Tisha B'av: Losing Sight of the Goal - Rabbi Ilan Meirov

no rival a bowtie our sages teach us they tell us the olam loss Dada Shekinah makati llama la vie hashim's presence has never left I never will leave the western wall the Kotel will always have a certain extra dosage of spirituality and actually dosage of kedusha that any man or woman could feel if he or she desires but on top of that I collegeville who God promised that the western wall will never be destroyed it would always stay intact and indeed bahasham here we are today after all these wars in LED sign after all the destruction and it was shall I'm bahasham the Kotel emily is standing tall with millions upon millions of visitors here in here out praying crying connecting to collegeville who connecting to God but Moya Abu tai lemma said and the day the western wall isn't the goal it's an icicle all it's a nice you know remembrance and what it used to be like what it looked like but that's how what we're looking for ultimately my rival a bow tie the bed amick does is what we need and what we have to search for and we have to yearn for so what do we have to do as you go year after year having this if you close a beautiful event that we have over here but an event you would rather not have over here we rather too shall not be a day of fasting rather a day of simcha a day of joy for all of our miss learn somali no la so what do we have to do my rival a bow tie I want to read to you a very famous game a lot in game and retained afternoon sign famous Gamal I you all heard it before if not once twice three times but it's worth repeating for the moment ladies enjoy me listen very carefully my said by Gustavo satoh you're the story of a couple that was engaged okish a massage does my book they're engaged no greater movement in that bar sense again Milosh english boo been home deco karim their beautiful engagement ceremony that period of a feeling connected before the wedding unfortunately was ruined because the couple was taken captive they were taken as hostages since i give my god me see ohms ellezi at the mouth shy explains apparently there were other jews that were captive as well they had a minion of men they had 10 men over there and therefore they were able to actually get married in that location in captivity not necessarily the most a romantic way of getting married but no rival Abu tai it happens they get married I'm la la the wife tells the husband vivica shaman higher ask of you I plead from you actually Gabi don't come close to me don't touch me why not you have a to shin what's the problem dad dad a wedding why not because she n leak to vom America because I don't have it Toovey from you she doesn't have the marriage document let me know the game AHA tells us with addict to buy a man and a woman are forbidden to each other so here we have a couple that's engaged taken into captivity they actually get married but she says back wall not too bad Bradley no one want to write it whatever the reason may be sasikumar Valona gotta add yamato he did not have any physical contact with her till the day he died akshay met once he passed away I Mallahan she said to the other Jews that were there in captivity cipa dual as they pleased when eulogize my husband when you eulogize this individual you should say pita pit be it so uh you tell me yourself he was able to fight it yet Allah better than yourself at a dick why the alluvial safe lava la carlota by yourself is a dick he has a one challenge with a woman which she trapped him but that was one challenge when they were alone but when I call your mother your mother my husband he had this challenge every single day furthermore she says villu your service at amita where hi Becca Damita be new yourself la Bistro vaha Easter she gives a few examples of how her husband's grave in your zip and she ends up by saying you're safe had to fight off a woman that wasn't his wife so it's a little easier to fight off an avatar when it's so blatantly novella but my husband had to fire off his wife you can always rationalize my wife you know it's moot I'll beside and not a big deal she basically said my husband was greater than yourself is a dick and my wife el bote action we could all agree where the husband did was a tremendous act of courage of yet remain I'm self self control he and his wife together take him hoppings that many other stories here let us read the last few lines says the game a no matter how they habits at the game Cooley I look at his study game so righteous why did they have to suffer such a couple with such a larger mine such self-control following ala ha why do they to get engaged take the captivity can't even Michael Apple such righteous people suffering said the game aha why did this happen to them and the game allah says i'm a lame assumed a liability whoosh a lion because they did not mourn over the destruction of your jawline they did not cry over khoobam better mikdash no rival Abu tai what's the game are telling us here major major lesson here phenomenal lesson scary lesson but it's a lesson we could all take and really build on it the game is telling us if a person does not mourn the destruction of your Will shall I Hashem will give him a different reason to morning if a person is not pained or bothered by not having that better me gosh then has to show my sham will give me something else to be paint over something else to be bothered by everyone on his own level and his or her own level has some sort of suffering in life it could be not finding I should do shalin by the shoes with their children it could be financial could be health or smiles on the wife and Abu tai maybe just maybe if we would just add a little more pain and sorrow over you who shall i'm in the better my gosh maybe that would diminish some of the personal sour that we have some of the personal suffering every single one of us goes through in a lifetime then you'll be an you might be asking rabbit so what do we do what I mean how do we how do we get bothered by osha line what do we have to do exactly as it is there a method is there something we have to think about something we have to do every single day I'll give you guys a very simple mishal a parable that it has very practical applications there's a girl emo available time there was once a king there was once a king who had many advisors many servants people that were dedicated to him but there was this one guy that was always giving him timely advice he was always serving him faithfully he was basically his right-hand man this is the right-hand man of the king now this guy malai vallabha die one day after decades after decades of of service I have a decades of friendship he was caught conspiring with the enemies this right-hand man of the king was giving over secrets to the enemy territory putting his own country at risk the King finds out about this and of course when you do such a thing what's your verdict Amita its death penalty but comes along the king and he says like a guy he says one second this guy has been so close to me for all these years we've had a brotherly relationship I needed him to in the morning he was there I needed him to leave at the most important times of his life he left I needed him to risk his life he wished he made a major blunder he was bribed he did it he deserves death but I can't were too close instead of giving him a death sentence says the king I want to put him in prison give him a long prison sentence and hopefully this guy regrets repents I let him out after a while ok so they have the court case the guy was shocked to hear he's not getting killed they put him in prison they give him a small prison cell my mosh tiny with up with a tiny bathroom you know with a 4 inch mattress you know bread and butter every single day for breakfast lunch and supper not the greatest situation but you know it's better than death permit he was there every single day crying and pleading with the guards I regret it I didn't mean it please give me another chance tell the king in my name I love him I'll go back to the old days but a week goes by and a month goes by in a year goes by two years and the same condition he has that small bathroom with the four inch mattress bread and butter for breakfast lunch and supper can't go outside no activities suffering but after constantly begging and pleading let me outta here finally the king sends his huzzah his servants his messengers to go talk to this prisoner the prisoner sees them he's excited loca shame the time has come for me to leave he stands up excited and he tells him me the time he's a time and they say no no no no sir not close to leaving at but but the King agreed to give you better conditions we're getting your private bathroom we're getting you a nice bed you have a many to choose from for breakfast lunch and supper sports activities you can watch tour anytime you can do a lot of things over there we'll give you what you want what you need the guys ecstatic wow thank you so much the boxer malad unbelievable and by met every day every day is getting better conditions and he's getting more cavort and he's playing ball and he's getting inspired his enjoying the foods but guess what happens now that he has better conditions he stopped asking the breathing guard please tell the King to let me leave he was actually enjoying himself he was actually getting uh getting a settled he was appeased and by met a week a month a year and the same conditions not a word not a word to the met to the to the prison guard saying tell the King get me out here so we're the king after doom alive Abu tai is getting too comfortable let me take him back to the original situation and then once again he was bleeding and he was begging please get me out of here alive in a boot I just think about it for a second here we are boca shame we're living in beautiful times if you go back a number of years go back to Europe and the 1940s I show me love came your marshmallow not see what he did over there you go further back in time to what happened in Spain and what happened in different parts of the Middle East we see so many times the Jews are prospering and the Jews were suffering and when we were suffering we're begging a shame for the gear will have we need messiahs now but then when things got better and we got acclimated to society and we had jobs and we got homes next thing you know we're happy but Christian we're good we're happy but we have but then again some more tragedies and I'll please assure many must realize now and it just goes it's a cycle that seems to repeat itself over and over again the life of a boot I let's not be like that person that's completely who's who has his priorities wrong it's not about enjoying yourself in prison it's about what always not losing sight of the goal getting out of the prison getting out of the galoot getting out of this long and gruesome exile you know if you sit here today bahasham our community no Ivan a bow ties is flourishing leonela you have beautiful community centers we're building this building we have homes let defendant and cars and clothes whatever you could ask for location we have in this country we have this community behind Ella I'm sure it's like this velcro seven communities around the world but Mariah Abu tai we seem sometimes a little too comfortable we're too relaxed we're happy with the status quo doha shame starbucks amala look what a sham gave us and we thank a shame but it doesn't seem like we're requesting for the next step we're not saying a collage about who thank you we're not saying thank you but it's not sufficient it seems like it is sufficient and if anything is that sufficient it's maybe the size of a house you want to be bigger maybe the model of a car going to be better that's what we're requesting for measure the life and Abu tai we should enjoy what we have we should be grateful for what we have of course we have to be Nene nope nothing wrong with that but don't lose sight of the goal don't forget to focus now how do we build a better me Josh what do we have to do exactly we can't just go inside putting bricks and stones what are we gonna do no I've appetizer given that tells us that something tells a sham could have destroyed I'm Israel as a nation we as a nation could have been destroyed cousin shadow but instead he took out his wrath and anger on what and wood and I'm stones he destroyed the building and did not destroy the people safer collage bahu destroy the building to keep the people alive that means our job is to keep the people alive not just physically but spiritually in order to get the building back we have just in our community more available die everyone's sitting over here you all have a family member that needs to be inspired we all have a neighbor that's not keeping the basics we all know someone every single one of us know someone you have a job to do outreach you don't have to be an organization Kuszczak oracea Toa you don't have to be any you could be an individual and do outreach you could do things on your own you want to be the greatest speaker you have to have the greatest mind you simply have to have the determination the ones the will it's simply inviting your friends to come to the vet technician to come to the shul tell them about website sect or anytime or heat up route let them know about this thing let them know it exists bring them to different programs because I can throughout the community it's only simple awareness let them know about it no Ivan Abu tai you want to build the building then start working on the people the statistics and on our side just in our community here we have so many kids in public schools of Jimmy's role we have so many kids kids that are very innocent the parents are good parents I'm sure but they don't know the importance of giving a child a Jewish education and every single one of us definitely has a relative a friend and neighbor that's currently in public school no I didn't say hi it's okay eventually the go to shul to find the way to think I became religious to bible school they'll become don't rely don't realign miracles ladies and gentlemen we want to build a better my gosh start building people take those kids talk to those parents encouraged him to go to you she wrote you know recently my younger brother yaniv share belly who does an amazing job by maila shame shame I me trying to organize all these programs or Kazak to add the community he started this initiative to put public school kids Anisha vote and he has a few men and women on staff that will make the calls for you all you have to do is say here is the name of the mother hears the name of the Father hears the name of the child he's currently and PS Catholic ah and we will try to make this she do between the family and the school no Ivan Abu tai every single person it's only two more weeks where we have heavy duty enrollment of the kids because school starts in September so every single one of you just make the phone call reach out it's a free service we're not gonna charge you for the service just make the call no available time and and get people involved there's many goodies she bought out there they have seats available Susan a very high education loca shame it's all about us reaching out making the phone call knocking on the door and there's another shame if we take these things to heart we take these things to heart be bothered by seeing other Jews not following the path when you're bothered and you do something I could about who says oh I'll give it a nice house I'll give it a nice car but you know what I won't take it away from you because you also care about what's important to me so my wife and I boot I let's take this initiative let's take these things to heart and there's not a shame the more people will inspire the more secure do you have and the Creator chance we have that this upcoming tisha Bob we will not have to be in back of real although the beautiful construction but we won't need the construction and what happens at a shame the building and the construction of the Potomac dash we may not be I may know i'm in VA