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hashem
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this is from lakute sikhais
we're going to be learning today is from
la cote siche volume 4
page one one four four
eleven forty four
you'll see middle of the page there's a
title rosh hashanah
this is a uh
this is from a talk
that was delivered
a secret a presentation a sermon a shir
that was presented by the labacher
on rosh hashanah
and simcha
thompson
that would be
around september 1962.
it was rosh hashanah at the fabregan of
rosh hashanah and then later a follow-up
at the fabregan of sukkah
as i said 1962 the end of 62
in the hebrew it would be taushan
khafigh which would be 5 7 23.
so let's begin
rosh hashanah it's a yiddish it's a
yiddish
would usually speak in yiddish but i'll
translate and
elucidate and explain to the best of my
ability base russia
aleph
says this is a verse in yeshaya perik
nunhei
isaiah chapter 55
and
it's a very very
famous passage it's the haftarah that we
recite on a fast day
and we recite it in the slither some of
the slithers
some gidaya others
dear hashem
which literally means search out
hashem when he is present
call out to him when he is close
so the gemara asks the question what
does this mean
search for god when he's present and
call out to him when he's close
god is always present
god is always close
how could he be far
so ghazal tell us
that this is actually referring to
or alluding to a particular season of
the year
it's the ten days between the shashana
yem kippur dasan and sen tag
those are unique days that are charged
with special significance and meaning
and energy and opportunity that we say
seek out hashem when he's present
call out to him when he's uniquely
accessible uniquely close even though
he's always present and always close
but eilua saruyam these ten days that
begin with rosh hashanah
and end on yom kippur we call them
the ten days of trivia the ten days of
repentance
this year it's gonna begin next week
rosh hashanah and then continues
through mkhitaryan these 10 days between
him kippur those are the days that the
navi the prophet yeshaya navi isaiah the
prophet alludes to when he speaks about
seek out hashem when he's present call
out when he's close
there seems to be
something grammatically amiss here
that the laboratory is going to take
note of at the surface it seems like
just a small
little nuanced
technical issue
as we will see
there's a very nuanced detail contains
within itself
the opening the vista the gate the
portal to be able to dissect a deeper
message
in adam
razal
in this language and this
terminology
employed by razal razales rabbei
our sages are teachers of blessed memory
there seems to be a paradox
let's remember the words of ghazal and
this is by the way from assassin
as he says in footnote 2
attracted rosh hashanah page 18 a so
sony vomits
explaining
that when is hashem uniquely present the
10 days it refers to the 10 days between
rosh hashanah
do you hear the issue do you hear the
issue in the language
of
the language is
the term
used by our sages in the gemara is these
are the ten days between rishishan
kippur
between rosh hashanah kipper
intimidation
themselves are outside of these days
if you say i'm going to meet you
between
two or between two o'clock
excuse me
i'm going to meet you between rosh
hashanah and yom kippur
or between any two
dates that you want to uh
refer to
so the
what does it sound like rosh hashanah
and kipper themselves are not included
in those dates these are the 10 days
between rosh hashanah and kippur so they
begin after rosh hashanah and they
continue till the end kippur yeshua am
kipper themselves are excluded
from them
but between rosh hashanah and kippah
there are only seven days
because rosh hashanah is two days yum
kippur is one day
so the ten days of chuva begin with rosh
hashanah and end with jim kipp if you
actually look at rosh hashanah and him
kippur themselves as being excluded and
you look at the days in between shebane
you only have seven days
but the ghazal speak about ten days
between rosh hashanah
so we have here a serious we have here a
real problem in the language
they could have said
these are the 10 days from rosh hashanah
through yum kippur that would make
perfectly sense they don't say that they
say
these are the ten days in between
rosh hashanah
this is the paradox de la shadow is
addressing when you say in between it
sounds like rosh hashanah and yom kippur
themselves are not part of this unit
on the other hand you said ten days
between
kipper
we can't invent new days on the calendar
that don't exist that means you're
including rosh hashanah yum keeper which
one is it
right it's
so most people look at it and say okay i
don't know it's it's
maybe you gotta fix maybe it's a
printing mistake
but it's not
it's just an expression
but the expression seems difficult to
understand again it seems like a paradox
either they're included or they're
excluded you can't have it both ways
logically
muslim and zagat
so the rebbe continues
how how do we how do we deal with this
so you have to conclude
that industrial
our sages
were intimating
and
in their
inimitable style
and extremely nuanced
style of presentation and expression
they were teaching us that the shoshone
and kippur
each of them
have two
dimensions
what is
each of them has an essential
intrinsic theme
that belongs to it itself their own core
which is not about truth it's not about
repentance
in addition to that rosh hashanah and
him kippur are also part of a unique
unit of 10 days
that embody the theme of truth of
repentance
this
this paradigm
this way of understanding it answers the
paradox
is
the system is first you address first
you appreciate first you internalize
the essential theme of rosh hashanah
vis-a-vis itself
and then the second concept of rosh
hashanah as part of the unit of the ten
days of truth
is
used this
enigmatic language the 10 days between
to intimate
that
first comes
the work
of rosh hashanah itself
in other words the avoider the server
the service
the life that emerges from the essential
theme of rosh hashanah vis-a-vis itself
following that comes the second element
of rosh hashanah and that is it's part
of one of the 10 days of trigger
so here we reconcile the question and
let's explain
khazal say these are the 10 days between
rosh hashanah and yom kippur so we ask
the question it's not between it's from
rich hashana why couldn't they just say
it clearly ten days from nishishan
natalyam kippur the answer is if they
would say it that way you would be
missing the point you would be missing a
major point because you would think
there's just one unit of ten days of
chiva that begins with rosh hashanah and
ends with the conclusion of yam kippur
because i want to tell you something
else rosh hashanah and kipper have two
aspects one is rosh hashanah vis-a-vis
itself kippah vis-a-vis itself
has a unique theme
outside of the realm of truva we're
going to explain what that is yum kipper
also we call him kipper it's a day of
atonement but he says even yom kippur
has a unique independent theme that is
essential to itself
beyond it being one of the ten days of
truth and in that sense
stand outside of the 10 days due to this
unique
individual theme that belongs to rosh
hashanah itself not only rosh hashanah
is part of these ten days
just like every single day
has its own unique quality besides it
being a unit of a week or a unit of a
month or a unit of a year
we're now in the month of ello right so
every day has an element that it's part
of l it's part of a unit but it's also
its own unique day
just like in everybody's life
there's certain things you do every
single day
you brush it
we brush our teeth every day just like
sunday or monday or tuesday or wednesday
in that sense it's one day
that's similar to any other day on the
other hand there's also unique things
that belong to this day and this time of
the year so the rabbit says this is what
the khazal are saying this is the
element of rajashananyam kippur that
belong only
kip to
in that sense the days of truva
exclude rosh hashanah kippur because
roshana and kipper have a theme that
transcends the concept of truth in
addition to that there's a second
dimension to rosh hashanah
they're part of the unit of 10 days in
that sense they're included within the
unit of 10 days
in order to bring out this very subtle
nuance cause i'll say it briefly and
concisely by saying these are the 10
days between rosh hashanah and kipper in
other words there's an aspect in which
they're included because it's ten days
so they have to be included on the other
end we're saying in between because we
want to say there's an aspect of china
but it's not part of the unit they have
their own theme and that comes first and
then after that comes the ten days
between rishi-sanayam kepu which is
focusing on rosh hashanah as part of the
unit of truth
this is true about the immigration
like he says in foot note four the can
be am kippi and kipp has these two
things i'm reading footnote 4. there is
the essential message of yom kippur
which transcends chuva and then there's
the concept of
um
and the essential message of yam kippur
comes after you have the unit of ten
days of truth as he will explain later
in the yem kiprada
kasirkha which i hope to get to blinder
we actually started it last year i don't
think we finished it
now the question is what what does all
of this mean this is the introduction
what does it really mean what does it
mean there's the rosh hashanah
vis-a-vis itself
and rosh hashanah as part of a unit of
base
chuva is
chuva is something that transcends
there's something about it that reaches
higher deeper as we will see than all of
the commandments
was the language
that's why chuva
has a unique power it can repair it can
fix
all of the blemishes
that may exist in a person
blemishes as a result of me engaging in
something that is inappropriate
or me abstaining from something that is
important
and it creates a garment creates some
type of blemish
and yet shiva can fix that blemish how
if i really did not do this mitzvah that
was so important
or furthermore i transgressed this myth
which was so important
so now we say that truva comes and can
fix it all
it can cleanse you bleach you whiten you
remove every stain but how does that
happen
if there's a real blemish here there's a
blemish
so from here we see that sugar
is higher than all the mitzvahs in other
words triva has some
very deep potency it has some very deep
power
that it can fix
all the blemishes that were caused
as a result of mitzvahs or the lack of
them
there's something about truman that
reaches into a deeper place in the
person
and a deeper place in reality deeper
than anything
so true is an incredibly powerful idea
because it means i did the wrong thing
or i didn't do the right thing
and maybe for a very long time
and that has consequences it has results
there are ramifications to that and then
comes truva
and removes all the problems transforms
the person cleanses the person may even
elevate him or her to even a deeper
place
so this means that truva has something
in it a secret as we're going to explain
that goes deeper than the mitzvahs
because if not
how could it do accomplish this that all
the mitzvahs can't if i don't do them
it's i'm missing something
and we say no that's tilt true but once
you did shiva you're good to go you're
uh
you're good
really wow so trooper has some that no
mitzvah has a mitzvah i have to do and
if i don't do it i didn't do it
there's no way of getting around it and
if i did and if i actively did something
that i shouldn't do i did something i
shouldn't do we call it a navarro we
call it a transgression
and yet trevor comes and says no it's
not a transgression anymore
what do you mean it is
shiva has something that's deeper than
all the mitzvahs
fascinating
he says in footnote 5
it's wonderous why did they rambam the
great codifier not
include the mitzvah of truva in the
number of the 630 mitzvahs
perhaps
what we just said can give an
explanation because chuva is higher than
the mitzvos and it encompasses all of
them
and he continues and he says
in the introduction says that mitzvahs
that are all encompassing let's say it
says in the torah you should keep all
the mitzvos
it's not counted in the number of 613
the number of things underneath includes
only individual mitzvahs that deal with
a specific act a specific thought a
specific word specific emotion a
specific experience
so the rebbe says since chuva
is higher than all the mitzvahs and
chuva includes all the mitzvos because
truva helps for any mitzvah that was not
done
any mitzvah that was violated triva
helps in other words it includes all the
mitzvahs perhaps that's why the rama
doesn't mention it as one of the
mitzvahs
you could say
it does require a certain specific
action called chuva the rambam doesn't
mention general mitzvahs when they don't
require a specific behavior it says in
the terror do all the mitzvahs so the
ramadan doesn't mention this because
there's nothing nothing to say about it
because there's no specific action but
it does have a specific way a specific
formula how you do it he says that's
true but
chuva has two components to it
the first is
a little blurry
indian
the main idea of true which
is a resolution for the future of how
i'm going to live with terraria
to you that's like the mitzvah be holy
based
allah of our remorse for
that's like the mitzvah your backbone
your nape should not be hard any longer
and these two mitzvahs to be holy and
not to be stubborn are general mitzvahs
what is unique about this confession
this is a parenthetical
so now let's go to the next paragraph
i just was reading the footnote
height bald actually the middle of the
paragraph of uh at the end of at the end
of the page the beginning of the
paragraph that begins with bass
pal
next page
so let's think about this if we just
said that the concept of rosh hashanah
as one of the days of chuva is secondary
to the theme of rosh hashanah
in and of itself this means that there
is something about rishashina that is
even deeper than truth
so this we really have to understand
because truva is already higher than all
the mitzvahs because truva can fix
any mitzvah
even that which the mitzvah did not
accomplish
in other words i did not do the mitzvah
and therefore i'm missing that mitzvah
chuva can fix that
i did the opposite of a mitzvah i
violated a commandment
and i have a blemish sugar can fix that
trevor can fix everything
famous words of the rambam in the laws
of chuva chapter three
nothing stands endlesh
it's based on a urushalami nothing
stands in the path of truth
now when we say that rosh hashanah
has an independent theme that transcends
even suva there is rosh hashanah as part
of the ten days of truth but that's
secondary to the concept of rosh
hashanah the theme of in and of itself
this means
that the theme of rosh hashanah in and
of itself is even deeper than truva
but this only begs the question what
could be deeper than truva when you
already said that truva reaches higher
than all of the mitzvahs what could yet
be deeper than truth
continues
so what is
indeed the theme
what is the void of
in and of itself
we know that void of rosh hashanah as
part of a serious image of but we
explained we're going back to the
beginning
that the concept of is one of the ten
days is in between richardson name
because it's a theme of rosh hashanah
that stands apart an aloof of the theme
of richard as part of us
what then is the essential theme of rosh
hashanah itself
what is it
she explains
he says we continue further
you see everything has a footnote so you
can always see where it's from
foot note 6 rosh hashanah tazhayan ahmed
aleph rosh hashanah
16 and 34.
ghazal tells us that hashem tells the
jewish people that when it comes to rish
hashanah i want you to declare before me
all the verses of malchias many of the
verses that discuss
coronation
god as king so that you will coronate me
you will declare me as your king
you will coronate me
as your monarch as your leader as your
king
that's what our sages say
is the theme of rosh hashanah and that's
why in the prayers of rosh hashanah the
main theme that's
recurring that keeps on repeating itself
is the theme of divine coronation
like we ask on rosh hashanah again and
again
may you god alone
rule be the king over all of your
creation we speak about vieda kalpal
the oven call you circa for you
hashem
allah
may every creature know that you created
it and every creature know that you
formed it
and everyone that has a soul in its
nostrils may it declare that god is king
and his king permeates and penetrates
everywhere
and so on hamelach
the coronation of hashem as a king
that's the thieve of rosh hashanah
gone says
as we will see
it's one of the reasons we blow
chauffeur because by coronations they
would both shuffle we'll get to that
soon
now let's think about this what does it
mean to coronate
s is moving it's understandable
we understand that one before before one
accepts upon themselves
the malchus the kingship of hashem
the whole work of mitzvahs is
inapplicable
as our sages say
the merchant says this and
god says
first accept my malhos
and then my kingship and then you'll be
able to accept
my statues my my blueprint for life my
decrees
that it's amazing in in schmoyes
says that there was a king that came to
a city a country and the people said why
don't you give us your constitution give
us your laws he said before i give you
laws you first have to accept me as your
king
i can't give you any laws before you
accept me as your kin because they're
going to be irrelevant and ineffective
so god says first kabloom al-husi first
accept my malchus and then kabul zara
said
and then you'll accept mike zayers the
mishnah says in brachas why is that when
we read shema we read first the portion
of ahafta
and then the portion of
tishmu he says first
of all
before you read the second portion
first you need the first portion where
you're basically accepting israel hashem
as a king
in other words before you accept a
relationship with him you don't have
that of mitzvos let me let me just give
a very practical example
let's take an employer and an employee
an employer can give to an employee a
list of what has to be done today yeah i
can give him a list of five things i
need you to do this today but that all
presupposes the idea that i work for you
if i don't work for you if i don't
accept you as my boss what are you going
to give me you're going to give me a
lift list of what to do i don't even
know who you are i may know your name
but i don't work for you
once i accept it i'm part of this
company i'm part of this corporation i'm
part of this office i'm on staff
okay and now i accepted you as the the
ceo as my boss so therefore now okay
tell me what to do
the king is giving me decrees tell me
how to live who are you
so hashem says first accept my malhouse
and then you can accept maxarius my my
my blueprint for living but without that
there's no
relationship no relation there's no
connection there's no relationship
taking a marriage yeah
this there's obligations that a husband
has to a wife
obligations i'm talking halachically in
jewish law there's obligations a wife
has to a husband
the word obligations people don't like
today but there's obligations it's
called duties
duties but it presupposes a relationship
if you never accepted that you're
married
this is hard sometimes for people
now you're gonna tell me okay please
let's do this let's get this
accomplished please get this
accomplished
i'm not married to you
where do i come into where do i come
into doing all of these things
so all of the mitzvahs are very nice
but they all presuppose a connection a
relationship
and this is so important
because the relationship
precedes everything
once there's a relationship the mellor
says i'm yours
i belong to you you belong to me i'm the
leader i'm the k i'm going to take this
is my company and you're part of it now
this is how we live
but without that essential relationship
that precedes the mitzvahs
the mitzvahs become meaningless
they become just dry
empty tools
it's true about all the mentors it's
also true about truva what's true
is the tool to repair
that which i did not do
that which i
failed
to execute in terms of a decree of the
king
that also can only come after there's a
relationship after i accept it as
malchus just like a king gives me all of
these decrees i don't know who you are i
never accepted you as my king i never
coronated you
it doesn't apply true also doesn't apply
truva is saying i'm sorry and making
amends for that which i didn't do for
the mitzvah that i didn't do so true the
two can only come after i accepted this
again back to the marriage back to the
employee
i said
that once i'm working for the company
and you're my boss now i can get a list
from you what to do now let's say i i
fail to do that list or let's i even
mess something up
so i come to you and i say i'm sorry i
apologize i have to fix what i did
whatever it is
the concept of truva but that too could
only come if you're my boss and
therefore i need to apologize i failed
you
i failed the company again in a marriage
sometimes a husband doesn't fulfill his
duties or the other way around i say i'm
sorry
i said something that was off i did
something that was off
so i make amends i say i'm sorry but you
buy flowers you buy a card whatever it
is
to do true the other way around the
woman wants to apologize to her husband
they both want to apologize to each
other for what
for failing to live up
to their duties to their
responsibilities to their love to their
commitments but that can only come if
there was already
an established relationship i belong to
you and therefore i'm feeling remorse
for not living up to my obligations as a
spouse
does haste what do we mean here this
means this follows
before you talk about any mitzvahs
before you even talk about fixing
the issues in the relationship because
we failed to live up to each other's
obligations
that's all very important
but that's all comes later
first we need to make sure
that we have a relationship
how important is this how important is
this with your children
how important is this with anybody
you're connected to
i could focus
on what you're doing right or what
you're doing wrong
you have to do this you don't have to do
this
but to relate what if the relation the
connection is not there
it all comes after this connection
that's the key
from connection
flows
certain things we do
to embrace and intensify and solidify
and enhance
and implement the relationship and
certain things we don't do
and when we make mistakes we then do
chuva which is repairing but all that
presupposes all of this follows
the prerequisite to all the baseline the
paradigm the aside the foundation the
core
and that is
your mind i'm yours
we often you don't even talk about this
like this you take for granted
but you can't take it for granted
because if that's missing
you're missing the foundation
so he says what's rosh hashanah that's
rish hashanah
that's why we say rosh hashanah is even
deeper than mitzvahs even deeper than
truth
truth is once there's a relationship
there's an obligation and therefore
i feel bad i feel remorse and i'm going
to make a resolution for the future this
is what we call trivial repentance
but first the employee has to be hired
he has to be hired
he has to experience himself as a new
person i am part of this company the
husband and the wife have to be married
in other words we are in a marriage
i come to a strange room i never met and
i said here's a list for you to do
things for me i'm sorry you're a nice
guy but i don't know who you are go find
somebody else
you have to do truth because you didn't
do this for me
i don't even know who you are
so the debate says what's rosh hashanah
is about the relationship itself
it's deeper and higher than all of the
manifestations all of
you means all of the revelations
which in habad lexicon
these are two very
potent words atsmus and gilluem thank
you
this is
of a mitzvah boy when is your mitzvah
today
tomorrow okay i see you preparing well
before you start the mitzvos
you see before he starts the mitzvahs
he's starting all the mitzvahs before he
starts all the mistress he's entering
into the relationship
with you
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so
deals with atmos itself there's what's
called atomos and what's called giluyu
he's going to explain atmos means
atmos in the hebrews like the bones yeah
that summaries are the bones etism is
the bone but it's representing the core
essence
gilluem are manifestations
means every person has different
energies that they give off
impressions that we give off atmos is
the core
so the rebbe says that void of rosh
hashanah is about the
can you make me your king
can it become the day
when we
begin to belong to each other
which part of we
my essence
my essence just like in the marriage
marriage doesn't begin with doing this
or doing this or not doing this it's
part of it it's obligations what we call
the ksuva
you got to provide
you got to put money on the table
you got to make sure your spouse has the
clothes they need the food they need the
shelter they need the nurture they need
the protection they need the health they
need
just like with your child
being a father a mother doesn't mean you
pay tuition for the child
you're like which world do you live in
yes i know it means that but it doesn't
begin with that
that's the way the relation to one of
the ways it relates to manifested you
make dinner for your children and you
take care of their laundry and you take
care of another .1 million things for
them
which they may find out hopefully when
they get a little older
just like you found out with your mother
and father
is that the relationship it's part of
the relationship it's a manifestation of
the relationship but it doesn't begin
with that
oh you see a child let me pay tuition
for you it begins with the fact that
you're my child
what is that about is that an act how do
you become my child
what is that
what does that look like
you're my child is before
i'm gonna make dinner for you i'm gonna
make sure you have a bed i'm going to
make sure you have a home we're going to
make sure you have the nurture and the
nate and the love and the protection and
the physical and the spiritual and the
psychological and emotional peace of
mind
hashem
that's all the relationships
manifestations where the relationship is
channeled in day-to-day acts this is
what we call mitzvahs
these things you do these things you
don't do
there's things that relate to physical
concrete
things apparently and then there's
emotional stuff
there's being there for your child
emotionally there's being there for your
child physically concretely some people
do everything right there's always
dinner and everybody has clothes and
everybody has a bed what's missing is
emotional presence
sometimes people have a lot of emotional
connection they're not so good in the
practicalities of it
but both of these the emotional
connection and the practical duties all
presuppose that there is an essential
religion you're my child
same in a marriage
there's things a husband does for a wife
a wife does for a husband there's the
physical practical stuff making a living
whatever it is and then there's the
emotional connection the emotional
presence
but all of these come after the key
we're married what does that look like
is that a mitzvah is that something you
do every day
it's it's expressed in a lot of things
you do every day
but it's based on an essential
relationship that is deeper than a
particular act
there's no one thing i do that makes my
child my child it's a definition of you
i am a mother
i am a father you are mine i am yours
we are essentially which part of me my
arms my legs my nose my face
yes
but more than that me
me commitment me
my atmos
that's rishi
we have
we always talk
you you bring in a kid
you're bringing a
a teenager do you have to do mitzvahs of
course you have to do mitzvahs he
doesn't know about the relationship
mitzvah's
i know nothing about the relationship
about the essential connection
and which part does that touch that's
not my arms or my legs it's also my arms
and my legs it's the essence
you know the guy you know the story
the reason i made a separate bracha is
because it's a separate drink and the
drink the second drink was not here when
i made the first one
and i didn't
i didn't have in mind for it that's why
i'm making a second blessing
there's a beautiful story
that
really it's a very deep story that
samart sadek
he's known as amazon was the third
labacher his name was
his mother
mother passed away when he was a little
baby
he was actually born the day before rosh
hashanah
of memphis
and his mother passed away
when he was a young boy it's a whole
story she actually passed away right
after rosh hashanah some gadalia
and his grandfather raised him
obviously there was
a woman in the house to help him but his
grandfather raised him as a father
and
they were once playing
and it's
a little baby he was a young boy very
young boy was sitting on his
grandfather's lap now you know who the
grandfather altered you could see in the
painting his beard right you could see
what type of beard he had
so the tzamak zadak was brushing
he was putting his hands through the
altarebas beautiful beard and he was
saying zaid
zaid
which was just you know an experience of
intimacy and love and connection my
grandfather and my zadie my zadie you
know he's just putting his his
his little cute hands through the altar
at his beard
and the altar ebba said where is the
zeder this is the zadie's beard
where's the zeddie so he pointed to his
nose
he says this is zadie's nose where's the
zaydi she pointed to his eyes
these are the zadie's eyes where's the
zeda
he pointed to the forehead
and so each time his grandfather said
this is not your grandfather this is the
nose of your grandfather the eyes of
your grandfather the arms the legs
the torso the forehead the skull
where is the zeida
so that samakhsadhi didn't say anything
it looked like he was so to speak you
know he lost the game like his
grandfather got him right he kept on
saying zayd
and his grandfather proved to him that
no you're not touching the zeta you're
touching limbs different organs of your
grandfather
so it seemed like it was like okay you
know my grandfather's smart man he got
me again
right with this little game or trick
but it's
he was no dumb child as you would say to
put it mildly a few minutes later the
altareb is sitting and doing his thing
and that's it is by a door
and he suddenly gives a scream
it seemed like
that his the door slammed on his finger
that's what it looked like
so you know the pain right you have a
hand
i had you know you ever had that finger
stuck over there in the door when it was
slammed shut
that's what it looked like
he was a little kid
so the altar ever heard this he jumped
off his chair
and he ran over to the tamar
he ran over he said was like what's
happening mendel
and the time i said like a little kitty
sitting on the floor he looks up smiles
and says ah
this is the zeida
this is the said
this is the saint
the beard
is part of the zeida the eyes certainly
part of the zed
the forehead part of the zeta this is
called giluim
it's the way the zeta is manifested
through a face its arms these legs the
whole organism and each one expresses
something and each one is is so
important
i connect to you with my eyes and i
connect to you with my arms and i
connect to you with my legs and i
connect you with my heart and i connect
you with my brain i connect to you with
my mouth
but i'm looking for to say the doubt
that
that alternate wanted to teach his
grandfather about this
the essence
atmosphere
the connection attachment we call it
attachment
which part i am attached to you and
you're attached to me
what's whose eye
the core of i
the core of i which is not easy to
define what that looks like it doesn't
look like anything
and therefore it looks like everything
that's rish hashanah in their
relationship it's deeper than mitzvahs
it's even deeper than shiva
mitzvahs is about how to live truva is
about repairing and making amends when i
failed
which is even deeper than the mitzvah
because it's the ability to compensate
its ability to fix a mistake and the
ability to fix a mistake comes from a
much deeper place and that's why it's
not affected by mistakes it can handle a
mistake
as we'll soon see what that means so
it's already a deeper relationship than
the mitzvah
the mitzvah is you got to do this
and you're not going to do this and
these are absolute they're
non-negotiable
what if i don't
is the relationship over no there's
truva you can repair it
but even deeper than shiva is rosh
hashanah
you're mine i'm yours god says
coronate me
what does it mean to coronate me how do
you coronate me
i'll give you a mitzvah no it's before
mitzvahs truva no it's before trevor
what does it mean to be in a
relationship with god what does it mean
to be married what does it mean to be a
parent what does it mean to be a zeider
what do these things look like
they look like a billion things but they
also look like nothing it's an essential
trust it's an essential relationship
touches your core and your child's core
your core and your spouse's core
your core and hashems
our grasping what he's saying here
well what we're not with we're not
discussing him kipper yet we'll get
there
whoopsie
okay a bird just came to visit us
hello birds
somebody writes here
one of the the pillars of our class
writes as follows
too many of our in in the chat too many
of our children
and even some
potential converts
are presented with a judaism that puts
obligation before the relationship
and some never even address the
relationship at all
it's literally like putting the cart
before the horse
sometimes forgetting the horse all along
and all together
and then wondering why the cart
can't get to its destination
when
you put the cart before the horse and
you may have even forgotten about the
horse
yeah
you got it
next so is this saying that on one
hand there is an inherent relationship
that we don't choose
like a child
what are you gonna unchoose your child
and on the other hand like a child
oh
and on the other hand it's a
relationship that we choose like
marriage
that's a beautiful question
do we choose it or do we not choose it
right the marriage relationship you have
to choose
that's the definition of marriage both
the woman needs to choose the man has to
choose it if somebody who's coerced into
our relationship
legally and holographically it's not our
marriage the woman has to agree of
course and the man has to agree
a parent and a child
it's a different type of choice you're
going to be my child forever
the truest you have to make is
are you going to acknowledge it and are
you going to realize what that does for
you and to you
and is that going to be an active part
of your life
and that's a choice that even children
have to make
they can't choose the biological
connection i mean if i'm your mother i'm
your mother if i'm your father i'm your
father
you're my child you're my child that the
biological fact
but how much you're cognizant of it how
much that defines your life in a
positive sense hopefully
how much is that's going to how
meaningful is that going to be for you
how much of your life is going to
reflect that innate truth we all have a
choice sometimes children
painfully
feel that they don't want a relationship
with their parents
now sometimes
that may be they feel it's a lifesaver
because of terrible situations they have
been in but very often it's not that
very often it's they do not know that
they're looking for that relationship
they have created a cover-up to
compensate for that pain and that void
and therefore they don't go back to
those primal connections that they
really desperately need for their
self-value and self-worth
but they feel
because of maybe some betrayal at
a as a young age that that's not
available for them so their whole life
they're looking elsewhere but really
there's a wound that they're not
addressing
so i could be in a relationship that i
completely don't acknowledge in fact i'm
running away from it but i'm ultimately
running away from my own deepest
yearning in need
so which one is this okay that's a good
question
so here we come to the point that before
everything
we have to know that we're here for each
other and this is so important let's get
back to the marriage there's times that
a husband and a wife have to be there
just to be able to go back to that space
it's not about what we're doing today
it's not even about repairing which is
amazing which is amazing that's true
but that's all after
the connection
the fulfillment of mitzvahs those are
the decrees of the king
this touches hashem's will the way
hashem's will is manifested because the
mitzvahs are his will
so when i fulfill the mitzvah what am i
doing
i am executing i'm implementing the will
of the reborn shall islam
that's a relationship
that's the way the zeder is manifested
in arms and legs and a beard and a nose
and eyes and a forehead hashem says this
is my will and here is
what i'm asking you to do
again husband and wife
there are things that the wife wants
things that the husband wants and we do
it for each other and it's part of our
obligation as a husband and wife
then do something deeper avoid this
then there is true truth means that even
if i messed up
and i actually violated your will i
violated hashem's will
or i didn't do what i was supposed to do
i could repair
wow that's very deep that's even deeper
that means i could repair the
relationship is not over
sometimes the employee
has a this is what you got to do you
don't show up you don't do it maybe even
make a mess can you repair
not so sure maybe you get fired here we
say no you can repair it's like the
husband and wife get divorced
you could repeat there's something
called truva this fixes even that which
i did which was antithetical to the will
this
this means they're lying
for ratson we're on the second column
1145. this means that truva reaches
deeper than the will that i want it
it touches me in a deeper place
is still connected to a space of
consciousness that's connected to my
desires
in a place
where these desires don't exist so then
true also doesn't mean anything because
the whole idea of truva is i'm sorry for
not doing what you wanted i'm sorry for
hurting you
by engaging in this behavior or not
engaging in a certain behavior that you
wanted
so this is already part
of how your will is being manifested the
first level is doing what you need to do
or not doing what you're not supposed to
do that's mitzvahs
the second level which is even deeper is
even when i didn't do what i was
supposed to do
i feel bad for it and i could say i'm
sorry and we can repair it
but all of this is not yet talking about
the relationship itself
this is all the way the relationship is
manifested in particular wills and
desires and plans
it's not the zayd himself
this is the core it's beyond
this is what i want this is what i don't
want that's much later
it's that we're here for each other
who who's we we we are we're which part
of me i want this i want before that
i'm yours your mind
i my essence
is
this gives you an appreciation of what
our soul is
the soul touches
the essence itself for the falcon and
zebra mustang
and that's why they can arouse in hashem
so to speak the desire to be a king
they touch him in his core
abu bakr
in order to touch that space you have to
go into that space in yourself
this is called the bitter panimi of
etzema
the complete oneness and alignment that
comes from the core of your soul and
that's expressed in the coronation of
rosh hashanah when we say and we ask
i want you
and when you hear that you say and i
want you
and that's the coronation of rosh
hashanah
so we have three levels in the
relationship this will be elaborated and
explained and brought down
with more details more explanation and
we'll continue with bayes hashem in the
next year which is going to be thursday
morning 7 30
a.m
so we'll be able to have a deeper
understanding of these three components
that we're addressing mitzvos chuva and
then rosh hashanah in its essence
questions
every year
is always valid but before truva
you first need a relationship
truva is valid of course it's valid
but the truth comes following the
essential connection
then there is the concept of mitzvos and
then there's the concept of trooper
which is deeper than mitzvos
somebody says this is much more obvious
today than once upon a time
right right
it's like when a couple
when a couple
right spends time
it's not undoing something specific for
each other or not even making amends
and those are all important stuff
it's really about the concept of
reconnecting essentially
okay i'm gonna wish you all a beautiful
day