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The Orphan (Rosh Hashanah)
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There is a very strong dichotomy when we
come to the of Sh which you might have
heard before and that is obviously when
we're coming to yin we are discussing
the intrepidation the fear of standing
before the mishpat the person is on
skddo about to be acknowledged whether
he's going to make it this year or not
especially when we're getting to these
older years for some of us and we end up
getting to that stage we know that every
year is precious every year is a present
every year needs to be appreciated and
therefore when we stand on rashashana in
fear and intrepidation as the midrash
springs that a person doesn't even dress
properly he doesn't get a haircut
properly he's he's he's scared puss like
this guy who killed Kirk who's really in
a place where he might get the chair he
might end up getting killed so he is in
a certain stage of fear
that's what we're supposed to feel
during this time period obviously the
chauffar is there to remind us of that
when it speaks about the
and and the calling of the chauffar
which is bent over as the Gar says in
and it's bent over because we are
supposed to be bent over in front of
or the fact that it's called from being
poor the concept of the fact that we are
poor in front of because we are in fear
of what can take place and what is up
against in front of us as the midrash
brings it to you that says the malim
didn't understand Why we don't sing sh
on rash sh it's a time to sing shir
that's a time for us to appreciate
for taking care of us and we should be
singing shiru says they're standing in
front of us bin how can they go ahead
and sing shir and that's the reason we
don't say halal halal on the day of rash
so alop we see from everything we've
spoken out that it seems to be a time of
fear but if we are familiar at the same
time it is a time of of satisfaction
writes as it says Ezra said on
talking we're supposed to eat and drink
and be merry we're supposed to get
dressed properly as is brought down in
hash
the idea is that it's important for us
to dress properly
unlike someone standing in front of a
din we're supposed to be sitting in
tranquility satisfaction gleem
we know that as the Russian says over
there,
he's going to do for us a miracle. He's
going to help us out
stands in front of us and he's going to
help us out and he's going to pass us
through the we're going to make it this
year and he's going to take care of us.
He loves us. And since he loves us so
much, therefore, it's called a it's
called a connector. It's a place of
connection with
it's how do we resolve this? You might
have heard the question but it's very
important to practically understand how
such a thing can occur. You can be in
fear and in s at the same time. A
feeling of love and fear simultaneously.
It seems obscure. It seems strange. It
seems unusual. This irony requires to be
resolved and the answer is I'm going to
tell you an incredible story and this
story is a true story 100%. I heard it
from the person who heard it directly
from the couple itself and this is a
perfect resolution to this problem and
that is once once there was a Alman and
Almana that were getting married a widow
and a widowerower. They were young.
Unfortunately, they lost their spouse at
a very young age. Each one for a
different reason. And they got engaged.
When they got engaged, as is usual, the
Almana, the widow, she went to go meet
his three children. He had a child,
seven, five, and four. And he went to go
meet her three children to see Batashem.
We're going to make a new family
together. when she met the child, the
seven-year-old, he said, "Oh, I'm so
happy you're going to come into our
family and you're going to take us to
the park and tell us to go home when it
gets nightfall." She didn't understand
what he was talking about. Tell me to go
to the home when you go nightfall. Most
kids aren't interested in that.
After asking, requesting a explanation,
the boy said like this, the older boy
who was 7 years old, he said, "When my
mommy was around, she used to take us
very often to the park. All my friends
were there. All the kids were there. I
used to go with my siblings and we used
to enjoy ourselves over there. But
whenever it started getting close to
dark, close to when it was nightfall,
mommy would tell us, "It's time to go
home." And it was very frustrating,
irritating, almost annoying. It's not
fair. Everybody else is out in the park.
You're there. Someone goes in, but why
can't I stay out longer? And I would ask
her, "Can I go? Can I stay? Can I stay?"
And she would say, "No, honey. It's time
to come in." No, it's time to come in.
Cassador day in and day out. That was
the conundrum. That's how it kept going
day in and day out. And it was quite
upsetting. I got used to it, but it was
frustrating. But you know when mommy
says, mommy listens. This was obvious
story for many years ago. When mommy
says, mommy listens. Anyways, that is
the what happened. Now
we should hear from such things. But not
long afterwards, this mommy, this mother
of this child got a very serious
sickness and she got the mahala and very
soon she was nifar. It was a very short
and quick death unfortunately leaving
this husband an alman leaving this the
widowerower without a wife.
They sat Shiva for seven days in their
house and you know as kids are kids they
understood bar what was going on but
that's it. They said Shiva. And then on
the eighth day when it was time that
they could leave the house, guess where
they went? They went to the park. The
three kids went to the park and they
stayed there till nightfall. And they
said, "Haha, now mommy's not around to
tell us to go home. So we get to stay
later." And here they are. One kid goes
home, another family goes home, another
few kids go home cuz their mommies are
all calling up. But us, but these kids,
I don't have that problem. They were
able to stay longer because they have no
mommy to come home. You're asking about
Tati. Well, I think everybody knows the
answer. Aba doesn't get involved. So
anyways, they stayed in and they stayed
longer at the park and still it started
getting dark and lonely and truth is a
little bit scary even and maybe even
boring. And they were waiting to be
summoned into the house, but nobody was
there to summon them into the house.
Suddenly at that moment they discovered
that they were orphans. Then they
discovered they wereim.
At the minute that they didn't have that
person that would tell them what to do
and put them in place and give them
those parameters, suddenly they realized
they are parentless. Yes, we stand in
fear during rash sham. Yes, we stand in
a realization that we're doing things
maybe that are not fantastic over the
year. We have someone telling us not to
go right, not to go left. Do this and do
that and do things appropriately. Know
how you speak and know what to speak and
when not to speak. Know when to put on
those fill and when to go to when to not
touch the lights and when yes you can
touch the lights and when you're allowed
to go here and when you're not allowed
to go there.
When you're allowed to eat and when
you're not allowed to eat and when it's
a mitz and when it's an isser. Yes, we
have a lot of rules in this religion.
It's quite a lot and it can be tough.
And here we are standing on Roshasham
about to decide how good a job we did.
But all those limitations and standing
in front of that judgment and being in
fear of what's going to happen and
knowing that you are standing in front
of me tells us just that that we're not
orphans. We're not yet. We have an abim.
We have our tati upstairs and he's
connected to us and he loves us and he's
looking right at us. Yes, he might be
judging us, but he's looking us straight
in the eyes. He's paying attention to
every action that I do. He cares about
my action. And he tells me when it's
dark to come in from the park and not to
stay out so late. And you know what?
That's real. That's a relax. That's very
relaxing. That's enjoyable. It comes
from a place of fear. Wow. I hope I'm
keeping up with my schedule that I need
to do. But it comes from a place of
love, of a connection. I have a tati. I
have a father up in Shamayim. I have a
papa. He's up there looking at me. He's
paying attention. It's not even up in
Jamaim. He's right in front of my face
looking at what I'm going to do. And
that's how we find in all the Did you
ever pay attention? Allah says
always talks about this word and
therefore and therefore where does this
word come from? go through the whole
entire this word only appears one place
in the whole entire Torah
and
Esther says before she's about to go to
in the most fearful scary place that
she's about to walk in uncalled she's
about to go in
it was against the law and very easily
if his scepter was not picked up, her
head would be chopped off. She knew that
she was putting herself exactly into
status that we're standing on on Rosh
Shah life or death. And still she went
into it with fear but with happiness.
You know why? Because said
who knows if this is the reason why you
were put to be
that's the reason why you became the
mala in the first place. She knows that
she's doing on Hashem. She knows that
she's going to save. She knows that
she's doing the appropriate thing and
this is my whole this is the purpose for
why I was put here and why I was born.
So, she's very happy about that. So,
yes, it's scary, but yes, it's close and
it's not a contradiction because that
scariness makes me so close to Abba. It
makes me so close to my father. It makes
me realize that I have a father that I'm
not a
I'm not an MUD
who is such a great nation that we have
au the don't have so many seven they
have in the basics and here we are with
a bunch of it but doesn't that tell us
something doesn't that mean that that
means we're living together with the one
who loves us oh so much there's a whole
contradiction about whether one should
cry or not on
you're not supposed to cry in the would
cry all the time in yum He would take
the tears and wipe it on his forehead.
The place of the a yes or no yes crying
no crying. The answer is as the writes
as the writes and ra and others that if
it come the also speak the rama that if
it comes from a place from inside out go
ahead and cry. Don't instill the crying
it shouldn't be something external to
have yourself cry. If you're feeling a
cry of lacking something that's a
problem I don't want you to feel
lacking. It's a cry of fulfillment of
being connection. There's a cry that you
see when someone was sitting for a loved
one. But there's a different cry. Go to
the go to the place when you seeman
should happen to any of us. Someone who
has a relative that was captive in Aza
and they got outm the amount that we got
out over a few 150 that came out. Each
one of those families when they were put
together with that child. Why? Why cries
tears all over the place. What are you
crying about? You're happy. There's a
cry that comes from a gloating of sima
of an apparent amount of overabundance
of emotion a tremendous connection and
that comes from a good place and that's
allowed on yum kiper that's allowed on
rashashana because we suddenly come to
the realization that yes it's scary but
yes it's so ze it's so enjoyable I'm
connected I have a relationship he's
looking at me we're paying attention
comes from a place that there is an
interaction between me and the reborn
there's nothing sweeter than that
there's nothing more enjoyable than
that. And there's nothing more fantastic
than that little boy who's coming home
in the park and he can't wait to hear
the cry of mommy saying to him, "Honey,
it's time to come home. It's time to
come home. Come. Supper is hot and
waiting for you on the table.