vyadata #7-opposites create wholesomeness - Rebbe's 92 Anniversary - recreate freshness in marriage

so we're on page two hundred and ten in the via daita the my mid as i've said over and over but it's important mentioning how important it is for our overall overall understanding of siddhis this verse via daita hayoim is a fundamental verse in the tater the question is how do you understand this possibility right when we read pastors and even when we say you should know about your voice and we just say it see this makes of this pussac an eaker and avoid this hashem what is the eaker well that it's not just enough to have faith in god you need to have doesn't god knowledge in god and this is what the rebel that obey him the holy laboratory obey him over seven generations teach to to the to the average eid to everybody because one is inclined to say very easily faith don't don't bother me about levels and dargahs and and spheros and oil moist i think i told you that the hasidum of the tsa the third rabbit would say what's the difference between now and when meshiach will come what's the difference by now moshe you should know my stories i repeat them quite often no and you see you still don't know the story so i can repeat it again it's fine what's the difference between now and when and and when and mashiach will come they would say the differences in the aha aha what's that now we talk about god having 10 spheres in the world of axillas and khachmanbri and all these things we have no clue no idea what we're talking about it's words and we'll see and then we'll say aha [Applause] that's what rabbi dolphin taught us on thursday morning the rebels and the rabbit since um an anniversary 92 years of their marriage that's what he taught us aha now i got it are teaching us and hoping that we we get it and we could say aha i understand that that to that the fact that the sun is up and the moon and the stars and and nature and and even the supernatural that's that's understandable for your dieta if i were to study i'll understand that i don't need belief why waste such a wonderful and important aspect as belief on that and that ever says here different took mois different examples just as you don't need belief to believe that someone is either alive or dead you look at a dead body to dead body which by the way i want to send you a clip of what i saw last night they they re-entered a body that was buried two years ago because uh in in morocco rabbi shalom edelman he was a basharian in a massive talmud and he did he was in morocco 60 70 years and he passed away you know the covert and they buried him there and now two years later they just brought him to harass a sim you can actually see the body in it cover natalis when the body the body looks like it's intact to say two two years later what do you say about that he's not a you know sadiq maybe he was obeying me but i'm saying you know so but the fact is there's no life force there it's a body even though it's a full body and a whole body and obviously he was a a person who refined himself and he was a a very special eid and the body shows that it's two years later and it's not disintegrated nevertheless it's a dead body why because the neshama is not there for this you don't need faith this is seeing [Applause] we need to learn tighter we need to learn siddhis so well that it it it becomes as clear to us as we see something in 1972 that ever became um 60 60 uh 70 years 70 years old right it was born 1902. i heard this from rabbi petkarsky in north tel aviv there he told me this so after the rebels for bringing udall of nissan the rebbe's birthday after the fabregan the the masjib and the kaiser went with the booker and he always hang out hung out with bakarim to a younger man's house a newly married guy his name is rabbi is rabbi rifkin he's the schlierer of new orleans today okay and they had a fabrega and rabbi took uh took quite a bit of muscu and it was a very animated fabric and so rather picarsky said that rabbi oil took his knuckle he took his own knuckle and he started to bang on his forehead like this look like you have to learn see this until this physical forehead [Applause] understands and and and and and his feels uh considers if this physical forehead doesn't get it you haven't learned enough siddhis and you talk about your khan right the master of hasidic knowledge in the world there was no one that had more understanding of sinners in the entire world that i guarantee you can go to bank with it okay and nevertheless he says in 1972 that this has to get citizens that's the adaitum you understand that's for your dieter that's not immuno we're not looking here for faith velvel is operating to someone verbal wants to understand something he has to study he has to have dialogue with other doctors to try to figure out how to help this patient praying to hashem of course is the eager god help them but we have to in seiko we have to come up with a solution this is a fundamental idea the difference between this and other hasidis these are rel this is relevant to the time to you test kislev siddhas demands understanding it's not adequate just to take a piece of cake from a rebbe to wave your glass and to come once a year to have a private discussion or for the rabbit to give a break of when your son or daughter is getting married in fact in chabad it was despised siddhim the real sydney wouldn't enter to have yahidis until they it's in how you enjoy until they had several years of preparation before they went into yahidis my wife's grandfather it's on a video you can hear it from his own mouth he says in 1925 his mashpier 24. fagin said he wanted to come along to the river for rosh hashanah uh and and he was gonna pay his ticket so her her great her grandfather said i'm not ready yet i i don't know i don't understand the importance of hasidis yet and he came from al-labavich ancestry but they weren't you know hasidim in which they you know were learning everyday siddhis and they were they were in chernobyl they were in near chernobyl in a city called brahim which was a chernobyl territory so you know chabad khasidism wasn't uh an active ingredient in the community but he was he was a learned person a smart person he was 20 years old when he when he when his father you know when he said go learn instead of working or studying go learn and that saved them from communism he says on the same tape it's a must hear this tape talking about a person who was born in 1904 he says there that that his friends he had friends he says we all read all the haskalah books all the books of you know enlightenment he says and and i i got it and they said so but there's one thing i said to them i don't agree with why must i become not religious why they they basically became not religious he says that i don't i don't i don't understand or see a need to do in order to be communistic yes i'm sorry could you say why why who didn't become his friend said his friend said to my wife say that absolutely absolutely they said you've read all the material so you're you you believe in communism you understand with your you you understand with enlightenment you understand humanism and all of that take take mute yourself yanni please so they said why do you want to stay religious human humanistic a humanistic god and all that doesn't doesn't require religion and abdomen said no that that i disagree with i'm a yid i grew up in a hater i come from a background and we keep shabbos i ca i can hear the value in communism so at that point pretty much he just his father he and his father decide we're gonna he's gonna go enter the yeshiva 20 years old this is a full grown man at 20 and he went to the stove and then the yeshiva moved over and and and he went with the yeshiva and he became a student and secretary and then he said to him he saw that he has a a good kaylee he has a smart intelligent young man so he wanted to take him to uh to to the rebel to the to to the rebel and rustop because they already moved from rostov to to wherever the yeshiva was the kharkov i think whatever it was so he said come from to the river alma said no no he says why not i'm paying your ticket i'm not ready i'm not ready what do you mean you're not ready i don't understand yet the importance of siddhis kamar i know gemma i understand it's actual it's factual you can touch it you can smell it what's this these ideas of hasidism and a rebel to have adherence and subservience to another you person who's not a god i don't get it i need more more time and he didn't go and i think what he did was so he said give my ticket to someone else the year later you hear this the year later or middle of the year he was asked again and he went along because he already became integrated through the yeshiva through the chabad yeshiva and he understood with his mind not he believed he understood the necessity of having a rebel to go to as a guide for your for your avoid this hashem now i do i do want to say that you know that that system really changed the mental foot of us the known masque from 1973 on he basically was of the sheetah he pushed the bahrain to go to the river he said you are ready you aren't ready ready go to the rebel for tishrei and from then it became a movement for maritime to go to the ribbon why i think our mental saw the generation is changing and if they're going to wait to become more refined and more knowledgeable they're never going to end up going and he felt that the the atmosphere of 770 and the rebels see them and fabregan will elevate them and he was 100 right because when you walked into a fabrega trust me when you walked into a brain with the river whether you liked it or not there was movement there was some movement the from the physical three to five thousand people to the negro to the rebels terror to the to the to the to the to the holochiala we call that to the back and forth and see them with white beards and grape beards and green bears and hippies and and everything's going on in that one building called 770 the hodgepodge of judaism that that that moved you again it it moved you doesn't mean everyone became a closet they didn't but it moved you and even hardcore lit fox if they allowed themselves to come they were moved on some level so that mendel with his keen mind he saw this and he started to push and say go go go but it used to not be like that in fact the previous must be in the flame kessler my father's mashpia and they by the way they wrote a beautiful book of three four five hundred pages about him both in hebrew and english and i really urge you to read it he was not for it and he was against boy the buccaneer going he tried stopping my father and his friends from going after a while you know he capitulated but he felt that you know till you're married you have to be in yeshiva he he was old-time yet he was very psychological very smart and he raised an entire generation the hedge luchem rabbit garelic of milano rabbi raskin of morocco rabbi sudek of england rabbi you know and others were just telling me that they learned by him but they came to new york in the 50s and they became you know the rebel and they went so my point is that going back to the moment from the editor that it's not enough to say i believe you know belief tends to dwindle if belief doesn't have the gas tank of faith of of knowledge it it starts dwindling it's just like let's say with us if we don't learn for a week or two you know it's harder to get back it's just the way the world works and munna if it's not fueled by seiju it slaps off and this is what the rebbe said in an earlier chapter or actually here he says kaylee van vaju this is my god and i will beautify him k of e the god of my father vadim menu and i exalt him abby the question is means this we we learned the difference between za and koi right the prophets in tanakh what do they say um so says god abram why doesn't why don't why don't the prophet say omar rashem you know what hasidis answers the altareb and these look my maram answers because there's a difference between which is clarity seeing something clearly and clay means like it's not as clear why because you're not at the level where you actually see it it's quite just likes just as hashem hashem says like this he doesn't say omar hashem because a prophet a navi was not at the level of motion of anu and therefore since it wasn't at the level of mission albania he couldn't say omar hashem here in davening we all say kaylee van val this is my god and i will beautify him really i could say you could say that kaylee van veyo we see hashem says that happened to mimer yes because if you have your dias via dieter it's to you zah and therefore is that kaylee this is my god in other words i understand him he's mine it's not because my mother or father or grandfather or grandmother or my rabbi or my rabbit told me that there's a god zach hayley i myself know that he is gailey my god oh if it's you yourself coming to that experience then it's you which is comprised of two words who i in him when do you have the relationship of aniva who when it's i and him when it's z when you've gone through the process of you yourself working it out and understanding it but if it's like avi if it's only the god of my father meaning yihus pedigree someone told me about it all you get is vari memento you get a god that's exalted what do you mean a god that's exalted that's aloof that's makif that encompasses it's not in your kishkis and this is the answer one of the answers that people ask why is it that sometimes i don't stick with what i i learned in my youth or what i was taught why does it dwindle why does it go away and that's the answer the answer is because you haven't yet reached the place of zeke kaley you've only experienced the lake avi you went to yeshiva you went you have a rabbi arov and and you learn even in the sheer but it's all being spoon fed to you right so it's wonderful it's wonderful you got to share every morning four days a week and see this vowed but to be able to say it's yours you need to on your own rethink it relearn it ask yourself the hard questions and come up with an answer with a commitment with a with a mahalaka direction yes my you said something just a minute ago aniva and it made me think about um in the hoshanna's when we say at the end of the paragraph is i'm just curious but is there any connection with you saying that to this i'm just curious i i i never thought of it so first of all yoshikoya for bringing to our attention very good very very good and that's an example i'm just saying and i don't need this to you know to put you on a pedestal the fact that you just asked me this question means that you're paying you paid attention now you paid attention when you shutter shot is that it's yours you own it and therefore you're able to ask that question you understand i'm i'm just saying and and i and look we didn't ask that question because uh it's not it's not palpable by us we say who knows and i'm just saying that's what we're talking about to answer your question i don't know uh we would have to uh i haven't seen it the answer is i haven't seen it i haven't frankly looked into the commentaries over there of aniva but if if if if you allow me to uh to think about it uh i could say that i'll think about it leonardo and more so aniva who is she or no i would want to i would want to understand and look at the connection between aniva who and hoshiyano hoshino means please help me so the pastor's even just talking out loud now if it's aniva who then you could say please help me in other words it's it's your experience aniva who means it's your experience if it's your experience then you could truly ask for help because hey i need help i i understand from within i'm lacking something and i call out hashia no if it's not aniva who then the hashin is mock if his cursory is superficial so i would say there is a connection um but i haven't seen it but again you know okay let's learn further the mimer page the next paragraph you should know today that hashem who holy kim that the youth came fk the holiest name of the seven names of god it is elokim it is the god of nature the same god you would think that it's not so torah that says and was kanan that it is [Music] the to know the fact that hawaii yudkevki and elokim are all one who hamas that's the food remember we spoke about malaysia feeds us with food of faith what what is the ammuna what is the what is the food that feeds the faith it's it's this concept of hashem willi kim that's the pill that you take to strengthen your munna okay as we said earlier through physical food we strengthen our spiritual faculties meaning of the moa the mind and the heart and he communicates through much knowledge and understanding of godly concepts but masha absolutely seek as much as one is humanly able to understand this is the food shiboli they are sagas this leads to a relationship an understanding of the deeper aspect of god that is not understandable this is like an oxymoron how can what's understandable lead to the non-understandable but that's what we're saying and that's as janis and gave the example the more water you pour the oil rises to the top the more knowledge water is like food right it's it's it's drinkable etc it's eatable the more knowledge you have it it creates in you a deeper a relationship and understanding of what's unknowable the zehru and therefore says that but this is now it goes back to the zayar that he quotes the entire time la minda one is to know mushroom le staccola to gaze lemayo to enter the knowledge which gives us entry to the secret of a moon mahou what is it what is it hainu but is the orphan in which manner episode am i able to elevate to to climb and to reach this level while your day idea it's by knowing and understanding that yut kevke the havaya who elohim is actually elokim the supernatural force of god is expressed through nature as well the idea zod hashem only came and how do you know this it says in the positive my shirt for your dieter this tight here is worth a million bucks or more look at this look at this look at this how do you know that hashem well it came it's through young that ever says it doesn't literally mean and of course it literally means today meaning every day you should know god but avraham what mean is the quality of yom the quality of the day the command next page and he explains 211. just as day includes a full day includes day and night angel in shane there is no full day without a night that goes along with it commissioner kosov as it says embraces by yet it was the evening was the morning that consists of day and night are opposite each other because nevertheless specifically through the joining and the you the you the unity of both together who yo creates one complete day how could it be your valid two opposites hillary two opposites if so you must say [Applause] they seem to be opposites but in truth they're not opposites they unite are not opposites husband and wife type a type b type c whatever type you we're opposites no you're not you come from you're if you're in a marriage and it's a shidduch and it's bashert and all that you're not opposites it seems like you're opposites one is night and one is they you're not opposites and therefore we mentioned that the mother says we mentioned an aspect of night during the day and an aspect of day during the night she included his episode because both night and day are listen to this voice you should make your heart be attentive to what the shame should begin as man just as in time day a full day is comprised of the joining in the unity of night and day the young valid who you show them night and day is one complete day that completion wholesomeness comes miscallous named afghan from both being incorporated and included in each other right you know how you get complete wholesomeness in your life when you and your spouse see things differently and you're married and you live together and you're happy and you work it out [Music] that's right but but it's deeper not only do they attract they create the wholesomeness yes i don't remember exactly where i saw this but the idea was that uh hilo and shamai brought that relationship was the sort of the tikkun that uh that like mankind was working for through kaine and havel and yakov and the and so on the tikkun where the those cocos could be to supportive and help each other correct so i want to go back to the tai chi over here because it's so rich for your daita hayom you should know today so literally it means in other words every day you should know that hashem ali kim that ever said for your dieter how will you come to a position of knowledge through yam through the concept of a full day what is the country full day two opposites which are hashem and elokim and when you join and make from hashem and kim juan cool remember one of his questions of dignity is what is the zo why does it say zora says it's all one to save him that's enough dessert adds the words so the rabbit says means refers to that each one has the other in it and that creates the day that creates a full day a wholesome day then you have the experience of be a dieter so again it's not a literal interpretation of the verse but it's a magnificent insight into the psychology the human psychology of how to become a wholesome person yes jonathan yeah i remember learning this shiva i come in with the daiso they talked about how about it we were talking about things what about the example of a snail a snail got a shell and then the stuff caught in the hot pot so when is the snail the hard part was the soft part when when the snail goes into the sheets of the hard fought the hard part you're going to see the supply but really it's one thing yes uh thank you a very important reminder of the rev shop the rev shop set a mimer in 1897 the adaita in moscow in moscow and in chabad in the chabad world it's a highlight known as the udaita moskovit when you say the adaita muscova in in the khabar yeshiva and the khabad you know world it refers to the mayment that rashab said in moscow in 1897 and he discusses this idea great length this this is called short compared to that mimer um and does he believe does he bring actually that muscle in that mimer does he bring that muscle no he doesn't he does it right right right oh by the way i didn't want to clarify something knew indicating stress i double checked that and it's a grammatical material thing rabbi confirmed it in the book of the sorry i could i remind myself also that uh the double known is nissen the month of nissan has two names and the gomorrah says right two noons noon if the mission begins with unknown and the sun ends with the nuance so the gemara said gomorrah and gomorrah says so that might be also an underlying explanation why the two nuns but again in this in you don't have them next to each other in the word his buenos the two nuns are next to each other i'm going to leave you with this image hashem and we'll pick up on monday image hashem uh today just one vote today is the the 92nd anniversary of the rebel marriage 1928 in warsaw poland and i could say i was there how could i say i was there i'm born in 1961 i was there in 2019 before the pandemic really you know hit and was publicized i was invited by my friend who married into rabbi lazar of moscow the chief rabbi and the hedgeliac of of of russia so you made a wedding there it was a wedding to that i don't think i will ever again see it was a million dollar wedding i was told it was fascinating it was uh it was beautiful beautiful really beautiful and on the way there i said i want to stop in poland in warsaw there was a shabbaton and they asked me to be part of the guests guest speakers and in addition to that i'll get maybe to see my answer my mother's where my mother was born and raised and my grandmother and with hashem's help it worked out it's so and i have a lot to say about it um and i really hope soon later i can go back both to russia and to poland because there's a lot more that i need to explore there a lot of fascinating history that uh if you can bring it alive it's real in fact tonight i'm right now here in brooklyn but tonight i'll be in north miami imitation at the chabad house of rabbi marlow fabring on you dalla kislev and telling them about what i saw in 1919 in 2019 in warsaw where the rebbe actually got the where the yeshiva was and where there ever had a scooper and the kabbalah spun him in the cooper and then another location the meal and i went to both locations naturally it's all rebuilt because 80 90 of warsaw was bombed to the to the ground but that general area is according to the maps and people i spoke to is is the area so today you dollared kisliff and i just in chabad again here like if you asked a classic 100 years ago moisha about this day about about an anniversary they say you know what are you smoking you know who's who celebrates anniversaries who celebrates birthdays like this is absurd like you know this was never part of you know the jewish experience someone told me he himself brought a cake to rabbi salavaitchik in washington heights he he found out his birthday he brought him a birthday cake he knocked on the door of the salvation open they said what do you want he says rebbe marltov it's your birthday i brought your birthday cake and rabbi salve chicken is good old brisk he said thank you very much but we do in brisk do not celebrate birthdays you got the wrong address but come in anyway with your cake and guess what illa babies they used to celebrate birthdays and yet we celebrate birthdays today we make fabregas and gatherings because they never said whatever you could do for yiddish guy for toyota to bring jews together as a govaldig the in 1953 on today's day there was a fabregan it i think it came out on a shabbos you dialed kislev and the rebbe said that today is the day that i became bound he means through his wife who was a daughter of the frida karere was something like that today is a day that put us together and that's that slogan an idea has become the call of the day i remember hearing this the first time when i was 17 years old in yeshiva in 1977 or 78 from my mashpee at the time i never heard it before and it still rings in my head because it's such a sharp one line idea today is the day that binds us now what do you mean today is the day well historically there ever married representative in warsaw poland in 1928 92 years ago and because the frida karebe was the rebel of the babbage by marrying even though the rabbit was a great great grandson of the tsa magzadik he had his own independent pedigree going back to the zamasu so he was a distant cousin you know of the frida kereba of the rabbits and kayambushka nevertheless the idea of becoming kind of rebel which he didn't become at the time but going into that um domain opened up today it opened up today so it it for us for us who study his title and learned his hasidis and his it brings to mind the importance of understanding what a marriage is what a marriage should be and how to better improve our marriage and the answer is through the through the nakuda that binds two people together if you have that in a marriage you have a good marriage a great marriage if casa show them that's missing or it it needs strength then you need to do that because that's the nakuda and if that's done and i've seen this and i'm sure you've seen it too i've seen this in couples older and younger where they could be so different your valid like we just learned in the mirror but they have that nakuda that ingredient is there they're really in love okay they really are connected but they can be outwardly so different that's true but the nakuda is what binds them okay that happened that ebberson i don't know if they were john valiula but they were different people that epperson you know was a much quieter person more homebound and all that that ever says he himself is more of an introvert but the fact is that he was in the public eye since 1950 till till till he passed on right so for for for uh for 44 years he he can't hide he don't let some hide i'll give you an example in 1968 um the librarian was up six in the morning and he was going to 770. and he noticed that on the porch a few block a few houses from 770 there used to be a dentist there and he saw the rebel waiting there to go into the dentist's office why he went six in the morning to see the dentist because he didn't want people to make a fanfare and everyone stands around so he went when no one's around this this fellow happened to get up early and he was going to 770 and he said hey to himself the rep is on the porch so you have to hide kind of you know i'm saying let me live let me live my life stop following me relationships marriage y'all delilah is if you empty yourself of all your your self aggregate and and ego and and i need this and i want this and i understand this and you put that out you throw it away and you just live in in unison and you live you know healthy you live you live just simple simple let things flow through you you'll be a happier husband a happier wife a happier marriage so you know there's times in the year that we emphasize different things i think one of the things that you know we don't we don't sometimes like talking about it we're from work we're learning how about simple marriage for yourselves your kids and grandkids you know just just let go let go and when you let go you create a bond and that ever said that this bond is the day which brought him and has him together in other words if he would have been kind of stubborn and held on to his youth and his him being an introvert he wouldn't be one with hasidim because hasidim need an extrovert we need someone to talk to us to teach us to have a brain with us what what has it have from you sitting in the basement and to yourself we have nothing yeah we know that you're a holy person a righteous person a knowledgeable person but we need hatred we need direction so if you don't give direction you're worthless you're a good guy great you're a good guy i'll put you on i'll put you in a museum there was once this this great person but for us to benefit we need to have a relationship so that ever says that relationship began today that relation the same is true for children our children our grandchildren to benefit from us they have to hear from us you have to communicate and don't be bashful tell your children what you believe believe me there are plenty things my kids disagree with me on and that's fine but one thing's for sure they're not going to say my father didn't share with us his beliefs and i'm sorry i don't care what the the new age world says i believe that's what a parent should do should share i'm not saying they should force you shouldn't force because it has to come but let your kids know what you believe because is right because you were taught by good teachers and good parents and a good community share it that's the whole purpose of writing why am i writing why do i encourage writing because i'm bringing and i to to the world and i look at it for the next hundreds of years what i believe to be good good information that i received from my teachers so i'm sharing it rather stein's also shown that the same thing is that i can't be everywhere at any every time so i'll put it into books and people can read so in 100 years from now you can you can but you have to say it there are plenty of parents today that don't share with their kids their beliefs and the kids and frankly sometimes there's an issue like i say to myself my kids don't know who i am and it bothers me it really bothers me children should know who their parents are now you're going to say should they know all of my uh deficiencies believe me they know that anyway growing up with you with parents they know your deficiencies you can't hide anyone thinks they can hide as a fool but then there is the positive things you know what were your struggles you became about the shuva explain your struggles why you know we have a phenomenon today where there are kids children of of of bali chuva saying i don't want to be religious and they turn to their parents say hey you were allowed to you know take lsd or smoke dope or just hang out with girls and do whatever you want and i can't so you decided to become a belchuva i don't want to become about the shiva that's that's a good a good question and it's hope and it opens up a good discussion and if they hear from you what the struggles that you went through and how you came to a place where you made this decision i think that would only bring them closer they they because they'll think about it they say look you know my father my mother had these issues as well and nevertheless they worked them out so i too can work them out or attempt to work them out so you see how one little anniversary of the rebbe and the rabbit since your 92nd anniversary is is is something that we could and should zayd doesn't have a good day it's something that we could relate to so you can't blame me i didn't if i bring with you for your dollar kisliv um if the video is if i bring them tonight uh we'll send it over i don't know if they're gonna have it on facebook or youtube but uh we'll let you know meanwhile have a great shabbos and remember you got to prepare now rosh hashanah is coming rosh hashanah is this monday night tuesday rosh hashanah so we got to take our haircuts and we got to mostly take our haircut inside we gotta we gotta prepare ourselves because the yomtiv is coming the yoyoing of the great festive awesome day of utes kislev when the rebel shab says the highest light and energy was given to us could you imagine instilled in eden oil light and energy what more needs to be said look i am have a great shabbos take care