Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #115 - Are You Running to Shabbos or Away from Shabbos?

a good narrow of Shabbos welcome back to turn Friday into era of shop it's so great to be together again as Fridays are about to become a lot shorter when we change the clock even more important to schedule and turn our Fridays into our showers want to thank our generous sponsor my name is Laura fisherman super big thank you for your generosity here comes that siren it is almost time and almost ready for the hey look at the holy Shabbos so we were discussing last time the importance of experiencing a Shabbos that you're tapping into not only the externals of Shabbos not only the superficial of Shabbos but tapping into the depth of Shabbos the beauty of Shabbos and how do you measure how do you know which part of Shabbos you're most looking forward to what part of shop is you're most experiencing from which part of Shabbos is most driving your rest of the week and I told you about our family minute email when you're trying to communicate to your children to your parents to your siblings in areas Israel in Israel because they're already asleep when Shabbos ends here in America or in Israel we are still having Shabbos but it ends there in Israel you can't talk till Sunday who can wait till then so you're communicating between the two what do you talk about the menu the recipes or these mirrors for stories what is the most important that you leave a message about who you are with and the conversations the div Ray Torah and the davening or the politics the little details the controversy the dress the the clothing the fashion what is the most important arguably it's all okay as long as it's permissible but what's the emphasis which is the icker which is the core and which is secondary if some were to go back and listen to your mozash voice notes what would they conclude you care about and what you value the most about Shabbos what do you draw and extract the most from Shabbos that's how we're able to identify articulate what our Shabbos is really all about let's go back the new say foreign want to thank my dear friends the Strauss family an Incredible family leaders generous for sponsoring this safer of ravicher Meyer Morgenstern the Strauss that should only have and great things for all their children so back to ravicher Meyer and he's been teaching us that the cloud they have a principle person doesn't give a gift to somebody who won't value it you don't take something precious you don't take something valuable you don't take something you care about and gift it or granted to someone who doesn't understand what it's all about who won't cherish it who won't appreciate it won't you use it it's a waste to give it to them we want to Merit to receive the great light and the beauty of the inspiration of Shabbos from Hashem then we have to show him that we're married we value we cherish we use we care about well years so the first thing Richard Meyer told us in our relationship and our attitude toward Shabbos is loratzos we have to show that we have our rot Zone our rot zone is our eagerness our will our Drive does a person love the weekday and you concede you have to keep Shabbos what choice do you have it's but you can't wait till Shabbos to end or is your rot Zone Shabbos is all weak to get to the it's all weak we work so hard we prepare so much in order to tap into the source of Hashem were to look at if our most Sasha voice notes were listened to where is the end of Shabbos to begin do we live for the weekday do we live for Shabbos what do we love what do we value more if we want that gift to keep on coming we have to show The Giver of that gift of myself how much we care about it you said base the second episode the second episode is to prepare to get ready to be invested that Friday is not Friday I don't know anything about Friday Friday is Arab Shabbos Friday is the whole there's no such thing as Friday from the moment we wake up in the morning smell that smell of sharpness the table set for Shabbos the delivery total are coming out of the printer for Shabbos and we're already thinking about our schedule working backwards for Shabbos what time is look benching what time is candle lighting what time is shul start okay then I need to be ready at this time and then I need to come home at this time then this has to happen in this way our entire Friday is different than any other day of the week so much so that if someone were watching reviewing the cameras in our room they would say oh that's not an ordinary weekday that's not Friday that's yes one thing to love to Value to cherish Shabbos to have a will and a drive to want to keep it and be moved by it it's one thing you know the root of the word zone of will is ruts to run how do you know what you care about you run to go do it you can't can't claim to care about something and then move slowly and then not do it you don't really want to then which may be okay but stop claiming you want to you want to want to but you don't really want to if you wanted to you would so how do you know if it's someone's rut Zone how do you measure whether in fact indeed it is a person's rots on will are they ruts do they run do they go to do it says you have to prepare you have to prepare how do you know if you love Shabbos what does your Friday look like if your Friday is any other ordinary day or if you're schlepping and complaining and miserable while you're preparing for Shabbos so it's not really your razon but if you're singing and dancing if you're counting down if you're excited if you are calibrating your entire day around it if you're rut if you're running then not running because you're late for Shabbos ruts and running to prepare for Shabbos that's your ratan when a person prepares then you value the gift um so if we exhibit if we demonstrate to Hashem I value I cherish I care about I'm counting down I love I'm running and it means I care but if a person is neglecting an indifferent and apathetic and complacent then Hashem says I'm not sure this is where I want to give my gift I'm not sure this is where I want to spread and share my life mode and this is a critically important that a person needs to prepare themselves to receive the extra light in the six days of the week is Shabbos is not just about tapping into its Holiness and its sanctity and its intensity on Shabbos those 24 25 hours a week they're not enough Shabbos is about becoming some so charged so overloaded with it that we have enough to carry us throughout the entire week you know sometimes you can have those battery packs a charger and it carries enough for one charge so if you find yourself in a place where you have no Outlet you can't plug in you have one charge but then they have those Mega they have those battery packs and steroids three people can each plug in and it'll give each of them five charges and that's how much it's carrying so then you walk around with a different confidence because no matter how drained my battery gets I can plug in and I've got multiple charges that's what Shabbos is Shabbos is not just it gets me through Shabbos Shabbos has the charges to get me through the entire week even though I'll get drained and I'll be distracted and even though I'll have challenges and even though we're going to struggle and even though we'll get confused my priorities my values what's most important shop is like so load up on charges my battery pack that I'm able to carry and extract and draw from it the whole week this is the main vessel is the kind of Shabbos that we want to have is one that we leave that mode slash voice note we talk about the Shabbos we had I'm still drawing and living off of that last Shabbos I'm still feeling I'm still connected I'm still excited I'm back but I was inertia stroll my nephews Bar Mitzvah Shabbos just left a voice note before Shabbos for my brother and sister-in-law in Israel Thank You Les schabus was unbelievable and here are the things that were unbelievable about it not just the food and the hospitality here are the things that were the Divi Torah and the singing in the fun and the last and the games and Shabbos afternoon the time that we spend together and Shabbos that davening Friday night and that that laning that and that wow I'm still it's still packing upon inch all week long and I can't believe it's already the next Shabbos because it gave me so much energy I can't believe a whole week by went by in between what is the message that we leave what do we take out how does Shabbos charge us how to Shabbos give us what we need to get through the rest of the week so what is the sahana how do we do it says it has many many different approaches we're going to talk about four of them we'll just start today first there is the preparing for Shabbos the countdown the ratsan the rats the ritsui in the world of action there is no Shabbos if you don't shop and cook and set a table there's no Shabbos if you don't clean your suit your shirt shower shade there is no Shabbos that you don't actionably do what you need to do to demonstrate if Shabbos is coming each person according to what they need to do they have to have a to-do list a task list Shabba should be designed around it and a person has to be bipol in practice in action actually preparing for Shabbos that is number one we'll start with this next week next week Shabbos is an hour earlier we're changing the clock in America I got to change the clock and get the extra hour last week in Israel this week in America I recommend that for everybody it's an excellent way to gain more time so person has to be even more prepared when Friday gets even shorter you have to wake up with a game plan you have to wake up knowing what you're going to do in the World of Sports they asked to coach after you won the game how did you do it I said we went into the game we had a game plan we knew exactly what we wanted to do how we wanted to do it and we executed and that's what Friday has to be I have a game plan and I execute the game plan you can't Friday afternoon be scrambling and running and you have to go in with a game plan what do we need to do let's work backwards when do we need to be ready how are we going to make Friday calm Serene the makora the source of all bracha you got to learn about and value Shabbos we will Administration pick up with that next time until next time stay happy stay healthy and stay holy [Music] so good to be back have a phenomenal shot with everybody