Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #25 - Shabbos All Week Long

to everybody we are back together preparing to transition from the chaos hustle and bustle of the week to the serenity the tranquility the joy of yet another shabbos and this era of shabbos i have a little extra pep in my step a little extra excitement as uh i have a couple bowls of challenge already a little toha now we practiced what we preached at brs and we invited the community to drive by everyone lowered their windows we gave out bowls of children wish to get shabbos and a gerhodes and fulfilled what we already studied previously the idea of torment to taste the food of shabbas and arab shabbos and to tap into that energy that flavor to attach into the special spice that is called shabbos i want to thank our generous sponsors my dear friends amanda sipura fishman is i told you i saw a beautiful couple's farm on shabbos that i picked up recently this is a safer called seifer hashabas al-shabab is kodesh not the most creative name for a say for ansha abbas say for hashabas but don't judge a book by its cover or its title it's a fantastic safer and here he has a whole um entry several chapters on defining nishamiyasera so i want to spend a couple of weeks talking about what does it mean that we haven't expanded what does it mean that we have a broader nisham but what does it mean we know that we're comprised of two elements we live simultaneously in two worlds in two dimensions we are a body we have an animal and we have an efficient and we we are also a godly spirit and a godly soul the animal in us has an instinct and an impulse the animal in us has desires and intuition has an appetite but the telemall of him the godliness in us has the capacity for discipline for self-control and all week long is a battle there's a struggle and that expresses itself in the area of eating and intimacy in the area of time and the area of laziness in every area there's a battle between our godly soul and the animal impulse and we have that ability to triumph we have that ability to rise above so what does it mean though to have an extra soul or listening carefully is that your heart is expanded and therefore capable of having more peace more serenity simcha more joy to be open and expansive to eat and to drink and to not be satisfied uh it is what we've always heard and what some of us have always been telling ourselves or anyone would listen that you're allowed to eat a little bit more of us and you can't gain weight on shabbos um it's not such a baba myself rashi says that in me that a person eats and drinks more on shabbos because of the nishami sarah and the balayatosis that each at each of the three meals of shabbos you can have two pieces of bread two loaves two portions you can have three colored gefilte fish you could have a little bit more than you do during the week why where is there extra room for it how do you digest it and store it the show me sarah no it doesn't say anywhere that i've seen that you don't gain weight it just associates having a endowed nishama yasera with the capacity the ability the appetite for more how do you understand that what does that mean shabbos is supposed to be the most spiritual day of the week and eating is the most base or animal act that we do among the most so how do you reconcile the two i would think that dafta i would think specifically on the day that i am most spiritual i should want to eat the least like yom kippur not the day of the week that i'm the most spiritual it coincides that simultaneously i also have the biggest appetite what does that mean he says we find them in braces [Music] there are people who are very sensitive basically every ashkenazi with an ashkenazi digestive tract and irritable bowel and lactose intolerance and every other genetic uh eating disease who have trouble digesting during the week but somehow it's described this phenomenon shabbos they can eat shabbos they can eat uh gives us the power the energy the might the strength it gives us the energy the appetite to even drink a little bit more that you crack open that bottle of wine it's a time that you open the single malt or the wonderful peaty smoky delicious island of isla scotch so once you're having more wine the wine opens your appetite expands your stomach and then you'll eat a little bit more so there's the natural description there's the physiological description that if on you drink more wine and wine somehow increases the appetite or opens you up to be able to eat more that's how you understand that the mushami sarah the the serenity the peace the joy the happiness that the wine creates also creates an appetite that is the sort of natural biological physiological explanation of this phenomenon but there's something much deeper and that's what i want to share with you in our limited time together at least begin this fine arab shabbos should have been a yosef show on shabbos it says the following story this happens to be if you were part of our whatsapp group we have turned friday into arab shabbos what's app groups in which friday you wake up to a message how to turn friday into into arab shabbos and you have the recording of this from the previous week so this morning's this morning what those who subscribe woke up to is this gemara kesar the kid the roman caesar center what is that delicious aroma what is that incredible smell you walk into a kitchen that's cooking shaba's food it smells you could be trying to make the same foods on monday tuesday wednesday but it smells totally different than when you're making it for shambhas arab shambas we have a special spice and it's called shabs we put inside of it and the aroma just wafts through the air so he said this caesar give me some he said i can't only those who observe shabbos have access to this spice and those who don't don't so the maharashtra dells in the back of the gemara ask we've studied this before but we didn't quote this asks isn't it a lie how is a jew allowed to lie how can i rav how can a rabbi how can a total personality lie how could you say that there in fact is a spice you can go up and down mah yehudah and you're not going to find the spice called shabbas the marsha answers in fact taka there is a spice that is called shabbos and there was a special spice that went in and that's what it is a reference to however the banish yada gives a different answer he says and this is the origin of toa meha i argued today that the special spice of shabbos is the attitude the energy the passion the personality the anticipation the excitement of the person who's making that food it is not a spice that gets added that's housed in the spice cabinet it's not a spice that gets measured in one of your measuring cups or dishes or spoons that spice is the personality of the person who's making that food if you're distracted on the phone or watching something that's narish kite or you're angry or mad or impatient or envious then that goes into the food but if you say the cover chabas kaidos de arizon said that a person with every food that they are preparing with every ingredient they add they should think lakova chavez code this is to honor the shabbos that all goes in that's one of the ingredients and that creates a beauty a taste and aroma that you can't find elsewhere so therefore says the savior of him it's is a medical scientific phenomenon that if when a person is eating they are specifically while they're eating they're worried they're anxious they're concerned they're stressed it ties your digestive system in a knot and what you're eating will not go down well and it could cause ill it cause illness so he says know what the shot is that we have a spice called shabbos and we add it what we mean is that when a person has a peace of mind margin space serenity tranquility when a person is able to disconnect to the world around us and connect to what matters most that peace of mind that serenity that joy that happiness is the ingredient that we're adding to this food the food is not absorbing our stress and our anxiety and our worry it's not absorbing our envy or our anger our competitiveness instead is absorbing our being happy with what we have our taste of the world to come are letting it go or putting it down or putting it aside on the shelf and therefore when we eat such type of food you digest it all together differently you don't digest it with your kishkas in a knot you don't digest it with all kinds of ashkenazi symptoms and illnesses you don't digest it in a way that makes you sick you digest it in a way that makes you healthy is what enables you to eat more and eat better wouldn't not the quantity the food or even the quality of the food it doesn't necessarily mean that you should dive he's first into carbs on shabbos or you should fresh on seven desserts on shabbos because if you think it won't impact you on the scale on mozai shabbos empirically we know simply that that is not true so what does it mean so he suggests so beautifully that maybe what it means is the very same food that you have no appetite for the very same food that you digest so harshly the very same food that you can't enjoy when you're in the shama is twisted and not when you have them to show me you say what's the shama it's the same the shama it's just not tensed up in a muscle you're the same person when you're like this you take deep breaths and now you're much more expansive and you're much more open and you're breathing much more freely and you're flowing you're an entirely different person you're the same amount of matter but that matter is not constricted and tense and tight it's now loose and it's now broad and the same is true with the neshama is that the that's anxious and worried and so much to do and so fearful and so anxious worse than a shaman that's just let go isn't inshallah it's taken a few deep deep breaths the shaman and the shima is in the shama that has taken shima and therefore it's let go and now it's expansive it's in the shama which is yasera and when you take a few deep breaths and when you're in the shambhala that's a sera now you could eat in a way that doesn't make you sick now you can eat in a way that makes you healthy that nourishes naked in a way that el elevates rashes if there's a big locus whether one has an expanded soul on yantif this expanded soul that you we we recover and we rediscover our neshama our soul when we take a nishima of breath everyone thinks that this is far east religions where it is the modern focus on meditation that deep breathing can heal but it's not true it's not true western medicine also knows the value of the respiratory system of not breathing in a shallow way of not living tense but of lowering your blood pressure and your pulse and improving your respiratory system by taking deep breaths the nashima the deep breaths reinstate and rediscover the neshama that deep soul and when we do we come back to life and when you're in a healthier way of breathing and living more calm more tranquil more more confident then you'll also digest better so there's a correlation between this nashami you say that shabbos shabbat says take all your worries and we're not going to pretend they're not there we're just going to put them on a shelf we're not going to pretend they won't be back they'll be there after abdullah but 25 hours take a break 25 hours don't talk corona 25 hours don't talk convention 25 hours don't talk don't talk politics 25 hours don't talk about are we in the cone or outside the next cone or how many more cones are there to come of weather that are being warned in florida for 25 hours take a break take deep breaths and recover and restore your soul through nishima through your breathing and now that new expanded soul can enjoy a meal now you could have a glass of wine now you can enjoy a delicious a delicious meal yontif maybe you don't have it why yount if you're allowed to cook so you say i still have to cook fiance if i still have to make the next meal i still have to so once you're already talking about what i have to do the work there is yet to do so therefore you know shama is not yesera you haven't let it go and you haven't expanded it's still tense and it's still too tight and he says the following now should we save this for next time [Music] all week long there's a battle the body wants to eat and the soul says food who has time for food who cares about food that is trying to cling to our creator the neshama is purely spiritual and the body wants to fresh the body keeps going back to that cabinet for the trader joe's corn chips for the cape cod reduced fat but kettle cooked potato chips i'm speaking about my neighbor's pantry so the body is desperate to dive into that food but then a soul wants to elevate the soul wants to transcend it the soul says food who is time so food the hebrew word for bread is lechem the hebrew word for war is muhammad every time we are tempted to eat bread not just a carb statement or an atkins statement but bread lachem whether break bread bread meaning literally bread or bread is a symbol of all food but every time we want to eat bread we're entering a war a war between our body and our soul a war between our our appetite and our discipline that's all week long but kevin shabbash see when i eat dinner tuesday night there's no myths to eat dinner the myth is to stay healthy i eat enough in order to be healthy but when i eat dinner on friday night i'm singing zemiros telling stories i'm laughing with my children i'm playing games in good times i'm hosting guests now that meal is a mitzvah so there's no longer a battle between the body and soul over that food and over that meal and therefore the nishami sayra of shabbos and shabbos where the meal itself becomes a platform for a mitzvah it is no longer it is no longer the stage of this battle between the body and the soul and that's what it means then inshallah that in shabbos when we have this nashami sayra then food is no longer food is no longer the source of conflict foods sort of solution it's the place of harmony between the body and the soul because it agrees that you could transform and elevate the act of eating and the meal of shabbos into something holy as isaac that is the inside of the great alexander thank you for joining the shabbos we shall merit we should be to transform our physical into spiritual the mundane into the holy to win the battle all week long and then on shabbos to enjoy the expanded elevated neshama to be able to dive in still being healthy the quantities and the quality of we eat we should still be conscientious and we should still be holy none of these sources i saw said that it's true you won't gain weight through eating a shampoo it's not true you still have to be careful but it means that the whole way you'll digest means you're alive it means you can let go it means you can relax we'll all be waiting for you multi shabbos wishing everyone a happy a healthy and a holy shabbos next week please god we're going to start a little bit earlier we'll put out a time as shabbat starts to creep earlier we will move earlier as well happy healthy and holy shabbos