The key to a successful life! - Summary of chapter 1 of Sha'arei Kedusha (Gates of holiness)

thank you [Music] [Applause] after 28 long classes we are able to conclude chapter one in Gate of incarnation oh Gates sorry Gates of holiness wrong book and interestingly I don't want to say ironically but interestingly we covered the first chapter in 28 classes 28 is a Gematria the numerical value of coax of strength but uh before we go to the next chapter which kind of will take us to a completely different uh approach then I think I wanted actually not to but I think it will be important to do a summary of chapter number one because if you're learning from this book or any book but specifically from this book and you do not apply it to your life then you wasted your time and there's no you know you don't benefit out of it well anything that you learn not only in Torah if you're a pro apply yourself to learn something and then you don't use it so why did you learn it even if it's a trade so I mean when I was younger I learned a lot of traits a lot of things to do now sometimes my kids see me do things it's like how do you know how to do it I was like because when I was a teenager I wanted to know how to fix electricity how to fix plumbing how to fix cars so it's not that I'm a mechanic or electrician but I want to know how to fix things I need to know how things work in our generation nobody knows anything sometimes I ask my kids to do things they like and then when I do things look what I'm doing so you wouldn't know it one time another day I fixed something you know my son was like how do you know how to do it and I was like because I looked at my father and my grandfather and if I wouldn't then now we would be in a problem right so look what I'm doing so you know how to do it yourself so anything that you learn in this world or in your life if you don't apply it then why did you learn for now when we take it to the realm of the Torah and take it even a step higher to a book like shareka dusha that the entire uh message of the book the point of the book is to make you a better person so if you already took the time to learn it but then you don't apply it then you you miss the point you actually miss the point somebody asked me a lot longer why don't you teach this book why don't you teach from that book why don't you teach from this book I said there are many books we can learn all day long from different books but I rather learn one book and practically practice it than to learn 20 books and not to do anything so I'm talking about with teaching in a class if you have time then you should learn from many different books if a person knows that on their path of chuva they need to learn a certain approach then you need to learn certain books and on your path of YouTuber you need to learn different things then different books will apply to you so we chose a few months ago to start learning because I believe strongly as the book teaches us that our main avodha our main effort in this world is to refine myself and if I don't do that then what am I doing here collecting air now many say no this is not a Torah approach for thousands of years the Torah approach was to learn the oral law and to just follow the Torah and do them it's about and it was good for the thousands of years why are you coming and changing it so first of all I'm not coming and changing anything I'm just learning a book happens to me that 450 plus years ago a new era started with the teachings of Kabbalah here in the city of zvat which opened a whole new approach of how we practice our our faith and with that came one of the books now the the main point and the focus of this book is if a person wants to reach to goldish or her college is that there's many different levels of oaxacola college is that you have divine inspiration now the author had a very high level of to a point that he knew practical Kabbalah he knew things like it sounds to us like craziness teleporting himself and many other things that his master just out of the day somebody asked me about his master de Rizal and because somebody he the person asked me did I I write that Rizal had animals I said I don't think he had animals but we do know that he knew the animal language he knew how to understand the animals and more than that he was very particular about not killing any living creature but nevertheless his master just imagine to to reach the level did you understand the animal the animal language you understand the language that what they talk I mean the result was something completely you know out of the scope where we can fathom but his students his disciples had a very very high level of work and I'm not talking about prophecy prophecy is one thing and college is a completely different thing prophecy is for a prophet and anybody can have the difference between prophecy and Allah prophecy Hashem will decide if you will be the prophet and he gives you a prophetic message you decide if you want to have it or not so the book is really uh college for dummies you want to have college read the book applied you'll reach to work and there's many different levels and the definition of college is that I have divine inspiration whether I see uh not in a physical way whether I perceive things not in a physical way and maybe I may be able to change things in the physical world such as teleporting and many other things going into different dimensions so it's not some hoo-ha and black magic it's uh practical things that many can't achieve for many reasons and we're not shopping for oh goddess I told you that when we started this book we're not I'm not looking to have war records because I know I'm never reached to this level I'm looking to refine myself because when I look at my life and I need to throw a dart to the destination in our generation everything is is ready for us you're going into the car you're punch in the destination and the GPS will tell you when you're going to be there which route to take and so that comes us to teach us the technology is coming to teach us about godliness in this world so if you're going somewhere without a destination take to consideration it might take you longer than the usual and you might get lost same thing in your life if I'm going somewhere without a destination then what are you doing you have a plan is your life planned the next year the next two years the next 10 years is you have a goal do you have a vision now that works well for example when you're ambitious in business and many other things but our business is to serve Hashem I work for Hashem now ultimately the one who gains the most is me now imagine now you live your life happy healthy successful past 80 years 90 years it's time to go home to wrap wrap up your belongings everybody comes to the same thought it doesn't matter if You observe it non-observant Jew non-jew what did I achieve in this in my life did I achieve anything in this in my life that's a thought that comes to many people in their 70s 80s even 60s and 50s what am I doing with my life did I achieve anything can I look back now 50 years of my life and say okay what did I achieve now a lot of people say okay if I'm not famous rich and successful I didn't achieve anything that's incorrect if I brought kids to the world and they're now good-hearted hard-working people and their amazing citizens and so forth I was successful bringing kids into the world and educating them and preparing them so my success is not measured how much money I have my success is measured what did I do and what did I set myself as goals and actually did that now I can tell you already and don't be offended if that is you most people don't have goals don't have Ambitions not successful and everything and their life is kind of a waste of time don't be offended if that's you and if that's you then instead of being offended get with the program so and Hashem gave each and every one of us our destination you need to find that destination and Hashem gives us all the tools and the means to be successful in what I need to be I have a very good friend I told you about me many times that for years he wanted to be the next startup the next Facebook the next he had bright ideas and everything and it's anything in there he never seen anything like that apps that wow and he had all the everything the vision the ability creativity you name it was able to raise money the whole nine yards nothing nothing ever succeeded Niche one of his business ventures ever worked never made money nothing at some point I told him listen you have a very sharp brain you're extremely smart you have an unbelievable talent in giving over what you know brilliant memory I don't think that you are destined to be rich successful and Innovative and be the next uh big startup you it seems like yours just have to focus on your learning and to teach other people and to be educating people of course he didn't like that because it doesn't come with money but nevertheless and then of course we moved our paths parted and years later when I met him then of course he told me and of course by the way not only the business didn't work out marriage didn't work out because you know when business don't work out then it can affect can affect the marriage at the end of the day I found him that he's married he had to a girls and he was learning all day long and he told me I'm so happy I've never been so happy in my life I learned Torah all day long when I can I teach and so really what was his success of failure the business the success of failure that he can sit and learn for hours and eventually go and teach and become an educator and so forth so your success in life is not necessarily translated into money if you're looking at all the biblical figures their success was not money or status was their lifestyle so each and every person needs to stop where they are it doesn't matter if you're 20 or 50 and to say where is my life taking me what did I do in the last 20 30 40 50 years and what is the plan for the rest of my life and what for me would be considered success when I leave this world that I can come and stand with another Master of the Universe and said I did something worthwhile I did not waste my time in this world on nonsense most people in this world waste 90 percent of their time if not 99 of their time is gone to waste very few people know how to control their time manage your time and use every moment to the right thing I told you that many times some people tell me I talk to them tell me ah you're not friendly what does it have to be friendly no you never talk you know you're always in a rush and you don't want to talk it doesn't mean I'm friendly have things to do you're healthy good you're happy good your job is good that's what I need to know I need to know schmooze with you start hearing about your daughter your son your neighbor your car your business your boss it doesn't matter it doesn't interest me even important things to do the other day somebody told me uh some how did they say it you don't socialize socialize yeah bored you need to socialize I have a full day to manage between a husband seven kids a business totally learning I have time to sit with a beer and to socialize with somebody about the football game and the elections a it doesn't interest me B's a waste of time nothing is achieved from that somebody once told me oh I like coming home and unwinding and watching a movie I said read it read a book retail him that's good unwinding so you'll get much more unwind but nevertheless I'm not judging anybody I'm not customer and trying to insult anybody I'm just saying that most people their time management sucks they don't know how to manage their time their time is completely wasted especially now with Facebook and Tick Tock and Schmick Mock and I am WhatsApp and I've never seen anything like this this is like a disease a disease and it's designed so smart to capture the youth is like sometimes I look at my kids and I'm like when I was your age you know how much I did in your age oh because he didn't have this and he didn't have that we had everything but I had a life Our Generation kids are like stuck to the screen and now somebody told me in a few years a person without thumbs can't do anything so the answer now just changes its form and the answer wants you to be unproductive he wants you to be not efficient just imagine how great you would be if you would have more time on your hands to do what you need to do and when you do everything in a very efficient way you'll have free time to do other things if you monitor your day you'll see how unefficient most of your time is how you waste most of your time of course everything is blame and blaming the entire world most people can focus on one test they're all over the place and again I'm not saying it to hurt anybody I'm just making an observation and why because nobody's going to pay you back for your lost time and time goes like that and now before the end of time like a sand clock if you're looking at the sand clock the top is very wide so you don't really notice when it goes down but when it's all the way at the bottom there's no width then you see very fast how it goes down time didn't change 40 years ago did time go fast no now you do Abdullah and then you're getting ready for Shabbat and it has nothing to do with your observance the other day I went to a store a tall secular woman and I said something she was like before I before I know it it's already the weekend so there's nothing to do if you don't observant or not time is going now fast between your hands the day starts it's already seven o'clock what did I do I didn't do nothing I told you why because we're the end of time and if you're looking at a sand clock the top is wide so you don't see when the sand goes down but we're at the end so there's not much more time left so it looks you feel how fast it is it's not that something shifted in the universe it's just the end of times now what does that mean in the end of times it means we're going somewhere bad no we're going into a new beginning but wouldn't you forget about now death and your world to come even for the arrival of the Redemption you want to be caught with your pants down you know that most people see not most a lot of people see what's going on what the world government is cooking for us they know what's on the agenda but don't do nothing that's most people yeah yeah we need to prepare for the coming yeah how prepared are you yeah you prepared or not most people are not prepared a few people they're already prepared prepared I'm talking about having some food and water disorder having some money aside prepared to be mobilized if needed and many other things Injustice yes worse things happened in history so either way you're looking at it what I like to focus on as a human being I did that when I was young because I was very ambitious to make money in business and then when I became observant I saw that this uh this system should be applied to my day-to-day Life as a human being because I don't want to find myself after 70 80 years living this world and saying I should have done this I could have done that and I don't like my time being wasted that's why that person told me I'm not friendly I told them it's not I'm not friendly I have a very calculated time everything is calculated you talk to me five minutes more than my time you took my five minutes it's gonna come on the account of something else I have a very calculated day and when you take away from that not you I'm just saying I told the person says there's nothing being friendly or not hi hi you're doing good everything good that's what I need to hear I don't need to hear no stories and if you need to tell me a story do you have a question can I help you another way now of course not everybody works like that but I can tell you that for me my my goals need to be met my my destinations but why am I saying all this because life is short and we came here to do a certain task and I need to achieve it and why I focused on this book is because one of my main goals in this world is to refine myself exactly what we learned an hour ago Hashem created a world that is not perfect so you can fix it if Hashem would want a perfect world we would live in a perfect world everything would be perfect food would be healthy the water would be clean our leaders would be honest leaders to make money would be easy no sickness no diseases but Hashem didn't create this perfect world Hashem created a corrupt broken down world now go and fix it now I'm not telling you now to go and fix the world because you can fix the world but you need to fix your world so comes the the author Robert and he gives a very strong opinion which I hold by a lot and I teach that for a decade that one of my main purposes in my life is to refine myself that's it if I look at myself as a father as a husband as a child to my parents as a person dealing with Humanity if I look back and I can see a very big difference between how I was 20 years ago now then I feel that I was pretty good with my actions you don't see the distance the difference between here and a month okay if a person wants to build muscles it takes five years to build a very muscular body but if you're looking every month at the mirror you're not going to see the change when I was young I was a very focused I used to do martial arts and and for many many years and one time when I went to a next level then I started also working with the with the weights to gain Mass to gain strength and my trainer told me for the next three months don't look in the mirror and when you shower when you stop yourself don't look at the body okay why just don't look three months later he told me okay take a shirt off look at the mirror wow how it changed the whole body shifted so tell me if you would look every day at the mirror you wouldn't see the change you're looking at your child do you remember how they grow you look after 10 years wow you're like when I didn't notice you growing yeah because you look at the child every day look at the child once every half year you'll see this the jumping same thing with your spiritual growth so you can't like say now okay this month I'm gonna really focus on myself you're not going to see a difference between what now and a month ago you look back 20 years and you're saying okay 20 years ago everything would get me upset now I know how to control my anger 20 years ago I would gossip about everything now I I want to hear 30 years ago I was judgmental I was jealous I was whatever now then you can see a difference so I find one of the greatest achievements of a human being in this world is that you're able to refine yourself like an uncut diamond if you're looking at a diamond that comes out of a mind it's like a black rock doesn't look like a diamond you know how much water process it has to go through to be refined is to be polished and cut and cleaned and it's a long process so you are an unrefined Diamond that came to the world and Hashem told you refine yourself I'm gonna place in you a few characteristics that are horrible you'll be very jealous and because you are very jealous I'm going to put you in a very upscale neighborhood that everybody has money and you're not going to make money deal with it and all day long you're dealing with jealousy because you don't have money and everybody else has and this is one example of any or I'm going to put a little anger in you or I'm going to make you impatient then you're going to marry a woman that's going to drive you nuts now there's nothing wrong with a woman is there something wrong with you that you are impatience are you intolerant and so forth and with that that's how Hashem designs you he says I need you to refine this media this diamond anger jealousy whatever it is so a lot of people what they say you can't change me that's who I am I'm going to work on myself in other ways but that's the wrong approach when I became observant I made a click and a quick analysis I was hot tempered I was uh whatever you don't need to now share with you my dirty laundry but I I knew exactly where are my weaknesses which up until then I was like it's totally normal what's the big problem that I'm uh taught tempered and I get angry like that there's nothing wrong with me but I took all the things that I realized very quickly that are not a good character trait and say okay that needs to be refined one of the things is my speech was very disgusting every second word was some derogatory comments and you know how people speak that the a word the b word the c word the every word that comes out and that's how I would speak now whether it's coming from the society from my upbringing from it doesn't matter it doesn't matter where it came from what matters is that I would speak disgusting and I would refer to people in words like stupid you idiot you this like you don't have to say that sometimes I hear my kids even they tell to each other you don't have to add that word you can say what's on your mind without adding stupid uh without adding idiot so some people say what's the big deal it's just uh no it's a big deal because you're hurting the other person and you are also damaging the device the tool that you have to praise Hashem with yeah you said a not nice word maybe for you idiot is it's normal it's not a nice word I'm not talking about other words now of course the Torah will tell you the most important thing is to learn to random it's not well the Torah in the mitzvot is what's going to assist you to become a much better person but if you're looking back now 10 years 15 years 20 30 50 years and you don't see a difference then that should raise a big red flag and you have to really take to consideration I'm not doing what I'm supposed to do I'm standing in the same place and as a human being you do not want to find yourself standing in the same place doesn't matter if it's in your spiritual growth in your Torah observance in your relationships in your financial growth if you're standing in the same place you know the famous cliche life is right like riding a bike if it's hard means if you if if it hurts it means you're going up if it's easy it means you're going down right you heard that 5022 times but there's also a riddush in addition to that that if you stand in the same place you fall try to stand on the same place with a bike it only has two wheels you fall so we are created to constantly ascend with that said comes a powerful book that I read many times there's a few other books that we're learning alongside like tomorrow I like the books that I give you tools how to refine yourself just to say you have to be a better person that's worthless to tell a person you know you need to really work on yourself okay thank you now what how so my father took me through a conversation and he told me a very powerful lesson that up until today I I like holding by and at the time there was a commercial in the TV and they had this slogan and it were it was in Hebrew malasot what should I do to do of course in English doesn't sound so it doesn't ring so nice but in every room Allah and I took that as a very powerful lesson what should I do do you have to do something you sit like this nothing's going to happen and my father taught me gave me a lot of tools he told me you you want to make money you're gonna have to work you're not gonna get it like that you want to be successful you're gonna have to work real hard you're looking at all the success stories after 10 years of hard work sometimes you look at a rich person you think I wish I would be rich yeah he worked for 20 years hard you're looking at a very successful athlete oh I want to be successful like that yeah he's practicing for 30 years a musician same thing sometimes you see the product not too long ago we saw somebody playing the violin unbelievable unbelievable my daughter took the violin why am I not playing like that because that person practiced for 30 years if you practice for 30 years you'll play the violin just as good so everything in life that you need to acquire comes with a lot of hard work and you have to start somewhere so if I want to refine myself it's going to gonna change because of the weather you need a plan you need how to do the how to refine myself therefore the book is not only that it gives you great information it gives you practical advice what to do now if you're looking in general at the last 28 classes or the entire chapter then you can conclude it in one thing that what's most important to for me to work on my refinement is to actually do with what that's what would be the conclusion to the unnaked eye yeah I'm reading the book it just tells me to do its words and that's the the difficulty and at the same time the challenge of many that they're saying I don't want to do a limit you want to do all them it's what if you can or not every Etc I have desires I have lusts I have distractions I can't do all the Meets World it's very hard to be very Torah observant you know when I became observant I looked at the the at the at the menu and I'm like I'm never gonna do all that who are you kidding can you really observe all them it's about every day come on this is not easy at all first I'll go memorize all the Meets World and do them I want some vacation but there's no vacations in the Torah can take a week off every day and I became observant I mean I didn't even become observant I just knew that I have to become and I had a friend who was mentoring me and I told him okay how do I become Jewish so the first thing he told me you have to pray I said no sorry first time he told me he's about after you eat kosher the next thing you don't you have to pray again why don't we praying and then he gave me the devastating news every day every day no breaks and then he gave me even another atomic bomb three times a day three again we can put them all together or maybe I do two for the price of three like eight times a day I need to apply myself and to pray three times reading from the same text every day so if you some are trying to summarize the first chapter is kind of telling you in other words that you have to do a limited words it's not going to work without that so I want to change that analysis go very briefly quickly through the six Gates so we can come kind of come to some conclusion because listen I want you to apply what we learn if you don't apply it then bemidt it's a waste of time and I can already tell you you cannot apply everything I read the first time the book I think maybe 15 years ago you you apply every time one or two things and then you master that and then you do another one too and you master that and you do another one or two and the approach that I took with everything when I became observant I wanted to have a certain goal some people want to learn the entire tablet some people want to go through the entire zoa whatever I wanted to know all the the limb of my heart and so I was like that's one thing I want to I want to know all the tilling of my heart what's the big deal to memorize it so what did I do I started with chapter number one so I would read it over and over and over it didn't work so what did I do I would take a short like little paper and I would write one verse on each note and as I was when I would walk in the street that was the time that I would memorize the the chapters I would say the verse over and over and then pull that just that note to see that I'm saying it the right way and and my goal was to do in the beginning at least one chapter a week so it took me one week to memorize the lines right and I would mess up in the beginning then go to my notes but the result was that at the end of the week I knew one chapter of my heart because I said it I don't know hundreds of times and memorized it you know the old Torah in Hebrew is called mishnah and the reason why it's called mishna is because you mention in you repeat and repeat and repeat that's the word mishnah by the way not to teach mishna means listening to repeat listen means that you repeat over and over and over and over if you're going to Yeshiva to little kids that's what they do they're chanting everything off by heart but the result was at the end of the week would come I knew a chapter of my heart and then the next week will come another chapter so a few weeks passed I know already three four five six chapters of my heart saying it off my heart and then just when you once you know of my heart you just have to maintain it to say it once a day twice a day hey twice a week so at some point and I'm telling you that was my goal so I never achieved the goal by the way but I know a few good chapters of my heart I don't know how many 30 40 50 I don't know it doesn't matter but the idea was two things the consistency of repeating something over and over and the next thing was that it wasn't and I knew it cannot be acquired in one chance I limited to one chapter a week now where did I have challenges up until chapter 18 they're very short chapters chapter 18 came threw me off it's a very long chapter but nevertheless so you know what I did I skipped 18. and then I went to I said let me first memorize the short ones this is about 50 short ones I'll do the short ones the point is that you cannot conquer the world in one shot you cannot learn the whole thing in one go and same thing with the book but really when you want to Summarize chapter number one and the author is telling you that we have to focus on the mitzvot and I know many will come and question I'm a man some of them it's about are for women I'm a woman some of them it's photo for men uh some of them it's water only for priests some of them is for uh when we have betamidash will come and say I don't see myself in there where are my mitzvot well launchers also have their mitzvot everybody has Meets World it's not only the seven laws of Noah the seven titles there are many mitzvoted non-jews have to do but nevertheless the focus is on the mitzvot so chapter one number one comes and says to us something very simple if you focusing yourself as a a some type of an entity what are you looking at at your body or at your soul then if I would look at myself I look at myself as a body I don't see my soul so I relate myself to myself as a body so he comes and tells you you're right the body is what makes the man but it's just a garment the body is just a garment to the soul and the Garment has a purpose in the winter my coat is protecting me from the cold and in the summer my garments are protecting me to be modest and if it's raining then my coat will protect me from the water so our government just serves me so I have to remember at all times that my true entity is my soul that is what needs to be nourished and fed and been taken care of and the Garment the body also has to be taken care of but just remember that that's just a garment now I don't know anybody will come and say you know what I think this week we can go without sleeping without food well we don't need it Nobody Does that because after a day or two you'll fall asleep whether you want it or not nobody puts themselves on a fast 20 hour fast for no reason or a three-day fast you by default you're taking care of yourself doesn't matter who you are you'll you eat you drink you sleep you bathe some people go the extra mile they make sure that they eat healthy they want their body to be healthy they sleep around the right amount of hours and so forth so the same way that you maintain your body you have to maintain your National your soul now comes the fact that when the Torah tells you that you have to fulfill the mitzvot that's because the mitzvot is the food to yourself if you don't do the mitzvot the Commandments then you are depriving yourself from food and when your soul is hungry or tired then you're gonna feel it you're not going to feel it as hunger or tiredness you're going to feel it with sadness you're going to feel it this depression you'll feel it as an anxiety you'll feel it in many different ways most people they have some type of maybe an emotional psychological things that they're battling depression sadness anxiety fear and so forth it's not coming from external things sometimes maybe yes a lot of it is coming from the soul the soul is hungry it doesn't get enough nutrition so for one person it will come out as depression another person will come out as anxiety another person will come out as a you know just a type of behavior that they can't sleep they can't digest food or whatever it can come out of sickness but a lot of the problems that people go through has nothing to do with what's what the world offers it has to do with the soul not being nourished so he comes the number and chapter number one and he says first lets us understand a few major things a the body is a vehicle your main entity is yourself the same way that the vehicles the vehicle needs maintenance the soul needs maintenance the body needs food and and they drink and sleep then the Soul needs some type of maintenance then he goes into length and saying just that you know that the body is a mixture as a result of the sin of the tree of knowledge and the sin of tree of knowledge is called the the mixture of good and bad that's why it's called the tree of knowledge good and bad then he comes and explains how the result of the tree of knowledge that good got mixed with bad affected our entire existence and also our body is mixed with that good and bad the bear is the impurity of The Serpent and the body is mixed partial good partial bad and the bad will manifest into the body's diseases and unfortunately many people struggle with many different types of diseases and sometimes they don't even know where it's coming from but that's from the rottening evil side impure side of the body and the good part of the body uh is going to be feeding and nourishing the spiritual part which is the soul so when you're taking the connection between the good and the bad unfortunately that's part of the creation right now when Michelle is going to come of course it's going to change the body is going to be just good but since we are mixed with bad the bad that's in our body is what allows us to become sick and the good in our in our body is what allows the Mitzvah that we do to nourish the nashama that's very general everything that I'm saying here is very very general what we're talking about and of course he adds another important thing in chapter number one that when I do a mitzvah I have to understand that there are 613 meets vote in the Torah corresponding to 630 Limbs and organs in my body and when I do a CERN Mitzvah then what I do is I pull a Godly light a hyut a life force into the limo to the organ in the body saying in other words that when I want to enliven the body and nourish my soul then I it has to be done through a mitsuba and when I do them don't look at it as I can as a commandment or as a burden rather look at it as a spiritual vitamin or spiritual mineral A protein that goes to a directly to a certain organ saying in other words that the body is built from 613 parts and the mitzvotes are really the connection of strengthening and enlivening all the body parts therefore when I damage them it's not I do two reasons there's two results a I'm damaging the limb and the organ in the body B I'm not nourishing that part of the Soul so he titled the first chapter as the program the damage that I Do by sins now imagine how you work all your life and you save to buy a beautiful car and once you buy the car you know you wash it all the time you park it in a garage you don't want it it's not nobody's scratching it you take care of the car then I can be with your car that can be with whatever some electronic device when I was a little kid I saved that money I bought a bike and I moved my bike I wouldn't leave it outside we wouldn't put it here wouldn't put it there that's a natural normal thing you worked hard you maintain the object that you purchased or worked hard for so here the conclusion is coming and saying listen you have a body which is your vehicle to take you through this world and you have your nashama which is your essence do you want to damage it why would you want to damage it if I have a vehicle now and that's my business that's how I make money would you on purpose go and damage it it doesn't even make sense on the contrary you will do anything you can to maintain it so basically saying in other words you have to understand that your body is the vehicle to take you through this world and you're in a Sharma your soul is your Eternal being you have to maintain it and take care of it and when Shalom you do something bad which we call a sin then you're going to do a damage anything that you buy in this world will come with a owner's manual right your car your refrigerator your TV your computer and it says very simple I never read the manual I don't think anybody reads the manual it's like an encyclopedia you know what you read that booklet that just gives you the basics now when you buy a new phone it will tell you don't put the phone in the water don't put your phone I don't know expose it to the sun don't put it tells you what not to do and what to do now you just pay thousands of shekels of dollars you wouldn't do that so the dog comes and tells you by the way all the do's and don'ts that the Torah comes and specifies that's the owner's manual don't lie not because it's not nice because it will damage one of your organs don't gossip not because it's not nice because it's going to damage one of your organs or limbs don't steal don't commit adultery yeah morally it's not the right thing to do but that's not why I'm restricting you on why I'm advising you one can come and say the mitzvot yeah their title is Commandments because if it would be titled as advice nobody would do it I don't need advice I'll work it out myself so Hashem says okay I have to title this Commandments that you have to do it but really it's advice it's the best advice you can get can you imagine greeting the Torah the best book of advice follow the Torah you'll be very successful so the Torah comes and tells you if you do a certain sin it will damage your body and your soul so why would you want to do that so chapter one goes in length to explain the relations between the body and the soul and how the sins from the Torah will affect the body and the Soul at the same time so when you internalize that you're saying why would I want to work to to lie or cheat or slander or do any other of the sins I'm the one who's going to suffer from that forget about now what I'm about forget about forget about all these terms in this world I don't know anybody who's going on a road trip and then before he starts the road trip says let me puncture the tires why I don't know but you're going on a road trip you need the tires so chapter number one is focusing on the relations between the body and the soul and the fact that when you don't follow the Torah and the Commandments you're going to damage both now we go into chapter number two sorry gate number two we're still we're only chapter one gate number two comes and tells you by the way after you understood that deuteronomics vote is your lifeline it's it's your everything your spiritual and physical fuel it's your guide just that you know that the mitzvot as important as they are there's another factor that you have to take to consideration and that's called midot your characteristics which are not less important than the mitzvah and according to many are more important now there's just for the sake of the example one of the characteristics is to be humble is there Mitzvah a specific Mitzvah the Dua tells you have to be humble there's no Mitzvah to tell the tales you have to be humble and on the contrary the opposition the polarity of being humble is being arrogant gather Pride honor there's not such a mix with the Delta tells you you should the the how they shall not be proud this is a a Prohibition there's not a sin to be arrogant so one might say hey I didn't find it in the door how can be arrogant I can be a pot as much as I want so chapter number two comes and says by the way there's one level of uh observance that is more important than the mitzvot they're not considered as a sin or as a Mitzvah but just as you know they have just the same effect and worse on your body on yourself and they're called middle your characteristics you're always going to have good characteristics and you're always going to have bad characteristics that's how Hashem planned you as we mentioned in the class before Hashem created you with a deficiency with a lack with some type of damage so he gave you a good a lot of good character traits you're polite you're courteous you charitable you're giving you patient that's a lot of good character traits but also Hashem gave you a few character traits that are very not nice they're angry quick to judge full of arrogance hate jealousy and the list goes uh very very long so chapter number two comes and tells you based on chapter number one and again I'm going if I'm really zooming through the chapters we can't summarize 28 classes in in half an hour chapter number one since it's talking about the connection and the relation of the body and the Soul it dedicates a part to explain how the body is constructed and it's explained that the body is built and created from four elements earth water fire and air and we went into length explaining about the elements and explaining other things that connected to that but chapter number two comes and says by the way the same way that the body is built or created from four elements then the midot who are above the body also are created from four we'll call it now not elements but rather four categories so if the body is Created from Earth Fire Water and Air then and the the soul also is Created from these four elements but nevertheless the midot who are the thought to say the engine of myself they're also divided into four categories both the good and the bad which means that I have four midod characteristics we all have them that are bad and four characteristics that are good I need and then for each person it's different one person will have more of this one one person will have more of that one in a different class I once explained with the elements that we all sharing the same four elements but every person has always one element that is more dominating one element that is the least dominating and two elements that are usually equal so it could be that within me physically spiritually and emotionally the element of fire is dominating the element of air is the least and the earth and water is more or less the same so the same thing with them without we all have share the same without but one person will have more arrogance another person will have more rudeness and so forth so he comes and gives us a very quick analysis that there are four good middle characteristics and four bad characteristics the bad ones have to be overpowered and completely subdue and the good ones need to be nourished one of the good ones the four good ones are being humble is that I have humility and I'm humble the second one is silence that I know when to zip my mouth the third one is that I despise physical Pleasures I don't want to have physical pleasures I actually despise them and the fourth one is happiness for good middle that I need to constantly nourish I need to nourish my Meda my attribute of being humble constantly nourishing how to know when to be silenced to despise physical pleasures if because if I despise them I don't run after them and of course to be in a state of joy and happiness these are the four main good methods and from that they'll start manifesting into many others therefore bad middle the first one is arrogance Gava to be proud that's the problem that everybody has the second one is anger we all have that the third is called Idol Chit Chat it's the opposite of being silenced then I just talk I'm not talking right now about slandering gossiping lying just idle chitchat just talking and talking with no purpose and the fourth is called the last and the desire for physical pleasure and for one person the physical pleasure will be sexual intercourse another person the physical pleasure will be food another person the physical pleasure will be I don't know taking drugs or alcohol or gambling or whatever it is but we all have some type of lust for some physical pleasure each one in a different level each one for a different category but we all have that I don't know many people who said I don't want to pleasure anything not food not sleeping not sexual intercourse I don't want to pleasure anything so chapter number two comes and tells you yeah the mitzvot are extremely important to the nourishment of your soul and your body but don't forget that there's one thing above that and that's your middle and if you don't nourish that then your essence and the root to everything is suffering for deficiency it will affect everything many saying in other words that I have to have two things in the front of my mind the toranda means what because I needed for my spiritual sustenance and on the same time I can't neglect my middle how many people have you met in your lifetime that are can be called Taurus Scholars but they're rude arrogant vulgar and many other things you don't have to raise your hands so we're not going to embarrass anyone I met many so what is your Torah worth is your Torah worth anything is worthless if you learn eight hours a day throughout 12 hours a day you know the talmouth but you're arrogant Are you rude I'm sorry to tell you your Torah is worthless so you worked a lot on your Torah but yummy dots this is no refinement there and unfortunately I know many like that so what did you do then you lost both because you didn't refine your middle your characteristics and your Torah is worthless you think your Torah is going to be accepted in shamaim if you're full of arrogance so here we're settling two important paths that you have to focus on your Torah observance and that cannot be acquired overnight some people takes them 50 years to get to a point that their tour observance now of course a lot of people say yeah of course I'm Thor observant somebody asks you you observes Shabbat of course I observe Shabbat well if we're going to go down with to the nitty-gritty and we're going to go with the magnifying glass neither one of us observes Shabbat by the way not to blow the air out of your sails I told you already I was observing Shabbat for years by not driving not using the phone not turning the TV on or electric devices and many other things but after many years that I got to the section in all law about Shabbat I figured out I'm not observing Shabbat not even a bit I'm failing in everything what is not allowed to be carried in cooking be sure in almost everything sifting now one might say ah no come on that's like for the extremists that's the fanatic there's nothing to do with a fanatic it has to do with the Torah tells you and if the Torah tells you know what to cook on Shabbat it's not I know you're not making now uh uh pot roast but making tea on Shabbat in a certain way you're cooking if you're not doing it the right way you're cooking I'm trying to tell people now you're not observing Shabbat wrap your bags and go home coming and telling you it can take you decades before you really reach your high level of Shabbat observance and don't let that discourage you because Hashem says I'm happy with what you're doing now but don't stop learn laws of Shabbat that every Shabbat you add another thing that if you're looking at a 30-year lifetime oh I actually I really mastered my Shabbat and it's the same thing but a lot of people say I never say lashonara I don't gossip I don't slander yeah but you don't know all the laws of roshona and sometimes what you think that is not the genre is you thinking you're doing good and you're actually doing bad how many times have we learned the laws of so many variations when is it when is the child molester in town and I'm mourning people people like flagging that you say something you're talking you know something about you learn the the laws you know when it's not shown around when it's not cannot be compared to shabbat because Shabbat is like tons of laws but it's with everything people pray for years and they don't learn the laws of praying and they fail in many things they do things the wrong way the wrong order so what I'm saying now is not to discourage you it's just to make you understand that these things can take years when I became observant at some point for two years I was like kind of like as they say dipping my legs in water but after two years I kind of got to the program went to Yeshiva and within half a year from being almost secular I was like almost fully observant so to my perspective that's it Amazon observant and in my mind I thought that's it I'm totally observant it took me another five years to realize oh that's when I started becoming observant and the next five years is to learn how to really become much more observant in my Shabbat observance kashoot also with kashoot a lot of people say of course say it kosher most people think they eat kosher they don't eat kosher whether it's how the meat is being slaughtered whether it's how the fruit is being separated here in the land of Israel whether it's the utensils that you mix meat and dairy and 100 million other reasons a lot of people think they eat kosher I'm sorry to tell you're not relating kosher thank you enclosure but you're not and again this is all not to discourage you it's to make you understand that you need to learn and proceed and grow with that said so we have chapter number one that is explaining to you the importance of them it's not chapter number two is covering the importance of the refinement of my characteristics of my middle and then chapter number three comes and tells you by the way once you're able to master that then you have two titles that you can win one of them is called the Sadiq a righteous individual and another one is called the khasid so chapter number three is concentrating by saying if you follow chapter number one and two and you really work on your Torah observance and you refine your character traits then you might reach to the level of at Sadiq and there's many different levels in at Sadiq but you might reach a level of a Sadiq but if you want to go the extra mile since you're already investing so much time then you might want to go to the next level which is called and it goes into a lengthy explanation what is the hasid that the the general summary a person that does kindness and charity with his master saying in other words that I understand that because we are in Exile and because that I sin the shrina the man the feminine aspect of the Divine is in Exile too and I suffer the suffering of the shrina and everything that I do is not for myself I'm not doing it to gain reward I'm not going doing it to have knowledge everything that I'm doing is to reduce the suffering of Hashem being in Exile and that's a very broad definition very hard to achieve because usually I'm very selfish and I do everything for my own self growth and myself a pleasure but the level of hasid is that I there's no me everything is done for Hashem not to suffer in Exile and how is that done of course only through Toronto and only through refining my character traits if I do not acquire me Dr vote good midod it's not gonna work which means that any chapter one and number two to really build myself to start going into level number other tadiq or uh now again I'm not necessarily telling you that you have to be on the market for one of them one of the levels I actually don't like titles we serve Hashem for the sake of serving Hashem but nevertheless then it goes into chapter number four number five that in chapter number four it explains to you very thoroughly how to gain the level of attack by breaking it down into five categories and they're all about doing with votes like I told you Sadiq it's focusing on them it's what and it breaks it into five categories by basically telling us which meets what we have to do which later on of course brings us to another big question a lot of them I can't do how will I do that so the five categories that it's explaining is that first of all the the mitzvot that I have to do is all the meats want around the time of praying because the thought of it's what when I pray in the morning especially a man you know when it's what I do feeling and tallied and stuck on reading and learning and Shema so all the Mitzvah that I have to do in the morning prayers in all the prayers sorry another morning prayers all the prayers then category number two is the Mitzvah that are dependent on time that are a cause because of time and that's for example Shabbat Shabbat Shabbat you don't celebrate Shabbat on a Monday you can only do it on Shabbat and you can only do pesach on Sukkot so the mitzvahn that are defined by a certain time category number three is the mitzvot that uh can only come to me in certain circumstances for example if I only have girls I can't do the mystery of circumcision to my son and the Mitzvah is for the father not for the child the child can't circumcise himself the midst of Brit Mila falls on the father so if I don't have a boy I can't do the mitzvah right if I don't have a house I can't do the Mitzvah but doing a a fence uh railing around the the roof so these are mitzvoted only if I have the opportunity I can do category number four five sorry four is Mitzvah that I have to pursue to look for them to do it they're not going to come to me I have to have to initiate a situation to go and do the Mitzvah and then I want to start going through them it's not because we dedicated a few classes for that category number five is the mitzvot that only if Hashem wants to he will get give me the opportunity to do doesn't matter what I'm gonna do I can turn the world upside down I'm not going to be able to do the Mitzvah unless Hashem decides to have the Merit and he will give me the opportunity and I will be able to perform the Mitzvah which means that I have to be alert and I have to jump on the opportunity the second it happens I want to do the mix of returning a lost object I can't tell you can you lose your wallet there and I'll come after and I can't do such a thing I have to walk in the street and huh I lost object which means Hashem has to arrange that to happen and like that many others which means that basically like I told you you have to be alert you have to be waiting for the opportunity how many times the opportunity comes and you don't do that there's a Mitzvah to escort a person on their last path when it goes to burial how many times somebody that I don't feel like driving now it's three hours it's far away I don't feel like going to the funeral I'll come to the Shiva okay so you missed the mitzvah don't complain later on that they tell you you could have done the Mitzvah why did you do that I was tired I was uh my favorite show online I didn't want to miss the the broadcast so gate number four is kind of going through all the mitzvotes and we went through them all to in one way tell me first of all that the mitzvot that I need to do but also to put me in some type of a state of confusion that wait a minute half of them I can do and of course we gave we dedicated the whole class how you can do them it's what that you cannot do that you can refer to the summary of gate number four and a long class how you perform them it's all that technically you can do you're a woman you can put your meter for a man vice versa you know the priest we don't have betamidash and so forth but the the conclusion is if I want to reach your level of Sadiq then it gives me specifies exactly what I need to do so if I come to shamaim and they tell me I'm sorry you know what Sadiq I can't argue so here he's the mitsubility we were supposed to do you didn't do them all now a gate number five is coming and telling you let me explain to you what you need to do to reach the level of hasid gate number five border the mits vote to be at Sadiq you want to be a khasid so you have to focus on three things the first one is acquiring middle to vote then you have to pursue good characteristics and it's not so easy because when I want to be charitable the test is going to come when I'm the most not feeling to being charitable and if I if I want to be hospitable then the challenge is going to come when the least convenient for me to take a family with six kids into my house for three weeks and many other things if I want to be courteous and loving and caring and and so forth then it's not going to come so easy you need to acquire them I don't want to be arrogant I want to be humble then when I want to be humble all the challenges are going to be that my ego is going to not going to let me be a humble and why and you got the points this is called acquiring middle to vote and that can take you 60 years 70 years 40 years your whole life because sometimes you need to lose your temper 100 times to know when not to lose your temper and sometimes you need to open your mouth and say the wrong thing for a hundred times to know when to zip your mouth and to say okay I was able to to do that some say that acquiring man good Mida one good characteristics is harder than going through the entire world around learning it thoroughly but you want to have on your resume to come up to show them and say yes I was very quick to judge and I worked on myself I'm able to hold myself and overpower my desire and my urge to be rude or to be vulgar to be judgmental so that's not so simple to acquire Middleton like I told you a lifetime the second thing is called sumera saying in other words I have to remove myself from all evil also not so simple because in many situations like we explained in previous class the challenge is in front of me I can't hold the challenge I will fail right away when a child of a a challenge of lust or desire or honor comes and the third one is doing good a set of and again same thing I want to do good I want to do all the mitzvot but many times will be a challenge a test and an obstacle and I will fail for many reasons so when I want to reach to the level of Christine you have to follow these three categories and then comes gate number six that summarizes all the six gate the five gates and gives you a very clear order how your day need to look like so one might say learn all five gates then go to gate number six and read the daily routine that you need to follow and it tells you you want to master Gates one to five then it's only by having a daily routine and the daily routine that he gives us in chapter number six is a very busy long hard day the day starts the night before now if you just focused on gate number six it looks like a mountain that cannot be climbed it looks like a goal that will never be achieved I will never be able to do that then I have a challenge that I put myself you can use it if you want I want to do once a month that day now you don't start with once a month everything then you do once a month that I do one segment for example he starts by saying that how you prepare yourself to bed you have to say the Bedtime Shema on the surface well it's a big deal it's a text I just reading the text no 10 minutes no no you have to do confession for your sins you have to introspect about everything that you did that day you have to correct what you did we went through it but be honest with yourself you don't have to tell me have you said for the last month every night no may you not in color a lot of people say yeah one time yes one time not once I was very good at it then I had a so you know not to put you on the spot you said you said yes as you said it every time every night the last 10 years again putting anybody on the spot I look I direct these questions to myself so if I ask myself have you said every night the last month have you said every night in the last five years no I didn't I forgot a few times I fell asleep a few times Who convinced me not to say so I turn all these questions to myself so I'm gonna just give you one example on a minute because in chapter number six we went through it every part of your daily routine so sometimes I like to put myself into a challenge and says let's take gate number six and do the daily routine one time a month that they have to be like on steroids now I can tell you already it can be done one time a month you really focused but after you did it once a month you're saying wow how can this be done every day every day of my life to live my life like that and I don't want to repeat repeat gate number six we dedicated a class to each segment the first one was how you prepare yourself to go to sleep one class dedicated from that is it's not just reading text segment number two is waking up at midnight and it's not 12 a.m midnight according to the to the Torah calculation and reading a certain prayer and staying up for the rest of the night how often do you do that okay you can do that once a month twice a month once a year once a week I know people do the courses every night early in the morning then after read you have to learn after that you have to eat after you eat you have to work excuse me no sleeping is before you go to sleep at 10 o'clock at night nine o'clock at night six o'clock don't forget then in the olden days now it's dark what is it now quarter to five it's almost dark now we have electricity in the olden days he used to go to sleep at six seven forget about olden days I know people who go to sleep at seven eight at night yeah and they wake up at one in the morning and they say they're going to Hassan I mean listen it's a lifestyle I'm not saying that it's applicable to everybody but nevertheless the daily routine was pretty and then of course in the daily routine go and work now it's just just working you have to work and be honest with dignity and integrity not to steal not to cheat and so forth and then they're praying praying are weird oh it gives you a whole daily routine now the challenges trying to do the whole daily routine once a month you can do it I believe anybody can do it the point is to take on yourself slowly slowly things that are in the daily routine that you get it under your wings so to say like we said I think that's one of the easy ones to wake up at midnight which can take you half an hour itself if you're doing the whole thing then to sample night listen not so simple to do it every night but to try to do it once a week try to do it once a month same thing with same thing with the rest of the things but you can definitely that's my Approach when I became observant let me first Master the simple things and when I start mastering the simple thing it's exactly the analogy that I gave you with me learning the killing of my heart let me start with one verse I'll Master One verse I'll go to the next but once I got the first verse forbaden I got it under my tongue that's it it's not going to be forgotten unless I'm not gonna say it for a few months yeah we'll forget it but once I got the first verse memorize that's it it's memorized now I just need to maintain same thing here you want to take the summary of gate six that's when you actually doing it practical that you're saying okay what can I do I can't do everything if you go to a chapter to gate number four when it tells you all them it's what you need to do I went through them it's what I said okay I can probably do 20 percent for sure so focus on the 20 percent and when the 20 becomes like part of your life then we'll negotiate the 21st percent don't shoot for the 100 you're not gonna make it you can't make it unless you are a Super Jew you're not going to be able to make it and my Approach is the faster you try to grab too much at once you're not going to grab nothing better to grab small and grow with it and by that you are very secure you're securing your growth it becomes part of your day the same way that in the beginning it was extremely hard for me to remember what prayer do I say when I put something in my mouth is it charcoal is it like to say all the description I didn't remember the blessing now it's like uh autopilot which of course you want to don't want to fall to the danger of it when it becomes autopilot then you're saying it without the right meaning but that's not what we focus on right now the point to take is a chapter number one is giving you a synopsis an overview of everything that you need to do you need to be smart by saying this is way too much for me to do right now I can't do that I will hope that within the next 40 years I can do that but I need some type of a plan when I became observant I knew I have to observe Shabbat I knew it I just knew that's it comes with a package in my mind I was like no chance I'm observing Shabbat I cannot do that what can I do I can do a douche okay start with kilosh so for a few months just Kiddush next I'm asked to that what next I'll leave the light on in the bathroom that I can handle okay but I had a plan how I proceeding what can I do what I cannot do what is easy for me to do I'll do that what is hard for me to do I'll so to say bring myself in so the point to take is to take really the the the daily routine in Gate six and all the rest of them it's well that is explained to us thoroughly in Gates four and five and to make a plan okay what what am I already doing what is easy for me to do what can I achieve in the next year what do I want to achieve in the next five years and to work diligently towards your plan now you I can tell you already you'll gain much more credit points if you're able to do successfully a little bit then nothing a lot so when I looked at the chapter at the gate number six in the daily routine I said what can I do consistent this this and this I can do consistent I rather focus on three four things that I can do consistent than to focus on 20 things and do it one day yes Monday no one day it is and keeping in mind that within the daily routine try to do once a month once a week once every quarter of a year that you're saying that today I'm doing the whole daily routine because if you do that then you have one Perfect Day in your ear okay it's a good time to do it in the Lulu it's certain days you're like okay and this is where I'm gonna be like the the best but you definitely want to make yourself steps you want to make yourself go this is something that you have to do by yourself I cannot tell you tell you what to do you want to make some type of a map if you don't have a destination and you don't have the key points where you want to reach saying in other words you don't have a plan it's not going to work unless you have some type of uh your own individual system and you have how to make your system work without a plan without goals without any points of importance of course everybody has their methods I can only share with you my methods in the last 20 years how I was able to move forward because I had a plan for everything because I understood the mountain is too high I cannot climb it in one shot somebody sent me this beautiful picture that goes around in all the social media and you see on the left side a ladder with many many many steps and on the right side the ladder that only has like five levels and two people are like looking like this is the ladder and it says something along the line the small steps help you go on the ladder when there's no steps no level you can how we grow to the next step so I'm sure you saw this picture and if not you understood the point that the small steps is what allows you to grow now it's all nice in theory what we're saying now you cannot the whole time if you don't put it in a plan it's not gonna work I already tell you I tried many times to read a book if you don't put it in a plan and the plan only you can do and there's no there's no uh course of how to plan my spiritual growth maybe you can advise with somebody a little bit more knowledgeable I'm just able to give you the methods in the system I can tell you already that these types of books same thing with Thomas if you don't put it into some type of a plan it's going to be very hard to to bring to success and if you don't do that then not that I'm trying to discourage you but why are you learning the book If you're not planning on doing anything to waste your time in the class left you're saying this is valuable information how do I do that so before we going into chapter number two which it has a different approach temperature number two number one you have to at least Master the concept of chapter number one is that the mitzvot are vital and important and I have to I cannot choose some of them as well a lot of people say I'm spiritual I'm connected to God I'm a good person it's very nice of you but if you're not doing them it's what it's worthless you're not going to reach to the same level you're not going to be able to now it's so popular everybody wants to learn Kabbalah and Zohar and but many teachers and organization teaches the theory they fail to tell you if you don't practice the toront all your Kabbalah and the Tsar is worthless both cabal and Zoe will tell you first of the middle okay then they'll come back how can you learn kabalan of the mitzvotes now everybody thinks they're cabalist because they learned a little bit about this this is firot you don't do them it's what you'll never reach to a level that you actually understand what you're learning and to actually practically do it so the Toronto mitzvot are vital and a must the the middle are more important more important so simultaneously you have to work on your middle you can't just invest your time in praying and doing its vote and not working on your anger your judgmental your feelings your jealousy your whatever it is it has to be simultaneously never even put more effort gate number three something that I don't like I don't like categorizing things I don't I don't care if I am alone I don't care I don't need a title but it needs to learn gate number four and five yeah it tells you clearly what you need to do when you need to to understand because why is that important because when you go into gate number four it can I I told you I went through gate number four and says okay 20 I for sure can do let me focus on the twenty percent then I'll take what I can of course like the ones who are are opportunity Mitzvah that's a whole different thing but that also needs to be engraved in the back of your mind how many times an opportunity for a Mitzvah comes your way and you didn't do it and you're like oh my gosh I missed the Mitzvah I could have done this mitzvah but you're uh I don't want to say what you know whatever it can be arrogance can be sadness can be prevented you from doing a mitzvah so you need to know and again that's the road map I can do these mitzvot these I can't that's a maybe this I can do everything this I can do once a week this will do once a month don't worry Hashem knows what you can handle and then of course the daily routine you want to strive I know a lot of people that they read it I'll never be able to do it thank you here's the book here thank you so much I'm not gonna do it I met many people who looked no I can't do it but at least do 10 20 30 do once a week once a month the point you want to take from that is that he's giving you an unbelievable set plan and programmer to do your choice is how you applying it and like I told you if you want to work you work with a plan and you slowly slowly do whatever you can and again we're not here shopping for college we're not shopping to be called that I want to do the good in the eyes of Hashem and my achievement I will be able to feel a hundred percent successful is when I leave this world that I will be able to show in shamaim in the heavens that I was able to refine one media and not even resign it completely just to reduce it from 100 to 50 then I said okay I think I was successful if I look back like I told in the beginning of the class when I became observant and I knew I have an issue with how I speak with using foul language and so forth and I look back 20 years and my language was refined 80 percent I was able to do something I was able to be successful in one refinement of one character you can tap yourself on the back there's nothing wrong with feeling that you achieved something it's not about ego it's not about Pride or arrogance I achieved something if I was quick to anger and now it will take an elephant to get me angry okay dude I did something and again it's not about being arrogant to a pot it's about being I achieved something I worked hard I applied and it worked but you that's how I see it that's the this whole book is for me how do I make myself a better person when I uh before I became observant I left Israel I grew up in Israel age of 22 I left Israel I wasn't in Israel I think like 12 or 13 years didn't come back the first time that I came back unfortunately I had to come back because my brother-in-law passed away I came back for the funeral in the Shiva and I slept over in my sister's home I saw her in that was 12 13 years maybe once or twice I don't remember could be that I didn't even see her I think I didn't even need to see her at all and I slept in her home and we were very close growing up after two three days that I'm sleeping in her home she was like wow you you were never like this you kept saying you were never like this you were never like that and I told her yeah that's that's the new version that's the refined version that's the version that worked a lot hard on myself and you now seeing the results a different person and she told me she kept saying oh you would never clean after yourself you would never exist constantly giving these comments and I told you you're right that's the old me this is the new me the new and refined version same alone same nonsense same sense of humor same everything nothing changed by the way that's the problem with most balachua they think they need to change if you change you're doing the biggest mistake ever if you're a musician prior to YouTube stair musician if you're a dancer a wrestler it doesn't matter I see battle Troopers that they change themselves they lose themselves they're unhappy they're miserable you have to stay Who You Are but I refine you and I was proud and uh happy to tell my sister yeah that's the better version of me that's the that's what you remember he didn't see me for 15 years that's the old way lazy annoying judgmental angry whatever rude that's a different me say me just a little bit different so that's really what we want to achieve here a better version of me that you'll be able can you imagine you meeting yourself when you were 20. just imagine Hashem put some type of a simulation You're Now 50 60 40 he puts you in front of you when you were 20. imagine having a conversation with yourself that you are 30 years before I don't know if I would like myself 30 years ago I probably would argue with myself because I think when I was 30 years ago I was a pot and the Annoying arrogant idiot I I would talk with myself how I was 30 years ago I wouldn't like myself now that's a good sign that something changed so it's the same me and when I look at myself I'm the same one but when somebody looks at me it's a whole different person not because of the beard different approach different Behavior different manners that's what we want to achieve you want to look at yourself in 20 30 40 50 years and saying it's me much better me refined clean nice no judgmental no jealous no anger much better person kind of like when you work in a cold mine for two three weeks then you go take a shower ah so again memorize as much as you can you have to read it over and over see the classes you want you want to get it in your system there's a reason why we chose certain books as many amazing books out there that we can learn from and eventually we'll get to them too but this is look how thin the book is it's like a little book oh you can't master this to take you to the world to come as a polished diamond much more valuable than Netflix much more valuable than Facebook much more valuable than anything that our world offers to you because it gives you the opportunity to become a very refined version of yourself [Music] foreign [Music]