Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #77 - In Your Heart and Your Home

[Music] the siren is coming it is almost shabbos a getting air of shabbos to everyone and welcome back to turn friday and tariff shabbos big thank you to our sponsors mending support officials separate freedom memory of regular jonathan sachs harbiako tiben david arya thank you so much to the fishermans for their sponsorship this afternoon this particular friday stunned friday of shabbos is also sponsored by carmy and liz stable and our dear friends in commemoration of the ninth year sight of his dear father very special man emmanuel murdoch very much for your sponsorship and for your friendship a good idea of shabbos on this short friday which simply means we have to be ready even earlier we have to be more on time more prepared more diligent and more ready we are back in which of my morgan's turn the hey look at the beauty of shabbos we learn actually it's a beautiful slanted word before we get into richard meyer we learn from yaakov yaakov was blessed with sarah our parasite tells us if yamaha that yaakov was encouraged to spread out in every direction the yaakov was able to reach while avraham and itzhak had boundaries and borders to their blessings yaakov's blessings were without boundaries yaakov's blessings stretched far and wide and the gemara learns the gemara extrapolates from there they call him if you not only take pleasure in shabbos but you transform your attitude your approach then you too can experience why does it say not miss aneeg it's not that we're drawing pleasure and joy and happiness from a good meal and a good bottle of wine and a good schluff it means the very grammar that's used to describe what we're meant to do is our attitude we take the physical we take the material and we transform it and we elevate it and we make it all together different when we sit at that shabbos tissue at the shabbos table when we engage that wonderful food more than we eat the rest of the week when we drink and imbibe those wonderful spirits that raise and lift our spirits all within moderation and responsibly we're not doing so in order to nourish our body we're not doing so as a material physical act we're doing so in order to elevate our soul so when you're limited by the body the body has boundaries and borders but when you nourish and when you express and elevate your soul the soul is limitless and that's why yaakov was blessed with nahullah bilimitzaram yaka was blessed with land and attitude and distance with no boundaries or borders and we are anik shabas when we bring the right attitude the right approach to shabbos shabbos is not a time of restrictiveness shabbos doesn't limit us shabbos is not less shabbos is more by taking away all those options by taking away technology and electronics by taking away work and to do by taking away travel and transit by taking all that away we are not in fact enslaved we are liberated and we are freed it is we bring the right attitude and the right approach when we come to the shabbos table with such happiness and joy there are no devices we're competing with there are no entertainment we're competing with there is no to-do list we're competing with there's just us there's us our conversation our songs our joy our laughter our stories our conversation our games our divrei torah and that is liberating and that is elevating and that is the ultimate nakhla baleemitzaram that's what it means to have an inheritance that lacks boundaries or lacks borders we're able to truly spread in every direction that is the inside of the slanomer rebbe but back to richard meyer morgenstern we've been talking about the importance of longing and striving and anticipating shabbos we don't count down to shabbos ends we count down until it begins the preparation the attitude i posted in our what's app group today or turn friday into arab shabbos what's app group that jamie geller our guest on behind the beam of this week celebrity chef talked about every day of the week you do something for shabbos that's hana that's preparation sunday she makes her menu and monday she shops for the non-perishables and uh tuesday sorry sunday she makes her menu monday she makes her shopping list tuesday she shops for non-perishables wednesday she sets the table thursday she shops for perishables friday she cooks every day there's something for shabbos our whole week our whole life revolves around shabbos that's hana that's getting ready that's preparing and then lastly we talked about the sur mera that there are layers that are blocking us there are barriers that are keeping us from connecting to letting the light of shabbos in if we're stressed and anxious if we're upset if we're envious if we are then impatient then we can't let the light of shabbos in so we have to let them go part of turned friday into a shop as part of getting ready is letting go let go of the stress the shabbos punim not the wrinkles and the angst and the tight muscles not the high blood pressure and the sweat glands let go just let go let it all go whatever the week that was the week that will be is even better to let it go and to go into shabbos relaxed and joyous and happy and excited surme ra remove the layers of guilt and shame remove the layers of anger and envy remove the layers of impatience and resentment and replace it with joy and with light come into shabbos and all together transformed and different person so cause of me cesaro chimer therefore the summary is the following to long for that light who doesn't want that light who doesn't want to feel enlightened who doesn't want that extra skip in our step who doesn't want to feel alive and awake but so in order to get ready for shabbos there are many venues or spheres that we need to in our thinking and our thought our attitude our perspective the gestures our feelings should feel shabbos and we have to be prepared we have to take action we have to act we talk rata zakos hashem should come from a desire and a longing to merit a closeness to hashem again you're going on a trip you're going to be reunited with children with grandchildren you've been away for a long time you're coming home to be with your spouse you're going to see your parents your grandparents we all know that corona created distance true the gift of technology enabled us to feel that we were together but for a long time when we were shut down and quarantined we were distanced from one another and when we were reunited that hug that connection that energy the capacity to simply be in the room together who didn't count down who didn't long who wasn't elevated from that experience that reunion of being together that's shabbos all week long we're quarantined we're distanced we're locked down to a certain degree from our best selves from our which is yasera from our soul which is on fire but shabbos shabbos there is no distance there is no barrier shabbos that light can come in that hug that connection that clarity that confidence that we can feel and we can live the truth of shabbos but poe in reality in actuality not just in theory not just in concept not academically but in practice within our life the whole week so in order to get ready for shabbos you have to become a clay shabbos is filled with blessing it is the source of blessing shabbos is the macor bracha is the source of blessing but in order to receive that blessing we have to be a vessel ready to receive and ready to hold and ready to capture that blessing we don't do it when we're last minute we don't do it we're running through the door we don't do it we don't even have time to get ready we don't do it when we're running late to shul from milkha we don't do it when we're late for our candle lighting we don't do it when we're raising our voices and we're angriest angry and things didn't get done we do it when we transform when we prepare when we've turned friday into erev shabas that's how we achieve that holiness holiness is removing the barrier to holiness getting rid of the contaminant which is preventing the holiness and then it's also actively asetov it is actively engaging in the things that will bring that holiness the music that lifts our spirit and our soul the calmness and the love and the affection that changes the light in the environment the lighting of the candles that brings the light into our heart and into our homes coming to shul a moment early to just simply sit with no technology in our pockets and take a few deep breaths in order to be ready all of that is what it means to turn friday into arab shabbos my dear friends on this short friday wishing you a beautiful a happy a healthy and a holy shabbos thank you again to our generous sponsors for the fishmans and to the stab lands [Music] ah now it's time to go get ready so prepare to count down to anticipate and to be ready nice and early the covered chambers [Music] time to be on fire have a great shout out everybody here comes that siren get ready [Music]