To Find Yourself In Hashem, or to Lose Yourself In Hashem? - Likkutei Torah Tazria "Sos Tasis" #2

the yeshiva dotnet six lines from the bottom you see cuff the second column or page 39 the line starts coilmac Reza's majimak reject narcissus job [Music] so the summation here is ich missouri attila yay let us knock Ava Yama's raasleela cuz i'll say your letters offer spiritually it represents when it starts off with ISA which is a ceruse Adele esata and that inspires the Seleucid Allah Allah the Isha begins the process which in Nevada Hashem means that the Jew initiates the inspiration trickle triggers his own arousal works on himself tries to create momentum inspiration commitment within himself that's ISA Russa della SATA and that comes first then the Seleucid Allah Allah the reciprocal response from above comes from a far deeper deeper place and therefore the result is your letters offer which is the a variable the aviary bird not lockable price but the average Tarver be GU for the Malka that he wants to be in the king in he wants to be absorbed in the essence of the king if ich muss real Killa meaning the Seleucid ella ella precedes this illusive esata the inspiration begins from above not from below so even though afterwards it arouses him this is called ish Missouri Attila and then because it did not come as a response to his work but it came as an initial as an initial trigger so therefore the birth is your lettuce in the cave is Mazzilli a lettuce knock Ava which represents the Ava's suitor to quench one's thirst not to stop Cosa nefesh like the flame being absorbed in the in the bonfire in davao the him a narcissist Oliver penisu the isthmus real killer when classes Islam means the community of jewish souls this in this madre of ich muss real pillar that the ish initiates the process meaning the service of delaila Macross Acorah kanessa systole then has the title of a kora kora literally means barren were infertile powerful God she led us in a cave even though we said even when ich muss real killer there's a birth of Anna cave and she penis a visit and that also is a lot that's called Ava's Oota relative to have a rabbit's a smaller form of love but there's a child the child is the law emotions represent are represented by children generally represent emotions meet us man bean are called father and mother tapti and mommy Kozma is like the seminal point the seminal flash of an idea which is like the semen the seed of life and then B na is the development of it like the mother that takes the seat and conceives fertilizes absorbs and ultimately develops it develops an embryo and then a complete fetus that's been and and she gives birth to the child which would be represented spiritually by emotions by Aven that's the chart so you have your lettuce you have a visit in the cross a quarter kilo India lettuce clump kanessa sister let's call that my Carter Carter doesn't have birth why there's a birthday the answer is no fish the gamma I love the zoo when instruments have ads my dates arisen - lusaka Shalom because this birth didn't happen as a result of her work reaction in shock I think Damacy Seleucid Allah Allah the ich muss real killer and therefore credit is not attributed to her in other words sometimes in life you're doing something but it's not really your you were because you have been inspired by a by a a motive by a an energy outside of you so therefore even though it awake it awakens something in you and it triggered you at and inspired you but ultimately the person that drew himself is called Anna Cora because the birth is not attributed to his or her own crisis it's rather another kayak that intervened meddled into his life and influenced him to do it so at the surface seems very powerful but on a deeper level you have to always distinguish between something that really became part of you and something that's not really part of you to give an example sometimes people behave in a certain way because they're in an environment where there's a certain energy or atmosphere ambience inspiration and now it looks like they're part of it but it's not that they're really internalized it it's just since this is what the atmosphere dictates so you get sweep up so to speak you get sweep tup in the energy so it seems like it's one with you but let's say this person is plucked out of the environment and placed in a a completely different environment where they then now have to stand on their own feet sometimes everything is gone everything is out the window hey what happened what happened what happened to you nothing happened to me it was never part of me I was this part of I was part of the program and as far as long as I was part of the program at work now I'm on my own on my own I really never had anything so that's a very it's a subtle distinction because you don't always see the differentiation but you do see it in life when the person has to now stand on their two own feet my Grosh she says by Logitech shall have this oil Amalia right when you take away the match from the wick is the whit burning sometimes it looks like you know you like Tomica candles or Shabbos candles and you're holding the wick to the mat you're holding the max to the wick the wick is burning but the moment you take away the max the wick is not burning you did not cause it to burn on its own you know you're pouring kerosene on a bonfire writing camp now it's camp time so kids go on the bond on the overnights what do they call beaver wax overnight so you pour the kerosene and it looks like there's a huge fire and if theoretically you have a lot of kerosene or a lot of a lot of twigs or a lot of newspapers so you could keep it up for a while but ultimately it's a lot Cara there's no there's no essential fire it's not not permeated ah so the questions when this is so here we're tilting even on a deeper level because do the Seleucid Aleli we're not talking stylist iris you know you want to fit into the crown I'm just giving a muscle here it's even deeper in certain ways right right right right really feeling it that's true really harsh yes yes I wouldn't call it poor in other words it's not it's not it's not a judgement call this is not a judgment it's not a judgment about a person you know we're used to that when we give definitions we're judging people we're not judging people he's just describing the mechanism to understand the dynamics that since it's not something that came from within the person's own system so they didn't have to work that through it started with a gift so because it started with the give the person has to be aware of the differentiation between the two realities because when the person is aware of the differentiation they understand what are the ramifications what are the weak and vulnerable spots that they have etc there's a year this name is the Tom Lehrer of rich bits of Weinberg's litter so the toner from the Tommy rebus so I heard a story from him once very interesting story he was speaking about he was speaking about internalization he said that he heard this from I eat it was a Hasidic Jew I guess from a particular facility I think I said a Polish to Hassan from one of the Polish dynasties and there's new with him a story that once he had to go with his wife in there to strollin Israel has to go for some checkup or some little procedure on a Friday they went in on Friday and then there was some complication and they told that she has to stay here for a shot was they can go home so was Friday afternoon and he had to be with her so he was stuck there for Shabbos around looks in the time or steer time he was walking down the corridor of the he was walking down the hallway in the hospital he came from a very vibrant Hasidic community and honor you know it was a - a house and so forth and he seemed very dejected so you know he's walking down he's looking into a room and he sees in one of the rooms at on the river says he sees an out to the Yid the jewel was obviously elder had a pretty impressive long white beard so he posed in just to say hi goes inland and this year who's in bed sees this as you look very down what's the problem you look at the pressed so he says I'll tell you the truth for me this is no Shabbos shop is coming in a little Sun is setting I don't have my Strymon I didn't go to the mikveh I don't have the soul normal Hadean on the good name no dancing no singing no atmosphere no it's and it's good Shabbos so I'm stuck in the hospital big day I'll I didn't prepare for anything it's not shopping so it's very hard for me so this he looks at him and he says younger man younger man let me tell you something let me tell you something I spent 10 years in Siberia ten years in Siberian this man was his name was rep Mendel foot the fossil I knew that Mendel foot too fast I'm not gonna say well they're pretty well and he was sent by Stalin's governor to the gulag and he was there for ten years and he says younger man every Friday night the Sun set I was in Siberia and then I have a mikvah matush slimewall I didn't have a wife I didn't have my children I didn't ever see that I didn't have a Jew I didn't never sure if he got garnished a personal house given Chaves but it was still Shabbos the Shabbos says yo yo man it's a Shabbos so the Talmud never brought out that's except that something is internalized he was completely isolated there was nothing else so that's it when what Shabbos is Shabbos so she obviously have an environment you have this dry mole you have to bug them so it's beautiful when a person doesn't have that what are they left with so this guy was he felt that the whole experience wasn't there whoever Mendel was telling him is you have to sometimes be able to find it within yourself even though you don't have all the externalities so even on a more subtle on a deeper level this is the Vaart that when there's a Seleucid Allah Allah that triggers everything so since it didn't come from the person themselves so therefore there's a certain vulnerability there and because there's a vulnerability there the person is called an accord a are a Lada al Schmo it's not attributed to her name her hair means classicist ravallo came across a car Valdemar we now come back to the bracha soy sauces with saga la cara Becky boots bananas are super simcha the arm of a Saudi la cara Becky boots banal the carro will celebrate as her children gather Peters afgan she McKenna Sakura even though she's in a state of a car Allah she seduces delaila mocked him love and loyalty Seleucid Allah Sato if she's in a car that there's no children he asked the beginning of the mind man how do you say this saga ha koruba kyboots Bunnell if she's in a car there's no but now Korra means he's barren she's infertile well the toughest sob you lock Arabic in words but now the Sun girl a task that Carter beekeepers when a now she's not in a car seat I just know the shop is even though that the Seleucid Allah Allah is what shrit this iris mo mapped on and therefore you're not dealing with a situation that the person completely internalized the energy nonetheless there's gonna be keyboards but now first of all there will be children and not only there will be children but now as Russians are car songs the Shakya your leathers are famous years how could this be lost on my Basilica he adds one word because they're similar shy they are similar so Mitzvah you Holly is presume sim official Mitzvah allows there to be this reality meaning that I fall garfish must be a pillar even though it was ich muss really which is why we called her Ana Cara because the birth is not attributed to her own inspiration and her own arousal on her own energy and her own experience it's attributed to a force that came over her imposed itself on her or rather triggered her and therefore there was a birth so you're dealing with a pin of acara so number one look either you have the disorder that it's a carrot there's no children that attributed to her number two even the ìletís is each must be a filial at is Micaela but because this simcha so simcha makes that with sub u la cara the keyboards bananas children and not only children but now meaning available because there is similar what's the connection for Indian D he makes if deposit says Park especially of Auditors a shamanic echo the simple to believe of mira of curve of Auditors severe and Tasha's kiss obey at the end of the title huh at the end of all the rebukes it says this is because you did not serve her your God with joy and gladness of heart may drive Kyle my red car literally means we had so much of everything so now you'll serve your enemy by damash MA at first glance it seems like the faucet is saying alpha P Shiva Delhi Kid Rock Shan avoided the simple tool evolved as a huge circle English verb auditors over the same a movement to obtain magia inertia martyrs and Maximus Castorena simcha lava the much moles of the pasta case and the whole Tiger comes because he didn't serve very burnish some of them with Simba you served you are naive Adela Kim what was missing what was missing was the similar this doesn't make sense just because you were missing Cynthia Nevada that's why there should be such harsh consequences valve auditor session with Avila to save a Kauai caucus a chinois Havana toss a sham allocation the tsimko to the wave of measure of coil avoid this exam there was what was missing was the sim element so that's why there's such harsh consequences you want to ask the question a little differently by telling the person that if you don't serve me with joy I'm gonna punish you is that how you inspire joy let's put it that way you think a person could become joyous if you tell that to them what do you think right Takas I tell you if you're not Basilica I'm gonna punish you that's how prisoners will come to some huh right it's very good it's not a judgment if it comes as a judgment it's not gonna work say if you don't smile right now and you don't you're not happy I'm gonna smack you up okay so how happy is the person gonna become they'll smile so don't don't don't go like this right right so you have to understand the Havanna here what's the Havanna it's not a judgment call because if it's gonna be that I'm not gonna be able to make simcha for a person like you'll say you know I'll hurt you and I'll say part of it and part of their say if I have disassembled it Kappa so what faithful half-dozen Shambhala cat lavender similar case it means you should love Hashem if you experiencing Hashem as somebody who was kalila not your is somebody whose is not interested in your benefit not interested in your in your happiness so they say love to say and you have to love me that's that that's a very difficult thing it's a very hard thing to say you know I'm bothering you I'm causing you pain and part of it is because you don't say you love me now say you love me so what type of love is it the same is hear you say that way this Hashem was there there wasn't sympathy and therefore the consequences are so harsh and you want a person should be Pacifica from that he says like this in the shop is commercial costs of pizza other main salad bar it's actually asset over yeah Shui mamela says in Thai Hellas there's no human being in the world who doesn't make mistakes ain't Sabbath waters even at Saudi it's a very important idea ain't Sadiq Bharat socially acceptable oh yeah in other words mistakes are part of the plan a human being makes mistakes ah the gold part of what the god of growth part of growth that's which lemon Allah says ain't Sadiq Moritz action Yas otavalo yak the Chi helis pay regs I know mark Misenum Shekhinah SH and therefore when we speak about I nish it's basically the consequence of human imperfection varnish represents even it's a it represents the fact that life is filled with errors and trials and tribulations and mistakes that people make the offal became a lawyer over disassembled some crucial Mitzvah but then there's the chaos of Simba when a person service Harsha with the joy he vomits a yogurt gobble playoffs on kazoo the power of simply Shamu oil in our Central America vehicle it arouses simcha Milo it arouses symptom of the Hema Vitalis adenine and that nullifies all judgments kiba name elephant because the open a melon in the light of the presence of the king which is always life Masha ink in Kashi Tama shank in tact especially by the tuba simcha name Chaka initial Alvina Sasha ain't sodden Boris Ashley acetabular yet the can escalate therefore there's no out simcha it snapshot the English is because there's no simcha it's shot is because life is full of mistakes that's the fact ain't salad Morris and when there's mistakes this consequence now that's part of the story of life or in this chair doesn't mean English as we again the word oiliness you have to be sensitive with because we when we hear the word English we often attribute it with vengeance I'm gonna punish you're gonna I'm gonna show you who's boss our unit share means the consequences for the benefit of the person that they needed they need to learn something they need a class they need to mature whatever it is so there's always every person has that every person has things they do things they do imperfectly things they don't do because of their imperfections and there's always consequences and from the consequences a person grows a person learns I think because there's no simcha that was a - tact especially when it has assembled a terrible synthesis not you weren't the simcha they from punishing you know the onus has to do because the nature of life is that there's no perfection by any person so you learn and you grow LMI if there would have been an engine of simcha simcha has a kayak to change dynamics he says it would be more than a simple of my land that's my battle dinner as we'll see how that is a even come Khan here - he may call her now everything that we explained before Masha a chef fish initially Cecilia Shazia let dissolve in each material solution Allah the Salonika ver explain it as a profound distinction between each Masseria issue Meszaros if the child Ismail females owed Africa Tasha Odin save bono who knew Michelle but their if they say that had drug recital solos this is only when the divine energy comes forth in the system and in the order of what's called estas was the evolution of the world's shall be mine Merkava Hamidah based on the mine with instructions of calves amid the calves means a line made that means measurement it's basically like a cow Hamidah so to speak we would call a measuring stick a parameter Shikari Hamidah the reminder shal island creates a system of how energy flows into the world so there's a meter what's the meter shame Itamar a spill of action Tory if the Isha triggers the inspiration and I'm sure - there's an expression in the Marigny vomits actions are the generations are kosher meaning she actually said lucid alas after it starts off with this is the fact that's called action Dori the generation is kosher in other words this inspiration from below humorously the Laila McQueen Ursula of Canali an action - EULA deserves happiness our happen automatically there will be SaLuSa delaila from a much deeper place and the result will be a male Alina's alvarado much taking shallow action don't even let you sit as a little Santa if it's not after Dorian there's no a serviceable Saturday in other words each missouria as i Hamidah then what's the meda what's the established system she never shook his elusive the laila wrapped the Knesset shiniest the razzle from above only comes from a more external space actually I let this ll indicator and therefore the birth is on the cable it depends of this illusive the lay that comes from Nemea same site or from concerning a sensor whenever it comes from Plinius ain't safe there's an average when it comes from hit Sonia's ain't safe there's an opposite and we understand what I've a certain means what do I want I want a relationship with you but I want to be there to enjoy the relationship the only way I could be to enjoy the relationship is of deceive her skin and not the skin itself cominius ain't safe it's worthless tava but go for the mauka I want you even though in the you there won't be a sense of are there won't be a distinct I nonetheless I want you the question is what element of Eliquis are you experienced when somebody gets hit Sonia Sevilla cause it's much of a shocker in many ways why because they're there to enjoy they could wrap their brain around it when it's premieres of Ilocos there's no ego left there's no ego left in many ways person has to be capable of a much deeper conviction and awareness I want you I want the ETA I don't want the Tuffle even though the acre means that there's no I now see this it has only by Lila but I wanted a one while on I want complete I want to complete you so therefore it really depends on what element of godliness the person is experiencing if a person experiences the premise of a knife then it's almost no choice they're not gonna choose the tough one because they know that I'm going to choose to drop instead of the ocean the tip instead of that Kiana's but the only experience the concern is so on the hits only is that's what they're looking for that's what they want they want zbrush in and so what they're experiencing this is what they're feeling so this is all based on the meter on kava middle mashenka night a simcha Shawn mitzvah when there's silica what happens when this silver shimmer a dirt hiddenness simcha Eliana when a person is with simcha it creates an arousal of simcha above shy simcha gurira medullary what happens when the Simkin life simcha creates in giving you a means a break down of barriers of boundaries emergence give a revelation for who shahe bhavana may at Somoza Matsu the tour is really rather like a debtor to say there are drug the light comes from the essence of the emanated of the white with tremendous increase and momentum not according to the regular evolutionary process out there at sukima take an example by a person penis a symptom of MELAS boss of a doctor you have a king of flesh and blood and here he speaks of power King because he wants to bring about a person who's aloof who's segregated who's sublime was a aristocrat but what happens when he's in a moment of tremendous joy sure our CEO is mostly Guidry he goes out of his parameters out of his fences for how bothersome it is the limitations of his mythos the Lehane you call is galas la cotton Camilla BB shovel Amish he can emerge he could be Mandela himself to a child just like a gobble in an identical way in other words simpler causes him to be able to Humble himself and to be childlike when a person is not in a state of simcha what happens they're more closed up and therefore the regular defense mechanisms that exist continued to exist I talk to you I don't talk to you I feel comfortable with you I don't feel comfortable with you everything is bad the baller what does simcha do simply removes barriers it removes boundaries expression silica pilots gathered and therefore in a time of sympathy see even a person who's not talkative usually if it's a real simcha suddenly they're talking in a way that you didn't hear them things that usually won't say they'll say people they you know have a coldness - they're suddenly very warm why because what happens is simpler reaches into a place that transcends all of the defenses transcends all of the parameters all of the boundaries and therefore a much deeper part of them that come out and if it come out uninhibitedly without limitations scissors can weaken la Milam Amish the premise is valise Simbel Jana Kozma supremum is I really miss Callum Jakob call what are you selling them I changed some heifers made my lomatium in a smart what similar complexes is that all the divine energies get connected they get mixed up they get integrated there's no distinction between higher and lower between right and left and then what happens for as I never shook shall I call it the cabbage banana so even though I Cora the who only gets inspiration because the Seleucid alele is called Ana Cara she gathers her sons Dino Zoff OPC McKenna Sakura vishwas real killer in calls at TI a leather sofa why she committee like the soccer the cables banal the cyclist simcha because what similar so mitzvah does is it's my only Allah - Simba since it's my I really - simcha all the boundaries all the meadows hold out your others are bought all the MacGregors a bottle all the my tragus so to speak all the defenses all the barren trees Oliver and so even the mad Reyes and the system the structure the structures get obliterated the structures get removed the structures get eliminated it shakes up all the structures once that happens so therefore even though there's a meter there's a structure that that and what is it that when the Seleucid allah-allah starts in its initiative mr. Saleh Linda states the process the flow of energy that comes down is ultimately that hits ideas of a site which is a logistic haver that's all as long as there's no similar fish Asda simcha whether sim could do it maybe imperfections that's the taça social level just a shamble attachable some comfort of live off even though there's the regular imperfections that come from life ain't sad in borås actually a sativa logic the but whether simcha accomplished simcha is Movado all the din my isn't from a bottle all the dinner because when a person is with simcha it generates and all over the world's a joy because it generates even the Milo joy once there is a joy so then the regular hug the bolus quid-pro-quo person does this this is the consequence first does that this is the consequence what simcha does is it's my battle didn't what's din didn't means structure not bad dinners not bad didn't just means the rule of law have Amida this assistant is a structure just like this the structures of science of nature you can't define you go out in a cold day you got a cold you put your finger in a stuff this this list doesn't effect there's also cause and effect spiritually this wasn't affected psychologically every way this cause and effect this system Travie middle what simcha does is by a person you see it removes the general definitions that we have this is who I am this is who I'm not with similar you learned that who you thought you were maybe you're not and then you thought you weren't you were don't take yourself so seriously it was based on a certain perception of structure but there's a deeper self that transcends structure your infinite self maybe your infinite self a vehicle simcha brings out the infinity of the age scythe and therefore even with each Missouri Attila that could be beekeepers banal what the Sabula be cubed but now the cycle why do a sinker possess a keep the similar say Savior through simcha we go out the hold on the bonus of all avatar yes so simcha has a very powerful quality to it what's the quality is similar when a person is joyous it's my area simple of my lack of I often a person is like a mirror there's a famous explanation from the added sugar that comes from the Baal Shem Tov we say and tell them she la mala say may Allah Horomia in your vsv right he nearly honorable assertion we stole hashem chandra hashem silica alumina silica means hashem is your shadow doesn't mean hashem is your shadow so while people shot that means you know we pass or we sit the protection of the shadow it's a hot scorching day with the heat is really affecting you so we we sit in the shade so god is your shade are some salsa well some tougher there's a deeper interpretation quite the deering interpretation and that is the shadow responds to you i move my hand and the shadow moves i move my leg in the shadow mode i walk in the shadow moves the shadow so to speak is a result it's a response to me it's it's affected by my movement she says Hashem silca Hashem is your shadow the movements of a person in this world the way a person lives in this world it doesn't only impact him give a yossel it impacts Hashem silca Hashem is your shadow he says here that simcha of a person is Myra simcha love my lack of a Yahoo it's my iris some fun because it's there's such a deep powerful connection there's a mission of prickly of its da mala my love me ma know what is above you so the maggot of misery says don no my love my love me more everything that happens l'm ila is from you my love my lammie Mach now this is says very profound ramifications because basically means that the human being is not just you know a little a little creature simply responding to forces above him and then having some choices like the Chimera says how competition mind could smear shamaya but it means that the human being is so deeply connected he is like the link between heaven and earth at the vortex of existence the human being is like you know the the eye of the storm is so the eye and the eye of the storm like right in the middle of the world with the center of the whirlwind literally at the vortex of reality and therefore all of reality's effectively all of reality is affected by the person so he says when a human being is Basilica it's my recent alumni lack of Idaho it creates a mood of sympathy creates an atmosphere of simcha a person's thoughts a person's moods of persons dispositions a person's energies and of course a person's behaviors impacts not only the cosmos it impacts them the reason it impacts the cosmos is because it impacts a vehicle the source of the cosmos the energy of the cosmos Hashem silca Hashem is your shadow that's a very that has very dramatic implications about what a person's is the power of a person's moves the power of a person's thoughts a person's disposition a person's character da Mala Mala me moi and it's really very different than the literal interpretation of the mission of da mama Milan I know what is above you in other words the idea of to something above you mr. sinister half-developed it's not a world of anarchy is something above you I enroll your voice into a mass and this is even before Google with Google we understand it is an I enjoy your version Seamus but even before Google BCE there's an eye you know ever since your mouth and nose even more than Google if you could conceive that something knows more than Google because today we're not sure that they there's something that they don't know it's a big Suffolk they used to be there was a place all the private place there were places that were called private and how locals so we know that there's no such a thing anymore people are in a bathtub and they're still texted in still reading their email and other places but ain't kinda Malcolm mujeres Muslim so this is a very powerful idea it was a very interesting as a there's a cute anecdote to illustrate this idea a Shamsul Saddam Allah my Allah my mother there was this there was this it's a good lesson in life - there was this Jewish kid he needed Panozzo so he saw a classified ad that the Indians need a new chief they here chief so he decides to apply he had a darker complexion came from a nice background with a handsome dark complexion so he could apply and he approaches them and he says you know I come from Indians Medina dirtiness and I can apply as a chief great the interview and he seemed very suitable for the job he got his job as an Indian chief they asked him an important question and that is if he could predict what will be the weather during the forthcoming winter day after not this is a place without technology without all of the modern you know mecca meted in my technology that we have so what is he gonna say so he looks up to the stars in India and she looks up to the stars and he predicts it through the stars Sayid ich Kenne he didn't he maybe he knows how to read some stuff but not the stars so he tells he was no part of answer he says it's from the stars it seems like that it's gonna be somewhat of a cold winter you know when you say some what doesn't mean anything that's like you know one of those words that Ishmael six net flashes okay so they start collecting some wood he sneaks out at night and he goes to a nearby town where there's a public phone you remember the public phone Zelaya mashallah he puts in a dime or a quarter and he calls the Washington weather bureau he says what's gonna be this winter they say it's gonna be cold so he comes back to the Indians he says he looked in the stars again and he sees that there's a little shift it's gonna be cold Wow so the first time that the Indian chief changed so now they start collecting more lumber to be able to warm their bones during the cold winter a week ladies sneaks out he calls the bureau they tell him it's gonna be very cold he goes back he changes now the prediction and now they are collecting lumber in much larger quantities because they expect a tremendous call every sneaks out again they tell the next week it's gonna be excruciatingly leak old Wow so now they're frantic men women children gathering all day wood because of this excruciating coal that's gonna befall them - push it should not freeze to death from the pending winter the next week he goes out he calls the period weather bureau and they sell them is gonna Tom's gonna be the coldest winter in US history at this point he plots us he tells the guy you know you can't drive me mad this way first I call you you tell me is cold then the next week very cold then the next week look scruciating we called now you tell me the coldest winter in the history of the US why you keep on changing he says I'll be very honest with you you think we know anything about the weather we know nothing about the weather all we know is that this year the Indians are collecting wood like crazy so based on that we predict our winters right so here you have a classic example Milo Milo mee-mah you're really making that your the marker but you're the humble thing you don't even know it you think you're a humble victim a recipient really it's all coming from you you're the one who stirs up the pots so that's a very it's a it's a fundamental idea in life to understand the deep resources the profound energy that a human being has in terms of defining reality Hashem self Adam Allah my dilemma so similar is not just your Basanta it creates a reality of simcha caballos even la mila transcending the cava meda what simcha does to us simcha does on every single level you see when people have a similar a lot of things change when people are in a good mood when people are not happy would you see it in relationships right things that we wouldn't forget when we're tense when you're tense everything is with boundaries but I don't know a boundary z' is a good thing but boundaries in the sense of limitations everything has its place and you remain stuck in a certain orbit and you don't leave it that's the opposite of simcha the certain boundaries or ghulam or me dies that a person remains in this is why I speak to this is uncomfortable with this is who I deal with what simcha does is it triggers a much deeper space in the person so to speak the infinity of a person or the core of a person which is much more free it's much it's much less inhibited like he says even a mell of busts of a dime in a time of simcha he'll connect he'll hug he'll embrace a cotton you see when people de calabaza write they'll embrace people they usually won't embrace they'll speak freely they'll speak about things they usually don't speak they're less guarded now some people do it through different methods they're desperate to go out of their boundaries so they do it through various methods that we're all familiar with and these are methods in order to make them forget who they are a person is inebriated or a person is high for whatever substances so momentarily he feels joy but that's not called simplicial Mitzvah that's a simcha that confuses your senses when you're confused you speak what you speak but inebriation doesn't last that's the problem the problem is you go on a high but then you go on a low and the low may be very profound of course simcha itself could come from sirs the wisata confessors in the laila of course like everything in life sometimes you give in a moment is a unique glow of simcha sometimes not they say the symbols have been above shisa some cabinda much it's cuz I had said before he was he was an associate was a merchant he was in Leipzig like Citizen Germany was a city they did you know a lot of you reads a lot of markets they're venomous so they say some criminal justice I surrender red wants a story he was in Leipzig he was at the riverbank and there was a Jew swimming there if something bitten did not know how to swim and the man was along there was nobody there in the river of the seat and he's swimming and suddenly the man is screaming he's drowning there was an undercurrent and it's left him away and he's desperate and if Kevin doesn't know what to do to jump in and save him he won't be able to drown himself you know you have to know how to save somebody from the waters and it's not partial because he slaps you down Kalil on the other hand to do nothing what a watch a man died and there was nobody around to call for help so simply bidding him at the moment he tells the Jew I've said in unison I translate he says when you get down when the gays start up shake our hearts the Kangaroos to the Lavi awesome send my love to the Lavi awesome send my warm regards Olivia so so the units of Jawad's he laughed and he gained strength when he got out huh buoyancy what do you say buoyancy yeah a lack of yet I see us on a vitality and he got out of it he saved himself so if some Cuban have said that he needed he needed the laughs he needed the left to get an extra dose and just need an extra dosage of energy expand this lungs very well that's a doctor speaking yet to expand is long so then everything changes so that's what he said so the truth is that in life it's like that in life is like that everyone is always you know life like a person could drown in the waters of life my I'm Robin my I'm Robin will you hula hibiscus album so simcha allows a person to remain above the waves not to get too completely submerged in the waves of life when a person is Basim kheh it creates sim column I'll also when it creates M column I'll also the regular patterns of existence known as the my Merkava meter the cava Minda opens up it expands so to speak to use the metaphor the divine lungs also expand so therefore a whole new passages are created new channels are opened up no and fifties are opened up no energies come in so what happens is the person becomes aware of new energy that they had before it's not that it's it's if they have to create new energy it was there but without similar set gets blocked up before was much more limited or is much more restricted and with similar the channel through all the pipes are expanded that see notice that scenarios are broadened not only LaMotta that's the hinder even love Milan even love my lapel is all relative to I mean we don't understand exactly how it works the my love it that's what he says that the regular spiritual rules of existence are transformed or metamorphosis and therefore even the acara these be kyboots but now the sides are why because there was a concept of simply an experience of that's a wonderful question at this point it would seem that the change is lamella but later it's gonna be Marsh mother there's also this point it's not just that this changes lamella but that this person as a result of simcha it's as though he would have started with systole esata so I think hava ha is no bay I think both are very valid that's a question somebody asked they're asking what type of samosa listen simple itself like everything since itself operates on so many different levels and and and can express itself in so many different ways can be triggered from different causes and can manifest in different fashions in a person's life of course yeah always what comes from a service until eSATA has a power because it's extremely it has an authenticity to it it has a penis to it what comes from a person himself is always much deeper because you have to work through the system you have to work through your own system it's also much more everlasting cerissa delaila as we discussed could be fleeting you know but this is this is about awesome awesome crucial mitzvah yeah of course there's lower levels of some kind as higher levels of simcha this deeper simcha but this is all forms of some kind all forms of simcha so now let's go back to inside the cell shun him of action you see the light starts to autumn of action on four knee will continue without sharanam of action sighs fusses with sub u la cara this is what we ask we sand the shell of rocks sighs tosses with saga la cara mokuba's banal aside from the cinema so he said in the beginning of the mind may that the word tosses in Russian Chi this has two different interpretations known as polymer than polite sir one is we're talking about that Cara herself sliced us is the saga la cara though the barren woman should rejoice became buds banana sociable simcha and wanna spoil yet you were talking to a sham sighs fascist you should bring joy to that cara ceases visage Sodom of action sighs tosses for saga lockhart shy they are simcha show mitzvah mamata through the symbols of mitzvah the similar that a jury has in mitzvah mamata below Chikara he kanessa sister all tosses was saddled by optimum a simplicial mitzvah the word basilica's already in the beginning of the browser sighs tosses she should rejoice the saga there should be a son and that tosses the sublets going on Dakara she should rejoice herself i decima aided him Gilles in Galliano this brings out a similar by Hashem by a daisa at the sauce is versatile ha Cara and through this you are shem will bring even more joy to thakura so both Purusha are equally valid it starts off with sighs tosses the saga Locke are vindictive tosses with subtle Icarus Nikora itself should be tosses but tosses also has a meaning pilots a trash em will cause the acara to be some my ass he says through simcha shal mitzvah you cause that current to be some a hotshot wooing in Miss America see I remember now you finished mr. mayor seeing Bhuvana with her sons to give the oil ed the soccer the premise of a knife which allows it to be a parabola only a visitor so so to us is versa Beulah Cora and this causes that keyboards banal Lusaka because of the similar are you calling her Ana Cara we explained what's on a car and a car here means spiritually speaking that she's a product of a Seleucid ella ella and nonetheless because there was ptosis because there was simcha the ski boots banal asylum is Sameach ZN b VAR now the la Haine idea simcha gam chameleon is Nevada teshuvah explains we learned before it says in key Savoy but the whole tyfa says because he weren't / - MS improve to evolve and therefore of our violet eyes save Africa because he didn't serve God with the joy you're gonna serve your enemy so you ask before just because a Jew wasn't the simpler therefore you end up serving your enemy so before he explained that it's not shot that you're getting punished for a lack of simple no every person has their own sister or eNOS an avoider that exists ain't Sadiq Varanasi assitive Allah yatta nonetheless if they would have been similar similar changes all of the dynamics similar changes even imperfections simply ESMA vartal all of the denim all the quid pro quo is Moroccan but now we come to even a deeper elephant through simcha there won't be Vova deter saver for Shackleton is Hoshino em all changes una filler Nevada Sasha people fall in there avoid assertion me godless lakopolous from a higher state of consciousness to a smaller state of consciousness godless means expansive consciousness Katniss means primitive consciousness small-mindedness narrow mindedness gimana Philippa typhus or also on our first and falls into addiction to habits to inclinations and cravings and they fall they like fall into an abyss she's all we need revived attest Savannah this is all the meaning and the Tyson tetanus serve your enemy serve the enemy doesn't only mean physically on a spiritual level it means serve your enemy means that you become a victim you become subjugated you're not a free human being anymore you're an avid of your enemy you're a slave to your own addictions where is there greater form of slavery you're a slave to yourself but which part of yourself not your higher self your smaller self you're a slave to your moods to your sluggishness that's what he says you come from a godless you've fallen to calmness and you become an Evatt you can't get out of it or in a fillable Titus calls the who raccattack especially of auditable simcha this is all because there was no avoid accession be Simba what does this mean Kea McGinnis eh Misha I have the person was in a state of eh Musharraf the a shmakov means there's somebody who loves there is a y/h there's somebody who loves the yesh misha i of amasing there's somebody that he loves and comprehensive penis leg arm a which is ultimately leg arm aids for himself Oh miss Edna Chicano filler and from here a person falls a valley idea simcha Bosch emulation or email the person has the ability to be Sameach with Hashem they will not be these changes all these changes in the Phyllis what is the volatility telling us here in life every person knows this tremendous she knew him life is full of fluctuations one day a person can be on top of the world and the same person a day later 24 hours later I'm actually being benevolent an hour later or maybe a few minutes later depends on your structure in the brain person could both nor tremendous state of calmness this is what we call the filler person fooled an eyeful an eye fully false sometimes there's a small Nephila so there's a large Nephila something there's an affiliate think he can get up from but this is the process of life vah vah detects a vessel you're serving God and now suddenly you're serving your enemy who's your enemy your enemy could be the enemy within yourself the part of you that you that you struggle with your own demons your own skeletons your own ghosts your own enemies the enemy within you you become a slave to that weird a similar why your sins are so effective he says generally the tremendous no Phyllis happened because there is what's called the car may be Zen I'm Chicano Philip when there's simcha Bosch my you you should know him a long they safe a Rebbe Nachman of breslav that he says Friday night we say in the mismo room of Shabbos the the reisel Institute at the same six capital of Thailand before miss McGee full of odd ID right lunar Ananas Sheila Shama Shama la misma etc - MS Millard of it the reason is each one corresponds to one of the days of the week I don't know if you look around in a Sunday asurela sham is Monday and over Shabbos you reflect on each day of the week during the six capitalist element you can sublimate what happened during the week and then you enter into the condo ad and then you do miss Micelli I'm a Shabbos after the holiday which is the seventh the seventh day of the week and this is the this account introduction of all the Shabbos is not from Halawa it's not from Gomorrah it's not formal awesome this came from the IRAs often swass it became universe one of the things that managed became universal I think I think every single killer does couple of Shabbos dismiss my room but it's not mentioned in a castle or in restraining so as far as I know so therefore there's a lot of math one says like this is a line of it there we say no Horace Imhoff the a fat Amira Nino by the rivers will clap their hands together the mountains will dance she said as follows what's the proud is when a person is in a good mood so they've checked that mood on other people they want everybody to be in a good and they think everybody's in a good mood because they that's where they are when a person is in a miserable mood so they project that on other people say there was a guy who owned the company and a business and they had a horrible voice so when business was going well he was quiet when business was going was going down the drain he would sink as one of his employees asked him he said usually people sing when they're happy says you don't understand I have a horrible voice when I'm happy I want everybody to be happy so I keep my mouth shut when I'm miserable I want everybody to be miserable so I start singing and I know the whole office becomes miserable they all get it to a grouchy mood from my singing so he says a person you know is this youngster full of promise and hope and they're on top of the world and they come to the rivers or the mountains and you imagine that the rivers are singing with you the mountains are singing with you you know the the soul of the poet who goes out and he imagines the trees are having a conversation with them everyone is having a conversation the moon the Stars the whole cosmos is aligned with his mood so the river looks at you and says young man young man relax come back in a week when your girl drops you and let's see what the mood is gonna be then now you have top of the world you got this you got that come back in a week let's see what's happening in other words the river is don't get deceived but your momentary high he says but Shabbos is mania I'm sure Kula Shabbos semenovka she says now in the Horus in cows off the economy Renee no now the rivers clap along there to clap their hands and the mountains danced because they feel that the joy of Shabbos is not a temporary high but it's rather something very deep and therefore nature will respond nature will respond if it feels it's authentic if it's just you going through your stages and tomorrow you're gonna change okay so I'm sharp as you could say in the hardest simcard that's what Double Diamond asks there should be a time that no horriston cows off the Accademia naina because it'll be the finish line Kiva give all the Shaytards I'll cope on it what's this what's the key to avoid Nephila what's the key that he says here to avoid nafeel a very interesting distinction he makes if a person lives life lugar may for themselves or a person doesn't live life like I'm a which in simple words perhaps means this when a person lives life in the GAR may in other words it's ultimately about only themselves yesh Misha I have so then because of that the person can also is also very vulnerable to experience a downfall in life on the fiddler in life why because the eye goes through so many different changes so today I'm here today I'm there yesterday I was here tomorrow I'll be here this happens that happens person goes to different a sucker's or was clear yesterday is confusing today what's what's certain today is uncertain tomorrow person those two different dispositions different modes different character character reflection different the roller coaster was a roller coaster the human psyche what's the memory for it was taka session level it as a shamanic alchemist similar there for Verve auditor severe of aggressive ephah represents the whole fact that a person goes to all of these shun William and suddenly I'm serving my enemy wasn't mean I'm suing my enemy I am serving the enemy within myself I am a victim to the lowest parts of myself or as he says in the filler and typhus or whatever it is when a person however remembers the concept of Sebastian what some kibosh on some some are some means practically that a human being who realizes that it's not just where I am right now or who I am right now but a human being realizes that God needs me and that I'm always connected to our son and I always have a relationship with a chef and if we could put a little bit endearing words I'm now in a moment of typhus of Nephila I may not believe in him but what's more important is that he believes in me I may not believe in them but ie he believes in me this gives a person a similar that transcends the momentary Nephila alna Phyllis happens to be because I'm focused on where I am and where you are is very complicated well you are you get it gets very complicated where a person is so if you stay with that yeah you can have obviously gonna have downs hopefully you'll have an up again but it could take a long time when a person knows wherever they are they're still connected and they celebrate the relationship simcha Bar Chef so ultimately that anchors them in a space that they remain deeply connected to the source they say they've made it mayor Prima schlomit you know that my sister may interest in my brain finish Lonnie's to go to the mikveh everyday the bits are Dickens there was a town where he lived and the path to the mikveh went through a mountain a slope so in the winter when you know Eastern Europe where he lived you know the ice forced you can't walk on the mountain you slip so people have to go around which was a much longer path but he was to go up the mountain and down would go to the mikveh so there were a few youngsters in the town who weren't very fond of him and they used to mock him so they once came to him and he said you know people say that just great since the kiss of yours that you can go on the slope down but we'll do the same thing we'll show you so they went and one of them slipped and hurt himself very badly whatever happened I we broke a leg or hit him so very badly so you asked him he said and it made it made it how is it that you do this every day you don't slip she said as Miss sook abundant Eibon thought diminishment in male made of a sugar bun and even if you're tired above if you connected above you don't fall below mayoral is connected above the Shila is what a person has to hold on to during a moment of nephila so if the whole of Ida session is only focused on the self yesh misha i EV league are made for me even for spiritual reasons but now you're not having you don't have a moment of Vegas you're not feeling me LM hobble you're not feeling any if the whole package was canvas of the kimly tithe I want experience I'm not having any experience so now it's not worth it the Gomorrah says about a famous after Haghighi Alisha been a voyeur why did he leave you this right you know why because he heard a bottle of big toys Vasanta to hear a bass kill that he is not welcome in Tulum Harbor so I after said to himself if no LM haba at least a la maza if no other my friend your life you have a ticket one church one all Casa he says what's dinner could of us in this the radius attacker said if no alum haha if no LM hablar at least LM Hauser he's gonna quit us in this if no LM ha bah at least no LM husband think about it after said no way Lahab la maza well what do I need this for I'm gonna be in a relationship with somebody that I cannot hop I cannot grab get out of my life so now you have enough in LA you have typhus you have enough inland that's cause it's all in the first level the d'armilly a shy of me me me me me spiritual good me but me the shah's a person understands that life is about a relationship with truth so you're having an affair so on so you can be connected to truth so you'll be humbly connected to truth if it's all about my experience if I'm not having the experience I'm out let me give my least favorite example marriage if the marriage is what you want the benefit of the marriage now your spouse is a little upset at you for whatever reason good reason bad reasons well my enough come in that's not every person has SHINee Liam right the comedy Levana passionate they say what do I need this for I don't need this for so you also get into a mock moment of Nephila and people there's estrangement is alienation but if a person understands that sometimes a relationship means to be present just show up you don't have to always ask what am I getting you've connected to something real you can I think there's something true marriage is a sacred institution when you're here for your spouse you're here for God such issues are whose goodness ribbon name show up show up that's what simcha Basha means since the Basha means it's the joy of knowing that I'm in a relationship with Hashem why does a relationship always mean me ask not ask not that's not what God can do for you ask what you can do for God that's the difference average suta means what can God do for me spiritually I'm not only talking not talking even a very sophisticated type of Lagarde may when are they talking about a a brute person who just sees God as you know the ticket the the the ticket to the lottery the ticket to the lottery ticket but even the ticket to the spiritual lottery didn't ask not what if it's what he can do he's not doing anything for them so after I said that mr. Lamar badly Stella Massa bye bye have a good day so valve auditor says AHA avoiders Hashem begins that even in a moment of Mithila so a person is in a moment of Nephila president amoment of shibuya what maintains that the changes should not overwhelm them the changes should not destroy them this is the union of simcha because what is similar simcha is actually an experience of transcendence simply the more a person is busy with themselves you'll see when a person is self conscious they can't be the same huh conversely when a person is with simply they're not self-conscious when a person is self-conscious is very hard to be Basilica and also when you're by simply not self-conscious because simply essentially is an experience of transcendence that's the second a good that you said it's not just simcha creates no laws lamella simcha itself is a form that transcends the leg are made and therefore simply break create spooky woods Benelli sidecar there's no she knew him there's no valve a detest a method that's the title that you had avoidance a shame but there was no similar what feather was no simpler it was ultimately a selfish of a decision you weren't celebrating the relationship you were just enjoying the benefits you had you weren't celebrating the fact that you have the merit to be connected to this truth it was about what you can get out of it that's not an Indian of some Kishan Mitzvah it's what you can get out of it we may call it simply because I'm enjoying it but the real concept of simcha is saying the simcha bash em the ability the married that you have to be connected to truth I you're not there so you're not there so on doesn't take away from the MS this avoids in the fill in every person's life when they go through various changes and various um this is something to hold on to when you realize that the relationship is here you're needed you're wanted and you're connected to something and right now it may not be about your feeling your experience that may not be the opportunity right now sometimes it's even for carrot you may be holding on to something much deeper and that's why there's no feeling that's the key here the truth is when there's no feeling usually it's an invitation to a much deeper relationship to a relationship with the exit and over there there's no feeling because it transcends what you're capable of feeling at the moment then be able to celebrate that that's the Simca passion the mela that avoids the she knew him then the phyllis diller volatile so somebody came over to me yesterday they have been listening to this to the she room on this mine mare and they shared with me and I'm gonna quote this person almost verbatim he says I can't help myself but listening to this my mer and I'm feeling judged by it he said I'm feeling judged by it I feel that it's a judgement and therefore I'm distant I'm distancing myself from it emotionally because I feel that it's a judgement call against me but basically and I don't know how to make peace with it I don't know how to I can wrap my brain around this calling or demand that one should completely nullify themselves and then a relationship with Hashem is not even about the relationship it's about that's the smaller level that's Navasota the average that I am NOT interested in the relationship in order to have a relationship to be fulfilled to be uplifted to be inspired to be sublimated but rather all I want is you and I seek to be nullified in that in that reality where there's no I left even and he feels that it was just judging its judgemental against anything that's lower than that and they had a very difficult time with it so I just want to clarify that because I think it's important very important to clarify we often respond to ethical ideas or spiritual ideas whether Mooser or or Jewish or casitas whatever it is from a place of trauma from a place of negativity we're responding to it from that place in other words we're hearing it from that perspective we're hearing it from that vantage point and when we hear it from that place it's very hard to hear what the person is saying because we're tainting it we're coloring it it's being tarnished based on our perceptions and in life that's always important to be able to distinguish what you're saying and what I heard you say the two are usually not the same what you said is what you said what I heard you say is my issue it has nothing do with what you said and as we know quite more important than what you say is what the person heard you said because it's almost irrelevant what you said it's what they heard you said that's right one has to have that sensitivity you know especially with this with a spouse especially its children especially with students I mean even with adults because we carry around messages and everything we hear is filtered through that message and especially when it comes to issues connected to religion to God to truth - right and wrong - good and evil - moral versus immoral here this is true and everything in life you know even you're talking about business or money but this is especially true in these in these situations and I think here is a classic example here is a classic example if somebody understood that the message of Judaism with a message of religion was crush yourself be nots or actually we don't care who you are the point is surrender yourself to the truth of God the truth of Toyota the truth of the community the truth of the culture the truth of the of shidduchim whatever you want to whatever the truth is but the point is surrender conform and just fit in and I don't care your thoughts and if you think you have other thoughts will just take you for help and give you the right medication so you could become a normal person and fit into the community when somebody hears a statement like this it's immediately distorted based on the toxicity that they're carrying and it's really very hard to hear this message because what I'm hearing is he's judging me here's another one who's judging me you have to do this and you're not like this of course because you're on a fallen level because you're from the bad guys because you're you're undeserving you're unworthy and hopefully one day you'll be able to be silver and and become a good person so I don't know how to say this emphatically enough but one really must be able to graduate all these feelings all these all this guilt and all this obsession and all this toxicity they're not even to be able to appreciate what the ballot Anya is trying to teach you I think that must be perceived and tried to the best of our ability to be able to see it not from as a judgement call at all and and even of coming from a place of Ocean and coercion for starters he's not here telling anybody what to do all these madhaggis are all about choices the first thing is they have to be about choices if it's not about a choice it's it becomes insignificant it becomes especially when you're talking about such a profound experience such profound intimacy it's or talking about symmetry talking about bitterly talking about al-farabi sawaya Manaslu cabo Pross this idea is so this here is it's about a choice that a person might want to make in their life if I'm forcing somebody then this whole thing becomes irrelevant cause he's dealing here with very profound relation levels of relationship of course of course but certainly certainly I have arrived even more now what do I mean by this what do I mean by this to say it a little bit of different words you can't coerce a relationship you can't force a relationship I know some people have maybe that experience with marriage you know arranged marriages ooh at some point a US but the divorces introdution right condition has to be me data why it's not stuff a whole lotta it's a definition Lamar says you can be my condition issue LME died it has to be made ask me full consent so it's not just of didn't it's a reality a description of reality a relationship by definition has to be midnight if not it's not a relationship if you force me into relationship we're not relating the whole that there's no relationship is the definition of a relationship means I'm relating to you you're relating to me but if there's no I because you forced me into the relation that there's no relationship that's why but here a choice is defies the essence at the essence of Judaism the Rambam says and whose children pay okay that periods are mu doctora u so this the fundamentals of Torah and mitzvot so a pastor says because if there's no choice there's no reward there's no punishment I can't I can't punish a cheetah a tiger or a lioness for devouring devouring the deer that's what they do with genetically so those car there's no image there's no scar for a sheep for being an ISTAT Allah and just eating grass by a person that could be scarred that can be undisclosed disappeared that's true of course but there's even something even more fundamental than that and that is there's no relationship of there's no period if there's no play there's no relationship it's not that I am connecting to you if I'm forced to do something so then but my definition is no relationship a you coerced me into it I'm not even here I might as be a robot you tie my hands and you have me do something eat something I didn't do it even how awfully the mice is not attributed to me when it's a - the mice is not attributed to the person a logically after they got why they may have done it but they did not do it there was no I present and that there was no choice there was no consciousness there was no intent there was no robson so the cloud when you're dealing with these concept of relationships this has to be established if I'm doing it because I feel horrible and I feel guilty I'm not experiencing any of this so when it comes to my sub a pile when it comes to my so public monitor famously brings that if a person if if the take a person they forced him to eat matza right so you actually you they have awesome cuz the my see he did when you're dealing with high vaselov Ava's meaning issues of the heart issues of relationships issues of routine ease issues of neshama here by definition you're talking about a person's growth a person's consciousness that's number one number two all these statements he says this is Robert this is suta this is not a judgment against a person the reason is if it would be a judgment then again you're telling the person oh this is not good this is good but if a person is doing one thing because the other one is not good then they're not doing it then again they're not connecting they're just trying to avoid the guilt coming from the other one so then they're not connecting to it I would say more that this is it's it's more articulating what a soul is capable of what a Jewish soul I think it's a much more appropriate way of defining this moment the ballot ami is trying to paint a picture of what a soul looks like in its deepest space what a relationship looks like in its deepest space it's not a judgment against anybody it's not a demand for somebody to experience that you Bacall cannot demand such a thing because if you're doing it out of the man you're not doing and imagine you forced me to say there's no I and all I want is you and I don't even want to be there experience that I can say these things by focusing that meaningless is so this is not let me say it don't settle it's nothing this is completely a prior person coming to a space a mental space with a experience this and they experience it from within and they chose they chose it then it's significant then it's meaningful then it's the most powerful thing the most powerful thing in the world and then it's not running away from a guilt which by definition is not even a relationship because you just forget you feel yourself even more because you just trying to assuage your pain and your and your issues it's not even about somebody else this whole East Side here is I have to actually be able to think about you in order to be able to think about you I actually have to be wholesome because if I'm thinking about you only because I think I'm horrible then I'm not thinking about you I'm just trying to get away from the feeling that I'm horrible does anything so it doesn't make sense when I'm saying huh Wow yes no good questions now you want to know how to get out of the drama that's what you want to know the question is trinsic relationship but the father the son or even gonna zoom into this voice is there with that family okay that's that's a good question there's a famous famous says it's a famous question the question ready from the Rambam the magician Margot asks it over half do we say every day for half the Sasha Malekith how could you tell somebody to love how do you tell somebody to love love it's an emotion I could command somebody to do something put on tefillin put on tsatsis give sadaqa okay you're in the mood you're not in the mood put on tefillin gifts are Duncan love love start loving what when there's no such a thing love is a internal emotion you have to work on love you can't just love I tell you the love you love it's a mistake when people think of works that way it doesn't work that way it's a process and it's cultivation and so forth what does this mean so this two streams there's two streams that I discussed that the tanya itself is two streamed on this one as the market says that it's savea's under his boil illness not under Ahava after simulcast does not love Siva is to engage in a process of mindfulness of contemplation of meditation which will inevitably lead to an emotion but there's another explanation as for summer/spring xenoverse hammer in in the positive after Shamala caca and that is that the lover already pre-exists the love is already existence it's in existence it's natural it's innate the soul is a helical a common mouth so the question is how do I reveal it can I reveal it now is that all forced yes I mean I guess am i forced to be a human being not a horse I guess yes I guess on some level you could say it's Forrest but what I'm distinguishing is yeah I am I am forced to be a human and not a horse it would be a uh yeah I mean a teenager came to me pooped yesterday yesterday and evening I was choosing with them so uh so he told me that he feels miserable about his life I said why do you feel miserable about your life so he told me that he sleeps all day Mohnish he sleeps all day he wakes up when everybody goes to sleep he wakes home you know ten o'clock eleven o'clock at night he wakes up and he roams the house and then when everybody wakes up he goes to sleep okay we learnt in South America about mixing of his monkeyville with Ron keema so I guess we do have a source for it in some people's lives so he tells me I would like not to feel miserable about it but I do feel miserable about it so I told them it's interesting look at a sheep you ever watch a sheep in an enclosure or or or a cow or a goat you give them the past the pasture they need the grass they need and their content you ever wonder animation God until coming yeah yeah what would if what would if I would be that you sit in one place and you eat grass and that's it you need they'd only therapy they don't have existential crises they don't have issues with their marriages they don't have issues with their children with tuition with Himmel health with this identity this is absolutely delicious yeah the challenge is I told that you're not a sheep this time hence this dish Confed this time and you have to at some point come to terms with the fact that you are a human being now that I'm not saying it's a lie like it has a lot of sickness there's a lot of mindless and not being a human being let's face it human beings are not always the best species as we know but you have to come to terms with it so yes in many ways you can call that forest but I don't think acknowledging who you are right acknowledging who you are I'll put it differently right we like giving a four of that which we all need which is good nutrition right if my nutritionist explains to me my blood type and says this food is poisonous for you and this food will increase your vitality your your energy or alacrity and therefore your functionality and productivity so you might say oh I'm forced to eat this and I'm forced not to eat this and yes maybe for a few weeks I may see it that way but everybody understands when you're doing something that is consistent with who you are right so then I mean you could say you're forced it's more you forced to acknowledge who you are and live a life according with them well then when you're doing that it's not forced because you're actually allowing yourself to be fully you to be fully fully expressive so I think it's extremely important when it comes to you disguise when it comes especially to discussing deeper dimensions of your disguise beyond just of what we do and what we don't do as he exists exploring here to have the clarity and the courage and the awareness to be able to transcend the trauma or negative feelings or negative experiences and hearing everything as a Rebbe in yeshiva or a father or as a taraji Shiva with the finger like this judging you denigrating you because then the whole message really becomes close to meaningless and it's not what this person is trying to share if you if you hear even a little judgment here there's something you're not picking up on because why would he be sharing all of this this is not a local Lamesa how you put on tefillin how you put on census you forgot commission we didn't forget Karishma there's a social model for that this is actually I think always a person sharing from a tremendous space of love and sharing what a reality of a soul is and it's almost a picture of what a soul is capable of in its deepest space what an ultimate relationship looks like in a profound place and as he said clearly it's not even always up to the person south in other words even when you speak about choice it's actually what you what reality are capable of detecting yet right he says each term as real killer is is Nicator issue Meszaros killers are in other words it's not even always dependent upon me it depends what I detect if all I detect is a hit Sonia stick and level of the insight so then what I'm capable at this moment is something very profound but it's still not a Virata I'm not capable of that relationship right now because I don't detect that reality of you yourself where I completely melt away what I'm relating to is something that still I can wrap my brain around it's only when a person has access or is exposed to that type of depth of reality that they're even capable of feeling that experience in filling that desire now you want to know practically how a person graduates from this place to another place I don't know again that there's step 1 2 3 again and again this is not something I think a rulebook how do you graduate I think it's a I think the first step is being mindful of what I'm hearing when you hear it what is it a vocal in you if it's evoke any feeling of a dissonance of dissonance and who is he to tell me even subconsciously who is he determined then you're completely not then you're in your principal's office if you're in your principal's office then fine I mean it's another experience but but this is not done in the principal's office it's not even done in a classroom even I would say not even on the in the therapists office this is what what they did in the language of the vault I was called you see this you see this comes from the word Yahud or your Theda where Souls connect to each other face to face voluntarily voluntarily to something I see in you and my teacher in my rabba in my master and my mentor that I feel allows my soul to operate in its deepest place as I called from reveal de la vie and Kinari leshiy riot i feel that you are the harp through which my melodies can play or to put it in in other words to put it in other words imagine I could come into somebody and they allow themselves to become a mirror from - Shama imagine if I'm speaking to somebody and in that conversation with somebody I see myself you are a mirror from my soul now most people when you speak to them cannot become mirrors for your soul because they're busy protecting their turf or being impressive right that's what a regular exchanges but imagine you come in to somebody and they have the ability to suspend themselves completely and not to be present in the sense not not be present that they're not there but not be present in the sense that they don't need to impress themselves on you rather they're going to allow themselves to serve as a mirror for you so that through them you should be able to see yourself in a new way that's what really is it assists that's what that relationship is so there's really absolutely no judgment that you have to suspend all of that no toxicity no negativity no why this why you this why not and then I think one can absorb it in a much much more authentic and real way the way it was set the best IFAs verses look you want to ask something somebody wanted a scuffle am i kicking is kuffara america gigas excellent question excellent question i'm saying nice tight allah but what he's saying is this is 2016 liberal stuff this is not judaism we all know good old judaism is tough al a Micah giggy's God took a mountain put it over our heads and said here's the choice if you accepted a good if not this will be your basic Voris you could come be boomer status here on cue rates are dickham and put a on your own grave for eternity because you didn't accept the tighter you know what it's like gave a Marshall because I'll say that Martin Taylor was the Hassan between our Shemin the Jewish people throughout the last mission in time that's beyond custom not say San Martin Turner and Allah how I'm telling them I commissioned shots above actually so I said imagine of Causton needs to propose to a caller she puts her under an elevator and he says I would love to marry you because I'm crazy about you the best thing in the world so and they say yes great then if not the elevator is coming right down on you now what do you think about such a marriage what do you think that's a little strange no choice listen the Shabbos of Shabbos tough page test Isis asks even a better question placer says they said massive initially yesterday she said yes we'll be putting it element she said yeah even if she would have said no it's a problematic issue but she said yes so this makes a doubly problematic she said yes and you're still threatening her with the elevator coming down on her which obviously challenges us to understand really what this means you want to say something relevant to try to answer that is you could try to add some I think further the question answer is it's just painting a reality once again it's not really that it's no simple answer vis-a-vis just painting the reality that you are human being you're not a horse yeah okay that's what life is gonna look like you know that's that's the reality of it okay had the ball time himself was a good hugger even before he was there was something very foundational there and learning Terra and appreciating what the ministers are keeping those of us yeah this is something that that once you've reached that Baraga he was able to then come for certain realization of certain Vegas so in the post my own thoughts I think why she says might have are many life and it's right through the door through the pardon that means the realization soap it's not it's not 200 20:16 liberalism it's still based on a certain amount of tremendous effort but you read this method work and through that and then the truth is in relationships it's the same thing you know in the wooden when it infatuated young then they say I love you too lady it's not really worth much and when you're getting uh people of the night and the person works and person invests and there's love so it's really the question I think it's so are you answering a question I think you're really making an observation that that to reach this level Oh through tremendous work this work you saying that tremendous intimacy comes only through tremendous discipline and just sell for that is how you judge me we're not the principal right okay very that's Kurupt oh yeah a hundred percent I just want to address the cuff of I want to address the cuff oh okay I'm gonna tell you three perspectives very swiftly okay but I want to focus on the third of art from the Mahara avoid from the baal shem tov and divert from the ballot anya they're really all connected the morale says cough alum hockey gigas is basically a message and that is toyota is not a voluntary luxury asset to the world turner is he set morale of prod it's essential to existence when we hear the word forced again we're getting flashbacks I'm gonna force you to take the test morale here's something else in forst forst means it's not something the world could say oh if we want we choose Toyota if we don't want we don't use data it's like a person is saying I'm gonna live without breathing I just have a different lifestyle I have an alternative lifestyle it's called no breathing no eating no sleeping no drinking right I mean you could say that to yourself but you're just you're like a delusional vision consequence yes no target is reality it's the fabric of reality it's the let's put it this it's the DNA of reality yeah I could deny my DNA I could say I'm this I'm not this fine so am i for to be Who I am yes I mean people go do cosmetic surgery and they they try to change but ultimately in life you got to make peace with who you are that's in my house perspective which is a profound perspective does the Baal Shem Tov's perspective was a very deep part oh you'll see it's really all the same violet like always it's said in different ways the more centers of art is that Hashem knew then antara a Jew Walt always be in the mood you're not always in the mood every day you're in the mood we know if you're in the moods wow the welcome but very often nobody's in the mood I shouldn't say nobody a lot of people in the mood of dominating you're in the mood of learning in the mood of of being kind you in the mood of doing them it's la de yada nisht the question is how valuable is entire and mitzvos feel of done when you're not in the mood that was cough la marca giga scuffle there maca gigas means even when you feel that you're forcing yourself this mom-ish modulator it's the experience of Martin Toyota don't underestimate that relationship if Martin Toyota would have just done on a voluntary basis so then whenever we would force herself we wouldn't really have that relationship that experience or to put it in contemporary language when you are not in the mood of your spouse or your loved one and you do something despite that how real is the relationship it's very real the whole mountain Toyota was couple their marketing gig is so that even when a juice clay for himself he should know it's main Mountain Taylor there's a third interpretation a third interpretation I heard this interpretation from Lubavitch Arab himself I said I'll say three I'll say for myself I still remember when you'd give on this at all Samantha's 1988 quite I have to say quite Deering now for some reason I think I once sought in a safer maybe even from the Mahara but I have to research it but I heard this from there ever wants he said as follows the matter says that whatever Hashem tells Jews to do he does himself market for roughly akov who coverage but early song some additional Sabah partial Ahmed Masha who meets Avila hey Moses who was there by an a new so if somebody inappropriately violates a woman a girl my law is law Ujala schalke called young off if she wants of course if she doesn't want if she wants he should marry her he marries her and he could never give her again it's cold in English right you stick you didn't eat the kasha you made that you made the kasha eat it you know well you how we shall call you um of course she was afraid who's gonna take her so the tiger says if she wants besides when he has to pay the fines and everything he's now on a divorce why cause he forced her into the relationship hashem knew that the relationship with the Jewish people is gonna get very shaky at times so he wanted to put himself give a yokel in a situation we should never be able to divorce us so what did he do Cavalia Micha gigas carfully Micha gigas once it's a pin of a new sir well Youkilis also call yomo yomo morale says it I thought that name of the Mara I thought I saw them safer ya know that Abba said it was fired well you fellas shall call your move there's nothing that you can do that God says okay time to end the marriage which of course it's not just a technical vote you know he you know he gets stuck by a mission of - I made himself stuck by a mission of lura or by a Shinto some cipher it's the idea in other words it's really all the same idea that the relationship is essential it transcends even what you do and what you don't do it's like you can't divorce your daughter you can divorce your son some people do but it's not what you do a parent here we're not dealing with parents and children were dealing with a spouse so it's a fetish you'd give on this and option on this and the arts are from someone at the bank the markets oceanographers 1988 it was you know little it leaves an impression this work it was my defy this is good I love but I want to bring a one more right binocular sockets I think you're here too the gomorrah says something after that the gomorian Shaba says cough la marca gigas Shannon Marva Assad su batalla this heart on my rover makan my Dora Belarus essentially this would mean that a Jewish could say I was forced ha dirty bluehub in May of Irish the time of Purim they finally accept the title will English and Mr Kim move a kilo alayan chemo Marsha key blue car what they once accepted so to speak by force they now affirmed now understand what this means from Martin Toyota to podium is how many years the Jews voltage is strong there's a hole by his mission you're dealing with a thousand years Lera from Matt and Tyler to buy it to put it around one millennium so for a thousand years the first thousand years of Jewish history that's a third of Jewish history till today that's not a small number it's not twenty years is not a hundred years it's a thousand years you're dealing the whole bias mission the malach him the movie him the shift in my Sheila shuo everybody tell after her until the end of goes Bravo till poram basically the whole era of Novoa all of Judaism was forced forced and suddenly by put him they said you know what not such a bad idea we like this religion abyssal mud the right the chat is purim they were tough as they understood what the kuffar lame hardly gave this was that's the meaning I'm pouring they understood they appreciated what the cuff of a marquis gigas is I'll give an example I'll give an example again all these examples if a person has trauma with these examples they won't understand it so you have to do appreciate it if it's in a healthy and wholesome way ah I these disclaimers have to be made today constantly trust me people are not hearing any more than messages there hearing what they think they're hearing again it's not the message that's why I make these disclaimers because I know from that I know I speak to people I hear what's going on not everybody but a lot a lot of people there's a lot of anxiety with religion and guilt and then God and then with Judaism and so forth so here it is I'm gonna take a relationship let's take a relationship between a rapper and a hostage but one that is very very full of trust not about dictatorship tyranny cultural oppression control of a killer I'm not talking about that and I know that exists when I told my we're talking about one that is personal Eleazar says effort of Ramon nicely nobody forced him into the relationship oh yes it was an autumn goggle at least she became a cowman Evelio on of a nobody forced him into the relationship these are choices that people make I want to be yours I want to be connected to you now a rabu wants to send his Talmud or his hostage or his disciple or his pupil a real pupil he wants to send him away for a mission for fresh lives for a destiny whatever it is something difficult he calls him in and he brings it up to him and he tries to explain it and persuade and so forth the man may say yes the man may say no he hopes he says yes and he and off he goes or off he does not go ok that's usually how it's done I consult you I consult you why do I consult you because there's you and there's me and I have to consult you and ask you and try to convince you but if you say no no it's a proposal what about Weber who is so close to this town m''d they are beyond close like mama chuan as much as it's possible humanly of course is dobkiss Iran and not because of guilt or tyranny or coercion completely voluntary because I'm not one with you if it's forced it's not called one it's called slavery slavery is not one oneness means I chose so therefore I am one with you not just I'm a robot because you called a loom Kivar right a tyrant is also everyone blames them but it's tyranny it's not it's not really belonging but they complete this complete identification so instead of calling him in and asking him he calls him in and he tells him he says go there no choice no consultation no discussion no persuasion and the man goes by simcha but somehow now let's think about this in which situation should the person feel better in situation number one or situation number two situation number one he consulted a me disgusted with it either he said yes he said no even if he said yeah situation um but he didn't even ask he just said oh he sent him there well he made it it was already arranged on one hand of course in situation number one you know this Matthias is part of it but let's look at it from another perspective in many ways situation number two is a much deeper celebration for the pupil we have reached such a level of unity that you don't have to ask me you don't have to ask me anymore it's almost like I'm on a ver I'll tell you something I heard from my aides I know him his name is Posner there were two brothers one there was a rabbi in Tennessee Nashville for 50 years in the show there he made a schools called a Kiva Zimmer Salman Posner he has a brother Domino's over nylons he has a younger brother the line they are delivers I think in Borough Park there blable said he told me once that they were young men in the 1940s and their ever I gots the six llevaba to read but called them in and I think sent them to open a yeshiva summer and he was opening day schools and he said open are you Shiva and he said it's a bet I finished I'm not asking you to do it it's like I'm telling you to do it well it is right by me the an aver from Avery huh coughs I treat you like one of the limbs of my body so when I tell my hand I don't ask my hand a I'm giving a shear now and I want to pick up my hand you think you're good with it and my hand says one second we'll have to go to therapy see if you're abusive if not I don't do that why because the hand wrap hill is part of me if this is whoo my brain house if this is what I want to do the hand is part of it so now so I ask you to hear that you are considered an either from the Redbird I axis body for one person it's like leave me alone I got my own life but for lawsuits it's like wow it's this whole life is fulfilled through that such a Vegas with an issuer me with initially Kim with a Monica College the greatest compliment in the world that you're not asking me is the greatest compliment in the world but this can't come from trauma could only come from a relationship just like if somebody would artificially force your hand to follow me that's abuse come pick up your hand pick up and point point point doesn't work that way my hand is me you're not me right you're not me so is this a compliment or not when you're typhus the beauty of being an Avery from a goof the hand can also say I'm not interested in you I want to be an independent person so what does the hand do cos for Shalom it severs itself off from the brain it says no more tyranny free at last free at last I'm gonna live my own life problem is the hand without the brain is a stick buzzer it's not a hand anymore so when I eat this typhus that the vagus like a Verma Avery I'll go forth a sham that's the deepest place is the deepest reality then cough allez America gigas is it a cure of or is it a hook you understand it's the biggest cure of in the world on Purim it's not shut put him something new happened I'm poor him they retro actively were typhus what a Jewess and but mainly they revisited the cuff of their maka gigas carefully marking it this was never about coercion like we call course couple in America gigas minds you're warned with me there's absolutely no separation for you to do turner mitzvahs means for you to be you you're a neighbor from my goof it's like the hands following the head it's one Macias but sometimes you don't feel that way important they appreciated who they were when they appreciated who they were so meek on harder key blue of America Spanish means they got a haggis of the cuff la marca gigas that it could smack in a cup of lemon wow thank you for not asking me if that's the level of our unity that you don't have to ask me you could you could forced meme assist you could force me with it's not force it's not cold force why is it not called force because I'm completely one with you so then that was the greatest that was the greatest Macias your typhus now think about it and you'll see both explanations of the morale and the boss sent them and this it's really the same fort it's really all the same voice : penis is an invitation yes yes cough I am I'm inviting you to partake in this in this type of relationship which at this moment you may not experience that way you may say you may say your sense to do with a hammer over my head cuz that's how you're experiencing us because you don't know who you are and you don't know who goddess so you're seeing is a hammer but IVA Sencha ly what is happening what is happening here is the deepest deepest unity the deepest trust yeah okay the one when we speak about the closeness between a Jew and a Shem is in there the fear that a person will just will do the wrong thing and just rely on you know we're good to go so therefore I don't have to do I don't have to do what you want so to speak but I don't do what you write you sing like a wife like your wife yeah like your wife not for gives a pushover pushover careless about okay see that no but it's important that's significant what you do what you don't do listen this two streams there's a stream of Alvin there's a stream of year and both are fundamental to this guy because I think they complement each other very profoundly you know here is what creates respect what creates a sense of of or a sense of reverence a sense of mystery a certain distance distance in a good way you know the respect boundaries person understands his limitations and so forth either of course is what creates the closeness the enmeshment the intimacy and then both are our important ideas both are important two motions in life because one is what allows a person not to become you know arrogant and smug and complacent and the other one on the other hand make sure that a person doesn't become dejected and and crushed and distant completely and down and feel you know feel feel lowly and and worthless or bad and dirty and so forth and I think both of them are very a very vital so to speak streams of consciousness the experience of a human being in any relationship really in any relationship the event is the year but certainly in a relationship with with the Almighty that's number one number two let's think about this in terms of maybe parents and children we can give other metaphors but I think I think it'll be maybe the easiest metaphor to explain ultimately certainly in the long term if a person gets a message from his father and his mother or her father and her mother that there is a very very deep unconditional love and that love is never ever challenged it's never eliminated it's never gonna go away it's it's real it's genuine it's authentic I'm not just talking about lip service I'm talking about a real experience that a child gets what would we think would be the more logical way to assume the results of that the ramifications one person may tell a father and a mother you know you got to be very very careful with that because if you express that your child really feels how deeply your care for them and attached to them and unconditionally loved them they could just backstab you day in day out weekend week out knowing that there's absolutely no consequences right that's the concern you're talking about on the other hand if they know that the love is conditional and there's no extra love here in stock it's quid pro quo you know me the connected meda they'll behave what would you say to that is that how that what parents should think would you say that well that's very the other way around maybe the other way around very to grief other way around the question is how do you keep it right so the truth is long-term if you did something from me right and you demonstrate it to me tremendous tremendous love and affection unconditional unless I'm sick we're very very dysfunctional and then I need my own path the normal ordinary person won't say he's been so kind to me these people love me so much let me backstab him let me betray him because I'm gonna get away with it right usually again I'm talking about in a healthy but I'm not on my person who's traumatized or not responding based on normal cash bonus because then for carrot then you need a whole extra dose of that ah about that see if I care I want to do everything to be close to you I want to live out this relationship I want to I want to breathe this relationship as often as possible this is so precious to me you can do what with a small child that a child will backstab you really up disciplines of bowing is a high-level distraction whatever is that the right is that the right so how do you yeah well I guess every situation has to be judged individually but I mean it depends you know what the message is of the message is just that you know we're connected and therefore I could do whatever I want I mean his much love marriage I think was very good if a person has a good relationship but then their spouse wants them to do something and they say oh no no no I don't have to do this because we're so deeply connected so then ultimately something often the relationship because this is what I want you to do this is what I asked you to do this is what I need you to do so you may be talking about how much you love me but really you read yeah you're you know this is what I want you to do so I think when one has that balance one has that recognition one has that awareness it it preserves the maturity of the relationship and also preserves the boundaries that a person doesn't just melt away I think there's a void from the bondage ever Rashi says mohabbat father shall iron chelation ah it says that Aaron did what I shan't told him to light him an iron so now she says tell us the praise of iron that he didn't shame he says what's the big deal why should he be my shaman he was told to light the man either with so she's play the saxophone instead of mine he was told to light up my night in light of an anise and it says that when he lit the menorah I think this is only the butt dip service said it because he was like that so he probably went into such ecstasy but the oil would spill and the wick with poor and the pill out and the monona would fall the whole thing one of us is a huhgak smoke initial on chelation despite the ecstasy he remained he remained loyal to his job he did not change because the his Slava's could create a whole room the whole situation but yet there's no question or you know this is the balance that a person has between obeying between discipline and ecstasy that were on both are you know very powerful the tools of streams of life can one potentially negate the other for sure but like everything you know every characteristic you have to have to measure ah that's what at least talk about oh malsu Maya means person has a commitment just like a person gets in Tamara with that yeah yeah if if ecstasy brings to breaking of hahaha then there's something off there's something there's something there's some message that's that's not being communicated or something being ignored and ultimately there's a selfishness here too like my wife asks me to do something then I have to be close to you but I'm asking you to do something I don't care what you're asking me I want to be close to you but but I'm asking you not to be close to me now asking you to go out and do something right pick up my sister from the airport no I want to be home with you giving this is why when he said that's a shame the way that I interpreted it is that it's actually quiet for that so yeah you can say that you know we're requiring it to have an emotion but really like if you do the action and have a motion to be true if you I mean we believe that the more you do for a person the more you look the more you love them who does more for the child who has a greater love than right like if you're doing something for the bird like a lot of people do you know all the myths with but they forget about who they're doing it for things they love but that itself is sometimes coming from a deep void you understand that you're using spirituality to to substitute for your lack of ability to deal with your moods or your issues and you just lose yourself and some high but it's not going away and then when you sober up it's all there so that's that's that's sometimes also part of this whole issue that it's not integrated it's not integrated into who you are and you're just it's like a nice escape route and when God becomes an escape route then you know it's something it's not very beneficial because cyber hem valachia Yama's behind you know he wants a relationship with you not not not that you become some you know superhuman or delusional delusional person who's really not not honest with themselves and not open with themselves are not integrated so that sometimes itself part of that I just want to say when it comes to children I think with children it's crucial to display unconditional love part of unconditional love means that you discipline them part of unconditional love means that you teach them boundaries not because there's no unconditional love but the cause there's tremendous love and you want them to be able to learn what's healthy what's unhealthy what's appropriate what's inappropriate what's good what's not good what's dangerous what's not dangerous but that doesn't have to do with the fact that has no tremendous unconditional love I think what what gives children a tremendous sense of of self and confidence is that we do not we're not afraid of their mistakes we're not afraid of their errors we're not afraid of their moods were not afraid of them being different sometimes so when they grow up they can negotiate with that part of themselves and not running away from it now somebody sent me an article a few days ago this young man about the communication that good communicators are people who are who have learnt to become I don't know if it's true in all cases but this is what this writer explains good communicators are people who have come to learn how to make peace with their less than perfect selves they make make peace with their less than perfect selves make peace doesn't mean that they don't work on it make peace means that they acknowledge it and they understand that it's part of their journey part of their life and they're going to have a certain self sense of comfort with themselves and therefore they could communicate they're not afraid to communicate communicate freely communicate communicate authentically communicate vulnerably how does a person get that if a parent is frightened of any deviation of the child and the child will become frightened of his or her own deviations I have to be picture perfect but if I can acknowledge I can embrace I can i can create room for your own deviations for for moods for for flaws for mistakes for challenges for problems and realized that it has a place of respect in life doesn't mean we don't talk about it doesn't mean we don't have to challenge ourselves doesn't mean we don't want to work on it but it means we're not afraid of it because it's part of reality then the trial doesn't have to be afraid of their own reality when they grow up and they could communicate their own reality when they get married for example they develop friendships they can talk about their less than perfect self or to put it differently if you have a relationship with somebody and you never hear anything challenging anything problematic about them you should be afraid because every person has problems that means they're not communicating with you if they only have good things to say they're always that means they're not talking to you that means they're talking to nobody or to somebody else right so you want a relationship with the full aspect of a person's life so when a person displays the type of love that's not conditional on you being picture-perfect it gives people the confidence to be able to embrace all parts of themselves and work with it and how could you work with yourself if you don't embrace all parts of yourself if I cut off part of my sis and I say That's not me I hate it too much then I'm not being honest and it's gonna come to bite me and want to me doesn't mean I have to sanctify every part of myself and make it holy but it means I have to be able to identify it and at least put it into some context I just want to know well I wanted to clarify that okay there's a few lines left here we're holding the parenthesis on page 40 Mama's the last few lines I lead a a simcha by semla you she knew him eylül holy that's maybe where the ballot Anya wrote a show tomorrow counterbalance behind the pouches value seed a fresh cuff Aleph the Paris emirate of cook Sian the Indian are sired in mastani in other my modern that he references here he speaks about an aside the most honest I never started means a space that is subject is vulnerable to change the flux to she knew him behind new penis a visit that this refers to what we call the Ava's suitor this smaller state of love to Macrinus notion baton collars we call it before your mother's neck Ava represented by the notion died on college Titan College means the das is light.the das is liked the premise of the Premier League arm a lokahi Ashba she knew him and that's why this type of Alva has she knew him he said before what was the difference between you let this sucker and you let this Nick a ver a ver robber he called soccer havasu t he called McKeever and he distinguished it it between the concept of bar das versus das kala alighted us what's the difference between a das comma and a bar das so he said the difference is if you could choose the IKAR versus the TOEFL despite the fact that in when you choose the eCare you don't remain a yesh and therefore naturally you want to choose the TOEFL because over there you could remain a yesh but nonetheless a real bar das who's ready to choose the ikura not a tougher for this it takes firm das vs. das Carla which is a das that is light and sways it sways back and forth what's the difference das kala means I don't have a strong das if I don't have a strong das so therefore I will not choose the IKAR I will always choose the tough old if that means that I will will be more comfortable I will remain a yes it takes a strong das das Hozuki to be able to say that I'm ready to transcend myself and transcend myself completely to get lost in the experience to not to find myself in a shine but to be lost Masha even though I don't remain a yesh in the process because I'm looking for the truth I'm not looking for the tough Alam looking for for the IKAR I remember there was once a poet her name was Zelda she was a very famous poet iñárritu strong so after the Six Day War she wrote a poem about your shall I am so she says Christian is not stealing or Eliab she walked into Jerusalem Shakti as sh me I forgot my name I forgot my name sometimes have an experience and what she of course meant was that you know her individual name or identity melted away in the annals of Jewish eternity when we come into your shall I am and she observed you know the soil upon which dovish Lima in the V in the Malakal chameleon walked and you know hundreds and hundreds of generations thousands of years of Jews she forgot her individual her individual name and and for her that was a very profound highlight it's a long poem about what your shall I am did for this person so for a person to be able to consciously to consciously say but I want the II care I don't want the toefl this takes a very deep das asuka that's why it's called other other Robert it's not Dighton kala it's not that the das is light the das is swayable the person is not you have to be very firm for this person has to have a very very deep firmness to be able to to make such a type of commitment this can't come from a place of of any form of weakness it has to it's a choice of real sacrifice of real transcendence a person wants to make the sacrifice but this this takes a very deep das it takes a task Asaka see you see again Heidi you could say if I cared if you're not strong it's better because then it's easier for you to forfeit your identity but then it's not fulfilling your identity then it's coming from weakness that's not fulfilling your identity then it's what we spoke about you just you're being swallowed up in something you don't have a choice right you tell somebody oh you're a nothing you're schemata just surrendered to me you're just your destiny is a pressure when I'm talking about that okay this has to come from deep personality it has to come from a dance kazakh a das how suckers you have a firm das in a powerful das and therefore you can choose as he said before your boy here or it care the law hoc awful you say I'm ready to give up my mo host name is Mishima this is on us our dilemma stunning so he says other suitors liquor mail the cash machine new anything that's leg arm a in other words the person is doing it ultimately for himself there will be many changes because a person always changes commercial Kosovar pasa liliane I am this will explained else Rena my marine by your feet on the posilutely a night mashenka Macrinus alvin rabushka minister hi I've Adama that comes from the pin of tire tire makers occur in but she knew him it has no changes with nikkor eight sky and this is called eight some time versus eight Zardoz question Kosovo did by Moscow McLeish hates in the pasta compassion luck there was a person with koshish eights in Rioja Shabbos so the Zohar says MacLeish eighth son comes in the word peckish heck ish and Gemara means compare you learn out one thing from another thing because they're juxtaposed like two things in one parsec your mock is that Lisette good morning condition everybody knows that tests how do we know that you could marry Bush stars of tomorrow ayaats of allah mawkish alveoli and CMHC herbage star plus success clearly you give a get through it alpha vietnam eBrush back peckish mccoy shush it's him he was comparing the trees literally Malaysia topic that means either McLeish's huh gathering or McCoy sure some say harvesting or Malaysia she's carrying different dysentery showing him what what the civil Shabbos was Zara cutter says McCoy changes he was making a heck ish between the hasten what's the heck ish he was looking which eighths is better it's a high-end or eight sucked ass now he just gives us four words that we have to understand what he thinks this is aids I am and this is my conscious Rakosi shades very briefly we come here to a new insight it's been explained more detailed by the summit subject the grant some of the ballot Anya in a my Mariam erasures about the sin of other man cover I'm going to be brief and concise but it fits into everything we discussed what was other man harvests intimated us that's one of the great mysteries of history what exactly was so tempting about the tree it's called a todas a todas means it's a profound tree the tree of wisdom shreya not just of wisdom a dream tree of perception of tyranny it's a toss up back the Rambam and Marian devotion has a famous question that he ate two mates about stiver that the eight and eight Siddhartha what happened their eyes opened up and they sought toi've and rounded now Shum said now that their eyes opened up this so toy over now they may eat to make some time and live forever and their album says basically it seems like eating for they said us was a very good thing for a person to know good versus evil is a wonderful thing every every parent wants their child to be able to distinguish between love and wrath what's a good life and what's a bad life what's a productive life what's a destructive life what's a moral life what's any more what's a mensch look alive what's a Mitch man look alive so the Rambam goes on to a long explanation when it means there's a difference between Toyota versus MS and checkered tie rod doesn't mean what's good and bad into it what feels good and what feels bad before a chadasha wasn't what feels good on what feels bad it's what is true and what is false when we say something is good doesn't mean it's true it means it's good for example a good speech what's a good speech that it's true not entertaining a good meal means healthy absolutely not good thing is that's unhealthy as possible all right I had a good time a good time means I had a true time know a good time see said i'm bob says vocabulary changed before ate sidharthak abdullah was emma Strecker after eights audacity remember new vocabulary was torn out which is a very profound meditation in and of itself but here there's a deeper element maybe on a more spiritual level of our people I'll be mr. P Cibola because citizen that is other men however were not self-conscious that's why they could walk around naked who can walk around naked people are not self-conscious in our lives a one-year-old baby a one-year-old baby here one and a half or two year old runs around the house shop this afternoon without a pamper and nobody blinks but what happens if you're 14 you're all the runs around the house in the same position right all you give give off what happened this 14 yard used to be a cute one-year-old baby shot is when you warn you two years old there's no self-consciousness there's no self-consciousness there's no nothing there's nothing not no thoughts and agendas associated with with that with with with nakedness he walks around people see it as cute we practically may not be a productive thing for obvious reasons but people even see it as cute not alarm certainly not alarming an adult there's already a sense of self-consciousness but with our pinkies were not embarrassed pinkie could be exposed so the shallow says that other men however before the age of das there was no self-consciousness their bodies were simple vehicles of their souls just like a light bulb is a channel for light doesn't have its own entity separate when you look up well here it's actually a little different you look up you look about the light but you see light yes it's coming through the light bulb that's true the Gulf was a vehicle for the soul so therefore just like you're not embarrassed with your pinky they were not embarrassed with any other part of the body what's there to be embarrassed every part of their body this part of God's plan there's a mitzvah Phil Womanism it's our crew who there's a little of of of intimacy of having children of building a family it's another bit so what's the embarrassment of it self-consciousness was created as a result of eight survivors now on a deeper level two differently in a vertebra and Navasota ottoman father before they ate from the exit das did not have other Sascha you know where they didn't have other session because they were completely worn they didn't have the experience of God they had God the reason the eight whom they to does it says harvest saw that the eight is not much the Prius neck more than toys Tove la Haskell to the schmuck on a spiritual level other man however wanted the emotional high the emotional experience of having a relationship with Hashem in other words it was a transition from Avenue to a visitor who was in a transition from I don't experience you because I'm one with you versus I experience you because I'm not one with you there is an eye to experience you before they'd say das there was no experience or where there's no experience is no - luck there's no i text were just completely unified completely one what other man Carver wanted was experiencing to God so understand that their sin was maybe one of the holiest or loftiest sins in the history of humanity they wanted an experience of Hashem but the moment that happened now an ego was introduced once the ego is introduced is a little bit of a partition true the ego is a very spiritual ego it's all Manaslu Cobb Oprah's name is mr schima I want to be members in West you know that's the 8th Sadat's awareness perception versus the eights Italian which is a tree of life that's why death was introduced that because death is a product of ego because really a person doesn't die because a person is divine and the divine doesn't die a person doesn't die what dies in the person is only the separateness of Hashem that's why Yakima vino Lloyd Mase you're with me Yakima venal I'm ace because the more one identifies with the source that never dies the neshamah never dies and even the Gulf as long as the Gulf was one with its source so the source doesn't die the Pratt did the creation of it thought the reflection of it doesn't die the more distance there is the more Mesa there is so therefore when we Center the shitness are on bond after Messiah comes down Baha'i admits and there won't be mister why because the body will also be a reflection of the divine and therefore there's no Mesa in it it's one it's one with the source so a Tobias was the transition from oneness to experience from a very emotive a suit now it doesn't seem like such a bad foot huh let's face it but you have to understand that this introduced the experience of experience and the moment experience takes over oneness life was transformed forever life became about experience not about oneness we're looking for an experience so what one person is looking for a spiritual experience a person is looking for a physical experience one person is looking for this experience numbers are looking for another experience we're looking for an expert huh that's why no Yahoo gets drunk after the marble why does not get drunk after the Mambo because Noah says the doll the tiniest says this we got to go back to a place that's higher than a sad-ass higher than self-consciousness when people are drunk not self-conscious no ego but people are stoned right they tell you everything muscle they say about Commerce's often long days after the throne when people are drunk they'll tell you secrets that they'll never tell you that's why people like drinking they get loose they lose their defense mechanisms what was my ex mistake Nance mistake is it through alcohol through your kiddush club you're not going to the place that's create sent us you're just getting inebriated for a few hours but the moment you sober up your the same depressed the same result by shallow sugars with sorry Shabbos whenever you wake up you still the save the press soul the gomorrah says aldermen average drank from the warning yeah drunk for the same one yes yes yes in some ways yeah it's a consequence it's a consequence so cut once other man hobbit did this I can get drunk now I have to work through my self-consciousness I have to work with it through it I can't say I don't exist I do it yes avoid assertion changed Isaiah Sala now the mikoshi shaitan was comparing which tree was greater it's a higher rates at us you know what the problem was was being my sharpest bi my sharpest wouldn't have been behind my Shabbos there's a miler there's a miler innate sawdust the omer Shabbos Shabbos is a society that was the problem what's the result the result is skilled what's Killa says the Balaton in Lakota Toyota your heart becomes like this class is brought to you by the yeshiva net please help us continue the classes make even a small contribution at triple w dot they you Shiva net / donate