Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #98 - With Love

it is time to turn friday into air of shabbos it is sphero so we don't have music playing but we're still so excited and counting down to the beginning of shabbos after a long jantif hoping and wishing everyone had a beautiful yantef we're finally back to welcome shabbos shabbos without yantiff and to turn friday from hola maui to eravyantif a simple vacherdika regular weekday friday to turn it from a friday into an arab shop i want to thank our generous sponsors for the year dear friends many supporters fishermen it's host for higher quality memory regular jonathan sacks of yaakov see ben david aria it's time to turn friday into shabbos i want to share with you a thought this week something that we say each and every shabbos and something which particularly we inserted into our dominating this past yantif and we should understand what it means because it can transform our attitude and our relationship with this wonderful beautiful day we count down towards and i want to share with you i don't want to read to you from the medrish the safer in yakov on the gemara broncos the our relationship to the davening of shabbos is by the addition of one word shabbos comes and of course our shabba is deafening davening is different all week long our amir is 19 brahos three of praise in the beginning and the three of gratitude at the end those six remain the same but instead of inserting 13 in the middle 13 requests 13 supplications 13 expressions that something's missing in my life i need i lack i want i'm incomplete so hashem give me wisdom and give me health and give me livelihood give me justice and give me redemption and all the 13 bakushas the 13 blessings of requests in the middle when shabbos comes those 13 are replaced with one mekade shashabas i'm not incomplete and i don't lack and i don't want shabbos comes and i'm whole and i'm full and i'm complete that doesn't mean my challenges and my troubles aren't there and aren't real they are and they're waiting for me after havdella they will return but it means 24 hours i have a reprieve for 24 hours i take a break for 24 hours i let myself feel whole and complete and happy we replace the 13 with one which brings us to a total instead of 19 of seven seven is a whole number seven of the days of the week seven of the days of creation seven is the natural world and shabbos we are complete and we are whole a total of seven brahus so the davening of shabbos is totally different totally different the beginning and the end are the same but that middle the core the central part where we stand before hashem is not to submit and surrender because of all the things we need but to tell them today i'm here i don't need anything i want to spend time because i just want you to know how complete i feel with you and my life but there's a word that we add into our davening of shabbos and it's particularly noteworthy and poignant it stands out on yontif when we make a yant of kiddush in the author of dhawan we add the word hashem gave us we use the word with love and writes the enyakov israel shabbos is a time of love of love of affection of connection is who says the medrash tells us that the closeness and the connection the longing and the love the romance and the energy that awakens on shabbos between us and our father in heaven is like a melanchol imagine the king and the queen they're talking to one another the king and the queen are stealing some time they're confiding they're sharing they're in a rendezvous together misha beau machnis roshan nayem imagine the king and the queen find the corner the king and the queen close the door and enjoy their company of one another they're talking and they're sharing and they're confiding and somebody walks in and someone inserts themselves and someone interrupts and someone becomes a third party high of misa such an individual capital crime they should be put to death there's an affectionate moment there's an intimate moment there's a moment of rendezvous it's private between these two who are you an outsider a third party don't insert yourself don't intervene don't be where you don't belong it is the time it's the rendezvous point it's the intimate moment it's the affection and opportunity between us in our kiddish it is the oh so it is the sign is the symbol it is a point and it is the point of time that is being evangel this is between us and hashem this is private time this is without the distraction of the world and without competing for our attention of the world just to be together it's special between us and hashem there's a deep and a profound love and a connection and others are not meant to come so the word that we use on shabbos is be ahava hashem gave us shabbos what an expression of love he gave it to us not only be ahava we use the second word particularly on yantef we ask hashem we tell hashem that you have given us an inheritance of shabbos and what is on with love uburuzon with favor now somebody asked me this why isn't yant of biafra virat zone why is yant of simcha with sasson happiness and joy and when yandev coincides with shabbos shabbos is ava virozzo and shabbos is with love and with favor why only on shabbos do we add this idea so it comes down to the following shabbos shamus was a gift from hashem and you look around the world today and you see the people who are overworked and tired who are addicted to technology and can't break free the people with to-do lists that they can't settle down and we realize what a gift we have that without having to invoke our own autonomy or make the choice when one feels they live a life in which they submit to hashem and his expect expectation of us is shabbos so shabbos is a gift that we have it liberates us it frees us we continued that's why it's one of the two themes of shabbas it makes us free free to not have to work and free to not have to go and free to not have to do and freedom enough to check in on technology and when did we get shabbos hashem god created the world in six days and then he gave us he fixed in time and in space he gave us the gift of shabbos it's not up to us we don't control or manipulate the calendar we don't accept shabbos shabbos was instituted shabbos was ingrained shabbos was designed into the calendar into the weekday after six days comes shabbos like it or not ready or not here it comes yontif is different yante of the rabbinical courts were given the power to sanctify the new moon and to control and manipulate the calm determine when yantif comes so young yantef we chose not hashem it's not a gift from above but rather it's our own effort and act so the brach of the hope the wishes he gave us this yantif whenever we choose to make it fall we should feel simran sasso but let's come back to shabbos because yanta is behind us shabbos shabbos of you tells us that i have a matana i have a precious gift for you but basically i have a precious gift for you in my storehouse and its name is shabbos and i want to give it to you i've held it for you i'm not giving it i'm not sharing it it's not designated for others it's for you while the rest of the world is scrambling the rest of the world is scattered and the worst of the world is fragmented and distracted and trying to figure it all out i have a prize for you i have a gift for you i have something sacred for you everyone else will crave and will want but if they take your gift they're liable for death it's for you and you alone and it's a time that we come close it will be able to restore your serenity and restore your peace of mind and put a smile on your face it's designed in your week to force you to rest to catch up on sleep and learning and reading and singing and storytelling and game playing and time with your family i have a gift for you and i'm giving it to you be ahava it's with love and it's with affection and it's buruzon it's with favor imagine a king who gives a gift to a loyal and distinguished minister servant leader officer to say thank you for all of your work thank you for what you've done because baruch gave a shabbos and he says i love you and i want to spend time with you here's the ticket here's the ticket i want to spend time with you so i'm bringing you home i'm bringing you home from school or from work from wherever you are and you can't feel you have to go to work because work's not available to you i've brought you home and you can't say how am i going to pay for it because i'm giving it to you as a gift this is what i want and this is an expression of love and expression of favor so that's shabbos shabbos is the one bracha we're whole we're complete we're not lacking and we're not wanting it's one bracha we replace the 13 needs and requests with the one i feel whole i feel complete and shabbos we go into shabbos and nishabas after yant of break and all the prep and all the work and all the shopping and all the cooking and all the russia writing and all the hosting and all the cleaning we've had a week we've had a week to generate a joy and excitement to turn friday into heir of shabbos friday's air of shabbos you know the day before your vacation there's a lot to do but there's also an enormous excitement because of the payoff so you have to pack you have to get to the airport you have to make it onto your flight and you have to pay for the vacation but when you get there it's well worth it friday is that transition friday is you gotta pack and you gotta shop and you gotta clean you gotta set the table but when you get there when you get to the candle lighting when you get to the kabbalah shabbas when you get to the shabbos table it's the payday it's all worth it and to feel the love the ahava over at zone to sense and to feel and to reciprocate hashem we love you back this is our moment nothing can interrupt nobody can interfere this is being vain beneath this is our moment between all of us wishing you a beautiful shop as a holy shabbos a healthy shabbos wishing you a shabbos of bracha birkas we're going to bless the new month of er er stands for ania shem it's a month of healing and it's a month of recovery it's a month of restoring it's a month of elevation have a beautiful shabbos stay happy