The Road to Marriage - Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser

[Music] concerning marriage our hazael tell us our boy me encanta me tears of love 40 days before the baby is formed bosco Yotes a spell Maris that there is a heavenly voice that proclaims bus plane ela ploidy the daughter of so-and-so will marry this particular young man a lot of people have asked the question is it possible for one to lose their bus sheriff Koster Sholem to lose the one that was called out from heaven is that possible the great stapler gong says when that particular name was called out from Shah maíam it's not a Gazzara it's not a decree that it has to take place it only means that there is someone that is my team it only means there's someone that is suited someone that is proper someone that you can find something in common with to build a future however an individual has both irri they have free choice they can go whichever way they want they can be Makar of the Chinook they can bring it closer or they can push it further away they can go in whichever direction they want sometimes of an individual acts modestly an individual has humility and they realize it's a tschosik oh sure that this is the charm time they have somebody that they could envision the future together with and they're able to act on it and commit that is a great circus that in itself is a privilege in a great merit there is an individual that came to me for several years he's going out he's a very reputable individual very fine person an individual that's popular good-looking me does everything however he couldn't find the proper girl for him well finally one day somebody comes in from the southern United States they meet and immediately things begin to take shape it moved along very quickly he came in to me and he says Rebbe I am now ready to get engaged I couldn't believe it he says to me I have to do it quickly because in three days I've got to return to University in California they got engaged and the Husson went back to California one day while he's there there is a so-called mystic that came to town sets up shop people came to see him and the mystic is able to tell certain things about the person because he takes a look at the writing and he sees the writing see certain things that he analyzes and he tells the person all about themselves their future their past whatever so the custom gives to him his writing and the man begins to tell him different things the hustling also reveals to him that he's engaged so the mystic said why don't you bring me some of the writing of the column the Hassan said I have a letter that she gave to me to read on the plane I have it in the apartment and I'll go and bring it he hurries the apartment brings back the letter the mystic takes a look at the letter and begins to move his head back and forth this is not a very good person I would not suggest that you get married to her the Hassan hears it he accepts it he doesn't question it he gets all nervous goes to the telephone calls up the collar and says I'm very sorry but there is a mystic that came to town he saw your writing he told me you're not a very good woman and therefore I would like to break our engagement and that was the end he came to tell me about it when he came back to New York I asked him how could you do that you're engaged years you went out you didn't find such a woman with so many virtues everything that spoke to your heart what happened he just did not want to hear anything and he left the house rather abruptly well a few months later he came back to town this time called me up Rebbe would you please allow me to come to meet with you I said yes his comportment was much different this time he comes in with his head bowed Rebbe I'm sorry you were so right all the years I never found anybody like her I miss her terribly not only that I went out a few times and I realized it is clear like the day that this is the girl for me what do I do I got to get her back I said I shouldn't gave her to you once we could try Rebbe would you help me I said okay after he left I called her father and that began to talk with her father he knows me and we got around to the subject of his daughter and he told me oh you know she is now engaged to a doctor in Chicago I said thank you very much Muslim brethren should have a lot of Nahas I hung up the telephone I called the former cousin he came to the house and I told him he took it very very hard and I told him listen bez a sham you'll see what happens bemis Paulo pray for the future he says he had been Rebbe what if I lost my bus share what if I lost the one that was called out from Xiamen for me I said don't worry about it you pray don't pray to get her back that's not a prayer that you should pray we are not miss Paulo like that but there's a sham that you should have a fine collar this former hustling took my words so seriously that every day a guy that had trouble getting up in the morning / minyan was there every day a half an hour earlier Saint heal him every single day these simony flows miracles do happen one day I get the basura that the engagement with the doctor in Chicago broke off the Husson former cousin also heard about it he rushed the house how do I get her back I said well I would not suggest cold calling her we came up with a plan I would gently call the Father I would speak to him I would tell him of the former hustles regret how terrible he feels the mistake that he made the mistake of a lifetime and we'll see what can happen I also suggested to the former Hassan that he should make something for her with his own two hands he's an individual with very talented with his hands I said make something for her that we can send to her with a letter of apology the Husson took the words seriously he did exactly what I told him he made her something beautiful he sent it together with a very heart-rending letter of apology I called she agreed to speak to him for a short telephone call they spoke and then somehow with great great OSH Gotha they went out three months later they were married our boy yarn cutting material supply 40 days before were born that Bosco goes out but we got to be listening [Music] [Applause]