The Power Of SPEECH - MUSSAR Iggeret HaRAMBAN (28)

[Music] we uh continue Ouran series uh here at in uh Aventura Florida for uh anyone that lives here and is watching on the internet you're missing out uh because uh being part of the sh as I always tell you guys the uh talk about it extensively uh say that going to a versus uh hearing about it or reading about it the world's apart uh today's uh sh will be for for a David Ben Doris B Leana SAR bat anat uh Stefan Ben Karina um y b b b SAR um eser Bora and all of and and also a very big to all of those precious Souls that uh support us every day every month and will pay each and every single supporter of ours A thousandfold both in this world and the next I uh can never thank enough for all the people that help us whether it's with $10 or $10,000 whatever it is Al was more $10,000 but sometimes there more $10 but that's okay too uh because the reality is you have no idea you have no idea what type of uh uh you have to be a part of the kiru work that I don't even know how much we do until people tell me uh just this afternoon a woman that I never heard of in my life tells me that she's been watching the shim for some time and not only did it wake up our to leave a but also woke up the Nama of two of our kids one 22 and one 24 both of them have abandoned both of them are in the way of and this is just from what watching shim on YouTube somewhere in the middle of the country uh there are countless people that are doing CH and they send us messages they uh sometimes they send us thank you letters sometimes they sent us a message two three years after they've already have become sadim already uh uh and they remembered but the key is you have no idea how much loves the uh and it has really not much to do with me other than the fact that I eliminate my own choice as far as not really saying much of my own opinion just telling you guys what kazal says what says now uh as I told you guys recently we are working on already for the last couple of years already there been one delay after another uh but over the last three or four months we uh got really serious with it and uh uh we're coming out with a uh new uh a new CD a new way to get am is to wake up to get the whole world to wake upem uh and that's with a mix of a um CD and DVD that I uh have here this is a sample this is not the uh real thing um they work but it's we don't have the all the ones that we have we have a CD the DVD is going to be the movie about uh the personal story plus eight other movies uh that are fantastic that have woken up countless people each movie is better than the next and then we have the only English CD in history that is specifically talks about about the issues of tunit and uh there are 57 shim 57 shim about it some are long like three hours our famous sh that has gotten I don't know hundreds of thousands of uh of views and uh countless thousands of people to Do complete Chua uh to short as shim that are as short as 5 10 minutes but uh there are 57 tracks that's Audio Only and then the uh obviously the DVD is a visual and this is going to be just like our other uh CD the M series The Wall Street to Western Wall series there'll be in these nice boxes and you can distribute them to your community to your sh to your local Kosher Supermarket different places and the reality is is that this is simply a ticket to that's really what the the some big told me this is what I have to say in order to explain to you people what this means this is simply each CD is a ticket TOA and the reason why is because the Z says that the tun of the last generation before mashia is going to be tunit for women it's going to be modesty or lack of modesty whether it's the long Pagan wigs or the short mini skirts and for guys it's going to be how they watch their eyes or don't watch their eyes and what happens after that the addiction to pornography the addiction to adultery all types of disgusting things that are happening all over the world that I honestly don't want to tell you about I'm sick of it I'm sick of telling you the news I'm sick of it the news is so disgusting I don't even want to talk about it it'll just ruin the whole day it'll put you in a depression if you knew half the stuff I knew you go in a depression the stuff that's happening in the world why it all starts with the foundation the yod the the Torah calls the Brit that's theod if anyone ever saw those uh drawings of the cabala signs of different parts of the body I called different things you see that the the male member is called the uh sex organ is called yesod what does it mean yes yesod means Foundation what does it mean Foundation Foundation means if you don't fix this the rest of what you do goes into the garbage you can keep Shabbat you can learn T you can give you can do everything in the world you don't fix your breed you go in a g home and you're not coming out this is tah you don't want to believe it you can read the books for yourself we have ones on our on our website for free one is a holy nation another one is guard your breed in your eyes free books hundreds of pages for free there's many other things that you could buy on the internet the point is is that most people today do not understand the magnitude of watching their bed hence the reason why this is the first CD in history sadly but proudly the first CD in history about in English which means right now we have somewhere in a neighborhood of 8 to 10 million English-speaking Jews 8 to 10 million englishspeaking Jews six million in America and figure the rest around the world the vast majority of them the overwhelming vast majority of them religious non-religious have no idea that g is even a big deal the have no idea it's even relevant to them and guess what it's relevant to them that's in the CD Now anyone that learns these is going to do one of two things either they're going to do chuva or they're simply going to just go crazy and admit themselves into a mental institution why because if you don't do chuva after you hear the Adit about the breed you have to consider yourself crazy you have to consider yourself crazy why because this is something there's something wrong with you if you don't do CH now I want to get as many CDs and and USBS and everything else as there are people in the world but unfortunately I'm limited with funds took all the money before I did the cha so we need your help we need your help either if you have money or you know people that have money now the reality is you need this more than I need this and the reason why is because he's going to always make the mates come together the money comes with the with the product the product the woman comes every breaks but why do need this why do the need this why does everybody else need this because reality is you need to do chuva for it all of us have to do chuva for it because we wasted seed at some point intentionally unintentionally uh unmarried married all types of things all of us all of us have messed up at one point or another and some of us are still messing up I have at least a half a dozen to a dozen kids and adults per day per day that I advise on a regular basis and a difference not like a half half a a dozen kids the same ones every day no no they come every other day sometimes they got 30 40 questions a day of just specific this issue me rabbis young kids Jews non-jews all types of people people realize this is a problem some of the comments that you see under the you see all the sh on the internet you go on my website you go to uh uh the Youtube page you see the comments that people make under the sh it's it breaks your heart they tell you listen I knew I had a problem and now I know this is it I listened to what you said a year ago I stopped I stopped uh touching my breit my whole life has changed one woman tells me it fixed the mental illness another person told me it helped him finan all types of fantastic things happen to people that protect take their breed and all types of damage happens to people that do not now Shalom says that all of a man's problems come from the breit you have a problem you're lacking money you don't have a you don't understand you're learning somebody hit you in a uh and didn't say I'm sorry somebody bumped into your car and ran away all types of issues people have in their life he says all of it is connected to breit why if you don't fix your breit that's the first thing go to don't say it's because you didn't give enough or no no first thing bre needless to say if you don't keep anything but the point I'm trying to tell you is that if you're keeping already but you still have a lot of problems it's connected to the so everyone needs to do CH and CH is expensive because the writes based on the zos that for every time a man wasted seed he has to he has to fast 84 times now since we're a weak generation the thead and many other and uh other sages have said listen we're in a weak generation people are not going to be able to fast 84 times for every single time they wasted seed you know a guy wasted seed three times in a week four times in a week already he lost his P for the month a guy uh went through his teenage years didn't even know there's anything wrong the guy's already in a deficit to hasem for for5 million one kid told me this he's 25 years old he says I owe a $4 million that's what he said I don't know I didn't make this up that's what he said think he's the only one I got thousands of him thousands of kids like this they didn't know it's bad and he went to Yesa so the point is this is a very very expensive crime now does not expect you to pay $4 million if you don't have $4 million what does he expect you to pay he expects you to pay what you have you have 400 bucks a month you pay 400 bucks a month you have $1,000 a month that you could donate you $ th000 you have $10 a month don't $10 a month who knows your bank account by the way he doesn't need the code he doesn't need the code for your bank account he has it he get they let him TD marriage all those accounts they have a deal with they let him see your bank account he knows what you have he even knows when you're going to get a raise and guess what people that do kiru they get raises they get all types of rais wants to see how much you care how much you care now this is something that is going to help a person do chuva in multiple ways number one when you donate for the campaign you're donating for us to get more and more CDs I would love to get a million a million and a half CDs why because if I could spread a million and a half CDs all over the country all over the world you're talking about somewhere in a of 10% 10% of the Jewish world and somewhere in a neighborhood of about 20% of the English speaking world that's a lot it's a lot of people guess what a lot of people going to do cha with that even if you do a horrible estimate of 1% do CH 15,000 people do chat it's amazing or 150,000 people no 15,000 15,000 people do chat it's an enormous numbers one person that's worthed now this helps the person that Don and also helps the person that receives it and the reason why is because when a person donates for this every time that person did Chua with your dollar every time he would have done it guess what that repairs the damage that you would have done for yourself that means that that account of $4 million doesn't necessarily need to be $4 million anymore doesn't necessarily need to be $4 million you donated you continue to donate but the account goes down in both directions it goes down direction of you donating actual money because you keep buying more CDs more USBS more different things but even more so it goes down because you're actually getting results now if you just give that $ $500 to let's say yes and somebody uh you know somebody is learning before you talk it's not going to help you on that way it's not gonna help you in that way why because no one's doing from from your $500 so this is to now because of demand and because I like to um hear what people say we've continued publishing and we'll continue publishing CDs because CDs are the best tool in the world to do K number one they're cost effective number two even if you don't have a CD player it's still a fantastic flyer so even if you don't you don't have a CD player in your house you're so modern you don't have CDs you don't have CD in your laptop you don't have CD in your desktop you don't have CD in anywhere okay you're rare but it exists in the world no problem you're going to look at it you're going to see a very cool picture that team made on both sides you're going to be interested you're going to open it you're going say okay let me look this up on the internet and voila you have it all over the Internet our Channel different people host our CH our stuff and many many different people all over the world put our stuff on their website to help people do chuba so that's why sometimes I'll tell you oh this video hit 100,000 200,000 viewers and you go look it up yourself you see only 50,000 or 10,000 or 5,000 don't call me a liar it's your that it's listed in many different places the point being is that the CDs are a fantastic place to get to be because they relatively cost effective for a few dollars you can get people to do Chua now but since we are living in the modern world we also have the app the new app that came out we have a new updated app new app it's both on Android and on um on Apple you want to download the app you can watch all of these sh on the app on a regular basis every single guy whether you are watching ing your breed already or you're not you should have this on your playlist on a regular basis every week you should learn a little bit about this because in says there's no one that's above the immorality crime everyone is a suspect everyone is a suspect now some people are going to tell you wait a minute but if it was such a big deal then how come the didn't talk about it did you check the that you saying that they didn't talk about it didn't talk about it the talked about he says it's the worst in the T you have something bigger than that says oh but you don't want something more modern okay recently we found in Moshe MOS Moshe Feinstein writes in a Sho Moshe in um the he writes that teaching about git must be done in all schools and to all suspected people sadly MOS Feinstein did not know that just fast forward 6070 years after him we're going to live a in a generation where pretty much every single man is a suspect feinste right you have to teach the issues of of to every single person why person doesn't do CH for wasting seed now since some people are saying yeah I like it I like the whole idea it's fantastic but uh you know I only have USB so because we love you and because we love we are also going to come out with a new USB this little cute little thing is a USB and everything that you have on those CDs you're can to have on this little USB and it opens up in a really cool way and you have yourself a USB with even more than it's actually on those CDs the CDs have almost uh 57 and nine movies here there's more there's even more information in USB because it's bigger it has more more uh more room point being you put this in your car you're going to hear idio audio you put this on your in your computer or if you have a uh screen you put it into uh some of the screens you'll have visual is also coming out only problem with this is a lot more expensive so this we can't give out for free everywhere this you're talking about a ton more money but we'll sell them on the website for anyone who wants anyone wants to sponsor them and so on can get them but the point is this is also now when are all of these going to come out we don't have much money so we couldn't order that much but B the first batch uh that we were able to afford first couple hundred thousand are going to be coming probably within the next month and a half so somewhere around the middle of February we'll have the first batch uh the first batch of the first batch but the uh rest we need to raise a whole lot more money so again I mention this to you because this is what we learned from the we know that re kados was very very rich he was from the family of ran gel which was the lineage of David they were very very wealthy but yet it says that re a kados every time there was an opportunity to open a new school a new every time there's a new SE T every time those opportunities you need to raise a lot of money he call his friends his rich friends so the asks why why he has all the money in the world he has hundreds of es tons of cities he's very rich what does he need to call his friends well he needs the money what for what go no no no he wants to give them the he wants to share because he cares about them he wants to share the give them opportunities also to go TOA what kind OFA is going to be if none of your friends are there so this is an opportunity for anyone that has a uh has care for his own as theu says in a person person that does not do chuv is a person that's going to say to himself when he gets to the B of sh that he was vicious on his own soul forget about vicious to all the people that you lied about and you cheated on and all that no no the the say how could I be so vicious on my own soul how could I be so vicious why because people plan for A Life That's A Thousand Years cuz everyone thinks they're going to live forever so they have bank accounts that it's enough money that's going to last them five generations they don't know that they may not even live a half a generation themselves so you have a guy just recently a guy passed away mean I think it was maybe 52 53 now he he wasn't exactly prepared to die 5253 especially he wasn't prepared to die with millions of dollars in the bank his plan was to do a lot of big things with this money buy more buildings buy more houses is you know maybe donate a few dollars but guess what he died so now he has double punishment one one for all the things he didn't do and one for the things he did things he did if you didn't do enough chva you have a very serious problem but the worst part of it all is for all the things he didn't do why because he had the money he had the ticket to get himself into if he would have simply taken some of the money instead of buying another building another 15 houses another this another that he would have taken the money published another million or two million CDs and USBS and all types of things to help CL guess what he go up to sh they give him a red carpet oh why this guy just helped CL said but no you said no I'll do it but later on well guess what later on never happened later on never happened this is what every single person needs to know one of the downsides of dealing with the public is that you deal with a lot of people and unfortunately you get to know about a lot of people dying and unfortunately in just the last year and a half two years I had people tell me that their kid that's a year and a half all died to people that are in their 50s that died or one woman that's still to this day she sends me all messages crying me skin I feel my it breaks my heart one day seven-year-old daughter seveny old m puppy nothing everything's perfect get sick two days later she dies no one knows why 7 years old we don't go and complain to obviously knows what he's doing but do you think anybody in their Wildest Dreams thought that a seven-year-old even has a chance of something like this you get a cold you're going to die two days later every person needs to look at life like this every person especially if you have opportunities and you have the the ability to help your own don't think that you could do it by yourself you have to help now some people ask how come some of the announcements that we make seem so M dramatic like it's all going to end tomorrow and that's part of what we're going to talk about today the ramban writes in his in his letter to his son and his letter to us over 800 years ago last week he told us that you should act with restraint you should be embarrassed have some embarrassment be shy have some shame when you deal with any type of person whether the person is a rabbi or the person is your spouse or the person is a teacher or the person is your colleague or even if it's a homeless person in the streets everybody you should have a little bit of Shame have a little bit of Cav every single person but also yourself don't think of yourself as being above people one of the places that we learn it from is we learn it actually from this week's par we're starting a new seph in and we learn in now if I ask you where do we learn about being shy about being sh came faced about being humble first time person name I'm not going to ask you for a quote don't worry you know I'm not going to ask you for a verse take it easy easy on you guys I'll ask you for a name who's the first person first person we learn about humility from in seph Moshe no who has a different name m Moshe and Moshe okay so they're twins twins we have two m in M version of the baby version Moshe adult version no give me somebody else somebody else means not Moshe and if you say Moshe it's still Moshe like if you just change the pronunciation it's still the same person okay but but we learn about Moshe before before M okay so okay was another name no Noam why mam what did mam do that she showed humility she was willing to take care of that's not humility that's it's kindness huh no no no no no my genius no what what's the uh before slavery or after slavy before slavery or after slavery you're too complicated for me I just want seph give me a name he gave me a name why why why is M's father why is moshe's Father the first one that we hear no no you heard this already for me seear says there are certain rules to the creation if the says it it's true if you don't agree we cannot count you in Manan your Judaism is on suspension says if a person speaks how could he guarantee that what he says you listen to says if he has whatever comes out of his mouth you're going to listen to person as he doesn't have to convince you he says something high voice low voice middle voice that doesn't make a difference he says something his words to listen to so we see here that you guys combined an answer what's moshe's father's name you don't tell me you already told me I want to see if they awake huh okay so want awake now M's father was the G says he's one of four people that never sinned and if it wasn't for the original sin of the of the um tree of knowledge of AD he would have never died now being such a giant that means if somebody comes to you and says I don't agree with you I don't agree with you you don't agree with me how could you not who are you exactly how many did you write nothing how many did you read I don't even know how to read oh where did you go to school I didn't go to school who's your father I'm not sure I'm an orphan all right so what what bases are what bases do you have to disagree with me or I don't like what you have to say oh that's why you don't agree with me because you don't like what I say but in the world in the real world that we live in you cannot just say I don't agree with you based on your opinion you have to show me facts you cannot go to a doctor that's a uh a surgeon for 20 30 years and he says listen sir is the diagnosis is the procedure this is what we're going to do we're going to cut here we're going to do this we're going to do that and that's what we're going to do and you with your ignorance you don't even know how to pass biology class in sixth grade you never passed it all you know is that you looked at the next guy next to you he was dissecting some frog you got disgusting you went to the bathroom threw up the rest of your life you don't want to do nothing about but you g to tell a doc oh doc I don't think it's the right diagnosis Doc's GNA tell you you're cute you're cute bless your heart bless your heart bless your heart there a Southern w saying you're an idiot that's what it says just bless your heart now why cuz he says I have 40 years experience in the medical world I've cut hundreds and hundreds of people and I sealed them back and they all walked away perfectly alive what did you cut your steak after it's dead and it stayed dead what did you cut nothing you don't know nothing so if somebody comes Tam and says I disagree with you you have you better come with a proof now am had a little daughter a three four year old daughter and she saw that a father made a mistake I a mistake because it says here that in the beginning of the par that was blessed after Yik died things changed they were blessed for 210 years that they were in Egypt they were blessed that each birth was six-fold every every time a woman carried for nine months six babies came out and it's described the Say by there's six different adjectives describing the growth of each adjective stands for a baby so in a matter of a couple of hundred years we went from being 70 people 70 people that yov went down to to Egypt with to millions millions and millions imagine you got 70 people okay they got married one generation you're already a few hundred that few hundred already multiplies to a few thousand that few thousand already to tens of thousand before you know it a couple hundred years later you got millions and millions of people so now it says there a new and this doesn't want any connection with the tradition of giving C to the no no no I don't want any of this he says I don't like it look how many of these Israelites these Jews they are here I don't like it so what do we do let's fool them let's fool them and get them to work for us work for the government communism little by little he fools them they start working for par and before you know it they're all slaves now if that's not enough this r that made Hitler look like a puppy he says they're still growing though so you know what from now on we're going to start killing off every male baby because his necromancers told them that their salvation their Mia is going to come from a boy say so let's kill every boy so every boy we throw him in into the ocean we kill them other than the ones there's a few killings one type of kid we throw him into the Nile River let him drown another one is if the his father doesn't me a quota of making enough Stones then we put the baby instead of the stone oh and plus if that's not enough and is nean they told listen there's a cure what's a cure you have to bathe in Jewish blood every day but it has to be babies so he would Slaughter 150 babies in the morning and 150 babies at night and take a bath in the blood that's why if you look at some of the midashim like the uh the uh P the the uh the the the whole thing that you read from PES there some nice pictures there's a uh one uh one fantastic artist I forgot what his name I think it's gadii gy palak fantastic why because it's not just drawings it's drawings based on the mid meaning you're seeing the mid alive this I have it in my house I have fun with it it's unbelievable now you see in a mid you see bathing inash blood and that's how it was and many other things sometimes it's good to see pictures why because it gives you an illustration of what nightmare we have gone through for you to be Jewish needless to say what what you have to sacrifice in order to stay Jewish 3,300 years 3,300 years your ancestors have been fighting for you to be Jewish how you going to throw it all the way so now what's happening to all the Jewish babies there it is they killed this way that way poor kids haven't even made a sin they're getting killed day and night he says okay his wife I love you but I got to let you go why I got to let you go because if we're going to be together we're going to be together if we're going to be together we're going to have a baby if we're going to have a baby is going to kill him so I'm sorry but I gotta go she cries but what she GNA do she say okay he's right what can he do never sinned in his life so he's in he's there all of a sudden a little three-year-old with still the diapers on hey ABA ABA he's with his friends he's ly learning learning he's teaching levies the levies were learning T they weren't slaves the levies were learning T he wasn't slaves don't think for a second that he was picking up Stones he was seeing crying over but he was learning T he was learning with the other levies withes you got a little tho with the with the diapers on he goes uh excuse me ABA embarrassed why he his little three-year-old over here comes to the bet midash it's embarrassing okay especially it's a girl you know so yes honey well you you you lost your bottle somewhere you need something what happened ABA uh just wanted to let you know your decree is worse than it's like imagine imagine your kid imagine your kid saying ABA IMA what punishment you just gave the decision you just made is worse than Hitler's P that's it Go by the time they land they're four years old why next to my friends you're embarrassed what huh what do you mean worse than Hitler how could you say such a thing you react if you're an animal is not an animal you know what AM did amam says my dear daughter why am I worse than par why am I worse than Hitler little says to them ABA you see the decree of par was only to kill the boys your decree to divorce IMA kills the boys and the girls no boys or girls are going to come now the decree of came from a and and rash what he says doesn't always come true but the decree from you ABA you a tadik your decree has to come true which means everybody's gonna do what you're doing everybody's GNA divorce their wives you're killing is worse than now is she right or is she wrong she's 100% right but you know what sometimes little kids tell us something and they're right but you don't want to admit it quite cuz they're little cuz they're little we are big OS they're little we can take I know more than you why I I got underwear older than you what are you talking about why because you have an ego you don't want to hear to this little kid tell you what to do when you're ises it doesn't matter who is telling you what they're telling you that's why says opened the mouth of the donkey to tell you if the emit if the truth comes from a donkey listen to the donkey too doesn't make a difference where the truth comes from but that's on the side of am but how did Miram have Theo to be the deliverer of the truth that her truth will be heard cuz many people say the truth let's say let's say but but not everybody's heard how come got the it's a it's a where it says that told the two women that were the caretakers that were delivering babies to kill the Jewish babies she FY she frying pu and they didn't want to do it why didn't want to do it because they because the midwives feared God and therefore he made them houses they didn't want to kill the Jewish babies no matter what did says you're gonna listen to me and not par you fear me no problem I'm going to even make you nice houses in this world so now does sh and pu have to do with the says who sh pu sh and pu is different names for and her daughter and her mother y Pua is the she used used to uh blow into the baby cu sometimes the baby would be born but not able to breathe so it's different descriptions of the things they did in order to bring the babies to life to save the babies but the point is is that is and our daughter and clearly we see they and if you have allows all of your words to be heard and they're heard and they're listened to and they're followed so here we see that the first person that we saw humility from is am why because am had all the opportunity in the world to reject this three-year-old but because of her own K he had to listen to the words and because of his own he had to follow too he says you're right do me a favor make me a call your mom I want tell her I want to marry her again ,000 on each side you get and guess what because I'm stood up for the truth even though it was inconvenient because am admitted the truth even though it was embarrassing because admitted the truth even though it was in front of people and they're never going to ever forget it guess what rewarded him in this world he gave him a son from that marriage called M the ultimate deliverer of the truth you stood up for the truth even though it was inconvenient even though it was embarrassing even though it was the opposite of what you thought I'll bring the truth from you so here we see that the ramban writes that you have to be shame face in front of every person meaning that no matter if it's a three-y old a 30-y old 300y old make a difference meaning you have to make sure that you evaluate things objectively and not based on your own self-conscious or your own ego and so on but now he continues and he says he says if a person was to call you out don't answer with a loud voice but respond gently in a low tone as one who stands before his Rabbi so here the ramban writes us another tool of how to do chuva every week we hear we have to do chuva we have to do chuva do Chu but for the last few weeks the ramban has been giving us actual tools actual tools of how to do Chua so he tells us that first and foremost be shamefaced and shy in front of others but further than that there's a certain behavioral traits you have to have certain types of things you need to do which is that you have to speak in a certain voice where you're not going to scare people away why because your tone doesn't necessarily mean whether you're loud or you're low or you have a deep voice or you have one of these saky voices it's not that your tone your demeanor has extraordinary power the power of speech has the power to connect you to people has the power to disconnect you from people has the power to make people laugh has the power to make people scared has the power to make people cry sometimes you see certain people watching something and they start crying but they don't even know why they watch something and they watch this little girl call our IMA and it's not really our IMA it's just an actress but they watch and they start crying or they see some you know some big bear looking for the baby bear and and you got the whole thing and they start cry cuz you got little bears panda bears on some Coca-Cola commercial or something you start crying for no reason you have no idea why yeah something's happening there something's happening there no your voice has extraordinary power your tone even more so now theim knew this and they communicated to their talim in certain ways and the rambam WR wres that although a person must be extreme when it comes to anger to stay away from it if he's a teacher if he's a rabbi and the r writes that if he is a teacher if he's a rabbi and he has students that are messing around every two seconds they get up they go out they go in they're looking at their phone in the middle of the sh they fall asleep every single time they questions that don't mean anything just to bust chops all types of things like this the RAB writes the rabbi has to act like he's mad to scare them why stop messing around now if the person is always scary then what's the difference but what happens if someone that's usually not so scary becomes scary that's scary so one of the in the previous generation was R ABA ABA was the for many decades they studied as little kids together and both became the Giants of the generation was known as a very soft peaceful person would run away from a I know one of his T and it was an issue a very big issue one time that we asked him for help on to see if we would be able to to join the fight and he said listen I agree with everything that you're saying you're right but I cannot join the fight I said why not he says because my Rabbi is Shalom he says run away from fights right or wrong that's how he learned for 50 60 years what are you going to tell him okay don't do it go against J point is my opinion didn't matter at this point so just so you know this is what it is has extraordinary students came from him one time two young guys are in a sh with him and the was simplifying his Torah he would tell people he's only going to be allowed to go to ganeden he's only going to be allowed to go TOA not because of his Torah but rather because of how hard he has to work to simplify it for 14year olds now one time there was a couple of students that uh simply didn't get the point so every two seconds they started bothering the rabbi with more questions yeah what about this but what about this but what about that and this one and that one and this one and that one and this one they just wouldn't get it and Disturbed the whole class Disturbed the whole shoe but it was one after another after another after another it just seemed like the whole thing was like became a joke so who was known as a very calm demeanor person suddenly G him roared on them barked on them we call in straet language scared them to death they understood who was after that they evaluated their own action they realized they made a very serious mistake and they judged themselves harshly to the extent where they said we don't have the Merit to learn under such a giant so let's go and apologize to and leave tell them goodbye we're sorry so they came even though they were scared now because he just barked at him not not just a little while ago but what are you gonna do you have to say goodbye you know he's a teacher he's a rabbi cannot say goodbye so they come to can we speak to you yes you see still has the image scary lying just Ro you don't to mess with him says for we're very very sorry and uh for what we did and we realize that we don't have the Merit to study under such a giant and we're going to leave we're going to leave the Thea suddenly of Show's demeanor changed in a second all of a sudden he becomes the softest thing you've ever seen in your life he says what do you mean you're going to leave how you're my sons How could a son leave his father a son can't leave a father you can't abandon your father I don't permit you you my children to leave me all I was doing was fulfilling the tah is what the rambam says that when kids are fooling around they start messing around all you got to do is you got to bark on them once in a while to make sure they go back into shape I was just fulfilling the T I wasn't really angry at you you're my children you're my sons you cannot leave me father that's a RV that's a RV sometimes you have rabbis that do the first part the yelling part when the kids come and say I'm sorry you don't get the other part just today I heard a father tell me that um his daughters go to uh this uh Seminary and uh the teacher woke up on the left side and the kids react to a teacher that's this way the you know the kids like sponges these little kids six seven eight nine year-old kids 10 year-old kids don't like sponges you're in a bad mood they're in a bad mood you don't want to be there they don't want to be there that's how it works so the kids were messing around and his daughter wasn't actually one of them that was messing around but she happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time she decided to take a paper that someone threw on the floor to pick it up and throw it in the garbage that's all she decided know victim here this is not a criminal she p a paper in the garbage the teacher sh you know like with the red thing right there oh that's going to be theban that's going to be the sacrifice for everybody else starts barking on his kid poor little girl starts yelling oh you're going to the principal's office and a principal in that place like Mal the woman that runs the schools M our best friends the principal says to the kids all the kids you're going to all stay outside freezing cold stay outside for the next few hours until I decide to let you in kids are freezing hell don't know what are they going to do it's no cell phone it's a religious school it's not the public school outside they're freezing they don't know how long it's going to be eventually let her in now while they're outside this little girl smart girl she comes from B good family you know what this is what we're going to do she didn't really do anything wrong what' she do she throw a paper in the garbage the other kids this wrong but not all criminals w outside okay let's write a letter let's write a letter to the principal saying how much we're sorry dear principal I mean principal we are really sorry uh we we're we're sorry for disobeying the rules of the school little girl on her own 10-year-old girl thought about this fantastic idea I wish I get 30y olds to do this we're sorry for doing something we didn't really do but anyway didn't do it I'm sorry they come to the principal and if I was the principal I'd start crying with the kids I said you're never GNA be you could do whatever you want from that one such a letter you whatever you want no throw the paper don't WR such a fantastic letter there's nothing for me to teach you anymore I become the student you become a teacher you can write such a letter on you on 10 years old this takes the letter rips it up in front of all the kids I don't accept it throws it like this that's why I said what do you think I call people names for no reason and now she's demanding all of the kids to get their parents to write a letter apologizing this is what we have this is what we have this is what we have the father said I think I'm going to use a tractor and go into the into our office with it before I write that letter but this is what we have why it's all ego it's all ego you're allowed to rebuke you're allowed to even raise your voice if it has good intentions if you are under control if you're not losing your mind but once you start acting based on anger you're no longer allowed to rebuke you're no longer allowed to teach you're no longer allowed to do anything one Rabbi came Toka Shalom and he started complaining about one of the students in his yes and he says I want your I want your permission to throw this kid out this kid is a run kid when I talk he talks also if that's not enough he starts dist distracting all the other kids eats uh uh seeds you know sunflower seeds in the class throws them on people a kid is a just one of those rotten kids kid doesn't can't sit can't stand nothing I want to throw him out now qu between you and me I don't even know why he's asking would have already thrown this kid out but that's why I'm not himka says wait a minute did you fast for this boy he says what no no he's alive for the what do you mean Resurrection What fast What fast for what where Galia to fast for him every year because they killed him what fast he's alive the kid he's just torturing me says to him if you didn't fast about this boy to do CH for 40 days how dare you even think that you're allowed to throw them out how dare you even think that you're allowed to throw them out you have to pray for this boy to do Chua you have to help this kid do chuba that's the point of the teacher it's not so easy though why because the kid throwing seeds on you but that's what I in the previous generation theim that came out of that generation didn't come out because of them themselves they came because they did well they toiled and so on but they also had extraordinary R in today's world it's very very hard to find rabbis that are willing to sacrifice their life sacrific their life for strangers but we see from here that speech how you communicate to people matters quite a bit and that's why the mishna in the first chapter fourth mishna says do not speak too much to the woman and this is referring to your own wife so why don't speak to your own wife too much he says if you speak too much to your wife that means that you're going to waste a lot of time that means you're not going to learn Tor and that means for sure you're both going to go to Gom that's what m says if you remember we had a two and a half year series about M this I believe is maybe the fourth or fifth sh of how you're limited or how much you have to speak even with your own wife and then the Mish continues needless to say someone is not your wife if you're not allowed to speak to your own wife too much you know some guys they go home they Park next they become like one of the girls they speak to their wife three four five six hour conversation about absolutely nothing or what is she doing what are they doing this weekend do you want to join them for the Shabbat you want to do this you want to do that do do do talk all to don't shut up when are you going to learn tah people always tell me listen I don't know if I have time to learn T I said what do you do what's your schedule what do you work till 11 o'clock at night he goes no no I get home at 6 o'clock says what do you do after six o'clock goes you know I have dinner okay dinner 15 minutes no after after you eat 15 20 minutes after everyone makes it seem like dinner is three hours 15 minutes max and that's a big dinner no after you eat then what oh relax I talk to the wife okay so you talk to the wife no then what I'm tired already I'm like how long did you talk to your wife hey talked to her for an hour okay you still it's 7:30 8:00 okay finish what you trying to solve The World's problems an hour you finished okay it's still early it's 8:00 goes no no by the time we finish hanging out you know it's time it's late it's already 11 o'clock I said three- hour conversation I'd be tired also three hour conversation you give sh already tell the rest of the world what you talk about for so long you have to understand that if what you're saying is valuable you don't need too many words usually the things that are not valuable require a lot of waste a lot of Wast of time so a person needs to know that he has to even limit his own communication with his wife you want to learn tah with her that's perfect watch AA together that's fantastic but just socializing and talking about strangers talking about people you know talking about family all that stuff does not require that much time and even then you have to limit it because it cannot be at the cost of your learning tah but needless to say the mishna here is also teaching us another lesson it's not just a waste of time but also the way you talk to women the way you talk to men many time I see this and I see how women communicate to men and men communicate to women in a absolutely forbidden way without saying anything outright without saying anything outright like for example many times you see so-called religious women making a comment on I don't know some other guy's uh uh uh Facebook post or whatever a social media post or something like that oh you're looking good or the guy says to the girl oh you're looking good who says you're allowed to give another person compliment about how they look she a wife then you're allowed she's not your wife a needless to say publicly needless to say publicly but people do it freely people do it nonchalantly they talk about personal issues oh I just uh how you doing oh everything is good I just got out of the shower what what what do you mean why why why are you telling him that you just got out of the shower why you telling how you just got out of the shower why do they need these extra two words what to make the the the all of it Park in his head or just one of them people you have to understand modesty is not just clothing modesty is also where your eyes go modesty is what also what comes into your mouth what comes out of your mouth what comes into your ears what comes out of your ears is a whole scope of modesty you have to understand that every single thing that you do has to be calculated the best yet is when people say okay I'll talk to you soon XOXO or one of these nonsensical things that people put like the Emojis they put a heart sign to just strangers to just complete strangers a heart sign oh we miss you we miss you you're my wife you're my husband I miss you where does this miss you where is this XOXO where in the Tor say such a thing is allowed now you're going to say ah come on you you strict you're fanatic you're like Dash You're like Isis okay if the statistics of divorce were not 80% then most likely I wouldn't even mention this but when the statistics show that 80% of marriages in the western world end within the first five years meaning it's a complete waste of time it's a complete waste of time and now the statistics show that in even in the religious world the numbers are nowhere near the same they're not 80% but they're also increasing they've more than quadrupled in the last 10 or 15 years you start asking questions where are we going wrong many times we're going wrong in the way we communicate with the opposite sex just because your wife is friends with her doesn't mean that you're allowed to be friends with her just because your husband is friends with him doesn't mean you're allowed to be friends with him and guess what cheating adultery doesn't happen with complete strangers adult adultery happens between friends adultery happens between friends it doesn't happen with strangers the wife doesn't find some homeless guy in the street that she give him a dollar she says you know what I like you let's go that doesn't happen you know what happens she likes his best friend and since he's stupid enough to allow his best friend to come for coffee even when he's not there guess what the best friend becomes a best friend and the same thing vice versa they did a recent statistic in they said that women cheat as much or more than men on their husbands something completely unheard of in re in in history why we have no concept of what modesty is we treat people as if it's nothing they call it today in the English World platonic relationships oh I'm not used to not having any guy friends this religious stuff is tough you know how many women tell me this because you said in one of your sh that a woman is not allowed to have guy friends this is really tough for me all my friends are guys I said yeah and every single one of those guys has made countless sins because of you no it's not like that for you maybe but for him it's his for him it is no but I'm married he's not nobody he's married so you have to wake up you have to understand created a human being and that human being has an evil inclination that's why made rules in the T in order to save your marriage in order to save your sanity in order to save you an enormous amount of headache and heartache from having divorces from having to to to deal with this nightmare there mitvah you can you have to understand this mitvah like you understand back of your hand you have to know that you are allowed to be with the opposite gender if it's your wife anytime you want if it's not your wife limited conditions if your wife is there also if the door is open different things we're not going to go into all the but the point is you cannot just think that you could be friends with the opposite gender that's never allowed in fact the rambam the rambam writes even kissing on a his own sister his own oldest sister is only done by stupid people that's R's language R's language says only stupid people kiss their own sister this is 900 years ago before all the filth swamped the world but guess what today I think people think ah come on his own sister that's crazy rambam's fanatic well guess what I'm going to give you a disgusting statistic to show you how holy the rambam was 900 years ago to teach us more than we could even imagine unfortunately part of the research of looking into the addiction of pornography you find some disgusting facts one of the most disgusting facts is that the most common pornography that people attract to is meaning incest as if the story line is talking about incest that's what people are attracted to why because they're already looking for taboo one guy one girl does not enough for the for the for the average sick mind they want something else they want the storyline to talk about a mom and a kid a father with a daughter or some type of Filth to take the orig the regular filth to the next level you know to the 10th p hour which means if that's what people watch that's what people think about that's what people want the r of 900 years ago when he said you're not even allowed to kiss your sister you idiot he wasn't exaggerating he wasn't exaggerating he was telling us this what's going to happen to you you allow yourself something that you think is not a big deal guess what before you know it's a big deal and unfortunately today in America and Israel in Europe there are constantly constantly trials over the permission of unfortunately incest a father wants to marry his daughter a daughter wants to marry a father Brothers want to marry each other and so on and so forth this is everywhere in the world unfortunately many times they've won the cases they were allowed to do it so when the Torah tells us to be careful with the words you choose needless to say with the actions you take now when a person communicates in a certain way he's going to get different results there one time a father that was illiterate didn't know how to read or write he sent his son away to go learn and the uh uh he told him anytime you need some money just send me a telegram most of you guys probably don't know what a telegram is telegram is 150 years ago 100 years ago text messaging only difference is you didn't have a uh a phone there was an office like a post office type of place where they would use different Morse code you probably know Morse code is uh different machines that they would take on is s oh oh for getet it anyway so Morse code text messaging of a 100 years ago now once you once they got this telegram a person would come to the person says oh you got this Telegram and this is what it says I need such and such I want such and such that's how they would communicate for war that's how they communicate for different things for Commerce and so on when somebody would declare war it was announced on a telegram there was no TV says we learned M from a telegram why you go to the telegram office you tell them listen I want uh to to write a telegram tell uh my uh friend his father passed away so telegram office says okay we have minimum of 10 words I don't need 10 words I just said your father passed away so just a few words three words what's the goes okay whether you pay whether it's three words or it's 10 words same charge same charge okay your father passed way there's a good deal on furniture what else you going use the rest of the words says from here we learn we're going to pay for every word we say from a telegram from a telegram we learn we're going to pay in sh for every word we say now this father that was illiterate sent the son away and told him anytime you need money send me a telegram and uh I'll send you money so sometime past the kid sends a telegram the father gets the message he goes picks it up he doesn't know how to read it so he goes to the neighbor now what he didn't know that neighbor was like tab that day that neighbor was in a bad mood he got the IRS office knocked on his door says listen we're coming back going to audit you all types of things that bad news his wife told him something he didn't like so he told him listen uh can you do me a favor can you read this for me said yeah sure here give me ABA give me some money what that's how my son talks to me the lit father says that's how my son talks to me he starts cursing the kid out I raised this kid all these years this how he talks to me yells at me yells I me this run kid I'm not sending him any money now few weeks passed the kids waiting waiting waiting gets confirmation from the office the telegram arrived no qu there's no problem but no money arrived so he sent another telegram same thing the guy gets it says to his neighbor you do me a favor read this for me this son of mine sent me this telegram he's still mad two weeks later he's still mad now that day the neighbor was happy why he's got a rais at the job his wife cooked him a you a nice meal CU she wanted to celebrate with him she was in a good mood he reads the telegram ABA please send me money all of a sudden the Father's Heart starts melting goes oh my son my cute son of course I'm going to send you ble of course I'm going to send you some money I'm going to send them more I'm going to tell me where to put all this money tell me what what to write you write it for me I'll tell you how much money to send what it was the same exact telegram just send it again what happened one time the F the guy the angry guy translated how he wanted it he was angry so he translated an angry way second time same exact telegram nicer way why was happy same thing with our messages same thing with our messages our speech is critical the r tells us that when someone calls you speak to them into with a low voice he's telling you that don't be one of these people that's like in a uh in the shook you know in the market you know uh IMA I need some coffee no don't be like one of those people no one works for you you have to understand that you have to act in a certain way but is that mean that you're never allowed to raise your voice does that mean that you have to be like one of these monotone robotic people no no now if a person pays attention to the details he'll see that he'll always win it's very interesting there's a uh spider that arrived from Arizona he was watching my in Arizona one of my t sent me a picture and now he's arrived here in front of me so it says T he wants to watch a shi so now it's just interesting you're right right in front of you so now you never know maybe it's a g he probably came to sh five years ago didn't want to come back said this guy's uh have to come back as a spider so now now a uh some people say some people say Rabbi how come you're yelling all the time how come yelling all the time one time I had a shoe and a guy came to the shoe and it was a good shoe B and uh after the sh the guy comes he goes he starts asking me questions saying hello to the and I start talking it was the first time he's ever been at Thea he's like wow now you talk regular and I said what do you mean goes no all the time I watch you on Sho on YouTube and now I watch the sh you're like yeah all the time but now you just talk like a regular you're not yelling at me you're not yelling at me I said what do you think I yell all the time go talk come now at that moment I realized that he hasn't gotten the point so to explain to him the real Point wouldn't really make a difference and no you know fluctuate your voice you change your voice here and there if after two hours you don't understand the reason of why I'm yelling you miss the whole point of this sh you miss the whole point this you now the thing is though is that if you are looking at some of the most successful kiru rabis that we've had in recent Generations or in history you would simply see the same exact thing whether you're talking abouton if you hear any of his lectures you don't have to understand a word that he's saying you're already scared he was one of the he wasn't just like regular Rabbi he one a giant you hear the uh by again Shalom on the smallest things that we don't even think are important he would get you to a point where you're shaking you're become an expert in it he starts talking normal he tells you a joke here and there and then all of a sudden says n like and you're like yeah no stop start washing something wash something honey give me the give me the give me he just said that you're scar you have no idea why he said that he let your dime so loud but you're scared to death from now on you're going to wash every single time you leave the bathroom he had a power of speech unlike any other something unbelievable highly highly recommend anyone that speaks Hebrew to listen to it I mean I had a person that literally was a start listening to it's unbelievable so why is he yelling why is yelling why is there's another famous Rabbi in Daniel Daniel Z talks a lot about I don't think he I don't think there's a word that comes out of his mouth that's not yelling he screams the whole time now every one of his shoe he gives a shoe to a bunch of gangsters like he goes to the worst places and he gets four or 5,000 people four or five th000 people they're scared to death gangsters scared to death little Tes okay okay sure absolutely gangster the guy just murdered somebody on the way there yes yes I'm I'm sorry I'm sorry what happened scared to death starts putting pay everything start doing cha why why you yelling why you yelling now some people say yeah but you know you could do it a different way there are many rabbis that do it a different way there are rabbis that speak you know more sophisticated you know they they speak uh in a certain way where it's it's low tone doesn't it say that all of the words of the Torah have to come in a low voice let me explain something to you there was one time a guy two guys were on a one of these seashores fishing one guy slipped fell over into the water start screaming I can't swim I can't swim the other guy on top is I can't swim in it but you don't see me screaming what's the difference between do what's the difference between these two the difference is the guy that's screaming is in pain he's in pain because he can't swim the fool that's upstairs is only considering his own perspective of course you're not screaming that you can't swim because you're not in pain right now you're not about to die there was one time a businessman religious guy came into town in those days they had different Cav for the ranim he came into town and uh he was hosted he asked the K where can I stay he said oh you can stay at the rabbi's house raban always has different guests they at the house you come to the rabbi's house so this businessman comes on a Friday and those days you didn't have uh the things of today so when you brought money with you you would give it it to the owner of the house and they would put it in the family safe why cuz money is M you can't carry it with you you're not going to leave it on your bed you're scared so you give it to the family you give it to the hotel whoever is the host of the of the place and they would put it in a safe for you and then you would get him say Shabbat so he comes in he meets the raban he say the raban says yes I can help you I want to stay please okay no problem oh can you please take this now he just gave up money that he worked on for three years three years working Blood Sweat and Tears to get this money he's got 10,000 pieces of gold he gives it to the raban raban said okay no problem now Friday comes in they have a suda and then the rabbi gives a sh all the K comes and listens to the rabbi Sho and this Rabbi was a is KES this Rabbi was a person that was in pain because he knew that people were violating Shabbat he knew that people were intermarried he knew that people were mistreating the Torah like some of these clowns you have in different communities whether it's the place in Beverly Hills that has the VIP parking on Shabbat or it's the other clowns in New York that we just found out about that they're having casino night in the synagogue Casino singles night a m inside a synagogue is happening as we speak now don't worry New York is not unique to this they had it in Florida also just a few months ago aesb poker tournament inside a synagogue all of these synagogues are trying to cater to the secular World by what by being just like the secular people and they think that's going to help people do Chu they don't realize that a writes very very strong things against such people and such places places like this that have poker tournaments inside the synagogue places like this that have VIP parking to a synagogue on Shabbat places like this that have all types of things that are against the Tora inside a synagogue says those places turn into houses of idolatry turn into churches it's sad it's sad that this is happening in many places where the rabbis are so infatuated with money they forget about God so he said no no we're not we're only doing a poker tournament in the synagogue because it's allaka money it's all Saka money no one's really winning and losing first of all who you kidding you're talking to somebody who used to be a pretty good Gambler no Gambler goes gambling if there's no money involved there's no point to the game you don't play poker for free you don't play roulette oh I got the number yay what do I get nothing oh yeah let's play again no it doesn't happen if there's no money involved There's No gambling meaning there has to be money involved at the end no one's going to stay No One's Gonna Play who are you kidding it's not money oh no it's staka yeah part of it it's Saka part of it it's staka but kind of staka coming from a and the best yet they think it's kosher money because they had some other rabbis tell them it's allowed completely against the Torah why you're teaching people to gamble you're teaching people to gamble which is 100% ass in the Tor and you're doing it in a synagogue which meaning you're putting the kosher stamp on Las Vegas if you're allowed to gamble in a synagogue why can't I go to a professional place it's just want because there's more money and the best part yet it's only for single boys and girls what kind of crimes are going to be made that night now this is happening in a couple of weeks in New York in New York it's happening for the Cav of the community because there are some good people in that Community I'm not going to tell you the name I'm just hoping they're going to hear this and they're going to do enough that I don't have to mention the name next week because that's my last opportunity to get it to stop but I'm telling you this is not the only place that's doing it they're doing it in every other place here they're doing it here in Florida they did it right next to my house Place full of clowns they do it in batone they do it in different places who said it's allowed to be to gamble who said it's allowed to gamble in a synagogue who said it's allowed to waste Torah time for such things now we're doing kiru yeah how many balet Chua did you get at the end of the tournament zero in fact most people went off the D at the end why they go to Vegas because they're so hot for now for gam because they won the tournament now they want to go to Vegas and make more crimes people kid themselves thinking that there's a different way to help people do chuba just like this guy that was hearing the rabbi scream on Shabbat on his K he came to the rabbi NE he says to the raban why is the rabbi screaming so much why is he yelling so much and the raban says well the rabbi is in pain over the fact that am is violating Shabbat is desting the betet is is violating hashem's name so the businessman says Ah no I'm religious also you don't see me screaming I'm religious also I'm not screaming anyone there a better way to do it you don't have to scream says okay no problem as you would have it arrives arrives the businessman has to go back home has to go back has to leave he says ah thank you very much for hosting me R thank you for and he waits there the raban says the rabbi goes back to his learning the raban says okay goodbye thank you for coming shab the guy stays there goes yeah but are we forgetting something she oh I'm sorry I'm sorry you forget to do okay come come let's doah goes no no no what abah I did abah no you're forgetting something goes no the money the money oh no don't worry you don't have to pay me it's free to stay at the R's house you don't have to pay me no it's free you could come anytime you want come stay with us goes no no no the money I gave you 10,000 pieces of gold before Shabbat you gave me 10,000 pieces of gold Shabbat give me nothing wait no no no I'm sorry sir the guy says criminals he start screaming and yelling why you scream so much why you scream so much he when well how dare you say I screamed so much you just ruined my life I'm in so much pain you took all my money goes ah hold on he goes to the Shelf he goes here's your money but now you know when you're in pain you scream you are in pain over your money so you scream my husband is in pain over CL so he screams when you're in pain you scream it's just that different people care about different things you're motivated by money that's what you scream about the rabbi is motivated by helping clis do Chua and when he knows that many of them are far far away from Chua far far away from ganeden they live in illusion thinking that everybody goes to ganeden they live an illusion thinking that everybody is perfectly righteous and is to be saved by the mashiah they live in illusion thinking that GOM and Punishment doesn't exist because they listen to false speakers then what happens a person that thinks this lives an illusion the rabbi cries over it the rabbi is in pain over it so he screams whatever you're in pain over you scream that's why we yell that's why you have to yell that's also why you're never going to see see the Christians yell you're never going to see a Christian speaker yell in fact if you have a debate with them you almost feel like you're debating a robot why they never change their tone they're always yeah you know Yos died and then he got up H like no he didn't Y no see you're mistake in here like what the what's wrong with this guy you high what's the matter with you how come you're not like fire up what's the matter with you I just yelled at you yell back at least no you see Yos told us to love that's what love I would give you a right and a left love love yell back a little bit give me some fire back nothing nothing you know why I'll tell you a secret you know why you know why cuz you a know it's the truth that's why they're laughing you know why they don't yell cuz they care less whether you listen to them or not there's nothing to do all they care about is that you keep coming give them money they care less if you listen you like Yos you don't like Yos you believe you don't believe as long as your check clears every single month they care less they're not in pain about anything there's 8 billion customers potential customers in the world you don't want to listen they got8 billion to replace you they don't care if you listen or not so no one's going to replace you there's five people waiting online for every chair they got stadi stadiums too small to fit the KLA they shut down places because they could only fit 5,000 people shut them down why we're moving to a bigger place 15,000 20,000 some of these places in different parts of America in Texas Tennessee all parts of of the United States different parts of the world literally fit 250,000 people there's not even a sports stadiums big enough for such a thing massive and guess what the speaker never yells a word never yells a word what he doesn't care if you believe he don't believe as long as you keep putting some money in that little basket as long as you give your money every single month go to health ho he cares what does he care Cas he's nothing pain over you they have a whole joke of a system where guess what you know what they're in pain over they're pain of the fact that they're big guys where you know what they want they cry to you like listen I only have four planes you know that if you want me to deliver the message I need a new jet and the Jet I already God already has given me the sign of which jet it is it's only $54 million he tells you and you must give it to me and guess what these idiots give it to him he's got four planes they ask him the news ask the guy why do you need in the fifth plane you already have one you have two three four you have pictures on it on the walls why do you need another plane for $55 million you know how many people you can feed with $50 million goes no you see all my planes they're good but I can't go anywhere I want with just one plane I would have to have a connecting flight I would have to stop somewhere but with this new $54 million plane I could fly anywhere direct and guess what he didn't scream a word about it and people give why he's not in pain there's nothing to be in pain about when you're in pain you scream you cry you yell you do everything possible because you know that if people don't listen to you everything is on the line everything is on the line now if a person simply understood this part alone they look at the world very differently every conversation will be more meaningful every relationship would have more substance every time they would listen to something they would calculate more carefully whether it's worth their time or not but sometimes people are not looking for substance they're not looking for the truth they're looking for excuses and this is very common in the world whether it's the religious or the non-religious if you're looking for the truth says you'll find it if you're looking for excuses you don't even need to look they'll find you a couple of guys young kids Yesa came to see kitki kitki one of the in America in a previous generation and they came to the ra and they said we have a big Su we have a big Kasha a big question big difficulty in the ram okay what ask the r and they said they show thi for here's over here this what the r says but it doesn't make sense now if the Rob is gonna say this then why is this and if the Rob is gonna say that then why is that and they start giving them all the things if the rabbi is gonna say this then we already have the answer for that and if the rabbi's gonna say this then we already have the answer for that and they go back and they keep telling and the rabbi of kitki is just sitting there for a half hour doesn't say a word just says wow wow wow wow W and his son he's watching there 13 years old 14 years old he's listening quietly sees the gor's father nodding to these young boys and they brought a complication from the rambam and he's saying wow I don't know and these guys all left with an ego at least 25 pounds heavier all three of they come out they're all big we brought a question to the and even the couldn't figure it out they're all happy they leave now right after them came inski and he came in he's sitting with the kamki and right away ra ketki tells him look at this Kasha look at this obstacle in the rambam Raam says such and such now what's the answer and he starts giving them the answer like he just rips it apart everything that the other guy just said and he shows he has the actual answer so the son of he's wait a minute why didn't he tell the kids why didn't he tell these young guys why he let them all leave thinking he doesn't know the answer that they have a question that the biggest Rabbi in the world have an answer to so after he finished he said Abba uh please tell me why did you let those three boys ask you a question a half hour there telling you all these complications and you're saying you don't know you don't know you don't know and you let them go thinking that you don't know but obviously you know you just turn you just gave the whole answer right now to the Rabbi says see those three boys boys I knew right away that they were enjoying the toil of the complication they were enjoying the obstacle they were enjoying not having not having the answer but rather having excuses why should I ruin it for them they're not looking for the answer they're looking for excuses so if I saw that there's three boys they want to learn to they like the excuses they're enjoying that part let them go enjoy let them go andjoy my answer is not going to serve them well at that point now of course you have to know that when it comes to knowing the answer and not telling somebody that never has anything to do with amuna meaning if somebody has amuna issues and they ask you a question you have to answer it but when it's something like this a uh a difficulty of some kind that doesn't have anything to do with amuna then you could do such a thing either way the point is is that we see here that sometimes it's more important not to say than to say and vice versa now the ramban writes here something that all of us need to know he says that now that you understand the significance of how you communicate you should always have some type of pedestal some type of measurement system to compare everything to if you want to know how to behave just imagine how you behave next to your Rabbi now in this generation that's a little bit more difficult to say why because sometimes in this generation you see people acting towards their Rabbi worse than how they act towards uh terrorists you know they uh they have a question against the you know for the rabbi instead of asking the rabbi they tell the the whole world that the rabbi is the worst person on Earth they don't understand something that the rabbi did they declare him uh the worst person on Earth all types of things people don't have any real respect for rabbis today because they can't determine who's good and who's bad because they themselves are not exactly good now the raban writes that you have to treat your Rob with a certain amount of fear with a certain amount of awe now what ises it to support what the ra where does the toora support what the rambam says the page 33b says any Torah student who fails to stand up respectfully for his R it's called a r and he's destined to forget is Torah knowledge that means that a person could learn day and night he's in Yeshiva for 20 years he's in k for another 10 years 15 years and he feels like he knows a thing or two he's already completed the Shas a few times he's gone over a few things maybe even wrot a seph and he thinks that already he should be treated as somebody special so when his R comes in to wherever he's in he doesn't feel like he owes the R any special treatment why because he's in the middle of learning right now I don't need to stand up the rabbi is not looking anyway thear says this person just turned from being somebody that's a religious person learns T all day does turn to in the eyes of all of that just went into the garbage pale person is considered a wicked person because everything he did now is in a honor of himself not in the honor of and even worse so he's now at risk of forgetting everything he knows now the to talks about how a person is supposed to have respect for a rabbi how a person is a supposed to be scared of saying certain things next to a r page 63a says what happens if somebody asks a question let's say we're in a Shure or in a bitet or in a uh midash and somebody says uh Rabbi or just generally the rabbi is there and somebody says are we allowed to eat to drink milk that's just koser but not and to you your old Geniuses like yeah of course yeah yeah of course you could do it years ago if it's hard to get you know then you could drink the Just Kosher milk that's not you don't know the answer and you say it out loud why because you know the answer would you want to help him out right the says in that moment every single person that answered that question and rendered an decision in the presence of the rabbi is now liable for a death penalty from from Hashem They just added a death penalty to their account why because they disrespected the Torah that's in Rabbi by saying an decision in front of him if he is the rav in the location that means that the Torah has to come from him not not from every average Joe that decides that he knows the answer by you saying what you said that makes a look like he may not know because you answered faster and it looks like the rabbi maybe he's just wearing a costume and you're going to say okay okay that's nice that's great that's scary but where is this in the Torah where is this in the Tor page 5 three a says the following there were twoim in the world two people that were so righteous according to Hashem that they literally were as great ASU and who are these people the two sons of Aron aen they were next in line to to lead is meaning that if they were next in line to lead they were as great as one time there was a conversation mid says between mhu and and mosu says there greater than us these two but then you find out in the Tor that killed him killed him and the go back and forth what's the reason of why killed these two big says yeah they brought they brought a they brought a sacrifice to the mishan of hem without permission so says okay but is that a good thing he brought a sacrifice to hem why do you need special instructions of who what when how says no you don't understand there are two rabbis there there's then there's if you want to peep if you want to squeak if you want to eat if you want to drink if you want to get married if you want to get divorced if you want to slaughter if you want to do anything you have to ask permission from the rabbi first when they brought a sacrifice to a without asking the permission of mosu what do that mean that means they've decided they've rendered anic decision in front of the Rabbi says you just Dishonored mosu you Dishonored the Torah you made it seem as if you know more than mosu death penalty all your all your righteousness all that stuff doesn't mean anything were killed by himself because of dishonoring the rabbi but not intentionally unintentionally it's not like this generation that people make entire Facebook pages and YouTube videos D against rabbis somebody sent me a video today of some guy that uh I'm assuming used to watch my shim he may still watch the shim hopefully he does so you can get a reality check he decided to make a video about me well he says that Rabon Ruben is endangering no more no less why is Rabon endangering because I said in a not too long ago a month ago or so that anyone that thinks that by buying a gun you're going to that's going to help you survive goou Magog has very serious amuna problems did I say this from my opinion this what Tora says Tor says there's not a single person person in the world not a single person in the world that ever got punished without there being a sin to to to to to allow it meaning you will never even lose a hair on your head you will never even lose a nail you will never kick the wall by accident get a stump toe never get a cold never get a nothing unless authorizes it needless to say you're never going to get shot and killed unless authorizes it which means you buying a gun is not going to help anything if a wants to kill somebody guess what you could have you could be inside a tank and still die you could be inside a tank and still die without anybody shooting at you people are delusional thinking that they are going to be the ones that bring the Mia with guns and swords and and grenades and missiles what Torah did you learn where does it say this then they're GNA say wait a minute isn't it true that David went to war first of all when you're David you could do what David did second of all look at the rules of War says it Book of Numbers mosenu says for every thousand soldiers we have a thousand people that learn Torah why the Torah is the only reason why the soldiers win not the war not the missiles not the strategy nothing every thousand soldiers has a thousand soldiers that learn tah that's rule number one number two David did not allow a person that spoke in between putting theine of the head to theine of the of the Y by accident he didn't allow him to be on the team on the Army why he says they're going to kill all of us because of you meaning that all of his soldiers was you hadash the these people went to war not tanks that no went to war why because they knew it's not the missiles and the arrows and the rockets that are winning the words now if that's not enough for you go look at Mid and you see what it says about the's wars it says was extraordinary he says to these enemies I'll go chase them I'll go kill them and you allow me to do it says I heard you go I'll do what you say his grandson great [Applause] grandson was says wanted to make wanted to make Masia bring the Salvation to the entire planet says is here with 185,000 generals each one has an army millions of people right outside of yush little yush they could all spit we would drown says I'm going to sleep you go fight the war says you got it you said it I'll do it next morning they all died say wait a minute are you saying that okay he was he was but I mean we already know there's a rule in the Tor the degradation of the generation no one could ever say that anyone of this generation is greater than someone from the previous generation whether it would be radya from five six years ago or the from 40 years ago or the or Oru anyone from before us there's a rule in nature that we continuously deteriorate so here we see this also rules applies also to David who is mashia that's the father of the mashiah and his grandson was also sadik but again it's a few Generations later you cannot say is better but how come says to I'm going to fight I'm going to chase them I'm going to hit them and you allow me to do it you all do it Hashem says I'll do it I'll kill them no problem says I'm not gonna fight I'm not going to pray I'm not going to chase nobody I'm going to sleep are you saying is it possible to ever say such a thing that had more in had more connection to hem Shalom the mid says the following he says no what you don't understand is this said I cannot go and Chase these people and think that it's not me running I cannot go and hit these people and not think that it's me hitting them I cannot go and stab these people and kill these people and not think for a second it's me I know it's you but if I do something I'm going to think it's me it's part of me so you know what I'm not doing anything I'm going to sleep you do it by yourself you do it by yourself I don't want to dishonor you you do it by yourself D says I'm going to go chase I'm going to go hit I'm going to go do everything but in reality I know for sure I'm doing nothing it's all you I'll do the make it look realistic but I know it's not me I know it's nothing I know I'm nothing I need I a warm but not a man I'm nothing it's just makes it look realistic for the passerbys so for all of those superheroes that want to be like the with their guns and their arrows and whatever you have in your in your closet over there you get to level an understanding of and a connection to like you could buy yourself a bazooka put it in your living room for all I care but the reality is you want to buy a gun you're allowed the point is to understand that is not going to help you it's not going to help you connect to it's not going to help you fight crime it's not going to help you why if a wants something to happen to you it's gonna happen if doesn't want something to happen to you no power in the world can change it no power in the world can change it if you're glued to hasem no power in the world can change it now this is what Torah says you want to say otherwise that means you have a different Torah now sometimes it's hard to accept what Torah says why cuz it's against logic it's against logic why because you're putting yourself in places you don't belong like yeah but the cops have uh the cops have guns yeah but that's their job you're not a cop yeah but the Army well you just saying we shouldn't have an army no that's not what I said but you're not a soldier you're a shoe salesman you sell software you m Lawns you're not you're not a guy that kills people you don't even know how to hold a gun For Heaven's Sake they were questioning whether they give you a license or not like what are you talking about it's not you the point is know where your place is know where your job is in the world and even when you don't understand what the Torah is saying don't be a fool and start publicizing your foolish individual opinion because now you've just dug yourself a hole you may never get yourself out of cuz you just desecrated the Torah you desecrated aem's name you spoke against someone that learns Torah you spoke against someone that teaches Torah there is no end to the of a person that does such a thing if they don't do CH says the following he says people that go against they're they're hit their punishment is tooo great and that's and says and that's just talking about this world we're not even talk about the next world no one saying that you're automatically going to agree with everything naturally obviously you have a yet obviously you have an evil inclination that's going to tell you otherwise it's going to try to fool you but you have to understand our Tor is the only truth that exist your logic is manipulated by the is manipulated by an opposite Force that's going to constantly try to do the opposite tell you the opposite is right now even though sometimes you could hear things that are against your logic but to says it it's hard to accept it but to says it what do you do what do you do in such a situation the best thing to do be quiet why so long as you're quiet the rest of the world doesn't know how stupid you are the second you started talking and mention things that are against the Torah guess what you've uncovered the foolishness that's in your head why why ruin a surprise for everyone why tell everybody you have all this juking in your head all these bugs in your head now guess what if you continue learning eventually you won't be foolish eventually you be smart but you're always going to need the rabbi you're always going to need the you're always going to need the you're always going to ask from people that know more than you the more you know the more you realize that you don't know but when you don't know anything and you simply disagree it just makes you feel it just makes you look stupid I'm sorry there's no other way to describe it it's going to the doctor's office and telling him that he does you don't agree with his diagnosis but diagnosis but you've never gone to medical school yeah maybe you watched one YouTube video and you think you know diagnosis so it's ridiculous that people literally just take their owna and just throw it in the garbage why for a little ego and every other week now there's some new superhero that makes a video about me or other people they're very good about me they're doing it on a regular basis each week you put my name up and on the internet you're going to find something new why they're trying to become Stars they think this is like uh they ticket to to startom it's a ticket for sure but it's just not to startom though why I'm not mentioning my own opinion I'm not mentioning my own opinion I give you I give you page numbers I give you I give you the the the the every single Source if I didn't mention it ask I give you the source you still want to disagree with it then there's nothing to talk about but that's the thing it's important to know is not our friend he's our God and he does not like when people speak against his Torah he doesn't like when people speak against people that teach Torah when you do that and you do it publicly You're simply putting your life at risk literally literally and that's what the talks about it says how come we see sometimes that there are young kids that die the says inan is because the people the parents of this kid did not honor a kosher Jew that died when he died they weren't sad they didn't cry so because they didn't cry over this Jew said ah that was your opportunity to do CH you didn't do it okay now I'm going to punish you for not honoring a Jew if is so strict with a kosher Jew that passed needless to say about a kosher Jew that's alive a kosher Jew is teaching tah it's important to know that sometimes the Torah is going to take us to a place that we've never seen before many times it does it instead of fighting it instead of going to war with it go find some proofs for your point see maybe maybe there maybe you do have a valid point but not because it's your opinion but because the tah also says what you said don't just decide that your opinion is the Torah or just because you heard it in a lecture from somebody 40 years ago then that's the to do you really remember everything that was said to you 40 years ago if I ask you what did you do this morning for breakfast nine out of 10 people are not going to remember if I asked you what was the conversation you had on Tuesday afternoon last week you're not going to remember so how are you so sure about what you heard in a lecture 30 40 years ago maybe you didn't hear so right maybe the speaker didn't speak so well the point being abai don't be so sure to just go against and fight and rebuke for no reason you're just m you're making your your own lives into just hell and it's sad because really the whole purpose of the shim is to help you not to get people to hurt themselves but every other day there's a superhero that's pretty much trying to jump off the bridge says no I'm going to survive 5,000 people died before him and I'm going to be the one that survives I mean you didn't see the other people's dead bodies already enough so the ramban writes us a very very special letter he tells us listen you want to speak to people you have have to speak to people in different tones different levels different languages think before you speak even more so when you speak to the opposite gender even more so when you speak to someone that you're not married to even more so when you're speaking to a student even more so when you're speaking to a rabbi even more so when you're speaking to a during your prayer contemplate every word that comes out of your mouth contemplate how it comes out contemplate why it should come out think about it as a really Worth to say it and I bet you this the more you know Tor the less you're going to speak the less you're going to speak why because more you learn Tor the more you realize that more times than not what you're about to say is meaningless there's just simply less junk for you to talk about if you have a lot of junk to talk about talk about sports stock market I don't know all this stuff that people like to talk about that means there's very very little to if anything at all one of the worst signs that a Jew could say about himself is like oh yeah I like sports that means there's almost no TOA in you why because liking Sports means that you follow it you follow it you know how much people you know they they hit and they point and they throw and what you know all these statistics you know how much money they make you know where they vacation yeah because Sports doesn't just come with you just watching a bunch of people throw a ball or kick a ball Sports comes with like the whole Enterprise it comes with that whole addiction you go to the game you make it game day you have friends over you play you buy the jerseys you follow the statistics you watch what the news about it is you know what everybody's opinion is you know what's going to happen next year you know who the coach is you know who the owner is you know what the budget is and all this junk comes along with it which means that there's less and less room for the Torah there's less less room for the tah so you're saying oh yeah I like sports okay that means that pretty much you're leaving virtually no room for the toah and the same thing goes with a lot of other things so now to change that takes time to abandon things that you think are good and that you like takes time so of course everyone needs to do it tomorrow to change but the reality is they're probably not so the one thing that the ram is trying to tell us is this you may not be able to change your addiction to sports or money or whatever other non kosher thing that you're doing is you may not be able to abandon it tomorrow but there's one thing that you can do starting tomorrow from now on know your place when you're talking to your wife know who you're talking to when you're talking to your husband know who you're talking to you talk talking to the opposite sex know who you're talking to talking to your boss know who you're talking to when you're talking to a rabbi know who you're talking to if he's a wicked Rabbi or righteous Rabbi know who you're talking to why because that means that you have to adjust you have to adjust yourself based on who you're talking to if he's a student know that he's a student if he's a teacher know he's a teacher you have to adjust if you adjust for people you'll adjust for hem and eventually you'll avoid and abandon all of these bad habits this helps us abandon some of our own B bad habits helps us avoid some of our own bad character traits get closer to get closer to the and get cl to come along as well [Music]