently at the agency team he was in the story I read said that he was the big mad rush of of Muhammad Allah saw me I know that he was in with a lot of half a meme and Abdullah Saleh who was there the the greatest rabbi in Baghdad who was the teacher of the vanish hi and of course the P within the future stand for the banished higher because the banished I became that much greater but he was a huge huge huge haha and the most respected at the time haha you the style was 1717 they were all in the big mad rush and the time came I believe for men huh and somebody told he was not home at the time yahood of tyre seventeen year old boy who was steeped in to her ready to go up and lead the prayer immediately some of the older people started mumbling and murmuring what this little young whippersnapper is going to be leading the prayer and we're all over here ah-hum Abdullah so methyl our Shillong heard this he got very angry he jumped to his feet put his hands on you who the styie and I said from now you are haha muted of tire and he gave him semi ha he made him a Hakam on all areas of the Torah and nobody said a word from that day on and of course he led the prayer among the important works that he wrote was a work called min ha Theo who done it is a spooky work if I dare say so he was very involved in work pertaining to removing spirits and could we call it exorcism and in his work which he published when he was 74 he mentions names dates places so that every single fact could be corroborated and they were and then subsequently when he went to Israel many of the big ha ha Meem there who've now also passed on personally attested to things that they saw I tell you I used to teach this this work before min Han Shabbat and one week after many weeks of doing this one of the people used to come to my to my class came to and he said rabbi forgive me I'm not gonna be coming to this class anymore I said why he said because I can't sleep at night okay there's one story that I want to tell you that I find particularly fascinating it can it concerns the infamous Chabot ICB 237 years after his death he was his spirit went into a person called the hole and haha you defile our Shalom was dealing with it and his spirit was giving him a hard time he went to a honeymoon Agassi who was one of the main Robin Eamon Baghdady well he was the one who eventually took over from the baby shy after he passed away and he told him that this is what he was doing he was dealing with the spirit of Shabbos ice to be a harmonicas he went to the holy Benesch higher hummus if I email our Salaam and he said this is the case he says tell him to stop immediately this is a very dangerous spirit and they both told him that and he says in his work he says that he didn't listen he still went ahead but he said because they warned him he started dealing very delicately with the spirit of shove it has to be and at the end he said he succeeded in exercising the spirit from this person and the soul had this a hoot the merit to descend to get numb down to hell 237 years after he died that was apparently a step in the right direction all right to get to the story apparently he used to at times deal with these spirits in the women's section of the synagogue and there would be women and young ladies girls who would stand outside the window and to watch this now who did not approve of this at all was morena Rubino ha ha nice if I'm the holy baby shine and the ask them to stop oh honey the friar who is also was tell me Dean answered that he haha missive hyeme will be able to get the people to stop their terrible custom they're terribly mean hog of pouring out water and salt for the demons so that a person who was sick would get healed then he would stop what he was doing and they say that Janos in our hummus if Haim spoke about this over and over and over in his dress shirt and was to no avail which is very surprising because normally the slightest thing he said everybody did the problem was that this caused a lot of discord between the two of them between a furnace of hyeme and aha would of tyre are they Michelle oh and they did not speak to each other for seven years seven years and they were in one city they must have been I don't know in close proximity quite often seven years later they met at a Mila and the very senior of the to a fungus if Haim allow a Shalom said to a family of Tyre how are you how many children do you have he answered three girls they had spoken for seven years three girls and you know in those days it was a big deal to have boys though how nice of him writes about how mistaken people are that's for another time so our finest of hyeme blessed him at that point that he would have boys and that's exactly what happened and from that day on there was peace between them so we see when the opportunity arose it was ha ha missive hyeme who seized the opportunity we must learn from his humility and it was a giant recognized around the world but he was extremely humble and we must never feel too important to make peace and love our fellow man it says in the Brahim going on commotion is famous by soap that I'm gonna finally memorize by the end of the evening he says that people ask this is by the way how much if I was speaking about him I want to quote one of his words people ask when they when they want help from someone they want money they want help they want you to speak on their behalf or they need something of the eat food the blanket whatever it is they need they always this pursuit they go to the person especially the person doesn't want to give this one I help they say if the Torah says you have to come over you have to love your fellow man like yourself just like you would give yourself food just like you would take care of yourself you've got to do for me also we have to love each and every Jew just like we love ourselves he says that's true that's hundred-percent choices but what is often not so obvious to people is that when a person does what appears to be the opposite a person approaches his neighbor about a transgression that he committed to try and prevent him from doing something wrong again in the future from doing another sin of the future he's also performing the Masada commandment away I have done it how come Oh ha you see your neighbor doing something wrong and you go up to him nicely and you indicate to him that what he's doing is wrong and you shouldn't do that you are loving your neighbor like yourself so whether you help him in a physical or in a spiritual manner you're demonstrating love for the other person because you care for that person and you don't want anything bad to happen to them the question is what is the human being is a human the only flesh and blood is that all we are know the Jewish people the key element of a Jewish person is the holiness Shama the holy soul that only Jews have which come from under the kiss Aqaba they come under from under God's holy throne itself but it can't function in a physical world without physical clothing so the flesh and blood that we are this right that we feel is just clothing for the neshamah for the soul i suppose the new fish which is just which is the life if i'm not just it's very important to the initial mind is the highest level of the three songs and the holiness Sharma has no benefit other than the fact that it can survive in this world has no benefit from all the indulgences should we say of the body so in other words if we see a food we like we eat it because we like it and we overeat or other pleasures of this world this doesn't need this the National not just needs the body to survive since it has no direct benefit from the body if a man comes to another man and helps him in a matter pertaining to his soul stops him from sinning again in the future then that person is doing incredible kindness to the person that he is going to spiritual love we have to understand the spiritual love for your fellow man is far greater than the loving kindness that you can do for a physical for the physical side of a person people don't think about that and that is what he's trying to bring out here we always think about what we can do to help them in a physical matter what you can do to help your fellow Jews spiritually is even far more important than that so we should maybe say love your neighbor as yourself spiritually that is the highest level it says in sympathy bar aim low for a surah he acknowledged let's say on NIDA him you must not see your neighbor's ox or sheep lost on the way we don't usually see that nowadays too much not here anyway but whatever we understand the meaning if you see your neighbors channels you see the animals lost on the on the way what should you do I mean this is New York I don't see I think you saw anything I don't see anything I don't see anything what do you say what I say don't get involved what are you gonna do what you gonna do you gonna try and find whose it is let me alone what you're gonna call the police wait don't get involved this is New York then she's getting in trouble they can accuse you of something just pretend you didn't see it keep moving on so I says no you're not allowed to with a lambda ma'am and I lied yourself from them on the country it says has shared their she babe it's a double LaShawn here which the Torah often uses to stress something which is her shape and tissue Bane which essentially means the same thing and we translate in English says you shall surely return them they are Haifa to your brother but I says no you can't say I didn't see it I didn't see it you have to surely return them to your brother so what we have to understand is this if we see if fellow Jews animal go astray we have an obligation to return okay how much more so if we see his holy mission Marv getting lost going down the wrong path then we have an obligation to try and return it and put it back on the right path would we say that in this case it's okay to make ourselves scarce I don't see it I don't know what he's doing I don't care and the Torah is talking about this is what he's doing I know where he hangs out at night no we have an obligation to bring him back with sweet words why does the Torah use a doubling of the Lashon why does it say a shape tisha Bane which we have translated in one phrase you shall surely return he says because there are two returning this applies both to his animals or his objects and it applies to his soul that's why the Torah writes it twice but again I want to I want to reiterate that when you're dealing with a matter like this saying it sweetly is very very important if you're going to start shouting at people you're gonna alienate them even more the holy paleo is the pen eraser kadosh speaking this is also there is a there is a the Gomera Shabbat tells us the elastin is something that is hated by you libera laughter bean don't do it to your neighbor all right I'm it's a similar idea it's a similar idea that you have to love your neighbor but okay let's just take it further he says something we have to understand what is our greatest problem in doing any of them assault what is the greatest problem we haven't anything that we supposed to do anything that's good what's the greatest problem we all have yes this is this is depending on how great the good that is gonna come from it that is the level to which the yes suhara are dirty stinky whatever evil inclination will rise to make sure that we stumble and don't do what it is we're supposed to do this is a little works on us every day every day tries to overcome us to what extent he says I'll tell you to what extent to the extent that for our great sins as we mentioned before in the area of Sigma and Nam baseless hatred you know shall I'm the beta mag - were destroyed and we're all in Galu and as I said to you before we still in Galu even in the Land of Israel we're in girl were in exile and he says the SATA is dancing among us because the way he's dancing he's so happy neither or not only are we interested in ourselves and still quoting him by the way but he says some actually rejoice at the downfall of others you know that oh this happens them serves them right I'm so happy I'm so happy he says you think that's bad enough he says no there are those with the slightest opportunity would destroy the other person if I could you've seen that also nobody here I know that you've seen it happen so soon Mira was it keep away from doing bad and do good he says and this applies not just your actions but also to your speech with speech what should we do with speech he says don't say something which is distaste to you this is very important we love la Shannara and we love telling ourselves that I'm gonna tell you something when it's not my genre okay I can tell you how do you know it's not less honor huh I'll tell you how you can know stop from it and think that this is about you that you're speaking and somebody's gonna say exactly these words that you're gonna say about you are you happy with that you wanna quote cool with that doesn't bother you go ahead said but is there a little tinge of trying or something that is getting to you that someone would say that about you however true it might be that's what genre don't say it he says he is ionized the master deceiver and he says if it's in financial a financial area it's unbelievable if you have an opportunity you have all the facts it's between you and another guy your neighbor and who should have the money should you give him the money now given the madam whatever them whatever the financial problem is you have all the facts and you can see clearly you almost certainly will decide in favor of yourself even if it's not correct he says that's your transgressing right there you have to be very careful because this is how these are works now we're saying don't say anything negative about the other person but wait a minute that's not enough loving your neighbor means you got to start seeing the positive to them also you got to make them feel good and certainly you can't embarrass somebody you know there's a problem embarrassing in public but what people don't realize is you can't embarrass in private with nobody else there if you have to tell somebody something you can tell it to them in a way that won't embarrass them give them good self-esteem and you know what if you can give another person's good self-esteem like I said before they're in a better position to love you and take care of you and be nice to you depending on the level of pain that you put in to a relationship Foom Sara Allah that is the level of reward that you get wine when I rabbis tell us depending on the level of pain that is your reward why does that happen I'll tell you what the holy Pelle always says and I think it's dynamite he says the greater the level of pain when you do something good the greater of level greater the level of satisfaction that a Kadosh model who gets and since the Kadosh Baruch who gets a higher level of satisfaction he gives you a greater reward that's how it works and he adds one more thing that I want you has a lot more things which I'm telling you now but yes one more thing which is we're all descended from I domination from Adam which makes us all Blood Brothers he says it's like we're one person he says would you have pity on one of your limbs if there was a problem with it of course you would you go running to the doctor get it taken care of he says so we're like all one body and should have pity on every single one of our people I read an interesting thing which I thought was cute if somebody throws a stone at you throw them back a flower but depending depending on what your opinion is about loving your fellow Jew throwing back the flower could be done in two different ways weight number one is you just throw the flower weight number two is you throw it with the flowerpot attached I've got a letter I'm not going to tell you all in this lecture which one is the one that you should do can we let you'll figure it out it says in the Guevara Baba Batra the rebbi shimon bar yohai said that abraham Aveeno a llama shalom had a precious stone hung around his neck now this storm brought immediate heel to any person who was sick and looked at it when a brama be no and I was so long departed from this world Kadosh Baruch Oh hung it around the orb of the Sun and that's where it is now like to speak about this and I'm going to end with this with your permission even without your permission I'll end with this but with your permission so much better Thomas if I email our Shalom says appears to be some difficulty understanding this first and foremost how do we understand a Brahma be no wearing this what did he have a big old chain around his neck with a with a huge stone a brahma butyl walking around with a big necklace that's baby this shy isn't that that's uh that's woman's clothing so what is that saying that doesn't make any sense to us so how do we understand this furthermore there's another question in the Yamaha baba metzia we're told that at the time of Yaakov I mean who is the grandson of Abraham Aveeno at the time of until the time of yahuwah be know there was no such thing as sickness in the world there was no sickness if a person's time came to die he died the rest of the time he was very uh he was very healthy hospitals were not happy in those days I want you to know whatever it is so what do you mean that the sick person at the time of Abraham Amina would look at the store and be healed there were no sick people what's going on everyone was healthy the answers as follows he says what the story is telling us is not that this was a regular precious stone a big diamond to Ruby or whatever it was it was a spiritual stone that AHA - behold the Holy One blessed be he graced Abraham Avena wealth and what was this spiritual stone was the ability of Abraham Aveeno to bring people closer to a condo smurfo because we know that his whole existence with sahaja Manu was reaching out to people and showing them the existence of a Kadosh Baruch who then there was a creator in the world there was a God in the world which people didn't know he was the first one to come up with incredible thought by looking around and realizing it couldn't just be it certainly couldn't have been their Idol was that created this world so this was the spiritual stone that he was blessed with this ability to be able to speak and convince people and bring people closer to God so what is this about the sick people the sick people where the people were spiritually sick who didn't see God the people believed in idolatry and when they saw this spiritual stone which was his ability to speak to them and love them and bring them in they were healed because they believed in a high dose Baro who and so what's the connection now between our AMA being on the the orb of the Sun the Sun what better witness is there or not witness what better proof is there of the existence of a fellowship ro who then the Sun which comes and Rises and shines on us every day and does everything that it does for us every day this is the ultimate proof of the existence of a fellowship ro who so what God is doing and saying here is that the stone didn't disappear it just got passed to the Sun to bring proof to the world that there is a God Hashimoto who the greatest thing we can do in loving each other is to take care of each other's souls if you'll do that we'll take care of the rest also those of us around us all of us should we say without exception need somebody to help us grow we're all doing something that's not right we need that help and if you see someone really going down the wrong path you need to love that person and you need to show them they're doing the wrong thing with love because that's the way he will achieve it not by fighting and shouting or putting up a sign of the shiori's cancel that's not gonna do it not by throwing stones at people that's not gonna do only through loving each other because our job as Jews is the path of the Torah it is to be a beacon to the rest of the world as we said we're still suffering because the Bentham of - which was destroyed on account of baseless hatred has not been rebuilt it is our prayer that we and we should start with us you and me all of us here go out say something nice to somebody when you see them not something phony but something real you see a person through something good and bad complement to good and hopefully if we can do that and love each other and show the other person that we really care for each other and really really really follow the Torah Commandments of well I have done it I love your fellow man like yourself hopefully for that zipper there's well who was soon bring us the rebuilding and the coming of the final the third birth of my gosh the rebuilding of you who shall I'm may we witness it speedily enemy and in our days before I be a man with a mirror so when tomorrow me you [Music]