Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #91 - Make Shabbos Special For You

a good narrative shabbos it's time to turn friday into arab shabbos a special thank you to our general sponsors minutes for fishman the sponsor turned friday into arab shabbos series is host for high risk about super freidel the memory of rebel or jonathan saxophobia here comes that siren it's time to turn friday into erev shabbas don't stumble and don't trip into shabbos come into shabbos from a position of strength from a position of mindfulness from a presence from a preparedness be ready for shabbos here comes that siren the coveted shabbos so once again our parsha vayaka whether you're listening to that coinciding with this parasha or not the message nevertheless is relevant but our parasha follows up on previously the torah told us should be for us kodesh shabbas is the holy time the rest of the week is mundane we say in abdullah that on mosaic we distinguish between the rest of the week is whole it is mundane it is profane it is weekday but shabbos is kodesh shabbas is holy shabbos is sacred shabbos is sanctified what does it mean to be holy it means set aside distinguish different it's different than the rest of the week it's not just another day but i can't do muxa it's not just like any other time but i can't do the llama test shabbos is a unique distinct day shabbos is a holy day it is categorically different we are different we've discussed so many times we put in our shabbos panam paneshamas nika so first the torah told us shabbos for be should be for all of us universally kodesh holy wherever you are in the world and whatever you're doing shabbos has prohibitions restrictions there are rules and regulations yellowhem it should be for you holy but in our passion tells us holy is it for you the order of the words is reversed here we have a different kiko dashi for you so why the change why the difference is there anything meaningful there then to you berlin the great native says on the seventh day we don't just refrain and abstain we don't follow rules and regulations the seventh day is not only about the universal prohibitions of shambhas but it means every one of us needs to explore every one of us needs to experience our own sense of cadushala fee er co according to who we are and the level that we're at according to where we are in life and what we're going through according to what's happening around us and the kind of weak that we had holy is it for you so previously it said yeah for you universally everyone we have the same llama test we follow the same rules and regulations but now the torah is adding an additional layer torah is telling us in addition to the universal practices now also we have to each explore our own sense of kedusha we have to find our own it doesn't just mean our own way out our own rest our own reading our own relaxing it means our own holiness that you can find holiness and rest relaxing and reading those can be holy activities that elevate that inspire that enrich but the quest the yearning on shabbos has to be for kodesh we turn friday into arab shabbos when we think about how will i experience holiness this shabbos how will i tap into holiness how will i transform myself to experience holiness this shabbos the ebenezer writes that the added delight of food the reason we eat all the delicacies the reason that we indulge in the delicious wine in the home the appetizer and the main and the side and the dessert so much more than we normally do is not because we're indulging in more mundane and more profane and more material but rather because we are seeking to transform to elevate this is our quest and our journey this is our yearning towards code dish it's holy it's holy when i break bread with others i play host and i connect it's holy when i imbue that physical with spiritual when it brings a delight and a joy that enables me to sing and to laugh and to share divrei toran to tell stories and to have thought provoking conversations to engage it has to be kodesh for you so what are you doing to make it holy that's the question shamus asks us each and every week what are you doing to make me feel special what are you doing to prepare for our time together what are you bringing to the table so we can look back on this experience that it was sacred that it was special that we didn't just go out to eat we didn't spend a vacation in a hotel we didn't go away for a night marriage and say well what did you do to prepare did you bring any questions did you bring any games or we have any activities what is the what is the goal here so shabbos is all about the preparation there's the alacham kodesh the universal observance of shambhas and then there's the kodeshi the personalized the individual the subjective within those rules and regulations what makes it special for us what are the personal practices what of them and hugging what are the things that we've adopted for our family that we know that it's shabbos that it's holy because that's what elevates that's what enriches that's what transforms that's what makes it something special that's what makes it something which is sacred back to richard meyer for a few more minutes as we finish up review is walking us through the routine of the week and the ramban famously that zucchinis the kocho is not just on chabas you're not only a shomer shabbos on shabbos but the whole week long when we long and we yearn for shabbos when we remember and we're mindful and we think about shabbos all week long that's when we truly become shomar shabbas yiddin that's when we really are observing and we're caring we said when does this begin an motei shabbos yom richon when you already call it yo marisha on the shabbos the first day now you've begun to think about shabbos already right after abdullah of the previous shabbos so we said you may reach unchained the first three days we are protecting we're capturing we're consolidating we're still absorbing and integrating everything from the previous shabbos then the second half of the week are the three last days wednesday thursday friday and the avodah is to prepare to get ready to be counting down and anticipating to the light of the shabbos that's coming on wednesday we say so as of wednesday morning we are already beginning to reveal the light of shabbos so our additional soul expresses and manifests itself in the world of action then on thursday we climb that ladder higher and higher in the kanba we have a more spirit thursday we're already beginning to imbibe shabbos we're already thinking about our advaitora we're already shopping and preparing our food we're already considering setting our table and where will people sit in the cabin friday we are already beginning to receive our expanded more sensitive more awake soul shima drago so we go from the world of us and now we're ready now we're ready you don't stumble and you don't trip in you don't accidentally fall into shabbos we have to be ready be prepared physically and spiritually madrigus and after shabbos then we reverse the order we get undressed so to say from the holiness in the reverse order sunday we're still struggling to hold on to that little sensitivity of the soul sunday we're still holding on to shabbos sunday we're still feeling we're still singing we're still humming the tunes of shabbos monday we're still holding on to the ruach is a nephesh we've extracted ourselves we have so to say undressed from the previous shabbos and it's now time to take on the light and begin to get dressed and cloaked into the light of the coming shabbos zoho tour of div this is the insight and the attitude this is the order of the arizal so there's a rhythm to the entire week long when a jew is a shabbos jew when we live for shabbos when we see shabbos as mccor bracha shabbos is the source of blessing in our life when we realize and recognize i don't rest on shabbos so i can work during the week i work all week so that i can earn a taste of the world to come i can experience the tranquility the peace the serenity the transformational power of shabbos then i think about shabbos not only on shabbos i think about shabbos all week long i'm thinking about shabbos so this week dear friends don't only prepare for the yellow kodesh part of shabbos don't only technically observe the rules and regulations of shabbos but think about the kikoda what are you doing how will you make shabbos uniquely yours what rituals and what ceremonies what patterns and what customs will you and your family adopt that are unique and special to you that can change from week to week but that will make shabbos special and will make shabbos uniquely yours until next time stay happy stay healthy stay holy have a fantastic shabbos [Music] get ready here comes that siren la chabot is finding you waiting for her don't you find shabbos waiting for you have a great job everybody