The journey of the soul from beginning to end - Part 2 - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] [Applause] [Music] and I always like to to explain the concept OFA with a little story that there was once a king and the King had a son that finally got married everybody in the k Kingdom got an invitation to the wedding one person got an invitation in the mail wow got so excited an invitation to the prince's wedding I can't believe I'm going to be in the palace wow he got so excited he bought a new suit and he bought new shoes and he put the invitation on the wall and he counted the days another person on the other side of town didn't get an invitation in the in the mail rather a whole Entourage came to personally invite him ministers generals the second to the king everybody came to physically and personally invite that person came the day of the wedding the the guy who gots the invitation in the mail gets very excited puts his new in his new suit puts his new shoes puts some gel in his hair gets himself look all together he walks down he doesn't forget to put his invitation in the pocket he want he is about to walk out of the building and it starts pouring rain so he s him said what I'm going to do now by the time I get to the wedding I'm going to be soaking wet so he sees the bus driving down the main street he says as soon as the bus comes close to the to the station I'm going to run and the bus comes close he starts running towards the bus the bus doesn't see him and drives off and he starts running after the bus stop wait wait and he falls into a puddle and gets soaking wet gets out of the puddle starts running screams to the bus stop stop I need to come to the wedding you have to stop and the bus drives off he starts walking after the bus and he's pouring pouring rain he's soaking wet and on the way a group of robbers come and they rob him and they beat him up and they take all his money the other guy that got the invitation with the whole Entourage of people a whole Entourage of people came to pick him up this time soldiers are surrounding the whole area helicopters in the air limousines they're carrying him like this into the Rosine finally the other guy the wet guy comes to the wedding it's already 12:00 at night the wedding is almost over he's soaking weight gushing blood he comes to the palace and the doors are already closed the guards stop him and tell him how can we help you so he tells them I'm invited to the wedding so they tell him can we see your invitation of course he puts his hand in his pocket to pull out his invitation but the invitation is so wet that there's nothing left of it and they tell him we're very sorry we can't accept this invitation so he tells them no I'm telling you I'm invited check your lists I'm telling you I'm invited to the wedding no no we can't let you in and he tells them what are you out of your mind you know what I went through to come to this wedding look at me I'm soaking wet I'm gushing bad I was robbed I was mugged I the whole day I'm walking in the rain I didn't even eat anything all day I'm starving so they tell them no problem you hungry they come out they bring him a nice plate of sushi and a bottle of seven up and they tell him eat vasha and he tells them no you I'm telling you I have to go into the wedding you're not going into the wedding so he looks Between the Bars trying to see maybe he's going to see somebody in the party that he can recognize and maybe get him in and he looks all the way to the end and he sees the King sitting in the center next to the king is his son the groom and on the other the side is the person who came with all the limousines and all the fancy stuff and he tells them guys I'm telling you I'm invited let me in you're not coming in so the story comes to teach us something very very important our sages teach us we all have a place in the world to come we are all invited to the wedding all us the question is how is going to be the journey to the wedding and when you finally at the wedding where are you going to sit are you going to sit next to the king or are you going to sit outside with a plate of sushi and maybe a bottle of seven up so the thing is that the end result the the destination that this whole thing that we talked about the destination is that wedding is this is this world to come that nobody knows what it is M didn't even know what what it is but we know it's the best thing we can't even imagine our mind cannot fathom what it means but that's this huge and great wedding that we're all invited to and the entire Journey to the wedding and the position where I'm going to be in that Eternal wedding depends on my journey in this world so it starts up there it goes through a whole Loop so I can go back to the same place but much better and I started with explaining how the souls were sitting very comfortably they were sitting nice around AEM everything was great who needs that headache why did they started the whole thing because the souls felt bad that they're just getting and getting and getting they wanted to earn it so we now hired we are hired in this world to earn our position in the wedding and the entire cycle is all the pieces that I have to acquire and get to get to that wedding and whatever I do in this world will secure my journey to the waiting room ganeden will secure my position in yam mashia where I'm going to be sitting and enjoying not only enjoying the Godly Revelations rather enjoying the new Torah that the king meia is going to teach us because we knowu the first king he gave us the Torah then he gave us the Tora the or Torah but it says that when Masia will come a new Tor is going to come we're going to now unfold the entire Torah and all the hidden secrets of the Torah all the mysticism and the juicy stuff is going to be given to us so not only that I'm going to be sitting and seeing Godly Revelation all day long rather I'm going to be fed this new Torah and then I'm going to be sitting in this thousand years of Shabbat enjoying again and the end results the destination that I'm punching in in the GPS that's where I want to get to and we can see that technology can teach us very interesting how the spiritual World works so I was giving an example with the GPS you can go into the car punching the address the GPS will give you five options go from the 405 go from the run1 go from burbeck Avenue go from here go from there and each path has advantages and disadvantages and then you go on one Highway and you running too many traffic so you get off the highway so what does the GPS tell you recalculating and then it gives you the new route and then you continue the destination is the same we started in one spot the destination is the same destination and I choose the route I'm going to take and according to the route I'm going to take if I take the scenic route then I'll see beautiful scenes and if I go through the not scenic route then I'll see not nice things so it all depends on me I choose my path I choose my destination I choose how I'm going to do everything so this entire Journey starts from one place and ends in a different place and when a person internalize and understands where I came from why I came what am I doing here what can I acquire every second of the day when I'm already here and why should I do it cuz many people say okay why should I do it I'm doing a b and c I'm good to go I don't need to do so many things you don't have to be fanatic but when you understand how each little act actually injects into your this spiritual vitamin this spiritual substance and then it secures your entire path from beginning to end then it has more meaning you understand where you go where you going why you doing everything so this was like a little a little explanation of the structure of where we came from and where we heading so I hope that each one of you can take from this short explanation the the meaning of why we here that our main me main reason we here at least at this point in our life is to bring now the next the third phase which is the mashia because this is the next phase that we have to get to not to reach ganeden rather to reach already the OT of mashiach and the only only way one can secure it is only by with increasing more mitv missing increasing more Tor more good acts of good and kindness every little thing that I do a I'm sewing my garments I'm preparing my path but in the general level I'm affecting the entire world because if Shalom I do something bad I tilt the whole world to a negative slate and if on the other hand I do something good then I put the world on a positive it's late like says it tilts the whole balance the whole scale to so each and every one of us has a personal obligation for myself because the way I set my bed that's how I'm going to sleep on it or we say if you worked hard on Friday you have food on shabas so now this is this is the world where we do so whoever works hard in this world he prepares everything for the world to come for the journey for everything is this world the links exactly and the thing is that in this world they have two ways of basically doing it we know we have two levels of serving hem one of them is called itfa and one of them is is called means that I subdue something so when I have a inclination I have a desire I have a lust to do something and I subdue it I hold myself I'm doing it I'm basically doing the exact thing I'm supposed to do some people live all their life religious and they they say I don't see any meaning I wake up in the morning I go and pray I eat my kosher food I keep Shabbat I do this I don't see anything anything just the fact that all day long each and any one of us is fighting his the tells him come and do this no I don't want to do that come and do that I don't want to do this this is the level of what's called ITF that I'm subduing my my inclination this is serving hem this is my a a higher level is already a level of means to transform the calls it transform forming the darkness into light and the bitterness into sweetness so I have the opportunity to take something bad we know that a person can do but if that person did CH he has the opportunity to take this bad thing and to transform it into good something good the gar explains in that a person does from love his he transforms his sins to merits so we see that even in the bad things that we see in this world there is something good in it for me to transform it into light so even the bad things that we deal with that we think we're dealing with our problems it's a way for me to reveal the godly power the good that is in it and to transform it into something good so my entire life I have an entire mission in this world this entire world we are hired by a God to do his missions to do his work and I always give an example we know it's a very big concept but cabala explains that when Hashem wanted to create the world he didn't know exactly how to create the world so he took a lot of Godly light and he spread it into the universe but since there wasn't a right vessel to hold the light a spiritual vessel of course this vessel exploded and all these nit these Sparks of this light exploded over the universe and up until today we are searching all these Sparks of Holiness because they scattered over the universe and you see one hint to that is you see that the Jews are all over the world the Germans live in Germany the argentinians live in Argentina the Jews all over the world why not because we don't have a place to live rather because each one of us is in charge of a bunch of these Godly Sparks that fell somewhere in the universe and I have to go and sift through the dirt to start pulling them out and how do I pull them out when I follow the manual the Torah the Torah tells me this you're allowed to eat this you're not allowed to eat this you're allowed to do this you're not allowed to do this is pure this is unpure this is kosher this is not Kosher I'm constantly sifting between the good and the bad the good and the bad so my entire life is every little act that I do I'm AEM I'm serving hem I came down here for a mission and I always compare it that you know in the structure of an army you have the Air Force and the Navy and all the rest the Marines but then you have the Commando the Navy Seals and if something special needs to be done they call the the pros because they're the most professional and they're trained for that so they go Behind Enemy Lines and they do the most dangerous things so this these are the Jews we are the Commando we came down to this world to do all these special missions for hem to go around the world to transform all these darknesses into light to sift through the sand to pull out all these Godly Sparks to taking out these diamonds every mitvah that I do every good thought that I have every time I prevent from myself from thinking bad saying something bad my entire life if I look at it from this angle it's a very hard life but if I look at it from this angle wait a minute I'm hired here I'm on a job and one day I'm going to come and get my reward not that I'm supposed to do it for a reward but let's be realistic we all we all want some type of a reward so to sum up this great topic is that when you realize where we came from and what a long way we did how many times we got already reincarnated in this world meaning that we had such a long journey but we're already at the end at the end at the end at the end of the line all we need is a few more tuneups that's it and we're done and then we're going to the next stage so we should all Merit we should not even go to the waiting room in ganeden rather we should see mashia right away and it should happen speedy our days with our efforts with our mitv with our Good Deeds with our Tor and with a little bit of the knowledge that you have now you can understand and take it forward to understand and realize how every little act that you do every little Mitzvah every little thought every little thing it's not only huge in the eyes of hem not only that it's great and benefits your own n it also benefits the entire world so one little thing that you one time you about to say some gossip or something and you just hold yourself okay this time I'm not going to say a thousand times I'm going to lie one time I'm not going to lie 100 times I'm going to steal one time I'm not going to steal that that time is what counts that little thing that we in our mind think Ah that's not important Hashem doesn't really care about that he cares about the big things hasem cares about the little things and when we put our minds dka to the little things then we're able to more concentrate on bigger things but the bottom line is that every little thing that I do is massive to the entire structure of the world one little thing we don't even know how it tilts the the the world to a positive a positive approach so we should all have the Merit and the C and the energy and the power to pay attention to every little thing and every little act and every little thought during the day not to speak about the big things but even in the little things how much pleasure Hashem derives from that how much pleasure and happiness hem sees when we do one little act one little Mitzvah so much more so when we do something big so bem we should all Merit very soon to reach already the mashia we should see it with our physical eyes we should all be in Isel very soon it should all happen very Speedy in our days uh I think we have a few more time we can do if any of anyone has questions so we can do a little bit of question and answer discussion wait yeah ladies first okay so everybody heard the question I'll just repeat the questions so the first question she's asking is how does the soul that left the world can relate with the people here right the family the family it sounds a little bit not nice it doesn't want to relate it wants to go up when it's going up it has some type of a relationship and a supervision but for us it's a it's a tragedy when a loved one leaves it's hard for us that's why we mourn and we miss that person for the soul that leaves it knows that it's just going to Blink and we're together because for us it takes 60 7 80 years to get reunited with our loved ones but for the soul it's 1 2 three and we're back together so for us it's a very long farewell for the soul it's a so small farewell the soul doesn't feel the sorrow it says oh now I'm going to miss my father for 80 years the soul is looking at the Eternal path not at the little short time spam in this world if the soul already wants to communicate with this world they do it while they're still here because once the soul reaches gedan it doesn't want to come down he doesn't want to go down to this world now here there's a misconception because a lot of people say I have dreams that my father comes to me in my dream and he passed away 40 years ago the thing is that for the soul there's no time so for us maybe it's 40 years but when the soul leaves the body when the soul is outside of the body it's not limited to the body so the soul sees all the way forward so for us we're full 40 years forward for the soul there's no concept of time it's not bound to time so it seized forward so for us it can be 40 years later but once the soul goes up to Sham it does it doesn't want to do anything with this world it rather it sees what we don't see we see the world so we we we like going like blind people in the dark we don't realize what's going on but we seeing it from the wrong direction the soul looks from above it sees everything clear it sees it understands everything it has for seeing what the souls are doing here and it's waiting patiently for for the for the reunion but the soul if it wants to reconnect in this world it will do it on the path on going up it doesn't come down very very rarely Souls will come down it will come in a dream it can come in a vision but very rarely they do it because for the soul to live where it's standing in ganeden has to go down all the world it's not so much fun we learn it that once the grandson of the bmov was drowning he passed the river and he drowned the bov saw it came down to save him and he saved him and later on he says if I would know how much sorrow it is for me to go down all these worlds I would let him drown because he explained that for the soul to start CL going descending down from where it is it's not fun for the soul it doesn't want to go down for no reason so the connection between somebody who passed away to somebody in this world it's done while the neish is still here just for us it looks like maybe 40 years the neish it's there's no time now for the second question what can we do for somebody who passed away everything that you do for the Merit of that person they Merit something from they get pleasure from that they get from that anything that you do you keep Shabbat you learn Torah your kids go to Yesa you eat kosher you give charity every little thing that you do if you have just in your thought now I'm learning this for the soul of that person now I'm going to read this book of T now I'm going to give some charity now I'm going to do this in the name of that person that person gets such pleasure to see that their son their grandson their friend is down here doing mitzvot so we do we see that many times somebody passed away and everybody in the family they're doing mitv for that person so that person first of all gets the Merit it gets like a bonus it gets a but it also gets a lot of like wow look at my son look at my kids look at all my family they're doing now MV for me so every little thing that you do here always affects the soul even in ganeden the soul can be already be in ganeden and a child or a grandson can do a Mitzvah here and push the soul to a high level in gedan because once the soul is in gedan it can't go up anymore but somebody in this world can actually push the soul higher there's even a joke that there was once a very Wicked person didn't do any Mitzvah did all the sins in the book he did and of course he ended up in Gom so he's sitting there on a cloud of fire and suddenly an angel walks in and he tells him you out you're going to ganeden me why don't ask any questions you're going to ganeden he packed his bags he goes out of Gom out of into ganeden he's sitting there like on a tropical island drinking margaritas enjoying the beautiful view he's enjoying the vacation two weeks later the same Angel comes and tells him you back you're going back he's like what why are you sending me back now he's like don't ask questions just go back he's like no I want understand you took me out of Gom you put me in geden and now you take me back what happened so he tells him listen two weeks ago your son was doing CH and he donated $50,000 to buy a seph t to so in such a big Merit we took you out of Gom and we put you in ganeden so he says so why are you taking me back he's like oh no the check bounced so what we do down here affects what's above us we push the generation above us so when a father or a mother dies and goes to sh and their disciples their kids and grandkids going in the path of Tor that's what the wants to see that's how it gets it it gets its its fresh air but when the n leaves the body and sees in the this world the kids going the wrong way it does the biggest sorrow to the Nama because it said they telling him look at your son instead of sending your son to Yeshiva you send him into public school now he's marrying a non-jew girl now his kids are not even Jewish and he's celebrating the non-jewish holidays and look what happened to him and and the whole season it says a I could have just send him TOA would would have become such a sadik so the soul looks down if the path of the Disciples of the path of Torah that's what helps the so every little thing that you do in this world to the Merit of any Soul it pushes them up so much more so in the first year because they need a lot a lot of a lot of back at allot of mitv but even after the person passed away many many years yeah you can read a a chapter of give charity in their name every little thing you you know you push them up a little bit what about their family that have passed away do they connect with them yeah everybody gets connected together once the soul goes up that's what I said before that 30 days before the soul leaves they announce in shim this person is about to come and they gather all the family members they all come like to a surprise party they greet the Nish they'll come down to him and they you know they make him feel good like imagine now you coming for a vacation you walk out of the airport all your family is waiting for you makes you feel comfortable all the souls they come down to greet the shama the soul that's coming up they're you know come let let us show you around so all the souls get reunited and they get reunited in a much more deeper level it's not that we're like here sitting around a table and talking the souls get spiritually re reunited yes because the neish he's asking a good question he's asking if the neish is part of the spiritual part of the Soul why does he want to stay here you said because they greting he coming so he doesn't get upset as much as he no that's in a sh I understand but anyway the part of us was part of the whole thing exactly the reason why the neish no the reason why the nefes doesn't want to leave here first of all if it's a nees of a person who was a real and all he wanted all he cared about is doing and learning T he has does he doesn't want to do anything with this world he can wait to go up a person who's having a lot of connection to the world and enjoy the world a lot then it's hard for the nefes to live if a person if you're looking at sadik he just goes up he doesn't he doesn't look at this world but I was more referring to a person that he can do a lot ofv but he enjoys everything in this world he enjoys his car he enjoys his house he enjoys his cigarette he enjoys his coffee in the morning he enjoys this when the neish gets too much part of what has to do in this world that person it's hard for them to live that's why we see in many places in in in the Torah that are s just say don't enjoy this world don't don't grab anything in this world don't take any connection in this world because when it's going to be with time to leave you have nothing to leave behind you're know you're not you don't feel like you're leaving something behind rather you want to go up already to where you came from so it really depends on the person each person is individual but in the structure the N lives right away that's the part that the relative see the nees is still staying in this world for a while the the unsatisfied answer is that because that's what Hashem wants that's the answer that doesn't satisfy anyone the other s answer that satisfies a little bit is that sometimes we don't know why a person came to the world why he left so early sometimes a person goes up to Sham and they tell him you know you have a little tun that you need to do you're just missing one mitvah two or three so you go back down to this world just live 10 years 15 years 20 years finish what you need to do and go so for us it looks like a tragedy but for the N it did what it did and that's it it finished its time and it went now there's never a good answer that would Soo the ear of somebody who lost a loved one when they were a kid or young because the ear doesn't want to hear any any anything but in reality when we see anyone who dies before the age of 20 we know that's so is a very good Soul it only came here to do something very simple and it that's it it packed its bag and it left only we see it as a tragedy oh poor guy he died when he was 28 but the Nama sees it as okay I finished my part that's it some people go to work from 88 to to to 9: 800 in the morning to 9: at night and some people come at 9:00 in the morning they leave at 11: that's it they did their job they're done for the day so some people come to this world for 80 years some people came for 20 20 years some people came for 30 years each one came for a certain amount of time and when it's done that's it and then doesn't sees anything bad in it we see bad in it because our nature is to say Oh Long Life Is Good short life is not good so is it really good to have life or not depends on the life depends know depends on the life if a person lives a long life and all his life he does just good and learns T and does mitah Bo and does Good Deeds then of course it's good to to live long but if a person lives 90 years old and all he does is sins it's not a good life so each person is individual the thing is that's what I said before we can't really understand why we came back here I'll give you a short story couple months ago I lived in New York and in the building where I lived a little boy climbed up in the window and fell out of the window from the six floor and I lived on the second floor he lived on the sixth floor and he fell out of the window a little boy not even 2 years old so that night we I had a a a class so we said okay this class should be for the you know for the for this kid so we do the class at the end of the class the person who hosted the class he whispers in my ear the Sho should be for his because he passed away excuse me pass yeah he passed away after a couple hours so somebody came and told me how do you explain this why did you do this little kid why I don't understand it why does a little kid now have to fall out of the window and he dies he didn't do anything now the poor parents and all the I don't understand so the reality is there is no there is no answer that will satisfy anyone it's a tragedy you see little boy falling out of the window the poor parents the whole family it's a tragedy there's no magic word that will soothe anyone but a little bit to kind of understand so I told that particular person we don't know why but let's assume that this boy his Nish 500 years ago was a sadik 100% perfect but you know what 99% perfect he went up to Sham and they told him wow look at you 99.99999 sadik one time you desecrated Shabbat by mistake you went like this you turned the light off by mistake you still according to the you still have to get a spiritual death from the Supreme Court what are we going to do with you what are we going to put you now we going to you going to how are we going to deal with you so they say you know what we're going to put you back in a body but we're going to let you live a year or two you're not going to remember anything you're not going to do any sins you're not going to do anything and then we're going to kill you with some type of a death and then you got your sh you got the death and you clean 100% sadik like a rocket you're going into the highest place in gedan so we're looking at the world and we're like wow look at this baby the poor baby what happened but we don't understand how it all started and we don't understand how Hashem connects everything that the parents in the Divine Providence had to suffer that and the neighbors and the and the siblings Hashem SS everything together there's a big gen genius master plan we don't understand it so we see it very not nice but the reality is that each person every second in his world is calculated is decided from above how he's going to live when he's going to live when he's going to die everything is already decided hold on there's somebody in the back waiting for for a long time but the thing is that we really don't know and we can't like say oh he died when he was 20 he's like this and like this he died when he's 90 it's like this like that every person is completely completely different one person can do in 90 years what some other person can do in 30 years in regards to the capacity what he has to do in this world it's a good to have a long life because you can get to do much more mitv but some people they came they just have to do one little thing that's it they come on the weekend for the for the job they do a little project and they go out we can't really know why or or or what's the plan from above the point is to accept that's what hasem wants and that's what it is and one day when this Veil is going to be lifted over our eyes we'll see and understand everything and everything will make be perfect yeah in the back I see you okay so two nice questions the first question is why no I'll re rephrase it I said that the we have to come down to this world at least three times to get reincarnated to do all 613 mitv in thought speech and action he's asking what if I didn't do it what if I missed it the basic answer is you come back again if Hashem loves you he'll put you here again 80 times the point is that you don't want to come here too many times now if we're already here that's it that's the last time nobody's coming back again but if somebody Shalom missed the opportunity Hashem gives him another opportunity and another opportunity the zor says even a soul can get reincarnated hundreds of times just to to get that little Mitzvah that it's missing the in the book of sh he actually writes that the first three gulim the first three reincarnations we get reincarnated in a body of a a Jew like we nor like how we are the next three reincarnations already is in a body of an Angel and then the next three incarnations is in a kosher animal and then the next three reincarnations is in an unkosher animal and then the next three reincarnations is in a tree and then the next reincarnation is in a stone anything that is inanimate and ifom the person didn't the soul didn't fix something there then the Soul is not in a good place but there's a place in the zor that the zor explains that sometimes hasem has such Mercy on a soul and he loves the soul so much he the soul doesn't even go out it finishes one body he takes the soul right away reincarnates it into another Soul into another body and the amazing thing is the two years ago my grandmother passed away she was 92 years old and exactly when she was pregnant and when she was sick my M my wife was pregnant so my grandmother was like telling me you know my name is Rael if you have a daughter maybe call her Rael I was like okay fine she passed away and my mother got up from the Shiva on Shabbat Shabbat my daughter was born now on that Mo Shabbat first of all was I had a big bigger event schedule somebody invited me to give a a big lecture and I told the person listen my wife is the due date is around that time I might have to cancel he says no problem I still want to book you and if you don't make it I have a backup speaker so my wife gets H into labor on Saturday morning and I tell her hold it so we get the L girl the L baby so she holds it not that she really could but comes M Shabbat and I tell my wife what should I do should I go to the big lecture or should I stay with you so my wife is like go go better that you go and influence 300 people I'll be okay so I call my Rabbi and I tell him what should I do he's like you out of your mind of course you stay with your wife now it's our custom that when the wife is in labor we don't stand next to her and go rather we stand in the Next Room and we read to here is the big invention that you stand with your wife and you inhale exhale inhale the better thing is that the husband sit in the different room and to start reading T so my Rabbi tells me listen it's theim you sit and study Z all night don't read you sit and study Z so all night I'm sitting and I'm studying and that's when I found that it says in the Z that sometimes loves a so much that that is missing maybe a mitvah or two or three he doesn't even let the even go out no nothing he takes the and puts it right away into a body and my grandmother was in my my daughter she my daughter is my grandmother looks the same acts the same everything's the same and she got the name so it's sometimes a person didn't finish his journey but he has such good credit Hashem says I'm not going to make you now go through what you need to go through here I'm going to put you back in just finish what you need to finish and where does he put the Nish into a religious family that the baby will eat kosher food we'll keep Shabbat from birth we'll go to a religious school would be dressed would be already pumped up with all the mitv it doesn't need to work so much hard it probably needs to do two three mitv that's it four mitv five mitv we don't know but don't worry when AEM you know there's a there's a verse that says you want to come to be pure you're going to get a lot of help from above it works the other way somebody wants to be to go to the other side they say no problem go so when a person is doing a lot of work Hashem says okay I see you working hard don't worry I'm I'm not going to leave you astray the prophet says doesn't leave anybody around he he takes care of everybody so ifom somebody didn't do all his he's going to get another opportunity to do it and if Shalom that person had to go up exactly like she asked then his son is going to become oh his son is going to be already religious and he's going to add all the what's missing because the son can actually help the father son daughter father mother same thing so that's in regards to if you didn't finish your mitv what was the second question about the people that oh okay we are all as it says before we born the soul is standing and it's taking an oath it says we all before we take the plunge we sign a deal cuz we're a sadik already the came as a sadik and it even says in the gar that when the sperm just gets cooked in the brain of the father and then the woman gets conceived right in this act already there's nothing yet there's already a declaration in sh there's a certain Mal a certain Angel comes with this little sperm this little drop he comes to hasem and he says what's going to be this one comes with a little drop is it going to be smart is he going to be strong is he going to be brave is he going to be rich is he going to be this it's asking Hashem everything Hashem says he's going to be brave and he's going to be beautiful and she's going to be pretty and she's going to be smart and he's going to be with a lot of Courage but in regards to if he's going to be a sadik or r that he's going to decide everything is already decided in sham if you're going to be tall if you're going to be short if you're going to be rich if you're going to be fat if you're going to be smart if you're going to be blonde everything is decided in sham the only thing that is not decided is your so the gets placed in the body and now you choose so some people that are real sikim not the ones that the grandma calls him oh sadik sadik I'm talking about the real sikim that's a that comes from from very high spiritual world and whether it wants it or not it will come down here and it will be a sadik and if I'm a from A Different World each Soul comes from a different world from the four spiritual worlds if I come from a very low world doesn't matter what I'm going to do I'm never going to climb to that level why is it like that a very short explanation is I'll explain it in a parable you go now and you build a building in the building you have the architect you have the engineer you have the contractor you have the the person who paints the walls the painter you have the plumber who does the plumbing you have the person who does the floors so many different trades now when you think of it who's the most important the architect the engineer they are the most important no it just seems that the most important but if you build now a building for a billion dollars and that building doesn't have toilets then the building is worthless if that building doesn't have door knobs to open the doors you can't even get to the building so when you think of it okay the plumber it doesn't really seem like such an important part of the building yeah but if there's no Plumbing in the building the building is worthless so the same way we are structured imagine uh figure of a human being this is what's called in the of theab the Supreme man but it's a spiritual man if you ever saw the 10 SP how it's painted you see it's in a shape of a person if you actually read in the it says that the is a right hand a left hand a body a right leg a left leg this corresponds from from this spiritual man and all our n all our souls are building this figure so one came from the head one came from the back oneish came from the front each Soul came from a little piece from this spiritual image of a man so one is the architect one is the plumber one is the painter one is this no one is more important than the other everybody is important even the one who seems to be the least important the plumber the I don't know what I'm sorry if I'm saying anybody if anybody's here a plumber I'm just using it as a as an example we tend to judge something according to its importance so you go to a a big Factory you say oh the CEO is most important or the head of sales yeah but if the simple The Simple Man in the in the factory doesn't go this like this the right way the the product is not going to be built the right way so the same way is in the spiritual structure of our souls so to look at a person says oh why is he aad and he is a Rasha first of all it depends on our own I can choose if I want to be a Rasha or I can choose if I want to be a sadik it's my choice I can come now and have an opportunity sin and have an opportunity to do mitvah I'll choose how do you how do you control how do you control so to finalize first the answer is that why is one looks like to us like a more sadik than the other first of all one side of it is that each one is has his own free will you can choose to be a rash Shalom and you can choose to to behave like a sadik some people by default they are sadim some people are their n come from a lower level so it seems they're not in a high level but you know where we learn the importance of the simple people go 300 years back to the bmov he was the first one who went to all the villages to teach the simple people to say to pray to to do little things and all the musim all the Geniuses were like what are you doing you are treating these poor people like royalty and us you treating like garbage cuz he saw the virtue in the simple person that simple says a says this reads the without understanding anything so to us we judge things and we say oh he is the sadik so he's better than this guy that is not the sadik no we are not the ones to judge because each one is a diamond in the eyes of hem and one might look like he's not in a high level but his little things that he does his level of AEM is greater than a person with a beard this long so you can't really tag anyone now how you say asking a big question that the the question you have that's a 5H hour lecture how can I control my urges constantly every day you're going to run into 50 to 100 to 200 urges every day you want to do this you want to do this if you're already in the level that you understand that you want to control your then you already passed 80% of the journey because when a person realizes what he has to do to fix his path then now he just needs the medicine so if a person says I have a big I want to sleep in the morning I don't want to go and pray I want to to watch TV instead of learning Torah and I want to do go to a club instead of keeping Shabbat and I want and I want and I want and at least you know that you have at least something to fight now there's tool to fight the the short answer is that the says t so you want to deal with the you learn to you kill it there's many different ways how you can fight your lusts your desires your inclinations your thoughts but you have to do it so if you already got to the point you're saying okay I don't like my he's annoying me I want to be like a sadik what do I do ah so now wake up at 6:00 in the morning and go to the mik and then go and study for two hours and then learn pray with and then pray learn a little bit of Tor and then your entire day purify your thoughts and purify your mind and give charity and learn and do mitv and do this and do that and a whole if you're sick Shalom you go to a doctor he tells you take ab and Z if you spiritually need help you go to a rabbi and the rabbi tells you okay you have to do a you have to do B you have to do c you have to start working on yourself now it doesn't disappear like that it takes time because you have a a res in your body you have a roommate you have a your roommate a that you fed for free for 20 years 30 years 40 years now you tell him I don't want you anymore get out I'm not getting out so easy you're going to have to kick me out and I have I have rights in your body so if you already got to the point that you understand that you want to kick your now it's just how how the more you're going to add Kusa Holiness by praying and learning and doing mitv and purifying yourself especially in the things that you are permitted then you're slowly slowly going to diminish your but the main thing that will kill the is only studying T but not reading like five minutes the of the sh and studying Torah at least two hours a day and everybody can study two hours a day everybody tells me when I tell them study two hours a day to what are you out of your mind I have kids I have family I have a business you can study two hours a day Tor two hours not two minutes two hours the phone is off no text messages no Facebook two hours with you with a book I promise you you're going to make your much much smaller and the problem is that most people they they they hear read a capital of hear something that's not the learning Tor man has to learn at least two hours a day Tor but pure so if you get to that level and everybody can do it everybody can do it I know big big big CEOs that they find the time to learn Tor I have a a very close fan that is very very rich big big companies all over the world you see him in the morning he studies he studies in the afternoon in the middle of the day he does a meeting in the office he studies you find the time if it's important to you you find the time to do half an hour in the morning half an hour in the afternoon half an hour in the evening and half an hour at night or one condens two hours but if you want to kill your it's also also with women I'm looking at him but it's for everybody but the Torah kills the and many other things the main thing is learning Tor the other thing is sanctifying yourself with things that you are permitted with not too much enjoying food not too much enjoying this life not too much enjoying sleeping and benefiting this world yes wait wait let her she didn't answer she didn't ask it I'll do you after okay it's not about believing in that what's the question she's asking if in the Paras where somebody is born we can find the tun for the for that person and if I believe in it it's not about believing that's how it is that you can find in the Paras that you were born not necessarily the tun but what is most connected to your n and it's true it's not there's nothing to believe on it or not the day that you were born and the hour you were born and the second you were born and everything is not happened by chance because the doctor was busy and the mom till she got the epidural no the second is already decided above that's why really you don't let the doctors intervene too much only Shalom there's a there's a emergency because the Shem is the one who brings the birth and yes there's a big Connection in the parasa not it's not so easy to to just read the parasa and pick it up some people it's very easy some people it's hard but in the parasa where you were born and you can look the whole parasa is broken into days Sunday Monday Tuesdays if a person was born on a Tuesday he can already know that in the third part of the parasa of that week that's more NOA to his to his and so forth but yeah that's 100% you can look in the par and find a good connection to your uh to your n not necessarily the T but the everything your your path in this world your main aod in this world each one has a certain thing that he has to concentrate the most on does it go from Sunday to Saturday yeah the no the Paras of the week so if I was born for example I was born in parat Noah so no you were born on Wednesday the going to read oh no no no the whole week so now for for example now we in V so now I'm on what we're on Wednesday so if somebody is born today so it's the fourth reading of the if it's Wednesday if it's Sunday if you have two like to like now this week then it's how it's read when they are together and you can look not only not only the the Paras the day that corresponds because the parasa is red it's broken into seven then you can see the hour yeah I have dka a friend who is very knowledgeable about that he connects all the things according to cabala he knows all the hours all the times where the moon was where all the stars were connected he tells you right on the spot guy computer I heard of him I don't know him but I have a friend who know he's very knowledgeable he knows he tells he tells you tell me the date the hour everything but yes if you don't know it then what if you don't know it then you go and secet because you want to know why you here excuse meom knows well you can know when you were born you know when born n now the internet just put your your your date you will tell you the day you were born you have aure